7 reasons INFJ's are attracted to INFP's! (Infp, 9w1)

[@lorenmark]

Both are rare types, although INFJs are inherently built against the grain. The “chameleon” like nature and the ability to read the room and people effortlessly are defense mechanisms because they inherently feel out-of-place and simultaneously look the part all the time. They very rarely let people in enough to see the full depths of their varied personality. They understand human nature extremely well. INFJs can be extremely emotional, but also extremely analytical. They can be both extremely intense or extremely passive, but they are always observing you and your actions. They generally interact with the world in a “laissez faire” mindset, until something triggers a passion and they begin moving mountains to see their “vision” become reality.

[@andytheindividual3862]

Wow, beautifully said!! Thank you for sharing your knowledge!

[@someoneonyoutube8622]

I think a lot of these things really apply to both types from experience and even by nature of the theory MBTI is based off of. INFP and INFJ just do and experience these things in different ways and you can break this down with an understanding of cognitive functions and how they operate (including shadow functions). But idk if you’re familiar or not

[@STRATO05]

I'm an INFJ and my partner is an INFP. We've been together for 25 years! We're very supportive of each other and we're better than ever. I enjoyed your video. Thanks!

[@triplethreat9168]

Beautiful just like my infj! Well said 🥰

[@nzoritchy7065]

This is exactly how i am

[@Marndarrr]

I’m an infp and my husband’s an infj. We’ve been happily married for 14 years. ❤

[@shannon1242]

I'll add another attraction that may be related to the authenticity. INFJs can not only see the persona and feelings of someone just through observation but their intent as well. It's very distracting when you are talking to someone who is acting friendly, but there is a hair trigger anger you are picking up on. Or someone is very nice and charming, but you suspect it's to butter you up for selfish motivation. I used to dismiss it as insecurity, but INFPs don't tend to trigger me in this way, and they will be the first ones to tell you how low their self-esteem is. So the INFP having a more consistent alignmentment with the mask they show to the world vs. their true feelings make them pleasant to be around.

[@mrcooper1654]

I am an INFP and have a brother that is an INFJ. The girl I like is an INFJ but she seems to choose broken men because maybe she wants to help them. Turns out INFJ’s needs INFP’s so that’s why we find them so easily. INFJ’s will leave the friendship quicker then an INFP can make a decision for what to eat for dinner. The sad part is that an INFJ doesn’t have many close friends because they think they have a high standard, but the truth is they think they are unworthy of love. They believe they are helping others but are scared to be helped.

[@johnstorton]

I'm an INFJ. I agree with everything you said except, "INFJ’s will leave the friendship quicker than an INFP can make a decision for what to eat for dinner." This is not true, but to those they leave, it may seem so. An INFJ can take a LOT of abuse. They can take it and take it and take it. They may contemplate leaving the relationship for a loooong time. They may give warnings (usually subtle) to the other person that (whatever) is getting under their skin. When the other person does not take heed, the INFJ will finally give up and walk away. (Even INFJs can only take so much.) This is called the "INFJ door slam." (You can find plenty about this online.) So, the build-up to leaving is very, very slow, but the final decision may SEEM abrupt. I will, however, agree with your statement in regard to rarer occasions/SERIOUS violations, such as your bf/gf cheated on you, or your friend betrayed you in a major way. But isn't everybody like that?

[@shannon1242]

You're an INFJ in a crowded room and start talking to people one by one, picking up certain things about them and tailoring what you share based on what you are picking up. Most of the people you can tell aren't that interested in talking about the things that you are the most interested in until you get to the INFP (also can apply to INTPs and ENFJs) and you are picking up that they want to talk about that super interesting thing others aren't interested in. The INFJ is going to make more of an effort than normal to try to befriend that person, so it makes sense that INFPs have more INFJs in their lives than other types.

[@mbaratucci13]

I'm a female infp and have been friends with a male infj for several years. I just adore him. He is the kindest man. We have great conversations. But i think I sometimes I overwhelm him with my crazy mind. 😂🙏😃

[@Wellch]

Tell him your feelings

[@theorangesnowman]

My INFP girl friend and I communicate through music, she writes me songs of love. I send her messages through music and she gets it! Increíble connection 😂❤

[@lindseym.8074]

I'm an INFJ and can relate to everything you said about INFJs and what I appreciate about INFPs. I've experienced such deep connections with INFPs because they create a safe space for me to share my weirdest ideas and emotions and it's so liberating. Just wanted to add that when it comes to being an emotional sponge, for me it's like having an out of body experience when I pick up on others' emotions, almost like I become them for a second. It doesn't feel overwhelming unless someone has negative energy. And it's like an emotional analysis, so I think about all of the strings attached to those emotions, the causes, intentions, motivations, circumstances, etc etc. My ability to empathize deepens significantly over time when I've had time to reflect on their character and imagine being in their shoes. It's interesting to think about how INFP empathy is different. You pay so much attention to your own emotions that you can pick up on the micro expressions of others and intuit how they're feeling because you've been there. Which is kind of nerve wracking for me because I like to keep my feelings hidden most of the time, but it's also nice to think if I need someone to empathize with me, INFPs could help with that. For me, it's more like I'm picking up on the overall atmosphere and vibe, which takes time to piece together and understand. So I might viscerally pick up on a feeling but have no idea where it's coming from unless I take time to analyze it.

[@andytheindividual3862]

Love the comment and the wisdom shared!

[@Xandliear]

I certainly see what you are saying. I am currently dating an INFJ, and we just "get" each other. We seem to be complementary yet quite similar enough to have quite a mutual understanding of each other. When I am with her... time just doesn't exist. The last about two days felt like a whole year. I just get lost with her, wherever she is, and for her wherever I am. She and I have had this inexplicable connection. We dated for 5 months before a split for almost a year. Just got back together almost a week ago. We had dreams about each other in that time apart and thoughts as well. Something there just clicks for both of us. I think it is due to shared goals and outlooks on life. Different metrics and how to get there but similar goals nonetheless. To learn to grow from each others process and to possibly create a better future for all involved. It has been great so far! Oh yeah, to mention; I am an INFP 4w5 sx/so. That may help, too! But anyway, it's a great dynamic and one that I won't forget.

[@CatGee]

sitting here, bing watching Andy videos. Seeing the male version of myself is sooo validating! I want to scream..WHERE ARE YOU, but being an infp 9w1 sometimes 8, I totally understand that you're away and may not come back to youtube. Or may you come back 5 months or years from now....either way I know that your path is being directed. I've been nourished by your content and feel deep gratitude for the commitment of energy that was surrendered to express your genuine truth.

[@jsnldn]

great vid. love my INFPs. they are probably my favourite type because they put me at ease. INTJs can be too reserved and paranoid but INFPs are lighthearted and warm. my mum is an INFP and my dad is INFJ too so it's something i've seen in my life.

[@tankifun6345]

Fellow INFP -t man. I 100% agree with you. INFJs are just fascinating :D

[@aexothicc]

"Most of those things come true after 5-6 years" THIS. THIIIIS SUMS UP MY LIIIIFE, i swear my whole life i have been saying this, that i always notice things, notice patterns in society or some social issue or human behavior and im able to deduce how it will end up but i dont have enough proof for it just an innate intuitive certainty and then years later society starts becoming aware of it and talking abt it and its always sooo validating

[@bleh449]

I'm an INFP-A 5w4 female and the 3 closest people in my life are INFJ men. I'm always checking on them, they always seem to get into heartache. I'm 24 and never been in a relationship (not even dated) since I've never had the courage to do so

[@xa06507]

Infp t. My first relationship was at your age. But still in 37 I haven't found the perfect match

[@JustAnotherINFJ]

INFPS always stand out in a crowd!

[@ko7302]

MUSIC!! I am an INFP my husband is an INFJ we love music he's even a better musician them me! Spot on.

[@unfilteredanonymous5120]

wow. i really enjoyed hearing an infp talk good about himself. ♡♡♡ -fellow infp here

[@bridgetpurifoy2552]

Me: INFP-A/T Ennagram 4W5/6W5 This video gives so much clarity pertain to why I have always had such an affinity with INFJs. We can literally be in the same room and not say a word and totally understand each other's thoughts and emotions to the point where it feels like we're almost the same person.

[@amberv4223]

I’m an INFJ. I love music too, I feel so deeply it’s overwhelming. But I often feel lonely because I’m so intense.

[@natatattful]

I relate :/

[@RandolphTheWhite1]

As an infp who pretends to be an infj, I can totally resonate with what you're saying.

[@andytheindividual3862]

Thank you for being here, Randel 😊

[@xa06507]

I would like to say a lot but I'll stay only at this. We complete and we can learn from each other. Infjs have more the sence, infps the mind. Infjs focus outside of them, infps inside. Infjs flying at their dreams in the sky, infps have their feet on the ground. I believe is the perfect match if they are heald. If not it's a disaster. When infp is on his dark side wake up the infjs dark side or sensitivity hits red. Put your Ego down and learn from each other to be a better person and achieve big goals.

[@desertfish1460]

INFJ tested woman newly dating an INFP... He is soothing, calming listening to him talk... Yes I am emotional sponge, cry everyday feeling something from someone .. f

[@DuelingPersonalities]

Great video Andy! I like #4. It's true, infjs definitely appreciate infps for values and authenticity. Have a good weekend bro.

[@andytheindividual3862]

Thank you!! I hope your weekend has been nice, im on vacation actually. Tried finding your email and couldn't for some reason but.. my instagram is Andytheindividual you should add me and we can be bros 😊

[@jyc313]

My wife is an infp im an infj, and it’s been awesome. We met abroad and while the beginnings were tough due to distance we ended up together and going strong. Agreed with the general message of this video :)

[@nmvest]

I'm also an INFP, 9w1. The idea that INFPs can turn off that awareness of other people's feelings was interesting. I always thought that was a 9 quality in myself. Like, I'm not a 2! I always help people who come to me for help, but I don't go out looking for ways to be helpful -- if that makes sense.

[@lindseymayfield5223]

Great video, every point aligns with how I feel about the INFPs I've met. Would love to hear you explain what INFPs like about INFJs? 🙌

[@heatherhafer3333]

Hello fellow INFP-t. If you like music sooo much, I recommend you spend the next year (kind of joking) checking out Zhou Shen. He's an ENFP Chinese singer, and he hits the INFP's heart. You could listen to these for starters: Memory Possible Night Big Fish Ring the Doorbell Baby Goodbye Dalabengba Moon Legend No Fear in my Heart Captain Kabule Cowboy Gone Missing Love like a Looking Glass Forbidden City Under Investigation Red Rose Walk towards the Light Rebel Princess OST Love of a Thousand Years OST Sword and the Brocade OST Cocoon Cliff Hangers Zoobi Doobi Paradise Island Miss Crow and Mr Lizard OST Battle through the Heavens [There are at least 300 more of his songs, and they are unbelievably good...he's the very best in the world, in my opinion.]

[@suited6767]

this is literally accurate! every part really! and the love for randomness and music, that's literally how i met a close friend of mine! music-

[@theshah9756]

Point no 2 is the best! We can def empathize but can easily switch it off if we want it.

[@chargindave70]

Hey, nice video. Pretty much describes me (INFP male), and the woman(INFJ) i have just met. Barely a month in and we have made an almost instant connection with each other. Probably because of some of the reasons you described here. And i didnt think other people spend time being introspective. like you do. Who are you?!

[@stefanmihalea]

the INFJ are not telling what are feeling, doesn't mean they don't have a great inside anticipation of other emotions, thinking and all staf. Infg just is thinking how to say all without hurting you, we are counselors

[@ajpollard529]

Good video Andy! I’m an INFP-T (I think) and my best friend of 15 years is an INFJ (I think). After a couple years of reflection on our friendship, I agree with most of what you said here.

[@andytheindividual3862]

I'm glad you enjoyed it :). Sure is crazy being an infp-t. I'm glad you took the time to reflect.

[@aladdout9454]

As a woman, I don't like when someone says "you like me more than I like you" That's an immediate "gonna cut u out of my life soon" for me. Edit: nah man, doesnt sound like u know infjs. We have too much integrity whereas infps are the ones in the background and shy ones. The part about "standing up for what u believe in" only infps think they do it, other channels plus infjs think infjs almost dedicate their lives to a humanitarian cause they believe in more. That involves standing upto the wrong.

[@Wellch]

If I said that to you, I would worry about losing your friendship and try to make amends….yes, I am an INFP.

[@cindyc]

🤗👍had quite a few infp friends in school. When I watch, I'm always reminded why. Think I've been the type to patch up people's wounds and send them back into the world with hope. Infjs definitely have to steep what is going on, like tea.

[@andytheindividual3862]

Nothing better than sharing tea with a friend. 😊 wait Cindy are you telling me your an infj?

[@cindyc]

@@andytheindividual3862 that's what the tests say 😉 To tell you the truth, KZbin AI is what originally told me based on my viewing habits lol When you suddenly get sent a ton of infj videos, figure it's worth going to check. Lol

[@andytheindividual3862]

Very good. I'll remember this :)

[@xa06507]

That's what I do, but I'm not an infj. I tried to heal one infj and he destroyed me. He was abusive narcissist.

[@Solacium-dt1ep]

Thank you for the video, I just recently found it. Your description of INFPs is very good. I did relate to it a lot. 🙂 As INFP, I really feel like I "nurture" something better and beautiful inside my "inner world", that I want to express to others one piece at a time, and let it affect real world by that. For some reason, I think that is my purpose, and finding it makes me feel very calm and "where I should be". Much appreciated, and lots of love! ❤

[@joshf9265]

I thought most everything you said was on the dot. I do have to say as an INFP 9W1 I probably toe the line between INFP & INFJ. By which I mean I can choose between absorbing or mirroring an emotion based upon the best outcome of a situation. Thanks Ne & Si

[@Keke_Poutri]

I'm an INFP and my mom is an INFJ! She is a kind and clever hardworking mom, I love her sm

[@niabadb]

the see thru everything friend(Infj) and the feel thru everything friend(Infp)

[@clarkedavis488]

Your statement that INFPs can see the end of the race but also be in the race reminds me of Whitehead's view of time going into eternity. Time is the race. Eternity is the end of the race. Time goes into eternity to make actual occasions which become eternal objects. The soul is constantly becoming or evolving by this method.

[@ashlieperez3755]

I’m an INFP older sister is and my older sister is an INFJ. This really was spot on as far as my relationship with her used to be.

[@alishavorster-el7rb]

InfpA. Thank you for you're video. I had a loving relationship with a Infj. We still have a silent deep understanding although we're apart for 5 years, the silent connection is hard to break. He is a Dismissive avoidant and I am a Fearfull avoidant relationship attachment. That's what broke us up. We're better as friends

[@vankonfico]

You don't suck..😊

[@andytheindividual3862]

Was beginning to worry! Haha!

[@Lisaaaaaaq]

You guys are just beautiful human beings ❤ both inside and out lol

[@wesmckenna8287]

This was a perfect description, well done

[@paulling9984]

Thanks for the video! I’m a INFJ-T and I met a INFP girl. I’m feeling comfortable with her but when I watch some videos about this relationship they always said they can’t come together and have a lot of differences. I gained some confidence from your video. Should I go for the girl proactively? Actually I’m afraid of being rejected! Hope to get some advice from you! 🙏

[@litari19]

As an INFP I can tell you, we value authenticity and honesty SO much. So unless your INFP girl is not a rude person in general, she will HIGHLY respect and appreciate you confessing to her in first place. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" =) - if you go into this confession without any expectations you won't be disappointed (so much). If you don't confess to her, it will torment you forever. Do it at very least to get it off your chest

[@drewronchak2163]

I’m attracted to you ♥️

[@JupiterLight28]

I don't like the focus on rarity some people have. You have the same chance of being rare or not (but that's the point of rarity -you say- there is a lower percent chance) Well.. you have 50% of being not rare and 50% of being rare because you either are or you are not. There are many types of rare. INFJ may only be (formerly) the rarest because we are walking contradictions confused about ourselves and how to be. Until we reach a point where we trust and can use our Ni-Ti and incorporate our Fe-Se more healthily and understand our seeminly-malfunctioning selves (to ourselves we feel so malfunctioning even if it isn't true or at least for me) This was a total aside from the subject if the video and I'm glad that you think beyond that. I agree with a lot of points you have made and have no further critique :)

[@anesthesia4346]

I understand your point, but probability doesn't work like that, JupiterLight :)

[@jeremyleis]

No way man did u suck? uh uh No way you were spot on quite candid and honest and i really appreciated being able to find this video Because i have been doing alot of isolation trying to work stuff out taking time out for me (to the point i pushed away my friends) just trying to get a better Perspective on things, and Yeah you are right 💯 So grateful that i found your channel! ♥️😇 Very happy about that But not so sure i' would be happy to find out that I am a infj and yeah ~ I am really learning So thanks for video bud it was the best!😃 gina

[@richardthird5406]

nailed it man

[@highervibration6255]

You were dead on!

[@erinconnell7130]

Nailed it!!

[@sophiesouth3071]

I have never met a. Infj :( Infp surrounds me and i love infp. Not the way they act when. Angry at me but all my info friends lernd me how they always will be there in the long run and when in most need. In return i open them up to be totalt genuine in their feeling, and i accept them for their autenticion

[@denisewittman975]

You definitely don't suck! TY

[@lettierenak5213]

I'll be your friend

[@paintbynumber9493]

Is it possible to be half INFP & half INFJ? I have tested both at different times & can relate to both so strongly. I'm an enneagram 6 with traits of both wings 5 & 7, but probably more wing 5.

[@Wellch]

I am an INFP and why an InFJ likes me.

[@HaruClarus]

I cannot get along with infjs at all, even though i am an infp 9w1. Its like the ones I've met are all so pessimistic and childish.

[@OzmaOfOzz]

"And vice versa."

[@nzoritchy7065]

Great video

[@callmeabd6546]

i think that 2 .. im infj good job

[@aura7153]

Yes I think they could be more attracted to us , for me I had that sense of boredom about INFJ men I'm attracted to spontaneous and happy males 😂 I'm an INFP But I know maybe in real life what I really need and what really works for me is men who have INFJs qualities Because I tried other types and they weren't able to handle my nature and it didn't work out

[@miakyanjoyaamafichannel8997]

I'm an infj and my husband infp.... 😅

[@Krishnapriya1]

I agree as infj

[@mariechong7280]

👍👍👍

[@Crimetales123]

Are you an infj?

[@KevinRichardson444]

He's an INFP.

[@Wellch]

@@KevinRichardson444so am I.

[@loriwilde3977]

It's plural, not possessive. INFPs. Lose the apostrophe.

[@twinklemagic024]

As an INFJ, my first thought was “what kind of an introvert has 7 friends?” 😮😂

[@aladdout9454]

me...I am not with them 24/7 lol. It's more about the frequency of talking or even engaging with the outside world not the number of friends.

[@Wellch]

I am an intp.

[@twinklemagic024]

@@Wellch INTP’s confuse me 😅 Not in a bad way…just puzzling. 😊

[@macx3r0]

I feel like muaic is huge for INFP thats why i couldnt avoid the call to it. Started making music andnputting my feelings and perceptions into them trying to vreate something beautoful that you can feel. Def check it out 🫶

[@Wellch]

As an INFP, I love relaxing music.