7 Ways to Quit Dating Apps and Have Guys Approach You FOR REAL | Matthew Hussey

[@mariagoergen4064]

1. don't create a friend fortress 2:03 2. the look 3:34 3. get closer 4:51 4. use the favor 5:42 5. use "two hit theory" 6:20 6. develop mindset of a restaurant owner 7:47 7. what you say isn't as important as saying something 9:13

[@DaniWilkin]

1a. take an overindulgent monkey out for a drink

[@cedricdellafaille1361]

for crying out loud.. you cant get him to chase you. a man is not like a woman!! this is selling false hope.. its horrible for all the women trully believing it. What do men want : ~ Young and beatiful (EXTREMELY IMPORTANT) ~ submissive (see asian and phillipino women how they treat their men at home) ~supportive ~sweet and caring ~NO NAGGING ~optimistic and fresh (basically like a teenager not some old grumpy woman) you want him to chase you?? GET TO THE GYM! WORK OUT its not coming on a silver plate also MEN immediately knows what they want. you can probably can have sex with him, for us men its like taking a piss. so its not as valuable than you think. every woman on earth has a V. but if you want commitment and a relationship you have to be HIS TYPE ! if ur not enough for her... sorry girl move on. man women think, i have xx with the guy he's now mine... nah girl nah...

[@emmadiri7189]

Thanks

[@tallspicy]

@@cedricdellafaille1361 what red pill, incel, the game following men want. Thank goodness tons, in my experience most, of men out there that are so much more elevated than this. Real men don’t want a human blow up doll. Oh yeah, and all women are younger than some men, so that is literally a non issue (85% of people are with people who are within 5 years of their own age) But I do agree men either chase or they don’t, there is not much you can do and don’t put out until you are both on the same page about what you want.

[@ryvaleska]

thanks

[@SCRT]

Literally to the 1% whos reading this, God bless you, and may your dreams come true, stay safe and have a wonderful day.💕

[@crazyanimeloveable]

Amen! To you as well! Godbless 💕❤🙏

[@tropicalgoddess1270]

Amen🔆 To you too x

[@jovanajovanovic1829]

Thank you,you too💙

[@charlottetheartist327]

Thank you. HUGS God be in your heart speaking clearly, with love. Peace!!

[@Gigi_uk]

Peace and ❤

[@katehiebert1033]

I feel like dating apps have ruined dating. They made it so that we can view every single person if we wanted to. It becomes impossible to ever feel satisfied with anyone if there is a chance the grass is greener out there. But whenever I get on them it's always the same people year after year always looking for the perfect person and never finding it. I think the remaining people will find fault in anyone.

[@cedricdellafaille1361]

i cant agree with you more. dating apps definately for women makes them all want that top tier men. you can have xx with the guy but dont even think for the slighest way he wants to commit. thats on a WHOLE new level. HE ALSO will take the best choice he can get and thats usually not you

[@kenyafromcali]

It’s a psychology shift in the male psyche that will go down in history as one of the most destructive things family and societies of the last and next few centuries. It’s really, really unhealthy. Deep sigh

[@IevaKambarovaite]

I think one can definitely say that dating apps have ruined dating, but thousands of people are getting married every single day and they met on dating apps. I think there's definitely a way to find quality people whether you're using dating apps or not, but it's more about how you view yourself, are you coming to a date thinking it's going to be another wasted evening or you bring something else instead. Call me naive, but I'll never stop believing in love x

[@TheMarllonGamer]

Fr when woman have this many options everything goes to shit

[@melvaughn29]

True, they are also designed as profit to keep people single and on them. They are like slot machines. Addictive because you think you’ll eventually get a hit (and sometimes you do) but it’s short-lived, and no substance. Dating apps are good if you just want hookups, or some interesting first date stories. That’s about it. I also agree that I see the same people on them. I first went on them back in 2017 and now in 2022, it’s all the same people and profiles and they are on ALL of them. I’m thinking ‘how are people not giving up after 6+ years on them?’ It goes back to it being addictive!

[@marrymemonday6142]

Honestly there’s no secret to attraction. Have self worth. I’ll say it again for the people in the back, have self worth. You’ll find your person that way. Period.

[@thematthewhussey]

I just couldn’t disagree with this more. This is like saying there are no secrets to good public speaking, and that all you need to do is be confident. It’s just not true. Or that all you need in conversation is self worth, and there is nothing to learn in life about what good conversation looks like, which is also simply not true. There’s such a thing as skill in life, and it’s relevant to every area of life. To suggest it’s not relevant in dating is to suggest that dating doesn’t follow the same life principles as every other part of life. I’m a better kisser today than when I had my first kiss (thank god-I almost head butted the poor girl who had the unfortunate position of being my first kiss). That has nothing to do with self worth. It has to do with competence. The ultimate combination in life is confidence AND competence, together. And we should remember, confidence itself is often born out of competence. Self worth is utterly essential. I agree with you in this. But the idea that knowing “what” to do is irrelevant in dating is an oversimplification that doesn’t help us improve and get better in practical ways.

[@mcshine8167]

I agree Matthew, I’ve been reading more books & watching videos and sharpening my skills. I do need to improve my self worth, but I also need to improve other skills that help as well

[@marrymemonday6142]

@@thematthewhussey ok well spoken. But you can’t disagree the message is delivered the same??

[@nessauk2786]

@@marrymemonday6142 I kind of agree with both of you...

[@marrymemonday6142]

@@thematthewhussey we are intelligent happy women that get lost sometimes. There’s no cure for bad people sometimes. Unless it’s like you, sucking of the desperate agonizing People that watch you

[@gracecoxR]

I recently went through a tough breakup. My 5 year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been really hard for me. I still love my ex-girlfriend so much and can't stop thinking about her. I've tried everything to win her back, but nothing has worked. It's frustrating, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I've been trying to move on, but I can't seem to get her out of my mind. I know it might sound strange to share this here, but I miss her a lot and just can't stop thinking about her.

[@BenjaminJones-re8re]

I understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar situation when my 12-year relationship ended. I couldn't just let her go, so I did everything I could to win her back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, and their guidance ultimately helped me to bring her back into my life.

[@gracecoxR]

Amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact them?"

[@BenjaminJones-re8re]

His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can help restore your relationship with your ex.

[@gracecoxR]

Thanks for sharing this valuable information. I just looked him up online and I'm impressed.

[@eso8171]

This guy advice is most likely a scam 😂. I hope you're doing okay. Sometimes giving the other person space is better than trying to fix the relationship. Sending love and hugs to you.

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

Remind yourself that it's perfectly okay not to be perfect

[@cedricdellafaille1361]

yeah... no try to be better. dont losen up. dont make stupid excuses also if ur not perfect dont try to get a 6ft guy while ur obese and doing nothing

[@J.5.M.]

More than that, it's BETTER not to be perfect. Perfect is boring. Perfect doesn't make good conversation. Perfect isn't real. I much rather date someone who's imperfect and aware of it, and still has self worth than someone who is "perfect"

[@sanecatlady]

You can try to get whoever you want, but don't expect people to be "perfect" when you can't live up to the same standards.

[@Canyon2023]

How long to look at person and hold your glance (what it means): 1 second = not noticing them. 2 seconds = acknowledging them. 3 seconds = shows you're interested in them! 3 seconds is all that's really needed to communicate to people that you're interested in them - and all the better if you give them a quick smile!! That's all the encouragement a man needs! And holding a look for 3 seconds with a stranger is longer and harder than it seems!! A 5 second look may be construed as a little bit scary or fixated, or that you're studying them. Three seconds communicates that you're showing an interest in them!! Try it!!!

[@average_coverage]

Ok, I'm just gonna say it: if while maintaining eye contact you're counting and forcing yourself to last longer the energy you give may be a bit off. Soooooo off. There has to be a better way. Like when you meet someone and you try to notice their eye colour and that serves as a measure of a nice long initial eye contact.

[@Iudicatio]

I have tried it sometimes, and the other people have noticed me, but none of them ever actually spoke to me

[@Lmbl4]

My best relationship ever started in a club. Tinder meetings can be great but nothing compare to eye contact, vibes & soul connection

[@Prisy087]

My most magical relationship memories or encounters are from the real life meetings and never from a dating app. I miss the good ol day’s, before phone was use as an extension of someone.

[@gigibtsurvivor3348]

All great suggestions, provided you feel safe in the situation. Hiking alone… not likely. Going to a bar alone… even less likely. My experience is that the most brazen men are often the most problematic.

[@dreamgirl7022]

This is perfect timing because I’ve been thinking of deleting dating apps

[@anyabelle]

This couldn't have come in at a perfect time for me than now! Thank you, Matthew!

[@louisegarner8888]

Yes Matthew, it works to join a hiking group or activity you enjoy where you regularly meet face to face, have a good laugh, real time interactions and spend quality time in relaxed settings amongst others as it's easier to see how they interact with others and behave in different settings as well over time. You need a life numero uno. Beware that you'll end up with too many friends and potential partners so learn how to set good boundaries and zone ppl closer or further away from the get go. Work on yourself, develop good comm skills as a healthy, wholesome attitude, lifestyle and personality are essential for both of you. Be personable, show genuine interest, respect and warmth, state your standards, needs and boundaries incidentally as part of normal conversation and actions, ask good quality questions, and take it slow and steady too as it can take 6-12mths to show their true colours sometimes and it's alot easier to get into relationshits than out of them. Treat others as you'd want to be treated or as you'd want to see a treasured family member to be treated persay and give only from your cup's overflow so you don't end up anyone's doormat. Don't underestimate taking a closer look at a friend that's been loyally there for you forever either, it might just take lighting a spark to set things off in a good direction that builds and grows you both. Remember that noone is more important than you so just have fun with it and learn how to lean in or let go with equal ease. 💕👋

[@jeinyabad]

wow! beautiful!

[@sumansohal]

Wonderful approach 👏

[@helialamster4002]

what a great effort mr hussey puts into his videos cause honestly the content and the message has always been the same thing for years but he changes it up a bit and makes it more relevant to any human everyday experience whether dating or socializing in general .thank you who ever runs this channel

[@pinkconfidantp2me912]

Literally every guy iv gone out with on a dating app was a lire or a cheater or just wanted a hookup or just freaking nuts I stopped Dating apps for good.

[@madworld6900]

Thank you Matthew I needed this help. After three online dating interactions and just having come out of the last one, I will not be going online dating again for a long time, if ever!. Its Spring, I'm older, wiser thanks to you. One item I would add is trusting your intuition. It gets harder as you get older to go back into the dating scene. The answer has been staring me in the face all along, so hopefully, with Covid distancing finishing we can all get to mingle in the right way as human beings have for centuries before online dating. Good for you if you have met the one online, that is marvellous, but to me, its like sticking a pin in a map and trying to negotiate a way there successfully.

[@Charlotte-Willow]

A male friend of mine suggested going to Home Depot to meet men if you’re looking for a masculine one…I’ve seen several good looking ones but haven’t figured out the approach part yet.

[@catlue7006]

Ask them a question

[@SuperMurray2009]

Just approach them and say you thought they seemed cute and wanna grab drinks with them sometimes

[@MJ13ish]

Literally walk around the store with a grocery cart. Ask how to find flowers, or things you may need in your house, or say nothing and just walk around.

[@lou4169]

Omg this is GOLD. Just remembered I went to Home depot a few months ago and saw a couple really cute guys but didn't approach them 'cause I was with my dad 😆 I should take a solo trip soon

[@heyjenknee]

Home Depot is the easiest place to talk to a guy. Ask him a question.

[@leoniekoning1005]

Been together with my man for over 7 years now, getting married in September. had a crush on him at high school and he went to the same college as myself so I send him a friend request on fb and when I saw him sitting at school after he had accepted I had walked up to him and said 'Hi, I like your boots'. Only reason he and I still remember is because he always had the same boots and continues to get them when they are worn through and I really really love them. He also thought it was super cute at the time so every once in a while he will just go like 'Hey babe, do you still remember that one time when you came up to me and said you liked my boots?' (sometimes teasing I don't say that to him anymore to which I'd then respond with 'maybe if you'd buy different boots for once' followed with a hug and or kiss) hahahaha

[@tomdrummy4984]

1- shut off your past experiences in your head. You don’t know a new person instantly based on your past experiences…….with OTHER people. 2- smile, without an attitude.

[@saycog1084]

I moved countries recently and I now live in a very lively place. I walk by the sea almost every morning and I see two men I’m very attracted to. One is more the serious type, the other I’ve exchanged smiles with. After so many years only meeting online I wish I knew what to do to get them to do something.

[@silviasurdeanu6104]

Matthew gives perfect speeches which simply cannot be equaled in dating advice.

[@MariaV0071]

In have tried most of your tips many times throughout my life, never worked. Some people need to work really, really, really hard to find somebody, and attempts will still fail. It's discouraging. Not everything in life is meant to be for everyone

[@RR3DS]

Attractiveness definitely plays an important part.

[@cristymakes6026]

I mean these are just tips to open the path. The rest is up to you

[@Bogna1]

@@RR3DS And your age too. If you are quite attractive it's not that difficult to make someone approach you in public place, party, gig, club etc but when you are in your 20s and 30s but in your 40s - this is different story.

[@kdub10009]

@@Bogna1 I’m well into my 40’s and I find that I get approached even more now than I did when I was younger, and by younger and younger men as well. I think it may have something to do with being more relaxed and comfortable in my skin now, at this more mature age.

[@Bogna1]

@@kdub10009 Lucky you then, but yes you are probably still very attractive. I am fair less attractive in my 40s than I was in my 20s and 30s (still not looking too bad thou) and especially since I started wearing glasses men seem less interested too.

[@carladirden]

The one that resonated the best with me is #3 GET CLOSER! I love the thought of this and I'm even fantasizing about doing that. I just know I'd be really good at it. LOL And can you imagine if you know you smell good and he does too!!! That creates attraction. Has anybody ever experienced that? The Fed Ex guy who came a couple of weeks ago smelled so good and I was really trying to think fast and see if I could get him to say something..but I just couldn't think of anything. Anyway, even my box swelled like him when I brought it in the house. LOL.. I'm just saying..

[@IdyllicIdy]

Having bravery can create opportunities 🙌

[@arigato22]

I have the opposite problem; I'm often alone at the bar or alone in general. I'm not on my phone and actually scanning the room. Unfortunately most people aren't interested in me and mostly interested in their phones or just chatting to their partners. Most of the time, people are already in a couples/groups and oblivious. It's quite difficult to get their attention. I think I do it well if I'm just networking but if I'm socially trying to attract a guy's attention, it fails. Men just don't want women to approach them and a lot of men are in groups so they'd prefer women in groups, not alone. I still want to create opportunities but it's very hard. I actually already do what you have suggested and have met friends through this. Men on the other hand, are difficult! Maybe I'm just boring or unattractive but I get a lot of rejection from approaching people. I usually just move on and keep chatting to different people in a room but still, doesn't mean I don't get mentally exhausted from. I am actually extroverted and thrive on making conversations and meeting new people. But I also get a lot of rejection from that.

[@MorningsWithMaria]

I agree men prefer you to be with at least one more friend or they’ll assume your friend or bf is somewhere coming back I prefer to meet men in other places if I’m going alone in day time environments not bars

[@nunanusta]

Same girl, let's get married!! 😂😂😭😭😭🤚🏻

[@nunanusta]

It's like dudes like girls that are just really mysterious and stuff, but they also like girls that are outgoing and are like popular and shi... Like, it's hard out here... 🙄🙄🤚🏻🤚🏻

[@waveofbubble2194]

i'm dating someone rn, but for me the problem was guys never rejected me, but simply valued me less because they didn't have to chase me and put in an effort so i stopped trying to create such scenarios

[@kathyp1563]

It's not you. It's society. I think it's important on many levels for you to understand that. Nice guys, by definition, are polite. As you know, they won't act rude to talk to you. Nice guys, by definition, are not creeps. They are very conscientious about not looking like a creep; not acting like a creep. They definitely don't want to risk being treated like a creep. However, society now labels normal male behavior as "toxic masculinity". What's a nice guy to do? Try to be empathetic to their plight. They DO want to chat with women, but the modern day rules are insulting to them. ** Were you describing a weekend night-life situation where you're alone & hoped to be approached? That will never happen. If you're alone in a bar on the weekend, people will assume that you are waiting for someone. Only a jerk would hit on a woman while she is waiting for a date. After an hour or two, it is obvious you are alone, maybe rejected; maybe emotionally vulnerable. Only a creep would hit on a woman who is emotionally vulnerable. So, if you are in a situation where you want to go out on a Saturday, but don't have friends (i.e. new in town or all your friends just got married) only do things that would be fun if you don't meet anyone at all--all night. Suggestions? Many of us worked tickets a sports/theatre/concerts, etc. Many of these events have both volunteer (less commitment) or side-job (actual commitment). But, all of these things are just for a season...and fun! ** City Parks: The type of park with ponds, dog parks, playgrounds, frisbee golf, etc. A nice guy would never fall in step with a strange woman on an isolated trail in the woods. Frequent the same one routinely. It's not uncommon for a guy to see a girl for days & days before he decides she looks like she won't treat him like a creep if he would say "Nice Day?" ** Modesty? If you go somewhere with water -- beach, water park, lake resort, you'll be more approachable if you put on a t-shirt when you walk around. A nice guy might be aroused by a girl at a distance...but he doesn't want to feel like a creep talking to a barely dressed woman.

[@mariesham2996]

How easy it really is & how hard we make those “ moments “💁‍♀️🍓🍓🍓

[@wandasexton643]

It's hard to get anything preferably off the ground people don't set boundaries if they're not extremely focused in what they want and they don't write that in their profiles. I have seen so many profiles that are so vague.... with even just a comment "ask me" why I don't want to ask somebody at the zillion questions I want someone to tell me what's really important what they really are looking for. That person is wasting my time and it tells me that they're not focus and all they want is just to casually date which is not for me. Dating as a middle-aged woman is so hard because people just living this victim mentality. So I had to walk away for a little while. Because people are so unrealistic and wanted takes to be in a healthy relationship and that's probably because they've never experienced one and they've never understood what it takes to be in a positive enriching relationship and the sad part is they don't even want to learn

[@gamerchristina1079]

Yes!

[@Canyon2023]

I think this is your best video, and so true!! I'm a female and I've tested all these things myself and it works every time, effortlessly! And I have the BEST time talking to people and getting to know them in public, even if I don't get a date with them. In fact, I've been asked out several times when I open myself up to getting to know them and we have a stimulating conversation!! But I've declined some offers because they are sometimes too young for me :) But the whole point is...no matter how it turns out....I have ALWAYS enjoyed the evening/afternoon more whenever I'm engaged in a stimulating and meaningful conversation. Getting to know strangers for even an hour or two, and having a pleasant connection is always worthwhile to me! And it's really so easy to just be friendly ~ men really like that!

[@LisaGemini]

I don't have to worry about the friend fortress because I have only a few friends and no "wing" woman to go out with. Good tips here. I"m done with the dating apps, they are way too much work for very little gain!

[@geneoluminology]

Bless you ALL and all the good people sustaining the world with Love..and MERCY 🙌💖

[@Rachel_PureBold]

Thank you Matt, such good advice. I used 'the favour' and 'the look' and 'the two-hit theory' recently, and got into two nice conversations, either of which I might be able to follow up. (Only thing is... one conversation actually was with the restaurant owner!!) xx

[@musicdesign7264]

Many of these ideas work, but where I live, we are still masked up and 6 ft apart. My most favorite things to do alone, go to a crowded bar to hear music or wineries. Way different in Covid world. Can't get up close to people.

[@fatimadoucoure4024]

Hey Matthew, When did you first hear about 2 hit theory? It's so interesting and it inspires me to learn more about things so I can share valuable information too. Also, I love the way you speak to your audience, it shows calm, control, comfort. It tells me as an audience, that you are inviting as a companion or as a trust worthy coach. You add humor but don't over do it which makes a great difference. It shows maturity, which is very attractive, and also makes people take you seriously. Also the color choice and the background environment communicates peace. I was really inspired by this video because you deliver quality and novel content. Great work!

[@yeshv1989]

Your timing is insane Matthew🔥

[@bethierose]

You know what’s really fun when you meet someone “in the wild” is when you are obviously into each other and vibing (like you make plans for a date the next day) and then you both forget to ask the other for their phone number and so you end up stalking him on FB and sending him a message that he doesn’t get. 😂 PS - he showed up at my door on time the next day and even brought a bottle of wine. We definitely exchanged numbers then.

[@EveKatharsis]

This is really helpful for people who don't naturally have social skills and/or subsequent confidence

[@patriciaanaya8917]

So true! I learned from you to break the Friend Fortress!!

[@msmarjofficial]

The looking for the 2nd and 3rd time is a sure HIT!

[@asurya8797]

Can I just say that your background is amazing, incredible with those trees!

[@zitatoth2333]

I remember the first line of my ex boyfriend ❤️ he was so simple and casual an funny.... I think I will remember that always. It's so sad that we don't together after a year....but this is life.

[@marilynoverton8142]

Thank you so much, Matthew, for sharing your wisdom with us!

[@mayangofficialchannel1845]

I quit joining dating app. Since I found the right one but in a wrong time . I hope one day we cross our path again in God's will🙏🙏🙏.

[@shivajhala8406]

Same here..hope u guys cross paths if god willing at at divine timing..🙏🙏🙏

[@unclejack1513]

I gotta say that I love this setting Matt :>

[@athinaironos9009]

This man is gold

[@Rachel-ev7om]

Sent to all of my friends this is gold

[@fersata30]

I love the way you talk and explain yourself, thank you very much for the tips, they are really good

[@HaleyClaire]

Lmao I’m sorry I just can’t stop picturing myself walking around a restaurant asking people how they’re doing but having no association w/ the restaurant whatsoever 😅 that’s just really funny to me

[@imissfreedom3952]

If you go around giving genuine compliments its kinda fun.

[@Chahlie]

I was waiting in a restaurant for my son and his wife once and was seated in a fairly quiet corner, and being who I am I struck up a conversation with the older man at the next table. We had him join us. Pre Covid of course. I am however a 'talk to random strangers' kind of person anyway :)

[@judithcharvit7982]

the shirt looks great on you ! the content of the video is great !

[@Babesinthewood97]

Smile. I think smiling works

[@cassyglandon4681]

Great video! Excellent content! Found this so helpful!

[@domdrty]

I walked into a shop and immediately made eye contact with a woman that u assumed to work there. I smiled and then took a seat. She quickly started talking to Mr wheni realized she didn't work there lol. She was beautiful. I think if I would have attempted to make contact from the point of trying to talk to her I would have been a nervous idiot.

[@DreamIt.PursueIt.AchieveIt]

I do that!! The "disguised flitting" 😂 I don't approach, but let you know I'm interested 🥴

[@katrinamarschewski7130]

We are okay now! He said your words are beautiful and honest! Thank you Matthew 😊

[@houske1261]

This is such a cute and positive video 😄 made me smile

[@nunanusta]

The way this video came right on my feed after multiple unsuccessful dates in dating apps... 💀💀

[@RndmMcRndmnss]

"Dating" apps are a nightmare! 99.9% of guys are on them for everything BUT dating. If only there was a place with guys who actually want to date.

[@joshualewis8923]

You mean 99.9% of the guys you are attracted to, are not looking for relationships. That’s the nature of the apps🤷🏼‍♂️

[@andreea1352]

Agree on that 🤣 they are not there for date and relationships

[@jayc342009]

most women use dating for attention and validation anyway, that's why i avoid them.

[@lterrey]

@@joshualewis8923 Correct, she could swipe on a more average guy, looking for LTR, but swipes on pretty shiney baubles instead.

[@themensroom02]

Of course... thats what women wanted... ie: to go to work/war like men, and have sex like men aka women's sexual liberation/ bra burning generation. Women are the gatekeepers to sex and decided to give sex away via the hook up culture, which is exactly what women asked for.

[@jenniferyork2391]

Mathew you are so gifted!! I appreciate your knowledge, your wit!. I find you wise and I greatly appreciate you.

[@PinkNarcissus87]

I deleted all dating apps at the beginning of this month as I was spending too much time on them and getting nothing in return. Living as I do in a Slavic country, though, getting anyone to even look at you in public without a scowl let alone smile is pretty damned near impossible, so approaching them and establishing that initial connection is quite a challenge here. Maybe I should move ha

[@sfrealestatedealmaker6001]

It’s challenging everywhere due to Covid and the masks. Things will relax soon and it will become easier. 😊

[@sue-annthandy5387]

Start a meet up Group? Maybe women only a 1st ?? Even a coffee bar? Restaurant?? I’m with 32+ up groups exhausting & Gong Baths & swim 2/3 times weekly?

[@sue-annthandy5387]

Come to london

[@dianapop6054]

First of all, I loved the whole bit with the monkey “who is drunk” 😂 “Jameson, I can’t work like this! I need an actOr” 😂 second, love you Matthew, thanks for putting us on game! ❤️

[@irinakypriou9939]

So which are the disadvantages of dating apps according to you, Matthew?

[@mthayne1000]

Matt. Alaska seriously needs your help. The isolation mixed with the depressing and deadly eternal winters really make for a disastrous dating scene. I’ve deleted all dating apps and I’m quite open about my lack of desire to openly date around (due to virtually lack in quality of choices in this oligopoly market). I have every intention to find someone compatible and put in the effort for an honest relationship but the more I put myself out there the more I want to hide. Literally hide under unattractive clothes barely showered and with no makeup. The words chum and bait come to mind when I think about going out “looking attractive.” In this past week alone I have been given multiple, unwarranted, offers to provide my company to “men” for a substantial amount of money. If it’s not a financial offer it’s them inviting themselves over for “cuddles” or “massages” or you eventually find out they are married or are “talking to” multiple other women/ your friends. It also makes me uncomfortable that it feels like I’m obligated to continue being nice to a man just because he’s attracted and nice to me. They can confuse this for attraction and then all of a sudden I’m the rude one that has no respect for anyone. I know if I stick to my guns and continue to communicate what it is I want I will eventually find it. But my concern is that this environment of dating will continue to get worse if not consciously and collectively addressed soon. i want to be able to feel safe and comfortable with feeling attractive and it would be nice to k is that my daughters can actually get to known men before having to feel any sense or obligation or fear. Alaskan women deserve better. I have started a podcast called You Don’t say where we will talk about taboo issues in our communities with the goal of healing/resolution; or at the very least to create an open dialogue that will get people taking and thinking again and not just painfully reacting. One of the episodes we will cover will be relationships and dating. I would love to have you on as a guest host to help us maintain a level of understanding and not just being bitter and angry at men lol. I really do think all Alaskans want to be loved but the loneliness, and boredom can easily turn to desperation and a lot of heartbreak. I think the desire for true connection is there but trapped so far beneath rocks coping mechanisms that nobody is quite sure what they want anymore…just acting out and continuing the cycle. I think a local conversation with an identified, large scale professional like yourself could really create a shift in thinking. Thank you for taking the time to read this comment and please feel free to contact me with any questions or input you may have! Thank you for your meaningful work! - Melissa Thayne

[@Chahlie]

So, I'm south of you, in BC. Believe me, it's the same here. As soon as restrictions lift I am going to host a tea dance on a Sunday afternoon, that all ages can attend. I'm in a rural area and there are so many people here who just want someone to have a conversation with. I can't remember the last time there was a community dance. I did go to a community Christmas dinner back in 2019 and the well dressed fellow sitting next to me started going on about his "trapline". Not the one with muskrat pelts either. I don't know what the answer is :(

[@exnihilonihilfit6316]

MY GOD, you're a nightmare!

[@Revolution-tl5wo]

The novelty wore off of dating sites for me before apps were even a thing. It was so obvious that men just use these to play the numbers and are constantly seeking to put in the least amount of effort while gaining the most amount of gratification for themselves. The results were never worth it. Analog meetings are still the most organic way IMO.

[@KathrynSchmit-l3u]

I feel like I understand so much better now.

[@noperson78]

Extremely useful ! Thanks !!

[@jcman-lp6lg]

Nice to see the point of view of women. In the end of the day female or male we just want the same things.

[@tracyjnelson1119]

🤣🤣🤣 I loved the monkey move. You did it with such a serious face. Careful monkey doesn't claim injury on duty for falling off the bar stool. On a serious note. I've been subscribed to your channel for a year now, your videos have helped me so much. Also have deleted all dating apps and even Facebook and no Instagram account for a long time now. I'm definitely a more confident happier person, so thank you Mathew 👍

[@ak-19healedandfree]

This is so insightful. so grateful for this. Thanks for sharing!

[@m.jensen6541]

Damn i am good 💪, i do that everytime i am out. I am so brave 🥳. And yes ,I met my boyfrind because I was brave 💃💪

[@prernakale8056]

I'm looking forward for something! Butterflies in stomach indeed

[@jettemerete]

❤️🙏❤️ that's exactly what I do and I always get a lot of love kindness and contacts because I or they ask for the telephone number. It really works and a lot of people really need it. Always smile and you make the day better for the people who see your light. Love health peace and light from a Virgo woman from Denmark 🇩🇰😀

[@nadinelindsay3012]

Love your content Matthew!!!

[@kieraneilers7588]

Funny enough, this advice will help me alot too. and I'm a guy XD. I've always been frozen on going up to people and wondering how the hell I'm going to have a full blown conversation with them (which I then dont cuz its too daunting). This two hit theory, and asking for a favour might help me allot with approaching women or well people in general XD. I know this channel is mostly geared towards women, but i feel a lot of this advice can really help allot of us men out there too! I hope to see some more videos from this channel that also can help us on the other side out too!

[@richardsonramble4166]

Dating apps have ruined dating, to me. ☺️

[@theheartbeatwithlisahender2117]

Great advice Matt!

[@lola1987fudgeyouu]

I loved the part where Wendy says, "Workers of the world unite, you have nothing to lose but your chains!"

[@kimmidojo6102]

Haha, I love cheesey humor! Keep up the good work, your humor makes me listen 😊

[@TheButtons59]

I know what you are saying Matthew it is breaking the ice.

[@laracroft9079]

you have such great content!!!!

[@Sasso-pf1mo]

I love your videos matt.. Is it possible you can make similar videos but aimed at guys.. That would be awesome.

[@cm9859]

Online dating is horrible. Everything you say is accurate.

[@888alp]

Its hard what if they are taken?

[@elitephantom9690]

Not to mention you have to learn their attachment styles later on in a relationship too.

[@jadepapio6509]

Theres no formula. Self love then people attract.

[@maddiepretlow4206]

Great information!! Thanks

[@junthonj5312]

Thank you very much MH for your video it is huge useful!

[@ManlyHK1]

Lovely accent from this handsome boy: day-ing App, complicate-ut …. So cute!!!!!

[@beatricekimani5299]

Such a great content 😊

[@NivethaBalasubramaniam]

Love the restaurant owner mindset

[@tam_to_evolve]

He had me when he was playing with the monkeys hand. lol so cute! 😆

[@utahnnajones598]

The 5sec look was everything😂😂🤣

[@nessauk2786]

This is great advise for both women and men.

[@ILoveT8erTots]

This is a *great* video, great content, but you earned the like on the peel pun alone 😂

[@AnitaAmbrose28]

Love your humor! 😘

[@nawras6653]

I liked the tips you mentioned, very simple and probably would make a change, but not in a Mena region, I think, where men always doesn't approach as simple as that, especially that there are some kind of cultural constrains in regards to that. could you please give any tips for that? Thanks Mathew!

[@blisswkc3344]

Thank y'all so much dearest 🌹 Y'all such an inspiration 🥰 Appreciate y'all from the bottom of my heart 💖 Be Blissful Eternally 🙏👼🌈

[@ivorystarseed2916]

You are hilarious 😂 and have great content. Not sure how I ended up on your video but I'm glad I did!

[@lisapierotti2396]

I'm getting major Jovis Bon Jovis vibes 🙈🥰🥰 love it ❤️

[@mousumichowdhury8135]

Love and respect from India. Really inspiring

[@justalittlemoretime]

Our society really needs to work on steps #1 and #2. Especially get off their phones in social settings.

[@anitaazimi4920]

Behind excited I’m already registered for the 18-20💃🏼💃🏼❣️😍

[@YTchannel_08]

This is helpful, Thank you! I like your Actor made me smile 😊