7 Tactics of Brainwashing Abusers

Brainwashing is a form of emotional abuse that washes the victim "clean" of any healthy, independent thinking. In part one of this mini-series, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini walks you through 7 common tactics an abuser may use to try to control you. In the second episode, she'll show you how to escape a brainwashing abuser and explain why so many victims stay victims.
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[@rebekatalebi8046]

Surrounded by narcissists and sociopaths in a lifetime battle.

[@karenb5274]

I'm so sorry. Awareness is the first step of learning to escape and rebuild. Also a positive reprogramming can be helpful. Kelly Howell has some wonderful, positive subliminal tracks that I found very helpful in starting my journey. They are free on KZbin, maybe give that or some other sublimnal/positive messages a try.

[@cakedoll575]

@@karenb5274 this is hard when i know with one of my children someone is treating them like this.

[@unakiterose4183]

Love and light ♡

[@brendanmichel5215]

Yes me too. Beware of technology, it's the ones you don't see...

[@jakeornot6306]

@@karenb5274 "Subliminal" tracks? If they worked, I would be able to speak at least three other languages by now, have grown three more inches, and be rich. This is useless, dangerous dreg.

[@allsystemsdownagain9553]

My wife took my salary off me for years but when I stood up and asked her for hers she exploded into a rage. The control she had over me was unreal. I only realised once I'd let go what a prisoner I was.

[@kaalmansur]

Richard Cooper. The Unplugged Alpha.

[@llibressal]

Sounds like the entire mass social relationship of the US for the last 5 years complete with the gaslighting, intense emotional stresses, physical isolation, etc.

[@89ksokd91]

100% correct and pisses me off nobody talks about this!

[@cosmicallis7936]

@@89ksokd91 people try but they are censored..🤐🤐🤐 more people are waking up now and they can't silence them all... This can only go on for so long. I have a feeling that shitt is going to get really real here soon....😳😳😬😬

[@theprussian4616]

Yeah. Still does. There is a reason I don't watch the news.

[@darenmiller3933]

@@theprussian4616 me neither. The news here is nothing but being a salesman in the fear department.

[@brendahines4158]

It is my pleasure to be recovering.

[@allenquartermane6134]

You have described my ex wife to a tee! I tried for 17 years to make the marriage work , and when she said she wanted a divorce I finally said ok! Then she recanted but I didn't ! And I gave her what she wanted and now am leading a happy life free from her chains on my life!

[@theja_m]

It's not easy for the victim to get out of this toxic relationship despite being aware of it's toxicity. I'm a victim myself.

[@kenyablack6805]

Me to I got involved on a social network mocospace been on it 8 years w no issue but started talking to master no in mnm crew n next his wife then the love bonding as in were family n all .I love mocospace but I'm trying to get away from this group .his wife calls me girl and about a week after I 🌟 started talking to them I started having brain fogginess n having dreams about them n other stuff to

[@katichabenavides8327]

@@kenyablack6805 be careful sometimes some groups do witchcraft. Pray to the Lord, read the book of psalms.

[@dragica124]

@@katichabenavides8327 another brainwashing :)

[@89ksokd91]

Impossible if d.i.d. or mk ultra victim and no safe support system was ever in the picture.

[@01mustang05]

Re: top comment... Basically everyone becomes is a victim in childhood no less, but the majority becomes abusers that are delusional and narcissistic to the harms they perpetuate. Nobody knows how to stop talking in manners that can be labeled as brainwashing, because we're that messed up. I'm just speaking the ugly truth and I don't know how to fix it right now, just like everyone else.

[@mistykemp8977]

THANK YOU! I truly needed to hear this. I thought I was losing my mind. I am so broken and this gives me a little hope.

[@silversurfer4441]

It breaks my heart to hear that. But you should know it goes both ways. I lived with a woman who was making me believe I was losing my mind and was worthless despite what I thought were some stellar accomplishments. But I have always been strong and she bit off more than she could chew. I had to leave and I did. Nothing is better than being with the right person, but being alone is far better than being with the wrong person. I wish you better luck in the future but like MJ says, change your reaction, change your world.

[@abi.kelias402]

Mee too

[@michaelpowers3045]

I worked for people who tried to do this to me…..I was mad at myself for letting people do this to me. They tried to beat me down. I would never treat anyone like that for any reason.

[@miguelchippsinteligente6072]

Corinthians 2,3:6=Jesus christ referenced living waters 💎👨‍✈️👩‍✈️science described water memory 🌊🎭💎Tesla referenced human energy 👻psalms16:24kj proverbs27:19existence psychologically spiritually god bless importance is of Jesus christ 🤍🗽💎👨‍✈️💖👻💎👩‍✈️💖👻💎🛶🌬🌪🎭

[@savannahmonee388]

Me too !!! I've been abused by my child's father for a year & half

[@ashandwit]

I knew ISOLATION would be the first, and biggest, hook. My ex attempted to isolate me, and since I worked 3rd shift, it was not terribly hard to do so.

[@ashandwit]

MONOPOLIZATION of attention! YES. Tactic number two, for sure.

[@ashandwit]

Ultimatums, by the DOZEN. LOL. Created drama, and would end it by an ultimatum that I simply ignored.

[@89ksokd91]

For many people, isolating them isn't hard to do.

[@21nickyboy]

this is so scary bc of how on point it is. Makes me think like every abusive person (especially emotionally abusive people imo) all follows the same handbook or something. wow.

[@alfredajohnson5587]

Thank you for your points of identifying a psychopath.

[@MaryJoRapini]

Alfreda, in the true sense as a licensed psychotherapist I see the word "Psychopath" used loosely. It's become a problem in my practice esp. in instances such as this. Brainwashers aren't necessarily psychopaths. They are more likened to emotional abusers....any type of abuse is mental illness. I want viewers to understand abuse is a mental illness and you have to leave them, they don't improve with time or snap out of it. Abuse abuses no matter who or where it is. Thank you for your comment and identifying an important message.

[@alfredajohnson5587]

Thank you, as a student of psychology and a volunteer within a women's center your points stand out and I am grateful for your insight.

[@MaryJoRapini]

@@alfredajohnson5587 Let me help in any way I can. I have homework on my website as well...there is one you can download for free and perhaps women in the shelter could gather insight and feel more confident if they completed them. Just a thought. Thank you, MJo

[@selfelements8037]

The video was spot on, and it describes my father with excruciating accuracy lol. But that ain't describing traits of psychopathy yet, more on the narcissistic-sociopathic spectrum disorder.

[@selfelements8037]

You wanna know what's really f u c k e d u p psychopathically sick? Read about Organized Stalking (aka Gangstalking), a form of t e r r o r i s m against regular citizens where you pit society against itself, making your own neighborhood the real battlefield. It's basically a mind control program, using well documented techniques such as Gaslighting, NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming), Hypnosis, etc. Psychological Operations has once been used by Nazi Germans and the Soviet Union as a means of social oppression in order to reduce resistance, and it's still being used and financed by democratic governments, currently targeting hundreds of thousands of innocents worldwide. They infiltrate and corrupt police authorities and the medical establishment, especially psychiatrists giving false diagnosis of mental illness to victims who seek help against this covert crime. To have a single narcissistic/sociopathic individual manipulating, stalking and gaslighting you is one thing, but to have even the police authority, that was supposed to protect you, manipulating everyone to engange in stalking you and harassing you is a completely different thing. Research "Gangstalking".

[@ravenshirwood5201]

My boyfriend’s mother did this to me. My family has struggled with a long time for mental health, and I had a lapse when I was very young that caused my mental health to then quickly deteriorate. The relationships between me, my mother, and my father were constantly shifting, but always distant and strained, and it caused a lot of hardship and dysfunction in my home. When I started dating my boyfriend, I was instantly welcomed by his family. I was really kind of hesitant at first, especially when his parents were saying things like, “You’re already family, we can give you rides from school,” and other things like that a few weeks into our relationship. They also shared really personal, touching stories about their lives with me, and I sympathized a lot with them. After a time, his mom became very attached to me, and started projecting her own childhood strife onto me. She convinced me my mother was gossiping about me behind my back, that her parenting style was unhealthy and reductive, that I deserved better because of my autism, that I should go to a different school, have better friends... She started to insert herself as my mom, buying me clothes, shoes, gifts... She was also the woman who introduced me to pot. The only reason I got out from under her was because I smoked way too much Kratum, a drug similar to marijuana but with drastically different effects on me. I ended up hospitalized, and I broke it off with my boyfriend last December. She caused a lot of complications with how I viewed myself, the world around me, my habits, and my parents, but thankfully I’m starting to recover and heal past the trauma she caused me. These people say they act with the best of intentions, and maybe they genuinely want to, but just steer clear. It’s a personality type, and they will _always_ try to mold your life to fit their ideal vision of what it should be. It’s not healthy.

[@MaryJoRapini]

Raven, thank you for being brave enough to share your story. It is a learning lesson for all of us. I am glad you were able to get out and save yourself.

[@89ksokd91]

Predators. And they shouldn't be classified as having personality disorders when it's their psyche and character that's a problem..a predatory psyche who will never change. And society doesn't want us to think so may human predators exist everywhere so they lie. Call them sick..say very few exist...etc..

[@foxyyoutube534]

Yeah, toxic relationships aren't good. I've had no support for 8 years with my mental health. That's not the point but keep working on yours, keep strong and you will find yourself living a happy long life. Tbh I kinda wish I had someone like that controlling mother to help support me, even if they were the way you described them to be.

[@shawandadixon3938]

Where the hell was this before I got married! Thank God for divorce! Thank God for knowledge and wisdom.

[@reste9283]

Amen

[@kwick2204]

This is so enlightening you just told my story and all the people I've encountered this is very informative and healing to my soul.

[@darlinbpeaceful2731]

Omg you are so RIGHT ON POINT with these ABUSE FACTS!! Thank you for this VIDEO!

[@12thhousegem12]

I am 100 percent convince one of my good friends was brainwashed by her boyfriend. It has been going on for 3 years now and as a friend I just don't know what to do. I try to encourage her and let her know she was amazing before she met him... I feel like I haven't seen my actual friend since she's met him...He has completely hijacked her sense of self.

[@89ksokd91]

She needed to be rescued and deprogrammed and showed this info and more. I AM this girl but with no friends who cared. I had to figure it out myself. Be the friend that doesn't let another friend get killed, these situations often lead to murder.

[@hannagille7418]

Thank you so much for this clear explaination. I'm writing a novel on this and wanted some insights, you really helped.

[@smorisch]

My kids' father did many of these things to me. It's a crazy way to live but you can get out. You just have to want to.

[@89ksokd91]

Not true. Not everyone can get out. That is your experience. Many people are murdered or suicided. Help for this doesn't exist for most people.

[@YamCherie]

This is a very educational video it doesnt just gloss over the top of the subject matter, but helps you connect to real world examples of brainwashing.

[@perfectallusion6757]

Exactly . Letting go , forgiveness is the cure .

[@mindyourspirituality570]

I feel like I’ve been brain washed my whole life and saw how in 2020, I have had a fake life my whole life with my friends helping, they literally sent men with instructions. They are trying to make me schizophrenic like my aunts as payback for problems stemming from our elders. Fake life, fake friend, and the world is helping

[@89ksokd91]

Relate.

[@brendahines4158]

It’s so sad. Happened to me, now my son.

[@MaryJoRapini]

Brenda, I'm just glad you both became aware and got out to safety. Thank you for subscribing to my channel and spreading the word.

[@loladedelano7481]

Brenda Hines so sorry to hear that. God loves you!

[@lc4life369]

This happened to me and I left. Now it's happening to my child in the sickest way and I can't get help and when I do he takes it out on my child so I'm soooooooo afraid to even get help. He also tried to turn the enitre thing around on me acting like I did all this phycological abuse to my child. He told my child I did drugs before he was born and that it effected his brain and he doesn't know the difference between reality and dreaming. So my child (7years old) believes he has dreamed up all these things his dad did and it's all my fault for doing drugs before he was born. It's so sick.

[@nicoladouglas3270]

Get your son AWAY!!!!! My son died!!!! It's too late!!!! I was too late!!!

[@Why_Knott_Me]

This is excellent information for my book. Thank you for giving clear information to your audience ❤

[@campbelljohn]

OMG,you nearly brought me too tears,you just described every tactic that was used on me in my brainwashing /gaslighting.its like you were there describing every action as it played out in my life . so do they have to be educated to learn this stuff?its pure evil.

[@requesttalents2337]

Im not sure but keep your head up god bless you girl many good things will happen in your life x

[@89ksokd91]

It's the way their minds work, but many are taught or do educate on the tactics. Groups do it and people with like minds mimic it.

[@swearudont8669]

Sounds exactly like the state agencies like police and media matters and I am sure that the government is the guilty party in all of this crazy world.

[@89ksokd91]

Bingo.

[@brendahines4158]

Watching again.God bless you.

[@MaryJoRapini]

So glad this is helping you, Brenda. There will soon be a homework assignment to match this video...which I think will help you as well as so many others.

[@darlinbpeaceful2731]

Everything you spoke on is what I've been going THROUGH for over 6 years NOW!!

[@MaryJoRapini]

I am so sorry.....don't give up, you can overcome this!

[@kenyablack6805]

I'm going through this I knew the signs but never saw it coming

[@kal4138]

cant wait to try these out, thanks!

[@anddob5408]

Everything is so true what you said. Thank you.

[@miolana3777]

Thank you. This was very helpful toward healing.

[@cassandraruiz7408]

This video was a eye opener. I knew it!!!!!

[@jessicashoneyuque6320]

Same

[@mariangeles8788]

Excellent video!

[@claudinathaler6404]

Good information!

[@tonymurray8671]

Fantastic ! I have been looking for a such a informative video, please help me my two Son's are brainwashed by their psychopath narcissist mother...they are like prisoners, they have no friends and spend all their time at home with the mother.

[@23comoto]

Great video! Thank you!

[@jamiewilliams8107]

I recently had to let go off a friend as she was trying to fuck with my head regarding covid rules and wording spiritual influencer,I feel so free and lighter.

[@ewapiotrowska6896]

Great video. Thank you

[@truthinamericatrappeddeeps3402]

I love when they know their minions have gaslighted and falsely accused you if something then says are you happy always after an incident. Happens all the time here.

[@dm5129]

Abuse techniques have changed. What used to happen within relationships complete strangers now use to abuse people they do not know. Point in case. This crazy stalking gang, none of which I have private contact with abuses me the same way as if relationships exist.

[@89ksokd91]

True.

[@shashankkulkarni993]

I feel very happy when unkown or known / close or distance people FAILED to brainwashed me.. feeling #strong #happy #feelingnice #ingnoreunwantedgedache #keepdistance 😊😊😊

[@lifestylebyrachel]

Great video❤

[@edenbenson3782]

Thank you so much

[@checoschmidt82]

Wish I had known this 10 years ago, even before I got married....

[@owlnyc666]

1. Isolation 2. Monopoliztionof Perception 3. Occasional Indulgences Love Bombing

[@donnellquaker5959]

This my mother. This is so sad she's been this way all my life now that I think about it. The older I get the more I realize. it's just terrible

[@1288samson]

You've just described the US postal service 100%, thought I could endure it for a few years then get out. I'm going to try and find a therapist again but company insurance plans are NOT helpful in this area. Justified paranoia?

[@selfelements8037]

What happened?

[@inkey2]

I would like to know what happened too.......really

[@katichabenavides8327]

Oh my God I was just trying to apply to US postal service now I am scared. Could you at least tell me the city that you have bad experience to be more aware. Thanks

[@fasilatsanusi7431]

The life isn't just predictable and may sometimes blur and confusing may God help us to overcome it challenges

[@Freedom53807]

thank you !!!

[@36245634]

Thank you

[@lisastewart3041]

My X took my babies for to years...My babies came back ICE COLD...LIKE IM A STRANGER😔

[@tedschmitt178]

My ex wife of 31 years used EVERY…SINGLE…ONE of these on me, over, and over, and over. Now she is using these on our only (now adult) kid.

[@GordonPavilion]

20 years of marriage… same here.

[@89ksokd91]

Get your kid narc abuse and coercive control help NOW. I AM THAT KID. help him now before it's too late.

[@amieaustin9579]

What about when it's your parents?

[@MaryJoRapini]

Emmie, that does indeed happen and in that case your parent (s) are abusive. You should relate with them using caution. Don't ever put yourself in harm's way. If you visit them (I hope you don't live there anymore) make sure you have another place to spend the night and come and go on your terms. Its' wise if you can take someone else with you when you're in their presence. This happens, and parents who act this way often are in denial and will say they're just trying to keep their child safe, in truth, they are trying to control their child and often times leave their child feeling guilty, anxious, ashamed and sad. I hope you have a professional mental health worker you can work with. Thank you for your comment.

[@amieaustin9579]

@@MaryJoRapini I wish I could say that I don't live with them. They tell me and my sisters that we've got life so good and have nothing to be upset about but physical and emotional abuse and neglect is a daily occurrence. I don't know what to do. My dad has threatened to kick me out many times before and he doesn't believe in mental disorders so he won't let me get professional help. My parents tell us that we're not special and compare us to our older siblings and tell us our lives aren't about us and it's about making them happy until we're 18 and they kick us out. I feel so lost because there's no way out and they homeschool me to keep me from having friends so that I have no where to go. I just want out of this but I don't know if there's anything I can do besides my last resort: record them abusing us and show child protective services. I just want out

[@MaryJoRapini]

Emmie, you need to find an adult you can talk to. I am suggesting your family doctor, a good friend's mom, an aunt or someone you think is safe. Tell them what you told me and tell them you want to work with a mental health professional. It can be a minister too, or teacher you like and trust?

[@amieaustin9579]

@@MaryJoRapini thank you so so much for your help! I'm currently on my way to talk to a friend and her mom about getting help and maybe staying with them until the end of summer. Thank you!

[@MaryJoRapini]

You are so strong, Emmie. I am proud of you....your friends' mom will help you....I've helped my daughters friends when they need someone to listen, understand and help them.

[@freddestefano46]

That video makes sense. I am a Catholic, and I try to practice the 12 steps. My family members, don't understand me, and neither does my so-called employer. I get it, demons, and hypnotist's. Bless you, Fred in Montclair, ca.

[@foylad4862]

This makes sense, my abuser is the government

[@user-mf7ll4nm4n]

I have experienced all of these behaviours of abuse. This is so true and I am a hetro male It happens to all of us .My advice is be careful around volunteer organisations,recovery groups etc as well meaning as they might be there are predators both male and female .Be careful my friends.

[@mikael6817]

I pray for all you. 💞💞

[@WinnieBruiser]

After being raised by someone like this, this video has made me realize I’ve now done a lot of these things to my husband. He has a strong sense of self and ignores a lot of this, but hearing it yeah I do a lot of these things. I feel terrible. I really don’t mean to but I was an only child and isolated myself. This is all I know. Ugh. I’m so overwhelmed. I feel so stuck in this mess my mom made. I just want to be me. It’s like she’s overriding who I’m meant to be.

[@davidtichborne2912]

My parents brain washed me into thinking that they did everything right and that they did no wrong and they also brain washed alot of other people into thinking they did no wrong and also brain washed me into thinking that even if I knew they were doing something wrong that there was nothing I could do about it my parents are like that

[@richardbell466]

yes i think it's because they have been taught that being older gives them privileges over younger people. How ridiculous!!!

[@jzk2020]

I'm dealing with this shit, but the vile animal is inside my head - it lives 2000+ miles away (used to be my vile neighbor) but I moved away, and that animal is still sending its thoughts to me, and I can't even go get help because I'd be labelled as schizophrenic.

[@89ksokd91]

Mind control programming and the trauma it's created. Stay away from psych they will harm you, your instincts are correct.

[@Healitnow]

100% accurate! Could not find the followup. Any one have the video link?

[@ahill7909]

Your a genius!

[@juliealbrightmoon]

John Guilino did all these things to me.

[@katichabenavides8327]

WoW, gracias. I wish I have seen this many years. God bless you professionally to help people. I think a good way to leave everything behind is to listen to motivational speakers like Joel Osteen.

[@89ksokd91]

Ummm no. Joel Osteen is a cult leader sociopath, the very kind of person who does this.

[@major600]

The term "gaslighting" comes from the play, and then movie, "Gaslight" in which a husband tries to drive his wife insane. The movie starred Ingrid Bergman and Charles Boyer.

[@lovely-eh1bc]

Thanks 😊

[@MaryJoRapini]

You are welcome!

[@lovely-eh1bc]

@@MaryJoRapini you have very powerful voice

[@LouiesLog]

My parents have been doing this to me most of my life. The therapist I saw then started doing the same things to me, I don't know if he was doing it on perpouse to test me or something.

[@89ksokd91]

Happened to me too all of society as done this to me. Ritual abuse victim brainwashed and destroyed by religion and psych, preyed on by nearly everyone since I was a child. No mercy anywhere and nobody believes me.

[@braintouse]

Exelent video 📹

[@tidodickson2096]

I wish I had seen this sooner. I think it's too late for me to help my friend. The brainwasher isolated him from me and now all I can do is hope that he's ok.

[@89ksokd91]

No he needed to be rescued. People die and get destroyed in these situations. Hope does nothing it appease the fear and guilt of people who stand by and do NOTHING. IS HE OK???

[@jasmineadams1597]

It’s sad . I’ve experienced this

[@MaryJoRapini]

Yes it is sad, but what's awesome is the experience taught you the warning signs and you aren't there now. I am really proud of you, Jasmine. Sounds like you are a survivor!

[@aliyahp9969]

God be with us 😢

[@purplepaws9273]

Good video and happeneing to my Mom,Because of Covid my Aunt started doing this to my Mom, My Mom started standing up tp her but now has submitted to my Aunt and her family members, shes under her complete control. Even now denying some very abusive things she told me my Aunt did. My Aunt keeps her on the phone late at night - 5 hour phone calls. exhausting her, finding out personal information.. My Mom keeps defending her when I say anything. I'm afraid it's all going to make my Mom very sick.

[@sssttt2211]

by your description, my own mother was abuser and brainwasher, that trained me to attract other abusers when I was away for work...now I can be more 8n my body and sense when danger is around than before...I can clearly see tactics being used . that helps me to escape before it's late. When you recognise abuser in your life, mind wants to have no relation with such person and abuse them back with same tactic.... but I have decided not to resort to such lowly in humanity... how can someone call herself mother when only one has is negative feelings for a child. child didn't ask to take birth and be treated like a burden and unwanted....I try to keep as much distance and refuse to help her at all... once she knows now that I am not compliant to her, her influence has started reducing a lot... I don't give her even small satisfaction of compliance from my side... refusing no matter what she is asking is best strategy. completely ignoring and showing total indifference is yet to reach...

[@user-le9ej2nh5i]

Is it possible for one to brainwash someone else without realizing that that's what they're doing?

[@MaryJoRapini]

I think the concept of brainwashing means you are trying to manipulate someone else to do what you want.

[@user-le9ej2nh5i]

@@MaryJoRapini Oh ok thanks

[@Gicchinno]

I know that this is an older video but, I'm just finding it now. So sorry. What I wanted to say is that EVERYTHING that you've described is EXACTLY what my son's wife did to him and fits perfectly. Can I undo this "brainwashing"? He has nothing to do with anyone now from his past and is on drugs (his wife's doing as she was on them). What do I do? I've had 5 therapists who have all told me to send messages of love, apologize for anything that HE deems as an issue when I saw HER (my DIL) doing this to him. I still have 2 other adult children but, I want this one to be ok. Any suggestions? I will look further at your videos.

[@MaryJoRapini]

It is impossible for me to give you ethical solid advice, since I don't know you at all. I believe if you have therapists you are working with, you should take their counsel. I am grateful you found me and hope this video validates some of what you're feeling. Stay strong, and take care of you. Brainwashing takes time to establish and it takes a long time to undo it's negative effects.

[@89ksokd91]

These therapists sound like idiots. Many are out there. Look for narc abuse therapists and be wary of narcs in the profession themselves. Not about loving your son, of course that's important, but that is not the advice for brainwash victims any therapist should be giving without examining everything and your son should cease contact with anyone doing this to him.

[@glorysavant3680]

My family brainwashed me 🤦🏾‍♂️...

[@smurfmama2020]

My sister has been totally brainwashed by her husband. We no longer talk as it seems she thinks we are beneath her unless she can have some practical use for us. She has no interests outside of what her husband thinks she should be doing. Mainly being a soccer mom and making their kids into rich & famous superstars. Other than that she has no interests. She has become just like him, she makes fun of emotions such as sadness as being “ weak” and has become an emotional bully to her kids. I no longer know her, she has grown so distant from me, I believe her husband has successfully got her to cut off from me because he knows I see what’s going on. She is a totally empty person who seems like a full blown narcissist even though I never knew her to be one when she wasn’t with him. I highly doubt she would ever leave him because they both have a very strong competitive streak with each other and that would show weakness if one ever left the other. It’s so toxic and sad.

[@truthinamericatrappeddeeps3402]

Man sounds like Red Bluff and the persons I am dealing with. They have even spoofed my phone and other accounts. Interesting that the family members I had such a close constant contact with I can not get a hold of.

[@liltriqq]

Now think about how much this relates to current world events!! The abuser in this case being governments 🤔

[@miguelchippsinteligente6072]

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[@jesseskellington9427]

3:20 future faking is the street term for this concept. I hope this information helps :-)

[@victoriamayo5774]

Sounds very ❤

[@jzk2020]

Link to the next video with the solution ... PLEASE.

[@wendyblack1510]

Of course I can be brainwashed... *** Knowing this is the first step.!

[@amysteriouspotato4383]

I'm pretty sure I was "gaslighted". Based on another definition I heard I did think I had atleast ten different things wrong with me. I don't believe it was intentional because it happened after the relationship. We did discuss things that could be "wrong with me" (for perspective she had a "disorder" and she and her friends were discussing it. Later her and I talked about me and her. I think she compared herself to a porcupine and without my realizing said she was too unsafe to be around. 😕 That's why I don't think anything was intentional, but rather circumstances.) I was trying to be nice, but honestly talking about psychology when you have no idea about it is like trying to speaking another language in another country. That conversation weeks later led to the part of my thinking a million things are wrong with me. My latest one is paranoia. I've always had it a little but managed. During and after the relationship it increased tenfold. I legitimately almost went insane trying to pick up the pieces after. I tried everything but everything was a dead end. Therapist never replied and family just ignored me. I could tell that after months of trying to figure out the why and having guilt from messing up the relationship I was about to lose it. Finally I just went to my grandmother to see how she was doing and IDK what happened but I broke down. She prayed and said "give it to God" and I did. I feel better and I'm not stressed anymore. When I get over worried and start over thinking, I just remind myself "it's not your job to worry about the world" and let it go.

[@MaryJoRapini]

Thank God for your grandmother. Psychology is one of those topics that everyone thinks they know a lot about. But, as a trained psychotherapist who went to school 10 years counting my nursing career before my graduate school work in psychology with an internship and state board exam after to get licensed I can tell you it is very complex. Humans do and feel things that cannot be predicted or put in a box. I am so glad you shared this, and I hope you find a counselor you can work with going forward. You sound like you have a lot insight, sensitivity and compassion. Good luck going forward.

[@paisleydreamzzz]

this is 100% dead on accurate. do not wish away these red flags.

[@idlee2328]

Your video Deserves More views

[@MaryJoRapini]

Thank you....please share with those you care for. I will eventually expand to the people who need me. It's my mission and I can see it happening. Love your comment! Stay aware! MJo

[@idlee2328]

@@MaryJoRapini already shared. Great Work

[@melissahawkins6430]

I agree. She explains things very well

[@cakedoll575]

my child has someone doing this to her, i wish God would open her eyes ,shed give her and her child a good life.

[@christineseaborg4277]

You're not alone

[@TheMFStudios]

You literally just described my girlfriends treatment of mw

[@simonebae8906]

I'm getting psychedelic attacked telepathically please help us

[@cathexis7341]

My daughters husband cheated on her, he blamed her. She believes him, he has changed her, she no longer smiles, and she does not talk to her brother or sister anymore. We are all so worried about her but I don't know how to explain and worried if I do she will push me away .

[@lc4life369]

You should do videos about brainwashing in children and how to help.

[@89ksokd91]

YES! no help for kids or people destroyed as children now adult still being treated this way. And of you have no skills or money or education you are screwed to ever get unisolated or find support. Many parents know this and refuse their children parenting and education in order to control them for life.

[@layadee2007]

Also, "some" that get out of jail and prison (not all, but a lot) who followed certain religious practices, figure out how to manipulate women to live off them, which would make their transition from prison easier. They are constantly talking and in your ear, they play cute little games with you to find out more about you, which cuts down the time it would take to date you so they can build on what you told them and used to seemingly build you up and make you feel like a "queen", use sex of course Then they start to pull you away from friends and family, saying they don't care about you, etc. Conversation comes up about the way you dress, they want you to dress a certain way, maybe even wear long hot, dark robe-like clothing, cover everything. Religion plays a big part. All of a sudden you are worshipping the sun, stars, etc. Don't forget you have to change your name, maybe to something from Egypt or another Eastern country. Brainwashing. People! Guard your heart and your minds. I have had it happen to me and I am seeing it happen to others (women)as we speak.

[@89ksokd91]

Religion is majorly apart of this. -expk

[@biggirlchronicles365]

Employers can try to brainwash employees by hiring people based on specific qualifications, education & experience then turn around and say that the education, qualifications and experience is a barrier to doing “the job” (with???). I just say yes ma’am. 😶

[@lesliesmith3554]

I sent this video to my daughter, but may have sent it by mistake. He pays the bill phone bill. He is mean sometimes when I use to be around her. I don't know what to do about this. I had to stop going around them.I can't undo the text now.

[@micheal4100]

Is any way to contact you ? Thank you

[@jerrodlopes186]

My first wife did this to me big time. I even spent a day in jail because SHE was emotionally, mentally, verbally, financially, and physically abusive. Now, when thinking about my current and past relationships, I think I may be somewhat abusive. Not physically, but some of these other things. My standards for friends, holiness, etc... are quite high. I used to accuse lovers of always flirting with other guys... I'm almost in tears thinking that I've become the abuser I hate so much! Does this happen often? Please answer. Anyone.

[@MaryJoRapini]

You are becoming self-aware and with that awareness is a lot of pain but also an opportunity to become a better version of yourself. ✨

[@89ksokd91]

Find a genuine narc abuse therapist who understands coercive control. If you don't want to be abusive, you probably have abused fleas that will shake off once you get away and heal.

[@king-nick2023]

I'm forced to go to a therapy group for alcohol. However I don't fully agree with many of their tactics and they keep gaslighting me and putting me down. When they ask for my opinion I give it and I also give resources for my believe system and respect the views of others. They try to down 👇 play my world view even though I respect there's. It's all about control and manipulation and they use many of these tactics that are mentioned here

[@nyxsulis7780]

How do they know how to do all this shit Like it seems like it would have to be strategized and learned

[@theapahpasay305]

Hi I'm getting brainwashed how do I get help I don't even know them they have been doing this for a long time I need help.

[@MaryJoRapini]

Thea, find a therapist to work with. Therapists who work with emotional abuse can help you through this so you can move on and recover.

[@brendasmith7345]

Mary Jo Rapini For lots and lots of $$$$ the therapist will “help” you.

[@Edgygazelle99]

Mine is they make it a horrible environment but they brainwash to make me think I'm in a liveing caring family

[@Edgygazelle99]

4:47 that's a big one

[@schulj97]

So how do u fix this if u are the abuser...

[@akinyiokeyo4618]

Most of the time the victim loses power to...