7 Harsh Truths That You Need To Hear

[@bigfoot-id8bv]

I always heard it as”you’d care less about what people thought of you if you knew how seldom they thought of you” and you’re right it’s liberating.

[@Seamus3051]

Feeding our egos, is a very time, and energy proposition. Cheers.

[@xkristixx]

Nicole is like the cynical older sister I never had but needed. 😅

[@AccordingtoNicole]

I gotchu 😜

[@WhiskyPoems]

Yup, a refreshing directness speaking harsh truths. That megaphone is a perfect complement.

[@ravenousdae]

Fr tho

[@FloridaRaider]

I'd say more skeptical than cynical

[@fourdayhomestead2839]

I have a younger one that way, lol. Want her sent to ya? 😊

[@kcstewart2432]

"When you choose to live your life as a passenger in someone else's car, don't be surprised when you end up upside-down in a ditch"....god love you for this one 😂.

[@paintedlady4589]

She's an atheist.

[@davidpalmer7175]

"Nobody cares about YOU!"... I've been preaching that for decades. It's up to us, individually, to make our lives important, to ourselves. The goal should NEVER be HAPPINESS... the goal should be CONTENTMENT... which is good enough. Leave "being Happy" to those few and far between moments. THAT would make the happy moments feel more special.

[@sthom146]

I used to get sad when I heard this but now it is quite liberating.

[@timothyirwin8974]

Or as Arthur Shopenhauer said eliminating suffering.

[@kerishannon775]

Jesus cares about you!

[@marshamagic8551]

God cares.. that’s not true..

[@ebikescrapper3925]

Nobody is happy or sad one hundred per cent of the time. Life is a rollercoaster of both emotions, ideally more happy than sad

[@DoctorEvilYR]

Summary: 1. Nobody cares about you (and that's good) 2. The only thing holding you back in life is you 3. There is always tomorrow, except when it comes to your health 4. Most people are broke, because of choices they make (not as in living in a poor country, but because of dumb decisions) 5. You have more control over your life, than you've been led to believe 6. You have enough (minimalism is key & jealousy won't get you anywhere & hedonistic adapting) 7. The things that stress you out are stupid (ask yourself: Does it really matter if I think about X right now and What is the worst possible outcome?) In summary the harsh truths are based on stoicistic philosophy, which I'm personally a big fan of. Good video, well done!

[@cryptochad4290]

Thank you!!!

[@dougprentice1363]

Loving a pet adds so much joy.

[@GentlRebel]

I laughed out loud when you broke out the megaphone and declared that nobody cares about you! 😂 I love this video. Hearing you speak the truth in such a direct and droll manner is so refreshing in a world full of slick lies. Well done!

[@renee6524]

Harsh truth...when you die none of your stuff is going with you so live experiences rather than wanting more crap.

[@peterwstacey]

Ultimately your stuff (& money) will go to your beneficiaries or the taxman. You can either spend it yourself, or find a great cause, put it in your will, and be content that that cause will benefit

[@cattywampusmcdoogle]

Your experiences don't go with you either... they fade away when you flatline

[@gracesimplified3860]

Caveat: things can enhance an experience. A good bed can enhance sleep, Quality hiking boots can enhance a hike, even a smooth driving reliable car can enhance a long commute… being mindful and selective in your choices can enhance any experience. Avoid impulse and know yourself rather than a fantasy image. Don’t buy all the expensive photography gear if you’re only dabbling or exploring it as a new hobby or side hustle. Be authentic with yourself.

[@peterwstacey]

Some good points here. Personally I insist on having not much stuff (I have a 1-in 1-out rule, to avoid accumulating stuff), but also want things I DO have to be good quality. One bit of advice from a friend was to get good things that "touch the floor", e.g shoes, beds, bikes, care tyres

[@Silverdragon517]

@@cattywampusmcdooglefalse fantasy created by travel industry

[@rhondalyn100]

"Happiness is owing nothing to no one." Yeppers.

[@MissNewsky]

Great video! Wise and funny🎉 Another harsh truth: stop wanting and waiting for people to change. If someone treats you poorly, realize that is probably not a one time thing. On that same note: you don't have to take s... because you're related to someone. Stop making excuses for people's bad behavior.

[@TraceyBergum]

YUP!!

[@SilentDims]

Some people really care about you, especially if they are jealous for some reason. They will think about you, they will talk about you with others

[@bheavy62]

Watch out for envy, those people want you to fall down.

[@pleasantstreetgarage]

I wish I could like this twice. I'm 50. You know more now than I've been able to learn.

[@Lawrence-k4d]

My favorite line from Tom Hanks movie Bridge of Spies that helps me with stress. Tom Hanks: " aren't you worried about the verdict?" Spy: " why, would it help?" makes me smile and realize that worrying does nothing to change the outcome. I also fudge factor myself an extra 15 minuets on tasks and that helps me not feel rushed. Great video as always.

[@suefleming]

Thank you Nicole!!! I've had multiple sclerosis for 40 years and I am very disabled from it. It's incurable and hopeless and genetic. If I ever decide to end my life I have every damn right in this world to do it. I love you Nicole because you're no bullshit. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@jercasgav]

I agree!! I have been disabled from a genetic, progressive disorder called ehlers-danlos syndrome for 14yrs, don't have the greatest quality of life due to my health issues, and totally am in your boat with you. People take for granted what having a functional body does for them.

[@suefleming]

@@jercasgav 💕💕💕⚘️

[@sparklemotion86]

Many people are having reversals of MS using the carnivore diet I suggest you put it in the search box here on KZbin and you will see a multitude of channels about it

[@LiLaLizzy8]

So true, I have Lupus and other autoimmune diseases and I am pretty disabled by it. I am also thinking about ending my suffering at times. I would like to do a lot of stuff but my body doesn't let me.

[@kerishannon775]

Hi Nicole! Here are a couple of scams you might want to explore. Weddings and funerals. I read that the average wedding cost $28,000! WTF! We're not royalty, unless you think you are. And the average funeral costs $9000 - 11,000. When I'm dead, just put my body in a trash bag and take me to the dump.

[@alquinn8576]

some of the rituals around those events are important, but it's true they don't have to cost quite so much

[@TracyH29]

My dad spent over $13k on my mom's funeral in 2016. He bought the best vault made and an expensive casket. Her body will still be preserved 100 years from now! Jk. But really, what a waste of money funerals are. He paid over $200 for the stupid sign book that we only looked at once. You can get a pretty notepad for a few bucks. For the person(s) who'll think I'm being disrespectful: you don't have to spend thousands of dollars to show respect.

[@seltzermint5]

I agree COMPLETELY with this, especially funerals. If someone wants to blow all their money (or family money) on a wedding or a funeral, fine. But the thing that bugs me most about funerals and burial costs etc is the SHAME that goes into them. It's always people who do not have money for these things who want it the most and seek it out and cave to pressure that their deceased love one "deserves a proper burial" etc. I have seen people cash out their retirement funds early to pay for a traditional funeral/burial when I know firsthand it's perfectly fine to spend $700-1200 USD on direct cremation and just have a small memorial later on in a park or something. A friend of mine tragically lost her young son and in addition to crazy hospital bills (USA) they also spent $14k on a funeral. I would have paid $1k for cremation if that's what they wanted, honestly. I would not donate $1k to their funeral fund though, I could not do that. I brought them dinner twice instead. Maybe that makes me a bad friend but IDC. I recognize some people do take a lot of solace and gain *something* from the more traditional route (a sense of peace and closure, or religious reasons) but seriously do not believe it's worth the $10-20k they typically have to spend for that. We need a new attitude toward death as a society. I could talk about this subject all day long but another thing is the coffin liners they sell are hundreds of dollars and funeral directors shame or pressure people into buying them, they do the same amount to protect a corpse as a trash bag would do. $800 trash bag. It's a very corrupt industry.

[@seltzermint5]

@@TracyH29 I'm sorry for your loss but I totally agree with you. It's such a corrupt industry! I am glad my in-laws and mom are/were on the same page as me and my husband. My dad and stepmom are religious and will have a traditional burial for a lot of money but at least they have prepaid for most of it. I don't understand it but I respect their decision.

[@msstacey777]

I just spoke this yesterday….the wedding is to impress the guests. The funeral is the same. For both people come to be nosey and will talk about it later. Some come out of love! Some will have their feelings hurt because they were left out of the wedding or the obituary. Neither has to cost what they cost. Weddings can be cheap if you choose to have one and funerals too..neither are a necessity

[@JulieEmilyJ]

I am watching this on Father's Day and I really needed to hear all these things! I started following you to help with financial literacy! But your videos are so much more than that. Thank you!!!

[@dean7468]

You’re right. I’m 68 and no matter what. It’s on you. Have to take responsibility. Not always easy.

[@douglasmann8110]

You are a remarkable young person. Thank you for your refreshing fortrightness and candor. Truth dispells confusion, and it helps one cut through all the muck. Bravo!😊

[@dcarbs2979]

I had a period of depression in my 20s: family bereavement, no job, no money, almost no house, failing exams due to the stress of the former. During that period, to make me happy I deliberately desired less things and derived enjoyment from really cheap small things I could control. Decades later, I find owning stuff stressful. I don't want it's hassle. Enforced moving 6 times in 5 years shows you how much you don't need!

[@privatename8228]

As I have gotten older and moved countless times I've come to understand how worthless most material belongings are. They simply weigh you down and take up your space and use up your money when you buy them.

[@johannadistefano]

Another harsh truth is that the things you think will make you happy, won’t, until you are good with yourself. This includes it all: material things, vacations, a partner, more friends, etc. The irony is that when you are good with yourself, none of those other things matter anymore.

[@TraceyBergum]

100% AGREE

[@Bookk87]

How to find this peace within yourself ? Any book on this ?

[@johannadistefano]

@@Bookk87 radical self awareness is really the only way. Knowing yourself, your preferences, your motivations, your weaknesses, all the myriad ways that you delude yourself are what will help you find that level of self acceptance. It’s not easy, but it’s so worth it! (Getting older helps, too, because you become less affected by all the things).

[@Ncognito579]

@@johannadistefano 💕love this

[@denaycarroll5073]

I’ve not been subscribed long but I have been trying to soak up as many of your videos as possible. You are a breath of fresh air with your cut to the point wisdom and no BS. WE ALL needed to hear this.

[@suzywernet5312]

I enjoy your videos. I am 73 and have been listening to you for a while and you make so much sense.! my daughter was just visiting from out of state and I mentioned you and I just sent her your video and link. I really do want her to listen to you.Keep up the good work.

[@bitcoinski]

The most valuable things for me are living a stress-free existence without attachments. Being healthy. Having peace & quiet. Sharing my life with others. Thanks Nicole! You are correct: We live within a Sink or Swim Society. No one cares more about you than...you.

[@SummitMan165]

“You have enough”… it took me a long time in life but a good friend told me about the same thing at about 44 yrs old. Anxiety disorder treatment and some inside works on myself made me realize that I have enough! Thanks for your videos Nicole, and keep up your good jobs! 💪💪👌👌 BTW I’m not one of your Patreon’s but I let the ads runs and even click on them to help support your channel. Is it the good way to do it ?

[@patricia4595]

My Mom always told me when one door slams in your face there’s always an open window.

[@allinone-qz2gi]

I saw a quote recently that said being overly negative is also delusional.

[@gjemd459]

The "meaning of life" is simply you were born and will likely live between 75-100 years. 75-100 years after you die no one will know you ever existed. Make the best of it.

[@LynsAlteredArts]

I recently heard something about in three generations you’ll be totally forgotten and when I think about it, I knew my parents and I knew two grandmothers and that was it, don’t know anything beyond that.

[@ayintovah3132]

Exactly

[@patriciavandevelde5469]

And everybody decides when to go!

[@CS-kx7cx]

A bit of a coincidence I see your comment this evening. My father passed two months ago, and we've been slowly clearing his belongs, and today my mum and I were going through pictures, and she was asking me which ones I would like. I realised that as close as I was to my grandparents on both sides, I had no idea who their parents were....no idea. I didn't recognise them in pictures, and felt nothing looking at their photos except they looked like nice people, and that I could see our family lineage in some of their faces. It was a bit of an odd experience. They might as well have been living on the moon, or the other side of the planet. My grandparents parents, my blood, these well dressed strangers posing, and yet I knew nothing about who they were.

[@KJFC388]

I’m 67. Embarrassed to say I am learning from Nicole.

[@bthomson]

My very favorite helpful saying: If you don't get everything you want think of all the things you DON'T want that you DON'T get! This was a great video! 📢

[@bmichele83]

I have only watched a couple of Nicole's videos so far. But I love her approach to personal finance for the masses.

[@ojyochan]

I sincerely hope this video finds its way to people who need to hear these!

[@themainediverschannel4495]

Most of the things we stress about ARE definitely stupid. Most bad situations in life are not falling apart but falling into place, even if we cant see it in the moment.

[@spacegamer85]

Agreed especially stupid people people doing stupid things

[@rich3821]

"The world does not owe you a living!" is an important thing to hear. Which makes you more self reliant for hard times. However I believe it's important to cultivate a network of friends who really care about you and can loan you money or just step up and help you through hard times. Friends who you have helped in past or know that no mater what you would help them. This also goes to business relationships. One of my friends and business associates stepped up when my mother passed away and paid for her cremation. I had been taking care of her in our home for over four years and he knew we had been robbing Peter to pay Paul for all of that time to make ends meet. So even though the average person may not care about you, true friends will step up and help when times are tough. That's really how you sort out the sun shine friends from the rainy day ones! As always Nicole you give excellent advice to your generation.

[@wootandhammy]

Objectively speaking - your parents actually owe you a living. They brought you here without your consent. It's like my 4 cats - I CHOSE to bring them into my life, therefore, it is MY job to love and support them 100% until they die.

[@uui219]

Honestly, it kind of does because it forced us into a capitalist system from birth. I feel like if you force someone into a system like capitalism, you should at least provide bare minimum food and shelter. Or you're a slave driver, literally holding life hostage in exchange for work. Especially because they literally create laws to prevent people from escaping the system and becoming self-sufficient. You can't collect water from rain or the ground, produce your own electricity, build your own home wherever you want, and grow your own food without encountering significant legal hurdles. It's all a system designed to force you into employment so that your existence supports capitalism. Because of all of that, yes, I do believe we are entitled to BARE minimum essentials for free.

[@steveanthony5530]

Right out of the gate your number 1 on this list was so good to hear. I have always been aware of my own insignificance in this world but hearing someone other than my own internal voice stating this so clearly is just what I needed. Thank you and well done.

[@Barada73]

When I was in college, I found that just making a list of everything that was stressing me out at that moment helped out tremendously. It also helped me realize that some of the things I was worrying about seem really trivial after you take the time to write them down and read what you have written.

[@pleasantstreetgarage]

I'm a minute thirty into this video and I'm realizing how much I've appreciated you and your message. You are awesome. TY.

[@kallistoindrani5689]

People always judge. That is a harsh truth.

[@nicolletelangdon2694]

They judge while in their presence, but once gone, they go back to not caring about you.

[@nadinebouchard9843]

I agree with @nicolletelangdon2694. They judge you but they don’t give a sh** about you. Even so most people just don’t see you.

[@vickieclark5931]

That's why those people don't matter because they don't care about you either. They forget about you and judge someone else that they forget about once they are gone. It's just the nasty world that we live in.

[@SusanDukes-y2b]

Only insecure people judge, which is why the majority do it on a regular basis! Yet, do their opinions matter? Why would anyone care about what a nasty, scared, useless nobody says about you? Alone with their own screwed up minds, these people are secretly terrified of the world, and bringing you down a few notches boosts their own pathetic egos. Let's all learn to laugh in their faces.

[@nancie7487]

My mother and my sister had always judged me about my hair and basically destroyed my life while in school to the point no boy would every date me I was called a boy! Because my mother would cut my hair so short I looked like a boy! And she would say if you cut your hair, it would grow thicker. It never would! Now I have long hair. But thin I'm 67. My hair is long and white, not gray it looks great! It's the color I had when I was really little! Everyone loves it, but my family!! I guess since they could only find my faults and none of my assets screw them!! And their hair is really thin. Thiner, then mine! Screw that.

[@ICookAndPaint]

Your content is top notch. I’ve been watching lots of your videos and boy, we have lots in common! Thank you and keep the great videos coming ~ from a fellow KZbinr also from southwestern Ontario! 🇨🇦🙌

[@transitengineer]

Wow, this was an outstanding comment post. Dropping on a Sunday morning right before, I head out to church worship service it almost sounds like, you are preaching a powerful life lesson sermon. All, I can say is ... Amen sister! Most of us the the United States are so, very blessed with all of our basic needs provided Just last week, I walked past an old time water plump sitting over a well and said to my wife "as a child visiting with my grandmother and grandfather during the summer this is how we got drinking water". Their home was located on rural farm land and, had no inside pluming (for a toilet we, had to use an out-house in the back yard) and, for a bath we had to boil water from the well over a wood burning stove then carry the water to the wash tub mixing both cold and hot water until the temperature was, just right for both myself and my sister. The only two utilities my grandparent's home had were electricity and a telephone land line. Yet, during our visits we never felt denied because we had shelter, fresh food, cold soda from the refrigerator, and lots of love. Also, you asked for other "Harsh Truths", one that, I like to tell people is: "You may think you have a lot of friends but, just wait until you need to ask for large sum of money. It is only then when, you really find out who your true friends are".

[@deedivas8603]

Nicole, Levi is definitely a 10. Thks again for another great vid!

[@henrywiddas314]

Great video as always, you've helped a lot of people, bringing home truths to the masses with some humour mixed in. One good tip for those living frugally is to try and go through around half of the days in the month without spending any money at all. It just helps develop a mindset of "do I really need that?". Becoming frugal is like exercising a muscle, the more you use it the stonger it becomes and before you know it you're not even getting that urge to spend, spend, spend, it's almost like freeing yourself of an addiction I found.

[@doncraig4438]

Ditto on the stress factor, I can create whole movies in my head about what might happen. And usually doesn't.

[@AccordingtoNicole]

Same 😅

[@richardnorris9256]

"We suffer more in the imagination than in reality" - Seneca.

[@mapratt]

Lol - I realized a few days ago that I was stressed about my doctor appointments this week, when (along with other checkups) i get a breast MRI and learn if i will finally need to hack off my left breast. Once I realized this, I stopped snapping at the people I interact with. So, yeah, look deep and breathe through that situation.

[@seltzermint5]

I hope everything goes okay with your breast. That's some scary stuff. Definitely puts other things into perspective.

[@Draggonny]

I have a friend who got breast cancer and had to have one of her breasts removed. It sucked for a couple of years while she had treatment, recovery and an implant fitted. But it was totally worth it. She got sick but they fixed it and she got better. It was scary and awful for a while but it was temporary. It was all worth it because she has many happy years ahead of her. Treatments and recovery rates are better than ever. Whatever happens, you're probably going to be okay. My sister got non Hodgkin's lymphoma last year. She got treatment and got better. She was surprised how it wasn't nearly as bad as she feared it would be. She felt like a fraud when she was in the hospital because she didn't feel sick enough to be there. She felt guilty for having recovery time off of work because she was doing so well health-wise. Definitely a case of the anxiety before the diagnosis being worse than the thing itself. I'm definitely one of those people that gets more worked up over the not knowing than I would over the worst case scenario. It's really silly but so hard not to work myself up over nothing.

[@lynnhurtado246]

Nicole, your best video, EVER!!! I love watching you. I was inspired by this one! Thanks!

[@UsurpersAndAssassins]

One of the most eye-opening moments of my life was in the Philippines, where my girlfriend knew a lady who was homeless. She lived outside a store on a mat. She had just had a baby (after being used by a man for money) and was now back on the mat with the baby. Relying on the kindness of strangers for food. As we talked, I realized that baby would never get to go to school, would never be able to get a job, and would never shop in the store they lived outside of. They would never get to eat nice things or get the opportunities that are all around us in the Western World. I've never been a lazy, entitled person like so many in the West. But that meeting changed my life. It made me realize that I struck the Powerball just by being born in a place with opportunities. And I better not waste it.

[@Mhel2023]

I'm retired here now and I see this every day. I shop local and use local services. Sometimes I'll buy someone a meal or give a few pesos, but I can't save the world. Sometimes I'll just thank God and be grateful for what I was given in life

[@HectorGarcia-k8p2v]

Thank you. Your story should be on billboards across the country

[@learningisfun2108]

Agreed. I feel I’ve won the lottery being born in this time and place (Canada), a peaceful time with loads of opportunities. I wasn’t born with mental health conditions or physical issues. My parents are great. I was never abused or neglected. I could go on, and on, and on. I know it’s called “counting your blessings” but I prefer to think of it as winning the birth lottery. Can you imagine being born in the Middle Ages with terrible sanitation and health care, horrible food (or starvation), slavish jobs and short brutal life spans. Ugh! Mind you, you work now any better.

[@batape1965]

Dumb luck is a thing. It is not about being "blessed". No rational super being would choose to bless one person while fucking over another. If you are lucky like me, think about spreading that luck around.

[@seabreeze4559]

and then ruined it by moving to the Philippines

[@themultilingualfamilyhub]

OMG, I could NOT AGREE WITH YOU MORE. This is one of the best videos I've ever watched on any channel on KZbin. Everyone (esp. younger people) needs to watch this!!! I wish I myself had known these harsh truths 10 years ago, when I was constantly obsessing about what people thought about me etc etc. Starting my own YT channel made me realise that, seriously, no one gives a shit, and that's a good thing!!! One more harsh truth I'd add is: Accept that some people will dislike or even hate you. It's so natural to want people to like us but I've really come to realise that no matter what you do, some people will have their own reason to hate you, and that's ok. Thanks Nicole, you're truly an inspiration to me and many of us out there and I look forward to your next video

[@johenderson3742]

People will hate you when they realise they can't control you!

[@nicolletelangdon2694]

Great Video. Yes, there are people who are truly victims of circumstances, thank you for pointing that out and distinguishing them from "broke folks". In 2008, when I was an exec for a fortune 100 organization, I knew people who were making over $100K a year and were still living paycheck to paycheck. You are right, no one cares about what others have, we are just to narcissistic to realize that. Yes, if you don't take time for your health, you'll have to make time for your illnesses. For most people in countries like ours, it is true, three things exist and we can all be victims of it: discrimination, prejudices, and racism. However, most time we are victims or our own ignorance, bad decisions and laziness. Love your videos.I have four rescue dogs myself. Nothing better than them licking their privates, and then wanting to kiss you!

[@Sailius54]

Ive had before where i felt really good because i had a group of people in high school that legit cared about me and it sucked when i lost them. Im trying to foster something like that and i get how important it is, just getting others on board is the problem.

[@duanethompson8770]

Thanks for pointing out those thoughtful points. I learned early in life that no one truly cares for me besides my parents and only sister. Now that I’m married I know my wife and kids care for me. I’m not alone but I realize that the other 8 billion people on this tiny planet have no concern if I live or die.

[@Allystargirl]

Love your videos Nicole :p 💛

[@thomasthompson2899]

Awesome video! (Yes, I'm an American) Three things came to mind whilst I was watching; First; I was gifted a megaphone by my brother some 40 years ago. You'll be surprised how handy it is at times (Protesting, the P.A. system goes out at work and you need to improvise) and you'll be glad you have one. Second; Get a mortar and pestle for your Tylenol situation. Cutting pills up is rarely exact and it's much easier to divide powder. Third; "You are merely a speck of dust in the Universe" is oh so close to "You are a fluke of the Universe, you have no right to be here". That's the chorus of 'Deteriorata', a 1972 song by National Lampoon. Give it a listen, it's here on KZbin, and I think you'll really connect with it.

[@busterbluesun]

So accurate. All of this applies to me, my situation. Thank you for these drops of truth.

[@dannyphoenix1127]

Sophocles once said, "Age learns to late to be wise". Nicole proves otherwise!!👍👍👍😘.

[@lisag9493]

Too late,

[@maylin1986]

Currently facing the worst part of my own life -yet. No, no. It's not the end of the world, but I've went through so much stuff in my life the past 6yrs that stressed me out to the core and gave me sleepless nights, that I'm too tired to care what others think and too tired to be scared. I won't go into detail what's going on. But I will say that when you have pretty much nothing else to lose, and you've hit rock bottom, the only way is up. I can re-do my life a little slower on these 2nd chances, and I sometimes think some (hopefully for others), temporary illnesses and setbacks help pace you back to a better health and well-being. I've realized the times that life slows down, whatever way, shape or form that is to your life. For some, that was the prime of covid if they lost their job or were paid more to stay home than if they had gone back to work. Is when people are then given a chance to re-route themselves onto a better path for themselves. I hope everyone gets that chance at some point in their lives. ✌️✨️

[@LynsAlteredArts]

It’s so true that other people don’t care about you. My best friend and I used to go shopping sometimes with her mother when we were in our 20s and we would just embarrass the shit out of that old woman doing goofy stuff and we always told her you’re never gonna see any of these people again. Same thing with people who buy new clothes to take on vacation and pack their jewelry. It’s crazy. You’re never gonna see any of those people again. Wear your shittiest clothes so if luggage gets lost, you don’t care, don’t take anything fancy, who are you trying to impress, strangers you’ll never see again? To this day if I embarrass myself in public I tell myself my mantra “you’ll never see these people again.” Now I can add Nicole’s mantra, they don’t care about you either.

[@cookiegirl891]

A little fucked up embarrassing her mother 😅 but yes everything else u said was valid

[@user-ov4wr5yu4r]

But you should have been more cooperative. Why give your friend's mother a hard time for nothing? A little fooling around is reasonable, but not a lot just to torment.

[@LynsAlteredArts]

Gee, I guess I wasn’t clear. We weren’t tormenting the poor woman on purpose. Any simple little goofy thing would embarrass her. Is anyone old enough to remember Karnak the Johnny Carson character? Like there wouldn’t be a price on an item so we put it to our forehead and Karnak it, just simple little funny things like that.

[@SexySlim-i3v]

I thought when you go on vacation you barely can't wear your nice things. Simply, because of stealing, and pick pocketing. How is that having a good time when you gotta wear fake stuff because you run the risk of getting robbed, which is why I never wanna visit any of the poor countries. I been around them enough all my life and still don't wanna visit a country🙃😂

[@johenderson3742]

​@@mustbetrue1602"Nobody likes me, everybody hates me..." 🎵🎶🎶🎶

[@rachellebrown9830]

Thank you for the reality check. I needed this! I'm starting today.

[@feyHiker]

This was very liberating! Thank you Nicole, oh and Levi is adorable!

[@MichelleNovalee]

I love your No Bull Sh** delivery. “It’s your fault”. TRUTH

[@arlenefauchon3279]

Thank you for the advice. Love your house. It's beautiful!

[@reconstructingleslie4597]

My favorite part of Sunday is a new video from Nicole ❤

[@CoachWhitney.]

Right on time. Wishing you a great day, Nicole❤

[@taramcgriff1110]

Totally find your sarcasm hysterical and your honesty and your wisdom are awesome - keep it up 😊

[@marcdc6809]

On the health issue, I'd add that it's never too late to make changes. Your dog is wonderful. The first one is indeed a very good advice to live by, prioritize the people that will be around when you're on your pension, not the people that you'll definitely never see anymore when you stop working.

[@TracyH29]

So true! Sadly though, when most ppl learn this lesson it hurts their feelings and makes them feel used and not important to ppl they actually believed thought they were important. Learning this in my early 20's has saved me from a lot of disappointment over the years.

[@stevestruthers6180]

This is the most valuable video I've seen all year so far. Thanks. I'm going to put it in my 'Watch Later' videos and watch it daily until your lessons really sink in.

[@Observer100-cn7gv]

Number 1 is a generalization. There are several people that I care about and who care about me (not all family) and demonstrate it.

[@sitzkowitz32]

Nicole, I have watched several of your videos. You’ve made some good points. I like what you said about finance, being grateful for what we each have and stupid stuff not worth stressing over. The one thought in this video I disagree with you on is when you said that no one cares about you (the general “you”). Based on my life experience, I don’t think that’s true whatsoever. I think it’s true most people we each meet won’t care about you. However, some will. If there is a person in this world who isn’t cared about by anybody, that person ought to engage in deep self-examination to figure out why.

[@johenderson3742]

Perhaps they are merely surrounded by a-holes.

[@luisrojas7987]

Thank you. Great content.Even if nobody cares about you, people are constantly worried about buying stuff to impress others. It doesn't make any sense. Try to impress yourself instead.

[@Thiesi]

Whoa, I can't say I always agree with Nicole, but this video's messages I can get 100% behind. Even though I knew all of them already, it was good being reminded about them, and I think many people - including myself - would actually do better in life if they watched this video every now and then.

[@BrettKuntz]

You have your faults, but you know how to handle money--that's all that counts. You have done so much for being so young. We learn more from our mistakes than accomplishments.

[@vijaynair7149]

Well said, especially the part where our wants never go away no matter how much we get,

[@djglxxii]

I have a friend who falls into the category you described as 'poor,' and after observing his situation closely, I've come to the unfortunate conclusion that he struggles to improve his circumstances largely due to his low IQ. Despite his best efforts, it seems that the cognitive challenges he faces make it extremely difficult for him to navigate the complexities of improving his financial status. It's a sobering realization that intelligence can play such a significant role in one's ability to overcome adversity.

[@learningisfun2108]

And it drives me crazy that corporations prey on people with lower intelligence by convincing them they need to buy stuff that they don’t need. Advertising can be insidious. It keeps some people poor.

[@jamestrent-nw9zb]

The perception of intellect and cognition attributable to the predicated perception of ones own disposition towards sagacity and acumen...can all so easily flip diametrically into insanity...Which is why one of my best friends is a helium filled balloon called 'Gary, who sports an Alvin Stardust Haircut. Not forgetting of course my tortoise named Jeffery who loves Pork Pies, Carling Black Label Special Brew & listening to Dolly Parton & His Orchestra. Yes there are often times when I experience a strange disquiet and feel the descending mist of acquiescence towards my predetermined and inexorable acceptance of fate...but after all, I am French...what do you expect? I recently saw this sign on the London Underground... **Dogs Must Be Carried At All Times When Using This Escalator** Anyway...I looked around and it took me about 40 minutes to find a dog...and so I carried it up the escalator as instructed. The dog was very puzzled...and so was I. And now The Shipping Forecast...North Utsira, South Utsira...Rockall, Viking, Cromartie, German Bight...Gale Force Eight, Veering Westerly...One thousand and six...Rain at times...Visibility...Moderate. Teddy is frantically waving both his paws to say goodbye...goodbye.

[@zo_471]

Im with you Nicole. I’m so sick of people complaining about the consequences of their actions.

[@andreahickey2016]

Omg that head tilt though. 💙🐕

[@sandrac1313]

Another great one! I always say,If there isn't a tomorrow,it wont matter. Meaning,the silly stuff we stress over. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[@gingerstrait836]

Number 4 is so spot-on! Have a great week Nicole!

[@scleo1959]

Omg, Nicole you’re harsh truths are exactly what I needed to hear. What I love about your videos is that you are so, so articulate and to the point. Love all your content and I look forward to more.

[@bernibeckmann9753]

It didn't take me long to figure out I was born in a sweet spot in history. I compare my current life to what it would have been like if I had been born in any other time or place. The medical interventions I've been blessed to receive could only have come in this day and age. Easy food supply, energy for heat and light, travel mobility, access to information....the list goes on and on. The only duty I have is to always recognize this because it's an unfortunate bug of human nature to always, and I mean always, take the extraordinary and turn it into the ordinary. Airline travel comes to mind, I can be half way around the world in no time but after a time I will shop for faster and cheaper because I don't want to get "ripped off".

[@himesightcreativestudios3490]

I have watched a few of your videos now and I find that I am in general agreement with almost everything that you are saying. And I find your genuine approach refreshing.

[@rfrancoi]

#1 is SO true. Brutally honest. But the question is, "If nobody cares about me, should I stop careing about everybody else?"

[@nancie7487]

YES !!

[@Roonlovesfish3874]

If that gives you joy and brings value to your life, absolutely!

[@electricbop]

There are people who do care but they are becoming a rarity. Others will care enough to judge

[@thetapheonix]

Yes. You need to look out for yourself only because that is what everyone else is doing.

[@johenderson3742]

Best to try not to care...think, "it's not my business". Sad but helpful.

[@dave3657]

Add , learn to be happy with what you have. Always keep an open mind to improvements, but concentrate on improvements that make you happy.

[@davidmacphee5449]

Saying it how it really is

[@KeithandPamBilyeu]

Pam here….love your honesty wrapped in your no-nonsense humor. The ‘spot-light syndrome thing is probably responsible for most of the depression epidemic going on. So many kids hit 19 and go to college and realize 90% of the stuff in your video all at once and OMG they lose their will to live!! They all need to get perspective!!

[@ronaldmay1283]

My boss cares about me, he’s always keeping an eye on me 😮

[@TracyH29]

Using and caring are two very different things.

[@tz55lj]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/e6HWlYaHbcqSbc0si=QMpLS7L30PRQxa4x

[@GoldChocobo77]

99% of people don't care. Of course there's always that 1%. The point is don't overthink and be overcounscious because the majority of people are too self absorbed to really see you.

[@sallyprzybil2404]

Yes, but they have their own agenda which comes first to them. They have their own opinion of where you should be in life and what you should be doing ( to benefit them) and if you fall out of those parameters, even for a moment, they get angry, and say or do something to you to put you back into the box/ idea of who and what you should be.

[@ThisEditedLife]

I can totally relate to stressing about things that really don't matter, or stressing about things that may not even happen! I try to focus more on the "here and now".

[@L.o.u.i.s..]

Very good video, full of hard truths.

[@MrSpt67]

Yes your dog is a 10 and thanks for keeping it real for all of us!

[@suefleming]

Thanks!

[@AccordingtoNicole]

Thank you

[@cubinn149]

Its a good thing we have people like Nicole to give us a wakeup call in our culture we need that

[@richardross7219]

Another good video. Your dark secrets are nothing. My late wife had problems with taking pills(and she was a nurse). She figured out to fill her mouth with Dr Pepper, push the pill in and then swallow. I think that you worry a little too much. I used to worry when building bridges but with practice, I learned to handle all problems and relax. BTW, some people don't know what they want in life and are never satisfied. I'm retired and am satisfied with my life but, I still try to improve things. It keeps me busy. Have fun. Good Luck, Rick

[@RTDoh5]

“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can't control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

[@Christian-qu9ml]

Great video Nocole. ❤

[@bettybotterbutter]

These are great NIcole. We all do this stuff and the key, as you point out, is to be aware of that which helps to be able to make different choices. I've come to realize that often the bravest thing in life is to dare to believe (the truth) that things aren't the big deal we think they are, and to let things go.

[@Time_Traveler_Karen]

Connecticut here 🇺🇲

[@susanlewis1953]

Love your videos - you make me chuckle so much - straight to the point. Thanks Sue 👍

[@TheBillBlack]

'Embrace the Suck' my new philosophy.

[@corinth1121]

Yea well...fxck that🎉

[@pixelshocker7775]

HUA!

[@writerbill1]

I believe that was in the movie "Whiskey Tango Foxtrot"... I love it

[@shinobirising8196]

This was very satisfying. Also, I'm just appreciating how immaculate and tasteful your living space is. I don't know if that's just for the camera, but... yeah. Good stuff.

[@Christian-qu9ml]

People are obsessed with money. Specks of dust!

[@Thunder_Dome45]

In the universe as she said specks of dust is an overstatement. More like a neutrino. Not even massive enough to interact with matter. The sun is comparative as an electron. In the grand scheme of things.

[@ablackbu6]

New Subscriber and fellow canadian. I came for the financial advice but love this advice. Simple. Well stated. No fluff. Glad I stumbled on this channel.

[@lindascales7485]

This!!! ❤️ Best channel 💯

[@teachloveinspire561]

One of the best videos yet!