Women With Unrealistic Standards | What type of man do you Deserve? | Are you in your Prime?

[@JayWanKenobe]

Most women want to be married without being a wife.

[@Benzzo3000]

SUPER FACTS! 💯 💯 💯

[@MD-DLive]

Good point

[@chadricrobertson8496]

Facts bro

[@j.a.c.3776]

Alright now preacha!!!

[@TerryByrdJr]

Preach!!! 🙌🏼

[@InfiniteWillPower13]

The two main issues a lot women face is entitlement and lack of accountability.

[@riddickj16]

God Son preeeeaaaaaccccchhhhh. Accountability is a woman’s worst enemy

[@robertthornton3513]

All facts!!!!!!!!!!!

[@dexterhunter2299]

Keep telling what God loves. "The Truth".

[@darronfinnie2071]

God Son that is their kryptonite

[@SaraLena]

True. I blame feminism.

[@williamsweat6334]

Men don’t care about a woman social or economic status all we care about is how you treat us and how you make us feel

[@reimourrpower9357]

Too true. I'm a college educated man with my own $$$. I've dated clerks. businesswomen, students (college age ha), professors with doctorates, stewardesses, artists, teachers, etc. Never once did care or judge them on their profession or worry what they thought of my work. I only cared about how they treated me and themselves.

[@felixlingelbach2758]

But men should care about such things. Women feel good if they can support you somehow in return. If they are below your own standard they can't do so. You are kind of adopting them. All you get is an always unhappy blubbering child at home.

[@lamarmurrell1254]

Exactly..We are the Providers and they are the nurturer. Men are not trying to date another man if you are straight. We want feminine traits.

[@felixlingelbach2758]

@av rmx The hardest job when I was a single father was to care about the child's homework. Maybe half an hour it took. All other tasks together made it to about one additional hour. Everything is electric. Noone needs to sew oder stuff any more. Pizza comes out of the oven. No problem to earn money as well. But it was a problem to get enough money for four persons steadily (before we broke). I'd had really appreciated some support. I got the opposite. I got trouble when coming home, trouble with a woman who spent all day with gossiping about and against men (me) with her friends. So no, we don't care but we should, at least if we want a family. How long does a child need full time care? Two and a half years. How many children does a family have? 0.9 at my place. - I am a man with a traditional mindset but there is no traditional world.

[@rodferguson3515]

William Sweat cool statement and on spot

[@luvbig41]

It always boggles my mind when women with four kids from 2+ baby daddies expect to get a top of the line man.

[@ibrahim9761]

luvbig41 you are Correct,Dusty Women always want the Best and have Nothing to Offer!!!

[@c.mchido571]

luvbig41 😂😂😂.. word!!!

[@sirij8784]

rich 8 figga thats my type.....I cringe anytime I hear the brokest of the broke women singing this

[@babysteps6488]

brewzkee Chill 😅

[@deanndaviss]

@MrReallionaire100 😂😂😂

[@JJPhilosophy]

There are women out here like this young lady speaking, don't over look them fellas

[@bryana297]

Facts. I am holding out for no less than what this woman brings. This is the only kind of help i would accept.

[@boomarang3186]

I believe there are. Haven't met them yet.

[@tmac29nyc]

Right it hard to find a woman who has RATIONAL THINKING

[@steeojabb329]

she’s a queen

[@steeojabb329]

she’s high value

[@Jamesw894]

I like the part when you say men in their prime years with no kids want a women in her prime years with no kids. "You're preaching to the church sis!!!"

[@mybusiness186]

BIG FACTS!!! I'm in my prime, great career, 800+ credit score, my life out together, and I am having such a hard time finding good women in their prime who do not have children.

[@TruBlq]

The truth my dude. I'm in my upper 40's, no kids and financially doing my best but all these women have kids already. I'm not trying to put my hard earned earnings into the bad choices she made. Go kick it with Ray Ray some more.

[@vennettegloud3128]

good luck with that, gentlemen...biology is a funny thing with women...child rearing years are a small window of time..I pretty much dodged the kid- thing altogether. My present beau has grown, successful babes...who don't want babies now..I don't know what to tell you...there are a lot of amazing women with no children.and all these women can cook up a storm!.I have a gorgeous cousin in no cali...masters, owns her own home, sweetest person ever...no guy..I have a friend in nashville, she'll have her doctorate in a year, home- owner, real sweetheart, deeply generous soul would love to be in a relationship..the men seen to be full of it! Oh well..south carolina another cousin, masters, homeowner, breath takingly beautiful....sweet, would give you the shirt off of her back....missionary spirit..the men are kinda 'circling' her, but they are not really serious...I could go on and on...Guys, the women are out there...Amazing beautiful, fit women with no ties that bind...in the aforementioned age-range all over the country! They all get approached, mostly by users. I don't know what else to tell you! Peace to you.

[@vennettegloud3128]

so...have at it, mr! what are you waiting for?

[@TruBlq]

@@vennettegloud3128 absolutely but few and far between.

[@thebossman4875]

There's alot of delusional women out here

[@rockfresh5359]

It's that toxic queen mentality someone taught them lol

[@robertthornton3513]

Truth!

[@thebossman4875]

@@tsusurflawyer2432 They should've made better choices

[@vennettegloud3128]

But not ONE delusional man...especially on this comment section..LOL

[@TheJmustang07]

@@vennettegloud3128 LOL

[@darronfinnie2071]

Feminism has done so much damage to women it's unfixable

[@ibrahim9761]

Darron Finnie Feminism only Helped White Women Not Women of Color who’ve worked Side by Side with their Spouses for ages.

[@lonniemcneal638]

Truly unfixable and permanently severed the organ relationship between men and women.

[@BrickzSenghorOfficial]

Scientific facts

[@nitelite745]

😳

[@legitimeprocessor8901]

1. Patriarchy 2. Gynocentric traditionalism 3. Feminism In a patriarchy, male Authority is respected & honored that creates a « mutual benefit » for the entire Family & society that men are responsible for (provide & protect) In a Gynocentric traditional society, Men still provide & protect for the women, men are still expected to sacrifice for women, to serve women (Simpin’) but they get nothing in return. However, a feminist system is worse by far than a Gynocentric traditionalist system, because in a feminist system you gonna have a social collapse. Because the society will cut men off the knees, weakening men in order to establish a « non-sense » gender equality... & in that foolishness, you undermine the foundation of the whole society to prop women up... meanwhile the others societies are becoming stronger & stronger with a patriarchy.

[@aliyahcathey]

Thank you for this sis. I’m a 21 yr old in college to become an Elementary school teacher. I always felt like I was bad for not being a super ambitious woman but just wanting to be able to provide for myself and come home and enjoy my partner on the weekends and have summer breaks off with my kids in the future. This whole independent workaholic woman thing never appealed to me. I just wanna make a decent amount to be able to maintain my gym membership/maintenance 💅🏾and my shopping habit while my man is the primary bread winner and I can take a light bill or sumn like that if needed while saving the rest of my check so we can retire more comfortably. Simple 👏🏾as👏🏾that👏🏾

[@SaraLena]

Congratulations on your future success in all aspects! Family, Relationship, Career, Leisure, Fitness, etc. You’ve already got the mindset for it. You will have it All! 🌻✨

[@chehend4183]

Aliyah Cathey this!!!!! ♥️

[@bettycollier7914]

What you want Aliyah is what most women want to have a man as the primary bread winner which is in order because babies will need the mother' But that man you got to meet' because our brothers are struggling with keeping employment and as you are getting a degree to teach school you are equipping yourself to be a helpmate' to a man who can appreciate a woman that can take some of the earning burden off of him. Today we are not in our own land and can build our own . if a woman do not work and take care of herself who will do it unless it be a loving man' and it will take a loving man cause a loving man won't complain or resent you for providing for you and his children.

[@rydenseasalt9716]

Just remember the type of man that you will need who *WANTS TO BE THAT PROVIDER FOR YOU and be ok with what comes with that! Good luck!

[@suzukidriver6473]

THIS.

[@David-ej1ps]

"men earn their women and women deserve their men" - Sara Lena literally sums up the dating dynamics in one sentence... great video

[@TheAgefirst]

Sara's perspective is brutally honest, yet reasonable enough that her wisdom is undeniable. Knowledge speaks, yet wisdom listen, she must be skilled listener and observing the elements of fact that becomes reality.

[@vennettegloud3128]

her perspective id brutally honestly lacking self dignity and taking sides with arrested developmentally socially retarded males...And all of y'all who agree with her are making my point about what i have seen for years in the black so-called community! She really knows how to bring the mgtows outta they granmammy basements!! ..lol just what you want in life...men going their own ways into women's chats and comment sections!!! Lol

[@AALEXMEDIAGROUP]

@@vennettegloud3128 ..." arrested developmentally socially retarded males"..... are a DIRECT- RESULT of "arrested developmentally socially retarded".... "black female mothers" !!!! ...GLAD YOU AGREE!!!!!😉🤣🤣🤣

[@Pinkpanda811]

A healthy dose of self awareness will humble a lot of us! lol

[@slimmsg7]

FACTS !!!

[@itsallgoodz1]

Yes "Miss" Hill

[@vennettegloud3128]

you are committed to losing...I don't know why these men are so butt hurt about women's opinions of them ...we outnumber them at least 7-1...all they have to do is just reach out of their front doors and bag one? What? They don't have a front door? or a back door? or a side door? bitter bobbys...

[@menaretheprize2673]

Ms Hill you’re a real one

[@menaretheprize2673]

Vennette Gloud granny you’re way too old to be on KZbin and not taking responsibility for yourself like you’re way too old

[@serbrightside]

Everyone wants to be love but a lot of people are hard to be liked.

[@vennettegloud3128]

brilliant....look this lady doesn't like herself..all she's saying is a reflection of how she feels about herself and none of you guys see it! Lol...because you don't really like yourselves either, so you drink the pissy koolaid...this is hilarious!!

[@chrisricks6363]

@@vennettegloud3128 delusional

[@palexstarks5553]

Well put

[@djpoison2846]

*JackPot*

[@AmaLoveGoddessTV]

@@vennettegloud3128 exactly she's full of shit. Quality men look for quality women.

[@tunde275]

Ladies, listen to this sister. That is why she has a ring on that finger, and you don’t. But knowing y’all , you won’t.

[@sagedmelanin9659]

tunde275 say it louder!

[@mysticlegion8088]

Won't happen. That's why shyt will never get better. Women will think they are getting attacked instead of listening.

[@AmaLoveGoddessTV]

But is her man a provider or a 50/50 stingy beta feminine male.

[@llIllIlI]

@@AmaLoveGoddessTV In what world does 50/50 make a person stingy? Are you saying equality is one-sided (selfish)?

[@AmaLoveGoddessTV]

@@llIllIlI 50/50 has nothing to do with equality. It has to do with gender roles given by God. There's a reason why some men get the best quality women.

[@timbenisrael5763]

More women need to be talking like this. In times past, the older women TAUGHT this logic to the younger women.

[@lenabarker9597]

Zacchur Ben-Israel silence.

[@EbonyGreathouse]

This is true!

[@blkwallstreetfbalineagegen4698]

I believe a lot of those women who have unrealistic standards probably came from broken homes and or a dysfunctional family. So they don’t know what to expect in a relationship, do to the imbalance that a dysfunctional family creates. And thank you, much respect. You’re right on point with your advice.

[@ToxicAfricanKing]

Agreed!

[@rydenseasalt9716]

I believe it's programming. We're teaching our girls, across all social levels, that there's a prince charming, and they should "protect their heart" and "control this" and "control that". They're not being taught to share, give and take, be vulnerable, and to compliment the high standards they seek. They're more often than not taught to be entitled without being realistic.

[@dynamicsolider102]

Naw many come from good homes with both parents. It's just the mindset nowadays.

[@bobbarker9556]

I think they bought into Opra and other talk show personalities that just pander to women instead of telling realities, Things like "don't settle" "your worth it" "you deserve" "don't comprimise" Rather than, make yourself worth it find a partner, not a "must have" list, comprimise is a tweo way street and you will more likely be happy. Disney Princess mentality has hurt the mental health of grown women, when reality does not fit the fantasy

[@willia3r]

@@dynamicsolider102 i agree. Media and government propaganda has a whole lot to do with this situation.

[@JenkyShow]

Glad to see a black women that THINKS

[@thechopdoc]

Its amazing how most of the comments(90%) are from men! Its funny how women have nothing to say.. Hmm I wonder why?! But we know the answer to that

[@miguel66014]

Women hear this video and are left with their mouths open...talkin about, "huh"...

[@bettycollier7914]

Sara is not saying these things to get the type of responses you guys are giving' because she is a part of a group that know how to be men and women' She is shedding light ' not for women to be put down' or seen as worthless or just crazy' Trust me on the other side of that she understands.

[@c.mchido571]

KENNY WAYNE cos most of today’s women live in La La Land, and saying the truth that’ll bring them back to reality, they see it as putting women down. Facts and logic isn’t exactly their thing..

[@ernasheree01]

You’ll find there commenting under many other videos telling them to level up. Trust me.

[@levijohn4493]

They dont take advice/correction well, especially about themself

[@cold_as_ice999]

It is SOOOOOO refreshing and satisfying to find a sista on KZbin with MY SIMILAR VIEWS!! Every other black female channel is all about bashing ALL black men and when a BW offers an opposing view (in support of BM) the claws and venom come out! The name calling, bullying, almost a straight up witch hunt! I say the same things you say in your videos to BW but not anymore. I still stand strong next to my husband of 17 years, my 2 black sons, my deceased black male family members and ALL the BM of my community! But there's no need wasting my time on other lost, disrespectful BW Thank you Sara ❤

[@kedrichemphill8918]

Shes married for a reason...

[@Sarahs.daughter]

I’m a black woman and I absolutely LOVE this video. We need to take this into consideration and examine ourselves because this society has ruined us black women since the times of Willie Lynch. We need to work on our selves and stand behind our black man!

[@Sarahs.daughter]

A little bit of both. That’s why I said we as black women should examine ourselves and change. But also... when you also examine history and read the book “The Willie Lynch Letter” they conditioned us to put our men on the bottom, when it comes to families

[@Sarahs.daughter]

She also makes points about how society’s tricks us black women into thinking we don’t have to change and all men have to adjust to us and she’s right. We should take accountability for conforming to this society and be REALISTIC with ourselves

[@joannametayer8628]

Lol keep standing by them while fools like @boss boss and many other black men, blame it all on you and the black women in the community. They dont fight for us like we do them. Your on your own with that one. I'm not sticking by nobody who doesnt stick up for me PERIOD. BYEE

[@rydenseasalt9716]

@@Sarahs.daughter Very true. I don't blame anything on one thing or one demographic, but as a Black man I can say, I've experienced my fair share of black women who just don't fully understand how to compliment men. It's not the only thing but it's an essential thing.

[@terrancethomas9792]

Black women have not read the signs out there. When they graduate high school, they haven’t noticed more of them have compared to Black men. In college, they clearly see that they outnumber black men. When they put on the caps and gown, fewer black men are around. They go to grad school, they dominate the classroom. When they get into the world, now they want dream guys. There’s simply are not enough of them. Their ideal man is 6 feet tall (14% of the population), $100k a year ( 8% of all black men ( now we’re at 1.1 percent) good lucks, 6 pack, etc... please.

[@QG_TheRemnant]

_Most women want a godly man but don’t want to deal with the God that made him who he was praising._

[@DeaconChriss]

Amen brother

[@vicnelson4017]

That's Right! Shalom

[@QG_TheRemnant]

Repent and Believe believe me, yes they do if they want the characteristics of love, showing or reacting to emotion healthy. Slow to anger, patient, has self control. AreThese not all things women are desperately looking for in a man? These are all God traits, Gods character. But at the same time they want men like these to still possess traits of the devil. They want a Holy Satan 😂😂😂😂

[@ajpope2010]

"Godly" women dont even come close to what the bible teaches a woman should be for her man. Those days are long gone lol

[@QG_TheRemnant]

AJP there’s still people obeying the 10 commandments of God. He’s not going to show his Diamonds to everyone. He’s going to his those godly sons and daughters under his wings and if someone wants him or her, they have to go through God in order to have her or his heart.

[@AALEXMEDIAGROUP]

It's a shame that it seems as though MORE MEN are in your comment section listening to you,...... THAN WOMEN... my Queen's HATE CORRECTION👹

[@crimsonite1524]

its always the case. but when it comes to wish lists they crowd there. the biggest shame about it is that this is a woman speaking so i dont know what excuse these women make to themselves not to listen to her, and there is nothing they can point out to be wrong that she is saying. meanwhile their value is expiring year after year, if a man is born with no value, he can attain it, if a man has value then loses it, he can get it back(case; robert downey jr) but no woman can recover her value, women have the value of rare tropical orchids, their time of bloom is beautiful and short. too bad we cant make them get it because every woman already knows it

[@chri8067]

Many are listening to Derrick Jackson's how to remain single advice 🥴

[@AyStarmusic]

CONSCIOUS THINKER there goes your problem they are not your queens... it’s never yours it’s just your turn

[@prid6427]

It is a shame that black men are listening and commenting on here. But there some black women out there always going to say black men dont listen and don't care about Self Improvement.....Bro lets not bring up the Foolery that is Derrick Jaxn and his team of "Cat Women"

[@acewilliams7917]

Then they're not queens.

[@StreetsidePhotoOnline]

"Dusty", "come up", "struggle love" when you are a grounded 80s baby and you've seen the transition of society technology and social relations, you knew a long time ago just the words we starting using when talking and addressing relationships, it was going down. I remember being 14 and while everybody was celebrating the word "babydaddy", I was shaking my head watching how it became normal, then a mindset, now our reality. Words matter and shape mindsets. Just listen.

[@monstermachine4783]

Brilliant!!

[@killingdemsoftly913]

1986 right here I can relate 🤦🏿‍♂️

[@monstermachine4783]

@SARA yep we knew that it was going to hell while everybody danced and sang along.

[@StreetsidePhotoOnline]

@av rmx All these words females use to assess a mans worth they subconsciously keep themselves as non options to progressive men by speaking negativity into existence. They're like huge children with that "nanh nanny boo boo" mentality. But my thing is, give them what they want, what is it actually doing to us men but saving us money really?? They're working harder, they hate each other, they cant connect with men because they're so busy and used up. Gove them what they want, let the next generation get it right, this one is done

[@joimumu]

Dusty is a word I heard first in 2019 and I was like dam I’m old now :)

[@MrNanah38]

You should be on the Oprah Winfrey show but you wouldn't be invited because you are not a toxic feminist. You are a breath of fresh air. You need a bigger platform

[@famfirst6660]

She does

[@LovelyMDeAnna]

They would never . To real and would build better stronger families especially black families. Like back in the day.

[@hudsond110]

Omg! Yes most women have no accountability .The feel entitled.

[@itsallgoodz1]

Most black women just want a man as a wife

[@gdiesal7738]

Wayne Brady 2 this comment is very underrated 💯say that shit again

[@JACQUESEHARRISMUSIC]

Nailed it they want to be the man I love my women girly not hard... #TIDE

[@talor5324]

Sadly I know more men that cook than women brother. Even with my parents my father taught my mother how to cook and they are 60 and 55 going on 30 years. It’s a struggle out here

[@PrimeTime__]

@@talor5324 yeah I know way more men that cook, and I can cook better than 90% of women I know. The ones that can are much older than me.

[@legitimeprocessor8901]

Exactly They want to be served

[@lamaurprice7756]

Clone this woman 10k times.

[@chadmoney7160]

20 million

[@kj9067]

We need at least 50 million clones for North America

[@reygeorge6323]

Please Clone her

[@Eli_skips]

I don’t know how this got suggested, however this should go to all colors of women. You go girl!!

[@b1stintellectualfba666]

You don't hear women talk real like this let alone an American Black woman. Intriguing to the utmost.

[@bettycollier7914]

You see this prejudicial statement You just made Especially American Black women'. this is what separate us from unity and being a strong black nation straight across the board' Most Of these comments on here coming from young hot heads who sound like high school boys' Mature men would not make these derogatory comments about black women' ' I think Sara is right in setting some things straight' but the responses are downright' Juvenile, coming from young brothers. Truth is a young man need to do as Sara and set some things straight among men.

[@guts2630]

@@bettycollier7914 It was an underhanded compliment but a compliment nonetheless. Not everything has to be taken in offense. Objectively speaking, the black community is struggling with family life, so his statement is not prejudicial, it's founded in statistics. Perhaps we should be trying to fix it like this woman instead of immediately jumping to the negatives in a statement?

[@bettycollier7914]

@@guts2630 I understand the angle the sister is coming from totally' We as women are called to correct one another' the Word tell the older women to teach the younger on how to be good wives and mothers' and teach the children' but seldom do we see brothers correcting brothers on their behavior concerning women' however I have seen many posts where sisters are talking to women and men chime in to say their peace. We are in this struggle together ' either we decide to love each other in spirit and in Truth . or we will continue these childish disputes' as mature men and women we know right from wrong' we just need to do the right thing'

[@jaredjx]

Betty Collier Nah, completely on the other person’s side. I feel like you’re one of the women who has been “corrected” by this video, but is still hanging onto that “entitlement” and “victim” mentality. Here’s to hoping for your growth.

[@robertthornton3513]

Speak that truth Mrs. Sara Lena! They don't want to hear it! Lol

[@SuperKwame1]

How There You areTelling The Truth, My sister! They don't want to hear!

[@chrisnorwood841]

A person doesn't deserve the best until they put in the work to be the best. Anything outside that is entitlement and delusional. If looks and sex is all you bring then you offer nothing of real value.

[@gregoryglass9040]

Right bro same as us men we know the truth

[@ToxicAfricanKing]

Well put!

[@MD-DLive]

Sex, looks and wanting material and currency to determine self worth! I agree 200% with you! Its sad and really a serious problem especially today! A major if not the major cause of the decrease of traditional black families ( father, mother, child/children). I always say too many of us are deeply programmed and want to live like the so called Elite, A fantasy world with no accountability! IT WILL NOT WORK FOR US!

[@armandohenriquez2103]

Literally 90% of women

[@fixt100]

i had an ex that would ride her bicycle to my house(at 25YO) to cook me breakfast when she knew i worked late the night before, she never realized that there wasnt a single woman who ever stood a chance with me because of her care and investment, she gathered all of her girlfriends to hand out my business flyers in parking lots. she is what all others are measured against now....

[@Mr_Goodstart]

I mentioned to a woman I was interested in that she was a wonderful asset to my life. She got upset and told me not to see her as an asset... In my view I found her mind set problematic since I'm an entrepreneur. If you're not interested in being / becoming an asset in someone's life, Then you'll be an liability.... Long story short. I lost interest.

[@BlackHawk0674]

I like that analogy 🔥🔥

[@clarencedudley1494]

It your not and asset what else can you be??

[@MsPrice-pn2py]

damn she didn't even know what an asset was🤦‍♀️.....you did a good thing by walking away🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️

[@menaretheprize2673]

Paul Jones glad you cut her ass off

[@rayreid358]

Paul Jones She did you a big favor 👍🏾👍🏾

[@lanelle.delina]

You are telling the truth! Many women are chasing a dream to look better than their friends. When a 'quality man' approaches he probably won't have everything you see guys having in tv shows like girlfriends, the game, mary jane, etc. We have been fed a lot of lies from the media on what we deserve. You don't 'deserve' anything. You meet who you meet but can you two communicate? Is he somewhat attractive to 'you'? Could you follow and trust his lead in major decisions? If so, bump what your friends think!

[@nweeezy]

All truth

[@GrindingMyGear]

A woman that actually makes sense. I can't believe my eyes and ears.

[@MKSpeakz]

We attract who we are vibrationally matched to 💯 if ladies are just staying the same instead of leveling up and getting a life, it’s silly to think they’re going to live the hypergamous lifestyle.

[@gregconrad7842]

Women dont need to "level up" in order to be hypergamous in any way shape or form.

[@MKSpeakz]

​@@gregconrad7842 if they want a man of means, they do. it's more than just looks, and honestly, everyone should better themselves as well as heal any past traumas before entering a relationship. Who wants to be with someone who isn't t their best or continuing to strive to be greater? If I want to be with a man who's a provider, I have to become the other half of that, like attracts like.

[@gregconrad7842]

@@MKSpeakz your two statements have very little to do with each other. In response to your original comment, there is no base level or any type of standard in order for a woman to be hypergamous. Take Steve Harveys wife. All a woman has to do in order to be hypergamous is have useful lady parts and be somewhat physically attractive. Social, economic, academic achievements mean nothing in hypergamy. So again, women leveling up is moot in hypergamy. Question, are you advocating hypergamy in your OP?? As for your second comment, you've explained finding a good man and keeping him. Nothing hypergamous about that at all.

[@bread079]

indika blu 🙌🏽 it’s ALL about how YOUR FREQUENCY work!

[@MKSpeakz]

wonder_ful_Wheatbread 💯

[@kmwh.mp4]

my congregation showed this video and I am in complete love with how you broke everything down!! Im married but I can still glean from this!! thank you!

[@openforumtalkz4651]

Omg, your hair is beautiful!

[@thisizdub]

When women say "I talk back, I don't like to listen, I don't do what I'm told " so I can't deal with a weak dude. THAT CHIC need her dad. Those are traits that kids display.

[@dwightdamion8253]

The fastest way to make a black woman hate you is to tell her the truth about herself.

[@kokefran3756]

yeap, told my ex the truth ...

[@tonycruz913]

Yup, and they look at you like "What? Something wrong with me? How dare you!" Needless to say I haven't talked to them since.

[@foxsaint1051]

*any woman

[@mistercee6366]

Absolutely

[@dwightdamion8253]

@@foxsaint1051 considering that I only deal with bw, im speaking specifically about them.

[@NN-zk2qs]

I'm female. Great video! I love that you show your natural beauty. You're not wearing a ton of fake stuff where your gentleman doesn't know what you look like and you're not trying change your appearance. You're smart, confident, beautiful, secure, humorous and you've got an audience!

[@BoneCollector246]

I REALLY love your realistic points of view! More sistahs need to come on-line (BROTHAS... ur not exempt either!) But as you said in the end sis... "They're Just Not THERE!" 😅✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾 May you all have a blessed & prosperous 2020 Family!

[@SaraLena]

Peace Family! Much Love to you!

[@tysolseid5649]

What you said about sticking with us through the struggle of youth is real, I cant wait to get old and fat w my lady

[@tsusurflawyer2432]

BUT YOUR JAMACIAN THO Y'ALL WOMEN NOT LIKE FEMALES IN STATES

[@1st_b]

A woman’s loyalty is tested when a man has nothing. A mans loyalty is tested when he has everything. I don’t understand how a woman can expect a man to stick with her when she’s old if when he was young and en route to success she was no where to be seen.

[@laurenlocd3180]

The reason why we have problems with sticking with y’all when you all struggle is because almost more than half of y’all leave when you level up. I had a man tell me not to get with a man in his struggle years cause you may not be his type of woman when he is successful and it’s true . I would never do that .

[@tysolseid5649]

@@laurenlocd3180 we all gamble, how the dice land depend on how you roll them

[@tysolseid5649]

@@tsusurflawyer2432 my dad is Jamaian, my mom is from philly and I was raised in NC, never had a problem with getting or keeping women no matter how much money I had. I think it's just whether or not they want you around.

[@blacklivesrreal1417]

Did I also say that she is beautiful, YES she is.

[@ikeanyanwu1267]

Very beautiful inside and out!

[@broq9194]

God dawg you keep it real Sis! You are the realest sista I have ever seen, not to mention the fact that you are also both super sweet and super intelligent. We need to put you in a position where you can help a lot of women. I don't live in the USA anymore and it's for many reasons, BUT THE BIGGEST REASON IS THE CONSTANT DISAPPOINTMENT WITH MY MALE/FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS AND ASSOCIATIONS. What pains me the most is that there simply is no more beautiful person on this planet than our own Black/African American women, and so many of our women don't realize that they are simply a workout and an attitude/mentality away from attracting the best men in the world. Lately I've dated mostly African and Black South American women, but as a Black/African American man I am still most attracted to Black/African American women. Our women have the best and most vibrant personalities in the world (when they're happy and positive,) have the best natural shapes in the world (on par with African and Caribbean women,) the best sense of humor, the most style, and the quickest wit of any women I've ever seen on earth, and I always give Black/African American women first look, first glance, first chance, and first opportunity. Unfortunately, faaaaaaar too many of our women have bought into the social brainwashing bullsh*t and have virtually rendered themselves "undatable" to any REAL MEN. In my experience, most Black/African American women are extremely insecure and constantly look for ways to challenge me, put me down, and disrespect. Before I left the USA, the last Black/African American woman I dated would say something insulting, degrading, and/or absolutely disrespectful to me at least once a week, and one time I had to stop the car and get out right in front of the fish fry place and straight cuss her ass out in front of everybody, because I had just had enough!!! I put up with the frequent disrespect for some months because we really got along so well. She was attractive, very professional, classy (not ghetto,) came from a nice family, had one of the most impressive minds I had ever seen, and we had amazing sexual chemistry [just hours and hours of orgasms.] But her best quality was her mind because she was literally the only woman I had ever met that I could just shut up and listen to her talk for hours because she could literally make anything and everything interesting, like a talk show host or a comedian hahahaha. The woman could make shredded wheat seem somehow interesting. She was very impressive but was also very insecure and very intimated by me because my personal qualities [former NFL athlete, long time fashion model, highly educated, etc.] so she was constantly saying and doing belittling and disrespectful things to try and attack my self-esteem, and I must have dropped her off and stormed out of her house pissed off probably at least four or five times before I stopped seeing her altogether. She did also have some affection issues though [At first she didn't even want me to stay the night with her after sex, basically like "let's f*** and then go home," but after a few weeks she did start to warm up more and got comfortable with me lying next to her all night. But many of our women have this same kind of issue, like they don't want to be "too close" to a man, especially a good man, and that can be a lot to deal with.] What was so disappointing was that IT WAS ALL SOOOOOO UNNECESSARY!!! We got along great. She wasn't "ghetto," she wasn't loud, was extremely articulate & well spoken, and our physical chemistry was off-the-charts, and all she had to do was open herself up, see the value in herself, and not try and knock me down at every chance she got. And I see this kind of thing all of the time, women doing small things make a relationship ridiculous and impossible. I mean, what kind of man wants to give a woman psychotherapy just so he can date her? I'm not going to sit around and be belittled and disrespected every time she gets in the mood. You need to go get a beta male for that kind of bullsh*t. So many of our beautiful Black sistas are just a few small changes away from being the most desirable and sought after women on this planet. I've seen women from all over the world and AT HER BEST there is nothing like a Black/African American woman!!! Sista help our beautiful sistas to be the most beautiful, desirable, and sought after queens in the entire world, LIKE THEY'RE SUPPOSED TO BE. Peace and Love

[@Icantsh00t]

It’s insane to hear a woman say these things. ♥️

[@robertthornton3513]

Alot of us men are taught or told in a way that we always do for our women in hopes that we will keep her happy! She should already come to you happy and y'all be happy together! A man should do what needs to be done period for y'all!

[@robertthornton3513]

@@lavonnealexander6936 I have no problem at all with a sexy independent woman! The problem with most women like that though is that they tend to want to be stronger than the man they're with. A real man is there to lead, build with you and be your strength wherever it's needed! That's what where built for! If a man doesn't see his place in that woman's life he's not going to be in her life! It's a big difference between Independence and Superiority!

[@shuntavaisjohnson86]

True

[@alvinwitherspoon5960]

FACTS!!!!! Keep speaking truth to life!!

[@marthagebru9768]

Thank you for saying the hard stuff Sara. Im the type of person who strives for greatness which will always include accepting harsh truth and practicing self-reflection often without internalizing. Id rather be around people who will tell me the truth when necessary than people who only focus on what Im already doing right.

[@SaraLena]

Well, I appreciate this comment.

[@williammcbroom6682]

Virtuous you are!

[@brezzygrl91]

Someone shared this in a FB group I'm in. Amazing video, excellent points, great things to keep in mind. I'm now subscribed. Looking forward to you other videos

[@lordsinister707]

Madame I tip my hat to you. You completely understand the whole situation. My only response is in regards to the women who said that dating someone below a certain hierarchy is considered a struggle love or he's Dusky. I have a question for them. What would you say to all of those men who dated and married your grandmothers or your great- grandmothers whom by your standards were a struggle love or Dusky but he married her anyway because he loved her and did what he had to do to make that house work? I mean how many stories have you probably heard from your grandma or any other Elder in your family about how daddy or granddaddy had to work two jobs put in almost 80 hours a week all the while making sure no one knew how bone tired he was or taking it out on the family? It's downright offensive that you're saying you won't do the same thing when men have been doing it for years. Furthermore this one goes for both men but most especially women, there are too many people who have a fundamental misunderstanding about what providing is. Providing is not just Financial. Protection is not just physical. Providing like you described is sometimes just being that place of peace for your partner. Protection sometimes it's just saying hey I don't want to see you killing yourself with all this work. We will make do but I want you to take care of yourself first

[@percyastronautstatus.8780]

Damn Sara lena. This video was on POINT .... I hope these women are LISTENING. ..this video was a REALITY CHECK and probably pissed a few women off but I know it's coming from a place of love ...

[@davidsimmons4731]

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Men get the most attractive women that their combination of money and status will afford them. Women, get the best man that thier combination of beauty, sex appeal, and overall pleasantness will afford them.

[@sickofguysnamedtodd2293]

David Simmons in other words you get what you can negotiate. That’s why rich ugly men like Donald Trump can get fine women but an ugly rich woman like Oprah can’t get a top tier man.

[@davidsimmons4731]

@@sickofguysnamedtodd2293 Absolutely. No one gets what they deserve, only what they have the ability to negotiate, and negotiations are best done from a postion of strength and leverage. Tall, wealthy and/or powerful men have the most bargaining power among because they're the most desirable men to women. Beautiful women, particularly ones with desirable features (large breasts, butts, lips, etc, et al) are the most desired women by men. Therefore they have more bargaining power the other women. There's notable exceptions, but by and large, in the aggregate, that's the way it goes.

[@davidsimmons4731]

@@sickofguysnamedtodd2293 Also, that boils down to what each gender values. Men, especially successful ones, value beauty and see a beautiful woman as an extension of his success. Women value security aka money. So theyll take a less attractive man as long as he has money and stay with him despite him cheating, beating her ass, etc because they care more about the lifestyle than the guy.

[@bettycollier7914]

The Truth is a beautiful down to earth real sister just want a man who is taking care of himself just as she is' a roof over his head and paying his bills it don't have to be fancy' She just want honesty and someone who is not scary and a liar' someone she feels safe with' respect her feelings and not start off lying' and I keep stressing Rent, because people want to come in out of the rain' preparations should be made before wanting a serious relationship'

[@pinkgal206]

You’re broke fb ugly

[@BP-fx3qc]

Wow, why are women absent from this video? Most comments are from men..

[@nweeezy]

you know why

[@UnitedPacci]

We all know why. They can't call her mysogonistic, sexist, anti women or any crazy stuff they usually do to men.

[@dt4654]

well,it is not like they feel personally attacked or anything 🥴 it is hard to get why your expectations may not be met 100% without you putting in effort.

[@djpoison2846]

Wow. Someone in this day and age being 100% reasonable.

[@Brock871]

I thought that women like you did not exist anymore. Great to see there are still GREAT women like you out there !

[@0fficialselena__90]

We are literally everywhere but I guess media plays a HUGE role in programming and brainwashing people's minds making them think otherwise.

[@herusmith4798]

Standards will cause a lot of women to be lonely and in denial about their loneliness. See the thing is that a lot of single women want a man who either act like their father or the opposite of him; when in reality they should find a man that can complement who they are. And others look for a man based on entertainers and society's standard of a good man. If the standards that you are currently have aren't working then maybe you should start from scratch for a change.

[@herusmith4798]

@@lavonnealexander6936 that is true and that is when you should make a change so that disrespect no longer interrupt your relationship

[@dbosslady3274]

Thank you Sara I’m sharing this with my women’s group because I just did an exercise similar to this and the ladies were surprised when I gave the same advice you stated in this video.

[@armandohenriquez2103]

They deflected and put blame on men

In the age of Tinder, OkCupid and feminism, mediocre women have truly delusional high standard when compared to what they bring to the table❗️👁✔️👁👌

[@LizNeptune]

It's hard trying not to feel broken, angry and annoyed that none of the women in my life ever taught me this or explained this... but then again, I can't think of one single healthy marriage in my entire family, including extended family. My family is extremely dysfunctional. Lots of fatherlessness, baby daddy's, baby mama's, loveless marriages, child abuse, physical, mental and emotional child abuse, narcissism, infidelity, lies and secrets. Thankfully I started therapy at age 24 and so I already know what my issues are. It's go time... loved the video and subscribed. THANK YOU!

[@benergy100k2]

Goodness! I just landed on this accidentally and soon as I finished listen to it all, I couldn't resist subscribing to your channel. One of the most authentic videos from a woman. Kudos to you girl for that un-sugar coated honesty. There is a lot for both men and women to learn from this video and I absolutely don't understand what the 20 people who have so far given it a thumbs down really think if they are not in total denial! Thank you again.

[@deonteathens1043]

I always thought you were 28-32. You are gorgeous. You look and carry yourself as flawless. I have so much Respect for women like you.

[@JelaniB28]

I guesstimate that 80 - 90% of the women that started watching this video didn’t finish it and definitely wanted no parts of the comment thread. I guess the cat finally caught their tongues. The truth is scorching when it finally catches up with those who have tried to avoid it. 🔥🔥🥵🥵🔥🔥💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽

[@Dan_Dropper]

Here's one of the realities going on these days. A female leader, most of the cases, will say "Women are strong!", all the female audience will reply quickly "YES!" without thinking and without reasons. *But* Most of the cases (in my experience), a male leader WILL NOT say that "men are strong", they simply say "you can be much stronger than you think!" See the differences there? Women are entitled to everything that they think serve them, *WITHOUT NO EFFORTS* Men always think: "If you want it, then *go earn it*" So my advice to all the guys who are seeking a meaningful relationship, erase your mindset from "she stole my heart" to "she earned my trust" And when you meet a woman who treats a relationship like business, even more she tells you that man/you must have bla bla bla... just ask her this: "if you have no pussy, what can you bring to the relationship?" Most of women that I've met who said "A man have to fight for his woman!" I simply replied them "Why?" The reason I asked them "Why?", it's to shut their parasite mindset. And the "Why?" is not a question you can answer by words, but by actions. They better start to think about their worth to man. Seriously guys, the world right now is lack of "Why?"

[@reitum.9950]

Its just sad how the comment section is occupied by mostly men. Whatever happens Sara, please don't give up on this journey. Women like you are going to save the world. Big up Sis

[@boomarang3186]

I don't know but you are probably the only woman I've heard that speak so much facts. Very objective for the good. Very few women are like that in my opinion. Not trying to disrespect other women but that's truth. I subscribed to your channel the first time I heard you talk.

[@reneice123106]

I really enjoy listening to you Sara Lena. I apply your principles and knowledge to my life. Your videos make me aware of the behaviors I’m exhibiting and identify what traits I have, then fix them. Keep the videos coming, please!!

[@MauriceNovembre]

Giving brothers hope errrrrr day. Thank you!

[@robertgarthwaiteiv7897]

Most women expect taller than 5’8, hot steaming abs, natural curly hair, and basically a whole ass basketball prodigy, and don’t care whatsoever about personality. If some really nice guy who is honest and smart and just overall amazing in how he treats girls but if he doesn’t meet those expectations on looks? oh boy he’s single for life

[@thashadowspawn]

The truth she speaks & the wisdom she is pointing out is priceless. 100% Reality Check for countless women in our age that are being mentally conditioned to not be happy, conditioned to chase a fantasy , conditioned to hate a good man yet desiring one while not being on the same level they demand of good men. Iron Sharpens Iron and this sista right here has it on Point!

[@thomassmith8314]

You're a bright spark of hope in a society drifting into darkness... It's refreshing to hear a woman speaking so honestly and rationally about this issue. I think your approach to compromise is a smart solution to an increasingly serious problem, that sadly, far too many young women are ignoring.

[@DefinitelyAFakePage]

Did she just call them dusty? Wow 😅 @Chloe_

[@lapierce5868]

Women cant comment because they know the truth... And this video speaks of 80 percent of them may 90

[@Jianju69]

Three examples of desired traits in men: muscular, wealthy, tall. Three examples of desired traits in women: trim, no kids, not a loudmouth. Tell me, which of these two sets of requirements sounds like more of a challenge to attain in life?

[@bettycollier7914]

Most women are happy with a natural man that have a sound mind a sense of responsibility that stands up to actually do it' Height is not that important these days as long as the man is in shape and not overweight' he can have the woman he want. a greedy man is disgusting' just like a greedy woman'' If this area is slack so is many others about the person'

[@hottbaje6868]

@@bettycollier7914 I noticed u conveniently didn't mention anything about the female attributes or say anything about the question asked.

[@KyleDimetri]

Betty Collier for women height plays a major factor and not to mention financial ( understably )

[@MrTonydbenjamin]

This young woman needs to be heard it is the raw vegetables the world needs some of them. Keep going sis.

[@starrjohnson1327]

Hormone fluctuations make some women lose lubrication. Start taking vitamins and drink your water ladies! Also, smell good! If you have an odor when you sweat or "down there" use Boricap. Great for lubrication and odor!

[@tpm61674]

Thank you, Ms Lena. I listen to your words and apply them to myself to be a better person and man.

[@banksofbarcelona3893]

You are a realist!

[@don.p1298]

Damn you’re on point and that’s whats needed to be said so the next generation want have any issues

[@NappiHappi05]

I absolutely love this video and agree with everything that u are saying!! I attract older guys and get compliments on how I carry myself all the time and a lot ask why I choose not to date and my answer is always ”that I’m no good for anyone right now but thank you.” This video is exactly why cuz after having two horrible relationships I'm aware that I have things within myself as a woman that I need to work on personally!! I am very old school but maybe I'm too old school in my ways for a lot of guys my age idk lol!! It is easy to say what we want in a man but how do we look when we're auditioning for the part?! Very good video sweetie...you were tactful and on point

[@Sonderbarr]

I didn't want to comment, but this is one impressive video. Sara, you are amazingly shrewd, intelligent, articulate and compelling. I'm only half way thru this, and it just gets better. Priceless!

[@secondopinion53]

As a Man I appreciate this coming from you My sister! Being very Diverse!

[@theoriginalkilox7592]

Without standards, there can be no improvement. ...

[@Cahluvca]

Be REAL with yourself!! The motto for all in 2020!

[@touchedouche8806]

Very insightful. Most women could use an awareness like yours. Because of this you are a more valuable woman! Love ya

[@Mr.Eminem]

Glad to see that a woman knows how Fucked up todays woman's expectations are . Preach em sis

[@firmbodyval4536]

Sara, you are making too much sense for these women...especially the ones from the dysfunctional black community. Just being honest. But thanks for tellin em'.

[@PainNGrowth]

I really appreciate you and your wisdom. Many women can benefit from hearing and embodying the knowledge you drop. #OneLove

[@jamesmorris8192]

I'm so happy she broke down the hierarchy of men. What dudes and female need to understand is that there is a rank system and most are real delusional. Great job my sister 👍

[@godthesonhasilluminatedme]

This comes back too: 1) what are your values, 2) what is your upbringing, 3) what is your personality meaning how do you react to life circumstances, 5) attitude meaning what is your common everyday outlook about life: is the glass half full or half empty? These are the things the traits make one a desirable life partner...which is longevity. Notice I didn’t mention anything physical because I believe real beauty beams from virtue and are mostly intangible!!! Great video

[@quietstorm9436]

Sara, you need to start classes for women. Great video. Can you discuss the issues with women who are in a relationship with men who are entering into their prime? I have noticed most men who are entering into their prime years turn to be stuck in a relationship with women who are years out of their prime. This usually results to these men cheating because most of these women refuse to take care of themselves. Can u talk about this problem.

[@quietstorm9436]

@@lavonnealexander6936 I agree. But unfortunately, that's not the case for the majority

[@suzukidriver6473]

After watching Chrissie's videos on hypergamy, these videos are refreshing.

[@richardhorton4664]

1) This is classic. 2) No KZbinr has ever said it better. 3) Miss Sara Lena, your sisters are gonna take away your bw club membership. 4) If bw would internalize these ideas the marriage rate would go up 30% overnight. I'm glad that there are women like you around. Happy Holidays!

[@WMB6022]

D'Nieka Marie mentioned you on her page as one of the KZbin People that she appreciated. I can see why. Subscribed ✊🏽

[@GunsNBudder]

This chick is telling it straight. Very well analyzed and processed. I'm 44, no kids, just started dating a surprisingly mature and absolutely amazing 22yo who also has no kids. We're both at a point where we're looking for, possibly, a family. She's a little bit young but she pays her own bills, owes nobody anything, supports herself at a fairly high level, and has done so since she was 15. She can get. Shit. Done. She's more psychologically mature and "woman-like" than any other female (large/overgrown female children, mostly - petty, lazy, stupid, boring, catty, vain) I've dated from age 18-37 in the last 5 years I've been single. She's all the things this lady is talking about and it just makes me want to pour myself into the relationship and make the investment at 101%. Now the question is this: Now that I've established in my head that she's worth all of my time and effort, I want to be the best I can be to her. What can I do, as a man, to go above and beyond for her so that I can make her as happy as she makes me? I mean, I think I make her pretty happy because we're pretty crazy about each other, but if I'm doing it at all, I don't want to leave any stone un-turned because she's worth it. By the way @Sara Lena...you're a dang fine 30 :) Smoke show! Keep doing whatever you're doing!

[@peterdavid6946]

Hardworking men work long hours. Why deal with a woman who has allot of that damn mouth ? Demanding. Emotional energy. Bye.

[@ernasheree01]

Peter Dickson This is hard to hear, but very true.

[@peterdavid6946]

@@ernasheree01 we as black men and black women will continue to have so many of our kids, families, and neighborhoods broken as long as we can't work together. Black men are raised by a single parent who beats them and yells at them for everything instead being instructed and taught to express their feelings through words. So many black men grow up to dish out the violence they learned as a child from being yelled at, dominated, and beaten. Another big mistake single parents make is they try to be God to their kid meaning they want the child to only love them and only trust them and hate everyone else !!!!!! Teachers. Police. Father. Won't let grandparents see the kids.

[@ernasheree01]

Peter Dickson It’s true. And the single parent is usually also dealing with their own childhood trauma. The way I think of it is...we aren’t to blame for our trauma, for the bruises we received, but we are truly the only ones who can heal it. That said, thank you for sharing some behind the scenes about growing up as a Black boy raised by a single parent. We often see a lot of rage toward single mothers, and many of us don’t understand why. Sadly we (I) foolishly assumed there was no logic behind it. But there is. Thank you for shedding light 😊 I will keep this in mind when interacting with men from now on.

[@NN-zk2qs]

Lol!

[@blacklivesrreal1417]

I love this sista she has it together, extremely savvy & smart right on point.Listen up !!!!!!!!!!

[@timharris5199]

Some of the realest s*** I heard in a very long time the truth hurts

[@Rob-dg5ng]

Message to women. Your prime years for getting a man and having children are in your 20’s. Most women hit the wall in and around 30. So to the women who say “I need to work on me first. I need to set up my Career” you need to understand that your “Career” does not have a wall, you do!

[@KIYINIJOSEPHB]

This is what i call a REAL WOMAN.Lena,YOU are a Real Woman.

[@justinp9170]

10:20 Oh man... I lost count of how many men (co workers and such) i've came across that are married and unsatisfied with the amount of sex they get. And overall the story pretty much match up to it being the best ever before marriage and once they got the ring it's like "I got him now" and they put in the most minimal effort. One of the many reasons why marriage isn't on my mind at all compared to years ago. Don't know how I got here onto this video but what a smart woman! There's a reason why women who think like this are already taken