A Brief History of Marriage and Its 'Unfeminist' Origins

It's the one question almost every urban Indian woman in her twenties is bogged down by -- 'when are you getting married?' We take a brief look at the origins of marriage, gender inequality, and what a feminist marriage looks like.
Edited by: Neha Shekhawat
Scripted by: Rajvi Desai, Shrishti Malhotra
Presented by: Rajvi Desai
Produced by: Shrishti Malhotra
Creative Supervisor: Karla Bookman
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[@MUNNA0111]

I’m 30, female, South Indian, happily unmarried, happily celibate, happily child-free, living in South India and living my best life.

[@twinklearora3110]

Cheers to all of us women. ❤️

[@PriyankaMadaan]

Marriage should be an option 😊

[@sarvanipulipaka3049]

Good for you ma'am ❤

[@enechan5037]

And you're awesome fam

[@thenomadicdentist2364]

28, South Indian, unmarried, childfree, living a happy independent life.

[@pallavisrivastava7010]

I have to comment here that I am 29 yrs old, middle class, Indian female and the only thing my parents have asked me to do so far in my life is to build my career.. never hurt me or tried to push me into marriage.. I have to say, my parents are amazing, I am blessed.

[@swathikalappa2423]

You are lucky

[@chembiansclasses7635]

Yes u are vry lucky nd blessed. Not all have this

[@eragangwar9310]

Same here.... blessed to have them as my parents!!❤️

[@pallavisrivastava7010]

Thank-you so much people. I hope to be such a parent one day too. I hope you all find a life that would give you happiness and peace.

[@celastinads4797]

Me too

[@shashankmohalikar6134]

My both parents work. Mom cooks morning meals, dad cooks evening meals. Both share equal house hold duties. Proud of them. They are happly married for 25 years...

[@eragangwar9310]

Same here dude my mum is a English lecturer and father is in bank both of them share equal responsibilities some times dad cook food some times mom ,some times he wash dishes some times it's mom....not only in household work but also economically both of them are differently responsible...and most important thing there is no complaining factor over this.... I'm blessed to have them as my parents!!❤️

[@BR-gp3kf]

Mine too. Both of my parents are teacher.

[@UmaJaiswalArtist]

Man and woman together contribute to family We can't underestimate any of them Great Respect to mom and dad both 🙏🙏 I don't agree with this video

[@shashankmohalikar6134]

@@eragangwar9310 happy to hear that. Certainly we are a pitrasattatmak society which means men are of Power in our house beacouse of our rich history where man used go out for farming and women used to manage the house until 1980, however now there more people being urbanized and women being working equally in society it our responsibility to change the way our society used to work. When i will get married ,i will make sure if we both are working we will share the house hold jobs equally and one of us wants to manage the house we will respect the decision and will divide the responsibility equally without making anyone of less important. Thats what the next generation is all set to behave. We can not change entire world in one day . It takes time....

[@eragangwar9310]

@ULTIMATE MGTOW so according to you people marry just for food?🤣

[@infinity-gn9xq]

30, doctor.. unmarried, childless.. making my parents and relatives more and more nervous with each passing day.. 😂😂

[@mysticsoul8809]

😁😉

[@anuranjana5927]

😂😂

[@xyzaaa7716]

Alberet einstein , Lataji , APJ Abdul Kalam u know what's comman they r Single!!!

[@phenomenalphysics3548]

Lol amazing!!😍😂

[@anirudh2566]

😂

[@priyaaa1892]

I m 16 currently and ever since I was a child my mom always kept telling me that I have to marry after 12th, that if I don't clear IIT, she will marry me off to some random stranger. Everytime I talk back my parents r like "if u r going to behave like that no guy will marry you". Everytime some conversation got related to money,they would always bring up that how they have to save money for my dowry otherwise no one will marry me. The thing is, they did not tell this to my brother,not even once. They always kept saying he has no worries because he is a guy but I do coz m a girl. The fact that such people bring up their daughters making them believe that their only purpose in life is to get married so u can give kids is SHIT. I don't like my family,living with them is very toxic. I don't like how the society treats women in general. This needs to change.and I ll make sure m a part of that change:)

[@Neha-im3yd]

for that u should study hard and make yourself economically independent i guess that will help u to make ur life decisions without getting influenced by ur family

[@priyaaa1892]

@@Neha-im3yd gon do anything to get out of here. Even if I have to work my ass off

[@Neha-im3yd]

Priya Aa Thats the spirit, you will definately get what you want :)

[@yoursarchie177]

Same with my family.. I wanna learn western music. And for that I wanna go to abroad or will have to move to another state. But my mom isn't agreeing. She is always threatening me to marry off with some stranger. Just because I wanna study music. Like it disgusts me that it comes from a woman who gave me birth and who was married off at the young age of 20. Like she doesn't understand. It's so toxic.

[@niranjananair6216]

I think every single girl has heard the "will marry u off if u dont do this" statement. Honestly makes me wanna puke everytime i hear it

[@shaziyamuzaffar5437]

Indian parents: beta anjaan ladko se baat nahi karni chahiye.... Same Indian parents: ye ladka acha hai, Shaadi karle, ise jaanti nahi to kya hua, waqt k saath jaan jaayegi ;) :D

[@lakshyabhardwaj9541]

Very well said

[@PriyankaN16]

Jis din dekhne aate h usi din puchna shuru k ha krde bdiya hi h.. Jese koi kpde ki sale h.. And same parents judge my 13 years old friends..(13 saal se dost h..) they judge his character.. But ek din k liye aaya hua ldka unko jyda accha lgne lg jata h.. I just hate this society yrr..

[@prachijasrotia900]

😂 true

[@kits5960]

Lol!! So true!

[@ColourMeRed_1990]

Yeah I think that's true for both genders though, in arranged marriages. Jaise kapdo ki sale hai, as deftly pointed above.

[@devashrikulkarni1337]

The mere fact that in most of the heterosexual marriages, the female partner is customed to leave her parents' house to shift to her husband's house and if she asks her husband to do the same, she is termed as "home-wrecker" tells us that the whole idea of marriage is nowhere based on "equality". Edit: Clearly a few people misunderstood me, which is very evident from some venomous comments below. After the meditation of nearly 11 months on this subject and new perspective gaining, I'll rephrase what I said above. I'm not saying a man "should" leave his house and parents to settle at his spouse's home nor I'm saying a woman "should" do that. It is not me to comment upon it. I'm just highlighting that how woman leaving her house is normalised whereas the a man leaving is not and how the society remarks on such unorthodox move. Regarding what the couple decides regarding where to live, is a purely personal choice. No one for us to comment upon. The best we can do is not shame men or couple who decide to live at their spouse's home. Thank you x

[@nidhipatel5168]

Rightly said.

[@anikaverma5856]

Unfortunately most people can only present such views on social media not in front of their families or society

[@devashrikulkarni1337]

@@anikaverma5856 Yeah. You're right. If we present these ideas in front of our parents they are most likely to make us keep quiet because it supposedly goes against the ages old tradition. But now at least we can question these ideas which are imposed upon us.

[@devashrikulkarni1337]

@DarthYuYevon Yes. It does depend upon the person. If a woman wants to live at her husband's house by her choice, that's totally fine. But only if she "wants to" and is not imposed to leave her parents' home. That's why I mentioned that a woman is "customed to leave her parent's house" and not even asked about what she wants (in most of the marriages). This is where the problem rises. At the end of the day, it all depends on the choice of that couple and what they decide.

[@anikaverma5856]

@@devashrikulkarni1337 thankfully I have been talking like this since my early teenage so now they have become more open minded plus they aren't so bad like some parents but total equality for their bahu they don't. I have seen their mindset change in many things. Some parents are good these things are just new to them we need to explain all this and give them time and they might understand. Although talking about periods is not common haha 😆 . But yes there are so many Indian parents who discriminate so much they would never understand, I have such relatives too

[@doggiepal1]

32, happily unmarried, chose not to have children and can't be more happier with my choice.

[@Ajay-ph1ei]

Marriage is not necessary but companionship is. I am also not married but I won't mind a platonic bonding with a woman who does not want to get married or have children.

[@doggiepal1]

@@Ajay-ph1ei lol men and 'platonic' bonding. 😁

[@Ajay-ph1ei]

@@doggiepal1 It is your understanding Riah. Many nice men and woman choose to be single because of their own prejudices to the surprise of people around them who kept wondering He/She is nice, sincere, intelligent, handsome/beautiful, likeable and still they are single. I personally feel we mostly think that we just cannot find anybody like us. Men and women who don't want to marry and have children can make their own group and support each other emotionally and maybe they can find someone.

[@doggiepal1]

@@Ajay-ph1ei Well, if you had said single people can form a community/ support group etc in your earlier msg, I wouldn't have made that sarcastic jibe. And I agree, if there is indeed a nice community space like that, why not. Also, it is not my 'Understanding' alone. It is also my experience. It's very difficult, nearly impossible for men to foster platonic relationships. Maybe it's nature, I don't know but most of the safe spaces we women have nurtured don't have men in them.

[@Ajay-ph1ei]

@@doggiepal1 Thanks for understanding, I extend my hand of platonic friendship towards you.. can we connect each other as friends..if only you can trust.

[@riak6305]

A youtube ad led me here and I cannot be more grateful. What a great channel.

[@swatipandey1488]

Me too

[@rishitabiswas2388]

Honestly I got to know of their channel from a KZbin ad. I was so happy that I got to watch that. It's such a great channel.

[@pseudotimestretch]

I was so happy to see a good KZbin ad for once

[@forgetfulyash]

same and I am really happy for it

[@shwetarajput2677]

Yeah... Me tooo

[@abbashaidari8313]

So in my school we had compulsory Home Science classes for boys so that they can learn how to do housework and help their moms at home (and eventually their wives)

[@abbashaidari8313]

@MGTOW Red Pilled oh I realise I have put it wrong.. it was compulsory for everyone.. both girls and boys.. And by making sure even boys have to attend it compulsorily, you send the message that housework has to be done by everyone and is not a "Woman's Job".

[@abbashaidari8313]

@MGTOW Red Pilled I don't understand why you'd have that opinion. If it's because you feel that's wasting school time that could've been given to academic subjects let me tell you, it was after school hours and once a week. If there's any other reason I'd be really interested in knowing

[@abbashaidari8313]

@MGTOW Red Pilled I don't mean to make you say anything you don't want to say, but you just straight up threw slack at my school, so I just wanted to know why you held that opinion..

[@crazymike1706]

@@abbashaidari8313 that's tyranny

[@tubby6007]

Which school and and in which city?

[@gonegirl3954]

I'm 18 and I feel really empowered seeing all these comments of other women sharing personal experience or talking about happy lives without marriage. Only shows how getting married should only be a part of life, and not necessarily a huge goal or a mandatory factor for happiness.

[@zahidiqbal11]

Finally a smart girl....

[@kdjoshi726]

Same. I'm the same age as you

[@gonegirl3954]

@@kdjoshi726 oh nice, cheers! :D

[@soumensantu]

Nice to hear that but just for curiosity, check what your classmates point of view.

[@gonegirl3954]

@@soumensantu yup. The other day itself I did send this video to my friends. A few of them have boyfriends that they want to hopefully marry one day and others wouldn't mind staying unmarried. Each to their own.

[@drr7182]

I am 21 , my father is a progressive Ambedkarite , we are from a small town ,my Parents always wanted a girl child and i am their First and ONLY child . They focused all their love , energy into a single girl child they have, never ever talked to me about marriage and stuff , they have always kept my education above everything else , always told me that whatever money you require is for your education and health and marriage is least of our concern , its your choice if you ever wanna get married and whom so ever you get married and how you choose to organize your wedding , you have to do it all . Our only motive was to make you capable enough to speak up for yourself , Earn for yourself and do something for our society ! I will forever be grateful to have such supportive parents ! Its just because of them that I will be getting my MBBS degree in the next two years !

[@lakshmi-mitra]

I'm the only child of my parents, who're known to have openly declared that they wanted a daughter. Got my mbbs 3 years ago, and instead of getting me married off to some random person, they asked me what i wanted. I work in england now, and found myself a good man here (in my late twenties), and now i'm happy with my professional and personal life. It's a dream for many girls in India to have parents like yours or mine, happy to see that you appreciate them. Best of luck to your future.

[@ShalakaLSM]

I am really glad to hear that there are such progressive people out there, not just by thoughts and words but also by actions. It makes me hopeful about my future. Currently, I am one year away from being a dentist. It took me almost a year to convince my father from him wanting me to get married right after graduation to marrying at 25. Now I will have to study extra hard to get admissions into master's degree (in 1st attempt) so that the age of marriage moves further forward by 2-3 years.

[@AnjaliJangra10]

Same girl, I'm also in my pre final year of MBBS and my father is a single parent who has never treated me any different than my brother. Kudos to us and our understanding parents.

[@pinkschild4821]

@ronlovesit you need to study a little about it and you will get to know why reservations were brought on. Since you are in this side of KZbin algorithm I hope you are open to educating yourself.

[@maehulbakshi]

I would wish to become like your father.

[@meettheartist5506]

I'm a male, early 20s, North Indian, not against marriage or relationships at all. I'm okay to get happily married to the love of my life in the coming future and be a proud househusband. Right now she's also somewhere going towards her goal to become the financial head of my future family, breaking all the stereotypes of a patriarchal society that I and many of my knowns have seen since they were a kid and now being a herd of sheep; while I'm going out in the world to focus on my artistic work, rather than money. Love to all. _(Template took)_

[@meettheartist5506]

@ULTIMATE MGTOW I won't judge you by your name, but nevertheless sorry, low-key I did. Let's just agree that we all mutually have to think about everything. If women wants equal circumstances around, they must accept that there's a balance that's going to be required for that. Many in my known are a happily part of it. Many from the other side, even though being educated pity on their situation. At end of the day, you always realise it's just people... Educated, no educated; men, women; young, elder; Indian, American; celebrity, just someone - all are equal. It's just how you perceive things. You want change? First start with brain.

[@meettheartist5506]

@ULTIMATE MGTOW also, marry someone who you love and you know h/she completes you. Because at the end of the day, you see it's both of the people that are responsible for every outcome. If they are already apart, divorce is something legal; an action taken by a piece of paper... You already are destined to create a reck, and raise a havoc on yours and your future kids (which is the case of many _"marriages gone wrong"_ around the world.

[@meettheartist5506]

@ULTIMATE MGTOW be smart and genuine about having a partner. That can either bloom your life or can give birth to havoc. Or better off, if don't discover anyone... Be alone. Die alone. But never pass your own chaos to your future generations.

[@PreetiYadav-dz9ju]

Awesome man... actually when we talk about equality nobody really views it from the male perspective.. I mean why are males always pressurized to get a good degree and a job otherwise they won't get married..this puts a lot of pressure on many men and so many student suicide cases we hear it's because of this pressure only.. IT'S OK for a man to look for a wife who can look after him financially while he looks after her home

[@meettheartist5506]

@@aryanair1461 that's what my point is. Thank you btw.

[@anasmohamed4222]

I used to help my mother in household chores occasionaly, once in a month or something like that, just for winning some brownie points from her. It was only because of your video on Indian ads glorifying women's unpaid work that I realized how tiring the work really is. Since then, I've started to contribute my efforts in household works daily. Love your channel. Keep it up!

[@blahblahshutup6024]

You, sir, deserve an award for this comment!

[@nidhipatel5168]

Such a good n kind man you are :)

[@shaziyamuzaffar5437]

World needs men like you! If every man starts feeling equal responsibility on household chores,this world will be full of happy & proud moms, sisters and wives.. our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) also used to help his spouse in household chores. We need to make him our role model.

[@shaziyamuzaffar5437]

Please keep up the good work and continue helping each lady who is a part of your life..whether it may be your mother, sister, wife, sister -in-law or mother-in-law.. Allah rewards every good deed you do. This world will try to discourage you a lot, but please don't stop. Instead, teach them the right thing.

[@shaziyamuzaffar5437]

@DarthYuYevon it's good that you both workout a way by understanding each other. But in some Asian countries, the household chores are just fixed in the lady's fate, such that it kills her dreams, drains her physically and mentally. Very few men here understand that the women need some rest as well. Edit: Also the chores in Asia are more than you can imagine. It's usually a joint family. A wife is supposed to take full care of you, your children, your parents, siblings (even married one's in some cases), cook for big families and parties alone, clean everything by herself etc..moreover, she will not be even recognised for her efforts. some ill minded in-laws will be criticising her without any reason.

[@sumayyaabdulrazakh4871]

I used to help my mom with the household works. But when my exams approached I was reluctant to work. I would say to my mom to ask my brother for help as he was jobless and playing pubg at home. Then everyone gave me a look as if I asked my pet to go earn money. Our society Is so much biased. Why should a man not help with households, like why? If you say you are a feminist at home, patriarchal family will treat you as a Pakistani living in Indian family. My grandma curses me when ever I say anything back which I disagree with but if my brother says that it's fine for her, in fact it's legal in her court. All this needs to be stopped. Let's raise our voices against inequality

[@EzequielMartin55vf]

I really hope things change there. and we get same equality

[@blackwolf5771]

According to quran, women should obey elders and husband because woman is created to help man by Almighty

[@aditibisht22]

@@blackwolf5771 nobody cares about your patriarchal book, dude

[@howtouzi]

@@blackwolf5771 what about unmarried women?

[@Amaranthine56]

I wish the society would understand this and stop forcing arranged marriages 😩

[@ishpreetkaur6083]

Forced marriage is against the law. They can be complained against, who are forcing to marry.

[@mohammadnaushadhussain9390]

@@ishpreetkaur6083 PARENTS KA HI SUNNA CHAHIYE MAMJI. JINDAGI ACHHI HOTI HAI , WESTERN CULTURE KI KOI GUARNTEE NHI.

[@rifahanisa363]

@@mohammadnaushadhussain9390 I.... so you are saying everything our parents tell us to do aagar vo galat bhi ho to bhi manle, kisne kaha jo parents ke baat sunke arrange marriage karke khush reh sakte he, mostly sari ladkiya/ladke, khush nahi hai arrange marriage mein

[@rifahanisa363]

@@mohammadnaushadhussain9390 app logo ko yeh bhi samaj na parega ki parents hamesha thik nahi hote

[@mohammadnaushadhussain9390]

@@rifahanisa363 HA BAAJI, PAR MAINE LOVE MARRIAGE WALO ME JHAGDE AUR TALAQ ZYATAR DEKHE HAI. AUR WALO MAI KAM DEKHE HAI LOVE MARRIAGE KARNE WALO KA KOI SATH NHI DETA.

[@aditiranjan2]

One more sexism I think is that in India we all know that every time in 97% certificates our father's name is there..no value of our mother's name.. and everytime we see any official card we see son/daughter/wife of this man or that man. "Man" is the most important in every official document.. No matter how good person you marry this thing will always remain there sadly because indians will never let equality even happen.. And why I am saying marriage because no matter what surname your child takes but in their every document your husband's name will only be there.. Sadly no matter how much struggle we women pay..

[@kamartaj3010]

Patriarchy

[@aestheticeditsss7967]

I am in Standard 12 and I'll tell you while giving my exams we have to fill the details and there is no mention of mother's name. There's just a "Father's name" column and it bugs me Everytime.

[@AbhishekReloaded]

A Tree is known by the seed not by the name of the land.

[@rohans7194]

Its sad to see most women want an educated, well earning man who provides, protects and who can be responsible to take care of them and children but they don’t want to have their surnames. Is it such a big deal? If yes, start getting married with guys who are less earning and less educated than u, build a house for marriage, marry a guy and bring him to ur house, pay mortgage. If marriage doesn’t work, pay alimony and child support upon divorce to a man, if u really want to end the patriarchy, else don’t ever get married. U can’t have ur cake and eat it too. Take accountability.

[@AbhishekReloaded]

@@rohans7194 youtube already made ur comment hidden from the Feminists eyes.

[@chetanasathish6210]

I m really lucky that i am very well educated and married the man I liked and I m having an equal status in my marriage.i have not changed my last name and I have a strong say in my household. My choices are respected and heard . In fact my son has taken my name and my husband's name as his initials ..my husband shares the household chores and participates equally in raising our child .I really hope all girls in my country get equal status and rights in their marriage too. I think for that we have to raise our boys right ..its high time we get out of unequal, patriarchal ways of the society.

[@chitrikart2328]

FULL SUPPORT✊✊.

[@beenasakthi111]

I am genuinely happy for you .. and yes the boys have to be raised with right attitude.. and girls should not tamed for marriage from young

[@Ajay-ph1ei]

Why do children as well need parents' name as initials at all?

[@Name-hp6eh]

@ULTIMATE MGTOW who told you that math ? If the woman haven't changed her surname, her daughter in law might also do the same or whatever else she would like and they'll be happy (coz they seem to be real people who know what actually matter in life) . Though I agree partially with you on the no surname point, not in this family's reference, but in general with a different aspect to it ( I personally believe it can make everyone's life easier).

[@Name-hp6eh]

@ULTIMATE MGTOW you're suffering from a deadly disease called feminismophobia. You'll soon loose all your social and critical thinking abilities and if timely treatment not given, you can also loose your sanity.

[@devi4295]

I’m 29.Happily unmarried.From Kerala.Lecturer in engineering college.Happy life.But little bit of sad because of virgin 😅😤.

[@doggiepal1]

Urmila, intimacy has no correlation to marriage. Just do what makes you happy 😊

[@aswathirajan7963]

@@doggiepal1 27 happy but sad that will get married very soon to a mallu guy which am not sure is a guy fr me....... Jobless engineer tensed of thinking what will I do if I get married without job..... Nd becoming a hand tied with no choice left other than being a housewife

[@doggiepal1]

@@aswathirajan7963 Find another Job. I too was nearly pushed into an arranged marriage. Glad I didn't let that happen. But i understand your fears. I've been there.

[@aswathirajan7963]

@@doggiepal1 hmm sometimes my other makes me feel it's my fate to be jobless so that I suffer by being a housewife jobless.... And serving man

[@steeldragon410]

@@aswathirajan7963 stand up for yourself. You may face parental anger now, but that's preferable to a life time of regret. Your self worth is not defined by your marital status or even your job. Remember that.🙏👏

[@watcherolic9930]

U know what current moms need to start teaching thier boys this. Coz gender partiality begins there itself. When u ask ur daughter to was utensils, nxt day ask ur son to do so too. Divide work load equally at home. Support both kids equally in thier career choices. Coz HOME is the place ur mentality takes form. Indian moms if ur reading this think about it. Didn't u also wanted this while u were growing up, if this was taught to ur hubbys too they would behave differently today. Automatically. Let's change the world to new tomorrow, where both genders are treated equally ⭐let's start this from home itself

[@patriotic190]

My mom did that.

[@janhaviborole4299]

why just moms ,dads should too.

[@aquahorns8995]

@Asura Mantra Wash the car, move heavy equipment, laborious jobs, many more.

[@fahim2638]

@@aquahorns8995 hmm i wash the car with him its FUN and I dont get bored

[@eshajoshi3597]

@@aquahorns8995 I wash the car with my parents and lift heavy stuff at home....But they already mentioned all chores should be done by all so yeah these things are included.

[@Thisworldisagoner]

26, and unmarried here. My dad doesn't even care for my marriage 😂 whereas my mom might have some thoughts about it. I dont know. Right now I see marriage as nothing but a binding.

[@sarvanipulipaka3049]

Recently I've been questioning the concept of marriage and i know that when the time comes my family's gonna be forcing it on me but i just don't feel like it is really that important anymore

[@adwaitab.3622]

@DarthYuYevon exactly!! You said the right thing. Some people enjoy another's company, some like being on their own. This is for men and women both. Best is to live and let live.❤️❤️

[@sarvanipulipaka3049]

@DarthYuYevon Completely agree with you all I was trying to say is it is optional to get married or not. It should not be mandatory for either male or female.

[@MsBurnitup]

I was literally emotional blackmailed into it cos I had a boyfriend and my relative kept bugging my mum about it. When my mom started putting the idea of marriage inside my head it was all from a right place as a mother - if you both are sexually active then he is just using you cos this is what literally the guys want without marriage, his parents will start respecting me, social security. I then started imposing this on my then boyfriend and he caved in like I did. But we didn't marry for the right reasons.

[@zahidiqbal11]

Well enjoy single parenting !

[@MsBurnitup]

@@zahidiqbal11 Is this suppose to be sarcastic..?

[@Mish468]

Hey, I am 29 years old..there is constant pressure from my family n more from relatives for my marriage. The closer I am to 30, the more worried my parents are..no one cares about the money I want to earn, build a better livelihood but more concerned about the status of would spouse. On the the other hand, I end up meeting assholes who wants everything in terms of women with good body, working financially settled but listens to him solely.

[@blackwolf5771]

Women loose their fertility faster than men so you'll find hard to get decent partner above 30

[@Whatever_seriously]

@@blackwolf5771 lol a person who doesn’t want to marry her post 30 is not a ‘decent’ partner. She can do without such morons

[@samuraijosh1595]

@@Whatever_seriously He didn't say somebody would refuse marrying her when she's past 30. He's saying men would refuse marrying a less fertilie woman(which happens to be 30+) unless the man also wants to be child free.

[@Overflowersonly]

Lol men also loses their fertility, I don’t know why Indian boys are so uneducated..men sperm starts decreasing in quality same way like women’s fertility. Old men after 35+ will not be able to give healthy children because of low sperm quality there will be chances of autism, Down syndrome, miscarriage and later other health problems! So women should also stop marrying older men if they want healthy babies

[@anweshabarthakur8663]

I m 27, female, From North East, happily unmarried and conversation m having with my parents is them telling me to complete my PhD....

[@Ascendify5]

No don't get married. Being mother sucks in this day and age

[@pinakinath7799]

Complete it madam,and carry on. The society needs to be changed for better.

[@misbahfathima5967]

I really wish marriage was only between a man and a woman. But when the whole family is involved how in the world will a woman be feminist in a marriage?

[@patriotic190]

Why does a women need to be feminist in marriage.

[@kdjoshi726]

Exactly that's how marriage is viewed here. "Marriage means connecting two families" is the real mentality behind it

[@EzequielMartin55vf]

Getting married or not should depends on one, Not what society think or what people says. lts a tough world life is hard. Learn to ignore

[@codejunkes4607]

Marriage should between two willing individuals but yes legally India doesn't have LGBT marriages. And Family don't approve either LOL Anyways have an honest conversation with your parents and say I expect these things from a partner. I expect equality, respect, division of work, similar restriction or some restriction that you may not like, etc. If you want him to move in with you say it clearly that. If you are clear with both of your parents and partner thinks will be better ( still there will be problem though :P). I said to mom when she was talking about a rista that I will want to stay with her in livein at least for 1 year before deciding. She said then you find for yourself .. LOL things shorted. Now my Girfried's family is having problems, her father agreed but her mom is not getting ready.

[@anshagrawal6289]

Because India is a collectivistic society and not individualistic like the west Why are we trying to copy the west when we clearly know that individualism is a huge cause of loneliness and depression in the west

[@shutup9505]

My mum was forced to do both paid work and household chores at the same time, so she left her office and chose to be a housewife. She's happy now but this still makes me very emotional. My paternal family is extremely sexist.

[@AbhishekReloaded]

Then tell her to ask money for household work like a maid do.

[@user-jk5pj6lg9n]

Why TF it makes you emotional? Being housewife is a real job. It's highly respected, I admire housewives!!

[@labdhibavishi2430]

​@@user-jk5pj6lg9nwhat if family members Don't respect

[@prachishukla6600]

I am just 19 and people are already started talking about how I am going to get married and would have to do all house chores, if I laze around how my in laws will taunt me and all this. I just don't understand why ? Why do I have to care about that? Am I going to be wife or maid? Am I going to spend my time doing house chores only? You know I am so tired of this that I even started to hate this idea of marriage because as far as I met any elderly they only say it is woman who should adjust and do all chores, take care of the family and all. It makes me wonder why not men? Just because I as woman will have to move from one place to another only I should adjust as per their request? Why can't they? You know it's really problematic and I don't know whom should I talk, my parents are already telling me whenever I do any mistakes or laze around, " what will you do when you get married? I am not going to accept you back if they left you" ( although in funny way they says, but still it makes me have a fear of being burdened)

[@seemasejwal7706]

Just keep believing in yourself and be a strong independent women !!! More power to you

[@ShrutikaNikhar]

I feel the same!!! And yesterday I told my mother that..." look, I don't even feel the need to get married, as if I'm constantly tied to something! I don't need that."

[@loneranger5061]

Whats wrong in doing household chores? If ur husband is main breadwinner than u have to do household chores or else dont get married OR be in a Lesbian relationship that's quite common nowadays 🤣

[@loneranger5061]

Whats wrong in doing household chores? If ur husband is main breadwinner than u have to do household chores or else dont get married OR be in a Lesbian relationship that's quite common nowadays 🤣

[@llawliet6112]

@@loneranger5061 Why you are getting too offended 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@samikshamehta6888]

I am 23, and trust me I have listened a lot taunts about how your in-laws will tolerate you from my parents. Also there is my cousin who is 35 still unmarried and people speaks so ill about her being incompetent or characterless that's why no one married her till now. Let me tell you she's in a public sector bank, earning 50k and happy without changing her surname, but this patriarch society is sick enough to question about her character and competency. And this video clearly said what I personally think about marriages and a female's role and dreams regarding it which are almost ignored.

[@utkarshsingh1359]

@Nomad 21st mein hi ji rahe hain bhai aur ankhen kholkar dekho to pata chalega patriarchal hi hai

[@EzequielMartin55vf]

I completely understand

[@ananyarao5449]

Ikr,like if u speak up against something Ur parents said or did,they tell u Ki "hum toh tolerate karenge,par tumhare inlaws Kaise karenge??" ,And u r considered a rebel and what not

[@loneranger5061]

Men care less about women's career or earnings, men are attracted toward feminine beauty. Look at the ladies in this video, nothing feminine about her, she looks like man🤣 who wants to marry her?

[@JitendraSingh-ut3vj]

It's mean she is not in any type of relationship

[@rubihussain881]

25 year old, independent,committed since 11 years but don't wanna get married in the coming years, happy💖my family never talks about marriage,however I have few relatives who asks me things like "you have a bf then what are you waiting for" , "doesn't he ask you for marriage" lmao 🙊

[@deepakmahadik6190]

माशा अल्लाह आप Old nahi jwaan hi

[@somebody5156]

The thought of getting married off to some stranger just scares me like hell I'm scared to grow up Because if I will people will start questioning about my martial status They'll start judging me And people think that a single woman cannot live alone They'll tease me They'll break me I feel I should not live in this society which burdens me to do something

[@arkay5004]

Noone cares how you feel. It is what it is. Toughen up or go home cry baby.

[@sharmiliperumal7395]

Same

[@lovepawsplay8530]

How could you feel more confident?? They can't break you. You are infinite snd this is all temporary. It is like a test in school. What do you need to build confidence in what you know is the truth about yourself. Men are actually threatened by a strong woman, its why they are fighting so hard against it. They don't want to do their own work. We are stronger than we've been raised to believe. It's time to realize that strength and be independent and not a legalized slave we call marriage.

[@manasijain2475]

The comment section has become like a community, all women empowering eachother and not following the society rules to belittle other women. It is very nice seeing EVERYONE and not just a few people who do that. I am lazy but I do jobs that need to be done and don't slack off. On the other hand, if I ask my brother for some help, my mom comes at me that this is my job and she training me for my 'married future self'. A plate of BS I tell you. My mother is a big danger to women empowerment and she has got used to being the slave of the house and not a member. Good for her I guess, cause she doesn't want a change. But I do, I want a change. Where it may be my job to make a meal, but when I'm sick, somebody else will be willing to take over. I won't train myself to stay a slave for the rest of my life. I am a human and I demand to be treated like one.

[@nusratnipa8619]

ল? লজ)ন @

[@gohan12991]

Nice way to show respect to your mother. It's a sad thing that she kept you inside her for 9 months.

[@kundanthakurfiem]

Internet jaise public platform pe apne hi Maa Baap ke khilaf itni Ghrina aur nafrat.I can't believe this.where this whole world is heading to .

[@gohan12991]

@@kundanthakurfiem You're right. If her mother stops doing things for her then she'll cry like a little baby. Brats like her needs to slapped hard so that some sense can be put into them.

[@kundanthakurfiem]

@@gohan12991boys and girls from rich families take everything for granted.they complain a lot about superficial things .when their parents try to stop their promiscuous behavior, alcoholism,not allowing late night parties,one night stands then rich brats become a rebel.we saw during lockdown how labourer from up and Bihar were walking hundred of miles on their foot empty stomach to reach their native place.it was so appalling.on one hand we get to see humanity suffering from so many big challenges .on the other hand there are people who have no such problems in their life still they keep crying for no reason.

[@shutup9505]

Imagine growing up just to be forced to lose connection with your parents and live with a male stranger and his family forever and take care of them even though they can take care of themselves.

[@aditibisht22]

Yeah.. Like you're their property

[@chandrikarawat8606]

"take care of them even though they can take care of themselves" .... this is such an epic diss and a straight fact that makes the system and the in-laws look even dumber. I heart this XD

[@shubhamyadav9483]

Imagine growing up just to provide everything at the cost of your own health and live with a female stranger who can't take care of the home even she is unemployed.

[@judas1213]

@@chandrikarawat8606 It's not a diss, it's ignorance. Men have to give up their own lives to work 12 hours a day and come home to an ungrateful wife who is unemployed, doing nothing, and blackmails you into silence by calling you sexist and misogynistic.

[@JaspreetKaur-yt1sl]

I am 25 years old And I work self-dependent but I live with my parents just a few days ago my uncle was showing me a boys for marriage and said, now get marry After age, no boy will be found for marriage and for how long will your parents be alive for you Since then my parents also started getting worried for me,but I don't want to get marry right now 😒 this is how people start spoiling our life

[@karthik4680]

Being unmarried is living your life to the fullest. Applies to both the genders.

[@EzequielMartin55vf]

Its one of the best choice ever, Look at married couple they end up being miserable broken and regretting it. It is not worth it because people change nothing is promised and lt won't last lol

[@karthikronad868]

staying alone is fun, but not fulfilling though.

[@samuraijosh1595]

@@karthikronad868 They're selling us a hedonistic lifestyle. Marrying and having kids gives us a sense of fulfillment. Not marrying and partying and sleeping around for the temporary happiness you'll feel is essentially hedonism. Of course, I know our country is a shithole filled to the brim with forced marriages. But in the case romantic marriages at least, people shouldn't be forcing this hedonistic sad lifestyle on them.

[@Anish-Kumar-Verma]

@@karthikronad868 damn karthik vs karthik

[@agustinad1447]

This may hurt but parents who don't want their daughters to talk to boys and then gets her wedded to a random stranger is a good example of them making their daughter a prostitute. Atleast prostitutes work on their own terms her the daughter's body becomes a chaar logo ka matter and she is treated like a sex slave

[@adityavashishth4202]

Very good view this called woman empowerment

[@ShoaibKhan-im3tw]

Do u exactly know what r saying... Don't change the definition of prostitute. The girl who has done sexual intercourse with boyfriends is called prostitute... Sex without marriage is called adultery and this work is called prostitutions

[@eshajoshi3597]

@@ShoaibKhan-im3tw Do you know what you are saying? Sex with a boyfriend is consensual sex, not prostitution. Adultery is sex in an affair or a married person with someone who isn't their spouse. Prostitution is sex for money or whatever in return, there's no relationship there. There's a difference amongst these.

[@ShoaibKhan-im3tw]

@@eshajoshi3597 actually sex with ur boyfnd comes under the shameful act which is called fornication... And there is not much difference b/w adultery and fornication..

[@eshajoshi3597]

@@ShoaibKhan-im3tw Not much difference in terms of definition but one will be more acceptable (depends on people). Anyways what I'm saying is whatever it is it's not prostitution.

[@nikhatdarakhshan8183]

Marriage is like contract between two person, people misunderstood it by love.

[@ShoaibKhan-im3tw]

I think without arrange marriage u would not be born.🤣🤣

[@shch1969]

I started to get marriage proposals when i was 21 from guys who had money, status but way older than me. Thank God my parents didnt force me to get married. i completed ny education, got job, earned good amount of money, traveled many countries alone and got happily married at 29. I bought my own jewelry, dresses,for my wedding.. Did everything with my own money.. I am lucky ny parents never treated me like girl.. Now even after getting married i Don't feel burdened with household chores,nor i have to babysit my husband like Most indian women... So girls, be independent.. Marriage is a choice.. Don't get married until you get a man who will respect your independence and doesn’t believe in patriarchal society rules. Till then you are enough for yourself.

[@tuhimerameraa1]

Omgg this is so inspirational. I'm 16 and this is really really helpful 💞♥️

[@richs5275]

My sis said one thing to me that mattered the most - It may be that 'when' will you get married , but eventually it is about who you marry : how much you matter to him and what type of person he is . That is what determines your happiness.

[@Sanyagarg_1997]

I hope Swaddle becomes the biggest and most popular channel in the whole universe, because I haven't seen this kind of content anywhere else. Keep growing Swaddle!

[@jotika9784]

Being a women in late twenties I do like the concept of having a partner n sharing my life but can’t stand the idea that it would mean me letting go of my home, space n identity to go n live in someone else’s parents house. Marriage would be pretty great if it is about two people stating n sharing a life together rather women letting go off everything to ‘adjust’ in someone else’s house

[@krishafyme]

I feel once you get married it's very difficult to get out if things don't go right n females are criticised for getting divorce and said that she could have compromised, but how long? My aunt did suicide last year because of her husband, and marriage to me is no longer a requirement qualifications of a woman in 20s or ever. We just kept on telling her to ignore them and keep hope and everything will be okay soon which never happened.

[@maryamzafar2533]

Talk about it! I can speak for this myself. My condolences to you for losing your precious and lovely Aunt to this institution, which should've celebrated love, but is unfortunately doing the exact opposite. I'm 22, & am going to take a divorce very soon. I got married in this lock down & am walking out of my 8 weeks old marriage. The society doesn't stop telling me that I should've compromised as the responsibility of protecting the institution of Marriage falls on the woman's shoulders. I said I couldn't have compromised on my dignity, my self-respect, my independence & my childhood dreams. They tell me I'm not a good wife/ not woman enough. That I should have patience and forbearance. That I should sacrifice my dreams in order to help my husband fulfill his dreams, cook for him, clean for him, bear him children, stay at home & raise them well- all by myself. I tell them that dowry was an issue too in my marriage, they say I should've silently suffered that as well, should've dealt with it on my own, shouldn't have involved my parents. I told them that I went into depression & felt suicidal, & am still battling it's after effects, they say I'm too weak & haven't been raised right by my parents, who are completely supporting me in my decision from the get-go. They tell me I shouldn't expect life to be a bed of roses. I ask them if I'm atleast allowed to expect my rights as a human first, & then a woman, to not be violated? Or is hoping to receive your rights the same as hoping for a bed of roses? Because if the equivalent of human rights or woman rights is a bed of roses, then I believe all humans, all women are worthy of, & deserve a bed of roses. My own personal plight has been solved, & I'm in a better place, mentally & physically. But I sincerely hope that this grace, mercy & kindness can be afforded by my sisters across the globe & that no more pure & innocent souls like your Aunty should be lost to this deeply embedded societal crisis. Amin.

[@niranjananair6216]

@@maryamzafar2533 i hope you are alright sis. I hope u live ur best life if/when u get the divorce...

[@maryamzafar2533]

@@niranjananair6216 thank you sister. That's really sweet and caring of you.Yes I'm coping well by the grace & mercy of the Almighty. Im definitely better off without the abuse I had to put up with:)

[@niranjananair6216]

@@maryamzafar2533 im glad u r alright sis😊. Hope u have a wonderful life ahead

[@maryamzafar2533]

@@niranjananair6216 Thank you🌹❤😊I too wish you the best of the best 👍💯

[@simplespeck]

Simple solution - Remove men from being the legal providers or make both men and women as legal providers - Eliminate Alimony and child support - Punish those who give/take dowry - Make Domestic violence act accessible to men also - Let the couple decide where to live now.

[@study7918]

Laws are biggest problem

[@4thwall880]

Laws are made only for women rights To men society doesn't give a fuck

[@arunasharma749]

Imagine thinking loving your children is unpaid work. No wonder these vile creatures hate themsleves later in life.

[@karrDopeStuff35]

When they get older and sick they'll burden their relatives with children for help, bcoz their liberal selfish cool friends will never help them

[@keithhunt5328]

@@karrDopeStuff35 she'll die with 9 cats.

[@meghanarora4136]

how are loving the children and household chores related??

[@binithasurendran8977]

Great content. Do an “ overthinking” series on mangalsutra, sindoor , dowry and “ kanyadhan “

[@jules2291]

The last one should be banned . 'Kanyadaan' translates to woman (Virgin only) donation . And you donate old or unused excess goods , it's official meaning is 'donation of a well trained virgin girl from the father / brother and the rest of the family to the husband and his family' . And even later the woman will be forced to rely on a male relative because 'what will happen to reputation if woman works' . Kind of like a parent saying , "No dear you aren't adopted but when we find a guy for you we'll unofficially disown you anf give you to a random rich family like some kind of prize horse because of a centuries old ritual no one really knows much about , and you'll spend the rest of your life shuffled between two homes , never a part of any , maybe you'll eventually become a bitter old mother in law / do the same to your daughters ."

[@shivangihere9141]

Mangal sutra and sindoor are no problem. They are kind of symbol of your consent and acceptance. Yes and dowry was actually stridhan. Though no mention in Vedas , it was tradition in which daughters who obviously had to marry would inherit some portable property like money and Jewellery whereas sons would get land and house. this was the concept of stridhan. Next the word kanyadaan also has no mention in Vedas. It's a cultural term absorbed into society. 😊

[@radbrad8150]

Ya and also do on hijab, triple talak, halala, nikah(contract of sex)

[@esor3655]

I love my parents because they never told me anything like this shit... About marriage,dowry, property,or any other stuff ....they love me and never wanna get rid of me.....they have a great faith on me .....even both of them had never showed their love to me but I know how much they care about me and they never compare me with my brother....never in our neighborhood one aunty use to teach her 10yrs old daughter to cook ,wash utensils ..and said that what..she will do after getting married so she have to learn how to wrk and do all stuffs...but I thank god that my parents are not forcing me to wrk they just teach me to cook so that i don't depend on others for this

[@ABhonestopinion12]

An advice- Make this video in Hindi to appeal the masses ! Can't share this video to people around me. Make it more comprehensive !

[@vibha5509]

UNDERRATED CHANNEL. PERIODT.

[@pranavaero]

*OVERRated

[@vibha5509]

@@pranavaero your opinion but have you watched the content this channel makes and read their articles? It talks about things nobody talks about. A channel like this is exactly what people should watch.

[@pranavaero]

I've watched. Somehow, they are naive and dogmatic without exception. People should be watching a more balanced set of opinions.

[@vibha5509]

@@pranavaero I don’t understand how they’re dogmatic. They simply put forward facts and talk about social problems. They’re using their voice to express what they think is right. You cant call them overrated just because you want people to watch a varied set of views. If you’ve watched their videos and dislike it, go ahead and stop watching it. Clearly, you keep coming back to the video to spread hate. Watch something you think fits your belief system. They’re only trying to spread awareness about socially affecting things.

[@pranavaero]

@@vibha5509 I think holding a belief-system or a hardwired predisposition when it comes to imp social issues is the problem. And therefore they should present a more balanced viewpoint that also seeks to converge with the grey truth rather than peddle a hardlined view which sees the world in white/black. Im only proponing that viewers use discretion in such issues. Since I don't spread hate and instead substantiate my opposition with rationale, please see my other coment which expresses my objections to such a male-female dividing worldview. I'll paste here for your easy reference.

[@Hss922]

Whenever i have problems with my in laws all women tell me that every girl has gone through the same why am i making such a fuss? How do i respond to that

[@mirroruniverse9331]

I'm a human and deserve same as my husband does!

[@mysticsoul8809]

Tell those women to shut up and just have a talk with your hubby

[@ananyarao5449]

Actually ,that is true,a lot of women have gone through that,but ig,u should speak up and not suffer like other ppl have

[@thejoker1425]

Speak up..dony be like other women. If you don't tale care of yourself who will?

[@hrishikeshnag673]

@@mirroruniverse9331 that might be true in parallel world. Not where humans live.

[@kaurdiamond8594]

I m 30 nd single nd m pretty satisfied with mah life... I don't want any men in my life to enslave me or make me follow so called traditional beliefs like a woman should be the one to shoulder all the house duties whereas the man doing job if eight hours considers himself a soldier a warrior who does the most dangerous task nd need rest lollllzzzzzz 😜😜😜

[@study7918]

No at least do love marriage, you will regret your single life in old age , i am telling you

[@mishrashambhavi4255]

Questions always comes in my mind . I think I got my ans . And I know it was all abt property . And why we don't get equal rights bcz we don't ask for the property from our parent Stop forcing arrange marriage on us - dear parents we don't wanna hurt u . And I never understand what's the role of the society why it always comes in between parent and child conversation .

[@tooserious1058]

@@DramaTV2613 same

[@scientificatheist9381]

Because most whamen are like Amber heard

[@anoopdsouza6349]

99.9% somebody thinks their life is gonna be over if you dont marry.... May be 50 or 40.... not 99.9 😂 My sisters are doing their phd.... their parents are not grilling them at all.... Yet another feminist just over exaggerating a problem to be bigger than it is

[@patrickd3992]

Exactly bro

[@sureshbagul6007]

my parents talk abt getting me education just so that they can get me married to some rich person by money not heart

[@sumalathabalamurugan8068]

The fact that young women want stay out of marriage is bcoz of the structure of our marriage. Girls expected to adjust for her husband, her in-laws, her in-laws's in-laws, and the list goes on. And in most of the family girls pov's are not even heard. When an Indian household stoos hunting for a permanent maid and a machine to give child to carry their family name no women will feel the security they need be felt in marriage.

[@study7918]

True

[@adhyanmami5222]

i just hope that all the women who use youtube should subcribe this channel cuz they always rocks

[@adhyanmami5222]

atleast

[@shibaalibaksh266]

I liked the part of bringing feminism in a marriage and sharing responsibilities equally. Well said 👏👏👏👏👏

[@shubhangijasaiwal4858]

I came accross this Channel a Week ago! And I couldn't be more grateful. It's amazing! Thank you so much!

[@bipashakarmakar5557]

This is the best channel on feminism I have discovered so far!

[@pragyasharma5085]

Dear Team, This was insightful. Keep it up :) One suggestion - of possible, please execute a material on the ancient Hindu concept of "marriage". According to the vedas and the un-modified versions of Shastras, marriage has been always considered as a "pious concept" where initially spouses were considered equals. Sadly, these have been manipulatively implemented and have led to a toxic patriarchal society. But a well-researched videos can help in spreading awareness about the actual concept of marriage.

[@bhavyjyotisharma3642]

Awsm vdo I always try to point out and try to get the answer of why a women leaves her house and has to travel to another house in the marriage like u wong heard that a boy left his parents and starting living with his wife's parents and if u will u will criticize the couple saying that the groom's parents are unlucky to get such a son and the wife is a wamp whereas when the wife leaves her parents for a man society don't feel that man as a wamp and don't criticize the wife for leaving her parents. This is how patriarchy has brain washed us. We all have been brain washed for years and now finally we are leaning towards a path full of equality and freedom 💯

[@bhavyjyotisharma3642]

@@aryanair1461 learning to mind their own business is a thing that is far away from their reach but why should this thing come to their mind I just don't understand this. I understand that it's because women were seen as a property and object so I got the answer but now it's not that way na and even a woman is also a human so why do they see woman as a property of her parents delivered to her husband?🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[@chitrikart2328]

Very good. Hope you're able to stand clear in the coming future as well

[@bhavyjyotisharma3642]

@@chitrikart2328yess I will.😊

[@karthik4680]

@@bhavyjyotisharma3642 I suppose that people should come up solution that both groom and bride shouldn't leave their respective parents. Apart from being unmarried tho, I wouldn't leave my parents because my Dad and mom are old with diabetes, hypertension and potential risk to heart attack. But I definitely don't expect that a girl should leave her parents. After all parents are parents. Both families living with each other is not possible either. The only thought in my mind is staying away from marriage...do you have any idea for this?

[@ravigurjar3107]

Ye kaisi freedom hai 😂 😂

[@anayashetty9700]

Shall we all take a moment to appreciate the host!!👏👏 Good work swaddle! keep going!👍 This society needs a lot of change and u guys r working really hard!

[@seemaswain680]

Not in my case. My parents used to ask me once in a year and my No is everything for them. they never forced or give importance to marriage. I just married this year obviously Its a love marriage.❤️ I am thankfull to my parents for everything 🥰

[@leenakadam864]

But the sad reality they love to being objectified, I saw my female friends who have one primary goal in life like in Ekta Kapoor's serial that is to get married and for doing those house chores and child rearing duties their argue will be it's their duty after all. I'm 30 and it's mostly women around me who constantly try to brainwash me to get married not men. Editing this for the way liberate people like @Deepika Bayala I'm not against getting married or having children I'm against the norms of society which make women believe that it is their only duty and key to happiness, second thing is I'm against the girls continuously get brainwashed that getting married is their ultimate dream like there is nothing else in their life!

[@shivanimanoj1290]

Its not happening deliberately, the society cultured them to think that way. Years would take for them to change their mindset but it is definitely possible!

[@manyatiwari1148]

they themselves have been brainwashed

[@scientificatheist9381]

Because most women are like Amber heard

[@girlie000]

how is someone wanting to get married and do household chores in any way wanting to get objectified though? you have the freedom of choice whether you want to marry or not, and it’s their freedom of choice to want to do the former. i’m a huge feminist myself and completely against patriarchy, and i believe that as long as it isn’t a compulsion forced upon them by the society, we need to respect other people’s choices.

[@leenakadam864]

@@girlie000 There is nothing wrong with getting married but their imagination of submissive role is problem, I mean by Ekta Kapoor's serial here is 'adarsh bahu' who tolerates all kind of mentality.

[@RISHI-bk3rk]

A friend recommended this channel.. and I'm grateful to her because I like hearing to direct negotiations and this channel is just lit for my liking.

[@TwinkleThareja]

It came up as a youtube add, and I couldn't be more greatful to have found this channel!

[@rachitanayak_]

and that is why I'll never marry 😌

[@anantguru8244]

Marry a guy whom you like & love. Don't marry a guy just because of your parents choice.

[@nishobit.1293]

Get married to your own terms. Don't underestimate your negotiating power. Good luck 😉

[@andwemet_1]

you have the right not to..and you should not if not ready for it...you can be in a live-in or have a companion if you seek a meaningful relationship

[@tanvinair2918]

I am so glad I found you guys! I always felt these things. But I wasn't very educated abt it's past till now. Love you guys!

[@shalusp456]

This is an ideal situation where the ad is essentially the content itself they are giving out. Kudos. Worthy to be shared channel!!!

[@aMika1208]

Preach sis!!! 👏🏼 Great content!! This is called serendipity. I stumbled upon this video when looking for books and talks about how to be more progressive as a brown parent especially about topics like marriage. 🧡 We truly need more content like this especially in mainstream tv! So glad to find more relatable content 😄 More power to you sis!!! 🙌🏼 🥂

[@kshamangiraut]

I am 30 and unmarried. I am glad my parents never really pressured me to get married at the early age. My to be husband is all good about me not changing my last name. However your migration point striked me as I am going to transition.

[@buttercupbaby8298]

I don't usually click on ads but honey,you good! Keep doing them good works fam! Its refreshing to see that people are still going strong against all the messed up 'rules' and stereotypes. And this is totally besides the point but you look cute with your short hair btw (I sound weird lol)

[@PJ-zg8vg]

Single men are crying in the comment section.... 😂😂 Already there is very few girls in india .... And those few too don't want to ger married.... Poor men 😂🤣🤣

[@gohan12991]

Lol, in your dreams. These videos are usually watched by miniscule population and even then practiced by even lower set of women. Going against parents is a big deal and believe me, most women do want to get married

[@alant4170]

True🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@gohan12991]

@Purnima Ramakrishnan Lol as if women are choosing not to get married. Just go on a matrimony sites and see for yourself.

[@cyberpunk7997]

😏only in yt comments these things happen, in reality 😆 🤣 shaadi and back to square one 😎

[@blackwolf5771]

If men have money, they can marry beautiful young chicks (20-25), only the poor guys struggles

[@akshitagoyal8756]

I haven't ever said this. But i am sooo happy for the work you are doing. Please keep being so informative . ❤️

[@studyandcoffee2211]

Honestly proud of being a malayali. No one has pestered me about marriage and everyone suggests finishing studies and being independent. A joke about marriage is also shooed away 😂.

[@akhilgeorge444]

Wow... Tx for that advertisemnt that lead me here 😍... Never want to miss such good contents in KZbin where majority are toxic contents...

[@hiworld2627]

First time ever I'm grateful about an ad. Thank you.

[@ShrutikaNikhar]

Omg you're so adorable! I saw this video in an ad and I subscribed. The video and information is great. I like the way it was very positively spoken.

[@shrishtimalhotra2406]

We need to understand and engage with the inherent problems with the institution, because it is unfortunately an intrinsic part of how society functions.

[@aarohik3894]

I am so grateful that my parents never stereotyped gender roles. My mom and dad both cook and do household chores. Everyone's opinion is respected at our home. I am 18 and my parents have always supported me to pursue whatever I want to.

[@danishkhan2965]

Sometimes I regret to know too late about these underrated channels. Great work keep it up.

[@shuchitasingh4592]

I found ur channel today and couldn't be more grateful. One video and i loved how you are bold woman who is confident of herself.❤️❤️❤️

[@annieraghav3506]

Marriage is an institution indeed.... Have been suffering the humiliation since I turned 18 .. though I am only 23 now....

[@amitrana9090]

The best thing about this video was how calmly this subject has been addressed 😌

[@himanshuverma8624]

A youtube ad led me here and I cannot be more grateful. What a great channel. copied but same emotions.. keep doing he great work.. more power to you..

[@arpitatomarpolsch490]

The most most underrated channel. Love this channel and the girl in it❤. It feels my heart is speaking. Love uhh loads. I m gonna share it.

[@shadabalam8155]

Good to see some sensible content on this topic. I'm really having bad feelings about the concept of marriage, itself. Can't find any suitable and sustainable alternative of it.

[@priyankapanda4076]

The way this person speaks is so intriguing!♥️

[@ayshasharma176]

Love your work. You guys will represent India in front of whole world and I am thankful to that! Everyone needs to see we are growing and we again need to grow more and more! Thank you so much, team!

[@laabonimukerjee1724]

this is the first video that I've ever watched from your channel and girl i love what you're doing!!!!!

[@shubhibatra9580]

This is such a great video..I landed here through an advertisement that I am glad I dint skip 😊 More power to you girl..great content. Every bit of it is true...mine was an intercast marriage out of my choice and it was not easy for my husband's parents to accept me..I am glad my parents always stood by my decision and so did ny husband.. I and my husband share all the household chores together as we both are working and. My in laws are not happy seeing their son doing household chores ( because now he his married and the wife is supposed to do the chores). I am so happy that he treats me like his wife and not a servant. But honestly speaking I don't see husbands around me like him..it's always the way you depicted in your video.. I hope this society evolves from the idea of "ghar ka kaam to ladki ki zimmedari hoti hai... Job karni hai to karo lekin ghar pehle dekho. Ye sab kaam beta thodi na karega "

[@deepakmahadik6190]

पुरी किताब लिख डाली आपने

[@loneranger5061]

Glad u found a Simp

[@samuraijosh1595]

Two working partner marriages will invariably fail. One has to work and the other takes care of the kid. A marriage needs at least one housewife or househusband.

[@itsmevruu]

hey i loved it ❤😊 also ur way of conveying was so good. hearing uh felt like venting😊 for d 1st time i loved a youtube advertisement😊

[@richi6550]

I'm 25 going 26 just love how my life is everyone's business

[@suvechchha1635]

Such a great informative channel it answered the queries I was searching for so long

[@shifa444]

just found this channel and im so happy

[@LeoAugustBorn]

I am a boy and in love with this channel♥️

[@loneranger5061]

No, ur a Simp, an agreeable simp🤣

[@architectonic99]

Please do a part 2, it’s the tip of the iceberg and needs further insight to dismantle, discuss, progress to truly equal relationships

[@Decker97]

What a wonderful concept.. I just reached this channel through ad

[@YogeshKumar-kf3yl]

Whenever my father comes home after his deployment usually after 4-5 months the kitchen is completely off limits for my mother... . . . . . And I just watch the societal norms breaking when my father brings the tea for guests lol and this rarely happens in anyone else's household other aunties get damn jealous🤣🤣🤣

[@aditiarya4441]

It's such a good thing that we realised young how toxic our own home environments have been to us, and that it is on us to be responsible humans and bring on change!

[@rajimythili6563]

Probably the first time I watched a youtube ad in full by choice!!!

[@bayanaramya4242]

The topics chosen are pretty unconventional and thought provoking. I'm going to binge watch the videos of this channel now. :D