#79 How Real Men Deal With Mental Health || Chai With My Bhai

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[@RighteousnRich]

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[@orcashorts5813]

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[@aj9620]

Asalamalaykum. Sorry not relevant to this but can you please let me know your instagram? There is meant to be a link to for the Arabic definitions for tawheed, ibadah etc (you had mentioned in the 'A study of the Shahadah series')?

[@user-rw9nj6gn5g]

What’s your brother’s name, Imran Bai? very good speaker

[@user-rw9nj6gn5g]

@@orcashorts5813that place doesn’t exist, it’s Palestine 🇵🇸

[@AliHarb-ot6bu]

Brothers club link doesnt work brothers

[@reminders123-zv7hp]

“If the heart becomes hardened, the eye becomes dry.” -Ibn Al-Qayyim

[@Ll_jfdk]

I don’t think men that cry over this religion Islam, are weak in the slightest. My dad would cry whenever he spoke about the prophet(pbuh) and it was the most beautiful thing I’ve seen as a little girl. I’ve never seen him cry for anything other than this religion and to me, that’s a man. He was strong enough for this world and it’s affairs knowing it’s temporary but weak for Allah the most high and His religion.

[@binttahmet]

SubhanAllah May Allah reward him

[@samsamali2839]

May Allah reward him with jannah firdaws ameen 🌺

[@peace-ij3tg]

Allahumma barik rahimuAllah

[@AliSheikh]

Please never stop posting, Wallahi there have been times where these videos got me through the day and kept my Iman up, may Allah reward everyone behind these videos

[@jabreelyusuf14]

Ameen brother

[@zaydal-farooq9713]

These brothers have always been a blessing. Alhamdulilah

[@Drheight_789]

Wallahi bro

[@orcashorts5813]

Is burning the quran okay

[@A_slave_of_Allah_1444]

‏الله يزيدكم. و أسأل الله أن يدخلنا معنا في رحمته بغير الحساب جميعا

[@Certiwhipps]

Men don't cry cause they're weak, but they cry cause they've been strong for too long...

[@AANaeem]

love to see Adam a regular on this podcast - may we see him more In Sha Allah

[@elitezafficobra2288]

Sign of true faith is when you remember Allah in the good times and in the bad times.

[@thehourglassfan3515]

Crying is a natural emotion for both MEN and women.

[@DisciplesOfEmpen]

I lost my mother 1 week ago and I cried for 3 days. If I didn’t cry I would have went crazy.

[@mountainguy8940]

إِنَّا لِلَّٰهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ may Allah forgive her sins and enter her into jannah

[@DisciplesOfEmpen]

@@mountainguy8940 Ameen

[@Ll_jfdk]

@@mountainguy8940Ameen

[@peanutbutter-bananashake.]

@@mountainguy8940 Ameen.

[@dayaumli]

@@mountainguy8940Ameen

[@justanavanoobz4867]

Please don’t stop posting brothers. Your videos increase my iman. You guys have a style that is unmatched. Your style is ver attractive to the youth keep up brothers.

[@rm7250]

Mashallah chai with my Bhai is back literally one of the best dawah channels on KZbin so truthful and informative there is so much I’ve learnt about Islam that I never knew before one the reasons I have been more drawn to become practicing Mashallah there is so much noor in the face of each of the hosts the skin is literally glowinggggggg ☀️

[@Uponthesunnah3]

You said the words that I had in my head all this time!! Self fulfilling prophecy exactly. Even though I’m a girl and we have crazy emotions I totally reside with the fact we need to understand it’s okay to be sad but it is not going to take control of you unless you let it, be sad, cry but get back up. Don’t feel sorry for yourself, what are you? Your life problems are minute to what others could be going through. In other words Stand up!

[@user-gf8ht4ue5d]

Just off the intro I knew this would be the best episode yet! Love my brothers for the sake of Allah. Had the pleasure preforming umrah with Adam and the mandem. I remember doing tawaf for the first time and I couldn’t stop crying myself. SubhanAllah. May Allah accept all of our ibadah and allow those who haven’t preformed umrah with umrah in sha Allah . Umrah with the mandem part 7 😎❤️

[@moj8685]

Allahumbarik I love the approach u brothers take, may Allah continue to bless you all Ameen

[@BTCmillenial]

Men getting together and expressing how they feel...keep it up brothers 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

[@comet6740]

Going on holiday helps a lot. I am on holiday now for a month and I haven't been stuck on social media at all. I just come to go to nice places, socialise and spend time with family. Feel so much better than sitting at home doing nothing.

[@Bintibint]

Interesting conversation baarak Allahu feekoum. I do think it's very important to make a distinction between general sadness and (clinical) depression as a mental illness. The latter is a real sickness which actually can be shown in your brain. Same goes for other mental illnesses. And shifaa always comes from Allah.

[@ninajowkar3871]

It's frustrating to see the topic of Mental Health still being highly being misunderstood and associated with something bad in our community. I've been through mental health struggles myself and I can tell you it is not something I wish for anyone to experience. It was after I went through therapy I found content and happiness with what Allah has decreed for me. Not because I thought otherwise before, but because I understood what was happening. Alhamdulillah that did not make to be further faway from Him 'azza wa jal. May Allah always keep us on this straight path, ameen. It's okay not to understand the concept of mental health, but it's not right to associate it with wrong meanings to it nor to assume it belongs to the group of people who have lost hope in Allah. One thing is going through hardships whilst remaining healthy, which can be comforted with good reminders and examples of the prophets (alayhum salam). Another thing is going through something that causes you distress to the point you can't live properly, despite having a good life. May Allah ease out the pain and suffering our brothers and sisters are going through, ameen.

[@r2ndm-jv5sl]

everyone goes throught a mental health issues we heal by the remeberance of allah and keep steady in treatment with the strength that allah bless's us with but some people do not seek the benefit of remeberance of allah and just focus on the treatment by it self, and some people chose to let say to display or go with the trend of being anxious or having some kind of mental problem for social media seek, someone i know i opened up to and i wish i didnt since they have some mental issue problems and i suggested reading quran to help them stay strong as it benefited me, and that theres healing in it they bashed me for suggesting it astgfr allah saying it does not help, i think mental health is important and it is talked bout alot now, it just that people starting to take it as trend which is bad, and muslims fall for what the west gives them, we human are strong and can handle a lot its just the enviroment made us weak,and as people of faith we get our strength from allah where the unbeliever feel lost due to not being able to fill the void theres a diffrence between us amen

[@zaink7037]

I work in my local A&E department and we have mental health department within it. Sad thing is i see more and more young people coming in for mental health issues. I see kids as young as 12 being admitted. I feel since and after covid and lockdown this has spiked on mental health. Its sad and it seems like this day and society we live in doesnt help.

[@luluah1198]

Agree it was the final reason for homeschooling . I could foresee mental health issues from all covid rules . I mean I could feel the anxiety from all the rules as an adult , how could I expect my young children to follow more pedantic rules in school

[@htmoh8115]

Social media is one of many things to blame

[@D-A-N-]

The brother beside Dawa man is on point tbh I felt his opinions were disregarded with follow ups of disagreement when it didn’t needed to be. He mentioned great points. There’s a reason Muhammad peace be upon was never heard crying out loud accept for one occasion in battle of Uhud because of the martyr of Hamza radiyalahuanhu.

[@Uponthesunnah3]

Our parents are a great example, they went through crazy things and managed to soldier through everything. Mainly because the exposure to mental health wasn’t widespread. Not saying that was good but both then and now are two extremes. We need to find a middle ground for this because the next generation will just break at whatever life gives them

[@hodanabdulkadir9019]

Allaahuma baarik all of you very informative videos we are human what we know but hearing from another person is like hearing the first time sacad is giant wallaahi love the brother says little but equivalent big meaning allaahuma barik akhi it’s good to see dawa man itself and adam hayakumu allaah

[@karimalaoui5546]

Only Allah subhanahu wa taala knows the tangible help and value that the everyone behind this podcast offers to many brothers just like you all, to many of us just sitting back and watching these videos you all are our friends and brothers even from behind a screen, may Allah bless us all and our families, and gather us all under his mercy, and may he reward you all for your efforts. Allahumma Ameen.

[@RighteousnRich]

This message truly touched me 🥹 I love you for the sake of Allah Akhee

[@karimalaoui5546]

أحبك الله الذي أحببتني فيه أخي

[@reflectmedia7140]

Very beneficial!!I’m waiting for the part when bro Saad starts crying 😢

[@luluah1198]

Chai with bhabi , it’s like honest tea talks 🤔. But I’ll have a look might be good for my son.

[@Alyasmine_1453]

this talk it is so powerful🔥🔥🔥

[@pureevil4674]

Dont forget that there are different temperaments, some men cry a lot from seeing harm on others while others dont

[@luluah1198]

I visit my fathers and mothers graves . And I don’t wail. How can I not visit them? They brought me into the world . They had many faults but whatever little they did it’s great in Allahs eyes . I cared for them until death. Washed my mother for the earth , how then can I not visit her ? Actually I rarely cry in public . I was told it’s a weakness and as a child ;I was told to shut up and not cry . So it’s programmed into me and I do so in private . I know it’s not a sign of weakness .

[@yenussahalu1971]

Asalamualykum Brothers please watch out for emf radiation from phones by putting on your laps and such, please consider researching more about this Barak Allahu Feek

[@rahma_bint_djuma]

Jazakumullahu khayran

[@Fat89]

I WISH ALL OF YOUR PODCASTS HAD SUBTITLES IN DUTCH(BELGIUM) MY HUSBAND LOVES TO LISTEN TO THIS, BUT I HAVE TO TRANSLATE ALL OF IT. PLEASE FULFILL THIS REQUEST: MAKE SUBTITLES. YOUR WORDS REACH THE WORLD IN SHAA ALLAH. AND CHANGE HEARTS EVERYWHERE. MAY ALLAH BLESS AND PROTECT EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES. AMIEN

[@Fat89]

I WOULD DO IT FOR FREE, IF I KNOW HOW TO.

[@whoevenknowss]

just seen the intro and seems like a deep episode

[@zain2611]

Subhan Allah

[@HayaMuslimah7]

May Allah ease all our affairs. Ameen

[@JR-iw8du]

Crying when you feel stressed, experiencing grief is good for you mentally... it is a great release of stress hormones and is a self-soothing behaviour. So maybe men should cry and let it all out, it decreases cortisol production. If you store it all up you could be heading for physical health problems too.. Go and have a good cry in the bathroom... who's going to know and you'll feel better afterwards.

[@taimurahmad]

cry to Allah notm infront of ppl

[@maryfairy1532]

Great discussion Very interesting and helpful

[@likeicecream8421]

Jazzallahu Khairan, Allahumma barik brothers. I feel bad when someone cries over something in the Quran and I don’t. It’s weird but sometimes I apprehend reading a new surah cuz I’m afraid I can’t cry and my heart is too dark for that… I wish I could know why I don’t cry (mostly I think it’s because I don’t understand without clear explanations, I don’t get it right away but I don’t know) may Allah guide and forgive us, Ameen

[@abduljabbarmohammed8121]

As-salamu alaykum. May Allah increase you in goodness. Try learning the Arabic language.

[@taimurahmad]

learn arabic i suggest starting with the 3 madinah books

[@tybeentrill3748]

Very sensitive topic to me

[@EB-gt1pq]

Absolutely nothing wrong with crying. It is a very healthy outlet. It’s very sad that men need to keep up appearances even when they are all by themselves. As women there’s nothing wrong with us crying, or asking a friend or a loved one for help or even getting professional help for any mental health problems we’re having. We take care of ourselves much better than men do. Please fellas, take care of yourselves! You have people that love you and want you in their life.

[@waleedsayeed123]

Without getting too technical and cute, and as someone who has suffered with mental illness, i think mental health is simply referring to if a person has mental illness or not. Perhaps some may even take it as how a person is doing mentally, simple as that. Most common mental illness would be depression and i have been through it. What would i say it is? It's not just simple sadness or even heavy sadness for a few days or whatever short period. It's heavy sadness constantly. How would a person get into that state? It's usually cases where he feels hopeless and there's no way out of his situation or at least it's looking like that. An example would be, especially in today's day and age, a muslim youth bombarded with doubts about Allah and his religion, to the point where he falls into doubt and cycles of doubt for many years and cannot get out.

[@BrotherAhmed]

From Lahore ❤

[@bayaan0003]

صلى الله عليه وسلم

[@mickdread9590]

Can the @Naseehasessions team recommend the best places in London ro seek face to face knowledge? Please. Jazak Allah Khairan

[@amadn9464]

I was taught not to cry in front of women (ex: wife), not saying that I’m right but they can use it against you. Assalamu aleikum

[@RighteousnRich]

Walaikum as salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu yeh deffo I get that my bro May Allah make it easy for us

[@amadn9464]

@@RighteousnRichAmeen

[@UIAL570]

Bro no. If you have a loving relationship with your wife there is no harm to cry in front of her every now and again. There is mercy and love between the spouses. If she rebukes you or uses it against you, you didn’t marry the right woman.

[@user-ue4fh5mv9s]

@@UIAL570No,Your woman is supposed to look up to you and she will lose respect for you if you cry infront of her because that's how women were created they are supposed to look up to you not the other way around. Allah says in the Quran : Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. (4:34) Women don't want to be with men who show weakness

[@anonymousnoticer]

​@@user-ue4fh5mv9sthis isnt true. No good women loses respect from her husband crying in salah or tahahjud or while reading quran. They gain respect for him.

[@ramyrasu7728]

One thing these brothers fail to appreciate, is that if Allah wants you to be affected by even the smallest of things it will be big for you. Conversely, if Allah wants to make something big a small for you, then it will be. Quran 2:155 “And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient”. If someone thinks depression is not real, I don’t think they’ve been tested to that degree. Should thank Allah he’s not allowed you to feel it yet. Otherwise, it would definitely resonate. Resilience and tolerance is also a gift

[@D-A-N-]

Too bad I don’t have this type of company here . :(

[@TheQuranExplainsItself]

Shotting Arab culture around the world!

[@Salafite]

Great episode but the intro is abit too long

[@zaralearningkorean]

Alhamdulillah new episodeee 😎😎didn’t the prophet lift the ban on women going to the graveyard ?

[@7SMJD]

Early on the Prophet pbuh prohibited all the sahabah from going to the graveyard because practices of idolatry used to happen there Later on he pbuh only allowed men to visit the graveyard so as to make Du'a for the deceased and as a reminder of death, but he didnt allow women ever after to go there due to a number of reasons which you can easily find with a bit of research

[@samsosa3639]

I have a sujood mark Mashallah

[@zaydalaamri2293]

I really appreciate this podcasts they are mostly very beneficial and motivate me to think about specific stuff that was not on my mind sometimes. But please do not speak about mental health issues like they do not exist do not downplay a disease that has killed millions. Just because you don’t understand the issue does not mean it doesn’t exist. And it got nothing to do with Iman or islam there is people that are the closest to Allah and the most practicing and they suffer from depression and need medicine. Islam does not prevent you from depression but islam helps you to deal with depression it supports you and prevents bigger harm like suicide.

[@ukhan4231]

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

[@shanaz3]

Asalaamualaikam, genuine question, does brother Imran still go by the name of Dawah man? I used to follow his work when he first came on the scene but cut back on alot of content over the last five years. The question comes from curiosity not a bad place. May Allah SWT protect you all and permit you Jannah for your efforts and consistency. JazakAllah Khair

[@orcashorts5813]

Jannah is entered through the mercy of Allah not deeds

[@n.mounir]

@@orcashorts5813 yes, but the scholars have mentionned that good deeds make you gain the mercy of Allah, which in turn makes you gain Paradise

[@Account-md8tu]

2 minute intro is long 🥴

[@hectictactics1467]

Asalamu aleikoum is it a deficiency in a person's mental health to enjoy sadness. Let's say a person enjoys sadness because it humbles him and brings him closer to Allah

[@christopherbilalcasimir1640]

That's actually a very good point

[@oneill765]

Theres absolutely nothing wrong with crying, you're expressing an emotion. There is a problem if you're ashamed or embarrassed to cry, when its bottled up under a cap of "masculinity" or being a "man" thats when it turns into anger rage and unhealthy coping mechanisms which will really destroy your life and everyone you love. Look after yourself ladies & gentlemen.

[@Rmveber]

Does these advice apply for women aswell?

[@misterbk1791]

Don’t take this as advice for women. It was specifically mentioning men rather take advice regarding women for women. So that you don’t mix any of them. But women are women they are more emotional, no one looks down upon a woman for crying. But there are still extremes. You still can’t cry excessively, but general crying is more common.

[@CoffeeSA96]

Are some of the sounds in the intro not instruments? Genuinely curious

[@RighteousnRich]

Alhamdulillah none of them were instruments and we try to be really careful stay away from sounds that may sound like instruments too … but I’ll review this with the team Inshaa’Allah and see if we could have been more on point here we hired a new editor for this episode

[@user-ob7vp8qd9p]

They said Allah won’t push his slave more then he can bear but honestly I’m on the edge and I don’t know if I’m gonna make it pls Allah make it stop

[@ajajssksk1757]

Are u alright akhi. Don’t lose hope.

[@user-ob7vp8qd9p]

@@ajajssksk1757 I’m trying amo but it’s hard

[@ajajssksk1757]

@@user-ob7vp8qd9p May Allah ease your pains DM InshaAllah ahmed_offica1

[@user-ob7vp8qd9p]

@@veiled.monotheist Thank you akhi, wallahi I needed this! May Allah grant you the highest level of jannah!

[@user-ob7vp8qd9p]

@@veiled.monotheist I’m sorry miss! Thank you once again!

[@D-A-N-]

Brother cover your head , Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him always tried to cover his head top . Weak Hadith or not , it’s not fabricated, do it ! Doesn’t hurt your Deen. Doing it will benefit your Deen especially the next life.

[@Abbaas_]

{ وَتَوَلَّىٰ عَنۡهُمۡ وَقَالَ یَـٰۤأَسَفَىٰ عَلَىٰ یُوسُفَ وَٱبۡیَضَّتۡ عَیۡنَاهُ مِنَ ٱلۡحُزۡنِ فَهُوَ كَظِیمࣱ } [Surah Yūsuf: 84] This is the ayah which Ustadh Imran mentioned at 30:43 in the video. It is "وَٱبۡیَضَّتۡ عَیۡنَاهُ", not "عَيْنَاهَا". Baarak Allahu Feekum. I just thought I should point out the mistake in reading the ayah.

[@Abbaas_]

Also, as for the ayah you quoted at 31:50: { یَـٰبَنِیَّ ٱذۡهَبُوا۟ فَتَحَسَّسُوا۟ مِن یُوسُفَ وَأَخِیهِ وَلَا تَا۟یۡـَٔسُوا۟ مِن رَّوۡحِ ٱللَّهِۖ إِنَّهُۥ لَا یَا۟یۡـَٔسُ مِن رَّوۡحِ ٱللَّهِ إِلَّا ٱلۡقَوۡمُ ٱلۡكَـٰفِرُونَ } [Surah Yūsuf: 87] In hafṣ 'an 'Aasim, it is "وَلَا تَا۟یۡـَٔسُوا۟" , with a ت at the beginning of the word "تَا۟یۡـَٔسُوا۟".

[@bbqquid3152]

I wish i knew quran at this level

[@Abbaas_]

Please say "Allahumma baarik".

[@bbqquid3152]

@@Abbaas_ allahumma barik

[@Aslah915]

Why did my comment get deleted U cheeses

[@bazibazi5971]

40:46

[@osmanali-fe1hi]

Mandem just sitting around chatting is So called Dawah 😢😢😢😢

[@maazkhan4853]

Why does this all seem demonic .. the music and sound effects.. and the fidgeting

[@piedpiperofmetal]

Crying for 10 hours. Not believable.

[@ajajssksk1757]

He said on and off. Anyway we should have husn dhan InshaAllah