7 Standards To Look For In Man (especially #6) | Signs He's Right For You

[@annieel3938]

Middle Aged Lady commenting here to really acknowledge the amount of clarity and wisdom you have for such a young man, Mark xx

[@Markrosenfeld]

Awww thanks, Annie El. I appreciate the lovely comment and the support! x

[@avgonyma1]

7 standards to look for in a man: Mostly, people in great relationships don't approach dating with a long list of features, but basically just look out for 7 traits: 1. Masculine - feminine balance (Someone not being able to access their MASCULINE side will have all sorts of issues: erratic behaviour, impulsive behaviour, insecurity. Someone not being able to access their FEMININE side will show: lack of empathy, struggle to be in the moment, to connect, to be present. ) The myth that the woman needs to have all feminine qualities and the men more masculine qualities is FALSE. It creates co-dependency. Only a union of two healthy balanced individuals will create a healthy balanced relationship. 2. He meets all his psychological needs in a healthy way. They are: affection, belonging, love, safety, connection, attention, significance, importance, rebeliousness etc. Some women prioritize their work/career for too long, and sacrifice love and connection, and end up doing "immoral acts" to satisfy those needs (sleeping with a guy you don't want, or with a married man) 3. Great sex (it can't make but it can break a relationship). 4. Does what he says and says what he does (integrity). Following this you remove: impulsive people, unreliable people, inconsistent, unbalanced. Otherwise you're setting yourself up for an anxiety-ridden relationship that will erode your self-esteem. 5. Healthy priority balance: can prioritize you (give you time, connection) and also deprioritize you at other times (for work, friends etc) 6. Understands healthy BOUNDARIES and personal responsabilty: basically THE skill for a great relationship. 7. How he treats you when he's at his worst: it takes a long time to come out. (Under massive stress) Great guys will chase you, even when they're already in a relationship. You will not forget of your traits (phisical attraction, connection, monogamy, phisical health) but do focus on these 7 that tend to be forgotten. Additionally: 1. No one is perfect, but if someone can acknowledge their shortcomings and action on them, that's good. 2. Don't forget on practical incompatibilities (wish for kids, not living in the same place) 3. A great guy will continuously tick off these 7, not just one time.

[@jahdaughter7]

he & the background looks like paradise 💖

[@patriciaearley4177]

😆 LOL

[@Markrosenfeld]

😂 awww that's such a sweet comment, jahdaughter7, thanks so much! x

[@FreelancingwithFaith]

Agree lol. Is that just your backyard, @Mark? 😁

[@hellenicdjevojka5123]

I think your point about whether the man is able to acknowledge where he falls short in any of the 7 qualities and whether he shows you signs of working on these or at least meets you half way, should be included as #8.

[@wandadrees6384]

In my opinion how he treats you at his worse is the most important one including that we must be aware of how we treat people at our worse

[@Markrosenfeld]

Such an important message there, Wanda. x

[@dlwsport250]

Don’t get me wrong, I’m very happy that you’re Australia’s dating coach. I’m not sure how to break it to you this way, I live all the way in the United States and you are definitely my dating coach! Again, I want to reiterate that it is wonderful when I see you delivering your message and being so humble that you collaborate with so many other people that offer a similar message of love yourself first, create a life you love and share the lovely life you created with someone that you deserve... after they’ve earned that position, of course. Apologies for all the grammatical errors as I am a terrible text message person.

[@Markrosenfeld]

That's a lovely comment, dlw sport. Thanks so much! Great to have you on here. x

[@tainahollo8567]

#7 is SO important!!!

[@WhereIsCynthia]

Mark, no joke, I watched this a month ago and am still processing it. This honestly might be your best work ever. It really represents a tremendous amount of wisdom synthesized into an insanely succinct delivery. I hope you and your team are really proud of this.

[@Markrosenfeld]

That's an absolutely lovely comment, WhereIsCynthia, thanks so much! Saving this in my Favorite Comments folder. And I shall endeavor to make better contents for you. 😊

[@von-marieoliva4827]

This is great! I had a variation of this list that I checked off when it came to dating my current partner and I was so shocked to see how a healthy relationship unfolded, after being in bad situations in the past. Thanks for this video!!

[@Markrosenfeld]

Awesome to hear that, Von-Marie, thanks for sharing! All the best to you! x

[@WhereIsCynthia]

AAUUGH! SO POWERFUL! Seriously, so profound. I'm going to watch this multiple times over the next few months to keep this on the front burner while evaluating dudes.

[@Markrosenfeld]

Awww this is a really nice comment, WhereIsCynthia ! Glad the video helped. Thanks so much! x

[@WhereIsCynthia]

@@Markrosenfeld Thank you, Mark! I literally used this perspective on a date *this afternoon*. I'm high-fiving you from Dallas, Texas! PS - The date went great and we're going out again 😎🔥💃

[@maryamzizi13]

Mark this was an amazing video thank you! 😊

[@Markrosenfeld]

I always love reading your lovely comments, Maryam Zizi. Thanks so much for the support! x

[@geniegoldberger9440]

Mark you are so adorable...I love your simplified lists, clear communication, your smile when you poke the flowers, and your fabulous energy. Your girlfriend, whoever she may be, is one blessed woman! I am youthful at 71 and way more attracted to the vibrant energy of younger men than ones my age. The ones my age that have all these qualities are often married, Gay or seeking younger women. So It all sounds great and I think you are spot on .. it appears as though pickings are slim in Hawaii in my age range! Perhaps you know where the good ones are hiding out!

[@elizabethcuranaj3835]

any video recommendations for how a woman can have a healthy balance of her masculine energy & for men their feminine energy? not just only in relationships, but life in general.

[@LisaGemini]

Damn, how did you match your shirt with that flower? LOL No. 7 is very important! The worst moments should indeed prove to you if your relationship is healthy and can go the distance. Sense of humor and intelligence are tops on my list. I agree that a long list is stupid. I do have a list of deal breakers, though. Smoking and cat ownership are on that list. God bless and thanks for your wise advice.

[@belmum1689]

Hi Mark and everyone, I hope u all have a good Sunday

[@Markrosenfeld]

Heya Bel Mum! Thanks! Hope you're having a good day yourself.

[@bravenewworld5824]

Mark, in his shirt really compliments those flowers💜

[@missbrooke666]

*affection 😛 Love your work Mark 😘

[@Markrosenfeld]

🤭

[@missbrooke666]

Mark Rosenfeld Hehe sorry, grammar nazi, but you’re cute so I’ll let it go 😉

[@smiswilson]

Effection: "creation; a doing" Think this fits well.

[@izabelazielak8963]

Thanks…persistence defines a persistent relationship 😝

[@anniescott5816]

If this is your garden at home it’s beautiful 😍 How are you doing in this weird time?!

[@Ori-]

Your videos are GOLD, thank you 😍 I know finding the right man requires patience, but I do also know that being with the wrong man just because you are not comfortable being single is suuuch a waste of time. Believe in true love, profond, deep relationship, beautiful connexion... It does exist and it is so unique and precious, really this is the only type of relation which is worth it. Thank you to remind us our value Mark.

[@Markrosenfeld]

My pleasure, Ori K! Glad you liked my content. Thanks for watching and leaving a nice comment!😊

[@adkh5826]

Beautifully worded

[@cattheveganartist]

I strongly disagree with the sex aspect - at least for when one, or both, is asexual. I’m in my late 30s, a virgin, asexual, and in a deeply loving and fulfilling relationship with a wonderful man. The absence of sex has been one of the causes of past relationship endings, yes. BUT not all 7 of them. I’m open about my Asexuality before any relationship gets deep. If your partner truly loves you they will also respect your boundaries, and find other ways of finding fulfilment and physical intimacy. I feel it should also be pointed out that polyamorous relationships can also be deeply romantic, fulfilling, and work long term. Communication and mutual respect are key.

[@cattheveganartist]

Eris my boyfriend is very much sexual. So I was not referring to only asexual couples. A relationship between a sexual and an asexual can work without the need for sex.

[@dianeat_the_beach3741]

I swear this should be called the 7 Commandments of Great qualities!!! I think this may solve all my dating problems, lol. Thanks again Mark, you rock!

[@Markrosenfeld]

Awww you're making my day, Diane! You're the best! 🙏🙏🙏

[@rachellefarrell1315]

Awesome again. Mark what a wonderful gift you have . 🙂

[@thesoulonquest]

Your content is quite high quality and based on deeper knowledge and understanding of human psychology. Keep up the good work.

[@Markrosenfeld]

That's a beautiful comment, Priya. Thanks so much! 🙏

[@butterfly4537]

4 and 7 are totally messed up in my relationship

[@deborahcallene4731]

Wow, Mark! You really know how to boil it down!

[@janeadams647]

Great advice

[@martaelijah2099]

Thanks for posting this last video Mark. It is by far one of the best!! Especially #7 - many people including me over and over have excused others forgetting how they treat us at their worst, this is definitely the qualifier!!

[@Markrosenfeld]

I agree, Marta Elijah. Glad you liked it, thanks so much! And thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@amberzable5608]

So good thank you

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks, Amber Burnett!

[@cocohitchman3209]

Most decent dating advice video so far during the Lockdown

[@Markrosenfeld]

That's an absolutely beautiful comment, Coco Hitchman! Thanks so much!

[@tooambitious6774]

I love your videos mark 🥰🥰🥰

[@Markrosenfeld]

Yaay! Great to know that, Honorable Destiny Skits. Thanks so much! x

[@jacklynwilliams7499]

Hi Mark! I thank you for the good advice.

[@EvolvingwithBrooke]

Yessss I love these tips ❤️❤️❤️

[@Markrosenfeld]

Glad you loved them, BrooklynMegan Tv. Thanks!

[@janetlevy3512]

Excellent. So wise. I love this!!

[@Markrosenfeld]

That's so lovely of you to say, Janet Levy! Thanks so much! Great to have you on here.

[@darleneparker3352]

Hi Mark and to all. I am from Tennessee, USA. Love your accent, and the background is amazingly beautiful. This is only my 2nd time commenting on community groups, so please let me know if I screw something up or offend anyone. I am 55 yrs old and must say you are a very wise and blessed young man. I've only been watching dating, relationship advice etc. for couple of weeks. Felt led to let you know this was by far the greatest advice I've heard yet. I am proud and excited to get my SELF esteem back, along with knowledge of "not just settling". This has been such a life changing experience already. Now I know I can enjoy dating again and am entering into my second half of life with alot more wisdom and happiness with myself first. Ty for your time and sharing this video. Be safe and God bless.

[@Markrosenfeld]

What a beautiful comment, Darlene Parker! Read it twice because it was so lovely, thanks so much! Saving this in my "Favorite Comments" folder. 😊

[@shantilove3768]

Great video Mark 👌

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks, Surrounded By Angels!

[@Emily-us4gq]

What about when a guy is impossible to discuss issues in the relationship with? And it's like talking to an actual brick wall?

[@Ohkeh640]

Leave him it’s not a healthy exchange and he doesn’t care for your needs. Leave with no words! Run

[@nofybn7794]

dump him.

[@sarahkercheval8964]

Get out. My ex was like that. Great on paper. Crap irl bcs he refused to talk about anything even the smallest things. The best day of my life was when he left 😂 it just went from being barely bearable to hell on earth.

[@rahmaniffat5693]

Hi there, good topic, thanks for sharing. love the color of your shirt and the garden.

[@Markrosenfeld]

Heya Rahman Iffat! Glad you liked the content... and the color of my shirt. 😂 Thanks!

[@christinejones5073]

Awesome advice, thank you

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks, Christine Jones! Glad you liked it.

[@tyraresilient2812]

Amazing, great points.

[@Markrosenfeld]

Hey hey Tyra Hunter! Really appreciate the ongoing support. Thanks so much! x

[@tyraresilient2812]

@@Markrosenfeld you are welcome

[@lucianadosanjos4070]

Amazing video!!!!

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks, Luciana dos Anjos! 😊

[@evelinehaanstra9069]

Well said. Same standards for women...

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks, Eveline Haanstra!

[@celineawad3946]

Men don't chase. They want women to chase them or make the first move. I don't know if it is confidence issues, or just immaturity.

[@beachmountain3828]

What an amazing video Mark!! 🌟🙏

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks for watching and writing in, Beachmountain!

[@sabaarfaee]

Woow that was awesome, thanks ❤️

[@Markrosenfeld]

Happy to help, Saba Arfaee. Thanks so much! x

[@evelinehaanstra9069]

What is EEEEEffection? 🤔😉😲😁...

[@bellejolie2506]

lol "affection"

[@Markrosenfeld]

Matty's fingers must have slipped.. 😄

[@TheLoudseed]

#7 is so key! Thank you! As Chris Rock says, you always send out your representative at first in dating.

[@Markrosenfeld]

Hahhaha thanks for watching, J. Miller!

[@sheematran6420]

Another awesome video! Thank you 😊

[@Markrosenfeld]

Aww thanks so much, Sheema Tran! So glad you're on the channel! 😊

[@vickie3129229]

Wow, I loved this.... ❤

[@Markrosenfeld]

Hey Vicky, glad you do. Thanks so much for watching! x

[@Izycaspel]

Thanks for sharing this! Have a great day😘

[@Markrosenfeld]

My pleasure, Izy Lacambra! Thanks for watching and have a great day yourself! 😊

[@jacquelinevelez1982]

Thank you Mark, great points!!

[@Markrosenfeld]

My pleasure, jacqueline velez!

[@leahjanjezcustodio8154]

Hi Mark!happy weekend everyone ....I love watching your channel 👍❤️

[@Markrosenfeld]

Awww thanks, leahjanjez custodio! Great to have you on the channel. x

[@kristinek5730]

i love these videos mark 😊

[@Markrosenfeld]

Awesome to hear that, Kristine K. Thanks! 😊

[@PMD90]

Best video I have ever seen on relationships. You are the best thank you

[@Markrosenfeld]

Aww thanks for the supportive comment there, PMD90! It's much appreciated. 😊

[@maddiesvlogs6680]

Thank u so much Mark🥰

[@Markrosenfeld]

You're welcome, Madam Maddietot! x

[@roxanekeeley-monet9352]

"The tick box stuff is just wierd" 😆🙃😆💕🌈 thanks Mark your content is cracking 👌 much love from the UK 💕

[@Markrosenfeld]

That means a lot, Roxane. Thanks so much for watching and leaving a lovely comment! 🙏

[@susanbates9649]

Give and take , partnership

[@LIDYAEIL]

This is gold, platinum, truth❤️Thanks for clarifying this for us Mark

[@Markrosenfeld]

That's so lovely of you to say, Lidyaeil! Thanks so much! x

[@LIDYAEIL]

@@Markrosenfeld Not at all! Cant thank you enough! ❤

[@adrianamar8831]

king and queen. thank you for this video.

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks for watching and writing in, Adriana Marrero!

[@odalisr4258]

This is very helpful and profound. Thank you so much, Mark!

[@Markrosenfeld]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for tuning in Odalis! Have a wonderful day/night where ever you are in the world!

[@aliciac2851]

Informative. Useful. Brilliant. Thanks as ever, Mark :)

[@Markrosenfeld]

Happy to help, Alicia C. Thanks for the comment! 😊

[@margaritacarmona-carriedo7503]

I love the Number One 💫💃🏼🕺🏼💫 I think is the most important because form this one the rest are born 💖

[@kameliajaber58]

Thank you so much.... What a great video

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks for watching and leaving a comment, Kamelia Jaber!

[@pamelalopez3800]

Nice flower among the greens🙃🙂🌷

[@sayehkashani8993]

super amazing qualities but I think not so easy to apply all of them, both for men or women !

[@sunshinedayz7032]

Great video! Thank you!! 🤗🤩😊

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks so much, Elegant Nature! 😊

[@jendaisy3906]

Hi mark I really enjoy all of your videos, plus going back to around December last year or January this year i brought your book, but didn't really start reading it alot till this quarantine started, it is so great and wish really I brought it years ago but it's really helping me in many ways, making me feel really confident as well, so i know that when this quarantine is over I will go get the man of my dreams thank you mark 👍🙂

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks soooo much for purchasing the book, Jen Daisy! Really glad you liked the videos and the book! 😊

[@AllasMusicChannel]

These are truly great. Thank you, Mark! 😃

[@jmdoromal1288]

No. 7 is very applicable to everyone to build good relationships even in friendship even to ourselves I truly believe in that.

[@Markrosenfeld]

Glad you liked it, JMD LXVII. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@jmdoromal1288]

@@Markrosenfeld I see your channel as intrapersonal checking though not just dating thank you for the help 🤔✨

[@ebrucaglayan9095]

Thank you for the amazing video, Mark! By the way, you have such a gorgeous smile! 💁‍♀️💘

[@Markrosenfeld]

My pleasure, Ebru Çağlayan! Glad you liked the video! Thanks so much for the compliment! 😊

[@catherinejohnston2038]

Love this, perfect and I totally agree. I think it’s the same for women....I’m working on some of these!! Thanks Mark 😘

[@Markrosenfeld]

You're so welcome!

[@Thebeastbear3]

Mark- thank you 🤗🙌🏼

[@Markrosenfeld]

My pleasure, Ellen Wilde. Thanks for watching!

[@fiftyshadesofgrey1991]

Great video, thank you so much)

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks, Victoria! x

[@naseemakhter5586]

Thanks for sharing 🙏

[@Markrosenfeld]

You're welcome, Naseem! 🙂

[@Chi9ja]

#4 = INTERGRITY

[@rebeccahuang5068]

It's spelled INTEGRITY

[@na0228]

#5- when I'm told that I need to leave him alone I get offended and take it way too personal than I should, I feel like he might go see other girls (I've been in a toxic relationship for a long time before) How do I deal with that?

[@saraabdifara2570]

Thank you I love It Thank you ❤🙏🏾

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks, Sara abdi fara! 😊

[@supermama8674]

7. LA PERSONA NO TIENE QUE CAMBIAR EN LOS MALOS MOMENTOS, MOSTRAR TODO EL COBRE QUE TIENE NO LE SIRVE DE NADA, PORQUE ESO NO CAMBIA LAS COSAS, SOLO HIERES A PERSONAS QUE TAL VEZ NO AMES TU, PERO QUE SI TE AMAN A TI, PORQUE CUANDO DE VERDAD AMAS, NO SERAS CAPAS DE HERIR POR MUY DIFICIL QUE SEA LA CITUACION, MUCHAS PERSONAS UTILIZAN COMO UNA EXCUSA ESO PARA ARROJAR, LA MAYOR CANTIDAD DE AGRECION BERVAL O FISICA POSIBLE,

[@hellofromtheotherside22]

hey mark i’m so into your videos i don’t know how much i have watched they’re the best . my question is how high profile men especially in the entertainment industry (singers and actors) look at their “fans” from a point of state of attraction my experience was not so positive I saw in few of them that deep need for their fans to cry for them to get their attention “they like crazy fans” and to be quite honest I don’t feel like an elite compared to their status I feel like they’re up there unreachable mega stars. personally I dont think we’re all equal in that regard but I do believe in me and my intrinsic values..I like to hear your point of view. thank you

[@Thistooshallpass2]

Danm it why did I watch this .. just realized the man I talking to now has all of these and now Im afraid of loosing such a awesome guy 😞

[@LaGataSolar]

Sex and a strong mental connection is key for me. If any of those two are off it just won’t work for me personally.. I know some women don’t care much about sex but I do lol

[@Markrosenfeld]

Right, fleur d lotto. I think most women care about it too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! 😊

[@nooshjai76]

👏👏👏 Same for women….

[@mohanchandra9001]

Thank you ❤

[@Markrosenfeld]

You're welcome, Mohan! x

[@polyxenikoutla134]

Very mature ....!!

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks, Polyxeni Koutla!

[@JustSomePerson8]

Can you give advice for men trying to get women? I feel lost

[@tracysilk1904]

You are gorgeous ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Markrosenfeld]

Thanks for the compliment, Tracy Silk. Hope you enjoyed the video! x

[@tracysilk1904]

Mark Rosenfeld You are the best on KZbin. I think you are amazing xxx

[@brittneyc5779]

Where is the extended video on this? I can't find it

[@jojohnston6473]

Great video. But I'd be hard strapped to find a guy with all or most of these traits. Guys these days are emotionally unavailable and ignorant

[@zensvlognotapro]

rebelliousness😊 Great background again..I like moving background. Everything you said make sense to me. ✋ Pls. kindly tell Mat Shaffer , hope he's well , I know you are friends. Be well also MRosenfeld.🙏💖 Wish your book to become a best seller relationship book.✋💖 Ps. I like your polo shirt matches with the flowers.😊

[@Thenoobestgirl]

The word you were looking for for #5 is Integrity

[@simranjitkaur2512]

Hi Mark. I am in a long distance relationship. My boyfriends best friend commented suicide. He’s now pushing me away. We’ve been together for about 1.5 months. I know that’s not a lot but we had a great connection and know he’s worth it. I know he needs space because he does not like talking about it at all. It’s almost like he’s turned into a a different person and is not emotionally available. I need help with how I should deal with this situation. I want to help him and be there for him but I don’t know how to since we don’t even live in the same state. He still texts me and I still check up on him. Some days he seems all good but other days he’s not even going out of his house. This has been going on for about a month since he found out about his friends death. Please give me your perspective on this situation.

[@sarahkercheval8964]

He needs therapy asap. Try group therapy online bcs it’s easier to just be a part of and not be forced to talk

[@sharmainescott7271]

Do what you say, say what you mean.

[@LourdesSLobos]

You're so gorgeous 😍

[@axelashu]

Hi Mark, maybe you can help me with a typical problem I am having. The first interaction is great. The guys say 'it's the best / most interesting' etc. Then they start to push for more in the 2nd interaction itself! One guy even proposed marriage! So when I request for slowing it down, they argue and then disappear or get angry.. what could I do differently? This has happened with the 4th man in the last month. PS - I am learning to be in my feminine and also setting boundaries, I can do each one independently, but to do them at the same time, i am not able to.

[@sarahkercheval8964]

I feel like this is normal. I’ve been proposed to so many times I lost count 😅 Also, bcs of social media and movies etc, guys have a very unhealthy view of how a romantic relationship should play out and it’s like if you don’t jump right in headfirst they get mad or so sad that they jsut give up.

[@jray5526]

Love ya mark...great advice. If you find him let me know🤣😋🤣🤣im kidding this really helps...😍 ps YOUR our UK coach to 😂😂😊

[@jray5526]

@@alexanderbranden8538 sure how u finding the advice

[@Markrosenfeld]

Hahahah thanks for watching and the ongoing support, Jasmine ray! 😊

[@rohinidhage8224]

Imagine a guy who has all this.... Just imagine 🤣 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . There might be guys like these but I haven't met any...

[@banzand]

Affection not EFFECTION! There’s no such word in fact!

[@Halarabah85]

I cannot find the book on audible ☹️

[@Markrosenfeld]

Heya Lulu, have you tried this link: www.amazon.com/Make-Him-Yours-Beating-Modern/dp/B08YS8YD5G/ref=tmm_aud_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=?

[@lillyshield6187]

When you don't even have the time to see if he has these qualities since you never get asked on a second date 😪😂

[@everythinglife9729]

Yaayyy...I’m the first to comment 💃🏾

[@Markrosenfeld]

Nice work, Salamatu Yakubu. Thanks so much!x