A Graceful Dying, a journey at the end of life

There is a beautiful book to go with this tribute to my mother's dying. Called "As Mother Lay Dying", a tapestry woven of memories and insights from the bedside, it is powerful, loving and deeply moving. Available here - www.amazon.co.uk/As-Mother-La...
As a soul midwife, I see death often. I go in and see people and families who are dealing with end of life, and I go. But when my mother was given a few weeks to live, I moved in with her and became a part of the process of her dying in a way that I cannot have done without the help and wisdom of all those who have taught me and those caring for them, about death. It is entirely different to be on this side of the dying process, and not someone who can come in, do their stuff, and leave. This time I needed to ask for help, and to accept advice, care and help to help me do this thing with Mum.

[@JaberYesu]

I was studying then proceeded to watch cat videos and now, here I am.... 😢 😢 😫😫😫😫😫😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 now let me call my mommy and tell her I love her. To all of you out here who have either lost a parent/s or those who represent a parent figure in your life, my condolences to you all. I love you all and take heart. Lots of hugs and love from a stranger miles away... Nairobi, Kenya 🇰🇪

[@antoniarolls]

Bless you, thank you

[@michellestartley1899]

Right. I was watching something about prisons. Then i got here and now have the honor of going through a persons last moments

[@lynnclark4208]

Thank you sweetheart!

[@nathanp8152]

@@antoniarolls Hi, first I want to say this is so beautiful and sweet and brings tears to my eyes because of how amazing you are. R.i.p. to your mother and may God bless you all . I had one question and please please do not take this wrong or like I am being rude, I truly mean this, at 1:17 the caption reads " Lexi and I stay with her all the time now, and she has no part in our world anymore". Can I ask what you meant by that? And again it's a real question and I appreciate the video and the way you walked side by side with your mother till the end. I just don't understand what you meant by " she has no part in our world anymore". God bless you and your family. **** The pic with your dad at the bedside was so heartwarming and special in my opinion. I believe you wrote that he was estranged, and had dementia but the fact that he was there is amazing and shows the love we can have for someone no matter what.

[@antoniarolls]

@@nathanp8152 hello thank you for your response and you aska good question. What I mean by mum not being in our world any more is when someone is dying there comes a point when things are shutting down, their breath g changes and they become as if in a coma. I feel this is when they have one foot in the next world, and this world no longer holds them. They are on their way and have reached a point of no return. I hope this answers your question. With thanks Antonia

[@1951kvk]

I also cared for my mom at home until she died. She asked me to and it was a privilege to do this for her.

[@MicheleMJJ]

What an amazing and lovely lady. I am so glad she got to go home and pass with dignity. What a wonderful family she had, making sure she passed gracefully. My Mom passed away quietly on 12/11/2007. She was 93. I still miss her terribly, but I have wonderful memories of her.

[@liljav1]

The best memorial ever posted. Tasteful, mystical. Beyond this world.

[@tatiekbokings7930]

🤩🙏

[@tatiekbokings7930]

Time runs out so quickly

[@vikkibyington3066]

This was beautiful. I said good-bye to my precious Mama June 3, 2015. Nothing had ever hurt so much, nor has since. Every Mother should be loved, honored and cared for like we did ours. ❤️

[@tennesseesdaughter7427]

Reminds me so much of my moms recent passing December 16th 2019.... she came home with me to pass. It was tough.. but it was also such an honor!! For she gave me my 1st *BREATH* .. and I was present for her *LAST* !! She didn’t have to bury any of her 4children before her life on earth ended, and she was showered with love consistently for the 10days that she was home ❣️❣️❣️ I miss her terribly 💔😢 Please love on the people you love!! What no one tells you is that grief is a tunnel of its on, and you must travel through it to get past the sadness 😔 #imintherapy

[@anthonyferry5414]

So sorry for your lost

[@tennesseesdaughter7427]

anthony ferry thank you kindly!! I gained her *HIGHEST* self with her transition 🙌🏽💕

[@mea1831]

Tennessee’s Daughter those are such beautiful words, thank you for sharing your story. My mom passed on April 17th from COVID and today I mourn her just as much. Sadly, she couldn’t come home but I couldn’t have asked for a more beautiful death during this pandemic as my sister was allowed in the room and I was able to FaceTime with her during her last hour and we got to tell each other what was on our hearts and she didn’t pass alone. I know without a shadow of a doubt where she is and the company that surrounds her for eternity. May today be filled with the wonderful memories of your mom.

[@WolfieRiddle93]

I’m so sorry for your loss 😢 I always cry when ever I think about the time when my mom and dad will one day not be on earth but it’s something I can’t control and it makes me depressed

[@whatashame4561]

It’s been three months since I lost my mom… ( September 16, 2022) and I still have those stages of grief… I still haven’t accepted it though

[@robinbird6279]

This has moved me to tears, as I lost my mother to cancer a little over a year ago. She fought a hard battle, but she finally succumbed to this hideous disease. I stayed with her for 6 months after she came home from the hospital. We knew as a family there was no hope for remission, but to just keep her comfortable. I bathed her, fed her, moved her when she hurt being on one side for too long. Some days she laid in agony, she didn't want pain meds because she knew that it would help the dying process. Yes, there were days and nights that I was exhausted, but I would not have given those days up for anything. I held her hand and spoke to her and told her that I loved her as much as I could. My only comfort is that she has no more pain, my sadness is that I lost my best friend. 😪 Keep those you love close and never take the time with them for granted. God Bless you ladies for taking good care of your mother, I am sure she knew she was loved. It was a very loving tribute. Rest in Peace dear Mom. 🌹💖🙏

[@Tracy_Burns]

You are amazing!! 🕊️💜🕊️

[@ericfitzgerald866]

I am a young man, having gone through the exact same experience, it would be a great comfort for our loved ones to know that we did everything we could for them, and would do more if they were still here. I remember bathing her, dressing her, and adjusting her hands, and hair. It brought peace in a whirlwind time.

[@caroltaylor3931]

You are your mothers son. A caring thoughtful man. She knew ❤️

[@lorij6796]

Eric Fitzgerald You are a wonderful son. I know that you did everything possible to provide love and comfort ❤. I have been through it twice. First my husband and years later my dad. I still question if I could have done more. Please know that just being there providing your love and care was so special. May God bless and comfort you during these hard times 💞💥💫🙏

[@annapodolska75]

I watched this video three times because every time my eyes were filling up with tears and I could not see. Your mum has spent her last weeks at home, surrounded by loving and caring family. I loved the way you cared for her, the little things: the fresh flowers, a candle... She died peacefully and with dignity. I am a nurse, not working anymore in my profession, but I hope that one day, someone will look after me just like that. xx

[@Suger2024]

This end of life journey is such a peaceful one for those who are ready to accept it. But once we start to realize theyre gone. Things just start to feel so real and numb for us who are left behind.its a starting phase for the depression and the grieving we all go through.

[@bb3ca201]

Man, I'm a full-grown 40-year-old man sitting in a mall, crying like a baby as I watch this and think of my own mother who died a little over 20 years ago. God bless you for your spirit and the care and love that you showed your beautiful mom

[@bamafan62]

me too brother....God Bless

[@tonyrebel63]

No need to worry, its a natural reaction. When you love your parents you feel the sadness that comes with having to say good bye. I lost my father 11 years ago and now my father in law last week. I have to be strong for my wife and family. This is one fraternity we have to join on our own. Nor can we avoid it. Be well my friend.

[@jennyperrio4887]

@@tonyrebel63 What a lovely comment I could have done with you when my Dad died Now im looking after my mum She is losing her memory from 40 yrs alcohol abuse Its called Korsokoffs syndrome Im doing it alone she wont let help in Its so hard she wishes me dead I want to run and never come back Im not a good daughter an awful life we had It was easier holding my Dad as he died Jenny 💕😘

[@tomgei]

Same here bro’. Sitting at home on the loo with my tears. I’m 40 now and lost my mum short time after getting my first child. Now I have a teenager, but I still miss mommy...

[@lilianjones2315]

R w exept I'm a woman totally agree with what you said.thankyou.

[@BrowneyedDiva]

I feel weird clicking the “like” button, but this was so tastefully done. So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband to a stroke. He was on total life support until his friends and family could say goodbye. Then I signed the consent to have him removed from life support. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I always remember the good times and how he made me smile.

[@jimryan5280]

I just watched your video and still have tears in my eyes. What a touching tribute to your mom. My dad passed away last night and his wish was to die at home with his family. We got my dad home in time for Thanksgiving, and for that I am most thankful. My dad was surrounded by his family with my mom holding his hand until the end. We were able to comfort and console him. Death teaches us about life, to cherish every moment and to remember that each day really is a gift. Thank you for sharing your beautiful video with the KZbin audience, God Bless.

[@guardiansanimalrescuestate7289]

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m here if u need a friend. Many don’t understand the ache that comes to those of us who don’t have family, your dad was so blessed to have u all help him pass on.

[@bb3ca201]

My condolences on your loss, sir. God bless you in this difficult time

[@guardiansanimalrescuestate7289]

Jim Ryan Are u doing okay?? I was thinking about u.

[@patriciabilinkas3911]

Jim Ryan I just lost my dad, too, so I can sympathize with you. I slipped a penny in my dad’s coffin and asked him to come visit me. I’ve been finding coins and seeing red cardinals a lot. They say those are signs our deceased loved ones leave for us for comfort in our grief. I’d like to believe that’s true.

[@lorij6796]

Jim Ryan My sincere sympathy for the loss of your father. I lost my dad 2 year's ago. Not a day goes by when I don't think of him. May God bless you 🙏❤ with the strength to get through this sad time. Your father is still with you in your heart and soul ♥.

[@lymarie1974]

I miss my mommy and blessed I had her. Yes I’m 45 and still and will always say mommy. I’m so glad you were able to Take care of her.

[@gailrubin9029]

I lost my 13 year old son. I dedicated this You Tube channel to him kzbin.info/www/bejne/iYK1q3yBZdRghKM

[@joeblow9912]

lymarie1974 I’m 71, after 51 years, I still miss her touch and love. Time has helped my heart heal, but the scar still remains!❣️

[@mea1831]

Ly&Leo Deleon I’m 51 and I too say “my mommy.” She passed 3 weeks ago from COVID and today is very hard as I imagine it is for you as well. May our mommy’s feel our love from the other side, today and always until we meet again.

[@lymarie1974]

@@mea1831 I'm with you friend. the sadness and loss is real. but I think of the happiness when we get them back in our arms and I promise i'm never letting go.

[@mea1831]

Ly&Leo Deleon oh absolutely! 3 weeks I asked her to wait in the other side for me and she said she would. I can’t even fathom how happy she is being reunited with HER momma and Daddy and brother. It’s there time with her now.

[@valeriegorham4396]

I happened to stumble on your loving, sweet and sad video… It touched my heart so deeply as I am taking care of my soon to be 84 year old Dad who has come to live with us. I promised him I would be there holding his hand when he will leave this Earth… I do not know how long we have, but I want him to feel loved all the way to the end.🙏🏻

[@antoniarolls]

Sending best good wishes for you and your dad on this powerful journey

[@kathydbrumfieldb8753]

I took care of my dear sweet Mother until the very end and wouldn't have missed a single second of it. This by far is the hardest thing you'll ever do in your life, but the best thing you'll ever experience. Your Mother brought you in this world and she loved you like no one else ever will so no matter what's going on in your life when it's her time don't miss this for anything or anyone else. Your dear sweet Mother only wants you too see her home!!!!! 😭🙏❤

[@DISCODAN1]

Beautiful! I grieve along side you as my stepmom died of pancreatic cancer just a few months before your mom passed I still miss her so much! She was a beautiful older woman, just like your mom was!

[@joeblow9912]

God bless her and all the mothers, they never truly leave us, but live in our heart’s forever 💘

[@1chish]

4 years last December 27th I went to see my Mum at the care home as usual. She barely knew me and after a while I went home and the staff said see you tomorrow and gave me a hug as they always did. I got a call at 06.00 on the 28th to say she had died. I had promised her she would not die alone and although I wasn't there, to my shame, I know the staff were with her and that they had read the 23rd Psalm as I had asked. "As I walk through the valley of death I shall fear no evil" I hope Mum was not afraid and her God took her in love and peace. She was and still is dearly loved and so missed. Bless her.

[@miggrodriguez9996]

What a beautiful and touching tribute. At 02:56 "The undertakers come. They do not use blue gloves, they hold her with their hands and I love them." is special to me, because it reminds me of when my Dad was in his final stages of Multiple Myeloma and a very nice nurse lady who was assigned to take care of him for palliative care at home would touch and caressed Dad with her bare hands, that meant a lot to me, especially when I would notice other nurses and/or assistant nurses putting on gloves before touching Dad as if he had a contagious disease. Touching a patient with bare hands conveys a gesture of care, just like if the nurse was a family member. I loved that!

[@beverleyrichardson1342]

How beautiful your mother would feel so loved and comforted well done ladies it’s the little things that we do the flowers ( nurses training ) that make it so special I hope I can pass with such warmth and love around me, bless you

[@kernow9324]

If there is such a thing as a good death, then it looks like your dear mother had just that. Bless you and anyone else mourning a loved one.

[@thelegend7388]

Im so sorry for your loss..been threw this with my mother. I never knew pain like this before. Beautiful video😢

[@christinagreaves7932]

I saw my mum like this 10 years ago , she was 67 , cancer , my life has never been the same since , she was my best freind , she had 7 weeks with me in my home , just slipped away , how my heart aches still .

[@wendybodino9400]

Oh how peaceful and calming that was. You have a loving beautiful family, you mum will be missed. You gave her a beautiful end of life.

[@lindauribe6872]

I took care of my Dad the last 8 months and so hard.I took care of my husband the last 3 years with our son helping this last year..This time so much harder losing my husband of 38 years December First 2018.

[@blackangel6003]

Linda Uribe sorry for the loss of your father and more recently your husband. I am sure they felt blessed for having a wonder daughter and wife. You are an amazing person. May the happy memories you shared together bring a smile to your face. May God bless and comfort your family. Tonyevans.org helped me a lot during rough times.

[@guardiansanimalrescuestate7289]

Linda Uribe thinking of u on the anniversary of his death.

[@gailrubin9029]

I lost my 13 year old son. I dedicated this You Tube channel to him kzbin.info/www/bejne/iYK1q3yBZdRghKM

[@davidvalerio2388]

I'm so sorry linda uribe...

[@kittylarue8120]

Very beautiful ..... isn't that the way we all hope to leave this world?? ... at peace and feeling loved ......

[@okaminess]

I just watched my grandma pass. My dad connected me over cellphones so I could say my peace. It was beautiful. No other way. My sister was murdered and that experience was far far different. Very negative. For my grandma, I felt nothing but joy to be her granddaughter.

[@eugeniasyro7315]

I took care of Papa at home for 3 years until his death. I prepared his body, with the Hospice Nurse, for the Undertakers. Now, Mom has terminal Cancer and is in Hospice, again, with me to care for her. Soon I will be an Orphan. It is an honor to care for one's parents. This was like watching Hospice through my eyes.

[@patriciabilinkas3911]

I just lived this with my dad. They are not really with us near the end. A week before he died, though, he saw his mother and father. I’d like to think they came for him when he passed.

[@katemarshall3987]

They came for him ... thats for sure. 💝 If you want to learn more about this very important things here a few suggestions You can read books about NDE ( near death experience ) in particular Pim van Lommel , there are a lot of videos on youtube about NDE and you can look up John Edward, a american Medium, and Gordon Smith , an english Medium ,on youtube or books as well. 🙏💕

[@trayzee67]

My Father passed on over 11years ago and a few years before he died he had a dream that was so real, he was in heaven and every person he has know was waiting for him , even the pets he had in his life were there and some young children, he didnt know who the children were but a year later my sister fell pregnant and had a little girl and 3 years later same happened to my sister in law. People tut tutted all this, but i am a beliver. and Dad went into a coma , i never left his side and i believe he knows that i was there, but still saying goodbye is so hard to do. Patrica thank you for sharing this Personal moment with me.GOD BLESS YOU.

[@patriciabilinkas3911]

tracy Byers You are welcome, and I believe that your dad did not pass alone, as well. Most of my family members have had the same experience as they were dying. I’m so sorry for your loss, but let this give you some comfort. God bless you, too.

[@allisongarrett4824]

Same thing with my grandma. She had stopped eating and drinking and even talking but the last words was she saw my grandpa (her husband) and i immediately knew he came to guide her back up to heaven with him. Although a bit of my heart will always be missing, it was beautiful.

[@shanicans1]

Patricia Bilinkas They did come for your dad❤️

[@larriannasimmons4616]

I was watching the video crying like she was my mother, it was a peaceful yet sad at the same time. I appreciate the family sharing there mourning moment with the world. May GOD bless you.

[@bgmaple47232]

My father died at home in 2017. We were with him as he breathed his last and slipped into the arms of Jesus. The men from the funeral home were wonderful. I didn't want to let go of my father's body. They were very understanding. They covered my father's body with a beautiful quilt instead of the black covering. I shall always remember that quilt. I miss my father very much.

[@jaydavies-burrell5952]

The work that you do is amazing. I am currently studying to be an End of Life Therapist and I am now going to take my training to be a Soul Midwife. This is a vocation that not many individuals could do but I honestly feel that it is my calling. May your mother rest in peace and may she rest in the arms of the Angels

[@kathylebro1359]

Bless you for loving your Mom and seeing her through the end of her journey here on earth. I cared for mine as well and smoothed her hair as she drew her last breath. Bless you.

[@kathylebro1359]

@Waheedullah wafa why did you say that????

[@kathylebro1359]

@Waheedullah wafa I agree, but you don't feel this lady did?

[@kathylebro1359]

@Waheedullah wafa thank you for your insight. Peace be with you.

[@amberhall1288]

Thank you for sharing this with us. I was in a similar situation with my dad who passed at the age of 59 in 2014. He lived with copd and made the choice to be home, with his family. I sat with him at his bedside listening to the Braves baseball game which he always loved watching, talking to him about our lives, and hoping he could hear him. My heart tells me that he could. I told him it was ok to let go. I would make sure everyone was ok just as he always did. He waited until midnight, when he heard all our voices in the room. We all had the opportunity to be at his bedside, to say our final goodbyes for now... and my siblings and I to thank him for our lives. We sat with him for an hour or so holding his hands, looking at his marks and scars and trying to burn those images into our brains with a fear of forgetting. Feeling his hands for the last time before they became cold... before he would never feel the same...all Of these things some people may see as weird, I however, see them as the biggest blessing of my life thus far. Thank you again for sharing this story. I hope God blesses you over and Over again.

[@violetmartha916]

Your story resonates so much with me. I too sat with my lovely dad as he drew his last breath. He had been clinging to life for days...not conscious for 5 days... just accepting his lips being moistened. I couldn't bare to see cancer turning him to a skeleton and I kept thinking why doesn't he let go?...and then it hit me. I was a single mum to a young son and my dad was always so protective. I told him that I had his strength and that we would be ok. I told him how much we loved him, that we would never forget him and it was time to be with his parents and brother. I couldn't believe what happened then...... He opened his eyes....WIDE.... I foolishly thought he was "back with us".... I called the rest of my family into the room and my dad began pointing to a corner of the room with a look of wonder on his face....it was amazing and then he passed. So I know that your darling dad heard you. May he rest in peace. 💜🙏🙏🙏💜

[@lorij6796]

Amber Hall I can appreciate your loving care for your father at his time. I did the same with my father. I said the same things. Held his hand till the end. My my parents house is so empty without him. I miss hearing his stories eventhough I heard them before. Even as I write this tears are flowing. My life is very empty without my father. I hope that it's true that will all be reunited in God's kingdom. I hope that you are doing well 💗 I know it's hard.

[@lynnwalker9935]

This chapter of life is over and now another begins , now watching her family and guiding them with angel wings ❤ When we die we are not gone , eternal thread still carry on entwined to loved ones we cannot see But feel in heart that beats in we ❤❤

[@kjcrays63]

Again I watch this video . The peace that surrounds it draws me to watching again and again. So very sorry for your loss. It’s sad and beautiful at the same time full of love. Such peace and love you gave to your mother in her last days and hours.

[@lee-annelandownunder4731]

Bless you and your family for the grace and dignity- some people are so afraid and it was beautiful and peaceful xxx

[@74Spirit1]

Thank you for the window into a place where people dare not go.

[@joannepittman4411]

I write this with tears running down my cheeks. Such a beautiful, heartfelt video. I particularly liked the part where your sweet Mum is resting in her bed with the sunlight streaming in on her. A very real sense of peace and tranquility washed over me as I drew in the beauty of that scene. And although I'm not a religious person, I am fond of the comment a person posted about being gift wrapped as a gift to God. It's clear your Mum was a very special lady and I send my sincere condolences to you and your loving family. 💝

[@megangras8284]

God bless. My dad cared for my mother 24/7. My brothers and I were there every step of the way as much as we could. Her sisters made several trips from. Tenn to NJ. Her oldest sis stayed for 4 weeks I think to help hospice and my dad. I remember the days leading up to her rebirth in heaven. I was with her, I sang to her, I told her I loved her and proud. I nestled up to her and closed my eyes. I felt and sensed a presence. I felt a surge of energy and seen a golden hugh of light flow through me. I instantly awoke only hearing the o2 concentrator. She had passed. It was overwhelming the moments after....it's been a year and I still struggle....with her dying....amen

[@Tracy_Burns]

In a few short days it will be 1 yr since my mother passed. I cannot express in words how your video has brought me comfort. I was by my Moms side, holding her hand, stroking her face, when I finally told her it was ok, go home, your work here is done. She opened her eyes looked up, took her last breath and was gone from our world. It was the hardest but most loving thing I've ever done in my life. Thank you for sharing your experience with all of us who know the pain of losing our Moms. Many blessings and peace to you and your family.

[@patriciabilinkas3911]

Tracy Burns I did the same with my dad. He kept saying, in his lucid moments, that he wanted to go home. As he was already at home, I told him he could leave anytime he wanted, and we would be fine. Within days, he was gone.

[@Tracy_Burns]

@@patriciabilinkas3911 I'm so sorry for your loss. There are no words. My comfort comes in knowing our loved ones are home, and they're free from the limitations they had in our world. And, *wink*, we have the best Guardian angels, I can think of. Peace and blessings to you and your family. 👼🕊️🙏💙👼

[@itzzcozzy5737]

Its been 9 years since my mom passed im 14

[@Tracy_Burns]

@@itzzcozzy5737 So sorry for your loss Corey, there are no words, just know she's with you, has her wings wrapped around you. A mother's love never leaves, it just grows with you. Peace to you Corey.

[@itzzcozzy5737]

@@Tracy_Burns Thank you so much im sorry for yor loss to i realy hope your doing ok and keep safe and may god bless you cause you are a good person 😇😇

[@nancymiller3448]

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing such a personal and intimate experience.

[@angelwingzzz777]

Well no stopping these tears now...This is beautiful. Thank u for sharing & i pray you see her again! 🕯🙏🏼♥

[@antoniarolls]

Thank you Angel Wings, bless you and thank you

[@soulovingspiritualconnecti9924]

Thank you for sharing what many of us know as one of the most difficult experiences one can have. We lost Mom in March 2020 to Glioblastoma a form of brain cancer. As a nurse for 40 years, she understood her terminal diagnosis and knew there was no cure. Radiation and chemotherapy were the only options to extend her life by a few weeks but at the cost of her quality of life which would decline dramatically. She knew that she had the support of her whole family no matter which way she decided to approach her diagnosis. She gracefully chose a beautiful death. One that she encouraged us, her family to embrace. What resistance she had through the process, like your mother, was short-lived and then suddenly acceptance. She drifted off into a beautiful death, as I lay on her chest to hear that final heartbeat and breath. Once I realized she had gone, my words to her were similar to yours. " You did good, thank you for making it ok to let you go!" I will carry this with me forever, and I pray that when my day comes, I too will have the strength and grace to go softly.

[@theresahowell9044]

I also helped take care of my mom in her own home...I always cherish and love those last two weeks with her..it was an honor to help my wonderful mother go home..heaven..💕💓💕

[@moosehead1183]

I can't stop crying... I'm so glad you were there for her

[@rockydennis4497]

I watched my wife's father pass.It was beautiful.I can see how others couldn't comprehend that statement but there was warmth,peace and a painless drifting off to heaven that occurred.He was surrounded by the ones he loved..His daughter,his closest friends,his 4 grandchildren.

[@helencheadle5285]

How very lucky your dear mum was to have such a loving and devoted family...even her estranged husband came to be with her...you all poured out your love for her ,which filled the rooms, and in turn filled her, and drove away the fear ...Thankyou for sharing this with us, it was a beautiful ending of a chapter in her life, as she stepped over the page into a new one, and you all helped and did her proud. Beautiful fresh flowers and very understanding funeral directors. I. Think we all wish we could eventually end our lives in similar ways, so you have shown our families not to be scared of death, and just to feel that awesome power of love.that sweeps through at those special times together. Giving each and everyone strengths they didn’t know they had. Your mother was a beautiful woman right to the end of the film, and I’m sure she is immensely proud and grateful to all, especially you and your daughter. God Bless you all 😘😘❤️💐🌈

[@watchgoose]

My sister and I did this with our mother, then I did it with my sister. There is nothing like it.

[@lorij6796]

watchgoose So very sorry for your losses. I was there for my husband and father while they were struggling with the end of their time with us. Until the peacefulness came over them. It still is painful for me but they deserved to have love and attention at the end. When you love someone we do the right thing for them. God bless and comfort you 💞

[@FacesoftheForgotten]

Very tastefully done, with much dignity. What a great legacy she leaves...

[@antoniarolls]

Thank you very much

[@toyman9642]

Death is just a stage in our journey. A doctor stated that, after death, we should think of the body as a house where the owner has moved out. Good analogy.

[@cheyennesewell3945]

I like this, I always thought of us like butterfly's in a cacoon & when we die we bloom out & fly

[@felicitymcdougle4981]

I like that! My grandmother is dying of cancer, somehow what you said makes me feel a little better x

[@peacefuldaizy5717]

@@felicitymcdougle4981 Thinking of you and hoping you are well. ❤️

[@felicitymcdougle4981]

@@peacefuldaizy5717 ahhh thank you. Means a lot from a stranger x

[@felicitymcdougle4981]

@Waheedullah wafa yes she is, skin and bone but fighting like a trouper. She has a doting grad daughter looking after her.

[@melliouxsintisa743]

One of the most beautiful and so so sad things I have done, taken care of my father in law, grandmother in law and step father in law as they passed away, God bless you for the care you took for this loved one, a passing is a beginning of another journey, life never ceases

[@g2794]

The empty bed at the end got me. I lost my mum to cancer 8 years ago. After the chaos and torment of her last few weeks, the empty, still bed with her slippers still at the side really shook me. Your film is beautiful.

[@dawnbowra9349]

Just a year ago I did this dying thing with my mother in law. This is how I saw her end...and now it's my beginning. You made this beautiful. I wish I had this beautiful video to honour her like you have. Thank you for having the courage to do this for your mom. ❤️😓

[@jennyperrio4887]

My Dad so precious died in my arms we hada year together a wonderful year I still can feel his hugs his kisses I miss his voice saying Its ok girly im not frightened with you here I held him so tight I never wanted to let him go Only now do i feel the real hurt when i cry for somebody else I cry for you Jenny 💕💖

[@judedeprey6831]

Thank you so much for this. I'm going to watch it times, it's hard to read the words the music, while also looking at pictures. What a beautiful tribute to your mother. I just turned 70, and I have six living children. All girls. Ladies now, my greatest hope and prayer is that they love me as much as you love your mom. Thank you so much for sharing this.

[@mosesxavier8267]

This video is incredible. This video needs an award of some sort, beautifully, and tastefully done. I am so sorry for your loss.

[@arlenepetitto3464]

A beautiful tribute to your mom. I lost my mother this past January. I could see the peace on her face after she passed just like I saw it on your mom’s face. Thanks for sharing.... May she R.I.P. always... 😢

[@theresacarmody702]

How beautiful this was her daughter and granddaughter caring for this beautiful lady with such love ❤️ my sister and I cared for our beautiful mother when she was dying and stayed with her she passed away an hour after we left her granddaughter was with her she didn't want my sister and I to see her go

[@royrice8597]

It has been said that no one has to practice to die, it comes natural to all of us.

[@user-od1fm3hs9c]

My mother died of pancreatic cancer too. My siblings and I did her palliative care at home and we were all there when she died. I am taken aback that you filmed this. The memories in my head are enough for me. It is not something that I would want to watch on a screen. I am glad we were all there for her and followed her wishes to die at home. I was pleased I could do it for her. When I am dying I dont want this though. I want to go to a hospice. I dont want my kids watching me deteriorate waiting for me to pass.

[@antoniarolls]

Yes, we are all different and it is good you know what you want for your own passing. My mother gave her consent for this work, as did our family. I do much work like this through painting and writing too, and it does make us all think.

[@user-od1fm3hs9c]

@@antoniarolls - Yes it does make us think. It makes me feel uncomfortable. Not because it is wrong but because I really dont like death. Death is a part of life so perhaps we should be exposed to it more.

[@antoniarolls]

@@user-od1fm3hs9c I absolutely get that, and I think you are courageous to both watch the video and to know why you feel uncomfortable. And I expect you and your siblings made a big difference to your mother's passing.

[@suesmith3744]

K I totally get that , I watched my mother waste away in agony from cancer when I was just 10 years old . I would never ever put my sons through that ....

[@katieforster9900]

Thank you for sharing your most precious and final moments with your mum. It looked a truly peaceful, loving, comfortable and pain free way to go. Your healing hands certainly helped her to transition to her next life. Love and light to you and your family xx

[@flyinshallot]

Thank you for sharing this beautiful Tribute with all....I could feel her spirit and your Love as family...I am in usA.

[@boblets333]

The cycle of life can be difficult. Thank you for sharing the loving way your family choose to send your mum home to be with Jesus!

[@clairemcmahon9392]

What a beautiful video. It shows people that there is nothing to fear from death and that we can indeed have a good death. We need to be talking about this more so Death isn’t the taboo subject it is for people that’s what created fear. How beautifully you all took care of your Mum. May she rest in peace. ❤️

[@Monica.Corrie]

Thank you for sharing the last beautiful and tender moments you shared with your lovely mother. It is a wonderful and loving thing you did. May her soul rest in eternal joy and peace.

[@brendafuller6186]

Thank you for sharing this last part of your mother's journey. Made me cry.

[@michaelridsdale2929]

thank you for having the strength and courage to make this film and maintaining the dignity of your loved one in the process. i am sorry for your loss . God bless you .

[@sallyclay1974]

We all have to face it, as human beings.

[@brendahart7221]

Thank you for sharing this private moment with us. What a beautiful lady, and amazing Mother. You and your siblings are just as beautiful and she sees this from Heaven!! God Bless you all and I'm sending you love from my heart to yours!🤗💟🐞

[@katc2354]

Well she certainly raised a wonderful daughter and great family my condolences

[@cindymcpherson8414]

I was moved to uncontrollable tears watching this video. I have a fair enough idea of what you all had to go through and I am very sorry for the loss of your mom/grandmom. It's very hard to lose someone you love, it's even harder to forget them. You just don't! I lost my grandmom 10 years ago and we keep a picture of her on our refrigerator. Almost everyday I still talk to her as if expecting she would one day answer me. I miss her dearly. Keep the memories of her alive in your children and grandchildren. Thank you for sharing with us.

[@leonardopinto3021]

When you lose a mother ,a piece of your heart flies in the sky her.Personally it was a trauma, a great pain,i loved her,i adored her,my mother was the most beautiful woman in the world.A hug from italy.leonardo

[@antoniarolls]

Leonardo thank you, I’m so sorry it was so hard to lose your mother. She must be looking after you now from heaven, and proud of you

[@mikesacco8457]

Death to me has changed a bit. My wife runs a assisted living build And does work at a post acute place. Over the years I have met many people who I have greatly enjoyed talking to and getting to know. And they know that life will soon end for them but they talk about the great things that happened in there lives and bad. And they always try to give me advice. And one person always got to me. He would always say. If you do anything do not be afraid of death. Accept death because you can not hide from it. Once you do this you will truly begin to live. We see our loved ones in pain or suffering and we feel there pain just as much as they do. Our loved ones know this. They do not leave us they are just waiting for us to join them. May god bless everyone on earth And if you do not believe in god Then I pray whatever journey you take is all you ever wanted and wished it to be.

[@milesbennetdyson5]

Jesus/God is awesome.

[@kseniiamoonsatellitealijamil]

Thank you for sharing your personal experience, grief and, of course, your deepest love to your beautiful Mother. Almost a week ago I lost my beloved Dad, my best friend ever, my protector and, for me - the most amazing person ever existed. It's such an unbearable loss I cannot even express how it hurts :( This happened unexpectedly, though he was ill for quite a long time, but still was able to live a normal life with the disease. He wanted to live so desperately, with so much passion, had so many plans, and dreams, and...oh my gosh...None of us was prepared for this to happen. The good thing is that he passed away with his family beside him, and he held my hand, and call my name one last time...I still can't believe this is real, I still find out that i'm waiting for him to come back, but I know it's all in my mind and soul full of grief and pain :( I've been reading a lot on life after life concept, and it brings to me some comfort and peace. I'm sure he is in a better place now, and he's happy. No more pain, no more suffering nor worries. And I believe we'll meet again some day. Blessings to all who lost their beloved ones - be strong, keep your memories about that person and live the best you can, so your dear one could be proud of you. With all my love to all of you🌹

[@antoniarolls]

I am so sorry to hear of your sadness on losing your father, and I wish you great peace.

[@michelle22374]

Absolutely beautiful, incredibly loving, peaceful and respectful. Thank you for sharing, she is soaring with the Angel's, free from all pain and fear. She is and always will be around you. Made me cry, in a sad yet happy way. You were both a true blessing to her, it's takes a very strong person to do what she needed to be done. I thank you again for sharing and from her, for the peace you gave her.

[@lindagarcia8826]

Our Heavenly Father came for my Mom in April this year she had dementia. My heart and soul misses her so much. Your video brought me to tears losing a parent is especially when they live with you and you are their caregiver as I was for many years. Their passing breaks your heart to the core. I praying your Mum is resting in peace in her Father's arms in Heaven. God bless you much love from Texas USA

[@Padoinky]

This was so lovingly presented. GOD bless her and her family

[@A.Hot.Potato]

You are a beautiful soul for taking care of mum so well! Im 4 years late but I do want to say sorry for your loss. but...in a positive light, she lived a long life and she is watching over us. ❤❤

[@natasjafischer3844]

SO powerful. Thank you. I am an End Of Life Guide in Canada. I really appreciated this piece for so many reasons. Thank you for sharing your mom and your journey with us all

[@davidvalerio2388]

Im sorry to hear that.

[@monet6847]

I took care of my grandma until she passed away.How beautiful,and brave of you.

[@peterbeadman2509]

Beautiful. Thank you. Sorry for your loss. Your mother would be so proud that you have given such a tribute to her and such a help to those facing their own losses. Xx

[@ablkangel]

Thank you so much for allowing us to have a glimpse of such an intimate experience . Your mother is beautiful.

[@mroosie7488]

You gave your mother what anyone could dream of. Peace , love and dignity.

[@user-lj7sq7ix1j]

I also lost my mam to cancer on the 10.11.18 I promised her I'd be there when she took her last breath, may she rest in peace, it has been a huge struggle to live without seeing her everyday, Heaven definately gained another Angel.

[@harmonymomentofbeing5753]

Love how she was able to describe the door and the dark shapes and the wonderful things behind it.ive experienced the samething a few times while in cardiac arrest and died on the table several times.there is something after here and it is wonderful and coming back from that put me in a great depression for 7 yrs I wanted to die again and go back and be accepted .i was told before I was thrown back in my physical body that I wasn't ready yet by a stern deep voice.now i know i wasn't ready yet now I see signs i want to be here again and I embrace every minute of everyday .i am prepared to go with the wonderful things after here and push thru the dark shadows and go to the warm bright light.bit for now me and my spirit have bonded and I love life here and my family.we stay alive for other ppl that is what we do.

[@Dr.GForensic]

Looking forward to the unconditional love and acceptance by Father God!

[@harmonymomentofbeing5753]

@@Dr.GForensic me too.. i live for it

[@almatexier5245]

My Mom died from Pancreatic cancer also, we are coming up on our 2year Anniversary 3/20, her only wish was to stay home so we sprang into action, moved her out of the dark bedroom and into the bright living room, with a new bed , sunlight and all of her plants and stained glass. I her daughter had a difficult relationship with her my whole life and the greatest gift that she gave me was to let me take care of her, I held her hand when she took her last breaths

[@ds2826]

Thank you for sharing your beautiful mum with us. May she rest in peace.

[@LuckyLarry]

This takes me back to April 2014 and January 2019.....my Mother and Fathers death experiences....what got me through was knowing that their bodies were just earth suits that enabled us to be present on this earth and exist in this atmosphere and live in it and have fabulous experiences and have fun...grateful for their presence on this planet....they grew up together....and that I am here because of them because I am thoroughly enjoying my ride around the sun every year that I am allowed to go...to close I quote miss Dolly Partin...I wish you love.....

[@sandi21515]

Thank you for this little gift, you have a way I've never seen before with words and images, thoughts and feelings. It's so much the same I'd swear it was my mom and our family. It hurt, but thanks for helping me (and others) remember. 🌷

[@llisamichele]

TO THE FAMILY :💗 🌟 THIS WAS ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL ! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING W/ ME. I TRULEY LOVED THIS TRIBUTE ❗ 💜💙💛💗💚💜💙💛💗💚💜💙 LISA 🌼 MYRTLE BEACH SC 🌴

[@lindagillisdavidson958]

Such care, dignity and love. God bless.

[@susanpolkinghorn8865]

Such a beautiful lady. Such a sad moment when this video came up, but what a celebration of her life with you and her beautiful family. God bless you all and thanks for sharing her happy life x

[@abutterfly7975]

Such a beautiful job at showing us these vulnerable times and how we can help our loved ones say goodbye. Ty. ❤️

[@mihaelahatch1257]

Antonia. You are a strong person for sharing your mother's passing. This touches my heart every time I see this.

[@dewittbrewer5306]

Beautiful. My heartfelt thanks for posting this. Moms go directly to Heaven.

[@Fattus99]

What a dignified, loving and good end for your Mother despite the desperately sad situation. I was fortunate to be able to say “goodbye” to my Grandmother in a similar way. It is strange to say but you can only feel comforted once your loved one has passed on in this situation as there was nothing else that you could do to stop what is sadly inevitable to us all. Thanks for sharing this as I feel that it is a part of life that is not explored and talked about enough

[@daceliepins9108]

Thank you for sharing this amazing, thoughtful video. May she rest in peace.

[@mihaelahatch1257]

The positions of her hands. Very beautiful and touching, so gracefully positioned of her hands

[@pamelaullery9408]

This was so beautiful, thank you for sharing this most personal, private event. Your Mum should be oh so proud of all of you. 💕