9 Things Women Should Not Do With Man | Oprah Winfrey Motivational Speech

[@Thearts35]

The best things I am learning is how to just shut up. Stop explaining. Stop asking questions. Stop waiting. Stop giving undeserved chances.

[@marilena_.1136]

👍

[@elianad2083]

Easier said than done..sigh..

[@Pokerface-123]

Perfectly said and I am doing that and it makes a lot of difference-

[@lorrainebrett6430]

Correct, I’m a firm believer of never chasing, Especially Romantically. Something that is meant for you always comes easily and effortlessly.

[@neerajak9319]

Will,they come back?

[@borismikwa5573]

How do you distand yourself from such

[@elianad2083]

So, if you have all the answers, why are you on here?

[@lorrainebrett6430]

@@elianad2083 reaffirming all my knowledge, intelligence and experience. Happy?????

[@shirleykilbride4555]

Precisely ..and that's why I'm still single cos I got rid off shallow time wasters draining my energy ..I am happy to receive the relationship I deserve ..we all deserve ..❤

[@khanyisilendaba8720]

I lost family because there's no reciprocating. I was people's ATM and when I am broke no one is available for me. I gave my time to God and I am happy. God will never forsake nor leave me.

[@lindahatim9285]

That’s our God, He never leaves nor forsakes us.

[@amberaishaa]

Amen ❤

[@karenvillanueva6279]

Amen 🙏

[@kellyfloyd3746]

Amen

[@sunitafisher4758]

🌸 I know how you feel I had to cut certain family as well as friends I changed my mob, and only gave it to loyal people that were like roots of tree Eventually I changed my address Over yrs, I gained better qualifications and better job in career I also learnt to put my savings into high yielding accounts and saved more for future I kept another rainy day savings to quickly transfer into my own account I also meditate more, daily exercises more as well as better hydration and great quality of sleep No more people dumping their toxic behaviour into my life I also got in touch with God better and volunteer to help homeless and other charities I do give to my favourite ones each month I also took time to discover myself and what I really want out of life And indulge in my art once again, I used to do it as child but stopped because I was so busy helping other bad people fix their life I ended up with zero time for myself. All they did was dump problems or take, take ,take Never asking me how am I doing and do I need anything I stopped being a doormat and had more self respect for myself and learned to say NO I gained more confidence and self esteem, I walked taller too 😊 Now my most valued friends, it’s happy reciprocated friendship of unconditional love I don’t do things to receive But I observe if they do same, I cut loose any leaves and branches I only keep roots like myself On earth it’s all about God and what we must do to help others in need That makes me so happy & it’s so rewarding 🙏🏼🕊

[@ErowoAkpoghene]

Let your silence be a statement

[@RumbidzaiKafurama]

Indeed

[@emanmahmoud9439]

Unfortunately I begged for attention and affection from others for years and I only got regret and sadness. Now I know my worth and value and I've learned to make my happiness by my own hands

[@sadiasheikh1692]

You're right

[@pascalledouven7022]

Which also makes you a “ more attractive person “

[@tawahglenispenvah9793]

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[@tawahglenispenvah9793]

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[@savidahiya9899]

Ditto

[@FevenTesfai-h2f]

Powerfull! You don’t have to explain your value. Save your energi❤

[@edytadelfel249]

I came to this type of conclusion with spending years by chasing my own dreams and happiness and I cut bunch of crap out of my life. I used to be a people pleaser due to my grandmother’s upbringing and recognizing all kinds of family toxic patterns. Breaking out of generational chains! I invest in my self and treat people accordingly. I must say I am in a position in my life where I can walk away so easy from things that don’t serve my highest good. I am very loving and nurturing person but I have to guard it.❤

[@tashaa.7922]

No coincidence I came across this message. She was talking to me. Every word she said pertains to the SHIP I was in. It's hard to walk away but I know my worth and value. No one will have me feeling empty or disrespect me again. I will not chase or pursue a man who is chasing a MARRIED WOMAN...

[@bethcolford2513]

I am at a crossroads, newly independent and just recently decided to stop chasing a guy I have been in an one sided friendship with for 4 months. After a text I sent asking to speak with him, he said he would call later, no call after 6 days, I called him and he gave all the excuses of why he didn’t call, I said to him “ I know, I am not important enough, I get it”, he went silent, at that moment I knew I had to let go and move on.

[@Ealene]

It's a process.

[@shannonace3463]

That is so sad. I can imagine the agony it put u thru for those 6 days. I am going thru the same kind of. A beautiful connection lost to him pulling back and me doing whatever i can to keep hold of him. Its awful

[@bethcolford2513]

@@shannonace3463 yes, I am not heartbroken ( we were just reconnecting after 35 years apart) but confused because I know he cares about me, he is holding back not because of me but something or someone else. When I said “…not important enough…I was not referring to how I felt about myself in the situation….it was after all his excuses and it just sounded like BS and it was then that I realized that I was not important enough to him to call me. I am not a needy person but I do like clarity and he is choosing not to provide it so I am moving on. I don’t want someone that chooses not to communicate, plus it is his loss not mine. It is better to cut your losses and move on.

[@Janice-sd7hl]

Yu did yrself justice to move away

[@Honey6-z6d]

Oh my goodness, I really need this message right now. Short story After two years, my husband passed away, I started seeing a new guy. At first, everything was smooth, but after two years, things changed. He gets so stressed and depressed every time he hears that his ex-wife isn't happy. This has affected our relationship because when she's having a bad day, he focuses more on her and his family than on me. I’ve tried to understand him since I know he has a long history with his family, but I feel like I constantly have to adjust and even beg for his time when I need to talk about something important. It feels unfair to me. Sometimes I consider letting him go because I don’t want to grow old in this kind of relationship.

[@AvageeEspinosa]

If a man loves you he will do everything to be with you no but and if.

[@elianad2083]

Do you know where I can find this type of man?

[@berna8118]

😂😂😂

[@berna8118]

nowhere😂

[@dianneanderson345]

100%

[@Mystic_Paths]

Because begging, chasing, or constantly reaching out to someone who isn't showing interest or commitment can diminish your self worth.

[@happyufuoma1014]

I am just crying 😭 right now, I bless this day, I have been a big fool, God bless you ma, a big hug 🤗

[@kimheartlandequestrian3174]

It’s amazing feedback when people show you this.. you just need to love yourself more, value yourself more and give yourself the worth you deserve… thank them for showing you this🥰💜🙏

[@MDeb1704]

Very well said. Never fall in those honey traps ever, understand your self worth and move on in life with more self-respect and dignity. Just ignore them if they ignore you.

[@kedimoshodi4983]

Oh my soul, this message is timely and powerful. I needed to hear this today, I thank God. I am listening to this the whole day so that the message sinks in👏👏❤️

[@vivianadams8810]

I thank GOD for this message 🙏 😢 because im a caring, loving ❤️ person, and i have started to focus more on myself with gratitude and peace.

[@rachealnassaazi327]

Listening to this podcast has revealed a lot of truth about what has been happening in my life for ages😢. I'm truly blessed and more aware of my value and the need to seek for validation from within me and not anyone else. Thank you so much Ms. Oprah for sharing these insights ❤

[@Blessed_15-s3o]

I am in my power…so proud of of myself ❤

[@lauriehenry9233]

Reciprocation is everything!

[@anjalyjino3777]

I know he has zero interest in me but I keep on chasing him. No more chasing!! Let him go.

[@SekindiSaidat]

It's not easy 😢😢😢😢.

[@MelissaClarke-t6j]

Yes it not easy

[@Shilpa.qweruiopasbjtyklmnzxdf]

Never gonna make any mistakes ever again. Learnt various lessons the hard ways. But yeah now that weve conquered the mind and everything related, its the vuctorious life ahead happily ever after.

[@elsaodira8400]

Can't say more. This is powerful indeed

[@teutaization]

Thank you on for the lesson,..real Love, real Respect ,and real Connection don’t require a constant game of pursuit…

[@aliciadixie]

Definitely , I’m a firm believer of never chasing, Especially Romantically. Thanks lot.

[@monicalabelle953]

I chased my crush, he told me he thought I didn't like him back. Am happy I chased him and we are happy planning our marriage.

[@lindahatim9285]

Powerful message, valuing yourself and not explaining to everyone.

[@geraldday9716]

I need this going into 2025. This video found me when I was so low. This is God speaking to me. Thank you God for this. This has given me a new outlook on my life and life in general. Lord give us all strength and renew our lives. Thanks lady O

[@michellem7290]

This is awesome needed to hear this today 😊

[@pascalledouven7022]

Mee too I have to think off my son who chooses not to see me I message him every few weeks He told me That’s oke but that he doesn’t want to message me , he will only respond my messages shortly

[@ZenovaRise]

@@michellem7290 ❤️

[@geetachopra4520]

This is powerful and needed 🙏🏼

[@thobilemshayedwatembe235]

This is very powerful and motivating. I'm glad I slowly stoped chasing for someone's love . The more you explain yourself and trying to draw their attention so they can vallue your presence is the more you get tired and drained while you waiting.

[@Tina-h7j3q]

And that pushes them away.

[@theresas.3808]

So inspiring, comforting, and sensible.

[@tenniebramlett8827]

Acknowledged and received 💖💯

[@akosilola1294]

I begged and chase him And got tired and stop

[@rahabkamau9352]

I love you Oprah Winfrey Watching from Kenya

[@Marieelle1985]

Thank u❤ listening and crying… crying and listening…

[@saramwebesa6497]

Powerful message thank so much mom❤❤❤

[@Stevenhou]

This applies to both men and women.

[@bereczki_toth_noemi]

This message arrived in divine timing. I just asked for it a half an hour ago. Thank you.❤

[@leslietiwari8625]

I used to text long paragraphs to let them know how I feel, but now I just stop communicating.

[@ananyabhattacharjee9544]

Same here

[@darineththim9547]

I am still doing it 😢

[@lulusanchez1127]

​Please don't waste your time and energy. I used to do the same​@@darineththim9547

[@christinerowland2888]

😢​@@darineththim9547

[@ishamunu1283]

That’s me too sweetheart It’s though but the Lord is our strength

[@emanmahmoud9439]

Don't put your happiness in other's pocket

[@ZenovaRise]

@@emanmahmoud9439 you’re right

[@zuhalafkhami]

Well said

[@sharonanderson6926]

Right. Do not Beg

[@TerezaTor]

Thank you for your kindness ❤

[@pinktomato6961]

This is so powerful! Thank you ❤

[@kyimarnaing9736]

Powerful message that I currently need to listen to it.

[@myintuitionshynes8209]

This message hit in the perfect time and answered so many questions. Thank you!

[@Reina10]

Never beg for anybodies attention! Treat them with the same effort they accord you.

[@shedagirl1726]

Thanks for the reminder of seeing things how they really are verses how I would like them to be! Moving on making room for the right one who has the capacity to love me the way I deserve

[@Patience-j1c]

I needed this coz she is just speaking my mind and hitting the right buttons.... Thanks Oprah

[@joylucy77]

Thank you Ma for sharing

[@beatriceemungasi7480]

Perfect advice.Thanks.

[@GeoffreyZephirin]

Thanks for your support 🙏

[@kerry-annbailey2119]

My god is powerful i needed to hear this...

[@faybennett5250]

Thanks for your advoice you sound great good encouragement

[@loistozer1783]

This is so powerful you know I already knew this but hearing it gives it enormous clarity . Oprah you are the best . Lois from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤

[@SkyBlue-bs7uj]

I LOVED IT Thanks for Sharing

[@asmakhatun7191]

I needed this soooo much!! Thank you Oprah❤️

[@zainabamien355]

Thankyou for sharing this video..I had to learn the hard way...every word u mention is what I experienced....I learnt from going thru the experience

[@theteachableminute]

It starts in childhood with siblings & with peers on the playground…when self-identity is being molded. Unfortunately, bigger stronger extroverts overpower introverts and kids learn to chase, beg, & please… just for attention. Takes parents and teachers who see that a child’s self-worth is weak & fragile. And if they don’t, these kids become adults to beg, chase, & please. Sad but true. And adults find it very hard to break conditioned responses & build self-respect. Takes work. May your message reach parents who are raising children. ❤

[@risaurygeerman868]

I needed this! Thank you so much ❤

[@HyethYabut]

I love this thank you for encouraging❤

[@therealsongstress]

I love Oprah she’s a smart goddess wizard 👏👏👏

[@Tsering2024]

Thank you for sharing

[@lolwealego6951]

Powerful message. I loved it❤

[@katherineramirez6914]

🎉🎉🎉 wonderfull

[@SatvinderBansal-q9b]

A lesson l learnt be strong know what you know is right. Nor wrong and stand tall if anything you got power so believe in yourself and keep thinking your aim good luck cos one day your life will go and no one gives an shit so you believe within yourself

[@robertahosey9765]

I love this. And I know she don’t like to be called Auntie. But I was listening and said ok Auntie!!! Thank you for this wisdom❤

[@ruthlilyblessings7032]

I have learnt alot this evening

[@SoPee-d5c]

Extraordinary ! !!!❤ Thanks so much to Miss Ophrah that s so true. Sometimes it s hard to opening eyes but the must important that all you expect here. Thanks again 👍🏼

[@Talat910]

So true❤

[@sophiainnerarity7928]

Yes indeed ❤

[@Porshewithnobrakes]

This is the best do not chase clip I ever heard!!! Thank you ❤Really helped me to put my thoughts in place 😊 In doubt I will listen again 🎉 💃

[@helenamarhounova1120]

Love it❤thank you ❤

[@nadinapowell5820]

Thank you Oprah 💜 This is really good

[@el-im3jf]

Thanks Mama O I NEEDED THIS CLARIFICATION 🇨🇦🦾

[@ellageereh]

Inspiring

[@anjanamajhi9165]

Oprah, Love you a lot ❤❤❤

[@naimay4570]

Thank you so much, the story of my life 😢 sadly I had that relationship with my sister I was always there for her my all life 💔 😢I putted my energy to love her no matter what.. I realise that our relationship only one side was when I realised that one side relationship on that moment. I cute her out my life now I'm so happy that I made that decision! ❤

[@lindahatim9285]

I have chosen my peace extended family members aren’t easy lately.

[@Martinez6899]

This happened with my sister she made me a people pleaser I now realize that and working on this about myself

[@borismikwa5573]

This leason has really change me ❤you are indeed a God send pray that this leason make a change in so many people life today❤❤

[@adeolaoyinloye7071]

It is very relevant in my life right now.

[@Welcomecookingwithlovekitchen]

I'm feeling exhausted from repeatedly getting involved with men who seem to only want to use you and then falling for them despite knowing it's not a genuine connection; I'm a woman with no friend also understand GOD is doing a work in me he is rebuilding me! - purifier and refiner me!

[@RamatuYakubu-e1m]

Thank you this , God bless you

[@ShamaySpeaks]

I needed to hear this ❤😊😊

[@bulbulchandwani3581]

So true darling ❤️❤️😍😍

[@globalassist320]

Amazing my dear. Keep up. From Cameroon

[@sachalebabe]

The people who treat you the best, see those people as your beacon. Know those people are in the right and those who don't treat you o.k. are at the wrong!

[@chiangsharon9464]

Thank you👍

[@bukolaadebisi]

Whuuu, this is amazing. I learnt to believe in myself. Ok, I have a book I want you to bring to bring to your podcast. How can I leverage on this through your connection ma'am

[@eshjane]

That’s why I won’t call my sisters. They never treated me nice all these years. Now one of them is in an old age home and I don’t visit her either. Done. 😊

[@sandra717]

I really needed to hear these authentic and profound words. They spoke directly to my heart. Reminded me of my own value and not chasing somebody to define me. I´m worthy of love too. I will still create and share my love and remember to have the strength to include myself. Thank you beautiful soul for making a difference. Thank you for being You ❤

[@TheresiaWanjiru-xg9en]

Amazing i like it

[@mariskarademakers3236]

Don' t chase anybody ever !! Your own shadow will chase you, that' s more than enough ! Be nice and respectful to yourself !! ❤❤ Love to you all !!

[@globalassist320]

Very inspiring

[@free9884]

Amen 🙏🏿

[@abdullahjaan4721]

Thanks opera

[@deerumusic7651]

Thank you ❤❤❤ this is very true …..

[@rosaliaoliver-qv3gr]

♥️Wonderful lady♥️you100%♥️right♥️

[@florencebowden3980]

❤@Peace with myself & the World around ME..🙏🏾💙

[@mpn2128]

Unfortunately I begged for love and affection from my loved ones and return I got only regrets and sadness. But now I stopped loving others and even my self. In this selfish world don't expect true love from anyone. Don't waste your time for loving someone unconditionally without knowing the person personally, sometimes they gift you forever pain for your mind, heart and soul. Also sometimes you have to live your life all alone forever because of it. So think well before you fall in love with someone unconditionally.

[@sangarivk3542]

This is so true. I’ve been in a 10 yrs relationship and he doesn’t respect, value, care or loyal to me. He follows random half n*ked women with certain criteria and sometimes even have their pics on his gallery!! Confronted this action of his and as usual fake promise and guess what within few months the same thing happened. I’m thankful I’m still lucky for not getting engaged or married to him and knowing abt this later on!! There are so many layers to this but I’ll keep it short here. I truly stopped talking, answering calls or texts from him, he is trying to get my attention by sending sympathetic messages I just ignored and yk what truly hurts? A person who I thought was my friend, my man, my soulmate and someone I can close my eyes and trust doesn’t even care how I feel, doesn’t show up when I truly needed him, not even virtually. And guess what, till today he didn’t show up to ask why I’m ignoring him. I truly feel betrayed and regret that I’ve wasted these many years..

[@สมบัติสัตยาอภิธาน-ภ4ธ]

Thanks