8 Hurtful Things Parents Tell Children

Do you have a good relationship with your parents? Do you think you might be raised by toxic parents? How you were raised is one of the biggest factors that determine who you are. Your parents and environment shape your personality, interests, and ideals much more than what most people realize. However, parents are human too. As much as you may idolize them and want to follow in their footsteps, they make mistakes as well. Whether you’re already a caregiver looking for phrases to avoid or a child seeking information, here are a few hurtful things parents tell children to help you become more aware!
Are you depressed because of your parents? We also made a video on the signs your parents are making you depressed: • 10 Signs Your Parents ...
Article link with sources: psych2go.net/8-hurtful-things...
Disclaimer: This video isn’t meant to diagnose, treat, or cure anyone. It is for informative purposes only, so if you or someone you know may be struggling, we urge you to seek professional help from a therapist or another trusted professional. If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This video was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.
Writer: Lily Mentriko
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Jonelz Leo
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References
Duncan, L. G., Coatsworth, J. D., & Greenberg, M. T. (2009, May 2). A Model of Mindful Parenting: Implications for Parent-Child Relationships and Prevention Research. Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review. link.springer.com/article/10.....
Faircloth, C. (2010). ‘What Science Says is Best’: Parenting Practices, Scientific Authority and Maternal Identity. Sociological Research Online, 15(4), 85-98. doi.org/10.5153/sro.2175
Gryczkowski, M. R., Jordan, S. S., & Mercer, S. H. (2009, November 14). Differential Relations between Mothers’ and Fathers’ Parenting Practices and Child Externalizing Behavior. Journal of Child and Family Studies. link.springer.com/article/10.....

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[@somebody7650]

“Talk to me about what’s wrong” “I’m listening” two sentences i have never heard in my entire life

[@zergthe6597]

Or when you do hear them, it's by the time you're already shutting yourself down

[@pawbeanzx387]

Same dude, it's almost like my parents don't know those phrases existed. They always tell me I'm being over dramatic, so when someone else asks me this, I always lie and say that I'm fine because I'm just too used to being called over dramatic

[@juliazhou4394]

Same

[@miyaka1870]

Same

[@WhatTheFleepBro]

@@pawbeanzx387 same

[@imalittlemffrog2374]

“There are people who have it so much worse” “You’re being selfish” “Crying isn’t going to fix anything”

[@ranmarume]

oh..i remember that

[@aimlessequation5390]

Ah... yes. Those.

[@steph_senpai]

MY F E E L S, N O O O O

[@morellocherry8820]

Yes... i feel that

[@keegantheidiot5067]

Ahh i hear this ever 2 days

[@AishathAshra]

I’ve learned many things from having strict parents -hiding Emotions -You can recognize their footsteps -Learning by myself -learning how to starve

[@anoynmus.person.0_0]

Fr

[@19783008ful]

So Wrong. Damaging. I understand this

[@More1481Pictures]

Another lesson, don't call them out for their actions apparently. My mom (she isnt that strict but she acts like such a bitch over any bad habits I have she would be on my ass about it so goddamn much.) Literally told me OH THATS FUNNY when I told her my true feelings about her. Like seriously??? Screw off...

[@cathycasinger3197]

I can also detect my family members by their Footsteps

[@Helloy_t]

Really? I have too. It sucks having strict parents.

[@Mushroom-Top]

Skills I learned from having a toxic/strict parent - sneaking things without anyone noticing - recognizing sounds like steps - seeing through lies - not making empty promises - going through a day by barely eating Thanks mom.

[@Shghgdhjj]

:(

[@Keykey11271]

You missed one Not showing skin/shoulders I have strict/toxic parents too😢❤

[@kojismiles]

that sucks

[@Who-fn4kz]

:’(

[@SomethingExist]

same

[@mohamstaz3618]

"I had it worse growing up." Trauma isn't a contest, mom.

[@vixenthehybrid2622]

That's what my family does to me I hate it They fucking tell me "oh you have it so easy, we had it worse."

[@crapnuts]

and sadness isn't a contest

[@rawlicious3790]

I remember back when I was young my mom would say my grandma beat her up with a rattan when she's being bad Sure that's rough and you didn't beat me up with a rattan but with words mom, smh I doubt and hope she doesn't see this comment because if she did she'll possibly kick my ass

[@xlatte8150]

@@vixenthehybrid2622 same, they sometimes tell me: Be grateful that we let you relax and play on the phone for you, while other kids have to do work just for themselves and their family. The fact that i think work sounds like a good life, if its not way too hard..

[@ciirl9462]

Istg- Have you been kicked? Have you had a dad that doesn't care? Have you had mild depression just because of your parents?

[@annathepotatowitch6395]

who else really wants to send this to their parents but are too scared because you know they’re going to counter it with some shit reason? Just me?

[@gublaibanerjee]

Rather I want to send to every parent I know

[@sonshine_ssb]

Nah man me too

[@End336]

me

[@blam9360]

Yes.

[@kittysakuraba1656]

*hugs tightly*

[@AnnaMay-ed3mh]

My friend was asked seriously "why are you like this?" by her dad, for fathers day, she killed herself because what he said made her believe that he wanted her gone, and she really loved him, she just wanted what was best for him. She took her own life, for somebody she loved.

[@sanjaijagesar6176]

I know maybe you wont react but any update on the situation? What happened with the dad after that ?

[@user-nl8pb3hx5f]

Damn. That sucks that it happened. That bastard just did that? Be suprised if he ends up with regret for a very long time

[@peaceangel-rl2hf]

That's so sad. The only 2 times I ever really felt so worthless and felt I should just die were after deeply cutting and nasty remarks about my character from my father during a very tragic and traumatic event that was occurring to me, so I understand. Narcissistic parents cause severe emotional and mental harm to their children 😢9

[@trashcan1758]

There are two phrases that my mother always repeated: "If you can't do something RIGHT, then don't do it AT ALL!" and later, when I felt depressed because of that and didn't do anything because I was afraid of making mistakes, she said "You're lazy, you won't achieve anything if you keep doing nothing!"

[@willowwilliams498]

Is she insane? How does that make any sense?

[@SophiaLi-pv9ec]

Somehow doing something wrong is worse than not doing anything. My parents suck.

[@emukasafreinshipforlief]

This comment hit me like a rock. i always try, but nothing isnt enough. Whenever my mom says that, i try asking her on why she’s telling me to do things and later just threatens to hit me.

[@SophiaLi-pv9ec]

@@emukasafreinshipforlief same

[@19783008ful]

That's so horrible 😞 I've never been good enough

[@JayV300]

Parents: **Says hurtful things to their kids** Also parents: Why doesnt my kids love me? Its like saying "Im stabbed, why does it hurt?"

[@Luke-nc5nf]

Cheers ill drink to that bro

[@holyonesingadimedja3241]

True

[@saraaaa27]

and they dont even realise it, baffles me.

[@itsyourgurlxrystallized7143]

And they wonder why we go to our other family members who will support us or go to our friend(s).

[@asimocloud5736]

And then they scold us for being more close to their friends

[@mediocregamer2484]

"How are you depressed and unhappy? You're life is so good. I've given you everything you could want. You're just spoiled. You don't know what it's like in the real world. You've never actually suffered."

[@kevinnguyen552]

You never actually suffered I really hate that your parents said that cuz it suggests that there is only two types of emotions Very very happy And very very depressed It suggest that ur feelings don’t matter which I HATE

[@Isabel-sr8ep]

Any parent who says that deserves to get smacked so hard they forget their own name my brother was trying to talk to my dad about how hard school is and it stresses him out cuz he’s a bit older now and it’s getting harder and my dad said he’s too young to be stressed or sad and damn I actually hate my brother but I felt bad for him in that moment...

[@diminished_my_blocks_]

Tell them, that anyone can be unhappy nomatter what age nor lifestyle,even wealthy people can be unhappy sometimes. I really hate it when parents tell their kids that.It's gonna be hard but it will be too late if nothing gets done about this.

[@mateoignaciomontanocatacor8786]

"Maybe you are just bored"

[@cmcphotography1]

People who treat others' problems for being "not as bad" as theirs as if it didn't exist are scumbags who should be thrown around like a football

[@lunarmcflurryonrecroom-bs6cl]

Stuff I’ve learned while with a toxic mother: • The sound of her car coming into the garage • The sound of her footsteps • When she is mad but doesn’t show it so I know to stay away until she calms down • The difference between play-fighting and secretly hurting me • How to stay calm when publicly humiliated I’m still fighting anxiety and depression while this is going on 💔💔

[@GhostPlatypus]

I’m so sorry 😭😭

[@abdearahmanboda8731]

I don't know you but ,just stay strong ,and no matter how rough the going is ,there is always better days to come I hope that helped even if just a little

[@FredrickAddo-sc2fn]

my parents have said a lot of hurtful things to me but the one that hurt me the most was when my mom told she regretted giving birth to me. I really cried that day.Iwas only 13 when she said that.Then she said that two more times when I Was 15 I told her what she said hurt me she didn't care she was laughing and being proud of what she said.

[@Flaco5609]

ugh that’s infuriating to me, im so sorry you had to go through that. My mom told me the same thing when i was 14 but instead of laughing, she was crying bc she recently turned islamic (we’re latino) and i tried coming out to her as bisexual. Not only did she wish that i was never born but she said the same ab my innocent younger siblings (including my brother which she had just had) and all i could do is just watch her cry on my shoulder as i sat there completely disassociated from reality. Parents suck bro

[@maryam_ali2012]

I'm so sorry you had to hear that, my mum said the same thing, she told me to go and jump of a building which led me to seriusly think that if i die , it might be better for my mom and dad. They wouldnt have to be angry all the time because of me. Im very sorry

[@nathandrago3989]

I my #### that's so rude ur mom sucks like he'll tell

[@FredrickAddo-sc2fn]

@@maryam_ali2012 oh my God, yours is worse than mine .I am so sorry.I know we are both strong and we will get through this life.Please dont listen to your mom whenever she says things like that. please stay safe and always be happy☺

[@constancelai5529]

Things I learn being in a strict family... • Hiding emotions quickly • Being able to recognise everyones footsteps • Learning things by myself • Good at keeping secrets

[@nathanieldeez4370]

Bro the part with being able recognize everyone's footsteps is so damn accurate. I didn't live In a strict household but I could still recognize footsteps

[@muhammadraffydzakwan7679]

This is exactly me

[@GameSpyke]

i can relate

[@quentinramecourt6628]

@@HellEnforcersAirsoft and you piss them off for what reason?

[@supahmist6068]

Yo same! I also learned how to fake being happy and fake a smile :D **Silently crying in the corner**

[@JJ-ru6bh]

1. "You're so dramatic, grow up." 2. "Why are you like this?" 3. "You belong to me and no one else." 4. "As long as I'm feeding and clothing you, you'll follow my rules." 5. "You're too thin/overweight." 6. "I wish you were more like..." 7. "That's the way I was raised and I turned out fine." 8. "You were an accident." Thank you soooo much for this information!!!

[@evy2248]

Thank youuu

[@littledollangelheart]

I was told im too skinny and underweight by my mom but I was born that way I dont wanna gain weight and look fat :(

[@SweetUniverse]

That was my dad, "that's the way I was raised and I turned out fine!" He's an alcoholic who has an alcoholic mistress. 😂😂😂

[@littledollangelheart]

@@SweetUniverse wow he only want to be alcoholic just to be cool my one cousin is like that she tries to drink just to be cool

[@IndyLaLune]

@@littledollangelheart not every alcoholic has the same reason x)

[@Joanna-uh7eq]

“stop crying or I’ll give you a reason to cry.” Is a sentence that always makes me cry more.

[@Manic68686]

I’m 13 and depressed and my parents would be super angry at me for accidentally making a mess I try to clean it right away but when they see it they say “your a burden” or “why are you like this do you want to have a future!” And I’m still scared of those sentences and for the people that have depression you can talk to me about anything and I’ll do everything in my power to help you, and I’ll try to make you feel better

[@CareFreeNarcoleptic]

My mom: you can tell me anything Me: tells her “anything” Mom: gets mad and starts yelling Edit: I never realized how many people related to this omg

[@khitaraaldilla5406]

;-;

[@deborahjolly2653]

I can relate to this

[@ahbabraufahmed3058]

same but for my dad (somehow it is the reverse cause my mom does not do anything and father gets angry for little reason).

[@poison5363]

MOOOOOOD

[@riesuki]

@@deborahjolly2653 same

[@fia8591]

I hate when parents say things like, “back in my day” because guess what? It’s 2021- not 1980 get over it- the world has changed okay? Just because you wish you were a kid again... 😒

[@chocolattefeverdreams4228]

Ik. Times have changed. Their methods might not even be useful, when there are easier ways.

[@raniaalmaadiva8465]

Mom dad we are from two different generations-

[@maren4582]

exactly it’s 2021 PARENTS.

[@estelaatheneaduransanchez6241]

my mom and grandma told me that and it was soo long that i hate it and i wanted to sleep

[@estelaatheneaduransanchez6241]

the one ''bAcK iN mY dAy'' i be like: yeah no one cares.

[@twistedaddiction]

Honestly this video hurts a lot. I was forced to grow up very fast after I turned 11 and was molested by a close family friend three seperate times until he ran away. Also doing the same to a few of his nephews before leaving. Ever since then my innocence was shattered and most of these things except being told I was an accident weren't even seen as problems. Im 20 years old now, turning 21 soon. Yet I carry so much truama from my childhood. My Mom has gotten a lot better now that I'm an adult; but when I was 16 I fought her boyfriend several times after he put his hands on my Mom. Defending her from her abuser; and she took his side and let him back into the home. After a few more fights I moved out at 17, and returned a little over a year and a half later after winding up homeless for a few months of that. Thankfully he was gone, and that's when my Mom apologized for everything. But it hurts; so much to think back on half the shit I've done. I'm leaving out so much here; but I have been through the ring of abuse so much. These videos are hurting my soul because I can't help but watch them; and hate myself for just how commonly I can relate to things in them. I'm a broken person; and my fucking head hurts. All the time.

[@kahlynloyd341]

🙏🙏🙏

[@Legend_Evve]

That was sad. But there's ALWAYS a solution! God will come to u soon, and soon u will have victory! Have faith

[@twistedaddiction]

@@Legend_Evve Thank you, I appreciate the kind words. My situation only continues to grow worse with each passing day however; and I try so hard. I feel like I've been forsaken.

[@n.e.r.d.2213]

Don’t give a damn about your long ass comment 😊

[@StoneTheScrap]

​@@Legend_Evve dude religion doesn't fix everything please just understand that your only making an empty promise I do still suffer with toxic words my parents mostly my dad says but I suffered more with toxic relationships and trust me i prayed for a good relationship every day but never got one. Please understand that religion being used on these topics are you just making empty promises because your talking to people behind a screen you don't actually know what their life is like. So please for our sakes leave religion out of this okay

[@randomhuman2318]

“You’re a horrible example to your little brother” is one my dad has said countless times or “you’re too sensitive”

[@Lethalgold]

Damn you have that "boys don't cry" dad too?

[@Sizzle78]

“Thats the way I was raised, and I turned out fine.” This hurts so much

[@Sizzle78]

@Bianca Barragan I hope you’re doing ok Just remember that no matter what, your feelings are always valid to yourself ✨

[@Sizzle78]

@Bianca Barragan 🤍

[@crysmo247]

@@Sizzle78 i feel your pain but dont listen to them they want you to be what they want instead of what you want they are treating you like a doll!you deserved better

[@sriku1000]

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[@specnut3172]

u mean it isnt normal to be told that? i was said things that i shouldnt have been born so they would have mney to live in a house with only my brother and that my school fees are holding them frm giving my brother a happy life , at this point im waiting to turn 18 so i can move out of that pathetic household

[@joannaliu9579]

Grades and being successful in the future mattered more than my mental health, I want to be a better parent or a caretaker when I grow up.

[@crispymattu9286]

Youll be!! I can sense it! ♡

[@alexwolfplush7523]

I do to but I'm afraid I'm going to give them the same experiences that I had / are having. I wanna see someone have a better childhood than I have and I wanna do it in a better way than my parents but I'm way to scared to become a parent

[@kanzieabuaisha4574]

@@alexwolfplush7523 nah I'm sure you'll do great 👍🥳🥳

[@ton9698]

Same here!

[@harshita827]

Me too .they say all types of stuffs bout me as a joke like yu cant just talk about yur child's insecurities in front of everyone .they are always like why are yu like this yu should have manners ,yu should meet new ppl like wht is yur prblm i dont feel to socialise why pressure someone to do something we should be honest to ourselves not to those fake ppl around us

[@imnobody7912]

My parents acts like their good and nice parents only in front of others but u never know what happening inside the home...... You mentioned everything that my parents say to me time to time

[@mansoorahmad1320]

Same my all teachers or school thinks that my parents are so understanding, cooperative,never make me sad,listeners or they support me but just I know the reality

[@Patheticmoonheart]

This is so true

[@maytalacedo2942]

All of these is why I realized what happen to me as a kid and how my mom did damage me entirely. " You belong to me." Is bone chilling and scary since I realized my mom's possessive and it scares me. Thank you for this.

[@crystaelechan487]

One sentence that traumatizes me: "You're a girl but you can't cook or be anything kids your age in a poor village can do."

[@finnishnationalist9481]

damn... those comparisons to poor people Does she/he understand the enviroment? In a poor enviroment, the child needs to rely on themselves for food. In an average enviroment, they have someone to take care of them, and she/he thinks that that is the same.

[@woahouuu4383]

THIS RIGHT HERE. They just don’t understand that I simply don’t have the time like they do to learn to cook; I haven’t gotten the chance to do anything I wanted in years. Their lifestyle is different than mines and they keep expecting me to have that on top of my disastrous workload.

[@gayasuzuki895]

This :(

[@toallthemanhwasireadistill7452]

yup, they always tell me that , it is just that i ain't interested in cooking ! why is it so hard to understand ?? they always compare me with my younger sister who likes cooking . But , it isn't my fault cooking miggt be her passion or at least hobby , but to me it is nothing ( sigh) my parents almost tell me everything in this video

[@nightmare_6]

My mom and dad don’t tell me that but my grandma always says that for some reason 🤷‍♀️ Idc tho 💅

[@user-gi9yj8bp3l]

Disclaimer: The dislikes are from parents.

[@TheRealKaiSweat]

lol so true

[@alinciobanu628]

Lol obviously

[@mohammedemdad5006]

Yes

[@cursedpotato64]

They are all idiots? ^^'

[@gabbie6281]

Omg- probably

[@user-qp1fj3hr8f]

I literally cried when I watched this😢 my parents did everything in this video to me. Especially comparing, and it's now that I realised that it really affected me as an adult. I was aggressive and didn't treat my friends well. I used the hurtful words that my parents used at me. They act as if they don't mind, but I know it hurts.

[@theisaashishow251]

" Education was meant to give wisdom and not stress " ~ Isaac Scribe

[@strix501]

Sorry buddy, but on engineering degree that thing Will be considered as Bullshi- They really give us pressure when studying and never want to give us an easy way for learning.

[@theisaashishow251]

@@strix501 Yeah bro I understand ur pain

[@thorach7607]

The worst thing about our parents is that they neglect us everyday, but act surprised when something happens to us.

[@anonymousfeather1907]

They act surprised in a bad way though

[@wolfqueeni484]

Yeah, this legit happened to me as well

[@kermitthuglife4190]

i get beaten up at school everyday and my mom thinks i get into fights so i get grounded for being beaten up. this is why i want to kill myself

[@zerotwo8737]

@@kermitthuglife4190 explain her?u r getting bullied!

[@msilva2423]

@Nick That’s nice

[@eimerhegel427]

"Bobby can get all A, why can't you?" *"Bobby's father can make 1 Million per month, why can't you?"*

[@random_girlypop_ontheinternet]

I’ll steal this thank you

[@mako_the_seawong7306]

I shall steal

[@Cloud-ed7gb]

Brooo my parents compare me to everyone all the time :(

[@laiqeua]

@@Cloud-ed7gb i feel bad for you I remember when my mom said "you're friends can do it then why can't you?!" That hit me so hard

[@Cloud-ed7gb]

@@laiqeua yea it’s so painful seeing ur mom wishing for a different child who could do better tjs things than me but it’s life

[@TherealCataBlue]

My parents said "Stop being so needy!" I cried myself to sleep that night. It harmed me mentally and emotionally. My sadness still sits with me.

[@MatthewIsntCool13]

I grew up with a very abusive mom and a emotionally distant dad, My mom would drink and tell me hurtful things on a daily, itd go from "Your the best daughter ive ever had" to "I wish i wouldve aborted you". She fought with my dad a lot and id always be dragged into the middle of it. She guilted me for the reason her and my dad not loving each other and many other things

[@ummm_88okboomer45]

“You’re so sensitive.” “Smile.” “Come on it was a joke” “What are you, depressed?” “Stop worrying all the time.”

[@coffeeshampoo87]

"Attitude problems" when I'm having a meltdown

[@lykoii1705]

"pathetic"

[@fw.jay2]

My parents told me I was sensitive

[@bbachan9609]

The “smile” just hurts me, my mom says it all the time

[@AviationGeek01]

My mom and older brother always make jokes about my weight so I can relate.

[@1TS..M3]

And then parents be like, “Why doesn’t my kid like me?” Edit: Omg this is the most replies and likes I’ve ever gotten on a comment and just in general- TYSMMM

[@ChocoMelodii]

Ikr They would always be like “You don’t love me anymore?,” “Do you still love me?” and “I don’t think you love us anymore” They don’t even realize what they are doing. They always say that it’s for my health, teaching me a lesson because they “love” me and blah blah blah

[@clubkarma4655]

Ikr my mom is like that she will say it do something that offends me and she will go “I love you” and I won’t say anything back and she will complain that I didn’t say “I love you” back.Like bruh -_- that’s annoying

[@1TS..M3]

@@clubkarma4655 I know like I hate it so much

[@arandompersonthatpostsstuf4788]

Me: Well maybe you should stop beating me for the most stupid reasons i haaate you >:(

[@rui.inazuma7078]

yeah

[@cubemasterwashere]

The overweight part spoke to me. My mom usually says such things when I tell her that for example I feel like I'm worse than the people in my sports team or when it's because of my skin condition and disguises it as "wanting me to be healthy" even if it just hurts.

[@emilyplaysgames927]

my mom says all of this and makes me depressed. thanks mom. your definitly the best.

[@kazikool69]

My child is fine!" Your child is telling people not to kill themselves, even though they are $ucidal

[@priscillajaldi6146]

true!

[@thh1226]

Same

[@huiiihhhh]

Same

[@thh1226]

I like to comfort people it bring a weird feeling to me. But I will take the chance to die if I can like car accident or something else as long as it's not suicide

[@Jasmina1Urata]

o-oh that hits hard

[@AyeeeItsAlii]

Honestly this just hurts me and I feel like I can't expression my emotions or well-being to my parents

[@trinaq]

I agree, this unfortunately hits too close to home for many of us! 💔

[@lunarlotus8778]

@Trina Q ya I know what you mean

[@nvlogs6207]

I completely understand I feel like I have to be a certain way when I’m with family quiet and reserved and distant I don’t really know how to express my emotions or how to feel loved

[@hmmmmmnmmmmmm]

Same! My emotions were always invalidated, but I was fine with it until my closest friends did the same thing, especially when I confided in them. I didn't see it as a big deal back then, but now I'm too scared to tell them my parents are genuinely abusive. They just think they're strict

[@manufacturedpie4118]

I’m scared to tell I don’t know what they will say so I just keep it to myself or I’ll ask my bffs or cousin

[@imakia.draws_official]

I'm actual happy I found this channel. My school also found this channel and is supporting it because of what it talks about! Thank you!

[@yanderefangirl8317]

My parents were far more comforting. They could lose their temper sometimes, but they both worked two jobs when I was a kid (they only work one job now) because we were poor and living in a sketchy neighborhood (gangs, drugs, and homeless people walking around the neighborhood). But honestly, my parents gave me and my sister a far better life than they ever had. My dad had worked since he was in elementary school, had an alcoholic dad who has never said ‘I love you’ to either of his children, and his mom was kind but addicted to drugs and food. My mom had an abusive stepdad for a while, was mostly raised by her grandma while her mom worked, and under constant stress. But they both vowed to give their children the exact opposite of what they had and we are forever grateful for them.

[@bunni4230]

My parents say: "Stop eating so much or else you'll be fat" "Go workout" "You're eating again" It doesn't happen often but it still does hurt the more you think about it.

[@jamkb9266]

The same she will also say What kind of a kid is this

[@mindyobusiness1408]

She would try to put it like she was helping me 💀 “I was fat in school, I wish I had someone to tell me this like I’m telling you”

[@kiki3990]

My parents also say those words to me cuz I am overweight. I feel so empty and tired of this world and if I say it yo them they'll be like "Stop pretending and go study" I always cried whenever they say it to me I am burnt out and one time I even tried to kill myself.....

[@itsnats8007]

They care about your weight. But it hurts.

[@ranvirt283]

Its more like: « Are you never tired of eating? You are already fat enough….you want to look like an elephant? Etc… »

[@NotKevinNeverWas]

"I wish you were more like...." [Slams table] *ADOPT HER THEN*

[@yaganonobvcyv9613]

That’s damn right

[@melodii9749]

If I said that I would’ve been dead by now 😭 ✋

[@NotKevinNeverWas]

@@melodii9749 Same

[@EHMM]

@SANJEV MARIAPPAN Moe Slap them back show dominance

[@Phoebe5448]

I said the same thing to my mum when I was 11.

[@galxeyzab]

Watching these comments have helped me so much as a parent to my son, who is now 7. I'm always saying hes too dramatic. I'm always thinking he's over reacting to situations and do want him to take things so seriously when in reality they arn't. But I never thought of the other side of this. That I might be sending a subliminal message that his feelings aren't important. I gave birth at 18 and I'm constantly learning more and growing. So these videos are such a blessing because it keeps me thinking about how to address my children and their behaviors and watch what I say to them.

[@user-xr2md9ls8u]

Your voice is super calm like it’s so soft like like when it’s like harmful topics your voice is so soft while doing it makes of feel so relaxing while knowing the truth

[@gabiz1331]

"You're kinda fat" "Can't you be more like them?" "Why did I had kids" "You're such a crybaby" "You can never do anything right" Despite those things my mom never listens to anything I say

[@user-tm7hf9kw5t]

Same but my dad can u pls wish him get away from me and my mom

[@AgentGrace15]

My mom didn't necessarily say anything about my weight daily, it was just clothes shopping. She would always force me to try on clothes that were a size or two smaller than I needed and wouldn't let me grab stuff that fit until I was in tears. Then I was just a brat for not appreciating her buying me any clothes at all.

[@serenarodriguez1411]

Merkimer: sad🐷👑

[@meganpirello7627]

i have been told that too

[@serenarodriguez1411]

Sad

[@sanamono8186]

The worst part is that they don't even realize how much their words can hurt us. They have no idea what "emotional support" is. For all my life I've been feeling unwanted or not enough. Having perfectionist parents is the worst...

[@user-je5yg5nj2m]

Just know God made you for a reason and Jesus Christ for you so you can fulfill your purpose don't just read this and go back to sin but read this and turn from sin to receive the fullness of God Almighty Pray this prayer with me "Lord I come to you for without you I am hopeless, Lord I give you my life for I alone cannot do this Lord forgive me for the times I've signed and fallen short of your Glory, Lord help me to forgive others and receive your light and let your light shine through me in the Mighty name of Jesus I pray Amen

[@yuzumifumiko9328]

i can feel you...ive never heard my parents saying something positive or good aboute me...

[@user-je5yg5nj2m]

@@yuzumifumiko9328 you are beautifully and wonderfully made by God as Psalms 139 says and all God's works are wonderful and you are purposed, you are hand-picked by God to do great things you just to step out and grab on to God, just gotta hold on to God to receive your blessings to receive your break through and it gets bad before he gets good but if you keep on trying, the best thing you will do is try the worst thing we will do is not try your best.

[@yuzumifumiko9328]

@@user-je5yg5nj2m

[@jjais964]

They litherlly have no way of supporting me and then say "You just want atenntion" then say "You can tell me everything" LIKE BITCH YOUVE DONE SO MANY BAD THINGS TO ME TO THE POINT I CUTTED MYSELF WHEN I WAS 10 they dont know I cutted myself

[@l0s3r_hum4n]

Things i learned growing up with a abusive dad and mental annd emotional abusive mom 1. Don cry in front of them 2. Hide any emotions 3. Don't go anywhere with them 4. Do things when asked or else 5. Never talk back 6. Be good or else 7. Must take parent role to younger siblings 8. Care about them more than yourself 9. Try to avoid them 10. Stay out of the way 11. Don't ask or take anything with out permission 12. If they don't care they will never care 13. Don't be proud of yourself 14. Your better off by yourself 15. Control and bottle up emotions 16. Don't talk about yourself in any good way 17. Don't eat often 18. Hide things 19. Avoid being yelled at 20. Be good enough stay away from parents

[@mansoorahmad1320]

But the problem is that we can never be good enough for them

[@marcusbaker830]

For me 21. always take it out on your failure friends who are below you

[@UvaVerde12]

My mom used to show me photos of kids on the streets who didn't eat for a long time,when I dind't eat all the food in my plate,and either said i would be like that or that i am wasting food,and that food could have gone to them. She ignored me when i told her i suffered bullying in 1st grade. My grandma skinny shamed me,compared me,and at the same time victimized herself when i was mad or sad. She doesn't let me have privacy,and threatens to tell anything to my mother,knowing she will yell at me. She tells thing I don't want her to to tell to other people,like personal information that shouldn't even be with her. This video is honestly very relatable for some reason.

[@luvykori]

“You’re too dramatic.” “Why are you like this?” “You’re very skinny”

[@CreamChz_]

Yup soo eating for me is actually a chore now I guess

[@e.ashton]

@@CreamChz_ I guess this is me, my mother complains I am too skinny

[@ekambirb]

For me, it’s I’m overweight.

[@e.ashton]

@@lynnhelga9512 My mom thinks I am too skinny

[@jungkooksbananamilk8885]

@@ekambirb same

[@ShoppingCart_er15]

Instead of saying “you were an accident”, say “you were a surprise” instead. My mom always says that and it makes me feel special, like I was unplanned but my parents will always love me and their lives would be totally different without me.

[@CombatHelm]

Yeah, typically people associate accidents with mistakes, but surprises are typically associated with fun and a happy random thing that just kinda happened. More parents with ‘accident children’ should say surprise instead of accident more often.

[@finnishnationalist9481]

Damn. That's some good parents. *cries in dodging sandals being thrown across the room*

[@trish7048]

That really is a better choice to say, surprise is much better than accident

[@lilysalisbury6554]

my mom said i was an oopsie baby and she always says she's glad she had me :)

[@blxck_dxrknessxz1948]

Dang nice parents *while dodging sandals*

[@aliciahigdon12]

I'm fostering my 3 grandbabies right now, in over a year their growth and development has just improved 10 fold, and I'm happy to know of extra things to watchout for as we help them grow, and I'm happy that despite some of the trauma that had happen to lead them into our care, that I know and they know they are loved, that they trust me 100% and that I have earned that trust with them, and I hope that once they get reunified with their mom, that we still keep that solid foundation of trust and unconditional love, that they always know no matter what I will always love them and be there for them, that they can come to me even if they feel they can't talk to anyone else. One thing I've found is when I do need to get a little cross with them it's too let them know,"I can be mad with you, like you can be mad at, me. But I love you no matter what!"

[@mehtheonlyone8766]

I get called skinny by my parents not too often but if they ever do say that either tell them to stop or don’t take it too heart. Your beautiful just the way you are!❤

[@matty1214]

Mom: Look at him, he's so talented, brillia- Me: Look at his mom, she doesn't compare him with others which established his confidence Mom: 👁️👄👁️

[@namidahooman8238]

Exactly 👁️👄👁️but that is something we can't do.. Because they will only say "are you talking back!?"

[@yourlocalpancake]

i wish it was that easy-

[@leeleebahleelee]

@@namidahooman8238 lol ikr

[@Yeonderellashoe]

My mom - 😡 🥿

[@justanintrovertwithcooldp7]

Well I was quite good in studies when I was a kid. So my mother never compared me for my personality. But I still had to find an excuse to not let my friends come home cuz everytime she saw them, after they left she says look at your friends, they look good and talk so nicely and then LOOK AT YOU!!

[@-kiyomii-]

“Life got worse after you were born” “Idiot” “I’m the parent! listen to me” “Your mom changed because of you” “Get off your phone” “You’re so ungrateful” “How many pimples do you have” “Do you ever brush your hair” “You should eat... something” A few things my parents have said to me

[@elijahcarson9218]

ayy same...

[@hayamixd88]

@@thethethejdgj6592 mine's the opposite, When I had my grandparents take care of me everything was great until I got back to me family, That's when my torture started. My brothers are the only people that care for me and we promised each other that we would leave the house to go back to our grandparent's house to live a better life. And look at me now, I am happy with them.

[@anonymousfeather1907]

My parents said that to me, but they said it so much, I don't even care anymore

[@-kiyomii-]

@@thethethejdgj6592 I remember the good old days when my grandparents were alive... My dad’s mom was the nicest thing and my dad was the opposite he used to pick her up and throw her on the ground when she didn’t listen He used to make her cry for some stupid reason (still does that to mom) I could go on and on but my fingers are already tired Just saying I used to love my grandparents(especially my dads mom) but my dad turned out to be a complete psycho... But I will say my dad has had an influence in my life, he normally lies about everything and recently I’ve been noticing I’ve been lying for dumb reasons

[@misterghastly3759]

My mum has said 5 of these things to me and I'm only 12.

[@user-vy9hy2qp7s]

I now see the massive emotional scars my father is leaving me. I dont think the trauma and abuse he put me through can be reversed. This video and many others from you have helped me realize the abuse i deal with is real, and its not just me overthinking it. My trauma is real, and i need therapy to even have a chance of somewhat reversing my scars, but they will never fully hear.

[@abouday-bp5ok]

I was exposed to a harsh childhood from my parents, so thank you for this video. It seems that I need a specialist because I am different

[@kazikool69]

"My child is fine!" Your child are barely living, and your just making it worse.

[@jemeilleure]

Not me laughing on how true this is and crying on how sad it is at the same time- 😭

[@anitharamaiah3845]

Ikr

[@mewmew539]

For me my mom told me I don’t respect her and I do and she say I don’t respect her shut up that what my mom said and I cried for hours bc it hurt my feeling and I was angry bc she doesn’t respect me every time she leaves the dishes and we have dishwasher and she doesn’t put it in there

[@kazikool69]

@@mewmew539 I'm so sorry that happens. I can relate. I wish i can help you more but i can't belive she does that to you. Ithe next time she does that, tell her calmly what she does to you.

[@i_hatemuggles]

@@mewmew539 not da only one

[@victorianmist8531]

The worst thing is we love them and they love us but they still hurt us in ways they'll never probably know and it makes a great impact on our mental health.

[@erinshannon8031]

This is exactly where I'm at. I know they love me, but I also know they have no idea how the things they've had told me all my life have damaged me. And if I tell them, they'll just get defensive and think I'm dissing them...

[@CheshireCat-cm1si]

victorian mist After a frustrating morning (I had overslept, rushed through my morning routine, and was already late for school by the time I realized I'd forgotten something), my mom told me in the car that she'd failed as a mother. I spent the next three years feeling like my mom saw me as a disappointment and secretly hated me. It took me five years to stop thinking that way, and my relationship with my mom has deteriorated as a result. NEVER say something like that to a kid.

[@Aizetsusfavadmirer]

ikr.

[@emorobin3901]

I don’t love them, but I think they love the version of me they see…it’s not the real me but they love it, so I live it.

[@soranokenshi7616]

Oh they love you?

[@Marina-vb9by]

“You’re such a drama a queen.” to this day, I still don’t think my mother realizes how I hurt I am by the poor choices she made that traumatized me.

[@user-du6zl8vh5u]

My father once said this: "Watching all these useless video won't even help you! If you study , then you can get good marks!" what he said really hurt me.. I dn't know how to cope it. I am already trying my best but it is not good enough...

[@Emilybaeee]

“I wish you were more like your sister” “Your sisters getting good grades you should try harder and be like her” “Shut up go away” “Stop crying it doesn’t matter”

[@ythewoodpeckerfan5286]

Parents later after abusing their child: "i'M a GoOd PaReNt!"

[@kermitthuglife4190]

i get beaten up at school everyday and my mom thinks i get into fights so i get grounded for being beaten up. this is why i want to kill myself

[@tinaangelica2760]

@@kermitthuglife4190 I don't know you or how your mom acts in general. I don't know if you've told anyone else about this, a teacher or other adult, (one worth trusting I mean) a friend or classmate who could convince her, and I don't know whether or not she'd react like a halfway decent mother should even if she knew. But don't give up. Please. I probably sound totally generic... but long as you're breathing you've still got a chance in life beyond all this crap you put up with now, and if you kill yourself you're killing that chance along with it. First time I had suicidal thoughts I was about 10; Next few years of my life turned out to be beautiful years I wish I could go back to. Not saying it'll magically turn around right away, that'd be sending out false hope and who wants that when they're miserable, but there IS actual hope is what I'm getting at. The kind of pain you're probably in, while completely valid, has a way of blinding people from that. That goes for anyone else struggling reading this too. I care about you. I know for a fact Jesus and God cares about you whether you believe that or not actually and I'm not gonna leave that part out. Take good care of yourself. Even if the people around you won't. I also believe God will take care of you and be there if you let him. Either way, God bless you, stay safe, and if you feel like talking or venting even you're welcome to reply.

[@esteffanynolasco8347]

no tell someone and get help

[@ivymuncher]

that was abuse? wacky

[@baguette4607]

“You’re such a brat” “She’s such a disappointment” “Why do you act like this?” “It’s just her hormones there’s not a problem” “You’re embarrassing us” “Why don’t you act more like ___” -my mother

[@bodwig115]

Forget I’m an rp acc) Most things you said is a quote from my mum

[@zhohneke]

@@wonyoungeyeyyeye726 bro why did u just say “ooooooff”

[@Bem002]

Same here :'(

[@dakotabruun3419]

Same

[@random-mexican7787]

My mom also says that to me

[@Theonlycherrios]

•thing to do when your in a strict family • •hide your feelings when you go to a different person or family member •remember that your in a strict family so look out for the footsteps •keep secret close to you don't spill them •remember to hide your phone's or tablet or laptop and try to delete your search history •don't yell at the monsters (parents) it will make it worst •Make sure you do the chores when there not around they'll say stuff mean around you when your near • Make sure to wipe the tears they made you cry out so hard so they won't Bully you some more •when they compare you to somebody don't think that's true there wrong.... •I hope this helps y'all •

[@cabletilley648]

i love how they dont ask for subscribers at ALL. they really take this stuff serious and that is really good to see.

[@itz_ladynoir_fp5450]

“Your overweight” - dad “Stop crying you’re annoying” or “You’re too sensitive” “Be more like your classmates” - mom I am tired.

[@liancristelquitsang4643]

Every body shape its beautiful i am also sensitive and you don't need to be like your classmates you need to be yourself God and Jesus loves you the way you are

[@tiduspayne312]

Your classmates? Why does your mom have enything to do with your classmates

[@itz_ladynoir_fp5450]

@@tiduspayne312 because most of my classmates get good grades

[@itz_ladynoir_fp5450]

@@liancristelquitsang4643 🙏 thank you

[@foxeyclouds5021]

I am sick and tired of parents saying “I was like you!”

[@willowoodz]

“you’re not tired- you’re just lazy. you’re fine.” “you never listen to me! you’re such a lazy and useless kid.” “you never help me.” “stop acting like a baby.”

[@Nepeta..]

This hits way to close to home I hope you're doing okay btw :D

[@kaishawna3753]

This is me. Sad, but true

[@madisonloves_potatoes8060]

I’m an 11 year old and my mother tells me too act like a grown woman..

[@Velvet62211]

My mom wants me to be a doctor but I want to be an actor and if I fail at that, I wanna be a fashion designer. When I told her, she guilt tripped me, but what got to my heart is when she said “Your dad would’ve wanted you to become a doctor and your disappointing me” she knows how much I care about my dad and my father died months ago, and yes, he did want me to become a doctor so those words hit me hard and now I feel like I need to please my family to be happy instead of focusing on what makes me happy

[@zuzanafialova8111]

@@Velvet62211 I feel that my parents want me to be doctor too but I want to do something else

[@V_haunting_in_the_comments]

I love how you use different words for a fitting category. And I also love ur voice and way of art style. Keep it up!

[@aubreereed1424]

I wish parents will understand the ways of kids like me but all they do is what this video says my parents say that ALL the time it’s just not good. Love you guys this video helps a lot!❤

[@tobym2138]

“What was your childhood like” Me who physically cannot remember any more than 6 memories: uhhhh good? Bad? Uhh

[@zzyz7751]

SAME!! Idk why but I don't really remember anything that happened before I was in 7th grade. I only remember the major events, like MAJOR ones. But apart from that everything is just a white blank screen

[@amandalang5772]

This is probably a defense mechanism

[@maxim_ssc]

Was your childhood good? yesn't

[@neptune6970]

Same, my memories get repetitive and it kinda drives me insane

[@a.s.5058]

Same

[@alvily]

The worst part is when they say stuff like: "We had it worse, you have it easy..." Dude idfc about your childhood, if I am feeling depressed because of your bs don't try to make me feel like it's not so bad. You had your bad moments as a child, so you know how it feels, right? So help me overcome them rather than making them worse.

[@faizzuddin4004]

It’s sucks tho when parents used authoritarian parenting based on how their parents raised them. :’) it is endless cycle, why can’t they giving a chance for children to grow and not an object. For me, my parents always used psychological pressure and sarcasm to win any conversation and i just learn to bottle up my emotion because everyone know it will gone bad if i spoke a word. I hate this, am i always bad?

[@coffeeshampoo87]

Tbh at this point I have no clue what to say when someone asks me if I love my whole family

[@hajar2919]

@@coffeeshampoo87 same'

[@doublev4409]

I already talked to my dad abt it and then he hit me and my sis and said that I "give a lotta lectures but have no practical knowledge" as if him learning to cheat and scam people out of money is practical knowledge that is essential for survival in this world; like this psychopath doesn't even know that there are ppl who are able to live a straightforward life. Bastard. I hope he rots in hell.

[@paigelarson9279]

“You don’t know how luck you’ve got it, If you think this is bad you should have seen how I was treated rahrahrah” okay invalidating betty, a step above neglect is still neglect. You punished me for your transference instead of getting the help you needed to sort through your own childhood neglect.

[@RYUUDRAWS]

What i learned from growing up with my parents -Hiding emotions -Not telling about school issues -not too proud of accomplishments -depression -feel empty -trust issues -efforts are not much for to be proud of -house is prison

[@StarPaws-Quads]

This hit hard. I have had so much trauma from when I was younger, and I’m loosing connection with my family members. My sister says I’m annoying. My dad says I’m a disappointment. My mum says I’m the worst. My 2 brothers just make fun of me. The only people who seem to really love me is my oldest brother and my best friend. Especially my best friend. She has stopped me from hurting myself, and at this point without her, I would have already ended my life.

[@MrBruhblox]

They are so trash. - a well raised sigma kid

[@alexissimons2666]

As a child, I was always told: “Stop crying, or I’ll give you a reason to cry.” It made me feel like it was pathetic and I punish myself when I cry to this day. Please never tell your children that, or they could end up like me.

[@HopelessAnguish]

my parents did the same

[@Cigarettes..out.the..window09]

I wish my paren were never like that:(

[@Dara-cn2vh]

Ah my parents tell me the same thing

[@potato8032]

When I was a toddler my mom would cry from frustration as I’m an only child, my dad would say “You make my wife cry and I’ll make you cry.” ....I was 5

[@alexissimons2666]

@@potato8032 Jesus Christ, and to a toddler? I hope you’re okay now.

[@nikko2469]

"what is wrong with you?!" "why are you so dramatic?" "shut up" "stop crying" "why aren't you like your sister?" "why are you like this?" Those are usually the things my mom tells me... I know she doesn't mean to but... It hurts.

[@nathanieldeez4370]

Yea, I can agree, even though my parents are good parents they would sometimes say this when talking about grades. They did not mean to he harmful but it would hit hard, *be

[@Dogz411]

My mom had bad past but understand her I think she had anger issues she can't control what she said so sometimes yell at me "Stupid girl!" and i understand you.

[@vicious_vixel]

Parents probably know. But they won't apologize

[@jujotheweeb7247]

My parants are like that sometimes to

[@Stringer7390]

The pain of being compared to your sibling.

[@Itsgutzzz]

Thank you your channel changed my life

[@queenaliababwa]

Honestly things like family saying "that's a lot" or "Are you really eating that much?" And situations where on the rare occasions that I'd sit and eat with my parents, they'd watch me eat or stare at me while cutting something with a knife because I can't hold utensils properly. They wouldn't say anything, they'd just stare until they took the plate to cut it themselves. There's a lot more but they are the reason why I have a hard and anxious relationship with food and yes, it does feel like a chore. Food is ment to be a source of nutrition and you should be able to enjoy eating it. Please don't forget to eat, you are beautiful and you can eat as much as you want. ❤️

[@scarakisser_com]

The fact that I'm more vulnerable towards my friends than my own blood relatives is concerning

[@funnychannel3813]

Same tho

[@jinhitlabels.2014]

I havent seen a single relative of mine for 6 years

[@xandriee]

@@jinhitlabels.2014are you sad about that?

[@mizukihayashi2637]

Same, like I'd literally die for them, and I never shed a tear when a family member of mine dies.

[@timik32]

same here :/

[@chibio_o]

"gets mad for no reason" top 10 ways to make your child sad

[@LyleCollo]

Why is this funny? This is a accurate representation of my childhood

[@thegammer4747]

Ornrhre

[@idf1294]

2.answer sh** when they ask or they will surely slap the f*** outta you.

[@kittenomg992]

I’ve been called 2 or 3 of these and it’s RIUNED my life

[@alelagatta]

I think my parents gived me depression, thanks to your videos now im sure and i know why. You helped me a lot, thanks you❤

[@BoygeyMario]

My Mom just laughed at me because I simply said "I'm trying my best". I ABSOLUTELY hate it when my parents laugh at me. They are experts at hurting my feelings, making me depressed.

[@unnimaya2409]

It's ok I know how to feels but don't give up 💜😊 have a good day

[@Finfection]

Yeah, that shit is the worst. I would have full on panic attacks in front of my mom and she would just laugh at me and tell me to stop acting stupid.

[@zao2103]

@@unnimaya2409 lol 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@hajar2919]

very sad

[@widefusion7086]

@@zao2103 ????? what did you mean????

[@Protivogazovic]

4:00 -Mom I got 71 on my test today -Why didn't you get 100 like Peter did? -At least I did better than Jack -Stop comparing yourself to others

[@markraafat4499]

that always happens

[@walle1043]

Relatable man my mom always compare me to freaking everyone

[@Ops-ny9tl]

@@walle1043 same

[@JadeElfen]

Always after F test in school

[@walle1043]

@@JadeElfen my mom be like: Oh you can't do that do you ever learn something in school your friend has became more smarter than you You're grounded ._. Sheesh

[@CatherineLee3000]

My parents are awesome! But I have been bullied by other people and they have hurt me. After a while, I learned not to care what others think about me. But some of the comments that wounded me from the past are still there. My parents had to be very careful with me because I am more sensitive, and I have high-functioning autism, and I learn and handle things a little differently. I was the first child out of two siblings, and I have a sister, who is almost two years younger than me. I learned to stand up to myself, but my dad would stand up to others, like a few teachers and some older people, who love to be jerks. My dad will go after anyone who tries to hurt my sister and me.

[@TheCat-AboutThat]

2:42 My stepmom said something similar to this, but soon because of my change in behavior, she told me that “since I’m just the stepparent, I shouldn’t have to care, but I do”

[@cloudedmind1536]

When I grow up I don’t want my kids thinking “My parent will kill me” I want them to think “I’m going to get my parent”

[@chrisv1ds800]

yes! I'm 14 and yes tats true!

[@anitharamaiah3845]

Yea same oof

[@ahbabraufahmed3058]

yes thats true for me too you spoke us abused kids heart

[@Neecie.1009]

Ya I've always dream abt my dad holding a knife try to kill me cause he once do that to my grabdpa when I was younger but in the dreamland I am the one being chase by a knife

[@wh00s_nic0]

Same!

[@lili_3066]

"Follow your dreams" "Your so smart" "It's ok at least you did your best" *The only words that i wanna hear from my parents.*

[@iamjisooiamokay2332]

Me also my parents never understood me😔😔😒

[@humanbeing572]

My parents always motivate me , i am blessed with the best parents

[@iamjisooiamokay2332]

@@humanbeing572 you are very lucky😊 but I am not😔😒

[@ramhluihrahsel7425]

Me too😭😭

[@builderbros270]

Same

[@shabafunmilayo5610]

I have heard this phrase it was the phrase that said I wasn’t exactly like that but with something like that parents raise me this way emotional

[@kaylamitchell8873]

Asking about my dad (never met him then) when my mom was in her last few months of cancer (so I didn't feel right being upset at her) she said "your dad doesn't want you, he never did. As much as I love you & wouldn't trade you for the world, you were a mistake" 15yrs later, still hurts

[@Tsuyu_89]

That’s just disgusting it’s like saying “I’m the only one what likes you, the rest hates you”

[@naviestyx]

The fact there are more children and teenagers watching this than actual parents is infuriating as hell

[@fairylaw4994]

They learn how NOT to act around children to be better than their parents

[@akira_playz3111]

Amen- I'm 12 :-:

[@VaishnaviJamdagniDPGA]

Ikr

[@StarryHorizons_]

@@akira_playz3111 I'm 11..

[@crysmo247]

@Omega Pringles fan im also 10.

[@_mika2cool]

"Are you okay?" "I'm here for you." Things my mother has never told me.

[@jhanavis5690]

Everything will be okay :)

[@idgaf8311]

same :(

[@meowzers.p]

i’ve heard these but then when i try and talk to them they either ignore me or act like i’m being dramatic

[@wellImagine]

they don't tell you but they show it, ur being so dramatic, they give you love a home and things u need and want

[@xilynini7760]

Same :'(

[@territoryoflucy001]

Your videos explain my whole life,seriously,Thank you:D❤

[@Fridgerator2pointoh]

I remember when i was 12 and i had an agrument with my mom for telling her how i feel and actually expressing mt emotions. After my mom gave me a moment to cry, i asked her to come back into the room so we could talk. I was trying to tell her how i felt, and was crying in the process. I took a moment to catch my breath and cry before continuing, and while this was happening, my mom crossed her arms and gave me the most uncaring look ive ever seen, and said; "did i just come in here to watch you cry?" Ive never talked about my emotions and how i felt since that day... Everybody tells me to do so, but im just so traumatized and hurt from that moment that i probably never will.. thanks mom...

[@carpathianken]

My mother often asks me "Why can't you be normal?" which is ironic, because when she gets overly upset over some trivial matter she starts shrieking like Nancy Kerrigan & starts punching herself in the head.

[@amandalang5772]

I think she needs to see a psychologist.

[@carpathianken]

@@amandalang5772 Unfortunately she's not that type of person.She did a stint in a psychiatric hospital one time, but I remember her saying that she resented being told by the Doctor there that if she stopped feeling sorry for herself & started working on herself that her symptoms would improve.

[@amandalang5772]

@@carpathianken goodness.... sounds like they need to revise how they address people. I’m sorry you’re having to experience that. Have you told her how that makes you feel when she hurts herself? Or will that bring on more pain?

[@shadowhawk4164]

This phrase I am VERY familiar with but I can’t defend against it because I am not normal (sorry if that didn’t make sense) I have at LEAST one mental disorder and I just can’t act normal, I can barely speak, I’m extremely childish, I can’t do a lot of things normal people can do, I’m not normal and I hate it, sorry if none of that made sense 😔

[@carpathianken]

@@amandalang5772 Yes Thanks Amanda,both my sisters & I have told her that it's very distressing to see her punching herself up & using it as a coping mechanism, but then our mother calls us ungrateful.Our counsellors tell us that considering the harm that our mother is causing us that we need to sever all ties with her.My mother shook my sister so hard during one of her psychotic outbursts when she was crying as a baby that she's now permanently mentally challenged.

[@xin_.1101]

"Why cant you be like your brother?" "Your useless." "I wish you weren't my daughter"

[@-SourStrawberry-]

Maybe tell them that they are going to make you depressed and sad if they keep saying that?

[@boba_gacha717]

@Joy De Guzman what if it's TRUE tho

[@josienethmontes4773]

@@-SourStrawberry- we can't bc what if they just say "no it won't"

[@Lee_ee_ee]

So, you parents don’t want you, but they think you have to be like your brother, so what’s the point of it-

[@caferon]

You're*

[@statostheman]

When I grew up, I've to be the father both to my mom and dad. Dad I forgave him and I fought his bureaucracies when he gotten older and got diabetes. Those years was my best years of my life. When he was on his death bed in 2019, he gave me one advise in life: "Never give up". But when my mom died recently in this year, I didn't feel nothing. Due she was using me all the time and never apodized for her actions. It was a toxic relationship. She always gaslighting me to do stuff for her. I do have some good memories of her, but those was very few. Mostly I only remembering the bad stuff. Maybe I'll cry for her. But not today.

[@Kinsdoesthings_10]

I have been told “why are you like this” and “you should be more like..”

[@nnnev_]

Don't listen to them. You're much more worth than you are treated. They say that in the heat of the moment and it's mostly not really meant. And if they really meant it, they're not worthy of such a beautiful child. Please do remember that every child should have parents and not all parents should have children. If you want to talk to someone, I'm here even if I'm just a stranger

[@Kinsdoesthings_10]

Thanks :)@@nnnev_

[@jessica7560]

to parents, please don't EVER say : "you can never change" "you're still the same" "you look like a whore" "when will you be like them" "why don't you try to look like them" "why are you like this" to your child. it hurts. understanding each other is important, trusting your child for a bit isn't harmful. please, let us breathe. we tried our best, and we're sorry for not being enough in your eyes. we're trying to be ourselves, we're taking your opinions into consideration too. but regardless, whether or not we look perfect to you, it's NOT FAIR to INSULT our efforts. we have our own voice, our very own thoughts. please try to look into our perspective too, not only to judge based on how we act. we can also get mad, sad, depressed, and frustrated. don't say something that you'll regret later, and don't say sorry if you're going to repeat the same old hurtful words. you're supposed to be our greatest supporter, our home. treat us right, as another person, and not an object. we don't deserve to become a broken being, to question our existence or to stop believing in our own selves. please, if you're a parent, never restraint your child's development. it's tiring, how much it ache whenever we tried to forgive and continue to love our parents for being the reason we feel sick or even dying inside. don't ever neglect the small details we need in order to grow into the best version of ourselves. please, let us know more about the world, the bad and good side of it. let us decide at least for the sake of our life. to our parents, we need you, trust you, and deeply appreciate you. but sometimes, we also need our own space and needs. thank you.

[@kenny3015]

This but for really christian/Catholic parents please DONT CALL YOUR KIDS WITCHES/DEVILS

[@Lil_Duck2.0]

This was a whole paragraph but it’s true

[@ac1dk1d]

@@kenny3015 damn.. i wish i could say that to my mom, she always makes jokes about my baby pictures saying "oh this is (my deadname) when she didnt have her demon horns"

[@kenny3015]

@@ac1dk1d why do parents do this shit 😭 me mum calls me a witch/beats me tf up whenever I do the most mundane shit she deems bad, like opening a cereal box the wrong way like jesus these ppl need to go to parenting school

[@kenny3015]

@@ac1dk1d enough about me, are you alright?

[@yildizku]

Children: depressed Parents: it's all that phone-

[@763onhotelhideaway4]

literally like it's their fault not my phone

[@Phoebe5448]

"Stop playing those stupid video games!!"

[@The_Honored_One418]

Oh my god, finally so one who understands me

[@Anna-fv2vv]

Either that or ' it's just a phase '

[@mentallybrokengay3966]

I feel you

[@user-ep6si1ko2u]

I'm so glad you understand are child trauma situation