9 Reasons to Use the “No Contact Rule” After Cheating

There's a reason that therapists encourage the "no contact rule" after break-ups and especially cheating. Some people use it as a way to get their ex back, but it mostly helps you heal from a breakup and grow as a person. This video explains 9 reasons it's crucial for infidelity situations.
Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships.
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[@kiddytube3915]

Going no contact and eventually blocking her from social media helped tremendously on forgetting the relationship within 3 months. And this was with a wife of 7 years and two beautiful children together. This also helps you to reach a state of indifference with your ex much more quickly. And when you reach indifference, you no longer care that you were cheated on. Your life just goes on. You may even find yourself forgiving them for their transgressions. But never let them know this. It’s for yourself. And never reach out to them unless they reached out to you first with a full apology of their shitty actions. Whatever it is, you don’t have to forget what they did and as they always say, when someone shows you who they truly are, believe it,

[@user-ul2tn6vo6n]

I’m going through the same 2 kids and a cheating husband that I kicked out today.

[@Starmajor391]

Thank you for sharing this comment with the viewers of this video. Your insight is helping me overcome a similar situation with my life. I blocked my ex’s phone number and on social media too. While not married, this experience left me feeling like trash.

[@user-eq4il1jy6c]

I really like how you have articulated this.

[@tetratrance]

It hurts so much, I mean, it's like someone holding your heart and twisting it while it's inside your chest.

[@Gulya1012]

do you feel better ? just a week ago found out i was cheated on, it hurts so bad

[@tetratrance]

@@Gulya1012 time heals, you need time.

[@CrideR_YT]

@@tetratrance My ex broke up with me she thinks i cheated but i didn't Should i do no contact ? Will she feel better after 1-2 month? Tell me according to your situation

[@Bart12349]

It actually feels like your heart is up in your throat and your mind is in a state of confusion.

[@Gulya1012]

@@Bart12349 you'll feel better soon, give urself time and be gentle with urself🩷

[@iamgoddessoflove]

Cheating is not an excuse or a mistake, it’s a choice that we make. 😕 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationship

[@Bart12349]

I definitely need to move on from a cheater. I will never hold 80 to 100% level of trust in a woman again. It will be 40% trust and a hand shake is just as good as a kiss on the cheek.

[@smerkuzheog6249]

Use it so they can cheat again during the no contact ?

[@mikyl-fo8rh]

Once a cheater...

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

No. Not always

[@bradleywesterford3587]

@@albertodeulofeu5277 but alot. my ex proved that point.

[@johnc9152]

Not true. I cheated 1 time and the guilt and shame I felt seeing how much it hurt my partner, I never did it again. It still haunts me. She however cheated on me over 10 times.

[@KugelfangTV]

According to social media, cheating on me was the best things my ex partner could have done she now lives wih her new guy in a really big mansion with a beautiful garden, he buyed her things i wish i could buyed her. I couldnt give her that. Thats how life improved for her over the last years. I still feel like an empty shell, useless, powerless, helpless.

[@standground7956]

Even if her cheating on you was the best thing that happened, why are you concerned with what’s going on with an ex? You said it happened 2years ago so why is she even a thought or living in your head rent free. Why not be glad that she’s no longer your problem and move on with your life.

[@KugelfangTV]

@@standground7956 yeah like if you feel terrible just stop it and feel awesome instead, nice advice thanks very helpful

[@standground7956]

@@KugelfangTV Nope, that’s not what I meant. You’re not over your ex and you’re relishing it that “poor me, I’m a victim attitude”. She likely view you as weak man and wanted to hit you where it hurt by cheating with your best friend. You’re definitely proving her right with your conduct. You keep saying how you’re done with relationships and you’ll never trust again. The truth is, no woman would want you anyway since it’s patently obvious that you’re still butthurt and not over your ex. You calling yourself an empty shell, useless, powerless, helpless over a known cheater is definitely some vag drying, pathetic schit that will make women run fast not slow since it’s obvious you still want your ex. If your plan is to wallow in self hatred and self defeat to keep women away from you then you’re definitely on the right path. Keep up the good work!

[@standground7956]

@@KugelfangTV No, you’re basically saying- instead of getting over an ex who left me for my best friend 2 years ago… let me stalk her, keep track of what’s going on in her life and jump on the internet to complain about how she created my victimhood mentality to never trust anyone else for the rest of my eternity. Dude, at this point I really hope you go and beg for your girlfriend to get back with you, it seems you’ll do a 180 and be happy and content with life again.

[@linaespinazo1579]

9 years we have been together we have 3 children then 2 months no contact since she cheated she call me 18 times and her sister keeps chatting me but i block them on social media i know she will make a a new account because she will chase me because I am a prize.

[@Separo1]

Thank you Mary Jo. Simple fact but clearly said. It is hard for both spouse

[@069na]

So, if i was the cheater what should i do? I know that she stil loves me 1 year later but she broke the contact out of Thinking there wouldnt be a chance to make things better in Future. She kissed another guy in the Past and i Forgave her. But her respect loss did me making this Decision to cheat ..

[@Artiecuteypie]

There is always another way. You could have just broken up why cheat?! You're still in the wrong no matter how you look at it.

[@deborahbrannan6233]

my ex thinks i cheated, but i didnt...how do i reopen comunication with him because i did say some ugly things....called him jelous and things like that, i did realize some emotional problems i have and im working on it....but i never cheated or lied, and i actualy feel hurt by being acused

[@Jennifer_usi]

We have the same issues 😞 so painful

[@smoothreid6]

How do you do this when you have children together?

[@mikyl-fo8rh]

John 16:13-15.

[@MaryJoRapini]

It’s very difficult with children. You basically need to work with a therapist for guidance.

[@seantierney7693]

Dose this “no contact” rule works for marriage couples with no children involved?

[@MaryJoRapini]

It can bug you need a therapist to help set it up.

[@seantierney7693]

@@MaryJoRapini I’m already seeing one already. Is there an email address I can contact you about it?