6 Beliefs that Are Secretly Making You Unhappy

[@yourcalmplace]

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

[@LanaiahTaylor]

Thank you for those kind words💛✨!

[@KausarKhan123]

Thanks, we need this is a good reminder

[@juliakristinamah]

beautiful words. Thank you.

[@jodie-b4g]

So sweet xx

[@idaloup6721]

I needed to read this. Thank you from France 💜

[@chrismcevoy2503]

You’re right Julia the antidote to anxiety is trust.

[@dkdawe1]

“Pain is inevitable... suffering is optional”... that right there!

[@juliakristinamah]

power in that.

[@amiraabuelsaadat]

I love you ❤ You are my guru Thank you for your help.

[@psycheread3258]

My stepfather used to say all the time to "Let go and let God" It has helped, and so has "Have the courage to change the things you can." from the Serenity Prayer. Julia's way of breaking things down and explaining things in different ways is comforting and inspiring.

[@juliakristinamah]

so glad you found this helpful - and yes, I love the Serenity Prayer too -it's really powerful.

[@latrecelockett4930]

These videos are amazing self-development thank you for them being free because I would not be able to pay for them your a real deal the best therapist I have ever listened too

[@chrismcevoy2503]

You don’t have full control Julia you’re absolutely right.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Pain is inevitable Julia you’re right.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Life doesn’t always have to be comfortable Julia right on.

[@pierh7685]

Am I the only one who gets excited when her videos are longer than usual? 😂 The level of knowledge and self awareness I’ve received from watching this one time, does not compare to what I’ve unlocked the second time. I needed this message and I’m so thankful to you, for sharing your time with us and teaching us how to activate that incredible versions of ourselves. You’ve changed my life and continue to do so. Thank you thank you thank you.

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’m proud of myself for mostly resolving this issue, self-limiting beliefs can be really difficult to get away from!

[@1337ofDiscreet1]

first comment⬆⬆⬆⬆😃

[@juliakristinamah]

Great for you!

[@admirbarucija2018]

@@juliakristinamah ☺️☺️

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Life isn’t always wine and roses Julia.❤

[@chrismcevoy2503]

We should think responsible Julia you’re right.

[@lindafuhrman3041]

Wow, you nailed it! Covid literally shook every ounce of our comfort and control. Having you to listen to has been enormously helpful. Thank you.

[@juliakristinamah]

Grateful to have you here Linda - it's been one heck of a year, hasn't it?

[@Dundasdavid]

This is my first exposure to Julia - it won't be my last.

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you're here David - welcome!

[@ladybaabaa3294]

Julia's fantastic! I only found her more recently and she's one of only 3 mental health professionals on here that can actually make me cry. lol. That may sound bad, but it's really not! If I cry, it's because the words and concepts are finally getting through! 💞

[@wg8290]

You’re the counselor I never knew I needed!

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Never assume anything Julia.❤

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Nothing is ever certain Julia.

[@antonboludo8886]

26:20 - Undo and re-build. This is the core of self-transformation.

[@rebeccajones9757]

I struggled with this when I was dealing with chronic illness. I didn't know if I could make plans or not. I hated to cancel because I didn't feel good. So, at some point, I had to decide to make plans and assume that I would be fine. I did make accommodations like looser clothing, or shorter trips, but I had to make plans for something! Giving up making plans really sucks the joy out of my life.

[@juliakristinamah]

I agree. Make the plans - hope for the best and let yourself feel good in the anticipation.

[@lynnscorner6587]

I so look forward to your videos , it seems like every time you put out a video I’m dealing with a lot of those issues. This really helped me this morning, just not letting my thoughts overpower me.I am guilty of Trying to control everything that comes my way and always comparing my life to others. I know I have to get control of these issues or I’m gonna miss out on so many amazing things. thank you for your content it really helps😌

[@juliakristinamah]

No guilt Lynn - just awareness and then doing the work toward something different. Really glad you're here.

[@davidvitale9338]

Hi Julia - I know you’re in Canada and I’m in the States, but I still want to refer to you as a National Treasure. What you just described is so accurate and usable, once again, it’s life changing. Thank you 🙏

[@brianhotaling5849]

An International Treasure

[@misskankalin]

This video was very much needed! For a very long time (up until now actually) I thought I had to reach that certain point in my life where everything is fine. I was living in an illusion which made me feel empty most of the time. So your message was eye-opening. Thank you!

[@mikeaf390]

I totally understand....I been living the same way....man is it draining and difficult.

[@knowledgeseeker4116]

😮 The sad and unfortunate story about the cancer patient will change my life philosophy moving forward….I say unfortunate but his mindset is one of the greatest gift to us…. I’m stopping with the entitlement mindset of less to no pain and mostly pleasure. AS A HUMAN BEING pain and the unfortunate times are part of the life arrangement so when they happen and they will I am blessed and grateful to be participating and be a part of life 🤗🙏🏿 I’m so grateful ☺️

[@narwhalTopHat]

Two years ago, I had myself checked up at a hospital for any complications, because I felt like there's something wrong going on with me, only to find out that there never was any complications other than anxiety. It was triggered one night, a few weeks before it continued to get worse, it was the first time I've experienced fear in a way that it felt like I was in extreme danger even tho everything is fine and well. The doctor told me, "Happiness is a choice", and never did I really understand it until I watched your video. I let myself suffer for too long, always looking for a cause or something to blame, for why I suddenly got anxiety disorder, even tho I'm already told that anxiety runs in my family. But I always knew, that it was me making it worse. Two years, and I'm still struggling with it, no job, dealt with numerous problems along with existential crisis, burnout, depression, and now, the ongoing pandemic. I'm 23 years old and I felt like my life already ended when I graduated from college. I keep telling myself, there was no reason for this to happen to me, I was so happy then, I was always grateful for what I had, how come it's so different now. And that's where it hit me. The only difference between now and then, is that back then I chose to be happy, I had trust in myself, I knew about life having bad days or even years of it, but always believed in myself, that I can handle it, despite the pain. Your words are just so great to hear, pain indeed is inevitable, suffering however, it's a choice, much like happiness. Thank you.

[@kaypowell407]

To me saying happiness is a choice is like saying that we have to be happy in spite of all the shit we go through, whatever it is. Some people have that nature, others do not. I feel very trapped and like an hostage

[@rhondapelletier2141]

You sound just like me, but I’m SOO HAPPY, you are AWARE NOW......& NOT SUFFER for DECADES,Needlessly.... I’m NOT GIVING UP,She has really helped me..... esp THIS VIDEO.... & I actual understand what exactly she is saying❤️🙏🌿,

[@narwhalTopHat]

@@kaypowell407 it's not that "we have to be", it's that we can always 'choose' to be. There is such thing as a false positivity. You need to feel sad as well if you actually are going thru something. But staying there for the rest of your life, being sad, is the same as trying to stay happy despite of the bad things happening around. Allow yourself to feel stuff, but learn where and when to draw the line. Easier said than done, but better than not trying at all.

[@narwhalTopHat]

@@rhondapelletier2141 that's good to hear. Keep holding on dude, keep going.

[@antonboludo8886]

Another great video. Many thanks to you. "A belief is not an idea that the mind possesses, a belief is an idea that possesses the mind.".

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks Anton - glad you're here.

[@rhondapelletier2141]

Yes!

[@JCIK33]

Thank you❤ what your grandad said was powerful. He was a saint

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I would love to take a trip to Hawaii Julia. Have fun!❤

[@jamesw.1306]

This video answered a lot of “mysteries” I had as to why it is challenging at times to find happiness and contentment in everyday living.

[@knowledgeseeker4116]

Good to hear! Yeah….The good comes with the bad and this video reminded me of this….we can’t rip December (winter) off the calendar and just keep spring as they both are inseparable but in December we can get wiser, stronger and better…..Even when we can’t overcome challenges we can at least get a little bit better and smarter and knowledgeable 😊

[@thenebraskan6977]

Thanks for the awesome video JULIA ! You are right about impermanence, everything is temporary. According to Buddhist philosophy everything is impermanent. 1. Everything that is born is impermanent and bound to die. 2. Everything that is joined is impermanent and bound to come apart. 3. Everything that is stored is impermanent and bound to run out. 4. Everything that is built is impermanent and bound to collapse. Everything that goes up is impermanent and bound to come . I got a copy of your new book, it is absolutely wonderful. Thanks fo being you.

[@aurinkobay7118]

why am I crying (sadness) right now?? Thank you Julia :)

[@dirtbagleftist5412]

My favorite saying is, happiness is not a destination, it’s a choice

[@yoramalon5273]

Julia kristina is the only person i know, that gets to me. Thank you for this video. If you think you win, you win. If you think you lost, you already lost. I admit to picking at people's minds/psych. Nasty habit. Cant help it. Worse, i use a speakcard. I might be transpassing on private personal human domain.

[@kaentboy5142]

You’re a saviour, Julia. Thank you for this frank assessment of life. Definitely leading to several mindset shifts for me 😎🦾

[@CedrickBagleyDaSurvivor]

Her voice is really relaxing, for some reason. Sometimes I put her playlists on repeat and fall asleep.

[@raiderlove5923]

This is another great video. I am always having trouble believing I am good enough. I think this stems from always being told when I was growing up that I will never amount to anything.

[@rhondapelletier2141]

It was a LIE...... Forgive them.... ( don’t forget, but FORGIVE❤️🙏🌿, it will HEAL YOU)......you are AMAZING & are part of All of Us, conscious

[@raiderlove5923]

@@rhondapelletier2141 thank you for your insight and help to understand.

[@waynehendrix4806]

Most of my unhappiness comes from those that are unhappy in their own lives, interrupting my bubble. Without outside influences, I'm happy as a pig in ... stuff. Hawaii is awesome. Hope you get to Maui. Good stuff.

[@bethgregory5202]

This really hit home with me this morning! I have so many self limiting beliefs! I'm going to start working on this beginning today! Thank you for your insight!🥰🙏

[@JDMUWFGIS]

Holy macaroni. I needed to hear this to start my day! Thanks, Julia

[@juliakristinamah]

so glad it connected - thanks for being here.

[@tiarajessy9491]

Thankyou so much for talking about suffering with uncertainty,it helped me a lot......I was really feeling down because I felt like I had so many questions unanswered and that made me slow down on my life and be negative and was feeling stuck. What u said made me feel better because...Yes! We don't really need to know everything to be fine and confident❤️lysm

[@juliakristinamah]

So glad that one connected with you Tiara - thanks for being here.

[@tiarajessy9491]

@@juliakristinamah thankyou more ♡

[@rhondapelletier2141]

Me too !!!!!

[@aida1128]

Thanks so much for the information, its so great to hear you say you want to help the world be a little better.

[@jmm639]

You help me look and things that I WOULD NEVER know or think about before. Definitely exercises my conscious mind.

[@Leslie-x6y]

Excellent understanding of our thoughts and how they affect us thanks

[@annie.bo.briggs]

I never realize soon enough that my thoughts are getting out of control so I can stop doing it in time, before I start losing sleep 🙄

[@sandyyanes2337]

Love. LOVE your videos. I'm 70 years old and desperately NEED THIS. Grazie

[@sandyyanes2337]

3 X husband's because trying to please them. Single for 12 years. Boundaries is what I'm working on.. ❤

[@captaindan1000]

The comparing one really speaks to me. I know exactly what parts of my life I want improved. So when I see anyone who is abundant where I feel deficient, it's going to be something I have to deal with.

[@teresapatrick742]

As usual, Julia hits the nail on the head! The part about control is spot on and something I deal with every day.

[@treearoha]

I love listening to you because of how passionate you are when you share your knowledge. Thankyou for all the help you've given me when I've needed it.

[@floalejandroguillermoorego4824]

Thank you...needed this.

[@RalphARoo]

Thank you for doing this. I love your videos and the help you provide

[@sabinejane14]

Julia - you are my go to for personal development/ therapy advice ❤ Thank you! x

[@chrismcevoy2503]

You’re absolutely right Julia life is full of ups and downs.

[@johnziegler9974]

Wonderful video! This is so me. Definitely going to watch this several times & work on myself. Thank you!

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Bad things do happen whether we like it or not.

[@brucepauline5675]

Excellent discussion , sage advice would be a Happier World if more people heeded these 6 simple guidelines.Thank You Julia !!!!!!

[@christophersteele5326]

I am constantly amazed when I hear her say, "These one's"

[@BB-ux5wd]

Wow you are a gem . Thank you for all that you give to the world.

[@lttlod1]

Oh geez, I've got all of these very strongly I thought you were reading my mind. Going to need to re-watch this several times. I think I grew up with so much death around me, financial uncertainty, and beliefs about myself and relationships that have just been reinforced by others over the years. Changing these deep seeded beliefs is difficult. I like how you said that I can think the thoughts that create good feelings. I can just choose that because I want to. I'm going to try and remember that!

[@rhondapelletier2141]

Me❤️🌿🌿

[@fathamaak1776]

This was really good to hear. It makes me feel as though my anxiety is normal and that it can in fact be resolved with shifting my perspective. It is good to hear a professional say this and I feel as though I am going to be better equipped to cope with my thoughts and life itself when practicing so many of these suggestions.

[@juliakristinamah]

Great to hear! Good for you for investing in your mental wellbeing.

[@katherinesmith9194]

Great talk- very pertinent to me!

[@fayem1336]

Great message! I need to change my habit of worrying about my adult children every day!

[@juliakristinamah]

It's tough when you want those you love to be safe, but the worrying is only taking away from your happiness, and not helping your children stay safe. What could you do instead of worrying?

[@AlilishSuki]

That first one hit anyone else so hard. I literally put this on pre-panic attack. As soon I started feeling uncomfortable and a little overwhelmed.

[@juliakristinamah]

did you get curious about what came up for you with that first one?

[@RightYouAre]

Incredible wise words. Listening over and over to retain these nuggets of wisdom, thank you.

[@finest972]

All of these are me, especially the control & anxiety. I’m working on it. Love your videos! Thanks for your tips :)

[@rhondapelletier2141]

Ditto

[@thelaughingfoxx]

This too shall pass 🙏❤️

[@keithmuller223]

Brilliant ...one of the very best lectures on this subject... going to re watch and note these bullet points with notes on personal experiences relating to each..... thank you so much J you are such a great inspiration ... simplicity at it's very best ...x

[@Xyz-wy5zf]

The fact that I have been doing literally of these things recently makes sense as to why I feel so anxious and unhappy Thanku so much Julia you are really helping me understand my life much better I always feel good when I listen to a video of yours ♥︎♥︎♥︎♥︎

[@wisdomoftheyogis1599]

Hi Julia, just wanted to say I really like your videos and learn a lot from them. You have an amazing presentation style that is easy to listen to, and simplifies complicated aspects of psychology for novice listeners. Keep up the good work and Hakuna Matata!

[@positive78263]

Love your videos!

[@Maddsine]

Thank you, Julia. I already recognized my struggle in just the first belief. IAlways thinking that one day I will get to the point where everything is finally easy and good and I have "resolved" all my (perceived) problems is keeping me unhappy, and not able to enjoy a lot of things. But on a side note: how you talked about the pandemic and "not having freedom" made it sound like you saw the measures and restrictions just as "freedoms being taken away" and disregard that they actually save lives, and that maybe they were there for a reason, other than preventing you from travel and people from going to mass events and consuming... I am sure this is not how you intended it to come across, but with so many anti science/anti vaxx/denial BS being spread, it matters how we talk about attempts to control the spread of disease...just my humble opnion.

[@mamabear5488]

Perfect video! Ty so much💞We love watching you!💗🙏

[@zoemakeupartist09]

This was great and interesting to see how these all play into each other. Your trip to Hawaii for example, your choosing to go and choosing to think it'll all work out and you'll go BUT (what you didn't say but I take away from everything you've just said) it's not CERTAIN, you are aware of this and know you can't CONTROL the outcome but you TRUST that whatever happens YOU will be able to deal with it because life can be UNCOMFORTABLE but you will learn from it, you'll be ok in the end and will focus on the good and move forward because of the above. You're not COMPARING your holiday disaster to someone else on Instagram who may be having the best holiday, your focusing on YOUR JOURNEY 🙂 that's how I tie everything you've just said together if that makes sense. Thanks for another great video!

[@razmatazzdt]

Love your videos. Have really helped

[@preethishukla8403]

Thank you Julia for this video. I needed it

[@sorenkierkegaard3344]

I just love everything about you and your videos. Watching you speak is itself healing. You tackle subjects that have touched me on a very deep level, since I do suffer from a lot of what you talk about in your videos. I'm an Egyptian by the way, and I am glad to be able to connect to your ideas by watching your invaluable content. You know, what you say about what happens to people in America becomes double fold - or even triple fold- in the case of someone like me having to live in a Middle Eastern and a third world country. You see Egypt is really rising from a very deep slumber. And it is becoming a promising country in many respects, but I believe I will not be even alive to see radical changes ( of the nature that would really restore my faith and hope in a better future) take place, because although the country is changing rapidly for the better, I happen to be already 42. Sorry for rambling a bit.

[@Nurse4Life255]

Thanks for your videos 😊

[@ron_r]

Thank you so much for this video!!🧡💛💚💙💜 I'll try to implement these thoughts to myself especially focusing on the good and avoid thinking everything will go wrong... i'll try to get the most of my 40%. Thanks again for this video Julia and i hope you have fun in Hawaii💗 (I clicked the like of course)

[@karynb7781]

During these last 15+mo or so, say 18mo situation of the world, there's been a lot of simultaneous road construction this exact period. There's warning signage in every direction heading to work that reads 'Stay in Lane'. Stay in my lane? Are you kidding? Oddly, this had been an extremely helpful reminder. Just focus on my Own Business? I can do that! And your comments feel super-relevant to the worries of the economy and jobs in general at this time, even relationships and altered roles. Who Knows??? (Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own - timeless 'lane' advice)

[@camzvidad121]

These videos are REALLY amazing! thank you!

[@jamestitman6343]

Wow Julia's talk helped me to the truth to trust in Jehovah God 🙏 and Jesus Christ in every situation and you will find life will be easier with the true God on our and your side in life

[@positivemind1]

I am one of Jehovah's Witnesses too. This channel has helped me too. I thank Jehovah for helping me find this channel. I never realized how many of my own thoughts was causing so much unhappiness.

[@fathimanasreen5994]

What you've talked about is so true. Am tryna practice everything. Alhamdulillah. Thank you for making this video . I've found your videos always helpful. May Allah (god) bless & guide you ameen. Love from Kerala,India❤️

[@antonboludo8886]

Yes, this woman is excellent. I hear Kerala is a wonderful place.

[@psycheread3258]

Yes, "Let go and let God" is a saying my stepfather would say all the time.

[@juliakristinamah]

Thank you Kerala - I'm so glad it connected. Thanks for watching.

[@fathimanasreen5994]

@@antonboludo8886 yes indeed ✨

[@fathimanasreen5994]

@@juliakristinamah welcome always ❤️

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Nothing is ever perfect.

[@michelecoe5925]

Sending this to All my friends!!! Super informative!!!

[@grainneoconnor4030]

amazing what i need to work on

[@margaretelmajed5265]

Wise words, thank you.

[@angelisland22]

Really helpful, thank you Julia :)

[@carmenl9682]

Agreed! More people with managed minds definitely makes the world a better place! I hope one day mental health care can be accessible to everyone

[@bibianapatino]

Just amazing…

[@kathleen791]

Wow! I do all of this at certain times. Thank you for making this video. This is one video that I can and will play over and over❤

[@user-gz5mx2nd5p]

Great topic

[@emmaxu2001]

Oh my gosh, this just ticked all of my boxes! I'm doing everything you've talked about.

[@AvaThePrincess1st]

Hawaii is awesome! I just came back. Everything went well but you do have to get a covid test or be quarantined for 10 days. That was the only hold up. If you get that you’re going to have the best time. Oh and book the luau now! They are pre booked up until august :( I hope you have an awesome time I really loved it there!

[@ЕкатеринаСоловьева-ч9ц]

Thank you, Julia Christina! Very helpful 👍🙏❤️🌍

[@MissDoreen]

Thanks Julia 😊 I am listening to the video right now on KZbin. Much appreciation and respect! I hope you have a lovely day 💗 ☺🤙

[@garylouiehomes]

Really need this video this week. Thank you!

[@juliakristinamah]

Absolutely - glad you're here.

[@chrisdigitalartist]

Another timely video, coach! 💕🤗 #SeniorShifter #Shifter

[@chrismcevoy2503]

My dad’s father died of Cancer as well Julia in 1993.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

My mother’s brother died from Brain Cancer in 2022.

[@anthonette-o1g]

thankyou😊

[@alizaghimire743]

I love listening to you and learning .thankyou

[@edwinromilly4645]

• Luv the Addvice and guidance here Julia-😉 Life is Hard sometimes and we do the exact opposite of what we should do sometimes when life gets stressful and we’re under pressure. You do the wrong things even when you know better. The mind is indeed your battleground! Because it has so many little weaknesses. It becomes forgetful and insensible when it’s stressed. And the only way to conquer these weaknesses is to practice conquering them-to practice thinking better. What you need to remember is that the mind operates like a muscle, and just like every muscle in the human body, it needs to be exercised to gain and maintain strength. It needs to be trained daily to grow and develop gradually over time. If you haven’t pushed the mind in lots of little, positive ways over the course of time, of course it’ll crumble on the inevitable days that get overwhelmingly stressful..so make sure you aren’t in danger of living a life so soft and comfortable you die without ever realising your full potential!!!!!👍 peace🕊

[@RoadRunnergarage8570]

I'm also working really hard on not fearing the worst..... Again not easy to change that thinking but I'm trying really hard!