#86 Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk explains how trauma impacts us and how we can recover.

Dr. Bessel explains to us how trauma impacts us both emotionally and physiologically, while also talking about methods for recovering.
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[@julieyoung3315]

Well, you just described me. My Mother was killed when I was 13. I was left My Father, who I had Never really known. He did a Horrible job, and I appreciate his position, but he should've stepped up. That incident has Traumatized for my Whole life. I began using drugs age 15. Thank you for the work that you do. I have seen more than 100 Therapists, Psychiatrists, and the like. None of them ever helped me. Most of them look horrified after I tell them my life story. That in itself was Frightening! 👌

[@julieyoung3315]

Godforsaken! Exactly!

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Julie. I don’t know if you will see this. Compassion to you. And peace and health. Take care of yourself facing into Christmas 2022. 💚. The Chakra system. The Heart Chakra represents the energy of healing and the colour is green. I like the Chakra System. I hope it’s something you might like too.

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

@@julieyoung3315 I hope this will help i you see the comment I put above for you. I can’t always get the @ response to print. All the best.

[@Dave183]

The only person who understands completely, is myself. I need peers and supporters around me who are like myself- that's what counts most... :)

[@davidrothstein5664]

Ty guys.i am doing emdr and I'm processing a bad lsd trip I'm 53 I was 14 that trip had catastrophic effect on my life doing drugs for 40 years.just be careful of psychedelic drugs.all the best for us recovering addicts.

[@noreenmurphy889]

Trauma leaves such a mark on people's lives. I agree a child who suffers trauma struggle with learning as their minds are in turmoil. I would love to be brave enough to do the treatment that Timmy did. I was never in addiction but I know the destruction of it as I lived it. It's harrowing. Great talk. Keep up the good work. Congratulations

[@davidweisgram4749]

Tha k you for marking trauma in childhood affecting education. The best explanation I heard a year ago, was that trauma shunts the blood from the brain to fight or flight, hence IQ lowers during trauma.

[@michellebradley63]

Wow. Well done for holding such a beautiful space and for bringing Dr. Van Der Kolk to an Irish audience. This was special. Thanks so much for all your work 🙏

[@winniethuo9736]

Men are bringing the world back home 👏👏👏👏. James Joyce your Irish brother and writer did a good job demonstrating the challenges of being a human. Dr Gabor and every man who is attempting to open this rotten onion piece by piece God bless you. Please look at Jiddu Krishnamurti too in this journey self mirroring.

[@marielloyd8594]

Wow! Timmy! I also meditate and you showed SO much courage in persisting in doing this, which for you was really difficult- much more than for me. Like Bessel, I am in AWE of you.

[@stephenarmiger8343]

My brother sent me this video. We both, in fact all four of us, had a difficult childhood. My father was a World War II veteran. A tank commander, wounded at Anzio. He had a mental breakdown when I was nine. It affected each of us differently because we were all different ages and had different understandings. I want to thank my brother for sharing this. We lost my oldest brother who developed severe mental illness. Perhaps because of him, we didn’t recognize that we too were wounded. Little by little we are learning. Little by little we are making progress. Always too slow, but that goes with evolution.

[@mariemonn8912]

So proud of how far he and they have come and all people who take this journey This is what we are to be doing with people with trauma and get in trouble withe the law etc.. understanding developmental trauma brain gives us compassion for each other.. and of course we hold people accountable, yet we have to show them the light. The light with an is there. It’s hard and if you can be gifted with a friend or someone who truly understands and supports you it will be easier

[@siobhandaly4352]

I could listen to Dr Bessel all day. So powerful, so raw, so honest from all of ye but most importantly so gracious, kind and transformative. Amazing work!

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

Thank you Siobhan 💙

[@petestevens3970]

Dr. Van der Kolk makes such an important point in being capable of articulating what took place, being able to name what happened. “The Holistic Psychologist”, an online community on all the major platforms, has helped me immensely - commiserating with others, reading others’ remarks and the content all have contributed greatly to my understanding AND healing and growth. Thank you for this. Postscript: Another important point about growing up with a single parent in a rather isolated set of circumstances, which my experienced: “exiled” from the remainder of the extended family, and therefore completely overlooked and disregarded.

[@marielloyd8594]

Wow, So much respect for the two men who worked so much on themselves and have the bravery they show in assisting Besser in creating this video that can help so many people.

[@christinecauseimanevilcar4073]

Boys this was amazing..I can relate to a lot of what was said... great work Norrie boys! Love from a Norrie girl and her Norrie dog❤️❤️

[@LauraVolpintesta]

I’m not a man, but when you talk about team sports- I found team sports traumatizing as a kid, but a few years ago during Covid I got a particular job where I experienced being a team in the most beautiful, healing, beneficial, and life changing ways. And a lot of that experience was healing my relationship with men too, as they were so supportive to me on the team, and continue to be.

[@leeboriack8054]

Thank you for sharing your story.

[@shahilagh]

With all respect to this professor, No need to always compare their calm life with others bad life. It doesn’t add value to the discussion. There is a young therapist who is your Uber and she has numerous subscribers and she always says we to refer to bad experiences. That is how they get into others hearts

[@leeboriack8054]

To the Two Norries and Tim, thank you for sharing your strength hope and courage.

[@winniethuo9736]

James, you led this podcast as a pro and got it to cover so much ground even for someone new to looking at how trauma comes about and how we can use various methods to attempt to rise above it. All the best with where you are. Great job Tim for your heartfelt testimonies. I feel like I have taken Ayahuasca for the love I have for your delivery of what your experiences. Brilliant😂

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

Thanks so much for your feedback, it is well constructed and really appreciated.

[@winniethuo9736]

That introduction draws you in. ❤️

[@maryy8902]

Great talk unheald trauma holds us back

[@qdee6250]

Oh Wow!! I so enjoyed this. Massive well done lads!! Ye hit so many 'nails on the head' in under 1 hour, and covered SO much, and he was very noticeably impressed by the direction the interview took from the very beginning. I've watched a good few Bessel seminar talks and interviews and I have never seen him to enjoy one as much as he appeared to enjoy this talk with ye. Again, a Massive well done. Pure Magic.

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

Yeah so good

[@eileenhutchinson7333]

This was brilliant guys, well done. I’ve listened to Dr Van Der Kolk speak and in interviews many many times but this was a unique experience, so interesting and real. Thanks guys , you’re rocking it!

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

Thanks for the lovely feedback Eileen 💙

[@thomashassall96]

Violence was my only friend for most of my life because of being battered as a kid for everything and everyone else's failures. Well at 43 I'm off the drugs after 20 years heavy abuse and my treacherous family have the police knocking their doors now about what happened when I was 4. I hope for justice as I don't want to deal with it myself and they definitely don't want 😞

[@jamieanderson5991]

wonderful chat, thank you all for doing this. Blessings.

[@helenburke4722]

Love this. I have struggled so much with my alchohol addiction. It is for sure trying to block my childhood trauma. Im still learning and going forward

[@monicamcnamara4978]

So profound, Timmy you're amazing, thanks for your honesty.

[@weston.weston]

I stumbled across this podcast and am so impressed. I have never used drugs and alcohol or experienced trauma as a middle age gal but have so much respect for this as a person who knows others who have encountered addiction and trauma. I subscribed, thank you for being here.

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

Welcome to our humble podcast. Sending you lots of love ❤️

[@bizzylizzy5075]

I heard of your guest through Gabor Mate .. such a fantastic guest ! Thanks lads , I’m working my way through all your podcasts! So proud of youz !!!!! Brilliant book too !

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

Welcome to our podcast 🙌 😀 👏

[@leeboriack8054]

Appreciate you guys and Bessel for this podcast. Thank you and peace to you all on your journey.

[@donnadelprete7979]

Great episode. Such a thorough and simplistic explanation of it trauma and recovery.

[@jamesbutler5908]

We weren't born mad ,but driven mad. How else would you have been, with the catholic church the Christian brothers, the culture the environment and the impact of what our ancestors great grandparents and parents, the deep rooted conditioning and FEARMONGERING... observe yourself, victory is ours....

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

I just found your video. Big big thank you lads. 🙏. I’m now going looking for your podcast. I’d listened & read loads and loads of stuff on this. I’ve done therapy. But coming from yourselves, this is different, it is so grounding for me. Thanks again and I will be sharing the news about your podcast.

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

Welcome to our podcast 🙌 😀

[@williewalsh6113]

Very well done lads, a brilliant interview. Thank you for your energy and honesty

[@kiltilly98]

Thank you. Growing up in the Irish home can be a shameful, guilt ridden experience.

[@danielbarrera8391]

Shame is so difficult to live with. I have a lot of shame for things that have put me in a place of thinking that it's better to just keep going down the hole than feel it.

[@pomehi-tt9uo]

I felt it important to acknowledge your comment Daniel. Thank you for sharing.

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

At some stage we must forgive ourselves, and stop beating ourselves over the back with a rod. I hope you find it in you to let go of the shame and view yourself with the empathy and compassion you deserve.

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

Keep going

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

I had to learn every one is an asshole , even ne sometimes lol

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

Generational curses but Jesus breaks that God is good 👍

[@domenicruberto608]

wonderful talk... thank you!

[@petestevens3970]

Thank you.

[@teresaryan3481]

Fantastic!

[@shovelhead4558]

The body keeps the score alright great podcast lads stay on track well done to you both 😊.

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

Thanks 👍

[@georginasweetnam7336]

So much knowledge. Loved this episode lads. 👌

[@stainlesssteve25]

Great talk. Just finished reading the body keeps the score as per yer recommendation on blindboy. Thank you both very much

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

You're welcome Stephen 😊

[@TheLaureea]

I experienced all of these experiences during adulthood in the workplace that was more than just a workplace but my identity my dream all I was waiting for for a lifetime. What is the fuss all about child experiences? This overlooks a lot of society abusive systems

[@nicolaslade6733]

Timmy, it was so lovely to see you smile and relax halfway through

[@LauraVolpintesta]

Music and drama are often “team sports” too

[@LaLasta]

Hey Norries, I don't know you, but I love you ❤❤

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

We love you too x

[@rachellewis5016]

You boys are amazing 🙌🏻

[@thetwonorriespodcast]

So are you 💙

[@acorntwentyfourcorksimon6667]

I have PTSD due to a dommistic relationship and the past year and a half has been so so hard for me I have lots of more work to do for myself to really heal but I do have great support around me I'm also dealing with a very very traumatic event from 1997 I can't speak about that though only with my philologist

[@drsandhyathumsikumar4479]

Wonderful ! Thanks for this

[@jimdonnelly1144]

Crackin stuff boys. Branching out

[@robynhope219]

Trauma impacts every nook and cranny. You suffer and make others suffer. All too many traumatized people live alone by necessity. Myself, I can only deal with people in short spurts.They either irritate me or stress me. I couldn’t live with anybody at this point. I like peace and quiet.

[@igotbluesdevils]

I feel you. "Ecce elongavi fugiens, et mansi in solitudinem". I suggest "The art of knowing yourself" (or whatever the title in english is), a collection of memories by Arthur Schopenhauer, a fellow sensitive and loner.

[@robynhope219]

@@igotbluesdevils yes, I'm familiar with Schopenhauer 👍

[@rickp.6251]

If I did to others what was done to me I would be thrown into jail.

[@angelinahoward2428]

Brilliant guys. Thank you. Ps, Timmy what meditation did you do. I'd love to hear about that .

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

Hi i have just heard this i am in Northern Ireland

[@robynhope219]

Been feeling alone all my life not just bc i'm an only child, also bc i was raised on hate. Their message was "hate family", which translated into hating my own. I gave one son up for adoption, Both sons hate me and want no part of me, and the feeling is mutual. Can anyone relate to this awfulness?

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

I have a full ss report here abd a client and it explains everything

[@paulward4395]

Doug Riggs is an expert on trauma, would be great to hear him on your pod cast.

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

I am soeaking to myself lol ad usual;!!!!!

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

But i jnow what that was was i feek now now atfer trauma and stull dont feel

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

Would love to neet you i am in Northern Ireland

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

O dont that bkni need help i 💬 nj i need to share that we can ve ok after Moral injury

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

I suffer myself and no one understands

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

I have started a charity here James . We are women who have been f by the COURTS. Wr have all veen raped abd thw justice system had caused shite;

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

Yeah i feel ya stiken cars lol

[@leeboriack8054]

Adult trauma is difficult to recover from, imagine a child experiencing trauma, w a limited vocabulary w out concepts to explain to an adult in order to get help.

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

Sorry but these conditions i have found in my clients and nyself untul i learned they were labeling ne

[@robynhope219]

Not sure what he means by "recover"...i think we can agree that all traumatized ppl are damaged. Whether one recovers would depend on the kind and degree of trauma...no? If a parent locks a kid into a closet for ten yrs, kid will unlikely recover from the damage.

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

Sorry i was innocent and my parents were bot right!!!!

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

No its a curse by God look at Jacob? A deciver. He was tgw same until the Lord got hin and called him Isreal and forgive him x

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

Sorry bi ine answers me so i rant

[@geraldinemcauley6981]

No one listens now