8 Lessons You Should Avoid Teaching Children

[@BRIGHTSIDEOFFICIAL]

TIMESTAMPS Bad Lesson #1: Snitching is wrong. 1:02 Bad Lesson #2: Children shouldn’t express their negative emotions. 2:27 Bad Lesson #3: You should try to make people like you. 4:38 Bad Lesson #4: Get good grades or you’ll never get a good job. 6:14 Bad Lesson #5: “Always the best for my baby!” 8:03 Bad Lesson #6: Making a mistake means losing something. 10:13 Bad Lesson #7: Children should never be idle. 12:44 Bad Lesson #8: Children must always share their toys. 14:09

[@middelasr]

My mom does most of them

[@0ros3t]

jyothsna samala O

[@charathesoultakerundertale4223]

BRIGHT SIDE once I was at a water park this boy wanted the ball and I gave it to him my mom gave me a compliment me

[@remembertheirregular327]

oml my mom does all of these XD

[@laythkhammas9852]

BRIGHT SIDE is the best

[@katelin5111]

I'm a kid and just watching to see how much my parents failed me they taught me most of these bad lessons....

[@ca-jengrootherder7562]

I am also an adolescent human let us conferce

[@TeachMeLordGod]

Yeah

[@prasadchinta1715]

Same

[@IMAWESOMEDUEDWHATCANISAY]

@@cheryl9228 same

[@rowanne7321]

@@cheryl9228 hi im arabic lol

[@Ayrielmartin_]

Who not a parent but still watching

[@righteousone5193]

Me.

[@adonnabrons2213]

me

[@imthesupra]

Ayriel's World me lol

[@afshanzareen7858]

Ayriel's World I am on my mum's account but I do not have kids because I am a kid myself. 10 years old.

[@crazedmaddancer]

me, but I have a Goddaughter so still helpful.

[@smugassassin2127]

Here's another one don't "compare children" am I right Edit:thank you all for likes y'all are so nice. Also I guess we all have this problem😅😅

[@mozammelhoque4876]

I know it is annoying

[@regeelynnepueblas5907]

Ye

[@peachy6358]

smug assassin yeah, they would always compare me 😒😒

[@noneofyourbusiness5776]

Sooo true 😭

[@unbeatablevito50]

I mean like dude it's a different story

[@mhadzsamodio3362]

i was so used to being told to please others that when i was in first grade i didnt even have my own opinions anymore

[@monsterboi2911]

Same

[@Dewdear]

Me now an Indecisive person

[@SadiesStylez]

You had an opinoun once in your life luckyyyyy

[@joebentley318]

same but i was a people pleaser from kindergarden to secound grade also in kindergarden i let myself get bullied by a group of girls that i called my "friends" back then

[@akiradora3271]

Yeah same

[@angeladeleon193]

This video makes me proud of myself. I don't have kids, I'm only 17, but I teach kids around me these lessons the right way. It makes me feel amazing that I've been doing right these past 5 years.

[@ellielondon8501]

Excellent 😊

[@shamimmemon1280]

Past 5 years?!! Woah!

[@seagecko]

And you will make a good parent

[@seagecko]

You'll make a good parent

[@shamimmemon1280]

angela deleon yes you definitely will be a wonderful parent so keep doing what you are doing😊👍

[@iicoldzo_o4914]

Me: *tells the truth* My parents: “Stop lying” Me: ...

[@smnikholas7529]

This happens to my sister, it used to be funny but now it's just sad, I'm gonna show them this video, I will edit when they have told me

[@slowrollytbff1560]

@OLIVIA VALENTIN same

[@User27270bug]

Lol Lol so what happend

[@powerbaar4833]

Ikr

[@ilikebowgarts1748]

Relatable. Also, is "I don't know" an answer to why questions? Because my dad says it isn't 😢

[@sagixic4931]

as a kid, i always did stuff so my dad didn't get mad, or sad. it was all about that. even lying so he didn't get disappointed.

[@Aisha-721]

Me too especially lying so I didn't get yelled at or punished.

[@combatsjunklist6853]

that's the reason why i am superstitious on honesty

[@Whgzuvz]

Me to but I am teenager and only live with by dad

[@Kira-qt2cy]

Same, but with my mom

[@ariun-erdeneangarag9359]

same

[@avocadod3661]

This is how my parents treated me most of my life: - Compared me to professionals and people who are better than me - Never let me get away with a lot of things - Treated me different from my younger siblings - Made me help my siblings more just because I was taller than them - Never allowed privacy - Made me feel like I was never the way they wanted me to be

[@tamirlapidus6994]

Same I WANT TO BE FREE

[@dsfdt]

Same...

[@jayomato]

same but more privacy

[@udariparanavitane4024]

Same I have no privacy at all.....

[@pheonix1655]

man i feel bad because thats the exact things i went through

[@shaimaal-aqrabawi2586]

I'm over here crying because a lot of the psychological issues I have stems from 95% of these bad parenting skills. Thank you for opening my eyes.

[@Adriana67658]

They might change?

[@enchanteddiamond6618]

Rude mind

[@chiqamike7067]

How about you try my way.. I know it's hard to speak the truth to our parents But maybe by writing it in somewhere like your diary or you can talk to someone that you trust The last thing, I know it seems weak, but crying might help you out

[@chiqamike7067]

@Mindfulness Organics rude much

[@chiqamike7067]

@Mindfulness Organics well you never know how the world is??

[@kaydenchan7093]

Yep, the parents suppress their children’s feelings too much.

[@paulcvlogsandgames5323]

Duh they only care about getting money from you when you have a real job. And if you dont they just have another baby

[@mozammelhoque4876]

Same

[@cool211]

Its bc parents have more power so If we talk back to defend our self they get angry so end up hitting us and I have taught myself to hold my tears so just go to my room to cry myself out

[@FirstLast-fc7dt]

Continue being righteous. Be kind and respect others. But also learn how to protect yourself by avoiding bad things.

[@TRXLLGE]

True

[@Dr.A.Rosenberg]

As a single father of three boys , I was totally in shock after watching this video ! I also showed this to my son's school psychologist and she was also in a state of shock !

[@ursamajor6727]

Are you saying this true or not

[@user-tr3jw1df6q]

@@ursamajor6727 i think it’s true

[@Shellyshocked]

My pediatrician was Dr. Rosenberg 🤔

[@d4rkuniv3rse46]

Who cares

[@jennyclark6183]

Why?

[@what9107]

Parent: *yells at kid* Kid: *crys* Parent: “WHY ARE YOU CRYING?!” 😒

[@jdhrje]

😑😑😑

[@Babypig2007]

My mom told me it was rude to cry so I don't

[@itsyaz3484]

:o

[@itsyaz3484]

My

[@itsyaz3484]

My mom sometimes gets mad at me when I cry sometimes she is nice and cheers me up

[@thesmokinggamer8149]

Im a young parent my son is 4 and this actually was a huge eye opener for me and makes alot of sense

[@justblank11]

Irvin Perez I’m a kid and my Aunty is mean and my mom and dad are in California

[@crazyfournier2978]

finally a parent that actually listens

[@mjargunn4453]

I wish my mom had taught me this stuff. It's a bit too late now though. I'm over 12.

[@zerotweek3202]

Lucky son

[@algaebebe4421]

Atleast u have accpetance. parents don't even accept instead blame me for whatever goes wrong in d house even if the fault is theirs. Every child deserves some parent lyk u.

[@erminarahman8754]

I wish my parents and my teacher knew this stuff

[@ca-jengrootherder7562]

I think I related to all of these

[@prasadchinta1715]

Same.....

[@shijianil5043]

Me too

[@Cosmichellwolfy]

Same as a 6 year old I was shouted at every day for no reason at school and my mum used to slap me for doing something by accident

[@CrzFamily23]

I do too

[@naya9287]

My mom always tells me to communicate, but communicating is like exercising for me cause I'm an introvert

[@honesty7910]

I am parent of a 3 year old boy and I am grateful for watching this video at an early stage THANK YOU much needed! I am also on my spiritual awaking ❤️ If you are reading this Know that You are loved and you deserve everything your soul desires and know that you will get it.. let those negative thoughts go ❤️ they are not you . They only want to control you with fear, DONT let them!

[@efficiencyboy2458]

Is this the only adult that I can find in this whole comment section

[@rheapulido1096]

@@efficiencyboy2458 lol

[@rowanne7321]

I'm so glad a parent watched this because from my life and this comment section it seems like most parents teach these bad lessons so much. I'm only 14 but I've always known I am gonna be a mother, and I want to have all the knowledge I can about what's the best way to parent before I grow up and have a child. You're definitely on the right track and I'm confident that your child will turn out amazing! :)

[@SBaker83]

The "STOP CRYING!" Always makes me cry MORE! Thanks for this video, my mom does all of these

[@soggywaffles_02]

ikr

[@ca-jengrootherder7562]

Or the classic "I'll give you something to cry about "always lead to more crying

[@gachadaisy]

Same

[@_.tangerinee]

Yea one of my parents (not naming which one) said: STOP CRYING! In a loud, angry voice. And that made me even more sad because I thought: “Is crying bad?”

[@kaito6821]

Same...

[@natashaevsimon1441]

This video is such a blessing. All of these bad lessons was thought to my ex husband, which resulted in him turning into a Narcissistic Abuser and criminal. I sent this video to pre- schools and all secondary schools in Trinidad and Tobago. Thank you If they didn't know- Now they know !!!

[@bdlc592]

I’m in tears, and guilty of some bad decisions I’ve made. However, I would never send my child to bed without eating. Since my daughters passing, my only child, I tend to want to please my grandchildren and I’m guilty of taking away their phone or can’t play outside. It breaks my heart to see the wrong I’ve done. I’m going to work on me so I can be better. Thank you for sharing and the lesson. 😞

[@julioperalta3987]

Child : I failed a test, sorry:( Mother: At least you get an A for Effort ;) Child : Thanks :)

[@zumiii_]

"an A for Effort" what-

[@bellabluerose3212]

Aww!

[@pigeon.shr00m]

Wish this was true. Even tho i usually get high marks, like 19/20, my mom is like why did u get this? Be better!

[@jadeisla5421]

If only

[@ren.67]

Yes, this might be sweet, but do this too much and the kid will step on your head

[@kdmediachannel246]

This is the most important lesson everybody needs to learn. When I was growing up, I got scolded and punished too much. It didn’t improve my situation neither did the spankings. Yelling and hitting a child during aggression could be severe very horrible. I know this for a fact because I’ve been through this. When I have kids, things are going to be different

[@johnbrett3508]

Everything here I was taught. When I became a brat in my youth my parents wondered why I became that. Bad teachings create bad children.

[@Weirdo-gj7lj]

John Brett same :(

[@alexpretzel8234]

1:55 my dad saw me crying and has a problem he ask "why are you crying?" I said nothing and it looks like he doesn't cared🙁

[@-_prankster104kogama_-3]

Did he say it forceful or actaully in a asking way?

[@gamepixel5904]

Of course he wouldn’t with that grammar, toughen up wussy

[@zeezeecupidz]

@@-_prankster104kogama_-3 I remembered my mom told me to get out of her house cause I cried... She literally kicked me out of the house and left me traumatised 😔

[@sunshinethemaw]

@@gamepixel5904 Wow you can only express emotion with the correct grammar. Also you're one to talk, not using punctuation at the end of their sentences, one of the first things they teach you to do when writing at school!

[@ot7tannies332]

@@zeezeecupidz Aahhh armyyyy purple you 💜💛

[@techd7387]

My parents always tell me that they had a bad childhood and that I shoud be happy that I have what I have... But the point is that the things I have, they are not completly mine... Because I cant use those things when i do something wrong... Also when I want to tell my parents what bothers me when they yell at me and punis me, they just dont care!!! They say Im the bad and wrong person In my family!!!

[@jadeisla5421]

Aww, I'm sorry❤️ how old r u? I don't really have a relationship with my "parents" because we just met, I'm in foster care btw

[@Hamzaben710]

Why is this so relatable

[@loganbradd9472]

Ik how you feel

[@techd7387]

@@jadeisla5421 Hey! Im also sorry for your situation with parents. you didnt have your family days and I think that everybody should have those days.. I bet it was realy hard to meet your parents for the first time. Im 14 now, and things are still not better. in what situation are you now? How are your parents? were you happy when you met them? (Im sorry for my bad english)

[@jadeisla5421]

@@techd7387 oh cool, I'm 13, my mom, I had lived with before...she just was never fully there bc all of the dugs she did, and I haven't met my dad since I was little, because he's in jail now, I'm in a foster home now, I'm doin ok, kinda sad tbh, and I have contact with my mom, and also thx for asking

[@ananyabollu8596]

I just want to have a kid to show my parents that u can raise a kid with out constantly yelling at them and degrading them ! This totally ruins the relation !

[@NotnormLOL]

Agreed

[@lizmowrey9866]

Same

[@WolfyGirl2087]

Why, you should stand up for yourself. I’m a kid and I did it. It works veeeeeery well.

[@rhonwenwestern6562]

Around last year, my family from Ireland came to stay at ours for 2 days & brought his 3 kids with him. Whilst they were here the woman staying at ours literally told my 11 year cousin to move OFF the sofa so she can have that seat (she's not disabled or old). & I just looked at her & just said that he had just as much of a right to sit there as she does & that if she wanted a chair to sit on she'll have to get another chair by the table. I'm sick of people treating kids like they can just order them around for their own benefit.

[@kathleenmuchka2559]

emolgachu 37 And people wonder why they call us Rude Americans.

[@BaxxyNut]

Children should give up their seats for adults though. It teaches them to be kind to elders

[@rhonwenwestern6562]

Bax xtab No they shouldn't, not unless they're very old, disabled (like back problem or struggle to stand up for long) & when a woman is heavily pregnant. Otherwise why should you move if you're already sat at that seat? Ordering kids like that turns them into pushovers & not knowing when to say no, trust me, I'm that kid 😕

[@BaxxyNut]

emolgachu 37 It teaches the kid respect. So a 40 year old should sit on the floor while a 10 year old sits on the couch? That's how you raise entitled brats.

[@rhonwenwestern6562]

Bax xtab I agree about teaching kids to respect, but what about respect in return? Respect has got to be earned. It's not just a one way street, despite how old you are.

[@shannonduval4639]

I’m over blown with guilt right now I have a 5 year old and now a 18 year old I must have made every mistake in the book thank you for this

[@Ashenicky2009]

This video gave me anxiety. I remember a few of those bad lessons my parents used, especially when my dad would tell me and my brother that we weren't allowed to be mad at them cause we were the kids. And now I'm a parent. I started crying earlier because I snapped at my daughter for something that wasn't even that bad. Of course I hugged her tight and apologized for it. But it is definitely tough trying to raise them right, I don't really know how to do everything the right way.

[@bigboineptune9567]

It's good that you apologized. Many parents just flat out deny that they did any wrong.

[@krystalovinlife3305]

I commend you for apologizing to your daughter for being angry with her. I wish my parents had done that for me when growing up. It sounds like you're a loving, responsible parent who is just trying to do the right thing by your children. And that is truly awesome! Not a lot of parents these days own up to and admit that they make mistakes. We are all human, we are far from perfect and we will all make mistakes at one point or another. Letting your kids know that we're all human is the first, huge step in helping them to become confident and responsible adults one day. I truly wish more parents were like that! Just know that you're doing the best possible job you can. Parenting is far from easy. There's no manual or easy button, although I know all parents wish there was, lol! All you can do is your best, and when you do your best, that IS good enough! 🤗😊

[@looselipssyncships]

Just know you're not on your own

[@jerenemiller1468]

you are not alone there really isnt a perfect parent out there parenting is hard still learning everydau

[@sistershook5719]

Schools sucks

[@snipercow861]

Me: disagrees with mother Mother: STOP ARGUING WITH ME IM RIGHT

[@ca-jengrootherder7562]

Yup

[@avahamlincoln874]

I thought I was alone

[@fatemabegumurmi5407]

Yup

[@ItsSkyHighlights]

Also mother: 2+2=5

[@oofinguniverse4620]

Facts

[@jeromecarrier8094]

Have you ever wonder WHY they Don'T teach How to be a good parent at school....???? Fortunatly Bright Side is there... THANKS

[@andrewcrutchfield7773]

I think it is a good comment

[@alandaprice6131]

That's one good thing I have is confidence in the schools here CT for my children I've had to move here by force so I've made a way but is it too much in guessing? Hopefully not.

[@elyaenkie2299]

Jérôme Carrier appreciate it

[@onhitgames7570]

Actually public schools teach what those who are in control of the money want public citizens to learn in order to stay in control.

[@Bobxchen333]

Where would they teach it ? high school ? If you teach in high school, by the time they actually become parents they would have forgotten it all.

[@map_0076]

My parents always yell at me if my school teacher tries to talk about my bad behaviors at school.

[@jennyclark6183]

Then don't behave badly at school.

[@M1XEDBAG]

I just do the opposite of what my parents did..... Be there for my kid

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

ShiftingGear OTP Me, too. I’ll be there emotionally, and physically.

[@jadeisla5421]

Awww, I'm sorry❤️ I mean, at least u had parents...I'm in foster care

[@danistraveladventures5565]

Oof i feel bad for you i will like as prayer

[@danistraveladventures5565]

@Jade Isla what happened

[@ixxitobruh8790]

BRUH GIVE HIM LIKEES >:c

[@jerielkwok6755]

When I was a child, I felt I was too self-reliant, my parents had already so much past neglecting me, so I became very independent.

[@genevawhite6954]

Jeriel Kwok Nevi s child Called Ashley and Carrie

[@Rainbow_Butterfly]

When I was little, i was always told to hide my negative emotions until i was alone. Therefore in results in me having trust issues when it comes to talking about my personal feelings.

[@DarkMirria1]

Same.

[@johnphilipdetorres3951]

Same experience I had when I was a kid.

[@starrocks1785]

If only you could look at stuff from out point of view, you'd see how many mean things we've been called by parents.

[@xiao9350]

I feel guilty every time I remember my childhood because I lied so much wanting to please my dad...

[@tetrucedpm]

I wish my mom never would say " stop making a scene!! " when i cry , i just wanna cry more..

[@nicky9148]

I cannot & never could stand someone telling me something like this! Whether it was my Mom..Dad..Fiance' or Husband. I always felt invalidated with my feelings. Now I have grown up so to speak & I speak my mind..transparency..honesty..with my feelings & words. I have so much to give & so little time..it is so short that I do not waste it on B.S. anymore We are not guaranteed tomorrow.... ...so we should make the best of every day..as it comes & be grateful

[@tetrucedpm]

@Rubi Selwyn stop what?

[@Earthling.crybaby]

Me too

[@juianchan9708]

@Taing Sovannpanha ye

[@yuminglu8412]

Parents please I am just sad why can‘t I express it

[@tanan8304]

I think one thing parents shouldn’t do is force their children to hug or kiss people they don’t want to. They should be respectful, polite to them, but to teach consent at an early age is what I think should be done in this little way.

[@kathleenmuchka2559]

Excellent thought. You are so right. There may be good reason they don't want physical contact. Never be afraid to ask your child, "Does it make you uncomfortable to hug Aunt Greta?" Give them time. They will open up. Also, children should be made known that it is their body and no one is allowed to touch them unless they are comfortable with the situation.

[@BaxxyNut]

Hugging family members is expected

[@Dragonmoon98]

Because ordering a kid to make physical contact when they don't want to could yield some very, very bad results.....

[@tanan8304]

Bax xtab Kids should be expected to be respectful to family members not hug. It sounds extreme but many kids who are sexually abused don’t see it as abnormal because they think their family members are allowed to have physical contact with their bodies behind their control

[@BaxxyNut]

Tana Ngo Then teach them the difference? I don't see the problem with telling your child to hug their grandma.

[@AirElegant]

Kids are our mirror. What we do reflect how kids behave.

[@BaxxyNut]

Eh, you could be perfect and your kid would still make a ton of bad decisions.

[@user-rb7um2fm8n]

Air Elegant yes yea yes

[@purnimajoshi8457]

Well said

[@k.theartist3940]

That's something I don't think my sister understands. Her first son acts just like her when she was his age. And she was a total brat! How does she fix it? By yelling...

[@helio3928]

Bax xtab If you're perfect in parenting, they'll be perfect in life. Sure, they'll have their own personality but they'll be the best they can be. Don't underestimate the power of parenting.

[@4000mack]

Single dad with a 6-year-old. Although I think I'm doing a great job, I know there's so much to learn. This video encouraged me to reassess and focus on those things that's just slip by you.

[@maricondadua7674]

me: tells the truth my parents: angry yelling me: wants to live with no problem

[@user-ee5uu1wr5w]

relatable

[@patrickplays4530]

Same

[@sushilabhatt6973]

So relatable

[@sushilabhatt6973]

Does bright side not know we kids tell the truth and then what happens

[@edlynellezandra6472]

Same

[@soradarkness5031]

My Mom: “Because I said so!” “I know everything!” “Nothing is not an answer!” Me: “You need to stop saying that stuff, it’s making my self esteem and self confidence go down.”

[@ca-jengrootherder7562]

Most moms : don't talk back to me you live in my house yada yada yada ..... You know the drill

[@avahamlincoln874]

Yet they wonder why you don't express your emotions to them

[@Cereal0606]

Mom: Dont talk back! Its disrespectful! I am the parent you are the child! I have the rights while you have no rights!

[@rowanne7321]

@JAZMIN MORENO-ALEMAN yeah my dad hits me too when i cry.. he thinks im faking it to "manipulate him into forgiving me" but hes just screaming and hitting so much how can i not cry what-

[@memerminecraft3226]

@@Cereal0606 everyone has human rights, even 1-year-olds.

[@loiclejeune2877]

"they shouldn't let anyone force them to do something they don't want to do" yeah... school

[@amybarbee2881]

I feel your pain bud

[@jorm8126]

Agree

[@combatsjunklist6853]

i liked my old private school, but they forced me to go to public. I missed my old classmates :(

[@wanderingexoplanet]

@@combatsjunklist6853 you poor soul :(

[@user-tr3jw1df6q]

@Clayton Blakely there’s a thing on google that explains how homework is basically illegal (since it’s kinda slavery)

[@dendroslimes]

My mom taught me to do all of this, therefore i was the weird kid at school

[@Willinat]

Adding on to #8, if the child buys it with their own money, it’s theirs, they do not have to share

[@george_bungot]

if its a toddler and wants to borrow your $250 Nintendo Switch (Lets say) then breaks it, the parents will do nothing. you will just save again back to $250 Switch

[@Riya-zm7td]

my parents said if u live in this house its mine so i can take it away but if u live in ur own house then u keep it its urs like i bought it i-

[@thetruthhurts8139]

@@Riya-zm7td i use to hear that line when i was growing up and it's getting old now and outdated

[@leefelixsegg2666]

@@Riya-zm7td by that logic tho... Its wrong either way. Cuz they created us.

[@wavleoo]

Yes when I get birthday or Christmas money and buy things like chips or candy they force me to share

[@MichaelJayValueInvesting]

Don't tell a child they are perfect all the time! We need to understand our mistakes and learn from them.

[@129das]

but they are.

[@chantaywilliams5237]

Michael Jay - Value Investing H

[@ELPAT00N]

Please help me reach 1000 subs 😢 i do make funny videos

[@erikagreaney1606]

Michael Jay - Value Investing yep it's good you remember them

[@erikagreaney1606]

Tor Adejola same

[@meowmeowmeow1021]

*Points at car picture* _"You already have a bear. We're not buying this one."_

[@NotnormLOL]

drive

[@NotnormLOL]

CAR?

[@user-tr3jw1df6q]

@@NotnormLOL KZbin veteran

[@jdhrje]

I'm so freaking speechless abt ur mom.....

[@IDuolingoYT]

​@@jdhrje He is talking about Mother in the video

[@annawei4301]

I’m a divorced, mother of two. I only see them 1/2 the time so I try to do my best to get them what they like. Especially if it is something they are collecting like books etc.

[@clumsyptato2915]

Well I'm a kid and I wanna show this to my parents even my grandmother. She's sometimes like this.. 😓

[@angelaassain9450]

Same (expect for grandmother)but...I'm scared my mom will misunderstood then she'll be mad

[@lindakoimur3356]

@@angelaassain9450 Me too

[@narkify2]

If I showed this to my mother I would be set up for adoption.

[@spongebob1849]

Me too. My parents would be like whatever

[@shark-plays-babft]

Me tooo

[@justarandomperson1566]

This is so right no parent should do any of those to there child/children I'm a kid by the way 😡

[@badsponge8848]

Same

[@jotarowithagun1674]

ay me to

[@frankfromsubwaysurfers9530]

Same

[@pigeon.shr00m]

Me too, im a kid oof

[@renowens498]

grrrrr sMe

[@Delta_Aves]

I identify a lot with #2. When I was little, I was constantly yelled at by adults at home and school whenever I began tearing up, them saying I was acting like a baby or spoiled brat, or that I had only myself to blame for my problems. This caused me to forcefully plug up my tear ducts, and also led me in later years to make fun of other kids in school who were crying, which obviously didn't turn out for the best. Only recently did I start to accept that sadness and crying is a natural human emotion, not just for babies.

[@matthewlevine9787]

That's so right. I'm touched.

[@ilyCeline]

Wow.. mkay very smart lol

[@falisfarah4822]

Right crying is not just for babies

[@johnventura671]

@1717Dave . . . ALL EMOTIONS are part of human nature. No need for shame.

[@lorraineluther6133]

How am i going to express my feelings, mom doesn't understand, and i showed her this. What do I do?

[@stephaniegracemoneva2639]

This gives me a lot of lessons. This made me say sorry to my 4 year old toddler tonight and hugged her again and again tightly while sleeping. There are some things I'm doing it wrongly. This is an eye opener for me. wew! thanks bright side.

[@joannab.3689]

My mom has taught me everything bad it shows specialy the one when I am crying she ignores and now I always say to myself I am the mistake for everything and I'm over thinking...THANK GOD I DON'T LISTEN TO HER AND NOW I AM INDEPENDENT AND STRONG😡

[@_tyrell_Higman]

😓

[@deentunis454]

Bravo buddy, bravo

[@paulcvlogsandgames5323]

YOU GO.

[@meowmeowmeow1021]

ahem- *thank you for your time*

[@zerotweek3202]

Just dont forget fully about your parents please..

[@NOONE-cd4gu]

Im crying right now because my mom always used to do this mistakes when i was a kid. Or ax a punishment she would slap me and forbidd me to go out with friends for a week. I always had a feeling they were wrong. And im glad now im grown up and know what is right and what is wrong

[@bigboineptune9567]

Be glad you have friends to go out with.

[@NOONE-cd4gu]

Big Boi Neptune yeah. I only have 2 friends. But at least i do

[@steve154life]

Or goe to a friend house because I thought shi said OK but didn't mean @dat time do I git spanked wit a hair brush bristle down

[@steve154life]

Or shi would say brought ü in thiz World I can take u out

[@MrAmogill]

So in the end end, their parenting worked?

[@charlie8949]

Some of these made me almost cry. My parents didn't teach me that well, and I see how now

[@narii_.]

Parents: *yelling at kids* Kids: *cries* Also parents: WHY ARE YOU CRYING?!? 🙄

[@thealextrifier]

My mom taught me pretty much all these bad lessons. and because of that i had such a miserable childhood. this video makes absolute sense. I will share it with my friends who are parents & parents to be. Thank you so much.

[@mahamkhalid3852]

Same here😥

[@laurenspring1628]

Agree

[@emilijabogvilaite9436]

Same 😭

[@bugstarwarriorcats8933]

I’m living it right now, I’m 9 and like half of my toys have been broken because a 5 year old wanted it. R.I.P 🦄

[@adonnabrons2213]

The first 3 bad lessons really clicked with me.(or at lest the effects on the child.)

[@friskdeterminationdreemurr3023]

Im not a parent im a child but this is helpful for when i grow older

[@kathleenmuchka2559]

Frisk Determination you will go far in life. Your curiosity about this subject shows that you are a problem solver wishing to strengthen your own skills or to help others with theirs.

[@friskdeterminationdreemurr3023]

Kathleen Muchka thanks

[@friskdeterminationdreemurr3023]

doger 1up5 im 11 too XD

[@diala4975]

true :3... I am only 11 ;-;

[@mofozzulchoudhury]

Same here

[@Diamondxx31]

Wow. That explains why I am the way I am. Parents, step up ya game. COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CHILD!!!!

[@Jbjbbibi]

Nö

[@gracieregalado7697]

Diamond Bunnie

[@devonoknabo2582]

@@Jbjbbibi what does Nuh Or Nö Mean?

[@seand.g423]

@@devonoknabo2582 long story: depends on just _what_ you "communicate".

[@rubanabut9044]

Ya man

[@_Hunterall]

As I was listening I looked back on my childhood and you literally hit every nail on the head I am so grateful I was able to teach my children different than what I learned

[@tywalton6283]

3:22 Okay he just broke his hockey stick why are u gonna yell at hin

[@ACBeats09]

@@george_bungot шhу

[@sskpdy1]

but there are parents like yelling at their children just for sneezing in front of some important respected persons

[@janellewright3830]

@@george_bungot thats toxic

[@aquariumfish-i4h]

@@janellewright3830 what did he say?

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

Parents need to teach their children that mistakes are okay otherwise the children will become perfectionist.

[@johnbrett3508]

That’s what happened to me. I am still a perfectionist even in my adulthood.

[@internetdude4433]

UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS no you are so epic

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

Joaquin Sanchez you are an awesome person! All people have equal value regardless of if it's a homeless person or the president, we are all the same. You are worthy and deserve to feel good about yourself.

[@jam5533]

I'm a perfectionist because I used to be abused for a lot of petty stuff. I'd developed a lot of disorders like PTSD, but I always try to keep myself positive and happy. I want to help everyone out too.

[@laurenspring1628]

That is what happened to me. I am 17, and my parents always put pressure on me. Especially in school. I want to be a musician, and I also get super nervous for auditions and performances because I want things to be perfect. You can thank my strict, overprotective parents for that. #firstgenerationmusician

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

One time my sister came to my parents saying that she was bored, and they said she was spoiled. Even I was offended. They give her all of these electronics, and then they claim she’s spoiled. Um, who’s doing the spoiling?

[@MelB868]

She just wants them to spend time with her that is all.

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

Mel B I know, and they couldn’t. They never had enough time to hang with us. They did it, but it wasn’t enough.

[@aquariumfish-i4h]

Weird parents WHAT MAKES PARENTS SO ANNOYING?????!

[@mszafran51]

I wish I was treated like this! I’m an education major so I teach these lessons to other kids. All these information actually makes perfect sense to me!

[@Rosielyn115]

Same

[@CuriosityCulture]

I'm just terrified by parents who just let their kids stay on the phone at the age of 2. Makes me cringe.

[@slimelover6492]

Harshil Patel what do you mean

[@mm4l81]

SO ME!😂😂😂

[@berryallen2455]

Same here. My neighbour is seven, has devorsed parents, a bunk bed, two bedrooms, two phones, a tablet and a computer. I tend to avoid her, not only beacause of that, I'm just kind of scared of children.. XD

[@mm4l81]

Berry Allen MEEEE 😂😂😂

[@joelr8539]

I dont see it as bad. They are the generation that will grow up with vast amounts of high tech which will be used in education and in the workplace. Thats actually good that they learn that at an early age.

[@nightspectre8756]

It pisses me off when parents send there kids to bed hungry, its a form deprivation

[@MelB868]

Harbringer that is abuse if someone does that.

[@nightspectre8756]

Mel B, Thats a common punishment

[@jahzara2431]

@@MelB868 my parents do snacks about 2 hours after each meal so if we dont behave she takes some away.

[@mendedheart5531]

For the most part I agree that sending a child to bed hungry is not a suitable punishment, but I do believe in one exception, being when the child is being a picky eater. In this case it is less of a punishment and more of a natural consequence. In this case, it is entirely on the child whether or not they go to bed hungry. If they truly don't want to eat what is in front of them, they don't have to eat it, but they'll have deal with being hungry. At any point they can choose to eat what they've been given, but they won't be offered anything else until the next scheduled meal time. I'm not a parent, but I have been a nanny and the tactic works. If a 3 year old refuses to finish her lunch but then asks for a snack an hour later, I presented her with what remained of her lunch, which I would have saved in the fridge. I think a major bad lesson is teaching kids that if they won't eat their broccoli they will be rewarded with mac'n'cheese.

[@johnm3082]

Medieval

[@zoequincey-trope4667]

When I was a kid, my parents were unskilled at parenting in so many factors. The pain they unknowingly left me is still there in me and it has been here for so long that I wanted to take revenge, not hurting my family, but to prevent the same situation from happening to my future child. This video helps a lot though.

[@krabbi_patti]

Also you should include excuses for younger siblings like "He's only 4!" or "You're 12, be responsible!" These excuses are extremely toxic and all they teach to kids is that younger siblings get away with everything.

[@readdescription4132]

For real. Sometimes parents expect the big siblings to be perfect when they’re just human themselves. There have been moments when my older sister was accused too much for how we acted (she’s the oldest) and being a middle child I would sometimes get too much blame about the example I was setting for my little sister. Though my parents have been fair to me on the whole.

[@hiimsomehowstillalive8333]

3:40 Have you met my little brother? He doesn't stay, he runs away. He isn't even a baby anymore. He drives me crazy.

[@classyxcat4953]

My younger sister will actually scream for no reason or tell me to pinch or hurt her so I'll get blamed on 🤠 So even if I taught her this, she'll never be able to get it inside her non-existent brain 😃

[@lolliii5477]

mine one's brother's the same.

[@secretaccountcouldbe]

My school years were horrible, I got bullied and when I told my teachers they just said: stop telling tales

[@bastyalc7966]

Same to

[@catcream6525]

If your getting bullied and no body cares you need to learn how to fight and show them how the strongest in this school

[@ca-jengrootherder7562]

Hey still in school nowadays most kids who are bullied just say nothing and hope it resolves itself

[@ca-jengrootherder7562]

It does not

[@miguelmallari3114]

@@catcream6525 When i did this, I broke a bullies ankle because of taking self defence way too far and got in big trouble

[@littlemissnoname388]

I express my emotions through drawing and I get suspended for it, I was only drawing a human crying to show how I feel!!! So is not ok to show emotions in any way I get in more trouble then someone who gets in a fistfight!!

[@NotnormLOL]

As you live in the United States of America, there are private schools in different cities and states. Wen kids are mean tell the teacher. When teachers do not trust, tell me and who there names are. And by the way you should check out the mean emoji

[@jinius573]

I'm 13 and i want to be a parent so thx for this i will try to remember in 10 years

[@yevgeniyabursali2578]

Remember

[@dylanpippin1975]

Always be fair to kids someday they will pass it on to there own

[@jellyhopkinshopkins3694]

Always tell my kids that they should treat people the way that they want to be treated

[@ninjab.4057]

When I was like... 3, I would share my favorite toy to other kids, and they stole it. Then my mom has to come and yank it out from their hands lol.

[@ca-jengrootherder7562]

Well that will teach them

[@lusharaafton1081]

School tried to steal my teddy bear, when my parents caught wind, they ripped them a new hole.

[@runeblanche]

When I was 2 I was at nursery and I had this toy hammer I absolutely adored. One of the nursery teachers forced me to let my let’s say “frenemy” (I know that sounds weird for 2 year olds but nvm) play with it. I really didn’t want to but had no choice. I never got that hammer back...

[@jitensmail2309]

When I was Grade 4 at Break time I said to my best friend I am going to the washroom Don't eat my tiffin and Don't let anyone eat it I will give you too but after I come back, Then My friend said Imma come with you I said Ok? But what about my tiffin My friend nah it should be fine Then my friend ( She is just a half friend ) Ate my tiffin when we were in the washrooms

[@brendaakinyi7104]

This is sooo great..I'm going to listen again and write notes ..I love kids. .I'm just a young girl.a teacher hoping to give kids a great experience

[@MissesSuperSpaz]

I was taught growing up to be nice to everyone even if they were mean to me and I was always taught to share even if it was unfair. As an adult I struggle with self-worth I've had bosses completely take advantage of my kindness, I've even had bosses be extremely rude to me to my face in front of other people and I just took it. Not to mention I've had old friends who are no longer friends with take extreme advantage of my kindness. I'm struggling as an adult to say no and put my foot down and to know I am worth something and I don't have to please everybody.

[@selahmoney]

There is a book called "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud and [something else] Townsend. It provides great insight into how to establish healthy boundaries in your life and what it looks and feels like when you don't have those healthy boundaries in place. It's a long book, but worth it!! And there is an audio book, so give it a try.

[@minisingh29]

Ditto

[@arriannaniv]

Exactly! Lessons they need. If something is yours, you choose when you share it, and when you stop. If it’s someone else’s they get to choose. Lastly if it’s shared property and you don’t want to share anymore you walk away.

[@alyssa_faith]

Monica Santoro I think people need to be _more_ selfish

[@frostedfox8813]

Same 😭😢

[@ismailkamali2307]

I want my mom to watch this She never spends quality time with me 😢 It’s always cooking cleaning sitting and phone

[@NotnormLOL]

You can hang out with ur friends online, replying to comments are kinda like chatting online. And plus that 70% goes with me.

[@its_rose531]

@@NotnormLOL true my parents always have work and when they come home I don't tell them to spend time with me cuz I want them to spend the time for themselves so thats why I downloaded discord it's pretty helpful for me

[@TheAmazingCrackhead]

thats the same with my mom

[@divinanix2355]

My mom also has the same attitude.

[@lolliii5477]

prettt sh!7 right?

[@ultramancosmosgirl3569]

#3 and #8 is something I experienced a lot as a kid. Being the first kid in the family, not only my parents, but also the whole family expected so much of me and wants me to fulfill those expectations, even my real name speaks expectations, thus turning me into a people pleaser at a very young age. When I'm getting closer to adulthood, I can slowly feel the effect of what these kinda upbringing can do. I felt so unfulfilled in my life because I spent those early years pleasing others and not having my basic needs fulfilled, I also tend to avoid people because I don't want 'more mouths to feed' and in the process, I lack empathy for others, not only because I distanced myself, but also because since all I've been doing was fulfilling other people's needs, I couldn't grasp the basic understanding on why do they need my help in the first place? Subconsciously I feel that if I can do it, then so should they without my help, making it hard for me to form emotional connection and respect for others. Honestly, deep down I believe that I'm already a lost cause. I'm already reaching adulthood and my life is full of never ending depression and anger caused by the people all around me. I don't know if it'll be possible for me to ever start trusting others thanks to my upbringing, but while I at least still have the empathy to not let what happened to me, happens to you or any other generation, please take it seriously when I said... "DON'T BURDEN YOUR KIDS WITH YOUR EXPECTATIONS, THEY FEEL BURDENED ENOUGH WITH THEIR OWN" having a kid is an important decision, I suggest to not have a kid if you're not ready to accept what will become to them if something goes wrong. Remember, a children is your product of love, do you really want your product of love to be a sack full of depressed feeling and contempt towards the world like what I've become because of the many unfulfilled expectations? Know the limit and keep in mind that your children is not an object to fulfill your expectations, see them fulfill theirs, and be proud of them for doing so is all I wanna say.

[@gastonadrien2692]

Same I’m a sack of sadness, I don’t belong in this world anymore.

[@aknshab9874]

I think we share the first same name I can partially resonate with your long tirade Though i think they had balanced expectations.😅

[@silvia7060]

Today at school I got bullied from a child called Faye and she upset me I cried 😭

[@jellyhopkinshopkins3694]

I always tell my kids that they can talk to me about anything and they are little adults now and they know that they can talk about anything to me

[@ca-jengrootherder7562]

That's great it's important that they know they can come to you

[@dylansmith6537]

When it comes to that first lesson, I have a phrase for that from personal experience. “Better to be a snitch than a troublemaker”. That’s my motto.

[@gAm3r_GuRl984]

I’m 12 and I am watching this. This could be helpful when I become a mother someday.

[@smitham.k4055]

Me too

[@louisenicksonduffy2708]

Same

[@jdhrje]

Same,if my wife is acting like this in the future,i definally stop my wife and let me handle it

[@kittycat-zu9vg]

Well I'm 9

[@riekenfamilyalbum5832]

this could help me be a dad

[@Itsss_Artsyy]

If your parent says DONT CRY when your crying it makes you more sad because they don't care about what happened and they don't want to hear it

[@raimonamalone1247]

Thanks for the video. After four children,I realized that kids are miniature adults with minds and feelings of their own. I really appreciate this video and find all of these tips so very helpful in my desire to be a more effective parent.

[@gabriellee.4152]

Me: *sees the second bad thing* Also me: *MOM DON'T DO THIS TO ME, ITS BAD* 😉😚

[@justblank11]

Same

[@poptasticanimation55]

#2 I got to tell my mom to stop doing this to the kids. I've argued with her about my sons tantrums bothering her and her being selfish about how it makes HER FEEL

[@ashokd.k.5296]

I am a child and I have been watching your videos since 2weeks and the bad lesson #6 broke my heart. It touched my emotion .

[@sonnarutodragoneel2431]

When I was younger, I wasn't spoiled, while I was growing up in a family wealthier than others, we didn't get what we wanted all the time, but when I wanted to get something really expensive, I usually wait until my birthday or Christmas, and usually make that my only gift.

[@Isisbridge]

"Stop that crying or I'll give you something to cry FOR!"

[@mclinnthomasmagbanua4615]

:me crys and gets grounded

[@mclinnthomasmagbanua4615]

Ok

[@youtuber6009]

Same!!

[@dracomalfoy531]

I started crying at random points throughout the day because of ptsd flashbacks and was asked HoW oLd ArE yOu

[@dracomalfoy531]

I was eight

[@SomeTarnished]

Reason 4 made me happy. Sadly, reason 8 at the end is what I am, a person pleaser, I do task for lost of people 😰

[@arukittycat9655]

i am so lucky my parents say its ok when i break things and if i fail on my test they say its ok too they love me so much

[@theidioticsot5283]

My parents will just straight get angry at me when I do those things They don't love me that much

[@yez9475]

Same

[@alishathapar2744]

Oh um cool

[@rishiii8t814]

I get why my parents where so amazing, they taught me none of these lessons and where very patient and understanding.

[@Shadowman9348]

Lucky you.

[@MM-wg9qc]

same

[@cat26woo53]

Same! Except for the negative punishment. I am still a minor, so hopefully it never happens again.

[@tamirlapidus6994]

That's extremely lucky

[@justarandomuser650]

*moms says I watch what ever you watch* *_watches this on PURPOSE_* oops XD

[@ca-jengrootherder7562]

Oops 😂

[@rayyanmohammedhussain7483]

When I get average Parents: meh better luck next time

[@Brittany-cj9lx]

I just recently found out I'm pregnant with my 1st child. I'm scared because I want to do what's best. My family crazy so I dont want my child to have the bad behaviors like my family. Thank you for this video.

[@charliee9920]

Great video!, I suggest to add that the original approaches are the ones that have been passed on throughout the years. Thankfully, we’re at a time where they may no longer be relevant thanks to our study and understanding of behavioral psychology. Sharing the information is great, but incomplete without an analysis of where the prior way stems from, in doing so people being informed won’t grow grudges because they can’t comprehend “why” their parents disciplined them this way.

[@sparklyloveyou20]

73 of the ppl who disliked this video support negative punishment I DON'T!!!

[@thatonerandomguy3953]

I wouldn't exactly say it like that, but truth is "I'm A pArEnT, i KnOw BeSt FoR mY cHiLdReN", is way too common of a mentality.

[@GhostofTheUchiha22]

Yes your right!

[@yanmateo7600]

You mean 1.2K

[@lonewanderer5529]

Being a parent can make you feel proud and happy, but it can also be a big responsibility! That's why this video gave you these safety tips!

[@Rose-op3oq]

Me: tries to tell my dad what happened My dad: screams over what I say right when I try to say it

[@thegamermoments4430]

Me: mom!!! Im Bleeding.:(!!!! Me: mom lets go to hospital it hurts so much!! Mom: its cuz that phone me: *dies* Mom: _its because that PHONE_

[@bellabluerose3212]

I swear that most moms are like that -_-

[@julietmendonsa4723]

@@bellabluerose3212 seriously yeh

[@deadchannel2844]

XD

[@Dranshusaini]

Ya I don't know why parents thinks all negative things that's happening with us because of the phone

[@pigeon.shr00m]

Yes my dude