6 Types of Unhealthy Mother Son Relationships

[@guineaxpigsx]

Another or is the creepy thing where the mom gets jealous of the wife or girlfriend because they’re “taking her son away”🤢

[@hannah-io5zq]

right

[@MCAlexisYT]

Yeah…

[@ladennayoung2939]

That kind of fit in under number 2.

[@akash5180]

Funny

[@C9000-s8j]

@Warlock ahhh, the old bone your mom joke… a staple of true friendship

[@morgantherat]

Another aspect of the Mama's Boy that I've seen numerous times is when the son _doesn't_ resent that relationship. She was a friend instead of a parent, never established discipline or instilled responsibility -- even undermined the father's attempts to do so -- and the son learned that he doesn't have to grow up and take care of himself because there's always someone around to do things for him.

[@moreofjosem5363]

Relatable

[@kyuubinaruto17]

I'm kind of in a weird place in regards to this aspect. I was a Mama's boy, but that's mostly because I wasn't very popular and enjoyed staying at home compared to my always out with her friends sister. She did coddle me, but I also had a lot of independence. She was more of a friend than a parent, leaving the discipline aspect to my dad, but I still was mostly responsible on my own. I didn't ask for much or expect to get a free ride, but when it came to problems outside of the house my mom usually handled that, so I find it difficult to speak up.

[@coralreynoso6255]

That’s my boyfriend of 8 years. It’s like I’m teaching a child basic responsibilities (self-care/cleaning up after himself). His mom is very complacent & never puts her foot down. He also has a hard time putting his needs/wants before others because she is codependent of him.

[@mikediamantakis5528]

That almost always goes hand in hand with a dysfunctional father. The father has the duty to take away the son from his mothers arms and put him out of his comfort zone. If a father is distant, this never happens and you end up with a manchild

[@MrNadav1995]

Boom

[@missykae4538]

Obsessiveness! Like “no woman will ever be good enough for my son” obsessive and be weirdly jealous.

[@jesseward568]

My mother is obsessive. I don't want to see her again. My dad who is obviously a sociopath, (hits people, throws things at people, talks endlessly about revenge) has brainwashed her that i fall short of caringness and that I don't love her. So she bullies me to show affection the way dad instructs. He has convinced her that I have to be at her bec and call and endure tyraids if criticism as a demonstration of love.

[@istandaloneroronoazoro5188]

I know, she constantly tells me that my girlfriend is bad for me even though she knows I love her very much and because my gf knows as well, she is slowly losing attraction for me and i am afraid she will break up with me! :(

[@renaldsunset]

@@istandaloneroronoazoro5188 Your love for your gf doesn’t define the compatibility between you two. And if she leaves bc your mom doesn’t like her, then good riddance ! Also if you’re afraid to lose someone it shows, you give out a needy vibe and it repeals them. Take care of yourself, literally !

[@jaiminsharma]

@@istandaloneroronoazoro5188 More than your GF, you need your own love! Move away from your mother & learn to build healthy boundaries

[@akhtaruzzamanjoy8524]

That's my mom

[@razberrie27]

my mother is narcissistic. she beats me, then makes me go to the movies with her. she texts me constantly asking "why don't you love me?". i wake up every morning terrified that i will become her when im older

[@thegayestgoth]

make sure you don't

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Get help. Go to counseling.

[@ehmkay5392]

It might be time to consider going no contact.

[@Bhiladpy-up9uy]

raz I feel you, my parents and whole family on one side is very toxic ly abusive. I feel down but imma find a way to over this, and be newer self where I am confident and truly valuable

[@anonymouslyreserved5459]

The best way to avoid being her is see a good shrink. It's crazy how we do the same as the people who we resented as a kid though we say we don't want to. It's easier to see how to fix it if we get another insight from a 3rd party like a shrink who can give tips and point out things we don't see

[@kimdokja8368]

" its easier to hold on to anger than nothing at all " that hurt me deep down geez

[@jekkfractal5164]

yeah

[@joeyduran6684]

I'm really grateful for this video. It's helped me to realize what damage my mother has caused on my mental health. I'm almost 18, and the closer I get to becoming 18, the more she tries to control every aspect of my life. It's gotten to the point of where I have all of my stuff packed up and emergency money in case I need to leave at any moment. I'm playing it by day, but I could really use some advice on what to do.😣

[@marveletc7371]

Hey man what happened?

[@Tink-x1]

Bro ur 2 years late

[@aj5878]

Dam u 21 now hope all worked out in ur favor man

[@miguelplays2921]

hows it going today?????

[@kyraslegers7559]

Next up: unhealty mother-daughter relationships

[@Sol-zx3zm]

YES PLEASE

[@emilyhynes1920]

I'd love to see that

[@tikimillie]

yes please i wanna know if i fit into one of these

[@pragyaverma351]

Please

[@valerianadia3631]

Isnt the same?

[@HenshinHead]

I think my relationship with my own mother is a mix of one, two, four and six. She was definitely the helicopter parent growing up, wanting to keep me close to the nest but still wanting to make decisions for me well into highschool, and putting a huge burden on my shoulders to eventually grow up to be the main supporter of the household. I get it, we basically grew up poor, but a fella's gotta have a chance to find success for himself, even if it means dealing with shame and failure!

[@OwenChristenson-p3m]

Spot on for Me as well

[@FSIF-xz3po]

I was singing a song today after many days and my mother interrupted me and said go do your homework, you are so shameless. That made me feel awful, when i told her that you ruined my mood, she started shouting at me and taunted me. Here i am in my bedroom all alone weeping and crying. The sad part is i am 17 and i neither have friends nor girlfriend. I just wanna go away to another place and stay all alone earning my own money and spending it on myself.

[@slapout397]

I suffered through similar behavior while growing up. If I can give a piece of advice, then it is to defend yourself. No matter what they say, keep fighting for your views. How it worked out for me is through conflict we reached some understanding of one another. Not gonna lie, it's really fucking difficult for the first time. But remember: fighting for your beliefs in front of parents teaches to have balls in front of other people!

[@dreamyheart8495]

I wish u can find a way...

[@steverichards1556]

I'm exactly the same, but I also love my father and brother.

[@erickv2645]

@@dreamyheart8495 its a shame it will never be enough

[@dimensionhacker2271]

U first be physically healthy and then try to make friends

[@smallkitten769]

I get really excited when y'all update

[@Psych2go]

That's exciting to hear!

[@pencil6913]

Psych2Go me too. I always appreciate all your content 🙏🏻

[@MatthewLacrette]

My mother fits every video about Narcissistic parenting. I've even tried talking to her about it in a calm respectful manner. She lashed out at me making me the problem. I tried to talk to her about educating herself on mental health and she refused. I have bipolar disorder and to have a mother who thinks “I'm making it up” or “you have no reason to feel that way” has made my life a living hell. Just now at 30 years old have I escaped the clutches of her narcissistic grip, found out whoni really am, and gained the independence to live my life how I want without fear of my mothers reaction. It's a hard decision but nothing in life comes easy. Erwin Schrodinger wouldn't be able to tell if the cat was alive or dead without opening the box right? Sometimes you just have to “open that box”, accept what's inside, and move on.

[@BasedPureblood]

Any advice you would give to your 20 year old self? Am in a similar situation just found out everything is all...

[@MatthewLacrette]

@@BasedPureblood I would tell myself to find the right words and have a discussion with my mother. Being open and honest is better than living with feelings you keep locked up. Talking about the tension between her and I will help solve a world of problems. Help me feel like I can finally make the decisions in life I would like, while exceeding and failing all at once. She will always be there to help you how she can and always will be there to listen. The relationship will be what you make it. If distance will help you then keep it. If communication is what helps then communicate it. Life is what you make it and the only one who can solve the problems in front of you is you. Taking steps when your tired is hard but if you don’t move you’ll never get out of the sun, slowly burning away.

[@BD-yl5mh]

@@MatthewLacrette I think the generally accepted wisdom is that you can’t really reason with a narcissist. That can sound almost dehumanising, but it’s mostly true. In all likelihood you had heaps of attempts as you were growing up to reason with your mom and it likely did nothing. I bet you had many conversations like “all the other kids my age can ____” or “how do you expect me to grow up if I’m not allowed to make my own decisions” I’m not saying you need to cut ties, even though it seems like a lot of people end up doing that with their narcissistic parents, but you probably do need to stop trying to get her permission to do things or be yourself or make your own choices. You just have to do it and ignore any pushback (I had a BPD mom who I would say was a bit like a part time narcissist. She was fine sometimes but very prone to certain triggers etc which blinded her to any rationality and made her controlling and anxious)

[@mrshadow8096]

I did the same and my mother acted like I don’t know what I’m talking about. Right now I’m paying off my tickets and than buy me an used SUV to live in until I save up for apartment

[@MatthewLacrette]

@@mrshadow8096 do what you feel is right. Don’t be afraid to ask for help either. What’s the worst that could happen? They say no? That means you have another opportunity for someone else to help you. We can’t live in this world alone so it’s best we surround ourselves with positive likeminded people who will pump up your goals and make you feel like an amazing person.

[@Cristina-qu5ug]

The absent mother mixed with the hide and seek mom. And it's so hard because she's your mother, because if you tell her she hurt you, you're hurting her, and you can't do that, can you? In my case I want to go away, but people keep telling me ''she's your mother''

[@kissofdeath4449]

You're not alone. Even if you try to explain your problem you'll be called ungrateful brat.

[@theboominghypes2521]

Udhay Kumar then I say to them fack you

[@steelylining5119]

They give me the same excuse, In the next two weeks I have my last school exams after which I have to got to her. I am already so fired up that I have to work out to keep my anger low. It is as if my body prepares for a fight with both her and her boyfriend.

[@brandonthoby1525]

I think you just made a fact right there

[@moxialuv3824]

@@kissofdeath4449 yea man i cant deal with my moms anger issues,she asked me this morning if im okay and i replied back “mhm” and she gets mad and tells me “im not another one of your friends”

[@chickenlips605]

I love my son so much (only child). He’s 17 and I already have empty nest syndrome. I think I’ve done a good job raising him; they aren’t ours to keep but to raise into “good” people. I’ve been so blessed!

[@deb904]

Agreed. They are on loan. My eldest is heading abroad with his girlfriend. I'm delighted. She's a beautiful girl. My daughter hasn't met the right person yet. It saddens me. I'd like to see her happy, and independent. My next son also has a beautiful girlfriend, and they seem happy. There's 3 more, so I don't yet have time for empty nest syndrome. However, I want to enjoy their company, and then hope they will also have the opportunity to work and move out and follow God's will for their lives.

[@mrshadow8096]

Just remember he’ll come around to visit. It’s what I tell my mom to help her feel little bit better

[@deb904]

@@mrshadow8096 very sweet. Thanks for your reply.

[@lonerimortal8]

My mother looks like a "hide and seek + Boss" I can't reach or understand how she feels and I can NEVER EVER fight her even If she is wrong. She is basicly an enigma to me '-'

[@Marinebiologist412]

My mom is the same way! She thinks that her feelings are insanely important while my feeling don’t matter at all. She has constant mood swings so I️ never know if she’s gonna yell at me, ignore me, or praise me! It’s so confusing! And then she constantly tries to boss me around, sometimes she acts like the only I️ exist is so she can make me do whatever she wants!

[@lonerimortal8]

Brooklynn Myers Actually, my mom doens't gives any value to feelings at all. She is too rational to realize how the hearth works. If I ever tell her about my depression, i'm afraid that she is going to think that depression is Just a little sadness that can go away at any moment or Just and excuse that prevent me for going forward in life and where i Just need a little push to work. She Just doens't understand what It really is and she doens't want to, and I don't blame her for that cuz she is already to bussy with the works in her college and that's another reason for me to not push my problems into her way. Another thing I realized about her is that she doens't like to be analised because i think she is afraid that me and my dad are going to attack her weak spots with words, so she basicly thinks that she is in a psicological war, so she never dares to open herself to us. But even with all this i realized that, Just like every mother, she wants my best and want my sucess, but the way that she tryes to prepare me is very contradictory since she likes to let me do things by miself so I can learn with my mistakes, BUT when I start to make any decisions she tryes to decide things for me, bacause she is more experienced than me and she afraid that I can make mistakes that can backfire. That's a very hard situation that I have here '-'

[@VenomTwisted]

Loner Imortal yeah I have the same mother. Not only that, but the effects that he described of having these relationships were pinpoint accurate. I am the definition of indecisive. I have a lot of trouble getting close to people, and I tend to put up walls without meaning too. It’s very tough because I WANT to be close with someone. I want to find a girl that I can be open with. It’s also difficult because I grew up in a military household with a disabled sister. We moved around a lot when I was younger which has had a large effect on me. It’s probably the biggest reason why I’m extremely quiet and reserved. The thing about the disabled sibling; my mother has always shown love and affection towards my sister, as do I and everybody in my family, however, I never really received that from my mother growing up. I don’t really know what “motherly love” feels like.

[@lonerimortal8]

American Spartan It feels like a unsolvable enigma, right? I'm in ur shoes my friend '-'

[@lonerimortal8]

American Spartan Something that I didn't mention before is that she always has a reason to complain about thing While i feel that I Just doens't have the rights to complain about anything at all, cuz I don't do anything important and no matter what or how much I do, It will never be enought to be usefull for anyone, because there is always someone who can do much more and better than me and I can't complain about anything because there will always be someone in a worse situation. That's NOT something that she teached me, that's something i assimilated by miself just watching, and that's why i'm normally really calm ... Because i tend to supress all of my anxiety, anger, frustrations and revolt with a kind, cheerfull, calm and fake mask. Supressing all of this things and not being able to let It out is not healthy at all, and i'm worried about the day that i'm going to explode '-'

[@Ibatronic]

Whenever I watch these videos, not only do I get a sense of revelation, but I also have this sick feeling that my parents never truly loved me…

[@yourxploit7858]

My mom got a divorce with my dad before I was born. In the 3rd grade she decided to get remarried to someone would who would verbally abuse me constantly. I lost all trust for her and my real dad for letting me have such a miserable childhood. I basically locked myself in my room for the rest of my life and it's nearly impossible for me to connect with anyone

[@holdtrue2021]

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[@boa9557]

its not her fault

[@MansLaughter365]

It's not your fault. Parents will always fuck up their kids to some degree

[@ladennayoung2939]

I pray that you seek healing/counseling. It's very important that you heal from any trauma that you have experienced in life. Because it can destroy the blessings that God have for you on so many levels.

[@FirstLast-zc6rn]

sorry for you dude

[@DioRojas]

I was a mama’s boy, and whenever I tried to open myself up she’d laugh it off and think I’m joking

[@anonymouslyreserved5459]

Dang. That's almost worse then getting sad or angry. She is in denial

[@heybhabe]

Please stop calling yourself that it’s insanely unattractive and toxic

[@sisigs4820]

@@heybhabe he said he "was" not is... lol

[@ouroboros1999]

​@@heybhabethanks for giving him a safe non judgemental space lady .

[@CupCakes168]

Something else that I’ve noticed from unhealthy mother-son relationships is the mother trying to have the son resemble their distant partner. How they act/think, even though they clearly seem unhappy in their own relationship with their partner. I’ve noticed this is heavily associated with Mothers that have meddled in the romantic relationships of their sons. It’s sad when a Mother sabotages their sons healthy relationship(s), out of jealously. It’s even more sad when they try to justify their actions by bringing God into it.

[@eternalself]

I wish there was more support for healing from this in society

[@psychosalt6251]

I not only had to be a replacement spouse, but also a therapist. Now I can’t help but bear everyone else’s burdens and just be someone’s shoulder to cry on. I have no idea how to do anything else with people

[@laks786]

This is hits to home too brother

[@camalion]

Finally! Just found Material that points out specifically to the “mother hates son” relation as opposed to the “mother hates daughter” more sociable accepted standard ...much thanks!!

[@Psych2go]

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[@jaycewinson1253]

How do i help the Hide n seek / distant mother problem

[@pillowprincess3673]

I would be so glad if you could make a video about PMDD. It's so rare but it drives the women suffering from it into sheer madness. They're not doing enough research for treatment without major consequences. Help spread the word. Thanks for your content :)

[@icysaracen3054]

The worst is when you remind them how they raised you and they say "I dont remember"

[@bobby3210]

THIS. I told her years ago how I felt when I actually thought she died and she didn’t care at the time and now that I told her again she was like “I don’t remember saying that but I’m not perfect” so I felt so bad and good like she knows how to get away with it...she keeps apologizing like she means it and it keeps happening...so manipulative

[@zildon9659]

Thank you so much for this video! I remember asking if this video was going to be made around the start of the summer, and waited patiently for this video. This isn’t a very good topic for society to deal with, understand, and accept that a mother is at fault for negatively hurting their son. The release date couldn’t have been better for this video for me personally, because tomorrow is my first day of Senior year and I finally feel that I’m making progress to get better after what my once mother did to me. Again, thank you so much! This is a great channel on KZbin, and I plan to tell people at school about it.

[@chrispowell9575]

I can relate to the last one, 19 years old. Both my parents tell me to be more social especially from mom even when I was younger I told her I didn't want to go to a dance in 6th grade she said it was because I didn't have any friends. Now all I do in college is go to school and when I'm not in school I work long hours at a grocery store. No time for fun, friends, or even myself...

[@puperinoharley401]

Being 17 (turning 18 in 3 days) i've never had a emotional connection with my mother. And she very well fits in with the boss and subordinate and the hide and seek type. If i do not go along with her plans im faced with being kicked out or shat on emotionally throughout the entire process. Emotionally i cannot speak to her about how i feel because aparantly everything i say is a lie.

[@moviesplanet9482]

A mama’s boy here ! I will never ever marry . Because I know there will always be conflict between my wife and my mother . The constant jealousy of my mother towards my wife “taking away her son from me” will destroy her life which I don’t want . Neither I would divorce my wife nor Abingdon my mother. So better to stay single whole life .

[@tolotwin5503]

This was amazing Psych2Go! The information and art are incredible. Does anyone else fear of being a bad mother? I simply hope to be a good Mom in the future... Adulthood seems so scary

[@Thecak3isalie]

I definitely grew up with 1,4, and 6. This video just gave me some clearer realizations about who I am for better or worse I have this empty feeling in my chest now. Kinda feels like it's always been there...

[@haisesasaki3944]

Thank you so much for covering this topic. My relationship with my mother is very toxic - and I hate myself for saying that- it's a mix of type 3,4,5 and 6.It's ruining my social life, but I thought that I can talk about here, but I don't know where do I start from. Anyway, I lost all my hope for changing anything, my sister and brother couldn't change anything either. I don't care about my future anymore, I'm just worried that I'll keep making things worse by saying or doing things that I'm "not supposed to do", My life was destroyed 14 years ago anyway so there's nothing to fix. Thank you

[@LoneWolf-xz3rw]

I grew up a Mama's Boy. It seemed fine until my parents divorced when I was 12. Afterwards I took on the role of being a spouse to her. When I started working she would constantly ask me for money so she could pay bills when in reality she was using it to go gambling. The first time I said no, that's when all hell broke loose. Haven't spoken to her for 2 years now. I'm going on 22 years old, I have my own car, my own apartment, and my own job, but I still struggle with independence. I also prefer being alone and not talking to anyone. The last few years I should say "toughened" me up. It was worth it though. I think I have a better grip on reality now that I don't have a "mommy" doing everything for me.

[@milky_wave7289]

Can you make a video about unhealthy Mother to daughter relationships?

[@Psych2go]

Yep!

[@asielmilian38]

Psych2Go That would be cool and I don't like mother and son relationship.

[@karanorihara8684]

Thank you

[@tomnguyen8546]

Hmm, I grew up with 3 of these relationship dynamics. Finding out that I'm codependent and taking steps to be responsible for myself.

[@Jasper_HD]

Do unhealthy father son relationships.

[@bbrandumbb]

*YES*

[@badcop9604]

redloiyu654jay this just made my day.

[@shiroaranea2741]

Does being a bastard mean unhealthy father-son relationship or is fatherlessness a different video?

[@JayJumbledVids]

Yes they need to do this like boys are pressured into being the mans man which is hard and fathers push that on there sons where they can’t show emotion even talk to them this needs to be brought up

[@JayJumbledVids]

White Spider well it kinda goes with both I guess not having a father can be mentally horrible for someone’s mind where they don’t have a male role model to look up to and like it said in this video the widow will make the son take on the husbands responsibility so I guess both

[@muadz6629]

Unhealthy father/son relationships next please! It's one that I relate to the most.

[@jairusjackson4156]

You know going into this video, I didn't think there would be anything that could describe my relationship with my mother. But then I got to The Hide and Seek Mom, and it literally perfectly describes the relationship I have with my mother. Amazing video!👍

[@jonnuanez2843]

Thank you for this! I think the only one that didn't apply to me was the absent mother. Mine was 4x divorced, so I became at once a surrogate and a trophy. But she was also boss of everything. She never sought to understand anybody or anything yet wanted everyone to understand her. Now, at 46, I have a real need to be away from people. Not married, no kids, and still horrendously insecure. Glad to see this clip.

[@joerblx6518]

I never suffered from this but my friend deeply did. He never received love from her and she was insanely manipulative and he was the parent with his dad. They were the ones that took care of the family and the mother was super lazy and never done anything. I will share this video to my friend so he can get through the trauma.

[@percyvalpastor145]

You're mamas boy if you're: 1. Mom is always worried if you're outside the house if you didn't texted her. You must be at home at 9pm even you work hard. 2. She doesn't like you to drive at the highway. 3. Mom is materialistic. She earns more than you, she said on you... Please buy me this even she can afford 10 expensive bags. 4. She wants to be prioritize her needs and wants. 5. Mom is acting like a mother of 13 y/o even you're age is near 40 y/o. If you live with your mom when you're old, you're heavily guarded.

[@rko951]

Omg 😲 so true 👍 and my mums also a mix

[@destinyjames6117]

"Heavily guarded" Oh yes, hanging out with friends is a "waste of time and money" How do i even start finding a significant other without spending time with others. Dont just expect me to randomly walk up to a street on girl and advertist you're single. Worst still, I am not allowed to date in high school/uni, which is the place most love starts. Or the place where my parents met anyway.

[@triplerushhd4799]

Wow spot fucking on, she’s also mixed with the controlling one. Also hide and seek

[@vicvega24]

I'm autistic. My mother always plays the victim and I'm glad I punched her. She argues with other people. She can't even look after herself. 44 years of failure for her. She always wants to get away with everything but karma is soon going to catch up to her again.

[@percyvalpastor145]

@@vicvega24 try to understand your mom. Tell what do you feel about her. She will realize, you're not young anymore. All of us were getting older.

[@bobbieamore5423]

Can you do unhealthy sibling relationships

[@njagambuthia9103]

That would be nice

[@muffingod1734]

Yesssss

[@randomcrapingsofus1184]

They did

[@xed8530]

All of them lmao

[@marktovey5328]

MEMES MLG you doing ur son

[@MsGrinny]

My mother was emotionally absent. My brother didn't have a girlfriend till his mid to late 20s. They evetually married. She does everything for him, ie washes clothes, cleans the house, cooks, etc. He gardens and feeds the pets. She's a control freak and she bosses him around. She's nothing like my mother, but she might as well be an alternative mother to him. I (his older sister) struggle to get on with my sister in law. (I live on my own.)

[@daylarusso8431]

I never knew so many people go through this, im in a mix of mother and lover and mother and subordinate, im pretty sure it’s been this way a lot of my life but it only started affecting me when I was 16 and ever since then it’s gotten worse every year, im 22 now and can’t wait to get out of this house and away from her

[@rickcai5931]

So I have a mom that rarely shows up in my childhood (parents are divorced), she left a bunch of bills to pay for my dad, who did all the hard work when I was little, my dad still does a lot of hard work to raise me. But as I grow up, my mom would call me to go to her place in the summer vacation, at first I thought that it was just a normal visit, gonna sleep there for awhile, go out, eat stuff etc.. but every time I go there I was forced to work for her, I was 10 years old the first time it happened. While my friends were having fun in Spain, Italy or France etc. I was tired all the time and I needed to wake up at 8 o’clock go to her shop at 9 and work til 10 o’clock in the night, while my mom takes nap home til afternoon, sometimes I had to work after midnight, just because she couldn’t do her job right and organize her stuff in HER own shop right, every time I wanted to reject her to go to her place and have my “summer vacation”, my mom would play the pity card “oh I rarely see you!” “Aren’t you my son?” “Don’t you miss mom?”. No I hate you mom, every time I come to work, you always leave, tell some lies about how you raised me while you didn’t and I have to be the manager in charge of the shop and do all the stuff that you were supposed to do. Eventually, she was broke because nobody brought stuff at her shop (clothing shop), and I didn’t need to work for her anymore. This was only part of how horrible she is as a mom. Rarely had good memories with or about her.

[@bludst]

please do daughter please I beg you my mom always defends my brother and my mom like to make me cry. my mom shows a lot of love to my brother and doesn't love me equally like my brother. my mom yelled at me today and defended my brother because he called me an asshole. my mom made me have suicidal thoughts and i became depressed when I was 6.

[@toxicmale2264]

Not worth doing suicide over this. I felt the same thing as a kid and I eventually just learned to let it go. The best way to deal with your brother is to spend some time away from him. If you feel like you need to get it off of your chest you might talk to your mom when she is in a better mood?

[@xFelix1307x]

Please try to talk to somebody outside the family, someone to help you get professional help.

[@skitty61]

I've been where u are and has felt the same way. I don't know how old u are but the best thing I did was limit my interaction with my family. Conversation were short but respectful. Do not end things over this. Find something to invest ur time in. Drawing, coding, music, anything. When ur old enough and have the means to move out on ur own it ok to cut off the toxic people in ur life even if they are family. People will tell u to forgive and forget purely because their family but to me blood has their limits.

[@ajtriforcegamerofhyrule8538]

scleuse Shut up fuck face

[@amalianikaj1097]

scleuse Dude,what the hell

[@NightFoxProductions]

I know this is about Mother/Son relationships, but my mother and her whole family were like this with me. It took me a while, but I finally stood my ground and told everyone off because I was not getting anywhere especially playing the "take care of everyone else and don't do anything for yourself." Role.

[@johnclaeys376]

A lifetime of emotional distance from mom, no touching, hugging, positive messages, mostly taking her miserable life out on her 4 kids. Dad was the absent father, literally and figuratively...... He was an alcoholic. So there you have it. An emotionally messed up Mom and a non feeling absent father. How’d I turn out, you ask. First let’s talk about my siblings. My “lost “ sister was killed in an auto accident when I she was 25. I was 24, and we were as close as my mother would allow. She managed to “pin us kids against each other”......none of us could be close. Very very sad. My oldest sister died at 69 of organ failure. She was a drug an alcohol user most of her life, and she had a B.S. in Nursing. What do they say,” Nursing is hard on the liver!”..... My younger brother and I never got along...he was the”acting out child”....so lotsa of physical abuse for him from mom, and then he took it out on the rest of us! He died an alcoholic and heavy smoker at 63. So now there’s me...everyone is gone....damage control PLEASE. ‘Been in and out of therapy for decades. Still can’t find my true self.... I figure something very bad will happen. I’m drenched in anxiety most of the time. I keep hearing my mother’s words...”that was stupid”....and , “you couldn’t fight your way out of a paper bag” Confidence.? Uh, not with my upbringing, or should I say lack thereof. I think I will take my life someday. Not today or tomorrow. Just someday? My dads father committed suicide when my father was 18. He found him hanging in the barn. Should I write a Book? Is this the only way I can get the attention I deserve? Peace

[@ChristAliveForevermore]

Find Jesus Christ, sir. He will fill the hole in your heart that your mother never could. Be at peace.

[@grandstarstudiosFORMER-YT]

I tried that lol amen

[@grandstarstudiosFORMER-YT]

Worked like sh...

[@brysonkouwenhoven]

How are you doing now brother?

[@lisagrieb8836]

❤️

[@baggyshirt7801]

Can you do unhealthy daughter mother and father son relationship?

[@bbrandumbb]

*WE NEED BOTH*

[@Psych2go]

Yep!

[@shadowprincess3724]

Absolutely

[@odd._shadow_.8003]

YESSS PLEASE!

[@gennisipher7979]

Yes please

[@sjoerdwillemsen7946]

When a 3 year old gets punched and thrown of a slide by bullies in pre-school, goes to the supervisor(can't think of a better word) who is also the kid his mother and she does not believe him. The bullies were so nice to already inform her that he fell from the slide. What kind of damage gets done there? Especially if this goes on for years from pre-scool to high school, that the kid does not get believed when he tells he gets bullied, the kid even gets gets a reputation as a compulsive liar because he lives in a village where everybody knows everybody. The kid even got send to different counselors and therapists to try and stop all the "lying" that he does. Please tell me how much damage that kid has taken to his mental wellbeing, his emotional growth, his self esteem, his world view, his trust in others, his capacity to love even..

[@notjips]

My Moms mood swings are unpredictable I try to be nice and kind but she is always on her phone and never wants to talk me. She loves her phone more than me. I don’t have a lot of friends at school so I get home and I have no one to be around because my dad was at work. And she is very narcissistic

[@rupali3276]

Do unhealthy sibling relationships.. im suffering from this.. (Like, when the older siblings gets too dominate or dislikes you when you talk about the things you think they should stop doing just because they are older like ,constantly doubting what you're upto , who you talk to and where you go to..Complaining to parents about you instead of talking face to face) I spend a lot if time alone and I'm also an introvert so I notice these things very easily.

[@jamie91995]

Sorry for asking so much but how can I get over losing a therapist who I was very attached to? She mean that world to me and helped me through the hardest times when nobody was there for me and I no longer see her and I tear up whenever I hear her name or see someone who looks like her.

[@kurosade3623]

How old are you man

[@jamie91995]

@@kurosade3623 I was 14 then. Now I'm 18

[@Aldrin2502]

I have problem with my relationship with my mother.My mother doesn't respect every decision I make and she always make me guilty if I does anything contrary to her belief, and she does overprotective.

[@Fidizzy]

Im scarred. I grew up with so little integrity and freedom that I today as a adult have freedom complex and will explode on people who have controlling issues. I've vowed to safeguard my freedom, and therefore I detest human relationships and I've become incredibly cynical. I do not have a poor view on women, but I feel like what I want to do is violated if I engage in a reltionship. The sad thing is I find more solace in knowing I will spend my life alone than with a partner. I know humans are complex beings but I've developed a mindset where trust is a liability. Think "No loose ends". If you are a mother and you are reading this, and you suspect you are suffocating your kid - I say this with all the seriousness it deserves; Give your child space or prepare to become estranged later in life.

[@yourfbiagent8244]

I came out to my mother about my Anxiety and depression and one thing she said was "YoU ThiNK i'm YoUr PRobLEm?!?!". She was mostly because she constantly yelled at me for any small thing I did, one time I didn't care I had an A in school *GUESS WHAT HAPPENED* yelled at. I Told her I was a human and not some puppy she can have around to just yell and look at. I'm always in a constant state of fear wondering when she will yell at me and what it will be about. I still suffer from that anxiety, fear, and depression...

[@Yakuo]

Confronting these wounds hasn't been fun, but it's been helpful. Thank you for this video! 🕉🙏🌀

[@itsasecrettoevery1]

*2: Mother and lover* Japan...

[@mehmetgurdal]

ara ara :D

[@Salieri2024]

@@mehmetgurdal Ara Ara indeed

[@akinrapt0r]

I have every single one of this relationships with my mom. And I’ve turned out like a pure disappointment 😎

[@OniPutItOn]

Focus on yourself. Life’s nowhere endear over💪🏾

[@freddycougar20]

Lol welcome to the club

[@praveenvijeyakumar741]

To answer the question about "red flags", I've noticed (at least with my mom) that if I'm supposed to follow her every instruction, whereas when I try to make a point, I'm "talking back" to her.

[@peregrination3643]

I seem to be coming to this channel as a way to remind myself that my thoughts and feelings are real, no matter what "truth" counts to my parents.

[@starbittenpixieboy]

My mother always oversteps my boundaries, and she is the boss of the family. She also is the hide and seek mother. She always is wanting to control me, and what I do, meanwhile stepping away and removing herself from me. She hits me whenever I make a mistake, and sometimes I fear that she will kill me.

[@destinykirchhoff7077]

Could you guys do a video on unhealthy mother-daughter relationships? p.s Thanks for all the videos, they’re very helpful :)

[@strarfishalbum6364]

Destiny Kirchhoff OKAY U PEOPLE CAN STOP COMMENTING THE SAME SHIT

[@theboominghypes2521]

Destiny Kirchhoff sorry but this video is like the same thing

[@bigbay1159]

@@strarfishalbum6364 Why did you feel the need to cry like a bitch to a comment that doesn't hurt you? Very curious anger going on

[@timechangers1875]

my mother was sexually abused as a child and i was her first son. She abandon me after birth. Only after i was two years old did my step father tell her to get me from my grandmother. I never bonded to my mother. I feel nothing . My mother abused and cheated on my step dad. My mother was hide and seek mother. Unaffectionate very controlling manipulative and mean .My biologal father call me a part of his hay days. I suffer from social anxiety disorder shy, timid very soft spoken low self esteem , untrusting of women.introverted and fearful. Thank you for this video it helps.

[@ARWINGx1]

Out of these 6, my relationship with my mom are at least the closest to "The Boss and Subordinate" at one time, when she demanded that I'd get something for her, only 5 secs. after I started, "HEY! WHAT'S TAKING YOU SO LONG?!" OR, when she demands me to do something, she tends to also demand SOMETHING that's impossible.

[@anavillagomez0066]

Toxic mother tries to manipulate situations making every situation more difficult in any way possible so he needs her . Which drastically stunts growth, self esteem. Independence ,confidence etc. Seen it first hand with husband.

[@Inkedspeed]

I’ve dealt with all 6 of these between my biological mom, adoptive mom, and now my adoptive dads new wife. My biological dad was never in the picture. I struggle with relationships because of it. Not to mention I wasn’t exactly adopted into a rich. Low medium part of middle class isn’t going to get you the “new and cool” so I was always an outcast during school cuz of that and because I liked stuff that was different from everyone else my age growing up. I feel like if any of my moms were actually present and formed a healthy mother/son relationship I’d be doing so much better.

[@sybellastone]

My mother uses me as a ranting mechanism for when my father or brother fuck up, which is a lot. These rants can last hours preventing me from doing my homework. If I try to leave she guilt trips me for not “being there for the one that raised you”. I just stay upstairs to avoid it.

[@Francis.L]

I've always have a harder time especially with my mother, this type of relation really seems to show off it's true nature as time passes. My mother gets overly attached to me to the point where i'm feeling uncomfortable around with my parents and yet even whenever i take a sleep on my own bedroom she won't let go somehow, instead both us are in one room and two beds so she feels at ease and company, this is making me infuriating to how she slowly takes so much space in my whole life, it's like an attachment that you can't let go. i am struggling with this parenting relation overall no matter how far i tell what i've been feeling in my life, they also always seem to think i'm usually fine.

[@danelfentone4574]

Try to assert boundaries. She has a husband. She should be sleeping with him only

[@Divinemasculineofficial]

Alot of women these days treat their son like their husband / boyfriend by having excessive physical touch with their sons. I think when a child reaches 4 years old the physical touch needs to change and be only cuddles and cheek kisses. Some women stroke and caress their sons legs or rub other body parts , kiss the boy on their lips, hold hands whilst watching movies and playing with each others fingers.. These examples are very intimate touching and would usually be seen between spouses.. Children 5 years old and older should not be touched like this by an adult. Fathers could never get away with doing this to their daughters. What women do with their sons is strange and damaging to the boys development but also prevents the woman from having a healthy relationship with a spouse. Alot of single women are out here because they pour too much affection into their sons whilst neglecting their daughters and / or spouse.

[@devinkovach9583]

I just wanted to comment to add that I'm 18 and been driving for a year and a half now and my mom still wants me to tell her where I'm at at all times, and recently talked to me about putting a tracker on so she knows where I'm at, this just makes me feel trapped while people around me have freedom, I do have freedom but restricted freedom, and it feels like if I complain or talk to my mother that ill lose it all because I'm asking for too much for my mom to handle. Its just exhausting to continue with this if you read this thanks for reading lmao I just wanted to vent

[@danelfentone4574]

You are an adult. Don't bend to her wishes

[@peakz9183]

It's hard to love someone who hurts me in many ways

[@MrNoob-qi3lf]

This video finally gave me answers on why I was never able to show off my talents as a kid, like how my hand is practically still made out of elastic after all of these years. My mom never let me do what I wanted, except for school and videogames. I think the Boss and Subordinate one caused my picky eating habits too, because when I was around two years of age, my eating got obviously and randomly worse one day out of the blue. It also makes me feel bad for one of my cousins because she has the absent mother-daughter relationship if that's even a thing. Her mom just left to party and do dumb stuff for no reason, like how my dad left me for no reason but around ten times worse. I know this is mother-son, but mother-daughter should also be one.

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Sounds exactly like my 60 year old mother. I’m 37 going on 38 years old. She has been forcing me to get married for the past 11 years and it only resulted in bad things.

[@anon-binarycoffeecup7837]

Why did I click (I’m a daughter) *OH GOD UHMMM I HAVE A BROTHER THO*

[@illya.b]

One day you will be a mother and there's 50% chances you'd be a mother of a boy. So... Watch it, it' won't hurt. ;-)

[@anon-binarycoffeecup7837]

write2chrome okay thank you and how do I know i won’t adopt a child

[@illya.b]

It doesn't matter, really. Even if you adopt a child (again, chances of them being a boy are pretty much the same)), you'll be a mother to a boy, so all the points in this video will be valid too.

[@anon-binarycoffeecup7837]

write2chrome okay tru Kay mhm

[@suzettegillera7866]

Same here

[@anaamore6907]

Well done! Some mothers seem to exhibit more then one of these. It's really painful because I have a lot of guy friends I love who's mom's have really warped them. Thankfully a lot of them are working on themselves with the help of therapy and learning how to establish healthy boundaries.

[@amazon_kai]

Really depressing that I experience 1,2,4 and 5. Thought I was being to hard on my mom but now I know she's just been hurting me.

[@hafsasalman5125]

My brother is 17 almost 18 years old and my mom constantly never gives him space. My brother wants to live in a college dorm while my mom does not want him to leave because she will miss him and my mom fears that my brother will forget about her and never want to come back. I accept that I don’t like it and accept my mom is like that. He is a mama’s boy and is kind hearted and he can be rude with out knowing it sometimes like he can say anything to my mom thats offensive and she will laugh it off and I’m like wtf. I understand that parents can miss their kids and I know that parents should let their kids make their own decisions too. My mom always hangs out in my brothers room and she does not act like a normal mom. Shes loving but she needs to give my brother some space. I love my brother just the way he is and i would never want to change anything about him but i don’t like the way he never gets space. He never leaves his room and sometimes he cries, I don’t know what he cries about but i know he does, he cries in private. He was emotionally abused by my dad and he built his confidence on his own so did I.

[@blkhemi3925]

I just found out that my own mother has been conspiring for over a year to totally screw me over! I can't understand why my mother was completely willing to sabotage my life and drag me down and sacrifice everything I've built for her own selfishness. Who does this to their own child?

[@jefft6811]

My mum was distant with me, favouring my three siblings and never having any affection or a single word of encouragement for me. My dad raised me. In the same house but like mum wasn't MY mum. I am now utterly indifferent to her and my father died

[@shadowfalcon1269]

Congrats on 1.2 million subs! Didnt see the numbers growing that fast!

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for the support!!! We cant' take this for granted.

[@Proxlynmeow]

The numbers Psych2Go what do they mean

[@andymelendez9757]

My mother had schizophrenia. Her mood swings were dramatic. She became psychotic at times and physically abused my brothers. The abuse was extreme. She looked like a monster at times when angry and I was terrified. I had to be her therapist when she was extremely depressed and couldn't get out of bed. She didn't trust anyone. It goes on and on. No one helped us even tho they could hear her rants across the street. My brothers and I are survivors in the truest sense of the word. We carry deep wounds and still deal with the damage. Parenting is so important. There needs to be an easy way for abused kids to get help. May God be with all who have suffered this way.❤

[@noahparker50]

I was a mamas boy, and am now having exactly what you said, as I'm getting older, I retaliate a lot against her.

[@Chachoes]

Can you do types of unhealthy father son relationships PLEASE

[@amberb.6395]

My mom is definitely the hide and seek mom. Everything said sounds exactly like our relationship and everything really. It described it perfectly

[@nocturne6548]

I remember suggesting this topic. Thank you guys!

[@igi-risu]

Can you make a part two? I'd like it to touch up more on a "perfect painted picture" kind of thing. Like, my mother enjoys shit-talking me to the grave behind closed doors but whenever we're around people or specific family members she'll gloat about how "smart and talented" I am. Something like that.

[@hopeamygrace_705]

As a very caring figure it seems men who have bad relationships with there mother tend to fall in love for a motherly figure to fill the void of what's missing

[@simgem]

And don't forget all the relationships listed in the harmful parenting style video!

[@wuukieandsoya]

Thank you for amazing video! I'm a mom of two twin boys. I will definitely make notes to this 👍

[@aidanbieszk2341]

There wasn't much I could do. I lost my mom at a young age, and lost close connections to her long before that. I'm see the absent results in myself

[@bigbay1159]

I could never understand the types that stay in the situation, letting it ruin them. Me and my old man were far from close when I was young and I was a "momma's boy" but as a young teenager I saw the narcissist she was. And things came to a head and it's now been over a decade since seeing or speaking to her. Me and the old man now have an alright relationship. We speak, and have some time together as me being an adult. The last time I saw and spoke to my mother was on my 18th birthday, I am now in my 30's and I am always grateful I never allowed myself to be victimized. I still look at that decision of completely disconnecting as one of the best life choices I ever made.

[@bassafratz]

I just went to a new school and I never realized how dependant I was on the people I care about from my old school...... AND BECAUSE OF THAT I KEEP CRYING AND HAVING PANIC ATTACKS WHEN IM AT HOME AT NIGHT AND I WANNA GO BAAAAACK BUT MY DEPENDANCY ON SEEING THOSE PEOPLE WAS PROBABLY UNHEALTHY. AAAAAAAH 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💔 💔🌎💥

[@bassafratz]

I WENT TO THE SCHOOL FOR 3 DAAAAYS AND I STILL FEEL LIKE POOP 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@PracticalInspiration]

I focus a lot on these sorts of issues on my channel. However, try to understand that what you're experiencing isn't bad. It's through discomfort and new experiences we see the most growth and this is a big step forward for you in maturity. It might be hard, but you aren't alone and we all go through it. Embrace the independence if you can

[@lottiekarottie7547]

Its just normal. My best friend was in hospital for 3 months and my anxiety almost immidiatly became like 3 times stronger which also made me worry about her 3 times more than i normaly would which is already a lot. Luckily she is fine.

[@DanishCamp]

Think of the opportunity you have to meet all kind of new and exciting people :D All school is temporary, real friendships lasts past that :) In any case you get a free pass to explore and show different sides of your personality. All new things make you nervous because we tend to seek what makes us feel safe, but in the end everything is ever changing and if we can embrace the change we will be much happier :D It is natural to be a bit sad though, but then we get over it if we're not to miss out on this new chance given :D But for serious anxiety and panic attacks, there's always professional help to be had and no shame in that :)

[@bassafratz]

I STIIIILLLLL FEEL LIKE DIAHHREA

[@carlopannone5281]

My mother is one of the most terrible people in history someday i hope to never see her again

[@lilcapton5121]

Could you do father son relationships?

[@marshiechu2276]

i hope there are mother-daughter unhealthy relationships and my brother needs to see this

[@jenny-doe]

Can you do a types of toxic romantic relationships/marriages video?

[@davecalado]

The boss and subordinate + mama's boy is incredibly devastating, I struggle doing everyday's decisions on my own.

[@osamayousuf6945]

coming from a brown family, i must say my mother possesses most of the unhealthiest traits.

[@elizabethhaze2533]

osama yousuf my boyfriend is also brown. I’m watching a bunch of these videos to learn how to better understand how much it has really affected him and how to better comfort him. I see many qualities of his mom in a lot of the toxic parent videos. I’m just waiting for the day he turns 18 and can move out.

[@ahmedoluwa3684]

Try being the only son in an african country hahhaa

[@acasoimporta_2729]

Its not color, its cultureeee

[@aditibisht22]

@@elizabethhaze2533 they don't move out till their parents die....

[@elizabethhaze2533]

@@aditibisht22 yeah he turned 18 yesterday and I've been learning that over the past year. It's tough for him.

[@SpinningTurtle66]

This is super interesting. It’s crazy to know some parents make their kids take on the role of a lover

[@siriuslyorion2975]

I really appreciate my mother, she had me at young age, too young, and with a mostly absent father (yet support from both his and her family) she raised me pretty much solo. I never wanted for anything, never had less than others my age and always had a stable figure in my life. Yeah, she can be a pain, but I'm able to see everything she went through to raise me and I can only hope to be a fraction as strong a person as she is. That's why it perplexes me when I hear horror stories about mentally and/or physically abusive mothers. Perplexes probably isn't the right word, more like angers. In recent years I've come to pity my half siblings (with whom I share a father), cos their mother is a drug addicted, angry mess of a person. Always has been. Even when I was little, I liked everybody, I was always chirpy except for her. I was scared of her and it made me not want to be around my father (something he should've done something about but she was a factor). Thankfully my father's become a much better person, he quite literally reinvented himself, divorced the psycho and is one of few stable figures in his childrens' lives. Honestly, the woman needs help. Her eldest 2 (my brothers) each moved away from her at the earliest chance they got (The older at 16 to his maternal grandmother's and the younger at 15 to our grandparents) and her eldest daughter, at 13, just recently overdosed after watching her mother for years (not fatally thankfully). I just hope that the youngest girl, at 8, has enough stability in her life to not go down that kind of path.