7 Of The Hardest Things To Admit !!!

[@joybartlett9784]

My hardest thing to say is i need help. I really like to help others but for some reason I just don't want to be a burden.

[@joancoffey6566]

My hardest thing to say is NO. That is something I need to work on, especially since I am getting older and can't do what I used to, even though I want to do it. Tfs

[@tjssweethome]

Asking for help has always been, and still is, hard for me. Mainly because I feel I will be inconveniencing the person if I ask for help. This was a great subject!~ TJ @ TJ's Sweet Home

[@evasochocki5209]

The hard thing for me is asking for help now that I'm older. I don't necessarily think it's pride. For me, it's just that I hate feeling like I'm a burden or a bother to someone. Also, saying no is a really big one

[@susanwilson4695]

What's hard is asking for help and being told no by close family members. I was taught to help others as much as possible, spent my career as a nurse. It seems now the younger generation is very entitled.

[@deannadove3505]

I have that situation in my own family, sad to say. It's tragic really. I want to say thank you for spending the time you did caring for your patients. Nursing is one the most noble careers in existence. I don't have to know you to thank you. I hope life is good to you.

[@susanwilson4695]

Your kind words are much appreciated!

[@wanyatelborn]

Yes 😢

[@GenXQeeenB]

As a Gen x we raised ourselves so we are very independent and we were taught not to ask for help or we would get a whooping. In return we were helicopter parents because we didn’t want our children to feel unloved or unsafe.

[@nancykegg1417]

The hardest words are No, I'm wrong, being angry, forgiveness, asking for help when u need it, admit you are afraid, being forgetting more and more

[@rusticgardenretreat4892]

Yep, that forgetfulness is a tough

[@dianapease7243]

For me the hardest thing is to "ask for help" at the age of 84 with a husband with Dementia. Mobility issues keep me from being as productive as I want to be. I tend to not ask others to help with the "optional" things in my life such as plant care and garden maintenance as well as a fun trip to Dollar Tree or a Thrift Store. Others are so much busier than I am and I feel guilty about imposing.

[@rusticgardenretreat4892]

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[@vigerminaberrios4116]

I live with my sister and her daughter. They work and I don’t. I’m 71 and worked for 45 years and when I ask for help cleaning the house they don’t do it and get irritated and mad either me so I’m planning my leaving again to the States quietly and when the times come that I can do it anymore I will leave. Because I have to think of myself. Thanks for reminding us the things we need to do but don’t do it. ❤

[@martna1]

Asking for help, being afraid and fearing my daughter will never call me after 3 years of not calling. All those decades of sacrificing for her and now nothing. I'm 72 and she is 32.

[@dothatch5147]

Martna1 remember this. The same people she passed going up are the same people she will pass coming down.

[@joycetodd6989]

I have the same situation with a son and his wife on drugs

[@rusticgardenretreat4892]

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[@mandysimmons2769]

My hardest thing to admit is when something's Not worth pursuing. I had bulldog tendencies. One day I realized that a ton of things I've gone after and chased were not the right things and the right thing was literally plopped into my life. For instance, two of the meanest least trust-worthy gals that ever crawled out the primordial ooze gave me the best cats ever! God will use anyone to bless ya greatly.

[@mhelen7360]

Granny, I could relate to almost all of those being difficult in one way or another. I'm glad I've gotten a little better about it in my older years, but some of them are just flat out hard to express verbally because of embarrassment and shame. I too grew up in a family that was not very open about expressing feelings.

[@coffeecupconversations]

I think your 7 are mine, too. Very universal ones. BTW, I am 60 years old, and stepped on a snake BAREFOOT in my home in my BEDROOM at the far end of the house away from both doors. Yep. I am still not good. I am terrified of snakes. Stepping on one did not cure that. Found out later on it was a rat snake but had marking similar to a rattlesnake. The rat snakes are in full force this summer, and they love to climb door frames and houses. I think it was in TN where there were so many, they were jamming electrical units. I love Jesus, and glad we are approaching Rapture, but it ain't SOON ENOUGH if I ever have to even see another living snake again!!!

[@marlenearocho3680]

No. Is a big one. Ive been taken advantage of because i coudnt stand up for myself and say no..

[@alicehunsaker7876]

Thank you !!! Asking for help is hardest for me !

[@HollyHobbie-ll8nq]

The hardest thing for me to say is goodbye, I cry just thinking about someone moving or dying.

[@nanar.8088]

Awesome thought provoking video. Thanks for sharing

[@patmiller4745]

I appreciate your video today. I am feeling very lonely today (that is one of the hardest things for me to say). I am not usually like this but no company for a long time. I have a hard time asking for help. Saying please forgive me. Asking for a ride to the store. Those are some of them. Thanks for doing your 7 hardest things to say.

[@rusticgardenretreat4892]

I find it hard to that I need a safety net of people (more than just my daughter). I got so used to being alone during the pandemic (after my best friend went into a nursing home) that I have to push myself to be more social. I KNOW it is not healthy to spend so much time alone, so I have to find reasons to make myself get out of the house. Initially the senior center held great promise, but I haven't found any new people that I want to hang out with outside of the center. When I first started going, I went to socialize, but now I go to see Donna and to serve lunch to those that are older than me. Not this week however, as I have been in pain. I have been stuck at home this week with my hip acting up (don't know what I did to aggravate it), so it is hard for me to with her gardening or home projects. It saddens me that more and more I have to call her up and say that I can spot you with the chainsaw, but I can't actually help you. I can barely stand and go to the bathroom, and yet I find it hard to say, "I can't" to family members. I can say no to others, but to family is hard. I do ask for help nowadays, but having patience to wait for it instead of doing it myself is VERY hard.

[@Middleagegrind]

Saying no to work is hard. Raising 4 kids is very expensive. Sometimes, I have to say no, and it hurts.

[@deannadove3505]

For me saying, Goodbye is one of the hardest words when I know I'll never see the one I love, again go. Also, I need help is very hard. Thank you Granny for another of your wisdoms and thought provoking videos. You always give me a smile.

[@user-qq7uq8lh9o]

Good list. I too, have trouble saying , “I love you”. Wasn’t raised in a family where we did. I am working on it. Our minister preached a sermon in this recently, Asking for help is hard too. Carole

[@Savannah-ed4rv]

Saying I'm sorry and admitting I am wrong is to me the easiest thing. I learned at a very young age to be humble and to realize that I made mistakes rand I needed to be sorry for my mistakes. But I rarely hear the words I'm sorry from anyone in my life even if they know for a fact that they've hurt my feelings or done something wrong against me. It's a sign of maturity and humility did you can admit you're wrong and apologize for hurting someone.

[@sunflowerfields4409]

Saying No when someone asks for a favor and you don't want to do it. We make excuses, give elaborate reasons why we can't do it, when really we just need to say no. For me when I agree to do someone a favor and I knew I didn't want to, I resent it. But it's my fault for saying yes. It's difficult, and there have been a few times I've caved and said yes, but for the most part, I've learned to say no and not feel bad about it.

[@juliephelps7616]

The hardest fir me is admitting i need help, asking for help or admitting i am unable to do something by myself. Second is pointing out when someone has wronged me. I can say no all day long and remind others no is a complete sentence, except at work. I do go over and beyond at work but it is out of the need to seeing our patients taken care of. My family was close but not overly emotional. So i get it, i get all of it.

[@gertbanks7585]

Hi there Granny I am finding it hard to see that my life has gotten smaller and smaller. My husband's health has changed he's a type one diabetic all his life since childhood and now he has severe arthritis in his leg and hip so we are held back quite a lot. I myself have my own health concerns too. I have lost my independence not being able to drive even short distances so I miss going shopping on my own just to look around. We are both in our 80's the seventies were doable but the 80's have seen a lot of changes. Guess we should be glad we made it this far!!!!!

[@rusticgardenretreat4892]

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[@believeliveloveandlaugh3844]

Granny, you got me thinking but it was a good thing. Thank you. God bless.🙏💐

[@wandagordon6453]

Thank you for this Granny! I’m 60 now and learning to say no. It can be hard. God bless you! 😀❤️

[@Shantelle6253]

My recent task has been setting boundaries and sticking to them when people push back. Saying NO, when they try to manipulate, lie, steal, gossip and maneuver their way around those boundaries. After being a people pleasing, Yes Sir (literal) soldier it was very difficult to develop my own set of boundaries. The Army is very good at telling you what your boundaries are 😂 Loneliness can be managed. I spend 99% of every day alone with my cat. My phone is on silent. I used to be an extrovert. It's entirely possible to change your personality at an older age with enough fortitude and attention to one's self and core components.

[@kaykrausman8012]

The hardest things to say are that I need help and I really need a hug.

[@TamiJo6708]

Hardest things for me is to ask for help or saying no.

[@janisvahanian1911]

Granny, I learned so much about you in this video. What a beautiful human being you are. I so wish I had a handful of friends like you. Unfortunately, I don’t. We’re about the same age and the truth is I learned a whole lot from you in this beautiful video. God bless dear friend. Janis

[@lindarwilliams9498]

My hardest thing to say is I need help.

[@ree2105]

Hardest thing I have to say: telling anyone anything about me. Been burned. Twice shy. I have no family. I have a best friend but we live in separate towns. I keep my guard up.

[@thecreativecountrycrafter]

Good talk! I love your honesty!

[@maurinadittenhaffer6140]

Granny A thoughtful video. Asking for help and saying no or I can not do that or go there right now would be at the top.

[@bhallmark3390]

Apologizing for a past mistake is hard for me. Speaking up for myself to a stranger when they have caused an issue……more often than not, I find myself apologizing to a stranger for a situation THEY caused!!! It really makes me angry when I do that. For example, I can be in a grocery store and someone behind me will come up behind me and bump me or bump my foot. For some dumb reason, I apologize, when I did nothing wrong! -Brenda

[@feebleoldwoman3861]

Really good sublect matter, Granny! 😊It's important to self-evaluate/contemplate on these issues I find it difficult to back down from a debate, etc., with someone who presents as very arrogant and condescending. I've no problem saying I'm sorry, or I forgive, because I cherish my relationships, especially my family. As I get older, I find it difficult to ask for help, and difficult to accept lavish gifts. And I'm afraid of being too disabled to work ( I work p/t in my late 60's; I'm a social worker and I teach some semesters at the college ). And I'm afraid of being a burden to my kids. And I'm afraid of getting Alzheimer's as I know the heartache that comes with that. My 10 yr old grandson told my 8 yr old granddaughter that he will pay her to change my diapers if I get to pooping my pants, cuz he will throw-up!!😂😂😂 so I'm a bit scared of all that! Have a great day, Granny and Gizmo! ❤

[@kimgilson7903]

Admitting you are wrong. Admitting that maybe you dont know how to do something you thought you knew how to do. Apologizing. Admitting you failed at something. Complimenting someone you dont really like when they deserve recognition. Admitting you cant do all the things you used to do.

[@20062bMinnieSmooth]

I agree, Grandma. These are hard words for me, too.

[@Rebecca-zp4gm]

I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but I can’t ignore their behaviour after many months. I probably have another broken ankle / leg from an abusive male who can walk but can’t use an electric wheelchair properly. This is the second time in 8 weeks and many other times being really close with no care for others.

[@KimmyD347]

Your a very wise and beautiful soul Granny. Thank you 💕💕💕💕

[@louiseasaffl7708]

We love you Granny! 🥰

[@dawnbrown4586]

Hard to admit to myself that I made a big life altering mistake. Saying I am sorry is sometimes hard for me to say in certain situations. It is hard to admit that I am not that smart. I do not have a good memory. If you are not a walking encyclopedia you can make a fool of yourself trying to make a point when you cant back it up with the information. Even though you either know by experience or you read it somewhere. You know you read it in the bible but you cant remember the chapter and verse. It is hard saying I struggle managing my money. It is hard to say that I am wrong if i believe I am in the right. I have a hard time saying No. I have a hard time saying I do not feel good. Because most of the time I do not as I have Fibromyalgia and I know people get tired if hearing that especially ny family members. I have a hard time saying I like someone when I do not. Like my daughter's new boyfriend. Even though I have no real reason for it I just do not like them. I have a hard time saying I love you to some certain people in my life.

[@pamelajones4412]

I believe all these over time have been hard for me also some i have gotten better with over time

[@BethGrantDeRoos]

Thought provoking, good video! ♥ Seeing the adults in my family and community admitting when they were wrong, saying sorry and meaning it, saying I forgive you and meaning it, made me and others see it as a healthy component of life. 🙂 Have positive memories of both of my parents and others coming to me to let me know they were incorrect about something, or that I was right. My husband and I always admit when we have made a mistake, and our son seeing our example never feared telling us the truth, when he made mistakes. Asking for help may become hard if one has asked for help, and the person(s) who said they would help, never followed through. Have that happen a few times and one may stop asking. 😥 Which is why I never say a firm 'yes' unless I can follow through. One can always say they would love to help and plan to help unless someone gets sick or some other unforeseen emergency occurs. As for saying 'I love you'. When I say it, it's usually part of a conversation where I am telling a family member, friend, how much I respect, admire them or am commenting on how much I appreciated something they have done for me, that meant a lot to me. And it's never a 'I love you', like 'have a nice day'. There is real meaning to it. My Dad always said actions speak louder than words. So, I tend to think just saying a rout 'I love you' without some type of action behind the words, leaves a void. There are things these days I am concerned about, but not scared about. Cannot think of anything I am actually scared of simply because I had parents, a husband and friends who believed in tackling one's fear. Which has been great since I have scorpions, rattlesnakes, rodents, bats, cougars, here in the California Sierras. 😄 Being a tomboy I was taught as a kid to take calculated risks and learned to surf, ski, kayak, fly a plane, do rock climbing, shoot firearms, backpack alone.

[@wanyatelborn]

Awe miss my mawmaw so much 😊😢❤ Wish I could hug you

[@pamevanoff7346]

You have listed my hardest things exactly.

[@cathydaterra94]

Good Video rings true. Thank you for being so open, it helps us know we are not alone. Have a blessed day. ❤

[@retiredsockmonkey7257]

Hard to say No. Hard to ask for help. Hard to sometimes not to give my opinion

[@marybethsmith6458]

I have no problem with your seven. I only have a few and they have to do with my older sister. Saying don't don't do or say that because its bullying. Don't call me that because its hurtful and untrue. Telling her stop saying all my problems with my mentally ill adult son are my fault. I don't ask anyone for help now. When my husband died everyone said if you need anything or any help just ask. Well I did and got tired of hearing sorry I can't. When he died its like I ceased to exist too. I just hire someone now.

[@tkka2418]

Loved this video. Right on!

[@marybachalo7880]

Thanks Granny,love this video. For me is asking for help,but,now I have to are hire someone to do it for me. I broke my back seven years ago,I am able to do my housework except heavy cleaning,drive myself to appointments attend church services, do my grocery shopping at Walmart which leads me to one of the hardest thing I had to do was to start using the scooter. Take care.

[@tomatoespoppieseverything]

What a great video!

[@florenceumpherville8560]

I find it hard to trust once someone breaks my trust, I tell them outright that I forgive but I won’t forget. I can be social with that person but we will never be the way we were. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me

[@rusticgardenretreat4892]

Our friendship may survive, if you do something that hurts me, but if you do something or say something to hurt or endanger one of my kids/grandkids, then I will still forgive you. I will also slash your presence in my life. You will go from an inner circle of friend to an outer circle of acquaintance.

[@kayknaup2917]

Mine are pretty much the same as yours.

[@lauravasquez169]

All of them...

[@nolasurmanek7693]

My parents are almost 80 so we tell each other we love you as much as we can

[@debnelson3979]

I'm 69 and most of these have become easier for me to say as the years have gone by. The hardest thing for me is *NOT* to have the last word and letting someone else do that. Especially with my hubby......I will always be learning, huh?!

[@jodywoodruff6473]

I'll admit I have a terrible time setting boundaries with people. Saying I love you is always hard for me too do. I hate asking for help. Awesome video. I love you Granny 💜💐🦋☺️

[@Judi-lm2fj]

My hardest thing is saying no.

[@shirleygregory8879]

I don't like asking for help NL Canada

[@ShettikkaWoods-jl8iq]

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[@lindarefinocharbonneau6701]

wow my family is the same way

[@jbf331]

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[@quientschaffer9635]

Hello girl❤❤❤❤❤

[@wandahall4435]

Granny and Gizmo ❤❤❤😮😮😮😊😊😊Love to Y'all

[@ritaslade2989]

😊

[@joycevarner8549]

I am sorry