7 Tips on How & When to become Exclusive| Engaged at Any Age - Love & Dating Coaching with Jaki

[@DabneyFountain]

I love that Jaki gives you actual “scripts” on how to communicate important issues coming from your feminity and with a light, non-confrontational touch. Masterful!

[@EngagedAtAnyAge]

Thanks, glad it's helping!

[@sweetczz]

I agree with Amanda Whitley. I met this guy online over a year ago. We've kept in touch randomly 1-2 times a month, maybe. We live in different counties away and we have met up 3 times. The last time he asked if he could stay over (flags waving LOL). I said sure! After all, he's almost 2 hours away. He wants to come around 6 pm (flags waving LOL). I tell him, "I'm looking forward to seeing you again!" He shows up with flowers (Huge points). We talk, eat (I made food by choice, I love to cook), watched a funny movie, got hot and heavy, stopped at 2nd base. When it came time to go to bed, I took him to the second master bedroom, gave him a nice kiss, turned down his bed for him and said: "Good Night, we can go out for breakfast in the morning!" LOL! He's surprised but laughs it off. We had a talk the first time we met. He shouldn't have even tried it. We get along great, he seems engaged with me, but he is really too busy to be in a relationship. He travels a lot (family in other countries) his job keeps him busy and he is doing a life coach job. I know he wants a family. I'll be 55 next month, he'll be 46 this month. I'm not discounting a late-life child, but at the pace that we are going it's going to be a dog LOL! If I bring up the where are we now conversation, I do feel manipulative. I'm watching to see how HIS interest with me grows without the pressure. I made it clear during his stay, that I don't want to be a booty call (not going beyond 2nd base and separate beds. He knows I'm not frigid either LOL. I don't want him saying "OK let's be exclusive" in the heat of the moment. It took massive restraint not to jump his ass! We don't keep in touch daily. I'm not going to chase him. If he can't pull a 10-minute straight conversation with me by text, he's not into me. He's too busy. If he asks to come again, repeat of last time. I'm letting him get to know me. When he starts showing more serious interest, I will have that "talk." I think that talk is going to be more about pregnancy, birth control, and Std's time to get checked talk. I want to see how he reacts. My topic will be, "If we have a condom bust, and I get pregnant, do you really want to raise a baby with me?" His reaction is what will make my final decision on what to do. Sex with no commitment or Sex with commitment.

[@goodwillbunny5773]

Good advice - to be prepared, "Practice what you're going to say, before you say it". I love that tip! I write down all your great quotes, like "I really love where this is going". B

[@whitama2]

I think that's a terrible idea to prompt him to tell you where the relationship is going right before you're about to have sex lol Very manipulative.

[@whitama2]

*I do like some of your other tips :)

[@diggarcia5190]

I would not have sex with a man who is having sex with other women, that means we are going to need to be "exclusive" and have that talk and develop healthy boundaries. Not manipulative at all, simply seeking clarity.

[@whitama2]

@@diggarcia5190 Right, but it's about timing... Don't lead him to think you're about to have sex then stop to have the talk.

[@sweetczz]

@@diggarcia5190 Men will lie for sex LOL I want that clarity, too but actions speak volumes, not words.

[@EngagedAtAnyAge]

I don't mean after! I mean before! Be direct when you first meet AND way before you have sex and save yourself the heartache if he is not on the same page as you. Sorry if I was not clear.

[@rose6971]

Hi Jaki...just love your videos and the wonderful advice you give!

[@FLeger-dz2wz]

Thank God im Not the only one totally LOST. 3rd date and I want the question omg. *fans self/ deep breath*

[@vANIBO1979]

I truly love your videos and insight and all the knowledge you share thank you for sharing all theses great videos they are truly making an impact ! Your work is inspiring and motivating !

[@EngagedAtAnyAge]

Thanks so much vANIBO1979

[@kiuballchan]

Yes you can asked all that , but men can lie .

[@lindaarreguin2736]

Thanks for the great tips.

[@happysinger23]

You are so cute! I love your authentic lively energy! Learned a lot from this video!

[@deniseerskine-meusa2973]

You are so awesome!

[@Taller58]

Who the hell would ghost you?

[@kristinleigh2274]

Thank you Jaki, your advice has really inspired me!

[@rominadebono6913]

Great jaki.thank you for ur honesty

[@soylentgreene2879]

Great advice.

[@greenlantern129]

is their a reason why your hyper breathing most people just breath relaxed or if you even noticed that

[@TheTropics4]

greenlantern129 Thanks for bringing that up. The distraction was so annoying, I couldn't even finish watching the video (which had some really great points) due to her heavy breathing thru her nose and mouth every few seconds. Makes it sound as if she's running at the same time talking and she's out of breath!

[@noreenrogers6410]

I didnt even notice it until I scrolled down and read some comments while she was speaking. That's Jaki...no different than her manner in the others. Accept it. The point is to learn from her, not pick her apart. Do you do this with everyone ? Suppose she pursed her lips too much or blinks too much...

[@whitama2]

Probably OCD

[@EngagedAtAnyAge]

I have really small nasal airways. It’s hard to get a breath through my nose.

[@EngagedAtAnyAge]

@@whitama2 no, it’s my nasal airways. Difficult to get a breath in.

[@robinlundstrum847]

Excellent advice!

[@ur5860]

Beautiful. Thank you very much Mrs. Jaki! 💖

[@margaritakleinman5701]

You're great Jaki! Thanks for the good advice.

[@a.d.b535]

2 to 3 weeks??! Jacki, you are way too fast. Why commit bodies if you haven't committed hearts in bonds of marriage. That's just careless.

[@sosha4050]

Prepare to be ghosted... well damn

[@amazingyummy2]