Turning Job Loss at 53 into a Life-Changing Gift

Thriving Solo
I share the story of how facing job loss at 53 became a pivotal moment of self-discovery and empowerment. Learn about the lessons I embraced, and the gifts that unfolded as I navigated the uncharted waters of career transition. Discover how turning adversity into opportunity led to a life-changing transformation, proving that sometimes, the greatest gifts come in the most unexpected packages. This is not just a story of survival but a testament to the power of resilience, reinvention, and the incredible strength we can find within ourselves when faced with unexpected challenges. Join me on this journey of thriving solo, and let's explore the untapped potential that lies within every setback.
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[@deirdrekiely6187]

Most people stay in toxic work environments because they simply need the money and health benefits.

[@Chris-tg3qy]

Yes. It’s really just as simple as that and a layoff pushes people to start over. They might find something better, but maybe not.

[@cjhoward409]

My husband just started a new job, because his last one was quite toxic and stressful. He’s 60… he wanted his last few years of working to not be toxic. And now he found a job making more money 👍🏻😀

[@Lizziee_90]

❤ I quit after 8 months working in toxic enviroment, even my position is assistant for chairman. Co worker gossiped, chairman doubted...now I had quited it about 3 months- and now need to learn more chinese to find other job, now I don't urge myself for looking it. Sometimes need tobe consider it before say YES to anything. 🎉

[@OnboardingInformation]

@@Chris-tg3qyme staring over again 😢

[@StJames1938]

Looking For A Job & Interviewing Is A Stressful.

[@raffaelae1020]

If you work in corporate, remember that most of the time, you were hired, not adopted. Your company is not your family. Everyone is replaceable. Your life and mental health are more important

[@andersdottir1111]

Well done on the ‘quiet quitting’ - there’s no need to be loyal to a company that ‘loudly’ holds an axe above people’s heads every day.

[@allkindsamusicchick]

What's even worse, is the general lack of cohesive, congeniality, and kindness in the workplace.

[@andersdottir1111]

@@allkindsamusicchick yes.

[@Beatles0223]

💯!

[@sophieobiero-ro7uj]

I work in IT and I’ve finally understood quiet quitting! These companies are getting more & more brutal! Even as the economy is getting better they’re still relentlessly laying off…

[@pearlrichardson4179]

@@allkindsamusicchick All of that & more!

[@christinesylvia7083]

“ you don’t know how tired it can make you to be anxious and depressed all the time”. Word, sister! glad I found your channel.

[@adammorra3813]

The thing is, what is the cure? Most jobs are like this so its hard not to feel tired all the time.

[@julieorr8365]

It's not tired from the work itself ,it is being tired and mentally exhausted from dealing with all the BS from the higher ups. Just always anxious and worried waiting for it to be your turn to take the fall@@adammorra3813

[@redtrunkrelics]

So true

[@SalemChick]

So absolutely true--both what Jen said and Christine!

[@randomCHELdad]

@adammorra3813 Working for the Lord Jesus Christ, knowing he is the pay giver, regardless of the physical.

[@johnacord5664]

I retired a little over 14 years ago. I am debt free and I do not have a list of health issues longer than my arm. I was laid off from my last job. I told them there were no hard feelings. I am totally free of the Car Triad.(Big Auto, Big Oil, and the Insurance Cabal). I am into the bicycle. I don't have a lot of money, but Lord I know I ham free.

[@Studiocolourjoy]

The big car triad! Wonderful!

[@user-cc5od3zk4p]

That is worth its weight in gold! Congrats!

[@cjhoward409]

Same here ! Zero debt including no mortgage. Never had a mortgage on our home that we built one paycheck at a time. It’s so FREEING ! 👍🏻😀

[@Jane5720]

I left. There was basically four more months that I would’ve been able to get free healthcare for an additional four months, but I just could not stay another day. My peace of mind is worth more than that. I can pay for Cobra myself. I am not going to regret this decision ever if I had to go in one more day, it would’ve been horrible. No, I would not have been laid off and no I would not have been terminated. I took the wheel. Single and solo and yes I could retire

[@kellywade8275]

@@Jane5720 If you can afford Cobra, then you're well- off.🤷🏾‍♀

[@AP-qk3we]

We are all replaceable to employers. No matter how wonderful you are or how amazingly you perform your job you can be replaced. A company's only objective is to "get the job done" and deep down they don't truly care who does that job but only that that job gets done.

[@farmoboy83]

and don't forget, job dine, extra hours and lower payment possible. Its the reality in my small european country as well, it's a global economy and blind capitalism is all the same.

[@joycef8443]

I feel a company’s mission is to make money for the owners/stockholders…by hook or by crook.

[@coriculp]

So true! I stopped working my butt off because it truly doesn’t matter. Every year they “can’t afford “ to give raises

[@caridadrevilla2439]

That's all what it's about. The bottom line.

[@eleonorabartoli2225]

It is certainly true for corporations, but sometimes you find a small business where employees' contributions are truly valued and rewarded. Those are also the businesses that value the customers.

[@Chris-tg3qy]

I was 53 and let go after 34 years. I got 6 months of severance. I saw layoffs regularly and didn’t leave because I was too financially invested in benefits like salary, vacation, pension and 401k. I knew leaving was no guarantee I would find something better. After I was laid off, I found another job quickly with great benefits, but it wasn’t better. I didn’t like the culture near as much as my former job. It was hard being a newbie and starting over. I have been there for over 6 years. What did I learn? Nothing is forever and all jobs eventually end. If you are not happy in your job, don’t worry because it’s not forever. Also, maintain marketable skills. If you have good skills you will find a job.

[@Bethune98]

Well said...

[@KimJilene]

Great comment! Nothing is guaranteed but we have to do what is best for us and our family and livelihood.

[@funkefowler8530]

I lost my 12-year-old job at 51 years of age in 2020. I saw it coming, but sadly, I let my employer/circumstances make the decision for me. I took world bank's 'Future of Work' course to find out where I fit. Thereafter, I enrolled for a few online courses and I have been writing, editing, and proofreading as a freelancer since then. It's been such a fulfilling experience, financially and otherwise. Thank God! I completely relate with your story. Thank you so much for sharing. I live in Nigeria.

[@pe5208]

Golden handcuffs is a good description. Especially for those of us who are single, our job is our safety net.

[@robins_nest_]

Even if you find a new job making less money it is worth it if you lose the angst and depression from the previous job. Happiness and peace mix well with beans and rice. 😁

[@user-gr8bx7sy5d]

I graduated in 2020 and became a CT tech at 51. They will never layoff ER scan techs. I saw the writing on the wall in 2017 and I now make $100,000 a year with job security.

[@weiduoduo]

which program did you study, may I ask?

[@jet4415]

What is a CT tech?

[@CC-gb4ym]

@@jet4415catscan I think

[@jonathanmchugh5978]

Absolutely loving this channel. I am about to retire from the police after 20 years and I cannot wait. 51 and lots to do. Take care. Jonathan 🇬🇧

[@Crinkle.Stilt.Skin.]

Thank you for your service, Sir! Enjoy and stay safe!

[@user-yd3jd2em8e]

I actually hugged goodbye the manager that “let me go”. I was so happy to leave, and I’ll never forget that shocked expression on his face. (BTW I learned he was “let go” shortly thereafter too). After that experience, I became self-employed for 10 years. After that, I became a govt employee at age 50. I’m in my 60s and looking forward to a pension when I retire. My spouse and I became mortgage-free and debt-free. We’ve learned to love living life on less. We’re prepared for retirement. I “quietly quit” years ago which greatly reduced my stress and made me more efficient at work. Be your own boss, no matter where you work. Get real, retirement is coming. Ageism is a reality. You’ll be okay ❤ Love your videos and insight. Thankyou ❤

[@dalenjurgens6751]

My super gave me a hug, too, I wasn't expecting. reached my hand out for a handshake, but... lol caught me off guard. I am going to take the time I need to upskill and maybe start my own thing. we'll see what happens.

[@laurac.9322]

Yhanks I'm 55 on disability... not enough to live on really. I'm looking into. I like being self or sub contracted and I'm a bit of an entrepenure having my own business. So I started print on demand as I am a creative artistic I believe I can do it. I hated working for others.

[@488ci]

I learned a long time ago that we are easily replaced and then I found out there are the hidden gems of jobs out there that most people don't even know about because we have been taught to think a certain way. I'm glad you found that 💎😊

[@KoDeMondo]

Well is true what you are saying but I believe that is depending where do you live, your age etc

[@adammorra3813]

​@KoDeMondo also depends on your education, skills, experience. And everyone wants those jobs so hard to find.

[@escapeartist8581]

Amen! You planned that perfectly. I left my job of 21 years (no benefits). I was burned out! I took 2 weeks to the mountains, worked for a river outfitter the rest of the summer and loved it, then looked for a job. Our small town Bank needed help but didn't offer me an application (age 65). I found work at our correctional facility. Not my first choice but no management duties! My boss loves that I look for tasks to be done unlike the "young ones" I work with. I can walk to work and have full benefits! Hope to retire in one year. Thank you for sharing your story!

[@KayMN.]

I once was fired and I wasn’t allowed to grab personal items including a prescription bottle and my jacket! I called the police and They retrieved it….

[@silverandsolo]

:( Despicable!

[@johnacord5664]

Oh bosses can be real scumbags

[@skepticalmechanic]

@@johnacord5664got that right!

[@rosalindarcher6060]

Which country? I’m guessing US? What job?….Inhumane

[@rsoubiea]

What pricks. Good for you not backing down. Sorry for the circumstance.

[@Californiansurfer]

❤. I am 60 now, I am burned out. The only thing that saved me is reading.

[@thriftytowers7160]

Gosh, this vid is full of wise words! I was 'chopped' from my job out of the blue. It was so hurtful. It has taken me years to rebuild my confidence. I'm 61 now and as a single female, I struggle financially and wonder if i will ever land a job again. It truly is a rat race in the jobs market.

[@peacefulpoate5613]

Same here, sorry for the distress of it all. At my time, Ltd work avail, went to local community College and they had a paid work training and job placement class. Was 5 weeks 5 days a week class. Hope this info can help somehow ❤

[@jsdailypaybiz]

This happened to me but I learnt how to set myself up with an online business and have never looked back. I am my own CEO now and loving the freedom and especially the daily payments I am getting. I was very skeptical at first but with no other options staring me in the face I jumped in boots and all. Best decision I ever made

[@marymedal8665]

I knew my separation was coming when my boss sold the Company. I had saved my employment paperwork which included a substantial amount of money due me if this was to happen. On my last day I was given pay that didn't include that. Not acceptable. I stood my ground and although I loved the previous owner who stayed with the new company, I let them know I was not afraid of seeing them in court. I got my money. No court.

[@user-mu3xk7ie2t]

💪🏽

[@Kittiesinclair5]

They will always try to take as much as they can. I once had a contract job, and left a few days before the contract end date after confirming I was due pay in lieu. i told the ‘financial person’ I would leave early then I waited for the appropriate payment. Didnt come. I notified the financial person who sent me an email saying she ‘had approved’ that money even though I was being selfish in requesting it. I replied to her saying that I was not aware that ‘she’ was authorized the ‘approve’ a payment that I was due under Canadian employment law. Some people are so entitled that they really do believe they are above the law, or in this case, authorized to approve laws.

[@joshubrook324]

I took the opportunity in the pandemic of voluntary redundancy allowing me to pay off mortgage at 50 allowing me to work part time instead of full time until 67 ( there was / is no other age option for me ) so on balance I’m really happy with this outcome the free time I now have in my youthful senior years is actually priceless you could not pay me any amount of money for what I now have- I’m also single so truly am captain of my own ship & voyage ❤❤

[@FIRE_DrNinjaTurtle]

During my 10 years, I got my PhD and replaced my work income with teaching income before I quit/retired. I love that we had a plan and executed it. I totally get the tired and depressed. It was a stressful 10 years.

[@EsterHorbach-it9tb]

No matter how valuable or loyal you think you are to your company, you're replaceable. And all these sacrifices, unpaid hours ecetera don't matter. They let go and even talk bad about previous job performances. So now I'll give enough to be the best employee I can be, but not more than necessary. From my 40's I was told to be too old for the job market. I'm 56,my expectations are low. Also don't trust employers telling you "we're a family based company and ppl working for us are like family". No, they're never.

[@TheLiberatedMulti-Tasker]

Thank for you being so vunerable. My job was phased out unexpectedly. I lost my insurance, my state retirement, & job at age 54. We had just built & moved into our new home 18 months earlier. I was so hurt & was not in any mental shape to start over & look for a job. My husband had a great job & had just got a promotion the year before that helped to allow me to stay home-that and we were working to reduce our debt. Like you-the stress & toxicity made me physically sick that required medication. All that being said-I love my life now. Gardening, preserving, caring for our chickens & dogs….being productive on my time. Not being under a toxic thumb. I was able to stop taking my medicine & my symptoms went away. I also started a youtube channel, but it is still small and not monetized. Blessed!

[@FIRE_DrNinjaTurtle]

I went through this with my Federal job in the U.S. I stayed for 10 years in a toxic work environment. I totally understand the tears. I would not recommend it for others, but it was right for me as I got my pension when I finally retired. I also quite quit, before there was a name for it.

[@SurpriseMeJT]

I have a family member who was a DOD employee for many years and having worked in government myself, it has got to be a real hell hole with the toxic people in those orgs. If I could go back, I don't believe I'd choose to stay in government for as long as I did.

[@mjb9176]

Retired Fed here. Reorg after reorg…I saw the future. I became debt free and maxed my TSP and developed private sector retirement funds. I never told anyone that I had submitted my retirement paperwork as they do treat you differently once they know. I quietly took my personal things home, finished my shredding, brought my cloud storage files current, and it felt good. Maybe it was the control of my destiny, but I was looking forward to work each day. I developed a coworker client base for my post-career as a pet sitter. I put on my own retirement gathering and have been happily ever after since 2019. Facing it head on is empowering. ❤

[@Mary-tj5qx]

I’m in this situation right now. I’ve been preparing to retire early for the last 15 years so if this ends next year, and i expect that to be the case, I’m totally good with it. I’ve known from a very young age, early in my career, that no employer is loyal. With that in mind I’ve built an exit door. I’m not rich but i will be comfortable. Bring it on, I’m ready.

[@DontKnowWhereImGoingNext]

You're story is very similar to mine except I fired my boss instead of them letting me go. I retired at 53 and hit the road to travel around the world (heading to Albania) now. Also, started a YT channel to document my travels to share with family and anyone else interested. Subscribed to your channel, rock on girlfriend!! ❤

[@BennyC-qg6rd]

One of the best decisions I ever made was to retire at 55 from a difficult job. There were no regrets. Great subject content.

[@williamread8186]

I have to commend you for your resiliency. I am about to be 67 next month and my employer just recently laid off 8% of the workforce. I survived this round and if I make it to 68 I would have worked there for 40 years. I have to say though lay off or not my employer has treated me well. Your channel has caught my attention because I am a single introverted guy myself trying how to move forward in life as an old guy. I do have a grown daughter but my wife passed away in 2021. I do get lonely though. Health is wealth.

[@adammorra3813]

Who is that in your picture? No way you are 67, you look 58

[@williamread8186]

@adammorra3813 Thank you, that is me. My profile picture for my YT channel is quite old. Maybe I should update it. But the posts are much more recent that will show how I look now.

[@maryannequinn3465]

Hello William-I just want you to know that you are not alone out here. I have been alone(widowed) since 2012 and also have a grown child. I am lonely but combat that by being active in my community and with making things(sewing for others in my community). Good luck to you.

[@PaulasPicks]

My condolences to you & yours.

[@XzadforSpacefox]

Very wise words. in the USA they find any reason they can to get rid of older workers and bring in cheaper labor (Ask me how I know and age discrimination is not easily proven). Like you I took the opportunity and re-trained to do something I love.

[@user-ui1zv8bd4y]

Cheaper labor flooding in with false licenses, ID, passports, scary false degrees and being hired for much cheaper right here in the US. Read the money follow the money and you will see very few US companies are headed by US born raised loyal to America bosses. They are here to hoard 24 kt gold, line their own buddies pockets and denigrate the US. They are not here to keep America strong AT ALL and the same is going on in Canada. I see it as a legal immigrant I know the people I speak of and about.

[@KoDeMondo]

If the labour can be found locally, I'm sure they will found a way for this to happen and if this doesn't work out then they will outsourcing your job to some cheap countries.

[@gailmorris3715]

Great video! This happened to me at 62! I would say i was partially prepared but I found myself at my age getting caught in the temp to permanent offer! That was a corporate tactic to dangle a permanent position possibility after 3-6 months of temping. i retired at 63 and have never looked back!

[@dianaj3139]

Love seeing this story... I had those golden handcuffs on... at first I would save my vacation time for extravagant Tropical vacations from the PNW cold Winters... It lifted my depression just enough to keep me engaged at work... I took all the seminars and work experience trainings that were offered... and when the time seemed right, my employer got NO two weeks notice... my coworkers were dismayed that I could be happy about leaving.. LOL I was able to live comfortably on the Retirement fund money until I chose to collect my Social security... It's been 7 years now since walking out... and I am so grateful I didn't stay... My health has improved my outlook is better and I feel more in charge of my life! THANKS for sharing your story with all of us!

[@Mary-tj5qx]

I also quite quit some time ago. I do my job but nothing more. Funnily enough, I can see now that this is exactly what everyone else was doing all along. I have zero guilt.

[@NOT-WOKE-007]

In my past, I was laid off, walked out of the building, given a nice severance package, then 6 months later hired back by the same company making 5k more money than when they laid me off. Go figure.

[@Bethune98]

Personally would never go back to employer who laid me off

[@NOT-WOKE-007]

@@Bethune98 This was a huge company that did a reorg and all new management. I got more money and could work from home. Could not pass that up as I was very close to retirement. But to each their own.

[@Bethune98]

@Thisnameistaken27 I see...so yes in that case may be a good choice. But if need to do many years my choice would be somewhere new. Agreed....to each their own

[@eljoy5280]

How did you reconnect with the employer? My old bosses were fired / resigned and I’d consider going back.

[@NOT-WOKE-007]

@@eljoy5280 They posted job opening on the Internet. I just applied.

[@emilyknowlton8602]

Agism is real and especially impacts women. You will especially notice this at 47 years. It's extremely obvious .

[@jet4415]

I was a woman CPA and after 45yo I noticed that my employers were more aggressive on giving me too much work and not giving me compensation at the end of the year. Their attitude was abysmal and, yes, “extremely obvious”. Also, jobs in accounting mostly said, “5 years of experience”. Ageism is so real in the business world especially regarding women. I made plans, went back to graduate school in Speech Pathology at the age of 52, graduated, found work easily, and am very happy.

[@royberger2259]

I remember getting a surprise lay off at 55, it felt like I was a criminal in society. I recovered but holy smokes, what a trial. Luck to all.

[@mshirleyrn]

Hi Jen! Thanks so much for this channel! 50 yr old, pre-retirement GenX-er here too. I'm currently in the same boat as your video. Waiting (and very willing at this point), to be RIF'd, while they pile more on my job knowing they don't have to hire and pay another employee. Also going through a period of self-discovery and self-empowerment! What's in the future, I don't know. But I'm ready to take my future into my own hands. So, Yay You!!! I'll continue to watch. Sincerely, your US friend.

[@silverandsolo]

Hang in there sister! You can do this...sending you all good karma!

[@vickidenouden3480]

I was a full-time teacher for 39 years. When I retired, a colleague read my bio as the farewell speech and whispered to me beforehand, "I'll tell you right now, I'm not a hugger." My department gave me a chocolate bar as a retirement gift. I've been retired for two years now and I feel free and happy. I don't miss it one bit. I took the time to rest and heal too, and don't define myself as just a retired teacher anymore. Thanks for your story, Jen! It's nice to hear of others coming out the other side of things stronger and better off.

[@carolinacadabra8278]

Glad to hear you landed on your feet! Thanks for sharing how you didn’t deny reality and took charge.

[@PidasianHippie]

Jen I wish I could give this video a hundred thumbs up. Of course you know this subject interested me but I could feel the passion you have for it. In my opinion it is your best video yet. You made all the right moves in preparation for the RIF that you knew would eventually come. It is possible if you hadn't stuck around and immersed yourself in all the training that was available to you, you would have had to take a significant pay cut. I had a similar situation. I knew I wouldn't be losing my income but I could see that I would be taken off the very technical job I was doing and given menial chores. It was known as "on the job retirement". It would have been a terrible way to spend the last years of my working life. I took all the steps you did but took an early retirement at 55. As a single woman it is so important to be out of debt and have a good amount saved for retirement. Congratulations on your "new" career and may it last until you are ready to leave on your own terms. Thank you very much for putting this video out! I hope it will be a 1 out of 10!!!!

[@bethyoung4030]

I get what you are saying. Job well done! I’m in the USA and always worked for nonprofits. When you are non management, the day you are laid off you walk out with no severance package. I saw the writing when over lunch in our small break room, the head of the agency said that everyone plus replaceable. Quietly I took offense as I was busting my butt, putting in extra time,etc. But later that night I realized that if that was his attitude then it was the agencies attitude and my standing despite my work ethic was at risk. It took me 2 years to pay down debt and to be able to do part time work elsewhere so I could’ve home with my kids. I agree, you have to see what is going on at work site environment.

[@SusannahPerri]

OMG, not even a thank you??!! I am so sorry you were treated like that, Jen. But I celebrate your self empowerment and years of financial and mental preparation for what you knew was inevitably going to happen. It sounds like you definitely made the right decision. ❤Regardless, it is disgusting how they treated you, especially at the end.

[@teams3345]

I retired at 57. The company offered a voluntary retirement offer (not RIF). I have been through surpluses since I was hired out of college. I started saving in my 401k right out of college. When this one came through I was so excited. Once I said yes I had two weeks to get all my benefits in order and cross train. I am so glad I said yes. It has been 7 years and I do not regret a bit.

[@michaelduke4500]

You are to be commended for being single, taking time to clear your head, and not taking the first thing offered.

[@judysbakeryandtestkitchen1654]

As soon as my husband turned 60, they let him go. They eliminated his job. And that’s after they put them in a job without training. He was miserable. I was disabled from my job and couldn’t work. So he needed his job. My husband was then eligible for pension. The human resources person said they do that all the time. Age discrimination is common.

[@Petethegardencat]

“Some where out there is someone looking for someone like you”. This is very true. I was in a similar situation, but unfortunately I couldn’t stick it out to receive their severance package. I had to leave for my mental sake, but I am so glad I did. Best decision ever. Thanks so much for sharing your story.❤

[@KimJilene]

I am in that situation now with my current job and company. The job has taken such a toll on me mentally and physically - it is not worth sticking it out for a severance package. My health comes first! I am planning to leave within the next year. I too believe there is a company out there that is a better fit for me and that they are looking for someone like me 😊

[@user-xp5qx8wg9x]

You're a smart lady. It's very generous of you to share your years of experience and common sense. I wish I had taken serious the signals from my employment and have your good sense and planning. You were happy because you were so prepared. Good for you, pat yourself on the back, not everyone is as practical and they pay the price.

[@Amalthea16]

I'm a lot younger than you and in a different season of life, but I'm really glad I found your channel. You have a very peaceful and gentle soul and I really enjoy your advice and wisdom.

[@Stalwart-zy3oo]

Love your honesty! Planning is truely the key. No one rescues us. No one. We are each responsible for our decisions. A great video!

[@smrk2452]

Generation X in the house! We’ve gone the a lot of crap that nobody talked about until the millennials showed up. Thanks for paving the way.

[@kevinewing-oo8ix]

pamela here. Excellent video. I do know how tired I was after being anxious and depressed for 15 yrs. I have been recuperating now about a year. There was a lot to do for me before I could sit back and heal. The resort you went to looks fabulous. You are so smart. This is how women have to be. We are better at looking ahead and planning. So happy for you!

[@alma4237]

I just came across your channel, and this video could not have come at a better time. I just got my layoff notice on Friday. I will be laid off in September, right after my 51st birthday. I saw the writing on the wall back in 2015, but decided to stay because of the golden handcuffs, and because I was recently divorced with two young children. I got my finances in order back then, so I’m ready to go. My only regret is not being more proactive in learning new skills in preparation for that day. Your words brought me comfort that I’m on the right path. Thanks!

[@KimJilene]

You still have time to do some online certifications between now and September. Certifications are all the rage now and I myself am taking a few Udemy and LinkedIn Learning courses to upskill. Certifications plus work experience seem to be the key to landing a good job these days.

[@Teffi_Club]

Everybody is different. You are very resilient. Toxic environment effects my health.

[@mamalovesthebeach437]

I’d never heard the term “quiet quitting“. I’m glad that all you went through you feel was worth it in the end. I was in an abusive marriage and have learned what that can do to your health and mental state. When it got physical, I left the marriage. Leaving cost me nearly all of my finances. I was 48 years old. What you endured was on some level an abusive relationship. It’s been 20 years and when I look back I know, without a doubt, that regardless of the financial devastation, I would again take myself and my son out of that situation. Nothing is worth living with mental and emotional abuse on a daily basis. I watched a friend go through this in her job and it was torture. It’s been years and she’s in a fabulous job with a company continually rewards her job well done. But she still suffers from the constant breaking down in her previous job. I’m 68 years old. You never know how long you have to live or what’s going to happen in life. We endure a lot of things that are difficult and we all have different tolerances. No one should put up with an abusive relationship, whether it be at work, in a marriage, in a friendship, or from family. ❤

[@KimJilene]

Thank you for this comment. Very encouraging words. I have been working in a position for the past year that has worn me down so badly that my mental and physical health are at an all time low. I don’t even recognize myself in the mirror. And it has only been a year. I feel like I am in an abusive relationship. I decided I have to leave within the next year. My mental and physical health comes first! I have made a commitment to leave this job even if I have to take a pay cut. Your comment has given me hope that I can leave this job and regain my sense of self❤😊

[@thehappywanderer6469]

Thanks for your encouraging positive comment that we don't have to live with abuse. People are very cruel I have found in families and on jobs. At 65 I feel broken but I know that I am strong and will carve out my senior years with happiness. How did you overcome depression? It is my biggest battle this remnant of abuse I suffered from multiple people.

[@Reikifairy]

Something broadly similar happened to me last year, aged 55. A toxic work situation came to a sudden end due to closure - I was so excited when I heard the news as I was utterly miserable and completely exhausted there. A couple of months later I became self employed doing my other career as a reflexologist which I'd wanted to return to for a couple of decades - life does seem to give us exactly what we want, although sometimes in a dramatic way, especially when we won't make the leap ourselves! I love what I do now, made some lovely new friends in the clinics I work in, have some wonderful clients and also have just enough time to have begun a self-publishing business which I really enjoy. Yippeeee! I'm living at No1 You've Got Your Life Back Lane!

[@churchofpos2279]

I was reminded for the last 5 years of my working life that i was getting close to topping out on my salary. Even though I didn't change my work habits, they started to do "constant" job performance reviews. I was meeting my metrics . I think this was a method to try and get me to quit. The final straw for me was when they threaten to terminate me, even though I was a remote worker, because I refused to get the Jab. I retired immediately and then my employer started to complain that I didn't give them 2 weeks notice. 😁

[@dianaj3139]

If I hadn't already left my job when the mandatory Jab came along that would have been my deal breaker as well. KUDOS!! Don't blame you for not giving a two weeks notice!!

[@mjb9176]

Good for you! The Feds are still struggling to fill positions because of how they tromped on Federal workers and contractors. Especially the military, begging retired Air Force pilots to return etc.

[@pearlrichardson4179]

I was told because I did not give a 2 wks notice, I could not reapply for a job there. I had to chuckle to myself & was thinking I would never return here anyway. Believe me I am leaving for a reason. This was before pre-covid years. So this is how you treat employees that have worked for you for 11yrs. Hmm glad I left without giving you more time to be insanely toxic to my mental health. Obviously you never cared about your employees in the first place.

[@NOT-WOKE-007]

Suze Orman has some great financial advice for any woman who is interested in taking care of herself. I have a set of books written by her and I used those to make financial decisions for years.

[@christinaelliott8565]

Yes, the responsibility is on the individual--we do the work, we choose, we live with the consequences of our choices as far as and as best as we can. I'll turn 65 in a few days and did not accept the responsibility for being in the driver's seat of my life until recently. (I was overwhelmed and in denial of aging.) Consequence: if all goes as planned, I'll retire from teaching high school English at age 70 and 10 months. Like you, I am choosing to be single, never been married, and have no children. The confluence of my choices requires something different than married or committed couples with our without children. It's refreshing to hear how you planned for your future and that you are content with the outcomes.

[@Lucy-ie8qw]

I worked for the Australian Education Department for 20 years. When Covid hit i was told to do the "right thing" and get the jab to protect the students. I was scared as my doctor did not want me to have it as i had bad shingles. He gave me a full exemption but it was rejected by the dept. So ...to keep my job..i had it. Straight after i had severe pain in my head and arm. My ear started a loud ring and my chest was sore and tight. I could not breathe and had a heart attack. My school told me a few months later i needed another jab. I could'nt possibly take it again. So i was told to pack my things and leave the property. The thing that broke my heart was being called an anti vaxer by my coworkers. As i refused another jab. My cardiologist said he has a 80% increase in young people with heart issues after it now. Business is booming for him. All the staff i trained and loved....wiped me. Never spoke to me again. It was a gift. I started my own biz in children's therapy and i earn triple what i earned at the school. I found out WHO people really are and how our employers don't give a dam about us. I will never work for someone else again.

[@MsDoglover02]

I loved hearing your story. You are a very strong woman who weighed your options and did what you felt was best. I'm so glad you gave yourself that six months for self care and that lovely trip too. I'm in the states and while I have had many jobs in many different industries, I have found that I'm happiest working for a small family owned business and that is where I am now. In less than 2 years, I have been promoted and making the best income I have made (outside of sales), am appreciated and they are financially investing in my continuing education at almost 62 years of age. I also live within my means. When I was making great money in sales, I also spent that money. I'll be curious to see if you have any videos on how you currently manage your budget now before you tap into retirement $ to travel starting 2025. Thanks for a great video!

[@Drolywa]

Strategic! In control! Excellent, inspirational video. Thank you.

[@ginamarie1920]

I am so glad KZbin served me this video. You have a wonderful presence and a very soothing voice. Something similar happened to a friend of mine. She was a saver by nature, and one can see only so many RIFs and not think that you'll be ousted at some point. The day that it happened to her, she walked out with a generous package and smile. Unfortunately, the bulk of those let go with her were shocked, crying, and scared. I don't blame them; it IS shocking. The "system" wants us to believe that we'll be rewarded for our loyalty. I am your age, and I am in an unfulfilling job, but "golden handcuffs"! I am well-paid, my job is remote, my boss and teammates are great. BUT... I am so tired of being unfulfilled and uninspired by my work. I know that this may seem like a ridiculous complaint to someone who is flagging traffic in the heat or working three minimum wage jobs.

[@KimJilene]

It is totally understandable to feel unfulfilled and uninspired at work - and being handcuffed to the job doesn’t help! Yes people have it worst than us, but someone also has it better! Just wanted to validate your feelings and thought process 😊 You are doing what is best for you and you will make a change for the better when the time comes.

[@uqox]

The choice to remain in a toxic environment should be done with self-preservation in mind. Great strategy: get as much as you possibly can from the employer via retirement plan matching, training, paid leave time, OT, etc. Lay very, very low. Do not volunteer for projects, be super positive in the environment, and quiet quitting is essential. Keep your resume up to date, and establish a strong network of successful professionals in your sector. Attend industry conferences on the company's dime whenever you can. Start establishing healthy habits. (This is very key; you need to counteract the toxicity of the work environment. Meditation is a good one!) This is a great story with excellent points.

[@rhillyermiles]

I got rif'd after 17 years from a civilian NAF job with the US Navy and it hit my pocket hard. I was 55. But I got a small severance and started my pension payments, and can take $ from my 401K without penalty. I now make half an hour what I made but since I only worked part time then and now work full time, the pay is almost equal. But my free time is less. I was lucky as I really like my job and I work remotely. Sorry so those years were stressful for you!

[@crocus5632]

I couln'd quite quit, because all the clients were calling and writing me asking about the progress, an when it will be done, and my boss ignored my pleas thar it was too much work for me and we needed to hire someone else. The only thing he did was giving me a hard time taking my vacation ("what? 2 weeks? But we have so much work to do!") So after 17 years in the company I quit (we have no sevearance). I am 45 and will be working directly with clients, I don't need no boss for that. I've got a lot of climets requests alredy.

[@miladylaughalot]

I had several jobs that were just too much for me. But I love you tube and it’s my passion. I’ll never quit sharing my story and they can’t really fire me. Yay!!

[@robertashaffer3950]

Fellow Canadian! 🇨🇦 I am from Montreal and moving to Ontario in a few months Tofino is beautiful! 💝 My position was "abolished" January 31, 2024, one day before my five year work anniversary. Talk about a dirty move! I begin a new job this week. I have made many decisions that definitely did not serve me well. At 63 years young, I am tired, drained, however trying to create a new life for myself. Thank you for this video Jen 🙏 You were proactive and moved forward. I am trying to pick myself up and do the same 🙏

[@cathyallshouse2981]

I'm silver and solo as well, I like the term you chose. Well done on the way you planned for your RIF. I'm in US in a right-to-work state, so severance is quite rare here. I've had some real problematic work separations that caused some real financial problems while I was raising kids as a single parent. It has been a tough life, actually. 7 years ago, I got blindsided with a termination and was able to leave a place I no longer wanted to live. It was quite difficult to get a new job in my mid 50's. I had great experience and still couldn't find a job at the level I had. Ageism is a real thing. I went to work for a non-profit, which was better in terms of work life balance but paid poorly. I'm eagerly anticipating retiring in 1 year and 10 months which for me will be full retirement age for US social security. In the last year, the environment where I am now has changed, not for the better, so I hope I can hang in there. I'm working hard to pay off a car loan and another debt and save as much as possible. Today's the first time I've seen your channel and I'm off to watch more. Thanks for the inspiration!

[@empoweredwomeninbusiness23]

I feel the same way about the life changing impact finding something wrong with my daughter had on me. She is my greatest gift: I would not have had the life I have had if not for the Pathway Imyjen led me on: standing. In state & federal elections in disability issues & writing 2 books🥰. Now I help others overcome challenges in their lives

[@jandjmom]

Thank you for posting this video! It came at the right time for me. You detailed how I am feeling as a 50 something woman after a recent job loss. I too worked at the same place for nearly 20 yrs & was a part of a company wide reduction. I had a slight heads up of what was coming, so I started taking the necessary steps to get ahead of it. I believe things happen for a reason & know something better is out there for me.

[@allthingsnu4673]

Almost two years ago, I was still caring for my mother while working remotely 80% of the time. My former employer was reorganizing, changing a lot of processes and hiring a lot of younger people. I never thought I would retire early but I realized I was tired and needed a break and it wasn't because of caring for my mother, it was because of my job. I put in my retirement notice and have not regretted it. I'm glad I thought about what I wanted and needed and made my own choice rather than to wait for them to let me go when I wouldn't have been prepared.

[@DonnasRoadTrips]

Being in the payroll HR world, these reduction in force campaigns are selective with good workers going when they shouldn’t be the ones on the chopping blocks. Good on you for hanging in there. Many couldn’t.

[@allkindsamusicchick]

Thank you for your honesty. It is still emotional for you, I can see. You did well, presenting your story. How you were treated was criminal behavior, in my opinion. How dare they?? But they do! You have to be strong to continue on, while being whiplashed, for sure! I was let go from a job in which my tenure was not lengthy. I was treated like garbage by the new rogue manager and a few of her minions. Their behavior was atrocious. They tried Everything in the book to get me to leave, until the bloody end....when they indeed....conjured up such filth....had I the funds....I would have sued them for slander. Less than 3 months later....the business closed down. I wished I could have taken some time for myself, but I was not in a position to do that. The working world is not for the faint-hearted though. I've still not found my ideal working environment, but remain present at the job, learning, and just trying to keep my spirits up. I imagine that I will move on at some point. Now, is not the time. Best of luck to you. You come across as strong, intelligent, thoughtful, and warm. Keep it up. The world needs more of your kind. Be well.

[@KimJilene]

Love that phrase, “the working world is not for the faint of heart”. I feel the pain of the working world often and I was wondering if it was only me 😜

[@allkindsamusicchick]

@@KimJilene We are not alone. Be well....

[@BeautifulRelaxationMusic]

I'm in my 50's & in a very similar career situation. I know its just a matter of time. This was perfect timing as i knew i needed to plan! Thank you for sharing,new subscriber.

[@silverandsolo]

Glad it was helpful!

[@LuckyLucy451]

Wickaninnish Inn - good choice - love those waves pounding the rocks! What an experience - being 'laid off' such a degradation but turned out for the better for you - being single and having a rational head on your shoulders - well done! Yes, don't wait to do your travelling and am sure you will thoroughly enjoy yourself and meet some interesting people!

[@dianeallerdice6441]

I loved watching this pick me up today. Last May (2023) I wrote my Breakfast Club resignation letter because I too saw the writing on the wall. When I quit, I asked for a few things that I got and it gave me some wiggle room. Then, I found more money to give me some more wiggle room. Then, I applied for unemployment and got it for even more wiggle room. I rested a lot during this time, planted a dahlia gardent, did some projects and spent what tiime I had with my sister who passed away during this time. I checked out at that time and sunk into what and why is this happening. Unemployment was about to run out and I was getting nervous cuz the job hunt was taking way longer then it has in the past. Then, the right gig came along and just in time. Almost 11 months off of work and I am about to start a new job that pays a lot more, paid benefits (doesn't usually happen for contractors) and 401k. I am going to miss my free time, but it was hard allowing myself permission to enjoy it and KNOW I am ok. I am looking forward to interacting with people again and for what is coming next.

[@b.l.wilson9724]

When I was terminated from my civilian job of 10 years while I was in Afghanistan and then coming home to no civilian job and receiving little guidance from the Army National Guard…I spiraled so deeply in the pits of darkness. Of course, 10 years later there are so many different ways I could have handled that situation had I accepted the situation and looked at it in a different perspective. It has taken years for me to recover from that situation. I’m finally able to breathe and live and enjoy life. 😊 Thank you for inspiring.

[@aknudsen93]

I have two years left in teaching before I can retire with a pension. Many teachers stay on and teach as retired teachers but I cannot do this. The only reason I will go back to teaching is that I need a salary and have good insurance. Even though we are so short on teachers that they are hiring substitutes to teach we are always made to feel that are job is on the line.

[@magildeny]

Great advice! I had two women bosses that were working to sabotage me and they finally did... it was a big shock b/c I was a GREAT employee... I'm in a totally better place now and it is the company's loss and ultimately the company let it happen and their "Ethics Policy" meant absolutely NOTHING... sad... and this is a REALLY big company...

[@deniseclarkart]

Jen, go girl, you're strong because you've had to be living alone, there's no one to fall back onto, it has to be you. well done you, hard to handle this time, but you did it and you did it well.

[@aliciacatherineegan]

Love your future insight as a 37-year-old currently in job transition. Your advice is just as applicable to me in my current scenario and wise for anyone who works for a company. Just found your channel, and subscribed!

[@mariaf5474]

Well done. It's a scary thing to know permanent change is coming. I did the head in the sand route once. Then, in my new and final job, did all the things you advised and kept at it until I could retire. No union, several restructures, known employee dissatisfaction organization. But I worked every year to keep myself resilient, show an interest to test what was new and become a brains trust, making it harder to be the first cut. I was able to retire a little earlier than planned and wasn't the one experiencing 'on the job retirement'....which my pride wanted to avoid. It's hard work to keep yourself employable, and I may have had the benefit of many jobs, and working as a temp, to see my strengths, my worth, know how to write and tweak resumes, but it also helps your confidence and is less overwhelming when you have no choice but to brush off that resume. Many find annual performance reviews an eye roll, but use them as a personal challenge to keep yourself current, update your resume, and show your willingness to set new goals and adapt. I found them empowering.

[@mjb9176]

You would be a wonderful mentor or coach. ❤

[@katec9893]

It's so great that you saw what was going to happen, upskilled, prepared emotionally, practically and financially and were ready. And then went on to getting a much better job. I'm working on a similar situation myself, reflecting on all areas of my life, researching, upskilling before taking action towards a better present and future. One suggestion is to edit your videos without those transitions, they're a bit disorientating to watch. I'd also ditch the bright green subscribe screen. Basically brand your KZbin channel then make all elements of your channel fit your brand. You could buy a brand package, hire a designer or get a book out on branding and work through the process yourself. I look forward to seeing your channel grow.

[@NOT-WOKE-007]

I am my own financial advisor. My 401k is doing very well.

[@helen9073]

In Ontario, it's two weeks per year of service. I hired a lawyer who obtained a settlement of one month per year (ten months for ten years of service) and full coverage of health insurance for the ten months. He mentioned that I should take half in payout (OUCH - income tax was brutal) and put the remaining half in my RRSP (benefit: NO INCOME TAX was take - SWEET!) I was covered on all bases, and happy to be downsized, as my company was toxic as well.

[@KimJilene]

At what point do you hire a lawyer? Right away once you get notice? How much did the lawyer cost? I am also in Ontario and curious about how to go about getting legal advice if I do get ever get laid off.

[@janetstanley3645]

I have worked for the same company for 28 years. The first 20 years were mostly wonderful and I could not believe how lucky I was to have such a great job. The past eight years however have felt like purgatory. The company began “restructuring “ and offered early retirement buyouts and many people who could afford to took it. Then the RIFs started. Fast forward to today. I am miserable and trying to hold on until I can retire. I’m 59 and single and I definitely feel the golden handcuffs. I am the senior employee, the one who trains and answers questions for my coworkers but I can’t shake the feeling of impending doom.

[@user-br4dj6dh4h]

Thank you for sharing your experience and advice.

[@SoulfulVeg]

I love how strategic you were. Quiet quitting is smart when you are biding your time. And picking up new skills is super important when you are an older employee. It's so important to remain teachable in our 50s. Lately, my company has been letting go of people at the director level and above. Most of them do very little (I work directly with that level), don't privide much value, and are expensive. In the last few months, I've seen departures at the C-suite, EVP, SVP, & director levels.

[@bethan.gruffydd]

Just found your channel and really enjoying it so far. It's so interesting to hear people discuss these kinds of things. As a millennial myself, even in all the "white collar", "professional" salaried positions I've had, I've never once in my entire working life ever felt like I was anything other than constantly on the chopping block. I entered the work force during great recession of 2009. And being based in the U.S. and living in states with "at-will" employment policies, I've never had a job where I had any confidence that I could expect to not be laid off for no fault of my own *at any time* , never mind any question of severance or a heads-up of any kind. I've never worked somewhere where I didn't just assume that it would last for *maybe* a couple of years, if I'm lucky. Just saying this to say that it's interesting how people of different generations (and in different types of jobs) can have such different expectations about work, etc. Again, not trying to stir up any cross-generational BS here. Thanks for your great channel!

[@joniangelsrreal6262]

👁👁 my daughter was let go in 01/2023 after 26 years she is 53 living alone on her own … You enlightened me of her untold story …❤️

[@kathyred3310]

ThanknYou! Your videos are packed with practical information and life lessons. I retired at 53 due to illness and toxic coworkers. I loved the job and the company i worked for. I did not plan my retirement date, it was spur of the moment (after checking my pension buy out and 401k). At first, I thought I would have to sell my home to keep my head above water. I was advised by my union and HR that I probably qualified for SSD (social security disability) so I secured a lawyer to handle the ins and outs of SSD and I got the documentation I needed from my doctors and was approved shortly afterwards. It’s not the life I wanted or planned for, but I am grateful to those who taught and showed me the value of saving money for the long term. I would be in a very different situation otherwise.

[@robinengland5799]

Almost 71 and have been an embalmer for the last 48 years, love the work but I am getting ready to get out of there in a few years. It is scary to think I will not have a job anymore. I have worked since 14. Enjoy your channel.

[@babydollkincaid4584]

People stay in a job they hate was because they have a family that depends on them and for the health benefits you don't have any children.

[@ivansmith654]

I saw this video more than 25 years to late! I did 5 professionally career changes were I was layed off and when to school to learn a new profession I was lucky the state I lived in paid for it. I always had a hard time getting anything done at my jobs I was always the new guy my hands were always full 16 - 18 hours days! I was put on a very early force retirement without knowing anything that was about to happen to me, and I had act quickly to fix what happen to me I had only hours to think of what to do and where to go! Because I was born in France I left the States with the shirt on my back, and come to France, today I am doing great I have all that I need I have no worries, I guess I was lucky! I did no planning nothing at all zero, you kids today may want to listen to her I am French I am lucky many of you need to plan! Good luck!

[@Loufi303]

I'm so glad you dropped the music in recent videos - it's one of my biggest pet peeves, the annoying background muzak we all used to hate in the mall, the elevator now popping up with all these content creators because KZbin wants to sell their music catalog, and promotes it in their KZbin 'academy'. it is just noise pollution. It is also just very distracting, annoying (especially for non-native speakers/people with hearing issues, those with ADHD or misophonia and most of all those of us, like yours truly, who are auditory learners - 30% of the population), takes up unnecessary mental bandwith and adds nothing in terms of production value. Thanks!

[@jet4415]

I agree about the music. One channel I listen to reads short stories from famous authors. They’ve recently added music in the background!! It is very distracting and hard to listen to. I click off, maybe I should let them know? 😅

[@Loufi303]

@@jet4415 It would be great to let them know - especially if you value the channel. I regularly just unsub, but if I like the content well enough, I will drop a note. (I should have produced a standard message by now as I've literally written dozens of them). 🤓

[@QueenAnnesLace13]

Just found your channel and new subscriber. Thank you, something most of us need to hear and be prepared for.

[@UKKazzie]

Love this! 61 and solo here. Saving as much as I can while I can. Managed to get debt fee a year ago. 27 years in same firm. Redundancy is looming, lawyers first then PAs. I'm trying to get physically in shape so I can work part time away from the office, volunteer also and provide some care to 87 yo mum. Love yr channel. Reliant on state pension at 67 due to being financially naive until 10 yrs ago. From UK. Xx

[@NomadicConqueror]

I love this channel! Glad I found it. 55 and solo w/ a few health challenges

[@magpievariety]

So glad you popped into my feed!

[@Faith_and_Hope_07]

I am so happy I found your channel. This video is worth gold. Thank you so much! I look forward to learning more about your journey through your other videos.

[@virginia_in_the_rearview]

This was a very eye-opening video. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@lissamahler9402]

You are exactly who I needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing and helping ❤

[@carolwilliams8840]

I love how detailed you were in sharing and applaud you for being so intentional in your planning. Thank you.