7 Lessons From My Soviet Parents For a Simple and Mindful Life

[@anagoldberg]

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[@FART-REPELLENT]

Not really Soviet parents, as their heritage is Jewish.

[@moonviolet27]

I grew up in the 60’s - we were on the poor side but I didn’t realize until later. Mom always said soap is cheap so even if your clothes are patched we can be clean. I never went hungry and had a good imagination. Life was good 😊

[@tmdavidson1478]

I am an introvert. I have also had many hard and disappointing experiences with people where I just felt I needed to walk away. I have learned not to compare myself with others. I try to enjoy myself where I am and accept that I am not going to experience the world and people the way others do. There's a lot of peace in that.

[@WaysideArtist]

My father always said to never kick someone when they were down, no matter how they got there, they now were in pain and struggling. To hurt someone brought low reflected on us and our morals. Mom always reinforced that with teaching us to be kind to others no matter their circumstances or ours. Great video, Ana! 💖💖💖

[@anagoldberg]

This is a wonderful lesson, Ann! It really resonated with me.. Thank you 💜

[@NoDecaf7]

Your parents sound like they were wonderful people living my example. I grew up as an only child in a single parent household, so I can relate to the idea of keeping myself entertained. My partner comments on how often I talk to myself 😂 The lessons from my dad that I learned, I learned from his failures. His inability to save money, his inability to be honest. I learned that I did not want to live a life like that. I'm over 30 now, and it brings me so much pride to hear him say he's proud of me, even when I almost resented him as a child / teen. Even if our parents don't set good examples, they do teach us about the world and how to move around in it effectively..or how not to move around it :)

[@KatieM786]

I really empathise with you about your Dad. Sometimes parents are good lessons in what not to do, even though they may have been truly doing their best with the resources they had at the time.

[@anagoldberg]

Lessons from parents' failures - it's such a wonderful way to find good in something really challenging. I feel you, Rebecca 💚 You're so right, our parents always teach us.

[@tinafranco338]

Great video! As I said before, I so relate to you. Growing up in east Slovakia (bordering Ukraine), I experienced the same childhood in communist (then Czechoslovakia). We did not have much, but as you said; everything we had was tidy and clean. I am glad I grew up this way. I appreciate everything I now have. I was thought how to cook, clean, save money... I think that is why I am resourceful and resilient (and successful). I live in USA now and I watch my American friends struggle and complain. Girls do not know how to cook, clean and they don't value money. They are lost. I appreciate my childhood in communist Czechoslovakia. I can figure my way out of any situation. Thank you for this video, you made me nostalgic and evoked many memories. Wishing you and Brian all the BEST.

[@KatieM786]

My mum always said "Only boring people get bored", there's so much to see.

[@anagoldberg]

I agree!😍

[@lillyshoshi]

As far as connections, I think it's important to choose a few close people who are aligned with you, rather than having an array of people to contact. Also, I find that true connections/friends are understanding when you don't speak for a while and then everything is great when you do finally talk, meet up, etc. We only have so much energy to expand after all. Sometimes people fall out of touch and get back into touch and that is okay, too. That's my experience anyway =)

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for sharing your experience! You're right, when the connection is true, falling out of touch doesn't mean the end of friendship.

[@sbyco]

That's true, although I think we are all different and need to respect how we are built. I've learnt that having lots of social connections has a really negative impact on me and I actually need very few. I do know some people that really thrive with very large social networks.

[@lyric8006]

The lessons your parents taught are timeless & valuable. I wish I had learned some of these when I was younger. I have the hardest time now with connections. Here in the USA families & friends move around & are often far away. In my neighborhood folks stay busy inside with their devices. It is not easy to make real heart felt connections when you are older. Loneliness is a reality for older folks in this country. 🕊

[@allthebest744]

This is so true. We live near a military base, so many of our neighbors are military, young, and move every three years. They have small children and are very busy. It is hard to make new friends and it can be lonely.

[@anagoldberg]

Building meaningful connections with new people is becoming harder and harder with all the devices and distractions we have... Sending love to you💜

[@GitanaRusa2012]

I grew up in USSR until age 11, then moving to USA. My parents have the same values as you listed. The older I get and the more I observe this society, the more admiration, and sometimes awe, I feel for them and my grandparents and great-grandparents. I wish I had retained more of their traits.

[@christianerostek9394]

Dear Ana! I'm following you now for more or less one year and it feels always so good to hear something from you! Me and my family (German) are living off grid for many years in Southern Portugal, near Lagos, in the countryside. We have a big garden and chickens. Last weekend, on a big birthday party in our community, I catch Corona and now, while laying in bed, I have a lot of time to think about my life. Although we do not have much money, I collect a lot of things over the years, knitted many sweaters,making a lot of jewelry and my wardrobes are full of things and sometimes it does not feel like it is enough! Now, while suffering, I feel so ashamed about that and when I watched your today's video about your parents and their way of living, I can't stop crying. Sometimes we must feel so bad, to see 'clearly' and to appreciate what we already have! Thank you so much Ana, your videos are a blessing! Greetings from Portugal ~ Christiane

[@SionedMills]

Such an insightful comment 🙏 Get well soon Christiane ☺

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Christiane, thank you so much for your deep, touching, and beautiful message. I hope you get well very soon 🤗 Please though, don't feel ashamed and guilty in any way! We all have our own path and we first should be kind to ourselves. Knitting sweaters, making jewelry - it's such an amazing hobby. Sending much love and support all the way to Portugal 💚

[@gingermcintosh6545]

I grew up in the south. I remember ‘colored’ and white water fountains, buses where colored people had to ride in the back, segregated schools and restaurants. During winter, my mom would often drive us to school. As we passed children walking in rain or snow, my Mom would stop and pick them up. She didn’t care what color their skin was, she just saw a child out in the cold and damp. That lesson stuck much better than the examples of bigotry all around me. I learned we have a duty to care about each other regardless of our differences. I learned to share my good fortune with others less fortunate. I wish I could say I’m always kind; I’m not. I sometimes compare myself favorably or unfavorably to others; both are equally destructive. But I have a belief in equity, a belief that personal dignity is a higher value than money or status, and a commitment to personal growth. You have been a great example for me Ana, a person to emulate. Your kindness, your resilience, your patience in the face of obstacles are all very inspiring. Thank you for your weekly updates and for sharing your philosophy with us. I enjoy it so much! Much love!

[@anagoldberg]

What a wonderful story you shared about your mom! Thank you, dear Ginger 😍 It's so true - dignity matters so much more than money or status... Sending you much love and hope your week will bring lots of good moments 💚

[@rudyzalesak3492]

Yes!! Keeping connected with people is very, very hard. I have always struggled with this.

[@carolekjellander8917]

So wise and so peaceful inside. Thank you.

[@fridaber6069]

Lesson 1: Keep your posessions clean and tidy Lesson 2: Boredom means you're missing something interesting Lesson 3: Save and resist immediate gratification Lesson 4: Knowledge is paramount Lesson 5: No job diminishes your dignity if it pays the bills and harms no one Lesson 6: When everyone around you lies and steals, doesn't mean you have to do the same even if you're told it's okay Lesson 7: Many people will say mean things to you but you don't have to listen to them

[@monkeyseemonkeydo2597]

Thank you for sharing these valuable lessons. I regret not staying in touch with people and admire those that do. I will definitely endeavour to change this going forward. 🙏🏻

[@animalawarenessarambol3990]

Very smart Parents .. Love these values!

[@inasrainbowland8819]

I like to be alone and finally I found the freedom to just live that way. It sound sad but I really have a good time on my on. Enough time to clean my flat, relax live slow and do things I really enjoy. It feels like I am at a point where its the right thing to do for me.

[@Serendipity-gj2me]

Sincerity, empathy, compassion, kindness, honesty, and cleanliness. This is how I want to live my life.

[@titaniastinkerings]

In regards to family and friends and not missing chances to make memories with the people I love: it's only money, you can always make more. Don't miss holidays and birthdays if you don't have to, money and work can wait most of the time. I know that's got some privilege to it, but it's a good reminder to not let your job rule your life and take time for loved ones whenever you can. I build my whole schedule around visiting my nephews weekly, and just added a weekly friend hangout as well. I'll move them if I have to, but I *try* to make sure I always carve out a little time for important relationships. (Got a lot of important people in my life, kinda hard to schedule em all)

[@barbarabruce7648]

Great parents. Taught you to be kind, resourceful, resilient, appreciative, respectful, mindful, non judgemental. They gave you so much! You can go anywhere and live a meaningful life with those skills.

[@Cat-oj4oz]

Hello, lovely creature! I admire your father for his qualities...one of which was keeping in touch with people. There are so many wonderful people who have crossed my path, yet I, too, have tucked them away in my memory. What I know is this: whenever we cross paths again, it is as though we've never been apart. That's how deep our love is...I cherish that.

[@radiantchristina]

Your parents taught you well! :) What struck a cord with me was when you spoke on keeping connections. Keeping connections is so difficult. My husband is like your father in that he has a long list of contacts that he reaches out to a couple times a year. He goes through his list and calls people to connect. I am lucky if i can find the desire to even text someone . I just don't have the social skills to keep up friendships. When i recently travelled to visit my parents, i met up with a dear person who was a close friend of mine years ago. We had a great time and promised to stay connected, but it has been months and i have not called her once. I have sent a couple of messages but that is it.

[@tammiepulley7167]

I love your head scarf. I’m thinking to start wearing one too. Sometimes we like to copy a little the people we look up to.

[@defaultYTchannel]

Your KZbin channel is becoming so so important for people, given what’s going on. People of this generation in the West are completely unprepared for what’s coming and have no idea of how to be self sufficient. This advice is priceless

[@bogusiasymonowicz7649]

I know this washing board! My auntie had it and I loved it(I guess as it was a novelty to a 5year old, and that she could do it on her OWN). Your father reminds me of my own. He passed away not so long time ago. I had been looking through his stuff recently...I found the piece of paper with everyone's birthday's and name day's (do you have those in Russia?). He also had list of people he prayed (extended including his sisters etc)for with a tick sing for each week (kept until he went to the hospital), as I guess he did not want to forget anyone. I am not like him, but luckily in a relationship with a one like that😉 he set me a high standard to find a good match, but finally managed to find my Greek guy in Wales (who was born in Poland, where I am from😅). Lots of love to you both ❤️

[@ja9.b73]

Hi, I accidentally disliked your comment. My thumb hit the dislike button while scrolling. I'm sorry and have corrected it now, but don't know if KZbin sends a notification when I first pressed the button. I think your comment is a lovely comment.

[@anagoldberg]

Haha, I loved the washing board as a kid! And yes, we had the same way of making lists of names and their birthdays. You're lucky to have a partner who's balancing you! Brian is like that to me, too 😊 Sending love!

[@bogusiasymonowicz7649]

@@ja9.b73 it happen to all of us, no worries! Btw, I don't think the dislike option works anymore 🤔

[@otterwench]

When I am feeling bored, it is a symptom of depression. I am normally eager to explore new ideas and skills. If I am not able to tap into that desire for learning it means i am beginning to be affected by my chronic depression. Because of my depression meds, I have many happy interesting days. If I were not limited physically I think my depression would be less. I am unable to leave my home and enjoy new experiences in different places, so I am eternally grateful for the internet. I have had a subscription to Skillshare for a while, it is lovely! If it weren't for Facebook, I would be terrible at keeping connected with my friends from other places and times. Because of facebook, I am still connected with frieds from 30 years ago.

[@anagoldberg]

I'm sorry for the challenging situation, dear Diana. And yes, this is where the Internet comes in as such a wonderful means to experience new things and meet new people. I'm happy to know you 💜 Sending you much love!

[@reedreflection]

Keeping up with people is a struggle for me too. When I do it it is always rewarding. You would think it would be easier because the outcome is good, but that has not been true for me. I schedule connection as a task and I pick one and complete it before doing another one.

[@Samtasticlife37]

I was born in 1963 to parents who were Depression era babies... they were poor as adults as a choice but we were clean; they taught me the basics to life and I tried to improve on their lessons.

[@kamidsjournee]

Samuel, I was born in 1962 and I’ve thought how I see things so differently than this generation. My father was 1927 and mother 1930. I am not sure how to relay to others what value is. On a funny note, I was a schoolteacher, and when I told my students that my grandmother was born in 1898, they could not comprehend. Quite honestly, I can barely grasp it. (Edited for spelling)

[@estherfarber1784]

@@kamidsjournee LLP m.p

[@patriciamycyk]

Great video, Ana! Congratulations on your (first?) sponsorship, also! 🎉🎊🎈

[@anagoldberg]

Thanks so much, Patricia! 💜Yes, it's the first sponsorship and I feel so happy I finally did it as everything new is pretty overwhelming at the moment 😊

[@gracesimplified3860]

As an American growing up in the 60s in a blue collar family I can relate to many of the time tested values and habits your parents taught you. The environment would be a much healthier place if we were better stewards of our possessions. “Use it up. Wear it out. Make do or do without”. I think if necessity is the mother of invention, then surely boredom is it’s father. It is difficult when you are immature and you seek the approval of others to build the self confidence to not allow it to seep in, however, it is an emotional muscle worth strengthening. I’m grateful we had the luxury of a hot water heater and a clothes washer ( my favorite appliances to this day). Woman definitely don’t need a gym if they carry large cauldrons of water and have to wring out wet bed linens. However, I enjoy the meditation of washing dishes by hand. I’m fortunate that my parents taught me to use credit sparingly only for absolute necessities and pay the balance off as soon as possible, to save for the things you want. My parents were never self indulgent. The greatest gift my parents gave me was living honestly and their love and loyalty to each other.

[@nyella]

I think the last lesson is harder to follow nowadays than in the times before the internet. At least I always struggle to keep in contact with so many people because it is so easy, I'm oftentimes almost-burnt out socially and feeling behind on keeping contact and feeling like a bad friend. I guess there are only so many people one (or I) can keep contact with ...

[@anagoldberg]

Yes! It's the social burnout - so well put.

[@Take_a_breath208]

Love this video! I set peoples birthdays in my phone calendar and set a notification for it to go off every year. I also have 1 that will remind me 2 days in advance. I have to schedule walks or time to visit with people I care about, or it just won’t happen. I’m not too busy. I’m busy and tired. Or having fun! You’re doing a great job!

[@libbyannstew8775]

Hi Ana, this video really resonated with me. I’m in my 60’s now - my parents both came from families that didn’t have a lot of money. My Dad emigrated from Hungary when he was 6 years old. His family came to Canada with virtually nothing in their pockets and carved out a very good life. It was hard on my grand parents as neither of them ever realized some of the dreams they had for careers but they wanted to give their children opportunities for what they felt would be a better life. My parents were both very careful with money and were always thrifty. I often think of the wonderful meals that came out of my paternal grandmother’s kitchen; peasant food then, but it w/b considered gourmet now! My parents always taught me the value of a dollar, never to buy on credit (except for a house and maybe a car), and I’m so grateful for those lessons. Thank you for sharing your memories of your family; life in the former Soviet Union couldn’t have been easy. Now, on a lighter note- would you ever consider making a short video on how you tie your head scarves? They look wonderful, YOU look wonderful, and I love your style!!

[@kathywolfe6606]

I would love a scarf video also.

[@anagoldberg]

Wow, thank you for sharing your family story, my friend! It's so interesting how we all are similar in a very humanistic and kind way. Love it. Oh, I will try to incorporate a headwrap tutorial in a new video. thank you for the suggestion! 🌷

[@libbyannstew8775]

@@anagoldberg You are very welcome! I’m very proud of the courage and resilience of my ancestors and I’m happy to share their story. I agree with your observations - we are all more alike than different.

[@curiousgeorge555]

My father told me that if I wanted something to be done right, to do it myself. I've not always lived up to that but I strive towards that mark.

[@erinkimmel9479]

My dad always said to me, "I work to live, I don't live to work". He was able to leave work at work and really enjoy his time off, save for retirement, and retire quite early (around 55). He has not sat around during his retirement, he keeps busy with hobbies he didn't have time to do before.

[@magdalenakuffel3213]

I find keeping connections "time consuming", but in a good way. I try to remember the birthdays, important dates, sending little gifts to my friends without reason and just making sure, that we talk periodically. I find it very important and soothing to know that there are people who care about me, even though often it is me who is making the first step :)

[@madeleine7729]

Hello dear Ana, what a wonderful topic, I loved hearing you speak of your upbringing. My mother always used to say "don't be afraid to get your hands dirty" and "don't be afraid of a hard day's work". She was a nurse and could see the value in hard work, and the need to get the dirty jobs done - many people today don't want to get their hands dirty and so pay others to clean their house, mow their lawn and grow their food. For many this leads to a financial struggle, so I'm glad of this lesson. Another lesson was to waste nothing: food, water, clothing etc...We were relatively well-off, but my parents showed by example using things up, mending and repairing. Possibly this is why we were well off! Regarding keeping up social connections, I have a friend I've known for over 40 years and the fact that she would take time to contact me a few times a year, even if I was quiet, has meant so much to me. I would probably go so far as to say that knowing she always cared for me saved me when I was going through a very rough time. On another level, I think the way forward for the world with all it's current complications is to rebuild community and re-localise our activities such as manufacturing and growing food at or close to home. Community connections are invaluable when times get tough, and for many in the western world those tough times have now arrived. Building these connections can be slow and difficult at times, but it may be as simple as swapping or selling home-grown or home-made items on your local facebook community pages. Eventually it can lead to some wonderful, supportive connections. Sorry for the long comment, sending hugs. xx

[@anagoldberg]

Hello, dear Madeleine! Wow, I love the lessons you've mentioned here, they are so real, kind, and caring... You're so lucky to have that friendship 💜

[@bartrebe]

I personally feel 100% identified with all that you have expressed in this video. Nº 1 to the penultimate I also used with my son, who now as a grown up living alone, managed to come through the many months of isolation while working from home alone. I too lived a situation similar to yours as a child. I however was not taught these things,rather I came to these conclusions as a very actively minded lonely kid. Your last point I applied just like your father but when I reached the age of fifty I willingly let go and waited, nothing came back so I know that I made the right decision. I kept in contact for many years because '' I wanted to". I was happy that I did it ( as I have wonderful memories of teaching my son handicrafts to send off during festive seasons and birthdays) I still enjoy meeting new people but I let myself enjoy the moment and the experience. I learnt how to cook first at school ( the basics) but due to hardship I was not able to practice until I was married however I get joy from inventing economical meals which my son was also grateful to have learned with me during his years at home. Thank you so much for this charming theme. You come from wonderful stock Ana. 😊

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, thank you so much for sharing this precious experience, my friend! I bet, your son had the most wonderful childhood 😍 Sending you much love!

[@dassodia]

Thank you for your comment about pausing and waiting for responses that did not come back. I think you were wise to realize that relationships are a two-way street and you can’t carry the load for both. I appreciate receiving this lesson from you.

[@devid842]

When I was young, I was vaguely aware that I had no role models, and that I would not want to be like my parents when I grow up. I remember developing so many defenses and poor coping techniques that the very idea of role models became unappealing. "Why copy someone? I looked up to no one! " I am in my 30s now and know for sure that there are no 'role models', everyone is flawed. So I started reading about human psychology. Taught myself new skills and understood very well that knowledge is paramount. Learned healthy and respectful ways to disagree with someone, to always choose to be kind and assertive when its important. Absolutely loved this vlog Anna. Everything you said is practical, useful . I especially took notes on enhancing my social skills! I suck at maintaining contact on a long run. Will work on that. Grateful.. As always!💖💖💖

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, I'm so glad the video resonated with you, dear friend! I absolutely relate to your point about learning how to respectfully disagree. This skill is more important than one might think! Thank you so much for your thoughtful sharing. Sending much love 💜

[@tedallenwolff]

an excellent and thought provoking topic Ana! My father, along with yours, did make a big effort to keep friendships going. He had many childhood friends that were important to him all through his life. I, like you, don't seem to need to do this. I sometimes feel bad about it but have come to realize that for me, it's okay for relationships to naturally fade over time. I think this is especially true for HSPs, who are introspective and need time alone. HSPs make up only about 20% of the population though, and I certainly feel a lot of pressure from the majority of people around me who all crave frequent human contact. My parents, through their example, showed me how to practice frugality, save for important items, and how to take care of my things. One thing they actually sat me down and talked about was to always respect and cherish animals. Both Mom and Dad felt strongly about this. It has helped me be a more compassionate an responsible person.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for sharing your story, Ted! Your parents definitely taught you very important things. I agree, being an HSP, it's hard to observe traditionally accepted social interaction standards, for sure...

[@juni_purr]

Thank you for a beautiful, wise message. I was moved not only by the lessons from your parents, but also by the sponsorship! I'm so happy that your mindful, peaceful videos are gaining more support.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much, my friend ♥

[@raggedblossom508]

My mother was very good at keeping in touch with people, and was sometimes hurt when the calls weren't equally reciprocated. I tend to get too wrapped up in what I'm doing in the moment to catch up with contacts. But I have friends who drop out of contact, sometimes for a long time, but when we do get together it's as if the time gap had never happened. Jobs happen, kids happen, I understand, they understand that everyday things can get all-consuming at times.

[@anagoldberg]

You have real, good friends, Rowanne! It's precious 💜

[@sarasalas243]

Oh dear Ana, this tips are very close to my heart, this Is the way we were raised, in a very humble way and with some painful memories related with very little resources, luckily my mother was always very kind and hardworking and my brother was creative enough to always keep us busy and imaginative. Thank you so much for sharing your story , it Is so beautiful to find a place where our stories can be shared and others can relate.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for being here and resonating, dear Sara! Sending lots of love 💙

[@BettyHorn]

Always love your thoughts and perspectives. I was verbally abused (bullied) as a child and it still haunts me from time to time. But I don't stay there. Perhaps it's a little reminder for me to stay kind.

[@anagoldberg]

I'm so sorry you were bullied as a child... Ugh, I know, this experience never completely washes away. But you're strong and so generous to take it as a reminder to stay kind. I admire that. Sending much love 💙

[@BettyHorn]

@@anagoldberg 🌻🌻🌻

[@hidden909]

You are amazing, thank you for your insights

[@vijayasubramaniam8489]

i just discovered you on youtube. loved the videos that I watched today. i resonate with everything you said. particularly liked the one one about the common book and this one. thank you. i am Vijaya from Bangalore, India.

[@anagoldberg]

I'm glad to meet you here, Vijaya!

[@claireberry1564]

Hi Ana, my parents also taught me the value of possessions. They had both lived through the second world war when things were scarce. I make my clothes last for a lot longer than most people because I was taught to mend them rather than just throwing them away. My parents taught me to have an enquiring mind and to be constantly curious about the world and to really look at it. Lastly, I would say that they imbued in me a deep sense of right and wrong and that it is more important to behave honourably than to be popular. Take care x

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, Claire! Your parents taught you wonderful lessons 😍

[@idid138]

Ana I struggle with keeping connections with others as well. And I feel guilty for it, which makes me really avoid making contact... I've been thinking more about how I need to reach out and just tell those people I struggle with this and it's about me, and I do miss them.

[@allthebest744]

This is a wonderful and thoughtful video. My parents and grandparents were excellent role models. There were 5 kids in my family and my Mom was a stay at home mom. She cooked all of our meals, made our birthday cakes, and made dresses for us girls. We didn’t live the “high life”, but we were loved and never went to bed hungry. My parents were very generous to other people. If you were alone at Thanksgiving or Christmas, you were invited to our home. It was a wonderful childhood and they set many important examples for us. My Dad also kept an address of friends and family. Today, so many people rely on Facebook. It amazes me when people say they have 1,000 friends. How do you manage that? As I get older, my friend list grows smaller. I have now reconnected with friends from our neighborhood and school. It gives me a sense of home. Ana, thank you for sharing the wise words from your parents. They were kind and solid people. I have two questions for you. 1) Is Brian making the videos? Your videos are always creative, but I have noticed a difference in the format. They are very nice. 2) Would you mind sharing the month and day of your birthday? I will review Skillshare. I am so happy that you are working on your book. Someday, we will say “I knew her when!”. Sending love and all the best to you and Brian! ❤

[@anagoldberg]

Your parents definitely gave you a precious childhood experience 😍 As for your questions: Brian helps me with videos but not all the time, I still continue to experiment and just enjoy it without any rigid rules:) Hope you still find the videos good! My birthday is on the 19th of January 😊 Sending much love to you!

[@allthebest744]

@@anagoldberg I love how you format your videos and all of the creative pieces you include in between the segments. I thought you were born in either January or February. My birthday is February 12. We will both have big birthdays next year; you’ll be 40 😄 and I will be 70 😳.

[@reneebruce4883]

I like how you refer to your belongings as “accompanying” you. This gives them such importance and makes them worthy of great care. Perhaps this is the guiding principle of minimalism. Thanks for a wonderful meditation on family and thoughtful living. All the best.

[@sagreenaidoo04]

The lessons that your parents taught you are so true and important. I believe that one does not have to live a unclean, sad life even if you are of a lower income group. Cleanliness is next to Godliness was taught to me by my mum. Take care Ana

[@deborahtravis5688]

I was born later in my patents life. We had very little money so my arrival must have been hard. I was raised to know we don’t need a lot. They taught me difference between too little, sufficient and excess. I have always strived to be sufficient.

[@marynorquist6033]

I am an introvert and feel highly anxious in social situations especially when I am meeting new people. If I know I must go to a meeting or be in a group like this, I will perseverate over this engagement, until I have to go to it. I dread it, but I also try to challenge myself to speak to people while I am there. Honestly, it doesn't make me feel anymore confident. I have been like this since I was a small child. Surprisingly, my husband is the direct opposite. He talks with everyone with ease (even at the market standing in line!). He loves to call people on holidays much like your father did during his life. Oh. How I admire that! Thank you for reading my response. I don't know why I spilled my guts -so to speak. I just think that you will understand my feeling more so than others do.

[@anagoldberg]

I understand your feelings so well, dear Mary! Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm the same: I often talk to either random people or do my best to be social, but then most times feel depleted and need to restore my energy after those interactions. Sounds like your husband balances you so well! I think it's wonderful 😊

[@rhosymedra6628]

You always give the best advice. I listened to this while baking cookies and hearing your pleasant words while baking made them better 💜

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, I'm so glad I was part of the cookie baking time! Sounds so cozy 😍

[@catherinerhyno9581]

Very good advice as usual...I agree that your last tip is difficult. I can say that as of late I make a particular effort to connect on some level with people that I have valued in the past and I didn't always do this for various reasons. As hard as it is to do, it seems like it has made such a difference to my quality of life and learning and hopefully to those people that are now in my weekly orbit.

[@anagoldberg]

I will try to follow your experience, Catherine. Sometimes I feel like certain old connections deserve to be revived. Thank you! 🌷

[@silverman567]

your videos are so great ana. thank you!

[@Priyanka-chendekaar]

Watching your vlog makes me feel soo good 🥰 I loved when you said that your parents were humans, not angels. This made me think a lot about my parents. And as I always say, please, show us the pattern of your collars, I would like to crochet one! With all my love for you 🥰

[@ElenaRadu33]

Be blessed

[@jeanniebenfaida9370]

Such a great message! Thank you. You are doing so well online. I wish you continued success. You are a joy to listen to. May God /Allah bless with affia - “well-being.”

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much, dear Jeannie! 💙

[@vivalahuerta9640]

Im from Argentina, and this advices are really similar from my parents and grandparents as well! thanks Ana I love to hear you and its important to remember them again :)

[@susandevine3907]

You had really exceptional parents, Ana. What a gift! Regarding keeping in contact with people, you may be thinking that they don’t want to be bothered - ?I have to remind myself about how happy and valued I feel when someone makes the effort to maintain contact with me. That helps me to do the same.

[@anagoldberg]

This is a really helpful tip, Susan! I'll use it too now 😊

[@annea7526]

Thank you Ana .. a though provoking video which is how I try to live my life. We were also taught not to judge other people’s circumstances for we too could be in the same situation one day ourselves. Also whether we earn a little or a lot our lifestyle shouldn’t change. Basically we were taught to live simply. And in todays world of consumerism people tend to forget that one can only wear one outfit of clothing at a time.

[@anagoldberg]

These are such valuable lessons, my friend! Indeed, life circumstances can change in a wink of an eye and we should never foreget that...

[@trulyasun]

Beautiful and valuable lessons! Really enjoyed this Ana, thank you. As far as contacts and staying in touch, my family rolls their eyes regularly because I talk to lots of people. I meet them anywhere and strike up a conversation. Why I do it? Because I hear things. I learn about the best new place to get something, a wonderful life story, the best address for a service, who is someone to not trust, I even found the house we currently live in through someone I had a conversation with. If you know many people, it can become a network for lots of things that benefits all people in it, and make meaningful connections! But I have to admit, you have to enjoy talking and know how to relate to all sorts of people. 🙂

[@fpostma8714]

Loved this video! I also struggle with keeping in touch with friends and family. There is always this feeling that I am neglecting people and it leaves with me with guild. I'll work on this because I feel it is important. Maybe to start by sending someone a kind message. ♥️

[@anagoldberg]

I totally support you in this! I'm trying to be better with my social contacts too. It's indeed important 💙

[@a.k.19]

Oh! I can relate so much to lesson 8. My father was the same - very sociable. It came so easy to him, but I did not inherit that trait! I have to work at it. My father was a 4th generation Canadian with Eastern European background and taught me a lot of these same lessons! Thank you for sharing, Ana! 🍀

[@debbiefaulkner7889]

Such words of wisdom! I love your crocheted collar ♥️.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, Debbie! 🌷

[@MsKaterinaKo]

Beautiful lessons :) I think real connections don't die, keep their details and reconnect when the time is right

[@guyal2332]

I have always found it hard to continue cultivating new and older acquaintances and even friends. I often do not follow up on offers to invite people to our house....even though when the dinner or barbeque finally happens I am quite happy! I guess it is partly laziness and part timidity. My husband does not understand my retiscence to entertain or even just to pick up the phone. He is usually quite the opposite and that tends to keep my seeming inhospitability at least slighlly less frequent!

[@akankshaspeake9551]

Lovely...yeah it is difficult to open up to people and continue the association as I find them different each time I meet .So far never seen a person holding a transparent and consistent attitude

[@anagoldberg]

This is such a good point: people change and we tend to have less and less in common with someone who we were so close with before...

[@FrancescaCaricato64]

Lesson °8 is too hard for me too... There's a lesson my mother gives me everyday: those who are unable to live their present (regretting the past and fearing the future) live a miserable life.

[@anagoldberg]

Such a meaningful lesson from your mother! Thank you for sharing, Francesca 💚

[@inessilva1859]

I belive that that the lack of a caring, loving and solid family structure, makes more damage than growing in a poor family (and both situations, are totally destructive). I grew as child in the late 90's/beginning of 2000, in a middle class family. We were never rich, but we always had what we need to live comfortably. My mother was a depressive, self-centered and not so affectionate mother. She would reject the handcraft gifts I made to her. My father was a verbally aggressive man, although he showed more affection and preoccupations towards me. I thank my grandmothers for the person I am today, they were a big positive influence in my life and taught me good values, specially one of them who passed away a 1 year and half ago, and that I miss terribly. Thank you for this beautiful video Ana, was so interesting to hear all this educational/emocional teachings. Big hug 🤗🌺

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Ines, I'm sorry you had such a challenging experience with your parents. I feel you 💜 My condolences on the loss of your grandmother 🙏 Sending you much love, my friend. Thank you for sharing your story 🌺

[@inessilva1859]

@@anagoldberg thank you so much! ☺️✨

[@Sup3rSH0O]

I am right with you on that last lesson! I have never been good at keeping in touch with people and often regret not doing it. As you said the connection just slowly dies away. However, I do believe that people are meant to come in and out of our lives at various times for different reasons. So maybe some of those connections I didn’t keep weren’t meant to be ones that last.

[@anagoldberg]

That's what I tend to think as well. But sometimes I have those doubts about whether I should be more social... Thank you so much for watching, Kelly 💙

[@elkeleggett144]

Thank you Ana for another inspiring video. Connections in our times can be in different ways as you show yourself by connecting 24000 followers, initiating communications..lots of love from NZ

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for saying this, dear Elke 🌷 Sending love to NZ

[@sundancita]

Thanks for sharing, Ana, these are great lessons to remember and pass on to others! I think the important lessons from my parents are: 1) It's important to honor and remember our ancestors. 2) Telling stories about our lives - even simple experiences - can animate our lives more. It's a kind of intimacy to open up with others and share stories of our own lives. 3) Having a spiritual community that includes friends and singing is very important. 4) Don't be afraid to explore new ways of thinking/seeing/believing. Open your mind and heart to many possibilities.

[@anagoldberg]

I absolutely love the lessons from your parents! Such a mindful and grateful approach to life. Thank you so much for sharing, my friend!

[@sundancita]

@@anagoldberg thank you!

[@michaelmcshane6280]

Thank you Anna for another heartfelt and insightful video!)))

[@martinetmoi1]

I loved it, thank you! It is so aligned with my values!

[@julecaesara482]

I find it difficult to balance relationships. I seem to be open and empathetic and become emotionally invested quite quickly. I have had especially men get interested in a romantic way because to them I was showing enough interest to make them feel this way, when really I am like this to everyone I care about. I don't understand flirting either, I just try to be a decent person, and then suddenly someone will tell me that I flirted heavily with someone when I thought I was having a pleasant concersation.

[@anagoldberg]

I can absolutely understand what you mean, my friend. Human interactions can be joyful, challenging, rewarding, and frustrating at once. There's always a thin line.

[@KatieM786]

Agreed. I think it's important to point out also that some people assume that anyone talking to anyone of the opposite gender (despite the actual orientation of the people) in any way at all is flirting, and so not all opinions on this are worth taking on board and camping out in. Just my little thought there.

[@dassodia]

I used to have a similar when I was a freelance writer and interviewed people. I expressed so much interest in what they were saying that they would assume I wanted to join their club, share their hobby, buy their product, etc.

[@lllthink]

Thank you for another beautiful video with titbits of wisdom 😊

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for being here, my friend! 🌺

[@jeanmeierbachtol6154]

These are such wonderful principles to guide you thru life. I wish more people today lived by them. I find your #8 very difficult myself Your parents gave you a great example on living a happy life

[@marianne8280]

Really appreciate your videos and you are a lovely person. Would like to write mor but my English is not always connected to my brain and I find it hard to express what I think sometimes. I hope you manage during the circumstances and have good life as possible.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for your kind message, dear Marianne 💜 Sending warm hugs!

[@michellemontgomery-jones2579]

Thank you for sharing your lessons from your parents. My Momma and Grandma taught me to tackle tidying up through out the day so it doesn't become overwhelming. Like you I learned early to entertain myself. Books, outside toys, looking for natural items to do crafts with, and so much more. I have many more, and have raised my son with them in mind. You're a lovely motivated with lots of interesting ideals. I enjoy watching you and learning from you.

[@anagoldberg]

I'm so glad the video resonated with you, Michelle! Thank you for sharing your experience 💚

[@meganevans3178]

My parents had a rule which I still stuck to to this day regarding social engagements. First come first serve: if you already had something in the calendar but something better comes up that you would much rather be doing, you don’t cancel this first engagement, you stick to your word and the promise that you have with the people you were going to see first.

[@taylalc1]

What a heart-warming video

[@sheilamagdaraog1351]

Thank you for sharing this Ana.!

[@stampcrab]

Keeping connections is tough, even if you knew the person you whole life, it's easy to drift apart

[@HaywoodHomestead]

Very nice and mindful video, Ana! I do struggle with keeping connections active with others. I get scared to reach out. But sometimes I force myself to do so and feel better afterwards, even if the conversation was minimal or just consisted of a few pleasant words.

[@nanetten6238]

When I was a child I always had a best friend, and a few other friends as well from school, neighborhood, church, etc. As an adult, I married my best friend and began living the introvert life I always craved. Yes, I know I need more friends/connections in my life, but now I work remotely, and before that I never felt comfortable making friends with co-workers. Yes, I still go to church regularly, but it is a very spiritual (not social) experience for me. I guess I'm trying to say that I know that I should have more connections, and kept up with those from the past (especially school and college), but I just didn't. I am not a fan of social media, especially Facebook, and that doesn't help my situation. However, I am content with my large inner world, and continue to take an interest in the outside world.

[@anagoldberg]

I can 100% relate to your experience, Nanette. I don't keep any school/university/job contacts, I just couldn't manage them. Thank you for sharing and making me feel validated 😊

[@galebecker3487]

Hi Ana, thank you for your video. I agree with all your points. Except I also find it hard to stay in contact with people I meet. I find that the day only has so many hours and I have so much to do, that its hard for me. Also i am quite a low energy being so need a lot of rest. I do however always keep in contact with my immediate family. Growing up my mother made all our clothes on an old sewing machine, and i feel guilty now that I'm older that I always would have liked bought clothes because I thought they were more accetable when friends had them. But looking at the perfect stitching and attention to detail my mother used, my homemade clothes were so much more creative and made with love and necessity. I guess we all only learn these things, as we become older. I now knit and make my own clothes most of the time, because I prefer to do so. Thank you for sharing your stories. Say hi to Brian and have a happy week. Gale x

[@anagoldberg]

I share your love of handmade clothes, Gale! Thank you so much for sharing these precious pieces of your experience. Sending lots of love from both of us 💚

[@eHuK000]

Thank you for sharing your parents' life advice❤ It is true that often their value is not noticed until later. I myself have learned from my mother that it is important to have art in the world and something that elevates us above everyday life. My father taught me to understand how different people can be. Speaking of contact maintenance I'm quite comfort-seeking and I don't often have the energy to keep in touch with people just to say hello. Of course, the matter is different, for example, with regard to my elderly mother.

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, Heli, I so agree with your mom - art is utterly important... And I understand you not having enough energy for communication. I'm the same. 💚

[@RoseCottageColleen]

Thank you for sharing. Your parents sound like wonderful people. 💖

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, Colleen 🌺

[@christylearnstodreamagain]

Your parents sound so much like mine. Same values and little pieces of wisdom. I wish I was better with the last advice as well. I also wish I was better with enjoying well enough my own company. Living as an expat for many years now in combination of having a disabled little one has made my world a very lonely place. As I found out you can be an introvert and still miss people. But that's just life, I suppose. Sending you my best, dear Ana!

[@anagoldberg]

Us being introverts absolutely doesn't mean that we can be on our own all the time. We just need a cozy little circle of friends/family and enough time to replenish our energy. I'm sorry you experience loneliness, dear friend... Sending love and support to you and your little one 💜

[@christylearnstodreamagain]

@@anagoldberg Thank you, Ana! For your words and for creating this warm and lovely space where everyone could feel accepted and even the feeling of loneliness dissipate for a while. Thank you for all you do and for the person you are!

[@anagoldberg]

@@christylearnstodreamagain 🤗🤗🤗

[@christylearnstodreamagain]

@@anagoldberg 🤗💜

[@darbyh.8255]

Hi Ana! Loved this video! I love learning about how other families live in different cultures and parts of the world. It’s so interesting, we are all more alike than we know. Staying socially connected is hard for me. I pick a few really close, meaningful relationships and our into those. My heart wants to stay connected with all good people I meet, by my mind and means are limited. As I’ve gotten older, this has become easier and I appreciate those connections more and more. I do love meeting new people at the same time not wanting to be “ out in crowds” at all. It’s weird I know. Thank you for another amazing video, hope you both are well and having a great time. 💛Stacy

[@KatieM786]

Me too, quality connections over quantity is always best. I'd rather have a small selection of people I can always count on to have my back rather than spread my social resources thinly on surface connections.

[@darbyh.8255]

Oh! I wanted to mention… I actually used a washing board in 2008 when we were going through the Great Recession. We couldn’t afford the laundry mat, so we saved the money and that washing board got used again and again until things improved.

[@anagoldberg]

Thanks so much, dear Stacy! Yes, I find so much value and comfort in reading comments here, showing that we're all so similar. Sending you love 💙

[@judyconstantino7035]

Ana, what wonderful lessons your parents taught you! It sounds like they were very insightful. I loved the story about your dad not following the crowns and sticking to his true beliefs of what was right and wrong. I so look forward to the day I can purchase a book written by you! I’m putting that thought out into the universe. Judy from Arizona

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, thank you so much, dear Judy! Sending love to Arizona 🌷

[@lilly6766]

I am loving the sponsor. Great choice. Makes perfect sense. Does Brian use it too? Maybe fotography classes.

[@anagoldberg]

Hi Lilly! Yes, Brian loves Skillshare too, he's now mastering his illustration skills 😊

[@marysusa6985]

Your videos always bring me back to myself. Your voice is so soothing and comforting. My favorite lesson from my parents is to always treat others as you would like to be treated. That has been my guiding principle at work, with friends and anyone I meet. Thank you as always for sharing your kind and peaceful way of being with us Ana.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for these kind words and for being here, dear Mary! The lesson you've shared is so important. I wish more people in the world followed it. 💙

[@christianemichelberger8245]

The wisdom your parents passed on to you is wonderful. My mother, who grew up in Russia, passed some similar values on. For example, she always said learn as much as possible. Only what’s in your head can never be taken away. She had lost everything three times and knew from experience. Her knowledge enabled her every single time to survive hardship and bounce back from it. „Help as many people as you can“ was another one. I have to be careful with that one though. Keeping in contact with people is the hardest task for me. In my world, when I’m friends with somebody, the friendship doesn’t disappear just because we are not exchanging letters or emails. When I meet them again, for me there has been no break. It even feels a little bit cheesy to me to “groom“ people until meeting them again. But I realise that this is different to me because of my brain wiring. Most people need to experience continuity in the connection inbetween meeting each other. Otherwise, for them, the contact is lost. Now, I give my best to stay in contact with friends who mean a lot to me and it would be a loss if the friendship fizzled out. I am right now reviving such a friendship. Also, my family gets a lot of energy from me because I feel that the family is important. Our family is very large and I don’t have more energy to keep in contact with random people even though our meeting might have felt meaningful. Mostly though, I am lucky to have friends with a similar wiring and they are perfectly fine with long breaks in between heartfelt contacts. There might be another aspect to your father’s keeping in contact. I learned that in capitalism, money is the currency. In socialism, it is connections.

[@anagoldberg]

Thanks so much for sharing, Christiane! Your family is lucky to have you for sure 😊 Your mother definitely knew life well. And I guess you're right about the connections being currency.

[@cmst6408]

great lessons Ana, thank you. they are truly priceless and like I think you you say and take the best things are! I'll check out the Skillshare, am glad you you enjoy it and they are sponsoring. I feel like this a good journal topic, I will try think of somethings learned from my folks :)

[@anagoldberg]

So glad you enjoyed the video, my friend! Thank you so much for the suggestions 💜🌷 We're definitely exploring more opportunities.

[@cmst6408]

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[@emmagibney6402]

Thank you for another interesting video. I also find it very hard to keep in contact with people-even in this age of instant messaging. I carry around a lot of guilt for this. I think that maybe you only truly connect with a handful of people through life and it will never be hard to keep in touch with these people. If it feels awkward in any way to meet with someone again after a time, maybe that friendship was supposed to just be a short enjoyable moment in your life. Thank you for sharing your thoughts in your videos-it's refreshing for me to see that there are other introverted people who see the world as I do.

[@anagoldberg]

I agree Emma, friendships can be different, and sometimes they just fade. Also, I want to believe that as we all get older, we still can build new meaningful connections. Sending love, dear fellow introvert 💙

[@Anita-rq9ev]

Those lessons are of great value Ana. It's correct not to follow others people behaviour and steal. I also find it harder to stay in touch with people. I think that time is a a very valuable currency, so I try to invest in the right people, those who make me feel good. Greetings from Norway, where I currently spend vacation. ❤️

[@anagoldberg]

Hope the vacation is going great, Anita! I've never been to Norway but it must be breathtakingly beautiful 😍

[@Anita-rq9ev]

@@anagoldberg it is really amazingly beautiful 😄