I don't think you could talk for too long. Your videos are amazing

I always know when I come back to this page for advice, he probably isnt the one for me 😂

Thank you for the lengthy video, Stephan. 😊❤

Big takeaways: 1. Be his peace. Be his safe place. And remember to be your own peace as well. 2. Bring positivity, sweetness, and love. 3. Find out what he wants/needs, then do those things (don't assume you already know). Take initiative to do these things all the time, not just on special occasions. 4. Start taking better care of yourself. It's very hard to bring peace and love when you don't feel it yourself. Get into a better place mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. 5. Learn how to listen to him, be transparent, and use some logic. Don't expect that he should always know what you want. He can't read your mind. Be transparent about what you want/expect from him. Also, learn how to control your emotional side. Using simple logic will make things so much easier. 6. Create your own world within the relationship. Your man shouldn't be your whole world. Create a healthy life of friends, hobbies, job(s), etc., and pour all that happiness on him when you're together. You can still be happy even if he's not around! 7. Learn how to balance the relationship. Balance each other out with both partners' weakness and strengths. If you bring something to the table that he can't, it makes you more special (and vice-versa). He'll be afraid to lose you if you bring something he needs/wants, but doesn't have. Be a team! Lean on each other! 8-9. Give consequences and rewards, and be willing to walk away. He has to understand that if he's not gonna do his part, he doesn't get to reap the benefits of you (and vice-versa!). If your partner thinks that you'll never leave then no matter what BS they throw at you, you've already lost. If he truly loves you and is afraid to lose you, he will step up when you bring this issue to him. (I'm personally working on this one right now with my bf, so it was a good reminder). 10. (This goes along with the last one)-- Reward good behavior. Appreciate the way he shows you love. When he feels appreciated and valued, the good behavior will continue. 11. Show him you believe in him. Encouragement, support, and belief are powerful for a man. 12. Make him a priority. Again, don't forsake everything else in your life for the man. But put him at the top of your list. Make time for him. Don't throw him on the back-burner while trying to balance everything else in your life. 13. Compliment him and show him desire. These things feed his heart. Try not to let the fear of vulnerability hold you back-- he will love it! 15. Initiate intimacy. Those who are married: he wants to feel wanted. Expressing interest and desire goes a long way. For a lot of guys, being a "willing participant" in the act isn't enough. This also goes for simpler, sweeter affection-- hugs, kisses, initiating touch. Thank you, Stephan! A couple of those hit home to me, and I'm looking forward to implementing them with my man. He's a good guy, and I know he will take it well (he always does, I'm quite spoiled 🥰). God Bless!

I met my kingdom husband, and I am walking in peace. It took some time. We are good now.

My first husband and I met in college. I ignored the red flags. He treated me so badly that i did not have any desire to be intimate. It was not intentional. It was subconscious. I thought I would die from the misery of that marriage. After 12 years of marriage he cheated and I finally filed for divorce.

Hello to everyone reading this. Right now, l'm inconsolable. My ex-partner left a few weeks ago, ano I am heartbroken and saddened since this relationship is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Although I tried, I was unable to win him back. I don't know what to do, but I shouldn't be posting this here.

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Hey friend. What did you say about gratitude? You had a practice of writing it every day. I can’t find the video but needed it today so dearly.

Love is patient, love is kind... ❤

Very informative Stephan and thank you. You are really great at explaining things😀

This is some good information, this is so true. I am a witness of this because I experienced it very recently…….

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Been Following For Over 10yrs….I Found StephanSpeaks At A Breaking Point With The Man Of Life….A Very Dark Time….Listening To Stephan Was A True Blessing….I No Longer Struggle Or Have To Deal With The BS That Can Come With Relationships …Ive Learn To Communicate Healthy Amongst Other Things …. I’m At Peace And Know How To Provide Peace….Thank You StephanSpeaks , Appreciate Your Craft ❤

We gotta be love, peace, positive to US first, that's why it's important to heal US, me. I thought I was alright but now what's triggering me is: I have anxious attachment and that's throwing off my center. I need help with that Stephan, got any advice truth bomber ???? ❤❤ Thank you in advance

I think part of the reason why some women balk at the idea of being this positive pillar of light to men is that it just makes them seem childish. Like men are these fragile individuals that literally cannot handle anything. It also makes a lot of women feel like what is the point of having a man if they are so delicate? Of course it's nice to be nice and kind to others but at the end of the day do you have a man or do you have an infant? Whereas women we are constantly told to just take the bare minimum from everyone. It's annoying.

I am peace. I live in a way to give myself a peace of mind so if a man finds peace with me is because it's pouring out of me and it's just part of me. Dat's it and because I am me that is magnetic and I don't feel resentful. If he doesn't bring me peace, then I can walk out. Because I know how valuable MY peace is and I know what it took and it takes to be in that space. It is work and it is a conscious CHOICE!!!!!

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You are right😊

thank you stephan ❤

You have some point about relationship

Such a needed conversation! I’ve learned the hard way that dropping everything for a man doesn’t make you more desirable-it just makes you lose yourself. Boundaries, self-respect, and a full life outside of a relationship are everything!

My husband is a sweetheart of a man and not really intelligent. We have been dealing with his depression since 2021. I was sliding into my own depression and have become resentful. I have branched out and made new friends. The isolation was killing me. At some point we will be divorcing.

Ladies & Gents, dating multiple people at once is a dating strategy. It is not what dating is. If you aren’t the kind of person that wants to participate in such a strategy DON’T! Vet this mindset asap. It speaks to your level of compatibility and being likeminded. It also doesn’t mean you want to get into a relationship from the gate. Common misconception.

😂 then you have women that date men with kids that are still legally married. Haven't filed for divorce yet. I don't know what these married but separated men tell these women.😢

No man is worth a relationship unless he’s bringing you tangible benefits in some way. Miss me with all the words. I need action.

God bless you Stephan! I literally was in the place where I couldn’t bare anymore heartache and began praying to God asking and pleading with him to just take the desire of marriage away from me. How could I align with this man so much and one thing derail the entire option for a relationship? I know he was sent to me by God. I just didn’t know it was the wrong time. I just ordered a 5 book bundle from you to do my part in completing my preparation phase for God to allow me the blessing of marriage away. Thank God for the knowledge and passion he has placed in you to educate and guide us to better relationships. 🙏🏾

LOL !! Every time you laugh - I can't help but LOL !! Stephan must say that I Absolutely Love your You Tube Channel!!

Another great video! Thank you Stephan! I laughed SO hard at (11:10-11:16) You cracked me UP! LOL😄I'm STILL laughing! I never heard of the phrase "Being a Pick Me" (someone who agrees with EVERYTHING a man says). To me that's just as being as being a "Yes Man" Yikes. Also, I don't think of you as being a panderer. I think and sense that you genuinely want to help and encourage both men and women to become the best versions on themselves and to have healthier, happier and sustainable relationships. Also I wouldn't have been following your work for almost the last three years. Keep up the Great Work! I appreciate you! Edit: I forgot to mention...I LOVE your beard!😊

My soon to be ex wife is in a rebound relationship with someone who also just got out of a nasty breakup with their fiance. They had sex the first time and started saying “I love you” that same night. They’ve introduced eachother to their families, posted each other as “dating” on social media, and they love bomb the HELL out of each other. This has all happened in the span of 2 months and our divorce isn’t even finalized. My wife filed for divorce SO quickly, it shocked me. She is naturally a very avoidant person, has lots of trauma and is currently doing PHP for it. She has blamed for fully for the delay failing, even though I asked for couples counseling, didn’t want a divorce and I’m currently doing a lot of good for myself. It hurts now, but I have this strange inkling that she’s going to try and come back. I just don’t know if I’d be willing to try again after she ended our marriage over this. Granted, I made big mistakes, but I loved her and I still do. I accepted full responsibility for my mistakes, but she hasn’t. She said she didn’t cheat because she was done with our relationship 😂

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If all women stopped engaging in pre-marital sex, men would not be able to get away with bad behavior. They would have to marry the woman they love to get sex. Women need to stick together and STOP giving men sex before marriage.

What if the person is married with little personal accountability? The church does not recognize mental abuse as valid. Omy physical.

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In my radical acceptance era . No longer fighting intuition . That is just GODS voice

What if your mistakes and sins have caused God to close the door between the right man and you?

50/50 is an american thing.... other cultures dont even have this kind of conversation. It came from the poor one on one ( an eye for an eye ) relationship the average citizen have with each other. Shocking to those of us coming from other cultures !

Not just men avoid anyone who insist on 50/50..... some women are more well off than their men ! It makes sense that who have the most money will end up spending more money !

I’m very straightforward and my morals and values showcase through me and children. I been abstinent and single by choice 7 years Until God sends me the ONE. I’m willing to wait. It’s so much more worth it in the end. Don’t get me wrong, I want sex and a companion in my life and enjoy being in a relationship, but I know what I want and when it presents itself accordingly, trust and believe I will know it. Follow your heart and commit to self. Work on you and that right one will wait and respect you for it.

His advice will force you to cough up fifty percent of your earnings and property in divorce court. Have fun being fleeced later