A 97-Year-Old Philosopher Faces His Own Death

[@billfarley9167]

I'm now 87 years old. My wife passed several years ago and my children and grandchildren are all grown up, very busy and getting on with life. I'm still fairly mobile and have a circle of old guys as friends. We do community projects by building things like outdoor benches for the local park, wheelchair ramps, bird houses, vegetable garden boxes, fix kids bikes, serve lunch at the local public school, etc. It feels great to give back to the community and regain a sense of worth. I really enjoy the camaraderie with my friends. The Dalai Lama was once asked if he feared death. "No, he replied, I don't fear death, I'm afraid of dying!" And I have to agree with him. One of my friends died in his sleep a few months age. The response from the fellows? "Lucky bastard!" A slow lingering death has to be at the top of the worst things list. I enjoyed Herbert's sudden observation of trees, the wind and birds, etc. This is happening to me as I slowly turn inwards and begin to pay attention to small happenings around me. I'm like a 5 year old, laying on my back in the grass and watching clouds go by, finding faces in the white fluffy stuff; hearing and watching birds and small animals scurrying through the underbrush. And of course the guilt and remorse of suddenly realizing that what I'm doing now, what I'm paying attention to now, is something I should have been doing all my life. I don't know if I'm afraid of death or not. I've thought about it lately and don't have an answer. I really don't want to pass on because I love and enjoy my children and grandchildren so very much. I have regrets about what could have been and realize I won't be around when all the new science and discoveries become a reality. But then I realize what the Buddhists say about ego. Dropping the ego and staying in the moment is the secret of life. Do no harm to ALL living creatures and be kind to others. As you can see, the video of Herbert Fingarette has had an impact on me, so had to put my feelings in print. May all of you stay safe and may all of you have happiness.

[@lightfz]

That's a beautiful comment Bill. Thank you for sharing.

[@Jako1741]

It was very nice reading your comment sir, I am in my 40s and I have seen die some friends much younger than me, and some relatives much older. That was enough for me to realize that the “great moment” can be just behind the corner, and we should be ready. I mean, we should put an effort in enjoying every moment, it is our duty to realize what a miracle life is, and to be in good terms with everything and everybody around us. For reasons which are too long to explain, I am also a firm believer in the afterlife. I am sure there is something unimaginable awaiting for us after we pass away. So keep enjoying and will continue chatting in the other side, God bless you sir.

[@jerrys.1910]

God bless you kind sir. I was thoroughly intrigued reading your genuine, eloquently written, clearly honest thoughts. Perhaps one day we will all find the answers we so crave, whether we are a spiritual person or not. I wish you happiness and health in all your remaining years. Perhaps our 'death' is truly a new beginning.

[@jakewhite8340]

Best of wishes to you Bill!

[@jossbsure]

Thank you for your wisdom. I don't thinks there is a reason in life, a goal to achieve or anything remotely akin. I think the process is the thing, just like taking a walk: the destination is secondary and doesn't mean much. We all go back home in the end.

[@gaames]

Thanks to the caregiver here, and to all caregivers, for doing this necessary and decent and underpaid work. You make all the difference.

[@elrey8876]

As a caregiver I agree. I haven't watched it all, but his feet look like they need some more attention.

[@reanimated6]

If you care about getting cared for, pay caregivers as if you actually do.

[@creatorraft9197]

reanimated6 your negativity isn’t welcome here

[@elrico1364]

Its called 'Charity'

[@mistaleesreversespeech7728]

Angels on earth.

[@Rkenichi]

“In my arrogance, I thought that I could conquer death with logic. But now I know that I only used logic to suppress my fear of death.”

[@naturallaw1733]

you can't conquer death. you just have to accept it. Fear, Anger, Worry, Sadness etc. are just normal emotions we will have because Emotions are an important part of us. but the acceptance of death is not about us. it's just about understanding what Life is all about and being humble in its presence.

[@ghostcityshelton9378]

@@naturallaw1733 Very well said.💖

[@eternityjackson3564]

Truly convert to Jesus (I don't mean a church or organization) and you will no longer be afraid of death. No matter if you are 20 or 102. I know very old people who have experienced this. I myself am old too.

[@ffdv7458]

@@eternityjackson3564 It doesn't matter if it's Jesus, Harry Potter or any other entity, what matters is to fool your brain into believing something. The process gets easier the sicker you are.

[@maxboucher86]

@@ffdv7458 You dont want to believe because you want to keep on living in sin. You supress the truth in unrighteousness.

[@b_dog9]

For people wondering, he died November 2, 2018, at the age of 97, in Berkeley, California.

[@SuspiriaX]

isn't that a university ..just kidding RIP

[@jameslewis8690]

THANK YOU

[@pebble312]

@@SuspiriaXIt’s a city in California, the university there is UC Berkeley

[@rachelcharris]

I was actually wondering that was very kind of you to share this update.

[@larisachern2413]

😥😥😥

[@HettiedeKorteDiplomaat]

It’s impossible to explain to young people how it feels to wake up and realize: I’m 97 years old. But my mind is still 45.

[@ruzickaw]

Mind has no age.

[@davidarden4472]

I’m 31 and I understand, I really do empathize with those older then me, I can understand the pain. I’m a feeler and I think about existence so it’s fascinating to hear something like this but it’s also heart breaking.

[@davidarden4472]

@Space Walker happy birthday!! The question is though? Would you really want to?

[@davidarden4472]

@Space Walker honestly no, I’m not scared of it, kind of want to see what life has in store

[@ironmaven1760]

@Space Walker so..im 59. im also afraid of aging. its happening and i cant do fuck all about it. MY min (or mental age) is round about..20 or 25! Im still jamming to Depeche Mode, The Smiths, with some new stuff ive found from my 19 yr old son. And since I Feel younger, and hang out with younger people..i look WAAAY younger. People cant believe my age. So it really IS in your mind to a large degree. Keep your mind in a childlike state my friend. And use sunscreen! ;)

[@donnawells2442]

My father told me just before he passed”Don’t worry about dying.Dying is easy,Living is hard.I find comfort in that because my father would not lie to me.He said that for a reason.

[@lizannewhitlow1085]

Donna Wells 🙏🏻 My father was my guiding light. I am my father’s daughter now living the life he wanted: minimal socializing, books, magazines, reading, armchair (for me) traveling, current events, 🤭, 📚, 🙈. He taught the 11th commandment: do not bulls**t thy father. God, I miss him.

[@terregales7203]

“Don’t worry about death it’s perfectly safe “. R D

[@ayingchanda]

Immortality is what i want

[@gaurasrspublishing]

@Joe Me The love just clearly emanates from you!

[@ayingchanda]

@Joe Me 😮

[@AnimeT0getherEU]

I was taking care of an old lady, who always forgets that her husband died and starts crying whenever she realizes. I never know what to say but cry with her.

[@oxyrisin]

That had to be horrible to witness.

[@lupebogi]

That's both funny and sad at the same time. And that makes it beautiful. Some of those things that make life beautiful. No matter how bad it looks at a certain point in time.

[@asgermortensen5835]

And I thought I couldn't get any more emotional.

[@deedeemooreco.2304]

AnimeT0getherEU That’s all we can do. Just acknowledging the pain and holding her hands is all you can do, but it’s an an act of empathy and understanding

[@brianj5271]

I’d probably cry with her too tbh

[@DavidPerez-oj2dv]

MY MOM IS 90 SHE IS SLOWING DOWN AND I KNOW THE END IS NEAR SHE IS THE BEST MOM A SON COULD EVER HAVE

[@tpeterson9140]

that means ur blessed. few live to 90.

[@biggreen1456]

give her a hug

[@DavidPerez-oj2dv]

EVERY DAY @@biggreen1456

[@joshyazg2120]

CAPS LOCK IS NEXT TO YOUR "A" KEY

[@legendmaster1989]

@@joshyazg2120 🤓

[@andrewofaiur]

"Do not be afraid of getting older for it is a privilege denied to many"

[@kqr5133]

Christian Quiñones you cant think like that christian 🥺

[@andrewm5612]

Christian Quiñones belief is a powerful tool of manifestation do some reflection as to why you believe this to be true and decide if you can change it and if your willing and have a desire to because it’s not out of your hands in most cases unless you have a death wish/people out to get you/terrible sickness etc

[@christianquinones9347]

@@andrewm5612 you can't have a worse illness that what I already have my neuro-oncologist said its gbm currently finishing temodar but it's useless, its still growing and every time the surgeon takes it out...it just comes back faster and stronger

[@BRAUSA]

Absolutely

[@franjocupic3241]

How is being old a privilige?

[@nixtick4287]

I just love that this video is made by his grandson..

[@oddone1325]

i just love that too. rip. K0 B 3

[@9234mikey]

David no need to be a dick, some people have idols they look up too.

[@maximilianraley2457]

@@9234mikey Well I am quickly learning you don't have the right to have an opinion on the internet unless you accept the hate and animosity it brings. I think it's probably people who are unhappy in their lives, and the horrible things they say to people over the internet is probably what other people have told them in their personal lives.

[@filipserec8856]

@@cuy50 how does mentioning some1 make u an asshole

[@harrystanden8585]

@@cuy50 imagine having empathy for a human beings death, for the death of someone who millions loved, the death of a father, of a son. get a grip.

[@elyasstephens8242]

I think his mental acuity at his age is the most impressive thing

[@1deadhead]

And IF he could still get it up , I'd be even more impressed !!!

[@sirgrotto8714]

Yeah and shit I have so much more respect for old people

[@andrewdubin5530]

looks pretty good physically for 97 too

[@lemostjoyousrenegade]

My grandfather's mental clarity was as keen as any sharp and brilliant 30-year-old when he passed at the age of 100. I think he died of a broken heart - his wife passed and then, a few years later (and within just 6 days of each other), his two younger sisters (both in their 80's) passed away. My mum's memory is just as excellent as it was when she was in her 40s, she's 88 now.

[@MrSharkskull]

and have you seen the stability of the hands putting that vinil recording to play? Incredible absence of any tremor neither hesitation in the orientation of the movements. amazing young man!!!!

[@Stephen_Lafferty]

Herbert Fingarette - Born: 20 January 1921, Brooklyn, New York; Died: 2 November 2018 (age 97 years), Berkeley, California. RIP.

[@jenisemcintyre3839]

Thank you!

[@SunnyDarkoShow]

❤️

[@Oilfieldscout]

My wife's grandad was 96. In one of his talks with me he said he loved life, but all his friends were gone. He had family who loved him but no one he could cuss around or share a bawdy joke. He burried all 6 of his sons and two of 6 daughters. Fought in the south pacific during WW2. Grew tomatoes and chillies. Loved baseball and shaved himself every day, including the day he died. Ate lunch, was watching a baseball game on TV and at 4:30 PM when his daughter went to give him a cup of coffee, he was gone. Between when she asked him if he wanted one and preparing it, he left. I always believe he was one of the rare one who died with a satisfied mind.

[@naturallaw1733]

sorry for your loss. sounds like he went in Peace. 🙏

[@robertclarkguitar]

What a way to go. Sad to see burying your own kids.

[@MrConformation]

The path can be lonely the xtra mile. The Xtra mile few travel.

[@apacheslim]

Wow

[@mr.goldfarmer4883]

Sounds to me he played the Game of Life' for so long he got bored and logged out half way through a mission. You know, these are one of the better ways to go~ Bless him.

[@zachtomlinson8281]

My neighbor across the hallway is 97 years old. his wife passed away several years ago. He often sits in the building breezeway, looking at the street. not until a couple of months ago did I know he is the reason why all the plants on our floor are alive.

[@madfishinskillz]

Have a talk with him it might really mean a lot

[@hahano4428]

Please sit down and take a talk with him. It would mean the world to him

[@DarrellBubb]

I third this, hope you have checked up on the old man, if not for much, just to say hi. And likewise, I must do my part to those I know in person. Have a good one.

[@coma0232]

I fourth this

[@ochakij]

I fifth this

[@bruceholinight7978]

After coming to terms with cancer and the fact that I'm leaving soon , I've never been so content because there's nothing left to fear !

[@JonaMv01]

What irony! And I'm here being 24 so scared about life. I hope you have a good trip my friend and I hope you accept Jesus as your only savior.

[@Sideeffection]

@@JonaMv01 in the end, even jesus can't save you

[@JonaMv01]

@@Sideeffection Depends on what your philosophy is my friend. Death is in this world but we don't know what's on the other side, no one can really tell that, not even science. And the point of accepting Jesus as your savior doesn't mean he is gonna save you from the physical death but from the spiritual my friend.

[@Jojo6931]

@@JonaMv01 jesus is false like every religion my friend

[@dlorien7306]

@@Jojo6931 that's your best guess, but to think you can really know that is to have a false conceit

[@altairportela988]

My dad will turn 100 years in a few days. Today he needs me for the most simple things of life. It has been harsh sometimes to carry on with my life and to take care of him at the same time, but I feel thankful to be able to do whatever I can for him. In this video we see the sensitivity of this man, how he sees his life and the love he devoted to his wife and his work. It's a bit sad, but at the same time moving and inspiring too. I am not the kind of person who likes to share personal feelings, but I felt like dropping these few lines. Thank you to these wonderful elderly for what they mean and meant to us all.

[@Jade-ms2ys]

you do the right thing honoring your father by caring for him. live like there is no regrets. give love and care and bless him and you. peace.

[@andreaseveraerts1555]

Happy birthday to your father, if he already turned 100. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I think the suffering of our elders is lightened by being around their loved ones. That even though they lose their youth and their strength, they still have their family, that one factor of constancy. I'm sure your father appreciates your care and your love. You do well.

[@itguru2037]

I’m going through the same process with my dad who just turned 85

[@outsider_in]

"Her absence has been to me, for a number of years now... has been a presence." Only a philosopher could figure out how to express that so accurately in words.

[@vhead612]

He said so much that could only be said by an intellectual, and a realist as he said that he was. Amazing man to have lived his life and still says such inspirational things. What if this is what he needed to do to say goodbye? In his heart of hearts, set the record straight on his life and his philosophies on life? Im so grateful to all the elders and to him for sharing his story.

[@valoer]

69,420 subs with no videos challenge he said that perfectly

[@Anita-tm3bi]

Any one who has lost someone can relate to too easily

[@danielquill]

Yes, what a fascinating way of looking at loss.

[@lurgee29]

And a physicist...

[@lumbagomason]

"I wish I had argued more online" said nobody ever on his deathbed.

[@Autumn_Forest_]

OMG, great comment!

[@allstarmark12345]

Speak for yourself!

[@jamessunday8915]

It will sooner or later become your own turn!!!

[@howtobeatadrum]

Good One

[@maikelnait4495]

Yeah , one of the great questions: “What’s worth doing?”...

[@ODH3]

When I was in my twenties, I used to visit a woman who was 102. She was born in 1889, and her clearest memories were from around 1900-1910. She lived alone in the home she had shared with her husband who died almost 50 years before. Ida Gruel told me many fascinating stories, but I quickly realized that living to be very old was not something to aspire to. She had outlived everyone she ever knew, including radio personalities and other contemporaries. She was a time traveler who, like Mr Fingarette, was just waiting to say goodbye.

[@winterramos4527]

Very well put Mr. Hoffman.

[@dejacavu6259]

Bless you for visiting her! I personally look forward to death not old age.

[@KidChardonnay]

Wow that last line hit really hard, must have been a surreal experience conversing with her

[@ODH3]

@@KidChardonnay It truly was. I still think of her occasionally, and I'm still interested in the stories of much older people.

[@adrianakusieluskus8941]

❣️✨

[@xzysyndrome]

My father died when he was 70. I will always remember him telling me "I look in the mirror and think, 'Who is this old man?' I don't feel old in my head....I still feel the same in my head as I did when I was 20"

[@deanedward2379]

yep...@ 60 now I have told my kids that too... it comes faster than any of us are ready for. I am very thankful that I have my lovcing family close by and a connection to spirituality.

[@xzysyndrome]

@@deanedward2379 I just hit 50....and I still recall vividly looking in the mirror in my early teens trying to imagine what I would look like as an old Man. Now I look in the mirror...and see.

[@fingerprint5511]

Because the mind is an illusion, its only function is to remember things and to be used to do things - its not who we are.

[@calabrais]

@@fingerprint5511 Who are we?

[@estrella-v1994]

@@xzysyndromeI am 17 and these are the thoughts I have just as you did. It's funny how the same story plays out throughout generations.

[@lightningbrigade4722]

I asked my grandfather if he had any friends? In his old age he was always alone. His answer was "Yes"." I have three friends". The refrigerator, television, and my bed". When he died there were 500 people at his funeral. I miss him so much .

[@petertoh355]

Sometimes I wonder is funeral for the death or for the living? Many relatives and children in my country dont visit their parents or keep in touch regularly.. only until funeral ... they gather.. so what's the meaning of funeral? I wonder..

[@lightningbrigade4722]

@@petertoh355 Sad but true Peter.

[@sauviel6296]

@@lightningbrigade4722 yep

[@ruzickaw]

What a poor way of ending your life: refrigerator, television, and my bed. I still am writing and giving speeches and playing tennis.

[@lightningbrigade4722]

@@ruzickaw Your absolutely right. You have to keep your brain active. I'm glad your doing just that. Live long and prosper and may 2021 be a much better year.

[@greese007]

I'm 80, and astonished to be 80. I had not planned for this. My energy levels are not what they used to be, but things that I previously thought important were actually inconsequential. People are not judging your failures, because they are worrying about how you are judging their own failures. Beyond that small nugget of wisdom, you are on your own.

[@ulvfdfgtmk]

That last sentence made me laugh :D Thanks for the nugget Glen!

[@rodriguezmontes8242]

I am happy for you that you can do all of those things at your age. I hope when I get old I can do things too. God bless you a lot!!!

[@themistersmith]

Remember Allah -- look to Islam for the truth.

[@tellitlikeitis8691]

We can live so much in fear of how other's will see us that we conform to mediocrity so we won't be seen beyond the normal.

[@Ryan-yn1bz]

Honestly, there is nothing to lose for you except the truth. Seek Islam, I only ask you to read about it before its late.

[@PhillyJT]

After 97 years, he is still trying to figure his life out. That says alot.

[@seniorrazr1654]

Osho Phill

[@Vanstoreke]

@Jan Dromerda There is an afterlife..Thats why Jesus came

[@ImblackUSA]

He recently passed away

[@PhillyJT]

@@ImblackUSA RIP

[@Interestingworld4567]

@@ImblackUSA RIP

[@YahanYu-uq5zk]

I'm a 17 year old watching this since one of my teachers mentioned this video in class and told us it was very beautiful. The moment the classical music started playing in the beginning I started crying, and I cried through the whole video.

[@stevenyafet]

Mention to your teacher It is Margaret you mourn for. expression of a different conundrum - and which forms a matched set, when considered together.

[@vincentcastro366]

Being a 17 year old kid seeing this makes me think I've got time, but just like this older man, he too believed he once had time to figure it all out. And yet with 97 years old he didn't even figure himself out.

[@benbauer882]

Yes, I had the same thoughts at you age. Some day, later, there it will be, the insight and the answer to many questions - perhaps suddenly. The parents, the adults, the wise men, they know "it" and I will know "it" as well. 64 now, just got older, more experience, thicker skin so to speak, less excitement (in both directions), a heavier backpack - and that's it. But what I can say is that I do very much appreciate life, the past and the present as for me the answer to what life is about is: Live.

[@hhschrader8067]

Being old myself I smile a little about your comment, "he didn't even figure out himself". He was a philosopher. Figuring things out was his job. Figuring out himself was not just "difficult". It was impossible. It was not necessary. Life can be wonderful. You can find it (almost) everywhere. Like the commentator before me wrote, only thing you need to do: just "live". 😀 Old man's talk, sorry. 😀

[@LucidStew]

You don't have time. It's the other way around.

[@laurawhy8813]

I know he had thought about these meaning of life questions and thought can only take us so far. Seek God in prayer saying what are the answers? Why am i here? Be persistent for those who seek will find. Humbly ask God to show you and when he does you will find the peace that this beautiful man sought and with it you will find joy and frredom!!! God bless you with a long life full of his purposes for you!!! ❤❤❤

[@gypsyduke]

You will do just fine, if you are already thinking about your life! Dream and achieve!

[@russellb6249]

My grandpa said to me on his death bed: "don't be afraid of dying , be afraid of not living life the best you can. Everyone dies , but not everyone truly lives. " This is all the motivation I've ever needed 🙌

[@shortpics1827]

In Quran, Allah Almighty says: “What! Did you think that We had created you without purpose, and that you would not be brought back to Us? Exalted be Allah, the True King….” (23:115-116) “They say, ‘There is nothing but our present life; we die, and we live, and nothing but time destroys us.’ Of that they have no knowledge; they merely conjecture. And when Our revelations are recited to them, their only argument is that they say, ‘Bring us our father, if you speak truly.’” (45:24-25) “Until, when death comes unto one of them, he says, ‘My Lord, send me back, that I may do right in that which I have left behind!’ But nay! It is but a word that he speaks; and behind them is a barrier until the day when they are raised. And when the Trumpet is blown there will be no kinship among them that day, nor will they ask of another. Then those whose scales are heavy, they are successful. And those whose scales are light are those who lose their soul, in hell abiding, the fire burns their faces and they are glum therein.”(23:99-104)

[@dited358]

@@shortpics1827 Allah also told us the sun sets inside muddy water, and we should torture infidels who counter islam.

[@MsOrganicBlack]

@@dited358 Shut up

[@Krystal_Kitty7]

Amazing ❤️

[@i_observe9846]

@@shortpics1827 The same quran tells us how mohammed was a pedo! LOL!

[@Snazzydaps]

My fiance was killed in a car accident that we were both in on the 18th of December. We met when we were both at our lowest in life. We saved each other, and never even fought. It was this surreal dream of reality. We spent every minute together, and shes gone now. I'm picking off the last of my scabs as I write this. Didnt even get a broken bone. Just glass in my hand and cuts on my legs. I've been trying so hard to understand. But theres nothing to understand. I can relate so well to this man in his loss.

[@lookingforjohnpauljones1937]

I'm so sorry...

[@Snazzydaps]

@@lookingforjohnpauljones1937 I'll get through it, I've been doing some really big stuff to get my mind off and let it vent at the same time. I really appreciate your concern though.

[@karelthiele1178]

Snazzy Daps I’m very sorry for your loss!

[@MountainGyspy]

So sorry. I'd hug you if I could. xo

[@joshmiller9559]

I've had dreams about such great journeys with someone who I can smell, but she is not there when I wake. I would throw everything into an abyss if only I could see her outside the fog of my dreams but I don't think she was ever real. I feel like I am wrong though, especially how warped and twisted reality can get. Good luck finding her again and good luck to her too I guess.

[@r.t.rakubio5088]

I’m 45 completely disabled vet. the scary part is not the age so much as watching your youth, health, family, friends vanish in front of you over time.

[@nintenjoel]

I'm also 45... My family is TINY. Not many will be around when I finally kick the bucket. Though I never expected to live to even 45.

[@AndreyMakarov-i7h]

Your ego and arrogance vanishes with them too.

[@ahmedhamed1092]

“When you were born you were crying and everyone else was smiling. Live your life so at the end, your're the one who is smiling and everyone else is crying.”

[@Happy-Me.]

Amen to that! 🙏🏾

[@tsilveira5866]

That's beautiful.

[@Nu_genele_dictează_soarta3-3-3]

After death You go to hell or to heaven! So at the end of your life If you go to heaven you will smile.... Like the Saints... If no, then you won't...

[@danrice1141]

@@Nu_genele_dictează_soarta3-3-3 everyone is forgiven, try again, heaven and hell are temporary in the now, that is the way it seems to me

[@Nu_genele_dictează_soarta3-3-3]

@@danrice1141 Forgive me, I'm Not a protestant or watever confesion there is out there... I'M AN ORTODOX CHRISTIAN. If You don't know what ortodoxy is, than I will tell you. Ortodoxy is the sure way for going to heaven! We will be saved by faith and by deeds. Nothing complicated! God knows exactly who goes to heaven or not. We should Not judge enybody for anything. Even if we see the bad deeds of others. Do Not judge the person, but his/her actions.

[@matthewchunk3689]

"I don't know" and "I'm scared" are never answers to be ashamed of. Thank you Herbert Fingarette for a view into a life well lived.

[@williamsouthwad]

Jesus said in John 14 v 6 “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.

[@matthewchunk3689]

@@williamsouthwad Whatever gets you thru the night, William.

[@jahyamack8359]

The ability to think is both a curse and a blessing at the same time.

[@emperoremyhriv4968]

Perfectly put .

[@ivanberdichevsky5679]

A trade-off, like everything in life.

[@orangesporanges1504]

It really is.

[@bsm1114]

you think for the rest of your life lol

[@jaydesigns1236]

It is.

[@starzgarden5553]

My dad died a little over two months ago. He was 90. He suffered quite a bit before the end, not so much due to the pain of cancer, but more due to the loss of his freedom, dignity and most painfully, his identity. He was such a strong man in his heyday. Seemingly in control of everything and everyone. The military will do that to you! To now be in a state where he depended on others to function was extremely humbling for him. He went from being a man mountain of a father to a small child in front of my very eyes. His vulnerability was scary. He kept saying to me ‘Jimbo, I didn’t expect the end to be like this’ I remember vividly his last day. I went to see him and sat in the old chair next to him like I had done every day for the past few months. But this day was different. I couldn’t wake him. I knew inside that something was wrong. I think he must have been unconscious. He didn’t look frightened, or sad or worried. He had a kind of peaceful aura about him, an acceptance almost. Three hours later he was dead. It was the dying that he struggled with, not death itself and not the physical suffering, but the loss of his very self.

[@yoyoprofessorxavier]

Rest in peace and for your family.

[@PinchHarmonic69]

Poignant writing. Thanks.

[@emo7supreme7o]

“Many people have asked what is the meaning of life. That answer is simple. It is whatever happens to prevent one, in any given moment, from killing themselves.” -Albert Camus

[@ChrisWaterguy]

That's really bleak, and it reminds me again to be thankful that I've never struggled with this urge. But then, I've always had a strong sense of purpose, however imperfect I might be at living it out.

[@Justadudeman22]

Wow. Amazing.

[@clay7182]

Lmao love it

[@minenetoki]

The meaning of life is trying to find meaning for it ^__^

[@namiesnaturals3557]

Its being needed , loved & appreciated but also helpful to man kind. , hard work, & respect. To share!

[@cyruskalali8222]

Herbert dies on November 2, 2018. He was such an enduring man. Thanks for putting this on KZbin.

[@honeychildlor]

Thank you Soo much for that clarification

[@Spark-Hole]

How did he die?

[@kalldagreat]

ຮຸ່ງ ພຸ່ງແຣງ heart failure

[@martinfarrell2204]

It is said, that we die 3 times. First, when our heart stops and we are medically dead. Second, some time after the funeral and when all family and friends have gone back to normal. Thirdly, when you are no longer spoken of (not remembered by anyone). So Herbert is certainly remembered and spoken of. I am speaking of him in Ireland today, so in that sense he is still alive (his values and opinions are still with us in this world, that part of him is still alive). If that makes sense.

[@shut0p]

How do you know? :’(

[@volooooo]

I’ve just been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Oddly, this video makes me feel better.

[@MariaHernandez-ju6mw]

Damn that sucks, i hope you make it through 😄

[@LazyEinstein]

Whether you make it through it or not, enjoy each and every day. I wish you the best.

[@virtualgyaru]

Everything must come to an end including me and you and whoever is reading this. We all die. No one is afraid of dying but is afraid of suffering. Take care my friend.

[@mirthaadrianamezacaballero6989]

Take care friend, and I hope you enjoy every day left on your hands! We are all in the same path that´s life, it all ends, but that´s not a bad thing.

[@cwickwitted]

Whether you're still with us today or not, it was nice having you... We hope you enjoyed your stay, and please... Come again.

[@zord90x58]

For me, the worst part about death, is not the act of dying. It is losing "yourself", and the essence of what makes you. Even if there exists life beyond death, you would not, ever, be yourself again. The eyes of those whom you once loved are to never meet yours, for the rest of eternity.

[@Kristel280]

Are you sure? I am hoping to meet everyone again but this time in a happy and comfortable place where we have planty of time to sit and talk to each other. To tell stories and laugh together. 😇

[@epsilonphi7352]

@@Kristel280 : "In my arrogance, I thought that I could conquer death with logic. But now I know that I only used logic to suppress my fear of death."

[@SecureHandle]

@@epsilonphi7352that isn’t relevant to what they said

[@asfi1023]

Trust me , we are going to meet our beloved one after death in heaven . I believe in that

[@mahatmaPIE]

In essence we are all expression of one thing which is the universe. In my opinion Ourselve , our identity makes us unaware of what deeply we are, we are pure consciousness. Shakespeare said we are all actors , and the world is a big stage. But being aware of your emotions, your thoughts, lets you understand that that’s not you. But just an expression of your copy( actors playing their role!).

[@nubl3718]

"It will happen to all of us that one day you'll be tapped on the shoulder and told -- not just that the party's over -- but slightly worse: the party's going on, and you have to leave. That's the reflection, I think, that most upsets people about their demise." -- Christopher Hitchens

[@J.M.-nb4gw]

Funny I have always enjoyed leaving a party, even a fun one...it's just a matter of knowing when to go

[@odeefree6486]

Underrated comment 💯

[@ultraphobic69]

Christopher Hitchens I believe?

[@gwilson420]

@@J.M.-nb4gw just some leave the party too early thinking theres nothing to stay for

[@Neorient]

Hitchens is Ibn Taymiya of West in both pejorative and honorific senses

[@geebeedee9509]

Rest in Peace, Herbert Fingarette. I didn't know he had already died two years ago.

[@nuclearnadal3116]

Wait how did he die two years ago before this video was even made

[@carmenalfred1325]

i could not say he rests in peace, unless he got the answer to the obvious question that bothered him and or accepted it

[@feduntu]

@@nuclearnadal3116 true story, he died in 2018, i suppose this video was uploaded as a "remembrance" to him? I guess...

[@simonhorak]

Rest in peace.

[@CherryBlossomOhka]

I litterally took my hat off just now...Rest in peace.

[@karlhungus5554]

I feel like I just lost a close friend. Rest in peace, sir. Herbert Fingarette 20 January 1921 - 2 November 2018

[@Skyline25]

Karl Hungus it would have been his 99th yesterday...

[@CaseyKCRichards]

Totally agree! When you lose your other half part of you die the heat bleeds. I had no closure when my spouse died . The isolation the loneless and the constant thinking of where they are now! What’s the whole point of existing ? Maybe for us all to give us our best contribution? I look forward to my demise for I will be with you Maury in the afterlife.

[@mikiblack3789]

Im born on the same day :( i feel confused right now

[@gone7777]

Miki Black U better be

[@europaeuropa3673]

I gotta believe he died of loneliness.

[@williamabie4028]

All man will experience death, no one knew when it will be and how it will be. And this old gentleman makes me appreciate things because there will be time that you will not be ever see it again, such as simple thing like seeing falling leaves. Though you're not here anymore and you will be not seeing this message, you're a great man Mr. Herbert. Thank you.

[@captainjacksparrow1518]

The way you treat your elders today. Is the way you will be treated when you are amongst the elders. Respect your elders.

[@perrodehont5109]

@do br I was going to say unless your elder is my late father , Now I do'n't believe in heaven nor hell otherwise I could say I hope he burns. My grown up children respect and love me , i only felt fear and hate . Both feelings are gone long time ago but I will never forget.

[@PeterKnagge]

Respect your friends, respect your enemies, respect your family, respect yourself, respect the planet and mother nature! ok zoomer???

[@rafpac6]

Not really. Because I treat my elders well doesnt mean some on else will looking after me will do the same. No cause and effect.

[@dr.g6105]

His willingness to let us see his infirmity, indignities, and grief somehow made him seem more powerful, dignified, and transcendent. I’m glad he did this and I’m glad I spent the time.

[@maxman1060]

bro idk if its because im high as fuck right now but that shit you just said was beautiful.

[@will6176]

Yes, agreed.

[@purriify5090]

@@maxman1060 LMFAOOO

[@motorboomersnz9888]

It just seemed so sad. The pointlessness of life. Never coming to understand what it is about. I'm so thankful as I approach 70 that I have a faith in God. Otherwise it would all seem like him... pointless.....

[@CryptoAddiction]

@@motorboomersnz9888 YOu did well, you reallized there is god, you reallized some one created you, But there is fake version of god, I mean there are msulims there chirsitian, jews, hindus, So how do you decide which path is correct? are you believer by choice? if yes,, Then yo must be clear why you believe... if you ask me..... it's not about blind follwoing.. it's about logic, Wyh i blieve i am right path has logic, a very clear ...

[@alexisderoode216]

"Her absence has been a presence." So beautifully said.

[@johnflynn7410]

Ah, memory. She'll be with him everyday 'til death.

[@janparish8055]

I loved that too, very eloquent.

[@UUBrahman]

Actually, I liked when he said, "an emptiness" as I thought it was a more accurate description. He got used to having her around.

[@generaluse2878]

He died a few months after completing this film. His work was done and he was ready to go.

[@SuspiriaX]

"His work was done and he was ready to go." yeah right

[@jakecathey7061]

Did u watch the video bro

[@devon_lettuce_tomato8637]

He literally had no idea what was going on. Spent his whole life trying to rationalize what is already written.

[@Optiplex321]

​@@devon_lettuce_tomato8637 Are you referring to your hocus pocus chuckle fuck bible?

[@majbrittcastrupjrgensen2874]

My grandmother said: “ every morning I ask the reflection in the mirror, who are you? Yesterday the reflection was a 20 year old woman.....now the reflection is 80 years old, but inside I am still 20 years.”

[@scandiescot3]

My late grandmother said almost exactly the same thing.

[@sakurachan621]

@@scandiescot3 my grandmother said something a little different but with the same context...thats pretty strange, young at heart i suppose...

[@adamcylee]

The soul never grows old.

[@melissawebb7111]

This brought tears to my eyes as I think of my grandmother saying a similar thing

[@majbrittcastrupjrgensen2874]

Melissa Webb I always say, we have to remember ‘’old’’ people are still young at heart and they were also 20 years old once. I never called my parents, grandparents or other people ‘’old’’! They are all gone now and I miss them every day.

[@BM-ru7ef]

Everyone knows they’re going to die, but nobody thinks they will.

[@jjns5600]

Because there IS an aspect of us which does not undergo the fate of the physical body. Once in the physical body, it begins to identify with it, throughout its duration (short or long). When at last it sheds the body, as a moth from a cocoon, a new reality of existence (which is responsible for our sense of eternal life) continues. WE DO NOT DIE AND WE ARE NOT BORN. Another helpful tidbit is that every complete day is a lifetime in microcosm. Waking up in the morning represents being born into this world. The course of our day can be seen as the course of our lifetime in the physical body. Retiring to sleep is tantamount to leaving our body and the physical plane of existence, to enter the realm of astral existence. There IS no death!

[@monke3122]

@@jjns5600 cope

[@qaikodiateo8449]

@@jjns5600 yeah no

[@DudeWatIsThis]

@@jjns5600 Sorry, but at some point, you are going to cease to be. And so will I. The sooner you deal with it, the better.

[@qaikodiateo8449]

@Deus Vult. death has no feeling to it. You can't know death. Please stop.

[@richardrobertson1331]

I found "the point of it all", for me. I'm 75 and have been dealing with cancer for the past twenty years, and have taken the time to question "What's the point?" I have observed almost everyone has inherited a few obvious challenges, and some not so obvious , , , weaknesses such as depression, boarder line personality disorder, bipolar, selfishness, diabetes, tendency to be fat, or a thousand other physical or mental ailments. Everyone! So my challenge, my 'reason for being' is to learn to deal with my personal challenges. No one else has my DNA nor my experiences, and we can all say that. Every day I contemplate what I should do to be a better person in spite of the package I carry. Given my condition, what can I do every day, every hour, to be a positive influence on someone else, lighten their burden, make them smile, teach a skill to a grand child, help an injured animal, whatever. That, for me, is the point of it all. I hope that helps you.

[@tvtitlechampion3238]

The best working definition of enlightenment I've heard is to 'lighten one's load', or burdens. May you have much success in that endeavor, sir.

[@amylee9]

Thank you. I copied your statement so I can remember it and share with others.

[@jadtchrcchn8597]

Thank you sir for sharing your vision of life. I am 21 and I have quite the same vision as yours. I've been dealing with my own issues since many years and it is not really over, but it taught me strength, and hope in myself and other. But the thing I want to learn more than anything is not to be afraid of love. Because I think love is the answer in the world of living.

[@jalalazizi1069]

Bravo sir!

[@badidagher9834]

Inspired to read your comment... Thanks for sharing.

[@MeColinYouWho]

I remember a few months ago I was 35, now I'm 63. Time pass's faster then I ever imagined.

[@AlA-ok5jh]

You can say that again. Just me posting this comment I aged 5 yrs.

[@katherineg9396]

So true! Once you turn forty, life whizzes by.

[@charliemcintire2487]

I know what you mean Riff. I will be 62 in March, and I am still a kid in many ways. Still rock out on my guitar/s, play shoot em up video games and hope i win the lottery and win the love of a girl half my age. I try to stay fit. Push ups the keep my chest and arms tone, etc... Im told I dont look my age, and I dont, but its starting to catch up with me. Oh well. What are ya gonna do? Right? Just roll with the punches, I guess.

[@foxlight3]

I am nearing 41 and I've gone through a 2 year long battle with this fear of time passing. If your time passes by quickly, it probably means you lived a good life. At least, I hope so. Wishing you well!

[@foxlight3]

@@charliemcintire2487 Lol, so very true.

[@gloriabermudez4987]

I was with my 97 year old father at the time of his death. He was not sad or lonely. Family and friends never left his side. He passed at home as his wish. He life filled with dignity and great acceptance. No meds. He lived the last few months with laughter and never complained of pain or sorrow. His life was magic, filled with generosity, kindness, love of creating a beautiful environment. Love. His memory guides me thru my time.🦋💙❤️🌺

[@denise2169]

My mom was very much like your dad, and I was lucky to care for her during the last years of her life. We were so lucky, you and I.

[@Mockduck2020]

As I deal with death on a continuous basis at this time in life, I know how lucky your dad was...most people I don’t think are that lucky.

[@Rhino-ux7yf]

I had 2 grandfathers . Neither of them ever spent any time with me or took me fishing . A ice cream cone , a play at the park , anything ! I always wondered why ..

[@Rhino-ux7yf]

Lee Smith yes sir !! Thank you

[@BrightSeaStar]

Lovely.

[@Skillseboy1]

"As I sit out, now, on the deck of the house. I look at the trees, blowing a little in the breeze. And I've seen them innumerable times, but somehow seeing the trees this time is a transcendent experience. I see how marvelous it is. And I think to myself: I've had these here all along, but have I really appreciated them?" It's been more than a year since I've seen this video, but this thought still remains.

[@FawkesDrox]

it's a gift left to us to carry on to the next, I think it'll stay with me for a long long time too

[@dallasrobert9]

The value of him sharing this experience, that others can appreciate their "trees" earlier and for longer.

[@desireebeaudry6396]

Based on the language in your post, I think you might enjoy the poetry of William S. Merwin if you are not already familiar. My favorite is "on the anniversary of my death." Another fave "The Removal" and many more. Have fun!

[@Hutch_moto]

i think there is more to what he was feeling in those moments that he could not express in words , like a life gift saved for us for that time of life it may be a different number in age but i feel , i hope that is true. I believe there is more after the end....

[@wzrdbeatzz4317]

Ecclesiastes

[@daoudamer5067]

watching this as a 20 yrs old, doesnt make you afraid of death, but afraid of this meanningless existence we're living in.

[@ranjittyagi9354]

Hello. You are a teen and I am an adult. It's been some years since I was a teen. Times and ways have changed, I see that. I am also curious what exactly makes very intelligent and thoughtful folks like you to think of life as meaningless? I want to hear you out. Would you please? And, if not here, there are other ways. Thank you, Daoud.

[@e-conrecords4665]

Death is a matter of perspective. To a third person, death is the end of one person. To the experiencer, death is the very end of the universe.

[@jpalmz1978]

E-Con Records 👌🏼

[@christianquinones9347]

I pray for death each day and god is finally accepting my demands

[@bluntsessions3577]

It actually maybe the beginning of your next life.

[@indianmilitary]

E-Con Records Only our ego identity dies. Neither our body which is made of energy nor soul can die. What we call age is nothing but energy changing from one form to another. We all are the same divine being (soul/formless divine) having different human experience not the other way round. So, we have to take into account karma or cause and effect (since we are the same divine doing different human roles) and reincarnation (if we have karma or cause and effect).So the purpose of life is to avoid karma or cause and effect. If you were to lead a dharmic (no equivalent word in English) life, then you wouldn't create karma and no reincarnation. Then (soul/formless divine) will get a universal body instead of a small human body called as Moksha

[@e-conrecords4665]

kashsoldier citation needed there, kashsoldier. Majority of your comment is unfalsifiable woo. I think it’s fine for you to believe in that stuff but to present it as real to other people is disingenuous at best.

[@therupoe]

"I still find that I am, in many ways, a puzzle to myself." That makes me feel a little better about not having all the answers.

[@severianxi6990]

LoL u sure are.

[@theprocrastinator6813]

have a cookie

[@JohnVKaravitis]

I have all the answers. What's your question?

[@CocoTaveras8975]

John Karavitis What is the true meaning of love? Is their meaning in life and what is that meaning? Will humans ever go extinct? And if they do go extinct what will be the cause? I have about 20 more questions I'm going to ask you after you answer these.

[@オキイチンチン]

There are no answers, nothing is definite about you apart from your lacking of nature and inevitable physical death, everything else is beyond us, there are too many potentials, this moment is all you will ever have.

[@inoutdoor4211]

Seeing him cry, especially over his wife of 70 years is just heart smashing.

[@corysmith3447]

yea hes not a philospher though, most people think those basic type of deep thoughts about death from time to time, sounds corny to call yourself a philospher

[@nocturnaljoe9543]

@@corysmith3447 I think a philosopher would not care about people saying he is not a philosopher. Also you spelled the word wrong.

[@HiddenWen]

These kinds of relationships I feel do not exist anymore.

[@fuzzylogiceire]

@@corysmith3447 He was a professor of Philosophy at an elite university, has a PhD in the subject. I think that's enough to justify calling him that.

[@Matt-zs1vu]

@@fuzzylogiceire exactly. Funny how people think they know so much.

[@kliberalsing]

Watching this well-made documentary, I personally arrive at the conclusion that facing my own death at 27 (70 years before Herbert) has indeed been a strangely interesting and rewarding experience. For days and years now I have tears in my eyes just watching the trees grow and flowers bloom. Tears of joy and sadness.....how wonderful life is even when one is left poor, handicapped and divorced :) I didn't expect to make it two decades more after that miserable day in 2008, but here we are. Also: My inner 97-old is looking forward to eternal nonexistence. It's all about acceptance and clarity. How privileged I am even being able to write this very personal comment, hoping that one or two living souls out there might find some inspiration and meaning in it.

[@adammasterx5854]

Are you still alive? If not, may your soul rest in peace

[@rsavage42]

I’m 79 now. Very good health. Here’s what I believe - meaning is what you create for yourself. I don’t believe in god or heaven or hell. I’ve had a fascinating life. I’ve been married 3 times, though not all at once. The last one is terrific, 22 years. I have kids who have kids. I’ve written novels and short stories, I’ve been a psychologist, I can draw, I can play the cello and the guitar. I’ve been terrified, I’ve been elated, I’ve been peaceful, I’ve been worried. And I have been in love. I like being in love best.

[@Spacesiren777]

im 17, i admire you. ive been recently thinking about the end, your comment makes me feel like i need to do whatever i want to do and enjoy every insignificant and significant moment. makes me so happy and emotional seeing this comment i hope u have an amazing rest of whatever this is, enjoy

[@jcuevas8833]

Awesome, how do you feel?

[@dean1111]

You seem amazing

[@godofjustice]

Ecclesiastes is the best book you can read for that, actually from one of the oldest philosophical text, I believe.

[@smd2030]

Have you ever thought of the reason why human being exists in Earth and who created this well systematic universe?

[@jakeplummer4483]

I suggest we all befriend an elderly person and help guide them through their final years...we might learn a thing or two.

[@philomath67]

I want to befriend an elderly person so they can guide me.

[@robertdecker4780]

I still remember,back in 1998,when i was 28, or soon turning that age,this elderly fellow walked up to me one day at my grocery store job department, which was in Frozen at that time. He seemed to know who I was and my situation apparently. He just boldly came up to me and told me he was 93 years old,and from there,I just remember him emphasizing to me that it's no good to be single,and yes,I was indeed single at that time,and very conflicted in my personal life, and it's like he sensed these intricate details about me without actually knowing me or what I was about. He didn't seem that age,he seemed more like a very able bodied 78 year old. Obviously he still was with his wife and still thriving with an unusual rarity level of the thing that they call "Quality of Life".

[@franccci]

YES!!

[@ognjenmilanovic7057]

You make it sound so romantic

[@teacherparkshe5722]

Big check!

[@grady4757]

Our elders deserve much attention. Their stories are invaluable.

[@mayaozen487]

Not only because of their stories. - Because of who they are.

[@grady4757]

@@mayaozen487 I absolutely agree.

[@Ezop1959]

Because of their stories and accumulated experience and - I dare say - wisdom accrued throughout their lives. Such very old people as this man can offer a unique perspective of life and its meaning (or lack thereof). They are precious as human beings, their wisdom and experience is their "added value".

[@ヤスミン-n7p]

@@Ezop1959 true, no one really better understands life like what the elders do. they speak based on experience.

[@7aydarah]

So, each one of us should take care of his parents.

[@seattlestories]

Incredible stuff, absolute honor to your grandfather. Thanks for taking the time, too many of us are too "busy".

[@loki1825]

Herbert Fingarette died in 2018. Months after filming this documentary. Rest in peace.

[@danielwhirley6779]

I wondered this RIP OLD BOY GOD BLESS.

[@1flybyguy]

He believed one just ceases to exist when they die. He would have no need for peace.

[@BarsofSak]

@@1flybyguy his believe doesn’t mean it’s right

[@luishurtado2170]

@@BarsofSak your believe doesn't make it's right either.

[@soldierofzion2986]

@@1flybyguy Well that is the point. Their seems to be some need to say peace. peace would come after conflict. Life is a struggle. peace would come after one finds he was made for a purpose. If one finds out

[@popthesmoker5143]

"As much as I think our life in this world is often a pretty messy affair, I still would like to hang around." That's one of the many things he said in the video that touched my heart!

[@cozme28]

That is a part of the Kübler-Ross model, or the five stages of grief...

[@chiyulater9752]

Kayumangging Manlalakbay Is it the Acceptance part?

[@cozme28]

@@chiyulater9752 when we lose someone or even a valuable possession we go through those stages. Some are stuck at depression especially if you are not aware that there is ACCEPTANCE in the end.

[@Angellosa]

We

[@TheMagneticChicken]

there's something both disconcerting and comforting about a 97 year old philosopher with no answer to the question of existence

[@tonypatricelli8408]

There's limited value to over thinking

[@RATsnak3]

Life is meaningless, but since nobody tells you that. You have to figure it out on your own. But people are unwilling to admit that, because it’s disappointing when you’re expecting more. There’s nothing disconcerting about it. If life had a meaning, it would be obvious and blaring. It’s just a coincidence.

[@shaolinshowdown1123]

Jesus is the meaning of life.

[@routeboundexperience6518]

@@RATsnak3 life does have meaning...just that most people live a life, surrounded by "invention" Not "Creation" Creation breathes life. Invention is dead. It only has life by the breathe of man. Life is energy Energy never dies... Life...also, a universal frequency... Most will never know... Rootless...not grounded in life...but in invention. Without knowing...connecting, mind, body , and spirit in universal frequency.... The human is only left with "materialistic" thoughts, questions, hopes and fears within invented constructs of our own doings...

[@routeboundexperience6518]

^^^ Understanding of: "invention"... religion, politics, economics, tv, fashion... "Creation"...Food, Water, Shelter, Family, Community. It's easy to see how each generation has separated from Creation for the deception of invention. Loosing root, in self reliance and self worth.

[@andybrown2611]

Life is both meaningless and the most meaningful thing at the same time.

[@arthurmurfitt7698]

So poignant, I didn’t want this to end. Thank you for sharing.

[@jaedaens]

The older you get, the more quickly time passes. I remember in my 20s wanting to die young, in the peak of my existence. Every one of us will die. Everything anyone of us will ever have created will turn to dust in the end. The important thing is that we are alive now. That all of this, as crazy as it can be sometimes, exists right now. It is truly a gift. It's ok if we take it for granted, if only we stop to smell the flowers every now and again. We're all in this together. Rejoice, my brothers and sisters! We are in the midst of something truly special.

[@zer0k4ge]

Nice comment 👍

[@CmdrTigerKing]

Time doesn't increase, experiences are less impactful. As a child or young adult all or most things are new. Forming new neural connections building your "brain map" of how you think, perceive, and understand the world. As we get older it's just another day.

[@Lorzanne]

As someone who was born recently, I would rather be a dying man right now than a child. I am a 15-year-old man whos been through years of trouble and chaos, and with the state of where I'm living, it's clear it's only going to get worse. life has become a disposable thing recently, a massive amount of gen z is realizing this isn't worth it. Were in the worst times of time itself, and soon, all of a sudden, everyone, and everything will be Everywhere at the end of time...

[@CmdrTigerKing]

@@Lorzanne every generation thinks this, toughen up, kids and their electronics rarely could even fathom what a difficult life looks like.

[@josemarrer0]

Cool

[@aussiecfo]

Very great effort in honor of your Grandfather. His mental clarity was remarkable as he reflected on such an impactful life.

[@umaryes4473]

Very inspiring

[@FatheredPuma81]

I'm not sure if it's worse to see someone who's "gone" mentally or to see someone who's all there and trying to come to terms with dying.

[@ummche14]

the caretaker-everywhere at the end of time

[@Capt.Tony00]

I can tell you from experience with both that someone who is "gone" mentally was harder for me as a grandchild. I watched my beloved grandparents both pass. My grandfather went first and he lost himself to dementia. I was heartbroken when he forgot me and I still tried to spend time with him and read the same stories he read to me as a child. He tore the pages of the Grimes fairy tales like a toddler would. I watched as if he was tearing out the memories of my childhood. I knew he was gone. Soon he was put in a nursing home. I never went to that place. I couldn't bring myself to see him there, drugged so that he wouldn't wander or be a nuisance. It still breaks my heart to think of him like that. He was a wonderful man. My grandmother outlived him by 6 years and she was sharp as a tack to her very last moments. I got the call that she got an infection that went to her heart, she had a pig valve replacement so the antibiotic won't work, she's too weak to survive surgery, so she only has a few days before she is gone. My entire family came to the hospital jammed in her little room. Each of us took turns talking to her and holding her hand and saying goodbye. I asked her if she was afraid. She told me, No because Jesus had come to her in a dream to take her home & she asked him for just a little more time to stay & say goodbye to all of us. It was always her wish to die surrounded by her loved ones. She was the most honest loving person I ever met, they both were. I think grandpa feared death & so maybe being gone made it easier for him. Grandma always knew that she would go to heaven and would only miss seeing the new babies and weddings, but was not afraid of dying at all. It was just the next step in her existence. She believed that her soul would live on & sometimes in a quiet room when I am alone, I will feel like she is there with me, just visiting & watching over me. I never sense my grandpa, even though I was just as close to him. I don't think he believed and grams said that believing is what gets you there.

[@jamesvalls8530]

Your body may fail but without a mind, it is utterly useless.

[@danielthenatural]

neither are bad at all both are beautiful.

[@cataddict_]

@@ummche14 just thinking about that album makes me feel existential dread and worry for the future

[@jfkmiller]

One of the most profound short films ever to have graced KZbin. Filmmaker grandson and film subject grandfather have enriched the lives of others with this sublime contemplation of death. Bravo both.

[@Rollypolly1064]

Seeing an older person cry is the one thing that breaks me man :(

[@squamish4244]

It's the complete opposite of seeing a teenager cry, as usually it's over something we wish we still found heartbreaking, like a two-month relationship ending or whatever. And you know they'll be fine in like a week :D

[@johnhurley6285]

I feel you and everything. at the right moment ours are indifferent other sides of the world, but were both shy and feel pain, my heart to yours. a family member a guardian . at different times we both lost. all we can come too be is us/help shinning moments,/ and learn. it doesn't make it better nor easy/ its our memories that make us relive them and that's all we got

[@totoro9590]

Me too....I'm weeping now and haven't watched the whole video yet 😢😢

[@atune2682]

same bro

[@thefunson8087]

@@johnhurley6285 hello

[@evanhalpern3909]

"I go on existing and waiting. Waiting until I have to say goodbye." That statement hit a nerve.

[@dianatorres300]

Evan Halpern and that is the answer to his question: what’s the point? The point is: to exist...just be.

[@graceambassador65]

Grace And PEACE, friends. Kinda sad, not one word about the *Creator Of all that "exists."* *And, Please Be Very RICHLY Blessed!* Grace And PEACE, N$. I will pray for you. *And, Please Be Very RICHLY Blessed!* ---------------------------------------------------------- *FORGIVENESS And "Relationship" With God, Under HIS PURE GRACE!, Really IS As:* *SIMPLE As Can Be!:* (1a) *"ALL Have sinned And come short of The GLORY Of God!":* Repent { Change mind/Admit to *God we OFFENDED HIS Holiness* with OUR sin! }, And realizing that *"CHRIST Died FOR* our sin!": (1b) Believe { trust in 100% faith! } on *The LORD JESUS CHRIST,* *HIS BLOOD, { YES!, "God's BLOOD!" (Acts 20 : 28 KJB!) } ##* *And HIS Resurrection! God Gives HIS FREE GIFT Of ETERNAL Life! =* *Everlasting Relationship! {JUSTIFICATION = Deliverance From The* *PENALTY Of sin!}* ►►►► ALL "members" *Of CHRIST! Are: BOUGHT, Made worthy, Delivered,* *Translated, REDEEMED, And FORGIVEN ALL trespasses and sin,* *COMPLETE, Crucified, Buried, BAPTIZED {"link" below...!}, Circumcised,* *And RISEN With HIM!* Amen! AND AMEN!! *(Colossians 1-2 KJB!)* *{Reason?: CHRIST's **_"FINISHED"_** WORK At Calvary's CROSS!}* ◄◄◄◄ (2a) *Thank God For HIS Unspeakable FREE Gift Of ETERNAL Life!* (2b) *Get to know your New Father!* my "suggested" reading to start: *Ephesians, then Romans - Philemon #* (3) *Fulfill All The Law In ONE WORD: "LOVE your neighbor as* *yourself!"* = fellowship! work out OUR OWN salvation *( sanctification! = Deliverance From "Power Of sin!" ), And:* *(4) Looking, WATCHING, And Waiting For our "Blessed HOPE!":* *(Romans 8 : 18, 19, 23, 25; 1 Corinthians 1 : 7; Ephesians 6 : 12-18;* *Philippians 3 : 20; Colossians 3 : 2, 4 :1-3; 1 Thessalonians 1 : 10, 5 : 5-11;* *2 Thessalonians 3 : 5; Titus 2 : 13! ), Until:* *God's Great GRACE Departure!:* (5) *CHRIST Catches us UP Into Glorification, And HIS Judgment Seat!* *God Gives Out REWARDS At Judgment!! = Simplicity In CHRIST!* *(1 Thessalonians 4 : 13-18; 1 Corinthians 15 : 51-57, 3 : 8-15!)* *{GLORIFICATION = Deliverance From the "Presence Of sin!"}* Amen? Note: *HIS BLOOD / "burning Up" our "bad works" Is What Gets The Body* *Of CHRIST PRESENTED To The Father, holy, unblameable, unreproveable,* *And PERFECT! IN HIS SIGHT!! (Colossians 1 : 22 cp Ephesians 4 : 13 KJB!)* Amen? # Why? *# Romans - Philemon = God's Love Letters Of PURE GRACE, For us Today,* *For Consolation, Comfort, Edification, Enjoyment, Encouragement, And* *spiritual Building Up Of ALL the "members" ( saints! ) In The Body Of CHRIST!,* *HIS Church, Seated In HEAVEN!* Amen? ----------------------------------------------------------- ## Note: "religions Claim" = NO salvation OUTSIDE of THEIR _"Particular_ {just "pick" ANY ONE, esp: catholic, mormon, JW's, SDA, etc.} _organization,"_ BUT: *God Declares: "NO SALVATION **_Outside_** Of HIS Precious BLOOD!"* Amen? And, Please Be *Very Richly Blessed In CHRIST, And HIS Precious Word!:* *ALL Scriptures "FOR" God's ETERNAL Salvation!* in “link” below... *{ **_Eliminates_** man's/religious "Probational/Conditional" SELF-salvation! }* brother Chris *Rightly Divided* "studies" here for your Encouragement! IF you wish… *ALL THIRTEEN Bible* baptismS “study” *{# 7}...* *+ 17-Part Great GRACE Departure! {# 11}* "study": kzbin.info/door/yxdRMbcLVBWY1HV2Fv8ALQdiscussion www.bereanbiblesociety.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/August-Searchlight-2020-Final-for-web.pdf

[@louispetrucco2580]

keekeemyfirstcat was

[@BentTom]

@@graceambassador65 No one wants your agenda here.

[@user-yu1yz6qk1g]

" I'm a useless chunk of meat, " got me!

[@Wardoon]

Amazing how he can be both rational and realistic on the one hand and emotional and full of passion about death. He is truly human and genuine philosopher.

[@MazBringsby]

If he still hasn't found God by now, then he is a fool

[@aixelsydtcefrep8852]

@@MazBringsby have you? Where is he? It's all in your head buddy... Hows it feel to know you and i will die and wont wake up ever again.... 😆😂😂

[@jeffreykent5271]

He is a piece of narcissistic garbage in my opinion ....he never learned gratitude apparently ....he lived much longer and much better than so many others ....how about children who never lived to be double digit in years ...or soldiers who died in their teens or Ethiopians who only knew starvation and disease and dessert ....and all this 97 year old can do is woe woe is me ....my opinion he lived a loser and died a loser ....the meaning of life is be grateful that you have lived at all ...for the sunlight on your face even when your shoes hurt your feet and your belly is empty be grateful to the sunlight on your face

[@jeffreykent5271]

That should be desert not dessert but you get the point 😉

[@gabrielorville821]

But that's why he can't come to the conclusion, that he needs reconciliation with the human part - We are not only rational, we stand around the transcendent in old age and the task is to prepare for dissolution; I think anyways.

[@spaghettiking7312]

This is one of the best videos you'll ever see on KZbin.

[@khalaka1160]

Wow, he´s so lucky. 97 and no cancer, parkinson or alzheimer. He can even walk and eat bacon!

[@posysdogovych2065]

But sadly, even with a perfectly sound mind and none of those aliments, he was unable to escape death.

[@snookslayer4559]

"Congratulations... 97 and no cancer, parkinsons or alzheimer.... but you can't dress yourself, can barely move, and look like the walking dead."

[@cachemole]

@@snookslayer4559 He's moving better than a lot of people 25 years younger.

[@cheekycunt4160]

@@snookslayer4559 least he didn't lose his mind like some.

[@donkeyIips]

but hes got a hot chick helping him dress and rubbing him so its all good.

[@jimwells7778]

“I find in many ways I am a puzzle to myself”. I get it sir.

[@jamiewilliams685]

Me too, me too.

[@Macam2macam]

film like this makes me realize how valuable our time is.

[@teratoma.]

funny, I'd say the exact opposite

[@damiank7374]

Yes

[@riffdigger2133]

Macam2macam Good point. It sets your priorities.

[@eyobed5274]

come to jesus other wise its all vain

[@MesoScale]

Yes. And now to some cat videos

[@christophschulenberger9287]

What a beautiful piece of work. I am 37 right now and it shows me how fast everything will pass. It’s all about the one moment. Now. Thank you!!!❤

[@harleyfrench9997]

Man my heart just smashed in to pieces when he started to cry about the passing of this wife 😔

[@okidot]

Yeah. That was painful.

[@josephandreuccetti8043]

Harley French I understand him

[@harleyfrench9997]

@@josephandreuccetti8043 i feel for you to my brother much love 🙏💕

[@vanessajazp6341]

One of the worst curses of aging is a mind that is still “young” in a body that is increasingly deteriorating.

[@TomasPetkevicius94]

So true.😔

[@miguelmarrero3383]

Me

[@riotxx]

nice

[@Sarah.Riedel]

@@rae-catto my dad had the worst of both worlds - he was an MIT-trained aerospace engineer, a pilot and a flight instructor who developed Parkinson's and dementia secondary to the PD. His slow decline was one of the most traumatic things I've ever had to process.

[@letsomethingshine]

Who decides, but yourself? And the mind so often DOES regress in maturity and thinking capability. They call it the slow death of dementia when the mind dies first before the rest of the body. Hoping to be with loved ones and family when you die, especially the elderly would like to be with the youngest

[@honestlythetruth6664]

That woman helping him is an HCA (home care aid) let's give a round of appreciation to the HCAs in the world helping our elderly. 👏👏👏

[@MohsinExperiments]

That is not the case everywhere in the world. Because not everyone needs it. Here in my country Pakistan we take care of our parents ourselves. I don't mean that HCAs don't deserve appreciation. But my point is that it is different in every culture. For us our religion is most important and it teaches us to take care of our parents.

[@DS-hy6ld]

@@MohsinExperiments It's not that in the West we view caring for our elderly as any less important a religious obligation (those of us who are people of Faith, anyway); it's just that, here, our lifestyle is actually set up _to be an assault on_ our Spiritual nature, its obligations, and its very existence -- and so, we have the sort of changes to the family and the family dynamic, which you allude to here.

[@Scyllax]

I have been helping my terribly ill partner since 2015. She is the ripe old age of 50.

[@solarwind907]

@@Scyllax I wish you and your partner the best.

[@Scyllax]

@@solarwind907 It will never get better.

[@veeherreraJanecka]

I can’t believe I’m 61. And one thing that has been new is that after menopause, I felt like a kid again. I mean when you’re younger you don’t realize how much hormones drive you. And now im like a 5 year old again : in awe of everything! Im so grateful to have made it this far.

[@moreljoshkintanar7392]

"Her absence, to me, has become to me a presence."

[@shiitakestick]

Morel Josh Kintanar - is that what he said ? I heard “ a part if me is gone.” I know how he felt. From when my cat disappeared for 2 weeks in heavy coyote country.. ( then re appeared - thank you unseen and unknown )

[@vdannyv]

Yeah that hit hard

[@Namedyr]

@Andro mache Yes, human life to us humans are considered the highest of value, big surprise, but pets can be and IS to many people all they have, and also considered family members. Many people even choose pets as company over humans. That is because some people see and experience the value in other living creatures other then ourselves, not necessarily devaluing human life.

[@shiitakestick]

.. and animals are more emotionally honest . If youre angry they will withdraw , if youre full of love they will come to you- unlike people who lie emotionally , and manipulate others to get what they want.. Without the animal connection , and only humans to turn to for the truth , I think Id go buggy , bonkers..

[@aciidbraiin8079]

@@shiitakestick I understand what you mean. But sometimes I feel judged by the animals too, like dogs barking at me or birds flying away. I don't blame them, I think it's more the fact that I'm a human than me having my personality. In many ways animals seem to be judging people less than people themselves do. Because animals just seem to exist in the now, they accept things as they are, no matter if you are a fully functioning human being with beauty or not.

[@greenbeagle13]

Once "your person" is gone..., life takes on an entirely different meaning.... "Her absence has been a presence".... perfect way to describe it.

[@williamsouthwad]

“I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. bible John 14 v 6

[@greenbeagle13]

@@williamsouthwad Please just stop. Yes, I know all of that, but I still miss my person.

[@harveynewman]

Incredibly touching video. I'm turning 40 this year and I can clearly see how short life is...videos like this are an inspiration and motivation to live life to the fullest.

[@user-fw8rd5ud4q]

Harvey Newman amen brother

[@samirasn9865]

I love you i respect you ❤✌

[@johnburman966]

Well done, old age is our last chance to get rid of all personal bullshit and finally get real, that's my experience. However my mother used to say "young fools become old fools." Both are true.

[@DonStuck]

Bravo, Andrew! Very will done. Godspeed to Herbert. I too am an author of philosophy and would have loved an afternoon to listen to your grandfather's thoughts. The world could use a lot more Herbert.

[@joshrohloff]

I don't know how to feel about the fact that this man has over 7 decades of life more than me and still grapples with the same issues. I thought I would figure my shit out eventually 💀

[@Htiy]

Well at the end of the day whether it’s you in 10, 20 or 50 years, it’s still the same you eh? Lol

[@DeclinedMercy]

The core problem is that no matter how much time you spend thinking about it, you're still gonna die.

[@DeclinedMercy]

@Damian Arthur There is no meaning. You are alive because your parents had sex. You die because you are not immortal. What you do when you are alive matters, but having more purpose in life only makes death more tragic because it is an end to a meaningful life.

[@danielpavlick5006]

I think his lack of religion, specifically Catholicism, has a lot to die with it.

[@DeclinedMercy]

@@danielpavlick5006 Let me guess, you are a catholic. Wow what a coincidence.

[@nhmooytis7058]

I’m an American woman 2 1/2 months from 69, I’m in perfect health, no chronic conditions, take no meds. I’ve lost 110 pounds since 2015. I’m writing a novel and have been traveling alone around the world for 3 1/2 years. I live now in Australia with 2 male millennial housemates. I don’t feel any different than I did at 30. My best friend is 88 and fitter than I am, goes to the gym regularly, started college age 70 and got her degree. She’s my role model. I see many boomers who are in bad shape, physically and emotionally. They think their best years are over. Very sad. I had cancer in 1993-4 and was told I could be dead in 6 months. So the last quarter century plus has been a gift. I still have lots of things left on my bucket list, and pray my physical and psychological health hold up. I don’t fear being dead, the fear is of becoming physically disabled or getting dementia first. Death itself is not optional, everyone dies....so why be afraid? PS my dad and mom died at 72 and 73, and the idea they were only 3-4 years older than I am now does weird me out when I think about it! So does hearing someone I know my age or younger dying. I think “But they were so young!” PS I struggled with depression all my life, age 12 to 63, was hospitalized often between my mid 30s and early 60s. I’m grateful not to have had a depressed episode in 6 years. If holistic methods don’t work and you need therapy or meds, then get them. Also get a thorough physical to rule out things like thyroid disease that may be causing the depression.

[@kiki-bz2jk]

I'm 17, what you wrote makes me feel at peace. I am always in a state of anxiousness and always am rushing because I am expected to help my immigrant parents retire. Although they never said that directly, I feel it is expected because of all they sacrificed for me. I am expected to go to college, pick something to study in order to get a job, and work for the next forty years, and it's scary. I still feel like how I did back in middle school being the class clown, but pretty soon, in 4 short months, I'll be 18. I was scared but now I realize time is all about how you spend it. It is truly inspiring how you choose to still explore and create. I aspire to be like you.

[@nhmooytis7058]

@@kiki-bz2jk the fact is when someone has kids providing for them especially their education is what they are expected to do. Guilt tripping the kids is wrong. Yes caring for their needs if they need help is fine but it’s sad to see people in their 50s who end up trapped, with both aging dependent parents and boomerang kids they’re responsible for,

[@Mashallahxd]

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[@nhmooytis7058]

@Stacey Michaels thank you.

[@thoughtcriminal5655]

God bless you Nhomo

[@hazelkitty27]

For the 18 minutes this video went on, Herbert was my grandfather too.

[@jomama5186]

That was very sweet

[@southsideman4891]

PUT SOME RESPEK ON HIS NAME FOR LASTING THAT LONG!

[@MermieOriginals]

And my Grandmother too. I just spent 6 weeks with her...4 of which were spent in a place she destined never to go - hospital, due to contracting the flu and a respiratory infection. At 96 she was as 'active' as Herbert. And I watched as the last of that independence and the last vestiges of pride drained away to a point that she has finally resigned to needing 24/7 care which financially can barely be afforded...and all that she has worked for will now go to a care home. Yes, I know many will say 'but why can't someone look after her at home?' but for many reasons (unselfish I might add, simply due to circumstance) that's not possible. To understand old people, that while we worry about money, jobs and food they worry about death, means to become aware of a whole new perspective on 'Life' and to afford them patience, compassion and respect and realise that they have probably realised more in their lifetime than we ever will be allowed to do.

[@IxDarkxNinjaxI]

No he wasn’t.

[@GabeRyanMedia]

Myself and my wife are 20 and 21 respectively. We both love listening to and collecting vinyl records of classical music and movie soundtracks. When Herbert finished listening to the record and started crying and then mentioned how they held hands I almost lost it... that'll be us one day 🥺

[@JWMmartin]

My grandfather is 95 years old. A few years ago, when his capabilities started to fail him and he needed to accept more help, we were having a conversation with my Dad on Christmas. My Dad had been bringing up the topic of more help and my Grandfather was visibly upset by those topics. My Dad is a good man only trying to help his Father out, but I understand his misgivings. Once my Dad left and we were alone, our conversation drifted from the typical meanderings of daily life. He told me a joke to ease the tension of his mortality - it was funny and in good taste. He laughed along with me then quieted and looked down at his hands. He looked up at me, deep into my eyes and said "I still feel young inside, I still feel like a child." I love my Grandfather very much. I'm glad he feels comfortable sharing how he feels with me. I've learned a great deal from him whether he intends to teach me or not. When you have only so much breath left, what you say matters so much more.

[@aliasmjm]

"When you only have so much breath left, what you say matters so much more." Deep. Well said.

[@tbaymufon6448]

Hey Bill, Thank you for sharing this. Its beautiful to see this appreciation you have for life. I hope you are doing well.

[@Autumn_Forest_]

Wow. Thank you for sharing this story of your grandfather with us. May you have him for lots more happy, healthy years.

[@petterfinnaly3659]

"When you have only so much breath left, what you say matters so much more." i will save it at my book and thank you so much i was in need to read it.

[@sarah29880]

What a wonderful relationship you two have had. Hope there are many more breaths/days with him.

[@larssvenson8769]

My own grandfather is 99 right now, and turning 100 this December. He fought in WW2 in the United States Army in the European theatre and had many near death experiences there. He is still very cognizant and it's interesting to compare what he says to what this gentleman, Herbert, said. My grandfather also has lost his wife, my Nanna, several years ago. My grandfather apparently does not fear death, and seems to be training his family to be prepared for his death. I'll share two nuggets of wisdom that I wrote down, one from Nanna before she passed, and one from Poppy (grandfather). "It's a wonderful world if you let it be" - Nanna "When we're dead we're gonna be dead a long time. So take in what you can now. " - Poppy

[@whatistruth560]

Nice story, There is also the Creator of our whole World who entered it for all our hate,sin,ect by love for us and rose again for all by grace a free Gift of God and we shall be rising after death of he who believes, thanks God bless.

[@israelgonzalez8703]

"When we're dead we're gonna be dead a long time. So take in what you can now." Dude I love that. Thank you for passing on the wisdom.

[@ancienturtle216]

@@whatistruth560 Not everyone believes in the afterlife or a god at all.

[@77sinner]

@@whatistruth560 Shhh, no need to ruin a good story.

[@whatistruth560]

@@israelgonzalez8703 Do you have proof and evidence that you are accurate and correct that thete is no GOD/Creator?

[@syds1168]

To the filmmaker: beautiful what you did here, for you and your family and for your grandfather. I often think about my dad and so wish I had done something like this, but I could never get it together. You and your family, for generations to come will have this little slice in the life of your grandfather and how things were “back then” and you gave him the platform to think, contemplate and philosophize, which was his way, in order to work through this stage of his life. What a gift. I’m sure many elderly and lonely people would love this opportunity.

[@alredesmit3560]

He missed it even with 97 years to find the way the truth and the life. Consider: the only man to rise from the dead is Jesus the Christ.

[@toothco]

Very well put!

[@TheTatager]

What a beautiful and enriching experience must've been for both Herbert and his grandson to document these profound conversations about life and its unavoidable end. May we the young learn the wisdom of the old.

[@isaac8228]

I started crying when he said his wife died. Just imagine having someone you love for all years die and you had no choice but to keep on living...

[@MasterOfCope]

Yeah I felt that although to have a connection with someone must be an amazing thing I guess all the good memories make up for it in a way.

[@roguedroid7102]

orca winfreys big black fish hole 😐

[@AnnaLVajda]

I heard lots of older people often die within a year or two of their spouse almost of a broken heart.

[@rickm5853]

@@ryanalger9279 "there is no true white or black answer to any problem" Isn't that a black and white answer to a problem and hence a self defeating argument?

[@StabbyMcBlade]

@orca winfreys big black fish hole were you expecting a few people to lol at that? Or maybe think you're totally hard-core for laughing in the face of death?? 🤔

[@crashburn3292]

The mind and voice of this man. Without seeing him, if his voice told you he was 67, you would have no problem believing it. Herbert Fingarette. A life well lived.

[@MatheusMPL]

The death of oneself is frightening, the death of loved-ones is unbearable

[@TheMagykKonch]

I'm not here tobe edgy or start an argument just my opinion... I respectfully disagree.

[@thurler7cordas]

hard take, vro

[@obiwankenobi2520]

Logan E same

[@true7285]

Accept the lord Jeebus Christ be4 its 2 late

[@dtraindaimyo3377]

@@TheMagykKonch I think it depends on the person and the circumstances. I truly believe most, not all, but most parents would rather experience their own death than a child's.

[@ligiaburleproductions3591]

It brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for the publishing. Thanks to everyone involved in the production.

[@aronchas]

Lost my grandad last week, he died from pneumonia. He was my second father, my mentor, my caregiver when I was a child. He was the most working, strong, never complained, humble human being I met. On his last days I was so fortunate to return some love he gave me for 97 years. I took care of him until his last second of his life. I guided trough his transition. We shared our laughs, thoughts, and memories from the past, we said goodbye and cried together. I encourage you to say you love ones how much you care, and be patiend with the ederly, we all going to that someday. At my 40's I learned a lot about life, because of him, because of the last moments. We have one life we must to enjoy every second.

[@eternity9691]

sending you love and light ♥️

[@nua.h2757]

"be patiend with elderly, we all going to that someday" ❤️

[@miguelluis1466]

Aaron, Força, Confiança ! ficam as memórias e o que ele representou para ti, enquanto tu existires, o teu Avô nunca morre, Take care off you, keep save.

[@helihobbit]

how true, how beautiful.

[@julz9378]

Aaron Rodriguez ❤️

[@Xelpherpolis]

I worked at a grocery store for a little while after I graduated from college. One of my co-workers was an elderly lady who'd been working there for years. I once asked her if she was having a good day. Her response was "I woke up this morning, didn't I?" ...I don't think I'll ever forget that.

[@crimzonrayz3274]

Sad truth is some of the frequent members i see at the local pub normally always say that

[@Sundawg17]

Those are some awfully tough cookies...

[@TheAlison1456]

That could be really good or really bad... It doesn't answer anything on its own!

[@andrewcumming6319]

I'm 73, and enjoy my life, however, should I reach the stage where I cannot look after myself, then its time to die. I wish we had euthanasia available. It would take the fear of a protracted death away.

[@kostaborojevic498]

​@@andrewcumming6319i agree. It's not graceful to go in a slow and painful manner....

[@billyning3800]

"Her absence is a presence" oh gosh thats a philosopher talking>>>God Bless you

[@jamesc1879]

Billy Ning from James C.: absolutely on the head, I have my apartment heated above what other people seem too warm. Any absence of warmth is an absence of presence for me. And my husband, 38 years my senior, who was 98, and after living together for sixteen years and married for twelve, the absence is always present, but never realized. It's a blessing and a curse.