7 BOUNDARIES With Men You Must Set WHEN Dating

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7 BOUNDARIES With Men You Must Set WHEN Dating... In this dating and relationship advice for men, I will explain the seven boundaries you must set with men to maintain mutual respect, emotional well-being, and healthy communication throughout the relationship. I want you to know how to set boundaries with men on first dates, online dating or elsewhere in the dating process. Take heed to this dating and relationship advice video to learn the boundaries you must set with men when dating.
If you don’t set proper boundaries with men earlier in the dating process, you risk compromising your well-being, potentially leading to misunderstandings or harm. When you set boundaries with men early, it helps establish clear expectations, laying the groundwork for a healthier relationship dynamic. Always take the time to reflect on your own needs and limits, and set boundaries with men from the beginning.
I want you to know what boundaries with men you must set when dating so that you can prioritize your well-being and create a foundation for a fulfilling relationship. Learn the
boundaries you must set and avoid tolerating behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable or disrespected. Embrace this dating advice to learn the boundaries you must set when dating.
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[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@dianaspencer7232]

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[@PricelessJesus]

Stephen aww remember me. With my 2 Yr best friend? We are now boyfriend and girlfriend :) staying sexually pure!!! Till marriage. Love from the uk. Do u have an email I can send u photos of us please

[@Portia620]

No one should be financially investing in another person until they’re married even living together is highly problematic from a legal standpoint at least in the United States!!!! Stop investing in people that you are not tied to in a marriage or common law marriage!!!! people get used that way

[@Portia620]

Great points!!

[@Portia620]

I stayed home and my ex went out all the time😂😂😂

[@StaunchSheep]

A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect - so true!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

💯 yes!

[@nileriver1632]

so true.

[@Tales923]

❤

[@NewYorkNadia]

Ladies, hold your boundaries but realize they’re yours, not theirs. Men react to actions, not words, so keep that in mind. #1. Tell him you’re looking for commitment when it comes up in conversation, and start your mental timer. Until you’re committed stop giving so much energy to him. If the timer’s up before there’s commitment just let him go gracefully, tell him why, and move on in peace. #2. Let him know if you’re abstaining when it comes up naturally; stop the finger-wagging. No need to be toxic about it. #3. If you don’t know him, don’t go to his place. It’s not safe or smart. #4. Let him know about the level of “monogamy” you’re willing to give and expect. #5. Never, EVER, lend money to a man. Men are here to provide, protect, and lead; a resourceful and competent man would never ask a woman for money.

[@Melli510]

True

[@Petra.80]

I felt led in the spirit to say this, having sex before marriage, especially with the one you have connection, the one that God chose for you can be dangerous! I was reading the book of genesis, chapter 3 yesterday and I got a revelation that I never had before. Sex is meant to open our spiritual eyes, that is why when two people that have a connection with a purpose come together they do great things, but if they engage before marriage it can throw them off their purpose... Sex is a spiritual thing and we should stop taking it lightly.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing that

[@brittneebrittneyhill9271]

💜

[@sionapink1560]

I agree ❤

[@MarzNGrama]

Well said!

[@ckl5801]

💯

[@ChrisW1019]

As a man, I feel very strongly about having financial boundaries with women. Paying 100% for dates is one thing. Paying a woman's bills, especially if you're not yet exclusive, is a no go area.

[@heather7119]

That would be an interesting video: What boundaries men should have when seriously dating :)

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@JStig12]

@ChrisW1019 Your boundaries look similar to and possibly exactly the same as mine. As a general rule, if it comes to bills, unless there is an extenuating exception, I want to know what their financial belief systems are if they want money for them. Are they trusting politicians to fix their life? Are they in debt for things they don't need to be in debt for? Are they not spending wisely? Are they enabling people?

[@ckl5801]

💯

[@BelleHealingMusic]

If you are not exclusive and not sleeping with her, don't pay the bills. And don't pay the bills for LV

[@user-ni2nx7pk2g]

“Walls keep everyone out but boundaries show them where the door is”. Mark Groves

[@lala5061]

I like that one!

[@lisawagner421]

It’s not a boundary then. What’s the point of having a boundary if you’re going to allow someone to cross it? Typical a man would say this.

[@spybubbble]

This is a bar!

[@MzLena2You]

I am using 2024 to focus on me. It is going to take bells, whistles and a burning bush for me to recognize the man who is truly meant for me, because toxicity and love b0mbing along with everything in between has me exhausted. I am using my single season to grow spiritually, and to travel more since I have no romantic or parenting obligations.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.

[@inspirationandlife4954]

💯💯💯

[@Kmh448]

Love this

[@tashamack8701]

Amen sis!!! I am right behind you!!! #singlelife

[@Geneka737]

Yes, only healthy real love will flourish here 💜🙏.

[@krishashine]

..i needed to hear that. "If a man is expecting sex after doing nice things for you, its a PERSONAL PROBLEM ". Iam someone who has extreme anxiety surrounding this topic.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@rebelissima8915]

If a man is expecting ANYTHING from you for doing nice things "for" you (unless you're paying him back money you owe), RED FLAG. No one should feel like they owe someone something just because the other person decided to do something nice you didn't ask them to in hopes you'd give them want they want in return. Being generous isn't about treating the person like a vending machine hoping to get a prize in return.

[@lavenderlady86]

Same here.

[@TM-se5jf]

So nobody in the comment section didnt list the 7 boundaries? Disappointed in yall 😂

[@shannonwatson9044]

😂😂😂

[@Natural_Beauty86]

No fr I was looking for it too 😂

[@krissysandley]

Agreed!!!!! 😂😂😂

[@OrganicallyYahs]

😂😂😂same thought

[@shuclassy]

Frfr 💯😂

[@rosamoreno1147]

The one thing that I do when starting to date someone, I don’t let him pick me up at home, I don’t feel comfortable with anyone know where I live, I been stalked before so this is extremely important to me

[@jerzygrl8896]

First conversation after hello is "How's your relationship with Jesus?". Anything after that is contigent upon the response to that question which will reveal a lot all in that one inquiry....if they are honest. If not, that will be revealed quick too. Love that you mentioned not letting whoever in the home, which IS your sanctuary. I'm 💯 about that pre-screening 👏👏👏

[@shawnlove4502]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@danborake3084]

Absolutely, do not be unequally yorked!

[@Elle3211]

A lot of people claim Christianity in public, but their lives are anything but Christian. Some people mascarade themselves into who they need to be for acceptance, praise, and projecting images. If you want to know who loves Jesus and fears God, take note of what's going on in their personal lives. Married with multiple children born to women other than the spouse during the marriage? Does he have teenage or adult children? How arevthose relationships? Is he a defendant in lawsuits? Why? Is he honest or prone to telling lies, cheating, etc.? You won't be able to answer any of those questions during the first conversation nor simply asking him about his relationship with Jesus.

[@enaalexis92]

I can’t wrap my head around the notion of dating multiple people at once. This is the only time as a female that I have no wish to multi task 😊

[@JStig12]

@enaalexis92 Me either. I do pray about more than one person if I feel like I have options that I need to decide between, but I don't even talk to more than one at the same time.

[@amandaroberts6822]

I get that, but I also am ready to find my person. Dating multiple people takes the pressure off this one person in front of me being “that person.” It allows me to let men take the lead and decide if they want to take it further and let go of pining for them to contact me. It lets me evaluate who they are from a more logical perspective vs the feeling of getting attention.

[@joyricherson4570]

I agree and don't let anyone tell you any differently. So many people used to tell me oh that's never going to happen you're never going to find a man who believes that in dating just one woman. Well last year I met my honey and he told me exactly that. He said he didn't believe in dating multiple people at the same time.

[@joyricherson4570]

Proverbs 3:5-6 Submit to him in All you do and he will direct your paths

[@enaalexis92]

@@joyricherson4570 Amen 😊

[@i.i.a]

Stephan laugh is contagious. 😂 Love all your work. Stay blessed!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you and stay blessed as well 🙏

[@Melli510]

It sure is!

[@MamaSherbear69]

Dating is exactly what it means. No sex, no Netflix nights. Now exclusively/Girlfriend/Boyfriend is something entirely different

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@latoyahogan8428]

See dating is a whole thing now days. This where I am confused or over thinking it. We are monogamous and exclusive but I haven't been given the title and I don't know how to have that conversation. Any advice?❤

[@wandacastle482]

@@latoyahogan8428 There's nothing confusing about it. Actually, it's very simple. You set YOUR standards, and hook up with someone who will meet up to YOUR standards. You don't have to go by anyone elses rules or standards. Llike some men call women 'gold diggers' if she won't date a guy who doesn't have a job. But women must be mindful of who is the best choice for her to date because no type of birth control is 100%, so anytime a woman has sex she may get pregnant. And with that, she should find a man who is financially able to support a baby and her too if she wants to stay home with the baby until the child can talk and tell if the sitter is abusing him or her. So, your best bet is find a man who has his own place (not living with mom, sis, bro or renting a room, etc.), and his own transportation. Men who don't have therre own, will start trying to suck up what you have. Like if momma kicked him out, now he has to live with/off of you. Or if he doesn't have a car, he has to use your car. Get a man with his own, or who has gotten off of his but to get a 2nd or 3rd job.

[@paulinaordonez380]

@@latoyahogan8428 I need to know this as well!

[@joyricherson4570]

For me it's still not different

[@Terry_8_]

Thank you so much Stephan . I really needed to hear these boundaries. My lack of boundaries in my prior relationships have cost a lot and I don’t ever want that for myself again. I want God to have complete control and be #1 in my relationship.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@Terry_8_]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks You’re welcome .

[@warriorisachildofgod]

Amen...

[@11080698]

Dating is hard…because it’s hard to find a match especially if each person is used to their own ways…and now have to integrate for a life together…habits die hard…

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@klara7655]

no, the issue is that people refuse to accept the other person. they want a copy of themselves!! sorry, this is a dream. also, some believe Holiwood stories. and men are blind and don't accept that love is not to provide but it is to accept each other and support even if the person thinks differently!!!

[@sabrinaszabo9355]

It’s hard to find people who are invested in personal growth. Unhealthy society. It will be tricky to navigate. Healthy boundaries and introspection is beneficial. But, I am still single, so lol. But I would rather be alone and do good to me, then be in unhealthy situation. I have PTSD from emotionally then to physically traumatic. But I learn, and I grow, I am resilient and rise from the ashes. As do you

[@princesscrockett]

This is such great and insightful information. I am almost 70 years old and I promise you IF i had known to set these boundaries I would not had wasted so much of my life trying to figure stuff out. I do give myself credit for the last relationship I was in in 2021, I knew immediately he was not as attentive as I needed, I told him so and left him alone, he then pursued me and like a fool i gave in and i cant tell you how much i regret wasting my time in a relationship I knew from the start was lacking in attention to my needs. Even though he did say certain things up front, his actions were ALWAYS confusing. But its my life and i am taking charge and stop ignoring the signs to simply say...No thanks, im worth more

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@princesscrockett]

I can only hope it will help....someone....somewhere

[@Barbara-zo6pq]

Thanks for sharing. That's my story. Gut is always right. Actions speak louder than words.

[@princesscrockett]

It's so amazing how some guys, Church so called guys, have no boundaries nor care foe us as their Sisters in Christ, it's so confusing and hurtful

[@jacquelinewoodard4435]

Whew. Leaving a 13 year relationship & marriage that was started in high school. This is so helpful because I feel so lost in how to jump back into dating.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@jacquelinewoodard4435]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Hopefully. I haven’t lost faith in him and we are spending time together (which you should make a video on 😉), BUT I’m not sure where it’s headed and I want to be prepared in the event that we go through with the divorce. Thanks for the great content.

[@biancamirambeau8882]

Omg 11 years I feel your pain but I’m making myself available for the right man

[@lala5061]

Don't jump back in quickly it is very difficult...men nowadays get their thoughts and advice from unhealthy men online...try to find out what he listens to it will give u an idea if he's a social media kind of dude getting game unstead of just being himself 😒...i got out my 18 year relationship with the mindset i may not get married now but i didn't care because uh uh it was too bad for me...i decided if i have to be alone I'll take it cuz yea i can't do this anymore life is almost gone....praying for u be careful and make wise decisions 🙏🏽 nothing wrong either with being on your own if it's that bad u know what i mean...🤗 goodluck to u...

[@sabrinaszabo9355]

What is hugely beneficial is taking the time to heal and introspect so I could unravel issues and not bring past unresolved ones into the new relationship… I.e. attachment issues. I am aware I am anxiously attached, I know how to identify triggers so my behavior is reflective of how I want to present in the world. I want authentic connection at his soul level.

[@tanningandtarot]

As someone who is abstinent, I experienced the same thing - I would scare men off or feel pressured to cross that boundary because I was afraid to say anything. I’m glad he explained it in the way he did because it gives me a different way to communicate.

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*True love is like ghosts, which everyone talks about and few have seen.*

[@susanhawkins4073]

Love is NOT A FEELING. Like is a feeling, hungry, sad, tired, giddy,...those are feelings. Love is a choice, a decision, an ACTION, not the often misinterpreted, like/lust/selfish want/needy desire people confuse it with. Did Jesus FEEL like he'd enjoy crucification? "Father, if at all possible ,let this cup pass from me. Nevertheless, YOUR will be done." But he DECIDED to heal the men who came for him and surrender His flesh to the ghost.

[@rebeccaconn389]

These boundaries are so great !!! I’m writing ✍🏼 them down for my next relationship. My last relationship was a boundary nightmare!!! Cause I didn’t really set any … bad idea. Love and learn.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@rabbirabyy4567]

Please can you help me with the list

[@milliemill3782]

Great info regarding abstinence and when it comes to spiritual boundaries we have to be VERY selective when letting people/spirits into our homes . Looking forward to the video ❤...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@Natalia-nx2bq]

The best boundaries are those that are embodied. The only exclusive, official and committed relationship is marriage. Do rotational dating without any sex and decide to be committed based on the best option from the people that propose with a ring. That’s it!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@motsomi6327]

🙌🏾🔥This whole message is one big confirmation for me. I've been told my boundaries are dramatic. That last point - energies/spirits people carry/bring in your sanctuary, as with sex - exchange of energies. I'm even weary of people I allow in my car. Cleansing these is no walk in the park. They dissappear once you suggest going out than them coming over. Good riddens. I'm at a point where I expect them to dissappear, it's quite a short show 🍿😅 they're quick to spot when you know what to "see" or "hear", especially when you express your boundaries. People dont have the patience of getting to know a person outside walls before exposing the skin behind the knees, let alone praying about and waiting to hear from God where this relationship is concerned, it's foreign to most. Haven't dated in +8 years because people who understand this truth are rare. Thank you for your teaching, baba. Listening to you is like listening to a big brother. I thank God for your feeding.

[@leonaldn]

🎯🙌🏾 Yes!

[@1966wilky]

Thank you for your guidance. Looking back on my relationships your words would have helped me enormously. I came from an abusive home life and entered into relationships without a clue of my own self worth and what a good relationship looked like. Oh how I wish I’d known then what I know now.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 ❤️

[@rachelnjenga7175]

I found this channel when things were really bad in my life. Relationship was trash and I needed some words of encouragement, wise words, speak to my struggles and help me understand why I am to some extent allowing things to happen to me. I have a better understanding now of who I am, how to express what I need and understand the other party. Thank you!

[@user-ex4ce7gh1k]

Me too ❤

[@nikitaiggo7135]

Great video!! Please never stop posting you’ll be helping a lot of people so much thank you for your work💖💖💖💖

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help 🙏

[@BoldKristaNicole]

Great video!! Setting reasonable boundaries based on beliefs, morals, lifestyles (including parenthood), and due to time management (business), treatment, etc. - will never be a problem with the right person. If boundaries are a problem, he or she is most likely is not for you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@lakeishaclakely7722]

I agree. I think this is the hardest part of reality people find hard to accept

[@farahelf6120]

I believe the min i learn to get to know me and be happy with myself i no longer afraid to set boundaries and stand on them. It no longer bother me if someone walks away or or doesn't accept them. I no longer take things personally and i know now my happiness and myself come first. I feel very content with myself so thats a power i will never lose again. I truly believe God allow things to happen or not happen for a reason. I no longer desperate or in a rush. I stay humble, patient and calm and ask him what are you trying to teach me God. I trust you and trust your timing. I have hope God will send my husband exactly at the right time

[@bumblebee_ms]

I laughed so much when you said: "Wouldn't you eat the cake if someone brought you a cake with icing?"

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@rocksroll6841]

Perfect timing - I am just in the process of dating again & I’m talking to someone not even a week now but this is so helpful to keep things healthy in my dating wanting to be married at some point in a nice order to a strong Christian (abstinent) ❤❤❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@maroonbloodline4628]

You are so phenomenal. These help me so much. You should do a video on the power of detachment❤

[@kotorapadgett8906]

Yes with not letting anyone in your home (sanctuary-peace). Thank you for sharing! This was very helpful.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@shai-racreates251]

I so needed this! 🙌🏾 Keep doing God's work! I'll definitely implement these tips whenever i decide to get back out there.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@lightinthesky888]

This is validating ! I thought I was over thinking but I can clearly see that I am on new level of wanting clear communication on MY boundaries but also knowing his to establish us in our “dating” experience . In comparison to my early 20s. I’m in my 30’s now

[@Soldout564]

As a faithful servant of Christ, spiritual alignment is an essential element in any relationship beyond a casual or professional acquaintance. The other boundaries mentioned are also extremely important to purposeful dating. Thank you for great guidance and advice.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@elizabethsnyder9678]

Good communication is always needed for relationship. It a one of my boundaries not just dating but even in friendship even. My mom taught me and my sisters and brothers of to have boundaries always.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace having boundaries. Thank you for sharing!

[@DizzyRock09]

You gave so much good advice , thank you❤ I learned the hard way to not invite men to your home if you don’t know them well enough. I attracted a disrespectful stalker ish type of guy and I was scared sleeping at night because he had shown up randomly at 1-2am knocking at my gate and blowing up my phone because he randomly felt like visiting me . He seemed normal the first few dates we had , for the exception he was asking a lot of questions and I didn’t pick up at the moment he would be that way of way😅 scary and am glad god protects me ❤

[@sabrinaszabo9355]

It’s very nice to hear and emotionally stable and intelligent man give advice. Being around so many unhealed ones. After introspection, finding out reasonsI kept repeating the same pattern. Unhealthy boundaries… Just learning and integrating…it’s nice to have your energy, thank you for being you, and leading with true divine masculinity.

[@torigordon8730]

You are just…. Amazing. You were meant to spread the message of love and relationships. So happy you’re walking in your purpose because your videos are so invaluable and reaffirms some of my core believes that others have often disagreed with me on. Once I hear you say it, I know I ain’t trippin. Ha

[@JStig12]

@torigordon8730 Yes. I could almost cry tears of joy because he covered cussing. I am not looking to date or marry a cuss bomb. I believed in no house alone time before marriage before I heard Stephan, but it makes me feel good to have Stephan back me up. I would say that some people would also disagree on some of my core convictions if they knew about them.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help 🙏

[@ddazz1403]

Hey Stephan, glad to have seen one your posting again, haven’t had time to follow. In my experience also in all honesty, when you meet the person that’s meant for you, all boundaries are quickly thrown out the window pretty quickly. Boundaries might be a thing the first 3-6 months, after that, you either know or it’s likely a no go.

[@Pheonix1111]

Thank you Stephan for stating and explaining these basic valuable boundaries that women must be aware of, because some women were raised within toxic families or without a father. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏. Thank you for helping and protecting God’s daughters. 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@ShayCheDemure]

Communication is KEY 🔑.

[@omoukponihenyen676]

where has this content been all my life? I feel like it would have saved me some wasted time. I'm glad to learn these all the same.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@melbelle555]

You have seriously changed my life with love for the better, thanks for these videos 🙏🏼

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@Nesha_Nati]

Stephan, you are truly gifted and a blessing.

[@zaz4jaz]

Your advice is absolutely amazing and I relate to it on so many levels and agree with every point made. Thank you very much for doing these videos. Hope you carry on- quality advice

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

You are so ANNOINTED Stephan Very few people is aware that persons can cary NEGATiVE UNWANTED spirits in your house Note this people am aware to Stay WISE and BLESSED STEPH

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@Doohopper_Grandma]

I Love your advice about being careful about hanging out in situations that don’t make you vulnerable. I am 65 years old single and a Christian and dating for the first time in a long time. I have been Divorced almost 12 years and found someone I like recently,But when I told him I didn’t want to have sex until I got married he got very upset and stopped talking to me about three weeks and then he realized how much he liked me, and so he’s coming back around and being very generous, but he is not used to being in a relationships with women who Don’t let him have sex without marriage, but I have already been in situations where the man I was dating in the past put sexual pressure on me and God woke him up warning him that I was God’s chosen and not to mess with me sexually . That being said I have lost relationships over this boundary. That being said so I appreciate all this advice and what the best way to handle that is I’m going through that right now the getting to know each other stage and it looks like he’s starting to respect my wishes on that area but yes, it’s easy to get vulnerable no matter how old you are because you’re desires can almost override you. Now it’s up to me to make sure that I stick with what I said because I could probably easily convince him to go the other way, but I know better because I’ve already had experiences in that area so I have to check my own self.

[@Doohopper_Grandma]

What I mean I have to be careful not to tempt him to do sex because of my behavior. Because I was the one who made the boundaries.

[@donnamathis9191]

Dating is so hard

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@resegolecwidi]

This just changed my life. Instantly. You were set by my guardian angels to deliver that message to me and for that i am forever grateful.

[@ormermaid1542]

One of the most powerful videos of your I have watched. I’ll have to watch this weekly for the rest of my life 😂

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@iddifatma5370]

This is so helpful to me😢 I,ll have to write the dating boundaries....my kast relationship was just a mess

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@shawanahickman6952]

I'm not dating anymore

[@VirgosGroove3]

It’s a mess, people can’t hold conversations

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Don’t give up 🙏

[@shawanahickman6952]

I'm not giving up I'm just I'm not interested right now. Unless it's you 🌹

[@Mywatercrystaltv]

😂😂😂😂

[@ckl5801]

Shawna…take a number and get in line for one of the last real men left on planet earth…many other men wear dresses spiritually speaking!!😂

[@mysoulsayings7273]

Such wise counsel! THANK YOU!!! I really needed the clarification (and "permission" to stand my ground and uphold my personal commitments to myself and my God). I had a very unhealthy upbringing and therefore was taught a lot of very unhealthy things that Jesus has been removing and replacing with His healthy best-practices, so to speak. You have been, and continue to be a big part of this. Again, thank you for your Godly counsel. Blessings to you and yours!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@CJizzy819]

This was right on time for me! Thank you.😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@sheeva3.0]

Stephan! Another helpful heartfelt video!!! I totally agree with you- two people have to be on the same page about what is important

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@amari2aj553]

I feel you should let ppl know up front if you're in celibacy or abstinence because I wouldn't want to waste my time or there's

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.

[@debbiebramwell]

Right away before first meeting. 😊

[@Cindy_Love_2025]

I love the quote ❤️💯 Great job on this video ❤️💯

[@buddhabritt1985]

Wow I really needed this man..thank you so much. Super saved! 💯 🙏🏽

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help 🙏

[@AXAWELLNESS]

The longer you remain in something, the harder it is to break free from it.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@Perseverance1843]

I'm like that too, dating one at a time. 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

Coach Stephan thanks for the reminder But I will also be setting GUARDRAILS in case He slips through my boundaries

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@Biabia-e5n]

I was looking for the list or the timestamps

[@yolandaxavier5795]

Boundaries are needed fr otherwise things do get messy thank you Sir✊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@Itsher_nene]

Right on time! Thank you💖

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@mirandadavis8877]

This is good! Definitely practical things that can be applied. Thank you, Stephan! We're listening.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@MikeThaPhilosopher]

15:05 we dipping more than a toe doc 😂….

[@dannielleturnerbryant7531]

What I've been through, I don't have a problem now with dating for a long period of time.

[@MelvaCFelix]

Wow! Stephan you are preaching. I am learning so much from your videos. You're the best. Thank you.

[@princessj830]

Thanks, Stephan! Very useful and informative video. I wish I had watched this 8 years ago.😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 ❤️

[@Julie_loves_YHVH]

Thank you Stephan, this video has some great insights. I would enjoy watching a video on spiritual boundaries and ways to communicate that effectively to a man. I haven’t been on a date for 8+ years but messed up and was physical with someone 4 years ago. I thank the LORD for Him guiding me close to him since then. I wasn’t close to the LORD before and never talked about the it in relationship so now I would like to be sure I’m well equipped emotionally and spiritually to communicate effectively. 😊 Also, I’m spiritually sensitive so I know I’ll have to be careful who I’m talking with.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@mrs.nerdaholicotaku6051]

Hey Stephan, would you mind doing a video on how to properly apologize to a man after an argument or any disagreement really

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@mrs.nerdaholicotaku6051]

Thanks so much for the response, I look forward to it 🙌🏽✨

[@donna-colorado8443]

Stephan, bless you for making this video. I so wish I had seen this years ago. But God has blessed me to see it now. So thank you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 ❤️

[@dannielleturnerbryant7531]

ACCOUNTABILITY PLAYS A VERY BIG PART OF RELATIONSHIPS AS WELL.

[@patrickolivier3482]

Thank you, such true words, I have found myself in most of the situations you talk about, even though I thought I was good with my boundaries, but you have made me release and think about a lot of the points...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@janagr1063]

Thank you so much for this word! Very powerful… very needed to hear..especially the words at the end… !!! Exactly what I thought just had to hear it from someone!!!!! Yayyyyy

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@3peasinapodity]

Your level of detail and on-point examples are so thorough and succinct. It would be so cool if you were working with our youth.

[@jalisam7383]

Thank you for this advice. I wish I would apply this sooner. So my heart wouldn't have been hurt.

[@juliegarrett1365]

Thank u soooo much Stephan for this video of Understanding these Facts ‼️‼️😍❤️🙏 God has enlightened my UNDERSTANDING thru You ‼️🙌

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@HalfSweetness]

Thank you for the much needed helpful advice. Some of this info I wish I had already pondered on before I experienced some things I now have learned through my experience. I appreciate this, Stephan.❤💯👋🏼

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@mariyanabranzburg8320]

Can u please make a video about the topic of bringing people in your house as exchange of energies?🙏 thank you

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@GG_Buttons]

❤❤❤ I don't let any and everyone come to my home or touch my head.

[@Perseverance1843]

Please DO make a spiritual video. It's important and rarely done. I think people should know more or learn about it.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@patricialantigua]

Thanks for sharing Boundaries and examples

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@Melli510]

Stephan this is a great video. So glad I found it❤

[@sabrinaszabo9355]

Recognizing sex and intimacy are not the same thing can help cultivate intimacy and then sex be an expression of this intimacy, you can’t get intimacy through sex exclusively

[@GabrielleHolt-nt7rm]

Learned a few things from this & now I know how to handle it!! Thank you 😊

[@tanyapowell5403]

Great video! Definitely food for thought! Thank you! I will DEFINITELY keep this video in mind as I'm approaching the dating phase/getting back into the dating scene. I've been really focusing in on the healing process first. I never thought about dating multiple men at the same time. Sounds like a headache to me! LOL. Also as far as the desired communication options/levels there's so many options now (phone calls, text messages, Facetime, in-person, etc.). I'm like "surprise me"! I kinda have mixed feelings about the communication levels. This is what I mean: If I'm dating a man and we're communicating frequently in various modes, various times, etc. that would let me know that I am on his mind and he is thinking about me/vice-versa...which is GREAT! .However, I don't necessarily want to "tell him" when and how to do it because then it would become rote, inauthentic and boring. But once there's true connection...THEN I'll share the blueprint so to speak. Mannn.... this sounds like game-playing but it's not. I hate game-playing. I just want to see if the relationship will evolve naturally. If not, then maybe he's not the one. I hope this makes sense or is understandable?? Last, In regards to spiritual boundaries....I 100% agree with you on that! We have to be SO careful. People carry ALL kinds of spirits. People pretend well. I wish that people would consider that before sleeping around. Thank God for discernment. I'm REAL funny as to who comes inside my house. As a matter of fact, I request a valid/picture ID upon arrival before I let them come in to do repairs/give estimates etc. Sorry not sorry. Shucks...I don't know them.. So I know I'll be even more careful when inviting future dates over.

[@Candace1W]

Great Video Stephan. Thank you!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@princesscrockett]

yk, i realized much too late in life that because I am a woman who believes in trying to live a life of Holiness in Jesus and follow the teachings of The Bible that when I met men who were in Church i actually had a wild expectation that they should first care about me as their Sister in The Lord, then as a Black Sister to them. I wonder where I got that wild idea from but i have been having some very meaningful soul searching conversations with myself and i realize I really had those expectations of men. I struggled with why they approached me like they did, first with church overtones then simple sexual gratification, thats my fault for not setting the appropriate boundaries that I am learning so much about. but where is the chivalry, where is the care about another human being? I never understood that about some men, not all, i did once and twice meet a very wonderful God fearing man...i was just too young to fully understand what we were trying to achieve together...but somewhere in my life this ideal of chivalry for me from any man who approached me was supposed to supersede any of their mess.....almost 70 years old and NOW I GET IT......Sisters, listen to what Stephan is saying, you will save yourself a lifetime of disappointment, trust me, please

[@JStig12]

Stephan, I like what you said about having someone be on the same page with you about going to God. I have seen women where, I can't find anything morally wrong with them, but I feel like they would trust human logic or tradition over the Holy Spirit, so I don't feel like we would be a good fit.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@ilovemyself7111]

Can you do a boundaries while in a relationship video? I’d love to see that one, especially with insight regarding abstinence while in a relationship

[@andream420]

HE SAID HE DID THAT ALREADY. YOU MAY WANT TO CHECK HIS CHANNEL...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I have one, the five boundaries you must set with men in a relationship. Check it out here 👉 kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5XTY4avjpyGgJo

[@ilovemyself7111]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I just watched it, it’s great! Did you ever make a part 2? Or do you have any videos regarding abstinence while in an official/committed relationship?

[@kookvillage]

thank you so much stephan, this answers so many prayers. thank you thank you thank you, this is exactly what I needed right now 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤

[@hyp3r_nova542]

I agree! We live in a multicultural country! We have different definitions of words and phrases. Communication and listening skills are important to make it work. Invest time to learn about your person. Quality of time is key! Going out to eat, movies, dance, etc… is not enough! Take time to let know each other. We are living in a fast-paced environment and expect everything to happen in a specific time… 3 months 6 months etc... We are unique!!! We do and learn things differently… Communication is key and being open to understanding each other points of view.

[@Alchemymelany]

Your advice is priceless!! thank you sooo much.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@staceys1028]

This video was so helpful and informative, i agree with everything you said

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@patriciaviii]

HI Stephan! Hope you’re well! My favorite coach ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I am ❤ 🙏

[@nabaasapatience206]

I really found this helpful Thank you sparks

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤️ 🙏🏼

[@Doohopper_Grandma]

I am looking forward to hearing your spiritual video. I totally am into God and understand about people bringing wrong spirits in your home. We need to pray over our homes. And ask God to protect our homes from bad spirits coming in . I hope you talk a little more about that!

[@mthunzimchaphazheli1671]

Thanks for this😅😅. I also struggle receiving cause l always feel like l would then have to give something back

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@palomahealing5073]

Can you make a Video on good example "Standards" a good Woman can set with a potential High value man? Thank you🙂