A letter to my exes....

[@faryl.2826]

"I have a feeling you guys are keeping your ear out for someone in particular" HAHA damn i felt like i was caught redhanded. Okay miss amber lol

[@AmbersCloset]

😂😂

[@nikerawhyte5985]

even thou she said tht, it was still obvious about tht "someone". if she didn't add one the marriage part on the last one we wouldn't know which one out of the last two. but bcuz she did, I kno

[@jnailard9669]

Amber which one is amber damn it

[@mskatrina3000]

Anybody else just want to listen out about Kiarra?

[@AmbersCloset]

What did you learn from past relationships? Love you guys❤️

[@Saichii26]

Ambers Closet thanks for sharing this amber. :)

[@savannadutton7342]

Ambers Closet don't reply on other people for your happiness. Love yourself!

[@princesanery2151]

Ambers Closet I love you so much Amber's

[@karmahherring5782]

I learned that not everyone is down for you like they said they are.

[@simonerenee4581]

Ambers Closet Once a cheater always a cheater, don't waste another second on them!

[@issmanoureen8152]

"u feel me"😂😂 she always says that NOT BEING RUDE

[@AmbersCloset]

Always lol

[@Wilma.Flintstone]

Don't stop saying it! I love it :)

[@KiarraSays]

🤔

[@nekgetsfit]

right

[@1211Brittany]

Had me thinking too...🤔

[@michaela5404]

DUH 🤔🤔🙂

[@chan2009ify]

damn. ..

[@mataafa5c]

okay but ilu

[@MarciaLovelyy]

#3 .. you forgot to mention she is fine as hell! 😏

[@SDotCole]

J. Cole said "she don't wanna be saved don't save her" and that ws my issue back then with my exes. i always tried to save them, but they didn't want to be saved which ended up with me being hurt in the end. i put so much time and effort trying to help and they just leaned on me at the time but oncenthey got an ounce of confidence went off with the games. it was a good learning experience and taught me a lot

[@taytay9581]

I used to harbor resentment for my exes for breaking my heart and such but now I am glad it happened because it allowed me to make changes to myself that were much needed and realize that the relationships i was in were extremely unhealthy and toxic and allowed me to make my way to the beautiful relationship I have now :) so i thank them now. they changed me for the better and now my life is 100% better because of the changes made.

[@TheMamalindsz]

This was beautiful!!!!!! ❤️I had an idea for you Amber as a video idea possibly .... Something along the lines of self love and letting go. How to start the process as well as maintains it ... But I love how positive and optimistic you are with everything you do. You continuously inspire me to follow suit . Love you so much!!! ❤️

[@Classejouvence]

Nice to see you keep hustling bruh!! The main thing that I have learned is that I have to take 100% responsibility instead of thinking that everything is 50/50. I have learned a lot from my past relationships and I think that my wifey is benefitting from it now❤️

[@enchantedspirit9265]

I feel like your calling is to be a motivational speaker. I really do Amber.

[@wheeltont]

enchanted spirit she is a motivational speaker and it's a panel member for#lgbt

[@enchantedspirit9265]

Ok tonya thanks

[@e.williams6874]

enchanted spirit Don't you listen to the noise about this being #LBTG channel. Its a public forum. I agree with that Amber is a form of motivational speaking. Although she may be speaking on matters that are personal to her, which is lesbian in nature because she is a lesbian, her message can be seen or used universally. I don't know Amber but she seems real and just might agree with me.

[@enchantedspirit9265]

I feel you lisa

[@michellea.6709]

I learned an X is an X for a reason!!! No going back!! .... Amber you did this with class and mad respect for your ex's!! :)

[@selinamo6769]

I enjoyed this video a lot. I love that you didn't bash your exes. Everything in life is a lesson and I am happy that you saw it that way as well. I am so happy for you and where you are in your life. I was in a very abusive relationship with a girl that would always put me down or make me feel guilty for liking certain things. But now I am with the love of my life and she showed me what true love is and how someone should be loved.

[@zabp5150]

NOTIF SQUAD!!!! love you so much! I'm currently in a relationship with a girl i really like. We just started dating but I kind of feel like I should cut it off because her effort isn't matching mine. Maybe I'm giving too much? Idk. I've talked with her about it and she says she'll do better so my question is do I stay and wait because I feel like we're going to be something great and we just started dating or do I cut it off now?

[@AmbersCloset]

I've been in that position MANY times. Once I get to a point where I feel like I'm giving too much and the effort isn't being matched, I have a conversation and give them the opportunity to work on it, BUT I set a deadline in my head for how long that I will wait for them. But u have to be patient and give them the chance to show u. Sometimes people show u effort in different ways. If you don't see it...u gotta look out for yourself and BOUNCE!!

[@zabp5150]

Thank you so much for replying! I literally fangirled haha but actually thank you so much. I agree 100% I'll def set a deadline and remain patient bc I really do see something great with her. But, if it never comes I'm dipping! Thank you for your wisdome, love you so much!

[@shenekab.589]

Amber, I've been waiting for you to release this video. After I watched Ari's video it hit my heart and I started discussing this topic with my best friend. I realized that ppl come into your life for a reason or just for the season. Either way, you learn a lot about you and how to better yourself moving forward. It is extremely hard for anyone to face there flaws, and imperfections. You guys are facing these head on by completing this video. There should never have any regret in life. No one is perfect. We all learn from our mistakes. Also by being in a relationship, does not erase the previous experiences or other ppl we've shared our lives with. These are lessons that should be carried throughout life. ❤

[@betheamelinda]

"You Feel Me"-Love you Amber

[@BeeAnn527]

this is pure and honest. Nothing negative about anyone. i dig this

[@l3elicia]

That was done so eloquently!! I know which one was u know who, but overall...that was well done. What I took away from this is that every one of our ex's are in our lives for many different reasons and we need to stay positive and learn from the experiences. This made me not want to focus on the negatives and look at why we were in a relationship to begin with. Also, understand the reason why it didn't work instead of holding hatred in our hearts. Nicely done Amber. Sn: We are b day sisters!!!!!! & I love watching you!! (And I'm not even a lesbian... what you say speaks volumes and even touches us in the straight community as well 😉)

[@AmbersCloset]

Thank you Bianca!! And yeahhh Virgo Bday sisters🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@zahreahharris1398]

Amber your such a inspiration love you❤️

[@AmbersCloset]

❤️❤️

[@baileywu9004]

Definitely learning from my past relationships right now and trying to take what I've learned and grow from it. It's hard, but so necessary in life. Props to you Amberrrrr

[@andersontyler794]

I needed this video! Preach Amber!! I feel like a lot of the time I stayed blaming my exes for why we didn't work out, , but I played a big part as well. Every relationship you go through good or bad their is a lesson to be learned. I realize that now being 23 oppose to 19. Take that lesson with you through your other relationships that you encounter.

[@karlanunez8118]

This helped a lot in a way where you can reflect on your past with a significant other, very relatable as well & im glad I'm able to see someone respect past relationships & I loved the perception of the way she saw things instead of seeing it the way most people see it in negative way!

[@Sunnymon3y]

I've been seeing you with these faux locs forever. . I actually want to see your natural hair , I know it's gorgeous. . you should make a vid showing it

[@michellea.6709]

Go back to her old vlogs with her X, She always wore a cap!! :)

[@ShebrewQueen]

PrettyBaller 92 She always wore her natural hair.

[@lorenzqupid3591]

PrettyBaller 92 Yea, I'm wondering if you're actually trying to get have real dreads some day or are you just wanting this hairstyle for now? I've always wondered because, I was so use to your natural curly hair. I love the faux locs though. They fit you.

[@ladyredbonelezboidgaf7874]

Lorenz Qupid that wasn't her natural curly hair! Ijs 😅shhh...😐

[@Sunnymon3y]

Lorenz Qupid u confusing the hell out of me with the first part of ur comment.. are u talking about me bc yes I'm growing locs and it's not a hairstyle for now n I don't nor never had faux locs

[@susiesays5695]

I really enjoyed this video, Amber. I agree, that people come into our lives at the right time for us, and stay as long as we need them (even though we may not feel that at the time). We should never regret any relationships; instead, we should take a look at them and figure out what was the lesson to be learned from each one. Put these lessons all together, and eventually we're ready for "the one"! X

[@SheynaLynn]

I commend you for posting this! It takes a lot to do this ... I hate break ups bc I see forever in anyone that I date but it's life. You weren't disrespectful of your past or of your present relationship. (It's wrong for your subscribers to tag or mention anyone- none of their business) I personally NEVER discuss my experiences or lessons learned to my exes bc they usually are involved "already" and I don't like interfering with anyone's present but I value every experience and wish them the best in life. I deal with my heartbreak on my own . Love is never lost and I'm always here if needed. My Love remains unconditional but respectful!

[@mikhalmiller7962]

I love the delivery of this video! Yes time heals all but when you get to the point of being happy again and wish them nothing but the best. This is how I feel your attitude should be toward your ex. ☮

[@chelsearea8534]

Does anyone else find Amber so attractive? I mean damn 😍

[@besosdesdeelpoeta]

Amber. I love the fact that most of this was uplifting and not negative. Even when it was bad. 👌🏽💯💜

[@Immis_snow_globe]

why is it the most passionate relationships/connections tend to be the ones with communication lacking? ...I have a theory. But its interesting how that happens.

[@deannacamille31]

immi's snow globe what's your theory? I'm curious to know.

[@AmbersCloset]

Yea what's the theory??

[@_serenity3298]

immi's snow globe Relating alot to this right now, please state your theory.

[@JustCoriana]

Girl we gone need that theory stat 👀 this could save a life don't hold out on us boo 😅

[@intentionalmami]

Right.. I'm waiting

[@jEsSiiKaRaBbiiT]

love how honest you are!!! love you amber

[@elenal.1683]

This video is beautiful...u showed how mature u are u said good things about every ex you had and tried to understand what went wrong instead of saying bad things about them love you amber 👌🏻❤

[@p.a.p.]

thanks so much for sharing your stories - i'm going through the coping process of the breakup almost exactly like the one with the ex of yours that had too much personal stuff going on to put any stock in your relationship and you ended up feeling alone. like, same mood! so i really appreciate this & you, ♥

[@srwsrw86]

bold vid. love the risk taken. growth earned. love the lessons. you're completely right that we are a sum of all our previous experiences. yay on the sponsorship!

[@Cbleueyes]

YOUR MAKE UP IS STUNNING!! IM SO HAPPY THAT YOU HAVE SO MUCH RESPECT FOR A RELATIONSHIP. XOXO

[@unathi4782]

Wow! What you're saying makes a lot of sense...very loyal of you(beginning of vid).

[@l3elicia]

Una Annie Ngema I definitely agree.

[@chan2009ify]

Gotta respect the honestly and maturity. 👌🏽

[@Saichii26]

it's true. despite the awful past it's meant to mold you for who you should be now. 😏 this really made us feel like we know you amber despite us just being fans you make us feel like we are really part of your life.❤ stay awesome girl. it really takes a lot of guts to do this and I admire all you've said. we can really see how much you respect them. 😊

[@ChrissyAaliyah]

Tastefully done.

[@AmbersCloset]

Thank you🙏🏽

[@sandj6419]

I just feel like you should have started or ended #3 with she's fine af.

[@lovelyperson9796]

Same dont regret meeting any of my ex's because in each in those relationships i learned something in each and my main issue in all of them they werent putting in as much effort as me we would start to drift apart and would end all hurting me or cheating on me . And now with my new woman i did call her girl for a reason even tho im 16 but she treated with such respect and like me she loved to make me happy and big gifts or long paragraph about how much she loves me and we both put in so much effort to just me each other smile . And i really dont regert meeting my ex's because now i know what a healthy relationwhip looks and feels like so Amber you right i REALLY HAVE SO MUCH RESPECT FOR AMBER AND I ALL WAYS WILL LOVE YOU STAY WONDERFUL😭👌❤

[@bl00dych3rryblossom]

Thank you Amber. You're freakin right! I was going through a slump recently cause of someone in my past but this helped me.

[@TheAlreadytaken24]

This was almost 100% how I feel about my exs .. Men and Women.. I think we all want to feel/find peace and this was 100% done well.. I've learned so much over time about myself... I've been in more relationships with women recently and it's been amazing but difficult.. sometimes I just wish we all knew we are fighting the same battle.. which is hurt and pain and if we realize that we would be a little more cautious to hurt each other.. even after everything I've been through I still think relationships are beautiful.. but only when two individuals are honest, open, willing to listen, transparent and more.. I guess we needed to learn it's not you vs me.. but us vs the problem.. finding solutions and not faults in each other.. this video.. was idk.. very deep.. vulnerable and raw.. appreciate this..

[@lynnethmorales4951]

I miss you with your 2nd to the last x I knew it's her and until now I'm still watching your old videos with her..

[@Eve_B]

I just started subscribing to your channel (stumbled through a video of you ari and another teaching lap dance moves) since i wanted to learn some for my girlfriend's surprise. I just want to commend you for being brave and comfortable talking about your exes. Which says a lot about how your maturity improved and how much you have learned with people from your past. It's always a good thing knowing that you are grateful to people regardless on how the relationship turned out. I am now officially a fan. 👍😊

[@aqueenspleasures]

I can see why you were so hesitant to make this video. I would like to see another version of it in 5 years when you have had time to really reflect on "that relationship" your letter spoke a lot about why you broke up as apposed to what you learned from it like you did with the others but it's your most recent so it makes sense and anything else may be misinterpreted.It atleast gave the die hard fans a better understanding of what happened and I must admit my assumptions of what happened were so wrong😊 Very nicely done nonetheless❤ How did you breakup with the two ladies? was it a three way breakup? interesting.

[@faydoha]

It is still so surreal to me that you and Kiarra broke up. I am generally good at reading relationships and can tell if it will last, I miss this one. Glad that you both are cool though and have found a way to coexist.

[@wiletrastewart]

I still miss you and kierra together I love her and you...but I'm Happy if your happy amber

[@Singer4eva12345]

Ugh I miss you being with kiarra 😫

[@aishiah438]

if i had to do a letter to my ex's I'd definitely thank them. I have learned soooo much mainly to make sure I don't put everything in at once. Which makes my current relationship da BOMB cuz we continuously learn new things about each other everyday.

[@PatriciaCarvalho0]

I can relate sooo much. Moved cities (countries) for my ex that was going through some difficult times, I wanted to be there supporting, I wanted so bad. You love that person so much you believe in what you have, but when life happens and people break down, I guess that's when you really see how strong the relationship is and how much you mean to each other. And I agree with you, no downing the exes. Once upon the time you loved them, the respect should alway be there. They were the right people at the time, until they wasn't anymore ✌

[@reginaregina2494]

The 3d is Kiarra.

[@Piecesoftheshadow]

Nothing childish about open relationships. We're all different and like different types of relationship. It's nice that you were able to share that with your viewers, as well as your other experiences.

[@lolatyoutaylorvuelvas630]

I love you and Ava and love you and Ava's Channel!💗💗💗💗💗

[@AmbersCloset]

Thank u❤️❤️we're posting a video on there tomorrow!

[@JazzFlow1000]

That is truly respectful!! Much Respect Amber ✊🏾

[@chynagreen5622]

This is super mature of you. Seriously, much respect for this 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@triamoore2931]

I completely understand and thinking about it agree with you about saying negative shit you say about your ex's after a break up is a bad look but speaking from experience the negativity comes from a hurt and disappointed place when you invest and sacrifice so much and it goes so bad it hurts because where there's a certain type of sacrifice you have different expectations honesty and communication falls in that category.... But again you're right and I like the way you handle this video

[@kay_elle_tee]

From my past relationship I learned that I have the capacity within myself to fully love and care about another person in ways that I've never imagined. She also taught me how to love myself a whole lot more than I was doing and I can never thank her enough for that. She taught me that it's okay to open up and trust the right people, because there's many people who care about me. Although things ended on a rocky road between us, I still appreciate and respect her for what we had and the pure moments we spent together.

[@jsc2991]

you did great with this video Amber. thank you for this

[@msbluubee]

that a good breakup cry is okay and healthy. if the relationship is not feeding you properly - know your self worth and exit.

[@indiadanielle4047]

Don't @ me BUT I feel like all of these are about Kiarra. Just spread out and mixed into other relationships 🤔

[@tessathomas1634]

I just came from a point from my ex. We had a strong bond we loved each other so much . I was still not grown into the person was suppose to be. I ended up hurting her so much not only her but myself because I lost her . I don't regret the relationship because it helped me grow into who I am suppose to be. Like you said I believe she was here in time to help me grow into who I'm suppose to be. She wasn't meant to stay in my life forever .

[@tiffie7524]

What I've learned from my ex's is that the moment u start 2 feel that your giving in action wayyy more than the other person let it go U shouldn't have 2 keep reminding a person 2 b in their job When the thrill is gone let it go Your not married so u don't have 2 stay & try 2 work it out especially if marriage is not on the table Don't allow time 2 pass u by bc your afraid 2 leave Don't allow that person 2 take from u 2 the point that u have nothing left & now don't know how 2 start over in your next life

[@real4714]

Preach girl Preach 🙌👏

[@AmbersCloset]

🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@mr.snuffleupagus824]

I tag kiara in this challenge

[@ANewFeel]

Shiiiiiit! My video would need a part 1 and 2 smh 🤦🏽‍♀️ lol

[@jaydecorrine9887]

I'm going through number 3 right now... It's so hard... especially when your married. 5 years of us being together and 2 years of marriage. I try so hard to be there for her. I don't think she is ready for any of this. ughh

[@dynastyhutchins7615]

This kind of gives me a "13 reasons why" vibe but in a positive way of course lol. I like it :)

[@KameshaGordon]

Amber idk if it's just me or what but number 3 is so obvious 😂 if I am right after 5 seconds I knew who you were talking about and I guessed you would put her as number 3 idk why lol

[@ErikaDraeug]

congrats on the sponsorship Amber!

[@alyssamartinez3022]

Omg ❤️❤️ yessss Amber!!! Everything happens for a reason and you guys are beautiful together.

[@TeeTeesAtItAgain]

Who else saw Amber on TV today? I was so proud and so excited to see her on TV. #GetTested #Logo #Tv #AmbersCloset

[@erikajohnson9128]

You are amazing Amber! I wish you all the best on your endeavors.

[@kylaknight3655]

Rebuild your brand for what you love, not what you think we wanna watch. We are here for you! Keep walking in your light! Looking fwd to seeing what's next XO

[@cynthiar1977]

Lol girl you knew folks would be lookin for tea in this video, but yeah this is a great idea though. I am going to do a letter to my exes in my journal tonight.

[@lance3826]

I agree with you Amber I learned that over the years too some people are just meant to come in your life for certain reasons and then your suppose to move but also you learned something from it so I'm a way I thank all my ex's cuz it lead me to the beautiful woman I'm with today

[@ShebrewQueen]

I don't know why it seems you only look "right" with Kiarra. No disrespect to the current. But, you and Kiarra need to figure it out.

[@sweetknicely4772]

I learned to speak up an that it's okay if someone is mad at u an the world won't end. I also realized I had some things to work on personality wise bc I could be a mean bitch an I'm proud to say ive changed not only bc they opened my eyes to those issues but for myself so I thank them for that.

[@abbiegardner723]

Fuck, some of these are so relatable! Totally agree with you that people come into our lives for a reason. Loved this video xx

[@karlietiffany8452]

Yes! I love this! People come into your life for a blessing or lesson. Its up to you to recognize the difference.

[@niaboo317]

kiera is #3 I think

[@chan2009ify]

Nia Orr Yep!

[@ZZ-mh2nv]

Nia Orr yep. she is

[@deediaz2837]

YES..it was obvious..the last one is the crazy ex lol

[@Sunnymon3y]

I could've sworn it was the sweet one

[@phillygyrl34]

Nia Orr you on the money

[@annpayton]

That moment when I had an Ex-Factor relationship, ugh! "I keep letting you back in - Loving you is like a battlefield, how can I explain myself - It ain't working"...

[@10williamso]

Loved this video from start to finish. Very interesting and very honest.

[@OhhHeyGab]

Appreciate the fact that you did this I matter how hard it was for you

[@steph33710]

Amber your such an inspiration, thank you for your videos. ❤️

[@shelldraw5051]

I've learnt that if you don't love yourself first you wound the person you're trying love.

[@megnalxndr1]

I absolutely love your channel, and you!

[@msj8009]

Wow it's amazing how a song, movie or now this video speaks to me. I've been checking out your videos with you and now Ava Pearl for a month now and I must say you'll are so cute and make an adorable couple. I wish I was in your age group so we can hang out, but maybe you have an older friend who is looking for love. I was 30 when I started to feel for women and I must say I was so confused. It's been 20 years so now I know it's not a phase. My last relationship really took me for a loop because I never meant for it to happen, but when it ended I didn't realize how much I loved that person. It took me five years to shake it off. Than I met a couple (man/woman) that tried to make me their mistress. Like you said we can learn from all of our relationships and to point figures won't take the love/pain or experience away. All I've ever wanted is to be Happy and I am. I totally get what you mean by entertaining others while your with the one you love. It's flattering but so quickly you can fall in a hole and it's hard to get out. I know I'm alittle late with my comments, but I do appreciate your channel and when I come to LA at the end of next month hopefully I'll run into you'll just to give you a big hug and say thank you for sharing. I normally use KZbin to fix my car, do a home project... but I've never watched a channel like this. Keep being progressive, productive and Love Miss. Ava until the wheels fall off. Peace lil mamma

[@vashtigooding135]

aye amber girl the same what u saying with exes saying"I always say that to I always say I learn to from my exes n help embrace n think more of I'm doin, so yea u always making gud advice I love that bout greeting from Grenada 💙 keep up the vlogs ....

[@brendadiaz3750]

They make us a better person as well and learn from our actions that we did wrong or communication goes wrong at times

[@kazbarthemagnificent2052]

Kiarra is definitely number 3

[@frankiesnap6646]

I feel you Amber. I feel like I can take your letters to your exes and use it as advise. You an inspiration to all your fans. 😘😘

[@DWORLD-do6sy]

growth. very deep.

[@evable987]

oh im excited!

[@leafme-do1wx]

The passionate lover is me for my ex. It just all sounded to familiar. those are the words I wish I could hear from her. I'm still unsure if it was real for her. I'm still healing going on two years soon. Anyways... Amber I'm glad you're sticking around much love 💋✌

[@harajukuLoverrrrr]

''It doesn't look good for you BRUH'' Hahaha! Talking negatively about an ex is not a good look, true dat!

[@dramaking2943]

i luv u so much Amber such an Inspirational person

[@ajones21606]

Ok we all know Amber moved for Kierra 😒 but she IS a strong sweet beautiful independent woman and it is taking time for her to get over this relationship I dont think this helps but s/o to Kierra you are going to be good gorgeous! love you too Amber. lol

[@actuallykaren850]

I no they are not together anymore, I miss them as a couple, they were amazing to watch It's nice to see amber happily single and embracing life It's also wonderful to see kiarra so happy and with a baby boy I think kiarra may have been 3 Miss watching you guys Pleased your both doing well in your own lives now.

[@anna369garcia]

i loved the honesty, darling, keep it up, pleaase!

[@linnaebailon3180]

That was such an awesome video, a lot of the things that were said, is exactly how I felt at different times in my own life with some people that I have dated. Stay cool Amber !! # new fan