8 Rules of Engagement When Dating A Man!

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[@StephaniesWorld7]

Rules of Engagement: 1) You will never understand a man 2) You can’t believe nothing a man says till you see it with your own eyes, you can’t believe nothing a man says. 3) When you dealing with a man you have to know who you are. Know who you are and what you want. -Don’t be going with the flow with a man; you have to have a plan for you 4) You got to be tough with men; you got to be strong -You must be assertive; When you dealing with a man your no got to be no and your yes got to be yes -You got to speak your mind and got to be strong with it 5) Be emotionally intelligent -When you dealing with a man you have to be cool, calm, and collected 6) You got to have you a face -You have to have a look or response that a man can sense, that he can feel -This goes hand and hand with Rule #5 7) Understand the difference between forgiveness and foolishness -When you dealing with a man, a man is going do something that’s going to need forgiveness -This goes back to Rule #3 about you knowing yourself because a man is going to test you because he looking for the easier route and he’s going to test you on little things -You cannot give a man your mind; You can’t let him control you and pull jedi mind tricks on you -You have to know your dealbreakers 8) You got to have a timeline -You got to know when you got to go

[@joi5787]

Stephanie Ducatel Thanks Sis for writing it down😘..: be blessed

[@girlwakeuppodcast4622]

Thank you!

[@taneshatate8238]

Thanks!

[@tiphcollins2002]

Thank you!

[@StephaniesWorld7]

You welcome Ladies, we really need this

[@gigibrown_wright]

Have a plan, have boundaries, have standards or you’ll be floating in the wind..

[@melaniegonzalezart8506]

Nicely worded recap sis!!

[@sellac.1569]

Just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you have to be with them.

[@ebonytoilesechandler7679]

Yes, so true..

[@legal_beagle5294]

My Bishop told us, “You have to forgive, but you don’t have to rebuild!”

[@andriantaylor4166]

So so true

[@nicolelagamo11]

Forgiveness is never about the other person it's always done for you so you can be free 🙏🏽

[@sellac.1569]

@@nicolelagamo11 I forgive to relinquish the power and authority of my life 🙌🏾

[@Dr.Elaine1]

"This is less about understanding a man, and more about understanding yourself and who you need to be as a woman with this man." TG

[@margyiphillips4931]

Women are moved by what they hear Men are moved by what they see. Women are auditory. Men are visual.

[@Dr.Elaine1]

That’s exactly how we are! So, to understand the other, women should be visual and men should be auditory.

[@kenishalperkins]

That’s it right there 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@missmarymack3457]

Margy I Phillips true

[@prettycaramel9237]

Funny....men are moved by what they see, and women by what they hear. However, to vet properly, men need to HEAR....pay attention to what she says, and women need to SEE/WATCH how he moves. What we need to pay attention to is reversed in a sense.

[@aneshrathomas]

Deep! This so true..learned from my mistakes 👏🏾

[@kenishalperkins]

Every time a man told me his ex cheated I never fully believed it. They use this one A LOT !!

[@chynadoll77cyn59]

Thank you 🙏🏾 I’m like you my side is up ! Especially if you have four baby mama and five kids. You mean to tell me now one of them work . But their some thristy woman 👩🏾 out here. Smh the power of the P is real😻n 🍆. You hearrr me

[@gd2528]

Yeah, that's the oldest lie in the book. And oftentimes once the relationship is over, the woman reconnects with the ex and finds out that everything he told her was a lie. 🙄

[@salomeyul]

Even if it's true, there's no need to tell his dates about that stuff. Reasons why they come up with that one: -to manipulate women into trying to be better and do whatever to reassure him. -to trigger feelings of being protective in women -because they haven't healed from the cheating, so why the h is he dating? There is NO good reason to bring this one up.

[@kenishalperkins]

Mariana Julve sooo true !! Once they mention this we give them automatic sympathy and free passes on poor behavior. They know exactly what they’re doing 😏

[@kenishalperkins]

Gold Digger EVERYTIME 😔😔😔 !!

[@natashafreeman2220]

First rule is to always keep a pair running shoes on standby. That way you can run like heck without Notice when you Need to. He won’t even notice you left for a minute because you ran so fast.

[@TheSacredRoomWithLadyT]

Yes Mam!!!

[@Eyvette112]

Lol

[@mahletalem]

😂😂😂

[@Snow-fy5wv]

Lol true

[@charlettwashington711]

❤️ this 🙏🏽.

[@preciousruby7265]

Ladies, God created us for greatness, it's time to walk in that greatness. God gave us our identity not man. Find your identity in Christ before latching onto a man.

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Amen

[@remainhumble6654]

Amen...well said🎀

[@TheSacredRoomWithLadyT]

Amen!!!

[@vhayashi7369]

Tony said "The world is Suffering due to the games that men play." That's the Truth! So Sad!!! Ladies we need to take our power BACK!

[@KrystleLaughter]

Understanding yourself and who you need to be, is more important then understanding a man.

[@RocSkater09]

My dude said "I was born yesterday but I was up all night!!!" 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 I felt that in my spirit.

[@Channyb89]

😂😂😂😂💀

[@nikkyshamz2696]

😂🤣😂🤣

[@kenishalperkins]

Fell all the way out 😂

[@jacqueline9575]

😫🤣😂🤣

[@kenishalperkins]

“Yoga is a SPIRIT- TAH” 😂😂😂

[@cindthorpe]

I believe these are all, maybe worded differently. Some great rules. Thanks Tony! 1. You will never understand a man 2. See to believe 3. Know what you want 4. Be assertive 5. Be emotionally intelligent 6. Have a intolerance for nonsense 7. Forgive but don't be foolish 8. Timeline for growth

[@444LAAH]

Thanks

[@Bgrace15]

Listen. I was on the floooooor when he started mouthing what men see when other men talk. I was eating and looked up at the screen and almost choked 🤣😂😂😂 got it! Never believe anything a man says unless you see it 👊🏽

[@hollaachagurl92]

I was weak!!! 😂😂😂

[@coachnatishamommatish185]

Happy Wednesday Sugas😘💓

[@coachnatishamommatish185]

🤣🤣🤣

[@driaannbull]

🤣🤣🤣

[@iyolaagard784]

True LOL!

[@cheekscheeks5840]

TRUST GOD in everything period

[@coachnatishamommatish185]

Amen

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Trust God and use wisdom he gives us when dealing with humans.

[@jacqueline9575]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@ShesGottaFastCar]

You gotta know who you are and Imma add you gotta not be afraid to voice it no matter the response. Never be afraid to walk away.

[@dimediamond]

Bulls eye

[@missmarymack3457]

Hey Ms Inga!!! Yes indeed

[@cheekscheeks5840]

Believe nothing until u see it FACTS.... don’t want to hear nothing SHOW ME

[@coachnatishamommatish185]

ACTIONS SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS!!! Amen sis. 👑💃

[@sotoon2219]

Tony broke it all the way dooooown!! We’re not made to understand the opposite sex. Know who you are and believe things when you see it.

[@preciousruby7265]

I'm learning to put ALL my expectations and trust in God. God has never lost a battle. Gotta stay on the winning team. Tony thanks again for the nuggets. May God continue to keep and bless you.

[@terridlamini5540]

Stay on the winning team... I love it🙌

[@montricec8795]

You are telling the truth!! I told this female what her "boyfriend" said to me and she asked me to spend her proof. I sent her all kinds of text/calls and she still believed him! Men lie like rugs, but there are women out there who believe them.

[@dimediamond]

Gurl..... These women ALWAYS believe there man. I wouldn't have gave NO Proof. Waste of time.

[@rwalker4631]

“Lie like rugs”... I love that!!

[@ysmithriley]

Hope she's no longer your friend.

[@Arizona_lilly]

Y did you waste your time lol a woman rp

[@KrystleLaughter]

Know the difference between forgiveness and foolishness.

[@cheekscheeks5840]

Cheating and everything else is a personal choice can’t play the blame game you have choices to either to good or evil period ..... FREE WILL

[@LisaGemini]

Amen. As the Bible says, God will give you the means to fight temptation if you let Him.

[@shannonstrickland9605]

Women must know who we are before getting involved with a man! God Bless you Tony. That was a real Gem. Keep teaching brother.

[@kimsmith819]

Definitely agree! 💜💙💚💛

[@lebradavis8447]

Thankyoooooooooooo for the topic that I begged you for " Rules of Engagement ". Omg thank you so much!!!

[@tammyrichardson2553]

Dr. Tony & Sis. Sheri, The Lord led me to your Book on Tuesday 6/23/20. I just experienced the heart break and I was online to order the Devon Franklin's book about understanding men. However, the cover of "A Woman's Influence" came up on the bottom as another book with the same topic. I prayed and asked the Holy Spirit which book will help me most and to direct me to help for my heart. He said, "A Woman's Influence." I promise you I cried halfway through about six chapters...but my tears washed away toxic intakes that was meant for heart disease, mental illness and internal ruptures, BUT God! I never saw or heard about y'all before in my life, but God made us family. I appreciate your YES to God and yes to each other...God put y'all together to keep us women together! Thank you for obeying God. All week I've been inundated with your videos and God has continued my healing. I just thank God for you & Sis. Sheri, what a blessing!!!💕

[@vickykells5416]

Same thing with me, I am yet to Start reading A woman’s influence ( I bought it), but I find his videos healing. When I listen to him I am uplifted and want to hear more. I wish I knew him in my early 20s. Now in my In the 30s, but it’s never too late to re-learn. I plan to enrol myself in one of his many courses too, one step at a time. I hope you are doing fine. Stay bless sis ❤️. Thank you Mr Tony, may God bless you and your wife.

[@afrozeahmed6515]

Im recently broken up from my fiance-he had anger issues and didnt like it if I disagreed with him,he wanted a doormat and thought he could transform me into one!Thank You God and my Daddy for not allowing that grown boy to transform me into a quiet woman who tolerates disrespect/bad suggestions.He wanted blind obedience-U never get blind obedience,you are a man NOT God.I stood my ground and I didnt know Tony Gaskins then.Miraculously I found this channel 1week after the break and I am validated constantly by wat Tony is saying!Ladies we have a voice!Speak your mind,never let someone even try to control you by making you feel bad for their inadequacies!You are an equal partner in a relationship.I thank God for my Daddy and for bringing me up in a way where I have opinions and suggestions and that they are welcome by a confident secure man!

[@mihaelag.2011]

Good for you! You are right, i experienced this!

[@PrettyReddTheDoula]

My friends can't understand why I 💨💨💨💨 so fast. I DO NOT PLAY.

[@stesfai]

"Melted ice cream trucks???" I am dying over here...😂😂😂😂

[@khakimay1505]

Had to pause for a bit and laugh🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 "STUPIT"

[@josiechante]

You're not rambling at all! This is real education that we can't get anywhere else. Thank you🙏🏽

[@Gloria_All_Day]

My ex-husband was a narcissist. None of these works with someone who has a mental health problem.

[@OctaviaMonique2]

Yea my baby father is one too the only answer for them is to get away keep distance!

[@Shanice1]

Time To UNLEARN To RE-LEARN! Be Blessed!

[@missmarymack3457]

I like that

[@Mosthigh14]

You right on this my brother. I needed to hear this as a man. Just went through something with my fiance😔 I got to be holy

[@cheekscheeks5840]

Silence is better .... I made a suggestion and he stop talking to me smh 🤔 I just put my track shoes on smh

[@Lifepureandluminous]

Had that happen to me to sis.

[@agnespoku4993]

Reporting for class!

[@angiedee5124]

Lol otherwise you're going to be touring in an RV while he playing in a band for $100 a night 😂

[@iyolaagard784]

lol! That was so funny...lol

[@angiedee5124]

@@iyolaagard784 lol cracked me up

[@missmarymack3457]

But he be telling the truth tho lol 😂

[@angiedee5124]

@@missmarymack3457 😂😂

[@Arizona_lilly]

Hahhahahahaha

[@RocSkater09]

Its gon get real when Tony saying he coming off the top of the dome 🤯

[@missmarymack3457]

Yeeeeees

[@patriciawatkins8248]

I had a guy tell me- Don't be checking him everytime he says something to me. The problem is he was always playing mind games. I have known him for 20 years. He could not fool me!!! Lol

[@suzanne5971]

Tony, thank you. I am back into the dating scene after 34 years of marriage between my two husbands. I have taken a year off to heal and get to know who I am, and to learn to like being solo...I don’t NEED a man anymore. Your videos came at the right time. I have learned so much from you. I am. 61 year old white woman, and you are speaking truth, and I appreciate the info. Thank you, Sir.

[@lizzylewis5793]

You can add car dealerships/salesman to that list too. Ladies, If you dont take no man with you they will take advantage of you everytime. I learned the hard way... Never again

[@nessparadis6948]

They didn’t play that game with me. I came prepared, and I got the car for less than they bargained. I think they were very happy to see me leave when I got the car. 😂

[@soothingtemples9393]

LizzyLewis: Armed with a smile, soft voice and a plan bought a new car for hundreds less than factory wholesale due to new salesman error. Two months later filed and won a lawsuit against dealership and regional manager for harassment after sale. Free car plus gas money for the year! They gon learn today! "Look me up Coach Francesca at your service."

[@11071874]

Didn’t take a man with me neither time I bought vehicles. I knew my credit score and I knew what Kelly Blue book said. I also knew what the credit union said what I was suppose to pay. I stood my ground. Got what I wanted.

[@_yvonnesworld_]

Bro Tony with another great video.. It will be that one person "Tony I told my boyfriend you said I shouldn't believe anything you say, and he ghosted me". Girl he didn't say tell him, what ever your boyfriend/potential boyfriend tells you just nod and watch him with your (third eye) instinct.

[@marlinshanklin1855]

If I was in a relationship with a woman that called my stupid or dumb. I would leave not get mad and l wouldn't cheat on her or any other foolishness. A man doesn't display passive aggressive behavior like cheating or plotting revenge.

[@kateenatyner-moore1478]

Hey. I guess men are designed to know how to seperate their feelings from what they HAVE to do. I never looked at it like that. You are great at explaining things. I have REALLY learned a LOT from you. I wish I had this message earlier in my age. But hey, better late than never. So thank you, Tony.

[@sylvialawrence5422]

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[@oliviahatchett9334]

I don’t even know Mrs. Gaskins, but I love her lol.

[@lerhondajones-bates3324]

Lol, ikr 🤗

[@GenesisAlfons]

shes the best! ❤️

[@nakiawright7213]

Class has begun! 🥰

[@Bgrace15]

Yassssss this one is some serious stuff 🗒🖋

[@lediawhiteside9964]

Ladies, Let’s be wise in relationships. God bless Mr. Tony and Family 🙏

[@KO-bo9fu]

9:50 Wow! I literally was just telling my friend this. If you go with the flow that means you have no sense of direction and what can happen is you wake up one day and realize that you aren't where you wanna be and you're doing things you didn't think you would do because you didn't set boundaries and didn't make what you want from a relationship known (and stuck to those things).

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Your wife is my Spirit human, I was just raised to never accept anything I dont want, and il tell you once,if I like you il tell you thrice then I'm out. I know what I'm bringing to the table so I'm definately not afraid to eat alone, I feel if u wanna keep trying me after I've communicated my expectations, then you dont respect me so il remove myself from your life quietly.

[@NurseMo337]

💀when he shows how men listen to men😂😂

[@angelaoden3359]

I was born yesterday but I stayed up all night 😂. Love your honesty and humor

[@theresaprice310]

Looks like we’re gonna be alone unless we settle 🙏🏾🧐

[@nothing2lose428]

Forreals

[@erickaj7373]

THIS has helped me understand A LOT in hindsight. I will listen to this again in a few hours. PLEASE do the continuation of this!

[@lerhondajones-bates3324]

Ikr...I NEEDED THIS 30yrs ago...smh...oh well, it's not SOOOO bad being single 🙄

[@ShesGottaFastCar]

The Queen was collecting baseline data in the beginning to see what she needed to check you on. Go Queen!!!

[@CarolynHayes74]

Tony now i have to tell you that i was literally on the floor laughing soooo hard & loud in here until my dog got up from sleeping& was looking at me like i was crazy😂 when you talked about yoga being a spirit & also about “John” wanting to open up a chicken coup & sell melted ice cream😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Omg Tony you are so hilarious yet soooo REAL!!! You are so right about not believing anything that comes out of a man’s mouth without seeing the proof! I have played that role in the past of being weak & just allowing whatever which lead me to being heartbroken over & over. Thank God for stepping in & me finally loving myself enough to walk away & valuing my worth & thank God for all of your videos & books also 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@yaasmiynbrown7095]

I listen to u regularly and this is one of ur best informative messages yet. Speak the truth.

[@RocSkater09]

Tony, I appreciate your honesty so much! God bless you!

[@kitokamilimusic6378]

I can't hear you, show me what you're talking about..lol..thats a quote for all times.

[@margauxsmith8129]

In God we trust...Everyone else has to be proven

[@lkane39]

The Ninja part killed me!!😂🤣😅

[@ryanmindfulness158]

OMG when he said what a man sees when he is talking. I fell out laughing !!!!!

[@coachstephaniedionnegreen1053]

I love it, you are changing the world . One video at a time. I wish you were around when I was dating as a young girl. Better late than never. Thank you, Nephew Tony you are definitely a blessing. God bless you and the Queen and the babies. I can't wait for you guys to get your new home , I'm praying for you. SDG

[@Iamdmgartrell]

He said, "the boys in blue gon be over here and I'm gon be gettin tazed up." 😂😂😂 don't judge me, but the way he made that statement really Tickled me...🤣🤣🤣 Tony know he's a comedian....

[@shawnteahouston7029]

This is the funniest class I've ever attended in my life I will not forget these lessons 🤓😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾

[@saphinawest]

*fast clap* “Un hunh! Yea.. take that! You wanna talk about my ideas Dianne!!!😡” - 😂😂😂

[@luulips]

😂 Not “dazzling dimes” You’re a true born entrepreneur. That name tickles me. Great video as always Tony. Stay blessed.

[@aubreysellssofl]

chicken coop at the red light 😂😂

[@carolinekimani3696]

Very informative,This message need to reach every woman.

[@stilldmp7891]

Trust God, let a man PROVE!

[@ibcandy]

He said, “Let me Come Up with number 3” lol 😂 ☠️☠️☠️ I’m dead!!!

[@kristijjones1087]

When I tell you this video is on Point. POINT, BLANK, PERIOOODDD to be exact. Be blessed!

[@ashleyhenderson3856]

Every time I try not too laugh at Tony it’s hard not too because he is too funny lol 😂😂😂😂!!!!!!!!

[@ShesGottaFastCar]

The Queen said “hell no she won’t go” 😂😂😂😂😂

[@unbelaneablebeautyy]

Tony is like a bonus young uncle 😂 I appreciate these videos so much. - a 23 year old woman not letting these men run game on her

[@chantelcaldwell598]

Just purchased three book and I can’t wait to read it!!! Thank you (and the Mrs.) for working for helping broken people find relational happiness through focusing on biblical truths and healthy boundaries, expectations, and sense of self-worth. Just an idea-but maybe create a journal for women that helps them set their boundaries, reflect & grow, dating plan, etc. I would love it! Especially if connected to videos to get me thinking. Also, maybe a bible study for single women!!

[@chantelcaldwell598]

Ideas for topics-where to find good, Godly men, good questions for dating, go-to statements in common situations, if waiting for marriage do we tell them or not, when cutting off-how to do it without ghosting or being harsh, being approachable without drawing the attention of crazy guys, red flags for narcissists who can mirror and become what you want fire months, how to trust a man that you are with but not intimate with until marriage, how to know if sexually compatible if nothing more than a simple kiss, etc

[@michellevanrijn8940]

I better not tell that ninja story to my 4 year old son that sounds like a “career” he would like to pursue 😂😂

[@RealLadi228]

Beyonce is gorgeous but she is one of millions of beautiful women that have been cheated on or worse..the wrong man is the wrong man or at the least a man will mess up.

[@jaylynnfarr1276]

Came to this old video today and took ALL the notes. These things you are teaching, I wish my father had taught me growing up....especially how a man wants what's between your ears more than what's between your legs. I feel like so many women preach to other women about protecting your body but they will give their mind to a man not realizing he doesn't even care that much about the sex. He feels a million times more powerful knowing he can manipulate, control, and abuse you. Your body is just the added benefit. We might never understand men, but we can understand the game and ourselves.

[@onlyonekiney]

Tony the look on your face when Men be talking to you is priceless.

[@lucnorth8446]

"Men fly by night..." 😂🤣😆 so true! 😁🔥 please stop the improvisations, men. Lol!

[@lakeshabambury5664]

But men don’t even have the emotional intelligence to pick up on facial features.

[@ena__we4205]

So true

[@venda1008]

True 🤣

[@heatherdashrae2]

Lol! I don't know what you looking at me like that for

[@MissPrettySweetC]

Tony G!! My brother in Christ. You know you love that splackavellie song😄 Thank you for this video. I don't have brothers or sisters so I had to learn from my friends who had brothers that taught them the game. Being grown now I'm learning so much from you. I appreciate you. Be Blessed 🙌🏾

[@rodessabaker2930]

All of your videos are inspiring. Keep telling or giving the truth. Thank you.

[@marshannajohnson8584]

Tony it's ironic when you used those specific numbers about the baby because my daughter was 21 1/2 in long and she weighed 10 lbs 9oz at birth. Yes, I had her vaginally! No rips, stitches or tears, just a scratch. So yes I believe it's true that a woman's threshold for pain is greater than a man's.

[@mrsdtubbs]

I wish I had been aware of you and your wife years ago. Great information. Miracles and Blessings.

[@iyolaagard784]

The power in the "p" rant took me out ....

[@gabiiwanska5776]

Lol yoga is spiritual , yoga stems directly from Hinduism

[@janethomas78]

THANK GOD you are telling me what my parents or family never did!!

[@pat4eva09]

Who are these same 12-14 people that down arrow Tony's videos!?! Lol. They must have been BLOCKED! But Tony did mention recently he doesn't block people anymore. 😂😂

[@evolvingmuhammad7614]

Teach Brother Tony on loving self first, and everyone outside of self is an extension of that love for self.

[@monicabogans454]

I wish you had a video on questions to ask men on the first date.

[@Erica-et4ye]

Such an awesome teaching, Tony...thank you! Started my notes but I’m going to listen to a few more times like you suggested & add to them! Be blessed 🙏🏾

[@vernonkearney46]

Emotional intelligence. Another nugget.

[@dalebentley5312]

I study how a man talks and what he repeats. Often you can see the cracks in a story. You have to concentrate your mind on what you want and be alert to the tricks.

[@sassyclass552]

I swear you always make me laugh, thank you for dropping Jewels!

[@Rdy2win]

Yes so true been there. I have lost everything. But God He has redeemed and restoring me. Thank you! Coach Tony blessings! ❤️

[@lerhondajones-bates3324]

I was BEYOND weak, therefore I was not only tore up BUT SHREDDED 😫💔😥☹😔

[@TracyIgwe]

I'll never forget when Griselda Blanco said, "I'm the baddest bitch that ever took a breath of life". Rules I live by!

[@abundanthealthservices]

On point, dang I wish I would not have started listening to my so called girlfriends on this topic could've saved myself a lot of time and heartache! This is straight fire thanks for sharing your gift

[@princesswilson7907]

Yoga is a Spirit!!! I died laugh!! Love the humor but you right some people miss the whole message being too deep! Great message Sir! God bless you and your wife!!!

[@scheherazadewherry1410]

😂😂😂Fell in the water training to be a Ninja! Im crakn up HARD!!😂😂😂

[@latonyamorgan1520]

New listener/subscriber here…. I love ur content so far, but when u said “You have to know what you want, if you want 2kids u better tell him or you will end up with 6” 😂😂😂😂 but I feel what you saying. I took a lot from this video. 💯💯