8 Things I Can't Live (Alone) Without

Hey there! Welcome back to my channel! In today's video, I'm sharing with you the 8 items that I absolutely cannot live without, especially since I'm living alone. Whether it's for convenience, comfort, or just pure necessity, these items have become essential parts of my daily life. Each of these items plays a significant role in making my solo living experience smoother and more enjoyable.
So, if you're living alone or planning to, or if you're just curious about what makes my day-to-day life tick, stick around! I'll be revealing each item, along with why it's so crucial to me. Who knows, you might discover a new must-have for your own solo adventures!
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[@mariannedressler6784]

One tip I have is that whenever I’m going to be using a ladder I text a friend and let them know I’m doing ladder work. Then I check back in when finished. That way if I fall they will know within a reasonable amount of time to come checking on me! Better safe than sorry!

[@cherylT321]

That’s a great idea!

[@MsDoglover02]

Great idea!

[@jennifervanpanhuis8406]

Apple Watch can detect falls and call 911, if you’re interested.

[@juliegotshaw]

That’s a great idea Marianne.

[@KrisHunt]

I do that as well

[@sueschoers4974]

I have lived alone for 30 years, there are a couple of things I would add to the list of must haves. 1. Put garden lights around the back and front gardens for security. So you can see if anyone is lurking around the house wiith out turning on any lights. 2. Put all the instructions and warranty cards for the things you buy in a ring binder with the receipts attached. 3. Keep your will, health directives, insurance, retirement/investment and bank account details together in another ring binder. Then if something happens to you, your loved wont have to go fossicing to find the information. 4. Keep a small overnight bag packed and ready to go, so if you have an urgent medical event it can go with you and you won't have to rely on anyone to get you the things you may need or if your away from home and have an accident its easy for someone to bring it to you. (I keep mine behind my bedroom door so its always with easy reach. 5. Keep a little stash of cash tucked away in the house for emergencies so if you have a problem with your bank or loose your bank account card, you dont need to ask anyone to borrow money until it is sorted.

[@carlasamuels479]

👍good idea to keep a emergency bag packed I never thought of that !

[@deeporter7369]

@@carlasamuels479 ... Yes, excellent idea. We started having an " emergency " bag packed last year during forrest fire season. Always keep it handy with our important papers.

[@sarahthompson5066]

This is good advice for married people too!

[@suec2117]

Very good advice thank you

[@vickig7261]

Your #4 is good idea. I need to do that.

[@user-hk1fg5ye7t]

Have lived alone for most of my adult life and now I'm looking at the big 70 year birthday! Don't know the time went. I have very little body strength due to a chronic illness, but am fiercely independent, so decided that some adjustments were in order. Simple, but the very best and most helpful item I can't live without is my rolling office chair! I put it at the laundry room entrance and place heavy items on it, such as cases of bottled water. Then I roll it to the kitchen and no heavy lifting. I also use it to sit and clean the toilet, to stock lower cabinets, etc. I know rolling carts are available but my chair allows me to move stuff and then provides a seat for putting things away. I love my chair!

[@bernadettehuff2984]

I am in the same boat, and I have used the rolling chair at times, but now I may use it more. Great ideas here.

[@gloriannburick1837]

I do a similar thing but I use my Rollator (walker) that has a seat. I also use it for meals. When my plates are ready I wheel it to the living room and that becomes my table.

[@laurahudson8210]

I think the gal who lives above me does that, never asked. I've referred to the noise as "bowling"... incessant rolling. My mom used to do that after she lost her leg.

[@MANI-gp6wn]

I highly recommend shelved carts (not the shopping kind). There are great ones that collapse for easy storage. I have several, different sizes - always in use! Also recommend a hydraulic stool for use when cleaning at floor level.

[@Raggedy-Ann]

Great idea!

[@juliae.8237]

I would add back scratcher 🙂

[@monikagonzales2658]

Ah, yes, love my back scratcher! Sooo true!

[@shirleydenton4747]

I use mine daily. As we get older we cannot stretch as far and skin gets dry. Also a back scrubber for the shower.

[@Brownmahfun]

😄

[@GeorgiannaMartin]

I have one in my car, too!❤

[@marysibayan5643]

One in every room.

[@user-te9gl6nr9f]

I have an envelope stuck to my fridge with a magnet that's labeled "For ambulance and emergency personnel ". Inside is my Dr's contact info, my current meds, allergies, a list of current medical issues. Which knee is the store bought one, which kid is my POA along with their contact info. All my friends and family know it's there and if the ambulance pro's happen to overlook it they should take it to whatever hospital i was taken too. I maintain a longer more detailed version to take with me on Dr appointments. Because I won't always remember when i had this surgery or the spelling of that medication. It makes filling out my history a breeze! Love, love, love your videos!

[@sjordan7085]

Good idea, I wear a necklace with emergency medical info. on it. just in case, after an anesthesiologist told me to.

[@Shopgirl1]

@@sjordan7085 my mom and dad wore the necklaces..we have them on our keychains

[@miniveedub]

I have all my medical information filled out in the emergency section on my iPhone which can be accessed without a passcode. I also have my emergency contact information on the photo on my lock screen so anyone picking up my phone can see who to call.

[@nwauntie64]

Same here. I have it all in an app for my android smartphone. It has emergency contact info, medical history, medications, etc. Even a place who to call that will go take care of my dog if I was incapacitated. It is on the lock screen, accessible for emergency personnel (access to that emergency app only). Recently, I used it when I was carted off in an ambulance and was too ill to go over all that, just handed over my phone.

[@coolcpa3321]

I have all critical emergency info in my phone and in a small booklet on my entry table. The book is labeled "ICE" in large letters. ICE being, of course, "in case of emergency." Also, I review my estate planning and medical power of attorney once a year to ensure it's up-to-date. Always plan ahead and make it easy for others.

[@lillianbarker4292]

I’m not being flippant when I add Handyman/woman to the list. It’s tempting to rely on friends, family or neighbors for things you can’t do, but it’s oh so nice to call a handyman and write a check. No strings attached. 😊

[@silverandsolo]

Handyman is on my list for "Part II" video!

[@akc783]

If you can afford it

[@victoria86nj]

⁠@@akc783 I also cannot afford to hire anyone to help me. I have worked for most of my life (since age 10) until my health issues interfered. I was laid off from my last position after 25 loyal years to a very wealthy corporation. When I say my following statements, I’m speaking of having an amount of money or income to cover basic day to day living necessities. There’s the saying, “Money doesn’t buy happiness.” It must have been said by an unhappy, ungrateful person with more than enough finances to live, and live well. Speaking for myself, but I’d being really freaking HAPPY to NOT have daily worrying (enough to make me lose sleep and at times, feel sick over it) about whether I’ll have enough money each month to cover my property taxes ($6k for a 900 square foot home), mortgage (a second mortgage helps me pay my bills, especially if I’m threatened with my water or electric being shut off), water (I conserve it too), sewer, gas/electric (everything is turned off when not being used), health insurance (plus high copayments), food (not eating at restaurants or takeout), and groceries (basics like toilet paper and cleaning supplies). I do not take vacations either. Money can absolutely provide happiness to those who don’t have enough. Wishing an easier road ahead for those of us without sufficient income.

[@sandybuchanan2666]

@@akc783 And find a good one! LOL!

[@Beezer.D.B.]

@@sandybuchanan2666 - Yes! I tried to get a good but reasonable one once and he turned out to be the “Handyman from Hell”, lol! 🛠️😈 I need one again but have been reluctant to look, plus SS has gone up a little as of January, but not enough to keep up with inflation, so I can’t really afford “a good one” right now. 🫤

[@CupcakeCottage]

The best thing ever is to get rid of all unnecessary items and get organized so it’s easy to find everything. Life is so much easier.

[@sobeit1166]

I need to do this myself.

[@bitrudder3792]

Agree 100%! And it's not that hard when you always get rid of a few more things than you bring in. That and periodic purges help keep things under control.

[@thathandpanlady4510]

I’m working on that now … newly widowed and need to prep for the next move. Whew! What a job! It can be overwhelming …🫤

[@bitrudder3792]

@@thathandpanlady4510 - i'm sorry for your loss! I hope you invite a friend or two to help you with that makes sense in your process. You probably have friends that would be so happy to do something practical for you at this time. I was always happy I could do some thing for people To help people whose houses had flooded, who lost a spouse, one through divorce and one through death. Just a few old friends getting together to help the one in need at the moment.

[@thathandpanlady4510]

@@bitrudder3792 …. 🙏😌 ….. 🛸🎶🦋

[@MsDoglover02]

I have something on my keychain that says my pet is home alone should I have an emergency outside my home. I have an accompanying card under my license in my wallet with who to call for the dogs.

[@ahill4642]

Loving dog mom, you. 👍

[@bb57nyc]

This is the only comment that truly makes sense for someone living alone--the rest are just common sense and could apply to anyone.

[@sherryleggett1612]

Good idea. I have often wondered what would happen to my dog if I wasn’t here.

[@msr1116]

My neighbors had a placard in a front window indicating dogs were in the house.

[@regineheine5707]

@@bb57nycMaybe you haven‘t experienced what I had : everything you mentioned as „ common sense „ things which apply to every situation you live in: it became scary, everything, what I used to do while not being alone ( though I actually was) by being on my own.I had and still have to overcome this and tell myself, you can do this, you experienced you can.

[@suev3339]

I’ve lived alone for 10 years and bought myself 4 flashlights. One by my chair, one in my kitchen and bathroom, one by my pillow in bed. Never know when lights go out and I need it.

[@RS-gl9ht]

Great idea thank you!

[@thesaltycrone9237]

I got some that plug in the wall and act like night lights. When the power goes out there is a flashlight in sight and ready to be used and can be switched to a higher power when in use.

[@EdgarFitchMarco]

Hello Sue, Can we be friends?

[@suev3339]

@@EdgarFitchMarco And who be you?

[@lyndi9082]

I do that with scissors too! I never have to hunt or travel far to get my scissors or a utility knife... I use them to open all kinds of packages.

[@jacquelynfales4661]

First timer. 84 years young. I replaced all door knobs with handle type. Easier to grip. Also had the outside door locks keyed the same way so I only need one key to unlock three doors. Can no longer use a ladder. Gripper is essential. A walker with a seat works when I need to move something under 15 pounds which is my limit. My garden beds are 24” high. Walker allows me to sit to tend my veggies. A back belt when lifting or standing saves the back! You see them on people in lumber department in Lowe’s. They wear them for a reason. So good for home use.

[@lauram.511]

Where did you get your back belt? Great idea!

[@ahill4642]

wow, great ideas!

[@Vegas_Mel]

YES!! My gripper/grabber is my favorite accessory!

[@shawnondell4783]

I have a back belt and forget to use it which is why I hurt my back again, sawing a small tree that fell during a wind storm. I'm 71 but think I'm way younger! I have a small battery powered chainsaw that is fun to use, most of the time! I always remember my safety glasses! I guess I am going to have to hang my back belt with the safety glasses so I don't forget about it again!!

[@lyndi9082]

@@Vegas_Mel I have several in different places in the house so I don't have to go get it... it's always right there!

[@merrilynblackmore6962]

All us women should be that self sufficient. You never know when you will be alone.

[@lillianbarker4292]

Men too! If you’re self sufficient you can choose who you enjoy being with.

[@rebeccacamacho-sobczak4282]

Even if you are NOT alone! It's good to be self-reliant.

[@TheQueenRulesAll]

I think it is a good idea to learn to be self sufficient before any relationship. Could be why there is a big problem with codependency. It shifts the dynamic so ine person is in control. Also, I am not not sure at what point society began to value not knowing how to do daily tasks. I suppose it's the everyone wants to be a king syndrome....lol. Same as back a hundred years amd before, where even having rosy cheeks, much less darkened skin from being in the sun, meant one was working class and looked down upon. Now people spend loads of money just to get a tan...😂 I pray we will get back to a place where being competent and well read is valued.

[@Daisydeb16]

Great tips! I am 64 and have lived alone for over two decades. I recently sold my home and went through a major downsizing to an apartment. Couldn't be happier! I felt like my home became like taking care of a child, and it was just too much. In fact, I ended up not taking care of it, as I should have...due to costs. I want easy peasy now.

[@welchyv]

I love your humor. Another tip is always keep your phonecharged

[@silverandsolo]

Always!

[@amychilders5170]

If you still use a landline keep your landline phone charged and keep your cellular phone charged with the find my phone app engaged on the phone so you can be found if you're without your landline close by.. Also have an In Case of Emergency contact list or aka ICE list made so your family can be contacted or closest person you trust..

[@sabrinabeckham3826]

I would add handtruck. I move boxes, larger planters, trash to curb, etc.

[@silverandsolo]

So right! I'll put that on my list for a future video!

[@jsmith7240]

Yes I have a sack carrier, the base folds flat and stores easily. Its all metal and strong. Useful for moving big pots in the garden, heavy things out the car like big boxes, bags of compost. I liked your collapsible carrier, I've never seen one of those 😊

[@pjlacey3990]

I have a foldable hand truck that stays in the back of my car. I got it on Amazon.

[@chris...9497]

My small foldup shopping cart can be used as a handtruck if I slip off the bag. I recently flew Basic Economy coast-to-coast to visit family, which meant squeezing a week's worth of necessities into one backpack. Concerns over maybe not being able to handle the weight led me to purchase a foldup handtruck rated to 77 lbs carry capacity. The nice thing was being able to pack the handtruck INSIDE the backpack. Very light, takes almost no space, perfectly flat (down to 2 inches). That and a couple of bungee cords should do for most seniors.

[@mamacat3263]

Yes, I have one also, for bringing in cat food and cat litter, which I order online. I also put alarms on all my windows. I bought them very inexpensively from Amazon.

[@ameliagfawkes512]

The best way to save money and know you're eating good food is to batch cook from scratch and fill your freezer with single portions of meals you love. It's also a life-saver if you're sick and just don't have the energy to do anything more than stick something in the microwave. You can freeze everything from bread and milk to butter, beef stew and chicken soup. Drink plenty of water, use quality salt, take Vit D3 with K2 supplements (everyone!) and eat fresh food every single day. Get fresh air, keep moving and practise balance exercises - it may save you from having falls.

[@jenn976]

Agreed! Been doing this for the last 20 years at least.

[@dsa2591]

I tried batch cooking, but I get bored with the same meals all the time, so I ended up giving a lot of it away. Not a money saver for me.

[@tlee4218]

I was single working Mom. One of my days off was spent cooking for the week and freezing it. Whatever was my sons favorites at that age. It saved me so much time during the week and less stress for me after work. Once he left home eating for myself is simple so less cooking, many times ate out with friends. Now in retirement happily living with no one, I am doing what you said..natch cooking. It is so handy and like you said if get sick can thaw something out. I love homemade soup, stews so it works for me. Not a red meat eater. Learning I can freeze veggies so easily after cooking changed my choices..❤

[@quinnas7931]

AMEN!

[@nancyknott3389]

I recently purchased a grabber. Great purchase, good for reaching up high or under a table. Also good for cleaning up outside

[@bearteeka4782]

Grabber, yes, and it's also good for picking up dead bugs... I cover them with tissue or paper towel and then use the grabber to put them in the trash. Fly swatter for related use.

[@coolcpa3321]

I call mine "grabboids." First used them as a volunteer cleaning beaches. Bought them in various lengths for my late father (16", 24" 32"). I now have multiple throughout the house for dedicated purposes: cupboards and closets, items that fall to the floor or under/behind furniture, grab laundry from the bottom of the washer/back of the dryer, etc. Terrific tools.

[@Nwladylaura369]

Helps with household chores and getting the dog’s ball out from under the furniture! 🐕

[@lynhanna917]

I use mine when weeding! I have a tool called a stirrup hoe that pulls weeds out by their roots. I then take a large bucket and pick up all the loose weeds and into the garbage lined bucket they go.

[@Jen-CelticWarrior]

Those long-handled grilling tongs with the silicone ends are good grabbers, too. I use them often to get things out of cabinets.

[@janewalker6343]

I am an 83 year old widow and living alone, a life alert is essential. I feel like someone is always aware of my safety.

[@sandrajohnson2489]

I just happened upon your channel and not sure how but I'm glad I did. I will be 70 next month and I can't believe how fast time has gone by. I still feel young in my mind but can't do some of the things I used to do. That's okay. I have lived alone since my mom passed in 2015. I was her caregiver. At that time I was separated from my now ex and it was my choice after I caught him cheating. Good riddance. I am not interested at all in dating and don't feel lonely at all. I have my two dogs to keep me company and that's all I need. My two grown kids and I don't have a relationship and I'm okay with that. I've always been independent and like to do things for myself if I can. I have a lot of tools and have learned so much by watching videos on how to do things. I am an artist and watch videos about that as well. The things I can't do, I call a contractor. I don't know about plumbing and electrical so I leave those things to the pros. I'm not interested in traveling. In my younger years I did a lot of traveling and have been to a lot of places and have LIVED in a lot of places. I'm happy just to stay home.

[@churchofpos2279]

I live up in the mountains, so during storms, it's not unusual to have small branches break off and land on the ground. They make a small cordless chainsaw that is lightweight and it has been a lifesaver. . I can cut up the branches into small pieces to get rid of them or keep them to use in the fire pit.

[@Bugsybear2]

I've have a one-handed battery chain saw and a large one. Use them all the time.

[@kathrynjones4610]

I also have a cordless pole saw for the up there branches.

[@jennywren8937]

I use a battery reciprocating saw, but sometimes it gets stuck😮

[@Tootsie806]

I have a larger electric chainsaw, but my little, battery chain saw makes my life so much easier. Don’t forget the safety glasses!

[@chancellorism]

Thanks Jen for being so thoughtful about all of this. I”m about the same age as you but still have a ways to go work wise so I havent thought some of this stuff thru in such detail. Very helpful. I”m sharing with others 😊

[@cled3600]

Sixty-nine year old childless widow here and I just fell on your channel. What a gold mine! A pleasant lady sharing solid and useful information with appropriate context. I didn't catch your name yet, but I feel like I've found a new friend. Subscribed just now.

[@silverandsolo]

Welcome aboard!

[@DeborahThird-og1uo]

When each kid went to College they each got a “d@mn-it!” kit. Shoebox: safety pins, bandaids, aspirin, shoelaces, sugar packets, hairclips, instant coffee, pads, 1/4 roll tp, prethreaded sewing needles, mini hotel soap, shampoo etc, candl/matches, bus tickets, pen, pencil. Basically it was anything you might not have, but need, making you say d@mmit! Shoebox was full! My youngest opened hers within 2 weeks 🤣 And now i have my own 😁

[@Tracylindilou]

Thats an awesome idea!!

[@lf4061]

I sent mine with a trunk that he and his room mate called the magical never ending trunk. They said some people said it was like the “tartus” on “Dr. Who”, must be bigger on the inside than the outside appearance; as no matter what they needed, they just looked in the trunk and it was there! 😂

[@rebeccacamacho-sobczak4282]

That is sooo cute, and I bet memorial!!

[@causticchameleon7861]

When each of my kids went off to college, they got a toolbox/tool bag. Very basic hammer, screw drivers, level, nails, screws, pliers and I think an adjustable wrench.

[@nadogrl]

@@lf4061- *TARDIS.

[@dustyroselansall8185]

Hi Jen - great tips - and I agree one needs to learn self sufficiency when living alone. At going on 83 and a widow with no family near by, I still am 'holding' with being self sufficient at what needs tending to in all areas of my life and with my vehicle but I now draw the line at step ladders after falling off one a few years ago and fracturing ribs and shin bone and lacerating upper under arm! But I'm also still capable of changing out a sink tap or replacing washers, shower hose, etc.

[@BobbieJeanM]

I know a few people in their 80’s and 90’s who are active like you. I greatly admire their and your physical ability! My back has a tantrum whenever I do anything halfway heavy so I seriously doubt being able to do what you do! 👍👌

[@northstar4851]

I would add a wooden back scratcher! Seriously!!!

[@shortperson781]

@@northstar4851 A bath brush works wonderfully to scratch your back. I have four!

[@cherietucker9930]

Food storage containers are great to share a big batch of whatever with the bachelor across the road. I make a big batch of chili, taco soup or spaghetti and share on a rainy or snowy night. He helps me with things I can't physically do myself. Our neighborhood watches over each other.

[@heatherhill5174]

That is so good. I have a kind neighbour who I could ask for help if needed and vice versa, but I am still mobile enough to manage everything for myself.

[@wyominghome4857]

Great idea! I live in a town where people can be counted on to help each other, but isolation can be a problem when you're older and don't have family nearby, so it's good to reach out.

[@kathleendudek2955]

We don't depend on neighbors. One neighbor wanted us to pay for their things and wanted to impose 24/7. Had to cut off contact.

[@wyominghome4857]

@@kathleendudek2955 A lot depends on the area you're in. We live in a very small town (900 people) so everyone knows everyone. People in Wyoming in general are pretty self-sufficient, but always willing to pitch in. I think people here would be shocked if anyone expected payment.

[@misst1586]

Nice of you.

[@user-kr8lm2es4o]

For storing individual portions of leftovers like chili, etc., I use Kerr or Ball wide mouth canning jars. They can go from freezer to microwave. I ordered plastic jar lids that screw on instead of the metal 2 part lids, which always seem to rust and discolor. These jars can also store leftovers and liquids in the refrigerator. They don't impart plastic into your food or pollute the environment as much. Easy to store because they are uniform sizes. If you don't need as many as are sold in a box (and to get a variety of sizes), perhaps order with a friend. And they wash up well in the dishwasher (so do the lids).

[@larkendelvie]

They can also be used to store hardware (nails, screws etc) and sewing notions etc.

[@melissaquintrall5679]

I love the jar idea. My mom cans so I always have jars but I also use them for other food use but never used them for leftovers. I'll need to order the one piece lids now

[@melissaquintrall5679]

​@@larkendelvie nooooooo those are for food. The dollar store ones are for the garage.

[@chris...9497]

Classico is a brand name pasta sauce company I enjoy. Now, quality of the sauce is great, but the quality of the jar it's packaged in is just as good, if not better. I've had occasion recently to research it and learned the Ball jars Classico uses are the extra-beefy ones, the ones that are most able to withstand changes in temperatures. Not all glass is created equal; most jarred foods are sold in glass jars that can't handle freezing, microwaving, or sudden changes in temperature without shattering. Ball is one company that specifically makes their jars able to handle this, as they are canning jars. But even among canning jars and even Ball jars, some are stronger than others. And Classico uses these jars. You can use the original Classico lids or buy new ones from Ball. I just love the idea that you can buy the pasta sauce and get a free canning jar along with it!

[@jodynuttall3215]

They are easy to find in thrift stores too.

[@user-hc6so5ul6o]

Super bright flashlights, fire extinguisher, I keep both in my kitchen. Flashlight has a strong magnet on it and lives on the side of my refrigerator - has come in handy many times.

[@wyominghome4857]

We now have a detached garage (in cougar country) so thanks for the reminder to get a powerful flashlight for when we have to go retrieve something. Fire extinguishers always baffled me, but thankfully they now make fire extinguisher sprays that work like hairspray. I have several of those around the house.

[@user-hc6so5ul6o]

@@wyominghome4857 I didn't know about that type of extinguisher, glad you mentioned it!

[@pjlacey3990]

Maybe have a second fire extinguisher that is not kept in the kitchen. You can’t always reach the one in the kitchen if there is fire in the way.

[@Nwladylaura369]

Headlamp that way your hands are free.

[@rebeccacamacho-sobczak4282]

A flashlight in every room!

[@terrycavo9484]

May I add a comment that is actually good for everyone. When you bring home can goods from the store take 1 minute to write the expiration date on top. Do this with medications also and for perscription bottles a description of what it is used for....BP, blood thinner, muscle relaxer etc..

[@dsa2591]

Great idea! Thanks! I also write dosage instructions on the outside of vitamin & supplement bottles so I don't have to try to read that tiny print should I forget how to take them.

[@earthdogpj1]

Also, if have a pet or pets, writing down vet visits, vaccines, emergency contacts and directives for the pets care if they outlast you. Someone should know this plan

[@leslienichols5268]

A lovely idea!

[@Laz3rCat95]

Especially if you are in your senior years or have a tortoise or parrot. Those animals have notoriously long lifespans and often outlive their owners.

[@chris...9497]

OMG, YES! A backscratcher is essential, whether living alone or not. About 20 years ago I developed shingles. What is less well known about the condition is that it can clear up completely, rage on for the rest of your life, or 'wear off' slowly over time. Even now, if cloth moves across the old rash site, it can 'waken' the itchiness; a backscratcher is such a relief! Not a tool but an essential service (and a great annual gift for Xmas, birthday, or Mother's Day) is a pedicure. Footcare is a necessity for the aged, especially when it becomes challenging or impossible to reach the feet. A pedicurist can do basic footcare and also report issues to take up with your doctor. Take care if you do get regular pedicures to find a shop that lines the soaking bin with a plastic bag, to avoid contracting infections. Find a shop with which you can grow a rapport, and makes certain you tip reasonably. A proper pedicure provides you a massaging chair (you get the controls), the lined foot basin to soak in, an exfoliant scrub toe-to-calf-top, moisturizing with massage, toenail trim, cuticle treatment, and choice of nail polish (I politely refuse polish). Heavenly!

[@bitrudder3792]

@@chris...9497- This is totally worth reposting as a general comment.

[@melissawittman]

I just happened upon this video. I became a widow at 54 and truly struggled being alone. I will begin a house journal. That is a GREAT tip. I do keep instructions and warranties, but rarely look at them for expirations. When I lost my husband he did not have a will and there were no clear instructions of what to do (each state is different). I found myself running back and forth from several places to the courthouse. It's been 6 years and I'm still learning. From the comments I agree with adding lighting around the yard and another regarding finding a handyman because friends don't have the time or you just don't want to ask. Thank you for sharing your tips.

[@JensUniqueNibblesandMore]

I'm 55 and 2 years down the widow road. I too just found this channel. I wish you the best

[@lumpygravy52]

I could use a teenager around the house to help me figure out my cell phone, and other tech things like my laptop. I'm an old boomer so not very tech savvy.

[@laurawoodford1225]

You tube has folks who do that and also you can type question into search and get answers and instructions

[@tbacon2784]

Some community colleges used to have (maybe still do?) classifieds where you can advertise for a student. Free rent in exchange for help around the house and/or rent, sometimes a little of both... In the same place you can advertise for someone to come in as needed in exchange for money, home cooked meals, etc. And of course there were students advertising on their side as well, so you can find them easier... Look around, call colleges close by, etc.

[@anmariejames2646]

I would also suggest asking at your local library or community center for tech help or “reverse tutoring”…where young people volunteer to help with that kind of thing.

[@CLord-gs7nj]

Your local librarians can help with that.

[@wyominghome4857]

@@anmariejames2646 Reverse tutoring is a great idea!

[@carolann811]

I have Alexa and among other things use her to say good morning and good night. I'm recently on my own at 63 and miss having someone tell me good night. (That was my son until we moved across the country from each other.) While I talk to myself all the time, it's nice to bracket my day with a relatively friendly voice saying good morning and good night.

[@thesaltycrone9237]

I know what you mean

[@juliejohnson497]

I am 77 and for 20 years my day really starts when I say "Good morning, Janey, Mama loves you". Maybe silly but it is good for me if not for her.

[@juliejohnson497]

P.s. Janey is my cat.

[@carolann811]

@@juliejohnson497 I have cats -- I have one name Janey too. And I talk to all of them during the day. I work from home so I tell them work issues, complain about life in general, ask advice -- the answer is usually "chill out and take a nap with us" along with the occasional "have a hissy fit". And yes, it's good for me and for them as well. As an odd side benefit over the past six months of being on my own I've 'trained' each cat to come to their own name. Small things make me happy 😻and cats are some of those small things.

[@suprajayne]

Some of us don’t live alone but for various reasons also can’t depend on help doing most household tasks. These are awesomely helpful, thank you!

[@amychilders5170]

Amen to that.. I do have a husband but he's mostly at work or taking care of his mother these days..

[@nsgirl5657]

Hi, somehow your video came up and I am now subscribed. My husband has pancreatic cancer and I am terrified/useless looking after house maintenance/repairs. I have always found anything mechanical, including computers, beyond difficult. I am 65, childless, without friends or family I can rely on. I need to tackle the hoard (we are both pack rats) and give up my house.

[@jsmith7240]

I also have a carbon monoxide detector bcs it's a silent killer, ie fumes can leak out of faulty gas devices and the gas makes you sleepy. Being on your own, no one is around in the rest of the house to find you, so a good alarm is a life saver to wake you and alert you to what's going on! Also a good reminder to get your appliances serviced and safety checked annually 🎉 - one for the journal 😅

[@misst1586]

That happened to me. My gas leaked all night and I started to feel like I was having anesthesia I didn't know what was wrong because I had recently had covid and didn't smell anything. I have to say God saved me because I got into the shower with the exhaust fan on. I thought I was experiencing vertigo. Which I have. And then I was so tired I didn't dry my hair I just threw the towel down I got in my room laying in my bed with my hair wet and threw the towel down. It somewhat sealed the bottom of my bedroom door. I noticed the leak in the morning. Praise God but what I was going to say is my carbon monoxide detector never went off. There is a separate kind of detector that detects gas leaks I don't even know what it's called. I don't have one.

[@jsmith7240]

Wow misst1586! You were very lucky. I've not heard of the detectors that pick up gas. The carbon monoxide has no smell which is why it is so deadly. So glad to hear you're OK 🌿

[@lesleydickson7746]

In Scotland that’s law now. We have to have interlinked smoke alarms in certain rooms, CO2 alarms and a heat alarm in the kitchen. 😊

[@bitrudder3792]

absolutely. And in general, having a planner that lists all the routine things we need to do, and a place to make a note of when we last did them, makes things go a lot more smoothly. You won't forget to renew your passport or your drivers license or your insurance even if there's a failure of communication. thanks like inspecting the perimeter of your house and around the drains under your sinks for termites can save you a mint. Making sure you change your HVAC filters and have your systems serviced by someone you trust is also important. If you have a home warranty and you don't do that, insurance companies sometimes don't pay on these extended warranty care policies. remembering to pour vinegar down the drains of sinks that also receive overflow from the attic AC. running your dishwasher every week or so even if you usually hand wash can prevent it from breaking down from lack of use. It's a thing! Flushing extra toilets in bathrooms you don't use much and giving them a little scrub out prevents hard water rings among other things. There are hundreds of details to deal with in various types of houses and apartments.

[@pegs1659]

Make sure your CO detector is plugged in down low. My outlet is up high so I had to get a extension 3 ft cord. By the time it gets up high, you are dead.

[@saranewland1629]

I use a Key Lockbox (usually used by realtors or Airbnb hosts) instead of a hide a key. There are all different kinds out there. It is great for all kinds of things too, like having a pet sitter come in while I am out of town, or a contractor. It also give me piece of mind that if I lock myself (i have done it) out I can get back into my house. Thanks for this channel, you are really helping me gain confidence it getting out and living!

[@cherylT321]

I live in an apartment building l decided to “hide” in plain sight, a key to my apartment on another floor. Even if it’s discovered, most people would assume that it belongs to someone on that particular floor!

[@karinhart489]

Several years ago a friend down the hill rented out her condo to her mother while she was out of town for a few years go. We put a key lockbox on the walkway near her front door so either I or another friend could get in if she needed help. We did use it a few times.

[@MsDoglover02]

I use one also and I agree about pet sitter and contractors.

[@WellEditedCo]

As a latchkey kid in the 1980s, there were many times I had to let myself in through a window because I forgot my key. So as a mom, I always worried my kids would forget their house key and get locked out. I found one of those lock boxes on Amazon, and we attached it to an exterior wall near our front door and I have peace of mind now. In case I ever forget my key too! :)

[@catherinerhyno9581]

Yes, I have a digital lock that accepts 4 numbers, so I program it or deprogram it for guests, pet sitters or even trusted service people. Using the last four digits of a someone's cellphone makes it easy to remember.

[@LLJerseyGirl]

Here’s something to get rid of: throw or area rugs! ‼️ They are tripping hazards and falls are dangerous for anyone. Get a power ⚡️bank to charge your phone in case you lose power…and make sure to keep it charged. A security camera/doorbell like Ring or Blink. Amazon has sales often on these products. I don’t answer the door unless I know who it is and having the ability to view who’s at the door safely is invaluable. Most people have fire extinguishers 🧯 but those new fire blankets seem like a good idea to have near the kitchen and are so easy.

[@user-ov6bv9cn1o]

I Absolutely disagree. I have an apartment with linoleum floors. I hate linoleum. I have lived with hand knotted oriental rugs all my life and now in my retirement I have an 8 x 12 hand woven kilim rug in my living room which is beautiful and pulls the room together. It also removes the echo that rooms have with no rugs or drapes. The thing with good rugs is that you have to spend the extra money to buy good pads for them. Under my big rug I have a 1/2 inch flannel pad. It doesn’t move.. My smaller rug in my kitchen and in my bedroom have anti slip pads. My son gave me a cheap oriental to put under my bed when I moved into my current place and it is anchored by the bed. Im 71 1/2 years old and I’ve never tripped on a rug yet my entire life. I have however, slipped and fallen on the slippery bare linoleum in my socks. Try being careful where you walk. It actually helps.

[@hhsg11]

When I moved into this house 18 months ago, I decided to plumb in my own washing machine for the first time. I watched a KZbin video and it was done in 5 minutes. Saved me money rather than getting a plumber to do it. It was so easy and an accomplishment. 👍 I have all the things that you mentioned, but no way will I have a Miss A or Siri or smart plugs. I would rather get up and put the lights etc on and off. 👍

[@user-hc6so5ul6o]

Totally agree about Alex, etc. I'd like to keep what little privacy we have left. There are non-smartlight timers that can be used too.

[@wyominghome4857]

Dear HH, right on! As I mentioned in my own comment, Alexa still seems like a high-tech Clapper to me and an excuse to be sedentary. The last thing I need is to sit on my duff!

[@SpeakTruthBeKind]

So smart to want to stay as active as possible as we all need to. I remember hearing years ago a doctor of rheumatology saying that he always wanted his patients to be as active as possible and would not order a “Hover-round chair” for indoors as he sadly found patients who used then would end up not changing their eating habits and be 50 pounds heavier within the year due to their lack of activity. Also You-Tube is my friend and you definitely saved yourself $$$ doing it yourself. Good for you! 👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@lesleydickson7746]

If I wake up and night and I’m cold I ask Alexa to turn on my electric blanket. Saves me rolling over to do it. 😂

[@Worldbuilder]

Where I live, if you get your appliances delivered the people doing the delivery will unplug the old appliance, plug in the new appliance and take the old one with them and dispose of it. It’s a service I absolutely *love*.

[@j.darrel517]

I love that her workbench looks exactly like mine, no organization yet honestly I could tell you in a second where everything is. And I couldn't live without my four-wheel wheelbarrow and my hand truck/dolly.

[@silverandsolo]

I have a four-wheel wheelbarrow too! Good one for Part II!

[@lelleithmurray235]

I have my great niece's old radio flyer. Great for moving my outdoor plants around!

[@williammay2332]

Your tool box was placed with the wide side under the bench. Slide it in with the narrow end showing. That frees up some room for you.

[@Pythonaria]

I don't live alone as my adult son lives with me. I am a widow. We both have mobility issues (I'm 67). We have Alexas in every room, both dots and shows. They are fantastic pieces of tech. We use smart bulbs and smart plugs. I also have music playlists and use them to play music a lot. Just tell her what you want to listen to and enjoy. If I need my son for something and he is in his room, all I've got to do is "drop in" on his show. I'm very short so have the little step in my kitchen. I have a lot of "kitchen helpers", my beloved Instant Pot, Kenwood Chef with all the attachments (British equivalent of Kitchen Aid stand mixers), a bread maker, air fryer - mine is like a mini oven and really versatile, even does spit roast chicken. A gadget I use often is my juicer. It's not a big one but is USB rechargeable. I use a lot of lemons in cooking and baking and like a glass of fresh orange juice every day but can't squeeze citrus fruits with a normal squeezer as I have a very weak wrist. I also have a meat slicer which is great for slicing breads and meats (I make all my own bread). We don't have a kettle. Instead we have a hot/cold water dispenser which gives us filtered water. We live in a very hard water area and the lifespan of a normal kettle was 18 months - 2 years maximum. You mentioned Blink doorbells. We have one of these and it's been invaluable. I have sent door scammers packing and more recently we had a criminal incident in our front garden. Some youths chased another youth who tried to get away by coming into my garden and trying to get through the side gate which was locked. The whole thing was caught on the Blink so I was able to give the video footage to the police. They were VERY happy and caught the miscreants. It was quite serious as it turned out as the youth who was fleeing sustained stab injuries. It was quite an experience because we live in a very quiet street. Subscribed.

[@wheretoretire3315]

I live alone in the Bahamas. Everything needs to be shipped here and is quite expensive. Step ladder is the one thing I really want. I wouldn’t want a hideaway key. That would make me worry that someone might find it. Instead, I have an electronic lock that can be unlocked with my phone or a code. Totally agree about the tool box. The one thing I can’t live without is…KZbin! I have been able to repair so many things myself by watching KZbin videos.

[@diannaleefolkers-sarber2393]

I have a wagon, a pretty good-sized one, and I bring my groceries, dog food, or cat food in the house.

[@bitrudder3792]

I absolutely love a great wagon!

[@wmarian5027]

Me too, mine folds up and so stores well.

[@tvdavis]

I am just a few years younger than you. Widowed two weeks ago, no children. I’ve now watched exactly one and a half of your videos, and I now consider you my “wise cousin to the north”! We have the same ladder, same step-stool, similar decorating styles (my white bookshelves have boardgames AND books). Instant new sub! Thanks for making the “silver and solo” life cool and comfortable!

[@anitamoore4580]

Very sorry for your recent loss. Take care of yourself. ❤

[@tvdavis]

@@anitamoore4580 Thank you so much for your kind words. 😇

[@daveschmarder-1950]

My mailbox is nearly 50 feet from my door. I have Alexa (and GH too). I bought a magnetic contact sensor and put the magnet on my mailbox and the sensor inside the box. I have a plastic box, so this may or may not work if a metal box is used. When the letter carrier opens my box, several lights change color and Alexa cheerfully announces that I have mail. After I get my mail, I tell Alexa to reset the lights. I'm a new subscriber.

[@cathynewyork7918]

You should just WALK to the mailbox every day instead of relying on lights and Alexa - the exercise will be good for you. I am 74 and still run 2 miles each on three days a week.

[@JensUniqueNibblesandMore]

​I believe her point was to know exactly when the mail comes. If different postmen work the route there will be different delivery times. And some folks don't want to leave their mail sitting in the heat / cold for long (small packages such as Rxs, or for security reasons) Or, there could be mobility issues that we strangers on the internet know nothing about. Plus, gadgets are fun!​@@cathynewyork7918

[@lillypatience]

I’d add furniture sliders and furniture dollies. I’ve rearranged my entire house with these items 😊. I do buy in bulk and food prep because I have two freezers and two fridges plus my parents live next store so I share with them. The emergency contact feature of Alexa used to be free but now it looks like it costs $6 per month.

[@Spirit_of_Morning]

@@cathynewyork7918 It's wonderful that you are still healthy enough to do that. Not everyone is that lucky. It's human nature for people to think that everyone else is in the same situation or has the same physical capacity that they do. There are many people for who it is difficult to walk that far for legitimate reasons. It also can be very dangerous to be walking on ice in the winter and not pleasant to be walking in the pouring rain, difficult to manage an umbrella when both hands are on a walker or if someone is in a wheelchair or just had surgery or getting over being very ill. The mailbox also might be on a hill, which makes it a challenge for some folks as well. A little compassion goes a long way.

[@cathynewyork7918]

@@Spirit_of_Morning Much of what you said is true - but I have seen in MANY cases that my fellow older citizens are unable to walk to the mailbox simply because they have NEVER done ANY physical exercise their whole lives, and now their bodies cannot do anything. I have been mountain hiking, competitive dog training and dog showing, and running since I was a child. My body is used to moving - so therefore it can.

[@kyrad6543]

Gorilla makes a taller step ladder with big wide foot rests. I really love it. It feels so stable to me to be able to plant my feet on it securely.

[@marcilejones3038]

I have a furniture lifter. It’s a long handled tool that lets you slide the flat front edge of it under the furniture and leverage it up. I often use it with furniture sliders to move heavy pieces or to protect my floor.

[@rhondabryant6873]

I don’t live alone, but I saw the jar opener in the teaser photo and just have to say how much I love it! I bought one for my Mom, and she loves it. She then bought one for a friend who told her to tell me that SHE loved it. One of the best little things ever!

[@bitrudder3792]

I use the standard bottle cap opener that has a blunt side and a pointy side all the time… It easily breaks the seal on jars with shallow metal lids.

[@rhondabryant6873]

@@bitrudder3792, I have arthritis and need help with peanut butter and even milk. The one shown is a life-saver for me.

[@rebeccacamacho-sobczak4282]

Terrific! I want one, too!!

[@rhondabryant6873]

@@bitrudder3792, that’s true. But this one also opens peanut butter, milk and cream with screw-caps, and home-made canned goods. When my arthritis acts up, it is a life-saver!

[@bitrudder3792]

@@rhondabryant6873 - I'm so glad it's working for you! When my hands get bad I have trouble even with those kind. SMH.

[@kimsnader8777]

Living single most of my life, I have occasionallly experienced times when I was injured, which presented some issues safely bathing for several days or weeks. Never again will I live without a handheld showerhead (one with a one-handed shut-off button and a hose long enough for comfortable use while seated) and a sturdy bath stool. The shower rig is also helpful if you own a small pet, as it makes it easier to bathe them without an extra set of hands. A teak shower stool is sturdy, and attractive enough to serve as decor outside the bath until such time that its service is required.

[@bitrudder3792]

I love love love hand held shower attachments. I think they're practical for anyone, and they make it so much easier to clean the shower! Hindsight is 2020 but when pest damage necessitated rebuilding our shower, I'm so sorry now that I opted for more standing space in place of the built-in seat.

[@jengibs]

I have a lot of kit furniture I had to put together myself. When the project is over I take all remaining screws, bits, the instruction manual, etc. and I place them in a ziplock bag and label it. Then they go in the "project bucket". Whenever I want to take something apart again or if a screw comes out and gets lost, I can go straight to the Project Bucket and get whatever I need from there. Or, if I don't have spare parts I need, the manual tells you exactly what the part was called so I can either order a replacement or head down to the local hardware store for the equivalent (in the case of screws and such). It has really helped out a lot, especially when needing spare parts.

[@youdeservethis]

I adore your vibe! I am 54 and divorced and living alone. I have been unlearning helplessness for three years now and you are spot on!

[@silverandsolo]

You got this!

[@youdeservethis]

@@silverandsolo Hey! I have a t-shirt that says this! thank you so much for all your wonderfulness!

[@TheBestStuffForKids]

The only Alexa item I've got in the house is the microwave. I didn't know that was a thing. The first time I tried it out and the microwave started talking to me was disconcerting. I was in my 50's when that happened. Now, I'm 68 and I really don't want to talk to the microwave, though truth be told, it might hold more conversational ability than my spouse. Love your stuff. I'd also mention grabbers are good to have around. I've got one in the kitchen and one in my study.

[@Donna-cc1kt]

Batteries are everywhere! Garage door Pad outside, the garage opener in the car, in the flashlights light outages , in the magnifying glass, in the key fob of your car. Lots of batteries folks.

[@susieq2544]

The first stepstool you showed can be dangerous. I had one. When I was using it one day, I went to step up on it and one of the legs bowed outward and slid down flat. Plastic is not dependable. Be careful.😊

[@warriormamma8098]

Yes! A wooden one with handle is best.

[@bopeep1455]

My son (6 foot, 225 lbs) recently used my plastic step and went right through it!

[@Kate98755]

I thought the same thing, a future trip to the ED

[@CopingwithGrattitude]

I bought a smaller one and broke it first time I used it. Junk.

[@hollisblinn7910]

Yes, TOOLS! I got myself a big toolbox that breaks down into 3 sections. It can be wheeled throughout my house to wherever the work needs to be done. It's even big enough to hold my power tools and heavy duty cords. I also have loads of ladders and step stools, although I'm 71 now and no longer climb anything higher than the 6 ft. ladder. At my age, the best tip I can give is... make friends with a trustworthy local handyman! I can do most jobs myself, but I recently had to have a new steel roof installed and a wheelchair ramp built onto my front porch (I use a rollator walker when I take walks). I've had 2 surgeries on my spine, but I refuse to let it stop me from being independent.

[@MikkiInWaiting]

I just found your channel. This may be just what I needed. I'm 51 now and find myself alone. This is my first video to watch of yours. Now I'm off to watch more... especially the "stop being lonely" one, because UGH 2 years of this and the loneliness is just awful.

[@annwagner5779]

There are tiny long-handled spatulas designed to get the last out of tall containers. They are also great for applying lotion or medicine to places on your back or elsewhere that you can’t reach on your own. If you have dry or itchy skin, it’s a game changer!

[@sisterbluesighs]

I started using a spatula a few years ago to apply muscle cream to my mid - upper back. It saves my arms/shoulders from over-stretching to reach those areas.

[@ritasmith9553]

One thing I have that I find so very helpful is one of those reach-y grab-y pole things with the claw on the end. I don't know HOW MANY TIMES this has saved me from having to call for help from my son, grandson, or professional because something is beyond my reach inside or out!!! And you know you don't like to have to ask for help. Sometimes you can find them at the flea market, or places like Home Depot have them of better quality for $10-$15. Great and useful gift for someone who is alone! I'm not even short. Usually when something has rolled under or behind something or into a tight space. I probably use mine more than once a week!

[@shirleypatten6212]

Absolutely. I think they're called a grip-and-grab reaching tool. I use my stick primarily at supermarkets to reach back items on top shelves.

[@lindabowser7451]

I use mine everyday to help me draw drapes, the ones I can't get at behind things.

[@shirleypatten6212]

@@lindabowser7451 Nice. I wouldn't have thought to use the tool that way.

[@blingmomangie]

I just discovered your channel today. I think we are twins separated at birth!!! I became widowed 5 yrs ago at age 51. The kids are grown, living on their own, & have forgotten that I am still alive. I live alone with my bossy 3 1/2 yr old Frenchie! My house is a tri-level with ALOT of stairs. I have had 2 spine surgeries, Rheumatoid arthritis, osteoarthritis, Psoriactic Arthritis, & struggle a bit....BUT, I am over the top and a BIG RESEARCH JUNKIE ....I LOVE to learn new stuff. My husband would be so shocked if he could see what I am doing today! Since I have 28 stairs from my garage to my bedrooms, I am not supposed to lift heavy stuff, so I have the big tools in the garage, and a mini tool kit on each level, 2 drills, the big ladder in the garage, and 2 3 step ,1 4 step, & 1 5 step ladder spread out throughout the house!!! I have been adding new tools to my collection alot. I have also learned how to do drywall/texture repair, have repainted alot of the house, taken up a little gardening & crafting! I was asked at Home Depot what my KZbin Channel was because I was always in there!!! I think I am channeling my late husband. He was an architect and took care of the outside & heavy lifting, but I now have jumped in doing it!!! I agree with everything you mentioned and I saw a few other great tips from comments!! I will do some binging on the rest of your videos!

[@bitrudder3792]

carnivore diet. Consider researching that to cut that painful inflammation down and recovering more function. Amazing. You can experiment with full on meat, water, salt, Like Michaela Peterson who cured her rheumatoid arthritis and other horrible issues, or some thing a little more flexible (Dr. Ken Berry MD, Dr. Sean Baker MD, Dr. Anthony Chafee MD) or go with some thing that includes maybe 5% of your calories As helpful carbs like the ones advised by Stephanie keto person's channel.

[@HappyLife-wv5ms]

Love all the suggestions. Maybe Alexa can be helpful but it is also a surveillance device, so that one is a big no for me. Nice video😊

[@laughinlori6893]

I have had an unopened jar of pickles in my fridge going on two years. I am determined that one day I will defeat this jar and enjoy a pickle.

[@cherylT321]

Someone just said to wrap a rubber band around the lid to give you an additional grip on it to open it!

[@mollydillon8682]

❤I can’t stop grinning! You go girl!

[@user-hk1fg5ye7t]

LOL! For some reason I cannot open a certain store's mild salsa jars. Haven't won against the jars EVER Ihave the little rubbery thing you place over the lid, but no luck. Then I discovered that electric jar openers are available. Even those pesky little salsa jars can't withstand its power! No more looking a a jar of unopened salsa for months...and months...

[@nepenthe1446]

I gently hammer a small nail hole in the lid to break the vacuum. Then I use a small piece of tape to cover the hole.

[@user-ug9fl3zp2n]

Tap the lid with the handle of a butter knife. Don't know how this works, but it does.

[@elsiebert2273]

For a relaxing "necessity", I recommend a good electric massager to help release tight muscles, and relieve aches and pains.😊

[@carolgarner5971]

Love your videos. I might be solo by 70. I am still raising grandkids. But I am single. The biggest thing I do for myself is pay a house insurance. It came with my house for a year but I continued the policy. I can get things fixed quickly. I know it’s a paid service but I like the peace of mind. Keep up the advice. I love it

[@wildhorses6817]

Is that a Home Warranty service ?

[@bitrudder3792]

Word to the wise, those companies don't always pay up like they are supposed to do. Found out the hard way. They were useless for our dishwasher. We might've had a chance with her air conditioner but they said we had not maintained our HVAC. Our regular HVAC guy showed us how clean everything was. (With photos… He's been seeing to our hvac needs for decades) But we hadn't maintained it on the schedule they wanted so we got zero dollars.

[@normajdennis]

65 and solo with a BIG yard. I have a riding lawnmower and I change my own blades, oil, gas, etc. Changed the spindles and pullies this year and I can already tell you, I'm getting a lift for the mower so I don't have to pull the deck anymore, and an electric impact wrench to get the blades off!

[@juliej5917]

First timer. Can be frustrating to be mechanically incompetent whilst living solo! I do have a son that visits every few mos just to fix things I cannot. I also have five acres along with my charming 100+ yr old cottage. I’m 64, and yrs of barn animals have kept me strong like bull!

[@bigbird9879]

One tip I have is get a small piece of paper ( I use an small piece of an index card) put ICE (In Case Emergency) on the top, and put contact name and phone number's on card. Tape it to the back of your drivers licence. If ever in an accident, the first think that police will look to find is your drivers licence, and the contacts on the back can be notified.

[@barbiec4312]

Get some long silicone tipped kitchen tongs to use to grab stuff (glasses, bottles, bags of rice for example) from higher shelves. Then pop them right back into your kitchen spoon/spatula caddy.

[@Jen-CelticWarrior]

I use mine all the top! I love things with multiple uses.

[@janadavi-dixon4755]

This idea / tip kind of goes along with the “accessibility” theme of comments - I use the camera on my phone to LOOK at high shelves, behind the washer/dryer, under the bed (you might need to raise the bedskirt) you can use the light or even take a photo and then delete if you can’t just VIEW it on the screen

[@bilindalaw-morley161]

Thank you. That is brilliant. I'll use it.

[@vickiemckie5681]

I cant get on a ladder because 1.i fall 2.i am very very afraid of heights 3. I cant use my walker while having a death grip on the ladder. My precious daughter would kill me.

[@ceceliaswick9296]

Love your channel. I have learned to check You Tube videos when repairs need to be done. I have changed the head lights on the car, learned to replace the seal on my oven to name a few. I am 75 years old and have lived alone for more than 20 years. I have Children and Grand Children but want to remain independent. They love visiting because they are not required to do chores.

[@CLord-gs7nj]

A carbon monoxide detector, Even though I don;t have gas appliances, my bedroom is above my neighbors garage. Mine plugs in and has a battery backup. I love my 12" x 8" corn filled heating pad ( got it as a gift from Etsy) . 4 minutes and 15 seconds in the microwave, then into a flannel pillow case it goes! It keeps the bed warm for hours . I am not a fan of electric blankets, so this works well.

[@bitrudder3792]

completely agree with the "Hottie" as we like to call them. I've filled them with wheat berries, rice, beans, and they do such a great job of keeping warm for hours and hours. Once I was staying at the house of someone who likes the windows open in the winter when it's snowing outside, lol. I shoveled snow for her So that when I came inside it would feel comparatively warm, and then nuked a hottie in the microwave and put it between my legs where it would warm my big femoral arteries and send the warmth quickly through my body.😂 it worked great!

[@janetf23]

One of my favorite, super inexpensive helpers is a set of thin rubber jar grip discs. I still have hand strength but no moisture in my fingertips to grip things. These do the trick and you can also use them as coasters👍 Also, grabber reacher tools, especially the ones with magnetized rotating jaws are super handy to have around😊

[@bevtaylor5466]

The thing I find useful for opening hard to grip jars is a pair of those garden gloves that have rubberized palms and fingers. If the jar is particularly difficult, you can put it upside down in warm water to loosen the lid, but most times the rubberized gloves will suffice.

[@suedollhopf3453]

I am widowed and learning to live alone. I'm enjoying your KZbins and have shared you with a local widows group.

[@lynhanna917]

When i was divorced there was a group of eight women and we would get together to help one another. Between us someone knew how to fix plumbing or run electrical wire or fix a broken cabinet. We had one woman who didn't want to learn new skills but expected we would do the work. She was uninvited from our group.

[@bitrudder3792]

@@diamondringirl- I would just be cautious of health information peddled by Google etc. Not always in our best interest, to say the least.

[@diamondringirl]

@@bitrudder3792 no best to check with your doctor for health information but if you are looking for repair info, or just general info, yes, you can learn a lot from google.

[@lisaa6099]

Bless, good point on the jar opener….. oh thank god someone has a normal garage. Neat freaks go away

[@bitrudder3792]

🤣! my dream is to have a neat garage, And it is a work in process. but I will say this: having a neat garage = Less opportunity to trip over something and hurt myself.

[@bethliebman8169]

There is a KZbin video for every imaginable situation or need

[@virginiasummer2619]

I don’t get on the roof nor a tall ladder without someone else. A big fall with no one aware of it isn’t something I am up for. I’m very flexible and able but I can’t undo a big fall. I watch See Jane Drill for how tos. Good video

[@bitrudder3792]

Exactly. I put off painting a room until my daughter could be there to help with the high parts, and she graciously did baseboard work as well.

[@robertaboyack7250]

A grab-it tool. As my knees continue to deteriorate, I don't want to/just can't go up a ladder to reach high shelves or down on my knees to get stuff from the back of low cabinets. It's saved me a lot of hassle/pain/risk of accident at least a couple times a week, for example yesterday when a water bottle fell down behind my washing machine.

[@pjlacey3990]

Even the silicon ended bbq tongs are great to have all over the house. In the laundry room for getting clothes from the bottom/back of the washer. In the kitchen for pulling down items from high shelves that are not too heavy. I use mine all the time!

[@lesleydickson7746]

Good idea!

[@lesleydickson7746]

@@pjlacey3990On holiday recently I dropped the laminated instructions for the washer down the back of it. Got them out with the BBQ tongs. 😊

[@ladysparkymartin]

I have most of these and you are so right! Couldn’t manage without my stepladder, tools etc. But by far my “old lady cart” has been a game changer!

[@cherylT321]

Someone in my building actually threw out a rolling cart. I couldn’t believe it because there was absolutely nothing wrong with it. I rescued it, wiped it down and started using it the next day…It has become invaluable to me!

[@ladysparkymartin]

@@cherylT321 Totally! Mine is a collapsible but solid box. I’ve moved recycling, trash, luggage, even furniture up and down my elevator on it! Thankfully, never a person, but I bet I could! A godsend 🥰

[@cherylT321]

@@ladysparkymartin 👍

[@lesleydickson7746]

I have a folding crate on wheels with a pull up handle like a suitcase. It’s not quite so old lady-ish but works just the same. 😊

[@bitrudder3792]

I adore having lots of things on wheels! It makes it so much easier to clean under and behind things! File cabinets, bedside tables, chairs of course, wagons (made it so easy for me to bring my citrus trees indoors this past winter), File carts, Rolling work surfaces, rolling shelves, I love them all!

[@KathyDuncan9]

Right after watching your video my dog wanted out so out we went. I ended up pulling weeds...and then I grabbed my Hula Hoe and next thing you know, the garden is weeded. So, I would add the hula hoe to make weed pulling a snap and it saves the back. Also, a handheld blower for the patio, more efficient than a broom.

[@annnelson2044]

I have hardwood floors and I use a weak leaf blower to sweep them.

[@KathyDuncan9]

@@annnelson2044 I'm going to try that!!!

[@gooberpeas7926]

My essential "I'll have to do it myself" ladder is the Cosco (no affiliation) three step folding ladder with work platform. I get vertigo even on a step ladder, but this thing has something to hold on to, and I can put my drill and other items right on the platform.

[@bitrudder3792]

I don't remember where we got it, but I absolutely love my ladder with a work platform that is so generous that I feel completely safe on it. I can turn around on that platform with perfect confidence. Now I want the stepladder version of that but with the extended hand grip.

[@gooberpeas7926]

@@bitrudder3792 Thank you, I need to look for one of those. Right now, if it's higher than my step ladder, it doesn't get done.

[@wheatgerm1208]

The wide, thick rubber bands that grocery stores use to bundle broccoli make great jar openers. Wrap them around the edge of a jar lid and you have the grip strength of 10 men. I learned this in my 20s, and it made my single life much, much easier!

[@cindaschuster6725]

True since my husband passed I really miss having a man around.

[@arliepics4364]

Bet he was handy.....mine was not at all.

[@mettamorph4523]

I rarely hear a woman say that. I've been a single female homeowner forever. Have real tools,ladders,hang stuff myself,kill pests. Maintaining a house is definitely a job. I hire when necessary and get sick of tradesmen who seem puzzled that I am a homeowner. I feel the only reason I need a man around is to protect me from other predatory men. I hope you miss your hubby because he was a joy to have around, not just for his handyman talents.

[@rebeccacamacho-sobczak4282]

Me, too, but I LOVE the adventure of learning.

[@GeminieCricket]

agree it is hard but I have to do it myself 😮

[@BonnieSavage-uy1rj]

A list of people to contact ..for whatever reason .I keep a list of people I enjoy socializing with and want to touch base with

[@ameliagfawkes512]

I don't live alone, but I have done in the past. Everyone needs step stools and ladders, especially those of us who are vertically challenged, because our much taller family members aren't always there. I need lid removers because I have small hands, but the silicone ones don't damage the lids meaning you can re-use them. They're not big enough for the biggest lids though (perhaps they exist, but I've yet to find them). Every home should have a good tool kit and as many power tools as you can handle. No-one needs anything "SMART". If you're going to keep a key outside, make sure it's not in any of the usual places. If you must, place your key (and a silica gel packet to stop it rusting) in an old film cannister or other tightly sealed, water-tight container and bury it where only you garden. Don't put it on the lintel, under the mat, under a plant pot by your door or in one of those fake rocks that stick out like a sore thumb. We all need storage containers, preferably black, indoor/outdoor ones. They are watertight and stop the light wrecking your stuff. Regarding your Journal - may I recommend a Bring Forward system (see: Tickler system). You can create a digital one if you like, but I like paper - nothing happens to it if your computer goes kaput. In a file drawer or case, create 43 files - label 12 with the months of the year and 31 with the numbers 1 to 31. If you need to you can add extra files for years ahead for things like warranties that will have to be renewed years down the line. Place all of the documents you need (or photocopies, keeping the originals in your secure filing) in the month files (eg renew home insurance in July). For each current month, put the numbered files into the month file (or right behind) and sort your documents and To Dos into the appropriate date. That's the date you need to take action - say, a week or even a month BEFORE your insurance runs out or your MOT runs out to give you time to organise those things. For gardening, I would get a garden planner you can put up on the wall - once you have a routine for that, it won't change much, allowing for the weather. Two of the things I wouldn't like to live without (except for the internet and a landline) are a scanner and a really good printer.

[@bessieoriotis5104]

I think these ideas are helpful. May I suggest a small chair in the bathroom to use the sink. On the average I have killed myself in the bathroom area. I now keep a Π. This helps if you have trouble walking or if you get dizzy in the bathroom. It also sits in front of the bath tub so if I slip I grab it. You see depending where you live or how old the house is it's best to have one. I've had a few stitches on my head so I know it helps. ❤❤GREECE.

[@snarkynsane]

A woman I worked with had huge flower pots on her back patio and she put them on wheels before she filled them up. She lived alone and liked to move her flowers around with the sun. Thought this was brilliant!

[@user-mo2nn2ez8y]

When I bought my condo…both my kids recommended installing a keypad lock. You can never lock yourself out (unless you forget your code) which is pretty impossible if you choose a mindful code.

[@susancompton4772]

I have a keypad lock and really like it. You don’t have to worry on where to hide a key.

[@leslienichols5268]

And someone could come in to help you!

[@terryzolnik1204]

@@leslienichols5268Word to the wise: make sure you change the batteries regularly or you WILL be locked out!

[@CrafD2me]

I have a large yard and my riding lawn mower is a God send.

[@barbiec4312]

SUBSCRIBE people! We need her voice out there. ❤

[@lindadorman2869]

I have a lot of clips and magnets. When you have someone else in the household, you can say "Hold this up. I want to see what it looks like on the wall (or door)." But when you're alone, there's no one else to do that for you!

[@jesselenzrokobauer7042]

Same here. But if you place your phone camera on record than you can hold it against the wall in different spots and angles and after watching the movie you know how it looks like or if it looks better without them. This saved me a lot of holes in the wall.

[@Nwladylaura369]

I have a tool that is long and flexible with a magnet on the end of it. Helps grab metal items that have fallen into a crack or such. I don’t know what it’s called, but it was my Dad’s and I’ve never seen another one. He used it while working on his car.

[@CLord-gs7nj]

AAA Plus has helped me out of many jams with my car. I like the Plus for the extra mileage in case I am more than 5 miles from home. I have an Alex device. I discovered that it can be used to call up to 10 people on my contact list. It might be helpful if I take a bad fall and cannot reach my phone. It can add events to my calendar, read me my days events, remind me of appointments, and be my alarm clock. I might purchase a couple more for the bedroom and the bathroom.

[@CLord-gs7nj]

@@diamondringirl I could purcase it that way as well, but for me the mileage allotment is too low to be useful.

[@bitrudder3792]

I love having AAA, it has been very useful when it has been needed. I'm not ready to have Alexa listening to my life yet. Willing to take my chances for now.

[@markbajek2541]

If you get an Echo show , they have a built in camera so , if you allow it , other people can "drop in" and view that camera, which might give you some peace of mind that a trusted family member after not hearing from you for a few days can take a quick "peak" into your bedroom and notice you're still in bed way past your wake up time... or depending on placement notice you've fallen asleep again in front of the TV watching "murder she wrote" or "andy griffith"....maybe give you a quick call "Hey mom, time to head to the bedroom".

[@bitrudder3792]

@@markbajek2541 - That sounds so intrusive, the camera thing. But the tv choices, spot on, 🤣.

[@auntylinda7640]

I live alone and i have many friend who i can ask for help when needed, and vice versa. A sort of skill exchange, if you will. Don't be afraid to live alone. There is much freedom to be enjoyed xxx

[@suehart919]

Loved your ideas. But "Miss A" will never be in my home. Electronic monitoring is the one thing that would drive me nuts! LOL

[@gerardacronin334]

A lightbulb pole for changing ceiling bulbs.

[@Donna-cc1kt]

I’ve been wondering about those! I have about 30 or more recessed lights. Can it unscrew a bulb that’s slightly recessed and Al the screw in the new bulb. Also, the ones in the kitchen have a wire that must be plugged in. Blah. Ya know some things just need to be hired out.

[@gerardacronin334]

@@Donna-cc1kt Yes, they work for recessed lights, but they won’t plug in wires for you!

[@kathybost1879]

very interesting and helpful. Thanks for your ideas. I'm older than you and here is how I handle things- I'm short 5.1. I really liked that cart- that could be really handy. 1. After working for a trauma hospital for 20 yrs. I rarely if ever get on a ladder. I have all my clocks where I can reach them to change time and batteries . My dishes are where I can reach them. My son who lives 1 hr. away comes and changes my batteries in the smoke detectors. 2. Have no use for any smart stuff- especially that Alexa thing. 3. I have 1 of those long grabbers. if I do need something from a high shelf- like a bag of something that won't break if I pull it down. 4. I rent so I don't have to deal with any maintenance, I have stairs for the second level and please always hold the hand rail and go slow and never wear slippery socks. 5. Every one should have a basic tool kit- Ikea has one that is great. Have a blessed day

[@dianafinley]

I thought I was the only person with a Miss A device in every room (except not the garage or basement). I also have a G device so I can ask it where my Android phone is or ask it other questions (G seems to know a lot more than A). 6 Ring cameras of different types. I have several smart switches, so lights can turn on with motion or with a command. Also some bulbs can be programmed to turn on or off at dusk or at a certain time or with a command. My house goes crazy when any of the Ring cameras detects what it thinks is motion from a person, but you never know which room you are going to be in. They all go off. Maybe not all this is necessary, but it's fun to set up and it kind of feels like your house is interacting with you. I might add to your list that solar lights on the outside of the house which light up with motion are helpful in addition to wired Ring cameras lighting up with motion. One of the ring cameras will tell me if I left the garage open, which I never do, but I always worry about it. Probably the most useful is a smart thermostat which I can change either with the app or with a command. This is handy when you are half asleep but you realize you are too cold. I think all this automation could be appreciated by anyone, not just those living alone. Also, I use a rubber band or two wrapped around the lid if I can't get a jar open. That contraption you showed is probably better for jars it fits, but a rubber band seems to fit around everything and gives just enough extra grip for most jars.

[@georgiegirl1602]

Someone once told me about putting on your washing up rubber gloves to open stiff jars. Works a treat! I use that method often.

[@lanetteprice7508]

Frist time watching. I have lived lone for 15 years I also a 21 years ruptured brain stem aneurysm and 8x strokes survivor. I live alone in the county.

[@bitrudder3792]

I'm glad you survived! Questioning your doctors advice as to what a healthy diet is, this could be one of the most important things that you do. Most medical/nutrition advice Is behind the times and actually causes the problems and complications but they are supposed to prevent or at least delay. I've watched too many friends die from the logical effects of what they were told.

[@darlenesmith8311]

Great video! I use most of the things you mentioned, with the exception of a tall ladder...I'm too chicken for that lol. I've found a couple of other things helpful to have on hand, too. I often use a grabber tool to reach for things that are either too tall for me or occasionally to reach for something that fell into a narrow space that's hard to access. A mini household screwdriver set with phillips and straight tips of different sizes has been indispensible, as well. It's small and I keep it in my kitchen so it saves trips to the garage for tools. I'm all for making solo living a little easier when we can.

[@Bugsybear2]

I have three grabbers - one each in the basement, kitchen, and garage.

[@lisab9541]

Yes, I do the same. It has made my life easier.

[@leslienichols5268]

I am definitely subscribed! And so many really great suggestions in the comments! Although I don't live alone, my husband is gone a lot, and I agree with all of these ideas. I would add although I certainly don't have a "Pinterest" worthy home, I have seen many falls because over time your house becomes so cluttered. Declutter some for the safety of it!

[@silverandsolo]

Thanks for subbing!

[@mousegirl3678]

Thank you! I am not single but during the summer my husband had a cardiac health scare which made me think to possible future scenarios which may leave either one of us single and solo. I have implemented some of your tips!

[@scottfw7169]

"Everything I need and stuff I don't even know what it does", now that's when you can be confident about being well prepared.

[@roses0227]

I have a 4 wheeled basket, similar to laundromat baskets. Got it from Amazon. best thing I ever did(I'm 78) and don't get around very well. The basket goes outside the front door for packages, groceries, and misc. things! Easy to get into the house and I no longer have to lift anything.!

[@juliestevens2469]

I use most of these tips and have picked up a some new ones. Also thanks to the other commenters for sharing. ❤