Signs You're Dating A Narcissist

[@MedCircle]

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[@sherylackerman6451]

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[@Mr.Nobody_007]

MedCircle pls do video on Dyslexia pls .

[@eajosephedward]

Another very important sign you haven't mentioned..... they are big time boundary crashers.. they don't have any respect for boundaries whatsoever!!!

[@katiethirlwall2556]

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[@abcertweld]

MedCircle Do you notice how these two professionals automatically imply that a narcissist is a Man? There are many Women that are narcissist. Just thought I'd point that out.

[@oliviasabrina6238]

When she said "if you start feeling the need to voice record your conversations with them, maybe its time for you to go" , i felt thattttttt😭😭

[@clarasiewwl]

Yes same!!

[@jayneatkinson1464]

I wish i had watched these before i got involved with my narcissist. I did'nt know what a narc was until i was 18 months in then, i just thought he was a moody get coz of his kids which he had a lot to 6 ex's.. The insults had started months before when he was drunk or on drugs, ringing me through the night if i answered the phone i was up cheating if i did'nt i was asleep with next man, i was drained timed at the shop, phone had to be on show. My mum passed away he was no where to be found, then he changed when he new my inheritance was due. He asked for money before her funeral i was vunerable he knew it, used it. He wanted more & more saying his daughter needed help his friend needed help, then he lost his bank card alsorts of stories long short he had given me a fake name tried to bite me in a row pushed me off a chair, when i punched him i was the bitch, , i started to dig for who he was without his knowledge every thing was about him & his family i was kept a secret i was the supply. He would come round start a row so he could go the list was endless. he met 1 of my sons & threatened me with his. Anyway in the end i videoed him kicking off over a knock on my door it was my "shag" coz i'm a slut slag, skank, it was my lesbian neighbour. he was off his head on drugs told him to get out keep the money he owed me, he kept control coz he thought i was gone once he paid me back, my son had to get him out. The next day a woman turned up saying she his girlfriend, where was he. Turned out he was with her the day my mum died she had help him spend the money he had off me i lost count at £1,000 it was 3,000 but i was lucky he had broke her arms weeks earlier they were a mess he was a woman beater for years after charming them to part with money, and lied his way through life. The info i had was now destroying his life.

[@Helpme_rhonda]

I just did this two weeks ago. The jerk went into my phone as he normally does , found it and deleted it bc he couldn't stand what he said without owning up

[@oliviasabrina6238]

@@jayneatkinson1464 omg i'm so sorry to hear all the things that you've been through☹ he's such a jerk and he doesn't deserve you at all. You're beautiful inside and out, and i really hope that you're at a better stage of your life because you deserve every bit of happiness in this world❤

[@elevatehope9192]

Damn! excuse my language but I have been recording conversation s for a year now with children's father. Been time to go.

[@chuckdrake2592]

The best apology you'll ever get from a narcissist is the silent treatment,until they decide to talk to you again and the original matter that's hurt you isn't even mentioned....

[@sundaywhite6082]

😬🤦🏽‍♀️😢

[@jackiebrown8356]

I get my narc to say sorry, however it takes cold hard evidence to prove him wrong. Now when the insults start, I immediately tell him he's being mean. So it seems that treating him like a child has made him tolerable. And I find NPD interesting to observe.

[@sundaywhite6082]

@@jackiebrown8356 you still with him😳😬

[@plumbus8315]

THIS

[@Maryanne573]

🥺

[@kevinseraphimday6373]

And they NEVER apologise...EVER.

[@tiffanyellis9650]

I believe this! Seen it!

[@nigelmurphy6761]

Not suprising when you considered the fact that they have no sense of of empathy due to their extremely low self esteem.

[@graceunderfire941]

My Narc has abandoned our beautiful good sons for the last 25yrs.. emotionally & financially. If you were to speak to him im sure he would say he was the victim. Thats the part I cant cope with, apart from the havoc that went on between him & I. Theyve had no extended family either ..or stepdad..so hard.

[@risky1]

My ex had me so beat down that I would apologize for everything. I would say "I'm sorry honey....but I have to go to the store so I can get something to cook for you" After a while, I saw the pattern and how she was in control of the relationship. Then when she would scream ...."WHAT DID I JUST SAY !!!" I would respond, "I DON"T GIVE A CRAP WHAT YOU JUST SAID NOR ANY OTHER THING YOU SAID"!!!! She started to see that she had filled me up with her baloney and I had enough. Her Sister was the one that told me she was cheating on me. She was pretending to go on business trips and actually "hooking" for extra money. And she had a boyfriend in Spain where she would conveniently take an occasional 1 week vacation every so often. What a "B" !!!

[@mrslioness36gameplay45]

I'm in the middle of a divorce with mine and it is definitely messy he is not happy.....he kept me down for 3 years he......not only is he narcissistic but violent and for a long time I thought it was my fault because he would say I was being punished for non compliance......this may sound silly but I always thought that a certain amount of compliance was normal but he took it way to far so now I'm scared to get involved with someone else out of fear I just started treatment with a consoler the bright side is I'm on the road to a better life

[@fromthedepths_podcast]

Speaking as someone who kept trying to make it work for 14 years. Get out as SOON as you can. Just trust yourself! You KNOW deep down what is going on, don’t push that voice away. You CAN get out. This relationship does NOT define you. There is hope, there is light. You ARE LOVED.

[@ljrockstar69]

I was out in 2 months until i figured things out, saw fhe red flags, hoping that he will change, i feel like a fool and trying to put my life back together.

[@amandanicole4176]

Needed this

[@JinxMarie1985]

That's like my mom. But she won't leave. She's afraid. I'm not afraid of him but he's also a psychopath.

[@ilsellamas]

Crazy because even they know how to use that little voice in your head and even turn that against you..that’s when you know your deep in man

[@jonesharris7407]

Damn

[@AprilPettiford81]

Narcissist people ALWAYS appear to be sweet to other people. But behind closed doors they are monsters! Every time they hurt you and you let them know, they make you feel like it's your fault and that you deserved it. Or they will try and make you feel like you deserved it. They never genuinely apologize for anything! They are repeat offenders. They feel entitled. They don't respect boundaries. They escape responsibilities. They are very dangerous people to be around.

[@mitchaelcybil5530]

Most those who r saved ...l have a life testimony

[@szz4058]

Kick them

[@xTheRiot]

Exactly!!!!

[@bluelily3514]

Especially when they are your parents.

[@mr.cubarinogaming8953]

That's why we are narcos

[@shogeelicious2221]

They’re controlling, they’re cheap, evil, jealous, so much hatred inside their heart but they always idolize themselves like they’re the best..they’re like a vampire that sucks all your energy

[@tomjackson7400]

OMG I agree with you 🙌🙌

[@sdesousa7]

Yupp. I live with one everyday of my life. Im exhausted.

[@williathenarcisse2117]

@shogee licious u explain perfect ,in will make u feel worst thing in earth in men I was dating at time sis for fucking used me,we had agreement and promised so much helpe I was deal a lot at time help watch her fucking kids while she chased a marry men in her baby daddy try fuck me told someone family in from there hell ,but nobody in your family no one can help u babysit had nerve kick me out the house..., Total toxic family in her brother try tell me oh my so really wanted help u ,never got apology nothin on top try put her hands on me,,,,that gave me wake up call stop try take every issues into my hands....people ask all times y I dont have kids have find the right men ...in don't mind adopted

[@paigeherrin29]

To a tee

[@celestetheariesdorsey952]

There nothing but low life's nothing good but evil

[@joeylozano4215]

My God, when she said we give 90% of effort to bad relationships and 10% to healthy ones... I realized.

[@kaiserfitzwanga653]

I know right! I just realized I had a female friend who was a close friend of mine then. She totally fits being NP. After I realized it was always about her, I decided enough is enough, friendship has outlived its time, time to walk away. Since then, even in my circle of girlfriends, I invest my time with those I'm growing in as a person. It's a two way street, uplifting one another and being there for each other is two way

[@bronsonstuartcharles5612]

@@kaiserfitzwanga653 BS

[@LarsRyeJeppesen]

@@kaiserfitzwanga653 You sound pretty narcissistic tbh /s

[@chrisy9461]

Agreed

[@giamaria5105]

@@bronsonstuartcharles5612 agree bs

[@Alassandros]

Here's the traits she lists in the video: 1. A person who lacks empathy 2. A person who's really entitled, meaning they expect special treatment to be given to them, but nobody else 3. They're very grandiose; They harbor huge fantasies. They only want to affiliate with people they think are as cool or as interesting as they are. 4. They're very superficial; They're very concerned about their appearance and the appearance of people around them. 5. They don't regulate their emotions very well; They're prone to throwing tantrums and are quick to anger, especially if they don't get their way. 6. They can be really hypersensitive to criticism; They can doll it out but absolutely can't take it. 7. They tend to be jealous 8. The engage in gaslighting 9. They don't tend to be very loyal 10. They tend to get pleasure out of the misery of other people 11. They tend to feel empty inside

[@illrawwtharuler2553]

#5 is me 100% and I hate that I'm like that.

[@TheJoyofCooking24]

I have 5 and 6, but I don't consider myself narcissist. I have self control. I can count times that I lost my cool. I am sensitive to criticism because I was raised by a very critical mom. I try hard to not be critical towards people around me because I know how it feels to be criticized. Once I noticed someone who can make me loose my cool or who is critical I avoid them. Some people feel rejected by me because once I notice that someone is more likely to give criticism I don't associate with them.

[@erikgfire]

J

[@nishishabima]

My mum 100%💀

[@codybell6882]

My ex that I'm leaving right now has every single one. This is sickening

[@alcidesfy]

And if they ever apologise, they will throw in a backhanded comment like “but I really don’t see what I did wrong”.

[@CherryBlossom419]

alcidesfy yes!! This is so adament in my "relationship " right now. Ugh

[@jarrettmoorejr1403]

I think my ex gf might be one.

[@recreateme9827]

alcidesfy this is so true.

[@stephanieduncan9023]

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[@jazzyhernandez5110]

alcidesfy or just never apologize like ever

[@kunntakentay]

"Your heart will break on a daily basis." So very true

[@TheOfficialxReju]

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[@arpitsharma4735]

Damn true, experiencing it.

[@sr166]

They make u feel like you have memory loss

[@lewis72751]

Yessss

[@relaxitsnotthatserious7090]

Yes absolutely

[@correaplayz01nunya93]

And like you must be crazy or stupid ..but what you realize is that you don't, nor have ever, felt that way with anyone else ..

[@missj7262]

That's because being with a narc longterm and being exposed to gas-lighting prolonged has been proven to cause brain damage. We can heal though💓🙏

[@BlueMoonCircus]

That’s gaslighting

[@bikemson8813]

“Manage your expectations or your heart is going to break on a daily basis!” My God!

[@1c2h3e4u5n6g]

Leave, run and don’t look back!

[@wickednikki1987]

Their apology IF they apologize they'll say "I'm sorry you FEEL that way." They never apologize for their actions.

[@kikyaaakun]

Wicked Nikki Sometimes they do say sorry for small things to gaslight you to ignore the big issue. They just can’t take responsibility...I really don’t understand how they do it...

[@bigNo13]

Or ok,ok,ok I'm sorry can we move on!!! They are not really sorry they just want to move on so they tell you what you want to hear and then later when they do it again and you say "why did you apologized if you weren't sorry" they reply with i was sorry then not anymore or i don't remmember saying that.

[@BLUEGENE13]

even that seems a bit too generous

[@hlomphotilotsane4199]

My boyfriend ...never apologize this bustard ....very evil

[@gioovannabp]

I GOT THIS wtf

[@BHAKTIBROPHY]

The two biggest truths about narcissists: ABSOLUTE CHARMERS & TOTALLY INSECURE. Yet wreak havoc without any empathy.

[@jarcollaosagie4731]

Bhakti Brophy you're absolutely right!

[@meshaydenise]

So true

[@jessrulz11]

BHAKTI BROPHY spot on!!!!!

[@helenprice9894]

😏😏😏😏🤔🤔🤔👍🤦‍♀️🤦‍♂️

[@natashaconover2536]

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[@ariellalima7229]

"We want a partner that makes us feel good!" That statement alone is better than many books on relationships.

[@simoon1404]

Ariella Lima YES

[@Rick-zw7zv]

And self deception is often the short cut to feeling good. People who are self deceptive are often easy targets to the narcissist deception.

[@dhd-00]

Trust your gut. That knot that you always have in the pit of your stomach. The overthinking you have to do about every conversation or interaction. The thinking through how you’re going to have a conversation to get them to notice you or understand you… All of it is not normal. They will tell you that you’re overreacting or dramatic. They will tell you that you’re being overly sensitive… But you’re spot on. Give yourself time to analyze and unpack the turmoil/living hell you lived in, but don’t live in the analyzing . I continued, and still continue, to realize… Oh… So this was all part of the narcissism too… it is so deep and sick that you could spend the rest of your life analyzing and unpacking it. You have to give your thinking some boundaries. I actually had to set a timer and tell myself… OK you get an hour to think about this today and then you’re doing what is on your agenda. Oh… and… make yourself an agenda or list and DO IT …. Sometimes I had to force myself just to brush my teeth and get a shower… But you must stick to some sort of schedule. Forgive yourself for being vulnerable. I couldn’t get over the 23 years I had wasted. I couldn’t stop beating myself up for not being smarter and stronger quicker. I had to remind myself that I was the perfect match. As an only child of older parents, I was younger when they died and I had no family. His family became my family and he knew he had me. I had to remember my intentions were good and decent and God will honor what I did. I wanted to keep the family together and believe that no one could be as evil as his actions were showing me. Make safe changes. You don’t want to make big changes like changing jobs or moving across the country, although there are people that have no choice and have to do this. But make small changes like your hair color. Drive a different way to work. Wear a different style. As much as possible… spoil yourself. Do what you need to make yourself feel pretty or handsome. Order the decadent chocolate cake. Never feel ashamed. I remember that some people treated me like I was that homeless person that they felt sorry for but if they didn’t look it would all go away. I was embarrassed and ashamed. The beautiful part about it is I found out who really does care about me. You don’t have to have a lot of blood relatives to have family. You will find the people that mean the most; There will be loyal friends who you can let yourself be raw with… let it happen. Do no start looking for a relationship! I initially remember feeling as though I had to go out with people to feel desirable and flattered. I was in no way ready to be a partner to anyone until I could tell myself “You still got it girl!” and really believe it. NEVER look back or second guess yourself! It will never get better if you go back. And they will try to get you back. There’s never break up with a narcissist. As long as you allow it, they will continually try to get in touch with you and lead up to begging you to come back. It feels flattering but it is empty and meaningless. My ex-husband who ended up with a very young girl who has emotional and mental problems (I was her mentor in our church) has recently tried to ask me to give him just “one more chance” 5 days after the girl broke up with him. Every single time he did this In the past, The forgive me speech and crying was the same and his behavior was even worse with each time I went back. This is an addiction for you.. not love and addiction is hard to kick. Speaking of addiction… be careful not to pick up any others … pills, alcohol, shopping Train your thoughts. Don’t let the tail wag the dog. When you start to go down that path of negative thoughts and telling yourself life is going to be forever gloom and doom, remember that being apart from this monster is THE BEGINNING of a new life and the pain will lift. You were more alone and in danger with them than away from them. That’s it… buoy…. Ya! Take care of yourself. This healing needs all the healthy habits you can muster. When you’re feeling as though you’re having a strong moment, and you will see a pattern of times that you feel a bit stronger, pre-plan meals so that when you’re feeling really bad all you have to do is get in the refrigerator and heat something up. Put toothpaste on the brush so all you have to do is pick it up. Take melatonin to get rest. Take vitamins/supplements. NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT…. Forever… you are doing this to heal not to get a reaction out of them or try to get them to love you. Keep talking to other survivors and remember that you are just that… A SURVIVOR. There will come a day that you will be helping others. Never feel bad for them. My ex-husband‘s mask has finally come off and he can’t keep the façade up anymore. It is pathetic. My adult children know not to discuss what is going on with him with me and I don’t ask. Don’t ask!!! They will look for every opportunity to tug on your heartstrings. Don’t wallow in thinking they are happy. They are desperately unhappy. They will never be happy and will delight in any weakness they see in you, so again…. ZERO ZILCH CONTACT or GRAY ROCK flat, noncommittal tone with as few words as possible. Count your blessings I remember looking at everybody around me and thinking how happy and lucky everybody else looked. Everybody has stuff going on. Yours is just super big at the moment. So look for blessings . I thanked God for little things that weren’t so little… a job close to home, my frig worked, I didn’t catch a cold from my first grade class (again.. take care of yourself). Some days it seemed ludicrous that there was a blessing, but sometimes the blessings were the things God Prevented from happening. Keep track of your progress. Three years away from my husband, looking back at my journey, I cannot believe how far God has brought me. You will be a new, better version of you if you don’t let the tail wag the dog. Knowledge is power. Read everything you can about this but again… Set boundaries for yourself… don’t stay stuck Boundaries boundaries boundaries I started to realize that I didn’t have boundaries set for myself at all. It was easy for people to tell me the way it was going to be and just assume that it would just be that way without me standing up for myself. Find confidence in putting your needs and emotional health first. You are not being selfish. Additionally, If you suspect cheating or other forms of manipulation and need to gather evidence for your own peace of mind, you may consider reaching out for assistance. For more information, you can contact: MetaspyHub@gmail. com.

[@Taylorlynnhansen]

I’m literally shocked! She brought up the voice recording thing!!!! I’ve been doing this for years with the same man because I feel like I need to have it recorded to make sure I’m not losing my mind! My jaw is on the ground. I thought I was a total freak for doing that! UPDATE: I made my original comment a little over a month ago, and we’ve been broken up and have had no contact since that day. It took me years to finally let go of trying to work things out with him. This last DISCARD was the final DISCARD!

[@juanantoniosuarez3532]

I was sitting here with my mouth open too! I started writing things down first. Then when I would pull out what she said with the day and time she would start a fight saying she can't believe I'm that awful to write it down. So I started video recording with my cell phone and then all hell would break lose when I presented that proof.

[@Taylorlynnhansen]

Juan Antonio Suarez yep! And sometimes I would get caught recording and he would FLIP! I mean yeah... audio recording a fight is freakin weird but NECESSARY when dealing with a narcissist!

[@juanantoniosuarez3532]

The night before I moved out I was going out to the store for last minute items and she said out of nowhere, "Why don't you just leave? You don't seem happy. Why not move out?" I was biting my tongue because she had no idea that I had a new living room and bedroom set being delivered the very next day, TV and surround sound waiting for pick up at Best Buy, a Public Storage unit packed with brand new items all for the apartment I was moving into the very next morning! That week she was texting me about how I broke her heart and she hasn't stopped crying all week since I left. When I mentioned her asking me the night before why don't I just leave, she said, "I never said that. You're thinking of someone else." I couldn't effing believe it! She hit me one last time with that crap!

[@patriciamccaskill6472]

The narc I was in a relationship with was floored when I said enough! I know he thought he was so cunning. Yet get this, I told him to leave and he allowed a tear to roll down his cheek and said "I don't want to leave." I looked at him and thought "Maybe one day I'll look back on that tear and feel bad." but right then I didn't (and never did!) and I told him "time to go." He demanded I help him find an apartment "as you know how emotional I get!"...WHAT? He had me crazy for two years and I was supposed to hold his hand and help him find a new place to live? (later he called and threatened to blow up my car!!) Later still wrote me a letter offering his support and financial aid!! (starting the love-bombing all over again? Never knew I ignored his offer)

[@DREAMQ100]

Taylor Lynn Hansen my sister and I record our narc brother for safety reasons,Please all be safe and stay strong, you too dear, you always have power and choice. I don't have a choice unless I get married cuz he my guardian...

[@yaras8638]

"We need a partner that makes us feel good" game changer, thank you so much

[@bereal6590]

Yes, I left partner and now realise all n.fam makes me feel cr*p. A gilded cage is still a cage! I now have been left with zero people in my life who allow me to feel good about myself. Brought up this way.... no gift, no nothing can make up for this, certain things are deal breakers and feeling crap about yourself due to others insensitivity and lack of empathy and interest is mine 🙏🙏

[@yaras8638]

@@bereal6590 hope you can find somebody to talk to to release the pain and help you find your own peace

[@CineGui]

Yeah, i dont completely agree on that one. And that thought could be dangerous...

[@mrugaldongre33]

Ikr

[@treyichabod5840]

I have been trying to get some of my friends to understand that. But no success so far.

[@pauladsilva9374]

Narcissists pick on vulnerable people and vulnerabilities...they are not around to support and show you love....they are there to nail your coffin shut.

[@stephm411]

Yes, I've been doing a lot of research on Narcissism and they tend to target people with co-dependency issues. They feed on other's misery because it makes them feel better about themselves. They project unto others all the vile things they feel about themselves and in doing so, they destroy that person's emotional well-being. They are very toxic people and should be avoided like the plague.

[@pauladsilva9374]

Steph M ... my divorce papers were not even signed... after being married for 33 years of my life...he swooped in and targeted me... I was lost and lonely and I told him that...he then dragged my heart through broken glass 😕 left me every 2 months to prowl. ..did it 9 times..then told me I had abandonment issues 😣😂😂😂. ..no shit Sherlock 😂😂

[@stephm411]

That is terrible! I'm just.....wow. He even gaslighted you after cheating on you by saying you had abandonment issues? They sure love to project onto others since He's obviously the one with abandonment issues. They really are evil people. I am thankful I've never been involved with one. I hope you are away from him now.

[@pauladsilva9374]

Steph M.... Yes I am away from him....thank you. Just curious ... why you here if you have not been involved with one....it's an horrendous experience and one I wish I was never part of... I wish I did not have to spend so much time researching and educating myself on this cruel mental disorder....to save myself.

[@stephm411]

That is good to know. I am glad he is no longer in your life. :) As far as how I got interested in Narcissism, I was on here not long ago watching a totally unrelated video about about these twin sisters who killed back in the 1800's I believe (I like reading/watching about old crimes), and on the right hand side there were related videos and one was from the You Tuber, The Little Shaman Healing, about narcissism. And I clicked it on and that lead me to watch all her videos and a bunch more about related psychological disorders. I've always found psychology interesting since my mom has schizophrenia. Knowledge is power and knowing the signs of toxic people helps in dealing with them in encounters.

[@arzhb.4471]

I was with a narcissist, it was so not easy. He never admitted that he was wrong and blamed me for everything. I loved him, but it was like it was only me in that relationship. Maybe the break up was really a blessing.

[@hhrrkk6836]

It definitely was a blessing in disguise to set you free.

[@aijazsiddique8713]

The break up was definitely a blessing in disguise. You will feel more and more like it as time passes.

[@jenniferfitzgerald369]

Oh it DEFINITELY was a blessing!!!!

[@maysam1438]

“DON’T WE WANT A PARTNER THAT MAKES US LOOK GOOD? “NO, WE WANT A PARTNER THAT MAKES US FEEEEL GOOOD.” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@f.m.r.1437]

Looks will change for everybody. If not in our corner, why know the person?

[@commonsensebeliever6723]

Yeah, that was a profound statement that stuck with me, too....

[@petedick1758]

You should probably just feel good and then share that with your partner

[@raini0705]

lol don't want a partner because of that. so sick of the narcs in my life already. Don't want to be responsible for making anyone feel good. In a perfect world, everyone should be self sufficient enough to make themselves feel good or at least be committed to having each other's back and giving each other support and love. Imagine that 'trust fall' game where you're there to catch your friend every time and your friend just lets you fall when you need to be caught. That messes up our ability to trust and if it doesn't create depressed people, it creates calloused independent people. Of course, many mature and are able to find solace in actual loving relationships, but a lot of people carry the scars for the rest of their lives.

[@missj7262]

Would like but it's perfect at 464🤗

[@marentruelsen3166]

"Otherwise your heart is going to break on a daily basis". I felt that.

[@womanwithamask2631]

I had the same and when i managed to lower my expectations and focus on friends, hobbies etc. and finally be happy ; guess what happened? He left me! Anyway, i have found peace in his absence.

[@ettrkc]

I feel you

[@oscar3490]

@@womanwithamask2631 who told you to lower your expectations? If you did that then why were you surprised when shit went through?

[@womanwithamask2631]

@@oscar3490 i did not want to have a divorce. That was why.

[@ArtFerguson]

Yes

[@christanom7484]

You spend 10 minutes with a narcissist and need an entire week to recover from that encounter

[@Jblasian8]

It took me 2 years almost 3 to heal from a 11 month relationship with a nars

[@punithanjani386]

Lol

[@shumanrotula7697]

Tell me about it! :)

[@abbyaquino8980]

A single text message can even ruin u for days

[@Tyrashabrooks]

💯💯💯💯🙏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🗣️🗣️🗣️❤️

[@FindingLoveonEarth]

Many people have separated themselves from a narcissist only to continue the battle with them in their minds. I have seen them battle with the narcissist even beyond the grave. Strengthening and building up one's SELF will be the greatest defense against any narcissist.

[@jernisharichard5032]

Yes, 🙌🏽. Pastor Kevin la Ewing has videos on these situations. It's sin as well, that' is the correlation. ❤

[@aijazsiddique8713]

Yeah the narcissist takes up space in the mind. Long after he/she’s physically gone.

[@markhetz1119]

Oh my your words gave me chill 😮I’m here cause my mom was a narcissist causing me to have a relationship with a narcissist that was OVER 25 years ago😳 the anniversary of my mom’s death August 13, 1999 has triggered the hell out of me and brought back a flood of emotions

[@ShellysSweetFinds]

From what I've read about Narcs......they don't typically attract the same to themselves. They attract those of us who are empaths.

[@Chris_Oblivion]

This is very true, and it doesn't end well for the empath.

[@ShellysSweetFinds]

Oh yes, I know. The last Narc I was involved with nearly broke me. I'm still trying to recover, truth be told. BUT, it also sent me searching for answers as to why I was attracting this type of individual to me....I needed to understand the trait because I was born into it, with a Narcissistic mother.

[@OctoganicAngel]

Yes. I’m an empath who was married to someone who is high on the narc spectrum. There were warning signs early on but I ignored them.

[@aidaaces5173]

Preach

[@autonomous2010]

A good sign to look out for is if they value your Time. Time is the most valuable asset in the world. It's the one thing you will never get back and it should be special. Narcissists will not value your time because they see you as "there for them". A Narcissist is a lot like most cats... full of themselves but kind when they need you. Haha.

[@dawidjagusiak]

"It's a whole Beauty and the Beast fantasy. He's a grumpy narcissistic beast, but if I wear yellow dress and sing a few songs, he's gonna turn into a prince. But it is just that - a fantasy". Priceless.

[@GypsyHeart62]

And so true!

[@priscilamotte6612]

That one was hard , soooooo true

[@NerosImage]

Best summary for Fifty Shades of Grey ever!

[@deepdarkcocoa7956]

Oh my that makes so much sense.

[@gdolphy]

Id bet most people who fall for a NARC are projecting their own personallity onto that person and then falling for themselves.

[@shaunaghmatthews9910]

‘Can we move on from this?’ .. when they haven’t even apologised or explained their actions yet

[@gemmal2271]

omg this was my ex! "why do you keep bringing it up your always so negative!"

[@gemmal2271]

@@shaunaghmatthews9910 My ex called me mean and a slanderer when i asked them for an apology for the mean things they said to me. They called me a burden, lazy when they knew it would hurt me because of my disability and depression. They said they were "being polite and only trying to help me"

[@chrisg7842]

Yeah, or “you can’t just let anything go!”

[@gemmal2271]

@@chrisg7842 that too mine was like "you keep bringing up my past behaviour this is emotional abuse" after my ex insulted me and i wanted an apology.

[@chrisg7842]

@@gemmal2271 yeah apparently I’m delusional and paranoid.... yet I’m the one who put in the work, shopped for us, took us out, held her on a pedestal, ran round like an idiot, while she posts beggy posts and sultry selfies on social media for male attention. I gave my all, over and over for little crumbs of nothing!

[@Pumpky_the_kobold]

Never think you're not enough to change someone. They're not enough for themselves. Get away. Stay safe. You matter.

[@aijazsiddique8713]

Extremely disordered and messed up people.

[@nataliaromanova9556]

Remember folks, it's not just romantic relationships. Our families can be huge narcissists. Toxic is toxic no matter who they are to you.

[@juliemiller9760]

Yes, and the internet and alcohol make it much easier for the Narc to self-medicate with alcohol and then write a HIDEOUS message.

[@carlatilbury3831]

I agree I’m going to look for a quiz to find out if my family is a narcissist

[@voltigeur]

This!

[@nathansmith6365]

How sad and true....

[@Mami-Florida]

Facts

[@cemeterydrive10]

I’ve dated a narcissist before. Ruined my life and lead me to a suicide attempt. Luckily I survived. It’s really hard to trust people again after an experience like that...these people can scar you for life.

[@BlackWingedSeraphX]

Same here! But I came out stronger and wiser. I bet you are now too! Hang in there!

[@DEADN8]

Wow same here

[@kevinseraphimday6373]

Glad you didn't succeed, the suicide I mean. Had you done so you'd only feel many times worse. This goes for anyone else with the same idea. You don't cease to exist by death. your consciousness doesn't die with the body and you'd discover your in deeper shit than you ever dreamed. That said, I get the ruining your life part. Narcs are evil, period.

[@phantoms8391]

imagine having one as your mom lol

[@Truth_seeker777]

Try having kids with a narcissistic police officer with a narcissistic mom who is a bailiff at the family court....

[@rosalieduffy1188]

I heard a valuable relationship adage long ago. "Don't focus only on how you feel about the other person. Focus on how the other person makes you feel about yourself."

[@valariesullivan9691]

Good one!!!!

[@yahwarrior7415]

Deep...right now I've been focusing on how I feel about him and actually trying to dismiss how he's made me feel

[@juliankemp549]

That's good.

[@wavegod5130]

Great advice

[@christinenewhouse6920]

Wow! You nailed it.

[@monkeyclawsmonkeycaws-rx7iz]

Even after a breakup, it never ends!

[@srose4640]

It has this time he said he’s done

[@tnt01]

Narcissists do not change. Run. You can do better. There are many normal, happy people out there that will treat you right!

[@fmluta]

X2Y2 normal is not the right word.

[@tnt01]

Well adjusted. You know what I meant.

[@dylangutierrez1130]

I believe some can change!

[@mpacino1224]

If only they could be found.

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

X2Y2 absolutely right! Drop that dead weight, you will be light and happy

[@trina1p1]

I just got out of a relationship with a narcissist. He left me. Best decision he's ever made. These 3 days have been so healing. I'm hurting but I'm healing. Thank you.

[@xelestial_sky]

Same with me. My second intimate partner who at least had narcissistic traits. It's been a week now. Sometimes I feel anger for him leaving me with no reservations after all I've done and all the times he begged me to stay, but mostly I feel gratitude for being cut free. I've been healing like crazy and rediscovering myself. In a year, things will be so much better for us 💙

[@Moilacubaine]

Don’t accept him back if he returns. They tend to do that and try to even be better for you as just to break you. Don’t go back there.

[@sofiolaverry]

same siss, in my case we both wanted to end the relationship, it's been two weeks now and I feel relieved. Wish you all the best

[@kaoshi_kutie]

You will be okay! ❤️

[@suzettepsshade6959]

Be prepared he will show up at your doorstep sgsin..they most often come back I guess to see if their bullshit can still fly

[@thriveafternarc7454]

If you are suffering because of a narcissist, remember you are loved, beautiful and worthy. Never give up on yourself! 💗

[@Helenmaree11]

I feel worthless because of all the stuff he has said and done to me

[@tiffanyjones2096]

I am trying to get over all of the horrible things done and said

[@ladyrose7015]

Aww Thanks I try not to give up but it’s the things that they say to make me feel bad about myself

[@insanedb]

😒

[@jeacyusa]

Thanks dia

[@shelbeekercher9660]

i am struggling in a relationship now but have gaslit myself into believing he'll change, i need a reason to come back to this video to remind myself

[@wendolibautista]

I was in the same situation. I understand you. If he hasn’t change he will never change. The longer you stay in that relationship. The more of reason you give him not to change. He will only think she’s not going anywhere. I haven’t changed and she is still here. I don’t need to change. It’s hard but the best you can do is leave.

[@shubhamchauhan8003]

He will not change

[@Moh_Njoroge]

"They get angry very quickly especially if they don't have it their way"

[@MichaTheLight]

They want to kill you unbelievable mean. But may the person I refer to has another disorder.

[@shahmir2492]

Well this can also from a normal person

[@clarasiewwl]

It’s so exhausting and damaging to be in a relationship with someone who always has to be right about everything and “win” at everything. And the annoying moodiness and silent treatments and expecting other people to read their minds else they’ll show a temper tantrum or get even more cold and sullen. And they never listen, they are never there, all conversations are one-sided. If they do “listen”, it’s to watch you and learn your weaknesses to be used as ammunition against you later on.

[@iniumoh8501]

Well said

[@georgewashington3555]

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[@pinkpugginz]

100% dealing with this right now

[@pinkpugginz]

@@georgewashington3555 depp is a nutcase

[@wamalwamaureen6276]

@@pinkpugginz same,I feel like moving out now

[@funnygirlever]

A narcissist relationship is the worst and I hope no one goes through this. You feel like your so alone and in prison. I'm a narc survivor. May You free yourself, free yourself, find peace, and happy again.

[@julieblanke2440]

I was married to one but he did me a favor and divorced me out of anger and so I'm much happier now.😊

[@Jonathanskits]

I’m friends a few people that can act narcissistic. And they’ll try and say, is the Holy Spirit doing it. But I don’t think so.

[@maclisa72]

Prison.... Funny you say that I called mine "WARDEN JAMAR"... and felt he did count to keep me down and isolated.

[@Psyiconics]

Just break up with them then 🤣🤣🤣 y’all the females who stay in the relationship

[@funnygirlever]

@@Psyiconics I agree! I broke up with him. I'm so happy and free. No one plans to be a victim. I got to know him and fell in love with him. He didn't show me his true self or what I would say I didn't see it clearly in the beginning. Overall I wish him well and lefted. Sadly some people can't leave for many reasons. Sometimes it cost their life. That goes for relationships, friends, and family. I have educate myself about narcissist and abuse. I have a better understanding now.

[@BuckleyThompson]

There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at Digitalinvestigate@gmail. com, where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........

[@TheOfficialxReju]

heyy wsp fammo,i made a song based off my narcissistic experience, just want to spread a message to those who have endured the pain for the longest. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pIOmh5mnq5yNl5Ysi=JGB1rhIBa00EXiMv

[@TheOfficialxReju]

heyy wsp fammo,i made a song based off my narcissistic experience, just want to spread a message to those who have endured the pain for the longest. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pIOmh5mnq5yNl5Ysi=JGB1rhIBa00EXiMv

[@sharonramasela607]

God! Leave hulim, block hime amd go back to your studies. Imsure he is living his best life wherever he is while making yours hell.​@@Euph3mia

[@dsmith9432]

​@@Euph3miawhether or not your partner is labelled as a narc based on your description of your relationship, you are in an unhealthy relationship you should make smart decisions to get out of. It sounds scary.😢

[@septbaaby]

scam

[@icydrip5121]

it is like lookin in a mirror with nothing back, i live with my partner and i feel more alone than when im alone

[@varoujan_visions_official]

Facts.!! Speak on it 🙌🏾

[@miss_karenjoselin]

Yes, i felt more alone with them then without them

[@icydrip5121]

@@miss_karenjoselin baby you are way too beautiful to be experiencing that , you need to leave asap .

[@leonorarobles7623]

😭

[@Unknown-ij3wb]

This been happening to me too . Im to the point where I actually rather be alone

[@kennyweiss]

I love how she has the guts to share that narcissists are made from imperfect parenting and not born that way.

[@mswonwongo]

The modern text book school of psychology foundations on bad parenting. As far as “born evil” is sheer fiction to most scholars!

[@LeoTheLucid]

My ex boyfriend has a mother who definitely affected his mental health and the way he acts. I'm not saying it's ALL on her as he is to blame for a lot of hurt he has caused me, but she should have been a better mother and actually stopped excusing his bad behaviour because now she has a narcissistic son, who will stop at nothing to get his own way and make others feel like crap.

[@koobie83]

I think my mother became a narcissist through genes, and an emotionally unavailable mother. Her father died when she was young, but he spoiled the kids rotten when he was with them. He was very controlling of them at the same time though. One sister seemed to be favoured over the other. They lived alone away from other family. She was probably a classic narc as a younger kid and was shamed out of it by a teacher, and so she turned it all inwards and became a jealous, angry, bitter person deep down and a covert/neglectful narc. But she definitely had the genes for it via her fathers mother, and possibly even from the mothers side too.

[@chocolateradiance7216]

Most men are narcissist..not saying women aren't but based on how society treats men most of them are very egotistical narcissist..that's why women are victimized more

[@gabykappscomposermariagabr749]

@@chocolateradiance7216 I agree.

[@xfaroutzx3637]

I doubt that too many narcissists date each other. They look for specific traits in partners that indicate that they’ll be able to control or manipulate them. Two narcissists would piss each other off very quickly.

[@corissamcfarlane6159]

Yes they are vultures looking to rape their victims of their joy,,attention,time,food,resources whatever they can devour from their prey. Narcissist are too selfish to entertain a fellow narcissist. They don't give only looking to gain !!!!! Human Parasites 🙁

[@Lilfairyxo]

Probably true but in my case my mom and my step dad were together for 13 years and they both were narcissist. It was very tough.

[@corissamcfarlane6159]

@@Lilfairyxo I know the difficult upbringing and deprivation of love at the hands of one parent, my mom.I can't even imagine what you endured.I just pray you have overcome the past !!

[@EVE817]

They look for empath people

[@runningsrage5895]

My parents are both Narcs and hate each other.

[@deadly_gamesDG]

Is incredible how hard it is for them to apologize, is like killing them

[@pinkpugginz]

I'm in the process of leaving my narcissist bf right now. Send good vibes my way 💓 should be out by sept 1st

[@ohohashley]

I'm with you. Putting my blinders on and not going back.

[@devonrose6683]

Me too.

[@Mellymellucky17]

Me too!!!

[@nightwatch111]

Good vibes sent

[@C.Hawkshaw]

Why is it a process? I honestly don’t know. Can’t you just say “this isn’t working for me”.

[@angelica3744]

"Manage your expectations, otherwise your heart is going to break on a daily basis." That's good advice regardless of whether or not you are dating a narcissist.

[@firstjamesryu]

Non-narcissist will make sure they keep you happy, by meeting you on the eye level. Within a reason, of course.

[@NutsNBerries]

Angelica Guerrero true

[@creating1_c1999]

Ask them to repeat what you said...they will not, because they have no intention on processing your feelings, you do not matter.

[@larriettausa]

Absolutely

[@moonlitbalcony2861]

Yep he never repeated what he said. Now looking back, I don't think he was ever connected to me emotionally and only saw me as an object.

[@sunfishdana]

Yes. They listen not to our side of the story. They are even pissed off we have our side of the story.

[@SD-ci6kz]

Wow didn’t even think of this

[@ReubenLofranco-x9r]

i agree

[@PeaTools]

I can really relate to the struggle against the confusing mind games of a narcissist. It's like walking through a maze where the walls keep shifting. Your story resonates deeply because, like you, I felt so isolated, doubting my own reality, as if my confidence was slipping through my fingers.

[@brittttany]

can we take a minute to appreciate the interviewer?! he seems so relaxed, like he's just choppin it up w a friend! not only is he asking questions, but he's giving his input on things as well; which I'm sure makes the Dr feel even more at ease doing this interview!

[@theelizardqueen]

Agreed, he's an excellent interviewer!

[@brittttany]

@@theelizardqueen def! I actually felt at ease my dang self listening to/watching the back & forth between the two of them lol they both seem very personable, which is always great!

[@lapisstories]

He was okay in this interview but there were others that he was kinda annoying. Especially during BPD just maybe because it was a very difficult subject unless you are borderlines.

[@BruceWayne-ip9cl]

Why wouldn't she be? Are you a narcissist or self hating sexist 😘

[@stephanieduncan9023]

Lies and Infidelity is a very serious issue to deal with and it’s a major threat to most marriages and relationships.Scars left behind from a narcissist husband is hard to erase from the mind. I was reluctant at first about finding the truth about my cheating husband but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it .I got help from Cyber Hack Solutions as he helped clone my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram without having access to his phone because he is mostly out of town due to the nature of his work and I was able to track his location too, all I provided was his phone number to this wonderful hacker. This was very revealing for me as he’s a serial cheater until I got into his phone and ended things.I’m glad to uncover his, lies, secrets and Infidelity. You can contact this amazing Hacker David via gmail (cyberhack003) or text and call on his phone and WhatsApp : [phone]

[@lynetteireland]

In a narcissists eyes they're never wrong so they'll NEVER apologise and always blame you...for everything. Their two favourite lines... "I never said that" "This is all your fault"

[@amandacastle7983]

I heard both of those this past weekend, after his kid pushed him back and he fell into my jaw. That was somehow my fault. Then he was mad at me bc I stood back away from them so didn’t get hurt again, so he began talking to two other females and blamed that on me too, saying I ruined our family night by getting hurt.

[@amandacastle7983]

I heard both of those this past weekend, after his kid pushed him back and he fell into my jaw. That was somehow my fault. Then he was mad at me bc I stood back away from them so didn’t get hurt again, so he began talking to two other females and blamed that on me too, saying I ruined our family night by getting hurt.

[@lynetteireland]

@@amandacastle7983 sorry to hear that. I hope you are ok. It's so hard being with a narcissist, you literally feel like you are going crazy, always getting blamed for everything. It's just not nice

[@miss.jenny.b]

I actually like it when they say it's my fault. I just be like "You right." Then I walk away. Lol. Idgaf. If the narc thinks they the only ones that can break things and get away with it they are sorely mistaken. I'll break the entire shop and be like YUP IT WAS ME. It's kinda funny too bc this strategy makes them stop denying the things they break. I'm like a Jedi now when it comes to narcs, they have literally no idea what to do with me.

[@Lost_kisses]

So true 🙌🙌

[@charmagneq]

Living with a narcissist most be pure hell, especially if you’re an empath - the worst and most dangerous combo ever 😢

[@Bbjessica]

Get me and my ex. I’m the most forgiving and understanding person ever. He really broke me down

[@ljrockstar69]

Im empath too, and yes its a bad combination, glad im out!

[@katierosealexander8132]

I’m very empathetic and my narcissistic ex nearly destroyed me

[@lynx9704]

Sure honey...i bet you're such an empath...when it comes to yourself lmao!

[@hannahjessicamedina]

Happens everyday and everynight with my dad. It's a 24/7 thing 7 days a week.

[@anewloveofficial9137]

Being in a relationship with a narcissist is really exhausting because they will never accept that they are wrong but instead put all the blame on you to make them feel good for themselves. Better think for yourself because you are the one who will suffer in the future.

[@btsmith]

Additionally, they will project all of their negative personality traits off on you and or even in a smear campaign against you.

[@citizenmope605]

But what if you are in a relationship with someone who’s perception of reality is so warped that they are wrong, and you’re left having to explain why they’re wrong just so that they can function normally?

[@Cybop-xd9mm]

A New Love Official coming out of relationship like that, this is spot on

[@melissaloadholt7780]

Suffer and regret so much!

[@David-bc4rh]

Get out of hat relationship unless you enjoy that system.

[@johizzle4796]

Dating a narcissist feels like you’re being dragged through the mud & then stomped on & then spit on.

[@paigelet1]

Johizzle I feel this.

[@ellieveganphilly-7335]

Johizzle yes! 😩

[@MariaGarcia-vg8kv]

I am currently feeling this way. Thankfully I got out 2 days ago after a year of this toxic relationship

[@pasealjoe]

Maria Garcia how does this make you feel?

[@mosthatedrina]

Narcissist look like the hell they put you through. I hope god saves my soul from these monsters and direct me to people who are good for my mental health.

[@ladybug30princess]

Took me a good year to realize I was with a narcissist. The whole gaslighting thing is real. He would always make everything my fault to the point that I would actually feel guilty and apologize for something I didnt do. Thank god I'm free of him !!

[@1320Bushido]

I would get the break up ultimatum then when I flip and say it's done they would "clutch pearls". Or would say I always think I'm perfect and when I go "I never said I'm perfect,you alway say that" she would respond "well that's how you make me feel". The heartbreaking thing is it's been a couple of weeks since the I got the "we should not see each other " and I still love her and want her back.

[@natashaconover2536]

Cuddlebug that’s me right now I’m finally free been two months thank god

[@stephanieduncan9023]

Lies and Infidelity is a very serious issue to deal with and it’s a major threat to most marriages and relationships.Scars left behind from a narcissist husband is hard to erase from the mind. I was reluctant at first about finding the truth about my cheating husband but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it .I got help from Cyber Hack Solutions as he helped clone my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram without having access to his phone because he is mostly out of town due to the nature of his work and I was able to track his location too, all I provided was his phone number to this wonderful hacker. This was very revealing for me as he’s a serial cheater until I got into his phone and ended things.I’m glad to uncover his, lies, secrets and Infidelity. You can contact this amazing Hacker David via gmail (cyberhack003) or text and call on his phone and WhatsApp : [phone]

[@shav12]

Wow my ex girlfriend literally did the exact same thing. I would sit there apologizing for things that I knew I shouldn’t be apologizing for.

[@Lightwarrior22]

Same. 😔

[@AbbyEllie69]

You can write it in an email, have it texted in print, recorded, it could even be in their own handwriting, and the narcissist will deny it. My advice after 30 years of a narcissist, and it almost killed me, you have to leave, cut off all communication. It’s the only way to save your own sanity.

[@AnadyiaHowell]

Or "that's not what I ment, you're taking it out of context"

[@Tonnylove]

When my boyfriend and I got together I thought he was just a spoiled brat, turns out he may be a narcissist. I wish they came with warning labels

[@bookmouse770]

warning labels! that's a good one.

[@gmborromeo]

Hi Katonna, how do you like to hang out with me. I'm Vangeliko, and l'm a Narcissist. How about 8pm Saturday? 😎

[@mariewilliams194]

If someone had a high self importance . Low empathy And act superior . Always boasting acting like they know it all . Have no tolerabce . Is a big sign they are narcissistic.

[@LaLaLeoVA]

That's the absolute truth. Me too.

[@ndleinahaystack]

@zumzy u is this for real?

[@malley_cat3752]

“When you start to feel the need to record your conversations it’s probably time to get out” Oof...

[@LMICUK]

This lol

[@keepingitreal-thatsright]

Malley_Cat OMG too many times I’ve felt I had to do that! Like seriously. There’s NO sense of trying to tell them they in fact did do this or that or say this or that. So annoying each time it happens.

[@Yoishalhal]

Barbara Anne Rose ...yeah man, as I heard that I remembered the notes I have right now with time and dates of the things the narc said. Certain hurtful or ridiculous things just so when they start their amnesia (gaslighting ) crap I can reflect back to my notes and show him. Meanwhile I’ve been wasting my time, he will never admit or change...😔😞.

[@AaronaScams]

Omg i just started recording my convos with my bf smh its too much

[@malley_cat3752]

I would just like to update this by saying I officially left my narcissistic EX a week ago and I couldn’t be happier. I feel like I can breathe again. 💖☺️

[@wilkbor]

18:43 "People who are in relationships with narcissists ultimately always feel like they are not enough." .... Wow. It's like she read my deepest thought.

[@natashaatkins7231]

This is so so true… I’m in this type of relationship now

[@pedronewman1787]

@@natashaatkins7231 how are you going about it? After watching this what action was taken?

[@Beautyforashes613_]

This answered everything for me. I don’t even need to watch the whole video

[@realangelsobo]

@@natashaatkins7231 I’m in this kind of relationship too.

[@-Solange-]

I felt that way with one of my friends. 🥲

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.

[@LunqCharlotte]

I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Interesting-sounding! How can I most efficiently get in contact with a spiritual counsellor that you recommended?

[@LunqCharlotte]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@LunqCharlotte]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤

[@tootiefruitie71]

Narcissists also compulsively lie to look good or to get what they want. As an empath, I believed every word.

[@Banishedsoulsofficial]

Empath? Lmao not a real thing.

[@memma1101]

@@Banishedsoulsofficial 🤣 lol What since when are you a psychologist

[@HereticVoice]

@@Banishedsoulsofficial ıt's not the X-Men shit you think they are saying idiot

[@serbiansleeperagent]

@@Banishedsoulsofficial you're in middle school maximum

[@pooh9907]

The more you love a narcissist, the more they hate you.

[@chelseamiracle128]

Ugh so true

[@ally526]

And resent you for the love and care

[@pooh9907]

@Gaz Membrane you dont want to be loved by a narcissist, they are incapable of love anyway, what you want to do is stay away from them

[@geoleon3845]

@Gaz Membrane exactly this is my question

[@beyzayildiz5296]

@Gaz Membrane no dont try to make them love you. They can't love, just run as far as you can

[@Khushi-ow5cu]

Dr Ramani needs her own KZbin channel omg

[@claud23381]

yes dr RAMANI

[@SkullKing11841]

She has her own channel but there aren't many videos and there not of a high quality of production.

[@sebastianaguiarbrunemeier9192]

Agreed, she's cool

[@rudym4449]

Khushi She’s absolutely brilliant!!

[@SLeal-xb5hl]

Check out the youtube channels of Quinn Holliday (narcissism expert) and Sam Vaknin (self-confessed narcissist and narcissism expert). Also, brilliant in their own way.

[@Lilcheesestar]

Can't believe I spent 3 years with a narcissist. It fucks me up and I just realized it when it's all over. What Dr Ramani said in this video is absolutely spot on with the experience that I've gone through. Lack of empathy and remorse, lack the need to compensate and willingness. Everything is about them and how they look infront of people. It does changed into a better looking guy but the hurts my soul and reality. I'm not happy. I'm grateful for the life experience and will now be more caution man than I ever be.

[@k.6072]

"Manage your expectations otherwise your heart is going to break."

[@pebbles7003]

on daily basis

[@isacece1334]

GOD....SO TRUE!!.. I had too high expectations and heart got massively broken

[@La-Machina]

“You can’t change other people. You can only change yourself.” -A brilliant man, my father.

[@g-starryne7451]

If you have toxic family like alcoholics parents its so difficult it depents on the situatsion to what kinds they Are and when they was starting to drinking

[@g-starryne7451]

You cant Change other people because narcissist have zero potential to Change themselfs they Are selfish just get away them and they Are everywhere around the world 70-80%

[@amixedgoddess]

Right on!!

[@TheFiown]

My ex had seven of these six traits.

[@yamaha5647]

@My Channel youre implying that narciscists dont attract people without NPD which is false bud

[@TheFiown]

OR opposites attract ,, in fact each narcissist needs a victim and they have an inate instinct for finding 'damaged' people to make their victims. My ex saw my damage and played on it until it was too late and I was in his web and then gave me just enough affection to keep me there while all the time hurting me in hundreds of ways. I foolishly thought that love would change him but their vision of 'love' being self love he didn't need mine, only my presence.

[@CC_Th1rst]

My wife has 35 of the 30 traits.

[@missjopin]

😂😂😂

[@febriantireke5427]

hahahah

[@spuiwu-js]

I would say the first sign will come from your own gut feeling which will send signal to your body telling you that this person doesn't make you feel comfortable being around him/her. The fact that you are already asking this question should alert you to be careful. Something will feel off and you won't know what it is exactly. Covert narcissists can act very charming in the beginning but there will be often also present underlying sense of superiority about them. That sense is actually deriving from them feeling insecure about themselves, so they tend to quietly degrade others in order to feel better about themselves. On the other hand if covert narcissist feels that you are above his league, he will act like your servant, trying to please you - almost annoying in a way. But make no mistake. If you decide to stay in a relationship with him, he will downgrade you and abuse you like all the others. Because in his mind, if you love him, he thinks you are unworthy of him. Covert narcissists hate themselves so if someone loves them, than they think this person is worth less than them and that they can do better. Other sign to look for is any kind of judgment towards others. If he criticises other frequently, he will more likely criticise you as well once he gets more comfortable around you. Pay attention to how he treats people that are dependent on him as well. Narcissists hate those especially if they can't get anything of of that for themselves. Moreover, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only men. Women cheat as much as men do. If you're suspecting your wife of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on her of her without her knowledge of her. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; METASPYHUB@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,

[@Joe_334]

Even if you have that gut feeling, you aren't allowed to speak on it, or else they use whatever to make you believe you are in the wrong, when you are just trying to speak up.

[@Kaylalouise973]

I completely agree with you on that.

[@idahkigozi6408]

You explained it very well 👌🏾

[@wasabigirl2354]

Thanks for this

[@Amelia-qg9po]

Really heartbreaking, I left my ex who was emotionally abusive. I forgave him so many times, I used to feeling stressed, depressed how much he hurt me. So glad I left, now I’m married with 3 kids, and a wonderful husband

[@Redwine-hb1pr]

Amelia awesoms

[@aharowna3539]

Amelia - Congratulations and well done you!!! There is hope for us all, thank you 🌈🤗🙂

[@NutsNBerries]

Amelia too busy looking around the room

[@Amelia-qg9po]

@Angie Jackson Thank you so much girl. You are amazing!!

[@Amelia-qg9po]

@Lana C Sorry?

[@ksc293]

“ don’t we want a partner that makes us look good” “No we want a partner that makes us FEEL GOOD. “ 😊

[@XeninaCalifornia]

We are all on the narcissism scale somewhere. He's a little higher than I am. Lol

[@donje31]

Xenina In California I’d still marry you lol 😂

[@whitecanid8938]

@@XeninaCalifornia Watched other videos featuring this guy. Pretty sure he is a narc, or at least on the Cluster B to some degree. Mannerism, sense of overconfidence in how he carries himself, and this is not the first time he finds "normal" highly narcissistic behaviors (or those that are reflective of low self-esteem that requires image management)

[@georgimihov2690]

18:50: "People who are in a relationship with a narcissist always feel like they're not enough ... because if I was enough, he'd love me... if I was enough he won't cheat on me..." gets me in tears. I'm just coming out of a relationship like this and this exact part still hurts so much. I've felt it so many times and all wanted was to just get that love and respect, from the person I loved so much. But you're just never enough for them.... :(

[@mew2671]

😢

[@ttv_mister_vic467]

Me too dude. You'll find the right person eventually. Just make sure you realize you ARE enough! Don't let people mistreat you. It's ok to admit you deserve BETTER!

[@gg8723]

there’s times my narcissistic ex would tell me that i made him feel not good enough, and i would always tell him he was and that i loved him so much? but yet he left me and always had a foot out of of the door which made me feel not good enough. bcs if i was enough he wouldn’t have always been ready to leave me? i still feel discarded. and i know he has a narcissist mother that he’s always trying to please yet always complains about her. but when i say something in agreement he would get angry for me saying something negative about his mom? it was truly exhausting and there were times i was afraid i was the narcissist and had guilt over being mean to him sometimes.

[@mskinner8102]

Georgi Mihov if this helps any, you're suppose to be pleasing to God, not man.

[@indigo5852]

Go look at Dr. Ross Rosenberg's videos on codependency.

[@vladimiravnencakova5839]

I was in love with narcisitic. He never gave me clarity. The pain is extremelly brutal. I think I Will never win, I do not have energy to deal with him. I want peace. I no longer want to be abused, tired..

[@tinalight7106]

Please drop the need to win and get away. It will get worse.

[@benjiwebb4117]

"Manage your expectations otherwise your heart is going to break on a daily basis " Beautifully said.

[@liuxichen9011]

When I told my narcissist ex I feel hurt about what he said, he would say: you just want to make me feel guilty, you are manipulating me.🙄

[@arabellahuangmei]

Same :(

[@yoditc7097]

Mine used to say everyone is responsible for their happiness after saying hurtful words. So not even allowed to be upset! Evil!!

[@AmandaLaggan]

Classic comeback from a true narcissist.

[@mr.cubarinogaming8953]

Hey our minds are different so next time a bitch or a fool say you are manipulate my life .rise up ass..hole and stand to your government

[@natashayulaya9750]

Or “okay. Feel whatever. If you feel like I don’t care then feel So. If you feel that I don’t love then feel so” THEY DONT CARE

[@windswepttwigg]

I'm an empath, I seem to only attract people with narcissistic traits, I know not all people are narcissistic but I feel alone in a world full of them. To all the empaths who feel stuck with a narcissist, believe me your better alone. These people are very detrimental, things won't change, they won't suddenly see the light of love, they will always blame you for every single shortcoming and take the credit for anything positive.

[@antoniakemper6375]

Felt

[@alohawhy]

😭😭😭

[@Exiria]

They say it's only a small percentage 1% of the population, but its my theory that this society has pushed many into being more narcissistic, even if they arent full blown narcissists, effectively, its just as toxic to be dealing with these personalities

[@Zer0rchestra]

As an empath, I completely agree. Something about me seems to attract people who are narcissistic, sociopathic, or psychopathic. It's been damaging and I feel completely broken, to say the least. What you said resonates so true to me!

[@windswepttwigg]

@@Zer0rchestra I do blame tv, magazines, video, movies, social media. It all is an aid to reprogram our true selves into less compassionate beings. The world seems full of righteous, self loving people. Live life pure, keep love pure, keep your mind and thoughts pure. So much is in giving, caring and sharing. Stay beautiful, much love. ♥️

[@lukedaniel95]

I've been staying up watching all these videos. I left an unhappy relationship 6 months ago but I haven't been able to move on. I feel like the break up was all my fault, even though he cheated on me. The way he spoke to me has left my confidence so low. I can't be sure he is a narcissist, but he ticks so many of the boxes and the video describes our dynamic so well. Thank you for posting, it's really helped me as I try to heal ❤️

[@katiejudd01]

I feel so justified after watching this. My last relationship was with a narcissist and it made me feel like I was crazy. Now I am with a normal, loving man, and the way he treats me is really night and day. If something feels terribly wrong boys and girls don't try to fix this, get the hell out!

[@lallen8131]

Amen!

[@BB-pt9hv]

Thats awespme good on you! Im happy you got out of that and is being treated better :)

[@toni_jerafe]

Its crazy how these narcisissts can make us feel like WE are mad? They are o intelligent usually...so e really fal for their sh**t

[@ashleighjasmine2421]

Hi Katie I was wondering how you got the courage to leave the narcissist? My self esteem is so low at the moment

[@toni_jerafe]

And the longer you stay with them,....the lower that esteem will get! Hun...get OUT...then cut ALL ties...cause you know they will keep in touch and manioulate you. Block them on phone / email...and it will take a while to rebuild yourself. Surround yourself with love - friends and family. Tell them the WHOLE truth and let them remind you not to go back

[@paigeherrin29]

Gaslighting feels so weird. I’ve always wondered what that feeling was. So many times I’m left scratching my head with a creepy feeling coming over and a sick realization that I think I’m losing my mind but also knowing that something not quite right is happening here.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Paige Herrin, you look stunning 🌹 🌹🌹🌷 🌷🌺🌹 🌹🌷 🌷

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Paige Herrin,You don't deserve to be with a narcissist 😈!

[@lauren4078]

That was your inner voice, hunny. I hope you were able to trust her to improve things for yourself!

[@marylandgirl9246]

I had that feeling. I felt it when I was reading emails from my ex where he was gaslighting and projecting his behavior onto me. Something told me to stop reading the email and to delete them all. That if I kept reading his lies, it would cause me to lose my sanity. When you start to feel yourself doubting reality because they tell you what you know happened didn't happen, you have to leave as quickly as possible and not go down that rabbit hole.

[@MrSlimbullfrog]

It’s the worst feeling in the world. Only a true villain would gaslight someone

[@franpipkin7860]

I dated a Narcissist for about 6 months. When he said "No one is as important as me" I knew to get out.

[@mogha1920]

Mine always says, "you're lucky you know me."

[@nicolykaren]

" If a had a father like me .." Narcissistic Dad.

[@TheStonesQT93]

“Nothing matters as much as my work” bear in mind it was because it made him feel good about himself. So, by deduction, nothing matters to him as much as him.

[@cuwi8558]

Almost same, he said "I know that I am so important for you" 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@retta6026]

Something Trump would say lol

[@BoxingGuruTakes]

Oh my God! I knew my ex was a narcissist (displays ALL the traits) but just realized she used to gaslight me so hard that sometimes she convinced me that I was the one who was gaslighting her. She also always wanted to communicate on Snapchat instead of text so I couldn’t go back to our conversations to prove her wrong. And she had the audacity to accuse me of gaslighting every time I remembered something differently than her. I def understand the “wanting to record conversations”

[@0xsergy]

My narc was recording our convos at the end.. but he was gaslighting me 247. Idk what to make of it

[@MariaGarcia-vg8kv]

I did feel like I wasn’t enough. I did everything and gave my all.

[@isacece1334]

Yes! I said those exact words to him on our breakup conversation. I said... I always felt like I was never enough for you ....when in fact I knew I was always so much, which baffled me.... I was chasing for somebody who wanted to only give me crumbs...not to mention, shitty in bed

[@Vallen771]

@@isacece1334 Yeah, my narc actually told me, several times, that he was the hot one in the relationship and I was so lucky to be with him. I'm 1000x more successful in life, nicer, have genuine friends and relationships. Everything he has is superficial - nice looking guy - for now. I'm sure his drug habit will take that away soon, and yeah, shit in bed (only thought about himself)

[@claratadiwa3172]

😓😓

[@isacece1334]

@@claratadiwa3172 yes... it's sad when you realize you love them more than they loved you

[@Vallen771]

@@isacece1334 thing is, they never loved u, realising that's the hardest

[@guatever333]

My experience is that a narcissistic person won't let you have close friends. Because they are so jealous and want to have all your attention 24/7.

[@bebetigre1252]

extremely jealous

[@alplumasr]

unbelievable gaslighting. They are much like poorly raised badly behaving children in many ways

[@jeaniebird999]

I just got my best friend back after 10 years. Her narcissist husband made her stop being friends with me - he did that with ALL her friends, not just me - but I ran into her over the summer and it was like we'd never been seperated! He FUCKING HATES ME, now, because she didn't even know, until I pointed it out a few months ago, that she and their 6 kids have been his victim since she met him as a teenager, 22 years ago. Now she's divorcing him! 🎊🎉🎆 The sad thing is that it's not his fault, he was physically, mentally, verbally, and emotionally abused by his mother and his father was also a victim and abused him because he was told to by the mother. She's a sick, sick fuck. And her son, and now grandchildren, have been affected in such a negative way; any other type of crime would be punishable by death!

[@dania2369]

Ann Wijns exactly , he use to get mad at me when my girlfriends Come to spend the night .

[@AB-iq9tl]

my narc was jealous as hell and used to check my phone, read d chats and has asked to keep me d last seen on so to check wether i was talking to someone in night or not ,didn't allow me talk to my friends, used to gaslight a lot!

[@coolnchilled2456]

I’m a narcissist and genuinely want to change. I hate living like this. I let the woman I love go so I no longer hurt her and because she deserves a lot better. I been on this journey of being alone, more down to earth, less manipulative and just looking in the mirror more often before making decisions. For those hurt by a narcissist some of us really don’t know that we’re being toxic unless we see ourselves being toxic or actually take a step back to look. Best thing to do is let us go or we’ll never learn. We weren’t born this, we are made this way. Also I disagree with her saying I can’t change. I refuse to believe I’m forever toxic. I didnt come all this way for nothing.

[@boka-baka]

Hey i relate to this to every degree, how have you found is best to change? im currently struggling with letting the one who loved me the most go because of the lying, cheating and toxicity I brought in the relationship. everytime I remind myself of what I did during the relationship in order to REALLY understand the gravity of my actions into this being who has just as many emotions as I did, just sensitive ones and I took advantage of him. Its' a fucking shame I cant turn back time to get professional help while I couldve. I feel doomed

[@coolnchilled2456]

ChilloPillow well I had to admit everything to her for me to start getting better. I’m still trying as well as you but I’d say one thing that helps me change is doing more things to help others because it brings less focus on me and more on them. I focus on being humble and simply being honest with others and myself. Every habit I notice I have I try doing the opposite when I realize I’m doing it but I have my days where I don’t realize till after ya know. Really just keep yourself accountable no matter what and be real with yourself and you’ll be ok. Best of luck to you

[@riddhigadhvi652]

Hugs

[@shimona]

same, my dad is a narc and i think i am too fuck my life man fuCK

[@sebastiancamarena2824]

Yeah man to say you can’t learn is bullshit we all go through our character development

[@parrishales6243]

Life is too short, Protect Your Peace and live a Happy Healthy Life.

[@pablopolski1228]

If you find yourself having conversations in your head but know that you can never have them with your partner you might be dealing with a narcissist.

[@ellenl.r.p.obrien4661]

So true!!!!

[@pablopolski1228]

@@ovomarvelous6328 missed the point

[@MissThing924]

Basically.

[@catherinebeauchamp4772]

I was diagnose Narcissim personality after being in and out of psychatry for a chronique feeling of emptyness. I read about good people habits and what is love and empaty because for me those words mean different things. I always had the feeling that it is possible to recovery from this empty hole that destroy you and everybody who is around you! Spend years of working and isolate myself because I knew that when I was around people, something more powerful out of my control was taking the lead and I was able to look at myself being so fake and so charming, without the intetest to create a real connection, when youre not able to connect with yourself , youre not able to do it with others. its been 10 years and everyday I have to reming myself about being human, listening and focus on what the other person say, try to say shut to my head and really understand with the heart. Lying is a way to live when your a narcissim, you reject your true self I feel empaty for narcissisim because I know what kind of mess it is and I have narcissim friend too cause we tend to understand each other and it helps me to reminds myself what I can look like if I dont put effort into loving and caring. Its a understanding friendship, not trusting If youre in a relationship with a narcissim and he dont know he is, all is gonna do is take and leave. I broke so many heart without conscience , when youre not connected to your heart, you think people arent too, you dont recognize your emotions or feel the emotions of others and because of that its easy to just say: okay bye ! We arent no longer giving each other what I need, attention, fun, money, and bla bla bla.. theres no love, only needs. Ive been working on my attitude for 3 years now, meditation, yoga, grattitude, authencity, reading books and it works but it takes true wanting of taking your moral responsabilities for healty connection. Its a long long road, I explain that to my boyfriend when I met him and he helps me a lot, someday , when im stress and I tend to go back in my old habits, he say to me: Catherine, you start to abuse, relax chill I go isolate myself and calm down. Its like a rage that never sleep in peace. If you are in a relation with a narcissim, he wont change for you or for anyone else, it got to come from him or her and if they arent authentic about they condition, forget it youre losing your time. It takes years of therapy , a full inventisment to change to see magic happen. For narcissim who read that, if you want to recovery, it is possible and life as so many beautiful plan for you. Fear and insecurity never leaves but they dont have to take everything from you. It wont be easy, might fall many times and MANY MANY struggle, never accept to stay in your own shadow, you deserve to connect with love and it is possible. Give your best , do babystep and be ready to battle your mind, it is learned and its a structure, its not who you truly are ! Sorry for my english, im french but I think you should be able to understand Hope this text is gonna help many people because I see a lot about narcissim, but nothing about narcissim who speaks about it, just stop hurting yourself and others and heal yourself 💕 Dr. Ramani youre doing an amazing job ! 💯

[@MelissaCarterRue]

Omgggg this comment rings so true!

[@jhingbangayan762]

Don't ever stay with a toxic person. Toxic is poison

[@araweelospirit4180]

jhing bangayan that’s what you think. Having just broken free from someone that is I dated for only a month; I can tell you that it’s not until you are in it fully that you realise what’s just happened. It’s only in hindsight that you see that the throw away comment was actually a big set-up

[@Dahjonruby]

Everybody that’s narcissistic aren’t toxic

[@araweelospirit4180]

Devonta White joking right?!?

[@bronsonstuartcharles5612]

@zumzy u BS moron

[@bengermanbrowne4378]

NOT ALWAYS THAT SIMPLE ….you talk a good game tho.

[@mikeg884]

I've dated a narcissist years ago. Once was a enough. These people are very dangerous.

[@reardelt]

It's because you weren't up to their mark. If you were upto their standard, they will mellow down since respect begets respect.

[@BlacknBlueJ]

JayJ Narcissists don’t truly respect anyone. And their standards are unrealistic and selfish

[@reardelt]

@@BlacknBlueJ They do if you meet their standards. Narcissists is just a mean word for a high-performance individual who is frustrated with life.

[@BlacknBlueJ]

JayJ look up narcissistic personality disorder. It’s a pathological pattern of behavior and thoughts that harm those around them, including themselves unknowingly. NPD individuals usually are deeply insecure and secretly hate themselves so no, they don’t respect their own selves either. And you shouldn’t treat others harmfully or disrespectfully just because they don’t meet your ‘standards’- the world would be chaotic if society worked like that. + NPD people are more prone to depression and substance abuse, comorbidity is common. not to mention the NPD person I knew examplarly was depressed, had very unstable relationships, often lied and degraded others, had a low-paying job he disliked, yet had delusions about being one of the top 1% of the population and thought it normal to treat others like absolute dirt for it. What you’re talking about could be applicable maybe to people who have narcissistic TRAITS-which is not the same as having a NPD.

[@reardelt]

@@BlacknBlueJ pharma companies love to create more disorders so they can prescribe medicine

[@SteveSavage79]

I can not tell you how valuable your videos have been to help me deal with the trauma of a 20 year relationship with a narcissist.

[@truthseeker1681]

I dated a narcissistic... While dating he treated me like a queen, introduced me to everybody (family, friends, business partners etc) and made me feel like the best thing in his world. In the first month he constantly talked about getting married 😲 and I just thought this is too fast and I started to feel like a trophy girlfriend. He started tu anule my decisions, my musical taste, my free time, my feelings and everything ended in a terrible way by him... I'm still healing but they can be authentic good people but deep inside they are sick...

[@neia8327]

They aren’t being authentic. He loved bombed you. He mirrored back to you all of the things you wanted to get you to fall in love. He was wearing a mask. Showing you his false self. It wasn’t real.

[@reginamills6137]

Yes! Sadly.

[@murasue1162]

I can relate, especially the love bombing part in early stage…i felt so skeptical if he really loved me or not bcs it was too fast, but i gave it a try bcs i really like him…then when i deeply fell for him, he slowly unloved me and finally discarded me completely. Im still trying to recover after 2 yrs

[@adri_lenee]

They make you fall in love with a facade and then when it falls apart you keep trying to find that person you fell for, but they don’t exist. And then you torture and try to *fix* yourself to earn back their love (which didn’t exist in the first place) until they discard you or you break enough to actually leave. Edited because I missed her saying they can be good authentic people. No, they can’t. It’s not real.

[@AR-pp3wx]

I disagree. They are the exact opposite of authentic, good people.

[@timothyfickett9072]

replace "I never said that," with "you took that the wrong way."

[@Nadinec67]

Timothy Fickett Even further..... replace thinking that they will replace their wording with: THEY WILL NEVER REPLACE THEIR WORDING!

[@WH1TEDEVIL]

Ouch .. i say that all the time

[@elisharae6763]

Great comment!! 👏🏼

[@WH1TEDEVIL]

@Gavin James I do say the "agree to disagree "sometimes but I (guess this makes me sound narcissistic ) am 95% of the time correct. When we get into a verbal altercation. But heres where i veer away from narcassist. I try to avoid verbal conflict but if someone says something incorrect i do correct them. Also im not into exterior how ppl. Look at me. Ive had the pretty wife looks fade personality doesn't. Thats why im dating a girl now that doesn't wear makeup she used to be tomboyish i guess is a good description but we get along well. I dont care what ppl. think of me bc after my divorce my wife went with some rich guy she knew and i downsized. Now money isnt the most important thing to me any more etc. So i have some narcissistic qualities but i don't think i qualify. I started watching these bc someone called me a narcissist and I've never been called that before so im doing research. Maybe im just mental..who knows

[@WH1TEDEVIL]

@Gavin James haha thats what i was thinking too.. 😄😅😆 funny ....ohhhhh😯😮😒.... i need to go seek professional help😐😑🤔 .. fuck that im perfect

[@carlycastillo883]

I remember I used to record my ex all the time when he would throw his tantrums and one time I played one back for him so he could hear exactly how disgustingly he would talk to me. Woke up the next day to find he had deleted all the voice memos out of my phone because I was "psycho" for "keeping evidence" of him treating me that way.

[@kellyx7600]

Been there.. he threw my phone out of my car window once when I was recording him

[@livefromtheground7274]

And the voice he heard was NOT his and YOU were setting him up with the Guy you're cheating with to pretend it was him. Fiing crazy.

[@seamuswalsh4226]

I had the exact same thing happen to me. Don't blame yourself. They are sick.

[@malebelomaphutha6566]

So glad he's an ex atleast 🤕

[@littlelily4]

Wow...

[@christinealessandrini4280]

Dr Ramani is beyond brilliant. she knows so much and understood so much !!! Bless her thousan times. And note : I tried for 6 years to change my parter. Now I know it will never happen in his lifetime. Never. Go away !! Run !

[@JD-ev3po]

This woman is the epitomy of strength, truth, and clarity.

[@ririraman7]

@cryptic Christos jealouse?🤣

[@s0urp0wer5]

Lol and she a knockout. It would be a dream to date her lol

[@Moilacubaine]

@intellectual gladiator envious?

[@anthonyvaldes1021]

She actually looks like a narcissist. Remember the old saying "takes one to know one."

[@zusjevanlicht]

Someone who has "intellectual" in their name, yet has no rhyme or reason. Hilarious 😄 But yes, doctor Ramini is a wonderful teacher in this subject 💚

[@stephaniebailey4236]

It's really hard letting go of a narcissist when you love them. There is always something missing in the relationship. You don't feel whole. So glad to have run into this video. I now completely understand what the missing pieces are in my relationship. Narcissism is a thing. It is a thing that is not good to experience in a relationship, or any other setting.

[@shanicehart94]

I’m literally going through this right now. Understanding the missing pieces and knowing I need to get out !

[@englishgarden2189]

Don’t Worry, you”ll fall out of love might take years But l guarantee If You Stay Long enough with a Narc You’ll Feel Nothing For Them anymore But Pure Disgust

[@Musictheory011]

3.5 years spent with her and now I'm finally coming to understand what I have been battling. Now she is making just despise her more everyday. I'm one of the people who had to record our conversations because she would always say that I said something I never did and then call me crazy for not remembering. When I confront her with it she just rages and accuses me of being a creep for recording or as she would say "spying". Planning my exit for real this time. I want my life back.

[@saekubo3795]

Yes and no. Often partners of narcissists become obsessive to the relationship and try to prove they are right but come on, it’s such waste of energy. It’s hard to let go of mental/time investment you put on it but please priorities your wellbeing and happier and healthier future.

[@firefighter3co2]

Sounds like my ex commen law wife #brina dallum @brina dallum she was and is a huge fan of manipulation and narcissistic tendencies

[@angillani]

This is great. She should've mentioned a narcissist's discard as well, how they up and leave for the smallest most petty reasons, so one day it's great and the next it's all over. How they feel zero remorse for their actions plus the blame games and complete lack of empathy to top it off. As an empath myself, I feel sorry for all who've suffered at the hands of a narcissist. I say when they leave let them and praise the Lord, because it's only ever their loss.

[@McSnezzly]

a narcissist who said he loved me told me to fuck off when i asked to talk to him because i was feeling down. When I reminded him, in absolute hysteria, that last time he kicked me out of his house and i had to call the suicide hotline out of desperation, he said "good, call them again"

[@meganruhnke3962]

Anadil Gilani wow that sounds like the last guy I went out with

[@damnmuggle]

You described my ex

[@luvsilly60]

Men who use women emotionally for sex should be covered in a video. My best friend from high school fits that description. Then be got into cocaine and there is no one home. What ever pleasures him. Total nut. His issue he never met his biological father. He thinks no one knows. He is a product of an alcoholic affair of his mother.

[@GoudaGirl]

That is more of a psychopathic thing.

[@lindacarol5982]

Don't try to get closure because you'll never get it!!! Just go absolutely no contact. Walk away with what dignity and pride you have left. Try to work on yourself so you won't be in another relationship like this again!!! Just know it wasn't you your only guilty of having a soft heart

[@a.w.s.9227]

Exactly. The only way is no contact. 10 years survivor here, 9 attempts before I finally went no contact and it stuck. It is necessary to be completely accepting that you will never get closure, it will never be just or fair. There is only moving on and salvaging what life you have left. 🥰

[@lindacarol5982]

@@a.w.s.9227 omg 10 year's?! I was in a relationship for 4 months and the guy acted like he was so in love and obsessed with me. He would not let me out of his sight kept hugging and kissing me nonstop and it was way too much he always said I love you and you are beautiful way too much. He was just conditioning and he is 56 I thought this guy is nuts but I think I loved him. We been broke up for a little over a month. How do I quit obsessing about the way he did me? I hate these terrible obsessive thoughts

[@a.w.s.9227]

@@lindacarol5982 this is by far the longest reply I have ever written lol but that is how important this is! I hope it helps 🙏 😊 First I am sorry you went through this but I am so so proud of you for seeing the red flags and getting out early!!! If only I could go back in time to do the same..... I lost what should have been the 10 best youthful years of my life and will never get them, or my 25-35 year old body, back. It can be very flattering, intense, even polarizing when they are love-bombing you, it feels like a movie (RED FLAG!!!), and it is perfectly natural to miss the 'affection' and attention BUT, the biggest BUT ever, this is not the start of some beautiful relationship, it is the beginning of a horrible cycle of gnarly abuse. 🌊🌺Each time you start to have these intrusive thoughts try to bring yourself into the present moment by putting one hand on your stomach and one over your heart and take 3 slow breaths. With first breath name 1 thing you see, 2nd breath 2 things you hear, and 3rd breath 3 things you can touch and feel or smell. This will ground you in the present and remind you that you are here for a reason, a very good healthy reason. You made the healthy wise choice to cut this person out for a reason and it is very important to stick to that decision. Now think over this 'affection' and attention. Do you really miss the person? Or the companionship? Do you miss the person? Or the feeling of being adored? Do you worry that you will not be adored again? Please think carefully and identify what you are really missing. Many times you can provide these things for yourself but in a healthy way! When these 'attentive' behaviors, such as not letting you out of their sight, turn into extreme control so bad he makes you quit your job and controls all the money trapping you, alienates you and isolates you from all your friends and family, and then gives you consequences (abuse) for breaking the rules you will look in hindsight and wish you had left before it was too late. 💖Do something to treat yourself, make yourself feel like your own boo!! 💖Dress how you feel best and take yourself on a date, or go with a trusted friend. 💖Download a list of human rights and read them every morning to remind yourself of your right to say yes, say no, choose where and when you go and who you go with, be with friends and family without consequences or explanation, etc. 💖Do not accept the twisted reality he may try to trick you into believing. Narcissists are experts at making you feel everything you ever imagined possible but there is a catch: none of it is real, NONE of it!!! Not because you aren't worth it, you are! Not because you don't deserve to be loved and adored, you absolutely do deserve it! But it's not real because it is all a reflection of your own self and actions and they can only keep this charade up for a short time. When they stop mirroring and start being themselves that is when it really starts to hit the fan. By this time it is usually too late but you got out before it was too late! Whatever pain you are feeling now I promise you if you had stayed it would have grown exponentially week by week until you couldn't take one more pain. Please know that you did the right thing! You could have been permanently abused and damaged if you stayed! Trust me, there is nothing worse than being with someone who is supposed to be your person but suffering alone and lonely right next to them. 🌟 ✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️ The best thing you can do is surgically remove this person from your life. ✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️ That means erasing any trace of them from your phone and social media, block their phone number (very important), do NOT go on their social media or ask mutual friends about them. It will get easier and easier the more you distance yourself. Just be very careful not to jump into another relationship until you are fully healed and feeling like yourself again otherwise you could very well attract another one. If you had a cancerous tumor removed would you keep it in your pocket or look at pictures of it to remember the 'good times' you had with your cancerous tumor? No!!! Learn to see those behaviors at face value: cancerous behavior tumors. Once you truly learn to see it for what it is you won't want to keep going back to those 'good times ' in your mind. 💙You will heal. It will get better I promise!! Just take your time and trust that you will get past this. Do something new that you have never done. Buy a bike and go biking, take a dance class or do it in your living room to youtube videos, join a cooking class, study a new language, do something you always wanted to do but felt you couldn't. Draw something, go to a concert, take yourself on a walk through a new park every week, read the bible and pray, get a fitbit and set a goal of walking 10k steps a day. Literally anything you can think of but it has to be new. You got this!!! Don't give that person any more of your precious time and energy and self. They didn't EARN it and don't deserve it! 💕You are not alone!💕 And you will be okay, you will heal, you will feel better. Just give yourself some grace and a giant pat on the back because you made an excellent choice!!! 👏 😊

[@a.w.s.9227]

@@lindacarol5982 I just realized you were the original commenter so you probably already know all this I just wrote! Sorry I didn't realize! But I think I will leave my giant comment 😅 in case someone else who hasn't found these answers might need to read it. 😊💕 I hope it gets better, just stay the course! You got this 🌊🌺

[@TheOfficialxReju]

heyy wsp fammo,i made a song based off my narcissistic experience, just want to spread a message to those who have endured the pain for the longest. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pIOmh5mnq5yNl5Ysi=JGB1rhIBa00EXiMv

[@williamkimbrough]

My wife is a narcissist, a trait that set her apart from most women i had met is we could have an argument and an hour later it was like it never happened. I remember telling my best friend i have found the perfect women. 13 years later we have never resolved a single argument that i did not admit i was the one wrong. I can honestly say she has never come to me after we argued and said i am sorry.

[@jonathanomahony688]

A narcissists will never say sorry. They don't have any emotions. It's all about them. It's either all right, or wrong. No saying sorry.

[@pilarq7886]

sounds exactly like my jerk roommate-finally moving out worst experience of my life

[@yurrr4338]

@@jonathanomahony688 ok. But if the argument in their perspective wasn’t their fault to begin with why would they say sorry

[@katierosealexander8132]

My ex did this, We would fight and he d go away barely see if takd for days/week then he’d pretend never happened was crazy

[@8bitchiptune420]

@@yurrr4338 A good person would say sorry even for something that indirectly caused by them. If you are involved in a situation, it could be your fault in some way. The question "why would they say sorry" is a sign of narcissism.

[@Jason-gt6ko]

The biggest one for me is empathy. I was with a narcissist for 7 years. She ( yes, a woman can be a narcissist! ) never gave a damn what I was going through with asthma. It was an annoyance to her. She qualified as a narcissist with more than 7 different types of behavior. My advice? Drop these people like a bad habit. Don't waste your time on them.

[@MIGHTYRIVERS19]

YES ,CRUELTY IS THEIR FRIEND

[@Jason-gt6ko]

@@corepuncher I would never marry her let alone have kids with her.

[@happyhappy5621]

I am a women of may nature type to b caring ( care giver type) loving and just happy and positive person when I am looking back all my girl freind that called me BESsT freind actually now I understand they were narcissistic ppl, I was as a teenage always blamed by that girl , Later on in the military I met another girl we became freinds but after while she made fun of me , ran rumors told me I’m stupid crazy , she had tantrums and then lied about it, Now I understand! Theses girls saw that I’m Nice abs I was great meet for their psycho head, Today I’m 34 I focus on my self and recognize those behaviors, Yes women can be so evil I ageee with u!!!

[@schatz1876]

@U H No one is saying that women get to be off the hook. Calm down there bud

[@gurgurgur]

No body bad on earth only our nagtive thinking is bad so god said keep faith in heart then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Be kind be honest be truthful be grateful obey souls respect souls respect rules respect nature respect women except everything happened in life somereason then people and nature coprate with love. Married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day. Positive attitude is power of mind. Make God your best friend in heart tell your secrets to God he will show you right path.

[@TashaInaChurch]

Thank you for this presentation. I always love learning more. My ex from my mid-twenties was a serious narcissist. His idea of who I was supposed to be was completely insane. Basically, his mom who was perfect in his eyes and had died. I remember the blowups. I fought for that relationship for 4 years. I was never able to live up to the expectation set. When I left, he told me I was ruining us by leaving when he cheated on me and justified it, all because in the city we lived in we were the “It Couple.” Believe me, being the “It Couple” wasn’t worth it. The feeling that came when I packed everything and left was so empowering and I remember feeling free, like I could finally breathe. That was the a starting point to healing. Now I help others with personal empowerment. So grateful I left. If you are afraid no one will love you or you aren’t good enough, know that as a survivor of this, there is someone amazing out there for you if you wish for that. If not, you are worthy of love all the same just as you are. I am celebrating 10 years with my partner and I can’t tell you how grateful I am that I stopped trying to make that last relationship work with someone who could never fully love me. I realized the gaslighting was so strong I had shrunk and felt insignificant. No one should feel that way. Wishing well those who are in the thick of it🌺

[@ah_nvm]

Thank you for this. I may have suffered from narcissistic abuse that I'm currently in therapy for and sometimes when it gets too overwhelming to detach myself from the past, where I keep thinking I could've done something to not let any of this happen, I'm grateful for stumbling into comments of this sort which reinstate my faith in recovery. There's hope and I'll work towards healing.

[@UltraGalacticSuperFantastic]

That's what I thought too after the breakup, I said "I feel like I can breathe again". Mine overlapped me with someone else...didn't even wait for me to move out or hand the engagement ring back before making it official with her. I'm still feeling from the betrayal. But hearing your story gives me hope. I wanna find real love one day. Just not today, because I'm absolutely exhausted! Lol.

[@ElleLiveAction]

@@ah_nvmhappy I could give you hope in the future🌺❤️ my last relationship with my ex was exhausting too! I gave myself a 6 month no dating rule and it was amazing for me! It was such a growth moment to take the time off. I realized I didn’t need a relationship or someone else to fulfill who I am. I love being in my current relationship but I know it wouldn’t have happened if I wasn’t secure in who I was or what I liked. Sending well wishes.

[@iseenarcissists8298]

A high functioning, self-aware narcissist knows how to fake empathy which results in seeming more caring than someone with true empathy. They say the sweetest things-it's just for a different purpose than a genuine hearted person. People escaping these relationships often reflect back on how the narcissist said things no one had ever said to them. These are toxic, highly addicting relationships because of the highs and lows that the narcissist pulls you through. I would love to hear what this doctor could share on what happens in the brain of the person who is abused by a narcissist, such as Stockholm Syndrome and addiction.

[@mozie9316]

Expose the Narcissist xx

[@Sativa.Shakespeare]

Sociopathism

[@MelaninMagdalene]

Faking sympathy rather. Empathy can't be faked.

[@adaptiveagile]

Totally correct about feigning empathy. I have a relative with NPD who does this successfully to those who never saw the mask lifted. Even his own wife and kids never saw through the guise. Very Machiavellian. On the other hand, I have an NPD family member of the grandiose communal type who has learned to exhibit a bit of cognitive empathy. He was shamed into it, but I believe that he now believes his own words to s great extent.

[@bveracka]

+redman99 - My first true love was a bona fide narcissist, and being young, it made the consequences all the worse; it was hellish and traumatizing. She built up my self-esteem and tore it down, earned my trust and broke it, _constantly._ For a while, I turned into a nervous, quivering mess. 12 years later, I still have trouble letting go of certain things she did to me. Additionally, though I've gotten _much_ better, I'm still quite weary of believing someone when they say they love me-even when it's very likely that they truly do. Traumatic? Life-altering? _DEFINITELY!_