9 Phrases Emotionally Intelligent People Avoid

[@juliakristinamah]

What's one thing that connected with you or created a shift from this video?

[@christineclarke9063]

I love all your videos and i connect so much with your content and how you deliver them. Thankyou.

[@laylavaziri3504]

I sometimes tell myself that I'm confused about certain social situations. I'm scared I'm a bit socially "wrong". But, I can definitely decide to think in a way that I think is most useful to me and others. I never thought my feelings of confusion could be related to decision making, and that it's not about the "correct thought" but what I choose to think. I'm excited to try applying this, the theory makes sense (to me at least). Thanks!

[@silentgrove7670]

My belief that I am stuck keeps me stuck.

[@TheMk596]

I love all your videos, this one really helped me "the stuck" is my current problem that is hard to go away. Thank you Julia.

[@juliakristinamah]

@@christineclarke9063 Thank you.

[@sarahj.7652]

1. I'm a terrible person 2. That person is a terrible person 3. I can't do it 4. I'm stuck 5. I'm confused 6. I have no reason to struggle 7. I can't handle/stand this feeling 8. I shouldn't be having this feeling 9. My thoughts are my truth

[@ron_r]

Thanks Sarah! I love it when Julias videos are summarized and i can read her points again. It helps memorising them and actualy try to implement them in day to day🙏

[@sarahj.7652]

Ron R you're so welcome! I agree with you, we still have to watch the elaboration of each phrase to fully understand.

[@rdjg5162]

Thank you for listing these. I was going to ask if it is possible to get a transcript of this video. Now, I can just listen and take notes with her restructured thoughts.

[@jc73871]

Does anyone think "I'm DONE!!!" should be included??

[@sarahj.7652]

jc73871 time stamp? Or feel free to add it up if I missed something . But I think this is the 9 phrases 👍

[@Rob9mm]

"Curious instead of critical" - excellent

[@juliakristinamah]

One of my favourites. Glad it connected with you too.

[@brandynewman2871]

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[@brucebarker9153]

Chili that was mistake with all those numbers symbols but while I can really resonate identify with everything you're saying you're speaking directly to heart and soul and emotional intelligence Pax everything social intelligence to at mind-body-spirit connection so valuable thank you for everything you're the best keep on keeping on all the best Bruce Parker in the Great Lakes State of Michigan go green

[@silentgrove7670]

"The quality of our lives is often determined by the quality of the questions we are asking ourselves." I know someone understands on a deep level when they say such a thing from having looked at themselves and been courageous to undergo the necessary transformation . I am struggling on I'm stuck. Thank you for framing it in a way I can find power again.

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks for being here and always sharing such great insight.

[@shan6033]

I used to scold myself all the time when I made a mistake. One thing that helped me turn it around is when I hear that voice, I say "I hear you. But this is not helpful, and only hurts me from making progress." It lets the negative voice feel heard but redirects the attention back towards being compassionate with myself. Thanks Julia, this is such a timely reminder.

[@kirstenvzumba9246]

Great self talk!! Love this! And I will use it. Thanks!

[@shan6033]

@@kirstenvzumba9246 I am glad you like it Kirsten. Feel free to let me know how it goes after you use it! :)

[@fatimasamira3695]

Amazing

[@frankonolfi1966]

I will scold myself out loud and sometimes punish myself for Fxcking up. It's discipline

[@shan6033]

@@fatimasamira3695 Thanks Fatima. If you do try it, let me know how it goes for you.

[@Leslie-x6y]

You have an excellent way of explaining all our issues so we hear it you’re a very good therapist

[@danielleb.7107]

First phrase: 3:32

[@TheSylvesterKitty]

Hope more people find your channel. It's free therapy. Thank you!💛

[@lacolemoore6425]

Julia, I’m soo grateful for your videos. I felt like I was going crazy, but slowly, I have been feeling much better about myself. Thank you sooo much 🙏🏾

[@Grace8381]

LaCole Moore Praise God ☺️

[@juliakristinamah]

I'm so happy to hear that - thanks for taking the time to let me know.

[@irishsingersongwritertessp4223]

I agree. Thank you Julia. I was texting someone yesterday cause I was triggered and I stopped and I’m so grateful to have avoided drama and stress. But also because the other person may have been having a bad day. Since your videos I have taken a step back and thought about things you’ve said

[@zZizify]

The confusion part really struck me. I think that's why I'm struggling so much to trust my own thoughts and opinions. The reason I'm afraid to trust myself, without verifying with someone trustworthy first, is because I've been taught to believe my parents thoughts and opinions to be the right one (been gaslighted a lot). So if I turne out to be wrong, that would mean they were right and it was stupid of me to ever misstrust them. But I'm getting better & I hadn't even noticed myself calling this fear confusion, so thank you!

[@melyndafrazer1962]

Making a mistake, taking it as failure, but more so as REGRET!!!!!!! Huge for me and then how I treat myself afterward...really kick myself and it gets bad because the mistakes pile up and feeling badly just piles on. Thankfully I’m listening to this video and others, thank you Julia! So many of your videos have connected with me in almost every point. I’ve been watching you for about 2 months or so. Thank you. I’ve down loaded and bought the journal and trusting yourself... I just bought today the 9 ways of something , but I didn’t get the email and I can’t remember at the moment what I paid for, oops, I’ll find it. Thank you so much for being here for us.

[@joecrookston]

Call you in. Glo!

[@ellenm7806]

While I agree with your comment "I'm confused" can mean I'm afraid of making the wrong choice, I do say I'm confused bc sometimes I can't process or remember all the different points that someone is making, so I am confused. However, I love listening to you and your talks are always helpful with understanding/ processing my inner struggles. Thank you for all you give here for free on YT; it's greatly appreciated!

[@amandac3362]

1st, I relate to this, being on both the giving and receiving end since I have adhd. 2nd, I think her point is that in that case it would be better to directly state what you need , instead of saying I'm confused which sort of makes you sound like you have a problem, to instead focus on the solution and choose to express yourself by saying , Lets go over one point at a time or I'm struggling to follow all your points lets break this down together , or in my opinion the best way to do this is by practicing reflecting listening and say okay every couple minutes I need to summarize what you said to ensure Im following you, or let me write notes ,or lets agree on the point or goal or takeaway of this meeting or discussion before we start, I believe her point in all of this is to focus on dealing with these moments by focusing on the solution not the problem, instead of claiming that youre confused, practice doing what it takes to find clarity...just my thoughts though

[@admirbarucija2018]

So excited to watch after class, I’ve been getting more emotionally intelligent lately, but as always have got more work to do!! I hope you’re having a great week, sending lots of positivity your way! ❤️

[@Grace8381]

Admir Barucija Way to go ☺️

[@admirbarucija2018]

Yay! Jam thank you so much 😇

[@juliakristinamah]

GOOD for you Admir. Way to show up and do the work.

[@admirbarucija2018]

Julia Kristina Counselling Thank you so much! I truly appreciate it. :)

[@Quinnel]

I'm definitely by far my worst critic. All for the reasons you said, thinking it is to motivate myself to be and do better. And I know most of the time i'm not a terrible person, but my emotions take over, and then I go into this very quickly escalating hatred to myself. My gf always calls me out for it, which is good- she gets upset at me whenever I hit or slap myself.. So I definitely do it less and less when she's around- but when she's not around, I sometimes fall back into this. This is something I really want to focus on improving and getting out of my system. I actually teared up just hearing you talk about it, because it reminds me of the abusive relationship I've been stuck with for a very long time.

[@suebennison]

I've only just found your videos. I'm going through them all and loving your content and the way you deliver. Thank you so much for giving so much insight and encouragement. I'm glued!

[@ItsWillieGirl.1960]

Julia, your videos are awesome.....as like YOU!! Thanks for all you do!!

[@juliakristinamah]

Thank YOU for being here and being so supportive.

[@AyaanAhmado]

This channel is so underrated it’s crazy I’m becoming a better and a stronger person day by day.

[@takondwazainga3908]

Love your content…I was introduced to this channel by a friend..truly grateful

[@mariagyg1989]

Actually my exams are ahead. I was battling with illness for a long time now i am okay. I didn't well for my exams but it's quit easy for me to prepare myself as i am studious person. Now i am little bit depressed so i use to watch your motivational videos that heals me. Thanks alot Julia for your supporting video i appreciate your efforts. Keep going

[@laurenkaufman1240]

So motivational and inspirational. Just what I needed. Thank you

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you found it helpful Lauren.

[@lauromartinsdagama8942]

Julia, someone has told me the same thing when we talk.they also told me to learn to listen and to learn what to say

[@ilovelife3487]

Hi Julia, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and knowledge with us! Years ago I constantly thought negatively, horrible things about myself, thing's I wouldn't dream of saying to others. By chance I found a book by Louise Hay "you can heal your life" she says exactly what you are saying here, I became very aware of what I was doing and changed the thoughts immediately for a positive or loving thought. Basically I spoke to 5 year old me. I also started meditating. I can't even go into detail how much it's changed my life for the better! The main thing for me was it made me healthy, I had fibromyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis, I have been fully discharged from hospital, on no meds for 3 years! I love myself now, I love everyone/thing. I am so grateful every day I'm in love with life. ❤x

[@yvonnestolk528]

Fantastic explanation thank you Christina ❤️ 🙏

[@tanyardavidson]

Your explanation of someone lashing out as a means for them to offset their pain was exactly what I needed to hear. And understanding it but not necessarily excusing it. I am really enjoying your Boundaries Bootcamp course. Working through it slowly. Will def be joining Shift Society in the future. Keep on inspiring and teaching 🌈👌

[@kingly6151]

It's amazing, the power we have over our own lives, when we learn how to collaborate with our minds :)

[@juliakristinamah]

Isn't that the truth!

[@alissoncpnunes]

When you said about some people that gets paralysed because they are too perfectionist and can do no wrong I remember myself in my teens and early adult life. I had to work a lot over that and I am still working on it. I didn't know there were another way to see things.

[@Musicandartlover2332]

Wow! Love this so much! I felt like this was a therapy session! Thank you!

[@DavidSamuel7]

Hey Julia, I am very happy to have found your channel!great work 👍

[@rosemargriffith]

Fantastic video, thanks Julia. I have often judged my own feelings as being 'wrong' or unacceptable, throughout my life. Going to be more conscious of that now.

[@leeclarke8993]

This helps my self esteem. Thank you. Waiting for your books.

[@juliakristinamah]

Coming next spring ;-)

[@MrSir00007]

Hi Julia. Fantastic as always :) I do think that no. 8 could have had some more coverage. Maybe because this is the one I'm struggling with the most. Looking forward to 1th of October. Hope I can enroll in the Shift Society :).

[@productgirl]

Hello Julia, I am Lydia from Nigeria 🇳🇬 and I came here from Clyde Lee Dennis’s 7 good minutes podcast. Learnt so much from this episode and from you and I have to say thank you for sharing all this knowledge! I’m grateful for you! 💕

[@productgirl]

I connected most to saying I’m stuck, I always knew deep down that I just wasn’t sure how to go about fixing things and would love for someone to just wave a wand and fix my fears and my life but then I said to myself I’m stuck for so long I began to believe I truly was mentally and physically stuck. I know better now. I’m going to ask myself the hard questions and the right questions and I’m so eager now to put in the efforts and to continue working deliberately on myself and to not fear regret or the possibility of it but to make informed decisions, and if I’m the future regret comes, I’m going to remember to feel that emotion and move from it because it’s really what makes life life, the ups and unavoidable downs. Thank you so much Julia, God bless you!!

[@productgirl]

I can’t wait to share this epiphany video with my friends and family and coworkers

[@chaunceyraiford8245]

Thank you!

[@erwinbrubacker7488]

Yes, we need to keep things positive; the Holy Spirit is positive & doesnot dwell in negativety. Love yer contents.

[@estefanyrodz]

Thank you

[@flowergirlicart3949]

Hi im Traci, glad I found you.

[@monicadewit4281]

Thank so much for your amazing videos, Julia! You are a blessing!

[@paulinepasierowski1201]

Julia, I have been following your blog for about a year now and I am enjoying and learning so much. Thank you

[@annielin2894]

We are very medicated very well said, Julia! It's crazy what a world we are living in.

[@jenniferedmondson5019]

I am grateful for you.

[@Joseph-x7f8u]

I listen to your videos like every other day. Ty for the love

[@estebanmartinez667]

An amazing video. This is very valuable. I value your advice. So helpful. Makes me feel that I'm doing the right thing despite someone else thinking I'm not coming from a place of love. They use hurtful phrases, feel threatened or defensive. Anger acts out and it turns me away.

[@presentlybikepacking2535]

This is so helpful on our path to emotional health, vs being blown around by every word or feeling that we either receive from someone or say in our heads to ourselves. Thank you for reminding us that you also struggle with these, but know there is a healthy way to move through our lives in more positive ways. While I am determined to grow my emotional intelligence so I fully show up for the 2nd 1/2 of my life, I have walked away from News cycles for now. So far I am 60 days sober from my previous news addiction and I feel so much more positive! It doesn’t mean I don’t want to help the world, but right now, I am helping myself become stronger, more positive and resilient. The regurgitating negativity in news is wounding and stirs up anger in me.- but, yes, I will definitely vote!

[@MillwallMike]

A beautiful lady who is obviously passionate a out helping others!👏👏👏👏 Thank you.

[@gloriapalafox7020]

Your videos are outstanding! They have helped me so much that I have shared them with my sisters and friends. So very grateful for your work to support the many of us that don’t have access to other resources!

[@m.saleem9249]

Thank you Julia for sharing your video. Light, blessings, happiness.

[@justice77justice39]

This so helps....thank you!!

[@bobburch2151]

You are amazing. Thank you so much

[@robertpicobancroft3869]

Thank You Julia, great videos and information appreciated

[@felicitykrah2909]

Gems!💎 Thank you!🙏🏾

[@laurayates4033]

Super insightful and very helpful! Thank you! I often say I am stuck and you are right on point!

[@maryannegiangregorio2162]

Thank you! I just discovered your community. I have done all of the above!! I appreciate the insights. Very valuable!!

[@Jan-uo3so]

Julia, thank you kindly for sharing your knowledge with all of us. You have touched on so many topics that I didn't realize I needed to know more about, or even discuss with someone. You have helped me tremendously and I look forward to many more of your videos. Again, thank you very much for all that you do.

[@naograndi1214]

Thanks.. you are doing a great job. Keep going.

[@vernaharris4700]

I appreciate your personal examples. Thank you for your transparency.😊❤

[@MsWaggydog]

Excellent advice thank you 💜

[@Diachachimba]

I’m kind of a late bloomer to your videos. They are extremely helpful and appreciated.

[@monicaconstantin5625]

BINGO!! Hi I just want to say thank you so much for all of your time you give! You are so helpful and explain things so well. I love your quotes too. I am so thankful you are here! I am so patient that it almost backfires on me at times, does that make sense?

[@sandyj4555]

Hello. Rarely comment but do love your videos!! They are so eye opening!

[@sompornwilson98]

Hi Julia I was like you are very hopeful about my life I have a lot to learn from you thank you so much Julia

[@bobnah9454]

You are so right about stuck! I think you just helped me break through and follow through with a project

[@GODwillexalt4938]

Well, what can say ... "🎯" Me down to the "T"... Life's lessons(not mistakes) allows us to learn & blossom into a better person. (Quote by a better~sensible me) Thanks Julia for your awesome corner!!!💙

[@samanthabeduschi1]

Thanks a lot for the great teachings! I'm an English teacher, and for some time, I've been putting my emotional intelligence into practice every single day. And I must say it definitely works! Now I'm being able to help my students to develop their confidence a lot more efficiently. This feels so good! We learn how to accept our emotions and deal with them, and then, without even realizing it, we're actually helping others. 😁

[@dominicdemercurio7933]

Thank you I really appreciate your work!

[@sevenhoursbehind2048]

u gained a new subscriber ♡ thank you for your work ♡

[@craigosborne8667]

Hello Julia 1st time listener to your videos that’s for the help thanks.

[@cattymed4419]

STEP BACK”. the most wonderful word...I Have a Habit of taking other people’s words personally.....Thank You Helpful 24 min video... Wondering If You Have PODCAST ! 👍

[@juliakristinamah]

I don't as of yet. Too many things on the go, but maybe at some point.

[@AnybodyCanFarmOG]

Great video.

[@jc73871]

Love you content. Right on the mark for the day I had!!! Great words.

[@marybartasis6854]

You are so helpful.. mind shift... thank YOU!!!!!!!

[@chrismcevoy2503]

You can do it.

[@bunniescatcher]

Keeping some perspective and critically evaluating thoughts before accepting them as truth was a good reminder for me 😏 Oh and also trusting your self to handle big emotions rather than trying to avoid and distract!

[@AbdullahArRafi]

Understanding why someone behaves in a certain way≠Excusing or supporting it

[@juliakristinamah]

Truth.

[@aparajita1in]

Loved this. Will come back to this. Just wish the title did not say " emotionally intelligent" ppl avoid. You see, it should probably say things all ppl can learn to avoid saying.

[@joecrookston]

The phrase I heard that our family says is: Can’t Never Did Nothing”.

[@Grace8381]

Joe Crookston You’re the beginning of a new family. ☺️

[@mrazik131]

When I listen to you I understand why I was stuck with talk therapy!

[@kirstenvzumba9246]

Just curious, why were you stuck with talk therapy?

[@eugeneventer7155]

Amazing advise

[@kimmig769]

thank you so mcuh ...this is so helpful, making things really clear for me

[@MakinMovies7]

What a gem.

[@jenjen2502]

Thank you for your videos. I get a lot from them.

[@susanmugo6570]

Am learning so much from you

[@marian7787]

New sub! I find your words super powerfullll....I love it

[@susanmoreno2444]

This is so important to me you have no idea how the advice you're giving really is helping me. I am a recent widow there are many things that I need to accomplish so thank you so very much

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Hello again Julia.

[@gisella1350]

Thank you so much for taking the time to enlighten. I am in my 70's now, where were you in my, 20's 30's 40's? Obviously not even born. But I thank you today. You are so common sense realistic, again thank you, you will help a lot of people, especially people who are prone to being manipulated as I was. I did say, was, you live and learn.

[@paula-elizabeth]

Dr Travis Bradberry is a Fantastic Expert on Emotional Intelligence - His articles are very reader friendly. X

[@juliakristinamah]

Yes! He is fantastic. As is Justin Bariso.

[@8bit_paul]

1:35 Absolutely lovely, thank you so much.

[@mamabear5488]

Ty!💖

[@iconmusic9381]

hello Julia im watching your video

[@deannahamiltonwatkins4843]

Stuck to me is I don't know which way to go and I need help!

[@hijodecally]

Hello and thanks for this

[@chrishorbatt3504]

Other people have it worse? My parents favorite saying. "Stop complaining, other people have it worse".

[@Ross_Embossed]

Thank you for *UN-STUCKING* us with that incredible explanation. I've just watched about a dozen of your vids this morning, and THIS WAS THE BEST MOMENT OF ALL 🙏🏼 Thank you! We all need to acknowledge the *#ActivationEnergy* we need to overcome our challenges 🙏🏼

[@reemadil5628]

hey @juliaa can you talk about how not to be toxic in our relationships with ourselves or other? i would love to hear this topic in your words

[@silascochran9705]

Good morning Julia thank you for your videos🌄🦅🇺🇸💪

[@juliakristinamah]

You're welcome Silas. And thank you for showing up and being so supportive.

[@malaymondal280]

I watch your video two times in a day daily.....beautiful

[@Crazydoglady.]

BRAVO!!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@angelchen5303]

hii i luv ur videos! can u please also do one on: how to know if someone is negatively impacting your thoughts/thought patterns? i really really need help with this one right now ❤ thank you.

[@sierrasalgado8414]

I am curious to know if this helps people that struggle with PTSD/OCD/ANXIETY because I just feel like I’m at a dead end, I’ve tried so many things that I feel like I have no options! I AM TIRED 😔