You Didn't become Selfish You Became Harder to Manipulate

A Blog by Sara Jane
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[@Akashb71]

Moral: You are always the villain in someone else's story; while they are opportunists and selfish themselves but claim to be victims 🤷‍♂️

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

100%, we just have to remember that they are projecting who/how they are on to us. as the quote from Jim Kwik says “Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from.” Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@oldcrone]

My sister expect me to sell my condo and pay off her mortgage. She is nuts!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@oldcrone Stay true to you Sweet Soul We all have to learn to live our own lives and to work through the experiences that we have, others can support us but we have to help ourselves, no one can do it for us. 🙏Namaste Sweet Soul

[@MiskimVeniceJohnson]

Wow, mic drop!!! 🤗😂❤️

[@Croneposse429]

I’ve noticed this! Very convenient for them, always the victim!😮

[@acanarynamedrobyn4543]

“selfish” was my narcissistic mother’s pet name for me. she’s been dead for 6 years and I haven’t missed her for 1 minute. in a weird synchronistic way my narcissistic boyfriend left me not long after her death. (I was trained to serve narcissists, dad is one too) good riddance. now I’ve adopted what I call my NO CO lifestyle. NO COoperation, NO COmpliance, NO COmpromise, NO COmplaining.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Sadly children believe that everything that comes from their parents has to be true and how it should be, they are learned behaviours. We can break them when we come to understand that we aren't who they say we are and we open to finding and being who we really are. Good for you to learn to say No to others and Yes to yourself and I hope that you are happy. Namaste

[@acanarynamedrobyn4543]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki happiest I have ever been.😁

[@gwene.4726]

💕Good Job! ✔️

[@suzannebrown945]

❤

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@acanarynamedrobyn4543 I am so pleased for you, waking up to ourselves is the greatest gift we give to ourselves and the world Namaste

[@edwardclarkson-ph1kl]

Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@edwardclarkson-ph1kl]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?

[@edwardclarkson-ph1kl]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul It is so very difficult to loose someone you love, especially if they are still around. We all grow and change, it is not always at the same pace or in the same direction. That can mean we have to make very difficult decisions that can hurt others but we have to be true to ourselves. Love her enough to give her space and love yourself enough to open your life up to new experiences without her. Let yourself move on and if she ever chooses to come back, you will both have experiences and new perspectives to bring to it. We are all one but we are also unique individuals. Let her be true to her and you be true to you. Light, Love & Peace 🙏Namaste Sara

[@Zacharychampion-yy3nt]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex

[@bonitobonita9263]

Yeah I’m selfish and mean, when I say No and standing up for myself! Thank you for validation

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Saying No to others and Yes to yourself can be the best gift you give to both of you and is not selfish Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@bonitobonita9263]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki indeed, thank you Sara.

[@rmorneweck]

Ms. Jane - not sure how you came up in my feed, but I’m liking; if for nothing but the title alone.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

I love the way the Universe works So pleased this has touched a cord in you Namaste

[@Icemario87]

yea, great title. sending this to my wife.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@Icemario87 Bless you Sweet Soul I love that these words have touched so many lives Namaste

[@gregflores8959]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki👍🏽

[@gailfagan7579]

Interesting that this popped up in my feed tonight. I was raised in a violent narcissist home, physically abused, emotionally too, born in 1952. LOTS of us born in that time. Born to a 19 yr old abused mother, 22 yr old selfish father 'shotgun' style. My childhood was a war zone until he left when I was 11 yrs old. I left home at 16 yrs and by the grace of God, grew into a strong, independent woman. Now I'm 72 yrs old, married 45 years to my husband a good man but strong narc tendencies. These days I am a born again Christian woman and I hear Gods voice often. I'm one of the 'chosen', a warrior of sorts for this time at the End of this age. And no I am not selfish at all. Never was. Thank you for the clarifying definition of 'selfish' and self determination. God bless. 🙏✝️💕

[@michaelfreydberg4619]

And fighting for yourself can lead to a lot of pushback, as I’ve discovered in my 50’s. Sometimes it feels like a life of death struggle.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Michael I do understand what you are saying and I had to accept that there were those that were no longer "right" to be in my life, that friends "left" and to a certain degree conflicts with family. However, for me it has all been worth it, my life has changed, I am my own person and so much happier for it. Family came around and I have an amazing group of friends. Never doubt there is better waiting for you when you have the courage to be true to you. Namaste Sweet Soul🙏

[@letsbereal2445]

Say this..."Try to imagine how little I care" - Wayne Dyer If you can't say it at least say it in your head. It always keeps me on track and gives me a giggle.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@letsbereal2445 Bless you, another way to look at it, is to become detached form outcomes and other people's stuff. Caring is good, the important thing is to not let it dictate to you, Easier said than done but so worth persevering with, it is very freeing. Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@letsbereal2445]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki It really does take effort to do that but you're right. It gets so much easier the more you you practice. Stay blessed.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@letsbereal2445 Thank you Sweet Soul Always remember, you are the most important person in your life. Take care of yourself and your energies first, then you will be able to bring so much more to others in the best way possible for everyone. Always be true to you Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@oliviacasino8888]

There came a moment when I said exactly what I wanted to say. There are consequences and rewards for speaking your mind. Be prepared…I have no regrets. I have not deserted my soul.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

100% Bless you Sweet Soul You may lose friends (but were they really friends) and family may not talk to you, that is their choice. Stick to what speaks to you, your heart choices, always be true to you. Namaste🙏

[@hydraheads]

This came up at a rather serendipitous for me on my feed, it's something I've been facing with myself through therapy for the past year and a half. Being a chronic people pleaser/fawner is really hard to break when you convinced yourself that's 'who you are' ... This encouragement found me graciously, bless you!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul I am so pleased this has supported you I totally understand having been a people pleaser for nearly 40 years (from a very young age) Suggestion, connect with your Inner Child, help them feel loved, listened to and heard. It will support the you of today. This is how I have helped myself Namaste🙏

[@ritahemmerly4224]

When others see your kindness as a weakness not your strength.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@ritahemmerly4224 Bless you Sweet Soul It is important to know yourself and where that "kindness" is coming from. If you are being "kind" because you are a people pleaser (which is a trauma response), then perhaps your kindness is misplaced. It is important to be kind to yourself and not everything that is "kind" can feel it to the other person - a No, can be the greatest gift anyone can hear but may not feel it at the time. Never stop Being who you really are and maybe, just maybe, those that think that way are best to be removed from your life. Respect yourself enough to value who you are. 🙏Namaste

[@zamandzeya]

Thank you kind stranger

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul For me it is so important that having learnt from my own experiences I share what will hopefully support others Namaste🙏

[@bengoodes1581]

The title alone is what drew me. ☝🏻.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you and especially to the individual who wrote it in the first place, I wish I could find out who it was and acknowledge them Namaste Sweet Soul🙏

[@passaggioalivello]

Thank you, "selfish" is the last word from narcissistic people.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul As hard as it is to accept, they only have control over us, because unwittingly we give them permission. As we grow older, we start to realise that we do have a voice and we can say No. It is in many cases the person calling you selfish that is the selfish one. Always be true to you Namaste 🙏

[@passaggioalivello]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki Unfortunately, the right to be weak isn't recognized yet. Being weak doesn't authorize anyone to take advantage of us.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@passaggioalivello Isn't "weak" just another word for a different type of strength? Isn't a man that won't hit a woman, however much he is provoked, really strong. Just like the word "selfish" and many others "weak" is misused by those who are trying to control us Namaste

[@minniekudzala6934]

people pleaser for decades. did me NO justice. So many manipulators out here now a days. Thank you Sara.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Being a people pleaser is a Trauma response, love yourself, be kind and understanding of yourself and you can grow into the amazing Being that you are. Forgive yourself for what you didn't know, we can only ever act on the information we have at the time. Now we know more and take back control of our own lives. 🙏Namaste

[@akatheheretic3014]

I Couldn't have said it better Ms. Jane ! 😉👍

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Thank you The words struck a cord in me and it felt to right to share them and my thoughts. Namaste

[@TimelordUK]

Ive been dropped by two friends in my life through daring to say "no". In their opinion im too selfish to be their friend

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

What a gift they gave you and good for you for saying No By saying Yes to yourself, you gave them the gift of having to do it themselves, to help them to grow, letting you follow your own path. Namaste Sweet Soul🙏

[@TimelordUK]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki thank you so much for your lovely healing reply.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@TimelordUK Bless you Sweet Soul my pleasure Namaste 🙏

[@mossy_brickens]

To me that's especially valuable from a person of older generations, and even kinda therapeutic. And it's good in that exact form, without editing, just another human reading her thoughts to me, almost like if I spoke with a nice neighbour. Thank you.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Thank you The Elders of today have so much to offer because of all the experiences they have had. The experiences of the young today may be different but the feelings they bring up are understood by every generation. Namaste🙏

[@MargaretFinnell]

Love the title and it is so accurate . Try getting a "friend" to finally return a favor and see how well that works. Saying No is sometimes the right thing to do.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul As we "wake up" and start being true to ourselves, we create boundaries and the only people who get upset with them, are those that don't respect them and used us. It is about learning to say Yes to ourselves and that will put noses out of joint. We will soon learn who our real friends are. 🙏Namaste

[@user-zx4cp6kz4b]

Being nice has ruined my life. Appreciate your content.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul, never regret being nice to others, it shows the world who you are. How others are is up to them and people will see through the fake eventually. Always be yourself. Kindness comes in many forms, remember that No can be the biggest gift we can hear (although it may not feel it as the time. 🙏Namaste

[@user-zx4cp6kz4b]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki Thank you for the kind words. Much appreciated. It means a lot.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@user-zx4cp6kz4b My pleasure We all require a little encouragement from time to time, especially to know that this is our life and we should live it guided by our heart and soul not other people's wants & needs. Light, Love & Peace 🙏Namaste Sweet Soul

[@NetiNeti25920]

Came here after this showed up as the first suggested video on my home page. As a 37 yo male in India, thank you for your presence and holding space. You have a very calming voice and seem a compassionate soul. Namaste. Love and light to you!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Thank you so much I love that this is touching lives all over the world Light, Love & Peace Namaste 🙏

[@maryp4579]

Love this. Thank you for putting this message out there.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

My pleasure Sweet Soul I am so pleased it has touched your life Namaste🙏

[@VictorHugo-hq1zq]

"Who are you, who are so wise in the ways of psychology?"

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Hi Victor I am not a psychologist 🙂 I am however someone who experienced trauma at a very young age and understands feeling unwanted, unloved, not worthy etc and yes I became a people pleaser. I speak from my own healing journey and understanding, sharing the wisdom that has "spoken" to me and supported me to a much happier and more fulfilled life, with the hope of supporting others to do the same. Namaste Sweet Soul🙏

[@bettyjohnson2964]

Just happened to see this video pop up and I LOVE IT!! I'm struggling with someone like this now, but at 72 and have had lots of surgeries, I feel if I stand up for myself and they no longer come around, that I might need help after a surgery and no one will help me. Have a great neighbor who is willing to help, though!! Guess I need to stop letting people manipulate me, and trust God to provide help when I need it!! Subscribed to your channel to hear more of your wisdom!! God bless you!!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Thank you for sharing and my thoughts are, if this person isn't good for you as they are being, therefore unless they are willing to change (and they have to be true to themselves), you are better off without them. When we create boundaries to protect ourselves, it is only those who wish to be disrespectful of them that don't like them. Be true to you, take care, of you, show the Universe that you care about yourself and it will show you real care in return. What you are prepared to put up with, it will keep bringing to you. Go for it, stand up for yourself, it may feel uncomfortable to begin with but it will become easier and I believe you will be much happier. 🙏Namaste

[@bettyjohnson2964]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-ReikiThank you! Yes, I know you are right, and I have thought the same, but like you said, it is hard to do. But I know I would be better off, and happier!! I appreciate your thoughts! I am going to take care of ME!! ❤️❤️

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@bettyjohnson2964 I am so pleased, you are important, don't ever doubt that. 🙏Namaste Sweet Soul

[@BecketteW]

It’s my story and I’m sticking to it!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Hi Not sure what you are saying here Our story will always come from the perspective of our understanding of what happened and was said, and how it made us feel. My story doesn't change because as an adult I came to understand the circumstances that caused what happened. It is us an an adult that helps our inner child to heal, the story will never change, it is important not to live there, to grow from the healing and become the best you possible. Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@MintleafCakes]

this really hits home for me. i've struggled with people pleasing since i was young, and it got particularly bad when i got around teenage years. now, i am only 20, so not a whole lot older, but i have started to heal myself from my traumas and put up boundaries that i didn't feel i had the strength to before. it has been so good for me to let go of trying to keep up appearances for people who do not truly care for me. i've been able to open myself up, be who i really am and voice the opinions i truly have, and find better people who have the heart to care and the ability to be patient with me as i am still healing. i really feel for all of us out there with similar experience with this kind of thing. remember that you must love yourself and stay true to yourself to be able to heal. many thoughts and much love to all who need it.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Thank you for sharing from your heart and your experience and I am so pleased you came to this understanding as quickly as you did - I was 40 before I started my healing journey. You are a beautiful gift to the world and if you choose, can be a great support for those of a similar age who may not choose to listen to older people. A thought has come to me and others, it is not so much about what happened but the feelings it caused within us, feelings of being unloved, unwanted, unworthy, not good enough etc. For me it is about supporting people to know that they are Special in there own unique way, that no one is more or less special than anyone else. You are totally right about us loving ourselves first and foremost, setting boundaries and not accepting any form of disrespect or control. Enjoy the journey to you Blessings Sweet One 🙏Namaste

[@OnboardingInformation]

Great title, this would help with dealing with narcissism

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Thank you We are meant to play the leading role in our own life and for too many it is about learning to take back that control which we have unwittingly given to others. 🙏Namaste Sweet Soul

[@melgatty]

Being tramatized a bit, im finding alot of my self worth, EVEN BEFORE i got close to the wrong man, was lacking. Nobodys fault. Nonjudgementally working towards my own well being is wayyyy worth it. I have therapy help and i am trying to stop attending to limiting briefs and "if they wanted to, they would" is helpful to regain perspective! Love n hugs :) thx for the talk you know u are lovely right!!!! You are lovely. Take care!!!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul, I totally understand and I am so pleased you are involved in your own healing journey with support. Please feel free to check out my website vocalreiki.com/ there are free videos, Sound Baths and more for you to enjoy and I hope support you. Namaste

[@Icemario87]

​@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reikiwow, that looks cool

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@Icemario87 Bless you Enjoy I share to support people along their own life path Namaste

[@MizrahiChick]

Big hugs !

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@MizrahiChick Bless you Thank you Sweet Soul Whenever we care enough to share our learned wisdom, we offer a big hug to those who choose to receive the gift we offer. Namaste 🙏

[@littlewitch5414]

You also randomly showed up in my feed, Ms. Jane, but thank you very much for your wise words. Greetings from South-America.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you And happy to connect with you in South America Namaste Sweet Soul🙏

[@johndoe4073]

Beautifully and succinctly stated. Thank you.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Thank you 🙏Namaste

[@C12341]

You are fantastic Ms. Jane and I'm grateful you popped up in my feed. Great message and you have a wonderful voice

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Sweet Soul I am so pleased that so many have been touched by this and grateful for all the wonderful comments Namaste🙏

[@sarahstromwell4571]

🙏🏼 namaste, sweet soul. Have a beautiful day. I’m so glad I found your channel!🌈🌱🪺

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you I hope you enjoy all that I share Namaste Sweet Soul

[@Victory-mq7wz]

Glade you popped up they get very angry and their Narc behaviors they project come out when they no longer can manipulate us. Stay in Jesus love and truth and peace and joy. Beautiful message ❤

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you thank you Sweet Soul We always have a choice, even with family, to remove ourselves. I so appreciate that as younger children we don't understand what is happening and even if we did, couldn't just walk away (if necessary for good). Sadly this is where so many Traumas come from. We can heal and have a fulfilling life, it takes time and we have to be involved in the process. 🙏Namaste

[@kathyred3310]

Thank You for your message. I’m going to subscribe from across the pond!❤

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Thank you I feel so blessed that this share has touched so many lives. 🙏Namaste

[@MAJESTIC-GOLDEN-CHILD]

Thank you sara

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

My Pleasure Sweet Soul 🙏Namaste

[@cecilyerker]

Here because the algorithm saw fit to bring me here ❤

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you I Love the way the Universe works Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@charlotteryner6583]

Ain't it weird how these things show up "out of the blue" , and they are so appropriate? 😊

[@MadonnaGrogan]

Same and glad

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@charlotteryner6583 Bless you Sweet Soul, I am so pleased 🙏Namaste

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@MadonnaGrogan Bless you Sweet Soul, I love that this has touched your life 🙏Namaste

[@floydross9000]

Well said!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Sweet Soul Whose ever words the title is, I thank you them for touching so many lives Namaste

[@AC-hf3gm]

This is a beautiful video ❤ you articulate yourself so beautifuly and spoke to my heart.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you I am so pleased that it spoke to your heart, which is your connection to your Soul Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@aaaduccs6667]

I needed this. Thank you💗

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

My pleasure Sweet Soul Always be true to you Namaste

[@heatherheight]

Thank you, Sara Jane. That was lovely.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Thank you Sweet Soul Bless you for commenting Namaste

[@otismeotisme7987]

Thanks You Sara Jane from San Jose CA❤🎉😊

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you I love that this has spread around the world Namaste Sweet Soul🙏

[@TheBadSpoon]

I can be extremely mean and manipulative, and I'm told I'm very good at it, but all that sardonic anger, in my head, is reserved for the people who really deserve it. It goes to people who have long established themselves as extremely predatory, but think that they can just hide in plain sight, and get away with whatever they want indefinitely. I outwit them and make them fall for their own traps. We've all known a few. Otherwise, I strive not to hurt anyone. Sorry this comment sounds so "all about me", I just wanted to make the point that evil people should be made to know that they aren't invincible.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Our life is meant to be about us, not anyone else. It is very difficult to find a balance in life of staying out of judgement, setting boundaries and should we be the one to call people out on the "bad" stuff. Some people are energy vampires, when we learn to stop reacting when they try pushing our buttons, they will eventually give up. I have always said, if I have proof of a wrong doing (rape, murder, abuse etc) I will go to the authorities. We all make our life choices before we get here and if we are on the wrong side of the law, we will also have accepted the consequences to our actions. Reporting them is part of our journey and theirs. We all have the ability to be "hard", "devious", "manipulative" etc, some just make it the major part of their life, rather then when it is potentially called for. Always be true to you. 🙏Namaste

[@ayshaa1]

wow, well said Ms Sara Jane. i’ve been trying to be a better person for myself, rather than for others. as i’ve learnt many times in life now, the kinder people always finish last.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul It isn't easy to go from being a people pleaser and "guided" by others to being your own guide and true to yourself but it is worth it. Remember kindness comes in many forms, I am sure you have heard the term "tough love", never doubt that a "No" can be an amazing gift to hear. Namaste

[@thefarmgirlfelter489]

Thank you for this! You are an angel!❤❤❤

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Sweet Soul Trust you will be an Angel in someone else's life Namaste🙏

[@ALINA-tv7qt]

Well said. Thank you ❤

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Sweet Soul Namaste

[@MatchaLatomate]

Very wise words, thank you

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Namaste Sweet Soul

[@dobijoki]

Love this!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you I am so pleased it spoke to you Namaste

[@chelseajames1224]

Thank you so much for this. God Bless

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

My pleasure Sweet Soul I love that these words have touched so may lives - Thank you Namaste

[@BibleBound333]

One can't know a swindler, unless one was once one themselves. One can't know what it is to be a fool, unless one has been a fool themselves. They know not what they do. Its not about "You" or "I"

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

For me, when we step back into ourselves, become the "me" the "I", we connect to our heart, which is our connection to our Soul and the all that is. We are however here to have this human experience and for us to have that we have forgotten where we come from and that connection. Many are waking up and becoming more connected to that deeper part of themselves and taking care of the "I" brings greater care and love to the all. What we do to others and this planet, we do to ourselves. Namaste Sweet Soul🙏

[@eviltwinnancy4561]

You can know a swindler once you have been swindled or victimized by one without having been one.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@eviltwinnancy4561 The more attuned to life you become and the energies of others, I believe it is possible to protect yourself from others by listening to our intuition, gut instinct, they don't lie. 🙏Namaste Sweet Soul

[@BibleBound333]

@@eviltwinnancy4561 Swindlers have many tactics.

[@MizrahiChick]

It is sisters that will save sisters.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you I know there is a very strong sense of supporting women at this time and it is time we took our power back - the power of love, caring, nurturing, supporting... there is so much strength in these but first and foremost we must have these for ourselves, then we can truly bring these gifts to others. I also other my support to men who are floundering at this time, more than ever, their roll is also changing and it is important that we are all there for each other. Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@doctor_doge5621]

Amen!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Thank you Sweet Soul 🙏Namaste

[@MiskimVeniceJohnson]

Amen amen amen amen amen ❤🎉😊

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul I am so pleased it spoke to you 🙏Namaste

[@literoylty]

Thank you❤so needed

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

My pleasure Sweet Soul I am always happy to hear that the words I share hit the spot Namaste 🙏

[@oldcrone]

You are obligated to give me everything you have!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Please see my reply to your previous comment ~ Thank you 🙏Namaste Sweet Soul

[@quantumfineartsandfossils2152]

Agreed brilliant title... When you are not only doing your job but everyone else's voila~~~~~

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Thank you Sweet Soul Namaste🙏

[@quantumfineartsandfossils2152]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki 🌞❤️

[@jonyngvesyland5461]

This was super helpful. Thank you! ^-^

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

My pleasure Sweet Soul I am pleased it has supported you Namaste 🙏

[@Digbilso]

this video is an incredible reminder of the fact that i am on the right path. it is beyond that, your name even is a signifier. my twin sister's name is sara and she died before she could be born, also spelled sara, and i changed my name legally to jane these past 2 years. thank you for this beautiful reminder. youve even got the names in the order they occured🥲

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Thank you for sharing and I am so pleased that this has touched your life is such a wonderful way. Namaste 🙏

[@HolisticaliMe]

thank you so much

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul my pleasure I love to know that the words and support I have shared touch lives 🙏Namaste

[@joyvive]

I resonate with this message 🙏

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Thank you Namaste

[@MrJBest78]

This video was something that I truly needed!!!!

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul I am so pleased it has supported you Namaste🙏

[@JOEYDEEZ369]

Darn straight Ms J.. and yet there is just a smidgin of selfishness present in there somewhere if you look hard enough and it’s there mainly just to add a little flair and flavour to the mix… I’m all about self… wouldn’t be me without it now would i hahahah… uhh uhh that does kinda make sense I think… me without self’ hmmmmm yep.. it works… anyways where was I… oh yeh.. see them narcs and socios don’t really like me all that much because I see straight through them every time and I call em out on their shady salty ways… I mean it’s extremely difficult to manipulate me… making me think I need you in some way is not gonna wash with me… I need no one but myself and the creator… I’m not a person who gets attached easy or who forms attachments to anyone or anything but it seems a lot of individuals I come across in life want to feel needed and want me to be needy of them… they feel threatened by my self independence and self assurance.. Its the mostly insecure individual that will resort to manipulation tactics and or strategies to mess with your head and they’ll succeed at manipulating only if you allow then to… ppl only do and get away with what you allow them to do and get away with after all and I’m in no way insecure or desperate for anybodies comfort or company… manipulation is a personality flaw in my blessed opinion… if I want or feel I need something I just ask for it there and then live & direct.. no skirting round the houses or putting out those guilt trips… I’m a straight as a dye… you’ll always know where you stand with me and if I’m not happy you’ll know about it first hand… I do not let other people tell me what to do or who I should or shouldn’t speak to… too many people out there are having their lives bossed by some one else / others and they’ve become onlookers or passengers to their own existence… that’s not me.. cos this is my life and I’m gonna live it my way all day everyday always… Amen !! Hi… bye and thanks Ciao ;)’

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Spot on Having been that insecure that I became a people pleaser, desperate to be liked, even loved. Then one day the light bulb switched on, the most important person to love you is you, to care about you is you, to listen to you is you etc When you can do this for yourself then you can bring so much more to others. I tend to speak openly with people, hopefully with care and understanding but honestly. I remember receiving a call from someone after a fair I had had a stand at and she started with "I was so angry with you, then I started thinking about what you said and I realised you were the only person who had been honest with me" What a gift for both of us. Always be you Namaste🙏

[@JOEYDEEZ369]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki yep… you’re speaking my language here Ms Jane… it’s self self self all the way… everyday… and always above all others except for in the case of the creator and ones children… thanks for your thoughtful reply ma’am… wishing you a peaceful and restful Sunday and also a great week ahead… stayed blessed & stay safe.. Ciao for now;)’

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@JOEYDEEZ369 My Pleasure Sweet Soul Wishing you a Beautiful week ahead Namaste 🙏

[@JOEYDEEZ369]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki Ditto my dear and many thanks for replying… much appreciated ;)’

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@JOEYDEEZ369 Bless you Thank you Namaste🙏

[@mstanaya31]

Thank you for the inspirational message 🙏 😊

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul, I am so pleased it has touched your life Namaste 🙏

[@arthurwieczorek4894]

Worth listening to twice.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Sweet Soul Namaste

[@Articolate]

GREAT title; could have ditched first para, and jumped into trauma response.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Thank you for your feedback and I am so pleased that at least some of what I shared resonated with you Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@AstouLive]

I was just talking to my sis about this! 😮 talk about confirmation.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Love the Universe and the synchronicities it brings Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@lynne4865]

Yes Ms. Jane 🔥👍🏿🔥

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@arthurwieczorek4894]

Projection: You calling me selfish, in the thousand subtle ways there are to do it, is something I could hear as 'I'm trying to manipulate you to do something out of my own selfishness.' I'm just repeating what you said in the video.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

The words I used are "Those that always got us to do what they wanted start hearing No, from us and start calling us selfish with the hope of regaining control. Remember they are the ones who are being selfish, they are just projecting on to you how they are." I am taking the words you have used above are your understanding of what I said. Namaste Sweet Soul

[@arthurwieczorek4894]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki Every person has a sphere of empathy, empathy for themselves and empathy for others. Some people have a bigger sphere than others. I wonder what experiences in life make for a large or smaller sphere?

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@arthurwieczorek4894 Is that not down to the choices we make from the experiences we have had? Or perhaps it goes way deeper than that to a Soul choice, after all we are here to have experiences and the Soul has chosen very many of them, it is then up to us how we "deal" with them 🙂 Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@arthurwieczorek4894]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki 'Soul choice' is a very poetic turn of phrase.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@arthurwieczorek4894 For me it is about what I believe and not everyone believes the same. Personally I believe that our Soul has chosen this life experience and all the experiences we have within it. Our Soul knows everything but cannot experience without taking physical form and in doing that we are made to forget all that our Soul knows. As we grow we learn, as we get older, we may choose to unlearn those things that we think we have "learnt" about ourselves and grow into the person we choose to be. We all have choices. Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@user-yh6pt5ni4o]

Great information

[@selfloveisessential2563]

Ohhh myyyy goodnessss you got very beautiful voice mam. I would love to fall asleep while listening to children's stories by you😅

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Namaste Sweet Soul🙏

[@selfloveisessential2563]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki your welcome madam

[@shanti888]

Great title. !

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul I wish I could say those words were mine but as they aren't I wish I knew who said them so that I could acknowledge them Namaste🙏

[@jenniferwells9032]

I so agree👍❤️

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@darladarlading]

Lovely ☺️

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@nnjack9931]

❤

[@CastleHassall]

i like what you are saying but i totally disagree when people say that thing of "what other people think about us is none of our business"..i say this because VERY often what other people think of others DOES, and CAN have HUGE and serious consequences for people who are being thought about with malice or hate or envy or bitterness even when we are very happy, that can lead some people to be very bitter that we ARE happy.. and that can lead to the bitter people using things like character assassination in small communities or at work, which can ruin a persons life sometimes so what other people think about us really DOES affect us in very bad ways sometimes, if the person thinking about us is bitter and abusive to us it's not something we manifest by us thinking it will happen.. often bitter or abusive types will attack us just BECAUSE we are feeling really good and optimistic and they want to stop us feeling good or being liked by others etc.. so what other people think about us really IS our business, because if we just let them attack and we don't protect ourselves that can have dire consequences in our lives or careers

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul I do hear what you are saying and we all have the right to our own understandings and opinions. For me it is about remembering that that is all their stuff, their issues and while what they say and do presses our buttons and gets reactions from us, they have power over us and sadly by reacting we give them that power. Jealousy is a nasty thing and well named as "the green eyed monster". I get that it isn't easy in those circumstances, I've had it happen and was blessed that my friends new me well enough to not listen. For me the best way to deal with it is to stand our ground with love and caring, letting go of anger and fear, and that takes a lot of strength. Namaste🙏

[@marieestelle709]

Amen

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Namaste🙏

[@arthurwieczorek4894]

Sara Jane---vocal Reiki, I wonder what you have to say about the Fundy Baby voice as exemplified by senator Britt's SOU response speech.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Truthfully No idea what you are talking about. I'm English and don't watch the news I have been on a bad news diet for years and my life has improved so much for it. Namaste Sweet Soul🙏

[@arthurwieczorek4894]

@@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki If you are into voice, view US senator Britt's response to Biden's State of the Union speech.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

@@arthurwieczorek4894 Thank you for the thought but I choose not to lend weight to anything political. I don't here in the UK. It may or may not resonate with me but it is my choice not to get involved. Blessings Sweet Soul Namaste 🙏

[@arthurwieczorek4894]

Master, speak to us of projection. Is that Freud?

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

I don't know but whoever said it was right on the button and it is an important thing for us all to learn. Namaste Sweet Soul

[@wendypeeters7656]

❤❤

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Namaste Sweet Soul 🙏

[@Nossanswe]

Good video

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Sweet Soul Namaste

[@Heaveniswithinyou]

🙂Namaste🙏💫

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Blessings Sweet Soul Namaste 🙏

[@EmilyFoxSeaton]

I just subscribed.

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Thank you Sweet Soul Namaste

[@arthurwieczorek4894]

Ever hear of General Semantics? Ever hear of Albert Ellis?

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

I've heard the term. Not heard of Albert Ellis Namaste

[@KrishaClose-kh9rx]

Dr Wayne Dyer..

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Are you saying that the Title is a quote from Dr Wayne Dyer? If so Thank you, it's brilliant and has touched many as truth, including me. 🙏Namaste Sweet Soul

[@johnathanabrams8434]

Not listening to the child of global war criminals

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you Sweet Soul Perhaps if their child was listened to and heard + started to feel loved, their attitude and lack of compassion and consideration for others would be awakened. Trauma can create anger as well as those who become people pleasers, both are a cry for help. That doesn't mean I condone the actions of those that hurt others, I don't, it is totally unacceptable and sadly there are a few that are that narcissistic, what they do is wrong on every level. Namaste 🙏

[@praisecontinuallyarmstrong3920]

❤Exactly. Kind Courage Free

[@SaraJane-Vocal-Reiki]

Bless you When we find the courage to free ourselves, we realise that the kindest thing we can do for some people is to say No, empowering them and ourselves in the process. 🙏Namaste Sweet Soul