8 Signs You're Being Used, Not Loved

It is never a good feeling when someone you pour your heart and care deeply into, uses you. It could be that you constantly give and give without receiving anything in return. This is a sign of manipulation and manipulative behavior. To help you see through these manipulative tactics, let’s delve into some signs you’re being used, not loved.
We also made another video called signs it's a trauma bond, not love. Be sure to check it out too:
Writer: Syazwana Amirah
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Ara (new animator)
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
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Boyes, A. (2012, June 18). 10 ways relationships help individuals grow - psychology today. Psychology Today. Retrieved from www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-practice/201206/10-ways-relationships-help-individuals-grow
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[@Psych2go]

Do you know if you're being taken advantage of? Here's this video inform you on how to avoid getting into the situation. Share this video as you might help someone else out too!

[@Psych2go]

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[@Skull90183]

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[@jackiecastillo2484]

V helpful video. 👍 10/10 recommend

[@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988]

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[@soniyasingh4757]

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[@Beutimus]

Not me clicking on this to know if I'm loving people or using them. It's a real fear of mine.

[@ElizabethArriens]

I feel you

[@ElizabethArriens]

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[@wingeddinosaur557]

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[@wingeddinosaur557]

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[@lenee8959]

Yeah. I want a relationship, but it also scares me. Not because I am afraid I’ll be betrayed, but because I’m afraid that if I find the right guy, I’ll treat him poorly without meaning to.

[@DevinJHiggins]

Few things are as painful as realizing that the person you've developed feelings for over weeks/months/years has just been using you to fill a temporary hole in their lives until they find someone they 'deserve' or feel entitled to. That experience was so awful that I quit relationships and social engagement with people in general. Thirteen years later, I'm in a better place, but also have zero interest in opening myself up for that kind of hurt again.

[@sgnibble1]

Some guy tried using me. Thankfully I was quick to spot it and left. The guy threw a tantrum when I did and it was so pathetic. I am With you on staying single and have found comfort in raising my rabbit. He brings me peace and joy ❤ I hope you find peace and joy if you haven’t already. Most people out there are looking for a for now not a forever so I am bored and done with them lol

[@traceyrichardson9550]

13 years on and you are a completely different person, but I understand the fear.

[@AshwinPraveen]

Being objectified and used like you’re not a real person is heart shattering. I went through it too. I left pretty early in most of the relationships I’ve been in like that. But the damage cuts deep.. im single now. And before I date anyone. I’m trying to understand what a healthy relationship looks like. I’m also working so hard everyday to break down those false beliefs instilled by these damaged women, one by one. It’s so painful facing it tho.. To see that culture and a lot of people don’t know how to be intimate anymore.. is being seen as you are such a demanding thing to ask for? 😢

[@DevinJHiggins]

@@AshwinPraveen Apparently, the only way to get seen now is to convince someone you have all the privilege they feel entitled to. Otherwise, you're just seen as a 'waste of time,' no matter how much you care.

[@deannewoods5685]

You are not alone. I think we all eventually get to this point and say, NO MORE!!

[@anwarallie]

Yeah I've been in a relationship like that. It sucks. It sucks even worse when you realise that this is happening when all along you thought it was love. You live, you learn.

[@moonbinnie98]

Hi, can I ask how you eventually got out of the relationship? Apparently talking to them and telling them it’s not working doesn’t help :/

[@Sinsanatis]

@@moonbinnie98 sounds like u broke up and they said "no"

[@dharshansenthilkumar9492]

Im sorry that you had to go through this situation. You seem kind and chill. Wanna be friends? I can respect you like the valuable human you are...

[@anwarallie]

@@moonbinnie98 talking to them and telling them it's not working does not help. They use you and do not want to let go of that. I cut off all communication. That was the only way. No contact. It's time to put yourself first.

[@sadagicousowens7217]

Same here. How well do I know the feeling. 😔

[@gathor_]

Hi people from the future, everything is going to be ok!

[@user__40]

Hi person from the past.

[@Yourlocalbush]

Hello people from further in the past

[@gathor_]

@@Yourlocalbush hi person that was from the future

[@xxhenrysgachasxx1803]

What??

[@randomguy1226]

Patron be like:

[@JE4-1]

When to run: - My personal experience Do not call or stay in touch... Leaves after s*x... Do not spend money on you... Not moved by any of your concerns... Do not learn you... Repeats the same offenses over and over again...

[@Celebritieswho]

that awesome

[@SaltyMaud]

Not spending money on you, dude, what?

[@SaltyMaud]

@@Xjdksoedhs7e8ejdos9uxheu8eu3 Well, who am I to judge, but you'll have to check if prostitution is legal where you live.

[@SaltyMaud]

@@Xjdksoedhs7e8ejdos9uxheu8eu3 That line of thinking makes me curious what's the purpose of women in your world view? Sex?

[@EvilDoer839]

"do not spend money on you"? it depends... if you believe women should have jobs instead of being a homemaker there's no need to spend money on you now if she is a homemaker a man needs to be able to provide for food but if you're talking about gifts, taking you out for dinner to somewhere expensive and other meaningless shit no one has the obligation to spend on you it should be taken as a privilege if they do it not as a right

[@Just_a_Nobody00]

Sometimes it felt like genuine love and that they truly cared, but other times, it seemed like I was just a pawn in someone else’s game.

[@nevaehhamilton3493]

They're trying to pull a fast one on you by confusing you into staying.

[@RamiSobhani]

@@nevaehhamilton3493 or they are sometimes loving and sometimes using

[@finoochoa9568]

That's when the whole confusing kicks in then they either say I'm sorry for everything an next thing you they start attacking you make you feel poo shit in order to make themselves feel better , when it comes to family members they only tell there side of the story ​not fully until you take with them and you tell them everything what exactly has happened @@RamiSobhani

[@luvqraft6024]

Kinda hard to even have a friendship when one side won’t even email, text, call, meet, whatever. I mean, wtf

[@samusranzer]

OR, they only email, text, call, message you ONLY when they want or need something in particular, and NEVER just for the sake of talking to you or being around you.

[@KYROLUS_REX]

Oh hey, that's me! I'm the one who goes effectively zero contact. I never want or need anything from anyone, I'm completely independent. I leave people on read all the time but I do respond a few times at least eventually. No malice behind any of it, I just have a very off-handed approach to friendships or any type of relationship, really. But if anyone ever messages me for help or anything, I help them in a heart beat, so I'm dependable in that regard.

[@DoubleOH7thankheaven]

We dating the same dude?

[@user-wb3nx6lc7x]

😂​@@DoubleOH7thankheaven

[@Jjfisher-]

Literally

[@andreajones65]

Timestamps: 1- 0:31 disinterest 2- 1:12 high expectations 3- 1:55 boundaries 4- 2:47 relationship feels imbalanced/one-sided 5- 3:34 everyone owes them 6- 4:08 growth and maturity 7- 4:54 communication issues 8- 5:26 hidden goblin

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Thanks 💯

[@im_a_bird747]

Thank you❤❤

[@noonegirl]

Thank you 😊

[@RainbowsAJ]

I thought they meant setting boundaries was a red flag and I was like hold on 💀

[@patrycjakonieczna]

I had got all once so I ended the relationship before it became a real relationship.

[@Centuries_of_Nope]

Growing up, affection was only given through compliance. This turned my love language into service and gift giving. A lot of potential lovers will abuse this part of you. Some may not even realize they are. It's a hard learned fact about ourselves, but recognizing it, will help us in the long run.

[@user-ye4tx2bj6s]

There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at [e-mail] where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........

[@tater3982]

Is this a copypasta? Lol

[@tanial694]

Why would anyone that wants to disassociate from a narcissist need to hire a cyber expert to track and monitor their activity? That sounds extra creepy. Maybe the so called victim is the actual problem!

[@tempertenchi]

I just finally broke off a very toxic relationship and these (and much more issues) where all present. its nice to see people talking about it since I was sometimes made to feel like I was going crazy.

[@moonbinnie98]

Hello, may I ask how you broke it off ?? It’s been hard for me to do so because he keeps coming back and makes me feel bad for them 😩

[@capuzdepenix210]

​​​@@moonbinnie98 Hi, some weeks ago I've got out of a relationship like that, so I have some tips: - If what's stopping you is not wanting to make him upset, forget it. You can't light yourself on fire just to let other people warm. And it's also pretty selfish to do this kind of people pleasing - you have to face the fact that some actions that are right for you may upset other people, and it's their problem. Just face it and break up with him. - If what's stopping you is fear of missing him: what's really stopping you here is fear of being alone. It's a valid emotion, but if you stay in a relationship mainly because of fear, you'll suffer a lot. Be corageous and leave it. You'll not miss him exactly: you'll miss what your relationship was in the past, when it's still wasn't bad - see, you'll the memory, not the person. You can't come back to what it was. - If he keeps coming back to bother you but you're absolutely sure you don't want to see him anymore: speak firmly with him, block him and don't look back. But yeah, if you want to see if he can change, go ahead, only you know all the details and can decide propriely. But if you're suffering, I'd say you shouldn't drag this any longer. I dragged my relationship way longer than it should have lasted and it sucked.

[@RoseyElson]

I just did the same. It's a bit crazy that I said yes to every single point in this video but throughout the relationship I thought I was the one that was in the wrong.

[@traceyrichardson9550]

They use emotional blackmail, pretend that they need you, they say I can change, I won’t do that anymore. . . It’s all manipulation.

[@tanial694]

Congratulations on breaking away from the toxicity. I’ve been there before and I know what it’s like. One day I said to myself that enough was enough, no more drama and chaos. I freed myself of the torture and never looked back. I love my life now and my freedom! Never ever again, no way.

[@nevaehhamilton3493]

And that's why I hate friendships. It's like playing Russian roulette; you either win and have lifelong companions, or you lose and have lifelong pain. The gamble isn't worth the heartache in my opinion.

[@luma4682]

Or, perhaps start loving yourself first? I mean, losing friend is bad, but if you feel good alone, you can restart and find new one

[@jairoalarcon9932]

It is not. You just attract what you are, so you can reflect and grow.

[@kyoshai]

Enjoy the experience (bonding) while it last & enjoy being your best self. Dont let those undeserving discourage you from sharing the best parts of yourself (what builds friendships). Don't hate life experiences bc they were shared with those who didnt appreciate it. Dont hate in general. Its such a nasty feel & a waste to invest into. Dont look for time frames either. People die, people change. Enjoy what you have while it last.

[@meaghenstandlee6644]

sign 1 you click on this video

[@simpatico4004]

Just realized I’m being used. It’s a relief to be honest. Thought I was losing my mind. Thanks!

[@Jirkabtd6]

Today I lerned, that my entire family doesn't love me, but uses me.

[@BostonSteve922]

I’m right there with you 😢

[@flyveto457]

No, they do love you... as a tool.

[@geraldfriend256]

It does suck. No way around it. I feel your pain. Support can be found.

[@tanial694]

I’m sorry that you have had to go through that, I did too. But be strong, independent and walk away.

[@DarkS1ayer100]

I knew it. This describes every relationship I’ve ever had. Friends. Family. Partners. Relationships HAVE to be a two way street. Communication is VITAL. And both of you have a say. If there is any unbalance, it’s time to talk. And if they brush it off, give excuses or shift blame? LEAVE. (Nothing good will come from staying and you can’t force someone else to change) Change is voluntary. You have to WANT IT. A Growth mindset isn’t easy. But immensely rewarding. I wish all those who read this, luck in their relationships. And hope they don’t go through what I experienced.

[@Helen-oh1no]

I had a friend who was demanding. She would say that I had to see her when she wanted me to see her. I did this in the past. I don’t see her anymore. Then a few years ago I realised that my mother has treated me badly. She was overseas some of the time and now she lives in my country. She really has treated me badly. Then I realised that the friend that I don’t see anymore was acting like my mother. They are both very insistent when they want me to do something for them!!! So I believe that sometimes our relationships with friends can be similar to the relationship we have with our parents. Sometimes the answer is to say no to them. Sometimes it is best not to see them anymore. With family I think that it is best to avoid them as much as possible.

[@DarkS1ayer100]

@@Helen-oh1no Sorry to hear about your struggles. While we don’t pick the family we’re born into, we get to pick the family we want to keep. I choose to believe that friends exist for that reason. They become the family you choose for yourself. There’s very few I call friends and family these days but the few I do? I cherish. I hope you find those special connections too one day. Not everyone we meet in life is exactly like the ones we have chosen to leave behind.

[@tanial694]

Yes and learn to say no, it’s a case of showing them that you can’t be manipulated anymore@@Helen-oh1no. No means no.

[@luvqraft6024]

Sometimes a person comes on way too strong and has to be avoided… telling them straight out falls on deaf ears, over and over.

[@ruckbuk]

I don't know why this topic caught my attention instantly, but it's sure intriguing and something I should take note of I'll say this

[@mostcallmechris0401]

This video came at a perfect time, it feels like I'm not loved by anyone, family, friends, sister. I'm just a tool everyone comes to me whenever they need help, but when I try to reach out for help... Nobody is there... Nobody is willing to be there for me. I wonder if I'm truly loved or just expendable to everyone around me... I hate my life.

[@mariatolich4056]

Next time any of them ask you for help tell them no. You are not their slave

[@mostcallmechris0401]

@@mariatolich4056 I don't have it in me, I'm too much of a bleeding heart

[@RaoulDukeSr]

I feel you completely my friend..🤝

[@Lilygirl283]

Stop being a doormat, just say no, and wait what happpens when you do, you find out really fast who's fake..

[@user-ds7ov8hy4m]

I know it's hard, but have to learn to be your own best friend. Obviously you over-prioritized these people and de-prioritized yourself for them. Just change that and everything will get better

[@E.v.a.l.i.n.y]

Hello guys, during my life I met a lot of toxic, manipulate and other kinds of people. These people come and then just leave you the same fast way they got to you. But everything has better sides too! It might seem crazy but when you meet these kinds of people you realize that you never valued your true friends as much as you should have and more! But also remember manipulators and other people using dark psychology are people too. But as in every live being there is good and bad in them just like everyone else.

[@mitchelvivatson947]

I'm so grateful for my relationship. We don't have these issues ether way. The moment one side does something for the other we both feel the need to do something for the other. We check on each other with every decision and value each other's opinions and thoughts.

[@andreedwards7178]

One of the best thing's I've learned is when you meet someone; establish reasonable boundaries early on in the relationship. If they don't respect it; that's an indicator of an underlying red flag that can be the base for many types of toxic people.

[@ritaochinko]

💯💯💯

[@TheNonameHousehold]

I just realized that I always hesitate to watch your videos at first until hours later have passed cause of how close to home they are most of the time.

[@jheylanell8181]

big same. my palms get sweaty as soon as I see the notification!

[@ElizabethArriens]

This video is better late than never

[@BeeElle-rt8qf]

This one is excellent. Some of the drawing expressions are priceless! Love it.

[@tierrahf7018]

Literally, everything on here I was with this person for 11 years ....

[@asthinax]

all you can do now is address your partner with your concerns and hope that you both will resolve these issues together! if they loved you then they would try, I had to learn that the hard way… If nothing gets fixed then you should leave because trust me there is no point in trying to fix something that doesn’t want to be fixed

[@christopherjordan6235]

Im tired of talking to fake people online

[@letsgetreal6402]

Wait til you find out they're just as fake in real life

[@user-dr6vj8ez9q]

Excellent points to reflect on!❤

[@joytiston9769]

Listening to this kind of discussion gives me awareness and reflection if I'm like this or this person or that person is like that. Thank you for this

[@aceofspadesguy4913]

I would appreciate a video on figuring out whether a relationship is hollow or not. I’m currently dating a girl who’s been in a lot of bad relationships and has moved too fast in most of them. I’ve moved faster with her than I have with anyone but it’s been her driving all that, and she eventually told me I’m the slowest she’s ever gone (we’ve only be together around 3 months). All the brass tacks of a good relationship are there, we share similar values, we have the same idea on WHAT a good relationship entails (we both think of dating more as courtship) but I’m increasingly starting to feel that we’re both just fulfilling our personal needs. I’m the first person she’s dated who treated her with respect, for me that’s just common nature, I treated her with the same respect I would any woman, that’s how I was raised, but for her that seems to be a wholly new experience and I think she sees in me the relationship she wants and lunged for it but doesn’t really know how to make that relationship a reality. And for my part I think I might just be fulfilling my needs for physical affection. (I’m very touch and quality time oriented). It’s not a _bad_ relationship, it’s just starting to feel like a house without furniture, or like we’re just playing at a relationship.

[@MelModica]

It’s only 3 months so give it more time. If a woman has been in a lot of toxic relationships she is not used to a gentleman and may take time to really let her guard down. I wish you the best.

[@waunke56]

The definition of my life right here. Permanently treated as a tool.

[@Haema88776]

Lucky me, I decided to be alone for the rest of my life I’m four years single right now. I‘ll be running 30 years in this year. Relationships in this times aren’t stay together anymore. Better stay single more time for yourself and you‘ve all the money for yourself. No more headache while beefing, no beefing, no cry and you can keep grinding your whole life!

[@giulianaartist6664]

This video came jist in time, i needed to see this, im already broken up woth my ex but he wants to remains friends because "he cares about me" yet where was that caring nature when we were together? Nowhere at all😢

[@Helen-oh1no]

I went out with a guy. After a while he said that we were just friends. Then I found out he was seeing an ex. He said that we were both just friends. The other one was the real girlfriend. I was the just a friend. It was a dreadful experience! I do not see him anymore. It is usually best not to see someone when you have broken up. Just friends is a trick. You will never meet anyone good this way. The only exception is if you have children together. If you split up and there are no children don’t fall for the ‘just friends’ nonsense. I do not see that guy anymore. I got married to someone else after I left him. I have been married for nearly 11 and a half years. You could waste years on the “just friends”. Just leave him. Don’t waste you life on being “just friends”.

[@giulianaartist6664]

@@Helen-oh1no yeah I swear, they say the "just friends" line but then they get all pissy when you act like just friends. My ex wanted a hug and even kissed me but then reality hit me and I pushed him away because I didn't want anything from him like that, and I said "I'm crying right now and you want to have seggs??? What about this situation excites you???" And he was "wooden" when he hugged me before he kissed me, I just pushed him out the door, and that the day we broke up.

[@amygerstle2037]

Being friends with an ex is a trap. It is just asking to be strung along and it just keeps false hope alive and it never goes anywhere just keeps you hanging on trying to rewrite history which isn't possible and can waste years of your life waiting

[@xanayiamckinney9379]

At first I was listening like "maybe I was the problem" then it finally got into the nitty gritty and I know I didn't switch up my behavior about how I treated my partner around people the only thing that was different was the PDA cause I'm kinda uncomfortable with it but I never denied the relationship nor did I leave my partner to fight his battles alone. Even if I couldn't get invested with his life because he didn't want me to, I was always interested in getting to know him more but I feel I never really got that or maybe I was looking for a "good side" that never really existed, idk I believe in the beauty of everyone I guess there's beautiful evil too

[@unexpectedvixen5685]

I'm going through this right now. I'm so heartbroken,and this just confirms everything I thought.

[@jeremiahpheasant466]

A love bombing narcissist 😢

[@roshawngreene7069]

Indeed... I've been there 😢

[@Yipidripi-kg6fp]

Marilyn Manson:

[@NonStick872]

Another amazing VO from Amanda Silvera 😁🙏😍🌹 Psych2Go wouldn't be the same without her. I very much feel connected to this particular subject, hence why I'm getting divorced.... It's better to be out and alone than with someone who is manipulative and not really as caring as they like to perceive to be... I'm just glad to be free from it, and to have an incredible friend to help me through it as I would for them too. 🙏🌹

[@redheadbelle]

Thx for reminding me! That Iam superwoman and not a “scapegoat”. That’s not a label for me. Thank you for educating us on toxic behaviours. They stay toxic until the person decides to change. You cannot influence that.

[@satku6644]

I gave myself one more chance for love and got just used again... I cant anymore

[@JSRF420]

I wish it was clearer like these examples. My last relationship was pretty complex. My partner was complex as far as all these points go. No one is perfect in relationships. I was holding their hand in a divorce/ custody battle. I try not to ever make excuses, while also not blaming. You always have to try your best to be non bias. My point being, it's good to use these as a base. But it just gets tricky with evaluating the relationship and your partner. Subjective and objective truths can easily be blurred in the process.

[@vdubthefoxx6808]

Wow! This came right on time!

[@autumnleeder1189]

I long for the attention that should have been mine, but my parents were always too busy for me. I spent countless hours alone, yearning for the love and care I deserved. It's a sorrowful realization that I should have been cherished more. I still deal with this and it’s still sad. I must deal with this till I move out. When I am older…

[@sparkster1701]

I can relate to a couple of those points. Many of my partners (and so called friends) loved to be disinterested in anything I would say. I tried talking to one about my being depressed and she just acted like I wasn't even there. Years ago I had many that would not respect my boundaries and kept asking for me to perform risky behaviors, but they would never do the same. It's things like this that are keeping me single, and unfortunately quite alone. It has happened so many times that I no longer feel I'll ever trust another person again.

[@neha_tatpuje]

So perfectly explained❤

[@louisasmiles]

A really sad video. But also utter relief I've walked away

[@adebaba6079]

I got the answer I needed now, thank you so much

[@Zeakthecat]

this can basically apply to parental relationships as well. ive noticed that my mom has done a lot of these, and while im maturing shes not and is constantly blaming me for everything. she uses everyone around her as tools the neighbor, her mom, my half brother, my half brothers father whos now dead, my father whos now dead, and myself. when i tell her to focus on herself and her heart, she refuses to go and get the surgery, and putting the blame on me for basically "not helping enough". btw, i do the clothes, the dishes, the towels, i occasionally vaccum the floor as well, and organize tables. and thats a lot for me right now, because im constantly stressed and anxious, and ive noticed i also think of a lot of negative shit for a week or two at a time. being constantly told to do more and then tossing dirty dishes and pans in the trash or tossing clean towels in the floor to "make room" is basically just a norm... being made to feel like my work does not matter, is just her turning me into a tool, much like she has with my brother. of course shes dismissive of what i say, and my concerns, among other red flags.

[@twi-knightthefox5543]

Looks like I need to improve some things about myself in my relationship, I don’t know how to act in a relationship, so I’m learning as I go. this video helps

[@Rohitha99]

all the best for that

[@shriyamanchala8186]

It's hurtful...i have a close and only friend like this

[@victorialaing4227]

This reminds me of Emperor Belos relationship with collector from the owl house. I saw your pictures of the owl house characters. Sweet innocent naive little Collector completely put all his faith and trust in Belos. He thought Belos was really his friend, but Belos was only using him to get what he wanted, and was never truly planning on keeping his end of the deal. Also I used to have this friend that goes to my school, and he always seemed disinterested. I don’t think my friend was doing this on purpose, because he usually didn’t know what to say and talk about. Whenever we were together in person, he would never show interest. I would talk to him about things but he would never ask questions or have anything to add to the conversation, and when I would say hi to him in person he would just look away and give a hand signal, but he would always initiate conversations in text. But in person he would always act like he wasn’t interested in me, even though he still allowed me to talk to him and was still willing to spend time with me.

[@PsychPerusal]

It is an amazing and informative video. Thanks for sharing! Also, I just wanted to address that there were some spelling mistakes in the written parts of the video. Please check. :)

[@luma4682]

Oh wow, a perfect video in the right time Now I will watch it

[@jacobthescorpius9886]

Thank you, I didn't realize but I showed one of these symptoms in a relationship. And my partner showed several

[@Annimus-yh4zi]

Nobody loved me ever. And when I felt loved, I was just used. But somehow I feel, after all these years, that it was better than nothing.

[@Sinsanatis]

daam. a placeholder called "partner". i like that one

[@Yohann_Rechter_De-Farge]

Thank you for sharing

[@R-of-R]

Before I mention what I want to say, I must say that Psych2Go has carried half of my life. I got around places I wouldn’t have without the advices of these videos they make. But look, the problem with these videos is that 99% are signs and 1% are how to deal with them, and thats what I had to find out myself. On top of this, they have 50 videos on the same subject giving you the almost the same signs with different wording. Making extra videos on the same thing is not going to ‘make mental health more accessible to everyone’.

[@RoxanneSwithin]

Bro I agree with you, I've had the same complaint for a long time :/

[@LillieIRIS]

Thanks for this video

[@Psych2go]

You're very welcome!

[@StarlikeShadow]

disappointingly all of these applied to my ex, and i held out hope for so long that they would change, but after losing that hope 6 months after of nothing changing i decided to end the relationship, and they went ballistic and threw everything at me saying i was the bad guy that i never loved them and so on, just think of what every ex ever said and thats what they said

[@mikesmith6594]

Thanks Psyc2go this video describes what I'm dealing with .

[@nebulakisumi5333]

Currently thinking this about my friend

[@Crackerzzero]

Cool video, Im sure that I don’t have a family or friend acting like this for now.

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Disinterest 0:30 2). High expectations 1:10 3). Boundaries 1:54 4). One-sided 2:45 5). Everyone owes them 3:33 6). Growth and maturity 4:07 7). Communication issues 4:49 8). Hidden goblin 5:24 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@lil----lil]

This actually describes my ENTIRE family perfectly! That's why I left them. 😁😁😁😁 ZERO Regrets.

[@kenrickbautista6141]

*Smh* All this time, I try to open up to others who doesn't care about me at all.

[@jsj31313jj]

"If you love with the expectation of being loved in return, you are simply wasting your time." -Adult

[@lillianvioletrose9637]

I was in a relationship with a narcissist, and they check all these boxes. The thing is I was blind to their faults, and then eventually when I started to see them I ignored them for multiple different reasons. The scariest part for me is that everyone KNEW he was toxic and tried to tell me this, but I just didn’t listen. So what would happen if I was in a relationship with someone who put up a facade? Who had everyone else convinced they were an Angel? How blind would I be then? I’m scared

[@caywo_]

I stg this channel lives inside my walls listening

[@LemonPine]

It feels like now that they don't need me, they don't care to talk to me anymore. I know this isn't true but it sure feels like it. Of course when I bring it up I get the same excuse every time, or just no response.

[@Pollyglottalk]

Yes, I've dated narcissistic people before, and ALL of these apply. Biggest lesson though, SET BOUNDARIES and stick to them no matter what, or else it'll keep happening over and over again.

[@GinandTonic369]

Yup. No doubt. Wish I could have disengaged years ago.

[@a1m4thah3d]

Currently stuck in a "relationship" like this but its just that: I'm stuck. Under ordinary circumstances I would have left her, but here's the thing: she has no car, can't afford a car, and relies on me for transportation to work and other needs. She can't even use public transportation or walk anywhere because she lives outside of town. She has no family that will help her, and no friends that will help her. I'm literally it. If I leave her, she's done. She, along with her pets that I love as my own, will be evicted and she'll be homeless (our living situations are extremely complicated and I'd really rather not get in to it. Just know we have tried SO hard to get a place together in the past. Screw this economy). How do you destroy a life to save your own? I can't do it, and she knows it. The worst part is that I do truly love and care about her and she doesn't give a damn about me and it shows every single day. Its easy for someone not in this type of situation to say "well, just leave her!" and I would say the same thing, but its so much harder when its someone you love. At this point I just wish I'd win the lottery so I could give her some money and tell her to go, or that she just finds a guy that will replace me. As much as the last one would hurt, it doesn't hurt as much as knowing you're being used by someone you love.

[@cynthiamorris7300]

Your a sweetheart i am in narcissist relationship really hard. If you need to talk I'm here

[@c.h.carnahan8799]

What about for friends and family? Would these apply to them, as well?

[@Junpei_Is_Tired]

I’m truly great full to have amazing friends that truly care and want me to succeed. I have a friend well not freind anymore that will always constantly call and one time he told me “and I even promote your work and did nothing for me?” Or something like that. I told him to respect my boundaries and left him. Is been going on for a year, and every time I wanted to help him get a job, he just ignored and hang out with friends and it really pissed me off. I feel stronger now that I cut ties with him.

[@saumur69ify]

Yes to all.. This is so painful

[@iclassicpepe5731]

it’s confusing when everything they do seems like they’re interested and it all lines up, but they mention things not working with someone they’re trying to fix it with

[@ninarodriguez6158]

What's sad about this is they will never admit they you were a placeholder and it wasn't love. What relief it would bring to know that you were never the problem? So you have to stand on your foundation on your own and know that you were never defective one. Good luck finding your own closure, everyone. ❤

[@Danka42]

Kinda random but the visuals in this video are delicious.

[@user-fg4ox6zn4r]

You have a beautiful voice

[@fox_on_sticks]

Thx for the vid

[@Psych2go]

Hope this video helps you!

[@fox_on_sticks]

@@Psych2go its mostly for the future (can u make another depression vid)

[@Eduardohernandez-ji9md]

What happened to your cute drawings????

[@NyanBerri]

It says in the description that they have a new animator, and I think they did a good job. That may come off as discouraging to the new artist working for this channel though 💔 be kind

[@VenusVariation]

New illustrator

[@marian_hayes]

This video reminds me of my aunt and uncle. So when they got married, my aunt told my mom that my uncle constantly said horrible things about her and then claimed they were “just a joke.” My mom reminded my aunt that she didn’t have to marry him, but she was determined. Now, they’ve been married for over a decade and have a 5 year old daughter. And my uncle also bought a purebred chocolate lab cuz all his friends have them and he thinks that having one will fulfill his happiness. The problem is that this dog is the worst dog I’ve ever known. He eats furniture and goes after their neighbors and goes to the bathroom where he’s not supposed to. My aunt doesn’t like the dog and really wants to get rid of him, but my uncle told her that one of his former girlfriends got rid of a dog he bought, which in his mind, meant that she didn’t love him, so he won’t let my aunt get rid of this dog. In addition to that, my aunt’s an elementary art teacher and my uncle works in advertising, so he has an easier job than her, but he doesn’t realize that. After work, he makes her do all the housework and take care of the kid and the dog, while he goes off and sees baseball games and concerts. He claims he has to be doing all these activities that cost SO much money or else “he feels miserable.” I hope that either my aunt and uncle’s relationship will either change for the better or that my aunt just gets out of it.

[@Unlistedstate]

this is a cute art style

[@briceh1001]

A good way to see if someone is using you is to require them to reciprocate the help they have frequently gotten from you. If you always help them with something, ask them to help you with something and pay close attention to how they respond. If they refuse to be there for you or help you, you know they’re using you. You can also test them again and again to see if they are ever able to be there for you. Someone who is using you will not like that you ask for their support or help.

[@deatharcanatarot]

I love your videos, they're cute but informative

[@tymajenga276]

I knew my abuser would leave forever once I told her everything I knew she was doing cheating and the like alot, I suffered in hopes it was me getting the better of me and not wanting to turn everuone against her setious dr Jekyll and mrs hyde situation then when I did tell her years after we broke up she laughed at me and disappeared forever

[@stayreal120]

Thank you for sharing will look out for them lam single 4 yrs

[@user-lu1cc1fk4f]

I like how you added owl house characters at the beginning

[@ariban]

Reminds me of my ex-husband. I'm glad this video exists because I had to learn it on my own and walk away. 7 years dating, 3 years married. Divorced and still trying to remind myself that I am worthy of being loved and someone is out there who will receive all the love I have to give without resisting or manipulating me.

[@Kermit-1010]

Love and more power to you 🩵🌼

[@ariban]

@@Kermit-1010 and to you!

[@Kermit-1010]

@@ariban 🥹😊💜

[@2004jpepper]

It's sad when a truly loving and mutually supportive relationship turns into one sided and being used 😢

[@Gene_4160]

As someone who just left an 8 year long relationship that got progressively more abusive, this hurt way too close to home

[@Kyrolettuce]

He promised me he wouldn't ask me for pictures anymore, but now he's barely talking to me.

[@washingtub7111]

Last month, I ended a relationship of almost 3.5 years because he did reasons 2, 3, 7, and 8, and yet I feel bad because it caused me to do #1. I have people pleasing tendencies so when he'd say "I'm soooo hungry," I'd feel obligated to drop everything for him, even paying for us to go out when I was dirt broke. That was, until after the relationship ended. Right now, we still live together and he'd still give me those cues, but my responses became "I don't want to do that right now," to "that sucks," to flat out ignoring him and letting him deal with his own problems. I became a wall to replace a doormat, and I wish I felt like I could be something in the middle.

[@AveryScorpioArt]

I love all the cartoon characters used in this video. They fitted perfectly

[@BRITISH_AIRLINES_NO-FLY_LIST]

My ex did all of this but I was so blindsided by their words bc they would write paragraphs abt how much they loved me and I was irreplaceable and special and then the next day wouldnt talk to me untill the next evening. Then a gigantic 3 days after we broke up, they were repeating all of that to their new girl. Guess I wasn't so special to that narcissist after all.

[@xjt5998]

Survived with deep internal scars after a relationship like this, high expectations, one sided, ofc she never wanted a future with me but she didn't want to let go of me and made me think i'm crazy. 11 years have passed since. What can i doo to let go?

[@johnnydamm22]

these videos are always so informative and usefull i even reccomended them to my therapist. these videos help me realize things and see things more clearly. my biggest problem from this video is the one-sided part. but luckily these videos help me to stay strong. thank you psych2go for bringing this insight

[@Sisi_rainbow]

If at first you don’t succeed, think how many people you’ve made happy.🤗

[@user-gq4sm2ws3x]

3 weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend, I definitely relate to all of these points, it felt like the effort was split 90/10. This helps reinforce my dession to leave.