a 3+ hour long deep dive into the worst sëx and the city relationship

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[@LeeLooDallas1313]

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[@aspyn.j_]

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[@LeeLooDallas1313]

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[@tattooedwitch7885]

😊😊😊

[@kendallpeterson3737]

Can you imagine marrying a man who cheated on both of his ex wives AND stood you up at the alter?! Crazy work.

[@greysunshine]

Altar

[@dreamiinotdream730]

Leading to tons of humiliation as everyone talked about her. But she’s too desperate for a ring to care

[@swampsprite9]

@@dreamiinotdream730 I think a lot of women who act like her are commitment phobes and if Big gave her what she wanted she'd freak out and be the one running.

[@Cynnavixen-cinnamon]

100%...loved this show back in the day but the whole thing didn't age well. carried is a neurotic mess and big is a dick.

[@lesliedemarco1691]

@@Cynnavixen-cinnamon 100% I agree with you! And I gotta say: "And Just Like That" is so boring to me. I mean it's like they don't wanna let it go. It's better to stop when you're on top. If you drag it out, and on & on, oh God that's the worst. And especially without Kim Cattrall, yea I'm like, why bother......

[@jesswhycamarz]

The fact that Carrie heard Big slept with his WIFE’S BEST FRIEND 🚩 like girl wtf!?? I would have ran for my life.

[@katiePetsy]

Especially when you have hot friends like Carrie does 😂

[@jesswhycamarz]

@@katiePetsy that’s probably part of why she sl*t shames Samantha like it’s her job!

[@00st307-m]

@@jesswhycamarz💯💯💯

[@AshleySpeaks09]

I always felt like she just gliiiiided right past that!!

[@nelaotipkova515]

@@katiePetsy🎉❤😢😊😢❤😢😢❤😢❤❤😂😅😢😢😅😢😢🎉❤❤🎉😢😢😂😊❤😅😢🎉😂😅🎉❤😅😢❤❤😅😅🎉❤😢😊😢❤😊😂😊😮😅🎉❤😢😢😮🎉😢😮❤😢😊😅😢😂😂😢😢🎉😊😮😢😅😢😅😊😅❤🎉😅😢❤😅😢❤😢😅😂😢❤😢😂❤🎉😢😢🎉🎉😅🎉❤❤😅😮😮😂❤😢❤🎉😊❤😮🎉😅😂😮😂❤😮😢🎉😮😂❤😊😮🎉😅🎉❤😢😢😊😢😂❤😢😮😂😢😅🎉😊😮😢🎉❤😮🎉❤🎉😊😢😮🎉😢😊😂😅😢😅😢😂❤😢😂😢❤😢

[@subtropical1228]

He virtually never took her seriously for a single moment

[@user56gghtf]

Not one

[@Elena-ol8sw]

I think she never took herself seriously as well, that's why she picked the man who would mirror it back

[@blueblack3591]

Yep exactly

[@pinguaina]

let's be honest they were both the worst

[@MarAnMon]

Big is a narc, when natasha didnt idolize him , giving herself the value she deserved, he felt it wasnt working, and ran to his perfect groupie,always available to feed his narc needs.

[@Love_Meat_Tender]

The same with the model or actress he was with, and he was obsessed that he could never get a hold of her when it suited him. He was mad he couldn't control her, as he was used to with women.

[@jennymccullough9517]

STOP using the word narc so loosely. He's anything but. True narcs are pure evil.

[@KafkaM99]

Felt the same , he had her in trauma bond , she was like is slave

[@eipimuja]

​@@jennymccullough9517 He does fit the bill in my opinion.

[@Strawberry-Guy]

​@@jennymccullough9517 Narcissism is a personality disorder, that doesn't make them evil. I'm sorry that you've had bad experiences with people with the disorder or with traits of narcissism, but demonizing the disorder doesn't help anyone. Also narc being the abbreviation confuses me, I always think of narc as in a snitch to the police lol

[@likeaboxofchocolates]

For someone who had a relationship/sex column, Carrie really was a prude. Her constant digs at Samantha for enjoying sex were crazy. I'd rather read what Samantha had to say about dating in NYC.

[@breadgirl9806]

I mean same, but I suspect half of Carrie’s followers are in it for the chaos (instead of practical sex advice). There is nothing more entertaining than reading a relationship column by someone who is terrible at relationships 😂

[@mean_deen]

Samantha was and always will be the best character of SATC

[@elenakalliste]

Riiiight. It’s wild how her livelihood was supposedly about her sexual escapades and she was even more concerned about random “rules” than charlotte. It was also hilarious that the main actress was the one who refused to be shown topless. Like good for her for having her own standards, but the casting choice comically reflected the hypocrisy of the main character.

[@tearsofawaterfall2656]

I feel so sorry for Natasha. Imagine being stalked by your ex’s side piece after all that time. Carrie is so unhinged. It feels like Carrie never got over being Big’s side chick.

[@Yogomotastic]

Girl then don’t watch And Just Like That (the continuous of Sex and The City) which you shouldn’t it’s terrible. But I won’t spoil it but let’s just say she stalks Natasha AGAIN. It’s really creepy and she even says so.

[@CandieP]

I was stalked by my ex’s side piece, that shit was scary, crazy, funny and weird all at the same time. 😅

[@Catsclaw-ru6zw]

Well, Natasha moved on got married again, had a kid & got $1 million from her dead ex & that must've drove Carrie crazy I too felt bad for Natasha. Big would've chased after Charolette too if she wasn't Carrie's bff.

[@Channiej93]

They portrayed him as a narcissist sooo fucking well, thats what narcies do. They imprint their exes and other romances in your brain as you will always compare yourself to them. He will go on and on untill they’re imprinted in your brain forever! Just Carrie is the kind of mentally unstable woman to act upon that

[@JenniJemm]

Natasha dodged such a major bullet! She got to get away from her POS husband and her crazy stalker got the pos like he was some prize 😂

[@OMelikaO]

As a 33 YO woman who started watching SATC when I was a pre-teen. It’s crazy how immature these grown women are

[@patriciajones6771]

@@OMelikaO 🤣🤣🤣 I have to laugh, I am wondering, at least we all know it's SCRIPTED IT was all in a writers head ,some one who sat and wrote a story, you want to see something ,watch LOVE AND HIP HOP, thats supposed to be real, watch grown women fight curse, and love Some SLEEZY ,SLIME BALL MEN, that have multiple children, and side women, Now as a Black woman to me that's a problem. SATC is not real, in the time it was made, all of it was acceptable, One day a next generation, will be negatively judging something we all love right now,

[@0AriesFire0]

surprisingly I fear there are a lot of immature adults living amongst us

[@GG-kn2se]

I mean yeah, they need drama for their show

[@RSB1949]

As a teen i thought this is all i could expect from men 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@OMelikaO]

@@GG-kn2se 🙄🙄🙄duh

[@erinbailey7940]

I cannot FATHOM telling your current boyfriend that you’ve invited your ex (with whom you CHEATED IN THE PAST) to his cabin?!? WHAT??

[@angel-ke9vs]

The audacity this woman has I would have dumped her when she said she could not cut him off 😒

[@meli1872]

i cannot fathom that aidan went back to her after she cheated 😭 what was he doing

[@Bandanalovingemo]

Ain't no way, this is Y'ALLS cabin now!

[@miapia7229]

She can reach him but he can’t reach her

[@alexclark2370]

Not to mention he's the ex SHE CHEATED ON HIM WITH. I think there are a few guys that would take this in real life but still hard to believe let alone watch!!

[@amylizard]

I dated a man like big for about three months. I was like "hey, love bombing varied with breadcrumbling won't do it" and he was like "but I'm damaged and poor me I have trust issues fix me but don't change me you're not allowed to have any expectations of me I'm very handsome and make a lot of money it has to be on my time" and I'm so grateful for myself that I dumped him and blocked him everywhere. Don't let anyone waste your time and energy.

[@kathyv1499]

Yeah girl, same! Dated a rich handsome “I have problems with commitment but I love you guy”. He was crazy in love with me one day, and suddenly wanting space / distancing another day. Dumped him after he said he’s not ready for a relationship or label us and go by textbook.

[@user56gghtf]

Good for you for keeping your standards and knowing your worth.

[@private755]

👏👏👏 yes!

[@lilli3bean]

are they all like this??? cus Same

[@LindsayCatherine]

The pencil tip snapped on Big’s pencil when he tried to write his vows and he thought it’d just be easier to cancel the wedding instead of sharpening it

[@insomnia9999]

lol right. He outsources everything else

[@jeanw2018]

@@LindsayCatherine Who besides a child uses a yellow pencil to write anything? ✏️

[@careottjuice]

It was a sign 😂😂

[@tiffanytaylor5819]

Dismissive avoidant behavior

[@Ponycorn92]

😂😂😂😂

[@katrynnazalcmann]

When I watched this growing up I didn’t realise that instead of being a fairytale it’s always been a cautionary tale about not being able to cut your losses

[@katrynnazalcmann]

I thank my degree in economics for teaching me about the sunk costs fallacy early on

[@aspyn.j_]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@randomthoughtsat3am]

@@katrynnazalcmann lmao giiirl the way I almost spit out my drink reading this🤣🤣

[@lvega5606]

​@katrynnazalcmann it's also just common sense.

[@nevergiveup9937]

15 years ago pickmeness was treated as a normal thing for women

[@squreshi8413]

It’s always good to get a reminder of the dangers of low self esteem. I need to rewatch this compilation yearly.

[@dontdomeboo81]

One could say it's low self esteem and the other is Just MF gonna do what they wanna do regardless of the outcome

[@Spokentruths725]

This and the compliation of Tara, Peter Gunz, and Amina three way relationship on love and hip hop.

[@blondie9422]

I’ve had my own issues tbh and this is a harsh reminder not to let it slip. It lets all sorts of nonsense into your life 😂😂😂

[@KCRoyale]

This!

[@lunagrace8717]

Those dangers are very real , any full of himself unintelligent asshole can fit perfectly with the need for validation. She didn't really love him , she wanted the validation because she didn't feel good enough, always pushing him and nagging him , begging.....horrible example for young girls . Its not love , its unresolved trauma and abuse. Also he was rich and handsome so she wanted the price , if he loved that made her valuable in her mind ....And her laying her naked ass on Natasha's bed , while playing the victim actinglike she felt guilt , then still taking a shower and then eating out of her refrigerator ......How harassing Natasha to clean her conscience and apologize wearing the most provocative dress ever , I can't stand her , talking to Big on the phone in front of Aidan after he took her back , she would have never accepted Aidan talking on the phone with a woman he slept with or cheated with.....I can't, I re-watch for the random stories , and the women being empowered, but absolutely no sympathy for that horrible woman who is as toxic and toxic Big

[@Terroir-b4o]

This commentary is everything. It must have took a gigantic amount of work, it's unbelievable. Perfect, lucid, funny af, with the most perfect sound effects. I died at "f**k you and your eyebrows".

[@ElaAusDemTal]

It must have *taken,* not took!

[@allonis6067]

This video is so comprehensive. Every young woman 18-25 should watch this. A cautionary tale. The red flag visual, excellent touch lol

[@Amj947]

The grossest thing about the first movie was everyone forcing Miranda to forgive Steve's cheating ass. Second only Carrie blaming Miranda for Big's non-commital, narcissist ass dumping her at the altar.

[@themostbeautifulisraw4561]

This! They made Miranda so weak now!

[@Chakras.N.Chasers]

I’m going to have to disagree. Miranda pushed that man away severely. She never gave him affection and that’s what he obviously desired. She begged him to stay with her and never changed. I’m not going to make it like Steve wasn’t wrong but Miranda was horrible as a woman, friend, and wife/girlfriend.

[@christinehaley8097]

She treated Steve badly for years. He was hardly a cheater by nature.

[@addisbarge]

It is NEVER anyone’s fault for someone to cheat on them. You LEAVE. If you stay with someone and cheat on them cause they’re “treating you bad” well guess what. Now you’re also a pos.

[@blahxblahxblah100]

@@addisbargeI can’t remember, but did he go out of his way to seek a mistress or did it happen in the moment? Have you ever been overcome with emotions in a moment and acted impulsively? Especially after being mistreated emotionally? If you can drive a person to commit suicide you can drive a person to cheat.

[@morcika-model619]

I love that episode where Carrie attempts therapy and she realised what her problem was and just decided never to work on herself ever.

[@aspyn.j_]

Therapy is hard and it’s doubly hard to apply the concepts but refusing to accept responsibility for yourself is just stupid to me. I had a friend who had a lot of issues and she just refused to talk to anyone and insisted she was fine but kept making these terrible self destructive decisions. It was hard to watch.

[@morcika-model619]

@@aspyn.j_ oh for sure! I rate anyone and everyone who goes. Facing yourself is scary but I also know that that’s where most people stop with therapy especially our parent’s generation. Realise what the problem is and move on… and then they take it out on everyone else. Carrie is a prime example. I love watching this as a cautionary tale. I do take issue with the fact they tried to sell this as aspirational because she’s the main character. And the way she treated Aidan was just inexcusable… the part when they move in together or try to anyway is so hard to watch. He dodged a bullet.

[@KandyGTV]

Mr Big was the quintessential handsome eligiable bachelor who had money. He had options and he enjoyed living a bachelor's life until he became old, lonely, sickley, and realized he didn't want to die alone. If we're being honest Carrie and Bigs story is pretty common for a ĺot of women. Women need to realize that just because you "win" the man doesn't necessarily mean you've actually won anything of real substance.

[@queenloiskosher6119]

I was gonna say this! Something about being raised traditionally teaches young ladies that men are supposed to be rakes. Not wanting to settle down, unfaithful, etc but they will become the best version of themselves for a woman they want. And that woman is usually sweet and nurturing and bring out the soft side of them because of their perseverance with their commitment issues and raking. So the fact that he breadcrumbs her and makes an effort to be charming to her, pursuing her when she’s unavailable gives her hope. Many of us young girls would have fallen into this trap for years before moving on and sadly, it would be because he left first.

[@lalalovengun]

THIS!!

[@LauraGrrrr5370]

hospice wife!

[@gracefaalll]

Handsome? 🥴

[@bbuzz1687]

He's not available. When you watch it as an adult in middle age, this is obvious.

[@nensi5813]

She is anxious avoident - deep fear of intimacy and that is why she is hooked on the guy who doesnt really want her. She gets an ick from the guy who actually wants to be with her.

[@aspyn.j_]

i hate to admit it but i can relate to carrie's anxious avoidant behavior. her relationship with aidan honestly exposed a loooooot of what i need to work on. granted, i wouldn't cheat but i would definitely be waiting for the other shoe to drop. -_-

[@nensi5813]

​@aspyn.j_ me too 😂 that is why I recognised the issue.

[@feelingcreativewallace]

@@aspyn.j_ah, thanks for not villainizing it- healing takes time and being able to enjoy peace after trauma takes some releasing. 😮‍💨😌

[@Liamlow2005]

Aleksandr was stuck in the 19th century

[@kathleenbatey3207]

@@aspyn.j_i believe that the right partner should go at the right pace for the other one. I think it’s important to recognise your own issues (i have the same) but also regular comms and not moving too fast helps with this. Not blaming aidan at all but perhaps slower progression of the relationship would have given carrie more space to accept and feel safe to let her feelings evolve in it. I think when you are anxious avoidant (i am too) it’s important to take things nice and slowly and let things build gradually. The anxious avoidant thing is a protection mechanism we have to avoid getting hurt and is also an instinct that we should in balance respect. They made out on this series that Aidan seemed to be in a rush for commitment babies compared to Carrie. I wonder if he had maybe slowed it down and tuned in more with carrie’s deep needs and given her more space if that would have changed things? maybe not but i would have thought that’s the way to heal someone like carrie

[@ozzyozozoz]

I feel like this video should be mandatory viewing for anyone who's been a simp to a toxic partner like this (myself included). Seeing it on SATC was cringe enough but having it laid out all at once just reminded me to NEVER act like this for a man who doesn't care about me EVER again. Great video!!!

[@lovelyhearts1013]

So true omg

[@fleetwoodmak777]

lowkey this should just be shown to anyone who wants a partner period, like an instructional video for a new job position

[@swampsprite9]

I think most single men act this way. I sincerely think most single men are mentally abusive (and a lot of taken ones are, too).

[@user56gghtf]

Not just toxic partners. Toxic people in general do and these same things. They're relatives, coworkers, friends that are really acquaintances, etc.

[@mightymight24]

Girl same 😢 I was once became a Carrie on my life (without cheating ofc) being in a situationship with a non-committal guy for 3 years. Watching this made me realize how miserable I was that time. Glad I was out and I'm at peace now. I left when I found out he suddenly got committed with some girl. He probably thought I will pull-off a Carrie Bradshaw and will stuck around while he dates other women lol. I left him without saying any word. No women deserves that kind of disrespect. Watching this deep dive made me just become wary of to whom should I only give off my energy.

[@cmonman3639]

Carrie Bradshaw is a complete monster. People seem to think Sex and the City is a romcom when in fact it's a horror franchise.

[@allieSunl]

I met my fiancé last year, and what I learned is: if I guy likes you he lets you know. He makes time for you, he takes an interest in your day to day life, he wants to meet you friends and family. My fiancé did all this so effortlessly. Even with us being long distance and having different work schedules. I also found how easy it was to do all those things for him as well. So, if anyone needs to hear this, a guy who cares will let you know because he’ll show you, you won’t have to question it.

[@meghansullivan6812]

🥰

[@carmenl163]

That's what Aiden did.

[@l0v3b1tch3s]

this is a bad habit of mine, but i unintentionally weed out the men who make no effort, cause i never make an effort and sometimes it’s cause i like them so much i overthink it, and other times its cause i just don’t care, so if they communicate to me they want to talk more, i’ll plainly say, my fault bad at that shit (will reach out once and let them know i don’t care enough to put in the effort) or ill tell him i really do like them i just have issues with that stuff, and only guys who really really like me and see me worth the effort last through that, so it weeds out the men who could care less, is that good or bad?

[@pamelab7235]

Absolutely. That’s the advice my dad gave me, when a man is interested in you, you don’t have to guess…if anything, you can’t get rid of him. That is exactly how my husband behaved, and we’re going on 22 years now.

[@allieSunl]

@ we are both in our thirties and have had our share of dating, so when we met and everything clicked, we decided to talk through what we wanted for our future. I know it’s cliche, but after a few months, we both knew we were each other’s life partners. It may seem quick, but we’re sure! We met last January, got engaged this January, and we’ve been living together since. Getting married in February!

[@Fairytaleenthusiat86]

A relationship so disastrous, a 3 hour compilation of a 9 video series was made chronicling its virulence.

[@CandieP]

You gotta admit, that scary movie music they play every time Big pops up on a some F boy sh!t is funny AF 😂

[@amberwortham6138]

Bravo 👏. Perfect assessment

[@blondie9422]

And I loved every second of it

[@PenguinFairy13]

Love love LOVE how Big says “i feel like myself again” and the FIRST THING HE DOES WHEN HES “FEELING LIKE HIMSELF AGAIN” IS TO ONCE AGAIN PUSH CARRIE AWAY It’s sooooo fucking telling.

[@dtschuor459]

That scene was exactly their relationship perfectly encapsulated in a single episode.

[@jeanw2018]

Intermittent reinforcement is often a tactic used in abusive relationships.Big gives Carrie just enough attention to keep her stringing along. He knows she loves him desperately, He treats her like shit cause he knows she is so hoooked on him that she will take it. And as soon as she starts to pull away, he does the absolute minimum he needs to, to pull her back in. For years and years and years,..

[@Flipflops-y3k]

It was bad enough that Carrie was in Natasha's home, sleeping with her husband - she had the nerve to rummage through their fridge!! The DISRESPECT!That will never not infuriate me.

[@lmc8227]

Guess it's symbolic that she's eating Nat's leftovers when caught cheating. 💀💀

[@lunagrace8717]

Its enfuriating , she plays the victim sitting in the wife bed , naked, ew, where Natasha will sleep, then has the nerve to take a shower and eat out of her refrigerator.....unreal

[@silvija644]

I think Carrie loved not Big himself but his life. His money and status. And he had it and Aiden did not. She loved the idea that her life could be glamorous with parties and travels.

[@clautastic9186]

This

[@shanyray2510]

If this was true she would have stayed with Petrovsky.

[@lalahusky5410]

​@@shanyray2510 he wasn't as tall and physically attractive as Big. She likes the status of having someone like that

[@Rose-yt5hi]

@@lalahusky5410Also, he was an artist who ran with other creative and intellectual types. Carrie was out of her depth, especially with the European set.

[@LanaMyslyvetsPlanners]

Yes, Big would never eat KFC or hang with squirrels 🐿️ 🍗

[@heidismith3228]

As someone who lived in New York, it actually is very believable to run into the last person you want to see on a regular bases! The one major NOT NYer thing done regularly in Sex and the City is how the women walk 3/4 strong side by side down the street. They would be getting shoulder checked NON STOP

[@midheaven_mimi]

😂😂 facts!

[@Rayna429]

HA HA so true! Fellow Nyk'r here

[@Terrorvision2]

Yeah, they only did that for the arsthetics

[@TheHeatInColorPodcast]

😂😂😂😂

[@WilliamsPinch]

😂 and not a single “excuse me” in sight

[@User11391]

The way he speaks to the restaurant hostess is the most heated I've ever felt about him. He was so needlessly condescending to a very polite woman just doing her job. How did Carrie find him so charming during that exchange?

[@redtie8351]

This!!! It was SO obnoxious. I was confused how Carrie registered that as him flirting with the hostess. It looked like a typical self-important rich prick who thinks he can do whatever he wants.

[@cloverazar5315]

Here’s the thing - do you think he’d have spoken that way in front of Natasha? Or even Charlotte? I can’t imagine that.

[@zazou7457]

@user11391 My theory is that she 1. Likes the masculine performance of displaying wealth by allowing onesself to be disrespectful to service staff, a classic stereotype of the rich 2. The waiter is one less threat for Carry if he dislikes her, that soothes her in her curated fantasy land that she is one step closer to being the chosen one

[@n.4682]

I NEVER skip a Carrie slander video. Also, Natasha’s lunch with Carrie is the best scene of the show.

[@chibacat1234]

the EDIT!! The red flag waving throughout the video, the memes, the sound effects! 3+ hours and everything is SPOT ON!

[@melisma8747]

The worst thing that Carrie did wasn't cheating but to let Big being part of her life and TOOK HIM INTO AIDEN'S HOUSE. For me that's like the epitome of disrespect

[@RoseRose-hp4rq]

Aiden lowered himself for carrie the way that Carrie lowered herself for big. That lack of self respect renders a person quite unattractive and lowers their value.

[@EmpressEnterprises]

Besides lying and cheating on him - NOT wearing his engagement ring and letting his dog get away on the streets of NYC ~~. Oh yeah, and using him as a work horse to refinish her floors and remodel her apartment!! Let’s face it ~ The woman is void of any good character!! 🙄

[@HelloE648]

It really erks me when she says “you ruined my marriage” you did not have a marriage to ruin, he left you waiting at the altar. Girl!🙄

[@elleofhearts8471]

lol and you would think that a marriage ruiner with experience like Carrie would be able to tell the difference.

[@cv8499]

For real! I always felt like Miranda was the one who deserved an apology from Carrie for accusing her of that. If Big had truly wanted to marry her, he would have. Period. And of course Carrie didn't give a crap about what Miranda was going through that night.

[@HelloE648]

@@elleofhearts8471lol omg forgot all about that part when I watched (one of my million watches) she had some nerve!!

[@HelloE648]

@@cv8499exactly. All she could ever think about was Big. Who cares if her best friend just got cheated on. Lol she’s a mess, relatable but a mess nonetheless

[@CJ-ft9yo]

Yet again Big is not blamed but she blames Miranda as she validates his jilting. Same when she rips up his cheque but she goes to Charlotte and rips into her and guilt force her to give up her ring.

[@Sophia-bp9ul]

I’m mentally and somehow physically exhausted by how much Carrie allowed herself to go through with big. Her self esteem was in the gutter and she loves it there

[@jessjess23brooks89]

The first half had me feeling something I thought I never could again: sorry for Carrie. Then she cheats on Aiden with this Brooks Brother's sack of shiite and I'm back to normal lol

[@EleiyaUmei]

That sounds a bit victim-blamey... It's so hard to leave a toxic relationship if your self-esteem is in the gutter

[@RoseRose-hp4rq]

@@EleiyaUmeiCarrie refuses to have any self reflection or take any accountability for her actions. She went to one therapy session and it was obvious that she stopped going because she might have been required to **gasp!** 😮 better herself. She chooses to victimize herself.

[@goawayfatheux]

@@EleiyaUmeioh gosh

[@LAWoman323213]

💯

[@anngrace1782]

This is the most comprehensive and most insightful and downright hilarious analysis ever. I barely ever found Sex and the City funny when watching it but have busted out laughing more times than I can count during your commentary. Please never stop making these on more shows!!! 💗💗

[@aspyn.j_]

I sure will not and THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE SC. 😘🥰

[@violavalz6638]

Wow. A whole generation was primed to accept crap.

[@LetsCookMMK]

😂😂

[@isabelladesouzaleao9662]

There is just no way Carrie said the line "How about this for a column? 'Desperate women who will believe anything'." aimed at Samantha without a HINT of self awareness.

[@birez6625]

Not to mention Samantha besides Charlotte had one of the most emotionally fulfilling and safe relationships out of the four. Smith was a legitimately nice guy who really cared and took care of her when she got cancer. Just because the relationship ended doesn’t mean it was a failure. It means they grew to have different needs and they were there for one another in a way that was special and few people would experience.

[@alexclark2370]

Samantha could have destroyed Carrie by just coughing and saying, "or believing in a relationship with Mr. Big". Carrie's got main character status though sadly.

[@birez6625]

@ I wish they would have let Samantha fight back just a bit more. They always let her have the last word when you know damn well with a powerful PR executive she could have cut down Carrie to size and it wouldn’t have been hard. Look at Kelly Cutrone. She never would have put up with any of Carries bullshit and while Samantha is more tactful she’s the type to take no prisoners especially in as ruthless of an industry that she’s in. Hanging out with the girls was her time to be vulnerable and the girls really didn’t provide that space for her.

[@alexclark2370]

@@birez6625 You're so right, they really didn't provide that space for her. She was more of a laughing stock to them yet she was there for them through all their problems. She didn't even judge Carrie for cheating!

[@danielapardo9776]

​@@birez6625 I always thought she was the badass of the group, not only because of her self confidence in sex, but because of her job. To me she is like the Princess Carolyn in SATC. They all have respectable jobs but she must be a brave, hardworking and smart woman to succeed in that industry; all of which I admire a lot.

[@JM-er2yl]

In my mind, Aiden changed his name, moved to Chicago, met & married Toula Portokalos, and is living his best life.

[@jasmineguerrero1742]

I always think about that hahaha 😅

[@uglybetty8747]

Yessssssss nd has a daughter named Paris, they all living happily ever after !💜

[@kazakukog]

long hair Aiden*😂

[@mathildevian1962]

Watching this is like watching a horror psychological show. Like it's truly frightning to me

[@addisbarge]

So accurate

[@razielhernandez2849]

I have sighed constantly while watching this video

[@causeeffect7624]

Have you lived it? Many have. This is why sooo many of US watched it.

[@mathildevian1962]

@@causeeffect7624 I've been lucky, I've never been in that sort of relationship. But I've seen many female friends struggling with that kind of "love"

[@EmpressEnterprises]

What is very sad, is all the young girls that were influenced by this show! Thinking that all of this is normals behavior and if you put up with all this abuse, somehow in the end, it will all turn around -he will wake up- and she will finally get this toxic prize!! Let alone how many times all of them have sex expecting love in return - and talking about their weekly sexepades and having NO discretion about something that should be private! I remember a friend asking me “How was he?!” And I told her “that’s between me and him”! Since when does everyone tell everything about everybody?!? I guess now!! 🙄🙄🙄

[@apriljefferson43]

The way Big acted when Carrie was planning their wedding pissed me off so badly. Natasha was able to have the wedding of her dreams when he barely even knew her ass, but Carrie’s wrong, after dealing with his bs for 10 years, for not wanting to get married at city hall in a Vivian Westwood dress? Also, you’re spot on about Steve. He was a bum too. The audacity to cheat on her is astounding!

[@hj-ct2qi]

i have never watched an episode of sex and the city in my entire life...why am i watching this three hour video essay and enjoying the hell out of it?

[@yai2615]

literally me rn

[@uglybetty8747]

Omggg same rn lmaoooo

[@lmc8227]

Sameee 😂

[@MareenRogers]

I lied. Put your clothes back on, we are going to watch the full video.

[@natalee_a7]

lol

[@smeym6236]

@@natalee_a7

[@BlueJeansTarot]

🤣🤣🤣

[@iamlauravonn]

"as he leaves in his pimpmobile" you have me dying

[@dianaabidin1485]

Carrie is the only one who can stands him. He has to pretend to be someone else with Natasha. But with Carrie, he can be himself and Carrie tolerates that. They do belong together

[@ceci1017]

Factsss and he knew carrie will always be available and ready to adore him

[@JenniJemm]

Natasha is the real winner 🏆 her trash took himself out, and the scumbags got to wallow together in the end. Aiden deserved so mch better than Carrie.

[@gabriela_i]

Help, I am obsessed with this video. It's my comfort video when cooking, when I struggle falling asleep, and again and again once in a while. Love your voice, commentary and editing.

[@aspyn.j_]

🥹🥹🥹🥹

[@gabriela_i]

​@@aspyn.j_ Girl, I only see a blank space, if you typed anything, it doesn't show. Anyway, sending hugs!

[@aspyn.j_]

@@gabriela_i I sent the happy tears emoji 🤣🤣🤣 but thank you, that comment made my day. I def have my comfort videos that I rewatch a jillion times so it’s nice to know my content is the same for others!!!

[@RikodiusRex]

You keep calling him a pimp but never wonder why that random girl couldn't get her passport back and why people kept confusing carrie with a hooker. 😅

[@persephone342]

😂😂😂

[@angel-ke9vs]

Lover boy pimp classic

[@WilliamsPinch]

Not Big turning out to be Epstein 😭

[@cloverazar5315]

Logistically, he would have even been an Epstein contemporary. Ick

[@merricat3731]

He would definitely be on the flight logs

[@nadirimyers6643]

Would have walked away the same moment he didn’t introduce me… ppl introduce their damn dogs I’m not bout to stand there like a lamp post. 19 minutes in and I’m already annoyed with her. This is why I never fully watched sex and the city

[@aspyn.j_]

Same.

[@frappalina]

boyfriend:big losing: her signature look curly hair should be corrected into losing: her dignity

[@MelitaBintoro]

im about to sleep but i laughed so hard at this

[@elenakalliste]

😂😂 but did she ever have that to begin with? The first episode is her going back to some guy who was “a mistake she made” multiple times over many years

[@kamekaj4425]

The “I’m a piece of garbage” sound bite kept taking me out 😂😂😂. This was so good, didn’t feel like it was 3 hours at all 😊

[@magzdilluh]

NGL I cackled when Big died, cackled even harder when the writers had to pretend Sam sent a bouquet

[@lildraco8106]

you should do one about how carrie is a horrible friend and doesn't deserve those girls. this was a amazing video btw

[@gamingbutter5768]

In real life too, I have been hearing. ❤️💙💜💖💗💘❤️

[@gamingbutter5768]

What did she say at the 1:00 mark?

[@heatherreisinger13]

Yes!

[@Maellegasy]

I wish all people who still think that Carrie and Big relationship is a love story could see this video. People still gaslight themselves into thinking that Big loved Carrie when she clearly is a placeholder he doesn't love nor even respect. I guess this kind of take is what leads way too many people/women to stay in toxic relationships. Thanks for your services to humanity :)

[@irizl9328]

I watched satc as a kid and while i still enjoy it, i can see now how it really scewed my perspective on what is normal in dating and love. I watch it now and i think, my god, how did i ever think this was acceptable or even romantic?!

[@midheaven_mimi]

Aspyn is doing the Lord’s work.. opening many eyes, including mine lol

[@melisma8747]

I'm always in shock when they say "oh but in the end they always knew they were made for each other" "Big left her everything, it doesn't matter that he left a ton of money for the ex in the testament" "they always came back to each other" "Big just was scared with commitment, but he decided at the end" yeah after he married a younger woman and cheated on her. Like bis, even Carry thought Big was a mistake and everything always had to be his way

[@skromnyasha]

I mean.. he sure stuck with this placeholder🙄 I don't think he meant that little to him otherwise but he's not fit for relationships and true commitment obviously. I don't think he would have been a great partner for anybody, he's shit and have major problems and Carry wanted something from him that he just couldn't give, not because of her but because of who he is.

[@matchaleche]

I was a very young teen, when this was on TV in Germany and Big always gave me the ick, even when I was nearly still a child (although, tbf part of it was that I didn't understand why my other female friends found him so hot. To me, he was an old man who always smirked like a slime ball 😂) The thing is, neither one of them loved the other, it was a parasitic relationship. Carrie loved what Big symbolised, how having a "rich, distinguished (lol) man" choose her over EVERYONE else. He always gave her the feeling of not really being in her grasp and that's why she fought for him night and day. I found it insane how she not just cheated on Aiden, but even told Miranda that she's Big in this relationship, so she KNEW how badly she'd hurt Aiden (not the biggest fan of Aiden, but he's simply not my cup of tea, character wise he's leagues ahead of these baffoons) I still find it fascinating how shows like these make such a huge impact on a whole generation of women. I think the same kinda applies to How I Met Your Mother and how so many guys wanted to be Barney, while not seeing his hurt and loneliness. Or how the other guys said they are a Ted, to show how romantic they were, although Ted also is a very gray'ish character. I think in times of streaming it's hard to have series with such an impact - for better or worse

[@ragingrabbit7163]

Being carries friend must’ve been hell, I would’ve stopped talking to her so fastttttt

[@Shay416]

Dropped he dumbass in the toilet with my phone lol

[@cv6442]

She is extremely self-absorbed and dramatic. I would be so annoyed with her very quickly! 😅

[@lunar_light]

Right?! The way she disrespected Miranda by ditching her for Big AND NOT EVEN CALLING TO TELL HER?! I mean what the actual f. In real life Miranda would have gone no contact after that.

[@mothturtle7897]

Samantha leaving makes more and more sense

[@14funnybunny1]

I know some Carrie’s 🙄

[@terryhutchings7701]

Frankly, this video should be shown in a relationship class in high school. Might save a lot of heartache for young ladies who are easy prey for guys like that.

[@susannahpurcka9190]

This is actually like the best KZbin video I have ever watched. I wish I could erase this from my mind so I could watch this for the first time again idk

[@EnydCrowfeather]

Feel The *EXACT* Same Way!!! 🤍

[@angelicanoel987]

Oh girl, this is better than a movie night. I already watched all of them, but combined!?!? We don't deserve you, Aspyn! ❤

[@pegacis]

May this type of love never find me 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@pastaburglar]

LMAOOO 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@boricuapr869]

🎉🎉🎉🎉this comment will be in my prayers

[@ccharles848]

No kidding.

[@dtschuor459]

This is all due to her own incapacity to take the clear loose rejection he gives her from quite early on. This love only “found” her because she refused to be sensible and accept that he was not going to give her what she wanted when she needed it. Ever. She chose to go back over and over against all sense.

[@uglybetty8747]

Same let’s all pray 🙏

[@thixiemattel]

wanting someone to be in love with you is not the same as loving them.

[@aspyn.j_]

Sure isn’t.

[@picahudsoniaunflocked5426]

Needlepointing this onto my couch cushions.

[@blarue1]

A word!

[@fleetwoodmak777]

*cough* Ted Moseby *cough cough*

[@thixiemattel]

I was in the trenches when I posted this but you know what i was right.

[@brih220]

I’ve religiously watched this entire series (excellent job btw) but seeing this one of it all compiled together made me realize how absolutely infuriating it is that Big never ever allows him and Carrie to have one mature adult conversation without deflecting the point or main question that Carrie is trying to make/ask. He’s actually a much more insidious character than I think even the series gives him credit for. He’s a complete manipulator. I would be SO curious to see how he treated Natasha while they were married, from Natasha’s POV not Carrie’s.

[@jillianwallace8944]

it's funny to me how for the most part big goes after classy, tall, thin brunette women when we see that's EXACTLY what his mother looks like😅 just me?

[@MATTELMADE]

no i noticed this too

[@lisalisa6617]

And he also has brown hair

[@catcat9582]

Very common

[@karinazagirova]

Freud would be proud of Big

[@clairehutton5397]

That is most men I have noticed! 😀

[@Plasticplas1]

23:24 She is 32. How is she not past all this nonsense? She writes a sex and relationships column and actually acts like a teenager.

[@KafkaM99]

Age doesn’t heal traumas , makes it worse

[@ElaAusDemTal]

She writes a column, so what? It's not like you'd need a proper education for that.

[@Plasticplas1]

@@ElaAusDemTal Yeah, that would all be fine if in universe she wasn't constantly praised for her writing. The only people who don't buy Carries bs are the audience

[@ИринаКарась-ю7ш]

I used to hate Charlotte growing up, but now at 31 years old I can finally appreciate the wholesome and decent personality that Charlotte has

[@andreazavala4193]

I finally realized I want an Aiden. I used get bored of Aiden’s. But an Aiden came recently to my life and I will not let him go. I treasure it now 😢

[@EnydCrowfeather]

Happy 4 U 🤍 Many many blessings

[@lesa1378]

I need an aiden in my life

[@corderitahxc]

Thats amazing!! Wish you guys the best

[@mightymight24]

May aiden finds us all! ✨

[@ebonynaomi1085]

Me too. Aiden is the one. Mr Big is only good as a sugar daddy, to help build your finances. Use him , then lose him.😂

[@TheKimbino]

It’s the way I don’t even have sympathy for Carrie because at every turn Big shows her who he is? Like what is she expecting here? Change?

[@SparkleNeely]

I would never in my life chase a man like Carrie chased Big. It really is so embarrassing. They both sucked and probably deserved each other. Btw this was very well done. Great work.

[@aspyn.j_]

Thank you!!!

[@birez6625]

The only exception are the eloteros. Barefoot and sprinting after I hear that honk of the horn.

[@gabsmikealsonineedmoreletters]

I think Big was already with Natasha before the summer in Paris. Natasha was a great match because “if I have to go to Paris, I have to go to Paris.” And Natasha was maybe ok with that because she had her own life and job. OR the “I have to go to Paris” was code for “seeing my real girl”. He was just “having fun” with Carrie. Then when his job thing was done, he brought Natasha with him. He was always going to keep Carrie as his side chick.

[@aspyn.j_]

This is exactly my theory as well.

[@eugeniarodriguez9700]

like the fact thar Kim Catrall`s character is still beloved and Sarah Jessica Parker`s character is kind of despised, love you forever Samantha

[@anaruggieri4247]

This is My comfort video. I listen to it like a podcast when i'm doing dishes, when i'm sunbathing, when i'm cleaning. Love the tone of your voice ❤

[@aspyn.j_]

Aww thank you so much. Im glad my voice is comforting to you. 🥰

[@thehouseofmourning]

I'm an anxious-avoidant who went no-contact in September with my dismissive-avoidant after too many years. He's now trying to make a comeback again. The temptation is real but I remembered this video and watched it for the 300th time for all 3 hours to remind myself of how not-worth-it the pattern is. This is still the best SATC Big-Carrie breakdown of all time and the value it has brought me is unspeakable. Carrie was clearly a traumatized little girl and Big really brought all her stuff up. I also believe the powers that be use these kinds of shows to program women into worshipping both men and martyrdom. There's so much more out there, ladies, and though I honestly struggle to see it for myself because of all the trauma I've survived, I'd rather be happily single at this point. I'm in therapy working through all my stuff and really hoping we all experience freedom from our pasts. Let's do our work and LIVE! Aspyn you a real one, girl, THANK YOU for your content ❤‍🔥 Love from Johannesburg, South Africa

[@elenakalliste]

Stay strong and protect yourself ❤

[@NatzTalk]

You're right, Carrie definitely didn't deserve Samantha! I loved how Miranda stuck it to her about Big. Charlotte always held her accountable- telling her she was wrong at every turn.

[@NatzTalk]

Crazy how Big preferred brunettes. When everyone says men prefer blondes! Go figure!

[@Camille_Anderson]

​@@NatzTalkPlenty of men do love blondes!

[@Amanda.Cooper]

Big's ex-wife and the actress he falls for being the same real life actress IS SENDING ME!!!!! That's hilarious and probably symbolic

[@Sunshine_Girl86]

Omg 😂😂😂

[@ChantalTheEsthetician]

What?

[@cecimarie7595]

@@ChantalTheEstheticianthey’re played by the same actress

[@AmaraEmme]

1:30:16

[@TheKhaliente]

Sending you in the wrong direction… They were played by 2 different actresses. Noelle Beck/ex wife and Noemie Ditzler/gf are the actresses.

[@Razzioli]

Have I ever watched SAC? No. Did I watch this whole thing in one sitting? Absolutely.

[@aspyn.j_]

I watch videos of shows I’ve never seen all the time lol thank you for watching mine.

[@lonely_july1]

Same bro

[@ororomonroe8022]

Me too

[@Rebekkashahtirmizi]

Ha ha, I’ve never watched it but I’m watching this whole thing and I don’t know why.

[@vicfigueroa9728]

Just finished it on my TV and came back to comment on my phone, this video got me to end it with my situationship everyone say GOODBYE MR BIG 😂

[@aspyn.j_]

🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

[@KCRoyale]

BuhnByeeeeee

[@KCRoyale]

My ex wants to come backkk. NOOOOOo! #Remain blocked! GetSomeoneElseToDoIt

[@esmeesmeralda701]

Norrr sameee, I had to wait for it to be slow at work to watch the whole video. Took me 2 days. Vv entertaining

[@konstantinapapaioannou4306]

Omg I'm so happy for you!! You go girl!!

[@ece2382]

your editing of the big-aidan fistfight makes me laugh every single time

[@aviatrix7774]

For real, funniest part of the whole thing

[@lightdove7]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@coolcat3452]

Me too; slipping in those shorts is hilarious lol!!😂😂😂❤❤

[@kazakukog]

those men cannot fight to save their lives😂

[@nomadichomebody4230]

I loved Carrie when I first watched this show 25 years ago. Now she is insufferable and immature and drawn to drama and toxic relationships. She is the worst friend and doesn't deserve that group of women. I watch it now to reiterate how not to behave.

[@JadeReloaded]

I feel the same! I wonder if this is what maturing feels like.

[@catcat9582]

I think so. I'd like a therapist to tell me if she is the most unhealthy

[@GoldenXBoots]

Saaaaaaaame!!!! She is so shallow, self absorbed and self centered. Her friends are so awesome, she is the weakest link of the friend group

[@Deadspooky-Gore]

Omg yes!!!

[@merricat3025]

I was around the same age as Carrie when this aired. I didn't watch this show. All I saw was selfish, shallow people I couldn't see the appeal.

[@saska7286]

the rewachability of this is insane

[@aspyn.j_]

Omg thank you lol I’m glad you find it rewatchable!

[@RoseRose-hp4rq]

I’ve rewatched it an insane amount of times

[@zammymynakersnackstbmoth]

​@aspyn.j_ I watched each individual video and this entire compilation MANY times. One of the most rewatchable things on this app.

[@peaceandchillz]

Same. 2025, my comfort channel lol

[@prisle]

gosh the LOVE OF DETAIL in this video, I was thoroughly entertained for its entire length, thank you so much for your work ☺

[@aspyn.j_]

You’re welcome! 🥰

[@rslily]

Carrie has always been a low key gold digger. Carrie was the first woman that didn't bore the f outta Big, and he was addicted to her sexually, but she didn't fit the mold of upper east side pedigree, so he kept her strung along as long as he could without having to commit.

[@annejohnson5875]

Carrie was so horrible to Samantha at the book party. First she demands Samantha show up, then when she sees Samantha's face, she doesn't want to be seen with her.

[@kristinharriscoloring]

Carrie getting mad at Miranda for her emotionally unavailable man being once again unreliable af was SO ridiculous! She is seriously the worst friend on the series. Reminds me of my mom’s former bestie. My mom caught her man cheating with some lady in a parking lot.. tells her friend.. friend somehow thinks mom is lying and literally never talked to her again. Not even when she knew my mom was dying (her twin sister remained one my mom’s besties for the rest of her life, so she knew).

[@00st307-m]

A similar thing happened to me. Crazy how some women will prioritize a man over anything and everything! So silly really!

[@kristinharriscoloring]

@@00st307-m even after the woman caught him cheating she somehow never forgave my mom. I’m sorry that happened to you too.. ugh

[@aspyn.j_]

I’m sorry to hear that. It really is far too common. I’ve been ditched for awful men so many times. Hell, my mom chose her cheating, abusive husband over me, her evil son over me and would probably have done it again and again if we were still on speaking terms. It’s infuriating. But now she’s all alone and has no female presence to vouch for her which is what she wanted all along so 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@aspyn.j_]

Very silly. Women shoot themselves in the foot every single time and then wonder why they have no friends.

[@chynB]

​@@aspyn.j_ I'm so sorry you had to go through that. But it's good to hear that you've distanced yourself from her. ♥️♥️

[@AndreaFMS100]

I have watch these videos separately several times. Am I gonna watch it all again as one three hour video? Yes. Yes I am.

[@missaliciaxxxx]

SAME! 😂😂❤❤

[@melikasabzevari5841]

Sameeeeeeeeeee

[@ilymykiki]

Same! 😂

[@annsheehy8788]

Thank GOD I'm not the only one

[@icantthinkofaname6991]

Yup yup yup!

[@eventhorizonabyss9337]

I watched this back in the day. Being an adult gives it a whole different perspective. Your anaylsis and edits are brilliant. I hope your channel gets huge.

[@georginacalder6798]

Carrie is an emotional vampire to her friends, Big is a piece of shit to his partners, and Carrie. Thank god for sane, comic relief Samantha, and strong wildly funny Miranda.

[@zjjir]

🎵 still a piece of garbage 🎵

[@nomadichomebody4230]

Every scene is a red flag

[@tessatriumph4317]

I sing along 😅

[@00st307-m]

@@tessatriumph4317same😅

[@alexaaa87]

😂😂LOOOL that was so funny

[@MrsBrittanyGold]

😂 took me out every time

[@globetrekker86]

It’s always about the guy, with Carrie. She ditches her dinner plans with Miranda, because Big “ got this veal”. Years later, she’s too chicken to help nurse Miranda’s sprained neck health, sending poor Aidan to do it… The Aidan she repeatedly dumped on (not jumping her bones right away, being “too available “, not being Mr. Big)

[@msairs]

i was blinded by the halo around Carrie but all this shows how cringe, desperate, and thirsty she was for him and his life

[@rolfallivellie]

This entire breakdown was HILARIOUS, and the editing [massive chef's kiss]. The scary music every time Big came on, the distorted audio, and the That's So Raven edit... LOL. I hardly noticed that this was over three hours! The commentary was top tier too, it was like my thoughts being voiced out loud. LOVE IT!! 🤣

[@aspyn.j_]

I am SO glad you enjoyed it! 😊

[@vh1077]

Using your Videos as a distraction and coping from the madness in the world right now, thank you and greetings from germany

[@aspyn.j_]

You are so welcome.

[@DanataD]

No one is born cool except Aspyn J who would gives us a 3hr vid on the train wreck that Big and Carrie. Bless you.

[@jesswhycamarz]

way more entertaining then the series itself!

[@mahabanana]

👏🏼💯✨🌞

[@Sishel]

3 hrs later, I feel just like Mr. Big after reading Carrie's book from cover to cover..... somehow surprised of how incredibly f***** up their relationship is, but not quite noticing before.

[@tearsofawaterfall2656]

Oh my gosh, same. How did I not notice how toxic they were before

[@Rowboaty]

Saaaame!! 😂

[@cv6442]

​@@tearsofawaterfall2656how did I not see how incredibly toxic MOST of the show was?? 😂

[@lovelyhearts1013]

SAME lol when I used to watch it I didn’t notice how bad it all was 😂

[@one_shot_one_hit]

A three hour video of the dumpster fire of relationship between Big and Carrie - that's what I call self-care. Aspyn, you deserve the world for giving us this gem. I jumped into the video with the speed of Big running from the feds)

[@Ida-Adriana]

😂 This is therapy!

[@Africana3789]

I don't know how to properly describe just how much I enjoy watching you drag Carrie and Big and their overall toxicity. Thank You!

[@ceydakeles9396]

This is painful to watch when you are a Carrie in real life. It is scary to think that this can still happen in your 30s. Their relationship is such an amazing cautionary tale. You summed it all up quite nicely and humorously.

[@Nina-notasausage.]

LOL! Big IS a pimp! My friends and family were so disappointed when we learned his name was John.😒 We even said that it makes it seem like one of Carrie's s work "customers". He was always peering at her from his tinted windows limousine. 😑

[@aspyn.j_]

OMG I DIDNT MAKE THAT CONNECTION 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@WiseThoughts20]

He’s never respected her boundaries but then again she never set any.

[@melisma8747]

Carrie thought that moving to Paris with a man would mean that he would hang around with her all day. I hate Big but he told her when he was maybe moving to Paris that she shouldn't move just for him. Why Carrie didn't think about getting a life in Paris, a hobbie, something to do with her life if the plan was being with Alexander for life

[@rosi5116]

She actually tried but Alexander kept pulling her back to just be with him..

[@brittanybinger3215]

@@rosi5116He also asked her to go with him. So the fact that he completely ignored her the whole time and used her as his support girl is just completely a I’m just looking out for myself move

[@sharonangelina5]

This was so eye-opening and amazing, great job! I watched every episode on DVD in my 30s, and it never occurred to me that Big was a narcissist. It's so clear now!! Thank you for helping me pin down why I couldn't ever like him!

[@EmilyAdams_theAltaCreative]

Fastest three hours of my life after the 20 longest years of my life. I have my very own Mr. Big. This story is my story. The last time we broke up, he was married in less than a year to a woman he had very plainly been telling me was his type for the entire time we were “together,” and as far as I know they have been happy for nearly nine years.

[@ckk5762]

Well if im understanding your comment correctly, you were with him for 20 years? I know you dont wish his new partner ill will but i say this, they may not be happy, he may be exactly who he has always been.

[@LiminalHellscape]

Season 4 was unhinged with Aiden taking Carrie back and accepting Big being up in the middle of their relationship. In what universe would the average man be cool sharing space with your ex that you cheated on him with? That whole story line lost me.

[@Bluejay1738]

Aiden deserved better

[@fizwizard]

i heard it described once as Carrie was Aidan’s Big - he was so down bad for her that he abandoned his own self respect, just like how Carries does for Big

[@Shirinsays29]

Carrie had some balllllls to be asking Aiden if Big could come up to his house 😭 the way I woulda locked her and Big out immediately

[@sharonh2991]

I had a friend once who had two steady boyfriends. The guys knew about each other and they were exclusive with her but she cheated on both of them. She would stay with one for a couple of days and while she was out with her girls she would have the other one pick up her clothes and makeup from him so she could stay with number two for a few days. Both of the guys tolerated it for years until she met someone else and dumped them both. Some guys will do anything for a woman, I’ve seen it many, many times. It’s all in how you play the game (and yes, it is a game).

[@birez6625]

I had an epiphany yesterday that Miranda and Aiden should have gotten together. Screw Carrie. It could have been a legitimate conflict in the series. They’re both honest and were looking for stability and both are practical. None of this weird emotional rollercoaster ride from their loser exes although I do agree with others that Carrie was Aiden’s “Big”.