A hostage negotiator on how to resolve conflict | Karleen Savage | TEDxValparaisoUniversity

[@iwanttolearnjapanese]

Curiosity is not only a great bridge to empathy but the cure for boredom. It is impossible to be bored when you are curious. And there are infinite things to be curious about.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Love this. Thank you for watching.

[@willieajenge5910]

I wish I can just hug her! She a great woman.💪❤️

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Oh my gooooosh; how incredibly kind and generous. I'll take that cyber-hug! Thank you!

[@therealphoebuscommunication]

The fact that she's used these techniques in her personal journey adds a level of authenticity that I really appreciate.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

It's been a truly unusual journey, and I think you can feel that.

[@emma.st.charles]

This is one heck of an example about transferable skills

[@verymarysalisbury]

I never thought about how curiosity plays a role in conflict resolution. It makes so much sense to be open-minded and genuinely interested in understanding the other person's perspective

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

So good to read this. I think that's our real world problem - we don't practice curiosity in conflict - but you found it. Makes me happy.

[@sineadcrawley7754]

Pierced my heart when she said..."what do you want and how would you like to get there" Boom.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Such respect for that feeling. I hear it, feel it and have been submerged in it. Thank you.

[@charliebrownabel]

This really opened my eyes to the importance of resolving everyday conflicts instead of letting them just simmer on the backburner..

[@msbethiebeth]

Overview/Takeaways: 5 SKILLS TO RESOLVE CONFLICT - Curiosity (Unites the rest of the 5 skills) - Their Attitude - Master Listening - Connection - Reframing Curiosity uses plain language with simple intent--"What do you want and how would you like to get there?" If you want to elevate your relationship, get curious. It's for you and them. INTERNAL QUESTIONS FOR YOU TO INVITE VIA CONFLICTS: 1. Did you allow them to have their own story independent of you own? 2. Were you willing to hear their story without the emotional or verbal backlash? 3. Did you allow their story to become a part of the solution? EXTERNAL QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER FOR THEM: Ask questions before people feel hopeless; No prompt from you (No responsive words, actions, and/or sounds). Let them have their story. Hear it without backlash. Take a breath. Then ask questions without prompted responses. (e.g. What would it take to make things right?)

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

🤩 All I can is Wow!! I love that you invested in sharing this! Amazing! Thanks for being part of this @msbethiebeth

[@msbethiebeth]

@@KarleenSavageOfficial great TedTalk!!🙌🏾

[@rustyacton]

Curiosity is a powerful tool in conflict resolution. It allows us to break down barriers and truly listen to the other person's perspective. When we approach conflicts with genuine curiosity, we open the door to resolution and growth

[@iambruteforce]

I never realized how conflict resolution skills can be applied to everyday relationships. It's true, the highest stakes are often in our daily interactions. Curiosity seems like a powerful tool to navigate those situations.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

You get me! The highest stakes that most of us will deal with is within our family, extended family, good friendships, interactions on behalf of those people and ourself. So glad you came by.

[@Tell-Us-Now]

This is such good advice. So many people see arguments as something to be "won" regardless of the impact it has on the relationship.

[@aname5102]

She seems like such a genuine woman. I wish her and her family well.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Ahhh, you are kind. And, I'll take those well-wishes for my family; thank you.

[@taliksharot]

Karleen's story of overcoming challenges in her own marriage through curiosity is so inspiring!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thank you so much. Definitely not easy, but it's pretty powerful to lift us both when we're in a conflict.

[@jazminmotherofdragons4593]

This came at a time I needed to hear it the most. Not to give up. And I won’t!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

You are so strong to claim this! Do it!

[@suonituo]

Karleen's resilience is amazing and an example of what we can do when faced with adversity.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Very kind.

[@abbeylordes7918]

Wow, as a fellow conflict resolver, this talk feels like a nod of recognition. It's like peeking behind the curtain of everyday battles and realizing the power of curiosity in bringing resolution. Time to sharpen those questions!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Ooooo, a fellow!? This is so good! I'm glad to know you join the circle!

[@danabailey3887]

I appreciate how Karleen highlights the importance of curiosity in conflict resolution. It's about genuinely wanting to know and understand the other person's story and that mindset shift can lead to more productive and harmonious relationships.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

It CAN lead to more productive and harmonious relationships!! Yay to us to use it, right!?

[@chezravvy]

Simplifying conflict resolution into five skills is brilliant. It's about time we focus on tangible tools instead of vague theories.

[@lefthandcharlie]

The three questions Karleen shared are a great way to assess our own level of curiosity in conflict. Allowing others to have their own story, listening without backlash, and incorporating their story into the solution can lead to powerful outcomes

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

There are many kinds of curiosity, and I have made these mistakes too many times. Thanks for listening and I hope you find others to share it with.

[@askcesar]

You absolutely crushed this talk, Karleen. I love everything about it. ❤

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Oh my gosh, this is a very special moment for us!!

[@TheRandomnessalways]

@@KarleenSavageOfficialHow awesome Karleen! God is so good. Last time you hosted a live on My Homeschool Village, you had mentioned you were fighting to get them to release your talk. God is so good! You helped me so much during a dark time in my life when my best friend died. Thank you so much Karleen.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

@@TheRandomnessalways Oh my gosh TheRandomnessalways, you warm my heart!!! You are strong and capable! Hugs,

[@rebecca_stone]

Haven't seen an TED talk like this in several years. Authentic and compelling. Thank you

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Warns my heart. Thank you.

[@CyberFlossLord]

This story resonates, I know all too well about how conflicts often hide beneath the surface of our daily lives

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Ooo, yes, it hides, cheats us out of our best relationships too. I can feel this. Thank you for sharing.

[@Psymphonicmonk]

Such a pleasure to listen to - genuine empathy and a great story without any agenda, politics posturing or arrogance. Thank you! TED please pay attention

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

😮 This is such a kind, kind comment! Thank you so much!

[@simone9707]

@@KarleenSavageOfficial Absolutely agree with the above comment. I tend to avoid TED videos for the above reasons but this video is fantastic.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

@@simone9707 !!!!! This makes me happy to know!! Thank you!

[@antlew8077]

This subject needs to be taught in schools in

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

I want to help wherever I can, but more important, thank you for being one of the first to listen.

[@theolsons2265]

The questions posed by the speaker are worth their weight in Gold! Fantastic speaker.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Sweeeet!! Thank you!

[@thomashurbert]

Using Karleen's five step resolution process is a win win for everyone which is the outcome you want.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I think the win/win takes shape in the process and it can end up being something different than we think. Appreciate your comment.

[@yunzhang5041]

Definitely agree about curiosity and communication making all the difference

[@merlemackenzie]

Conflict is intense, all this shows the emotional toll it can take. Will try to remember the curiosity thing because I'm always willing to try a new approach.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

You're willing to try!! Good for you!!

[@pat-j-d]

The struggles of marriage and family dynamics hit close to home. Your approach seems practical, and I appreciate the realness.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thank you, thank you so much.

[@vladkarchenko]

I love her message that conflict resolution is not just about high-stakes situations but also about everyday relationships. Curiosity is the key to building stronger connections and finding resolutions that benefit everyone involved

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

These comments are just so kind. The work is real, but these comments are just so kind. Thank you.

[@Kevin-jc1fx]

This is what a TEDx Talk is supposed to be like. No propaganda, no indoctrination attempt. Just clear and useful ideas that provide a possible solution to real life challenges. This is a true idea worth sharing. Thanks very much.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Such a kind statement.

[@wakeUPdummies]

Propaganda and ideology exist in any and all education. Just saying.

[@avradio0b]

So backhanded XD

[@piratemummy7930]

What a useless, back-handed comment.

[@guntherhofer]

As someone who often navigates interpersonal challenges, this talk is a goldmine. The three questions for curiosity assessment are like a reality check for my conflict resolution skills. Time to rev up the curiosity engine and make some positive changes!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

It's been a Huge reality check for me too. Thanks so much for listening.

[@TrashSmile]

Well said, this is what many people need to learn to deal with conflicts, including myself.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

I'm glad it meant something to you CityHunger999. It's been Huge for me.

[@lynnecousins]

I love the idea of being intentional about learning where the other person is coming from in a conflict. It's a shift from focusing solely on our own position. Curiosity opens the door to understanding and resolution!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Hi there Lynnecousins! Thanks for stopping by and commenting; it means something to me; thank you. This was a huge shift for me too. I remember when I realized how embedded people were in their points of view, including myself, ugh, it hit me like a truckload of bricks being dumbed out on my head! Horrible and epic at the same time.

[@joo-jali]

'Them and you'-a simple yet profound approach to understanding the other side. The call for curiosity-based resolutions is something the world needs more of! Good on you Karleen for spreading a message like this.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Wow, a simple and profound message. I hear you, and thank you.

[@chilled2dmax]

Her story brought me teary eye. To be that compassionate not to make the conflict about what you want. Takes a level of empathy and understanding that I am working on. Thanks for this message

[@wheelerwheeler7586]

❤a

[@wheelerwheeler7586]

❤

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Aren't you so kind; thank you. Keep working on it Kay!

[@chewysbacka]

I wish I had heard this information when I was ten it would have changed my life, thanks Karleen.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Oh WOW! Thank you, and like you, I wish I knew this when I was 10 too! We can change how we view our past using this as well. It's helped me a whole lot!

[@felicityhalette]

I particularly enjoyed the focus on everyday conflicts in this talk... The idea of using curiosity as a resolution tool is intriguing, and the three curiosity questions are like a litmus test for conflict-solving abilities.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Great, great comment. Appreciate your vision and comment.

[@lazerkittythetrue]

I really enjoyed the points she made around the 6 minute mark, about if you let the other person have a story/allow their story to become part of the solution.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

It's so hard to let someone's story become part of the solution - when they're clearly wrong, right? Sometimes, we miss that little nugget. Thanks for the reminder.

[@alexleister]

This talk is like a crash course in saving relationships from the edge. The five skills presented are like a 'relationship toolkit' that anyone should have. It's time to swap 'die-hard' mentalities for curiosity-led resolutions!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

The beauty is everyone has this ability!! It's incredible what happens when it's used.

[@natashaislier]

Karleen's talk touched my heart. It's a reminder that relationships can face immense challenges. Her advice on being intentional and curious is something we all should consider.

[@rheeslewis]

Wow the whole curiosity thin is pretty interesting! I can see how it would benefit all conflicts, from everyday bickering to the more serious stuff.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thanks, and that is why I gave this talk. I gave it because it's how the professionals use curiosity in their field so why not in our everyday lives?

[@izayahmayson]

I couldn't help but chuckle at the Die Hard reference, but this talk drives home an essential point: conflicts lurk in our daily lives. The five skills introduced sound like the ingredients for a real-life superhero. Can't wait to try out curiosity in my next 'high-stakes' conversation!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Gosh, yes, conflicts Do lurk in our daily lives. On another thought, makes me wonder what that superhero would look like. So fun to think about. Thanks for spending time here.

[@swathi5773]

5 skills: Curiosity, gratitude, master listening, connection and reframing

[@sonyarosario7730]

Wow, I am so very impressed with my good friend, Karlene. Great topic and conversation, thank you for that! Sonya

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Hi Sonya! Thank you for taking the moment to visit! It means a lot!

[@xoxo_sushi]

Karleen's talk made me reflect on my own journey. I normally try to avoid conflict but I think reframing it as curiosity could improve my relationships significantly. Thank you Karleen!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Love this! Thank you!

[@ethanblack6413]

Such a great talk Karleen, it makes a lot of sense why all of these things would work. Hoping I remember them in the heat of the moment!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Just remember to ask questions in the heat of the moment. Be willing to fumble and you'll do great. Thanks for sharing your comment.

[@gidi1899]

I realy like the lecture! (compared to majority of lectures around the subject of behavior) And, I'm in the mindset of focusing on learning similar skills. I really appreciate your experience. And I see the best intentions shining from this lecture. And like the lecture closer, we should be left with the idea that we can resolve failed conversations and intention clashes in connections, so please regard the rest of my thoughts as a very small side note to that. --------------------------------------------------- This is how I understood the 5 skills to improve. 1. how to be curious about the process of resolution in a better way? 2. how to better identify attitudes in oneself, ppl, animals, and systems? 3. how to listen in a better way per conversation type? 4. how to garden and experience connections better? 5. how to reframe in the service of shared clarity, better? I want a better word than "curiosity": - the acuracy and multiple usage cases of the word "curiosity" is a problem. - I understand you promote it as backing an intention to listen, or challenge one's logic and decisions, when in a conflicting situation. - I suggest to replace "1." with improving mutual identification of tension with respect to a conversation type. coming from the point of using a conversation as a tool to garden a connection or experience it in combination with a personal issue, I find there is mismatch on conversation type as seen by both sides, and also mismatch can occur between outer and inner-conversation, depending on stress level attached to inner conversation - no sync is possible to a different conversation type until the door is closed on the inner conversation, and sharing the type might allow asistence from the other person to close the inner faster and open a synched conversation. The described faces of curiosity, each, I feel, is a different skill-realm: 1. what is communicated on subjects of interest to me? 2. any question on desire 3. a question-couple: "how to ..?" and a "want to ..?" I respect Question-Types!! A "how" question I feel generates a fundamentaly different process in the brain, than a "why" quesion, or a "want" question. * nothing eliminates the vulnerability of misusing "hope" process with a "what reason contributed to current state" Q&A, when Analyzing or "Admiting-to-self" feels too hard for the mind to process, even though an attempt to admit and analyze will succeed FEAR can force you to lean on hope rather than leaning on the anger that drives finding resolution. And, the seen action is "someone excusing themselves". * every basic behavior uses a basic language and simply described intetions. I don't see the relevance to the lecture, but I trust there is one. * "just ask questions" - see above. But I MUST say "don't force a question down another's person ear, lightly. Since you invoke a process in their mind that might be harmful with respect to current situation, better feel each other for an agreed type of conversation first. And use questions in service of shared intentions, with an aloted time frame for question consideration. certain conversations rely on emotional feedback, context-understanding feedback, and intention support to generate a shared context and mainly TRUST for dealing with issues.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

So much to enjoy in the various comments included here. I think what I loved most is, it has You talking and sharing! Bravo!! And thank you for taking the time and applying the lift for all to enjoy.

[@GenXersJustWalkItOff]

This is transformational... thank you!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thank you, thank you, thank you

[@oscarkluk]

Karleen's personal experience with conflict and her commitment to learning and applying conflict resolution skills is inspiring. It shows that with curiosity and a willingness to understand, we can transform even the most challenging situations.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

I can feel this comment because I lived this comment, and by you writing this, it's like you know I did. Thank you.

[@eddieakpabio]

Loving the idea of personal growth through conflict resolution. It makes a lot of sense that it would help you figure some stuff out about yourself

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Oh, wow, that is so true!

[@imgoingplacestoday]

Another powerful talk filled with useful information that just makes sense.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Love that comment, "...that just makes sense." Love it.

[@nohadiesl]

Your story touched my heart. It's amazing how empathy can transform a relationship.

[@salmacaribbean7362]

Amazingly and heartfelt explained. Thank you

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

My heart is totally in the work. It's made epic shifts for me. Thank you so much!

[@iamdadubdab]

This was pretty eye-opening as I've never thought about conflict resolution in this way. The personal stories add so much depth to the advice as well.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

You know, @iamdadubdab, it's taken me decades to be willing to tell this story. Thanks for noticing.

[@GingerTeaAddict]

I thought my conflict resolution skills were only needed for deciding where to eat with friends. Turns out, curiosity is the new action hero in my quest for drama-free dinners and movie nights!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

The 2nd "action hero" mention. I'm thinking a kids anime? Anyway, here's to hoping your next dinner is drama-free 🙂

[@axelrespert3498]

I'm not entirely convinced about the universal applicability of curiosity, but I'm willing to give it a shot and see how it plays out.

[@riverjaspartile]

As someone who's always wondered about the dynamics behind conflicts, this talk is a treasure trove of insights. The idea of using curiosity as a solution is piquing my interest-time to explore this new avenue!

[@fear_less_2020]

I promise to be a genuine listener and be genuinely curious about my future husband's situation and perspective whenever a conflict happens. I am a solution-orientated person and I was always interested in this topic- how conflicts between people or entities (spouses, siblings, parents, two corporations, two nations fighting, etc.) are resolved. Thanks for sharing your own story, and your genuine love for your husband that you developed over time by being genuinely curious about his perspective of things. I am sure he must have reciprocated the same because good communication goes both ways. Thanks for giving us this golden gift of good communication and granular steps of solving a conflict. This lesson has been etched permanently in my heart now. I pray to God that I meet my loving husband soon, I promise to cherish him for my life. Sending you my utmost regards from Seattle, Washington 🇺🇲 and Jaipur, India.🇮🇳

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Oh wow, thank you. Your heartfelt post... wow.

[@janetslicer3637]

Well worth listening to, no matter how great you think your communicating skills are. I am glad I listened.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Wow, your comment means a lot Janet; thank you for listening.

[@bryanestelle]

i like the asking questions stuff, that makes sense.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Powerful questions can come through the tone of asking too. You get it!

[@aerosiskell]

Yeah absolutely, curiosity is important for so many facets of a relationship, makes sense conflict would be one of them

[@beverlystillwater]

I'm intrigued by the way this talk brings 'everyday' high-stakes conflicts into focus. Curiosity emerges as the hero in a world full of relationship villains, fancy that!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Yes, yes, fancy that!! Thank you for visiting and commenting!

[@DrJillianRigert]

Incredible talk, Karleen! Thanks for sharing your message and personal journey. Your delivery was powerful.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Oh wow, thank you Jillian. Thank you.

[@sarahstaley6407]

So powerful! ❤

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Holy wow; thank you!

[@jrambo7495]

Love me some Bruce Willis!!❤️❤️ LEGENDARY!!!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

😅😅😅 to your Bruce comment!! Such a good actor!

[@chloeanne4473]

This is really helpful but only if you care about saving the relationship with the other person, sometimes they royaly mess you up where it’s not worth it to resolve

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

You said it, Chloe, "...only if you care about saving the relationship..."! I needed to save myself, but I didn't know it at the time. I think I needed, I know I needed the curiosity more than anyone else. So glad for your comment.

[@ellasoriginalchannel9713]

100% agree. My fear response is usually to freeze or fawn, mostly fawn. When I get real scared of the other party, I try to please them to minimize abuse. That includes becoming extremely diplomatic to a point where I no longer have any boundaries.

[@baileyteranirt9528]

I appreciated this talk because it made me curious about the conflict I have with my mother and how I can use that [curiosity] to find a solution.

[@IAmScoobeyDamIt]

I really appreciate having conflict resolution broken down into practical skills like this! I hope I don't need them too often haha but I'm excited to try out the three questions in my next argument.

[@sepchaster]

This is great, I feel genuinely motivated to be more curious in my relationships.

[@amandalouks8170]

Incredible! So accurate!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

WOW! Thank you!!

[@TheyCallMeYellowGello]

This talk is awesome - so many great practical tips for navigating conflict, thanks Karleen.

[@Rin-ig3ci]

... I forgot... what it feels like for someone to say to me "what do you want?", even if worded differently, I can't remember the last time someone even bothered to ask me that. Let alone how I want to get it. ...just hearing her say it made me fall to pieces..... I've had countless fights with my own family for all kinds of reasons, it eventually got to the point that each time I tried to put in the effort to get closer to them they were determined to push me further away, it didn't matter how much I swallowed my own voice so I could try to understand them because they just didn't seem to care about anything more than using and abusing me. I was ready to disown my family 7 years ago, and each month that has gone by since then has only made that feeling even stronger. I've never had someone tell me that I'm a bad person, but it really makes me wonder sometimes where the monster is coming from, if not from me, and not from my family, then where? So, while I absolutely support this video and everything she said, I also must say that it greatly moved me, but I believe that a resolution of conflict must require at least some amount of effort on both sides. When one person just keeps pushing and pushing and pushing while also admitting they have no clear reason to stand behind what they are pushing, you can certainly ask questions, listen to them, and try to understand them but they will never be satisfied, even if they get what they asked for. As much as I believe in harmony, cooperation, and understanding; that does not mean the other person does or is even willing to listen or that their idea of resolution is safe or fair. And I say that even if they get what they wanted they may still not be satisfied, because what they say they want is not always what they really want or choose to act towards. What they want may actually be exactly the opposite of what they ask for. But I can't speak for everyone, just from my own experience, I suppose not everyone is as bad as the people I have come to know. In fact, more often than not, instead of facing the need for a resolution for anything, I have known people who actually choose to run away more than they ever try to push back. The second I start speaking plainly, frankly, and such they try to change the subject, run off, or starting getting emotional about it before we can even discuss anything. All I do is ask about something or bring up something and everything just seems to go haywire. I don't know if I appear cold or if it's something else, but it certainly makes it difficult to resolve anything if the other person never wants to stick around and even mention the subject. Whether their scared of me or I'm doing something wrong, I can't figure it out when the only people I have conflicts with are either drama queens or the queen of heart's. 🤷‍♂️ .....I love win-win stuff, i get the greatest joy out of solving problems and taking on the challenges that come with them and I'll even go extremely out of my way to turn it into a win-win-win-win-win situation, but not everyone wants that apparently 🤨🤔🤷‍♂️ When a person wants a resolution, they don't actually want a literal "resolution", they just want to get exactly what they want, when they want to get it, exactly as they want to get it and any resistance at all to that is unforgiveable even after they get what they want. Then, even if they do get what they want, it probably won't be the end of it, they'll keep asking for more, and each time you give into that you are consenting to their control over you. That's abuse and manipulation. Which is why I say that true conflict resolution requires BOTH parties to be willing to achieve a true resolution, not a dictatorship.

[@Nyc99]

I agree, she was on surface with emapths if you get conflict , since empaths would care about ea feelings, try that with narc, Lord yiu can work on it to resolve for 20 y minimum

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Isn't it interesting how we can hear something and it feels almost like a spike driving a message through!? You deserve to be asked, even if it begins with you doing the asking, Rin. Do you know what you want?

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Hi, You've added more detail, and it seems as problems get bigger the original target of conflict becomes invisible. I have so many thoughts, but if I could encourage anything, go to someone and just ask questions. No facial expressions, no comments, just ask. Try it on someone that generates less tension just to see how you feel asking questions, coming up with them and how the other person responds. My heart is in it with you.

[@veekay9900]

Thank you...

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thank YOU!

[@TheSpacePineapple]

She raises some really interesting points, wish she had elaborated on some of them a bit more though!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

True, but you could always come take a course with me 🙂. So hard to tell everything in 11 minutes.

[@omarputal]

Sharing this, I have family who needs to watch it

[@ZANAHEALING]

Thank you for sharing vulnarably❤

[@ihavedeepfeelings]

Our everyday relationships can all benefit from resolving the differences that keep us at odds with each other.

[@Bee-Trek]

Her emphasis on personal growth through conflict resolution makes me think about how I've handled disagreements in my own life...

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

That was the real change for me. It was how I looked at my own life, my own behaviors, and decisions. It's the whole 20/20 vision.

[@julestempest]

Karleen's emphasis on curiosity in conflict resolution is a game-changer. Instead of digging into our own positions, we should strive to understand the other person's perspective. It's a powerful way to foster connection and resolve conflicts.

[@PiaLoveBSNRNCCBTP]

Thank you for sharing!❤❤❤❤

[@Love.Angeela]

Powerful advice ❤

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thank you for listening Angela; thank you.

[@Bostonceltics1369]

Im excited to try being more curious in this way, thank you.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Oh my gosh, yes, be more curious in this way.... feel free to come back and share your amazing win (do it for 15-minutes). Wishing you success.

[@AFitTraveler]

This was actually very good to hear... well done.

[@piperdee8965]

It certainly makes a difference when you come to the table amicably with a positive intention. All to often that's not the case.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Isn't that a wonderful and hopeful idea! I love it! I wish that would be my story as well, but until then, this helped me understand much more than what was on the surface. Thank you for sharing your comment.

[@bukurie6861]

Thank you!You are talking so stirring and story that are every day about us!❤Congratulation😍🌏

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

I feel this; thank you for being here and watching!

[@DollThrone]

Haha, your joke about "Die Hard" scenarios made me chuckle! But seriously, I'm keen to see how I can apply these skills to everyday disagreements.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

For me, I had to get out of my own way to make it work in my own disagreements. I had to do that before the skills would work. Thanks for noticing the joke too!

[@Slow-steady]

I like , if you want to elevate your relationship get curious about what others see and feel!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts here too. It means something.

[@kristinabuscema9369]

Very inspiring!! Thank you so much for sharing!!❤

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

You are so welcome Kristina. Thank you for listening.

[@kristinabuscema9369]

@@KarleenSavageOfficial 💜💚 my pleasure 🤗

[@marioborg4952]

Wow!! Thank you!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thank you to you too!!

[@1edty]

So many awesome points to think about in this one!

[@swilson543]

Thank you.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

You are so welcome; I'm glad you were here too.

[@JudesViews]

Beautiful and intelligent, bless her 🥰

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

[@TheRandomnessalways]

Yay Karleen! This is awesome. We miss your live videos on MyHomeschoolVillage!

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Aren't you sweet! Thank you; I hope you were able to watch :-)

[@funnytv-1631]

When you feel exhaustion setting in, it is time to withdraw and restore yourself. If you feel demoralized, it is best to pause and recenter instead of acting from a place of depletion. If you can find time to unplug, do it. Reconnect with yourself in a big way if you can. And if you can’t, you can still recenter through tiny steps. Reclaim your first mountain here in Fabulous by committing to hydration, rest, nutrition, and movement, even in the tiniest amounts. Keep at it, and a natural rebalancing will begin.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

As I write and think of you Laika, it's 11pm and I'm thinking "rest" in the back of my mind. But your comment, so good. Thank you for listening to my talk.

[@funnytv-1631]

@@KarleenSavageOfficial welcome

[@laviniasnow4494]

Such insightful information. Much appreciated! 🙂

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

I appreciate you seeing/hearing something in it. I appreciate you watching!

[@MotifMusicStudios]

Great topic and super interesting, valuable listen.

[@MotifMusicStudios]

LOVE that you highlight the necessity of learning these skills for the every day ordinary with high stakes of their own.

[@MotifMusicStudios]

Also, sending compassion for the pain you've navigated.

[@MotifMusicStudios]

"Will you allow their story to become part of the solution." - absolutely powerful.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Thank you for listening, and opening your heart for the messages you can share too.

[@luisbrezer]

This is such an interesting talk and I'm curious to see how these skills can transform everyday disagreements into opportunities for growth and understanding.

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

All I can say to answer your thoughts is, try it. Pretty profound.

[@billiejeanbrasier]

I found this so interesting! Not sure I could keep my tone neutral and sounding genuinely curious when my emotions are running high though...

[@traviswadezinn]

Very useful and insightful - thank you

[@KarleenSavageOfficial]

Absolutely, glad to have shared with you! Thank you for listening Travis!