8 Traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

[@Kevinmsr]

I survived a vicious couple of years being with a narcissist. My heart was destroyed and it made me wonder if there is someone who can truly love and have empathy

[@hihunter7]

Are you saying they were a narcissist because they actually were, or because they were mean, gaslighting, arrogant, in denial, or unrelenting despite being wrong? There's a huge difference. Either way, I'm sorry you had such a bad time. Not everyone is like that, and there will be someone who appreciates and cares for you in a positive way, as long as you're always being mindful of yourself and looking to better your personality and overall behavior. Growth can be much more beautiful and substantial than initially perceived, and it can garner fruitful outcomes such (in this case) as a healthy relationship without toxic undertones or childish behavior resulting in hurtful fighting and childish behavior that stunts resolution to issues and growth as a couple. Good luck out there; there is always good in the world, no matter how dark and destitute things may appear. Take care of yourself.

[@stevec3892]

Been with the two worst parents and have all these . Terrible anxiety and panic attacks my whole life . Bad relationships and lonelyness . Cause I think I’m better than everyone and people should think I’m great . And every one just a supply to me

[@akmalsobri8674]

Same ..but that after that trauma u gonna have prob with relay to like big time​@@stevec3892

[@TeachMeLordGod]

​@@stevec3892 I feel like the worst person deep down and nothing really makes me feel better about it. I haven't been diagnosed but I do have aspergers so that has some similar tendencies imo.

[@OogaBooga833]

Narcissistic traits not npd

[@AngieRodriguez-kg7ny]

I feel sorry for them. You can't just not mind them, you must stay away from them. Pray for them.

[@sandrapapuni416]

Right on the nail, Angie.

[@annaluizacesar6106]

Praying will help just you, since they won't change if they're not diagnosed and remain untreated!!

[@jesurenbnb]

However i don't think they would change even if you pray for them

[@Joe-hf3cn]

It’s so difficult. On the one hand, they destroy you emotionally & spiritually. On the other hand, they’re clearly unwell & might deserve sympathy

[@bobbarker1798]

Just stay away and pray for your own safety.

[@natalieussery4294]

I was married to two men who were narcissistic. I had no idea what narcissism was or what it meant. However, I read a book about the topic and wept for hours! These men I chose to love nearly destroyed me and their children. It’s not harmless….it’s not a pill away from recovery…. it’s not okay the damage they’ve done to my life. Thankfully, I no longer have had to endure those relationships and I am FREE!!! I believe there was something else going on in my second marriage, but he was better at manipulation and keeping secrets. I thank God for helping me to finally let go of them because I did LOVE them with everything I had to give. Honestly, I look back and it was a nightmare! Both times!!! Now I focus on my adult children and my grandchildren and help them…..trying to teach them all about the ways of God. That they can make better choices for themselves and they have. Please keep your heart, mind, and body safe. You don’t deserve to be treated the way you can be treated by the narcissist. You fall in love with the person you “THINK” he or she is. It’s ALL fake….RUN!!!!!

[@BlackSkyZ2]

lol. Both men being narcissists? Never you? I see some contradictions here

[@CrabTV567]

Are these 2 exs or did you marry 2 men at the same time?

[@olly8]

Took me learning WHAT a Narcissist IS- to realize my oldest sister IS ONE. At 70yrs old, I found out I didn't owe her 'respect' just for being the eldest child, that 'respect' is EARNED...NOT A TITLE!! I then learned about BOUNDRIES and have become an expert at ENFORCING them. Saved my self worth and I stopped living to meet her expectations😁👍🏼 "I" say when we talk or IF we even talk at all. Just learning to say "No" to her has been Life changing ❤ for me, especially. Her daughter was the one who got me to see how I had been used & manipulated ALL MY LIFE by my sister. Hallelujah!!! I'm MUCH healthier now. And guilt-free of meeting Her beck and call. Better late than never 🎉🎈🌈

[@markokralj7049]

😮😅

[@wudgee]

My younger sister too. She has always been spoiled, even now at age 60 my parents take her on their regular holidays, even anniversary celebrations. She slept with my boyfriend and never said sorry, in fact she tried to seduce him on numerous occasions, my mum never let me discuss it with her and I never had support. Things like that have happened throughout, and she recently swore at me and told me to get lost when I couldn’t give her money., but it is she who ghosted me for four months. She should have apologised. Hah, never. I’ve unfriended her on facebook today and hope I have nothing more to do with her.

[@forestrot666]

This was very helpful to read. I am glad you came out on your other side. ❤ layers are peeling apart as my brother ages.

[@alexhendricks7770]

While I’m not a narcissist I will say having spent 18 years of my life caring about others needs more than my own 24/7 and constantly getting used or stabbed in the back, I finally reached a breaking point. I realized I have to prioritize myself more than others (except my family of course) especially those who do not reciprocate the same care.

[@laurivaltter]

yea betraya or abuse is bad feeling

[@Silencer796]

You are a kind hearted person, I wish I could prioritize myself because I feel like I’m gonna go crazy at some time… or burn myself out completely

[@maggiedunn7167]

That’s called setting boundaries. Not narcissism. ❤❤❤

[@salmahaaiiss720]

So happy for you Good on you You are a kind and considerate and empathetic person but others out there took you for granted but as the saying say Never too late Wishing you all the best Good luck to you 🙏

[@AaaaBbbb-ry7js]

Me too

[@jeebies1083]

I just realized im a narcissist. Thats why i've been feeling lonely. I've been trying to hide it, for example trying not to make conversations abt me, tho secretly it gives me lots of joy when ppl ask abt me. And my issue with control really shows up whenever i feel like things are getting out of hand, like i'd literally go "damage control mode" and just start to hate everyone whos getting in my way regardless of who they are bc am feeling stressed and that will be all that i would care abt at the moment.

[@JustinS-f4q]

You completely sound like me man just keep going the fact that we know this now we can slowly make changes 💯

[@trapstarro4524]

Me too 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@juliegeorge6227]

I too had narcissitic - anti social behaviours, I was looking for a role model whom I could look up to, objective morality ( the main issue of narcissism is calling good as evil and evil as good). I found Christ. Started following him. He is tuning me to be social even if threatened with death.He is a great God. Just think if everyone decides to have their way in what they want the world will go down. In biblical terms, Narcissist steal good fruits such as love. Joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, self control, goodness and faithfulness. I guess you have the passion to be a good person and you have not hardened your heart, so there is still light in you. Repent and surrender to the Almighty God. Seek his help. Do not worry about your past sins, you can start as a new creature after he forgives you.He sends his holy spirit to help us mature in the Lord. Commit yourself to get rid of your evil ways. May the lord be with you.

[@Joyamberpatterson]

​@@juliegeorge6227 That is one way.

[@JacobMaland]

Thank you ​@@juliegeorge6227

[@carlmullerlane]

I have a Behavioural Science (Psychology) degree & have been doing a deep-dive into narcissism (among other psychological topics) for around 35 years now. I was also raised by someone who I believe has undiagnosed moderate grandiose narcissistic traits with comorbid OCPD who married a HSP codependent enabler with a fawning trauma response. And I must say, that I think that this is 1 of the best concise descriptions of narcissism (NPD specifically) that I have seen in some time. There are far too many "lightly-informed enthusiasts" out there, imo, who are dramatically oversimplifying an incredibly complex topic which can have a great deal of expression variability & specific individual nuances. Well done to whoever put this together.

[@happycat0411]

Problem with those with NPD is once the individual with NPD reaches adulthood they cannot be forced to go under a psychological assessment unless they become a danger to themselves or the people around them. Since this is the law here in Canada it is best to limit the interaction with the person who has NPD as one's own mental health may be also at risk and ones own mental health should always be the prime priority.

[@torri4777]

It should be a law in most states if not all for an annual mental evaluation on top of the physical abuse these NPD individuals cause to their "hosts." as someone like myself used to live with for over 30 years😢

[@juliegeorge6227]

I have seen someone pick up narcissitic thought process after reaching adulthood and became full blown in 6 months as he was trying to predict the next move of the narcissit, thereby practicing the thought process.

[@Augur_RAzul]

@@juliegeorge6227scary

[@KatherineGrey-pz9on]

When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..

[@steviep9780]

More spam. I suppose no one is policing the channel. This is disgraceful for such a good video.

[@shenron6126]

@@steviep9780you read this too😂?

[@tega124]

Can this people work on themselves and change

[@steviep9780]

​@@shenron6126 lol!

[@Jponly06]

@@tega124yes. I admit- the disconnect from others will never fully be gone, but we can very much learn to be able to be healthy and good to people.

[@cleojade2011]

After my ex of 7 years left me 5 months ago, I learned over time that he does have possible NPD. When I watched this it freaking resonated. The main factor is he did not have any regard for my hurt feelings when he just kicked me to the curb and he had no regard for any of my friends. The funny thing about him is he does attend therapy but he does not go regularly. He only goes whenever he feels pissed off that someone did him wrong. Guess people with NPD that attend therapy do refuse to get themselves treated

[@Notyourtype8890]

You sound like nothing more than a scolded ex girlfriend. Your blaming him and not once have you pointed out your failings. Maybe he just stopped caring because of your actions.

[@cleojade2011]

@@Notyourtype8890 maybe if you knew him personally, you might reconsider what you said. I’m not going to say anything more because I’m not in the mood for any sort of pinpointing. If you just wanna side with him, go on ahead. If I was self righteous, I would create an essay trying to prove that he’s wrong and I’m the flawless one. If you think that that’s what I tried to do here, then I can’t control what you think. Have a great day ✌🏻

[@Silencer796]

@@Notyourtype8890Ah! The old blame the victim mindset, I pity you

[@Notyourtype8890]

​@@Silencer796 keep your pity you'll need it to fuel your victimhood.

[@kalel311superman9]

i think those people are better off living alone

[@brandonwilliams5526]

Facts

[@Real2roles]

Yeah you stopped me with this message by not sending the narcissist I know this vid😂😂😂

[@CaptainMorganJnr]

​@@Real2rolesYou seem to exhibit some traits of NPD.

[@nicholerubes2959]

In ideal world yes. It would be better for everyone if they did live alone. However a NPD hates being alone more than anything

[@brandonwilliams5526]

@@nicholerubes2959 That is also true but a narcissist relationship is very toxic and very one sided where they put there own wants and needs always before you and that's when it's time to get out.

[@trbrm6319]

My boss sadly has all these traits and thats why finally after 2 long years I've applied for transfer for the sake of my own mental and emotional health, you are sooo definitely entitled to leave for greener pastures for the sake of your own mental and emotional well- being

[@Trus7ed.7]

The traits of my ex wife of 14 years - abused as a child. Power hungry. Image obsessed. Smart. Nurse. When it was over as I realized much like her fake pastor father and abusive mother and siblings that she’d never change I became ill and almost died. She was investigated for poisoning me, passed polygraph and laughed about it while saying she hoped I would die. Tried to take my home, took the kids and won in court, moved far away, kids constantly crying and sneaking calls to me to say they’re being abused by her and husband 1, once that relationship ended after a year, husband 2 an MMA fighter drunk, she did the same and abused them more until they went to foster care- DHS Oregon finally did their job. I got custody, she fought and spent tons and ended up getting two back. What our oldest went through, I can never understand why she would do this. She’s in college now. I’m 42 and my body has never been the same. Some savings and stable job but not enough to get the answers I need. Sick, feel like I’m dying. At least I saved one. God is so good. Trust your instincts. Never surrender!

[@thompsonlauren1004]

Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator Digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...

[@steviep9780]

Not a single person read this til the end? This is spam, nothing more.

[@rommelbaylon3903]

Thank you for sharing

[@shenron6126]

@@steviep9780bruh you read it 😂?

[@steviep9780]

@shenron6126 Lol I also learned to read the end first, now I know! 😅

[@shivadawhyte7371]

Thank u, u gave me clarity. I have been losing my mind

[@christi9711]

I’m a narcissist, said no one ever…

[@PrinzessinVonGottHier]

Eh hem... speak for yourself. Lol There are many clinically diagnosed narcissists who are very open with who they are. You just need to be willing to understand and acknowledge them. I recommend Lee Hammock, or Leon Walker! Both amazing blessings to mankind!

[@christi9711]

@@PrinzessinVonGottHier good one! And thanks for the recommendations!

[@SarLover-t5i]

Become a good and nice instead of hurting others.

[@TanveerAhmad-rg6uu]

Me too😊

[@Patricia-h4o]

YOU HAVE THAT RIGHT THEY NEED TO BE ON THEIR OWN PLANET

[@EduardoMoreno93215]

😢

[@martinfretwell]

I have a narcissistic cat.

[@counsela9240]

😅

[@laurivaltter]

xddddd

[@jackilynpyzocha662]

Meow!

[@manofvision]

Most cats are…it must be very frustrating 😂

[@joanamoreira2188]

🤣

[@Akash_S..]

I'm suffering from NPD and I do have all these signs I don't know how to come out of it But my narcissism has destroyed my life I can't handle my relationships with my family and friends and that's why I see huge problems in my life😭 Wanna come out of it

[@loguipigui9565]

Therapy and not being a jerk may help.

[@rubyreduxx]

@@loguipigui9565hypocrites everywhere man. It’s a real serious mental illness. Yes get treatment but no name calling when someone has been vulnerable enough to step forward and own up

[@jim-zx7gz]

Actually......if you can see it your not as bad as you think......most hardcore narcissist people never change or realize their problems....it's always other people

[@JohnPaul-mv6xk]

⁠​⁠@@loguipigui9565they can’t just stop. “Not being a jerk” they literally can’t help it. It’s a mental problem and their actions are subconscious.

[@brendarewan7441]

@@jim-zx7gz I agree with you.

[@ChosenOne1967]

Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV) The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.

[@annmarie-h8l]

I've been having problems with my next door neighbor and she displays many of these behaviors. I'd love to send her this but anonymously😅

[@TeachMeLordGod]

It probably would help because they are still people and valid they just need some help that's all and it's ok.

[@annmarie-h8l]

@@TeachMeLordGod thank you! We all have things we need to work on❤

[@dawnlleharrell-mccarver4938]

My narcissist husband I’m divorcing ! And I can’t wait until it’s finalized!!!!

[@Beck-Stein]

I realize after watching this video that no one is more important than me. 🎉

[@chrisantoniou4366]

I agree with the eight traits of people with NPD, but I disagree about the cause being the hiding of loneliness, lack of self-confidence, or a lack of worth - these concepts are utterly alien to the narcissist. The only way to prevent yourself being hurt or damaged by a narcissist is to get away and STAY away!

[@VenerableBede2510]

You’re right. They aren’t “victims” of (loneliness, lack of self worth etc) that are overreacting. They love to play victim and this just plays into their hand.

[@chrisantoniou4366]

@@VenerableBede2510 The "interesting" thing about narcissists is that they only play the victim when they have failed in something and need to blame someone else...

[@annaluizacesar6106]

@@chrisantoniou4366 100 %!! I know a completly narcisit person and his wife has traces of it, definitely!! You know those people who post on social media, like they are the best family in the entire world? lol it's even a little ridiculus!!

[@MissPedaler]

They absolutely do lack real self confidence, self worth and they are very lonely. I know it's difficult to understand because they are so horrible. They would be the last ones to admit that they lack confidence and self worth, but it's a mask they put on to hide what's really inside them, not just from others but from themselves as well. It starts in childhood, like they said either a child is constantly ignored or praised excessively. Either has a chance of creating a narcissist, because the child doesn't learn healthy self worth and they get a very distorted perception of the world.

[@chrisantoniou4366]

@@annaluizacesar6106 Narcissists praise their family to others, but criticise and put them down to their faces. This seemingly paradoxical behaviour is designed to "puff themselves up" by making themselves look like a good parent to others, and to make sure family knows who the "alpha male" is.

[@francis_duarte]

I do feel like i have some traits of narcisist personality but others i do will respond on this commment acordingly with the 8 traits Trait 1 - I don't need to be the center of atention neither i do feel more important than others i'm quite oposite i tend to listen to people with more experience than me and see their prespective and what i can learn with them , also as a introverted person i don't like to be center of atention at all Trait 2 - Others opinons about me do affect how i feel about myself and self esteem and i also need Validation from others alot of the times just to feel good about myself, Altough i'm not envious of other people achievements etc but i do feel envious/upset when someone treats me with condescending tone and for other people they talk normally. Trait 3 - I do feel a bit of entiltment but not in the way i think this is explaning i don't want to be the center of the attention altough i feel like i need to have entiltelment to having people have some respect and not be disrespectfully to me, but i don't feel like i need to be treated better than other people i just want mutal respect. but feeling important certinly is a great feeling but i don't try to be number one and neglect the rest Trait 4 - I feel like i do find intelligent people more interesting and i do like to learn from them maybe for my own gains , but i feel like if a person overally have intersting things to say or funny that also caughts my attention and i listen to them Trait 5 - I do tend to achieve my goals as much as i can on my own but recently i need help to find a car that i have all the money to pay for it and i see myself messaging family members i do have a ok relationship with but i feel like i'm not close to them because their response is very dodgy when i ask them for this type of help and i end up feeling bad about myself because i feel like i didn't gave them enough value for them to help me or maybe. Trait 6 - I care about others but not to a point i need to be constantly helping them, i don't wish any bad things to happen to other people but also i'm not the kind of person that is overly altruistic and is allways there Trait 7 - When i know i messed up i do say i was wrong but there are times where the other person is just wanting to be right and mock me about being right for their own ego i don't apologize on those cases and avoid that type of person soo as long as the person is colaborative and non toxic i don't have trouble admiting i was wrong Trait 8 - I do focus on myself alot i have this quote i made until my cup is full i can care about filling others cup, i have a goal to achieve my natural pottential physique, to make alot of money without working more than 3 hours a day soo i can have a confortable life without stress and make my mom happy and retire her Conclusion: I do feel like overally theres few people i care about, and i'm most of times not interested in other people especially if after i met them they ask me for favours, and also i'm soo focused in my own achievments that if i get like a favour that takes me out of my routine it makes me feel upset but if takes like few minutes and the person asks politely and appreciates my help i don't mind I actually feel happy because the person asked me for help with respect instead of asking for help to me like i'm a souless robot or keeps askings for favours without saying please or thank you, if i don't feel aknowledged i feel upset , I'm probably not narcisistic but i do focus on myself goals and aspirations alot

[@westernization]

Wow, those traits are also in me

[@francis_duarte]

​@@westernization It's great to know that we share similar traits, thanks for the comment

[@brendarewan7441]

Remember that there are different types and that all traits do not fit ALL narcs. Have a great day! 🌺

[@wudgee]

I fail to see them as poor lonely souls, they’re just terrible selfish people.

[@nomadictow3011]

I have a few of these traits, i put myself first because i feel like nobody else willl take care of my needs, i have a lack of empathy, mostly because i care more about the truth or whats right compared to others feelings, i also selectively care about others if i feel they are deserving of it, a lot of people out here making bad decisions.

[@xophaser]

lots of these traits in some profession, like business/ sales. pain to work with too. A kiss asser when you don't work with them, then they dont listen. One guy even called himself a pm when he was an entry-level. Had ADHD and a slow learner compared to others, lack of due diligence and understanding. He brown-nosed the boss and clients. Yes we tried to help him, but he just wont acept accountabilities and change. A client even took him off a job. The office eventually took responsibilities away from him, since he would go rogue and make decision without consultants other senior members, plus lack of knowledge, carelessness. He was layoff when thing got slow. if he stayed in his entry level position and not try to undermind the real PMs, he could learn. But a guy with a few years experiences knows more than a 30 yr PM. Unbelievable behavior.

[@NoorRaja-j4p]

I’m playing this on loud whilst my narcissistic family member stands outside and can very clearly hear this video. Hope this helps them 🤣☺️

[@JunaidTshop]

i have an exam and this video help me alot

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

[@donnacrozier2003]

So very sorry for your feelings being hijacked by this person! Stay strong, try reading Quora!

[@Scorpionkingof]

Got relieved after listening 2-7.

[@PoisonelleMisty4311]

There are many different reasons why people may behave this way. One possible reason is that they themselves are insecure or insecure and try to control or manipulate others to feel powerful or better about themselves. They may not have the ability to empathize with others' feelings or respect their boundaries. Another possible reason is that they have a lack of understanding of the concept of consent and don't really understand the importance of respecting other people's choices and boundaries. They may think it's okay to force someone to do something they want, without understanding the consequences or the harm they can cause. It is important to set boundaries and not allow yourself to be manipulated by such people. It is also important to communicate clearly and respectfully to try to explain to them why their behavior is not acceptable. Sometimes it may be necessary to take additional steps, such as talking to a supervisor or other authority figure for help in dealing with the situation.

[@bobbarker1798]

Narcissist are willfully ignorant of your right to consent and your boundaries are a joke to them. I don't care what excuses they give for their evil behavior, just stay away from me, that's all I care about.

[@WANDAH0II]

NPD is cause by environmental factors like adverse childhood experiences. personality disorders in general are.

[@Vincent-mindeye]

Freudian psychology would say that we are all a bit of a narcissist.

[@martharoark4059]

And we are.

[@Alphacentauri819]

Narcissism as a trait is on a spectrum... NPD, narcissistic personality disorder is a disorder, which is wholly different. NPD pervasively affects all aspects of the person's life and they struggle with interpersonal relating...due to inability to perspective take and low emotional intelligence. People are like avatars, a means to an end for those with NPD. Those who don't have NPD want reciprocal relationships and can be honest and vulnerable. Those with NPD can't.

[@CaptainMorganJnr]

You're right.

[@bobbarker1798]

Narcissist want to harm you, even kill you. I have exactly zero of that quality. So no.

[@Vincent-mindeye]

@@bobbarker1798 Freud wrote a paper called the narcissism of minor differences. It talked about how we are all a bit narcissistic. The very fact that you deny any involvement only proves what a narcissist you really are

[@BradleyMHM]

They literally described every single human being that’s ever lived and will ever live.

[@Angelarose47]

No not hardly

[@blkrxse5172]

They absolutely did not.

[@baph0met]

They did but it's the degree, everyone is like this to an extent, people with NPD take it to the extreme tho.

[@vrindahymavathy6291]

No they didn’t. Not every one is like that.

[@ChRiStY4t5]

​@baph0met not even close. However there are many many many more of them than we possibly could ever know. Some people have narc tendencies but that doesn't mean they npd

[@Horizon25]

May the empaths achieve their goals

[@bootatoboo]

this is so true that i hate to admit it

[@5kbbyy]

Same 😅

[@lindadiaz3268]

It's a mental disorder, I could never understand my own mother when I was growing up, but to find one of my sons is mentally ill was, here we go again, I'm safe as long as my youngest son is around yet fear is never far enough 😵‍💫😳

[@TeachMeLordGod]

Bless your heart. I hope all is well and everyone is getting the support they need.

[@Augur_RAzul]

In the middle of dealing with someone I loved very much who may have NPD. All the boxes check off and it's incredibly jarring to me. I think leaving them to their own condition is the key and it hurts to say but, may be the only solution. 22 years to this. 😢 I can't subject myself to the verbal abuse and self-victimization mixed with the utter lack of empathy.

[@mystage11]

Roommate puts her needs and wants above me . I get out of the house for my needs Maybe five days out of a whole month . Never thinking that I might want out 😢

[@eprofengr6670]

Good observations. Do these types of personalities focus their control especially on those who are authentic or who may disagree with their views?

[@offrdk5]

You worship my God and only my God and make sure you put money in the till so we can buy fancy cars and houses!!!

[@77sunflowers]

They are especially drawn to kind, caring and compassionate people... with the aim to hurt and destroy them....because they dispise their innocent loving heart....

[@g-techtips1684]

They stay away from the ones that dont share their views

[@bobbarker1798]

Great comments here. 100% correct on all 😀

[@TeachMeLordGod]

​@@77sunflowers 💔 sounds and feels so hopeless. It's like a death sentence to be like this! 😢

[@CottonMyCandy]

I really don't want to be a narcissist, people call me a narcissist, I really don't want to be😭 and I don't relate to every thing on this list and my doctor told me that I am not but the rumors still spread that I am😣

[@Silencer796]

You probably aren’t and people love to point others flaws out when they themselves think they are flawless

[@juliegeorge6227]

Examine your thoughts and actions, narcissit have bad fruits such as hatred,lack of Joy,lack of peace, impatience, unkindness, harshness, lack of self control, evilness and unfaithfulness. You are supposed to have good fruits such as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, self control, goodness and faithfulness. Bible Verses: Mathew 7:15-20 Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.Therefore by their fruits you will know them. Galatians 5: 22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering,kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.

[@MindBodyStephen]

This is so spot-on it’s scary.

[@BONIFACETHOMAS-c2z]

Dr Pius Ozigbe is Always on time. compassionate. Empathetic. easy to take to and relates exceptionally well. Hands down the most effective and efficient doctor I recommend him. thank you doctor..

[@xlr8_bs514]

Okay so basically I'm a narcissistic who's actually empathetic, kind and cares about others? Or is there another disorder that pertains to my specific symptoms?

[@OogaBooga833]

That would be borderline personality disorder because some people live with that mental illness do experience narcissism but also have an increased amount of empathy

[@xlr8_bs514]

@@OogaBooga833 I wouldn't say that it's a personality disorder tbh. To clarify, I'm a kind and empathetic person (not a dark empath) but I'm also sorta narcissistic in the way that I do think that I'm better than the majority (because praises are all that I heard throughout childhood), although I do acknowledge that I have my own flaws as well. I'm not the bad type of narcissist who looks down upon others but the type that has weirdly high self-confidence. It's such an interesting topic lol, I wonder if there's any particular space dedicated to such discussion.

[@juliegeorge6227]

Don't worry! Follow Christ to become Social. He is the standard.

[@xlr8_bs514]

@@juliegeorge6227 You should do that if it helps you. I have found my peace and solace in Bhagwan Shree Krishna. He is the almighty. If you seek to Jesus as your way to reach the almighty Shree Hari Narayan, then that's completely fine as well.

[@swedishzeldafan6121]

bruh, u mentioned impostor syndrome, and i have a massive impostor synrdome. Now, that's the only trait I truly feel with within this vid, I sure hope I'm not a narcissist....

[@brendarewan7441]

why do you exhibit this behavior? Write down the list and study each one.

[@deborahpollock7865]

I’m quite sure you have no reason to question if you have NPD. In fact, if you look up imposter syndrome, you will Find many root causes and information. That trait may fall under the umbrella of NPD, but NPD does not fall under the category of imposter syndrome. Hopefully, that makes sense. Pretty sure you have nothing to worry about there.

[@timefactortheoryofgravitya7578]

Has anyone else received a reply from someone who claims to be the KZbin channel owner that seems unusual because an icon is shown as a placeholder only and not an Icon ? (my VPN and internet safety program blocks malicious things, even if it is an Icon with a malicious link) . It then instructs me to install Telegram and the only way to use it on a PC is to give away your phone number or use a QR code on you cell phone. Since most of these sites have no links to Telegram on your KZbin and there wasn't even one thumbs up on my comment, is this phishing?

[@enjoynature5261]

The music is too loud on here

[@brendarewan7441]

Agree. Music was not necessary. I’m not a fan of music playing when people are talking. It distracts from the words.

[@YuzuLovesDoodoo]

i think this is my brother.. breaks my heart.

[@ginaiosef]

They should! But they can't, is against everything they are. They feed from those around. Is their addiction.

[@jewlzn7130]

How do you heal from this? My mom is a narcissist and I feel like I inherited this from her

[@drbabarminhas]

Seek cousinling from the Holy Quran.

[@sanchariparia3938]

You have acknowledged it that's great. Please seek professional help... Go to a psychologist. You will be absolutely find...

[@jewlzn7130]

@@sanchariparia3938 thank you

[@misfitmom83]

Taking personal care inventory is the first step and you did it …

[@lillianpeth6453]

I work in mental health. True Narcissists don't ever wonder/concern themselves over the idea that they might be a Narcissist, they usually only recognize it after severe consequences in life. What you're probably dealing with is BPD (borderline personality disorder) with Narcissistic tendencies due to growing up with a Narcissistic parent and you gaslight yourself in trauma bond after trauma bond until you're questioning yourself constantly. I would seek counceling no matter what

[@stephenpowstinger733]

I don’t think the average person can diagnose personality disorders, just have a feeling that such is the case.

[@bobbarker1798]

You'll know. Just take note of how you feel when you've been around someone. If you feel bad, especially about yourself, they're a narcissist.

[@stephenpowstinger733]

Yeah. I was just thinking about what a pain a friend of mine has turned out to be. Nothing but grief and betrayal.

[@Horizon25]

This is true of course, it is educational

[@LUNACIE]

Comments did not pass the vibe check. The lack of compassion and understanding for a literal disorder someone doesn't choose to have and struggles with is disgusting. I came to this video because I'm concerned a love one has this. I would never say these things y'all are saying in the comments about another human being.

[@WANDAH0II]

THIS!!!!! NPD is a personality disorder so it's mostly caused by environmental factors. a person with NPD struggles a lot, they want to show the world that they are worth of love, but the way they do it is distorted. it's a way of coping with trauma, it's a response to it. obviously, it's not healthy, but it's not like they're satan incarnated.

[@rosemariebarrientos]

A mother-in-law with NPD is a mighty enemy and a frightening one. The offspring's partner will pay the consequences, but the most damaged one in this configuration is the very own son/daughter of the narcissist. If you love someone who has to deal with such mother, be kind and loving. Their nightmare is already bad enough.

[@jackilynpyzocha662]

According to my narc dad, it's all about him, his family(not all are like him), his convenience,his needs, wants, feelings. He barely acknowledges my existence, or hurts me when he does, he says mean things, deliberately, the sadist! I am no-contact with him for my own well-being. His flying monkey/enabler/excuser girlfriend makes excuses for him. There is not reason or excuse for his behavior. Or hers. He is much worse. I don't trust either one of them.!

[@Astral_Dusk]

I notice they're the only ones who get absolutely pissed off if you start talking about this concept, guilty and they know it!

[@lbrownbrown415]

I have a child by 1 and now he's taking me to court for custody out the blue havnt been in contact since last October 😑

[@ThomasSummerford]

What is something natural you can give a narssist

[@IssacGarcia-ct1jk]

I got a problem can someone let me know what me and my girlfriend of 4+ years are we both are narcissistic in some way and bipolar but care for people before ourselves nothing to gain just love helping people before ourselves...

[@chocolatecookie8571]

Nowadays educational video’s are heavily disrupted by BGM.

[@davidalanbinder4238]

I highly recommend the book MIND GAMES The Dual Facets of Manipulation and Dark Psychology

[@vortexfx420]

Love this video!

[@joejarecki-bf8nv]

If your married to a narsacist and you know it clap your hands I your married to a narsacist clap your hands exspecially 35 years o marriage if you didnt clap your hands you surely don’t understand if your married to a narsacist clap you hands……….

[@kingmayasingh]

Suffering from this disorder from past 10 years 😞

[@laurivaltter]

like, can't you actually control it? i just left a girl that had like 5 boyfriends and she said she cant control herself

[@TeachMeLordGod]

​@@laurivaltter she's endangering herself too. Glad you got out... I hate this happens, it's not good for anyone. This seems to be a lose lose situation.

[@juliegeorge6227]

​@@laurivaltterIt involves spiritual issues, hard to resist those urges to hurt people. Needs divine intervention to be set free from those urges. I have been through it. Christ healed me and is protecting me. Narcissist during narcissitic abuse, pass on destructive spirits and most of the times, demons enter and had to be cast out in the name of Jesus Christ. Ex: Sprit of confusion, spirit of rejection The problem is spiritual. Even if someone doesn't have the will to hurt someone they are supposed get delivered from demons/bad spirits to be set free from those urges. Most of them don't know why they do what they do.

[@Butterflybikergirl]

They court those kind because they believe others should pay their way. Those people have money and they want them to believe he has money as well when in reality they dont.

[@ukebr5062]

I had to do my research to find a word and cause for why my girlfriend acts the way she acts almost 8 years in the relationship we don’t live together 2 of her kids don’t know I exist as their mothers bf I ask for a chance and I said it would be better for us financially and emotionally she keeps on promising it will happen but never happens until just the other day she told me her and her kids mental health is a priority she’s very selfish her decisions are always better no matter what the consequences she doesn’t care what I thing she manipulates the situations making me believe there will be changes however we still at the same spot in out relationship

[@Idontdothesleep]

growing up with Family that are narcissists can cause slot of mental issues like anxiety depression schizotypal ECT

[@heatherpesterfield8121]

I think they will Never settle down as they cannot feel Emotions , they cannot feel anything when they upset there partners It’s like being with a demon and they will carry on like nothing ever their fault and they want everyone to feel Sorry for them They rarely blame themselfs and they want everything there own way They flirt but if you say anything , your the lier and jealous You are just being used by these people Plus when they really upset their partners they will be happy and laughing like nothing happened So best of you find one just keep on walking

[@user-ex2bo6ub4g]

I don’t think I am a narcissist, but I don’t know how to empathize emotionally. Like I have imposter syndrome with emotions because I do not know how to respond. My father IS a narcissist.

[@ukchris64]

Does the fact you were raised as an only child and now live alone have anything to do with NPD, I am diagnosed with BPD yet I can see I have certain horrible traits, yet these sorts videos's tell me I am not supoosed to be aware of this.

[@MarissaArias-j8q]

I have a narcissistic mom and she controls everything she can about me

[@JD-kf2ki]

I kinda checked all traits. So am I acquired the NPD?

[@vortexfx420]

most brainwashed people are NPD or NPCs lol

[@counsela9240]

lol

[@rmcneil1340]

Talk your counselor or psychologist. Good fortune in your healing.

[@brendarewan7441]

😂😂😂. What do you think? Your answer will add substantiation to the proof you already have.

[@VanmeterFL]

There's a certain man who exhibits all these traits. He has a swish of orange hair on top of his head and is possibly facing wearing a jumpsuit to match. I think we all exhibit some of these traits at times but our empathy and love for others corrects our behavior and we apologize for our mistakes. I've never heard a narcissist apologize for anything they've done and it's always someone else's fault. Again, who does that sound like? Maybe those who want to be friends with a terminal narcissist are narcissistic themselves and looking to hob knob with the billionaires to improve their self-worth.

[@Workingclasswarrior]

Absolutely he is the most obvious narcissist in human history

[@dallasball6624]

Is a person who goes by “the Big Guy” and launders money and enriches him and his drug addicted offspring at the expense of the country a narcissist or just run of mill criminal?

[@bobbarker1798]

Best comment ever!!!

[@Survivin2Thrivin]

Does anyone know the data on NPDs that offed themselves? I ask because it was mentioned near the end of this video but it seems I vaguely recall elsewhere some mental health professional had expressed their differing opinion.

[@weedluvrr3361]

try looking into various articles about this question, im sure theres a lot of information out there

[@ralimba1778]

Hold every person with npd accountable.

[@Joe-hf3cn]

Seems paradoxical persons with NPD could suffer from depression & suicidal thoughts

[@ay-tj7pj]

People became narcissists because of society. Society don't care about them, in turn they care about themselves. It's all society's fault.

[@Poppy-yx8js]

I don’t have any of these traits. None. It sounds like the people harassing me online though.

[@AA-cb7dz]

Male empaths should be wary of female narcissists as they use their bodies as bargaining chips.

[@GarredHATES]

Reminds me of somebody who is Mentally Untouchable

[@gintoki_ar]

Dang im sll of them except I don't actually use others but still i always want to be alone but can't.

[@nooname9176]

A fiend is not your friend.

[@BigD751]

Thank you for the video. I'm excited to learn and incorporate more of these traits into my life.

[@catlove111]

My daughter who's fifteen is showing signs of this

[@iamangela171]

You summed this up to thr T❤❤❤❤❤

[@kingofkrunck]

Don’t understand how a personality trait is deemed as a disorder

[@WANDAH0II]

it's a personality disorder.

[@parsbontatis4010]

how do psychologists differentiate between the above and subjective idealism?

[@bobbarker1798]

Explain that for us, would ya? 😀

[@caresharewellness]

If you’re seeking love and you get love bombed to the point of blindness one may not see the narcissist they wear many masks!

[@yolandagrabowski6043]

You described my neighbor.

[@rob1921]

people that dont get there on way always pull out the narc card.. its so easy for someone to call someone a natc these days rather thsn look at there own faults.. narc is a throw away term now

[@schemagroup1]

If you have suffered physical or domestic abuse during your childhood your likely to have these traits.

[@steviep9780]

While I appreciate the sentiment, that is a sweeping brush and the research simply doesn't back that up. There are narcissists and people with NPD who didn't experience childhood physical abuse or witness their caretaker being abused. Many factors including temperament are thought to contribute to the formation of narcissism and its pathological, diagnosable form, NPD. It's generally agreed upon however that the genesis of the disorder is in childhood maladaption to stressors, so in that you're bang on.

[@bobbarker1798]

Or you could decide a different path, to be better than those who harmed you. Treat others how you would like to be treated, with empathy, respect, equity and civility.

[@WANDAH0II]

​@@bobbarker1798NPD can be a response to trauma, it's an unhealthy coping mechanism. stop talking about things you don't know

[@RaceAgnstTme]

This is my ex wife through and through and to this day is still the same way. With all my research and getting to know what a narcissist is I’ve come up with these things as well. 1. They live on auto pilot. 2. They want everything done for them or have a supply to do it for them. 3. They hide like cockroaches to not be found out their true nature. 4. They do not possess the ability to love or have empathy. They simulate it with love bombing and empathize when they believe they are losing their supply short of the discard phase. They are autonomous machines or alien if you will to destroy a person from within. But we know they are not machines but in my Christian experience, demonic. Furthermore they are like vampires. They cannot stand to see their own reflection. So if you date someone just put the definition of a narcissist in front of them and asked them to read it. If they flee they’re a narcissist. It’s 100% full proof. You’ll save years if not future dates a lot faster.

[@oliviahoward-v4e]

this is literally my dad

[@TreyCary1]

Who here since their dad sent them this?

[@tega124]

How can one change this behavior

[@juliegeorge6227]

Follow Christ. He is the standard of being social no matter what.

[@johnnyturner5689]

I don't agree with that first explanation for the simple fact those are the attributes of a real king or real queen when they step in the room watch what y'all believe out there a lot of those other traits that are bad but I would want my child to be confident I would want my child to love their selves look at what I'm saying probably ain't never heard of it this way if you teach your child those two things that brings confidence

[@GladyGlimpse]

Going through for 30 years 😅

[@fayadkhairallah2760]

When someone introduced me to someone and I was answered: my pleasure. Is this person a narcissistic 😮

[@nazilakhademi3754]

Well said

[@mightyobserver12]

There is NPD treatment differently to peoplw

[@hannafarje6244]

What do i do when someone is turing to ruin my life or my loved ones. I have someone close to me. he speaks bad about my boyfriend and try to make people feel bad about themself. Do you guys think that someone that is harming me whitout thinking about humans rights is this ?