So Now That it's 2023...Can we PLEASE Leave This in 2022?

[@celinepope]

If someone is upset about the gender of the child... they shouldn't be having children. Straight. Up.

[@archivepostsexe]

that is VERY correct

[@hotsexyangel]

EXACTLY

[@hotsexyangel]

I don’t get couples who decide to become parents and expect their baby to come out a certain way. Like they want them to be able-bodied, a certain gender, disease-free, mentally healthy, basically have no issues, etc…. Like if you’re having kids cuz you think they’re just gonna be perfect with no issues, you’re selfish and delusional ! It’s not up to you what your child is gonna be like, you have to accept the reality that your kid may be the gender you don’t want, or may have a disease or other health related issues, AND ultimately is gonna grow into their own person. And you, as a parent, need to love and accept them unconditionally. You don’t just get to throw them aside if they have something-or are something- you don’t like. Long ass rant but this stuff just irks me so bad.

[@katybug6572]

Facts tho 💯

[@peacefulchaos333]

@@hotsexyangel I agree with the gender part, but what parent wouldn't want their child to be healthy and have no issues? I mean, if they're not of course you should love them the same way, but obviously you would hope that your child is born healthy.

[@juliabazanska]

Birth trauma caused by medical staff story time! When I went into labour with my first child the nurses in the maternity ward told me to go back home because "if you can stand and talk then you're not in labour" and "if the waters haven't broken then it's a long way yet". I kept telling them I can FEEL THE HEAD PUSHING OUT BETWEEN MY LEGS and they laughed in my face because "if you still have jeans on then you can't know". Eventually I screamed at them and threatened to lie down on the floor in the corridor and give birth there and then and only then did they begrudgingly admit me into a birthing room. My husband had to undress me because we were left alone and I couldn't bend over from the pain and after I had screamed in pain for a whole minute another nurse came in and told me off for making a scene as she looked between my legs and sounded the alarm. Turned out the baby WAS already crowning and he was still in the sac (hence no bursting waters) AND he was stuck in the birth canal. A very deep cut and a pump later he was out and safe and I was both RAGING FURIOUS at the staff and RAGING HAPPY to have him in my arms, safe and sound. I don't fucking care if you have "empathy fatigue" or whatever, you're treating women in the most vulnerable time of their lives, either suck it up or change jobs.

[@NickeshaRodgers]

Should have sued them

[@anonymous-wk1nr]

@@NickeshaRodgers I agree. Sue the hell out of them. That’s so messed uo

[@juliabazanska]

@@NickeshaRodgers We're not in America, it's almost impossible to prove medical error here, especially as staff being unfriendly or generally standoffish isn't considered medical error in court.

[@esmeraldagreengate4354]

You cannot Sue someone for being a douche bag. If mother and baby are fine the best you can do is put in a complaint to the hospital about the attitude of the people giving you care.

[@JesusForTheGays]

@@esmeraldagreengate4354 But that's the thing though, they were fully ready to risk a baby's death because of their own inability to not be selfish c---ts and act proffessional for 5 minutes. Legally speaking, they have no right to turn away a patient, and they recklessly endangered the infant. I'd argue that you could sue them for malpractice, because just as attampted murder is still a crime, so is nearly killing an infant.

[@emmyyep6268]

Shoutout to my dad, he’s been a nurse for 35 years and doesn’t even know what tiktok is. I’m so proud of him. Stay pure, Jim

[@theslytherinhouseofficial]

Stay pure, Jim!

[@nuclearpancake3683]

Stay pure, Jim!

[@meghannpalmer7417]

My kind of nurse!

[@Rain_Reign]

Stay strong, Jim! We need you!

[@Forcommentingpurposes]

Stay pure Jim!!! ❤

[@dxnx.elllle]

It is SO refreshing to hear someone say “I think I’m really cute” or “I think I’m pretty”. It’s literally like a foreign concept to brain to hear that! I seriously hope I can get to that point.

[@milliemino8424]

I agree! Shame that it’s so rare to hear 😔 self love is NOT narcissism! So I want every one of y’all who read this to say you’re beautiful/handsome/whatever your favorite compliment is. Just say it. Out loud. C’mon guys let’s feel good in 2023

[@PxssumPrxnce]

@@milliemino8424 its so hard to It feels like a lie

[@wysteria.]

@@PxssumPrxnce you shouldn't force yourself to feel a certain way cause i believe that can be kinda counterproductive, but on days that u feel nice and think u look nice, you should try complimenting yourself :] it might help boost ur mood and imo people always look best when they're at their happiest, no exceptions

[@PxssumPrxnce]

@@wysteria. Thanks. I've been hella burnt out bc of work and have neglected my self care so I feel so gross yk

[@milliemino8424]

Yeah burnout is rough :( I’m an artist myself, I absolutely know that feeling. I hope you’re able to get through that soon!

[@leti_ci_a]

I'm convinced nurses HATE women who are in labor. I don't know why. My stepmother was a nurse and she mocked and despised women who were literally in pain. Also I've heard of doctors and nurses making fun or humiliating women if they screamed too much. It shocks me beyond words.

[@_salemtovar_]

I strongly believe it's because of internalized misogyny!!

[@leti_ci_a]

@@_salemtovar_ yess and it's so crazy. Something about a woman screaming in pain makes people angry. What the hell 🤷🏻‍♀️ (Oh and it was my stepmom, I always mix the two. English is not my mother tongue)

[@tamag00ch]

I believe it! But I just want to mention for anyone who is pregnant or planning on getting pregnant that I know many nurses who are wonderful, empathetic, and caring, especially with women in pain. They will try their best to make labor as easy and comforting process as possible and will stick up for the woman if anyone treats her badly. Internalized mysoginy unfortunately occurs in so many industries, but there are still some wonderful women out there advocating for their patients/clients always 🤍 so don't be worried about goin to the hospital because of a few misdirected nurses

[@kass_G59]

My L&D nurse was literally one of the sweetest people I’ve ever met. She helped me so much though my labor & delivery. I’ll never forget her. I’m so sorry to anyone who had a bad experience, I can’t imagine how bad it would feel to have a negative nurse during your pregnancy.

[@itshorriful]

@@_salemtovar_ not only that, compassion fatigue and I believe that people who shouldn't be in this profession choose it. People who are lower on empathy also are perfect for stressful workplaces as hospitals. They say, for example, that surgeons are borderline psychopaths because they are so cold and detached that they can do that. Medicine requires this kind of detachment. But yeah, internalized misogyny, sadistic people, etc, that is right.

[@fashionbug9880]

My bf's friend got a woman pregnant, and she was dying to have a baby boy. She said "Ugh I don't want a girl, they're so high maintenance! I don't want to deal with all the girly stuff like makeup and fashion, I barely know how to dress myself!" She's a tomboy, not like the other girls type 🤢 Like girl WTF check your misogynistic BS at the door, that's your CHILD regardless of gender! And of course with the universe's irony, she's having a girl...

[@verda_renee]

It's so cringe when parents act like their kids are supposed to exist solely to feed into THEIR interests and desires. Like, you're bringing a whole human being into this world who will develop thoughts, feelings and desires of their own, not a little mini-clone of you that exists to feed your ego and carry out your personal goals and interests. So many people just shouldn't be parents, honestly.

[@branthlysauveur359]

that poor poor child

[@bluesclues8823]

yeah, I don’t see anything wrong with being a tomboy, but if you aren’t willing to respect your child whether that means they want to be a girly girl or a tomboy, then there’s lots of working to do with your thinking. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@drshwetadudi8786]

God really said stfu to her face . I hope she doesn't carry any of this misogynistic bs after labour and that baby have a better and good life 😔

[@hotsexyangel]

@@verda_renee PREACH

[@poosey-queen]

honestly a main reason i don’t use tiktok anymore. because music is a big thing in my life, having such good songs created by such talent RAN INTO THE GROUND is so upsetting

[@_salemtovar_]

it's actually so sad to see real musicians being silenced with their music just cause they can't mak a damn dumb tiktok go viral like..really?

[@alilolfox]

What also sucks is when people think you’re trying to gatekeep a song or artist when in reality you just don’t want to hear it *over and over and over and-*

[@galaxymew5138]

EXACTLY!!! I'm honestly so glad I don't have tiktok because (1 good example) is AJR. I LOVE their music and I got me through some really hard crap. But now everyone see's World's Smallest Violin and Good Part as AhAhA goOfY qUIrKy mUsIc!1!1!! It really sucks the depth that they put into all of their songs

[@poosey-queen]

@@_salemtovar_RIGHT

[@spOOkytimes]

Steve Lacy. As an avid concert goer that goes to smaller shows constantly, the "fans" with 0 concert/event etiquette showing up to events after going viral is horrible. Demanding artists go viral proves labels do not care about the artist or medium, just $.

[@eyesofwater123]

I really hope all this feminine/masculine energy, modern woman, high value man, Alpha-beta-sigma males and any other unrealistic, aggravating dating standards and misogyny remains in 2022. Given recent events, I'd say it's off a good start

[@emmapierelli1748]

Also the nonsense misandry, I really hope that the women who hate their opposite gender for no reason gets a therapist and touch some grass.

[@eyesofwater123]

@@emmapierelli1748 Agree

[@pineapplesbringpain5243]

@@emmapierelli1748 misandry isn’t real

[@VictoriaMalamova]

@@pineapplesbringpain5243 It is

[@pineapplesbringpain5243]

@@VictoriaMalamova no it isn’t 💀 when has it ever

[@_sunchildd]

looooove when dad’s get mad over the babies gender. and take it out on the momma. like you do realize YOUR sperm is what decides if it’s a boy or girl right 😅

[@ivania321]

Does the way parents Behave pre-children predict on how a child behaves to their parents as they are growing? 😊

[@Valentino016]

Yes the dads genetics determines the gender.

[@sasakiakatsuki5256]

its nobody 's fault actually because guys can't chose which sperm fertelizes the egg either. Any parent is wrong man or woman to blame the gender of the baby on the partner.

[@ItsJustKylie-]

@Alexander Baker - there's nothing wrong with having a gender preference. What kind of mental gymnastics would you do if parents desperately wanted a girl?

[@businesszeus6864]

@@alexanderbaker4900well i get you, my uncle’s wife is like that and she has three sons, barely takes care of the two oldest (they’re reaching adulthood soon and haven’t lived with her in a while anyways) and focuses on the last one. but, i have three sisters, and we’re middle class, and we made it just fine being a family of 6.

[@suprajasridh]

in India gender reveals are banned. Doctors are legally obligated to not tell the parents the gender of the child. it was mainly implemented due to female infanticide (abortion because of female baby) but I think it takes away the emotional burden aspect as well. The main focus during the pregnancy is on the health of the child and the parents learn how to raise both girls and boys. They can wish for a gender but they are prepared for any outcome.

[@jaymonroe736]

Can we talk about how your makeup is always a slay? Like you look absolutely gorgeous every single video 💕

[@det7742]

I was just thinking that!

[@mookinbabysealfurmittens]

LITERALLY! ¨˚°∘｡•̥˳♡˚°∘｡•̥ₒⴰ♡° And she's talking about the buccal procedure rn and just had to say: even without the makeup, Salem is so beautiful! Gorgeous features that anyone talking trash is absolutely jealous of! (I'm not gonna list stuff cos I don't want to start anything nor make anyone feel uncomfortable. Just take my word for it!) Missus! You don't need to change your face with surgery! And for anyone reading: be careful if going for surgery or even if you go for fillers. There are some scary unsavoury places that use like automotive products & stuff! No joke! Tl;dr Salem is super pretty and super creative and super kind and I hope her husband matches that energy and worships her as she deserves! :) (That's meant to be nice, not like (ლ •̀☖•́)づ lol)

[@ivania321]

Totally pretty

[@Ebichuchu]

Yes, I wanna know her routine so badly 😩

[@bleepgloop]

My brain could not properly function for the first 30 seconds of the video cause I was just stunned by Salem's look 🥺💖

[@aineschmidt4881]

I'm a nursing student who wants to go into labour and delivery. L&D nurses EAT THEIR YOUNG. It's horrible. Such a toxic environment, when all I want to be able to do is support women as they go through a really difficult and insanely incredible thing. It makes me not want to go into L&D.

[@dimv2140]

Please do. We need people like you

[@anaazeredo7842]

I really like to see doctors and such on tiktok, talking about certain procedures or how they manage to do their day to day things, or about their mental health. What I hate is seeing this health professionals that seemed to have forgotten they are taking care of people, and how complex a person is. I remember a tiktok of a nurse ou doctor, I don't remember, but not relevant, showing how disgusted she feels whenever a patient comes in with a tampon that is stuck for a long time. That's literally the worst thing you can do, you study so many years to take care of people for then doing that? That annoyed me because people are already afraid of going to the doctor, and doctors on tiktok that are friendly and such are great, but those kind of people just make others beings afraid of being judged in a doctors office. It literally should be the last place where you feel judge. I'll just end by saying, having a stuck tampon is a really serious issue and don't be afraid to go take care of it

[@abc-dv7fs]

omg I remember being disgusted by that one too, ur first response should be concern for ur patient not disgust, it is their job and they should be prepared to see stuff like that and deal with it in a proper way

[@katybug6572]

@@ShellyBellyBeans oh for real? Damn that’s really upsetting to hear.. I’m sure not all of them do but it really kinda sucks if any even do.. esp if you had to go see a doc because of something embarrassing or extremely personal or whatever.. that’s so cruel :/

[@anaazeredo7842]

@@ShellyBellyBeans that's horrible, I really believe people should go persuing those jobs out of love and passion for taking care. I'm actually a med student and I can't imagine to care about something else without being others wellbeing. People when go to the hospital already feel so weak and vulnerable, it's horrible to know most professionals don't protect that vulnerability. I already saw amazing doctors that now are examples of how I wanna be, but I already saw the exact opposite, not the gossip, but talking as if patients were numbers or statistics for example. It's kinda shocking when people say to me "oh it's hard being a doctor, you have to lose your humanity" and I just get "????" like no, no I don't, that's the number one thing no one can just put to the side.

[@markigirl2757]

@@anaazeredo7842probably what they mean in that is if ur a doctor and h accidentally killed their patient with an overdose or didn’t do surgery correctly one day; I can only imagine they lose a bit of their humanity bc indirectly they caused death.

[@lexyshannon9428]

Ikr, like if you can't handle issues with the human body why are you a doctor/nurse in the first place??

[@Luciac0323]

My ex got so upset at our gender reveal. He swears on his life that he wasn’t upset but actions will always speak louder than words! He just stood there and didn’t touch me 🙁I don’t ever want to show my daughter that video because he ruined it

[@anonymous-wk1nr]

ugh I’m sorry that happened to you. Sending my love. Hope you find someone who treats you right💕

[@Luciac0323]

@@anonymous-wk1nr tysm :,) I’ve gotten over it as years have passed since, but I wanted to share I’m a gender reveal hater now lol

[@lexyshannon9428]

Good thing he's your "Ex", then!

[@hazybubblegum]

"you dont know if they're going to be a furry" i shuddered i have a 4 year old and now that very real and possible fact is in my brain. What should i do now to lower my chances? avoid Zootopia?

[@_salemtovar_]

ngl...when I watched zootopia for the first time- I considered being a furry too. shi got me all inspired

[@coffee-ouji]

i just imagined the "honey what's wrong?- *oh shuck* " meme i also remembered how my cousin (11 yo) said he *might* , i repeat _might_ have a thing for feet and neitheir of all us cousins who know don't know how to take that

[@v_bunny]

(if this is satire pls be clear, but if not i just want to say this, or for anyone who needs to read it): being a furry isn’t anything bad! it’s just an interest and fascination with anthropomorphic animals. people who don’t understand it take it way out of context and make it seem derogatory. furries (myself and others i’ve met) quite honestly just want to create a fursona and go “ah yes, fursona complete, now to be creative and make art of it” i promise being a furry isn’t worse than being any -ist or -ic, just raise your kid to be a good person and let them be interested in good hobbies without judgement!

[@Divine__.]

@@v_bunnyi was fr disappointed, seems kinda hypocritical that this video was trying to leave all this negative stuff behind and then making fun of someone for a hobby LMAO

[@ArtisanAsteroid]

Avoid Alpha and Omega at all costs

[@laindarko3591]

Nurses and doctors complaining about patients is infinitely worse of courss, but I have to say one of the major reasons I deleted TikTok is because all of the customer service (mostly Starbucks) employees complaining about literally every little thing a customer has ever done because it started giving me so much anxiety that someone would always find a reason to be annoyed by me whenever I place an order lol

[@rewdskwid]

Same for the panera bread subreddit! Any modification to their order and workers were complaining

[@laindarko3591]

@@rewdskwid right? It's like, damn, sorry for having preferences I guess lol

[@trichelleivory2874]

Literally so dumb. Honestly ppl are just miserable and looking for any reason to complain cuz they hate the fact that they have to work to support themselves in the first place.

[@_salemtovar_]

FIRST UPLOAD OF THE NEW YEAR! thank you to all of you who've been here- riding with me and my content

[@popria.]

Salem, I really enjoy your videos alot 💕 Would you be doing commentaries on shows and series such as Emily in Paris and etc ??

[@_salemtovar_]

@@popria. I'd be so down! I've never reacted to shows or anything like that before, I'm open to trying new things in 2023!

[@potatopotayto8332]

happy new year salem!!! may you and everyone here achieve their goals and happiness 💖

[@ki2348]

Happy new year salem! 🎉 You’re one of my favorite youtubers! my resolution is to fix my sleep schedule

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

pin

[@user-fy8ok5yq3o]

during those gender reveals, it happens more often that dads are disappointed when they know their baby is a girl :( and the mentality behind that, is so sad. my dad was so happy when he knew i was a girl :’( and thank god i have the name that HE chose bc i would have never forgiven my parents if they gave me one of my mom’s choices lmao

[@kstina9563]

Same! My dad literally named me after two queens because he was so excited

[@nrmaskaban2001]

that's adorable

[@weirdVampiress]

Same here! My gender was a complete surprise to both my parents and when my dad found out I was a girl, he literally skipped the halls yelling “it’s a girl!! It’s a girl!!” Unfortunately he still cannot spell my name correctly after 30 years 😂

[@subyssangel]

omg the tiktok nurses... Videos like those make me so incredibly anxious to go to any sort of doctor ive seen too many videos of people making fun of patients and stuff behind their back it TERRIFIES me

[@_salemtovar_]

literally!! i have so much hospital trauma and knowing some nurses think like that is actually so disgusting and scary!!!!

[@subyssangel]

i dont even have tiktok! but i can never escape because tiktok things are just..everywhere

[@subyssangel]

@@_salemtovar_ yeah me too! Its always in the back of my mind when i have no choice but to visit doctors 😣

[@bluesclues8823]

I’m grateful to have seen the good side of nurse/doc tiktok on yt shorts, it’s a shame that there are those kinds of people that make harmful content while they are working in a job that requires empathy and compassion. < 3

[@peiithos]

fr, like i have enough trauma around the medical field and this is not helping

[@sophdog2564]

My 2022 was great! I got an amazing job with a local butter business, my bonus unexpectedly had babies and the one survivor ended up being a lop ear rabbit. I figured out the best living situation for myself for school, and I finally was able to get my school fully paid for so I'll be able to graduate debt free in a few years. I also got access to assistive technology and I've been in therapy the whole year. I'm hoping to make 2023 even better :)

[@_salemtovar_]

omggg congrats!!!! love that. hoping 2023 blesses you even more

[@sophdog2564]

@@_salemtovar_ thank you! Obviously that's all just the good parts, but I'm hopeful ☺️

[@katybug6572]

That does sound wonderful!! Esp the part about graduating debt free! That’s a HUGE Blessing! Congrats & God bless in ‘23!! ❤🙏✌️

[@sophdog2564]

@@katybug6572 it really is. I was already scraping by on scholarships and saving up over the summers, but my mom referred me to something that would be able to pay for it all I'm wishing you a wonderful 2023 too!

[@cybersucia]

I’m really happy for you. Hoping to see this energy with more people (and myself) in this new year ✨

[@violetrosequast340]

On the note of the Kardashians and culture appropriation, I personally as a black mixed race woman, thought it was fine that Kim wore cornrows UNTIL she called it ✨aesthetic✨ and ✨trendy✨ then called them boxer braids, then credited a white girl for making them ✨cool✨. I perfectly would have understood if she just wore the cornrows to honour Kanye’s heritage and culture but she dropped the ball. Cornrows are for everyone but if you cannot treat them and the culture with the respect then that is culture appropriation, not appreciation. I come from Canada/Jamaica and the culture is very different here. Anyone can wear cornrows or any other style cause they have basic manners and want to respect the culture. All I have to say though is she did better then Kylie who put “white girls do it better” in her caption for a picture of wearing cornrows. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@celinepope]

I would say I can't believe Kylie did that.. but like.. I can believe it.

[@ITSMETHESHEEP]

Why are you shocked she did it for aesthetic? The reason why black people wear hair styles like cornrows is because it’s what works for their hair. It doesn’t work at all for white hair/ non- black hair in any way shape or form. There is literally no other reason why white women wear braids other then the “aesthetics”

[@elsieyeet5272]

@@ITSMETHESHEEP it’s more abt the intent behind the hairstyle. cornrows and many styles of braids have historical significance for African American people and for Kim to blatantly claim it’s for aesthetics and disregard its heritage was wrong in the first place

[@bekaeast7346]

Omg why would anyone say “white girls so it better??” Like the phrase “___ girls do it better” is already misogynistic af but she made it racist too wtf

[@ITSMETHESHEEP]

@@elsieyeet5272 obviously

[@The_Super_NOVA]

Ugh yes, the Tiktoks at Work need to stay in 2022. I happened across a tiktoker who is a realtor and makes videos where she brags about how much money she made, the fancy houses she got hired to sell, the Gen Z outfits she wears for work, and sassing the female clients who were a little concerned when their realtor looks and acts like a 12-year-old. Bragging about and trying to look cool while peddling one of life's necessities (shelter) as if it's a novelty or toy doesn't sit well with me. 🖐Also, here's one person who doesn't follow the Kardashians.

[@bunn228]

Sounds like she watched too much selling sunset!

[@anonymous-wk1nr]

Ugh I’d like to leave the sassy (just rude tbh) grown women acting like 12 year olds in 2022 😭 please

[@The_Super_NOVA]

@@anonymous-wk1nr even better!

[@usagimimi5378]

'Nature does not rush, yet, everything is accomplished.' Thank you for this little nugget of gold, definitely will be my mantra for the forthcoming period since I have a big goal for this year..! ❤

[@Luisa-te7qu]

Totally weird seeing therapist judging their patients online. They should not be therapist if they cannot handle it

[@abbie_joan]

they shouldn't be therapists if they can't keep their patient's business off Tik Tok... imagine finding out that your therapist went viral for making fun of you and completely exposing your personal life to their followers and anyone else coming across the video

[@JP-ve7or]

They're also one tongue slip away from a HIPAA violation. Why risk it?

[@saramorris6686]

After facing my depression recently, your speech at the end was very inspiring and very helpful. Sometimes you lose sight of the important things in life; for me, it's self forgiveness and moving forward. Thank you Salem 💕

[@theslytherinhouseofficial]

I hope you feel better now...easier said than done, but you deserve to feel light and love in your life.

[@dr.blue-animated]

I honestly don’t follow the Kardashians and deleted my TIKTOK account and can’t be happier. But I love watching Salem to get the tea LOOOL

[@kstina9563]

Same! Deleting tiktok was the best think for my mental health

[@dr.blue-animated]

@@kstina9563 I FEEL YOU! I was always posting on there, and consuming so much at once and my sleep schedule was nonexistent because of how easy it is to lose time on there! Glad ur mental health is thriving without it!

[@fozzyunoriginal]

I only enjoy nurse/doctor tiktok pages that are informative and explain conditions, procedures. They're much more useful than the ones that complain. (Those make me feel like I can't even trust someone who I'm supposed to be open with.)

[@naevisx]

I love the "leave the kardashians in 2022" meanwhile ppl r going insane over kim making tiktoks with north dressed as kanye dancing to taylor swift 😭😭 lmfso

[@_salemtovar_]

I SAW THAT OMG I WAS SO SHOOK LMAO

[@AllTheHappySquirrels]

People still follow Kardashians? I kinda thought they were left in the 2010s.

[@naevisx]

@@AllTheHappySquirrels I don't know I never followed them (and if you showed me a pic of their entire family I wouldn't be able to name anyone tbh) but I saw Kanye's name trending yesterday* on TW and what I found there did not disappoint lol

[@AllTheHappySquirrels]

@@naevisx I've never followed them, either. I'm just always surprised when I hear them mentioned with any sort of relevance. Like, what do they do for society?

[@naevisx]

@@AllTheHappySquirrels as far as I've seen they pretty much scam their fans and keep harmful beauty standards alive and strong lmao

[@cherrymelonlps]

SALEM. your channel is a little pocket of joy that helps me through bad days. i hope u realize how comforting and calming your energy is, and the last segment of the video really helped me. i hope you and your husband make your dreams of a house happen!! have a great year xo

[@Woundfukkr]

I feel like when parents get mad at the gender of their children is the STUPIDEST thing. Just for every reason

[@MountnationNetwork]

you liked this comment bc we all know we’re gonna agree too this

[@amberzimmerman3418]

I just left my health service job of 5 years, and what I ended up realizing is I was getting burnt out and feeling just generally unhappy, and in all that I was becoming irritated at the fact that I had to go to work, even though I loved the people that I worked with and cared about all of them so deeply, it still felt wrong to keep working in a human services field when I knew I wasn't giving my all. but yeah, thank you for this video! cause all that 💩 needs to be left like 50 years ago ✌🏻✌🏻🤢

[@_salemtovar_]

awh man, sorry to hear that. i hope you're in a better place mentally now though. sending good vibes your way!!

[@amberzimmerman3418]

@@_salemtovar_ definitely feel a lot better since being gone! definitely the right move 🫶🏻 but thank you so much! stay gorgeous!! and sending all the good energy your way too!! 💖♀️

[@amberzimmerman3418]

also I love your makeup !! it's so ethereal and gorgeous!! 🫶🏻🌙

[@amberzimmerman3418]

@L.L.Y.S yeah I bet! you guys do so much and do not get enough recognition! I've known many friends who have a hard time sustaining their career with teaching, but it's definitely case by case for people and what they want to do! I wish you well into your career journey also! I'm glad it's going well for you !! 🫶🏻 sending lots of good energy to you! ♀️✌🏻🌙

[@cheerfulgoth]

Wow. I mean, just WOW. I'm not on TikTok, so I had no idea about the "Ick" thread. As a mother of 4 who had 4 c-sections (not by my choice- I tried for "natural" childbirth) I shudder to think of what horrible things the nurses who had to help me actually may have said about me. This video made me really sad, tbh, and not just for the nurse thing.

[@cheerfulgoth]

Oh, and I actively do not follow the Ks. In fact, I'm glad your vid didn't get too in depth about the Kardashians. Love, from one Chicana to another.

[@markigirl2757]

The nurses were cursing me to hell when I refused to get my son circumcised so I understand I could tell the sheer judgement and they only refused bc my husband was firm about it smh

[@sararubicubi]

7:57 this!! I'm doing a Master's Degree on Music Industry and basically every person in the field that gives lectures to us says that nowadays agencies and record labels don't listen to demos anymore except if you have connections. What they do instead is look up what's going viral in social media and streaming platforms and if they happen to be independent they try to sign them. It's really disheartening for me because I knew I could have a shot at a music career if I made nursery rhymes type songs but I just don't want to 😭

[@KeevanNorton]

the nurse ones specifically scare me because i hate going to the hospital / doctor already - it gives me major anxiety- and worrying about if they’re mocking me behind closed doors just adds to it. women giving birth should be the LAST people worrying about judgement, it’s such a vulnerable process already. i’m glad they were fired

[@multifandomharlot]

Those nurses terrified the hell out of me. If I went into labour and this was my experience, you best believe I'm suing the whole damn ward for emotional distress.

[@theresajenislawski]

20:40 we love a self love queen 💛 you're so inspirational

[@_salemtovar_]

entering this "influencer" industry has made me look at areas of my face and body and think of how there are now flaws there I never thought I had, but in 2023 I'm gonna be myself, NOT SORRY!!!!

[@theresajenislawski]

@@_salemtovar_ I love that so much

[@janeeyrehead9159]

It's the 'Tiktok ruins music' 2022 sin for me - i've been into Ghost since 2017, and Mary on A Cross holds such a special place in my heart because of the memories that I made with my partner at the beginning of our relationship, so seeing that song explode gave me such mixed feelings - like, i don't want to gatekeep and i'm happy that people are discovering Ghost, but i can't help but be irritated by the whole situation. Like... Tiktok does not deserve this song 😂 I know it's probably just me being bitter, but i'll get over it soon enough and one day it will be the 'first dance' song at our wedding 🖤

[@aeudjwhehdjqn]

I totally agree with you, honestly TikTok doesn't deserve anything lmao

[@sherrykloster7489]

I have loved Ghost for years now too & it's hard, you want them to be recognized for how awesome they are but at the same time.... do it right! 😄

[@woerm_luvr]

I've discovered ghost through Mary on a cross (i can't remember if it was my cousin complaining about how its offensive to christians or what, i just know it was in some way connected to tiktok) and their songs are so beautiful. they're one of the few bands that i like the most if not all songs. even though Mary on a cross is about giving head and weed it just calms me do much. it being your first dance song is based asf edit: but yeah, TikTok does not deserve Ghost

[@erincravener9055]

I discovered the song through a youtuber that does song covers if it makes you feel better

[@DCrane925]

Don't you worry love I'm 45 and my frontal lobe is still not fully developed not to mention the two brain cells I have left and they're waving goodbye to each other Happy New Year love ❤️

[@_salemtovar_]

no matter our age, humans are always evolving- we never stop learning

[@luciboop51]

Lol Same!!! Bye bye !

[@Macaroonsonaplate]

What I’m leaving in 2022 is: My laziness No more excuses. I’m going to turn 18 in September and I’ve lived my life inside, afraid of what’s gonna happen to me if I leave my safe space. Your teen years are supposed to help you figure out who you are and guide you to your adult life but I’ve held myself back for too long. Here’s hoping that 2023 will be an eye-opener for me 🤞🏽

[@Tunmhise]

Same here and this just gave me a little motivation

[@helplessheroine2641]

I feel like I missed my teen years and early twenties because of depression and extreme social anxiety, so I refuse to feel like I'm too old to do things It's not too late, I'm not too old, and I'm definitely not alone feeling like this.

[@kstina9563]

Don't be too hard on yourself. Teendom is hard even without COVID. Propel forth, enjoy, and don't look back.

[@alyssabrown1121]

My mom cried when she found out my little brother was a boy because I had begged for 3+ years for a sister (and he was her last), but obv she was still so excited for him, plus she found out at the ultrasound so it's not like he's gonna hear about/see it

[@NoNeedForLungs]

mf begged for a sibling💀💀💀. Bro just beg for something simpler like a nerf gun or a ps5 idk😭😭😭.

[@Dimitri791]

I fully expected the labor and delivery nurses to have some big ick's cause labor is a big messy scary process, instead it's just.... bitching about the people.... it would have been inappropriate to share regardless, but dang..

[@_salemtovar_]

same! it's normal to think labor is scary but it's NOT normal to blame the patients for asking for help?? lmfao?? do your job??

[@alishaguerrero2837]

What a breathe of fresh air when I heard you say to practice being proud of the small goals. Like drinking water as you said, and for me it's making sure to make my bed. Take a walk once a week after not going out at all. I do see that it's improving my relationship with myself.

[@z00merang18]

That last massage was so meaningful for me. As someone who gone through mental problems and self neglecting in 2022 too, i really loved it. Thank you salem💓

[@alejandrovallencci]

On the topic of despicable nurses, I heard a story recently of a nurse that got fired and prosecuted in court for being lazy and instead of taking care of patients would just drug them up so they would fall asleep. Imagine being someone in need of medical care expecting these people to do their job properly, but they decide you’re not worth their time so they give you something without your permission and just let you pass out. Just truly disgusting and evil behaviour

[@Seabasstard22]

22:57 love how she refuses to call trends “challenges”

[@SunnyCatUp]

When you said, “I dare you to be more merciful on yourself this year.” I started crying,-I didn’t expect to cry. 😭 I usually think you’re really funny and I enjoy hearing about the topics you discuss, and the fact that you made me feel very emotional was a jump scare. This is why I love your videos, you are always so understanding and loving, girl, I hope you have a wonderful year. I’m accepting your dare btw.

[@kitrakitarunaki]

I lost 4 family members, an old friend, and my 17yo cat I had since a kitten. BUT two of my cousins got married, and I welcomed a new cat that’s my birthday Buddy into my life and my BF and I are became even closer. 2022 was a hurricane, but I’m like that one tree that makes it through every storm and still manages to grow and bloom in the sunshine. 2023 is just another year so be kind to yourself❤

[@katedavies5698]

Salem spitting pure facts whilst looking like the literal definition of a constellation is my sign that 2023 is going to be a *NEW ERA* for me. I muvafluffin' love the way you are so honest and raw and have the rareness of a self aware, knowledgeable, wise and strong woman that is hard to find on this platform. I truly hope that this year you find peace and serenity in all that you do.

[@theresajenislawski]

Your makeup in this video is STUNNING!!

[@_salemtovar_]

TYYY

[@Dimitri791]

No literally! It's like a cross between a pirate and a treasure map

[@_salemtovar_]

@@Dimitri791 LMAOO love that description!!

[@popria.]

After watching the video and knowing what nurses and doctors do has had me speechless and disgusted. The fact that these nurses/doctors..people who we trust with our lives on the line decide to make mockery of women who are in labor. I don't see what's funny of women screaming in pain and probably scared about their first ever labor. That is honestly really unappetizing and disappointing. Other than that I'm excited to start 2023 with a positive attitude and a fresh new start and new goals. I wish you guys the best for this year and hope you all achieve your visions 💕💗🤗

[@nicolegoose567]

Yooo… I’m 22 but you literally are teaching kids morals 🥺 you’re so VALUABLE

[@slakraze6288]

Thank you for being so empathetic and caring. I love how you can tackle controversial issues and never make it mean (except for those awful nurses who deserve the worst).

[@milkyfrrog]

I hope this year turns out amazing for you! Just so you know, the frontal lobe thing is a myth, so you'll always be developing it regardless of what age you reach. So be easy on yourself and be proud of the good things that happen and the bad stuff you overcame!

[@Weeniehutnurse]

It is a fact, for some it ends at development at 30 but on average is 25 years.

[@milkyfrrog]

@CamilleRagland ahhh alright! I was told that the guy who conducted the research just chose to stop at 25 so people just took it as fact. Thanks though

[@katybug6572]

Interesting..

[@samanthapadgett2594]

On the topic of the L&D nurses I had my daughter a few weeks ago and I can honestly say if it wasn’t for the doctors and nurses being so amazing idk what I would have done. I can not possibly imagine trying to go through that with a shitty staff. Labor is quite literally on of the most traumatic things you can go through. I’m so glad those nurses got fired and honestly I hope they get their ability to practice taken away as well.

[@Mrstark1407]

Salems energy for the new year is amazing i don’t have a lot of hope for this year the last 4 years sucked so bad

[@Yazmin477]

16:13 YESS EXACTLY!!! A nurse a was disrespectful and was soo “bothered” when I was in labor with my first child and I suffer from Epilepsy so the doctors knew I was at a high risk. The day I was about to give birth I threw up my seizure medication and had a muscle spasm and I asked the nurse please give me a heat pack and she said no one was outside the room to get it and she didn’t knew where it was and would never check how much I was dilated. After me complaining soo much she finally checked and I was 9cm dilated. And when the doctor had to check another woman whom was also going into labor the nurse was putting some oil without consent or even asking the doctor (idk what oil but it wasn’t from the hospital it was like her own personal oil) the nurse would get frustrated complaining to the doctor as in “why do I gotta clean her” while I was trying to push my daughter. And after I finally gave birth the nurse was disgusted with the blood and fainted and had to be taken to the ER down stairs while on the clock. And when she fainted all the doctors came in and asked her if she had seizures just because I have them like bruh it’s not contagious wth?! AND the nurse literally told me “Can you stop screaming?!” When I was literally in pain pushing my baby out like bruh are you serious??

[@FabeFangs]

What I would like to leave in 2022 is letting life overwhelm me. I want to take things slow and steady and have more enjoyment in life for 2023 😊

[@Youtubeuser10873]

when my mom got pregnant she used to tell people “ I just want them to be healthy” when people ask her about the gender ❤

[@kostadinkakirilova6465]

I would like to share my positive experience with my doctor when being in labor for second time. This doctor is the most kind human being! She was so nice and taking nicely with me during the operation and after that she called me at least twice a day on the phone besides checking on me personally!!!! And I was in a state hospital paying just for the regular stuff, nothing fancy or more expensive than usual. God bless this woman! In case some one from Sofia, Bulgaria is reading this, the name of the doctor is Elka Dacheva.

[@lealimee6369]

i really felt the energy shift in this video compared to your other ones, this felt so open and nice to watch and im so ready for the growth we will all have in 2023!

[@leawegner556]

Your comment on running up that hill so HIT HOME to me.. I grew up to music by kate bush, before every and any social media app shred it into pieces (you just COULDN‘T escape it) running up that hill was so dear to me

[@arcie3716]

The moment the clock hit midnight, my dog attacked me for making too much noise 😭Anyways…I love how your video was like a run through a bunch of interesting topics. They kinda verify that TikTok is public enemy number 1. The ending was so sweet. Happy New Year everyone 🎇

[@newacespadestar]

10:38 WHEN YOU SAID THIS I LITERALLY WAS TRIGGERED; there was a time where this song called new MAGIC wand by TTC was super popular on TikTok, and like all of the edits and stuff….ruined my fav heartbreak album and #1 music album that represents me of all time ; I feel like the TikTok music industry and then the way TikTok has affected the music industry are two different things that’d id love to hear more about.

[@charzhazha1]

My friend also finished her teaching degree and then didn't teach for various reasons, and she is really struggling with feelings of failure and shame about it. I don't know the details of why you aren't teaching (and hopefully you aren't struggling as much as she is), but thanks for sharing. I will tell my friend about you and remind her that she isn't alone.

[@cybersandoval]

"fall back in love with life" is a beautiful reset for the new year, with more wise advice, thank you

[@lucyknox1745]

I hope there is a day when we will leave TikTok in the past.

[@ArtisanAsteroid]

When half the planet's brains rot,governments will consider that.

[@sheria117]

@@ArtisanAsteroid the government doesnt care enough

[@JP-ve7or]

We will, but only because we've moved on to something worse.

[@amycoppins6528]

My soulmate passed away a few days before Christmas last year, and I really needed to hear that last bit of the video. I’m thinking of you and your family and praying over you❤️thank you for giving me the courage to face this year.

[@dea9457]

My mom is misogynistic and doesn''t even realize she is. She always needs male validation, make fun of me for not having a boyfriend and talks how she was popular with boys when she was my age. She's narcissistic. she owns a shop, she said her workers are all women and there's too much emotion and drama, every time I say "That's wrong, don't be disrespectful" she yells then laugh "you never worked as hard as me, you just don't know!" I don't know my biological dad. My mom told me he was abusive, left her because I wasn't a boy. No hesitation. Besides that, she still talk about how handsome he was. Now she's married, brought a unknown guy in our house, i'm being forced to call him a dad. I'm just tired. Sorry for bad English

[@40dbelow0]

Your English is perfect. I hope you have many good days. You deserve better ❤

[@neodragon1979]

your english is better than some who call english their native language. you do not have to call anyone a very important title, that is important to you anything.. especially if they have not deserved it. i'm sorry your mom has put you in that uncomfortable position. how old are you?

[@mirai8973]

Sis spilled some HOT TEA that needed to be spilled 😩

[@ocdmusic]

I don't really know sh@t about makeup but yours is definitely a trendsetter for 2023 unless it already existed lol either way it looks really cool!

[@sasusakufangirl]

The last 10 minutes of this video were so motivational and touching I almost started crying - and especially when you talked about how there are over 200 days to be happy (I felt very inspired and it also fit with one of my resolutions which is basically that each day I have to find at least one thing that I was happy about - it has helped me be a more positive person and keep me in a better headspace) :D Also, I'm one of those people who doesn't follow the Kardashians (intentionally) - The only way I hear what they are up to is when the tea/commentary channels I'm subscribed to here on YT decide to make a video about them, so I don't seek them out, they just kind of pop up. (I hope that counts ^_^'')

[@what_equals_42]

My friend's gender reveal was a game of pass the parcel that ended in a piece of pink construction paper and a loud cheer. More of that energy, thanks, 2023. 💖

[@amishasweetie]

That labor nurse ick video activates my fight or fight reaction

[@kajs867]

if i had a dollar for every time I downloaded tiktok and deleted it a day later because of all the negativity, I'd have like ten dollars. it's not much, just really sad I repeat the mistakes

[@madmagdelena]

Nursing is a field riddled with "mean girls". I went through nursing school, but was so turned off by the culture that I've avoided working in hospitals and try to stay at smaller independent offices who actually want to help people.

[@stephspoilsstuff]

As someone who gave birth 18 months ago, the way those nurses dismissed those women is so gross to me. As Salem said, having a baby is insanely rough on the body - it's painful and frightening, especially the first time when you haven't had this feeling before and you don't know how long it will last. Thankfully, my midwives were generally pretty good, though I had one who was a little gruff. I maintain we need more education on the experience of birth and to push greater empathy for female pain among the medical profession

[@LisaFayeToday]

Thank you SO much for the little pep talk at the end of this video! I’ve been struggling this past week feeling like I got 2023 off to a bad start, and I’ve had a lifelong struggle of being unreasonably hard on myself…. So that little reminder at the end of your video to give myself grace was much needed. Thank you for all your videos, as a creator myself I know how much hard work goes into all of it! ❤

[@troudulapin7061]

the energy you put towards healing shines really bright, i can tell you're willing to fight for yourself and it's beautiful to see! keep up the good work, i manifest great things for you this year!!!

[@theresajenislawski]

Love you!! Thank you for continuing to post so frequently!!

[@_salemtovar_]

awee of course!! i really do be trying.

[@theresajenislawski]

@@_salemtovar_ And we can really tell

[@emimew]

My mom had actually a really bad experience while giving birth to me. She had serious problems and the nurses and doctor didn’t assist her for like the first 26 hours. They basically showed up for the last two hours. My grandma and dad were there to help the entire time. After I was born the doctor decided to run a bunch of tests on me, what turned out was only made since the doctor that was suppose to assist my mom, was writing her doctoral thesis on baby’s with genetic problems. While I was tested for 14 days my mom got her bed taken away, because “her things weren’t there anymore”, when they clearly were all in the closet and a bag was there as well. She had to sleep on chairs for a couple days and they gave her a new bed then. Luckily I was a healthy born baby, so they didn’t found anything

[@emilywomble8804]

Literally gonna give birth in like a month for the first time and my biggest concern is that I'll be treated badly by medical staff. I've heard so many horror stories and it just makes you want to give birth in your apartment rather than go to total strangers - who are supposed to help you- when you're worried they'll just blast you on social media or to their coworkers when they leave the room.

[@TheOneWifNoUsername]

Literally crying at the end of what Salem said. When she said.. “congratulations. i’m proud of you.” ;-; I’m gonna work hard on being self positive and I’m leaving behind the negativity of last year. I’m so excited. But it will be different. I will be divorced soon. But it was needed. You can’t change the past but you can change the future. For REAL. I have many small and large goals. I ate cereal instead avoiding food bc I woke up depressed and crying missing my ex husband (soon to be ex legally anyways) But I’m safe and with my family. My parents have taken me in. I’m in a much better place now. Thanks Salem.

[@sadberry134]

You look absolutely STUNNING!! Happy 2023!! ❤️

[@seagurl9369]

ur last part lives in my head rent free, and im allowing that with every cells in my body. thank you for saying all of that, be kind to urself too😊

[@meghannpalmer7417]

Please make a video about the unprofessionalism of doing tik toks at work. If I found any inkling of my story, circumstance or health history on a nurse’s tik tok, I’d be going to a nurses association or governing body to report said nurse. It’s difficult enough in some health settings to get privacy or confidentiality so nurses don’t need to be sharing or venting on TikTok. If I’m hospitalized, I’m at my lowest and I don’t need to be taken advantage of for content. Plus, in my hospital, there are signs saying no video taping.

[@keynchris7059]

That last bit really called to me. I feel like I’m trying to work through big things this year but I’m trying to go it gently

[@FairoozChoudhury]

I love what you said at the end of the video, it was absolutely beautiful. I’m here for you too Salem your videos are always really helpful, have a great year and beyond which you deserve it as well everyone else. Happy new year everyone :)

[@mathildem.5321]

You are so precious.. (in a good way). Like you say what you think, you say what people need to heard and not bullshit we want to heard. I like your personallity, your themes videos, your mimics, your style. I really do like listen to you, you bring some real themes, real ideas, real conversations. Thank you for that Salem.

[@marymont5179]

Thank u so much for your message at the end of the video, I really needed to hear this. I've been really disappointed at myself for only doing the bare minimum, and that made me feel useless, I strugle to accept that I don't need to be doing amazing things to be considered someone valueble. I'll also be here sending good energy for you and I hope this year is full of peace

[@christinachopin4514]

All great suggestions for 2023. Moving forward!

[@alikoenig]

My mother works at a wound clinic and she sees so many patients with botched liposuctions and botched bbls💀

[@ukkimeepeatswaffles2493]

You're always so pretty in all of your videos but your whole look is so on point in this one! You straight up had me blushing when you smiled at the camera and said you love your chubby cheeks. It was adorable lol

[@noel3030]

im studying to be a nurse and some things that you really CANT do are: give "advice" without knowing a person's diagnose and all that, film patients and the workplace and talk about patients and their stories onlines. these are all big no's. i might be wrong but i think its actually illegal

[@ari_peacock26]

Thank You Salem for the beautiful message at the end! You are so refreshing and so supportive of mindfulness and mental health, and for that I really appreciate it! It always makes me smile, puts me in a good mood, and feel encouraged! 🥰

[@junestar3119]

someone please let me know, is there ANY gender reveals where they're upset with it being a boy?? ive only seen dads be disappointed it's a girl and it's baffling

[@pigeondance]

same, i've never seen anyone be disappointed about having a boy in these 🤔

[@Supporterofall]

Little girls that want a sister

[@lizziefg10]

32:24 thank you, Salem. Wish you a great year too!

[@AKbaby89]

My 2022 was actually not bad. I got a diagnosis for a condition I've had my whole life and I've always wondered what was wrong with me. I also had 2 surgeries, and started a treatment for the condition I was diagnosed with in January, and it's actually helped sooo much. I have Cyclic vomiting syndrome, and I used to have atleast one episode a month that would last for days. But ever since I started treatment for it, I've only had 4 episodes, and none of them lasted longer than a day. I've had a lot of times where I feel like I'm about to have an episode, but it just never comes. So thats kinda annoying, but it's way better than having an episode. So 2022 was actually pretty good to me🤷‍♀️

[@theresajenislawski]

11:30 I used your video about BBLs as a place to find good research for a presentation in my public speaking class

[@_salemtovar_]

omg whaaat that's so cool!!! ty :)

[@theresajenislawski]

@@_salemtovar_ Yeah it actually went pretty well!! I would love to do it again with a different video but the course is ending 😅I have taken so much inspiration from you on how to speak confidently though! You really are just so good at what you do

[@NatokaS.]

One of my New Year's resolutions is literally to just have breakfast every day. Small resolutions are always nice.