7 Unrealistic Expectations That Women Should Get Rid Of...

[@charon314]

You are speaking the truth! Good men appreciates stuff like this. I love a LOGICAL thinking woman!

[@KAIZORIANEMPIRE]

No such thing as good men or good women in modern culture. Just simps and pick mes. Lol 🤣 it's all over mate. Divorce rate 50% lool 🤣

[@hirkowen8820]

@CHARON WHITE DUDE SHE'S A MARRIED WOMAN.

[@charon314]

@@hirkowen8820 I know. Your point of commenting on her marital status?

[@WanderingWarriorOfFaith777]

Lord Bless you Sista. Thank you for your honesty and truth! Men have to do right as well but I'm happy to know you're not afraid to keep it real.

[@SaraLena]

Peace Brother! I’ve always been the honest and non-biased type. It’s nice to know that it’s appreciated.

[@jarednovel]

Once a person man or woman is in the habit of being with several partners, it is hard for them to stay monogamous and loyal to one person. A decent woman should not date multiple men even while single..

[@SaraLena]

@@jarednovel You want to comment that about 12 more times? You’re on a roll. Might as well keep going.

[@daddyeyez740]

Tnis aint about men. Since forever all we hear about is what men need to do. Can yall ever just accept accountability for yall.own shit without bringing up men?

[@SaraLena]

Can you get out of my comment section, in order to prevent yourself from looking more like an 🐴 than you already do? Because clearly, you’re on the wrong channel, and talking to the wrong woman.

[@duketogo2020]

Uh oh.. she speaks truth 😳 they will start a petition against her soon.

[@eugenegenerally3208]

lol truth

[@vantrellechols7357]

Finally some truth coming from a woman. Thank for video I'm share this with my home girls and female friends.

[@SaraLena]

Do the women you know, not tell the truth?

[@duwaaninelson9655]

@@SaraLena Excuse me sister Sara Lena if you have any time can you please check out this video done by "The voodoo bae" on black men dating.

[@duwaaninelson9655]

Can you please listen how the video was put out.

[@ratswagger]

I love how you use an objective viewpoint to help build black relationships. This helps to hold people accountable for themselves whenever they don't understand why they can never find someone or why they can't keep someone.

[@MrHumbleSoul]

This woman is truly a gift 🎁 Her man is blessed AF 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@younglion2269]

Sara check it out. I put my woman onto you and when I tell you she changed overnight, she changed overnight. You give a lot of good game 🎮. Keep it up sista

[@jericabrechae]

Wow, #4 really hurt. I was married when I had my children and he left me for another woman. It’s like being damaged goods at this point. Like no man will want to be a traditional man for you because another man married you, impregnated you, then left you. Yikes 😔 Then furthermore with #6, it’s interesting that a man can have all this baggage and it’s unrealistic to assume he won’t and to do so a woman might miss out on a great man but this could also be the case with a woman that also may have baggage. 😣

[@megalodon1726]

Women who had children while married (and all children with the same one husband) are not viewed the same as women who had children out of wedlock with a baby daddy who wasn't committed to them.

[@Treybdamuzikjamz]

Not saying no man will be a good man to you, but those are your children, to make them entirely his financial responsibility is unfair and unrealistic, if that’s a hard pill for u to swallow, imagine how a man feels knowing that the only way he can have this women he loves is to also be fully responsible for two other adults children, now that’s a hard pill to swallow, finding love is not a bailout stimulus

[@PalestineLivesOn]

That's not true. This only counts on single mothers out of wedlock.

[@alexforce9]

Its about baggage and drama. A woman with kids its a messy situation. Men feel like the baby daddy have some sort of deep connection with you that is never go away, and that he (the new guy) must sorta compete for you in a game that he can never win. You will forever connected with that ex and there is nothing to be done about it. Then - there are the kids - Is he expected to take care of them? To be close to them? Do he have the father rights? Or he is only expected to provide, without actually having any sort of authority in the life of the child. And ofc - when you date a woman with kids, her kids are her priority - as it should be. But its definitely not the same to feel on second place coz of your own children, vs the kids of some other dude. Men think "Yeah, sure, she out puts me on second place coz kids come first, naturally, for me OUR kids are top priority also. ". But single mom puts you on second place coz of kids of someone else. And it doesn't feel fair. So you, as a single mom, have to overcome all those drawbacks. To have qualities and character that is so awesome that men are willing to accept the drama and the messiness. But ofc - the best and most wanted men will probably just pass, coz they have a lot more and better options. Best chance - looking for a decent single father. Coz then its even playing field.

[@tb24fitness61]

Love your content! I wish more women knew about your channel I try to spread the word as much as I can. Keep it up! You really inspired me to become more confident in starting my own channel. Thank you!

[@SaraLena]

Just subscribed! Congratulations on the new channel! I’ll be checking in for some new workout ideas.

[@tb24fitness61]

@@SaraLena awww thank you sis I really appreciate that! ❤️

[@iamsicksense3641]

#4 was straight FACTS! Single moms need to understand men aren't ever just gonna "gravitate" NATURALLY towards forming a deep long term relationship with a woman with another man's kids. We aren't so willing to do someone else's work

[@polomandestv4833]

Modern woman wants it all !!! But they ain’t got nothing to offer.

[@SaraLena]

Ok

[@GArmand715]

Some of em don’t offer anything not all my g

[@malaiyawilliams4348]

Number 5 is hard for me, I don’t like a lot of ppl so when I do, I take them serious from the jump. Any signs of me feeling like we can have a future together, I cut off all other “potentials”.

[@bkkersey93]

Same here. I try not to dive in head first, but the idea of possibly having a future with that person is too exciting.

[@dune9725]

Great video sistah Sara. Great analogy between the requirements and preferences. Loved that. Thank you for sharing your wisdom 👍

[@SaraLena]

Thanks for watching!🙏🏾

[@yunggrampa727]

You know what’s interesting... speaking on the single mother part and that being non-traditional. Couldn’t one say being a non-virgin is also non-traditional... with that being said a women having multiple previous sexual partners is not traditional but she wants a traditional man.

[@wizbreezy6551]

Damn, you do have a point. However, if she was married and gained the children that way then was divorced or widowed. I would still consider her a traditional woman. Also, a women who was once promiscuous could eventually realize that traditional roles is what she wants/needs.

[@yunggrampa727]

@@wizbreezy6551 if she was widowed traditionally she would stay unmarried or enter into a polygamist relationship with typically a male family member or close friend of the husband. Also with your logic a single mother could also realize she wants the traditional role but she would still be a non traditional women. And the big elephant in the room, at least for me, in general what tradition are we talking about when... post construction, old europe, the 60s, etc...

[@zamukwandamohale3878]

The one dislike is from Steve Harvey And some of his audience members 😅

[@SaraLena]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@bctoycollector3311]

I'm so glad I found your channel. This is the most real & truthful content I have ever heard. Keep it up & I hope women listen to your advice because you are spitting facts.

[@incubus_the_man]

You do realize some of these men that are doing favors for you might be hurt when they realize that you're just using them right!? I've been used in the same way and it's deviating when you realize that you're just the help they call on when they need things. Unless the man in question is secure in a relationship, you shouldn't accept favors from men like that. Also make sure that they know that you have no interest in them beyond basic friendship. You should search the term "beta orbiter" on KZbin. Men hate the idea of women using them.

[@anyamiranda9452]

As if m3n have any pr0blem doing the sam3 th!ng to wom3n 🙃 just st@y in y0ur l3ague if you want to pr3vent th!s.

[@RamzaBeoulve02]

@@anyamiranda9452 so, your logic is to not acknowledge it or change it, because some toxic men do the same thing, so you should continue the toxic behavior and keep it going generationally between men and women. Is that right? Don't change it because bad men that you pick do the same thing. Bad men, instead of the good men that you know won't do this to you, but are "boring."

[@RamzaBeoulve02]

Dude unfortunately, that's the point. They use their feminine charms and facade of weakness and feminine ignorance "I'm just a woman. I don't know about these things. I don't know what to do...! " *Cry cry* They know it moves and stirs the inner man. They are banking on it. They are just fine taking you to the cleaners buddy. They don't know about the terminology you mentioned that they should search. They just know how to use the tactic to their advantage without ever knowing what it's called. They just know how to do it.

[@anyamiranda9452]

@RamzaBeoulve02 "the b@d m3n that you choose". I've never even got to choose *any* m@n, for the simple fact that *they* only go for who they consider a "perfect 10" and then complain about being treated as a placeh0lder 🙄 I dgaf if my att!tude div!des m3n and wom3n even more (not to mention yours does the exact same thing). If you would go for wom3n who are actually in your le@gue and not out of it, you wouldn't have any pr0blems.

[@RamzaBeoulve02]

@@anyamiranda9452 Hello preacher? This is the choir. I prayed for the exact quality of woman that I wanted, and God delivered. I was actually after a different woman, but he dropped the right one right in front of me. I recognized her personality that I asked for and ability to appreciate a good man right away. Translation: been married over 6 years and had kids after marriage and still married to this day. I picked quality of a cooperative woman who was loyal and faithful, not a "baddie with a fatty," kind of woman. All a woman with a big booty and a terrible attitude is likely to do is wreck a home. You sound very bitter that you aren't getting picked though. From how you defend toxicity with the men do it too crap, I am sure you are single and probably have a kid with a man you are no longer with. Hope not, but I wouldn't be surprised.

[@Sisi_SoElegant]

I really needed to hear this😅

[@therabidpancake1]

You are a very wise lady this is exactly what women need to hear. I shared this video on facebook . I can only hope and pray that ladies watch it . You shattered some souls with that Hight thing . Wow thank you I am so tired of ladies playing games I do not play the game I just approach and flirt . I have heard guys say that the games have to be there and I think I am not putting up with that . In my younger years I have gotten women without playing games and that proves my point . I am not going to play games that is so exhausting and not a good foundation for a relationship .

[@blkwallstreetfbalineagegen4698]

Absolutely true about that height thing, and absolutely crazy to me. Now I’m going to be long here on this. So many women skip over great men based on them not being tall enough. A lot of women miss out on having a great man because they refuse to choose one based on little petty preferences while they are at they’re peek of attractiveness. Women make huge mistake miscalculating how long their beauty, youthfulness and options will last in finding a husband. Then their level of beauty go’s away in a flash, and many suddenly become desperate to find a husband, but it often too late. ⏰

[@universoullifebalance]

Peace and blessings to this Goddess for speaking truth that us men get crucified for! Much love and support Queen

[@cerromeceo]

Great Video! Do a unrealistic expectations men have for women next 🤔

[@SaraLena]

I plan to...☺️ And did your lady see that I posted that archetype video on my Website?

[@cerromeceo]

@@SaraLena oh no I got to check it out and show her 😊

[@SaraLena]

I could be wrong, but I thought it was you that mentioned something about it. saralenacoaching.com It’s on the “Feminine Archetype” page.

[@cerromeceo]

@@SaraLena No it was me. I'm glad you remembered. Thanks

[@cliffinhokisero3747]

MTR got me here. Subscribed immediately!! Thanks for your wisdom

[@danielrolle7621]

Very informative thank you 🙏🏽, would like a version for men as well 👍🏽

[@SaraLena]

And you will get one!👌🏾

[@jjdieselcowboytraveler79sm71]

I had to share this video with Facebook. Thank you for your work and keep doing your best and may God Almighty help you in a big way.

[@bygsmuv5820]

Keep teaching em sis ✊🏾 That Prince meme was hilarious 😂😂

[@SaraLena]

I tried to find one that wasn’t too offensive. 🤣 Those memes are terrible.😆

[@nicholaswatson3250]

You are a blessing to the black community.

[@herusmith4798]

Give thanks for the info. I think a lot of women will benefit from this here. And give that man a change since he actually likes you.

[@TheYungrico1]

MTR sent me good content needs to be shared. Side note on point #2 she needs like minded female friends.

[@palsos123]

Number 7 at 22:55 is extremely important and a lot of woman need to hear this

[@LawrenceWarren]

Watched your video on MTR... Your voice needs to be heard

[@TheNunchuckmaster]

✊🏾 another video hitting the nail on the head

[@roshglock]

The first five minutes of this video spoke volumes!

[@Mazima123]

You are so awesome. I watch you regularly.

[@Jetsetjessica]

Overall, great tips. But #4 is contradicting your #6. The man can have baggage but a woman has to be almost perfect 🥴. It's more variables involve to determine a suitable mate for both parties (age, economic status, religion, values, upbringing). A healthy masculine man would make a decision early on if he wants to take that responsibility to provide for a woman and her children to avoid unnecessary hurt and disappointing a woman. I never hear this rhetoric about non black women when they are on the market and dating with children whether they are an ex-wife or bm. Again, your video is pretty good.

[@alexforce9]

Oooooh TRUST ME - white women, black women, asian, latino - all the single moms in the world need to be aware that men dont like to pay for someone elses kids. Its universal truth. Its biology. I dont know why you dont hear about it, but men of all colors are pretty vocal about it.

[@hirkowen8820]

@SARA LENA GREAT ADVICE AS ALWAYS, SISTAH!

[@jarednovel]

First of all, a decent woman married on unmarried should not have multiple partners. Once you get used to the benefits or perceived advantages of being with multiple people it becomes ingrained in you may find it almost impossible to be satisfied with being with one man.. Women that are used to meeting and dating different persons may not like the experience of being loyal to one person and may make life very hard for men in relationships with them.,

[@EmpoweredMovements]

I really like how you time-stamp the various topics/headings of your videos; it's a great touch that adds to the comprehension of your videos.

[@frankabrokwa8854]

Eric Leshai sound more financial frugal ... More vivid raw and direct. The Maya Angelou re incarnation. 💯

[@floridaboy22]

Great advice for men and women.

[@richlawrence7661]

Sara. As a man my problem is finding great intelligent beautiful woman such as yourself. Where are they? Maybe you can make a video on this. I know basic stuff, like if I'm in the hood or in a college. Location kinda determine's the product in most cases. What is your insight on this? I'm very curious.

[@n.n.w5078]

Fantastic video Sara! 💜

[@ordinaryextraordinarybrotha]

Good video sister you know one of the most peculiar things about black women that I've noticed when it comes to superficial things black women seem to be very picky when it comes to things like characters they seem not to be picky at all

[@onthegrind7]

Great advice Sara!!! keep educating these hard headed sisters.

[@RichyRichMusic]

Intelligent woman. ❤

[@leroybaileyjr.134]

Great job 🤓 and thank you for the enlightenment 😏 you are truly appreciated !!!! 🤗

[@major0888]

This woman is speaking facts and more women need to listen trust me And I'm married for right now

[@frankjohnson5936]

You are just so beautiful I swear you are!!

[@SaraLena]

I appreciate that! Thank you!

[@atWay.]

that work u doing is appreciated

[@nitelite745]

1:19 I don't think the Universe would want for someone to play on so many people's hearts like that onto another person that's very interested within a person lol that's called using people for what a person need, and in return, several people aren't going to get what they're trying to achieve within a person.

[@jonathanthomas8574]

Thank u sis and This is the way I think Woman and Man is both the protected, support system, and etc.. That what a team is... Truth is the wombman is our first protected and etc.... It Start in the womb!!!!.. Much Respect and love sis.. Great day...

[@riddickj16]

On point sis👍🏾

[@SaraLena]

🖤

[@carlforpresidentanthony4574]

Great video 🔥👍🏾💯

[@jarednovel]

Women and men can maintain relationships is they communicate their concerns instead of acting out. Sometimes a man has too many issues that they are going through inluding in work situations and that may make them forget some stuff ...There can be better ways of reminding him.

[@AkosuaFire]

Sooo true about successful men that are great providers they are NOT gonna be around all the time. Big deal. Pursue your own interests and hobbies, work out, travel, etc. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@darylorage]

That "independent woman " sounds polygamous.

[@SaraLena]

I’m not sure which part of the video I referenced an independent woman. Lol I might need to rewatch it.

[@darylorage]

@@SaraLena maybe I inferred, lol. I'm referring to Expectation #1, though. Multiple guys in her life...

[@Blessedlove8325]

so true sister ..you speak some truth there .hope these girls listen.

[@fantasybouthour6679]

I can’t be hardworking and Mr. Mom at the same time.

[@ericb7776]

Video makes it sound average height is the bare minimum.. lol. Sara is a blessing to men and women regardless

[@bwrnc2419]

Thanks again Sis Sara! I appreciate your insight

[@fantasybouthour6679]

Women also need to stop comparing their men to their fathers. There’s usually a big age difference between your man and your father.

[@cj2style1]

Look!!!... My GOODNESS this sister is DEVINE FINE!!! Just wanted to type that... AGAIN!!!🤷🏽🤷🏽🤷🏽😆😆😆👋🏽👋🏽👋🏽✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽 Love ya topic sis keep it going!!!!

[@victormoyer3854]

GOD bless you Sis,I love your advice, Keep sharing 🙌🙏❤

[@healthyhappy1105]

Can you explain why these expectations exist? Don't women see life passing them by? Do they not see their non-black counterparts getting married and moving forward in life? And it also feels like modern women try to ruin their lives. Then after a BD or two then they want to get married, WTH? My ex, it didn't work out, now a year later, she's pregnant. I've shared all this KS manosphere content. She's still knocked up and single AF. What the hell?! How can this be? She asked me for advice all I could say was get used to being poor, smdh...

[@jjdieselcowboytraveler79sm71]

God bless this woman and may You help her in her efforts to help women understand respect and appreciate men.

[@alfredcowans880]

Talk To Em Sista 💪🏾👍🏾💯

[@SaraLena]

I’m trying to...😅

[@alfredcowans880]

@@SaraLena 😁😁😆😂 I Know It's Hard🤦🏾

[@madant22]

Sara Lena Manosphere approved thumbs up 👍

[@jerricaholloway55]

Thank you for your channel

[@406mark]

Now this is a logical, reasonable, realistic woman, why cant all women be at least of a quarter of the way she is? Just a quarter bro.

[@scottwitcher71]

Thank u sista for info that will help me

[@tylergnosis2581]

Finally a woman that gets it

[@tezzotouchdown7708]

Just found your page and I love it already

[@smeefyzeus7078]

You want a traditional man but your not a traditional woman that one probably struck quite a few women's nerves..

[@CBPfilm]

That first was like a straight on gotdammit man lol.

[@HeartInChristwithCristy]

very helpful ❣️ Truth and i am guilty about this too.

[@albertrobinson4133]

A man’s tone of voice!?!? That’s new for me 🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭 The delusion is real

[@victorjosey8756]

Really good content

[@bighomie1215]

Had to subscribe off this video alone so much truth in one video currently going thru a divorce because I work 50-70 hrs. a week and she felt neglected

[@ventb1305]

You are a godsend!

[@kylematter4030]

You are a national treasure.

[@johnbennett7247]

That was exellent advice

[@s.harris9094]

So beautiful...and she gets it...

[@kaofounder]

Peace! #3 hits home for me. In my industry 3 out of 5 supervisors and managers are women, many of which I have to call, text, or be in offices with on occasion. This idea that I should limit my interactions with female Co workers would literally hold me back from advancing in my career.

[@dwaynebeamon5105]

Excellent content sister oh and mtr sent me

[@fantasybouthour6679]

Daddy's girls are a challenge as well. There's nothing wrong with being a daddy's girl, but stop expecting your man to be just like your daddy.

[@ToneKoneFrmDet]

Oh my god sister queen sister how did I know number two was going to be number two. I can't make $100,000 and then be under your dress all goddamn day

[@jus3278]

All Black women need to subscribe to this channel lol

[@tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229]

A friend of mine had guys stored in her phone as “ Free food”

[@papasdaking]

You gained a New follower

[@Beastmodevids1]

Man I was vastly unprepared for life. Lol All of that stress to be a father.

[@alexeastman7686]

Hey sista can you make a video about platonic friendships and female having male friends in general and when it comes to working environment and friends that were there before you. Also about BOUNDARIES when I come to this topic

[@kirktheruler5572]

I like all the gems in this video, but that last one needs to be addressed for my sake. Girls I come around always assume, and I hate it. So ill be waiting on you to drop that video topic on the Honorable mention

[@dlx6028]

*Women are the #1 consumers*

[@o.c.g.m9426]

What if a man is 5'4" but worth a few million ladies...does my height matter now 🤣🤣🤣🙌🏽

[@insuchaway]

19:15 A woman with a deep/raspy/husky voice talking slick will activate my PTSD. A woman with a seductive voice once ended up on my health insurance plan. Seriously- when I meet a woman, at some point I'll think about how that voice may sound when it gets strident; if her voice is ugly when she's being nice... imagine how it's going to sound, angry.😬

[@michaelmichael9861]

Yah bless you and thank you siesta

[@latavious48]

Your amazing 🙌🏿

[@archiologist3424]

You definitely understand what you are talking about.

[@infinitmgmt]

Great Video...

[@SaraLena]

Thank you!🙏🏾

[@JJ-fu7so]

@@SaraLena Thanks for being consistent with having short concise videos that get to the point and not 3 hour long ones like the other KZbinrs lol

[@darkpower6406]

Hello Sara!

[@SaraLena]

PEACE!!!🖤