7 CRUCIAL Questions Men Ponder Before SELECTING a Woman...

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00:00 Defining The Problem
02:13 How Alive Does She Make Me Feel?
03:07 How Open is Her Heart?
04:42 Can She See Me Uniquely (Beyond Other Men)
05:45 Does She Really Value Herself?
06:41 The #1 Reason You're Still Single
07:32 Does She Request or Complaint?
08:31 Is She Seeking Independence or Interdependence
09:24 Is She Inspiring or Pushy?

[@KK-by1ms]

I’m glad you said “high quality /value men” this does not apply to any other low quality boy in a man’s body.

[@BernMendez]

Thanks for watching.

[@paulbooij7594]

Qualifications for becoming my wife when I was young and dumb. 1. Pretty enough 2. We get along when things are going well Well, that's it. Lesson learned.

[@SharieFoster]

Laughing because I relate! Been there ... Life is a growth experience : )

[@BernMendez]

Glad you've raised your standards : )

[@BernMendez]

: )

[@nadulamb4141]

😂

[@Xianne027]

I don't think these seven questions are exclusive to men. Those are the same qualities that I look for in men.

[@BernMendez]

Thanks for sharing, this video: The 5 MAJOR Differences In How Men & Women Select a Partner might help... kzbin.info/www/bejne/j5DEpIJvntGggKc

[@louisetaylor6952]

I heard this somewhere and I believe it "don't marry the person you can live with...marry the one you can't live without"

[@elle5031]

VERY GOOD ADVICE. I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING...THE COMPLAINT VS REQUEST IS SO IMPORTANT. I'M IN THE BEGINNING STAGE OF DATING A MAN. I NEED TO FIGURE OUT A GENTLE WAY TO COMMUNICATE REQUESTS...

[@BernMendez]

Glad this was useful :)

[@NidzShah-ps6kr]

The request or complaint part works with women too. I realised that through my professional life. Women are very intuitive and susceptible to people's energies, if you're just a negative complain box, even if she's empathetic enough to give you a chance, either she'll burn out emotionally or begin to really resent you. Being emotional or vulnerable in front of women is about being honest about your situation with the intent of improvement and not with the intent of sinking into a dark place in the name of venting. A lot men get this wrong. When I've requested women and given them reason as to why something should be done which was mutually beneficial or solved something, they understood the assignment, they had context to my instructions and they fell in line with it immediately, even going as far as providing complimentary efforts even when I didn't ask for it or didn't think of it. Requesting require you to be clear and practical. Complaining requires you to lose control over all sense and spurt out the first thing that comes to you mind.

[@ewalichorowicz4614]

Very good relationship advice! From what I know about men is that it is also about the woman's energy. If her presence makes him feel alive, he will be interested in getting closer to her. Men also like getting women's attention. It is best if it is the attention of a woman that he is also interested in. Thank you so much Bernardo! 😊

[@cinh222]

Very well said and the absolute truth, I really enjoyed the video, thank you Bernardo! ❤

[@SharieFoster]

Thank you for these articulate, insider questions from the male mindset! I appreciate your work!

[@BernMendez]

My pleasure, Sharie. Thank you for watching.

[@prisca996]

This was great 👍

[@BernMendez]

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[@BQ900]

Informative.

[@ka1228sc]

Love this! So helpful. Thank you.

[@BernMendez]

Glad it was helpful!

[@tedamjoke]

Great video Bern 😊

[@BernMendez]

Thank you for watching and glad you enjoyed it : )

[@crystaldance5731]

These were great tips so helpful thankyou 😊❤️

[@BernMendez]

You're so welcome, Crystal : )

[@artsygirl2003]

If they feel alive? Are we trying to attract a man with depression / mental problems lol I would think people are attracted to the ones that give peace and the feeling of comfort, the ones that feel like home 🤷🏻‍♀️ If you're looking for a high and the feeling of being alive maybe go sky diving or drugs (something life threatening, that'll make you feel alive) 😅

[@user-qb1qi5ly6s]

😂😂😂

[@sheridancavka6413]

Fabulous 👌 on every level. ❤

[@sweett1973]

This was so very informative and helpful. Subscribe!

[@BernMendez]

Thank you and welcome! 🙏🌸😊

[@user-zm4js5vr9u]

Thanks a lot👏 you're helping me a lot

[@BernMendez]

You're so welcome!

[@Quee-jg7ln]

Awesomeness ❤️👏🏾

[@BernMendez]

Thank you!!

[@maria89479]

Interesting this popped up on my feed… okay… I’ll watch it universe 😂 what lesson you trying to teach me with this one 😅

[@AmericanLatinGirl]

Thank you !

[@BernMendez]

You're so welcome!

[@martinakournikova564]

Lovely lesson, but not all women watching your lessons are single, so maybe formulate the request differently, if you like 😊

[@BernMendez]

Noted. :)

[@tracebeginning7491]

Thanks,😊

[@BernMendez]

You're Welcome 😊

[@user-dc6bi9ii7b]

WOMEN BE YOUR SELF. MANY MEN DONT KNOW WHAT THE HELL THEY WANT.

[@BernMendez]

I can't really agree with you on the second sentence, many men do know what they want ; )

[@maggiecamps6790]

I'm sorry, but now a days men are not the ones choosing. In this day and time, women have become wiser in choosing who they want in their lives. We have learned how to enjoy our space and time and it has gotten harder for men to be able to be with a woman who values herself and who knows what she wants in her life and what she doesn't. I believe it has become a bit completed for men now just because women are not settling and have learned that not having a partner is okay and still lives a very happy life. Through life's experiences, we have learned that if a partner is not going to contribute to your already happy life, then we are comfortable enjoying it without one. There's so much more to life than having a partner to have one and be unhappy. Wishing everyone a beautiful life 💫❤️✨️

[@lyndamcmullen5506]

❤❤❤

[@BernMendez]

Thank you, Lynda. : )

[@M.M.49]

How alive do I feel in his presence? Is her heart open? Can she see me uniquely beyond other men? Does she value herself? Does she request or complain? Does she seek accompanied independence or interdependence?

[@BernMendez]

Thanks for watching : )

[@artsygirl2003]

What if you're the answer to all of these questions but they marry some other dopey girl who doesn't mark any box but they're just hotter ... wait, I think I just answered my own question ... the other girl is hotter lol 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@carpediem9718]

I totally understand your point. 1 guy I was dating for about 3 months was dating another woman. When I checked in where we are, he said his right brain tells him I’m perfect but his left brain can’t shake off the feeling he has when he’s with the other woman (he hasn’t slept with her so I assume that feeling is the desire to chase, infatuation and the “I wonder how it feels to be intimate with her”). Answer for me after 3 months of confusion is to let go and walk away. Wished him well with the other woman.

[@lillyfahey1921]

You were too easy.

[@chrisblack5795]

If the man is confused...the only thing you can do is walk away...the right man will recognize your worth and will pursue you.

[@northshorelight35]

Honestly, it just sounds like men are interested in a woman who isn’t as interested. Because only a woman who isn’t as interested will act and have that energy.