8 Habits That Make Men Ugly (From A Woman’s Perspective)

[@CourtneyRyan]

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[@diegomontoya1544]

@CourtneyRyan Hey Courtney , I was raised by woman , and I can say most of the things you say about woman are completely true !! And makes me really enjoy the difference and just dating between woman and man !.

[@diegomontoya1544]

@CourtneyRyan . Just one question . I live in Cleveland as well . Where you recommend in Cleveland or Ohio is a good place to meet wholesome woman . 😂

[@dariostabletopminatures]

8 Habits that make KZbin Videos Ugly in 2024. 1 to 8. Not haveing Named Timestamps.

[@angmori172]

You and your tiege hanley spam Jokes on you, I'm an overweight chain smoker who puts zero effort into my skincare and one thing I actually get constant compliments on is my good skin Eat me, Tiege

[@dariostabletopminatures]

@@angmori172 the Ladys love the "lived" looked. They know. Girls just wanna have funnaaa.

[@sumonrahman8752]

Timestamps - 1. 0:22: 💁‍♀️ Negative mindset and constant complaining are unattractive to women, showing inability to handle situations. 2. 2:34: 💆 Importance of proper self-care for men's attractiveness and skin health. 3. 4:59: 💇 Importance of maintaining a neat and well-groomed appearance for men. 4. 7:25: 💁‍♂️ Lack of personal goals leads to unattractiveness and impacts relationships negatively. 5. 9:49: 💡 Factors influencing decision-making and attractiveness, including choice of company and lack of sleep. 6. 12:15: 💄 Negative effects of alcohol on beauty and health 7. 14:58: 💆‍♂️ Tips for managing stress: exercise, deep breathing, find what works for you.

[@64bitUnity]

Thank you i was looking for this!

[@Bloodcurling]

You're not the video editor

[@midnitepillage]

​@@Bloodcurling No but your comment probably fits #1 on the list.

[@dariostabletopminatures]

This Video is just Click Bait. KZbin Addsense Maintainance! Thanks for the Timestamps!

[@andylaw3222]

I wasted exactly 2:18 on this video, thank you. No idea why i even had this in my rec. People are different. Comments are funny though.

[@meepmonster750]

Women call me ugly until they find out how much money I make. Now they call me broke and ugly…

[@Andrew--S]

Old but gold. This line always makes me laugh.

[@dirtyandnasty9011]

😂👌

[@Shah-of-the-Shinebox]

Money tends to make you more attractive than you actually are.

[@Rocket4ce]

😂😂😂bro!

[@MaximusHeden]

You are looking for the wrong kind of woman😂

[@zerofuksgivins2539]

1. breathing 2. living 3. being normal 4. being under 6ft 5. sports 6. saying no 7. having a job 8. not having a job

[@JoeSpringer97]

We can narrow it down to this: Existing

[@LatimusChadimus]

Dude I'm 5'6 and even when I was a skinny teenager with bad acne and bad fashion I still got girls, I'm in my thirties now still the same height and I still get women. Only women with overly inflated egos that are extremely fragile give that much attention towards being tall. I've been with women taller than me and I've even dated women taller than me. It's not that big of a deal

[@KBowWow75]

Saved me 8 and a half minutes. Thanks champ.

[@kc270352]

comments like this just proving her point

[@JACQUEZ23]

specially these days U are correct

[@djdag2000]

As a female "having no timestamps" is not very attractive

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂😭 hahahaa I’m sorry

[@johnbasedow8973]

its an ick

[@Movies2049]

@justingary5322The longest response ever. I don’t require timestamps. Sometimes Courtney is a bit of what I’s say is a nerd and too much of the conservative type for me. No one’s perfect! Be open minded, kind and healthy

[@Bloodcurling]

How are you too lazy to watch a free video?

[@djdag2000]

@@Bloodcurling are you the White Knight?

[@KN-op3et]

Just want to point out that this applies to the women as well. Women who complain a lot, do not take care of themselves, consumed by social media, bad attitude, no goals, etc., etc. are also... unpalatable.

[@cur244]

Same for no hobbies outside of a screen.

[@megasoid]

@@cur244 yes

[@megasoid]

Funny how these points are rarely raised.

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

ABSOLUTELY TRUE---from a woman.

[@Eric-dd8bk]

There goes 90% of women lol Maybe we men also have too high of standards, not objectively, but for today's women. lol

[@rjcrizzle92]

Timestamps: 1. 0:22 Constant Complaining & Negativity 2. 1:46 Poor Health & Hygiene 3. 4:11 Being Physically Unkempt/Looking Dirty 4. 5:45 Bad Attitude & Bad Manners 5. 7:36 Having No Goals 6. 10:32 Lack of Sleep 7. 11:39 Heavy Alcohol/Substance Use 8. 13:39 Stress/High Cortisol

[@armanddefrank7984]

Out of the 8 I'm under water on about half ah well

[@jdwspe]

Constant complaining and too much alcohol by women is a huge non-starter for men. Those 2 alone will cause men to recoil and repulse.

[@SeanzViewEnt]

They say im ugly just on looks alone

[@CourtneyRyan]

Noooo!

[@arinael]

That's awesome 😎

[@STRHYKKER]

Same.

[@hugejackedman7423]

Train harder bro 💪

[@SEAN959_]

​@@hugejackedman7423lol ur username

[@CarlFredrik-uo1cu]

I agree with most of these. But regarding "Bad attitude and manners". It seems like "bad boy" is preferable over "gentleman" if you ask many women. When I say "bad boy" I don't mean "asshole", "douchebag" etc., and when I say "gentleman" I don't mean "nice guy", "simp", "doormat" etc.

[@Moondarkie]

they dont see the gentleman only the bad boy/chad's. they wouldnt recorgnize a gentleman even if he is standing in front of him ;) trust me on that one ;)

[@datura.4022]

Not sure how you mean bad boy in this situation but if we're talking about a guy who swears in front of kids, doesn't say please or thank you, interrupts when someone is speaking, is argumentative and combative, and parties and gets wasted all the time then that's rlly unattractive for most grown women. I'm 22 and although I'm not that experienced in life yet, these are turn offs for me. I think if I were to describe an attractive "bad boy" it really has nothing to do with manners, it's just someone who isn't a pushover or a people pleaser (i.e. has boundaries and respects those of others), someone who is original and thinks for himself and maybe has a creative or edgy hobby/day job.

[@Moondarkie]

@@datura.4022 the bad boy types youre describing is what most woman basicly go for. i do have boundaries and respect those of others but i am a nice guy. woman dont see me standing cause of i am nice i threat them with manners and respect and still yet they think i am insecure and bla bla while its the opposite. i am confident i want to make a woman happy and live a happy life with her. but that is seen as weak man or unatractive. i do please people sometimes and sometimes i aint but its my decision to help or like a person and do something for that person. i always been though if you do good you meet good. if you do bad you ll meet bad. and actually its true but the woman says i dont deserve you and that kinda bs (they dont wanna feel respected somehow i still dont get it) fight for equality and when you have it you dont want it... so thats why i say when there is good man in front of a woman she wont recorgnize it and thinks he might be a loser while the opposite is true they rather go for chad who has too many options and use them or the bad boy who might be a little criminal once in a while. Not the honest good guy after their choices they become older and they regret not going for the good guy. thats why you see so many video's on youtube/tiktok and other social media. i am growing as a man every year i learn myself new things new skills and finally i say to myself the woman who dont value me good they dont deserve me. i can make myself happy and live a happy life but i preffer sharing... if that makes sense i have nice friends do go on new adventure's and stuff.... why are looking woman past me ? (i am too nice and goodhearted) means not intrested while i can be your best and biggest friend you ever might find on this planet ;)

[@Olyfrun]

​@@datura.4022what's "bad boy" about what you describe there?

[@Aries73]

r/NiceGuys, if you're scoring at home.

[@tomh1593]

I have been called ugly more than once in my life. you never really get over that. It sticks with you.

[@Afsheenn]

Fuck those people. You only live once. Dignity, honour, good manners, self-respect - these things no one can take from you. The judgemental pricks have their own insecurities. Better not to dwell on them. Lost seconds are not paid back.

[@josebanuelos360]

“The bar is set incredibly low here,” this is why I like your channel! 👍🏼

[@TheWefikus]

If you set this bar for women they’d get all bent out of shape. In fact, they do.

[@perpetualprocrastinator]

The economics of relationship is really very expensive. As a frugal person, it is difficult to reconcile with that fact.

[@no_regerts5176]

Don’t be biologically frugal. Do what you need to spend your fluid currency.

[@perpetualprocrastinator]

@@no_regerts5176 What a troll advice 😂

[@skidmarks-ov3hn]

I thought I was crazy. This is too real. The financial ceiling for relationships is so high

[@KlaustheViking]

@@no_regerts5176 So become a coomer 👍🏻

[@om617yota8]

Find the right partner. You should both be adding to each other's lives and making it so you can both live a better life together than either of you could alone. A real partner won't be an expense.

[@trowwzers5057]

I can’t agree more than heavy drug use. I was a on different opioids and I’ve noticed my face was really bloated and redness. I’m ~90 days clean and I’ve noticed how much better I look now

[@CR0WYT]

The passion and goals only really applies if the passions and goals are also attractive. If your goals are to live a normal life in a not so big house living an average lifestyle while collecting and doing nerdy stuff as hobbies, good luck.

[@datura.4022]

No, don't get it twisted! That's cool and desirable to certain girls, maybe we're not all the high maintenance glam type, but we do exist. Personally, I've never identified as a nerd but have always liked creative hobbies and the occasional video game. I also like fashion and enjoy getting dolled up but it took me a while to get into to my 'feminine' side since I was a bit of an ugly duckling in my teens. Guys just have to have a bit of patience with us 'nerdy' girls cuz we usually get prettier as we age haha!

[@LatimusChadimus]

Truly fix your sleep because it is your best performance enhancer, that is when you get to rebuild and store memory, and that's also when your best growth hormone is released, not just after exercise in the morning

[@ooohdannneh]

I feel like you guys are looking at me 😂😂. I'm going to bed early promis.

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

Interesting info re:sleep that I hadn't heard! O know 2 people with BIG Insoinia challenges (1 man, 1 woman). Not only does it affect them physically, but, it really hurts their mental health. Very stressful! (a woman)

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@LisaFenton-h7f honestly sleep is the best performance enhancer we have, and it's where we do the most rebuilding. It's also that time where our immune system gets to do some things that doesn't get to do during the day, just like other bodily functions that are distracted by the consciousness. That's why you might not see a scab or scratch go away during the day but could disappear overnight. Your brain can do more for the body when you are asleep

[@bricengorai363]

One thing I see ugly is when people think they’re better than everyone else. Especially, leaders or when they’ve achieved something.

[@alanh7247]

I doubt such people care what you think about them 😐

[@andrekopu]

You seeing them ugly is the problem.

[@cyb3r_81]

If they achieved something or are leaders they did something to get there, and in turn, they are probably “better” than everyone else who aren’t on their level… the worst is people with unachieved benefits who act all high and mighty or salty jealous people.

[@cryptomaniacs7265]

This happens to be a large portion of women. Oops.

[@youngtuna2385]

@@alanh7247 i can confirm 😂

[@CarlFredrik-uo1cu]

I'm dating a girl now. I really don't get what she sees in me. My negative traits far outweigh my positive traits. She says that I'm "the kindest person she knows". It's really nice and flattering to hear, but I know it can't be true. I try to be kind, but I don't feel like I do enough. I think kindness is important, but I don't think it's enough on its own.

[@KonkeyDong968]

Dude, cut that mentality out. It holds you back from being successful in life. Have confidence in yourself. How do you build up confidence? Set up small goals and work towards them (ie in 1 month I will learn a song a guitar, i will go for a 30 min walk daily, in 1 year I want to be able to speak another language etc). Then start to make bigger goals (ie in 2 years I want to be a supervisor at work, this year I won't spend money on useless things). She sees something she likes I you run with that. Don't be someone down in the dumps all the time. Keep your chin up dude.

[@ganeshr4371]

kindest means you are "manly" enough to her expectation. nothing else lol

[@Mrmajellan123]

You got issues bro

[@CarlFredrik-uo1cu]

@@Mrmajellan123 Elaborate.

[@CarlFredrik-uo1cu]

@@Mrmajellan123 Elaborate

[@jtrujr]

Hey Gents, on the etiquette tip, the Art of Manliness blog is a great starting point. There’s lots of articles about manners and working out. Taught me a lot that my dad didn’t teach me.

[@T_elegram-me-MissCourtneyRyan]

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[@charlesrobitaille9360]

Proper heath is working in the dirt and having fresh nutritious vegetables . This takes hours to do this every day . After that im hitting the lake for a swim and a sauna ! No mirror needed ,natural and peaceful! 😊

[@MySecondNature-FNappi]

Yes to all your points, but if I can let me impart a nugget of advice from my former jujutsu sensei …. “Keep moving, don’t be sedentary… You will rust out long before you wear out”

[@ronervine]

I love this !

[@aaronburdon221]

I have goals in life, but the only problem is that it requires someone else.

[@paulrenis8930]

Courtney, thank you. I have a friend who is an addict and has been cut off by everybody except myself and two family members, I am stubbornband care for her , I call her my little sister my mission is to get her off this. Thank you for mentioning this. You are not only a sister but my superstar.

[@Frostyrnb77]

I get told I'm very ugly/undateable, because I'm an Asian male. Something I can't control, but I continue to move forward anyways. Hopefully I can move out of Seattle soon

[@CourtneyRyan]

Oh goodness, I’m so sorry you’ve had that experience. I hope you know that is NOT true at all. Hugs 🤍

[@Ryan66437]

Moved recently myself, it's definitely had an impact. Hope it works for you too!

[@Ktsquare2008]

Long time ago I was too but the message about undateable was subtle.

[@SnookisInfant-gt8xu]

You gotta stop condescending and really challenging your yourself with this content and dig in on your friend’s opinions on men. There are more men with great hygiene than there aren’t that women aren’t entertaining IN PUBLIC.

[@stayhungry1503]

maybe youre only going for tall blonde models

[@eray9934]

I'm married to a wonderful woman but just wanted to add my 2 cents here. Yes my wife is an attractive woman but I remember the thing that really stuck out to me was just how kind she was to everyone. She was especially kind to vulnerable people, like old or mentally handicapped. And she wasn't afraid to stand up for people. Yes she stood up for herself too, but it was even more of a turn-on to see her defending others. Anyway, I thought that was interesting how you said this was one of the top things women look for in a guy, and it goes the other way around too (at least for me).

[@Aerodos12]

Point 1 reminds of the saying "you are who you spend time with"

[@jeremiahbok9028]

So happy to hear you shouting out mindfulness meditation! Meditation brings me such joy and peace. Science shows the benefits are tremendous and I personally hope people in general stop being so skeptical of how beneficial it is and just do it. I hope it becomes more like exercise or reading: not everyone does it, but you'd have to be a pretty unusual person to argue it's not useful and worthwhile. Meditation is deeply healing and moreover, it's essentially a way to observe and engage with our thoughts and emotions on the most fundamental level possible, by just being present with them and, rather than deliberately fleeing from them or stifling them, just allowing them to be. So meditation is worthwhile because learning about and sitting with our minds is worthwhile, *we* are worthwhile. As one KZbinr I love put it, "The best time to start meditating is right now." Because it really is! You don't need *anything* to meditate, it is essentially just paying attention. I love exercise but you do ideally need at least a mat, exercise clothes + shoes, and some weights, and if you can afford it a gym membership, to do it properly. All you need to meditate is yourself. I could go on and on, but it sounds like you don't meditate even though you respect it as a practice that can help people so I'll leave it at that. I'll just also agree about taking deep breaths (something Buddhism emphasizes alongside meditation- I am not Buddhist but I have a lot of respect for its more beneficial teachings) sleep, and exercising, all tremendously useful for stress reduction. I would have faced so much more stress in school without meditation or exercise. Good to be commenting again, Courtney, and it's always good to see you looking so happy and healthy!

[@OptimisticRealizer]

This is why when women say a man should be "vulverable" it is the worst advise ever because a lot of times for man it comes out as just bitching to your partner, which is a turn off to complain about lack of money or work drama.

[@JACQUEZ23]

Facts men can't win nothing

[@theosname]

Being vulnerable is easy. Talk to women about something that you are not sure you are doing correctly or about how something that happened in the past confused you. Saying these things to her could result in ridicule or manipulation so choose your words wisely. But, when done with a woman who would make a good partner, the conversation that follows will help you grow and be a sign that you can trust this woman.

[@LatimusChadimus]

Transparent when appropriate: yes Vulnerable: never

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@theosname two men can be partners, just like two women. Men&women are spouses (not partners). Just cuz women use that word taken from samesexcouples doesn't mean men should use it

[@May-qb3vx]

It’s about balance. You can be vulnerable with someone without it being a barrage of constant complaints. I can give you advice or be there for you, but if you’re complaining about the same things and are showing you can never be happy or are unwilling to do anything to better your situation, it’s just draining at that point. I doubt anybody, man or woman, wants to be around someone that’s always dragging down their day. It’s a constant emotional take from other people. You have to give too

[@JOEGAMESLAB]

Sometimes i use some of those bad habits, plus excessive smoking to keep some nuisances and negatives away.

[@Pablo1517]

I am the type that was never asked how I feel my entire life - leading to me not talking about that at all, since I was raised in a way that suggests nobody cares. After 3 years of therapy I started opening up JUST A LITTLE, to gain my confidence in that field. Since then I realized it to be a FACT - women DON'T want to know how you feel. Every single time I brought up how I feel in a situation, especially if it was related to how she acted (and she acted poorly), even if it was the first time in our relationship, she would instantly cringe, and go into the mode of "You are too sensitive", "you talk too much about how YOU feel" even tho it literally occured once. Women just don't want men to have any negative feelings, especially if those feelings are because those women acted poorly towards you. Yet another reason to check out of dating in modern days.

[@edwinmoya8042]

Bro, start by finding your balls, then you'll be alright.

[@willd1655]

I've been watching your videos on and off for a couple of years and recently subscribed. I really appreciate your input and what you're providing. It's very insightful.

[@CourtneyRyan]

So glad you’re here! ❤️

[@johnbasedow8973]

im clean, over 6 feet, make 80k a year, no kids, dress fine, floss, brush and tongue scrape. good personality, average looks, atheltic build. and i have been turned down by every girl ive tried to pull in the last decade. i am completely invisible to women

[@la9867]

Must be the vibe you’re giving off. If you work that things should improve for you.

[@johnbasedow8973]

@@la9867 it’s the vibe of having a receding hairline and kind of a chubby face. SORRY IM NOT PERFECT WOMEN. immediately get thrown into the basket of deplorables for not checking every box

[@afridgetoofar1818]

Every girl? There is something wrong with you.

[@jamesy11111]

I recommend “How to be a 3% Man” by Corey Wayne. Single-handedly changed my life.

[@danielalbo4994]

@@la9867it’s hard to “fix” your vibe especially when you can’t quite quantify ones “vibe”

[@RiruKrypto_]

Telling someone not to stress out is easy as it sounds, there's just many of reasons why stress happens and we can't stop it on control.

[@KingCzar29]

Quite literally changed my diet to eggs in the morning and chicken, rice, and broccoli for lunch and dinner. Hoping to keep this up for months to cut excess fat. Plenty of chubby guys end up with models, but I’m not one of those guys 😂😂

[@btfoaccounting2902]

I've been on the chicken, rice and broccoli diet for 2 months and dropped almost 30 lbs. It works so well and easy to adhere to without cravings. Make sure to eliminate all fats, e.g. butter, oils, cheese, etc

[@CourtneyRyan]

Report back on how it goes! Rooting for you!

[@helenamuniz5269]

The models are mostly with them for the 💰 stay safe out there.

[@MrSomsoc]

It has been proven that it is better to workout the fat than to slim down and then put on muscle. Follow Dr. Mike from RP KZbin channel.

[@Ryan66437]

Been on basically that diet for years now. My advice is to invest in a rice cooker and a plentiful supply of different spice mixes for your meat. Little spice, some soy sauce, or butter and salt makes the same thing tasty and all new again.

[@travelingadler]

Thats so true on lack goals and purpose. Ive seen that a lot with women who ask that. However a lot of men are completely lost in life because they dont know what to do with themselves.

[@Zeke1379]

Interesting because wimen seem to love kurt cibain and aragorn

[@jac6568]

Funny that. I was on the bus last week and watched a man step aside to let a lady pass first when a girl jumped in and raised her voice to ask what's wrong with you give in to that man's courtesy. Women. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. Why I no longer care what women think of me, as I'm no longer interested or looking. Living alone now past 6 years and the happiest iv ever been.

[@jdarnellsix]

Courtney do a segment on Gold Diggers, can you please? Like what to look out for? How to tell if youre being played for money, etc?

[@KevvoLightswift]

8:41 THANK YOU! For years I’ve been scratching my head trying to figure out why women value drive and determination so much. You’ve solved the mystery, Courtney. I appreciate your insight.

[@ianhamilton639]

it's a wish-washy answer.. Women value drive+ ambition because it likely leads to more resources for them.. They're driven by a never-ending need/want for resources, biologically. Once you understand that, everything else makes sense.

[@snoobeagle]

1. Constant complaining, negativity -doesn't involve action or solution -emphasis on "constant" -try to avoid following negative people online 2. Poor health and hygiene -don't be lazy about this 3. Not taking care of your skin (cue Ad) 4. Being physically unkempt -stains, unclean clothes -ill fitting garments -hair on clothing -unkempt hairstyle 5. Bad attitude, bad manners -anger issues -how you treat others, friends and strangers reflect on you -say please/thank you, hold the door for people -table manners 6. Floating through life-no goals -can cause depression which finds its way into relationships -choose your peers wisely as they may affect your goals 7. Lack of sleep -can affect your physical appearance -stress levels may increase 8. Heavy alcohol or substance use -frequent intoxication is a turn off for women -affects your physical appearance -affects your sleep and nutrition 9. Stress -high cortisol affects your skin's appearance, oil levels -hair loss -skin wrinkles -try exercise, meditation, mindfulness to reduce stress

[@bruce838]

Thanks 🙏

[@fredcotter9672]

I agree with what you said. Also, people should not be afraid of seeing a sleep doctor. Huge benefits, which can affect your heart , energy, and outlook on life,

[@BALHAM69]

Small details, Courtney has a watch on and this is a must as she says. 😮 Happy Sunday.😅

[@CourtneyRyan]

🥰 happy sunday!

[@BALHAM69]

@@CourtneyRyanfree Palestine and happy Eid :)

[@mohammadcalmasri]

the stress thing is a big fact ,stress management made me better thx for sharing these stuff it really helps .

[@samuelblessum5759]

For me, gossip is the biggest thing that makes a woman ugly. If she's going to speak poorly about her acquaintances, then she will speak even worse about her friends, family, children, boyfriend, and husband. She has a habit of cultivating disrespect for others. Do not pursue such a one!

[@dobolama]

100%. This is a top turnoff for me as well

[@PurpleBox89]

Very enlightening. Didn't think about the goals bit at all. The breathing/stress management, reminds me of Chris Hemsworth aka Thor talking about a box breathing technique he uses.

[@Courtney-Alice-Gargani]

I know a coworker where he and his aunt work for the same company and he’s always complaining about his life to her. She told him that he needed to man up and stop complaining about his life and just deal with things.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Taking action > complaining! Thanks for sharing, Court!

[@wheresarnie1]

@@CourtneyRyan Leaving the rat race and not giving entitled brats attention is taking action. I'm still in the rat race, but it's for my own personal means to buy gold, travel and leave permanently. Adaptation to a very sick society is not healthy. Maintenance of oneself, most of what you talked about regarding hygiene and exercise, is more important than "appearing" a certain way for someone else who really doesn't deserve any of your time.

[@mordecai144k2]

Aren't these the same people who want to have men listen to their complaints and when he tries to take action, they get mad at him? Yet when he complaints, she says "take action" or else he looks ugly to them??? Which is it? Take action? Or no? If you say "take action", then fine. But by the same token, do not get mad when he starts offering solutions to a woman's problems she keeps complaining about.

[@wanabetruckerdave3776]

@@mordecai144k2 fact

[@aspicboat]

@@mordecai144k2 it's just the usual thing of women dismissing men's feeling. if you're not useful, you need to fuck off basically. empathy is reserved for women.

[@Lorde_Nanners23]

Very constructive, and well stated. Thank you for sharing some quality insight! I myself struggle with a cat as well (she's all white so send prayers for all my dark clothes) It is interesting to think some of these common sense and common courtesy ideas are not as common as we might think.

[@Ryan66437]

I would be interested in hearing your thoughts on how area/state, etc. affects a lot of this Courtney. I recently moved from Colorado to Florida and I instantly had an easier time conversing with women here. I haven't changed at all, so it's an interesting contrast.

[@filmscorefreak]

Many, or probably most people are struggling to the point that dating is simply not an option. Pursuing ones goals and dreams has become a luxury that fewer and fewer can afford.

[@pcm2012]

A thing that turns me off immediately in a woman: tattoos, specially those made with blue/green ink which reminds me of convicts. The body of a woman is pure beauty, an artistic expression of nature, and graffitis on it ruin the view completely.

[@johnmooney4983]

Amen brother gospel

[@austinlopezlabrada]

True have you seen stickers on a Ferrari

[@marccano5061]

Take note ladies,,, those huge ugly tattoos on your calf that you can't even make out are a real turn off. They'll fade with time and after you mature a bit you'll be sorry you got them in the first place.

[@johnmooney4983]

@@marccano5061 amen brother. The gospel

[@mr.horse1801]

Those bull nose rings 🤮

[@Martin_Romanowski]

I agree with you on all the points Especially alcohol & drugs I see alcohol as same toxic category as processed fast food

[@oliverpetroski4205]

Lack of sleep?? Try working night shifts, or a job thats not pen and office. Also try the dating in East Europe...people need to start being realistic and not copy paste everything they see on social media and movies.

[@viron6734]

What's dating like in East Europe? I get the sense it's rather practical and not very romantic.

[@oliverpetroski4205]

@@viron6734 Its all rigged. If you approach a girl she will consider you a maniac, a creep etc. and is looking for a way to laugh at you loudly in public in front of everyone. All I've met are already set by relatives to date someone they already knew. Tons of cheaters too. At my work all of them are cheaters. Last night I was at a party and the women were cheating on their husbands with aholes who had nothing to show for, those dudes cant even pay for her coffe, but she cheats on her spouse with that scumbag. And everyone inside there are related either by blood either by toxic friend. So even getting promoted is rigged. Me and few of my friends tried approaching several women but either end up being friendzoned or they are pre set to date/sleep with someone else, usualy someone who has either ritch parents or bribed his way to higher position. Like I said the game is rigged in so many ways...The shifts have crazy hours which wears you off and stops you from looking for a date outside. Its nightmare. For the party I invited a girl to be my date, but she said she's not coming, being too tired. But at the party I saw her with a coworker of mine who's aready married, dancing together. The most disgusting thing I felt was when my female coworkers tried to trick me into dating a 50year old grandma🤢🤮 which of course I refused so they started shouting that Im toxic and bs like that while everyone looking. Two of them even said to me how they want to watch me doing you know what...🤢😳There so much more to it but even this is long and not even half of it...

[@no_regerts5176]

I worked graveyard for years. Adjust!

[@oliverpetroski4205]

Hmmm... interesting. My reply got deleted!

[@MegaRobo25]

My guy adapt to your environment. Just whining isn't going to help you

[@josiahgonz2024]

I always thought compliments helped new people feel welcomed as a leader in a group, it got perceived as flirting and the person I was interested in, spent time together on the weekends, said she needed space to work on her self. So I got back into rowing and powerlifting, giving her that space. I didn’t know the space was a test for me to stop being friendly to everyone, till it was too late. She’s had a boyfriend for a month from the group and still gets after me, I know now; I don’t have much non dating app experience.

[@JackofClover]

that's funny because women always like me a lot better when I just got off work and my clothes are dirty... they NEVER like me when I'm cleaned up and wearing nice fancy clothes.

[@mikesgamelab6369]

Interesting. Women have always liked a physical, sturdy man, though. Maybe the sweat and dirt from a long day’s work is just as attractive as a suit to some.

[@JackofClover]

@@mikesgamelab6369 yeah they can tell I'm a working class hero. I don't look like a rich boy, so wearing fancy clothes probably clashes with my natural aesthetic.

[@asiandude8361]

You were probably dreaming about that.

[@mar4kl]

Women are always glad to see me. Of course, I'm the guy who fixes their computers, so they aren't looking for a date with me, just a working computer. Besides that, I'm married, so I'm not available. Seriously, though, my guess is that women like you when you just get off work because that's when you look like a guy who does something that requires skill, responsibility and reliability. Smart women respect that in a man. The ones who don't respect that, well, what do you want with them, anyway?

[@francoforte5382]

Maybe after a day of work, through being tired you have less energy to have your social persona on and you're more natural, the real you. So having dirty clause is not really what they pick up on

[@CGMedia2023]

Courtney, real talk. From elementary school to my 40s, every single time I've attempted to look good, improve my grooming, dress nicer, etc, I have ALWAYS gotten beaten up. Every single time. It always starts the same, getting shit thrown at me until I throw something back. Followed by the bullies saying, "hey, wanna fight?" And even when I backed away, I'd get jumped by 2-3 of them. Never, ever was it 1 on 1. My clothes would be ruined, my face and body bloodied, and hair ruined or torn out. Yes, this has even happened at bars with men in my age range attacking me yet again. And then all of these bullies would get ALL the girls. Why the FUCK should I do a damn thing to try to attract women, when men just beat the shit out of me for it and YOU as women, sleep with them for it?

[@Sy2023hk]

Some guys are angry cos' it's an issues from their bad childhood. But it takes a caring woman to see past that. The guy still needs to find ways to help himself and try to make things work out with his partner.

[@JACQUEZ23]

Perfectly said

[@DK-th5nt]

But they must want to change. Partner can help with that but can't force him to do it.

[@arcticwolf8313]

If someone has problems from childhood issues, it's their own responsibility to work on.

[@mr.horse1801]

1. Existing 2. Not being chad 3. Not being rich 4. Under 6’ 5. Being genuinely good 6. Not sharing emotions 7. Sharing emotions 8. Breathing I dont drink, do drugs, im polite, take care of my mother, have a great career making around the 6 digit mark. Own a big beautiful house in NC, shower, brush and floss regularly. Im just plain ugly.

[@aciddevil]

Sad how true this is.....well, their loss

[@jdarnellsix]

Looks will always be the Strongest Motivator biology will Never be replaced by Delusion

[@espresso1329]

100%. Like even just to get to talking, you need to pass the physical appearance barrier with any women. If you ain't good looking, you ain't getting none. Simple.

[@martinsvensson6884]

No, behavior far more important.

[@davidgonzales720]

No, if you're cool, you'll be alright. Just know yourself and be comfortable with who you are. Confidence is magnetic.

[@jdarnellsix]

@@davidgonzales720 Agree, but read the words "The strongest motivator" Not the "only motivator." What I said IS FACT, proven over and over and over again. Thanks for the reply.

[@cyb3r_81]

Looks is only the door, it’s not an easy game out there… You need to have a personality but definitely without looks there would rarely even be a start.

[@alejandrosandovalmusic]

I really enjoy watching your videos. It’s clear that you have received a good education and that you’ve been applying all this advice to yourself. Also, I’m sure you are surrounded by excellent people. I really admire you.

[@zay.405]

Batman doesn't drink. I don't drink.

[@brichard11]

I've been using the Tiege Hanley stuff since February and it is a great product.

[@jondrake1977]

1. I only complain about my sports teams now, not about my life. I think a switch was turned on, and I stopped doing it. 2. I run a sports meetup, so I exercise a lot. 3. EW no lol 3B. You have a cat? Cat needs to make an appearance in videos. 4. I yell at my computer but not at people. 5. My current goal is to secure a FT job, continue saving for a place of my own. I have a lot of savings. 6. I struggle with sleep, mainly because I think too much. 7. Don't like drugs. 8. I am stressed, mainly about work.

[@alwaysemployed656]

My only argument is don't judge a guy that's at work doing a job that's not necessarily a neat job. Now, off duty away from work, yes, I agree with everything Courtney says.

[@spencer_jackson542]

I feel like most women that I know are actually turned off by excessive positivity.

[@MileHighGrowler]

I've actually been told that directly. So weird. I've been through some battles and feel so grateful now for how I've grown, but am told I'd be likeable to just binge drink and complain about everything/everyone. Definitely not the women I'm looking for...

[@tikihutdweller5944]

Most women I know are turned off by all sorts of things.

[@iviake3241]

Depends on how you do it, is it all your saying and/or are you saying too much then yes. But if you have pace with your compliments and are genuine you should be good. Even at that don’t assume it’s most women could be just one either way you shrug it off and move on.

[@jamesgomez4520]

Yes, I do bad shit and girl like it. But don't over do it or it will destroy you

[@lu_re7198]

That depends on the situation. If a woman is complaining about a situation at work, and you’re saying “that’s nothing to be concerned about...Just be happy you have a job”. 😂

[@nickc3856]

1-8: Not being handsome

[@Sanctuary_0]

Yep

[@mr.horse1801]

In a nutshell

[@BloodyHeck]

You forgot tall, rich, ripped, etc.

[@colin6673]

The real list hahaha

[@miquearre1776]

You made this more complicated than I thought it was because I do all of these things and I still get no where with women. Shoutout to your cat by the way!!

[@jeffringer7527]

I’m a subscriber. Love your content. I think you meant Black Pill (aka migtow). True Red Pill is summed up with … be a better man, strive for excellence, and when you’re ready to invite someone to share your life, make sure the person is not a red flag train wreck. Rich Cooper is a great example of red pill content. The Black pill group is … the game is fixed. Don’t bother. No accountability. Offer many problems and never offer any solutions. It is a dark hole with no way out. After my wife passed, I went red pill. I lost a lot of weight (had a lot to lose). I changed my wardrobe (updated more accurately). Healed my mind. Met an amazing woman who I married. Cancer took my wife it wasn’t taking me too.

[@AOHgoog22]

A+ you nailed this... people are typically unaware they are slobs ...and people themselves need to recognize for theirself that 'they want to be better' for themselves....otherwise they are wasting everyone's time no guilt walking away from those 'friends' or 'family' there is not enough time in this short life to 'fix' everything and everyone...we do the best we can in little bits and pieces and keep on truckin' again A+

[@Akilan.11]

I was waiting for this one!

[@CourtneyRyan]

❤️

[@echorome6260]

On that point about a lack of goal setting leading to feelings of depression, I think it is important to address that it goes both ways- depression and anxiety are survival mechanisms that change the homeostatic chemistry of your brain to make you vigilant to not get eaten by a lion or shunned by your tribe. These changes allow you to survive, but prevent you from thriving. They actively prohibit you from envisioning your future so that you can find a way to not die right now. If you can set goals, no matter how small, and meet them, this can help you overcome this stressed mentality and become healthier. Break your goals into manageable pieces and start working on piece #1 today, even just for a couple of minutes.

[@T_elegram-me-MissCourtneyRyan]

ᴍʏ ᴜsᴇʀɴᴀᴍᴇ,ᴡɪʟʟ ᴅɪsᴘʟᴀʏ ᴏɴ ʏᴏᴜʀ ɴᴏᴛɪғɪᴄᴀᴛɪᴏɴs ʙᴀʀ🛐🤷‍♀️🤦‍♂️

[@arinael]

Good morning courtney and everyone ❤🎉 Enjoy your sunday 😊

[@CourtneyRyan]

You too my friend! 🥰

[@timinjapan3836]

You speak the truth! I just found your channel but I love the tough love approach. I'm not generally an A-hole but I did learn from this. Thank you.

[@pharmcat8484]

My wife loved that I had drive and ambition. Now that we have 4 kids she wants me to take more time off work to help around the house. 🙄

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Does she work?

[@pharmcat8484]

@@BWater-yq3jx homemaker

[@JBJOHBAY]

These are interesting points, i have had a women tell me though because I'm so neat, clean, well groomed, and mannered that she didnt think i was straight so...😅 Thanks for the vid though Courtney!

[@T_elegram-me-MissCourtneyRyan]

ᴍʏ ᴜsᴇʀɴᴀᴍᴇ,ᴡɪʟʟ ᴅɪsᴘʟᴀʏ ᴏɴ ʏᴏᴜʀ ɴᴏᴛɪғɪᴄᴀᴛɪᴏɴs ʙᴀʀ🛐🤷‍♀️🤦‍♂️

[@OneFreeMan17]

I’m ugly and I’m proud.

[@airfoto100]

Courtney - you are rare and well rounded. I like most of what you say, no way it would be perfect, but very informative. Life has its ways and we the people need to adjust to what makes us a better person. As you've mentioned the internet can be one's downfall - lots of garbage on it and weeding through it takes time, but worth it if you want to improve. You just need to recognize what is BS and what you will profit from. Always improve yourself and be a productive person. How hard is that? Thank you for your time and approach to improving the male species.

[@kenlawrence4668]

Just a few thoughts to share with those younger men. I have a moral compass which I follow that includes being honest, not just to others but also to myself. I respect women and, in my own way, let them aware of it. I have found that smiling makes one much more attractive and approachable. Allow a woman to come into your world at her own speed and time. Yes, it can be frustrating but the alternative is to turn them off. Give the gift of yourself and do not expect a similar return. It will come when you don't expect to be rewarded for giving that gift. I am 71 years young and have always been complimented on how much younger that I appear and act. The secret that I believe to be is to laugh, be happy about where you are in the moment. FYI, I am 5'7" and could stand to lose a few pounds (maybe a lot :) but I possess an optimistic attitude. Trust me on this that people take notice! I have had women half of my age approach me because I make them feel comfortable and relaxed. My simple piece of advice is to treat everyone that you meet the way that you would like to be treated. Be that person!

[@MichaelHunneyman-j9z]

Thanks for sharing this information and I'm one who suffers from a form of Autism and do not have any long term goals.

[@LatimusChadimus]

Whinners aren't winners

[@LatimusChadimus]

DBAB

[@CourtneyRyan]

👏🏼

[@dominiquez5643]

Great advise Courtney! I cannot believe that someone goes to a date with bad clothing or not showering!

[@JustyceProductions]

Kings, just stay single. No matter who you are, thats going to be an ick in her eyes. If youre confident, thats an ick; if youre not confident enough, thats an ick. If you have a beard thats an ick; if you cant grow a beard, thats also an ick. You need to find strength in bring alone. Pursue your hobbies, whatever it is that you enjoy that fulfills you inside. At the end of the day, you only have you. And if you can find that power in being alone, you wont be an ick to someone 👍

[@michaelmccann4706]

A man who is independent in this world, how he holds himself, how respectful he is to others and not accepting disrespect from others.

[@clarkkent6927]

Can you do one with Women from men Perspective?

[@brentpaulus3114]

I would watch that one all the way thru for sure!!!

[@Moondarkie]

i ll help ya xD 1. men dont like woman with long expectation lists xD 2. we want them to look nice but not in a inaproate way(srry if i miss spel anything) 3. we dont like the games anymore they used to play in order to get a man (they made themselfs impossible) 4. know what you want and stick to it (most woman dont) 5. Value goodmen who are going their own way instead of chasing after chad xD (know when to respect a man ) 6. just be honest and good to men cause they just wanna help you be your best friend (so listen to their advice ) the shrink is just gonna tell ya the same stuff and youre paying 100's for it . 7.show apreciation to the man instead of thinking you are a god girl who can have anything else... (and dont think 100 men are lined up for ya cause there might be a lot of lookalike chads) and the last one. 8. just make fun with the guy ;) we are always in for some fun with woman then we can let them shine ;) atleast i am a man and thats my perspective xD if i should count 8 things xD

[@clarkkent6927]

@@Moondarkie thanks

[@mickjames666]

Agree.

[@mr.horse1801]

Agreed

[@maddyG7414]

Why is it that everytime Courtney makes a video with valid and fair criticism of women, the comments are supportive and favourable. But on most of her videos offering advice or comments about men, the response is so defensive. You don’t have to take any of this to heart if you want. But just like it’s important for women to stop being entitled and close minded to men’s feelings and opinions, y’all need to step up too. Which means making fair assessments of this content based off its validity, not your gut reaction from emotion. It’s not weird to put effort into being more attractive and better at connecting to others, and if you disagree, you can do so without dismissing everything immaturely.

[@CourtneyRyan]

🤌🏼 bravo

[@ohaiduhg]

Physiognomy doesn't lie. Evil thoughts weigh heavily on the face.

[@Henrik11679]

13:42 "Chill out! It might just make you hotter." Now, that's a quote.

[@slicerneons3300]

I'm writing this before watching to guess. 1. Not having a Trust Fund 2. Not being Tall enough 3. Not having a high paying Job 4. Not willing to spend money with wild abandon on a woman you just met 5. Having preferences in woman 6. Wanting a wife who has traditional values 7. Not having a long list of previous conquests that she can compare herself to as better than because she hooked you and the others couldn't 8. Not choosing her 100% of the time over your friends and family. How well did I do?

[@LatimusChadimus]

Dude I'm 5'6 and even when I was a skinny teenager with bad acne and bad fashion I still got girls, I'm in my thirties now still the same height and I still get women. Only women with overly inflated egos that are extremely fragile give that much attention towards being tall. I've been with women taller than me and I've even dated women taller than me. It's not that big of a deal

[@SEAN959_]

Almost thought this was in the video lol

[@user-bn6pb9rz5ehhhj]

American women*

[@JACQUEZ23]

U did good

[@lawrence31415]

Final Score: 0 out of 8 😂

[@fallenangels4618]

Women like results. Theis goes along with the goals Courtney talked about. They dont care much about your plans, or how difficult it is to achieve your goals. They want to see results. So get out there and make it happen. Women will be waiting for you at the finish line.

[@QuentonStein-c8w]

Women just think I'm ugly physically my face.

[@supersonique001]

Simple swaps! Yes, changing your attitude works wonders, if you don't like the painting on your wall, swap it out for one that lifts you up, simple!

[@shinndig1293]

Problem is a lot of younger men can't accomplish their lifetime/dream goals in todays world wether it's due to outside forces beyond their control or years worth of mental and emotional trauma weighing them down.

[@freddyfingers2328]

From my own personal experience I find your description of the effects of stress to be very accurate

[@northernmichigan4108]

Men sacrifice their happiness for their families, women sacrifice their families for their happiness. Fact.

[@wagashi9440]

Man wtf are you on about

[@johanvanstaden2408]

Not all men are alike. Not all women are alike. Watch out for the manosphere wormhole.

[@wagashi9440]

@@johanvanstaden2408 exactly, he’s acting like deadbeat dads and mothers working 2 jobs isn’t very common

[@johanvanstaden2408]

Most people have good intentions, men and women. All people execute those intentions imperfectly, men and women. We judge others by their actions, but we want others to judge us by our intentions. In life, everyone gets hurt. Categorising people into oppressors and victims, or selfish and unselfish, or men vs women, is foolish. Loving someone is doing right by them IN SPITE of their flaws. If you’re gonna expect someone to be perfect, you will never be happy.

[@stylishoversixty9459]

As always another informative, helpful, and instructive video...the only thing I might add as the 9th habit that makes me look ugly is waiting 7 days to watch this video, thanks for sharing👌🏾👍🏾

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you my friend! 🥰🥰

[@nazart7830]

I like to pick my nose so there’s that to work on lol

[@no_regerts5176]

Find a chick who thinks it’s cute.

[@CarlosRamirez-uz5rw]

It’s hard because I like going to the gym but there’s that stigma about meeting women there. Even thought I under stand that it’s possible. The other thing is I don’t drink or do drugs, women think I’m boring or no fun cause I don’t drink anymore. It’s always let’s go for a drink or things like that. I do all these things on the list and still it’s not easy. I’m not bad looking but not a Chad so I guess that’s why.

[@Uvray]

I have some horrible personality traits. Fortunately I am so good-looking with plenty of money, so women are always willing to overlook them.

[@samppeknpaw8299]

😂

[@cocobololocoloco]

Great tips. I pass on most of them thankfully...just need to iron my t-shirts (haha).

[@j.l.j.4422]

We are giving women too much power. Enough

[@OneFreeMan17]

💯👏🏻👍🏻

[@davidchambers44]

While they seem obvious, these are all important reminders. Especially the first one, too many times people spend so much time looking for validation online for their problems instead of taking steps to fix them.