6 Things I Wish I Knew before Marriage

[@stephanieawuah]

1. You will only get busier 2. Will not make you whole 3. You will not be perfect 4. Be honest with self.. have the honest conversations 5. Your friendship circles will change. the right ppl continue in life with you 6. Stay focused on God and do what you gotta do. love your singleness & give it to God

[@DesiLu4Life]

Lord help me not to create a fantasy regarding marriage!

[@francisbell1961]

Amen

[@tayookunfolami2522]

Amen sis

[@reikomyles1495]

Marriage is no fairytale. The Bible says be anxious for nothing.

[@cherisecervantes3766]

I just got married 2 months ago and everything she is saying is true!! Great advice.

[@tammyrender1717]

Hi Mrs. Heather so I am a 15year old girl living in Namibia and you have changed my life....I have always struggled with secular music and after the day I've watched your video about secular music I've never went back to my old way and progressed in my spirutual and after watching the video about spending time with God has also changed me....you are a try blessing and I am so thankful .....since we are in different countries I hope to see you in heaven 🙋🏻may the lord bless you and your husband and family...l❤️❤️

[@miahlove1753]

Tammy Render omg same I'm 14 , and ms heather changed my life also , I don't where I would be if I never stumbled across her videos. Also god bless you and I hope you stay strong through your journey with god .❤️

[@Ngesh02]

Tammy Render God Bless you. You made the right decision for a young person. I got saved when I was 13 and I've never looked back 10 years down the line. Ups and downs but the Grace of God is sufficient. Your peers may laugh at you but keep holding on.

[@manachekane]

Wow and I am over here watching from Botswana,she has truly changed my perspective on a lot of things secular music inclusive and blessed my life, best video I ever watched was when her husband preached on 'Stop running away from the process', I'm so thankful for you and your husband's ministry Mrs Heather Lindsey...we thank God for your testimony Tammy :)

[@ThatJesusMusic]

Amen sis!

[@zachandmom23]

Tammy Render can u share that video with me.

[@Jooniebug]

I love being single its just me and Jesus rolling on. 😁😍. Thanks for sharing.xx

[@mookiewilson2264]

You have peace then.

[@janaiallen6555]

I just got married Friday. Still learning things about myself

[@thulaganyomaphakwane5849]

Janai Allen congrats🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺

[@wonderfullyamber3970]

congrats best of luck to you! Just keep praying sis...!

[@racpatrice]

Congrats!!

[@CynthiaSerah]

Janai Allen Congratulations!

[@FriendofYahweh29]

Janai Allen CONGRATULATIONS!!!!🎉

[@smoothremedy]

You seem so kind. I see our Savior through you sister in Christ!

[@414MrMilwaukee]

Thanks for sharing (even though I'm a guy, I need to hear it from a woman's perspective)

[@ritamojawk2699]

414MrMilwaukee it will come handy to you man !

[@nadine7327]

Words of wisdom don't have a gender.

[@ThatJesusMusic]

Same

[@RadBunny2269]

IKR. I felt that way to & enjoy hearing wisdom from the fairer gender's POV on various aspects of this. Seeing things is probably not have seen.

[@GracefullyKaren]

Amen. Great advice. Singleness is such a beautiful season. I love it. You learn about yourself and more time spending time with God. Thank you for sharing. God bless you 🙏🏿

[@lauralou1115]

SimplyKaren28 it is also another beautiful season being single AFTER a long relationship/engagement didn't work.

[@GracefullyKaren]

lauralou1115 : It is well with your soul. Sometimes, it's hard letting go. It's painful but God has a better plan. It's always better when we see things earlier than get into marriage only for us to see certain things. I hope things are going well for you. Always remember that God is still at work in your life. Continue to seek God. Work on yourself. Enjoy this season. Stay Blessed 🙏🏿😊

[@joannahapi]

i have read somewhere that marriage is to glorify God and not for us to seek for completeness and happiness or such things. Not saying that marriage will not bring you these but by first glorifying God you will have those blessings upon your marriage

[@lovemecom3832]

This is absolutely true, thank you for sharing all of this, marriage is a big responsibilty, and you dont need to rush it because when the time is right, God will make it happen.

[@wshelby83]

How do you know when the time is right?

[@CJfcb]

@@wshelby83 I would recommend that you pray and the Holy Spirit will guide you into marriage. God will place your spouse in your path and your spirit (led by the Holy Spirit) will confirm and you will feel comfortable to proceed in the relationship. As far as when you will meet your future spouse, only God knows. In the meantime, you should embrace your season of being single. God Bless!

[@wshelby83]

@@CJfcb thank you for commenting

[@reikomyles1495]

Amen

[@kiara_______]

Thank you for tip #4! TRUTH & VULNERABILITY - how can someone love you and pray for you if they don't know?!

[@christinalucas1002]

Kiara Hayden Amen!! I keep telling myself no one is a mind reader

[@cinnamonslice1990]

Great advice.. shame I'm already married.. lol.. let them singles know.. Time being single.. is oh so valuable.. on reflection.. self development.. knowing who you are.. knowing what you have to offer a spouse.. And how your union will complement the other.. understanding the importance of wholeness..Is key.. so many factors to consider.. Use your time wisely.. I've been in this thing for 17yrs now.. and it take work to maintain and sustain.. go head ladies.. 👌😘

[@olamipejuidowu5549]

cinnamon slice so true!!!

[@AyikosMedley]

This pink white and green ensemble 😍👌🏿 great word H!

[@shakia1229]

Thank you so much Heather! You have no idea how much I look up to you.

[@kimaotung]

The one about frienships really hit home. I've been evaluating my friendships and some of them I know I'm just really hanging onto because of the length of time we have been friends. Thanks for letting me know it's okay that change happens and literally I've been thinking, 'how many of the people who came to my wedding will I still be close with in 5 years time?'

[@nurdanjotham896]

Heather, this black background looks so much better than the sparkly gold one! Love the talk!

[@TotallyAwwwesome]

Nurdan Baran... yeah I agree

[@GodsGenuineGrace]

Nurdan Baran I like the gold sequin 1 better!!!

[@sorayawatkins2112]

awwww man... I like the gold one too! ahhh we're all so unique :*

[@Cthomas1210]

How about black sequins next time?! Love it all!

[@loiceambuka1183]

Nurdan Baran yes yes yes

[@sharleenparrino2297]

Good Biblical wise counsel sister! Hope the Lord sends me my husband even at 59 years old!

[@echakamonjok]

Love this! I'm learning so much in my singleness :)

[@deeplyrooted2263]

Echaka Monjok same here! So happy were I'm at. Keep on pushing to get better.❤️

[@SilviaDwomoh7]

Echaka Monjok Her videos are a blessing! I pray every single lady get to watch this. Sometimes we need to get knowledge on some little things and ask the Lord to work on us and build us up!

[@echakamonjok]

Dyna M You too! keep pushing on!

[@echakamonjok]

Silvia Dwomoh agreed!♡

[@annakhan5451]

This was needed, especially when you mentioned expectations.

[@HoneyBee4163]

Beautiful...your presentation was perfect...insightful and useful. One of the most difficulties I have had, was to be happy single...and to understand this too is blessing. Having been married, it saddens me to see so many women place their self worth with the identification of wife. You were on point...get outside of self and your desires....work on Godly business. Help someone...

[@taymo5618]

This really helped me... I've just come out of a relationship.. I feel sad that it's ended and still getting over it but so relieved. I have so much to work on in terms of issues etc, things to do as a single person and getting closer to God. - thank you for your video xo

[@christshandmaiden]

Your nails are snatched! Thanks for the video! I always look forward to your outfits haha!

[@robertcoutterbridgesr1746]

Ungodly expectations bring frustrations!

[@ladypost0925]

Absolutely everything you've said was spot on! #Wisdom #Truth

[@alicia2931]

Wow! I love the part when you said take you and your single friends to a shelter or woman's home and serve them. That's touched my heart

[@smartclassyladyj]

Thanks for sharing..... That message is so true..... I was married for 11 years & being alone for 16 years have taught me a lot about me..... I'm getting married again & I don't want to go in with high expectations..... Therefore, I have some work right to do.....

[@ToshiJ89]

That number 6 though. Lord. The rest of these aren't really in my head, but friends is something I never thought to be concerned about.

[@wonderfullyamber3970]

i totally agree with the change of circle... today we celebrate our 8 month anniversary and it is amazing (and painful) how the Lord literally showed us who was and wasnt for us. Also, that last part about expectations was just for me. It looks like i have some praying to do! thanks Heather great video!!

[@BillysFamily]

Great advice love. That right friendship change alot when you get married. I really enjoy and appreciate this

[@rubyokeudo2616]

Love this

[@katywright8161]

That highlight on her chin...killing me! She is a beautiful woman w/ great info!

[@jasminethomas8633]

Ok so you blew me away right when you mentioned the Lord. I'm a single christian woman and began to smile from ear to ear as each second passed. Not only are you saved but also very relatable and made some very valid points. May God continue to bless you, your marriage, and all your endeavors. btw new subie

[@PrettyNchildfree]

Perfect timing, thank you sooo much for this!!

[@leandra5248]

I really like this Heather . This was very insightful and it felt genuine.

[@angamor977]

Been married over 30 years good advice! Only through Jesus can We be more then conquers! Obey the Word of God and trust Him no matter what! Don't be unequally yoked. God Bless! ❤❤

[@PickJ]

Wonderful advice. I've been married for two months and this is already so real! Especially point number 6. You have to let go of what you thought marriage would look like. It's absolutely what you make it and it will not be what you imagined it would be like.

[@thembicosta4394]

Love it! There s a difference between friends and associates... And yes even friends aren't always forever...

[@KC-ti4hr]

This is so good and true- especially about the change in friendship circle!

[@jasmineadjei2552]

This was very helpful. I’m not going to lie I’m scared of just how to be part of something being a certain age and being alone all this time. God is good and I believe he will do the necessary work on me.

[@linabingbing3881]

Holy Ghost and pinterest taught me how to cook.no joke . thank u Jesus.still learning.

[@KambyTales]

🙌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌 That time ish sometimes even gets me so comfortable in the singles zone

[@_jendini_3147]

LOVE your outfit and earrings

[@CheeOkereke_]

Thank you so much, ma'am for this piece😍😍

[@iloveGod1105]

Love this lady!!! She is real and godly and sweet! God bless her

[@Machenziethemodel]

I work on myself because I do want to be married but i do have doubts. I don't want to pray for my future husband or work on being a woman for marriage if it's in vain. Being single I'm use to I'm just questioning marriage. Sometimes I do feel like I have to be perfect then God will tell me I'm ready but I just pray about it.

[@MorenitaBonita19]

I'm a princess I think that too sometimes...like I need to fix a,b, through z and then God will bless me with a spouse. It's great to grow yourself but we should do it for it's value not to speed up "getting ready" for a spouse

[@vimapratama5840]

God Bless You! this video spoke loudly to my heart. yeah! I'm thinking about singleness so differently now and my life is more fulfilled. :)

[@bawain]

i'm single 32 yrs old, n I still i'm not exactly ready for all this,,, I sleep in, am lazy as hell, n I love hanging out with my friends,,,, but hopefully i'll "mature" enough to be married

[@hopememba]

I think God has led me to this video. I was just thinking of these things before I hit play. I really needed this.

[@TheBritfashionista]

Now,Im so happy and content being single.I literally had to pray about staying content about being single.It was alot of lessons I had to learn to get to this point.

[@BellaBrownministry]

Thank you for this!

[@truthinspector4430]

Stay focused on the Lord is the best advice

[@Altairawaters]

This was for me! My God..

[@khalasoul]

thanks for sharing!

[@sashasplants1600]

My friend circle definitely changed. It actually started changing a few months before I got marriage.

[@roto5216]

I love how you talk and advise on the Word of God. It's important to allow Jesus to be the centre of it all

[@jovanamoeke4830]

Your so amazing Heather. At first I wasnt sure if your videos would help me but i am 100% sure that ur videos are totes for me! And thats only because u r inspiring in everything u say and the way you hold yourself. U truly are a big help to us all thriugh the Lord. Thank you xx

[@Tasheka55]

Love the black backdrop!

[@TotallyAwwwesome]

True words of wisdom! Thanks Heather!

[@catherinemadagoni6768]

Awesome Awesome Awesome 👏🏾 Just found your channel Praise God💙Definitely agree with you and working through all of those situations one day at a time. Praise God and thank you for this encouragement🙏🏾

[@monicamora4189]

She is so pretty 🌸

[@msnizx]

Thank you so much for your word . Really needed this message seeing as I'm going through a dry season in my life . God bless you

[@jaytay4027]

Your videos are beautiful and even helpful to men as well

[@HBSugar1106]

Beautiful video love your ponytail lol and look summery and cute. I agree with you on a lot of points. I volunteer too you mentioned volunteering and helping the community with your friends but what about with your potential spouse too there's something about seeing what your boyfriend/girlfriend or fiancée can offer to the world too. You need to see how they handle pressure and struggle too. I believe we have to test those people to see what makes them the right person too. Also I agree you have to basically imagine yourself not as the "fantasy woman" in your marriage but imagine the "real you" the one who would be in sweatpants and wants to eat cupcakes lol or when you had a really bad day at work can he handle that person too. So I hear you completely love this one I am going to save it and when my time comes will watch with my future husband 😁😉

[@platinumbranch2056]

Great video! Thanks, Heather!

[@missd1577]

Heather, I really needed this word today!

[@Alejandra_2911]

Thank you for sharing! Btw I love your earrings, where did you get them ? 🙂

[@ericab9644]

This was so awesome! Thank you so much!

[@faithshaya3713]

True. Thank you so much. Great advice.

[@jaz1elise]

I’m still single, so it’s just Jesus and I until He brings my future husband. I’m learning to focus on Him and me.

[@anastasiascott1774]

Great video, sis!!!

[@rosa629]

Thank you so much Heather for sharing...

[@ThePeAcHyK]

She is speaking great truths. Thank you!

[@MissRhane]

this is right on time for me. thank you!

[@jasminekingnetwork]

Thank you sis!!!! Love you!

[@teresasanchez756]

Ur awesome blossom ur advice helps me think and know prospectives of being married.

[@crrj611]

Wonderful Message thank you Heather!

[@crownedmelaninqueen]

Being married is having a companion but its not depending on your spouse to be your total happiness , its an addition in my opinion. The Lord has to be our 1st love. So God can lead my husband and me to the way you have us to go.

[@Kayzel]

Loved this. And you look amazing, Heather! Love you!

[@bernadettej.5478]

Great job Heather! As someone married for 12 years you're on point with all your tips. I would add 2 more though. Know your spouse"s love language, taken from the book The 5 Love Languages. That book heloed me a lot. And also know that marriage is about serving each other which is not a bad word.

[@Julie_home_Interiors]

Very helpful video. Thanks for sharing this with us

[@clarnicpsu05]

love the outfit and earrings. Are you selling the earrings on your PP Boutique? IF so, I Would like to purchase them.

[@007jLoSoulGLo]

clarnicpsu05 hi!! You can check Free People for those earrings if she's not selling them in her boutique. I've seen they have a similar pair there! 😊

[@paulettepaul6002]

Amen sis. Best video on marriage

[@wendyelizabethlambert4815]

As always, awesome and insightful. Thanks Heather, you are such a blessing ❤💐 Logan is soo cute😁😎

[@hannahmomodu9035]

Wow. God bless you and give you deeper revelation of Him. Am so blessed

[@lwhite474]

This was good

[@creech5460]

Dang, this girl preached 😂😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@addieleehention4807]

Thank you for the wisdom and for keeping it real! :-)

[@phendyjean]

ANEN SIS, NEEDED THAT😥

[@anitajackson9209]

This was very good to hear.

[@nettas5437]

Thank you for this video! 💛

[@iamfaithrose3263]

Thank you for this video. Straight to the point. Great advice

[@laneys2030]

Thank you for your advice it really helped me understand where your coming from.

[@lizqmitchell1417]

Thank you for saying that; the be made whole part. God told me a long time ago no one make me whole, but Him. But what God did tell me, the mate that He has for me will add to who I am. He will sharpen each other. What I am weak in my ordained mate will encourage me and help me become stronger in the area I am weak in and I will do the same for him. I hope that makes sense. Thank you for your message.

[@monicachanda3258]

So true fear is what has kept me single... Am struggling with it , fear of bn hurt again,disappointed.

[@zarrzarr9989]

The las knows what she is talking about

[@EBThisThat]

I'm working on loving myself and getting better with money, I have plenty of jobs and I'm trying to get more friends. Maybe I'm meant to be alone ? I don't know anymore.

[@AngelsStorytime]

Thanks for this! I’m glad I watch this❤️

[@Naturallocks1]

Thanks Heather!

[@nayajay2392]

You're such an inspiration 😊

[@ethelyolande]

Thank u so much for this. GOD BLESS U

[@chosendebbie]

This was good. So needed this!♡