8 Hurtful Things Parents Tell Children

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Psych2Go

Psych2Go

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@Psych2go
@Psych2go 3 жыл бұрын
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@lametexts 3 жыл бұрын
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@shutit333
@shutit333 3 жыл бұрын
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@lojineibrahim4084
@lojineibrahim4084 3 жыл бұрын
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@dxrtxsm
@dxrtxsm 3 жыл бұрын
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@thewea3042
@thewea3042 3 жыл бұрын
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@somebody7650
@somebody7650 3 жыл бұрын
“Talk to me about what’s wrong” “I’m listening” two sentences i have never heard in my entire life
@zergthe6597
@zergthe6597 3 жыл бұрын
Or when you do hear them, it's by the time you're already shutting yourself down
@OakTreeAmphiptere
@OakTreeAmphiptere 3 жыл бұрын
Same dude, it's almost like my parents don't know those phrases existed. They always tell me I'm being over dramatic, so when someone else asks me this, I always lie and say that I'm fine because I'm just too used to being called over dramatic
@juliazhou4394
@juliazhou4394 3 жыл бұрын
Same
@miyaka1870
@miyaka1870 3 жыл бұрын
Same
@TexasTwoShakabrah
@TexasTwoShakabrah 3 жыл бұрын
@@OakTreeAmphiptere same
@constancelai5529
@constancelai5529 3 жыл бұрын
Things I learn being in a strict family... • Hiding emotions quickly • Being able to recognise everyones footsteps • Learning things by myself • Good at keeping secrets
@nathanieldeez4370
@nathanieldeez4370 3 жыл бұрын
Bro the part with being able recognize everyone's footsteps is so damn accurate. I didn't live In a strict household but I could still recognize footsteps
@muhammadraffydzakwan7679
@muhammadraffydzakwan7679 3 жыл бұрын
This is exactly me
@GameSpyke
@GameSpyke 3 жыл бұрын
i can relate
@quentinramecourt6628
@quentinramecourt6628 3 жыл бұрын
@@sXnts5 and you piss them off for what reason?
@supahmist6068
@supahmist6068 3 жыл бұрын
Yo same! I also learned how to fake being happy and fake a smile :D **Silently crying in the corner**
@joannaliu9579
@joannaliu9579 3 жыл бұрын
Grades and being successful in the future mattered more than my mental health, I want to be a better parent or a caretaker when I grow up.
@crispymattu9286
@crispymattu9286 3 жыл бұрын
Youll be!! I can sense it! ♡
@alexwolfplush7523
@alexwolfplush7523 3 жыл бұрын
I do to but I'm afraid I'm going to give them the same experiences that I had / are having. I wanna see someone have a better childhood than I have and I wanna do it in a better way than my parents but I'm way to scared to become a parent
@kanzieabuaisha4574
@kanzieabuaisha4574 3 жыл бұрын
@@alexwolfplush7523 nah I'm sure you'll do great 👍🥳🥳
@ton9698
@ton9698 3 жыл бұрын
Same here!
@harshita827
@harshita827 3 жыл бұрын
Me too .they say all types of stuffs bout me as a joke like yu cant just talk about yur child's insecurities in front of everyone .they are always like why are yu like this yu should have manners ,yu should meet new ppl like wht is yur prblm i dont feel to socialise why pressure someone to do something we should be honest to ourselves not to those fake ppl around us
@Mushroom-Top
@Mushroom-Top Жыл бұрын
Skills I learned from having a toxic/strict parent - sneaking things without anyone noticing - recognizing sounds like steps - seeing through lies - not making empty promises - going through a day by barely eating Thanks mom.
@Shghgdhjj
@Shghgdhjj Жыл бұрын
:(
@Keykey11271
@Keykey11271 Жыл бұрын
You missed one Not showing skin/shoulders I have strict/toxic parents too😢❤
@kojismiles
@kojismiles 11 ай бұрын
that sucks
@Who-fn4kz
@Who-fn4kz 11 ай бұрын
:’(
@SomethingExist
@SomethingExist 11 ай бұрын
same
@imalittlemffrog2374
@imalittlemffrog2374 3 жыл бұрын
“There are people who have it so much worse” “You’re being selfish” “Crying isn’t going to fix anything”
@ranmarume
@ranmarume 3 жыл бұрын
oh..i remember that
@aimlessequation5390
@aimlessequation5390 3 жыл бұрын
Ah... yes. Those.
@steph_senpai
@steph_senpai 3 жыл бұрын
MY F E E L S, N O O O O
@morellocherry8820
@morellocherry8820 3 жыл бұрын
Yes... i feel that
@keegantheidiot5067
@keegantheidiot5067 3 жыл бұрын
Ahh i hear this ever 2 days
@AyeeeItsAlii
@AyeeeItsAlii 3 жыл бұрын
Honestly this just hurts me and I feel like I can't expression my emotions or well-being to my parents
@trinaq
@trinaq 3 жыл бұрын
I agree, this unfortunately hits too close to home for many of us! 💔
@lunarlotus8778
@lunarlotus8778 3 жыл бұрын
@Trina Q ya I know what you mean
@nvlogs6207
@nvlogs6207 3 жыл бұрын
I completely understand I feel like I have to be a certain way when I’m with family quiet and reserved and distant I don’t really know how to express my emotions or how to feel loved
@btcxwxy
@btcxwxy 3 жыл бұрын
Same! My emotions were always invalidated, but I was fine with it until my closest friends did the same thing, especially when I confided in them. I didn't see it as a big deal back then, but now I'm too scared to tell them my parents are genuinely abusive. They just think they're strict
@manufacturedpie4118
@manufacturedpie4118 3 жыл бұрын
I’m scared to tell I don’t know what they will say so I just keep it to myself or I’ll ask my bffs or cousin
@annathepotatowitch6395
@annathepotatowitch6395 3 жыл бұрын
who else really wants to send this to their parents but are too scared because you know they’re going to counter it with some shit reason? Just me?
@gublaibanerjee
@gublaibanerjee 3 жыл бұрын
Rather I want to send to every parent I know
@sonshine_ssb
@sonshine_ssb 3 жыл бұрын
Nah man me too
@End336
@End336 3 жыл бұрын
me
@blam9360
@blam9360 3 жыл бұрын
Yes.
@kittysakuraba1656
@kittysakuraba1656 3 жыл бұрын
*hugs tightly*
@imnobody7912
@imnobody7912 10 ай бұрын
My parents acts like their good and nice parents only in front of others but u never know what happening inside the home...... You mentioned everything that my parents say to me time to time
@mansoorahmad1320
@mansoorahmad1320 8 ай бұрын
Same my all teachers or school thinks that my parents are so understanding, cooperative,never make me sad,listeners or they support me but just I know the reality
@Patheticmoonheart
@Patheticmoonheart 7 ай бұрын
This is so true
@ĐứcDuyTrần-o7t
@ĐứcDuyTrần-o7t 6 ай бұрын
mine too
@baconboi6175
@baconboi6175 4 ай бұрын
Same but I think it’s kinda common
@venomgaming7014
@venomgaming7014 22 күн бұрын
Same here. People think my parents are really kind to me. At home, they’re monsters.
@JJ-ru6bh
@JJ-ru6bh 3 жыл бұрын
1. "You're so dramatic, grow up." 2. "Why are you like this?" 3. "You belong to me and no one else." 4. "As long as I'm feeding and clothing you, you'll follow my rules." 5. "You're too thin/overweight." 6. "I wish you were more like..." 7. "That's the way I was raised and I turned out fine." 8. "You were an accident." Thank you soooo much for this information!!!
@evy2248
@evy2248 3 жыл бұрын
Thank youuu
@Littlebodycandyheart
@Littlebodycandyheart 3 жыл бұрын
I was told im too skinny and underweight by my mom but I was born that way I dont wanna gain weight and look fat :(
@SweetUniverse
@SweetUniverse 3 жыл бұрын
That was my dad, "that's the way I was raised and I turned out fine!" He's an alcoholic who has an alcoholic mistress. 😂😂😂
@Littlebodycandyheart
@Littlebodycandyheart 3 жыл бұрын
@@SweetUniverse wow he only want to be alcoholic just to be cool my one cousin is like that she tries to drink just to be cool
@IndyLaLune
@IndyLaLune 3 жыл бұрын
@@Littlebodycandyheart not every alcoholic has the same reason x)
@thorach7607
@thorach7607 3 жыл бұрын
The worst thing about our parents is that they neglect us everyday, but act surprised when something happens to us.
@anonymousfeather1907
@anonymousfeather1907 3 жыл бұрын
They act surprised in a bad way though
@wolfqueeni484
@wolfqueeni484 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, this legit happened to me as well
@kermitthuglife4190
@kermitthuglife4190 3 жыл бұрын
i get beaten up at school everyday and my mom thinks i get into fights so i get grounded for being beaten up. this is why i want to kill myself
@zerotwo8737
@zerotwo8737 3 жыл бұрын
@@kermitthuglife4190 explain her?u r getting bullied!
@msilva2423
@msilva2423 3 жыл бұрын
@Nick That’s nice
@JayV300
@JayV300 3 жыл бұрын
Parents: **Says hurtful things to their kids** Also parents: Why doesnt my kids love me? Its like saying "Im stabbed, why does it hurt?"
@Flakindaflank
@Flakindaflank 3 жыл бұрын
Cheers ill drink to that bro
@holyonesingadimedja3241
@holyonesingadimedja3241 3 жыл бұрын
True
@saratalkz
@saratalkz 3 жыл бұрын
and they dont even realise it, baffles me.
@tinkswrldafterhours
@tinkswrldafterhours 3 жыл бұрын
And they wonder why we go to our other family members who will support us or go to our friend(s).
@asimocloud5736
@asimocloud5736 3 жыл бұрын
And then they scold us for being more close to their friends
@RYUUDRAWS
@RYUUDRAWS 7 ай бұрын
What i learned from growing up with my parents -Hiding emotions -Not telling about school issues -not too proud of accomplishments -depression -feel empty -trust issues -efforts are not much for to be proud of -house is prison
@mediocregamer2484
@mediocregamer2484 3 жыл бұрын
"How are you depressed and unhappy? You're life is so good. I've given you everything you could want. You're just spoiled. You don't know what it's like in the real world. You've never actually suffered."
@kevinnguyen552
@kevinnguyen552 3 жыл бұрын
You never actually suffered I really hate that your parents said that cuz it suggests that there is only two types of emotions Very very happy And very very depressed It suggest that ur feelings don’t matter which I HATE
@Isabel-sr8ep
@Isabel-sr8ep 3 жыл бұрын
Any parent who says that deserves to get smacked so hard they forget their own name my brother was trying to talk to my dad about how hard school is and it stresses him out cuz he’s a bit older now and it’s getting harder and my dad said he’s too young to be stressed or sad and damn I actually hate my brother but I felt bad for him in that moment...
@diminished_my_blocks_
@diminished_my_blocks_ 3 жыл бұрын
Tell them, that anyone can be unhappy nomatter what age nor lifestyle,even wealthy people can be unhappy sometimes. I really hate it when parents tell their kids that.It's gonna be hard but it will be too late if nothing gets done about this.
@cmcphotography1
@cmcphotography1 3 жыл бұрын
People who treat others' problems for being "not as bad" as theirs as if it didn't exist are scumbags who should be thrown around like a football
@anindaosman807
@anindaosman807 3 жыл бұрын
My parents told me 4 out of the 8 things given here constantly all throughout my childhood and continues to do so to this day. Whenever I was depressed they just tell me...... Depressed? Just stop being depressed. Don't be depressed... And just walked away not even thinking the fact they are responsible for it. Depression isn't sadness it's much more. You can't just get over it especially when the people telling you to get over it again and again are the ones who caused it to begin with.
@Sizzle78
@Sizzle78 3 жыл бұрын
“Thats the way I was raised, and I turned out fine.” This hurts so much
@Sizzle78
@Sizzle78 3 жыл бұрын
@Bianca Barragan I hope you’re doing ok Just remember that no matter what, your feelings are always valid to yourself ✨
@Sizzle78
@Sizzle78 3 жыл бұрын
@Bianca Barragan 🤍
@crysmo247
@crysmo247 3 жыл бұрын
@@Sizzle78 i feel your pain but dont listen to them they want you to be what they want instead of what you want they are treating you like a doll!you deserved better
@sriku1000
@sriku1000 3 жыл бұрын
A Great watch on how bad parents are made kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJXag2mpi7eoos0
@specnut3172
@specnut3172 3 жыл бұрын
u mean it isnt normal to be told that? i was said things that i shouldnt have been born so they would have mney to live in a house with only my brother and that my school fees are holding them frm giving my brother a happy life , at this point im waiting to turn 18 so i can move out of that pathetic household
@fia8591
@fia8591 3 жыл бұрын
I hate when parents say things like, “back in my day” because guess what? It’s 2021- not 1980 get over it- the world has changed okay? Just because you wish you were a kid again... 😒
@chocolattefeverdreams4228
@chocolattefeverdreams4228 3 жыл бұрын
Ik. Times have changed. Their methods might not even be useful, when there are easier ways.
@raniaalmaadiva8465
@raniaalmaadiva8465 3 жыл бұрын
Mom dad we are from two different generations-
@maren4582
@maren4582 3 жыл бұрын
exactly it’s 2021 PARENTS.
@estelaatheneaduransanchez6241
@estelaatheneaduransanchez6241 3 жыл бұрын
my mom and grandma told me that and it was soo long that i hate it and i wanted to sleep
@estelaatheneaduransanchez6241
@estelaatheneaduransanchez6241 3 жыл бұрын
the one ''bAcK iN mY dAy'' i be like: yeah no one cares.
@randomhuman2318
@randomhuman2318 9 ай бұрын
“You’re a horrible example to your little brother” is one my dad has said countless times or “you’re too sensitive”
@Lethalgold
@Lethalgold 7 ай бұрын
Damn you have that "boys don't cry" dad too?
@ĐứcDuyTrần-o7t
@ĐứcDuyTrần-o7t 6 ай бұрын
when my little brother mess up, my parents would automatically blame me, but when I tole them that it was my little brother's fault, they'd say that I'm the older one, so I have to take the blame, or they'd cool down IMMEDIATELY like nothing happened and smile to my little brother. what kind of 2 face is that?!
@Erioluwa.A
@Erioluwa.A 2 ай бұрын
my mom say how will you be able to take care of your siblings if you cant even take care of your self.
@SeekifiedSoul
@SeekifiedSoul Ай бұрын
​@@LethalgoldBRO ME TOO
@alexissimons2666
@alexissimons2666 2 жыл бұрын
As a child, I was always told: “Stop crying, or I’ll give you a reason to cry.” It made me feel like it was pathetic and I punish myself when I cry to this day. Please never tell your children that, or they could end up like me.
@HopelessAnguish
@HopelessAnguish 2 жыл бұрын
my parents did the same
@Mrs.Zurzolo
@Mrs.Zurzolo 2 жыл бұрын
I wish my paren were never like that:(
@Dara-cn2vh
@Dara-cn2vh 2 жыл бұрын
Ah my parents tell me the same thing
@Bak3dpotatoez
@Bak3dpotatoez 2 жыл бұрын
When I was a toddler my mom would cry from frustration as I’m an only child, my dad would say “You make my wife cry and I’ll make you cry.” ....I was 5
@alexissimons2666
@alexissimons2666 2 жыл бұрын
@@Bak3dpotatoez Jesus Christ, and to a toddler? I hope you’re okay now.
@sanamono8186
@sanamono8186 3 жыл бұрын
The worst part is that they don't even realize how much their words can hurt us. They have no idea what "emotional support" is. For all my life I've been feeling unwanted or not enough. Having perfectionist parents is the worst...
@Hope-c6m
@Hope-c6m 3 жыл бұрын
Just know God made you for a reason and Jesus Christ for you so you can fulfill your purpose don't just read this and go back to sin but read this and turn from sin to receive the fullness of God Almighty Pray this prayer with me "Lord I come to you for without you I am hopeless, Lord I give you my life for I alone cannot do this Lord forgive me for the times I've signed and fallen short of your Glory, Lord help me to forgive others and receive your light and let your light shine through me in the Mighty name of Jesus I pray Amen
@yuzumifumiko9328
@yuzumifumiko9328 3 жыл бұрын
i can feel you...ive never heard my parents saying something positive or good aboute me...
@Hope-c6m
@Hope-c6m 3 жыл бұрын
@@yuzumifumiko9328 you are beautifully and wonderfully made by God as Psalms 139 says and all God's works are wonderful and you are purposed, you are hand-picked by God to do great things you just to step out and grab on to God, just gotta hold on to God to receive your blessings to receive your break through and it gets bad before he gets good but if you keep on trying, the best thing you will do is try the worst thing we will do is not try your best.
@yuzumifumiko9328
@yuzumifumiko9328 3 жыл бұрын
@@Hope-c6m
@jjais964
@jjais964 3 жыл бұрын
They litherlly have no way of supporting me and then say "You just want atenntion" then say "You can tell me everything" LIKE BITCH YOUVE DONE SO MANY BAD THINGS TO ME TO THE POINT I CUTTED MYSELF WHEN I WAS 10 they dont know I cutted myself
@victorianmist8531
@victorianmist8531 3 жыл бұрын
The worst thing is we love them and they love us but they still hurt us in ways they'll never probably know and it makes a great impact on our mental health.
@erinshannon8031
@erinshannon8031 3 жыл бұрын
This is exactly where I'm at. I know they love me, but I also know they have no idea how the things they've had told me all my life have damaged me. And if I tell them, they'll just get defensive and think I'm dissing them...
@CheshireCat-cm1si
@CheshireCat-cm1si 3 жыл бұрын
victorian mist After a frustrating morning (I had overslept, rushed through my morning routine, and was already late for school by the time I realized I'd forgotten something), my mom told me in the car that she'd failed as a mother. I spent the next three years feeling like my mom saw me as a disappointment and secretly hated me. It took me five years to stop thinking that way, and my relationship with my mom has deteriorated as a result. NEVER say something like that to a kid.
@emorobin3901
@emorobin3901 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t love them, but I think they love the version of me they see…it’s not the real me but they love it, so I live it.
@soranokenshi7616
@soranokenshi7616 3 жыл бұрын
Oh they love you?
@jhopesimportantbusinesseu369
@jhopesimportantbusinesseu369 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@LecioTHATDUDE
@LecioTHATDUDE 4 ай бұрын
Skills I've learned from having an abusive/strict mom -eating food secretly in the afternoon -recognizing footsteps -hiding emotions -hiding stuff from her -sneaking around easily -dealing with my period myself -making money myself -seeing through lies -learning things myself -pretending im fine in hurtful situations - hiding wounds What a kind mother
@Lonevessel
@Lonevessel 3 ай бұрын
Seems like I as well share similarities to your situations.
@dog4927
@dog4927 3 жыл бұрын
My parents often say: "Don't cry, it's embarrassing us." "Be quite, everybody is already looking at us" They are really lovely to me but when they say that it still hurts me.
@crystal_candy8685
@crystal_candy8685 3 жыл бұрын
Could relate but my parents say the opposite '"Why are you so emotion less "' "'Learn to be expressive like your sister" "You are so quiet and introvert"" Gets compared to my so called "hot and sassy " sister 24\7 now I wish I could switch lives with u even tho your a complete stranger
@meganpirello7627
@meganpirello7627 3 жыл бұрын
i have been told that too
@kateri7404
@kateri7404 3 жыл бұрын
@@crystal_candy8685 my mum shouts at me to stop crying when I cry but she says I’m emotionless when I don’t cry at a supposed “touching movie” or a tragedy
@bread_chills4159
@bread_chills4159 3 жыл бұрын
True
@bread_chills4159
@bread_chills4159 3 жыл бұрын
It still hurts me too man ;-;
@mohamstaz3618
@mohamstaz3618 3 жыл бұрын
"I had it worse growing up." Trauma isn't a contest, mom.
@vixenthehybrid2622
@vixenthehybrid2622 3 жыл бұрын
That's what my family does to me I hate it They fucking tell me "oh you have it so easy, we had it worse."
@crapnuts
@crapnuts 3 жыл бұрын
and sadness isn't a contest
@rawlicious3790
@rawlicious3790 3 жыл бұрын
I remember back when I was young my mom would say my grandma beat her up with a rattan when she's being bad Sure that's rough and you didn't beat me up with a rattan but with words mom, smh I doubt and hope she doesn't see this comment because if she did she'll possibly kick my ass
@xlatte8150
@xlatte8150 3 жыл бұрын
@@vixenthehybrid2622 same, they sometimes tell me: Be grateful that we let you relax and play on the phone for you, while other kids have to do work just for themselves and their family. The fact that i think work sounds like a good life, if its not way too hard..
@ciirl9462
@ciirl9462 3 жыл бұрын
Istg- Have you been kicked? Have you had a dad that doesn't care? Have you had mild depression just because of your parents?
@nikko2469
@nikko2469 3 жыл бұрын
"what is wrong with you?!" "why are you so dramatic?" "shut up" "stop crying" "why aren't you like your sister?" "why are you like this?" Those are usually the things my mom tells me... I know she doesn't mean to but... It hurts.
@nathanieldeez4370
@nathanieldeez4370 3 жыл бұрын
Yea, I can agree, even though my parents are good parents they would sometimes say this when talking about grades. They did not mean to he harmful but it would hit hard, *be
@Dogz411
@Dogz411 3 жыл бұрын
My mom had bad past but understand her I think she had anger issues she can't control what she said so sometimes yell at me "Stupid girl!" and i understand you.
@vicious_vixel
@vicious_vixel 3 жыл бұрын
Parents probably know. But they won't apologize
@jujotheweeb7247
@jujotheweeb7247 3 жыл бұрын
My parants are like that sometimes to
@Stringer7390
@Stringer7390 3 жыл бұрын
The pain of being compared to your sibling.
@Somethingstupid-t1k
@Somethingstupid-t1k 11 ай бұрын
I literally cried when I watched this😢 my parents did everything in this video to me. Especially comparing, and it's now that I realised that it really affected me as an adult. I was aggressive and didn't treat my friends well. I used the hurtful words that my parents used at me. They act as if they don't mind, but I know it hurts.
@amelie9862
@amelie9862 4 ай бұрын
I agree, it really hurts doesn't it? Everytime my parents say something hurtfull to me, I can visually imagine an arrow being shot at my heart, and bleeding internally...
@scarakisser_com
@scarakisser_com 3 жыл бұрын
The fact that I'm more vulnerable towards my friends than my own blood relatives is concerning
@funnychannel3813
@funnychannel3813 3 жыл бұрын
Same tho
@jinhitlabels.2014
@jinhitlabels.2014 3 жыл бұрын
I havent seen a single relative of mine for 6 years
@xandriee
@xandriee 3 жыл бұрын
@@jinhitlabels.2014are you sad about that?
@mizukihayashi2637
@mizukihayashi2637 3 жыл бұрын
Same, like I'd literally die for them, and I never shed a tear when a family member of mine dies.
@timik32
@timik32 3 жыл бұрын
same here :/
@godzy323
@godzy323 3 жыл бұрын
"Why do you choose to be upset" As a kid, this was super difficult bc we would try to explain but they would never listen to us n just blame us for feeling upset despite i felt being wronged. So its was my fault for being upset bc i was wronged
@bunille
@bunille 3 жыл бұрын
Your parents went through the exact same thing, I'm just saying. Have compassion for them as they did for their own parents, otherwise you're just making it worse for yourself and you only have yourself to blame.
@kyliesmith9199
@kyliesmith9199 3 жыл бұрын
I've been told this, but in a different way? I was told my anger, frustration, and disappointment was all because of my depression when it only had a part to play. WIth this shitty reason always being shoved in my face when it wasn't true, I just stopped saying how I feel altogether. :/
@kyliesmith9199
@kyliesmith9199 3 жыл бұрын
@@bunille Maybe so, but it's more heartfelt and caring to give YOUR CHILD the childhood that you never had. If it hurt their parents, why did they choose to give their child the same pain? We're not ungrateful for our parents being our parents, but just because something shitty happened to them growing up doesn't mean it's okay to repeat it and hurt another human being the same way.
@hannahmeharg2128
@hannahmeharg2128 3 жыл бұрын
333rd like 😳😳😳
@AlwaysHaveFaith07
@AlwaysHaveFaith07 3 жыл бұрын
Instead of saying “you were an accident”, say “you were a surprise” instead. My mom always says that and it makes me feel special, like I was unplanned but my parents will always love me and their lives would be totally different without me.
@CombatHelm
@CombatHelm 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, typically people associate accidents with mistakes, but surprises are typically associated with fun and a happy random thing that just kinda happened. More parents with ‘accident children’ should say surprise instead of accident more often.
@finnishnationalist9481
@finnishnationalist9481 3 жыл бұрын
Damn. That's some good parents. *cries in dodging sandals being thrown across the room*
@trish7048
@trish7048 3 жыл бұрын
That really is a better choice to say, surprise is much better than accident
@lilysalisbury6554
@lilysalisbury6554 3 жыл бұрын
my mom said i was an oopsie baby and she always says she's glad she had me :)
@caylinnprioleau9846
@caylinnprioleau9846 3 жыл бұрын
I know what your getting at but saying "you were an accident" or “you were a surprise” it's the same shit ngl.. It like saying " Hey, you weren't supposed be here.. but eh its too late. "
@ILiketoDrawNAnimate27
@ILiketoDrawNAnimate27 6 ай бұрын
This pretty much helps me understand the quote: " All kids deserve a parent, but not all parents deserve a kid. "
@carpathianken
@carpathianken 3 жыл бұрын
My mother often asks me "Why can't you be normal?" which is ironic, because when she gets overly upset over some trivial matter she starts shrieking like Nancy Kerrigan & starts punching herself in the head.
@amandalang5772
@amandalang5772 3 жыл бұрын
I think she needs to see a psychologist.
@carpathianken
@carpathianken 3 жыл бұрын
@@amandalang5772 Unfortunately she's not that type of person.She did a stint in a psychiatric hospital one time, but I remember her saying that she resented being told by the Doctor there that if she stopped feeling sorry for herself & started working on herself that her symptoms would improve.
@amandalang5772
@amandalang5772 3 жыл бұрын
@@carpathianken goodness.... sounds like they need to revise how they address people. I’m sorry you’re having to experience that. Have you told her how that makes you feel when she hurts herself? Or will that bring on more pain?
@shadowhawk4164
@shadowhawk4164 3 жыл бұрын
This phrase I am VERY familiar with but I can’t defend against it because I am not normal (sorry if that didn’t make sense) I have at LEAST one mental disorder and I just can’t act normal, I can barely speak, I’m extremely childish, I can’t do a lot of things normal people can do, I’m not normal and I hate it, sorry if none of that made sense 😔
@carpathianken
@carpathianken 3 жыл бұрын
@@amandalang5772 Yes Thanks Amanda,both my sisters & I have told her that it's very distressing to see her punching herself up & using it as a coping mechanism, but then our mother calls us ungrateful.Our counsellors tell us that considering the harm that our mother is causing us that we need to sever all ties with her.My mother shook my sister so hard during one of her psychotic outbursts when she was crying as a baby that she's now permanently mentally challenged.
@Yomush
@Yomush 3 жыл бұрын
Bonus things from me: 1. "Stop crying or i'll give you a reason to cry!" - Basically stop showing emotions or i'll punish you even more 2. "At your age I was already doing x and y!" - I think that was supposed to motivate me but it did exactly the opposite 3. "Don't backtalk!" - That was especially common when I tried to challenge my dad's decisions 4. "You'll get respect when you'll get a job and buy a house!" - After this sentence I limited talking with my dad to absolute minimum 5. "You know how to do it. You're just lazy/don't want to do it."
@KENONICAL
@KENONICAL 3 жыл бұрын
The first one man, it’s always the first one
@chubbychicken2412
@chubbychicken2412 3 жыл бұрын
2,3,5 for me Also does anyone else also get the "get out of your comfort zone" thing alot?
@alanisashleypconanan2778
@alanisashleypconanan2778 3 жыл бұрын
Ahhh my whole life
@mannybutler7517
@mannybutler7517 3 жыл бұрын
never heard 4 other than that yess
@visureddy726
@visureddy726 3 жыл бұрын
The first one
@cutemermaidaqua
@cutemermaidaqua 3 жыл бұрын
“Stop being so negative” “Why can’t you help around the house more like your cousins.” “You’re too lazy” “You never want to do anything” “Just talk to people and make friend (me with social anxiety it’s big that easy) “You barely even eat” (I eat enough! I even get so full)
@vivianbrights8953
@vivianbrights8953 3 жыл бұрын
Sadly, my parents said those words to me too.
@simply_bisma-quitted2547
@simply_bisma-quitted2547 3 жыл бұрын
@@vivianbrights8953 same😭they say me lazy and scold me everyday I wanna just stay in my rooom forever cause it scold free and my best friend 😑😕
@simply_bisma-quitted2547
@simply_bisma-quitted2547 3 жыл бұрын
Same!:
@phoenix0166
@phoenix0166 3 жыл бұрын
Though I haven’t been diagnosed with depression, I’ve frequently had suicidal thoughts when I’m near my family
@bryanplays1884
@bryanplays1884 3 жыл бұрын
OMG don't do that
@Manic68686
@Manic68686 7 ай бұрын
I’m 13 and depressed and my parents would be super angry at me for accidentally making a mess I try to clean it right away but when they see it they say “your a burden” or “why are you like this do you want to have a future!” And I’m still scared of those sentences and for the people that have depression you can talk to me about anything and I’ll do everything in my power to help you, and I’ll try to make you feel better
@baileyryan488
@baileyryan488 6 ай бұрын
I live with my family members and they physically verbally and me abuse me
@trwn87
@trwn87 6 ай бұрын
Man, I'm 16 and my parents don't even like me anymore. Yet, I am legally forced to love with them. Children have no rights... #kidsrights ✌️
@emorobin3901
@emorobin3901 3 жыл бұрын
“A child could start believing they’re inadequate, broken, or there’s something wrong” I already knew I was inadequate broken and there’s something wrong…known it for years
@DreamKittyLove
@DreamKittyLove 3 жыл бұрын
aww, dont say that, nobody has a perfect life! I noticed that if you have amazing on one side of life, it wont be the same as the other. I have amazing parents and Im so lucky but I do have a physical health problem. Im so glad I have it! I wpuld probably be addicted to my phone, computer, etc. Things happen for a reason, remember that :)
@Please...Just....Dont.
@Please...Just....Dont. 3 жыл бұрын
I was *forced* to stay quiet and sad alone in my room with a computer dog without a leg and that's all. my entire childhood- in a nutshell
@aprileurasialugo9885
@aprileurasialugo9885 3 жыл бұрын
Same. Even though they RARELY do it now, what they said before has deeply engraved my mind and I can't get rid of it to this day. Even if they apologize, I don't think I can forget about it. (Sorry if my grammar is terrible. English is not my first language.)
@jinhitlabels.2014
@jinhitlabels.2014 3 жыл бұрын
Ummm I think its too late for me to think about it that way
@sk8boredd
@sk8boredd 3 жыл бұрын
I hate that shit with my mom my dad, i dont really know what he thinks about me but my mom, oh i already know it.
@usedforstuff2175
@usedforstuff2175 3 жыл бұрын
"Don't use 'mental health' as an excuse." "Stop feeling sorry for yourself." and the real prize-winner, "She's going to run away and cry in her room like usual." -all used by my dad in the past 6 months
@jamiethebookworm
@jamiethebookworm 3 жыл бұрын
Oh my brother tried to stab me and my dad didn’t care but if I go hide in my room he has a problem.
@humanleader184
@humanleader184 3 жыл бұрын
all shit said by boomers with easy fucking lives who can't mentally comprehend the concept of a problem
@allstuffcd9260
@allstuffcd9260 3 жыл бұрын
So called family says this to me
@PancakeTheKat
@PancakeTheKat 3 жыл бұрын
-All used by my mom in the past 2 months
@sharand3016
@sharand3016 3 жыл бұрын
Oh my , I'm so sorry you had to hear all these. Please don't give up love. I know parental love is so important in a child's life (I never got it too) but don't think you're unlovable. If someone is rude to you that doesn't reflect your flaws it's their fault for not knowing how to value a person.
@ash.6258
@ash.6258 3 жыл бұрын
Please never dismiss your child’s feelings. Ever. No matter what. My mom did not ever handle me crying well. She often would threaten to hit me or yell at me even more if I started crying for anything. Her doing this for my entire childhood made me extremely emotionally immature. Don’t even get me started on when I told her about my suicidal thoughts. She forced me to say I was just saying it for attention (I was not) and when I didn’t speak loud enough she’d speed down the road screaming at me telling me she would put me in a mental hospital where I’d never see anyone I love again. She later came to “apologize” and said she wanted to “scare” the feelings out of me. Like.. what? In what way did she think that was an okay way to handle the situation at all? Her apology was not sincere (she often does apologies so I can trust her again just so she can hurt me again), and honestly I’m still shaken up by the experience.
@d333
@d333 3 жыл бұрын
i really hope that u are so much better right now & im genuinely sorry for what you've gone through :( wish u all the best
@vladpashkov3130
@vladpashkov3130 3 жыл бұрын
I am scared to say back what I hate about them
@toallthemanhwasireadistill7452
@toallthemanhwasireadistill7452 3 жыл бұрын
md too mum thinks , acts like that, alwats with hurtful mouth and insincere apologies . I might be tye only chold who doesn't like her family , but i don't care what others think if me . I ll LIVE for myself !
@ash.6258
@ash.6258 3 жыл бұрын
@@d333 thank you so much
@ash.6258
@ash.6258 3 жыл бұрын
@Nikki Moore I’m doing a bit better rn, thank you sm tho
@SuperSenshi
@SuperSenshi 8 күн бұрын
I remember an argument I had with my mom and stepdad after I graduated high school and turned 18. They were wanting to put me in a group home with other disabled adults. One thing they said that sticks with me to this day was them saying "you're autistic, you don't have any rights". Those two had something against disabled people and they wanted me both out of their house, but still tethered on a leash... when I left the boarding house, they disowned me not long after for disobeying them. This was years ago, and I'm still struggling with what they've said and done to me.
@ummm_88okboomer45
@ummm_88okboomer45 3 жыл бұрын
“You’re so sensitive.” “Smile.” “Come on it was a joke” “What are you, depressed?” “Stop worrying all the time.”
@coffeeshampoo87
@coffeeshampoo87 3 жыл бұрын
"Attitude problems" when I'm having a meltdown
@lykoii1705
@lykoii1705 3 жыл бұрын
"pathetic"
@fw.jay2
@fw.jay2 3 жыл бұрын
My parents told me I was sensitive
@bbachan9609
@bbachan9609 3 жыл бұрын
The “smile” just hurts me, my mom says it all the time
@AviationGeek01
@AviationGeek01 3 жыл бұрын
My mom and older brother always make jokes about my weight so I can relate.
@cloudedmind1536
@cloudedmind1536 3 жыл бұрын
When I grow up I don’t want my kids thinking “My parent will kill me” I want them to think “I’m going to get my parent”
@chrisv1ds800
@chrisv1ds800 3 жыл бұрын
yes! I'm 14 and yes tats true!
@anitharamaiah3845
@anitharamaiah3845 3 жыл бұрын
Yea same oof
@ahbabraufahmed3058
@ahbabraufahmed3058 3 жыл бұрын
yes thats true for me too you spoke us abused kids heart
@Neecie.1009
@Neecie.1009 3 жыл бұрын
Ya I've always dream abt my dad holding a knife try to kill me cause he once do that to my grabdpa when I was younger but in the dreamland I am the one being chase by a knife
@wh00s_nic0
@wh00s_nic0 3 жыл бұрын
Same!
@Protivogazovic
@Protivogazovic 3 жыл бұрын
4:00 -Mom I got 71 on my test today -Why didn't you get 100 like Peter did? -At least I did better than Jack -Stop comparing yourself to others
@markraafat4499
@markraafat4499 3 жыл бұрын
that always happens
@walle1043
@walle1043 3 жыл бұрын
Relatable man my mom always compare me to freaking everyone
@Ops-ny9tl
@Ops-ny9tl 3 жыл бұрын
@@walle1043 same
@JadeElfen
@JadeElfen 3 жыл бұрын
Always after F test in school
@walle1043
@walle1043 3 жыл бұрын
@@JadeElfen my mom be like: Oh you can't do that do you ever learn something in school your friend has became more smarter than you You're grounded ._. Sheesh
@Brielle-l4i
@Brielle-l4i 11 ай бұрын
I now see the massive emotional scars my father is leaving me. I dont think the trauma and abuse he put me through can be reversed. This video and many others from you have helped me realize the abuse i deal with is real, and its not just me overthinking it. My trauma is real, and i need therapy to even have a chance of somewhat reversing my scars, but they will never fully hear.
@MoonlitBookworm73
@MoonlitBookworm73 3 жыл бұрын
Things my family has actually said to me: - "You aren't allowed to have an attitude!" - "Are you seriously crying!" - "They hide it well don't they?" (My weight) - "You're not active enough!" (This has been said many ways, many times, by many people) Yes guys, these are all real.
@ashleythehooman
@ashleythehooman 3 жыл бұрын
Same
@callmeflower6901
@callmeflower6901 3 жыл бұрын
@@cupcake038 They said that i can't do anythink right
@TwN-vv4mi
@TwN-vv4mi 3 жыл бұрын
To my family, crying and venting feelings aren't any good. When someone cries and it's not them, my parents dismiss it.
@ashleythehooman
@ashleythehooman 3 жыл бұрын
@@cupcake038 same ;-;
@DreamKittyLove
@DreamKittyLove 3 жыл бұрын
AWWW DONT SAY THAT!!! your making me sad and appreciative towards my parents :,)
@alvily
@alvily 3 жыл бұрын
The worst part is when they say stuff like: "We had it worse, you have it easy..." Dude idfc about your childhood, if I am feeling depressed because of your bs don't try to make me feel like it's not so bad. You had your bad moments as a child, so you know how it feels, right? So help me overcome them rather than making them worse.
@faizzuddin4004
@faizzuddin4004 3 жыл бұрын
It’s sucks tho when parents used authoritarian parenting based on how their parents raised them. :’) it is endless cycle, why can’t they giving a chance for children to grow and not an object. For me, my parents always used psychological pressure and sarcasm to win any conversation and i just learn to bottle up my emotion because everyone know it will gone bad if i spoke a word. I hate this, am i always bad?
@coffeeshampoo87
@coffeeshampoo87 3 жыл бұрын
Tbh at this point I have no clue what to say when someone asks me if I love my whole family
@hajar2919
@hajar2919 3 жыл бұрын
@@coffeeshampoo87 same'
@doublev4409
@doublev4409 3 жыл бұрын
I already talked to my dad abt it and then he hit me and my sis and said that I "give a lotta lectures but have no practical knowledge" as if him learning to cheat and scam people out of money is practical knowledge that is essential for survival in this world; like this psychopath doesn't even know that there are ppl who are able to live a straightforward life. Bastard. I hope he rots in hell.
@paigelarson9279
@paigelarson9279 3 жыл бұрын
“You don’t know how luck you’ve got it, If you think this is bad you should have seen how I was treated rahrahrah” okay invalidating betty, a step above neglect is still neglect. You punished me for your transference instead of getting the help you needed to sort through your own childhood neglect.
@lalaforuuu
@lalaforuuu 2 жыл бұрын
One of the worst things I’ve ever heard was from my father, saying, “let her cry. That’s what victims do.” I’m never opening up to them again.
@mehwissh3527
@mehwissh3527 2 жыл бұрын
that's just so terrible to say
@kendra5781
@kendra5781 2 жыл бұрын
Thats terrible, I'm so so sorry you're father said that. Nobody deserves to hear that
@kelismaincharacter4925
@kelismaincharacter4925 2 жыл бұрын
wtf thats horrible :(
@cray0n_andcastlesw0rld18
@cray0n_andcastlesw0rld18 2 жыл бұрын
Ouch-I feel u...
@aksshayarajaselvam7876
@aksshayarajaselvam7876 2 жыл бұрын
Yea that's.............
@UvaVerde12
@UvaVerde12 7 ай бұрын
My mom used to show me photos of kids on the streets who didn't eat for a long time,when I dind't eat all the food in my plate,and either said i would be like that or that i am wasting food,and that food could have gone to them. She ignored me when i told her i suffered bullying in 1st grade. My grandma skinny shamed me,compared me,and at the same time victimized herself when i was mad or sad. She doesn't let me have privacy,and threatens to tell anything to my mother,knowing she will yell at me. She tells thing I don't want her to to tell to other people,like personal information that shouldn't even be with her. This video is honestly very relatable for some reason.
@bunni4230
@bunni4230 3 жыл бұрын
My parents say: "Stop eating so much or else you'll be fat" "Go workout" "You're eating again" It doesn't happen often but it still does hurt the more you think about it.
@jamkb9266
@jamkb9266 3 жыл бұрын
The same she will also say What kind of a kid is this
@mindyobusiness1408
@mindyobusiness1408 3 жыл бұрын
She would try to put it like she was helping me 💀 “I was fat in school, I wish I had someone to tell me this like I’m telling you”
@kiki3990
@kiki3990 3 жыл бұрын
My parents also say those words to me cuz I am overweight. I feel so empty and tired of this world and if I say it yo them they'll be like "Stop pretending and go study" I always cried whenever they say it to me I am burnt out and one time I even tried to kill myself.....
@itsnats8007
@itsnats8007 3 жыл бұрын
They care about your weight. But it hurts.
@ranvirt283
@ranvirt283 3 жыл бұрын
Its more like: « Are you never tired of eating? You are already fat enough….you want to look like an elephant? Etc… »
@jessica7560
@jessica7560 3 жыл бұрын
to parents, please don't EVER say : "you can never change" "you're still the same" "you look like a whore" "when will you be like them" "why don't you try to look like them" "why are you like this" to your child. it hurts. understanding each other is important, trusting your child for a bit isn't harmful. please, let us breathe. we tried our best, and we're sorry for not being enough in your eyes. we're trying to be ourselves, we're taking your opinions into consideration too. but regardless, whether or not we look perfect to you, it's NOT FAIR to INSULT our efforts. we have our own voice, our very own thoughts. please try to look into our perspective too, not only to judge based on how we act. we can also get mad, sad, depressed, and frustrated. don't say something that you'll regret later, and don't say sorry if you're going to repeat the same old hurtful words. you're supposed to be our greatest supporter, our home. treat us right, as another person, and not an object. we don't deserve to become a broken being, to question our existence or to stop believing in our own selves. please, if you're a parent, never restraint your child's development. it's tiring, how much it ache whenever we tried to forgive and continue to love our parents for being the reason we feel sick or even dying inside. don't ever neglect the small details we need in order to grow into the best version of ourselves. please, let us know more about the world, the bad and good side of it. let us decide at least for the sake of our life. to our parents, we need you, trust you, and deeply appreciate you. but sometimes, we also need our own space and needs. thank you.
@kenny3015
@kenny3015 3 жыл бұрын
This but for really christian/Catholic parents please DONT CALL YOUR KIDS WITCHES/DEVILS
@Alternativ33
@Alternativ33 3 жыл бұрын
This was a whole paragraph but it’s true
@ac1dk1d
@ac1dk1d 3 жыл бұрын
@@kenny3015 damn.. i wish i could say that to my mom, she always makes jokes about my baby pictures saying "oh this is (my deadname) when she didnt have her demon horns"
@kenny3015
@kenny3015 3 жыл бұрын
@@ac1dk1d why do parents do this shit 😭 me mum calls me a witch/beats me tf up whenever I do the most mundane shit she deems bad, like opening a cereal box the wrong way like jesus these ppl need to go to parenting school
@kenny3015
@kenny3015 3 жыл бұрын
@@ac1dk1d enough about me, are you alright?
@kiwis7449
@kiwis7449 3 жыл бұрын
my mom literally said “im sick of taking care of you” but isn’t that the point of having kids?
@anmolarpit_2178
@anmolarpit_2178 3 жыл бұрын
I can understand you
@jhigudhaka5655
@jhigudhaka5655 3 жыл бұрын
I can feel , what u feel
@sacrificeforcats6943
@sacrificeforcats6943 3 жыл бұрын
and my mom would be like ''' SHUT UP, STOP USING THAT STUPID SENTENCE OH YEAH''
@ThePromisedFall
@ThePromisedFall 3 жыл бұрын
One time my mom told me “ I did so much for you, but you just cry all the time, stop being childish and grow up. “ I broke down in tears after that.
@hi-qe2ob
@hi-qe2ob 3 жыл бұрын
My mom once yelled at me "I HATE YOU"
@aliciahigdon12
@aliciahigdon12 Жыл бұрын
I'm fostering my 3 grandbabies right now, in over a year their growth and development has just improved 10 fold, and I'm happy to know of extra things to watchout for as we help them grow, and I'm happy that despite some of the trauma that had happen to lead them into our care, that I know and they know they are loved, that they trust me 100% and that I have earned that trust with them, and I hope that once they get reunified with their mom, that we still keep that solid foundation of trust and unconditional love, that they always know no matter what I will always love them and be there for them, that they can come to me even if they feel they can't talk to anyone else. One thing I've found is when I do need to get a little cross with them it's too let them know,"I can be mad with you, like you can be mad at, me. But I love you no matter what!"
@sahana4498
@sahana4498 2 жыл бұрын
"You were an accident." Parents who say this to their children don't deserve to have children. This video actually made me cry... i never thought i'd identify with so many of these
@Charlienicks_6
@Charlienicks_6 2 жыл бұрын
My mum has said this many times ,She has broke me down mentally
@Kyo-Chan628
@Kyo-Chan628 2 жыл бұрын
@@Charlienicks_6 same🙂
@Dino.motions1
@Dino.motions1 2 жыл бұрын
my parents often say this and it makes me kinda depressif but ur comment makes me happy then again...
@indraksheechatterjee4929
@indraksheechatterjee4929 2 жыл бұрын
My mum one said that she should have aborted me just because I was on my phone at one of her friends birthday.
@vexgotvexed8752
@vexgotvexed8752 2 жыл бұрын
same im weeping rn lmao kinda disappointed to think that my parents want a luxury family and not a happy family
@Thebestcoconutever
@Thebestcoconutever Жыл бұрын
I’ve learned many things from having strict parents -hiding Emotions -You can recognize their footsteps -Learning by myself -learning how to starve
@dokkaebi_kiki
@dokkaebi_kiki 11 ай бұрын
Fr
@Chartastic7806
@Chartastic7806 11 ай бұрын
So Wrong. Damaging. I understand this
@More1481Pictures
@More1481Pictures 11 ай бұрын
Another lesson, don't call them out for their actions apparently. My mom (she isnt that strict but she acts like such a bitch over any bad habits I have she would be on my ass about it so goddamn much.) Literally told me OH THATS FUNNY when I told her my true feelings about her. Like seriously??? Screw off...
@cathycasinger3197
@cathycasinger3197 11 ай бұрын
I can also detect my family members by their Footsteps
@Helloy_t
@Helloy_t 10 ай бұрын
Really? I have too. It sucks having strict parents.
@alexan2717
@alexan2717 3 жыл бұрын
The one about "I feed and clothe you, you follow my rules" hit hard. My mother would often say "I pay for the food to feed you, I pay the rent in this house so you can live in it, you will do what I say" and it made me feel so guilty that I would stop eating unless it was dinner because my mum had put so much effort into I had to eat it and not waste it. I wanted to grow up quickly and get a job as soon as possible so I could pay for my own things, I talked, and still do talk, alot to my brother about being roommates and splitting the tent money as soon as we both get jobs and can move out so we can do our own things and not fell guilty. I also would hide school excursion notes from my mum because as much as I wanted to go, I felt guilty about making her pay for things. Now that I think about it my mum talks about money quite alot and how she's always broke and doesn't have enough money for bills and things, she gets angry when my brothers ask for things at the shops too and says she can't afford to buy that stuff. She also uses this guilt from stuff like that to get us to do things for her. I honestly feel bad about ranting about this because I believe she's trying her best as a parent, but as I get older I'm seeing more and more flaws in how she raises her kids.
@atriyakoller136
@atriyakoller136 2 жыл бұрын
You can give your mom an example of my mom. She isn't the best parent and made a lot of mistakes, but albeit struggling to make ends meet a lot in my childhood she would never get angry at me if I asked for something she couldn't afford. She would explain it to me in a caln way. She helps me financially even now, because I'm a working person, but my salary in one job wasn't enough to cover everything, and I often have to buy pre-made foods at the supermarket because my job is mentally draining to the point of me not being able to cook (I'm an ESL teacher who works with a lot of problematic adults who gladly put their problems onto my shoulders) most of the time. Now I have 2 jobs and am more or less able to support myself financially but I know she's got my back if I need it. In fact, she's mostly the one who's worried about me having enough money, she has the same job but she lives in her own flat, so no rent expenses, just the bills. I still feel guilty asking her though, despite my financial state being severely affected by my physical and mental health.
@toonahslurpy
@toonahslurpy 2 жыл бұрын
Same.
@ZeroKnowledgeYT
@ZeroKnowledgeYT 2 жыл бұрын
Put this on Reddit. It’s very detailed
@talkswithfayyxx3212
@talkswithfayyxx3212 2 жыл бұрын
@@ZeroKnowledgeYT put mine on reddit too, i gotta story to tel & i need advicee
@Jay.s_Dad.s_Fake_Tits
@Jay.s_Dad.s_Fake_Tits 2 жыл бұрын
U know your mother has no right to say those things. No parent does. They brought us into this world. They made the choice of having us so they should consider the responsibilities that come with us.
@imakia_official
@imakia_official 11 ай бұрын
I'm actual happy I found this channel. My school also found this channel and is supporting it because of what it talks about! Thank you!
@Eriii693
@Eriii693 3 жыл бұрын
My dad is verbally abusive, but I’m getting “used to it”. It makes me a stronger person and I learned to always be nice to people bcs you don’t know what they are going through. I’m not saying it is ok what he is doing tough. He calls me things like: Lazy cow, idiot, yells at me for no reason or body shames me. It is still heartbreaking, but it makes me a stronger person
@sweshgupta7007
@sweshgupta7007 3 жыл бұрын
Story of my life
@tee630
@tee630 3 жыл бұрын
Your trauma didnt make u stronger. U are just a strong person. It is u who choose to be kind. Im sorry ur dad is abusive towards you, no one deserves that
@Btsarmy-qg9fr
@Btsarmy-qg9fr 3 жыл бұрын
i can totally relate .my dad is way more abusive cs he even beat me ,scold me everyday , don't think that i am also a human i also can want some personal time even tho i am on my 13 .he don't let me express my opinion.if i ever said anything logical against him he would have given me some ride expression and slangs.i wanna die but in this worst life i have a lil box of motivation whict bts is giving e every day
@user-iq7mk3gb9w
@user-iq7mk3gb9w 3 жыл бұрын
Sadly, such terrible things does not come from love. It is just because your dad jealous with who you are right now. That's horrible for him, and for you.
@Btsarmy-qg9fr
@Btsarmy-qg9fr 3 жыл бұрын
@@user-iq7mk3gb9w yeah but how many days i will be in this pain?i also want to live my life and enjoy it as life is one not tons
@1TS..M3
@1TS..M3 3 жыл бұрын
And then parents be like, “Why doesn’t my kid like me?” Edit: Omg this is the most replies and likes I’ve ever gotten on a comment and just in general- TYSMMM
@ChocoMelodii
@ChocoMelodii 3 жыл бұрын
Ikr They would always be like “You don’t love me anymore?,” “Do you still love me?” and “I don’t think you love us anymore” They don’t even realize what they are doing. They always say that it’s for my health, teaching me a lesson because they “love” me and blah blah blah
@clubkarma4655
@clubkarma4655 3 жыл бұрын
Ikr my mom is like that she will say it do something that offends me and she will go “I love you” and I won’t say anything back and she will complain that I didn’t say “I love you” back.Like bruh -_- that’s annoying
@1TS..M3
@1TS..M3 3 жыл бұрын
@@clubkarma4655 I know like I hate it so much
@arandompersonthatpostsstuf4788
@arandompersonthatpostsstuf4788 3 жыл бұрын
Me: Well maybe you should stop beating me for the most stupid reasons i haaate you >:(
@rui.inazuma7078
@rui.inazuma7078 3 жыл бұрын
yeah
@lili_3066
@lili_3066 2 жыл бұрын
"Follow your dreams" "Your so smart" "It's ok at least you did your best" *The only words that i wanna hear from my parents.*
@iamjisooiamokay2332
@iamjisooiamokay2332 2 жыл бұрын
Me also my parents never understood me😔😔😒
@iamjisooiamokay2332
@iamjisooiamokay2332 2 жыл бұрын
@thedxrkvibezz you are very lucky😊 but I am not😔😒
@DuatiHrahsel
@DuatiHrahsel 2 жыл бұрын
Me too😭😭
@builderbros270
@builderbros270 2 жыл бұрын
Same
@unitzy672
@unitzy672 2 жыл бұрын
same but all they say is I wish you were top 1 in your school like your classmate or sister
@Caiinvestigator
@Caiinvestigator 2 ай бұрын
The last one never failed to make me cry. I tried to overwork, stay up late, often was denied of doing things that I needed and wanted to do. I felt a pang of dissapointment, and didn't want to look at my parent's faces. It's truly sad, that some kids might have experienced this too, but I hope this sentence is never heard, and our future generations have better childhood.
@CareFreeNarcoleptic
@CareFreeNarcoleptic 3 жыл бұрын
My mom: you can tell me anything Me: tells her “anything” Mom: gets mad and starts yelling Edit: I never realized how many people related to this omg
@khitaraaldilla5406
@khitaraaldilla5406 3 жыл бұрын
;-;
@deborahjolly2653
@deborahjolly2653 3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this
@ahbabraufahmed3058
@ahbabraufahmed3058 3 жыл бұрын
same but for my dad (somehow it is the reverse cause my mom does not do anything and father gets angry for little reason).
@poison5363
@poison5363 3 жыл бұрын
MOOOOOOD
@cherieres
@cherieres 3 жыл бұрын
@@deborahjolly2653 same
@gemandromeda7834
@gemandromeda7834 3 жыл бұрын
"i brought you into this world i can take you out" This is why I'm paranoid and afraid my parents are going to hurt me
@shootingstardragon7764
@shootingstardragon7764 3 жыл бұрын
That's messed up on so many levels
@anonymousfeather1907
@anonymousfeather1907 3 жыл бұрын
my parents say that a lot too
@onicalypso1684
@onicalypso1684 3 жыл бұрын
My grandma only said that once because she's my mother figure, and she never said it again because after she said it, I said, "Do it, I dare you."
@yeetplayzroblox211
@yeetplayzroblox211 3 жыл бұрын
same, my moms said actual threats of killing me and/or hurting me. One time she did actually try to choke me (scared the hell out of me although im good now) This made me super flinchy now whenever someone comes close to me.
@chickennugget3742
@chickennugget3742 3 жыл бұрын
My father said that to me. I have my father on so much levels, but no one listens to me. Everyone around me says that I doesn’t mean it that I’m just confused and I love him. But the truth is I hate him. I hate it so much that it hurts. I cry every time I remember this piece of shit. The only thing that stops me from killing myself is my mom, little sister and brother. I love them so much. I love life so much. I love my friend. And I want to find a love of my life, a husband that will respect me, a husband that will love me... my soulmate. I love you guys. Every one of you! ❤️❤️ when im sad I look up to the sky... nature is so beautiful
@mosseater333
@mosseater333 3 жыл бұрын
My brother: “Boys don’t cry.” “Quit being so dramatic.” “You’re just being delusional.” “You’re too skinny.” Me: “Why can’t you be more like *her*?” “See how smart *she” is?” “You’re fat.” “Why can’t you do anything right?” It isn’t fun, especially to my brother. He keeps his emotions away from my mom and dad, and only shares them to me and vice-versa :( Edut: My mom says we can tell her anything, and yet, what she says to us is the prime reason we counter that.
@liathecatlover780
@liathecatlover780 3 жыл бұрын
Hey, It's fine. Let me cheer u up with a subscribe and a like! :)
@1_st4rve
@1_st4rve 3 жыл бұрын
The edit part is me and my mom.
@nonchalantdino
@nonchalantdino 3 жыл бұрын
Thats kinda sad..
@hi-xf9lf
@hi-xf9lf 3 жыл бұрын
my mom does the same
@velvetina
@velvetina 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your comment. 👍
@KimberlyHancock-jf1bs
@KimberlyHancock-jf1bs 6 ай бұрын
When I was younger my mom always asked me "why are you like this?!why can't you be normal?!" I now find myself treating my younger sister like this and telling her that exact thing....
@dweeb6802
@dweeb6802 3 жыл бұрын
"People in school are going to beat you for how you are." "Everyone is depressed!" "I'm gonna send you away." Three sentences that haunt me forever.
@bhargabibhattacharjee2002
@bhargabibhattacharjee2002 3 жыл бұрын
We know that everyone has their own problems, but we should always hear each other out to make them feel valuable Please, feel special ☺️❤️
@crysmo247
@crysmo247 3 жыл бұрын
dont worry we will always be here to comfort you!
@dweeb6802
@dweeb6802 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks :)
@Alina01234
@Alina01234 3 жыл бұрын
True my mom and stepdad said those things
@dweeb6802
@dweeb6802 3 жыл бұрын
@@Alina01234 Sorry for you :( At least we hopefully have other family members that care for us deeply!
@cherryanarchy4347
@cherryanarchy4347 3 жыл бұрын
"Why can't you be smart like your brother?" "That phone is rotting your brain." "You should be more happy." For the second one.Being on my device is actually like a escape from reality to me. And it helps me get rid of something from my mind.For the first one.Everytime my mom says this I feel like crying but I hold it in.
@dark_angel50
@dark_angel50 3 жыл бұрын
Yes I know how it feels 😔
@greatwavefan397
@greatwavefan397 3 жыл бұрын
@@wizz0_0 I read "monster"
@Bxll_Bxll
@Bxll_Bxll 3 жыл бұрын
Me too. KZbin is the only place I can find people that understand.
@ashmagupta2187
@ashmagupta2187 3 жыл бұрын
My mom says think about anime world makes me dull
@stefigachadimova7479
@stefigachadimova7479 3 жыл бұрын
No, going outside will clear out your mind, stupid. And besides, your parents are doing this for your own good. So what if they treat you bad? You should help tjem.
@Chickenbone263
@Chickenbone263 3 жыл бұрын
For me the most damaging thing my parents said is “I only hit you because I love you” which was definitely confusing and made me resent them more
@Chickenbone263
@Chickenbone263 3 жыл бұрын
Even from the age of 5 I understood this was wrong
@DreamKittyLove
@DreamKittyLove 3 жыл бұрын
They want to help us and educate us so we dont become uneducated and weak in the future
@greatwavefan397
@greatwavefan397 3 жыл бұрын
That phrase taught me that true love means to let someone hurt you, and anything less painful is not love. This is a lie I've been battling for many years now, which has encouraged me to learn how people really work and think for myself.
@prismmioouu
@prismmioouu 3 жыл бұрын
its a phrase always used. so hitting isnt that encouraged is it? here taking out slippers and brooms and hitting us is normalized. so i never thought of it. hmm
@prismmioouu
@prismmioouu 3 жыл бұрын
yea i hate it too
@Quit_985
@Quit_985 11 ай бұрын
"Crying isnt helping" "YOUR A DISAPPOINTMENT" "I SHOULD'VE JUST LEFT YOU WITH YOUR DAD" "YOUR SO SELFISH" Heres something i learned from my mom since she gave me insecurity -learning how to strave for days -remembering her footsteps -knowing how to hide stuff
@ayli.071
@ayli.071 3 жыл бұрын
I am emotionally abused at home, by my whole family (parents and siblings) and I always have this thought that I’m overreacting and that my family is fine. This video helped me realise that it’s not normal. Thank you, and I’m sorry to everyone that has this type of family :))
@monicafox3737
@monicafox3737 3 жыл бұрын
Jesus can help you Jesus is Lord and a Father to His children but to be His children we must be born again
@shadowbladebruh1
@shadowbladebruh1 3 жыл бұрын
@@monicafox3737 Amen
@Casual_Tofu
@Casual_Tofu 3 жыл бұрын
Bestie same but my parents don’t realize it :/
@RQisthe
@RQisthe 3 жыл бұрын
The kids saying when they’re mad: THATS IT THIS HOUSE STINKS IM LEAVING children that they hate is chores but that’s not true
@shadowbladebruh1
@shadowbladebruh1 3 жыл бұрын
It’s going to get better. It may not seem like it initially, but it will get better. You could try talking to your family about it. Sometimes, words can affect a situation when we think “There’s no way they will listen.” Either way, life is like a circle and you’re going through a down in that circle right now. Keep going, and you will find yourself going back up and feeling happy. Stay strong 💪🏾
@popsocket6885
@popsocket6885 2 жыл бұрын
"You're just like your father." This is one of the most impactful things my mother/family said to me. My father was a man who failed to form a proper future for himself. He did a lot of bad things and was also an aggressive and violent man. He ended up in a place where he could never escape and will never see his child or family grow up and have their own future. My family tends to envision my father as if he was the worst living man walking earth, that is why when they say this, my younger self sees herself as someone the same as their father or something worse than their father. edit: grammar/spelling
@Twilightpq14240
@Twilightpq14240 2 жыл бұрын
Same for me like my mom and my dad have a bad relationship and my dad is a self centred man and is unstable and reacts impulsively a lot of times .....she always says that you are just like your father since I am three or four years old and says that we all have ruined her life and like my mom loves me a lot and has gone through a lot but then I think it was unfair to say such things to someone since they were a child ....now that I am an eighteen year old girl and have barely any friend and no love in my life I feel scared that I will ruin people's life just like my father and I should just stay away from people
@nvenvyvill3698
@nvenvyvill3698 2 жыл бұрын
My mom said the same thing! My mom wanted to do a function because I was growing up and other p*****y stuff. Me and my dad didn't want to me because I didn't like functions or huge gatherings and my dad because he knew it. At the end I wasn't able to keep a fake smile and I lashed out, my mom said you are just like your father, and my father was a person who doesn't think before he acts. I'VE KEPT A FAKE SMILE FOR 5 FUCKING YEARS MOM!!!!!!!! AND IT WAS BECAUSE OF YOU!!!!!!! DEAL WITH IT YOU PATHETIC EXCUSE FOR PARENTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Edit: sorry for swearing, I just had to do that.
@millietimecapsule
@millietimecapsule 2 жыл бұрын
Same....
@mr.dickbutttheog2064
@mr.dickbutttheog2064 2 жыл бұрын
Same with me except my dad tries his best to be the best father for his family (Just is troubled from his childhood and rocky marriage with my mom). He is a quiet, distant man and doesn’t like going out as much and my mom hates that since she likes going to parties and be sociable. Whenever I just wanna say home, my mom always tells me I’m like my dad which annoys the hell outta me. It’s not like my dad is an evil person, sure he made mistakes in the past but is willing to make up for it. She keeps saying that as if my dad is a no-good criminal
@Bak3dpotatoez
@Bak3dpotatoez 2 жыл бұрын
My mom always thinks it’s funny and cute to compare me to my dad but I think we see him differently. She may just see him as her husband but I see a manipulative, narcissistic alcoholic who has put me through more trauma in 17 years than most do in their lifetime… It sucks to be compared to someone like that.
@raemonn15
@raemonn15 3 жыл бұрын
“What’s wrong with you?” “Stop crying!” “You’re such a baby!” Mom gets mad at me and yells at me over the dumbest of things to the point I’m not even surprised anymore. Well that and of course, it’s always School, god I hate it. After being forced to spend 12 years of my life on school, I just want to actually enjoy my life and have some fun while hanging on for as long as I can. Especially with the Coronavirus still around. But no, mom still made me go to College, and it’s living hell. I just want to make people happy in my life, I can’t bear to see them cry. But I don’t want to cry either. And mom is constantly making me cry whenever she’s mad. When I become a Dad someday, I won’t make the same mistakes. I’ll be a kind and fair Dad. I’m not gonna yell, cause that’ll make me a total jerk.
@infamousnationfan
@infamousnationfan 3 жыл бұрын
Same situation almost here..
@marcuschau315
@marcuschau315 3 жыл бұрын
Agree
@jelly_fan6591
@jelly_fan6591 3 жыл бұрын
This is everyday life for me
@Aihoshino24
@Aihoshino24 3 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately you have to be poor if you want to be happy because if you want to be happy, you must not work all the time, if you don't work, you won't get money, so you will be poor. You can never be happy if you work
@ii._.astn1717
@ii._.astn1717 3 жыл бұрын
Well you still have to punish the kid when it's misbehaving. But the MAIN point is you can't just start screaming these harmful words and just makes up excuses that still hurt the child. Like I would rather just send my kid in the room if I was a mom for 24 minutes and just say "You aren't be able to use the Ipad for a day because you kicked me and spited on me" Like that is way better than yelling and start hitting the child.
@HeartParajes
@HeartParajes 11 күн бұрын
“Whatever you say, I will always be right because I’m the parent and YOUR JUST THE CHILD”
@Emilybaeee
@Emilybaeee 3 жыл бұрын
“I wish you were more like your sister” “Your sisters getting good grades you should try harder and be like her” “Shut up go away” “Stop crying it doesn’t matter”
@ythewoodpeckerfan5286
@ythewoodpeckerfan5286 3 жыл бұрын
Parents later after abusing their child: "i'M a GoOd PaReNt!"
@kermitthuglife4190
@kermitthuglife4190 3 жыл бұрын
i get beaten up at school everyday and my mom thinks i get into fights so i get grounded for being beaten up. this is why i want to kill myself
@DestinyPizzileo
@DestinyPizzileo 3 жыл бұрын
@@kermitthuglife4190 I don't know you or how your mom acts in general. I don't know if you've told anyone else about this, a teacher or other adult, (one worth trusting I mean) a friend or classmate who could convince her, and I don't know whether or not she'd react like a halfway decent mother should even if she knew. But don't give up. Please. I probably sound totally generic... but long as you're breathing you've still got a chance in life beyond all this crap you put up with now, and if you kill yourself you're killing that chance along with it. First time I had suicidal thoughts I was about 10; Next few years of my life turned out to be beautiful years I wish I could go back to. Not saying it'll magically turn around right away, that'd be sending out false hope and who wants that when they're miserable, but there IS actual hope is what I'm getting at. The kind of pain you're probably in, while completely valid, has a way of blinding people from that. That goes for anyone else struggling reading this too. I care about you. I know for a fact Jesus and God cares about you whether you believe that or not actually and I'm not gonna leave that part out. Take good care of yourself. Even if the people around you won't. I also believe God will take care of you and be there if you let him. Either way, God bless you, stay safe, and if you feel like talking or venting even you're welcome to reply.
@Ijustwannabepartofyoursymphany
@Ijustwannabepartofyoursymphany 3 жыл бұрын
no tell someone and get help
@ivymuncher
@ivymuncher 3 жыл бұрын
that was abuse? wacky
@NotKevinNeverWas
@NotKevinNeverWas 3 жыл бұрын
"I wish you were more like...." [Slams table] *ADOPT HER THEN*
@yaganonobvcyv9613
@yaganonobvcyv9613 3 жыл бұрын
That’s damn right
@melodii9749
@melodii9749 3 жыл бұрын
If I said that I would’ve been dead by now 😭 ✋
@NotKevinNeverWas
@NotKevinNeverWas 3 жыл бұрын
@@melodii9749 Same
@EHMM
@EHMM 3 жыл бұрын
@SANJEV MARIAPPAN Moe Slap them back show dominance
@Phoebe5448
@Phoebe5448 3 жыл бұрын
I said the same thing to my mum when I was 11.
@gabyzz1331
@gabyzz1331 3 жыл бұрын
"You're kinda fat" "Can't you be more like them?" "Why did I had kids" "You're such a crybaby" "You can never do anything right" Despite those things my mom never listens to anything I say
@eva-x9o8w
@eva-x9o8w 3 жыл бұрын
Same but my dad can u pls wish him get away from me and my mom
@AgentGrace15
@AgentGrace15 3 жыл бұрын
My mom didn't necessarily say anything about my weight daily, it was just clothes shopping. She would always force me to try on clothes that were a size or two smaller than I needed and wouldn't let me grab stuff that fit until I was in tears. Then I was just a brat for not appreciating her buying me any clothes at all.
@serenarodriguez1411
@serenarodriguez1411 3 жыл бұрын
Merkimer: sad🐷👑
@meganpirello7627
@meganpirello7627 3 жыл бұрын
i have been told that too
@serenarodriguez1411
@serenarodriguez1411 3 жыл бұрын
Sad
@Sqturn.L0ve
@Sqturn.L0ve 5 ай бұрын
"What is wrong with you?!?" -My mom. When I needed support that's what I got. I will never forget those words
@sinnamon04
@sinnamon04 3 жыл бұрын
“if you keep doing that, you’re future will be nowhere” bodyshaming... “you’re living in my house, if you’re going to be like that then get out” “why are you talking back? You should just listen to me!”
@vee1267
@vee1267 3 жыл бұрын
Urgh reading this literally made me grit my teeth in anger remembering all the times my father’s said every single one of those things. Sorry you had to deal with that crap too.
@IgnihydeStan
@IgnihydeStan 3 жыл бұрын
Same 🥺 im a child
@toallthemanhwasireadistill7452
@toallthemanhwasireadistill7452 3 жыл бұрын
the last sentence is the one i hear the most , it seriously is saddening how MY parents don't listen to me
@tered1033
@tered1033 3 жыл бұрын
Talking back is okay, that's how conversations work
@nikyraven1956
@nikyraven1956 Жыл бұрын
I used to be bullied at school, and whenever I tried to talk about it to my parents, they would say "you're being too dramatic", "you're susceptible", "your brother had it worse than you". And the one phrase I never forgot was my father telling me "if everyone is wrong around you, you should be the one reflecting on it".
@nikyraven1956
@nikyraven1956 Жыл бұрын
@☻lola♥︎ yey after all the kids in school grew just like you, so there's still bullies in adulthood I guess. I'd like to say they don't know you and don't care so don't care about they say but it's easier said than done. All I can do is send you a little bit of love and virtual hug.
@girlitrodrigo
@girlitrodrigo Жыл бұрын
I'm the same as you, I got bullied but no body give a fuck..I'm literally so sick of everything
@user-iz9yc3rg5e
@user-iz9yc3rg5e Жыл бұрын
Same here. My brother is narcissistic, and was physically and verbally abusive. My sister and I would say something to our parents, and we would be brushed off with "Oh, he's just being a brother." So I thought that it was normal for siblings/family to not get along, etc. I still find it difficult to believe and understand how my wife's side can talk to each other and get along.
@nikyraven1956
@nikyraven1956 Жыл бұрын
@@user-iz9yc3rg5e My brother was not abusive to me, and suffured quite the same as me at school. The thing was my parents only saw his difficulties and not mine, like because he had difficulties I couldn't have any. I understand so much that you still suffer from the consequences of your treatments, I still have difficulties to forgive my parents and teachers for what i went through too.
@CatherineLee3000
@CatherineLee3000 Жыл бұрын
The last quote you said that your father said, "If everyone is wrong around you, you should be the one reflecting on it," reminds me of the saying that every accusation is a confession. Really, he should be the person reflecting, not you. He is clearly unaware of this, and is ignorant. Since it sounds like he is not even going to listen to you, he is choosing to be ignorant. Ignorance is the WORST. Those people usually don't change, no matter how many times you say something. I have a very good family, but I have been bullied by others (including a few teachers--My dad stood up to them, thank goodness). I don't care what other people think of me, now, but it still hurts (some of the stuff that people have said in the past). I hope that you are able to get out of there, if you are not already. Even if your parents don't appreciate you, we do (in the comments section). - Catherine Reply
@gacha_husky0.037
@gacha_husky0.037 3 жыл бұрын
“Wtf is wrong with you!?” “Stop your crying.” “That’s how a young lady is suppose to dress.” “Why do you lie to me?” “Why don’t you ever trust us.” I’m 13, and bro- this sh!t really affects your life. And the second one. I grew up always thinking when I cry, it’s pathetic and I’m always overreacting.
@orrpisumiorrpisumi4409
@orrpisumiorrpisumi4409 3 жыл бұрын
Same
@violet_twinkle7569
@violet_twinkle7569 3 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate
@DanielVlogsAnything
@DanielVlogsAnything 3 жыл бұрын
Same here bro/sis!!!!
@gacha_husky0.037
@gacha_husky0.037 3 жыл бұрын
@@noneofyabussiness5064 😂
@rvbyedits9150
@rvbyedits9150 3 жыл бұрын
Omg yes I always thought I'm so pathetic when I cry and I am overreacting
@pancakeenjoyer-h4v
@pancakeenjoyer-h4v Жыл бұрын
The overweight part spoke to me. My mom usually says such things when I tell her that for example I feel like I'm worse than the people in my sports team or when it's because of my skin condition and disguises it as "wanting me to be healthy" even if it just hurts.
@angiesc11
@angiesc11 2 жыл бұрын
“I wish you were more like..” This phrase makes me cry. It is still said to me sometimes, and it’s just unfair. Children shouldn’t live with this.
@RyuLupraconix
@RyuLupraconix 2 жыл бұрын
RIGHT! I have heard that phrase more times than I can count and it still makes me feel so angry and pressured to seek their validation when in the end it just feels so short-lived and meaningless... Like sorry that I'm not like them but you know I'm a completely different person so of course I'm not going to be like them 😒
@Haseena_ct.
@Haseena_ct. 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah My parents compare me with other kid so much.Sometime it makes me feel depressed but sometimes I get so angry.Like why I have to be like them?
@angiesc11
@angiesc11 2 жыл бұрын
@@RyuLupraconix E. X. A. C. T. L. Y!
@HopelessAnguish
@HopelessAnguish 2 жыл бұрын
I lived with this through my entire childhood, constantly being compared to kids younger than me who were more successful at their age
@lehabenjamin7514
@lehabenjamin7514 2 жыл бұрын
Number of times I heard this phrase is more than no. of times I breath ... ..like literally my cousin gets 99 %in all her exam...I get jealous wishing I was this smart ....her mom praises her in every family meeting and my mom does opposite.... I feel very ashamed to attend cause I feel like every one is staring at me in disgust whereas admiring my cousin and telling their children to be like her...I am good in arts stuff but never praised or acknowledged... I feel so unwanted every time...I thought this was just me being extra and attention seeker but after seeing video I get it ....
@stvlinskism7096
@stvlinskism7096 3 жыл бұрын
“how are you depressed?! you can’t be everyone here cares about you” “you’re just digging yourself a hole deeper and deeper that soon you won’t be able to get yourself out of” “it’s because you were born disabled so don’t understand how it feels to be normal and then start losing feeling or having pain” “are you just saying you’re depressed because you’re not like your sisters? or because you feel like you want more attention?”
@lovely_nf1762
@lovely_nf1762 3 жыл бұрын
Ugh,I truly hate parents that said these things. Like,can't they even understand?!
@chikkatto
@chikkatto 3 жыл бұрын
@@lovely_nf1762 they want us to understand them, not they understand us. Listen to them, get their heart and explain ur problem smoothly. Then (maybe) they'll listen to you.
@AleMaia
@AleMaia 3 жыл бұрын
"you’re just digging yourself a hole deeper and deeper that soon you won’t be able to get yourself out of" this one. This one is the one that I hate the most and that my parents always say to me. I mean... who the hell are you to judge my life and tell me if I have or not a future? Who are you, to tell me that I'm hopeless and that I'm doing everything wrong? It drives me crazy! Are you trying to support me? Are you being constructive in any way? No. Then just shut up and mind your business, because some comments are absolutely pointless and mean! Some parents project on their kids their own insecurities and try to control everything, because what they actually want, is getting back the control of THEIR life.
@hayamixd88
@hayamixd88 3 жыл бұрын
@@lovely_nf1762 Those words are knives into my heart. My brothers and I are happy now but I can't seem to forget this memory of torture...
@hayamixd88
@hayamixd88 3 жыл бұрын
@@AleMaia This is what I mean, the strings are their projectiles against you, your'e like a puppet to them, we're just like a lifeless object that can be controlled. I am happy I left home with my brothers... I didn't like the torment they gave me, I hated it, I hated everything.
@itx_charlie1289
@itx_charlie1289 3 жыл бұрын
"why are you so dramatic?" "leave me alone" "she's not your true friend" "are you cryng because i took youre phone?you're grounded"but i literarlly cry 'cause i have bad days at school
@khaleesivaldes7829
@khaleesivaldes7829 3 жыл бұрын
"thats the only way you can learn" THE WAY I LEARNED IS COMING HOME AND CRYING SAYING MY TEDDY BEAR WAS MY ONLY FAMILY EXECPT FROM MY 2 BROTHERS AND I HAVE A FAMILY OF 6 OTHER PEOPLE I BARELY EVEN ENJOYED MY BIRTHDAY IN EVERY PICTURE I"VE BEEN IN I'M FAKE SMILING I'M NEVER REALLY HAPPY.
@rixaccl
@rixaccl 3 жыл бұрын
@@khaleesivaldes7829 You have a Teddy bear friend too? I have one. My parents keep telling me that if I keep playing with it they'll durn it with the fire, My Teddy bear has been with me for 12 years now
@afighter6974
@afighter6974 2 жыл бұрын
That last 1 is literally what happened to me i wasnt allowed to play games today just because of todays bad day at school!
@Fridgerator2pointoh
@Fridgerator2pointoh 8 ай бұрын
I remember when i was 12 and i had an agrument with my mom for telling her how i feel and actually expressing mt emotions. After my mom gave me a moment to cry, i asked her to come back into the room so we could talk. I was trying to tell her how i felt, and was crying in the process. I took a moment to catch my breath and cry before continuing, and while this was happening, my mom crossed her arms and gave me the most uncaring look ive ever seen, and said; "did i just come in here to watch you cry?" Ive never talked about my emotions and how i felt since that day... Everybody tells me to do so, but im just so traumatized and hurt from that moment that i probably never will.. thanks mom...
@amelie9862
@amelie9862 4 ай бұрын
I also had an argument with my mom because she said I was "A jerk". It was april, and by that time, I hadn't been sleeping or eating properly for about a MONTH because of anxiety and stress, burnout and maybe other things. The school break had just ended (during which we TRAVELED, RIGHT AFTER MY LONG SCHOOL TRIP 😡). In other words, I was freaking tired of everything. I completely exploded and even punched a whole in the wall (by accident)... This whole argument is a blur to me... my mind just erased it from my memory. When the argument was over I felt ashamed and hurt, so I stayed there and just... had a normal conversation while smilling (even though I wanted to run away and cry). As if I had to make up for starting an argument. The next day, I felt completely numb and empty. I didn't talk to anyone. I could only think about that argument. To anyone reading this, thanks. You're awsome and I hope you are doing well❤
@matty1214
@matty1214 3 жыл бұрын
Mom: Look at him, he's so talented, brillia- Me: Look at his mom, she doesn't compare him with others which established his confidence Mom: 👁️👄👁️
@namidahooman8238
@namidahooman8238 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly 👁️👄👁️but that is something we can't do.. Because they will only say "are you talking back!?"
@yourlocalpancake
@yourlocalpancake 3 жыл бұрын
i wish it was that easy-
@leeleebahleelee
@leeleebahleelee 3 жыл бұрын
@@namidahooman8238 lol ikr
@Yeonderellashoe
@Yeonderellashoe 3 жыл бұрын
My mom - 😡 🥿
@justanintrovertwithcooldp7
@justanintrovertwithcooldp7 3 жыл бұрын
Well I was quite good in studies when I was a kid. So my mother never compared me for my personality. But I still had to find an excuse to not let my friends come home cuz everytime she saw them, after they left she says look at your friends, they look good and talk so nicely and then LOOK AT YOU!!
@alaynajoye5675
@alaynajoye5675 3 жыл бұрын
One thing my parents always say that have really made me feel like i'm not good enough for them is "I miss when you were younger, where did my little baby girl go?" It really makes me feel like I'm not worthy enough or that there's something wrong with me.
@anonymousfeather1907
@anonymousfeather1907 3 жыл бұрын
My mom says that to me too
@elv3n172
@elv3n172 3 жыл бұрын
My sister kept on repeating “You were so pretty when your were younger, what happened?” Then she asks me why I get so angry with her most of the time. And my dad complained to my mom about how I was so fat.
@kqyl33
@kqyl33 3 жыл бұрын
Omg
@blueflare3848
@blueflare3848 3 жыл бұрын
My parents say this too. They say that I'm too miserable and that they miss when I was younger because I was happier. Don't get me wrong, they're far from abusive, and they're good parents even if they're not perfect, but it still upsets me. They act like I don't recognize that I'm different. I don't even know why I'm like this because I have no reason to be unhappy.
@lontillerzxx
@lontillerzxx 3 жыл бұрын
Same but I'm being called crazy, which was harmless at first, then I'm being called that when I made a little mistake or shit. Earlier today I was called crazy as hell by my father, then I said while crying, "I'm always called that" with anger in my voice. I was scolded by him.
@hueningss
@hueningss 3 жыл бұрын
“Why can’t you be like ____” “Your so skinny” “Eat more” “You need therapy” “Go outside more” “Fix your posture” “Stop being on your (insert device) so much” “Your so dumb” Some things i’ve heard through my life but, you’re strong! You can do this, never give up, you got this :)
@minaloverrrrrrr
@minaloverrrrrrr 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks ♡ your strong to
@Cala_edits
@Cala_edits 3 жыл бұрын
Bro exactly what happens to me
@Cala_edits
@Cala_edits 3 жыл бұрын
I kinda don't feel good about that
@melod4703
@melod4703 3 жыл бұрын
I wish my mum actually brought me to therapy lmao
@Cala_edits
@Cala_edits 3 жыл бұрын
@@melod4703 I used to get angry like idk
@randomshellvisionguy
@randomshellvisionguy 5 ай бұрын
My sister gave me a mean look and my parents blamed it on me and said "why shouldnt we just sell you?" we children have feelings too you know? Doesnt mean you have to pass on the rude behaviour on through the family. Im never getting over that. 😢
@amelie9862
@amelie9862 4 ай бұрын
My mom regularly says that we are "useless"😥
@Lifon316
@Lifon316 4 ай бұрын
use this as motivation. be the parent you never had, its what I tell myself
@-Cloud-9-Nine-
@-Cloud-9-Nine- 2 жыл бұрын
reading these comments actually help as you realise how so many people have the same struggles as you. and its really nice to have people going through the same as you so you dont feel as if its only you alone.
@alizzza_martin
@alizzza_martin Жыл бұрын
I am here for the same reason.......the comment sections of such videos is the only place I feel a bit relieved.....a feeling that I am not the only one make me less sad...I'm 16 and it's hard being a teenager
@SillyCar31
@SillyCar31 Жыл бұрын
@@alizzza_martin hmm I'm Indian (unfortunately) And for extremely introvert people like me india is a great hell My parents destroyed my mental health, and they still don't understand my problems they prioritise my grades more than me
@charlotteembleton3712
@charlotteembleton3712 Жыл бұрын
thats what im doing rn tbh
@forkliftcertifiedgrainofsalt
@forkliftcertifiedgrainofsalt Жыл бұрын
True so very true
@Ndrewtube09
@Ndrewtube09 Жыл бұрын
ikr
@anrijupiter
@anrijupiter 3 жыл бұрын
When you’re little, you think your parents knows everything and knows what they’re doing but then, you grow up and see how toxic they can be and how much what they’ve done had traumatized you. I know that they are human too and have feelings and nobody’s perfect but I really think they could’ve been way better. I learned it very young that talking about my problems with my parents is just waste of time. I gained so much trauma from the things they could’ve prevented it from happening if they cared more. My personality and how I act is what it is now because of all the trauma I emotionally went through that nobody could see and i really hate myself for being this way. I love them and it must’ve been hard to raise two complete different children but I wish they could tell my younger self who always felt like she had to be tough that it’s okay to talk about feelings and it’s okay to cry. I wish they could make me a safe place where I could tell them how I feel and all the shit I’ve went through in school and things they’ve done that hurt me. I could never talk about my feelings or the things I was going through to them.
@AgentGrace15
@AgentGrace15 3 жыл бұрын
Same here. I had other family members telling me "you can only talk to me about this, don't talk to anyone at school" and now that I talk to my boyfriend about it he's telling me it was full on abuse. What do I say back? "Well (insert name) had it worse and I'm sorry for talking about stuff that is nothing compared to that."
@abdelgadirm.elamin2752
@abdelgadirm.elamin2752 3 жыл бұрын
the whole comment section is sad :( I never knew this many people suffered now I feel bad :(
@r4yyans___
@r4yyans___ 3 жыл бұрын
@@abdelgadirm.elamin2752 me too
@r4yyans___
@r4yyans___ 3 жыл бұрын
@@karthikvijay5678 your story is actually sad too dude
@vicious_vixel
@vicious_vixel 3 жыл бұрын
My parents told me not to cry because I wasn't a little kid... When I was 5
@AnnaMay-ed3mh
@AnnaMay-ed3mh Жыл бұрын
My friend was asked seriously "why are you like this?" by her dad, for fathers day, she killed herself because what he said made her believe that he wanted her gone, and she really loved him, she just wanted what was best for him. She took her own life, for somebody she loved.
@sanjaijagesar6176
@sanjaijagesar6176 9 ай бұрын
I know maybe you wont react but any update on the situation? What happened with the dad after that ?
@Bluejay-h6c
@Bluejay-h6c 8 ай бұрын
Damn. That sucks that it happened. That bastard just did that? Be suprised if he ends up with regret for a very long time
@peaceangel-rl2hf
@peaceangel-rl2hf 7 ай бұрын
That's so sad. The only 2 times I ever really felt so worthless and felt I should just die were after deeply cutting and nasty remarks about my character from my father during a very tragic and traumatic event that was occurring to me, so I understand. Narcissistic parents cause severe emotional and mental harm to their children 😢9
@elianamuniz7486
@elianamuniz7486 6 ай бұрын
Wish I was her
@FlimFlemFlom
@FlimFlemFlom 6 ай бұрын
@@elianamuniz7486 Don't say that, your life is valuable and precious
@JoaquinCuatro
@JoaquinCuatro 7 ай бұрын
Your voice is super calm like it’s so soft like like when it’s like harmful topics your voice is so soft while doing it makes of feel so relaxing while knowing the truth
@koiisuruu
@koiisuruu 3 жыл бұрын
The most annoying thing parents always do : doesn't come when your studying and when you finished studying and you JUST picked up ur phone and then your parents come and say "WHY ARE YOU PLAYING GAMES?!? YOU SHOULD STUDY"
@lanly6340
@lanly6340 3 жыл бұрын
If my mom sees me on an device for 0.000000001 seconds she's going to yell at me
@hyperiontheimpaired5541
@hyperiontheimpaired5541 3 жыл бұрын
Bruh true
@minecloudd7852
@minecloudd7852 3 жыл бұрын
That always happens when I’m finished reading, pick up my iPad, and my mom yells at me about how I spend “Too much time on that thing.”
@PixelMonsterC6
@PixelMonsterC6 3 жыл бұрын
Underrated
@minimannyjr2622
@minimannyjr2622 3 жыл бұрын
As a teen I can relate. Most teens get hurtful things from parents and the parents don’t know they said that to their kids
@mollybryson7021
@mollybryson7021 3 жыл бұрын
Ok I was sitting through this entire video crying wanting to scream honestly bc these are all the reasons I absolutely hate my mom. Everyone just says one day you’re going to realise you love her but she is the most judgmental and critical human being out there even though she says I am to my sister, I’m probably jealous of her because my mum is so supportive of her and never to me. Every single one of these things listed I hear 20x a day. Ik this is a terrible thing to say but I would feel so free without her. Deep down I think she is the reason I feel like a nothing. My parents divorced when I was 11, this is when I saw my mom’s true colours and how she honestly feels entitled to everything, victimises herself every chance she gets, is super lazy (even though that is something she shames me for) yet also super demonic and flat out doesn’t care about us anymore. And also she insults me by saying I’m just like my dad, saying that I’m narcissistic when I’m literally one of the most insecure people.Oh did I mention I am one of four, and still growing up in this environment. But yeah pretty shitty. She basically forgot we exist. And when she sees me she treats me like I’m crap :(
@minimannyjr2622
@minimannyjr2622 3 жыл бұрын
@@mollybryson7021 damn srry to hear that happens to you. honestly I would prolly move out of the house and live on your own if I were you.
@mollybryson7021
@mollybryson7021 3 жыл бұрын
@@minimannyjr2622 rn I’m only 14 so moving out isn’t really an option, I just usually try to ignore it. Also thanks for reading means so much 💚
@minimannyjr2622
@minimannyjr2622 3 жыл бұрын
@@mollybryson7021 yea np u have snap or no
@mollybryson7021
@mollybryson7021 3 жыл бұрын
@@minimannyjr2622 how old r u
@daijoubuu
@daijoubuu 3 жыл бұрын
"stop crying" "whatever" "why are you like this" "i dont care" "focus on school only" "i pay the bills here" yeah so this is the kinda stuff my parents tell me
@ChaosCat942
@ChaosCat942 3 жыл бұрын
Maybe tell them that you have a life too and they’re turning all grey and meaningless?
@mindyobusiness1408
@mindyobusiness1408 3 жыл бұрын
My personal favorite “I don’t feel bad for you” 😃✨
@daijoubuu
@daijoubuu 3 жыл бұрын
@@mindyobusiness1408 my personal favorite 💕listen to your username💕
@daijoubuu
@daijoubuu 3 жыл бұрын
like damn yall cant go on the internet for 2 minutes without saying something like that 😳
@jarreddoctor2302
@jarreddoctor2302 3 жыл бұрын
Same but my parents Compare me to others even i want to say why do u compare me to others i dont compare u to different moms this is my life not urs
@KAYLEEBRIDGETTEYU-ws8nq
@KAYLEEBRIDGETTEYU-ws8nq 6 ай бұрын
the thing my mom said to me once when i was working on an assignment with her since during that time i could never do anything right she said in a struggling voice cause it was night like 11pm plus she said if i saw you in the streets i would've never picked you up and i just stood there dumbfounded while everything turned out alright its been in the back of mind like a key memory in my life she isnt that type of person but if you piss her off like how i did she wouldve made you cry but now she understands my feelings but not all of it.... but she is the most supportive person to me now i love her and i wish she will never fall down from her throne.
@zzyz7751
@zzyz7751 3 жыл бұрын
My parents often say things like "How did we end up with a child like you?", "It must've been our bad luck for you to have been born here". I can't respond bc I'd already feel the tears coming in. They have compared me with the girl next door for all my life. My mom says, "The girl next door helps out her mom even during the exam period and you just stay inside your room studying day and night so shouldn't your grades be better than hers?? Why do you both get almost equal scores?? She studies less but still manages to get good grades so who's the more intelligent one between you two?" They wanted good grades. I gave it to them. I'm trying my best to be their ideal child. But if they want another daughter that is "better" than me, then I'm sorry but I can't do that
@chocolattefeverdreams4228
@chocolattefeverdreams4228 3 жыл бұрын
Wow, just yesterday my mom was comparing me with the girl next door.
@sarahx2179
@sarahx2179 3 жыл бұрын
my mom always compares me with my cousins and how smart and nice they are and then she just. yells at me all i do is talk back sometimes hold in the tears close the door and let the tears out but then she just comes to me and apologizes and ofc i do too but im glad i have parents like them.
@foxy_lockzy5378
@foxy_lockzy5378 3 жыл бұрын
Do you want a hug?
@iiCherryi
@iiCherryi 3 жыл бұрын
Here's a thought parents never realised when they say "why cant you be more like...", whenever they say that, its basically them saying that we are not good enough for them and we do not meet their expectations. But if that's what we live by our whole lives, then when are we supposed to live by OUR OWN expectations and be good enough for OURSELVES.
@bean7496
@bean7496 3 жыл бұрын
My mum used to do this before we left to live with our dad
@RaltySalty
@RaltySalty 3 жыл бұрын
“Look at your grades” “You think you can get ahead in life like this” “Look at that kid, he’s getting 90%” Thanks Dad, you’ve crushed me.
@RaltySalty
@RaltySalty 3 жыл бұрын
@ROBRAYL thanks man that’s really encouraging
@Snowsnowsnow__02
@Snowsnowsnow__02 3 жыл бұрын
yea...they always compare to other dumb asses..
@Ethanimations5334
@Ethanimations5334 3 жыл бұрын
Dad: No problem, son! I've always wanted to crush dreams. Besides, its my job!
@Snowsnowsnow__02
@Snowsnowsnow__02 3 жыл бұрын
@Adam Nasrullah Yes I once told my dad I have depression and you shouldn't be racist but he said stop acting like a old lady
@Snowsnowsnow__02
@Snowsnowsnow__02 3 жыл бұрын
@Adam Nasrullah Haha.... Life's hard isn't it,I'm 11 btw
@toxicghxstii
@toxicghxstii 3 жыл бұрын
Things my dad has said to me: -your an embarrassment -you can’t do anything -stop crying or I will slap the s out of you -your not depressed, you have everything you need to be happy -do you see dead people -what is wrong with you -it’s because of that phone -toughen up, other kids don’t cry/ have it worse than you Thanks a lot dad, now I have bpd,depression, and anxiety
@zherean42069
@zherean42069 3 жыл бұрын
Kid: "get's arm cut off" *"IT'S BECAUSE OF THAT PHONE"*
@fattortoise5809
@fattortoise5809 3 жыл бұрын
My dad never let me have friends so at school i look like a weird kid
@divabuzz
@divabuzz 3 жыл бұрын
@@fattortoise5809 aww thats so sad
@fattortoise5809
@fattortoise5809 3 жыл бұрын
@@divabuzz now they call me the final boss cause i look like a final boss
@Marina-vb9by
@Marina-vb9by 10 ай бұрын
“You’re such a drama a queen.” to this day, I still don’t think my mother realizes how I hurt I am by the poor choices she made that traumatized me.
@tobym2138
@tobym2138 3 жыл бұрын
“What was your childhood like” Me who physically cannot remember any more than 6 memories: uhhhh good? Bad? Uhh
@zzyz7751
@zzyz7751 3 жыл бұрын
SAME!! Idk why but I don't really remember anything that happened before I was in 7th grade. I only remember the major events, like MAJOR ones. But apart from that everything is just a white blank screen
@amandalang5772
@amandalang5772 3 жыл бұрын
This is probably a defense mechanism
@maxim_ssc
@maxim_ssc 3 жыл бұрын
Was your childhood good? yesn't
@neptune6970
@neptune6970 3 жыл бұрын
Same, my memories get repetitive and it kinda drives me insane
@a.s.5058
@a.s.5058 3 жыл бұрын
Same
@juliusquasar1565
@juliusquasar1565 3 жыл бұрын
My parents told me stuff like this. My dad sabotaged my career and ruined my life. They had a “What will the neighbors think?” mindset, telling me what an embarrassment I am to the family, and what a failure I am.
@kazikool69
@kazikool69 3 жыл бұрын
"My child is fine!" Your child are barely living, and your just making it worse.
@jemeilleure
@jemeilleure 3 жыл бұрын
Not me laughing on how true this is and crying on how sad it is at the same time- 😭
@anitharamaiah3845
@anitharamaiah3845 3 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@mewmew539
@mewmew539 3 жыл бұрын
For me my mom told me I don’t respect her and I do and she say I don’t respect her shut up that what my mom said and I cried for hours bc it hurt my feeling and I was angry bc she doesn’t respect me every time she leaves the dishes and we have dishwasher and she doesn’t put it in there
@kazikool69
@kazikool69 3 жыл бұрын
@@mewmew539 I'm so sorry that happens. I can relate. I wish i can help you more but i can't belive she does that to you. Ithe next time she does that, tell her calmly what she does to you.
@Killinghm
@Killinghm 3 жыл бұрын
@@mewmew539 not da only one
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