8 Ways Narcissists Create Toxicity, And How To Detox

[@carolnahigian9518]

their love is a ONE WAY STREET: you love them; They USE YOU.

[@MT-ij4kd]

Yes! I had to find that out the hard way 😢

[@girlSAVANT]

@@MT-ij4kd Me too. 😢😢😢

[@JackieFerrell-f6o]

Yes

[@michaelgoldberg7403]

So right. Well stated. Thank you for sharing that.

[@aaronkwolfe]

The incremental toxicity over 5+ years has taken years to detox. Being here to learn and understand has been a great factor in that.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Aaron, you are an inspiration to many. #TeamHealthy

[@howdydocowgirlcowgirl181]

Yes, thanks to Dr Carter & his Team Healthy, we can make great strides in healing. Hope goes up exponentially, too. 🕊️✨💐💗

[@RobertEsparza-zc2ou]

My community Rules, thanks Aaron

[@RobertEsparza-zc2ou]

Howdy,Linda in Texas state your name, bam, my strength

[@DesertflowerUSA]

Yes, ongoing awareness very helpful!

[@brucefriedman1]

Living simply and building character is the best way to rid oneself from the narcissist's evil influence.

[@jodycasey6936]

I feel this

[@dillenderl1]

🙏

[@gordonanderson3111]

The worst way was being made "a homeless person" by my narci-family - surviving it destroyed me body, yet it did build character.

[@jodycasey6936]

These narcs are very much wrapped up in my employment history and rental history. Darn it.

[@cherylduckworth8185]

I certainly agree with that

[@snowbear1877]

They always flip it around. If you try to stand up to them, they distance themselves from you and make you out to be the problem.

[@MT-ij4kd]

@@snowbear1877 You are so Right!!

[@cassandracarrizo6429]

Any separation- at their whim or yours, is separation. A win in my book! Let them say anything they want!

[@ruipedro4337]

This hits me way too hard for being so true!

[@BaraSchmidt]

While it may seem that a "Meet fire with fire" approach may work with a Narcissistic individual, don't buy into that mindset. It's like the old adage: "It's like you are drinking the poison in hopes of harming them!" They live for that!! Stop the game at the start. Pivot to the Healthy side of life! See you there! 😉

[@kiki19822]

Determine not to be their toxic dump., Be strong & leave.

[@gillianbrookwell1678]

I've known my Ex husband the narcissist for over 50 years and I have never been able to get through to him; he has no accountability, no emotional empathy and would never compromise. I'm happy to say that we've been separated for 11 years.

[@JackieFerrell-f6o]

I understand. I have known my ex husband for 42 years and I have been divorced for two months. I feel like I'm just getting started on the healing process.

[@heathermixson1265]

Your story gives me GREAT hope!!!!!!!!!!!!! ❤

[@mcash4063]

@@JackieFerrell-f6o I’ve been married to my narc husband for 25 yrs. Didn’t realize that was the issue until I found Dr. C. My husband says he’s filling for divorce in October. If he’s so miserable don’t understand why he doesn’t go ahead and do it. But it’s sad. 25 years gone. I’m heartbroken but I know it’s the right thing to do

[@denisesatt7044]

45 years and the last 10 years separated. I understand. Dr C and Ramani and others have helped me so much with all levels of toxicity in my life. I am grateful and I care!

[@janjeny]

Congratulations to you all that got tid od the narc. Toxicity. Enjoy

[@yukio_saito]

As the video note says, their toxicity is infectious. It's essential to keep social distancing with them forever. 😷

[@amandaliverpool3374]

😷👍

[@t_nels]

Great idea but the sad truth is that we live in a world that isn't criminalizing this behavior but enables it, so good luck.

[@nmc1859]

Lol this comment about SD made me laugh - it was the 1st time I was 'allowed' to not be around a toxic narcissistic person in my family. They didn't want me to infect them

[@elcee7800]

True, Yukio. Their motives are selfish. Your presence is irrelevant. They don't work in tandem. 👍🏼

[@StalkedHuman]

​@@t_nelsyour time is coming

[@yukio_saito]

So true. They don't permit you to detox.

[@Kat-zh7ew]

Beautifully said. Build character.

[@wordswordswords8203]

This is spot on. It's hard when they are in your immediate family. It really is them and not you. They are weak, broken people. Don't let them get you down. Make your goal getting them out of your life. You deserve to have peace and happiness. Narcissists never will, don't let them take yours.

[@judyhogarth80]

I don’t need their poison.that is such a powerful statement. My narcissist is drinking a lot. Now he has started not putting out his bottles for recycling. He thinks he’s invisible, but other neighbours have spotted the smell'of alcohol. Everyone knows what he is doing and he thinks he is invisible.well he lives in his own world. I am on to him, and I am not interested. I want to enjoy my live. Thanks again. Judy from uk

[@JKB-ji6xl]

Thanks again Dr. C. Your voice is back! I feel like, after an early life in a somewhat narcissistic family system, having learned bad habits, & having been a narcissists' magnet/ doormat, I've long been unplugging from toxic 🐂 💩. I don't even want to connect with false people whose main objective is taking me down to build themselves up. Be well Team Healthy 🤠!

[@susanllewellyn288]

Dr Les, you are a Godsend. Bless you. I am recognizing a life long pattern of feeling it was my job to make narcissists happy, starting in childhood. Of course that can't be done and of course I felt like a failure and of course another narc was always waiting to step in when the last one finally slithered away. Now I choose me and I choose Team Healthy. You are a guiding light of hope on my path to learning a better way. I'm 71 and I finally think I love me.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

It's never too late. I'm pleased to be on the path with you, Susan!

[@shannaeverson641]

This has been my life w my husband 28 years.😢 I am separated and trying to detox now that I've gotten away from all this. Exactly to a T what I have lived through. 4 years of help now from a narc parent and now a husband. Toughest days but I'm gonna get better and I'm on board with Healthy!

[@heathermixson1265]

YES YOU WILL!!!

[@lynnienorris5776]

Stay Strong... And IGNORE the Narc-hole!

[@happyday3368]

Great advice as always! For me, my greatest weakness (as I've recently discovered) is that I don't pay attention (or fully trust) my instincts. In a recent situation, I remember thinking from the jump, "This person reminds me too much of so and so" but put it down to, "I'm over thinking it" - but I wasn't overthinking - it was kind of like subtle warnings that I didn't take seriously. Fast forward one year, I'm out of that group (others left before me) and feel more myself - I'm shaking it off and feel much lighter/happier and going in a different direction. The manipulation was there as was the passive aggressive behavior.

[@johnleatherwood2591]

Get away from these people and stay away, I used gray rock disengage strategy and it absolutely works, individual I was dealing with started stealing just about everything they could get their hands on in an attempt to force me to engage, I ignored the petty, and not so petty thefts, (Cost of maintaining sanity) Now have completely cut this individual out of my life, Guess what this character is doing now? Calling me a narcissist! Lol. Get away completely and don't look back 😊

[@SherryWilson-dk7bo]

Stay strong ❤🙂🙏

[@flyingeaglewoman8682]

“Poison” by its very nature is corrosive. The swampland has a lot of poison so I don’t listen to their toxic waste. A truly malignant conglomeration which has no intentions of changing, hence- “the blob” ~Mike Gill (well put sir)

[@Private_Pookie]

Game players of truth is spot on

[@painteroflove]

Thank you, Dr. C: Great advice as always. Dr. C's advice has helped my life SOOO much. Not getting sucked into the dysfunction isn't easy, but it gets easier with time and practice. Adjusting to "reality" is far better than refusing to believe it. Dr. C's ways are ethical and functional.

[@LeslieAnn-rr2zh]

Once again, confirmation! God was watching over me before I knew what narcissism was! Thanks doc!!

[@LeslieAnn-rr2zh]

I stayed connected to my family and faith group at all costs. We grew further and further apart until he didn't like me either. That made it easier to separate.

[@jeankipper6954]

Excellent advice. And it works. An important part of preparing to do this is planning how we will handle their response. Because they are not likely to be happy, or gracious, about it. Long ago, before all the lovely training and information of Dr. C and his peers, my wasband was very, very unhappy with my not doing his what I now know was his narcissistic bidding. I did know that I was getting fed up with it. I was driving, and he got mad, when that didn't force my acquiesce, he got purple in the face and even drew back a fist. Stupid. By then I was mad too. I determined that I would drive to the police station if he hit me. I didn't say it, but absolutely would have. Just glanced at him, all I could do at 55 mph. He backed down. And remained pissy for weeks. Too bad.

[@carolionize]

Sooooo love this one. Am at the "I am DONE" stage. Counselor at local domestic violence agency says it's time to "leave" for good, though physically and legally I can't do so. This video shows me how to get through that door! Thank you AGAIN

[@NancyBrown1975]

Thanks again Dr. C. I needed this reminder today. Narcissists can work hard on you to keep you destabilized.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You are so welcome, Nancy!

[@darinsmith2458]

I had a Osteopathic Manipulative Treatment last Thursday and it is Tuesday and I am still recovering.. I am pretty sure what that does is it releases trapped trauma (toxicity) into the body.. That is how I am recovering..

[@Zeepjeliefs]

I can totally relate, my body stored up tension too. Hope you will start to feel better soon🌻

[@darinsmith2458]

@@Zeepjeliefs Thank you and I hope you feel better too..

[@Mr8t0]

“Carter you’re a genius!”😆 isn’t it amazing how simple can have such strength yet we can’t see even the easiest route when in the facade of the toxic curtain. Thank you TH & thank you “Carter” for your clear sight (& humor)😆never forget to keep laughing, my fellow affected.❤

[@Matt-r3r]

Thank you DRC.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You are very welcome!

[@MT-ij4kd]

Thank you Dr C for bringing awareness to this. I needed to hear that. I'm having to detox from several people right now and I have to say, I actually feel better! 🤩

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Glad it was helpful!

[@izzysim9363]

I am amazed at how many people have these behaviours. Alignment of the planets? Nature? Nurture?

[@gerardpleasant]

Perhaps a combo nature AND nurture.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

See if you can find a video of mine, Is Narcissism Learned?

[@izzysim9363]

@@SurvivingNarcissism awesome thanks!!!! I've been watching your videos it's helped me a lot.

[@JackieFerrell-f6o]

​@@SurvivingNarcissismI need to find this video, too.

[@Juamo-tn8we]

Both nature and nurture but I think nurture has the heavier hand these past 50+ years. And I think our society is going to churn even more out until we have some sense of personal responsibility instead of moral relativity.

[@CatLady79]

Thank you for this info. I really needed this right now. Figuring out how to care for my mental health during this has been so hard. I sometimes feel so much guilt for disengaging from the relationship, especially with it being my marriage. But this reminds me that it is okay and sometimes necessary to protect myself.

[@laciedandelion3966]

Thank you, Dr. Carter!

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You're most welcome!

[@jodycasey6936]

I just received Natalie Jambazian, LMFT Book, Detoxing From The Narcissist Great upload today. Every video is better than the last. You’re on fire, Dr. C. Thanks for always being here when I need you. I continue to connect with you every day. You are the voice of reason for me as I navigate through these relationships ❤🙏🏻🔥💯

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thanks, Jody!

[@Debbie-e3g]

You are such a blessing, Dr. Carter. Thank you so much!

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You are very welcome

[@elcee7800]

This was worth the wait and the weight Dr. C.! And I agree with every word. 🌹

[@SandraMuller-vs8ck]

Thank you for this message of awareness. This education is so valuable. I am at peace. God bless. ❤

[@SherryWilson-dk7bo]

Thank you Dr.C and Gus and Team Healthy ❤️ Love you all! ❤️🙏🙂

[@mitaalqahtani]

Truth! Thank you for this great sharing!

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You are so welcome

[@gloriacoleman7012]

Thank you Doc, very good video, your helping people that might not get it.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

I hope so!

[@Suezanl]

I have recently gone no contact with my Narc Mother im 60 years old & started smoking pot at 12 yrs old to deal with my toxic family. Now at 60 im a full blown drug addict that is homeless living in a tent and have been since 2015 . I need to find away out of this hell I've ended up in. I have gotten so mentally beaten down that i cant find my way out. And my Narc mother is loving it ! She has me right where she wants me.

[@Silenceisgolden-o9o]

😳😔🙏🕊️🌻

[@grnmtns1]

Many communities have programs to help people with addiction and homelessness. A judgment-free place to ask questions might be the public library. They could tell you about resources in your area, or a safe distance from toxic relatives. I was first responder to an addict who overdosed in the park. The EMTs treated him with kindness and he's getting help.

[@sophialuypaert-vediclife4ever]

Absolutely right!!! everything you said is EVERYTHING I went thru with my ex narcissist partner!! I drank poison for 15 years It is thank to your videos and the help of a women's abuse center that I was able to have more awareness and GET OUT of that sick relationship

[@lilithschwarzermond7342]

Very good and important podcast. Thanks Dr. C.

[@kerribarclay5976]

Dr. C, your informative videos have taught me and helped me so much with dealing with my older sis and her family, thank you. I recently read a book that clarifies narcissistic abuse, from the angle of being scapegoated. I wonder, could you provide us with information regarding scapegoating, what it looks and sounds like, the damage it causes via the messages we receive from family members who "care" about us? I would really appreciate that. You are such a gifted teacher of this information, it would be very helpful to hear your perspective on this. Thank you very much.

[@carolhill8917]

Is it "ghosting" if you detox from a narcissistic 'friend'? Was too much stress on me to be with her, even in a group most times. I'm pretty sure she has smeared me at church. I've never "ghosted" anybody before this though this is a new meaning for this word to me. And I had psych courses both in high school and college and never heard of this.

[@JKB-ji6xl]

"Ghosting" as I understand refers to going no contact without warning or explanation, usually when there's some expectation from the other person & you may even seem to them to be on good terms. It can happen in any kind of relationship.

[@susancosgrove5010]

Hi Dr C, just love your humour and videos. My circumstances have changed so much since I first saw your videos, and all in a good direction. Have really appreciated your guidance, past and current, on my 'journey'. Have a great day Dr C, and hugs for Gus 🐶🌹

[@MadManInMyVisions]

Heaven forbid you escape either!

[@davidhynd4435]

Even when it's presented to you in sugar coated form it's still poison. Although most of the time they don't even bother with the sugar coating.

[@amandaliverpool3374]

I've just seen the premiere 🎉🎉🎉 Great viewing doc 👌 Team Healthy have already had a chat 👍

[@roxymovie3938]

Dear Amanda 💗, Wishing you a very happy birthday 🥰 with lots of peace 🕊 inside of you and many joyful 😊 and meaningful 💛 moments you can lean on and of course, plenty of healing 😇 for the coming year 🙏 All the best to you 🤗💖🌻☀️

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@roxymovie3938 Thanks, Roxy 💕 My eldest son ended up taking the 3 of us for an early evening meal. We all abstained from alcohol! I used to have a glass of wine with a meal. I don't miss it. We are trying to encourage my youngest to seek help. Unfortunately, the Essex Geezer sent me a birthday card that has not been put up on the shelf. I suspect that he expected me to break no contact and thank the creep. He really is up himself 🙄 I guess your holiday period may be over? I hope you are well rested and ready with your super powered narc detector 🚨 Thank you for your kind thoughts and wishes 🙏 ✨️ 🥰🌻🫂

[@epicon6]

I love your videos because after you helped me taught me about narcissists, i can keep learning and link your videos to my friends who come to me for advice who are dealing with narcissist. Your channel is a gift ❤

[@michaelgoldberg7403]

Thank you yet again Dr. C! PROVIDING CLARITY AND DIRECTION IN A CONFUSING SEA OF TOXICITY. Guide me to the promised land of serenity of mind!

[@SlobArt]

I tried to remove myself from a narc personality for years. It never “took” due to the slithery nature of that character. Now, they reached their stonewalling point. Finally. I hope to begin to detox.

[@slightlysarcastic3098]

I definitely needed to see this video before the meeting I had with my new supervisor. I had to fight the urge to blurt out "what do you want from me??"

[@hcmangs3634]

My mother made a very passive covert comment, it was mean, thought I’d check myself if I was being too sensitive so I ‘chat gpt’d’ what she said to me, asking if it was mean, chat gpt said ‘yes’, asked again, clarifying in case I worded wrong & again came back ‘yes’. Struggle with sadness in & out of narc sibling, enabling narc parents that I don’t trust & it eats me up, became glaringly worse since having my child , after years of ‘forgiving’ & moving on from incidents, last one with my sibling too far, my parents chip at me about it, putting it on me.

[@aaronschmidt9753]

How do you mentally unenmesh from these people? I've been NC for a few months now and I feel like I'm still in their mind games. Need a breakthrough real bad.

[@francesbernard2445]

I liked the Bystander Witness course established first in U.S. which offered information on how we could stay safe when being of assistance to someone or when encouraging people from a whole other community that is for example being bad mouthed about at the time.

[@amarbyrd2520]

Frances - is there a link for that course you mighr be able to forward? I've heard of the concept, but not the course

[@RaHB7]

These people go against all principles of behaviour so explain their charismatic magnetism.

[@lynne-du9ql]

People including so called friends think butter wouldn't melt... it's hell walking on egg shells.

[@susanray7768]

Thank you 😊

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

Thanks so much. Awesome video! From Cynthia Ann in JANESVILLE, WI

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thanks, Cynthia!

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

@@SurvivingNarcissism smiles

[@whaleoilbeefhooked3892]

In my experience, typically, a top of the lungs apology of >> "I'm....SOoooRRReeeeeEEEE", is often (their) normal.

[@amandaliverpool3374]

Well, a 2-hour chat 😳 That was loads fun. Thanks peeps ☺️ 😊 😘 🤗 😀

[@t_nels]

Have a Happy Birthday Amanda 🎉✨️

[@amandaliverpool3374]

​@@t_nelsThanks ❤

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

I just found out there was some sort of glitch on YT about uploading it as we had designated. Ugh!!!

[@t_nels]

@@SurvivingNarcissism Good to know everything is alright.🙂

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@SurvivingNarcissism No worries Doc. AS long as you and your family are OK 👍 ❤️

[@skyedreams28]

Thank you!!!!!

[@gordonanderson3111]

You could be describing most of the major religions. And this is one of the greatest problems for our world, now days as in ancient times.

[@Rachel-mz8ko]

LOL. I recently found that even my dog has psychological comorbidities! I'm surrounded! (The 4 yr-old miniature schnauzer I inherited from my daughter has recently evidenced a seizure disorder. It turns out this also explains her hyperactivity. Sweet and intelligent dog otherwise. LOL. I'm surrounded.)

[@hugmc]

My ex wife destroyed my daughter and drove the dog 🐕 crazy to animals can be fractured with their behaviour to ❤

[@Rachel-mz8ko]

​@@hugmc Fortunately, my (narc) husband doesn't get too involved with her. She was already terribly hyperactive when we got her at 10 weeks. She also came with a very definite aversion to doors. She must have had a run in with one prior to 10-weeks. She has moderately severe separation anxiety, which, supposedly, can also be the result of her seizure disorder; but, then, she was a pandemic dog and got used to always having someone around. So, its hard to say. Life is a challenge. I was very happy when she got over her fear of doors, The medicine has helped a lot with her hyperactivity. She acts like a normal dog now, except for the separation anxiety.

[@LiveforHim73]

Sibling has gone silent for 14 months sitting on Mom’s property. Mom is bewildered why he’s got cob you know where. He wants to be in control about everything and he didn’t get assigned to it. Pout time! So we all will just sit it out and enjoy life. When time comes to the have to stage , we’ll go Legal. That’s what mom wants. She wrote it. Son won’t honor her. What kind of person does this? I wonder of advice along the way dealing with a person that Dr. C just described. Toxic people are so hard to be around. Don’t even want to ever have to approach him ever again. How do you divorce a sibling? Boundaries! Think I’ll send the list of boundaries as we get Moms affairs taken care of. As she wishes to be done. Stay steady!

[@aaronkwolfe]

Released 10 minutes ago (or so).

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Yeah, I just learned there was some sort of glitch on YT that got in the way of it uploading at the usual time we set. That one was on them!!!

[@notaclue822]

Yes, I think it's very important to hang around with people who like you. LOL.

[@marybethmarlar]

Thank you!!! ❤🎉

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You are so welcome!

[@CamGoesCamping]

Thank you Dr. C and Gus! You guys are awesome!

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thanks!

[@rwdchannel2901]

The mocking of perpetually angry people who lack self awareness is warranted. That's why I like that old TV animated series King Of The Hill. The main character Hank Hill is perpetually angry and it's a funny mockery of people that behave that way. I bet narcissists hate TV shows that mock their behavior. My narcissist father made me stop watching The Simpsons after an episode made fun of the US Navy because he was retired from the US Navy and demanded everyone respect highly respect him. I do agree The Simpsons can encourage young kids to behave disrespectfully towards their parents, but the real reason my father made me stop watching it was because everyone laughed at that episode making fun of the US Navy and it poked a hole in his inflated ego.

[@JeffTruslow]

@@rwdchannel2901 "yvan eht nioj" 😂 😂 I don't even know how remember that... I don't even watch that many shows but I laughed because I visualized the situation. God bless you and yours

[@michellehill718]

Go Team Healthy all day long, forever and ever! Amen! Amen! Amen!

[@butterflycomb]

It's all selective though. That's what angers me. They don't talk or act that way with other people. They are kind caring and everything ughhhh....

[@gemmapieroni1539]

I cannot believe the immaculate timing and aptness of this video... Thank you 🙏❤️‍🩹🙏

[@elizabethambielli610]

TOXIC: lacking SPIRIT OF GO(O)D thoughts and OTHER CENTEREDNESS. (and there is NOTHING that can be done, but if one is able to ENDURE and 'suffer it' and 'offer up' (at altar aka church worship) ONE will gain A GRACED STRENGTH that is HIS PRESENCE. (Pick up the cross of this world as it is, pray and offer up at altar FOR such souls, and never be alone with such ... make sure there are others present when in company of such souls)

[@brg2743]

Where can you report things anonymously so narcs can't retaliate? Narcs despise truthtellers and there are people ignoring things around us that is absolutely stupid. Unsafe and illegal things. If just one person reports all the time, they think it is you with the problem. Crimestoppers could see your phone number. Do they have an address?

[@annbow4064]

I have a narc neighbour who i share a driveway with her house is near the access,so she parks right at the access not allowing me to get in or out,you cant ask her to move as she scream go away holding her ears,just because she ownes it too means she can park there but she could not care less that I cant get in or out or ask her to move,so for peace sake i use a near by carpark,people say dont let her away with it or speak to her,try speaking to someone whoes entitled and wont allow you to speak,i had a narc husband and cannot go through all this again so she can have the drive im not fighting every day with someone who will not move anyway or giving my self a heartattack.

[@tinalaursen8993]

Gee, my brother got 8 out of 8. He excels in toxicity. Congratulations, brother dear. 😂

[@RaHB7]

Please explain why these narcs are difficult to resist, when their behaviour is so bad?

[@gnirtsix]

My narc, after 70 days of her ending it in a text because she “couldn’t put me thru another day with her,” reached out to me via an email to wish me a happy birthday and it set me back after 2 months of recovery. Is there a more in-depth video that might help me to process this behavior?

[@moscowgadzaka9287]

❤❤ 22 ❤❤ HI 😊 GUS 🎉🎉🎉 THANK YOU 4 ALL YOUR HARD WORK 😊😊

[@johnbodine8381]

Some one I know wanted to fistfight me over nothing

[@trulifelight3617]

Your just describing demons that use human vessels. I believe this toxic behavior I'd biblical. Because they're behavior is the same as the devils in spiritual warfare

[@dotnb]

My family of origin right there

[@LibelulaNocturna]

I suspect I am with a narc but I'm not sure. He tries to triangulate with people I dont even know. Sometimes I want to think he is just exentric. He always goes like"oh who's sending me messages at this time?" Its so obvious he wants to make me jealous and I wonder how did I even grew to like this idiot? This afternoon he was looking at me with a weird face while eating ice cream, when I asked him whats with the face he said it was because of the ice. Gave me the creeps. I also feel drained after talking to him.

[@DMuvvy]

My narcissistic bf of 7 years and I broke up 3 months ago. This pain has been unbearable at times. I understand the idea now of it being like an addiction. I was so dismissive of my own feelings from the start. I knew something was “off”. And only now do I understand I’m trauma bonded to him and that’s why the break up is so hard. BUT I also understand I will come out of this one day. He seems to have moved on already. Scary thing is is that he is a child therapist!! Looks like an amazing person bc he “heals children”. Ugggg. He has not contacted me and my guess is bc of his new person. Do they reach out to you over time?? Will he try to get back in??

[@RaHB7]

Worse and much worser when you have them back! Even part-time. It depends on how much abuse you can take. He will test you from time to time to see if you’re healed or destroyed. I’m free now, I hope you learn the strategies to join us survivors. 🩷from UK

[@johnmccutcheon4201]

What’s the best way to get in touch with you?

[@jankuya]

You don't need their permission to be yourself!!

[@moscowgadzaka9287]

❤❤ 22 ❤❤ TOXIC KILLER USERS 100 PERCENT

[@fred.k9875]

🙏

[@gjthomas9770]

Does Gus still chase balls and stuff?

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Yes...when he's outside he's active. When he's in my study, he snoozes!!!

[@gjthomas9770]

@@SurvivingNarcissism I wasn't being offensive. I know he is getting older.

[@deborahcarder4270]

Dr. Carter, Someone thinking something you like is boring or stupid is not narcissistic. Some may think football is stupid and boring. Or local theatre or chess. That’s their entitled opinion, If it doesn’t negatively impact the other person or finances etc.