7 Signs You’re Not A Bad Person, It’s Your Trauma

Do you constantly push people away, react sensitively to situations, or resort to bad habits like drinking, smoking, or reckless behaviors? They could be signs of unresolved trauma. Trauma occurs when negative past events leave people with emotional or physical scars. It is important to seek your own path of healing, but do you blame yourself for being a bad person for doing these things? If so, maybe it's time to stop self-victimizing and focus more on things that you can do to improve yourself as a person. You are not a bad person, and you are not your trauma.
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Krisha Que ( / @macchiusmoriatostudios07 )
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
American Psychological Association (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th Ed). Washington, DC; APA Publishing.
Bower, G. H., & Sivers, H. (1998). Cognitive impact of traumatic events. Development and psychopathology, 10(4), 625-653.
Amstadter, A. B., & Vernon, L. L. (2008). Emotional reactions during and after trauma: A comparison of trauma types. Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment & Trauma, 16(4), 391-408.
Hansen, D. E. (2010). Intimacy, loneliness, and social withdrawal as a result of emotional trauma. Journal of Behavioral Psychology, 19(22), 114-120.
Herman, J. L. (1998). Recovery from psychological trauma. Psychiatry and Clinical Neurosciences, 52(S1), S98-S103.

[@ajavier38]

Remember, trauma never gives you the excuse to treat someone badly.

[@monquidfever]

Thank you! I was going to say the same. Trauma might explain my behavior, but I alone am still responsible for my actions.

[@tobitaiwo7709]

@@monquidfever I feel the same way about trauma. I always blame myself, it is my fault.

[@marshmyellow]

@@tobitaiwo7709 I feel like there's a difference between being responsible for something and taking the blame for it. Responsibility is reflecting on your actions, apologizing/making it up to anyone you might've hurt if possible, and doing your honest best to work on what you perceive as your bad habits/traits. Blame comes with guilt, putting yourself down, all that delicious mental torment ^-^; a little bit of guilt makes sense, especially if the mistake is a big one, but wallowing in it, in my experience at least, is rather counterproductive

[@Ps-ym1th]

That is true, actually, I have experienced abuse from a trauma victim and it was obvious that the abuse came from the trauma they had recieved and the mental illness and pain. I thought that because of this, what they did to me was justified. They actually accepted that what they did to me was bad but they'd never try to fix their actions and would always self-deprecate and self-harm for it. Thankfully, I left them later on. HOWEVER, this doesn't mean all trauma victims are bad, absolutely not. They can be really nice regardless!! But as y'alls above replies have said, what matters is not only accepting it's your fault but working on it too. Of course, easier said than done, but you can't sit around only telling yourself it's your fault and you're horrible. No one can help you if you aren't willing to help yourself. And remember, if you start taking steps, your loved ones will be by your side! I hate to say this, but if you, the reader of this random reply, are currently suffering from trauma, and recognising that you're treating a loved one or a faultless person badly because of it, stop. Stop it. Please stop. Stop. It's never a dead end for anyone. For a start, try listening to what they want, too. Then there's always help available. Take it when you can. A mental health care professional will help you find steps to treat yourself and others better. Trauma is a true illness which needs proper care to heal, but it is NEVER EVER an excuse to hurt someone.

[@notpub]

FACTS!!! Amen!

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

My heart goes out to anyone who has unfortunately been a victim of trauma, I hope you will recover from it if you haven't already 💙☺️.

[@mccookie9314]

thank you ☺️

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

@@mccookie9314 you're welcome 💙☺️

[@upbestsalt1551]

I don't think I will recover at all

[@ridgelydillonnaidu]

Love and light 💚

[@QuiteTheBandNerd]

@@upbestsalt1551 It’ll get better, I won’t say it will soon because it took me a few years to start improving but it’ll come

[@rickiex]

If you're here, you're already one step closer to healing. Acknowledging you have trauma is the first step of healing.

[@Remedy462]

I'm one step closer to the edge and I'm about to break! 🤘

[@xperiencerecordz]

Or not

[@RedaReda-vl9ff]

​@@Remedy462dont give up,your life is precious,i wish you healing and inner peace,dont give up

[@KugelfangTV]

yeah just open the door for the next person to come in and potentially backstab you, that sounds great.

[@memeg3376]

I was bullied at school so many times that it left a huge scar on me took me long to open up to someone though, I am still stuggling I still try. So I could stop making myself miserable, thank you for the tips it is so helpful ❤

[@neev130]

Moba🗿

[@meoisan]

What does jobs mean if you don't mind asking🤔

[@meoisan]

I meant moba

[@manofsteelgoodmanll.2512]

Yeah that sucks I was bullied too...for being skinny and talking funny to them..i hurt people from a lot of frustrations I endured I take things out on wrongful people who didn't deserve it...I was stupid and angry to care at a young age now I'm paying for most things I did like answering for my crimes in society to say to God I've sinned a lot forgive me.If others are filled with rage it's important to seek help not bottle it up otherwise it'll make you sick and weak minded...I'd say it's natural to feel hopeless but it's never ok to think your not worth love...I feel like I'm not for doing wrong things and I'd try to remind myself that I'm human just like everyone as life is the best teacher to teach how to behave and treat others around you.Something my mom told me a lot.

[@Phoenixashes-zx7vt]

I was and still am bullied a lot and I refuse to trust again my sister is trying to help but I’m just not ready I don’t think I’ll ever be

[@undyla-chan1675]

While trauma is not an excuse to hurt others like many comments mention, let's remember that the fact that it isn't an excuse doesn't mean we should ostracize people who act out from being traumatized. That will only worsen their trauma and behavior. The best thing one can do is to be understanding, as the person in front of you may genuinely have never spoken to anyone who took them seriously from an emotional standpoint. That doesn't mean you have to allow them to be toxic to you, but just to see them as a human.

[@zeroedge893]

Couldn’t say it better myself

[@user-ff6rd1mk8i]

Exactly🎉

[@user-og3dy8yj6c]

The only thing I’ve never got.

[@orngng]

Exactly emotional maturity is key

[@TheAileZX2]

No one listens to people who have a shaky voice, I've come to find out. It takes "movements" to do so.

[@_CrowDivine]

I always thought I was such a bad person for these traits and I always felt bad for it and tried to change but never knew how.. now I know what steps to take so I can tackle all these issues.

[@derekbacharach]

You're not a bad person; you're living in a trauma-naive culture

[@Haneen_562]

Same

[@khalilahd.]

I’m glad you’re starting to understand these signs and I hope you begin to work through them 💜

[@Shittypants69]

Same, i used to be very mean to people, I used to be okay with it. Would say the worst things to people. I catch myself having violent thoughts & it’s not a pleasant feeling. like there’s 2 of me. I was never allowed to express negative emotions bc my mom always started to threaten me, take my things away or it would turn into a fight whenever I got angry, etc. have to wait until she goes away so I can express them. I had no freedom not allowed outside ever. never allowed to do whatever I wanted to do with my life & it keeps me up at night bc I’m 19 & wasted my teen years. I would do anything to go back to when I was 12 but with my current awareness, What I talked about there still happens to this day I struggle to retrieve or find the word for situations like that & describe things to myself I just had a gut feeling that somethings was wrong. This is what held me back from noticing this sooner & still I don’t know it all

[@thelexishow4436]

So proud of you.

[@samruddhibhagat5994]

I am so traumatized by being judged that now I have started to lie for no apparent reason. The worst part I can see a pattern now

[@Monsterdrool]

I tend to be hyper optimistic to a fault because of my trauma, I see the good in people even when they dont want to change. A video on that would be cool too honestly. It's much more common to become nihilistic but staunch optimism is terrible too.

[@brycemedvin8765]

I... I did this. I was abused throughout childhood (and up till recently) and I have only now realized that I've literally been doping myself with manic optimism to survive. I even deluded myself into thinking I was the problem, that I didn't really have ADHD, and that most of it wasn't 'that bad'! I was thoroughly broken and never realized that I was a dead man walking until a month or two ago... As a side note, I find pop psychology channels like this to have less than stellar accuracy and usefulness. If you have traumas you'd like to explore, I suggest looking into more professional videos by actual psychologists and etc for actual usable data. These channels can only go so far. After all, they're 'pop sci/psych' for a reason.

[@Monsterdrool]

@@brycemedvin8765 Yeah I have ADHD too and I agree with you therapy would go far in my case and possibly yours as well. I found out what I did was called "Fawning" Its a third option to fight or flight. You cow tow and coddle the person who's hurting you to appease them. But a saying I found has helped. There are two types of people, Ones who will appreciate you for giving them a drop of water and the ones who will take you for granted for giving them the entire ocean. People wont love you for giving them an abundance of something they already don't appreciate. But I DO appreciate your words and I hope you continue to get better and I appreciate your insight. It will get better!

[@CasualCat64]

We didn’t ask

[@Monsterdrool]

@@CasualCat64 Don't need your permission but have a great day :)

[@CasualCat64]

@@Monsterdrool cornball this is exactly why you are messed up

[@insertwordshere6952]

I feel like I'm a bad person lately. I shut people down more often. I have thoughts of harming people whenever they agitate me, and I know that isn't okay. When I talk to people, it's hard for me to have conversation. It always feels like people arent talking to me when theyre talking to me. I feel like eating the junk food to get a boost of dopamine everytime. I'm starting to identify these cues and try to get better. But the environment and trauma I went through has driven me into eternal madness. Hopefully I get better soon.

[@fumetsu4323]

Well, I wouldn't say that expressing anger is not okay, in fact not okay is holding it back like some taker. If someone insists it should be like this, it's just because they get benefit from that or like to have control, it's easier to get ahead over people who hold themselves back.

[@killapicklepiratepanda7373]

I know for me I found a great online community and that has helped me heal a great deal but I've also had 20+ years to heal and it's still a struggle not to just shut the world out

[@killapicklepiratepanda7373]

@@fumetsu4323 I think that what they are saying is the thoughts and actions they're having is wrong not the anger itself

[@insertwordshere6952]

Thank you all for replying. Y'all are so sweet! 😊

[@fumetsu4323]

@@killapicklepiratepanda7373 well if it's logically acceptable there is nothing to be ashamed of. Violence is what most of places in modern world lack, tricky intrigue hurt times more than hardest punch in face. In fact pain is nothing compared to lose of status.

[@yuhanmurros6843]

Going to uni, I was terrified at the idea that I might be a narcissist. Some things I did and reactions I had seemed so self centered, hurtful, and unforgivable. Then, because of people like you who spread knowledge about trauma, I learned that I had internalised everything my parents did in our childhood home, and what I was doing most was really self sabotaging. 10 years later and after alot of self-work, I still struggle with feeling like I'm not a good person. But I no longer abuse substances, I have some amazing friendships, and I work as an assistant psychologist to help others heal from their own traumas. It's a long journey, but healing can be a worthwhile path. It's up to us survivors to spread the good word.

[@orin9920]

From what I've heard, true narcissistic people don't self question themselves and don't think about whether they're good or bad people. They hate-self reflection and don't feel guilty. You do. This truly means you just went through some trauma and are even trying to get back on the right path!

[@yuhanmurros6843]

@@orin9920 Thank you. Yeah, that was the first tip off!

[@Find-Your-Bliss-]

The myth of the Wounded Healer might very well speak to the work you are doing, and the person you have become. And because I have been through it, as you have, we know the path and can point in the direction of self love and self care.

[@milimyran]

first piece is me rn, 2nd piece is how i hope my life plays out❤

[@artius6170]

@@yuhanmurros6843 I've noticed I also have some NPD tendencies hahaha

[@emmaaaroseee]

Me seeing the thumbnail OMFG ITS SUNNY!!!! WHRES BASIL AT????

[@bad_boypikachu]

I've experienced most of these signs...and I even noticed that I used to be nice, outgoing and talkative, but now I barely socialize anymore, and I hesitate to ask for help because of how I'd usually be treated when I ask for help.

[@jaysom3504]

Every show/movie/book/story with healthy family systems makes me cry. I go through most stages of grief instantaneously bc I'm grieving my broken family. Most of my friends are used to it by now, but newer ones think I'm just an emotional person and then get confused when I don't know how to support them when they're emotional. And I'm a full grown adult. Healing is tough.

[@MinhThu.buddhist]

It happens to me , I cry whenever I see a loving, healthy family because I never have one. But I try stop and say to myself " nobody cares about you so why are u crying?". I remember On my 30th BD, I took a solo day trip ( I have no friends neither). I stop by an ice cream place. I saw a father with 2 little daughters enjoyed their happy time there. I tried not to cry and remember that I never have that moment in my entire life. :(

[@togiielectricboogaloo6875]

@@MinhThu.buddhist reminds me of the time i went to the movie theater (before the ads/movie started bc we we were early), and saw a father giving his phone to his kid and asking: what do you want today to do you want to play? And then his kid tapped on a game and they started playing together and having a fun time And for some reason i almost started crying thinking my father was never this fun...

[@raineblackstar3522]

I always just cry when i see people having a good time with their dads. Kids getting picked up by their dad, while i get picked up by...a cab. People being able to hug their dad and talk to him, while the only ones that accept me are those i know online. My father abandoned me in 2018. I wasn't good enough for him. And while i wish i could just hate him for the rest of my life to make it easier for me, apparently i still miss him. {I keep dreaming about him, which pisses me off.} I don't want him here in my life because if he was able to abandon me once, he could do it again easily. But i also do want him in my life because he's my biological father. Ofc I'd still love him. Man i don't know what to do. I really don't...

[@mundanemonday7091]

@@raineblackstar3522 i feel like what u miss is a ' parent' and not necessarily your father.. My father was very abusive and recently abandoned us and doing all sorts of dirty plays to frame us in court.. Yet one day i dreamed about having him back in my life.. I woke up feeling sick. Its not my father that i miss.. I miss and really crave the presence of a good father, that he wasn't. its only natural it won't go way. And just like u all, my heart aches when i see a happy child with their parent.im happy for the child but it hurts i wish had that too.

[@-441-]

Tbh, you saying this made me remember when I watched Cristiano Ronaldo's Documentary he made (years ago) and it was focused around his home life with his son. And the scenes where he buckled his son's seatbelt and asked him if he wanted more breakfast literally made me cry and I couldn't explain why. These were all regular positive things, so why was I sad at the sight of seeing him care for his son? Then it hit me; my dad wasn't exactly that type...

[@BTSARMY-zh8bq]

I really wanted this video rn as am going through a lot and i have started to beleive that am turning into the kind of person i hated as a child

[@rosy7892]

Hi army 🖤

[@rebeccalauren4904]

I feel this too. Sending love ❤️

[@bristow4784]

I'm stay not ARMY but I relate to this a lot. All 4 of my siblings fell victim to family patterns and I'm fighting limb and limb to make sure I'm the exception.

[@bristow4784]

Go listen to Fix You by BTS 😉❤️

[@khalilahd.]

Whatever you’re going through I hope it passes and I hope you give yourself the patience and love you need at this time 🥺

[@fixymuffin9898]

Yeah, but when my fears make me do bad things and sabotage my relationships it’s kinda hard not to blame myself

[@Notime1111]

For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.

[@KeyoHaze]

I'm an abuse survivor, and I know that the complete opposite to some of these are completely true for me, and maybe for you too. Remember to always work on yourself, to improve yourself, but never blame yourself. Hou maybe having a bad day today, and feel alone. Remember, you ARE loved and you're a good person. May you have a blessed day and keep strong

[@RedaReda-vl9ff]

Dont give up

[@aspen4786]

I’m genuinely crying while writing this. I knew most likely that how I behaved was due to trauma, and my therapist and parents have always tried to work with me to move past it. No one’s ever told me before that how I react is okay, and that’s it’s a natural part of healing. Thank you so much, you truly have no idea how much this means to me. Edit: Idk why so many people have assumed this, but no, I have not hurt anyone. The most I’ve ever done is isolate myself because I fear having a close relationship with someone. The amount of comments I’ve gotten accusing me of hurting others or saying other horrible things is a few too many to count. While I can understand where the assumption could come from, I do want to remind you that these sorts of comments can be extremely hurtful and triggering. Please just remember that everyone is human, and to treat each other kindly here.

[@mememe222u-]

Hey there, I don't know you, but it doesn't stop me from wishing you good luck with your healing journey, you're so strong and I hope you never forget it, here's a flower to remind you that hope can grow and flourish even where people say it would be impossible ✿ฅ⁠^⁠•⁠ﻌ⁠•⁠^⁠ฅ

[@artemisnause5185]

Same

[@confusion_intensified]

I wish you good luck on your healing journey and remember don’t push yourself to hard healing takes time no matter what type of healing it is Also don’t forget to keep your head up high

[@ChaoscelusApollyon]

Instead of facing the facts, you waited until someone told you what you wanted to hear? That's just pаthetiс

[@aspen4786]

@@ChaoscelusApollyon I’m sorry, I’m not quite sure what u mean

[@snakey934Snakeybakey]

This was me. I'm working on myself. I found a friend who came from the same place I did, and helped realize that I wasn't a horrible person, but a product of what was done to me. I am working on my hatred little by little. These videos are also a help. It's nice to know I'm not alone.

[@khalilahd.]

Couldn’t agree more. I’ve also had a similar experience. I hope we both continue to grow and be better 💛

[@sarahf3534]

Yes! Same, I am in this state right now. Every single thing they mentioned was something I could relate to. It's really sad when u become a certain age and finally actually realize how much of the stuff we go through others have experienced too. So be kind bc u never know what's happened for others.

[@danavixen6274]

I feel the same way. 🙏🏾

[@oghenefejirookpako4201]

Me too

[@loshihassan6321]

ive had the same issues im trying to work on myself but its not that easy this channel helped me notice alot

[@percubit10]

It has made me anxious and depressed after having been traumatized. I have trust issues and now become a hermit.

[@Agathon255]

Bienvenido al club. 😎

[@Overlord_official.]

It's just like in the movies: not all villains are pure evil. Many are just broken and hungry for redemption.

[@RendyRuban]

I relate to all 7. And yes, I distant myself from others because I don't want to cause harm on them. Still working on it to be better. I wish everyone here a successful life, and happiness.

[@mythoelogy]

I am glad that you are accepting and working on it. I hope you have a blissful and peaceful life ahead as well! :)❤

[@RendyRuban]

@@mythoelogy I wish you all the good things in life and the strength to go through the bad ones. Thank you.

[@mythoelogy]

@@RendyRuban Thanks again for your well wishes! Have a good day ahead. :)

[@V50593]

❤

[@BeLikeWaterBeLikeWater]

Self awareness is the key to EVERYTHING in each person’s life. So if someone does not have this capability it doesn’t matter AND cannot be given a pass for their behaviors, PERIOD.

[@alicecrowbar4145]

👍

[@alicecrowbar4145]

@@nakshatramusic21 acctually, i think your right (:

[@nakshatramusic21]

@@alicecrowbar4145 :)) thanks for understanding

[@ylowtus8483]

When you pour water into a cup, it becomes the cup #BelikeWater my friend

[@BeLikeWaterBeLikeWater]

@@ylowtus8483 no it’s just the vessel that it takes shape. It’s an awareness. You are not your clothes, or your car or your home. All these ‘vessels’ can be taken away or destroyed. So when that happens do you cease to have value?

[@isabeauwarren4267]

YOURE SUCH A GODDESS! I’m so happy I finally have a face to one of the most calming voices I’ve ever heard. I love all your videos. Thank you for all your hard work!!

[@buzzsaw133]

I wish I had known this sooner... I fought tooth and nail through trap houses, an opiate addiction, isolation and homelessness; and I'm only now beginning to really understand what happened. Thank you. Just... Thank you.

[@SADug_6969]

I'm a simple man, I see Omori, I click /ctto Jokes aside, this is well-explained. You arent a bad person but just act through the trauma you had. Notice how a lot of *antagonist* have bad trauma but not bad at heart like Loki, Dr. Otto Octavius and Venom. Hope that you feel better to anyone who has trauma in the past

[@eggomyleggos5247]

Ah, fellow omori enjoyer

[@suredoeslikeexisting]

omor

[@hellgazer8370]

you and i share a braincell my friend

[@grapekork101]

@@hellgazer8370 you,me and a couple of people here lmao

[@jamiep.84]

hello fellow omori fans : )

[@aestenejayeaj3144]

im glad i saw this video, these past months and/or year after leaving my toxic environment, i started to notice changes of my behavior and im occasionally really bothered if I’m changing as an even more worse version of myself this video made me more aware and informed, i wish i can be better so i won’t be able to harm others edit: to anyone liking and replying in my comment, i am here and i am willing to listen and see your vents, you’re welcome here

[@juliacornella6539]

i feel the exact way

[@cubanpes0820]

Don’t say you can or you can’t say you will or you won’t. I hope you have the will to get past the negative feeling weighing on you. You/y’all (who ever else may read this) got this 🙏

[@Novarune_]

I feel the same way too

[@immxjesty]

I got out of a toxic relationship recently too. I was told I was different by them, that I changed from when we were friends, but I don't know. I tend to mimic personalities, and that doesn't help mixed with trauma, so I seem worse now.

[@corncobbob2326]

So you didn’t change for the worse not even in the slightest bit but your trauma made you think that?

[@gabehawk8925]

I remember when I was 7I'm now 15 but You're still suffering from what I went through, but he's kind of things. Help me learn about what's happened to me and what I'm going through. It's people like you that remind me there's still hope in the world and hope of me so thank you 🙂

[@ashleymeyers5675]

#4 is 100% of the reason that I am here today on this journey. I finally found the one person that stuck around when I began to pull away and wants to use it as a way for both of us to grow instead of just discarding me like everyone else.

[@potatoes5629]

I’m currently in a toxic relationship with my family, but I’m too young to leave and start a new life. I watched this video, kind of as a joke, as awful as that sounds, but as I continued watching, I found more and more examples from my everyday life that I could relate back to the signs. I’m a lot more emotional, socially withdraw from my friends often, oversleep then get mad at myself for missing opportunities that I could of done, overeat then hate how I look, and one of the more self-destructive coping mechanisms that exist. I’ve been trying to bring up the possibility of me getting therapy with my parents, but they brush it off or say things like “until you spend more time with the family, that’s not an option”. I’ve threatened child services before because their treatment of me has gone from verbal, to emotional, to physical. I get yelled at, which isn’t uncommon when a child does something incorrect, but their mostly things about my body, my personality, and my popularity. But it has gone to the point where I am being physically hurt. I no longer feel like I want to be a part of this world, and I feel as if I can’t tell anyone because they either wouldn’t understand or wouldn’t care. My only hope is that if things aren’t going to change for me, things can start to get better for others. I probably wouldn’t have had the courage to tell this to someone in real life, but it’s calming now knowing some people can see what I’ve been going through, and maybe see that I’m not just a selfish asshole like my parents tell me I am, but a person who just needs help. Thanks for reading my sob story, if you read it because you genuinely care, or if you just like to read gossip and trauma. Have a good morning, day, afternoon, evening, or night, and I pray to whatever god or gods might be out there that people don’t relate to this post. Edit: I have never had this many people come together on something I wrote. Thank you all for being so supportive and caring towards someone you've never met. I haven't looked at this post until now, and I realized how many people have banded together to help me, and I cannot thank you enough. I have some good news and bad news for everyone, so strap in for some tea about a stranger's life. Bad News: I have had 3 panic attacks in the last 2 months, and my parents told me to, and I quote, "Just drink some tea" My parents have been snooping through my phone and found out: 1. I am gay and 2. I am been thinking about killing myself. They addressed me being gay first. My mother threatened to check me into the hospital They overall think I'm weak as shit so that's fun. Good News: I am going to start therapy with my entire family, so we can most likely sort through all our problems! I have started a D&D campaign with my friends and am learning how to be a proper DM! It's really fun! My parents are considering getting me a stress test (Whatever that is) and individual counselling! So yeah, that's been my life so far! I might check in later on and see what's up!

[@PENTIOUS_SUPICIOUS]

You're young, it wasn't your fault. And you're a strong warrior for being able to reach this far in life, things may seem dark for now but I'm hoping the future has a better path made for you and I hope you'll eventually find people that will make you feel safe and accept you as the way you are. You did not deserve a single bad thing that your family had put you through and although I'm just a stranger, remember you're heard, heard by me and all the people who saw your comment.

[@AuroraAustria]

damn, this whole entire comment just represents my whole entire life...-

[@dragonwolfy7599]

Life may seem bleak. . . . and it can and it will. Even if we want to find the sun in it the coming tide of darkness. Not matter what though, we have to fight for our future. It will not be easy, but know this. If you have gotten this far. Don't let it stop you, never give in, never falter, never let go of your sanity, and never stop. You can find your way to a better future.

[@nicolasolle11]

Keep up the work or you'll end up like me emotionless lonely man whose heart is hollow and cloated in darkness and hatred towards everything and everyone

[@thegoldensamurai2004]

Please do not take what your family members are saying to heart... Your a strong person who doesn't deserve this misfortune. So don't let yourself be diminished by such toxicity rise up and be greater!👍

[@TooMuchCoffee275]

Yup this entire video explains myself, I’m at a point in my life where I’ve literally lost everything and everyone around me. I don’t even know what to do anymore I lowkey just want a hug and someone to talk to

[@oreokarail]

Virtual hug 🫂☮️❤️

[@listener-viewer-reader3253]

Have a discord?

[@gailkorza4822]

I feel you!! 💚

[@tiredcreat0r]

Hey, i know how you feel and i understand what that feels like. as this describes me to. I'd he happy to talk to you. If you can give me your discord if you have it I'm usually always free all day everyday, you can talk to me if you need somebody

[@christianha2217]

Me too 😞

[@mqbye]

This video nearly COMPLETELY relates to how I’ve felt in my life. Ever since I started school, my parents had insanely high expectations for me since that’s what they were used to from their parents. It stressed me out the longer time went on and I started to decrease in academic performance which my parents were furious about. They started comparing me to my older brother and sister or my friends who were the smartest in the classes and it just made me feel like a black spot in the family, where I’m expected to be smart I’m stupid as hell instead. My parents ended up just straight up insulting me and saying “You’ll become a trash collector when you grow up” or some random bullshit like that. But the fact that they had the thought to even say that and not think about how much that actually hurts is what makes me feel like I’m genuinely worth nothing. To all of you who are suffering from traumatic experiences like relationships or friends or family issues, I pray that things will be alright for you and that everything will be okay.

[@sll5704]

Your voice is so warm and relaxing!! Thank you so much ❤️✨

[@kurisuchiinu1206]

Yes, I do have trauma. Around my circle, no one told me that my experiences isn't my fault but I was told otherwise. I'm constantly blaming myself for getting bullied all the time because someone said it's my fault.

[@ilovepastawithvodkasauce3217]

I'm so sorry that happens

[@NYCONTOP]

Same.

[@afiabaig]

i feel that so much...

[@sahansensu6108]

that is why bullying the bullies never made me feel remorse or guilty you or any victim didn't deserve this but ''the bullies'' certainly did and like wise they got punished not bullied.

[@Spectre.0001]

Coming from someone who was bullied alot in school, and not much better at home, just know you aren't alone, and if you ever wanna talk about your emotions, just reach out to me hear

[@doomsanity9689]

Listen. My friends. The worst part of trauma is getting fixated on a substance that removes these bad traits. A lot of toxic people also have the traits stated in this video. But for those… like me… who took to substance abuse to break themselves further because it’s part of the cycle. I know you, and so many of us “strong ones” know you

[@corncobbob2326]

By break yourself further do you mean self-destruction? And how would substance abuse remove these toxic traits? What gave the impression?

[@prodbyvandal]

@@corncobbob2326 when i do drugs i tend to turn into a bad person

[@ShrimpFry_Cute]

@@corncobbob2326 feelings man. Feelings.

[@burtan2000]

@@prodbyvandal Depends on the drug? Opiates made me FEEL like the best me. Outgoing, confident, in control, demanding, assertive, direct, incisive - good for project management... but actually horrible for that bc I was actually a mean, constantly angry dick. It amplified all my worst traits. Bad temper, arrogant, etc. When in reality, when calm, i want peace. I'm a very compassionate, empathetic, caring person with a deeply-seeded desire to be fair, to assist others where i can, to be generous and charitable. Treatment made me the best me. I always struggled at work with being defensive and never biting my tongue if I KNEW i was right and boss was wrong even if I knew it wasn't the time. Even if i knew to pick my battles, and be patient. Treatment and suboxone helped me be much less confrontational, but not a pushover. Helped me be less defensive. It really helped, too. That was almost 6 yrs ago and while I've taken a handful of opiate pills (probably about 20) over those 6 yrs, i've stayed away other than that. I still take a tiny amount of subs.

[@burtan2000]

Yes, and the drugs/drinking help us cope - or at least that's what we tell ourselves. Like it's just too much to deal with so we take the thing. That's not the way to go. I treatment, my counselor said substituting in something like Mountain Dew or chocolate cake or red bull was okay. TBF, she was trying to just keep ppl alive and off opiates and in the program. She'd say we can deal with the extra ten pounds you gain later. But you'll be alive. 6 months in and i was still heavily dependent on opiates/subs. But new counselor said brain chemistry needs time to correct itself. And sure enough, i was able to drastically cut down the amount of suboxone to the point that i'd take less in 2 weeks than i used to take in one day. And without any noticeable negative impact. That took yrs tho. Now i take less in a month than i used to take in one day. But if i take none, i feel like crap after about 3 days. so still working on it

[@PsychPerusal]

I felt this. I am going through this tough time. Thanks to you for sharing this video. 🤝

[@jonatasorto]

Well... Here I was, sitting with my wife, and this video started playing. Can't remember if I clicked on it. Turns out that 4 years ago I had a stroke (at 27 yo) and had to learn to walk again, many weeks on the wheel chair, then crutches, then learn to write with the left hand, then return to work. It was a long journey and people always said I was doing great, with bravery and all. Isn't likeability a damn jail. Deep down I was getting bitter. Mood swings, irritability. Then I started drifting away from family. Bit by bit I pushed everyone out. Long story short, I started laughing AND crying like a child watching this storming video simply describe the last 3 years of my life. Couldn't even finish it. I don't even know if I should thank you guys or complain. Much love from Brasil!

[@ShaneBlackheart]

In 2020, C-PTSD symptoms intensified for the first time in my life. Flashbacks, hallucinations, nightmares. I have survived various forms of prolonged abuse, and I buried it since I was a kid, and as it continued into adulthood. So when I finally addressed it, 2020 was about the time it would all come back, and then after experiencing psychotic symptoms and the trauma responses in this video, I lost a group of friends. They called me toxic, and one compared me to her abuser and it triggered me so heavily I almost ended my life after they rejected my apologies and gaslit me. One spoke badly about me publicly on social media and joked about being free of me because this trauma has made me so terrible, and all because I blogged about it and I was honest about my feelings, even when they were distorted. Too honest and too vague. I've regained self-hatred and believe my abusers again, so what my friends said I could only accept as true. So I feel trauma has made me a bad person and I just isolate and won't make new friends or date so I don't hurt anyone else by accident again. This video did make me feel a little better, but I feel I am too broken to deserve love and happiness.

[@toto-dh9dw]

U need to meditate to understand your own triggers .listen sandguru about this

[@lolcandyyy]

Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, deserves to be loved and happy, no matter what. 💗

[@crazytawnycat8417]

I remember my friends calling me too negative, and they would try to one-up me on my bad experiences like my childhood abuse and anxiety. If they are doing this, they really aren’t your friends. Real friends would be concerned and try to talk to you about it rather than shame you. It isn’t your fault. I also felt like I was too broken to deserve love and happiness, but you do. Mine would get so bad that if I lost or broke something, or had a fight with someone, that it was all my fault and I didn’t deserve to live. The thing that honestly helped me a lot was to stop hating myself and start loving myself. To start taking care of myself. Think about all of the good you have done for people. Just know that when you are aware and you try not to hurt others feelings and too apologetic, then you are really aware of how you treat others. This means that you can empathize with people. I’ve been having a rough time lately because of my relentless sicknesses. I’ve gotten diagnosed with illnesses ever since I was 12. I am eighteen now, and I have been dealing with a fatty liver. I’ve never drank alcohol, but I’ve had to change my lifestyle quite a bit. If the lifestyle change doesn’t help, I will have to get a biopsy done on my liver. It’s getting really old, but I’ve sort of realized something. Maybe the reason I am going through all of this emotional and physical pain is so that I can help others going through the same. The fact that I could recognize signs of abuse and sicknesses so easily gives me the ability to help others cope through the same. I’ve had people tell me about how they have been through the same, but none of them have been through everything. I know it doesn’t always help to hear, but you are good person. You deserve love and happiness. You are loved, you just need to find the right people to be around, which can be hard. There are so many people that you don’t know, going through the same thing that you are. You are not alone in your thoughts and feelings. Treat yourself, because you are worth it. You are on this earth because you have a purpose. I know it can be quite scary, but let yourself live, and let yourself feel your emotions.

[@razzledazzledorito6552]

You have to be careful because there are people in this world who will see your vulnerability and try to take advantage. Don't over-share with anyone you meet, get to know them first and see how they act towards you, if they put you down or uplift you. Those people were not good friends. They were people who needed you to be miserable to feel better about themselves. Don't take things people say personally. Oftentimes it has more to do with them than it has to do with you, especially if you know you do your best to do the right thing. You will get there someday. I used to be like this and now I'm healthier and I'm not suicidal anymore and I no longer have CPTSD symptoms as often,, but it's also because my environment has improved. If you can, try to improve yours too, or take steps to get there eventually over time. You got this, you are wonderful and you deserve the best 💛

[@valenciawhaley9256]

I am gently encouraging you to try therapy. It saved my life. You do not have to carry that around forever. If finances are a concern, consider finding a counselor or therapist program that's run by the the city or county you live in. They're very affordable, and just like doctors, they're in this work because they CARE. Treat yourself to some love, bud. You deserve it 🙂

[@princess_reaper]

I have all 7 signs.... #6 is what I am going through right now. About 3 weeks ago, I was told by a colleague that I am too emotional. I was only expressing how I felt for a long time and talked about it once but instead of them being understanding, I was completely misunderstood. As a response, I became emotionally distant. I am not the same colleague who used to interact with them. The rest of my colleagues wondered why I became too silent but I never responded to that kind of comment. I don't trust them with my emotions anymore.

[@guesswho5790]

When we receive criticism instead of understanding, it's normal to want to shut down. Deep down you are wounded and it's normal to take some distance from the people that hurt you. Even if they didn't mean to, they made you feel unsafe. And feeling safe is everything to trauma survivors.

[@twintyara6330]

Same

[@userm180]

im so sorry. there are few things worse than being told you're too sensitive when talking about what you're feeling. it can really take a toll on you. but please, for the sake of your mental health, don't let that make you not want to open up ever again. try to find trust worthy people, or even a therapist, and talk to them (if you havent already done that)

[@princess_reaper]

Thanks everyone for the encouragement. I will heal from this wound soon enough and come out strong.

[@spellgalen808]

I don't get the whole " too emotionel" remark. We are humans. We are driven by emotions more or less. Some more than others. It's not something i find negative 🙂

[@doodleydoo8264]

The worst part is trying to justify (some of) these actions. Trying to explain these things that you struggle about are daunting.

[@okri1111]

Your voice is so healing.Thank you

[@sunkisses_]

I LOVE THE OMORI REFERENCES!! THANK YOU!

[@EvilEnsembleStars]

I LOVE OMORI

[@boka7964]

@@EvilEnsembleStars AYO SAME

[@Camuzzzz]

OMORI BEST GAMEEE

[@boka7964]

@@Camuzzzz EEEEEEE TRUEEE

[@DemiboyBasil-wr1tj]

I OMOR

[@michaeldost8155]

It’s an amazing feeling when you are no longer controlled by your demons, but instead you control them because they fear you because of the power you have to overcome them.

[@Kooki_Mawnster]

Oddly enough the sentence can also make sense if you switch demons to bullies/bad or abusive people lol

[@gardtheaxolotl]

Have you readed 48 laws of power?

[@michaeldost8155]

@@gardtheaxolotl got the book, will be reading it soon!

[@gardtheaxolotl]

@@michaeldost8155 It said something similar to it. Really good book.

[@Jinx_1359]

Nah my demons just tell me to do stupid shït like "if ya don't get to that lampost in the next 5 seconds you will *die* " Or to eat the chocolate and put the wrapper back into the cupboard or the most common one is to kill everyone I know just to see what it's like lol

[@ptheorist4670]

Well, I clicked on this out of curiosity, didn't expect to relate so much I'd start crying by the end. One of the hardest things for me was to even realize that I had been subjected to abuse. Like, I was describing situations to my therapist and she then later referred to those as abuse - mind you, she didn't tell me "This was abuse," but she said it in a way like it was a given that what happened to me was abusive, and it opened my mind. I had NEVER considered my experience as abusive, just as uncomfortable. We just go on in our lives without ever considering how some things mess us up, and we're just supposed to get up and move on without ever addressing our pain. No wonder we're all suffering so much.

[@V50593]

❤

[@Asteraleyes]

7/7: all of the above. It all checks out, even to this day, i still suffer from emotional trauma and grief. I need a way to help myself heal from words more so than anything that isn’t said but shown or consumed. Never thought it would all be connected but, I’m not complaining, I’m subconsciously… impressed.

[@Serendipity975]

Growing up watching your parents argue and fight to the point you almost got separated...made me feel terrible to the point i almost thought to end my life rather than having a fear of hearing such cuss words every day and seeing such sights that traumatized you for life made my mental health issues worse and now I'm showing all the symptoms of anxiety and panic attacks Edit: Please be respectful with your replies..A trauma is a trauma it's not about who got it the worst..it's not a competition. Yeah you can share your stories but comparing it with mine won't make you win anything. We're all on the same boat.

[@mlg_joe7]

I can relate man,... My game plan was to go straight to a 4 year, and never see my parents again and be free.

[@Serendipity975]

@@mlg_joe7 ikr even though they're normal now but still i want to go somewhere far

[@Iloveforks_2]

Yes 😣

[@Thegreatblazingsun]

This is the most spoiled rich kid mayonnaise comment. I saw my mom stab my dad when I was 4 and that was just the beginning never in my life would I post such gross attention grab comment 😂 My parents cussed 😢

[@outlawandoutdoorstv9901]

Its ok snowflake

[@vernthompson907]

It all make sense because that’s how I was. I’m 63 and this way most of my life. Never realized the culprit was trauma. I didn’t know about it. I have hurt a lot of people and ruined 2 marriages. I will not excuse my behavior. I was always sorry afterwards. Now I have an explanation which is huge. I have a path to healing. All I can do is be sorry but prove by my actions I’m on a healing path.

[@butterfly8435]

I wish you the best.

[@corncobbob2326]

Did they know or realize it was trauma before you realized it or after? Did they ever find out?

[@ChaoscelusApollyon]

why heal? grow to love and accept yourself instead, you're imperfect, that's exactly what makes you perfect

[@ebonqii]

@@ChaoscelusApollyon if it’s ruined relationships I think it’s best to heal

[@jodi7227]

I understand you completely. I ruined a marriage early in life. I definitely have unfinished business with this person . I dream of him alot and we were divorced over 25 years ago ! I have a new therapist that i am hoping will be a good fit . I have an opportunity to have a new relationship. I am so ambivalent. Am i not attracted ? Or am i repressed and don't know a good thing if it was banging on my iron heart ?

[@henriquedrumond5763]

Hurting someone in the moment and realizing what you did after is too late is literally the worst feeling, i became suicidal for a bit once the realization kicked in. It sucks cuz now I just shut myself down from everyone and everything as to not hurt anyone unintentionally again.

[@friskdacatarchival]

I relate with every single thing on this list and its basically making me rethink the past 6 years of my life at 3 in the morning.

[@KMA_KiCKz]

1. You're Always Looking For The First Sign of Trouble 0:42 2. You Have A Hard Time Trusting Others 1:12 3. You Socially Withdraw Sometimes 1:42 4. You Sabotage Your Own Relationships 2:17 5. You Have Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms 2:53 6. You're Emotionally Respressed and Distant 3:32 7. You Can't Control Your Emotions 4:04 Hope y'all have a great week!

[@lazydoge]

ok dude stop time travelling

[@-suzan-3638]

thank you

[@heygraey]

O

[@lazydoge]

@@nakshatramusic21 the video us 6 mins long but he made the comment 4 mins after the vid was made

[@Barefoot_in_England]

All me, every single one

[@cipmbiyj5080]

Once my teacher compared my trauma to another girls trauma because she was bullying me and said that I was in the wrong and not her. We both literally dealt with the same thing at home

[@diederickkruse8695]

Really awful >how< some people (actually!!!) use that "nevermind" often, though and then take part of your energy on top of the hurt they just caused, depraved as they dare name themselves!(wouldn't you rather or at least also throw pacification into the ring? Some things aren't relative, though (yet). It is extremely hard to be that form of different in combination with an immunity, or any form of, to that bad behaviour (love what sir Davos said about stannis in regard to appreciating the finer points of bad behaviour (which is that S. Baratheon doesn't), because YES the world IS cruel, then. But what weak people are capable of... Mhhh There is, as I would, from my pain, point out, a difference between, sick, hurt and/or traumatized OR being sick and tired and/or weak(ened). Space-time continuum, eh guys, sometimes people are just heavied up black holes, for they do suck a lot, but, too, it is a dilemma...

[@LifeIsDaijobu]

Trauma isn't an excuse to bully someone. Whether someone had it better or worse. I'm sorry that you had to go through this stupid situation

[@diederickkruse8695]

@@LifeIsDaijobu not so easy, often, to get out of an abusive situation or why would it even occur... Thank you for sharing these words, though.

[@kuhuuuu]

I'm really glad that i came across this video because everytime i think about all this, I'll always think that I'm making myself a victim in the situation and i need to stop overreacting. I spend most of my time alone ever since i was 10 till now (im 18) i feel so lonely most of the time but im trying my best to make it enjoyable and productive.

[@N.C.3]

Recently, I realized that I can no longer remember something bad that happens/something bad that someone said to me, even if it was said/happened a second ago. No matter how hard I try to try to remember, I just can't. It's as if my mind refuses to accept something that could negatively affect my mental health.... 🇧🇷~

[@flamevix]

But remember that trauma isn't an excuse for someone to treat someone else badly. It's important that they get the help that they need so that they can start to heal.

[@gerryadams5712]

True

[@JungkookBestBoy1]

Yea...

[@Tubulce]

Only if parents could understand.

[@jakkuwolfinsomnia8058]

The statement that changed everything for me, that started my road toward freedom from trauma was so simple but only one person said it: “You’re worth saving because you’re more important”

[@Vize_Iron]

More imporant than what though?😥

[@Vize_Iron]

I have "friends" and I could get a job literally tm if I wanted to, but life just sucks. I don't see the point in working almost everyday for the next 50+ years (if I live that long) just to live. Just to eat and sleep comfortabley in a house I want/NEED. I feel like a complete slave no matter what job I possibly do. I lost all my "good" friends because we just grew apart I guess. The friends I do have now just seem two-faced.😪. I'm really struggling rn bro, esp since my grandpa just died a couple weeks ago. It hasn't even really hit me yet and I'm scared for when it does.

[@mikai1519]

as much I want too point this on my trauma, it simply won’t get me nowhere. if I really want too help myself I need to start now

[@Smile_Guy01]

I don't need to understand what your saying your voice is just so soothing

[@littlewillowlinda]

This is why good / bad morality stuff is subjective and shouldn't be used as a scale, everyone's got good and bad. There's very few ppl who are just bad. I have trauma and had to face that i hurt people and that in itself hurt me like crazy. I think even tho we have trauma we should still be held accountable to the best of our ability. But to do it properly without beating ourselves up for our overall character or putting defense mechanisms up and thinking we're the morally righteous ones

[@khalilahd.]

This is so so true. I’ve done the same but have since grown from it. Thanks for sharing Linda 💜

[@ultowar9836]

I've dealt with the same thing..

[@fumetsu4323]

Good / bad morality is definite and separates people by trustworthy and useless to pay attention. Emotions doesn't matter, we just give people what they deserve.

[@userm180]

yeah we definitely should be held responsible, trauma doesnt give us an excuse to be jerks. however, we should work on ourselves by first understanding what the trauma did to us and how to fix it

[@TimberWulfIsHere]

Some yes, but ultimately, morality is objective. But as soon as you make up your own morals up on some subjective bias then ofc it's subjective.

[@nostalgcis]

The fact that I relate to all of these makes me wonder if I actually have trauma lmao The only thing I've ever considered to be trauma is sa and (physical) abuse, so probably. *Edit: I feel the need to clarify this, but no I'm not saying that other forms of trauma isn't "real" trauma or something along those lines, I'm fully aware that mental abuse and being the witness of something can still be trauma. What I'm trying to say by this comment is most people I know who have struggled a lot / acknowledged their trauma usually had to deal with some type of more straightforward trauma like physical abuse or assault/r4p3 and etc. and it makes me feel like my forms of trauma (emotional) aren't considered valid trauma, even though I know it is. And that feeling is the reason why I never realized it was actual trauma, until recently. I know some of you know what I meant/agreeing with me, but I feel that some of you are also trying to correct me as well, so I just wanted to make sure there wasn't any miscommunication. Have a good day.

[@haleemahaloum6269]

Same

[@bee8816]

dude sa and physical a does cause trauma, i know because i was sa at a young age and was diagnosed with it. even if you havent been diagnosed you're still valid so dont let anyone think your traumatic experiences arent traumatic and/or invalid

[@nostalgcis]

@@bee8816 yeah i just have a hard time accepting other forms of trauma :/

[@MakingtheCase]

​@@nostalgcis Trauma is personal. It's completely different for each individual. My mother's trauma was watching her neighour friend's dad kill a kitten in front of them when she was a young child. My trauma was being sexually assaulted. Both of us had trauma. Emotional trauma is just as crippling.

[@nostalgcis]

@@MakingtheCase yeah, it seems like everyone has the same kinds of trauma at this point so its hard to think of anything other than the most common scenarios for me but its nice to be reminded there are other forms of trauma that can even go unnoticed

[@Kodunkion]

This video makes me feel like I might be gaslighting myself into thinking I'm actually a good person, so I'll just head out.

[@ericdonalddee]

Thanks man. Honestly though, i think it might feel abit worse to still be going through it and be aware of all of this. I don’t know. It probably just sucks either way, I just find it even harder to reach out to people after watching videos like these because I’m now aware of the ways I’m possibly(if I’m being honest with myself probably) going to hurt them, and then I realize that they might not be hurt by it and that would feel worse if ai noticed. This is all with help by the way. Some traumas don’t ever stop.(by which I mean illness. Try to die from your illness while you still have good friends, dear reader, not after them.)

[@lampoonism5014]

I just started therapy because I blew up my relationship. I treated the women I loved and her friends terribly, and it’s all because of me. I’ve been feeling awful. I’m tired of running from myself. I want to get better. I want to thank your channel for helping me these past few days.

[@threebythestreet]

That thumbnail art is amazing! As someone who is studying to becoming a psychiatrist who focuses on PTSD, I really appreciate videos like this that put things like trauma and PTSD in terms that are relatable, and accompanying them with beautiful art. I have been subscribed for about a year now, and have not regretted it once. Thank you for the videos 😊

[@liagotosleep264]

it's from a game called Omori

[@Adol48261]

@@liagotosleep264 definitely based off omori lmao

[@liessibrand2383]

​@@liagotosleep264 It also reminded me of charlatan from vanitas no carte

[@leapfroggrr]

omor

[@Shjba]

omoli

[@anonomyss]

My trauma explains my behavior but it doesn't excuse it, and I end up hating myself for every single thing I do now.

[@droopysnoopy9354]

I use pretty much all of those mechanisms to cope and it’s really beginning to worry me

[@minecraftdarby1905]

For 6 years straight I was bullied for my weight and how I looked and the way I acted. I was the weird kid because I didn’t act like them so I was considered weird, my self imaged crumbled into sharp pieces of glass that hurt me, I grew to have anger issues but also being the most sensitive I could possibly be. But the year I when to a new school with new people that were nice to me I started to heal, I stilll get irritated easily but it’s less than before and I’m happier.

[@lunselene2502]

I'm glad you're healing, take care of yourslef

[@sethtone8634]

I went through a lot of racial bulling in middle school/ high school to the point i felt i didn't think i had a soul or any self worth. as a result almost 15 years later i find myself jobless and friendless looking after my 80 year old adoptive parents. I am in therapy but i want to thank you for this video, i always though i was the scum of the earth but everything lines up with the signs. I was told i have PTSD and Agoraphobia.Thanks this channel its eye opening and wonderful.

[@pinkygurl2737]

Im so sorry , I wish you the strength to heal ❤

[@morrigan4]

Thank you guys! You're amazing and I love sharing your content 💕 ❤️ 😁

[@trippieredd8253]

Ty for this calm voice talking to us, idk if its a real person or ai talking but Im thankful for it. I am human. I made no mistake, the people around me did. My parents did. Those demons did. I am happy to hear this calm female voice. I never got treated this way, such a calm heart filling warm voice. I am sad. Ive been depressed for over 5 years. I am smart. But that is not a blessing, its the opposite. English is not my mother language, I am glad I understand this woman talking to me in this video. Thank GOD for every experience and keep praying and your belief. I love how you can still continue, even though U would love to just stop doing, being or existing. I dont want to sleep. I dont want to have sleep paralysis again. I dont want to wake up tomorrow, because I dont want to work at 6am and wake up at 5am for work. I feel helpless but I love it. How everyone treats you like shit. BUT you can always kill them, if thats an option. Ok just kidding, thats def not an option. But you can ignore them always. HAHA funny, life... I should start praying again. I didnt sell my soul but I feel like I did. Myb its just a illness myb I am not sick but those things I see are part of me. Myb its just nah it cant be just in my head but idk why it keeps following me. Nvm goodnight readers go back to sleep.

[@brendons5528]

Unfortunately I’ve said yes to everyone of the 7 signs in the video, can you guys please make a video about how to overcome trauma or steps on where to begin? Also these videos really help my day to day thank you for your amazing content!

[@keitiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii]

Same here! I checked all these signs and I agree with your suggestion on having helpful steps on overcoming trauma.

[@crayolaclouds2696]

Therapy with a psychologist who specializes in your type of trauma (family, sexual, physical, etc). Good luck, you're stronger than the trauma and I believe in you

[@lucannor6202]

You should visit an actual professional for this. They can personally help and guide you to work on your own problems, and you'll learn so much more with them. At the very least, more than with these internet shorts...

[@userm180]

is it possible for you to try professional help like therapy? you can try and help yourself, of course, but from what i've gathered therapy is more efficient

[@hemanthkalyan5554]

​@@lucannor6202 yeah they'll probably squeeze all your money out before you know it, psychologists are trash

[@arnolddodd4045]

Wow this was so relatable.. ive honestly spent so many years thinking im just a bad person, i never understood how i wanted to be with someone so much but then would freak out and get so anxious, i fixated on any little thing that went wrong, im a very isolated person, very rarely see people other than my children, im learning alot about myself through your videos, thank you

[@paintbox3011]

Yess I recommend building a social circle, that would totally help among other things!

[@motherfuckthepopulation]

this really opened my eyes up because i relate way too much...

[@xperiencerecordz]

Honestly, after years of knowing that I "suffer" from various traumas and having seen a therapist, I still check most of you cases. At this point, even if it's painful, one has to accept they don't have the capacity to change and that they are the ones causing harm to their loved and close ones. There's not many more solutions, the spiral downward has to stop one day before everyone is damaged forever. Sometimes I wish I had some sort of a reverse spell and change for good because I'm not good at doing that.

[@notreallysuper9489]

I had my classmates treat me differently because I had epilepsy, they would always push me back out of the conversations and would betray me at most of times for hanging out with different people.

[@finn_20]

I didn’t realize how much I needed this video. Last year, I had a really bad flashback to my trauma & an intense panic attack on the anniversary of it. And since then, I haven’t acted like I used to. I haven’t talked to my friends in over a year, I rarely leave my bed, and- while I want to spend time with my family- I can’t seem to find the energy to do it anymore. I always immediately say I don’t feel up to it or I’m tired or some kind of excuse to get out of it. I figured I was just being lazy or rude and I needed to fix myself so I would go back to how I was before. I never thought to stop and really look back at what caused me to be different. Now it makes sense ❣️Thank you for making these videos. Whenever I watch them, they always make me feel seen and less alone. And sometimes, like this one, they help me move forward a bit in a better way. Your channel helps so many people and it’s amazing that you put so much care into each one, doing what you can to help anyone who needs it❣️

[@bigdamnh1646]

you’re videos make me realize a lot abt myself

[@neohabilis7412]

you are such a comfort to me

[@adrian78917]

Her voice is comforting

[@eeveescrown]

as someone who has 3 trauma’s i really needed to hear this. so i wanna thank you and i want to say that whoever is/was going through trauma, your trauma is not your fault. you are a beautiful person. i love you 💕

[@angelfaithparba9940]

Thank you for this!😭😔💓

[@redflame2355]

Thanks❤

[@flezx6630]

Tq ;-;

[@NicoleSlays]

*I wasn't expecting all of these signs to resonate with me* 🥺

[@tokitoons1926]

Same… :’(

[@NicoleSlays]

@@tokitoons1926 that hit hard because I don't see myself as a bad person.. 😩

[@user-gn1sd5ii1l]

your voice is so calm

[@midnightslasher1371]

This was so eye opening.

[@campbellbrownn]

When I was 9 years old, I got in a car crash with my grandmother. No one was hurt, many of the firefighters said it was a miracle both of us came out without major injuries. My mom was scared I would have severe trauma from this, but really, I was just mad she didn’t let me eat my already half-eaten donut, that was now covered in shattered glass. (I’m completely fine now, ty for reading ❤)

[@butforwhy]

NOT THE DONUT!!!!! NOOOO!!!!!! Glad your ok now tho❤❤❤

[@campbellbrownn]

@@butforwhy thank you, that donut was so good ngl, wish i could’ve finished it, 10/10

[@butforwhy]

@@campbellbrownn What kind of donut was it?

[@campbellbrownn]

@@butforwhy chocolate sprinkle 🍩

[@butforwhy]

@@campbellbrownn NOOOOOO!!!! NOT THE CHOCOLATE SPRINKLES!!!!😂😭

[@EmoIceCube]

This helped me so much understand myself and why I do the things I do. Honestly I tried denying that I had trauma and just ended up thinking that I was overreacting, but I was actually able to relate to most of these signs. This makes me wish my ex-girlfriend understood why I acted the way I did when we were still in a relationship.

[@dawidfengler6565]

Very friendly, warmly and authentic video about trauma I have ever watched. Thank You ❤ +++Poland+++

[@isaachernandez6542]

I understand that my actions have consequences, I am ultimately responsible for how I act in the world, but on the flip side the trauma that you endure as a child will ultimately shape how you perceive the world as you grow up. I blame no one for where I am today, but acknowledge everything that it took to get me to this point.

[@dansden8077]

This video was so helpful for me thanks. I worked in several different retail jobs for five or so years and all of them were incredibly toxic environments that I believe have left me with considerable psychological trauma that I am only just learning to deal with. I feel that many of the signs explored in this video apply to me. Spending too much money was an unhealthy coping mechanism I got into and its not been easy to give it up. I used to go places on days out with my family but haven't done since 2019 despite many opportunities. Its like there's always a negativity that just makes me never want to do a lot of the things I used to enjoy. I'm starting to recover now but I think I still have a long way to go. Thanks again for the video.

[@userm180]

have you considered therapy?

[@edwardruiz2740]

Literally, I cried. From 1-7, it all speaks volumes of trauma. At times, you feel crazy or even justified, but deep down inside we're hurting. Like most people, I want unconditional love and return it. I don't mean to act out, though I'm coming to understand every action has a cause. As I did, ask yourself, what do you truly desire? What made you upset? Whether it's them cheating on you, lying, or not being loved, ask yourself these questions. It's important to understand why you love someone, yet moreover why you should first love yourself. Replace a bad habit with a good habit, if you like my comment help me spread my heart and let it be heard. I didn't plan on commenting, but like some people might say, " It's gonna be okay!". Or.., " Believe in yourself!." It's more than that. Being hurt emotionally hurts more than physically, in my opinion. It's not gonna be easy, for some it is, but ultimately only you can determine that. Again, replace a bad habit, with a good habit. When you feel like biting your nails out of anxiety, read a quick memo or jot a note down in your phone or journal. A little goes a long WAY! 🙃

[@mandarinonline3743]

I cried a lot when I was a kid. Mom was too invested in my brothers and ignorant of my feelings. She always forced me to forgive my brother's mistakes and turned blind when they did me wrong. As a result, it becomes hard for me to understand boundaries. Sometimes I push my friends too much (unknowingly) and allow people to take advantage of me. Now, it is so hard to socialize or function properly. Mom and brother still want to sabotage me and keep interfering with my life. They hurt my self-esteem by saying awful stuff, such as, I don't deserve it or that I am supposed to feel content with my ordinary, nothing special life. I am on the verge of a mental breakdown and am going to seek professional help. I enrolled in the Vipassana class, which will start in mid-February. Wish me luck! I hope you all also find your cure.

[@marcinkepa6543]

actually these movies are so cute

[@irenetinajero6933]

I suffered from physical and psychological bullying since I was 4 years old 'til 11. Years later, there are gaps in my memory about things that happened back then, and I struggle to control my emotions. I even have aches, migraines and cramps when I get stressed. It took me a whole year to trust someone enough to consider her a friend, and now, at 16, my first ever friend is my girlfriend, who knows me since we where 11 and also has her own struggles; she's probably the person that understants what I went through better than anyone, and I'm grateful that I'm not going through healing alone.

[@revsus88888888]

I can relate to this so much for a couple of reasons like when i was a kid i got very stressed when there was drinking at home, those i trusted changed and that made it a lot tougher to trust other people aswell. The part about wanting to be with someone else, but you cancel it and end up alone, that is me to the core. Great video, i love these videos! 🤗❤️

[@userm180]

im sorry you went through that :/ if you wanna talk about anything, i'm here

[@revsus88888888]

@@userm180 aww, thank you so much for reaching out, it means a lot! I am okay though 🤗❤️

[@userm180]

@@revsus88888888 alrighttt 😌 glad to hear

[@TheCoffeeCatDad]

I use to have a best friend that I grew up with in school. Since kindergarten we were like brothers. We even had the same birthday. Through the years of growing up together, I thought our friendship would never end. But.. when we got to our late 20s, things started to change as he allowed himself in a downward spiral. I did my best to pull him out, only to almost be pulled in with him. It caused a lot of drama and friction between me and my family that ended up leaving scars that can't be seen. We haven't spoken in over 5 years now, yet I still feel that anger and stress over what happened. I'm still mad at him for the stupid choices he made, I still feel petty on how my family handled it, and I hate myself for allowing it to happen. Thankfully, I was able to make some new friends who helped me realize the true value of what friendship is. It helped me realize the difference between those who genuinely care and those who have a motive. I still have trust issues, but they are helping me have faith again.

[@espanner97]

This is very helpful. This really explains my problems.

[@BCSchmerker]

+Psych2go *Thanks for the checklist of seven symptoms:* 0:42 (1) Automatic assumption of worst case 1:12 (2) Lack of trust for others *Side note:* Professrix Gibson, Personal Development School LLC, has observed this lack of trust firsthand as a symptom of an Avoidant Attachment personality, dismissive to fearful. 1:42 (3) Frequent withdrawal from society 2:17 (4) Relational self-sabotage 2:53 (5) Unhealtful coping mechanisms 3:32 (6) Emotional repression *Side note:* A subset of the autistic are a false positive due to athumia, a condition of neurological lack of emotion. 4:04 (7) Emotional uncontrollability

[@hellomynameishuman2189]

I love how the thumbnail is Sunny from OMORI. It fits the video so well.

[@__bonxie.]

I was bullied through out my whole life for having sensitive skin and not able to speak my own language very well. i was insecure and depressed because of my bullies i was only 7 at that time but since i can speak english very well, my grandma put me in an english school and i realized i was very happy there since nobody bullied me for my sensitive skin anymore, so i decided to recover and ever since i decided to recover, it helped me a lot

[@Lizard_geek]

How can I literally see every single one of these... have them apply to me and STILL just feel like im just bad, lazy, or looking for excuses.

[@SaurianStudios1207]

“A good human being, a fulfilled human being doesn’t need to break anyone down. All they do is wanna lift you up. If there’s anybody you meet that calls you out of your name, bullies you, messes you up or doesn’t make you feel lifted, they are dealing with something deep-rooted.” -David Goggins

[@TheTalonsPryde]

All of these. It caused me to develop Borderline Personality Disorder. I both repress and explode emotionally. I also withdraw, look for the inevitable trouble, fear becoming happy because it will end, and sometimes push so hard to keep a relationship that I push them away. CPTSD really sucks.

[@spcyndles]

i went through lots of trauma when i was really young. to the point where i thought some of these things were just normal, i'm starting to re-think things now

[@V50593]

❤

[@sunnyskye1106]

Oh is that you? A face to match the voice. You're so BEAUTIFUL! Thank you, sweetie, for making these. They BLESS ME so much. ❤