A HEART TO HEART ABOUT FRIENDSHIP | Lydia Elise Millen

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[@hannahritchie1020]

I’m now crying on the train! I think this hit me quite hard as I’m just coming up to 24 and everyone around has such huge friendship groups. After coming out a pretty horrendous relationship at 21 I’ve had to re-build my life and friends came at the end of this, and I’m still trying. I’ve felt so lonely, mainly in the thought that I will never have this so it’s so reassuring to hear that you developed these friendships quite late. There’s hope for me yet! Thank Lydia 💕

[@carter7808]

Hannah Ritchie you’re gonna make it girl. I’ve had to rebuild...trust me when I say I know how hard it is...Get “you” back, once you get you back the friends will come ❤️ anyone would want to be friends with you 😉

[@elfenprinzessin22]

Hanna I really understand you

[@pippaDlightful]

Hannah im in my 30's .. and I feel like what you are going through happens a few times in your life.. My People have come at the right time.. and left at the right time.. ive been lonely at the right time.. and then understood my value as a friend at the right time so that today Im able to share my valuable time with only wonderful people... I enhance their life & they enhance mine... Stay True.. and find True people that stay. 💖😊💖😊💖😊 xx

[@montceane]

I'm 22 and just came out of a complicated relationship and no friends as well. You've just gotta take it step by step and maybe make the first step sometimes or even contact some old friends, they'll be happy to hear from you x

[@KarinaSwan]

Don't worry lovely, it happens, life is just giving you a completely new chapter! It happened to me (at 21), I felt the same, but I found friends that are so amazing! Yes, it is possible to find them throughout your life. You just have to be patient and know what you want in a friend, they will come, I swear :)

[@mrswalkerbeauty5849]

I’m currently planning my wedding at the moment and it’s kind of dawned on me that I only have two friends. When I was in my early 20s I seemed to have tonnes of friends.....but after I had a baby they all kind of drifted off. Makes me really sad sometimes when you see pictures on insta of girls going off on their hen doos with a massive gang of girls all having the best time. But at least I know the two friends I have, have stuck by me through thick and thin and we’ll always be together 💕

[@lisaong3734]

DPBStyleChic there's hope for us all. l'm in a similar situation.

[@bnelson52]

It's not a contest. Don't compare yourself to people that you see on Instagram. They are posting the one-off times they are with that many people. If you have two friends that are truly there for you and you trust, you are the blessed one. There are no trophies for the amount of friends you have. The true trophy is your happiness and knowledge that you have those two people you can really count on.

[@Lyn_DS]

Koe Koe so true! I got chronically ill at 15y old, now 24, and I had 3 friendship groups (one of about 10 people, one of 6 and another one of 6) guess what, they all dropped me! I know that those are difficult years for everyone : graduating high school, going to college/university, getting a job,.. but that isn’t an excuse to me. If you’re a REAL friend, you stick by your friends side, no matter how difficult the situation etc. I now have a few friends who only know me as being sick but they don’t treat me like that, they treat my like any other person and are always there for me. That’s what matters the most ❤️ But unfortunately it’s very hard & painful to realize you lost your “friends” but in the end you’re better off without them!

[@stefaniesombaty8980]

Friendships should be judged for their quality not their quantity. I would rather have one great friend than ten gal pals.

[@teithianhlun9833]

I feel you...it was while planning my wedding that i realized that i had only a handful of friends. ☹

[@alessandraschwager301]

Haven't found "my people" yet... Even with 35 I'm struggling with making friends... Happy for you, that you found yours ❤️

[@buntymouse7230]

Alessandra Schwager me to doll ... I find it hard

[@drouinjohnny9036]

Alessandra Schwager feeling you so much..same for me...at 45...

[@VilleGardian]

Me too...:-/....I just cannot develop friendships with other women....I just do not understand. I like my solitude but sometimes I feel sad because of that.

[@sophiamcdonald5538]

VilleGardian massively understand the love of solitude but the sadness that comes with that! So strange how it complicates things.

[@bstrong5016]

I’ve always been of the opinion that a few really good friends are much better than a large group of people who don’t really have your back. ❤️💕

[@bnelson52]

You are so right about finding your "crew". My closest friends were found later in life. If's hard to get past the whole high school scene and understand that your closest friends don't have to be from the school days. I'm 41 right now and my "people" are from the late 20's early 30's. And everyone should know that it's normal for your "people" to change throughout the years. It's not a popularity contest when you are an adult. If you only have 1 or 2, you are blessed. Who cares. Embrace you and the small trusted group. Don't worry about the number of people around you, worry about the quality of people around you.

[@MinkPink11]

wow loved this vlog! I am 32 and i havent found my crew yet. To be honest its quite frustrating as I find that the people I come across are lovely but we simply dont quite connect. I do have many friends and best friends too but we dont enjoy doing the same things therefore theres a lot of effort and compromise that goes into the friendship which can feel like a chore at times. Im glad you touched on this subject as I know a lot of people who goes through the same thing and it sometimes feels like theres no hope left of finding 'crew' like friendship due to age. Im happy you have found your crew and how happy you all make each other! Gives me a little hope :) xx

[@KarinaSwan]

That's so true, I find that my childhood friends are still my good friends even if we have slightly different personalities. but with age it is different to find people you ace fully connected with and share the same interests...

[@juliapetrenko5104]

Lilaaa has always happened when we are leaving the gym in

[@zainab675]

Your not alone, school friends , non existent, college friends non existent , uni friends non existent, I find it difficult to keep relations with people over the years, easy enough when you work or surrounded by people, soon as circumstances change, the friendship fades, baffled how keep friendships going for years and years, guess some people are very social, and some arent

[@bnelson52]

I'm 41, successful in business and mother of 3. I've come to realize that it is not a competition. If you have one or two people that you can trust, you are blessed. It's not the number of friends, it's the quality. Don't compare yourself to others (yes easier said than done). People are posting these group functions but it may be once or twice per year. Even internet friends count. Even family members count. YOLO - who cares about the number or who the people are in your life. Make the best of your unique situation and life. People come and go...some stick, some don't. They are all there at that time for a reason :)

[@linadubinkaite2550]

I've never had many friends, during school, uni etc. I've always worked really hard at whatever I was doing, and can relate to you, Lydia, for feeling different from anyone who is in a typical girl friendship group. I also quiet enjoy alone time, probably because I am an INTJ (if anyone is interested in personalty types) which I think plays a major part in how we socialise. I feel like a lot people (women and men) bond over gossip or small talk and it just seems so irrelevant to me, as I'm always looking for a connection on a deeper level.

[@jessicarettally6534]

Totally agree Lina!

[@elfenprinzessin22]

That is so true!

[@Zatanya0riginally]

INFJ here...same feeling!

[@suzannedolin6333]

I’m INTJ and I agree ❤️

[@stinalindgren2526]

INTJ too and it's such a struggle! I got all of my friends as a kid in school, but then as I moved to another city I found that it was just exhausting to make new relationships. Like the older I get the less relaxed I am around people. Gotta keep looking though, people honestly come and go!

[@ccbsb481996]

I’ve always struggled with friends fading away. I will say I’m blessed to have one friend that I have known since birth that will always be my best girlfriend. But she lives miles and miles away and since graduating from university I’ve struggled greatly with finding new friends. This video gave me so much hope and inspiration for the future! Thank you Lydia! 💕 love you to bits!!

[@keeleylow135]

I literally needed this today! So much love Lydia!

[@traceythomas5923]

This is very timely for me as I realized a couple of months ago after being let down yet again by someone I thought was a close friend that I don't have any deep friendships. All my friendships are very superficial. I've been let down so often by people that I thought were my friends that I no longer place any value on friendships. I'm 50 now so I don't see this ever changing. I do think it's very important that women find their people. I just don't think that will ever happen for me and that's OK.

[@Ashaife]

Disjointed blogs can be so much fun! They’re like blooper or laid back reels paired with your planned ones. I’ve only recently found you and have been binging everything. Also touched by your feelings on late friendships. I’m in my 30’s now and finally ready to start a family and am really wishing I had some personal irl friends to spend time with. I think opening yourself to finding them can help too, ive always been so stand-offish irl so trying to be more open and personable has been my first step. Much love!

[@tinagriffin5310]

I'm 50 and still finding my people. You hit the nail on the head when it comes to learning and gathering friends. It doesn't end and its ok if you don't have a lot of friends or you do. What works for you is what is important. Sweet vlog today.

[@anaguerra5109]

Lydia thank you for sharing this. I'm 52 and still have my best friend who I've met when I was 4. 4!!!!!!! Can you believe this? But along the way, 20 years ago I met my soul sister. This is another level of friendship.. And we've been through so much together...we are so true to each other that we allow ourselves to never hide what's in our hearts no matter what...even if we know it's not what we want to hear it...and that it's true friendship right? Take care of yours (friendships) they're becoming rare these days...love from Portugal!! 😘😘😘

[@gemqueen1866]

You're so lucky, I have nothing and no one like that.....😔😔😔😔

[@jessicarettally6534]

Beautiful words Ana !

[@creativitydisplay3059]

Ana Guerra I wish I had such frie nds

[@KarinaSwan]

So true! With age, friendship goes through different tests! This is how I lost quite a few with time, but found new ones that are so great! I also have a best friend similar to what you are describing about your soul sister, we've shared so much, bad and good and always support each other in everything. Some of my childhood friends don't know me like she does, I guess she might be my soul sister as well :)

[@anaguerra5109]

Karina Swan so good to have a friend you can rely on without judjement, right? 😊 Enjoy and nurture that friendship!!

[@ExB14]

In the clips where you're wearing the lilac jumper, your face is absolutely glowing and looking so fresh! You really suit that colour and the shorter haircut!

[@emanamrafay9207]

Where is the jumper from? purple?

[@stacybishop3484]

I agree she looked beautiful

[@Dixiwonderlandyoutube]

The energy that you have in this video is amazing! I´m really happy for you that you found your friends :) I meet my best friend when we were 9 year old. Now it´s 19 years later and we´re still best friends ❤️

[@kaijalove]

Lydia I watch every single one of your videos religiously, and despite the immense impact they have on my life, I just don't really comment all that much. I just wanted you to know how much you've helped me come in to myself. I'm 20 and in 10 years if I am anything like you, that's me done! haha you are such a genuine, kind-hearted woman with so much wisdom and life experience, and I think that's what sets you apart from many others in this industry. Thank you for making these videos, your content is the perfect balance between luxurious and aspirational, yet so down to earth and authentic. I think we can ALL agree on that one :) xx

[@judithmelvin7392]

Friendships come and go, but I have one great true friend, who has been there through everything. I met her at primary school when we were 5 years old. We are now 48 years old with children of our own. Our lives have changed dramatically, she became a mother to 5 gorgeous children and I moved to Texas!! (I'm from Scotland, born and raised). We stay in touch, talk when we can (i'm 6 hours behind the UK) but last Christmas and this Christmas I'm going home so we get to meet up for a natter and hugs. My other bestest friend in the whole wide world is of course my hubby, he knows where all the bodies are buried and still loves me.

[@Emily-tx3wg]

I’ve never watched a video with someone talking about friendship from this point of view and it has honestly helped me so much! Atm I’m 20 and I just feel confused about the whole friendship situation thinking something must be wrong with me but you saying it can happen even as you get older gives me hope thank you

[@Macscruf]

To be totally honest with you I totally get what your saying! - I never felt like I gelled with or had like a good group of friends that really understood me and my choices. I get on with people and find it very easy to make conversations but feel that I lack this kind of a circle. I have good like individual friends who I know I can turn to but their all a-bit disjointed so it’s always a one on one and not many group activities... but I know in time that my own circle will form 🙂 and I’m so happy that yours has ❤️ - keep doing what your doing because it’s clear to me that your surrounded by so much love 💕

[@carter7808]

Oh my Gosh, I’ve never related to a vlog so much! Such an epic thing to talk about. “That if you dont find a crew till later it’s okay”. Thank you for talking about it! I’m exactly the same way. I think where you live is a big part of that too. If you’ve outgrown your hometown or even just moved to a new city it can be hard to relate to other girls. Always trying to find girls in the same mindset as you is not the easiest thing if you don’t grow up together. I loved this encouragement. ❤️❤️❤️

[@hassanilyas2010]

Hey Lydia!! The instant i read the title i felt omg i want to watch this video of yours. I know i don't miss any but you and your friendship with Carrie (from a kind of person you look here in vlogs) is one of the main the reasons i tune into your channel. I really like your personality and how you stand tall after the hardships and still you have found a friend. A friend /friends who understand and to whom you don't have to translate your every action and who you can laugh with (honestly, because i struggle with laughing with people. I know this may be that finding someone in sorrows is difficult but finding someone to laugh with and have fun with is even more difficult, and how every day spent with people who you want to be happy with turns a nightmare). Love you Lydia. Kindly reply to my comment. I dont comment at all at youtube but i regularly watch your videos and love to see you, you make very very happy and hopeful. Kindly discuss more about friendship, and how to have patience with it and may be if possible how to find the one. ❤️❤️❤️

[@nadinemassey1249]

I didn't realise just how much I needed to hear all of this! I've always felt the exact same way, I never had a close friendship group in school, or a childhood friend that I grew up with and I've always found it so hard making friends! At the beginning of the year I was quite down about not having met my 'people' and not having anyone that I was close to - excluding my partner and family - making friends as an adult is so much more difficult than in school/teenage years! It's so lovely and refreshing to hear that you are so happy and are surrounded by incredible people and such love, it truly gives me hope that I will also have incredible friends in my life eventually! ❤❤❤

[@aprilloves1303]

You're outro was possibly the best one you have ever done. I am 22 and have struggled to maintain friendships because I didn't click with the people I grew up with and went to school and college with. It is only in the past few months that I feel I am finding "my people". I worry that there's something wrong because I never truly connected to anyone I have met through education. So, it's comforting to know that not everyone has the best friendships with school friendships and that we all find our people at different stages and paces.

[@CreativelyVictoria]

Just stumbled upon your channel and I absolutely adore it! The way you talk about friendships I totally understand. I've felt that way too, different, from people I went to school with--seeing how easily they would click and become best friends, yet I wouldn't experience the same right away being so guarded. It is so refreshing seeing someone talk about this and sharing that you have found your people at a later time in life. So easy to relate too. Thanks so much for sharing!

[@aafwalk]

This video spoke to me. I use to have a lot of friends, some were just drinking buddies others who meant a lot to me. Now I find myself alone, and for the most part I’m okay with it because I work full time and go to school full time plus I’m in a relationship. I know eventually I will find those friends who are meant to be in my life, but sometimes it gets a little lonely. I’m glad you found your ppl and thanks for making this video. ❤️

[@beneidenswertbin]

This video gives me such hope!!! I'm 35 and I never really had friends, because of girls bringing each other down, I always distant myself from others... But to hear your experience and see those beautiful people around you gives me hope. Thank You for sharing and caring!

[@emilieave9419]

You talking about your friendship situations gives me sm hope!! Bc I don’t really have my childhood friends either bc I have always been moving countries so it just gets hard to bond with new people whom I will leave again😢 Love your videos❤️❤️❤️

[@h.vander6640]

I think finding meaningful friendship and the struggles to find your tribe, even into adulthood, is a common experience amongst women(and men) but one that often goes unspoken about! And thus people end up feeling alone and perhaps a little bit like, " am I unlikeable? Why am I struggling to make friends?!" Thank you Lydia for shedding some light on this and helping some of us feel less alone! Xo it's a good reminder that we are all connected by the need to feel like we belong.

[@allyjoy5943]

This conversation really resonates with me right now. I found my "soul people" as I call them well into my 20s, and I formed the best "crew" I've ever had. They bring out the best in me, they are loyal, die-hard friends, people I can count on, people I can be my true self with. After over five years, two (of the four) of us are moving away and I am heartbroken. Currently in the process of trying to figure out how to "rebuild" so to speak after losing them. True friendship is rare and special and shouldn't be taken for granted.

[@shirinsalehi1865]

I'm still friends with a couple of girls from high school, but otherwise all of my friends are from university. I'm so grateful for them and who I am around them. Really glad you found a group where you feel safe, comfortable, and happy as well ❤️

[@melanieharms1199]

I love this. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty. I have discovered that when I am honest with who I am, then finding “my people” has fallen into place. You have shown time and time again to be true to yourself. A real inspiration. ❤️

[@billma29]

to be honest, I don't think its generally normal to find your best bud for life in school. School is a hard time for most of us, as it is physically and mentaly challenging and mobbing and abusive ,,friendships'' are something we have to overcome first. I love to hear about friendships since kindergarten, but we don't even know who we are at that point. A true connection with other people, to built a friendship with a lasting promise, is something to be taken serious. And it's only possible, when you love and know yourself first. I think you truely love yourself right now and you can appriciate the bonds you have better, because of it. (sry for my bad english, a dedicated viewer from germany

[@caithill8532]

Billma so true!! Friends in school always tend to be in it for themselves at the end of the day. If they want to look cool they'll backstab or leave you for something else. Whereas when you get older there's no petty drama, if you click then you'll be friends for a long time

[@TheJoasia28]

Very touching. I have met my super best friend 10 years ago, through work. She has moved countries twice since, we had times where people tried to intervene in the negative way but we made it work. She is my absolute fav. The person that knows me for me and doesn’t expect anything more. I have other friends but no one as close as her. I do believe it’s not about quantity but quality. And like yours, that friendship came later in my life. Loved your video.

[@ritaarmstrong]

Speaking about finding friends let me just say it was lovely to hear your honest assessment of your “standoffishness”. You come across completely opposite of that and seem so warm and endearing. I am much older so let me tell you something I have learned. As lucky as you are finding your people make sure to work at your relationships because over the years people can easily slip away and you then find yourself later in life with just 1 or 2 friends... if you are lucky. ♥️

[@jasmin5246]

Every time I saw you and Carrie, I longed for a friendship like that. Hearing you say that you also didn't have a crew for such long time gave me hope and put a smile on my face. This is why we love you. You're so real and you inspire!

[@Rawrecoverycouk]

Loved this Lydia so happy you found your tribe, I know like me you have had some ruff times in the past. l have always felt let down by friends so gave up and became also very standoffish for years, to the point of loneliness. At 31 I found my first true now long term friendship at yoga teacher training, and also this year I got closer to someone I knew at a distant for six years- I know this sounds weird, but, so called friends walked out on me when times got tuff and the ones you least expect stepped in- character of true friendship is shown when things get tuff not when times are good! Missed you Tuesday thanks for a lovely vlog x

[@beatrizalmeida1116]

I'm so happy that you made this video, I've always felt like that and knowing that other people share the same makes me feel so much better! Love you x

[@josefinburman1184]

I looove your friends accent, it’s like music to my ears!

[@jessicarettally6534]

I know! I can hear them talk all day :)

[@maryponcedeleon7451]

It’s hard to find a friend that can be happy for your growth , accepting you for who you are, without judging. If there is jealousy, there is no friendship. Your lucky to have this group of girls in your life. 🌸

[@hazeljames3376]

Ali is so adorable he always treats you as a princess and tells you beautiful things you are one lucky woman miss Lydia

[@MaiTran-xq5ol]

Honestly I’m so glad to know that I’m not the only one who finds it hard to make friends thank you 🙏🏻 it honestly gives me hope that I will be able to find my group of friends ❤️❤️

[@mariamali126]

My father was in the army, so that means that growing up, i moved all over the country, to give you a perspective, i changed schools 11 times till my A levels. I guess i was lucky to an extent that i made friends EVERYWHERE basically. But the my crew per say is, well i have them in 3 cities, my oldest best friend is one i made in 7th grade, we’ve stuck it out and even though we’re in completely different fields, ( she in premed at uni and i’m in finance ) we’ve managed to stick around, even when we were in different cities. My other best friends are one from my GCSE days, one i made in my Alevels and lastly 2 in my uni. So i can understand the not understanding being best friend from grade school stuff. But still regardless of the hiccups along the way i love that i have those people in my life regardless of the time we became friends 💕

[@mariamali126]

I also love that all my friends get along! From what i’ve heard that really hard to find 🤞😁

[@KarissaPukas]

Love this! I'm glad you found your people- it is such a nice feeling

[@gigia2250]

I can totally understand the way you are speaking, and thank you so much LydiaEliseMillen for talking abou this... I used to have a lots of friends and groups but as I grow older I felt like any of them could full my life even if I tried hard for them to match! At the beggining I thought that something was wrong with me and it was.... I've changed, at least the way I was thinking about life have changed.... And I now know....When you are young you have a ton of friends 'cause you all have the same interests and goals: "to just stay young and have fun" ... As you grow a little older yourself gets more complete and you really know what "life" means for you, so your friends must match in the "new completed personality of you" ... So around the 26-27th birthday slowly-slowly, I think, you really start to make , what we call, friends for life.... I think that happens pretty match to everyone, because when you are young you don't have a complete personality and that makes you like a half person so, sometimes friends complete you... But when you get older usually yourself is completed so, you no longer need anyone to complete you... You just need people to match with what you are, and give them love and take love back! It is really difficult to keep the same friends from school through all your life, at least not all of them, 'cause that would means, either that you are "lucky" and they really match with you, or that you have to give up part of yourself in order to fit with them, or that you are not full with yourself yet!

[@sashakay3]

I currently have two best friends - one I meet as a junior in high school, the other when I was 27. I love them dearly!! When I was in my late 20s and 30s, and a little into my 40s, I definitely had a crew that included those two, but now life has changed!!!

[@zoeymortez5771]

Aww Lydia, I can not explain to you through words how much I can relate to the last 4 minutes of your vlog. I've just left school and feel just so vulnerable and open. I'm excited for college but I always think of how everyone else has such a close knit friend group and it makes me feel so insecure and if I'm being honest sometimes lonely. I always think to myself I'd be such a good best friend if the right people would just come into my life. Thanks for sharing your life with us Lydia, you have just literally made my whole week, it's lovely to feel I can relate to someone for a change. Xxx

[@melissas717]

My crew is my 4 sisters, my best friend since middle school, and my best friend I met in the Air Force. Those are my people. They were my bridesmaids at my wedding too. I love them.

[@huongctvo]

Oh Lydia, this vlog speaks to me so much! I met one of my best friends in Spanish class during sophomore year in high school. She was hot and I was cold because I sat near the air conditioner in the back. She came to me and asked if we could switch seats and the rest is history. I met my other bff in college about four years later. She's now thousands of miles away for her career, but all three of us made a pact to Facetime each other every Friday to keep our friendship strong. I don't have huge groups of friends either because quality rather than quantity is my preference. This vlog is the exact reason why I decided to start my own YT channel myself. I used to care what others would think about my channel, but when I go back and look at the short clips I've filmed on our bestie trips, I'd rather have those memories to look back on than a ton of subscribers and views, you know? Thanks so much for this and I'm SO happy that you're happy! xo

[@suhrida]

Thank you for the conversation on friends. I thought it was only me. I had only two friends, one from school and one from uni. The friend from school was very toxic, but I stayed friends with her only because I didn’t want to think that I spent 10 years in school and made no friends. It took me 30years to finally say enough and stop talking to her. My friend from uni on the other hand is like a sister to me and I am so very thankful for her friendship. Thank you again for that lovely sit down chat and to share private moments of your life- it’s heartwarming

[@chelsmartin2393]

This vlog struck me hard on friendships!!! I’m 48 and I don’t have any friends except for my husband and my kids if that counts!! I’m like Lydia in school I didn’t make friends all that easy I did have one to one friends throughout school and some days I would just love to have that special friend to shop with and go to lunch and vacations!! You are such a amazing beautiful person Lydia and you are so down to earth and I really love that about you!!!

[@eleanornaomigabrielle4105]

I’m 28 and moved from Manchester to Cardiff 3 years ago. I’ve found it so hard to make friends away from my friends I grew up with and still don’t have many friends. Hoping I find my “crew” soon x

[@solarsylver]

What a beautiful vlog, Lydia. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm not much of a commenter, but I felt I really should comment here. I was also one of those girls who was a bit awkward, and my whole life I've had trouble making friends. I didn't find my people until I was 35, and the funny thing was, it was the PERFECT time. I was finally in the right place in life. My husband was among this group of people, and we just clicked from the start. Now, seven years on, I couldn't be happier. And I'm so happy that you've found your people, too! :) Much love to you and Ali.

[@katherinejoy1511]

Lydia uploads Me: *drops everything* okayyyyy fam see ya in 23min 38sec

[@raliazhenya4318]

Zara Joy 😂💖💖😂

[@lovelifementoring5399]

You never ever stop learning and I found my people very late in life. Many come and go but all of a sudden a new vibration a new awareness magnetised my crew! 💕

[@kalindiguishard7573]

i understand what you are saying about making friends....trusting people is hard...then you let you guard down and they hurt you so you close up but it is a learning experience.

[@leemccray3908]

I've noticed for a while that you've frequently mentioned your mood being strongly attached to the weather. The same is true for me. My doctor has diagnosed me with Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A. D.S.). I'm buoyant & grinning when the sun is out. My mood plummets with the onset of clouds & rain. My doc has prescribed a light box. It's a device that emits light at a certain wavelength that chases away the blahs by mimicking the effect of natural sunlight. You just sit in front of the light for app 20 min a day. It has made a Huge difference for me (especially when the days get shorter in the winter)!! I urge you to look into it (google, your doc, etc). It could possibly make a positive difference in your life! Anyway, couldn't hurt to look into it? Thanks for the great vid!! I always look forward to watching you! You make my day that much more enjoyable! 😍😘💋👍🤗❣ Kisses to Lumi & Lynx!! 😽😻💋

[@katiethriveshine]

Blubbing away over this! I'm 34 and haven't found my crew. I'm very guarded with people and I don't even know why! Lovely to hear this sweet, reassuring message. So gorgeous to watch. You look so well, Lydia xx

[@gemmarichards8103]

Another lovely video Lydia. So lovely to watch you with your friends. I quite often sit and think how lucky I am with the friends I have, and even my Dad says it to me. There are 7 of us in our close group. 3 of us met at nursery and the rest joined at secondary school. Crazy to think we have so many years of friendship. But also one of my best friends I met only 3 years ago, and I’m 37. She now fits into the group perfectly. You say you don’t make friends to easily but I think that just makes you appreciate what you have even more. And ps, you would fit into my group straight away 😘

[@joyoflife9561]

This is so lovely 🙂🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️ it made me emotional in a good way. I am still finding my people but lately the universe has been sending me really good ones ✌🏽

[@KarinaSwan]

I'm on the same wave right now, so I know exactly what you mean :)

[@mandiereds]

I have been following your journey for some time, Lydia. Your vlogs always cheer me up as you always seem cheerful (apart from when it is gloomy and endlessly raining!) I loved this video. It was the perfect start to the weekend. I have had two best friends since my school days. One since primary and the other since secondary. As there are the three of us we have had some rocky moments along the way but we are all grown ups and we have worked through them all just become stronger. We see each other as often as we can, considering our busy lives. It doesn't matter because we gel back together as if no time has even passed. I also have a group of work friends who are lovely people too. They are always there if I need them. I think the true meaning of happiness is to be truly happy on your own. Inside your own skin. To know yourself well enough to be alone and to not feel lonely. It is then that you can share yourself with others and to enrich their lives. This takes time. I am almost there! One thing I often consider is "I wonder who will come to my funeral, what will they say about me?" I want that to be a happy time and I hope that I always touch other people's lives in a good way. My aim in life is to "leave everything you come across better than when you found it." Thank you for being you, Lydia. Yes, Ali's hair does look fab all messed up!

[@andreeabran261]

OMG LYdia I just love the videos where you give your opinions on life, they are the most enjoyable to me

[@imdexstaryu]

Such a lovely topic. Until now, I haven’t found my people yet. But with kind hearted influencers like you talks about it, somehow reassured me that somewhere out there are my people. Thank you for being such an inspiration.

[@Nightowl1969]

I must have sensed you had a new upload tonight, I bought shortbread biscuits today, Going to have a shower, get my cosy clothes on, latte in hand ready to watch. I have never been this keen for upload days from anyone before. Keep up the great content and thank you for being you, my granddaughter and I love to sit and watch you on our girlie nights. Namaste my lovely xx

[@KewBlinkla]

This is just what I needed Lydia! I’m 25 and don’t really have a group I have 1-2 friends but none I feel REALLY open and myself with. And I always say about myself “I’m really good at making acquaintances!” Not friends, i think everyone at my work and that I see often is a friend but now true group of best friends and it’s because I’m different too. You give me hope that I’ll find my people! All of my “friends” are lovely but they aren’t like me at all or like doing things I like so i don’t really see them outside of my job. Thank you for this

[@sophiamcdonald5538]

I’ve had to pause to write a comment (which I never do) I’m 29 and have lived in 3 countries. Born in England moved to New Zealand at 12 then to Australia at 16. I’ve never felt like I have found ‘my people’ and to hear someone else talk about it was so strange to me. I’m married with three beautiful children so have even less time to find them. I’ve never heard it put into words or have someone else understand how sad or scary that can seem. You’ve given me some hope!! Thanks x

[@lindyblu99]

Lydia, at school I had a group of 8 friends We were solid,I stayed on and pursued the uni path whilst my friends all stayed 'friends''. I knew my best friend since birth and it saddened me to see she changed. I've pretty much been alone since university, as I suffered with some personal demons, and bulimia and my 'best friends' didn't call to see how I was for over 10 years. I have hope I'll find my people, but I'd rather be alone and genuine than hold onto a friendship that I value more than my ' best' friend does.

[@natalievanderheyden4315]

The intro was such a breath of fresh air! A good reminder to lift the spirits every once and awhile and let loose!

[@glennajakemaniego1202]

I'm really happy when you said that people change and the circumstances change because I had a crew in highschool and now two of them have their own babies, but now that I'm in college I just realized how I didn't fit quite in, in my crew in highschool I realized that it was more of like I was trying to fit in with them because most of the time when we were together, I never could really express myself but we still are friends but a lot of things has changed, and now I have my close friends in college and I can say that I found my true friends and I'm really happy because we have different personalities and we fight at times but it made us stronger because we're together through thick and thin. I also can be very honest with them. So thank you Lydia for telling me your thoughts about friendship because it really helped me understand. MUCH LOVE FROM THE PHILIPPINES!

[@amandapowers6084]

After changing my lifestyle to be more true to myself, I lost a lot of people I had felt would always be there no matter where we went. I have a handful of friends that have been close with dispite distance and moves and time zones. All those people I met and instantly (they laughed at a weird joke I made or something to show they got "it") just "ok we are best friends now" and that's how it's been!

[@KiddyTayls63]

i've been having a lot of those feelings too, with not really feeling like i have a solid group of friends and wondering why everyone around me does, and it made me feel a lot better to hear that i'm not the only one who feels this way! thank you lydia

[@valcarter6394]

I’ve never had a ‘crew’ but individual friends from each part of my life. I am 56 now and have a good friend that was my best mate at school. Then I went to college and I have a very good friend I met there. I don’t see her in the flesh very often but when we do meet up it’s like we only met yesterday. Another friend was from a job I had in my mid 20s and my ‘best’ friend, with whom I can talk about anything, is 16 years older than me. She is the wife of a chap my husband worked with and we got on so well we have become firm friends. Friendships come in all shapes and sizes. We have shared so much together over the years and it is a wonderful feeling to know we all have each other’s backs.

[@petergenchev1073]

I don't have a lot of friends, but the friends I do have I know are genuine, as we now have many years of friendship behind our backs. My best friend of all time, is my ride or die that I met in first grade 17 years ago. We have been in the same class all the way through until we graduated. She has been with me through all sorts of things and when we are together there is nothing left unsaid, we just not each other better than we know ourselves. It's the one thing I appreciate the most in my life, having this amazing friendship!

[@ThruHerEyez]

This is so great to hear, cause I definitely don't have many girlfriends have always wanted my own girl group. Knowing you got yours later on in your twenties makes me so hopeful xo

[@corrietwinb]

I'm also still trying to find "my people". However, I feel incredibly blessed to have an identical twin sister! She is hands down my favorite person on earth! Growing up, I always had her by my side to endure life's ups and downs. The bond we share brings tears to my eyes. Being in our 30's, we've seen freinds come and go, but at the end of the day, I am forever grateful to be able to call her my best friend! The bond between twins, is magic! 💕💁💁💕

[@Jasante85]

As always I loved this video Lydia, but it was extra refreshing to hear you talk about friendships. I used to be that person who had friends from primary school, but no longer have those relationships in my life. I have a few friends from uni, but am noticing a change in those relationships also even though we still chat but those relationships are going through a transition. I would say my closest friendships were formed in the last 5 years and I met them through church and I’m blessed to have my people who just get me. I have built relationships with a lot of people, but can count the closest ones on my hand. I guess it’s all about quality over quantity! Thank you again for such a wonderful video .xx

[@maddyireland9102]

Thank you so much for talking about this topic Lydia! It's amazing to know that I am not the only one who has felt like this. Throughout school I found it so difficult to find a group of people or even person that I truly gelled with. I always felt out of place and that everyone was so different to myself. Since coming to uni I have found my friends for life, people that are like minded with myself and can laugh with me for hours! People that I know would do anything for me as well as supporting me in everything I do. Everyone is on their own path, you shouldn't worry about your path when you're at a completely different point to the next person. Thank you for inspiring me everyday AND giving me major wardrobe envy! X

[@jesseeec]

I’m a bit older than you and I still haven’t found my crew....I think girls who do not have a strong bond with their mothers have a tough time making girlfriends. Just my theory. Would be interested in what others think 🤔

[@811Bobbi]

Jessica C I agree, my relationship with my mother was a big let down and very turbulent, I think this is why I don’t really trust many women.

[@jesseeec]

Vanity Pommelli 😢

[@811Bobbi]

Jessica C it’s all good tho, I’m making my best efforts to fix my relationship with my mom, and I’m trying to relate more to other women .. hence why I’m on Lydia’s channel and select others 🙂

[@heatherdean7793]

You may be on to something there. Hits a note with me.

[@jilianemorales2074]

Jessica C True! My mother hates me. I ended up hating myself and feeling like I don’t deserve friends sometimes. I think it drives people away. I need to shake this feeling off. I still don’t know how.

[@cc10021]

Hi Lydia, your talk about friends was so inspiring! I'm 28 and i feel the same way about friends right now. I don't feel a connection with my old school friends and sometimes it's so hard to find good friendship.. especially since we moved to Amsterdam. Now i have to start over and i find it very hard. I'm glad i'm not the only one feeling like this. Keep up your good work, i love your video's!

[@lizlittle32]

Know exactly what you mean. I found my best friend in my late 20’s. She’s the friend I always wanted. We are so close and 20 years down the line closer than ever.

[@natalia63623]

Such a relief comes from watching the video and reading the comments. I'm 21 and I still dont have a crew. I used to have in high school for some years and then 2 years another group in college, but there was a lot of backstabing and miscommunication. And i have been so disappointed for so long. I generally get along better with boys than girls because there is a lot less drama, but still I find it so hard making new friends and real connections. I have some acquaintances and some best friends or just friends, but it's not a crew and i dont feel with any of them that real connection that makes you happy spending so much time together. And I see people from high school with their crews and I feel bad, I've wondered if something's wrong with me. So, thank you Lydia for being open and honest, it's a relief knowing im not the only one like this!!❤️

[@lucy3835]

Love this so much! Friendships come in so many different ways. I actually have had a lot of my closest friends since primary and high school. But I’ve always only had a few very close friends all in different groups and from different parts of my life. I always felt odd not having a massive cohesive group because I’m quite a naturally social person. I thought I would find my group at uni. But when I got to uni, I did not fit in at all! I felt like no one was really like me. I had a really strong realisation that all I wanted was to be with those few amazing, close friends that I’ve had forever. I’m still self conscious about not having a big group of friends sometimes. But god I’m so lucky to have the amazing friends that I have, who all bring something different, I know I love and I know love me for the right reasons. Your vlogs are just my fav ever! The ultimate chill out that gives me massive motivation to be my best

[@hannahglover]

Thank you so much for talking about friendships Lydia. I'm super lucky to have an amazing friend who I've known since school, but she now lives in another country. We call and message each other all the time but unfortunately we can't go out and do things together like we used too. I'm currently at uni and haven't met anyone I can connect with and worry I never will. In fact I spent all yesterday worrying about being lonely as I go back to uni soon. But reading through the comments and watching this vlog has truly helped me feel less alone. Hopefully in time I will meet some great friends. xxx

[@gabriellealbon1291]

Loved this video, I felt the exact same at school, college and uni! I’ve got a small circle, my sister, my cousin and two friends that I made on the tail end of leaving school are my people and I wouldn’t change anything ❤️

[@dr-k1667]

Lydia, you are definitely not alone in the not having a crew from the beginning, but what you have show us over the years, is that true friendship ( Carrie) is one of the best things you can ever receive and achieve in life. I love seeing how you two support and take care of each other and I am sure all of your other friends have been part of keeping you lifted up and caring about you like you care about them. The hardest thing is for people to find others who are willing to reciprocate and challenge the other in love and honesty. Things change but truth and love should not be what falls behind. Since these things are so precious and powerful, let us take great delight in seeing what it looks like when others have true friendship and be willing to NEVER settle for less, by being the best friend we are still waiting to meet to ourselves until we meet our crew of one of many. Thank you for sharing and for showing appreciation for the finest things in life that money can't buy.

[@sabrinax6071]

Lydia, I am very happy that you talked about the friendship topic.. I am 23 now and although I've got people I sometimes hang out with and don't really feel like they are my true friends. I often am wondering if I'm weird or if there is something wrong with me because everyone my age seems to have settled down when it comes to friendships. All in all I really feel like my situation right now might be similar to what you've experienced.. Thank you for adressing such an important topic and giving me a little bit of hope! XX

[@stephmarks6877]

Ahhh this video. Such a nice sentiment behind it. It made me think and made me hugely thankful for the people I have around me. I met my bestest friend at school but we didn’t become best friends until we worked together years later. Then we met our other two best friends at a festival years after this. Its one of those situations where I definitely think we were just meant to meet at these points in our lives! This video has just reminded me how grateful I am for them.

[@marion7590]

When you fast forwarded putting the plates in the dishwasher it gave me a real the sims feeling! 😁☀️

[@behape_4evr]

How wonderful Lydia, so happy for you. Don't lose track that the purpose in life is to BE HAPPY! Stay happy!

[@ScreamLadyy]

Lydia I'm in love with your vlogs :) They're so positive and honest. You show us the normal life not the one that is made-up and you're really professional at the same time. Love it and asking for more. Greetings from Poland. Iwona

[@whateverjude]

I found the first group of "my people" when I was 11 and we're going strong since then which over 22 year now 🙌🏾❤️♥️ And I found a true sisterhood group of girls 7 years ago when I started my first real job. I am so grateful for every single friend that God sent into my way 😭😇👼 So so happy and full of gratitude!

[@salliewhite]

This was such a lovely video. Girlfriends are the best no matter when they come into your life. I can't imagine my life without my besties. You and your crew are a wonderful example of how loving, authentic and supportive women can be of each other. Thank you Lydia!

[@bubblemummy1]

Love the vlog! It's so great you've found your forever friends. I think it's true that the friends you make in later life seem to be the ones that mean more. I think it's because you chose to be friends rather than being thrown together through school or work. I had my closest group of friends for 21 years now. We all met at a mother and baby group with our first borns, had our second ones at the same time, and now they've all grown up and doing their own thing which means us mum's have quality time together. We've been through so much shit that parenting brings and always been supportive of each other. I'll cherish their friendship for ever, and I'm so grateful for their love and support over the years!

[@elliecasling4024]

I’ve felt like that from school. Always think I’m never gonna have that friendship group. Glad to see that you don’t have to give up. Xxx

[@sophiebethanyrosexo]

I really needed this video Lydia. I feel the same about friendships in school - I don't feel like I have found the people who I can relate to or who will stand by me when times are tough but hearing your experiences gives me hope that I will eventually find my true friends 🌸💗

[@KarinaSwan]

Not many friends from school will stand through time and life tests. You will find real friends in time :) it happened to me, when I was disappointed with so many who didn't stand by me... Life gave me real good friends when I didn't expect that at all! Be patient :)

[@twishamohin]

I love your "good morning". The free spirited way u say it. Kinda missed it. LOVE UR NO MAKEUP FACE. LOOKING GORGEOUS. N THAT HAIRCUT💘💘💘

[@carolinaprexl3874]

Beautiful words about friendship. Maybe we stay alone because our soul needs to evolve. Once that happen we begin to find our soulmate and real friends too AMEN😊😇🙏

[@victoriamenezes7448]

This vlog was so sweet! I'm also terrible at making friends and general networking, but listening to your words just made me feel hopeful and peaceful about the future.

[@elliecharnley4489]

This chat is so relevant to me right now, it’s like you had read my mind! Thankyou for this video. Ps, I love how you are just un-dramatic and normal!! X

[@anggipradhini4608]

I love your message Lydia, indeed sometimes we dont find our best friend in school. I think being an adult is nicer for me, and make a friend is not easier but when we find one is nicer. Love you and your channel :)

[@kristenburns-temison5140]

Weirdly enough just yesterday I was thinking about whether I’d ever meet new people in my life that I really connect with and who understand me as I am today (as opposed to friends I’ve had all my life who I feel slightly separated from as a result of going to uni, boyfriends and just life in general) and honestly this video struck such a cord with me (totally unexpectedly) and gave me hope that there are still so many more people to meet and more connections to make. Thank you for sharing this ❤️