8 Differences Between Chasing a Woman and Pursuing Her

Do not chase women. Period. Desperation in a man is not a good look and not conducive to a healthy, long-term relationship. That's not to say there isn't a place to pursue her but there is a huge difference between chasing and pursuing. Today, I share eight of those differences and why a man ought to pursue, but never chase.

[@palindrome06]

If she does not reciprocate by all means, then you’re chasing. If she’s reciprocating, then you’re pursuing

[@CharleyGriffin]

makes more sense now

[@jlj777]

It really does not matter because you are just in line waiting on your turn!

[@thenarrator1984]

its not that simple. plenty of women dont reciprocate until something triggers them.

[@n1c98]

Right, but I'd say with pursuing too, you have to be the initiator, and assertive in that initiation. Then she reciprocates

[@exgrzy452]

@@n1c98 thats facts, give as much as she is and she’ll slowly open up until she gets attached

[@abisolaabisola7357]

Too many men chase women that don’t want them and ignore the women that do want them.

[@Kalabi1234]

What if the woman who's chasing them is not there type or there ideal one would you say they should go out with her? I dont think so guy won't be happy with her

[@KineticMind89]

Men sometimes don't know when a women like them because too few women make the first move.

[@alexfowler9785]

@@KineticMind89 You're right. Most men are not taught the non-verbal cues that a lot of women prefer to communicate interest by. If we are taught them some of them can be misconstrued sometimes. Overall as you alluded to society prefers men to make the first move and women are the reactors. It all depends on the woman though.

[@tedsell1455]

Sounds like women to me

[@Jspec03]

You can’t just go with the woman who likes you. Because in the end if your values and goals don’t align, you might find it hard to navigate around that relationship. Gotta have standards and know the traits you’re looking for.

[@thomasjones9920]

Pursue GOALS and PRINCIPLES (health, wealth, respect, confidence, self improvement, emotional stability, knowledge, personality growth), NEVER people. The validation people seek in others should come from within yourself knowing you did the right thing.

[@mackdaddy2153]

Rodin ....this was amazing thanks

[@lisa.user-xm7kz2tb6x]

Thank you Thomas.

[@hydraulics]

There's new science that debunks the myths that happiness has to come from within. We pair bond for survival

[@benlaw4647]

​@@hydraulicsjoy comes from within , happiness is based on circumstances..

[@frankiegunnz8066]

Wow as a 43 year old man, I wished I would had learned this In my teens. Never too late to learn and better yourself!.... Thanks brother!

[@1028802828]

Your like the uncle I never had but need.

[@mohammedsahal5659]

I feel that

[@mikehelms29]

For real

[@emersontristen4080]

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[@MrSaitama00]

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[@robertmoore1839]

Great looking studio, Mr. Michler! A confident man never has to beg for attention and compliments...

[@barbaricvm0]

In any case, if you are giving her a vibe : "If I tell him, hey i like you, wanna be something more then friends? - I know he will say yes as soon as I say it." You are losing her bud, i know from my own experience. Trust me, please, make sure you are happy with yourself first then go ahead and conquer everything in your path. Again, from my own experience, I was not happy with myself, and i just had this blockade when i wanted to get a woman, it just blocks you, since then i like myself better, i had quite a bit of experience and learned quite a bit, however - i am still not happy with myself, but in any case, it's better then it used to be.

[@tmcg1907]

"I'm saying he addresses the red flags early, by setting up boundaries, by being ultimately responsible, by looking for internal validation, by making yourself the center of your universe, not her...by addressing red flags early..." This is VERY healthy advice. Easier said than done for folks that may not be accustomed to assertiveness, but ultimately the goal.

[@jlj777]

A woman knows if she is going to have sex with you as soon as she looks at you ! This is not rocket science!

[@TheJacklwilliams]

Post second divorce, 17 years ago... I threw myself into my life, single for the first time since very young, and I spent 3 yrs, cycling, gym, traveling, pursuing my career. Everything BUT women. Then the strangest thing happened, women began pursuing me, openly. Truly a transformation as I realized WHY. Most of my contemporaries lacked any kind of life. I had a full life, skydiving, snowboarding, cycling, traveling, cooking, reading.... I found myself and still do, scrutinizing MUCH closer the women I CHOSE. A very different position to be in. Great stuff, truly. I found it by accident and after being single for seventeen years actually came to like myself and be “comfortable in my own skin”.

[@benjamingoulet8059]

I’ve overlooked red flags... I now pay a lot of child support and am going through litigation.... sooo many obvious red flags I chose to ignore. I got bit... what an invaluable lesson soo many young men need to be aware of

[@houssamzak]

Much strength and positive vibes to you mate, you will get through it and crush it!!

[@stevrgrs]

Welcome to the club. Divorced since Tuesday from a woman I was totally devoted to . Now our son is so confused and doesn’t know what the heck is up :(

[@pantherman8719]

You learned. And owned up to it. I give you 100% props.

[@davidl.9757]

Wish i had heard this before i completely ruined any chance with this girl i work with. I will take the advice from this and improve myself. Thank you for posting this stuff is so important to leading a healthy lifestyle

[@EliCamacho]

Finally someone giving manly advice that isn't all about how to sweet talk a woman and how to sleep with the most women possible. All this "alpha male" advice I've seen for the most part is just garbage. Most of it is advice for immature lustful boys who just happen to be in an adult body.

[@AZTigerMMA]

Anyone who disagrees with you about women needs to listen to more Patrice O’Neal. Great advice my good sir.

[@jamaloogy]

Best and condensed dating advice ever for Man. Every word you say is true since I did pursuing the last woman like this.

[@jlj777]

A woman is looking for a easy sucker to juice not a guy that knows the game. A guy that knows the game does not mean he gets a lot of pussy he just knows how not to get fleeced.

[@firstandlastswagman269]

I love hookers. But they make me pay

[@denniszetterberg3239]

Great message Ryan on setting healthy boundaries in relationships. I love the new studio.

[@Orderofman]

Dennis Zetterberg much appreciated

[@DeClineization]

I wish I'd heard this little talk about 15 years ago. Thanks for the advice.

[@jaredmatthewsmith7121]

Wow, bro. I actually agree with everything you’ve touched on-very, very articulate and my time was not wasted at all. I am truly grateful for this upload-packed full of wisdom with the practical application to boot. Jared

[@armytank65]

I absolutely needed to see this and get that punch to the gut and put myself in a new position and direction. I remember who I am at my core and validate myself and go after my goals and dreams but having a equal give and take.

[@rod779]

Thank You so much for taken the time to talk about the difference between the two. It helped very much and to clear up a lot of things for me and I really appreciate it. I have promised myself that I’m going to watch your video at least 3-4 times a week just to understand it even more and try to incorporate it into my relationship.

[@s.e.c.3222]

This is undoubtedly some of the best advice I have ever heard when it comes to pursuing women. I wasted a lot of years and good potential relationships by trying to find validation from women and being that puppy dog. Glad that I am changing and choosing not to remain that way. Have other things you pursue outside of a potential relationship and validate yourself first.

[@RobStone]

This has got to be the BEST video on the internet for guys of any age on how to be yourself and how to date and be interested in women. Fantastic advice

[@lurchusa1299]

I don't need to chase or pursue women, they run away as the mere sight of me, so no need to waste the energy.

[@mathewkeipert6021]

Finally someone who communicates the way I like. Thankyou!🙏

[@davidflowers1570]

Thank you Ryan. Studio is looking awesome 👊

[@Orderofman]

Coming along. We have a lot more room to go!

[@Collinscottpowell]

Listened to the audio podcast on Friday. Watching it on KZbin this morning. Great follow up conversation to the Instagram post. Studio looks good!

[@chato323]

It's the fable of the scorpion & the frog. It's a great life lesson.

[@firstandlastswagman269]

Bone and dog

[@Tomkkat15]

Somebody watched Drive (2011)

[@vnorey]

Everything you said makes sense. I already follow some of these actions but not all, just some. I knew I wasn’t doing everything correctly and there’s a reason why I watched the whole video. I learned a lot. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us!

[@alexfowler9785]

I really like the great articulation of the content on this much needed topic for men. After all, no woman respects or will truly love a weak man like the chaser is acting like. I really needed this ( unfortunately most men at some point fall into the place of the chaser ) and your point on improving the core aspects of our lives is spot on 💯.

[@drrichie3505]

Just found this channel and its fantastic. A lot of things I've heard but needed to be reminded of, and some new gems. Invaluable lessons for all of us men. Thanks

[@Orderofman]

Glad you're here.

[@jlj777]

A guy that knows the game does not mean he gets a lot of pussy he just knows how not to get fleeced.

[@affiliatereviews4079]

@@jlj777 thank you, that is very insightful

[@watchthis1time]

Supremely redundant talking points. Thanks for sharing

[@ujcctube]

I felt deeply impacted by this, this is great stuff

[@solomondarrius]

i cant lie these 8 points were hard to hear but i needed to them

[@SHAKA-NEU-LU]

Darrius Solomon that’s good. How old are you brother

[@solomondarrius]

@@SHAKA-NEU-LU 22

[@davidthomspson9771]

Superb advice here....thanks could have saved myself heartache and being pathetic in the past.These are hard learned lessons but an absolute must.

[@joelangley1365]

Well timed. Wife and I were just discussing this regarding a social media trend that we had both noticed.

[@Orderofman]

Hope it helps.

[@ltmoods4182]

Just found this channel. You speak very clear. Good stuff.

[@GRIMREEFER42069BOOBS]

Thank you brother! I needed to hear this

[@jeffreyolivito8810]

Love this 👍👍 Good luck to you my friend - You opened my eyes !!!

[@seemsfamiliar3888]

No woman wants a stalker. It is so refreshing to hear someone making sense. I know too many people that refuse that there is a middle ground ie 2 people that respect each other as well as themselves sharing a relationship. Worthwhile men aren't complete pushovers and they aren't overbearing abusive terrors. Nothing is more attractive than a man that is masculine enough to "run off a wolf" and secure enough in himself to love and be attentive and affectionate to those he cares about.

[@c.k.2405]

Seemsfamiliar Spoken like a woman.

[@seemsfamiliar3888]

@@c.k.2405 Thanks for noticing.

[@motorbikeray]

Amen! to this video, brother Ryan! You got my subscription.

[@DonGreen757]

4 years later and this video still golden

[@Meow_meow262]

You’re awesome. Thank you for the precious advice!!!

[@vylam3997]

I’m a woman and I appreciate this video so much!

[@tuongqle]

Really good talk, had a lot of these issues in my last relationship. Thanks for sharing.

[@marcelocolumbano531]

Hi Ryan! I’ve been following and Watching your work in the last few weeks. This podcast, in particulary really ressonates with me. I love the content and how you deliever the messege. Great work! And by the way , i like your beard and i myself have a beard too, i consider it a lifestyle! (; it all began with a novement years ago in some kind of solidarity against prostate cancer. from which my grandfather passed away. Best regards!

[@cargenshepard8970]

Thank you so much ive been having several relationship troubles through the years im definitely going to start putting these to practice!

[@Apocryphal_Soldier]

A good teacher distinguishes differences.

[@Jesus4Soccer]

This is great content, keep it up brother.

[@garyellis6406]

All men should read The Rational Male Trilogy by Rollo Tomassi, and Jack Donovan's books starting with The Way Of Men. Available on Amazon. also google I Dont Care by Jack Donovan. Great Essay. Edit: Sounds like this presenter has already read Rollo's books.

[@zaclovesschool2273]

funny, my friend sent this to our chat after I sent one of your other videos. He sent it because my other friend is in a problematic relationship and can be described quite well by what you've called "chasing" as opposed to "perusing". Additionally, I've just gotten into a relationship with someone who has not been in a serious relationship before, and Ive realized that ive exhibited some of the "chasing" mentality already. However im rather lucky since it's still early in the development. Ive had a problem with caring about people before, and since she's the first person ive seriously cared about in a long time, I saw her as a "light" in my otherwise depressing darkness. Thanks to your inspiration, hopefully I can start adjusting my course from wanting to live in order to make her happy, to making myself the best self I can be, in order to then know that I can protect her and be there for her on her journey to discover herself. Obviously more complicated than those ideals, but that's the very dumbed down idea ive just written down in the comments section within a few seconds.

[@seemsfamiliar3888]

"I think I'm pretty interesting and think you'll agree if you will get to know me." is a must more attractive attitude than adorable, abandoned puppy. You don't want to have her see you as one more thing to take care of.

[@wayneburbage8900]

Very important vidcast. My friend is going through this in his fourties, and is a disabled veteran.and hurt man. I'm trying to help him navigate life. I'm ten years his senior. And only friend. The check list applies. As well as for me. You touched on great points.

[@retribution999]

This very good content. Very much truth in this. Sadly I know from years spent learning the hard way.

[@juansarmiento2022]

Thank you! worth the time to watch.

[@tylerauraz]

Thanks bro this was very inspiring

[@susanwhite9963]

This video is good for both sides in establishing balance in your individual lives. As a woman who left a man who wouldn't do anything without me to being in a relationship with a leader and someone who is perfectly content on going off on his own. It is a intriguing change in how I am drawn to him as he is as you said "really interesting". Yes I am chasing him! but I will stop this chase and make it a pursuit as I agree entirely this is a much healthier way of living.

[@TreyHope]

Solid information, thank you for sharing.

[@rsm042]

Great content!

[@CarrG7]

Something about that charcoal gray paint is awesome! It looks like it has some texture or wash mixed in, can you tell me how you achieved this effect so I could replicate it? Loved the video!

[@Orderofman]

It's called paint stippling. You add it to the wall before the paint for texture. Should be able to get different styles at any paint or hardware store.

[@xndr_mrw]

Hi Ryan, I just want to thank you. I watched your video this morning because of a situation I was in where I wasn't sure if the lady I'm super interested in was interested in me or the idea of me. I applied the 8th rule by grabbing my gonads and shooting it straight with her. I told her how I felt about her, how I felt about how our relationship is playing out and what I would like it to be. I also stated that if our visions don't mix I still respect her and her decisions but unfortunately I would have to move on from pursuing her as a potential love interest. This helped us make a breakthrough in our dialogue and put us in a deeper and better place than the night before. I hope this testimony inspires other who see you video and validates your advice in some capacity. I hope you and yours have a blessed week. 🙏

[@feddiereddie7836]

This is so awesome!!!

[@hurric4n3ike]

Great talk fam🙏🏽

[@pathofresilience1796]

This video is soo relevant to my current situation in life right now!

[@pengwins2017]

Mine too "....shame on me" that rung a huge bell for me

[@thepushpakmundreadventure]

Ryan you are doing a great job!

[@ujdd201]

21 year old me needed this.

[@blackpillisthetruth4146]

Best channel imo

[@thomasridderbos6005]

Great content!! so truth

[@boniphacerobert482]

Thanks for the knowledge

[@blackmane1993]

Thank you for this wonderful video I can relate everything you're saying

[@netking767]

Bloody gold! Why am only I seeing this now?

[@StoicBachelor]

If a man chases himself and pursues a purpose then he'll never have to pursue or anything for that matter. They search for him. Women are the last thing on the totem pole for me.

[@bryanbailey6165]

AMEN TO THAT IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME TO GET THAT BUT THERE NOW!!!!

[@alexgarzon4764]

100% Facts parcero

[@sadikitownsend5476]

Definitely every man should first invest in himself first before he put the woman jn the game

[@Nick-kf2xr]

This is pure wisdom.

[@ricardomacias9035]

Never ever beg. If your there take yourself out and Be a man and dp things right.

[@GWSikes]

Internal validation is definitely of most importance!

[@shaneholmgren4007]

There's always time George! Get to work.

[@seanmyles6023]

Wow thanks bro very helpful information GOD BLESS

[@Watchserviceandrepair]

One of the best insights I've seen... glad to be in club man!

[@lumanadimusic258]

ecatalin I think it’s worth a shot. Doing what you’re doing is not working. There are plenty of guys chasing women. One easy thing you can try is waiting to respond to her. Wait a few hours or a day and low key articulate that your life has been taking priority. To an extent , girls need something more mysterious and you’re probably to crystal clear. Don’t let her be what allows you to be happy.

[@calebbearup4282]

KZbin recommendations sometimes scare me but sometimes they come in handy. The next video the recommended was by Apollonia Ponti called the difference between over pursuing vs pursuing a woman. It was a nice compliment to this video. Both of which are ones that helped opened my eyes in their own way to the same truth

[@TrentonErker]

Great video.

[@mikegrantham7440]

The story about the boy and the snake is the same story of the scorpion and the frog. That made for a great Star Trek Voyager episode called Scorpion and that is when Seven of Nine is introduced. It is my favorite Voyager episode. Overall, some great info here.

[@davidarbelaez4395]

Chasing connotes desperation.

[@Exprealtyagent]

Too much of anything is not interesting to anyone. It is not a game but a balance. Agree with you, 100%!

[@jonathangordon9911]

I definitely find that I've fallen into some of these traps before. Hopefully I will be able to avoid them from here on out.

[@kastrothetrucker7820]

much respect bro love your videos 😎💪🇲🇽🇺🇸

[@Manco-gl9ol]

I can’t believe I fell for this trap again in my last relationship. Never again.

[@adventuroussouls8628]

On point again 👌

[@LifesanL4976]

Pursue God. Make following Him your goal. He is the center of the universe. Happiness comes from serving God.

[@ankitkumarsinha3487]

The species would die

[@eugenecampos7597]

Awesome. Food for the brain. Thank You I needed it.

[@georgehutcheson9679]

Great human to snake analogy. So true man SO TRUE !🇺🇸

[@coastalbeer]

Just read "The Kid Gallagher Story ". Now here's a guy that really knew how to live. Women chased him. Men wanted to be like him. All dogs wagged their tail when he was around. Too funny that last sentence! I get carried away sometimes 😂.

[@noisecrack]

Get that echo down a bit. Really noticable on headphones. Biking while learning!

[@MotoIBAngel]

This was a BIG help!!!, i was way off from what i wanted to do and this puts everything in perspective. Great Podcast and great tips thanks.

[@onthegrind8580]

Cool Beard tho, Great Advice for us young men I needed this.

[@xxkalisitaxx]

I know this advice was tailored for a male audience, but honestly these suggestions are great for both genders. I think there is a greater underlying problem in our society that is manifesting as psychological disorders (anxiety, depression) as well as maladaptive socialization en masse. We could all stand to do some self-reflection and work on improving ourselves, for ourselves. We all deserve a chance to pursue happiness, but we commonly fail to realize that it can only truly come from within. We are conditioned more and more to rely on others- especially the state- to fulfill our needs, instead of being taught (or bothering to learn) how to take care of ourselves and what that entails. The younger adults have even started having "adulting" workshops to learn simple stuff our parents taught us, like how to change a tire or fix a clogged drain, without having to pay for an outside "expert" to handle it.

[@olivernilsson6694]

Thanks man!

[@jeffersondavis5298]

Holy shit. I’ve been on and off with the same girl for 4 years now. It’s always amazing until she shuts off and runs away. I could never understand why because “ I try so hard and I’m so good to her”. I thought I’ve been a good man and partner but I’ve just been... kind of a bitch lol. You really opened my eyes with this. Thank you

[@raularmas317]

Perhaps you've encountered a woman with a dismissive avoidant personality type. These are people who bolt/run away when they sense they are getting too(?)close or intimate and in possible danger of getting hurt emotionally-- and those same intense feelings make her feel very vulnerable; like she's out of control or losing her balance, a no-no for people who like being in control of all aspects of their life.

[@jeremydoblinger3609]

Thanks bro!!

[@magsilva3185]

Great, man.👍

[@tobiassanders3831]

Just one thing: it is also perfectly valid (and actually even more so) to put God at the center of your universe. In fact, the center of your universe is such a weighty position that only God can carry the burden. That being said, it is true that prioritizing and *chasing* God is in your best interest, so you could argue that I'm only complementing your argument.

[@atastyspamwich]

please dont bring religion into this, its unrelated and its not polite to others that are here and may not want to hear about one of the gods today. religion is personal and should be kept that way unless asked.

[@georgehutcheson9679]

@@atastyspamwich 💯%Agree with that statement. We need to be able to stand on our own without being held up by false Hope's.

[@CornerTalker]

@@atastyspamwich Back into the closet religious people! You are not worthy of partaking in our society! Censor yourself or we'll do it for you!

[@eddiestrah9730]

Don’t apologize for stating your beliefs

[@dephneenroll4896]

Wow. This is my second listing of order of men. Thanks men. My eyed are opened.. And heart is filled with inspirational to make me a better human 💟💟🇮🇳🇮🇳

[@LAETSPITS]

Facts! By the way. Nice Beard, Bro.

[@AZTigerMMA]

I think instead of saying “chasing” you may wanna replace that with neediness. A man absolutely needs to fight and fight hard for what he wants. This might not always be in line with the relationship goals… Because people intuitively run from chases but I believe neediness is a better way to describe this energy

[@chenugent]

This has given me quite a big revelation. He's right about how human's want what we can't have. The more scarce something is, the higher the value. You are going to want an item of clothing more if you know it's the last in stock. I can use this analogy for my own life, like with my music. I'm persuing a career in art and music, becasue not only do I enjoy it but I know that's it's ambitious and I like a challange. But i never over persue it! As soon as I notice other artists not wanting to work on collaborations, Label's not hitting me back, I simply pull away a little. IT'S THE SAME THING WITH WOMEN. They are the ultimate testers of masculinity and how strong and poweful you are. It's the perfect mechanism. See we need women in our lives, to actually test us and help us be the best versions of ourselves. Another analogy I came up with links to my love for gaming. I love difficult games, like dark souls. I always play on the hardest difficulty for a game. I love hunting for platinum trophies. I enjoy the adrenaline of persuing something so difficult to obtain. But again, I never over persue. That would drive me insane. If a video game is bullshit and I'm stuck, I will give it a rest for a while and come back to it later. Hard work pays off, but naturally we always know when to give ourselves a break. Never chase anything in life. Only persue. You can be a bit desperate for things in life every now and then, that's natural, no one is perfect, but the happy medium is to be safely persuing something to the point where you're happy and it's not driving you crazy!

[@AnEmerald]

..You said .. woman are the testers of masculinity and strength. Yes🎉 I choose him🎉 There's nothing else to do because I chose him. So isn't the ball ALL in his court? What's the game your talking about?