8 Signs you are a "Shallow Person"

[@The_Food_Police]

Honestly, I could see how being happy and not knowing why wouldn't be too bad lol

[@batman5224]

Food Police Ignorance is bliss.

[@eyeamme1917]

If you don't know why you're happy, you don't know how to get it back if you lose it.

I am happy after my morning workout, always! Crazy, no?

[@samarittan9308]

Ignorance is bliss. Animals are like this. So we should shoot for obtaining the mental capacity of a puppy. ;)

[@tsentenari4353]

so you'd be okay with me regularly slip you happy pills, without you being aware of this?

[@darkdork1012]

I was diagnosed with BPD when I was 21. Never got any treatment for it besides being admitted to psyche hospital. Your videos are a big help for me in understanding my negative/harmful behaviors and moods and help me to be more aware of them. I feel like I'm starting to understand myself and other ppl more now and just wanted to thank you.

[@NoProHarrie]

It is never too late to learn, never too late to grow

[@smushbrain]

@@NoProHarrie yes 💜

[@vanessamorey3812]

Very true, but someone who has no introspective capability will never be able to self reflect and learn to grow...... Stuck in retard mode....spinning unintelligent wheels and annoying the fuck out of everyone around them without understanding why no one invites them anywhere. If someone's selfobsessed company sucks why bother.... lame jerks don't get invites 😒

[@carolmaplesden916]

@@vanessamorey3812 WOW well that came across shallow

[@chriswright1627]

@@carolmaplesden916 but not wrong either.

[@desertdweller8683]

I have noticed some people that are generally shallow, in that they love to tell you all about themselves and life, show very little interest in others, tend to also feel very threatened by others good fortune or successes, and love to hear about something bad that may be happening to another, and spread negative stories.

[@dogtrainer4645]

That could also just be narcisstic.

[@annier6835]

I think that’s called CAD (Considerable A…hole Disorder).

[@madeleine9907]

@@annier6835 🤣 a lot of that going around with people around me...

[@C_U_R_I_E_L]

Maybe,you live amonst those who devalue intellectualism

[@spajas8092]

@@C_U_R_I_E_L most people devalue intellect, it’s especially true in the west and can depend on age and location.

[@solvewithwinnie]

1.Being narcissistic{grandiose} 2.Psychopathic. 3.Poor listener. 4.Dont believe in true love or meaningful relationships 5.Never have feelings of unrealised potential. 6.Loud and loquacious 7.Materialistic 8.High value on physical attractiveness.

[@ChanelROETV]

Why does this remind me of Patrick Bateman

[@gabrielguzman6018]

#4 is a head scratcher the way things are these day no one wants to get married and want sex usually

[@avahsieh4645]

Trait number 2 reminds me of Hannibal Lecter - a person gifted with astonishing intellect, equipped with profound knowledge but entirely devoid of conscience and emotions. Does a sophisticated monster like him count as shallow?

[@avahsieh4645]

@@ChanelROETVAgreed. He checks boxes 1, 2, 3, 6,7, 8. Not sure about 4, he seems to care for his secretary Jean and even shows a tiny trace of humanity towards her.

[@ConanUndAi]

@@gabrielguzman6018 lol I don't know what people you know but the people I know mostly want to have meaningful relationships and get married including myself

[@qiuwbr091]

Wondering if children who use a flat affect to protect themselves from violent adults are mistaken (as adults) as shallow? I have known kids who hide their grief behind a false mask of happiness so that their adults (parents) leave them alone.

[@QoraxAudio]

I think that's basically the "locked away" depth Dr. Grande talked about when he described the depth of people with borderline?

[@kamilareeder1493]

I think the word also has a negative connotation the way that most people use it but it's really just a describing word. I feel your comment though. My mother is the sort of person who gets really mad if you're not happy with her, even if she did something. So a lot of people see me as a very stoic and quiet person because I have to be the emotionally stable person in the house and I try not react emotionally in case I escalate the situation. But there's stuff going on still. I think you're absolutely right. :P I think @Qorax is right too though and that some people bury it so deep that they don't see it all the time.

[@momkatmax]

I think that is why some comment children are able to bounce back after a horrific tragedy. They are not, just hiding how they feel in order to survive.

[@lciav]

KAMILA REEDER I think I’ve had similar experiences. My mother was very sensitive to others emotions, and often misinterpreted them in the negative towards herself and would easily feel hurt. I feel like I became more stoic and reserved to not disturb her insecurities.

[@bagamias-hula]

This is actually a defense mechanism- repression. It may also be dissociation applied to a group rather than an individual.

[@Adara007]

You've described some of the relatives I avoid: they're narcissistic, shallow, and think they're "deep." Thanks for another great analysis.

[@Adara007]

@@vlaw7103 When people say "no offense intended", they do mean to cause offense as I'm sure you know.

[@Adara007]

@@vlaw7103 I'm sure some are lacking humility. It's quite common for most people to overestimate their abilities and 'achievements', and for narcissists to think they're fine and accuse others of narcissistic behaviour. I grew up with narcissistic parents and had very little self-esteem, a lack of healthy personal boundaries, and difficulty being assertive as a result. It took years of intense work in these areas to heal from the parenting. I didn't go to the other extreme and become full of hubris, however, and my remark is based on my own personal experiences of dealing with narcissistic individuals - unless someone's done the critical psychological work I mentioned they're likely to be an attractive target for other narcissists. I have known some very interesting and "deep" individuals, including my husband, over the decades so I'm not seeing myself as somehow superior to all others. I did find the narcissists I dealt with quite shallow and inclined to assume they were extra special and to have an extreme sense of 'specialness' or uniqueness with delusions of grandeur. Does this answer your query?

[@The-Autistic-Rat]

@@Adara007 I think zeroing in on the guy's "no offense intended" as indeed offensive, seems like a vulnerable narcissist's trait. Just saying.

[@Pedro-kq5tl]

It seems that we're all narcissistic to some extent. I will say that narcissist men tend a lot more female attention and "deep" men tend to be seen by women as "creepy". And I know that's very judgmental, but I sincerely think it's true.

[@SuperGuanine]

@@Adara007 Great observation -- I've only used it one time that I can think of. It was b/cuz I just had to figure out yet another way to try to say something to a narcissist while trying to get through his shell.

[@katlynklassen809]

These have become my favorite videos on youtube. Factual honest rational informational with detailed coverage of the subjects.

[@LuciaInman]

Katlyn Klassen Agreed. 🙏🏻

[@rick9870]

Dr Grande like Dr Les Carter seem to understand personality in so much depth, but I am amazed that such knowledge could actually be acquired. I can't imagine how many books must be read to reach this level of knowledge. Reading such a number of books would be one challenge, remembering it all another.

[@TheSahand68]

Agree!

[@citycrusher9308]

This guy believes in true love. That is not factual/honest/rational

[@katlynklassen809]

@@citycrusher9308 those are words of a miserable existence.

[@utubewatcher806]

I'm not shallow, I'm depth-challenged

[@LL-lj1kq]

utubewatcher806 👏👏👏😂

[@jsv0074]

Thank u I needed that

[@kristita_888]

🤣🤣

[@maddmedic2454]

The fact that you acknowledge this... means you aren't as challenged as you think... lol

[@boboloko]

Nice try but if you were shallow, you would be watching clothing hauls, pranks, drunk fails or fights instead of psychology videos.

[@jesseishere9959]

Some attractive people love to flirt. They love the high of flirting. They love the feeling of being wanted when they flirt. Even if they already have a partner, they may flirt out of habit. A person may started flirting as a child and may continue as a adult. They may use a excuse that they are making the other person feel better but the purpose is to make themselves feel better.

[@j_freed]

I think by very definition flirting is sharing flattering attention that is not meant to escalate to intimacy. In more mature old world social cultures, men and women build each other up in daily life instead of tearing each other down. There’s a social respect but there’s also this kind of flirting, the two sexes acknowledge each other in a healthy way. It’s only in the new west that people get so jealous and pathological about the two sexes interacting as they naturally should.

[@thresagraham8181]

@@j_freed that was very well put 👍✌️

[@GonkyWonkler]

"A shallow brook babbles the loudest." I've haven't heard that before. I like it.

[@doyoumind9356]

Have you heard of "Empty vessels make the most noise" ?

[@GonkyWonkler]

@@doyoumind9356 I haven't heard that saying, either. I'll have to remember that one too.

[@psefti]

Only a still pond reflects the stars.

[@eva10210]

"The firmest faith is in the fewest words" and "where waters smoothest run, deep are the fjords" nice quotes from "The Lowest Trees Have Tops", written maybe by Sir Edward Dyer, but set to lute by John Dowland

[@fawn_the_fairy5721]

i often heard and read these sayings in our culture from when i was a kid

[@lciav]

I really appreciate how thoughtful and constructive people are in your comment section. It’s refreshing seeing people be open and trying to learn something from each other through discussion.

[@mason11198]

Its very interesting hearing common terms being broken down on a sceintific scale

[@PlanetDeLaTourette]

8 Signs you are a "Shallow Person" 1: This title means nothing to you.

[@curtisyue182]

1 sign you're a "deep person" 1: You don't let a KZbin video diagnose your personality type.

[@curtisyue182]

@Mark Donald You're not wrong. This guy's a professional, I gathered that much. I just couldn't help but write that, because I'm sure you know how much bogus information comes to you on the internet. I don't mean that the presenter doesn't know what he's saying, I just thought it would be a good response, haha.

[@TheInsaiyan]

@@curtisyue182 He might be an expert and that's good for learning something new, but you can self diagnose

[@flatman3134]

2 you'd rather keep reading these comments rather than moving on with your life

[@The-Autistic-Rat]

I would argue the opposite, it seems like a not-so-deep trait to juxtapose your tendencies with 8 succinct bulletpoints in the hopes of clearing yourself from being considered 'shallow'.

[@avahsieh4645]

8 signs of being shallow or appearing shallow 1. Narcissistic 4:00 2. Psychopathic 6:06 3. Poor Listener 6:30 4. Don’t believe in true love/meaningful romantic relationships 7:04 5. Having no feelings of unrealised potential / no feelings of emptiness 8:23 6. Loquacious and Loud 8:55 7. Materialistic 9:41 8. Having high value on physical attractiveness 10:40

[@samc7381]

Sounds like women

[@gabrielguzman6018]

4 is me because of how people are when it comes to relationships

[@rudeegruenberg9184]

@@samc7381 its both doesnt matter what gender it is

[@beatapogorzelska1241]

Most educative. I"d like to hear more about shallowness. We sometimes meet people who are so carefree and cheerful that we envy them a little. They seem so happy doing simple jobs (no pain of education)enjoying everything around, being nice to others. They are always this way since their childhood. No big ambitions, frustration, pure joy of life. You are right-shalowness is not necessarily a bad thing.

[@rnbsteenstar]

As long as you don't reach an arbitrary threshold. We humans have a sh-tload of sides to our essences, personalities etc.

[@coreycox2345]

I often wondered how it would be to work in a store instead of something that woke me up in the night thinking. I might have been happier in some ways and less fortunate in others, Beata Porgorelska.

[@beatapogorzelska1241]

@@coreycox2345 That true in everything in our lives as everything has its flipside.

[@coreycox2345]

@@beatapogorzelska1241 War is Peace, Freedom is Slavery, and Ignorance is Strength? You do as you please, running roughshod of whomever you may encounter because you are "special?" Hahaha. We are friends. I still love you.

[@beatapogorzelska1241]

@@coreycox2345 Am I special?Really?

[@evanparsons123]

I have so little faith in my own ability to judge myself accurately in relation to other people.

[@elibain250]

is it necessary to do so? maybe being forthright and earnest in your engagement with life and others is enough

[@elsagrace3893]

I think this can resolve when you get to know many other people really well and maybe get to know yourself too.

[@adamalienusloquentes7800]

Congrats, doc. You've just characterized the times we live in. Our culture.

[@speakallowed8435]

Same thought.

[@vg7985]

There were times when I was hunging with " deep " people. Now I see that time as my snobbish period. Sometimes shallow people are deeper than "deep" ones. Our culture has everything- shallow and deep and in between . Real question is - what culture sells and why?

[@amanitamuscaria7500]

Haha...very succinct. My comment made the same point, in about 5 times the length.

[@cindyrhodes]

I really appreciate this video. While watching, I began thinking about children that I have known who have a shallow affect with seemingly little intellectual curiosity, especially the ones who grew up in troubled homes. The ones that I think about were brought up in violent and emotionally abusive households that are also very poor and the parents had low levels of education. Some of these kids grew up to surpass the "depth" of their parents. If these kids had not taken the opportunity to escape the details of their upbringing, they would have continued on as "damaged" adults who could never get as much out of life as they do now. Thank you so much, Dr. Grande, once again for your amazing and educational videos!!!!!!!!

[@saragirma6577]

I was wondering if you also noticed people who grew in very privileged childhood being that way. I know a friend who comes from a well-off family and works for his dad until his dad passed away and also had inherited almost a quarter million from grandfather. He lacks intellectual curiosity and lacks empathy because he has internalized racism not to which he hate non-white rather imperialism mindset. He believes in self-preservation and interest even by means or exploration. He also lacks empathy for working class people. He isn't tolerant.

[@cindyrhodes]

@@saragirma6577 That is a great point. I don't know very many privileged people, so I don't have that experience.

[@saragirma6577]

@@cindyrhodes thank you for responding even though your comment was 3 years ago

[@cindyrhodes]

@saragirma6577 you are so welcome!!! This topic is very important and it is an honor to be able to converse with someone else who appreciates it!!!!!!

[@cindyrhodes]

@@saragirma6577 Also, I have been thinking about that very unfortunate person you used as an example. I'm quite intolerant (internally) of people who are racist, ageist, classist, or of any extremist group ( religious, political, and otherwise), so I choose to stay away from these people, but considering the example of the privileged young man, I can see how "having everything " can destroy a person's drive. If he has been handed everything (and more) his whole life, then i guess he never had to work for anything and sees the world from his own privileged standpoint, and also because of already having everything materially, he has made a decisiin to be complacent. Again, you cited a very good example.

[@EnchantingWings1]

I found it hard to talk to a girl in my class oftentimes. I love science, I love psychology (what I'm studying), I love discussing arts, I love dance... But, it's hard to talk with someone who sends you messages to like her photo on Facebook, does not value knowledge, etc. Discussions of such topics immediately makes people like this change topics to something like parties, drinking, going out, etc.

[@mrs.reluctant4095]

That's why we are here....Yes, it's hard sometimes with these types of interest... Love your comment.⭐

[@EnchantingWings1]

@@mrs.reluctant4095 thanks 😊 Another girl from my class, and quite a few others, expressed confusion when I said that I was going to ballet class later on and that I like arts. I learn creatively, often taking notes in different colours during class, which just created a talking point of 'have you got enough pens'. It's just indescribably frustrating when you want to talk about deeper, more complex and intriguing ideas and concepts but you just get shrugs in response. Or you want to talk about what you're learning and theorise about potential applications and further theories about the subject but even that doesn't give inspire them to talk about it. I often get questions from my classmates because I ask questions in lectures when am idea pops into my head about how the theory applies to a particular real life scenario or whether that part of the theory can be used to describe something. I've always loved learning and even when it didn't lead to a career, I've loved learning about it.

[@virginiaheaven333]

@@EnchantingWings1 youre not like everybody else. Might as well get used to it! Its not a bad thing though i know it gets lonely sometimes. Maybe someday youll find your tribe. Im still looking. 💖

[@EnchantingWings1]

@@Murat03Zhangabayev you could say that about any degree if you don't actually use what you know and leant. Research methods, writing funding applications, research reports, statistics, etc, are all very transferable skills. Anyone with those skills is employable, as long as they can apply those skills going forward.

[@kathrynj.hernandez8425]

@@Murat03Zhangabayev Username checks out tho

[@BobGymlan]

I definitely read "8 signs you're a *shadow* person."

[@informitas0117]

As a schizophrenic, I'm getting my gun.

[@Infomanica20]

what is a channel like you doing in a channel like this, which is purely based on science and statistics?

[@haze6647]

@@Infomanica20 probably questioning his content, something about hallucination and paranoia.

[@fabiobeka]

Are you, Bob? Are you a shadow person?

[@jant5737]

I searched for this because I found my Mum and sister to be quite shallow while I wasn’t. They were always really happy while I had regular low moods. I felt like something was wrong with me for years but did find people I enjoyed talking to. They both hurt my feelings as would be tactless and clumsy. When my Mum was older and in need I was able to help her, she really appreciated me at last. She also became more emotional and spoke about her feelings, I hadn’t realised she could do that. She had lost her shallowness

[@thedjshow0528]

Beautiful ✨

[@shoebop1]

When I hear someone (like Dr. Grande) verbalize a deep truth, I can hear the reverberations echoing through me. It gives a voice to truths that heretofore had none. They are long held beliefs that could not be put into words, at least by me. This video is a perfect example. I love it when that happens.

[@priyao5097]

This was like the ultimate compliment.

[@tanickasinclair7035]

You hit the nail on the head, Chris.

[@decoy2636]

Good food for thought in this video. Some people just don't get the Joy of learning new things. They are simply different.

[@Zei33]

I didn’t realise this concept was an actual thing. I’ve always been able to sense and determine it in other people, but I’m only now realising this is what it was.

[@somecuteguy]

Ahhhhh me too! It’s fucking awesome

[@galedivaris6487]

The locked depth is very interesting that you talk about in the vulnerable narcissists. This really is like hitting on a brick wall. So fascinating. You are very clear in your understanding, and the way you present this topic, makes us understand. All good wishes to you and your family for Thanksgiving. And I look forward to your next video; they are all interesting and informative.

[@angelgfchh5020]

Dr. Grande, thank you for existing!

[@juliatamalo7916]

Thank you for bringing this into light, Dr. Grande!! It is hard to reason with shallow people. Definitely it's not because of the lack of intellect. It's more of a narcissistic choice for the sake of wanting to be different, for whatever motives. Because of this "shallowness", many of them put it on purpose to get out from certain responsibility. Gaslighting creates inability to think clearly, so does the word salads. The culture of bullying those who are smart and can be independent definitely cause a backslide in a society. Again, thank you, Doc, and God bless🙏🤞

[@priyao5097]

Many narcs try their best to appear less shallow to comic effect.

[@daisy7066]

@@priyao5097 that's true, it also seems to overlap with stupidity at times.

[@tyrone42ful]

That unlocking the deepness and having it be disorganized is my number

[@moestein6972]

My husband's grandma was diagnosed with bpd, and depression. She says she cannot remember a single happy memory. I am her full time caregiver, and while she is in treatment she still denies positive emotions since childhood. She is 83 years old. She recently described a state of happiness being having a warm blanket... ....

[@FrancesShear]

Your explanations of what phrases often used to emotionally abuse people in fact mean are awesome! They are like antidotes to take after having to endure another false accusation from an emotionally abusive person. People who have any kind of visible disabliity impairment that does not allow them to at least appear to be moving towards impossible expecations are often targeted with emotional and physical abuse more often especially if they are female.

[@WarriorSpiritChristBook]

I love how you say your channels description in the beginning and get directly into the content! Thank you for respecting my time. 🤗

[@iroamalone6953]

You that busy??

[@WarriorSpiritChristBook]

I ROAM ALONE I am! 🙂 Also I perfer to take the time to support channels by watching its ads rather than some unpaid ramble.

[@iroamalone6953]

@@WarriorSpiritChristBook just kidding

[@margaretkoopman9154]

This was so on key to my previous relationship, where I had told someone else that he was a psychopath, because he was unable to love. What a trip! You nailed it. And yes- he was very shallow. Maybe perhaps an additional diagnosis of illusions grandeur with a side of narcissism. I don't say this lightly, because I did love him until I realized it was pointless, Unrequited love. I will now pass that love onto my cat. 😂 I love the fact I took abnormal psychology years ago in college. It has really saved me time in pointless relationships.

[@bodge6886]

That’s just opened a whole new way of looking at management types and reminds me of something I was told when I had been turned down for a middle management job as an ‘advisory’ for future applications and it was “you don’t have a “rhinoceros” attitude to getting what you want in life’ I replied because I am not an animal.

[@alisade127]

bodge6886 great reply lol.

[@Ikaros23]

it can also be " shallow" person who cant handle rejection. Not saying that is the case, but if a possisjon is there and it is for a " hungry" person with larger ambition than they could just stay silent and say nothing instead of saying the truth. The story of the " predator" could have been a nice way to give feedback of the aplicants lack of ambisjon or the impression of the lack. Alot of people just want " good" feedback but cant handle the hard truths. And if the working environment is toxic ( if the boss is shallow and narcissitic) maby its for the good and find another play to work

[@frahn1702]

I used to describe my ex-husband as a being ‘deeply shallow’. He found that funny.

[@barnswardrowan3022]

3:50 if you're able to explain your happiness you might be too introspective to be happy.

[@Marcelube]

Wow, man. You're on fire on this one. Congratulations and thank you.

[@nextpage3535]

Dr Grande, you made a boring topic interesting! Also, when you asked a question, can a shallow person change, I was so curious what you are going to say because I'm pretty sure they don't change. You were so kind and generous with your answer to that question.

[@code-52]

My opinion is, no shallow person will ever watch this video. 😳

[@tuffymartinez]

At 4:14...I love it when you push your glasses up ....Drives me CRAZY watching your glasses slowly fall down. OH YEA...I also enjoyed what you had to say...AFTER YOU FIXED YOUR GLASSES!!!!..thanks ...TM

[@DonaldSeymourjr]

My ex was a covert narcissist and very shallow. Which is funny because she displayed shallowness. She also displayed happiness for no reason. You ask her why and she has no rational for her happiness.

[@maya9685]

Why did u marry her ?

[@testo5370]

@@maya9685 his mom was a narcissist

[@kathrynj.hernandez8425]

Impressively comprehensive Dr. Grande! I need whiteboard with colorful pie charts, graphs and stick figures to navigate. Oh, and show where Karl Childers from the movie Sling Blade might fall in the mix.

[@younghokim1994]

I love your content Dr. Grande! Keep up the great work.

[@epicmercury333]

You revealed some amazing insights into personality addressing this rather humorous question, Dr. Grande. Thank you.

[@narcsinart7179]

Thank you, Dr. Grande. You've given me a better understanding of lack of depth.

[@BariumCobaltNitrog3n]

I used to hate social events. But at some point I discovered that some people had a wealth of knowledge on obscure topics so I got to learn about unknown worlds like CRISPR or the chemistry of lipstick or fountain pens and they got to talk about the thing they love. I think in every 'shallow" person there is a tardigrade or nudibranch story dying to be told. Octopuses rule.

[@BoyBoy-qv3ig]

I love being shallow. It makes me so happy

[@SuperGuanine]

You are toooooooooooooooooo funny. 🤣

[@jamesbond8540]

First sign: not wanting to click because you’re afraid he’s going to literally read out a laundry list of all your personality traits

[@Nadema96]

As clincal therapist Your videos has been great learning experience for me. I really appreciate it as a great resource . Thanks

[@theblackwolf8877]

Damn. You just described the society at large. 🤣

[@RimbawanGerilya]

This guy cuts his clip to make it denser and not waste time, robotic as to be neutral as possible, looks disinterested but fully engaged, perfect candidate for my kinda starship counselor!

[@nickopeters]

This was wildly interesting, Dr. Grande! Pardon the pun, but it actually was so deep, that I had to watch it a second time, even just to fill-in parts that I missed the first time I watched it, but I am still finding more important points even-now. Thanks--!

[@brentwilbur]

When you're hollow, the surface is the only substance you have. It might as well be shiny. #shallowforlife

[@ShipperTrash88]

When you were talking about whether 2 shallow people can be truly happy together....it reminded of the scene in Annie Hall when Alvy asks that couple on the street how they manage to keep their relationship going......Woman: "Uh, I'm very shallow and empty and I have no ideas and nothing interesting to say." Man: "And I'm exactly the same way." lolol

[@SilverShadow02]

That's hilarious

[@laceyunderall22]

Twinsies! 👯‍♂️ I thought of the exact same scene! I’m 99% sure the actress in question is Shelly Hack (Tiffany on Charlie’s Angels, the long-running model in advertising for Charlie perfume). I could Google the answer, but that’s no fun. I like to keep things old skool, ha ha. 😂

[@shombie2737]

Classic! Thank you for posting this. (Reminds me of my ex and his new squeeze.)

[@Mike-xt2lh]

Another very interesting topic !

[@SHurd-rc2go]

Thank you, Dr Grande. I will not actually watch this, because I know I'm a shallow person. However, I'll let it run silently on my phone in my apron pocket. Please stay well. May 2020

[@frahn1702]

🤣🤣🤣 I love it!

[@jdxx59]

Bahahahaha..funny

[@SuperGuanine]

You are toooooooooooooooo funny. The things that are funny always carry some truth. 👳🏼‍♀️

[@amyc1022]

This is really helpful because I met someone who is showing signs of vulnerable narcissism.

[@SkynetT800]

Sometimes with age comes the type of wisdom that can let a person realize that there character has those kinds of flaws. and everyone around them can see it! and they're the last ones to know.

[@goodcitizen3999]

It can be realized after deep trauma near death, loss of parent, divorce. You are suddenly uncovered and vulnerable and may begin to come to realizations that were blocked or unavailable by these relationships or uninformed perceptions. Almost dying skydiving may help you ask what am I doing jumping out of planes ? Where just a couple of days before it was not even a question.

[@steves1015]

Good Citizen it can also do the opposite. I’ve become far more risk embracing since a bad diagnosis and subsequent treatments. I no longer fear a lot of the things I used to.

[@jacquelynallen488]

I can’t believe this. Dr. Grande- cracked a smile (two shallow people think that they have a deep relationship)! 😆

[@maya9685]

Great video. There is one aspect though- we live in very shallow societal cultures. The culture of mediocrity encourages shallowness be it intellectual or affective of the narc psychopathic type. The narcopath may be intelligent but their intelligence is limited to how acquiring supply. We do indeed live in prevalently cluster B societies of the narc histrionic bp and deeply sociopathic type . Shallowness is not only lack of curiosity and insight but laziness sloth - one of the 7 cardinal sins. Just lazy

[@limao6932]

I agree with you exept for the last part. Lazyness is a consequence, not the reason. You have to break up a human being (or even another higher mammal, for that matter, I assume) in some way in order for him or her to get lazy. F*ck with their mind, make them sick via junk food {and _presumably_ healthy food as well oftentimes) and pharma and so on.

[@jacquesparadis6756]

Dr. Grande. You’ve become my main KZbin interest. Thank you for xraying the human mind and describing its mechanisms. It inevitably brings introspection. Merci!

[@pamandjackkosten9881]

Thank you for this insight. I honestly think my husband has this to some degree. No worries, I love him but am constantly wondering and trying to communicate on a deeper level that he just can’t. That mentalizing thing seemed to sum it up. Very interesting to know.

[@Enufalready771]

Dr. Grande is great. He breaks it down.

[@dalegribble5661]

I am a deep thinker my husband is shallow.......its a tough marriage

[@The_Food_Police]

Oh God same

[@TipTheScales27]

Yikes 😬 I’m amazed you made it as far as marriage! I would’ve broken up with them

[@maidenmarian1]

Gratefully single, I don't have to worry about anyone else's depth and how it might affect me. Its a relief.

[@Jay-rv4ee]

I just got out of one such. Was about to stumble into another, when epiphany hit me. Thank goodness!

[@briandillpickle]

Dale, Nancy is having an affair with John Redcorn. I thought you should know

[@JDoe001]

“If you’re interested in watching is video….it’s likely you aren’t shallow.” ~Me

[@maidenmarian1]

This is another great one. Thank you Dr. Grande for another great video. These explanations are helping me figure out some important things that I have observed in some people in the past. These particular people have earned a lack of respect from me and had gone on to earn a certain disdain from me in cases where one was unfortunately my supervisor...I could not stand the way the person behaved...

[@SuperGuanine]

Thanks to you Dr. Grande, I try to never show disdain for anyone exactly. But I do try to be aware.

[@sdachik9321]

a truly outstanding commentary on one of the deepest aspects of human behaviour thank u

[@mariesprowl2348]

Interesting topic . I’m really enjoying your channel Dr Grande. I liked this style mental health video.

[@Caveman00BC]

Insightful, I hope your voice getting heard by people more and more until it becomes the norm.

[@mrs.reluctant4095]

🐰 Ohhhh ... I know that I'm a terribly cheeky type of person. but now I have to realize how entirely rude and impolite I really am! Under one of his videos I told the doctor with my german directness that I thought his "video lacks depth!" I will never do this again. Next time I will write instead: "Dr. Grande, I assume the depth of this video is locked behind a door." 🌹 or "Doctor, I perceive that you had problems to unlock your full potential in creating deep thought in this video." 🌺 I love the sheer endless potential the English language has when it comes to forming euphemisms. Thank you Dr. Grande, your felicitous wording made my day.

[@flukedogwalker3016]

Some people hear no melody, others create one, the lucky few, enjoy it together.

[@jakedee4117]

Thank you Doctor Grande, that was very good. How about humor ? I have found that a person who can come up with a witty retort or funny zinger has intellectual depth. This is not the same as remembering funny jokes, that would be similar to the criterion you mentioned "Impressionistic speech' they have seen a funny popular guy and try to imitate him. What does psychology have to say about humor ? Is is a personality trait ?

[@paulortiz8063]

I always thought sarcasm was a sign of higher intelligence! Anyone?

[@annier6835]

@@paulortiz8063 I certainly hope so! Lol.

[@marykennedy1537]

Neighbor for short time. Her behaviors as towards me projecting her lives experiences. Don't understand, over 25 years of her life experiences. Now trying emotional abuse in order to control me .

[@markferguson3745]

I usually define it by those who can't help but to attack other's interests in intellectual, artistic or spiritual pursuits.Sometimes it's just the raised eyebrow that's the only needed tell. I've found that this is why it's important to surround yourself with as many different kinds of people as possible.Sometimes the perspective offered by a differing approach, on a different level, is just the missing piece you needed.

[@paulwolf2432]

A shallow person needs a reason to be happy.

[@angelav2906]

Thanks, very interesting.

[@akehapkap6143]

Cloud you make a video about affective flatness? As in people with schizophrenia, deep depression etc. Love your videos btw :)

[@limao6932]

I would be very interested in such a video as well (as I know quite a few such people). AvPDs' - percieved or real - shallowness is another interesting topic. Also, what othet people could do to try to push someone toward his or her "locked" depth or toward obtaining depth? Esp. if the person in question shows no interested in it (while (s)he clearly isn't happy even on a shallow level).

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

Is this when you do not have energy for empathy.

[@angelgfchh5020]

Dr Grande, I would be also interested in this video.

[@itismeagainbitisnotme2328]

@so true. My son never schizophrenia at 25. The first signl he is not taking this meds is the flat or shallow affects, won't make eye contact or even look around at the people in the room which is not his normal personality. I could have my hands full coming in the room and he won't see I need help and could at least hold the door open. Normally, he would help and keep the door open. It's like he's in his own world. But when I get his attention he will snap out of it and help. And of course I help him to figure out why he's not on his meds. Usually he just ran out and it's easily remedied. But if he still doesn't take his meds he gets the positive symptoms and he thinks he is better now and doesn't need them anymore. That's when I have to spend a good deal of energy and skill to get him to take them. A few times he had to go to the hospital because he didn't believe me and then his anxiety gets overwhelming and the hospital seems like a good idea. It's heartbreaking, but luckily, I went to school to be a psychiatric technician and worked at the state hospital long enouph to be able to recognize the signs and symptoms and no what to do and say to help him get back to himself.

[@gabrielguzman6018]

@@itismeagainbitisnotme2328 no offense but nowadays a lot of people wont look you in the eyes so maybe that's why he doesn't?

[@AliceDont888]

They must be a lot of fun at parties.

[@tanickasinclair7035]

This is Jennifer Sinclair. Dr. Grande is awesome!!!! He keeps me totally - sane!!!! This is a fantastic video. Dr. Grande, I believe my mother's shallowness is a learned trait from her childhood. Staying shallow is how she determined it was easiest to survive. Would you agree that shallowness can be learned???

[@lucymcnamara4558]

“Shallow isn’t considered socially desirable”. Dr Grande, you’re hilarious!! 😆

[@andrewrivera4029]

I was shallow but now I self-identify as deep.

[@orchidsrising7910]

Shallow Hal is a hilarious movie 💗💗💗

[@Driftwoodgeorge]

Generally American culture rewards shallow people more than deep people.

[@auracatalina]

I'm fittingly leaving the remark on this video that I developed a bit of a crush on this doctor. I know it's kind of a ... shallow thing to say. 😬

[@harrisonbergeron6577]

Shallowness is mostly a quality or trait that the pursued wants and the pursuer does not have. It's a lot easier to blame someone for being shallow than to just admit pursuing someone who has his/her own, different definition of shallow.

[@RawOlympia]

Diving deep into this subject ~ thnx always, so informative ~

[@cherylduckworth11]

Dr grande your fearless. I admire how you're able to put your true thoughts out there. In my opinion shallowness can be outgrown as you get older you become wiser and kinder. You get sick of regrets. So you try not to make as many. Rock on Dr grande

[@Mike-xt2lh]

Most of my family fit this description & most of hip hop culture and KZbin describe shallow nature . Hollywood is very shallow and narcissistic .

[@dalegribble5661]

Hear Hear

[@Mike-xt2lh]

@@dalegribble5661 🤔hmm hey Dale tell Hank I said hey lol .

[@universe2198]

Mike Yes most celebs are!!

[@c1rcl3s]

Thinking hip hop culture as a whole is shallow is shallow

[@kathyinwonderlandl.a.8934]

Mike lol👏

[@nd612]

You just explained this man that I know.

[@christinecornezcolmenero9356]

Wish I could have had you as a professor. Excellent teaching skills !

[@SuperGuanine]

Me too BUT I DO have Dr. Grande as a professor.

[@kaloarepo288]

Who are we to say whether or not a person is shallow-pretending to be deep while accusing others of shallowness is the ultimate in being shallow!

[@Anastashya]

Thank you, Dr Grande. That was extremely interesting! Have a beautiful day 🥰

[@OdinMaiden]

Dr. Grande: I wonder whether a shallow person would even take the time to watch this video. One requires depth and a desire for understanding to think through the given scenarios. Watching this, I thought a lot about my own personality and how I interact with others. I think everyone might possess every trait to some degree. Perhaps that’s wrong. Throughout my life, I have observed that experiences dealt us often shape us and can therefore create a transformation of sorts. Of course, if one is shallow, perhaps both empathy and self awareness are lacking. My goal is to achieve true happiness... sometimes I feel I’m there! However, I was diagnosed with chronic depression that cannot be treated with medication, because such medications cause a paradoxical reaction in me. Thus, the ebbs and flows of my emotions can only be regulated by nutritional supplements.

[@hatelovenothing2744]

What are your thoughts on symbolism and psychology being called a pseudo science?

[@hatelovenothing2744]

@@kenshofalco8326 I'm not sure. I've heard of many of his ideas though.

[@The_Food_Police]

Because Jung was supposedly a "satanist". There are sects of religious ppl in the mental health community that spend their time trying to discredit him because they dont like his background and methods.

[@hatelovenothing2744]

@@The_Food_Police Oh the guy who wrote about the power of darkness and whatnot. Sects? Are they cults?

[@dremolar4627]

@@The_Food_Police no, that's not it at all. modern psychology doesnt respect Jung because his "psychology" is more philosophical than scientific. While his work is very deep and has some philosophical merit (although modern philosophy rejects it for the most part as well), his work should not be understood as holding any "scientific" truth.

[@The_Food_Police]

@@dremolar4627 obviously what you're dating is true on a general level. I was just sharing what ive heard and found over the years on KZbin (content made by so called professionals as well as others who are in no way professional). Al though these claims are not academic in nature

[@Lillyflower-J88]

i enjoyed listening to a very complex break down of personality /mental traits. We humans are a fascinating assortment. Spritual compatibility and empathy added depth to me and my late husgads relationship -more so with time. And though hes not here now, God bless him,, the love and depth, and the closness continues.

[@kathyinwonderlandl.a.8934]

Those two thumbs down definitely came from shallow people, how could they have thought that!!

[@lyndao7356]

So well put. I'm pretty sure I know shallow when I'm near it, but you've hit it on the head.

[@stephencarlsbad]

Are shallowness and depth traits? This is something that I've always wondered about and gives me another piece of the puzzle that makes personality much more clear.

[@milesbeler3974]

They are tied to trait openess on the "big five" personality test, so it would include openess to new experience or ideas, and creativity. High openess people make for great artists, writers, entrepreneurs, and low openess people make for great bankers, judges, and doctors. It's different, not neccesarily better, to be higher in openess!

[@informitas0117]

Now, I'm already diagnosed with schizoaffective depressive-type, so I don't know if this exclude me from being shallow, but I sure feel like it. I am (or was) clever, got chosen for an assignment in the military only 0.2% qualify for (this was before schizophrenia started), but I fully lack intellectual curiosity. I appreciate the results of intellectual pursuit, but not the journey. I'm terrible at listening, I hear what I want. I don't think love is real, it's a movie myth. I have no dreams, I simply don't care. I However have an "empty" feeling but I know that's part of schizophrenia. I think I typed this out for my sake.

[@natashamudford4011]

It seems like you made that little smirk-scoff face several times in this video. Doc's way of showing pseudo-amusement.

[@woopiemiddleman8232]

This had always been my question. Thanks Dr Grande!