Attraction Neuroscientist: "Men Who DESIRE You Will Do This"- BEST Advice To Find Love | Tara Swart

[@LisaBilyeu]

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[@YovanaGavarrete]

I enjoyed her speaking about hormones and how cordisol can be excreted out of our body. How it affects humans. I'm also a Massage therapist so when she spoke about human touch and how it is so important. It also made me ponder on how hormones also affect my clients and I. That there has to be a balance.

[@stephanier6783]

The sad mark of social media success: scammer using fake profile to scam your followers who perceive a level of trust/value for the content you post. Sad fact...

[@nadia92aidan47]

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[@leilawiebe5092]

My husband of 33 years left our marriage in 2020. He was having as affair with another woman from his office. He was CEO-she was Exec Secretary. They are still together. We both were surrounded by friends who are in long term relationships. Both sets of our parents had long time marriages. So many people around us said they could never have predicted that we would be divorcing. I always believed we could work on things and get back together. But he left without ever wanting to discuss the pain, or the problems we had within the relationship. I did delve into the work that I needed to do on myself. Lots of counselling, so much reading, prayer, trust and self-inspection. I have recently met an amazing man. He loves me in a way I never knew was possible. I think God for the journey. I would never have left on my own. God moves things out of the way that no longer serve you.

[@patriciaactis]

Thank you for sharing your story, Leila❤!

[@Sheba_316]

❤Leila. All the best for the future.

[@susanagarcia9646]

When things go, better things come. Congratulations😊

[@vickibazter3446]

❤ KUDOS TO YOU AND GOT BLESS YOU

[@leonardodakimchi]

Ah yes, The Victim. Enjoy your payout Victim!

[@Natacha1111]

I’m glad I’m not married. We live in very strange times. I urge every woman to not fall for the “it’s too late” mindset. I love myself too much to settle for anyone I don’t have chemistry and connection with, or that is sincere. It’s hard to find these days.

[@juliaskagfjord6207]

So well said. Uphold a basic standard and do not veer off course. Its hard when emotions come into play, however taking control of ones love life and applying a logical stance to counter all the high emotions would be paramount

[@AryaJade69]

Took me forever but I love and treat myself better than anyone else ever will. ❤

[@DMRCapitalHill]

You attract what you are.

[@outsidethebox8406]

@@DMRCapitalHillnot necessarily. Men are the only ones that say this. So wrong. So you all never heard that opposites attract? Empaths attract users everyday.

[@wendycorrea1]

Agree with you. It's a challenge.

[@jenifernadeau]

My mother kept us jumping in an attempt to please her entire lives and I only realized it at 54 years old, I dropped a fork on the floor and I heard that click of the tongue with that disapproving sound. I immediately changed my reaction, and that resets your body programming from childhood, when you just take a breath and sit for a moment... and had a huge Revelation that that is why I always gave 90% in a relationship LOL without ever being asked to do anything in particular, I would jump to it and go above and beyond. Hypervigilance occurs so you don't even get to really experience or remember or be fully present for your own childhood when you are constantly reacting to a parent's high level of anxiety or disapproval. So grateful for all of it, and I know exactly why I chose my parents and family members and experiences in this lifetime to teach me about myself❤

[@worktogethertosavetomorrow]

Wow, this explains a lot and made me cry, thank you❤

[@heninthefoxhouse]

I LOVED 99% of the interview with Dr. Swart but I wanted to call out the ageism that comes out of nowhere when she says "depending on how old you are, people find you attractive." All women especially need to expurgate ageism from their minds. Women are found attractive at 80, 90, there is NO AGE LIMIT on being beautiful. Thanks.

[@mahalie23]

100% agree and winced at that as well. Wondered if perhaps (hopefully) she simply meant there are fewer single options as you age. Or perhaps, let’s be real, there is neuroscience behind sexual attraction to women who are past child bearing age. Biology is a thing 😒 either way an elaboration would be nice!

[@gabbysingh624]

Age has a huge part to play Thats why most people Especially women wish to look younger than they are You are blind siding yourself Be fully aware of the narrative

[@bosedeenyiema7265]

I like that Dr. Swart insinuated that men in general are attracted to youthfulness. It’s important that more and more women understand evolutionary needs imbedded in men so that we are better equipped with navigating the dating market at whatever age. I have been married for almost 10 yrs. My marriage taught me the differences in what men value in women compared to what women value in men. In general, men tend to be visual in nature. They get hooked by the physicality first. Eventually they fall in love with other attributes such as femininity (agreeable, nurturing, playfulness etc). I realize that my husband could care less about my career and instead is turned on by my mothering of the children, nurturing of him, smiling, playfulness etc. He will help me in my career but that’s not what turns him on. I had a friend who was in her sixties and back on the market due to being widowed. She understood men’s nature so well that she never once bothered about not being youthful and instead brought other attributes such as playfulness, being agreeable, receiving ( tons of feminine qualities) and she got hitched in no time.

[@awsambdaman]

Women are attractive at 80? Like sexually attractive? Not at all. They can be pretty in a nice old person way, not sexually attractive like a 20 year old

[@lavendertwilight08]

It's true though. Regardless of gender. I'm 29, sorry not attracted to older men and women. I've seen very beautiful, elegant, and distinguished older people that I aspire to be and I'm sure I'll be attracted to that age when I'm there but when you're young no matter gender you have way more options and that's okay! That's youth. I'm enjoying my time in the sun and it's becoming less as I age but I also am feeling more confident about myself.

[@Kat_Olsen]

I use a list too instead of a vision board. I started that 10 years ago and ever since then i have made huge strides in manifesting the list! The list has evolved over those years, of course. Everything that was on the list 5 to 10 years ago has been accomplished.

[@besapeposhi3864]

How did you do exactly please? Share with us.

[@violetta6280]

Please share your method on how you achieved your manifestations.

[@c.h.5559]

Wow….please tell me I must of missed the comment by Tara is .. a list is more powerful ? Simple statement

[@feelgoodvibes1624]

This is awesome. I once tried it for a year by writing my 10 goals for the year every day and I managed to manifest 8 out of the 10 goals. And the last two come to life like in the last day of that year. Mind blowing 🥳

[@Soundarya.e]

​@@feelgoodvibes1624how do you do that? U read it everyday before sleep and after I wake up.

[@myraengelen696]

This should be put in a pre-high school programma, first mandatory for teachers and then all kids at the brink of that major coming of age! Wonderful and healing!!!

[@lisabarcia7107]

Amen! To this look how many free falling hippie type No Moral Teachers get hired to sit and teach OUR KIDS!!!! AND THEN TOLD TO GROOM THESE CHILDREN Into what the Wicked of This World has programed into the BRAINS OF OUR TEACHERS!! The new breed od teachers that is!!! BLESSINGS TO ALL THE TEACHERS HOLDING ON ABOUT TO RETIRED because you honestly care, protect and always wanted to be a good role model and became TEACHERS not at all for the Money!!! Right 👍 But for The Gods Calling Upon your hearts 💕😘🫂💯. To any of you! The True life changers and HEROES OF ThIS LOST AND CORUPT WORLD!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Thank you for the support! We appreciate your kind words. We work hard to provide high quality content. Best, Impact Theory Community Manager

[@jelizabethpetrie6656]

These are wonderful (counterpoint) examples to the negative messages that bombard youth today. I don’t remember a time that can overwhelms one, before even getting started in the journey of life. Learning emotional regulation for each of us is so important. Here shows adults and older kids they could be empowered to their goals and desire’s . With self awareness and an attitude that they are truly their best friend. Seeking and reflecting on the best for themselves.

[@seekingspiritualtruth2393]

Brilliant idea! That & a class that teaches kids about trauma. 🙏🏻

[@anneruijters6497]

I've always said this!

[@TheJoaneD]

I love interviews directed by Lisa. She lets her guest responds as long as necessary without interrupting. She summarizes concepts clearly and succintly. She asks relevant questions. She shows the appropriate feeling in regards to the topic at hand, whether empathy or enthousiasm. The surroundings are scrumpdelicious and reflect her personal look. The acoustics are very clear without disruptive background music or noise. I always watch to the end with delight, and always take away precious info from her distinguished speakers. Keep up the good work Lisa. 💯

[@thinktwice-me7ie]

I love Tara Swart. Not only is she clever and unique, she´s also such a warmhearted human being.

[@francescharteris8119]

Tara's truly kind and loving

[@SheRahMusic]

That’s what actually means that people’s energy effects us or that positive affirmations work because our body reacts to it ! Wow ! This was like the cherry on top that I needed to understand my spiritual path! Science and spirituality should always be put together!

[@annabellademus9719]

METAPHYSICS.

[@jenifernadeau]

Yes we are all energy frequency and vibration. We must become what we seek so we can attract the same frequency because like attracts like. But if we want to manifest and use the Law of Attraction we just have to get out of our own way and know that we have already received it, no blockage is no doubt No Lack of faith, and sit in the vibration of gratefulness

[@JoyAdebambo]

Omg Yes… I love biblical and spiritual concepts being expressed in neuroscience and psychology

[@sharai868]

Agreed. You may already be familiar with spiritual teachers like Eckhart Tolle and the late Fr Thomas Keating who incorporate both in their very impactful teachings

[@steph6337]

My 7 year old son passed away suddenly in March. My husband of 22 years asked for divorce in may. He started seeing another woman within just a few weeks. I never thought we would be part of the statistic. Im so broken that I have very little desire to try to get him back, plus who would want someone that leaves them at their most broken time of their life?! Im doing the work of trying to heal myself and be there for my other two children.

[@contagiousintelligence5007]

What a cruel person. Seriously, what’s Wrong with him

[@lydiajoymcdowell-davis3390]

I'm so sorry. Wishing you all the love you deserve.

[@tinamenon1593]

You are so much more than his pathological cruelty. Even if his trauma response is to deflect into another woman, it is objectively, subjectively, cruel. Give yourself time, my love. God truly loves you and your ex will keep running from his trauma until illness, injury or infirmity has him in its grip.❤

[@FeminineForce]

How terrible to leave and divorce someone following the death of a child. Just horrific. Seek ways to mourn, grieve wholly and heal. No looking back to someone who abandoned you instead of grieving alongside and healing.

[@kirantp3281]

Pls practice gratitude that God included ur son in your life for at least 7 years. And wait till u reach the other side to meet him again. He is in a better place now. Please take care of yourself. U have to be healthy and peaceful for the other two kitties. May God give you enough strength ❤❤❤

[@KPOVb]

When my little dog used to snuggle by my head I would be overcome by the most comforting feeling of pure love.

[@chiquitag794]

Animal therapy is real. It works. I'm glad I have my cats during these hard times.

[@elderlypoodle9181]

It’s almost as if they are the most loving mother

[@clairecalitz]

That's why my siblings and I love each other but can't be around each other. We grew up in a home that was so stressed out we were all in survival and simply never really bonded. That's why I no longer choose to see anyone from my family even though I don't feel any animosity. They trigger survival in me and I don't want that for myself or for them. We never learnt to bond so we love each other but we don't know each other.

[@dfuk66]

Omg same me and my siblings were raised by Narcissistic parents and are all in survival mode. Wow I thought I was the only one

[@jenifernadeau]

​@@dfuk66you're actually probably one of billions. There's so many people that have no idea they have to reparent themselves in healthier ways and do their inner child healing. You can deprogram the body and the brain in so many ways to heal and eliminate the fight or flight reactions❤

[@raggaahmed8626]

The way you put it togather...wow!❤

[@sallybasi2689]

Wow I've never related to anyone more. Wish I could find a friend that shares this same situation

[@seatree2023]

Same here.

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

STOP IGNORING THE RED FLAGS LADIES!! 1. He NEVER organizes SPECIAL things for you to do TOGETHER! ❤

[@jennytai88]

My mother showed us so much contempt and negative emotions and I was constantly stressed and sick. Now I know why. 😢

[@melbaT2770]

Hmmmm…I never thought of this but now I wonder if this is why I had a lot of stomach issues growing up. My ex spouse was like my mom in this way, too. I was ill throughout the marriage, too. Since he moved out, I am rarely sick…same w/my son. We are so much better now😄

[@Joy-mm3cz]

Keep in mind that the brain is able to re wire itself. It takes a daily practice and can make a difference in only 1-2 years.

[@Greenwitch_Garden]

Best thing I ever did was quit drinking. My life is so much better. ❤

[@LenaL146]

I don’t think I don’t want to be hurt again after a break up, I just can’t be bothered any more. I just want peace and no one to look after and no one to take into consideration, just to live for myself and be totally selfish 😂

[@amberjheard]

And that is a perfectly acceptable option! We can get our emotional needs met outside of romantic relationships.

[@gabrielleaumont3971]

Yea, I have that now..absolute bliss!

[@mariapearce8617]

I'm like that too , after you have been hurt it makes you feel like you can't be bothered no more!!!

[@terrisolaroli4169]

Definetly kicks one in every aspect

[@outsidethebox8406]

Nothing wrong with that

[@magicmegan4290]

Add: gratitude brings oxytocin. Being grateful together.

[@catsmith7084]

That too

[@mariafitts]

My husband of ten years left me out of no where, he went to work and never came back, i later found out he is seeing a person from his work. I never saw that coming, ever since that day I question everything from love to life to reality.

[@davidr9589]

It can be seen coming, if people pay attention

[@mariafitts]

@@davidr9589 you’re right , he was acting strange, leaving home to work earlier than usual and coming late around the time I was already a sleep, also extremely cautious with his cell phone taking it absolutely everywhere. I sensed he was afraid to take a shower cause of the fair of me checking it since he couldn’t take it in the shower cause that would spark more questions .

[@eyeswideopen7777]

Not even a divorce?

[@Jennyfeather_22]

He was a cheating coward. I had one, too. I GREW WINGS WHEN WE SPLIT🪽🪽

[@miss_pouty]

Take care of yourself dear, ditch bad people & memoy that won't serve any good to you.❤

[@northofyou33]

My ex-husband used to tell me, every time we had an argument, "There's not use talking about this. We're going to get divorced anyway." Yes, I left him, because he made it clear for years that he didn't want to work on our issues, and that divorce seemed like a good enough option for him.

[@nickcaption308]

Not your problem anymore. Love yourself. Good will come! Univers has doors and enough abundance ❤❤🎉🎉be happy he's out of your life. If you are not seen, heard etc there is not your place. Hard, but yes, ❤❤❤Love you!

[@d26s10]

Isn’t it crazy that he got married in the first place? If he had such a defiant attitude and unwillingness to communicate and resolve conflict or at the very least hear you out to reach a compromise then those vows never stood a chance. I haven’t been in a relationship for a while but I’ve got to know a few guys recently and the regular disappointment I’ve experienced very early on is that they’ll say things but can’t back them up with action. ‘I’ll call you tomorrow evening”... you said you were going to do that and then you didn’t... and if there’s no acknowledgement or apology or explanation eg “so sorry, got caught up at work and forgot to call you” then that’s enough for me to diminish my opinion of him. Integrity is number one on my list of what I look for and I know if he’s capable of misaligning his words and actions at the start when he’s supposed to be impressing me and convincing me of accepting a date, then I know he’s capable of far worse when the going gets tough and the honeymoon is over.

[@ivetayveta1705]

Same and I discovered reason why , he is a covert narcissistic so

[@che4840]

did he want the divorce too in the end?

[@susanlindsay7970]

Good for you leaving. That opens you up to a loving real relationship

[@SaintUdio]

“You meet people at the level of psychological wound that you have” This is a paraphrase from Stephen Covey in his books ‘First Things First’ and ‘7 Habits Of Highly Effective People’. He expands on this statement thoroughly in his books. He also quotes history when he also says something like “…between stimulus and response is a space. It is in this space that we have the power to decide …’ …or make choices. I think we need to get our history ducks to fly in formation here.

[@LoveDancingLoveSinging]

I like to believe this! If I like another person than it's wonderful. If another person likes me than it's so nice. If we both like eachother than it's MAGIC! 😊❤️❤️

[@stellabandante2727]

Tara is a fountain of insight, knowledge, and wonderful communication skills. I watch her videos often and always learn something that is of practical value in my life. I love her representation of feminine strength and self-efficacy. I'm old enough to be her mother, but find her a role model of common sense and intuition.

[@mindtheprivacy]

I love this doctor. She looks like she loves what she talks about.

[@ark194]

As someone with social anxiety, I often see the contempt and disgust face from many, and I notice the relationship never recovers. It’s really alienating, however I at least get a heads-up from ppl before they are on their way out.

[@christineolson7372]

The power of our inner voice is both a bit frightening and also awe inspiring!! Our brain is so powerful, I struggled with self belief my whole life and even after years of therapy, growth and healing.. it still took EMDR therapy to break the negative inner diatribe. I didn’t realize that I was verbally assaulting myself ALL day long every single day. Until I stopped doing it. The peace I feel and the deep satisfaction I have in myself is incredible. Truly loving myself and believing in myself has been life changing. ❤

[@mpch6298]

EMDR is really powerful, I concur.

[@liigachka3]

Words have such an impact! During my second pregnancy I was told several times by my OBGYN that my baby will be small, and I actually had painless natural delivery, which I thought is not possible unless it's baby number 10, and didn''t ask for any pain relief, I only used yoga ball and my second baby was born bigger than my first (I had pain relief during that delivery).

[@hfortenberry]

Contempt actually has a very specific muscular pattern. It is a one-sided raising of the lip and nostril, kind of like a really subtle mild snarl. It is the only facial expression that is not symmetrical, meaning it happens only on one side of the face.

[@mbarcco]

I love how Lisa asks the most genuine questions. Questions I’d ask the guests. Greatly appreciated your content.

[@AnnaBanana-cv6hj]

I love that you had her on your show! She's amazing as are you! Thank you for empowering all of us Lisa

[@LisaBilyeu]

Thank YOU for your support. Check out the channel for other great videos and guests. Best, Impact Theory Community Manager

[@NiccoyaFirst]

The comment about Cortisol is spot on! I have someone in my house who suffers from depression. It can get severe. I literally cant be around them when it gets to that point because I can FEEL their stress! Im a heavy empath but its great to know there is science behind what Im feeling. I will leave the room sometimes when they show up because its that strong & I dont want to feel down just because they do.

[@sandyavalos3305]

Thank you for commenting on this. This made me realize that I donMt want to be that dark energy again. I deal with anxiety, stress, and depression on the daily but I don’t want people to feel like their energy is sucked out when they are around me

[@jeanettelove8490]

Totally agree !

[@lisamorrison4708]

Glad you shared your comment. I also am a big empeth. I have depression, anxiety, no self-esteem, etc.... no friends, taking care of 85 yr old father with dementia. No other family to talk to/ support. Live with my 25 yr old son who has severe depression, PTSD,anxiety, and chronic back disease. He also has no support/family to talk to. We only have our therapists and each other. Due to all of this we live together. It seems like when one of us is having an ok day the other is completely opposite. There is no excaping the 😢. Thank you whoever read my personal release here.

[@jbirdie30]

ALL young females should watch this! I try to explain the oxytocin effects to my nieces and others. But, for real, this should be part of sex Ed!

[@din-b6420]

She is so right about romantic movies !!! But I don’t get sad, I get hopeful ! I know I’ll find that again !

[@KimberlyKelly2000]

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I must jump on my Cellercizer again. It is a beautifully designed high quality rebounder. I bought the version which is portable as I was then commuting to my cabin weekly by BOAT, and I was loathe to miss a session. I could not justify the purchase of TWO rebounders and the portability of the rebounder was a wonderful solution. I have serious hip issues and have periodically yoinked my hip out of alignment by simply turning an ankle on stone (when walking), so I knew I needed to avoid poorly designed units as the flimsy metal coils/bungee cords (as opposed to tapered springs) have resulted in injuries to those who used them. Ive never turned an ankle or exascerbated any of my pre-existing (yet rehabbed) injuries. Downtime from flare-ups (or reinjuries) detract from daily training. Hope this is helpful.

[@chinablue135]

Wow loved this ladies ❤ first of all Lisa you are glowing. When your lovely guest said she stood in the garden and realised that man could break her heart and she reframed it from fear to wow I’ve got over the previous heartbreak and allowed myself to become vulnerable again wow that’s powerful. Loads of love from the UK 🇬🇧 ❤

[@sheenau3447]

Around 12-13 minute mark. This makes sense why so many people bond in the beginning of a relationship because of both traumas but as one starts to change a disconnect comes about. The same way with friendships if you’ve experienced trauma from parents and your friend did not this can become something that disconnects the both of you because you cannot see or feel the other person’s side or there maybe even envy.

[@KennethSmith-kq9lo]

I love this lady Tara gentle and powerful . I feel like she actually cares .

[@MsDestinydiva]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="2114">35:14</a> be around ppl in happy relationships - law of power avoid the unhappy and unlucky ! Great book to re read till the lessons cement

[@Mywatercrystaltv]

I clicked bcos I like, trust & know ur content. Not trying to drive anyone crazy! The title should reflect true content & not be a click-bait. Otherwise it leaves our brains confused bcos we keep trying to wrap our minds around steps and topic and there aren't any! 😂

[@lana-townie808]

Don't beat yourself up and don't shame yourself ...so powerful!!💙🔥💙

[@WonderWoman1984-uy5yn]

I am with someone that almost insisted on me beating myself up and shaming myself for past mistakes. Id accepted my past and how I made those decisions, but he kept bringing it up and bringing it up, called me egotistical for accepting what happened and what it taught me. I realised he was more secure only when I wasn't. Can't have a strong relationship if one of you has to be kept weak.

[@lana-townie808]

@WonderWoman1984-uy5yn I'm sorry that happened to you. Be kind to yourself and I am rooting for you

[@paulpinder]

@lisabilyeu I only found your channel because you interviewed dr Tara Swart who I had seen on another channel to do with other things like work stresses and the likes - her research and insight is invaluable. What I totally loved about your channel is the way in which she discussed more male/ female considerations and the issues in losing a child in a relationship came from your questions and you made the whole situation as to why people fall apart in such situations. Even though it was 10 years ago now, I lost my husband when he was 38 from a super rapid cancer. He was my world and couldn't believe that I had had 8 years with such an awesome person; but for me the worst thing was how his family turned on me. But with this insight I can now reflect and see, that they were hurting SO MUCH that they didn't have any space in their grief to be able to think about my situation. If a couple in love who lose their child (whilst he was 38) they would have found it hard to stay there for each other and the other siblings - just a moment of clarity and thanks

[@marisolj-1347]

I have a friend she always says we will never find a good man, for some time even though i was bother by her negativity towards herself i never said anything. Until one day I told her we have the power or death and life in the words we said, and I truly believe that and that there is good man and we strong girls will get to that day and time where we meet them lol.. I got one already 😊... Blessings girls

[@Gregoria_80]

Everything in my life has put me into the place I am now and shaped me into the person I am. I don't know what the heartbreak has done to my brain, yet definitely the heart will never open again, no matter how incorrect the statements " All men are bad, or there isn't a proper man for me on this Earth" are...The point is that the real love visits you once, and I hadn't experienced that sense till 41, and I' ll never feel it again. All I can do is write and sing to stay sane...

[@Olga-oo2pl]

What a wonderful guest! I loved listening to dr. Tara. What she says makes so much sense to me and it also gives a scientific base to the values I already have.

[@LisaBilyeu]

We're stoked you appreciated the conversation. What did Dr. Tara say that resonated with you most? Best, Impact Theory Community Manager

[@UniquePathWellness]

@Olga and Lisa - What I loved was when she said if you don’t have the right tools or the right support circle, suicide could happen after a terrible breakup. She spoke about emotional regulation. Be aware about the people around you in your inner circle because they influence you more than you think.

[@suzettekitselman6914]

WOW LISA! What an EXCELLENT and insightful segment! And I LOVE the story of your Mum walking 5 miles inside a grocery store because it was raining. SO many great morsels of wisdom here, shared by both of you. Please do keep these coming! You are a gift ~ thanks so much :)

[@Cuspofrevolution]

What she says is so true. If you dont have an instantaneous attraction you have nothing. Thats why its called chemistry. 😊

[@BarbaraSzentmarjay]

Lisa, I absolutely love your passion and energy! It comes through the video like a proper energy bomb! And thanks for inviting Tara, I could listen to her for hours.

[@sealife22]

I agree. She is so much grand energy

[@Terri-us1et]

You should never threaten the relationship unless one plans to leave. I heard he was divorcibg me daily. I questioned why did he marry me and cry ? I married gim due to be in another country and for survival. I was being emotionally and phychologically and entrapped. I loved the man who he showed he was. It changed once we were together. 😢

[@AmericaBurdette]

I hope you're doing better now

[@darshilaerkasicse6788]

It's crazy how no one is talking about Women’s Magic Truths. This book has secrets that could change everything, but people seem blind to it. Wake up and see for yourself!

[@merlingaber]

really good book, thank you ❤

[@somym7539]

Do you have that book

[@somym7539]

​@@merlingaberdo you have ebook? If so do give me

[@tredd9019]

Book title is unavailable.

[@UlrikeFrohlich]

Habe das Buch 4 .mal gelesen auf deutsche Übersetzung, starke Leistung! Dr : sword ❤

[@Cuspofrevolution]

Partnership is a give and take. When thats placed out of balance issues can arise. I still have fights with my partner its necessary but as long as you can come together afterwards and explain what happened then you can move forward but if there is a pink elephant in the room and no one is addressing it dont expect to move forward anytime soon. 😊

[@Thesquirrelwhisperer-389]

I love Dr Tara. Every podcast she appears in, she is so chill and explains complex things effortlessly and kindly to the point that it feels like she is the guest's friend. What a great woman 😍 huge respect, thank you x

[@sacredpaw]

Love Dr. Swart, she is wonderful. Please have her on again. ♥

[@Tula.Mirjan]

Re: vision boards, I prefer writing...not lists...but in stories... like how I see things happening. I find writing to be me my most powerful way of co-creating with the universe.

[@Shaunashares]

I just love Dr Tara. My favourite part that I keep re-watching is "loving again after heartbreak" section. xx

[@TheSparklyEmpress]

I am in love with these fabulous ladies. Incredible inspirations indeed. I’m so happy you both linked up. Thank you for this priceless information. I feel so educated from every content you’ve created! ❤

[@LisaBilyeu]

We appreciate your support! Which part of the conversation stood out most to you? Best, Impact Theory Community Manager

[@hypnosisforu.veronika]

Wow Lisa! You have the most incredible guests, and you're amazing yourself! Thank you for all the knowledge shared! ❤I sense that you're like me where it comes to exploring. I can also dig deep for hours to get the answers and resolutions, and podcasts like yours are incredibly helpful. Thanks again! I'm very grateful 🙏🏼

[@heleen313]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="162">2:42</a>:30 to viewers who want to supplement EPA and DHA, you don’t have to eat fish to get it, because fish don’t produce it themselves, but they get it from their food, algae! So you can take algae oil and get it from the source, without harming fish, the oceans and without the poisons and plastics caught up in the fish. Testa is a great brand for algae oil 😃✅

[@user-mo2sg2vj3s]

Agreed - like minds help to make better life choices. That is why I want positive minded people in my circle

[@leandraholmes6384]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="2452">40:52</a> So encouraging to hear your story as someone going through the exact process

[@emilyslade3999]

She's right about falling being a fast track to the grave. As a teen, I worked in a home for the elderly. If someone fell, we knew we would lose them. They never recovered, especially if a hip was broken.

[@beateziegler7476]

Sad, but true! My mother died after she broke her hip.

[@anthiabaker2695]

Can’t wait to listen - but have to say what a gorgeous voice the Dr has.

[@communiverse227]

Robson Green was in a TV drama years ago and I've always remembered what he said about women and men with regard to sex. He said, "Women use sex to get love, and men use love to get sex." I've found this to be a very apt explanation, and now I understand why. Thank you.

[@AzucenaPerez]

One of the best episodes I've seen from Women of Impact! So good. Thank you so much Lisa Bilyeu!!

[@shelbybutler9714]

Careful with the "your fault" and the mouth-taping for people with sleep apnea. People with sleep apnea literally stop breathing, because the tissue in the throat closes off their airway. Mouth taping is not enough, and mouth breathing is not your fault.

[@mequable]

One of my grandfathers was in a Stalinist concentration camp, and the other was Jewish and when Bulgaria was under pro-fasscist regime the whole family was forcefully sent to a town in which I know there were work camps for Jews, but nobody in my family wanted to talk about it. I know about the experiences in the Stalinist camp, because my grandfather wrote a book, and in addition to the initial persecution, my other grandfather suffered through communism as well. I'm saying that because at certain times in my life I could see I'm reacting and behaving way differently than my peers and I realise it's because of transgenerational trauma. The book 'It Didn't Start With You' by Mark Wolynn really helped me untangle that, even though some of the ideas are more on the spiritual side. I think spirituallity helps with understanding functions of the brain that are way below the cognitive and are practically genetically altered through generations.

[@alice-hp7dh]

"You got over and broad yourself to the place wher you put your heart on a plate for someone else again " YES! A recover after 5 years (i am slow unfortunately) from a separation of a 11 years relationship and then a narcissist or someone really broken, breaks my soul. So maybe I didn't recover really.

[@ThallonRose]

That’s what I agree is missing. Relationships with narcissists often don’t fit these “rules”. Even the orgasm part because I never trusted the narcissist I was with but my body always reacted with orgasm with him and not any other person.

[@alice-hp7dh]

@@ThallonRose Not sure about the meaning of your commenti, but I can say that I never fell so free in bed as with him. And even if he doesn' t make love ( at least not with me) he pushes all my sexual buttons. We have an undeniable magical sexual chemistry together, but sometimes I felt used.

[@melb2258]

That is my story …. 5 yrs after a divorce from someone I truly loved and then met a broken narcissist who broke my soul …. Those two men are whom I had a child with each and they are the sweetest children however, I can’t move on, I believe the third time will be my everlasting charm

[@alice-hp7dh]

@@melb2258 save your child from his father. He could become like him

[@alice-hp7dh]

​@@ThallonRose never had a sexual attraction so potent than with him.

[@peaceemezue]

Listening to Tara is very soothing and warm. She is very clever any platform I see her I just want to listen to her

[@carolyn1439ll]

Lisa, great content as usual. Just wanted to comment that your makeup looks incredible this episode!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Wow! Thank you for the kind words. Best, Impact Theory Community Manager

[@xTenshiAi]

I love Tara Swart and her calming way of explaning things

[@yusuf_mohideen]

lisa sharing her personal stories of her own generational struggles is what immediately what made me subscribe to her channel. KUDOS to you lisa for changing the trajectory of your life, more power to you!!

[@flamefox8989]

I've found this woman extremely interesting. I agree. It would be good to dig deeper.

[@bauhinialee]

An absolutely fascinating and eloquent interview - thank you for spotlighting Dr Swart here!

[@Notyourwifesotalktomenice83]

I did a documentary that was implemented into the Canadian school curriculum a few months ago that is helping educate health care professionals all over Canada and students about the horrific effects of residential schools from a perspective of a child of two residential school survivors. The native community knew about DNA memory way before the first boats landed in North America. I think one thing that's important to remember is we carry our ancestors pain BUT we also carry their strength, resilience and even spiritual gifts. Thank you for having her on, ive seen her on the "know thy self" channel and she is absolutely amazing!!! ❤

[@mountain85]

She is so refreshing, so honest. Glad to be the 300th like :)

[@LisaBilyeu]

Glad you enjoyed the conversation! Have a great week 😄 Best, Impact Theory Community Manager

[@lastskywalker2481]

if you want to bond with men, you need to know how we work. we love to do things. we bond over action, not talking. we prefer tasks and problem solving over romantic stuff.

[@DaddysBoyOtis]

i think thats more of how men bond with each other, by default, which is why men plays sports or hike or screw around on project together.

[@deanawylot6200]

I agree @lastskywalker2481. I didn’t need my last boyfriend to fix things in my car n home. But I knew he would have been insulted if I didn’t let him help me. I appreciated all he did and I reciprocated by cooking, listening, etc,… but in the end it wasn’t enough, even tho I thought I was showing how great a partnership we could have had. He only wanted to be a part-time hero.

[@Fairy71128]

What stuck with me is that we are wired for reproduction. Female bodies and psycho are created for giving birth. Child-free is an extremely new culture, probably 30-40 years old compared with millions of years of evolution. However, child-free lifestyle would not be possible without females actually having an option to pour out their creativity and nurture into their work. I love how women are empowered now by having that option. Thank you for your channel 🌺🌹🌺

[@MelikeDöne]

This extremely joyful, helpful and powerful! I love all those wise questions and life-changing answers and comments. Thank you so much 🙏🏼

[@rabitface]

Wonderful information....omg really helped out to understand my people are in loved enough by the loved ones even after their enough trials

[@YovanaGavarrete]

I trully enjoy listening to Dr Tara. She is just a joy & learning from here just a great experience. Her voice is so sweet & soothing. Hope to hear more of her on this channel.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Thank you for listening! We're glad you appreciated the conversation. What part of the conversation stood out most to you? Best, Impact Theory Community Manager

[@YovanaGavarrete]

@@LisaBilyeu enjoyed her speaking about hormones and how cordisol can be excreted out of our body. How it affects humans. I'm also a Massage therapist so when she spoke about human touch and how it is so important. It also made me ponder on how hormones also affect my clients and I. That there has to be a balance.

[@xxbatflowerxx]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1846">30:46</a> I can't change that our society functions in a patriarchy and I can work on myself for years, and it's not going to have any impact on a romantic relationship because my choices are: -a younger unmarried guy. - a married guy my age for an affair. - an unmarried guy my age for casual s** - he's unmarried bc s** is all he wants. - stay single bc the dating pool is actually a puddle of wee wee.

[@gabrielleaumont3971]

Right ,

[@DaleAndre-l3i]

Correct

[@IndigoHazelnut]

I LOVE this episode! Thank you Lisa and Tara. I will say one thing though.. I agree with what Sarah is saying about the law of attraction. Specific action towards our goals is vital.. However maintaining our own energetic frequency is not passive either.. It takes alot of persistence and understanding to bring ourselves to a higher vibration and stay there. There is alot of energetic labour that takes place.. It's okay.. At this moment in time this type of labour is not recognised.. In time it will be when we start to understand consciousness in a more tangible way

[@rozasawicka8256]

Dear Lisa, thank you for a master level description and clear topical sequencing of the interview. It helps a lot to navigate and digest the dense valuable content. I'd also like to thank you for inviting and leading such well-prepared thematic interview with the well-grounded and exquisitely eloquent guest. I simply love how effortlessly the subtopics unfold and how the introductory clarification of complex human psycho-physiological phenomena are being explained. Dr Tara Swart has the scientifically professional, yet a calm human perspective placing her at the higher level of the star professionals that inspire women. An interview to be recommended to all who are working with themselves and with their relational aspects. Thank you.

[@jmac8834]

@lisaBilyeu This is a great interview, you really allowed her to talk, thank you. You'd researched beforehand, and asked great questions to keep the flow going and bring out so much of her knowledge. I saw Tara being interviewed by someone else on KZbin and learned much more from the first 15 minutes of her interview with you than a whole hour in the other one. I appreciate the way you don't try to make it about you, thank you for letting her talk so well!

[@crypton_8l87]

Very well expressed

[@Heather-x1t]

Emotional trauma from previous relationships can carry to the next relationship. So yes I agree you must process through this. I literally put on a list things I wanted to a partner, everyday for 5 years prayed over the list each morning. I also did my best to become this list. I met my husband, not only did he meet these expectations, he exceeded them, being not only what I wanted, but what I needed. Exceptional person. One thing I would like to hear more about is how people with mental disorders attract individuals with similar disorders. Any thoughts?

[@chiquitag794]

I am resigned to be single for ever now. Right now i am coming out of a 13-year narcissistic-abusive-codependent relationship. Mind you i just learned that after i left him. That relation was brutal. I can't even describe it as i am still asimmilating everything. All i know is that It annihilated me 😢. Multiple cheatings, some emotional that lasted for years after being caught and promised he would never hurt me like that again. A lot of damage. Resentment. Hurt. I feel like i am remembering a movie or something because i wasn't there. I must have been under some sort of spell (yes, manipulated and gaslighted). Before this last one, i was with someone for 10 years. Again, emotionally abused, alcoholism, neglect. It was another draining relationship. I am obviously attracting the most damaged people. I am so damaged right now. So, although i had made peace with staying single. I am thinking in giving myself at least 1 year to heal. In 1 year, I'll reassess.

[@LorenaAbreu]

Thank you so much for vocalizing something I’ve never been able to understand or explain before. My narcissistic ex began exhibiting extremely negative reactions to very small triggers (could be as small as us disagreeing about the best technique for a back squat) and he’d look at me with utter contempt and disgust. It was so jarring and painful, and so extreme that I wondered the whole time if I was blowing it out of proportion in my mind. But I don’t think I was. I had never been looked at like that before, and among the other things he did and said, it imparted me with long lasting damage 🫠

[@angelsandocean2853]

My ex said to me that top looks horrible on you. We were on the beach! Beautiful day. I said nothing back to him. Divorce him few years late. Still remember the look on his face on that beach. I am still feeling his disgust

[@taleandclawrock2606]

I remember encountering that for the first time from a guy id been dating 8 months, and he just casually made a comment about my hair parting in everyday tone saying " you could land a plane on it." . So hard to comprehend the casually malicious cruelty.

[@jenifernadeau]

You were dealing with a vulnerable covert narcissist, or obviously perhaps an overt one. And anything someone does or says or thinks is only reflection of what's going on with him then, about themselves. It is not yours to take on, or modify yourself for. They teach us to have a stronger sense of self, they have a toxic but strong sense of self and if we feel like doing our own healing then we will wake up sooner rather than later. It stems from the parental relationships that we dealt with, there are covert subtle tendencies that were emotionally abusive or traumatic that our bodies keep score with. And because we are energy, we are admitting your frequency that will bring the same type of person to us. We actually are doing our inner child healing when we are waking up to what's wrong with our partner relationships. As we become more introspective and question our belief systems and where they came from, whether they are healthy or for our highest good or not. We get to recreate from the ground up, and reparent ourselves in healthier ways, learn to love our bodies first and fill our own cups up otherwise we cannot offer others what we want to. But don't forget... we have to offer it to ourselves first

[@jenifernadeau]

They are just meant to trigger us to start our healing, everything external, and every person, is meant to be a mirror to reflect back to us what we need to heal within ourselves. Which parent or caregiver or adult in your life, when you were a child.... did the same thing to you that your partner is doing? When you dig deep, you'll see the similarities. We keep attracting the same people in different bodies if we haven't learned our lessons, change our belief systems, and responded in different ways. Most times we have to go gray rock or no contact with our family members who expect to stay dysfunctionally toxic and have us continue to play along.

[@jenifernadeau]

​@@taleandclawrock2606that was a deliberate test to see if you would stick around, make excuses for him, or talk yourself into being in that unhealthy relationship. Covert narcissists do that often

[@mynestintheforest]

What an amazing conversation! I NEEDED to be part of this. One of your best guests for sure. Thank you so much for this one girls.

[@michaelreyes744]

I LOVE your channel! So Amazing. Your guests are beyond Amazing and it all makes so much sense. This should literally be taught in preschool. I think it could change the world.

[@PinkCrystalTea]

Okay but calling divorce the "D word" and saying it's like Voldemort....i'm laughing way too hard!! Great interview, I'm thankful for this video in my current time.

[@mmknzz]

I went through a pretty hard time for about three months there, and lost a lot of weight from the stress and depression… and on two separate instances now, my sister (who has had or still does have an ED) told me that I lost a lot of weight and look good. The first time she told me, I was not really flattered. The second time I had to pause and think about what my response would be (instead of an automatic… thank you). I still wasn’t happy with my reply, but I guess I felt stumped that she had told me again as if she didn’t remember the first time? Needless to say, I am always ultra sensitive, anxious and stressed about my sisters comments about my weight. I almost want to confront her but I know she would twist the whole thing into me being crazy and she just wants me to “be healthy.” I don’t know how to deal with this but I hope I can take some advice from this podcast by the end of listening to it. Just wanted to pause it and comment this.

[@averagejane09]

Tara talked about the idea that what you think is possible is possible...more or less...and used the 4 min mile that society used to think was impossible as an example. I think to a degree having babies is similar. I swear....when I was in my 20s, the going opinion was that women needed to have all their babies before 30 or they would struggle. Now, it seems most people wait till they are 30. 30 is the norm. I wonder how much further this will push with each generation. It is now becoming much more common to see women in their 40s and now occasionally in their 50s having babies. We are also living longer and living better longer which would go hand in hand with this....but ...still....it is interesting. We have been told for so long we have such a small window for children....maybe that window is also getting bigger. Epigenetics.

[@blogversity53]

I absolutely love this content! But I had about 10+ ads and I am only two thirds in, this is sooo annoying.

[@AAXS-op1vo]

This is absolutely fire! Fascinating!!!

[@LisaBilyeu]

Thanks so much!

[@andreaeybe8013]

😅 you're perfect! as an ex-dancer trying to stretch again in a tight space, forgetting to stretch my piriformis, etc; your lower body stuff is great, and can't wait to see the others from your channel. Thank you! - Andrea E, Toronto

[@MetaMM]

With humility I must say my life has been something so unconventional in a superb way with my not planning about it and am a widow going on ten years and love it without being involved with anybody at all as I don’t feel lonely at all. I amba romantic though. Love romantic movies.

[@carolinetattoo4072]

I thought they disproved the period synch. Like, eventually you will all “synch” but then go back out of synch because it’s just a numbers thing. At my work, I’m with 2 females, sometimes we synch and sometimes not.

[@DaddysBoyOtis]

Maybe because we have different groups of influence at different times of the day or week. But to study women who exclusively stay together like cult religions where women never leave the community or yard, would be similar to cave days perhaps - multiple sister wives etc

[@mamoketeveronicamoshesha6974]

This is quality content I can’t believe it’s free❤❤

[@DaddysBoyOtis]

they get paid with ads and other revenue from promoting books, programs, etc

[@seagreentangerine2065]

Depending on how many followers they have, they get paid an awful lot. This amazing lady and her hubby worked hard to build a business. Now she's branching out and creating incredible, intelligent content - this is a billion times better than ordinary TV here in the UK.🎉❤

[@amandajacobs2414]

I'm mind blown by just the first few minutes of this conversation I'm going to start thing differently and question a negative statement. ❤

[@terezas_chanel]

On vision boards, from the first time I heard about that I remembered that I had one on my study desk... Had things that inspired me and things I wished i did and visit someday when i grow up 😊

[@sylviarq9964]

Almost 3 hours of interview and they’re full of value 🌟Awesome 🌟💕