90 Day Fiancé - (Last Resort #32) - Facing your issues - Therapist Reacts

[@CaulkMongler]

I think I’m my personal experience, seeing people like Asuelu start to cry and do the whole “I guess I’m the bad guy” bit just really grinds my gears. Because it’s like… whatever else that may have gone on in your life before now to have made you this way, that’s separate from right now where YOU are actively hurting people you say you love while seemingly doing *nothing* to fix or change that behavior except do the crying+apologizing bit and just go right back to square one anyway.

[@Mama_Bear524]

I agree. It’s manipulative

[@ma7eus97]

So frustrating 😪

[@AliciaMcIntire]

I know a guy like this. He cheated on his wife many times until she finally left. He felt bad about the cheating, but he also couldn't seem to understand why she was still hurt over it after he had apologized. Like, he didn't seem to get that the repeated harm he caused is difficult to work through or that he might need to do significant work to recover the relationship. I don't think Asuelu is a psychopath, just very immature and impulsive. It ends up with him being very entitled and lacking in empathy. He seems to genuinely feel bad, but he can't stop, because he seems to have no emotional understanding of his actions

[@spiritvanished]

Its so hard to watch anything with asuelu knowing he assaulted/ rped kehlani and people still blamed her for that.

[@spiritvanished]

Misogyny is so disheartening, he gets a pass from every reviewer because he's "funny"

[@TheSinthea]

I was thinking that as well. I'd love Dr. Honda's thoughts on what being in that situation would have been like for Kalani or other women in similar situations.

[@emmalouise4864]

I didnt know this about their story! Horrific. Poor Kalani

[@harrismatthew5553]

To be fair there is absolutely no evidence of such things besides what she said on social media. Not that it didn’t happen but to say it did without it being 1000% proven is a dangerous slippery slope

[@charlize9341]

@@harrismatthew5553 No evidence beyond what the victim herself has said 🙃 Misogyny is a wild ride

[@readying34]

For those of us who are in that sort of 'arrested development category', is there a way to heal it?

[@Zwantceeto]

Yes, corrective experiences and reparenting have helped me, as well as age regression. Attachment theory is a good place to start, as for parenting Daniel Siegel is a good author. Good luck

[@adriennef4637]

Wait til Dr. Honda finds out about her getting pregnant the 2nd time from him SA'ing her! I always wondered why Kalani & Kolini reacted the way they did when she got the positive test, crying & looking so upset. It was weird to me then but now it makes all the sense😒

[@samanthas8340]

I wonder if children that were raised in a way where they had to shut down their anger and only learned to express it passively grow up to express it as adults and are unable to recognize it within themselves?

[@LCpanini]

Thank you Dr Honda 🤓 Their situation is so frustrating, poor Kalani.

[@emmahathaway-vf6ml]

So I am a child from infidelity. My parents did not stay together. They stayed with their original partners, and I just went back-and-forth between the two homes. My mom and dad were known for being serial. Cheaters is what I call them. And I really think it's just due to not getting their needs met and feeling lost and searching for some thing. That's ultimately missing are used to be so mad at them when I got older, I feel like understood the more.

[@RaySWilson]

Can I just put this out there? Who are these people that are cheating with Asuelu? The man is like a grown child 😂

[@Mama_Bear524]

Some people like that …

[@RaySWilson]

@@Mama_Bear524 there’s someone for everyone I guess… in his case a lot of someone’s lol

[@Ola_Stawinska]

Maybe outside of home he act differently?

[@Zwantceeto]

10:28 they do definitely treat boys like princes, they end up being very submissive and dependent in their love life. I see it as a survival tactic for women, making sure all of us keep power and control over men and making sure they will need us. Ethnopsychologist Rogelio Diaz Guerrero explains the psychology of Mexicans and how the culture influences these behaviors.

[@Zwantceeto]

2:52 cheating is not psychopathy, it's part of every machist culture and heavily normalized in plenty of countries. Here in latam, we women expect our husbands to have at least a gf or a second family. We have boyfriends too.

[@dogtrainer4645]

We did know about Asuelo cheating for years, from earlier in this show.

[@mokc913]

Damn. This was a difficult episode for me. Thank you

[@sohanarahaman8070]

I feel like I could agree with the comments, especially Asuelu he acts like a manchild. I feel like I’m in the middle I feel kind of frustrating.❤😂😅

[@lillyl.2158]

First! 😂

[@bellymanboy5775]

Good content as always 😊