A mother/ daughter conversation on single motherhood, parenting, friendship and dating | LNN

Kate and Judy have a beautiful mother/daughter relationship but it has not been all roses. Today, we get to have a very honest conversation on their life,sacrifices , mistakes , parenting , dating and what has made their relationship work .
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[@balancedviewpoint7418]

Lynn, this is the real deal, the big deal- "Intentional positive parenting from a single parent perspective". Once you respect and appreciate your child development milestones and the aspect of respecting them, life shall be so good for everyone. A child is just an angel and dependent at their infancy all through the process of self discovery. But as much as we assume "they are just kids",at the point where your child is able to communicate some degree of meaning to whatever they are saying, allow them the latitude to express themselves. Today's child matures faster due to so much influence from within and without(technology and social media). Let us allow them to be. When looking at Kate Kendi, her awesome mother, Judy Njogu here, makes life feel so good guys. As a mother try to borrow a leaf from Judy Njogu while as a child respect and look upto your mother both as a friend and a mother at the same time as Kate has done it. By the way, single motherhood is not a crime, nor is it unique. Just like life takes us rough and smooth rides, so is single parenthood. It is a normal thing. Love yourself at the point where life finds you. Our children always have something good to do for themselves just as they can also impact you, the parent, positively. This show demystifies that factor. A child should be your friend for them to feel safe to share anything and everything. That way, mental health issues shall be minimised. Big up Kate and Judy for the inspiration and teaching society that it is possible to be single and succeed in good parenting.

[@m.c.1387]

Being a single mom of five, I needed this. I have kids the ages of your guests, the eldest 51. Thank you so much for sharing this!❤❤❤❤

[@rosettelillehei7730]

I was pregnant when I was 17 years old. The whole village turned their back on. The church disowned me including some of my family. I felt like killing myself. My God was there with me. I had my baby alone without nothing. God opened the way for me and my son to go abroad when my son was 4month old. Today my son is 21years old.

[@dianaombaye9609]

Amen.Growing up have observed these! People in the society give you advices giving reference to a teenager who has a kid. God is great,when you were in a kind of isolation,amazingly God opened wider doors.Amen

[@Tre-cy]

Growing in search an environment is not always easy 😢 Thanks to God 🙏 He always makes the way Am glad you didn't give up on yourself or your son Always be strong ❤

[@LynnNgugi]

More Love and Light❤❤

[@LADYJOY219]

Same here I had my baby at 17, I turned 21 went to saudi arabia for 2 years and now 24 living in uae. Now I'm giving her the best I can ,after going through hell from my own family.

[@STACY_KENYA]

Oooh😊! Cate Wanjiku and her mom back in high school during visiting days and school events used to be the talk of the school! Their friendship is truly admirable, and it's not just for show; it's genuine! I'm happy to see someone I know being hosted here and learning something from Lynn’s show as always!

[@rizzymay450]

Wow which high school did she attend

[@nyamskenya4580]

I am the Nyambura who is co mother to Kate and partner in crime with Judy. Thank you Kitkat for allowing us to be human. Lynn, I feel the love. My friend Judy,thank you for such a real and great friendship.

[@tripplem8188]

Hello Lynn,,NIPEWE likes za number one today❤

[@Beautyconnoisseur02]

❤

[@philomenameier9354]

❤​@@Beautyconnoisseur02

[@Lily_muthengi]

Having a mother who is not your friend, it's the worst feeling ever.. Having a narcissistic mother has kept wounds for years in my heart.. Praying that one day things will change... I chose to do it different, be the best parent to my son

[@SusanNjeri-pg8je]

Nakuelewa

[@Lily_muthengi]

@@SusanNjeri-pg8je shukran ❤️❤️

[@grace735]

I understand that feeling worst feeling ever

[@yvonnekwikiriza9107]

You speak my words!❤

[@ruthchepkoech8176]

Waaah,I feel your pain,am also passed through that

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

Finally, we are having this conversation in Africa. I've been waiting for this kind of conversation. Having children is a choice, not a must. Bringing a child into the world is not a walk in the park. It's a lifetime commitment and requires a lot of sacrifices. For some women it's worth it. As for me, I think it's not. I love the idea of being able to wake up and worry about myself and my partner only. I get to do what I want, whenever I want. I can be spontaneous and have unplanned trips and enjoy my money in peace with my partner. And I'm sure you're asking, but who will take care of me when I'm old?? My money and my partner will take care of me. I'm sorted. I'm good. There's a plan in place. Look, there's no need for all that unnecessary stress of raising children. Enjoy your life.

[@gladysgitau7458]

Am with u 💯 Having a kid is not one of the ten commandments so no pressure,be u, do u n that's life.we owe no one any apology.we ain't falling for societal pressure👍pple should learn to mind their own business.

[@daphineimani]

I agree with you...just wondering how to cope with rejection if I decide ( i may have decided already) to go down that road.

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

@@daphineimani the rejection is real. The dating pool is significantly small for childfree people...especially childfree women. Because most men want kids. It's in their nature to want to plant a seed in a woman. So if you're gona go down that road, just know that it might be hard to find a man who also doesn't want kids.

[@KateKendy]

@@mahlohonololebuso741false..statistically men prefer to be childfree! Just do a quick google search …

[@BarongoMotangi]

Cate's yt channel is SSOOOOOO UNDRATTED!!! sisi ni team waru!!

[@faithmuthoni307]

Wooow I love this... personally I have no plans for children in my life and people think I have a problem...I just can't stand children and I don't want to have them just to let them suffer

[@carolm4691]

I am an adent follower of Judy and Kate... Good to see them here.. Also please get us Apondi here, mum to Kitt Kiarie, I find her so real and full of wisdom. She speaks, I take notes. Also she has raised some independent women with respect for others... She is our online mum who has a free mind that transcends different generations

[@Annmungaiofficial]

Aaaaaaaw ❤️❤️❤️ oh my God they are the best ladies I've ever met❤️❤️I was working for Judy as a nanny and she's such a blessed,humble and loving lady.......may God continue blessing them

[@meldaatienooinnga]

Amazing mum and daughter❤🥰 aki Lynn tafuta baby Godswill umpatie platform🙏 Good day.

[@flohMN1356]

These are the convos of this era❤❤ Thank you Lynn❤❤

[@glslatifahnsubuga51]

A mother is a human who can always do all what it take to see that her kids are happy may God keep them to enjoy their fruits

[@rachealndungu7982]

I love this one so much coz i see myself at 40yrs now with so much trauma from so much and i cant wait to conquer them all and yes i cant wait to have this kind of mother daughter relationship...its a job to fix that bond after been away from my girls like 3/4 of their life but i believe we will get there with my gals one day ..am not giving up..thank-you LYNN for this n one day i will sit on that seat of yours n tell my story too ...mob love to those lovely ladies ❤❤❤❤

[@jacquedjib3930]

A beautiful morning, tuned in Lynn❤

[@daizyjacks]

Have just started ,but kindly lynn let me note that this month of love uliamuwa you rocking BLACK❤❤❤❤ . Black is the new gold ✨️. My fav too can't get enough of you in black ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@eunicenganga7311]

Happy to watch and listen to my friend Judy and Kate❤❤ Love mob my peeps

[@valerybett3917]

Lynn I am happy that you did interview this two,this is so me, like me and my mum are just like this two oooh my it's amazing

[@reginarey3843]

My fav you tubers here.....I loved the conversation....MDC is so wholesome.

[@ericthongori1995]

What an Understanding Mother she is

[@eunicejosphat5346]

Got pregnant at 21,had nothing at all,the only option was to leave my baby with my mum and go hustle,thank God for my mum,it wasn't easy,she stayed with my kid for 2yrs .had left him akiwa 1yr,and always emotional not easy,u even cry alone, but again you rem you want to give the kid the best,aki mungu wewe

[@wanjiruolive]

I love there relationships its healing to see and watch them. Not many of us have a close relationship with their mothers its more of a superficial and military relationship i am glad to notice that. Ill do better if I get to have my own kids. Breaking those generational curses...Loved the show lynn ❤❤🎉

[@bettynjugi799]

I love Kate and Judy,thank you for bringing them on this platform Lynn

[@SweettoothMarie77]

I just love how honest and deep this was. Growing up, our mum was quite tough but as adults we all loved her so much. She became a friend and being around her was the safest place on earth. Now she's gone and so I treasure those memories with her. I've always watched these two on Judy's channel and I absolutely love their relationship ❤ It's no mistake that they are seated on Lynn's couch 🛋️

[@anneokech1484]

Taking care of our parents i totally agree with you.If you can just do it.

[@agnesnjeri8402]

I have enjoyed the conversation ❤ it's an eye opener to us parents raising teen-ager ...I love their bond😊

[@samkaybeauty2862]

I dont want çhildren and i know my mum will receive the shock of her life the day i tell her 😅. Beautiful conversation ❤.

[@phyliskuria8930]

❤ you are not alone though the society judges someone harshly but once you know what you want in life do it for yourself

[@lucynn]

😅😅😅 I have one and I feel like I don't want any other. and I know how much pressure is awaiting me in the future,,,

[@samkaybeauty2862]

@@lucynn hahaha 'team one and done' you are also almost included in the childfree women group 😅. Do you sis 👌🏽.

[@samkaybeauty2862]

@@phyliskuria8930 true 💯👌🏽

[@sharonnyawira575]

​@@samkaybeauty2862😂😂😂 only miserable parents will pressure you to have a child,happy ones don't even bother..misery loves company

[@helgammogi5145]

My favourite KZbinrs/content creators,good to see you here

[@hanahsymon]

Haki am addicted to this channel very inspiring❤

[@speakfromtheheart7777]

I love and enjoy your show. Many teachable moments.

[@phillipsidhojapap1461]

I love the conversation -- representing different times

[@user-cl7bn7gz7i]

As a millennial, I find these conversations so refreshing. A lot of us are having children much later, fewer or not at all. It's all about intentionality. Let's not kid ourselves raising a child is expensive and requires support. Having a child nowadays is a responsibility not an entitlement. And it's wrong to say that we should have children so that they can take care of us when old. That's irresponsible my child's only responsibility to live their best life with or without me.

[@beatriceodhiambo910]

beautiful mother/daughter relationship

[@charitywanjohi884]

I Just Resonate With Sister’s Relationship With Her Daughter. I Love This.

[@tamarali8325]

May God give her mom long life.

[@maureengitonga5085]

My all time fav mother daughter duo , blessings 🥰🥰🤎

[@LynnNgugi]

Good morning team LNN, What is your take home from today's conversation with Kate and her mum? You can connect with Kate on Instagram at Kate Kendy and her mum on Instagram at Judy_w_Njogu Kindly subscribe to their beautiful work here kzbin.info To Support our work; Mpesa [phone] Our episode is proudly powered by KINGS DEVELOPERS LIMITED. If you are looking forward to having an apartment, please contact our credible partners for affordable, midrange, and high-end housing. They also have flexible payment plans. Always remember you can be the next homeowner! Visit them at Prism Towers or reach them at (254) (0) 700 090 060 for further details. Email: [e-mail] Also kindly check their website on www.kingsdevelopers.com for their amazing projects. You can always share your story via [e-mail]

[@Becky370]

😂😂😂 This round we a getting inspired day after day ❤❤we love this energy Lynn

[@kathurewasgaiti9241]

Lynn hallo please how is bby David? Please I wish you could do follow up

[@user-wh8uu9ck7o]

Hae lyyn I was asking for your permission uniruhusu ni share my family story aki am suffering alot kindly help me

[@balancedviewpoint7418]

Wow, you three women look absolutely stunning in your chosen outfits. Crab for yourselves. Lynn, this is the real deal, the big deal- "Intentional positive parenting". Once you respect and appreciate your kids phase developments, and the aspect of respecting them, life shall be so good for everyone. A child is just an angel and dependent at their infancy all through the process of self discovery. But as much as we assume "they are just kids",at the point where your child is able to communicate some degree of meaning to whatever they are saying, allow them the latitude to express themselves. Today's child matures faster due to so much influence from within and without(technology and social media). Let us allow them to be. When looking at Cathy Kendi, her awesome mother and brother here makes life feel so good guys. As a mother try to borrow a leaf from Judy Njogu while as a child respect and look upto your mother both as a friend and a mother at the same time. By the way, single motherhood is not a crime, nor is it unique. Just like life takes us rough and smooth rides so is single parenthood. It happens as a normal thing. Love yourself at the point where life finds you. Our children always have something good to do for themselves just as they can also impact you, the parent positively. A child should be your friend for them to feel safe to share anything and everything. That way, mental health issues shall be minimised. Are you a child of a single mother? Well, love yourself and your mother more. As you love and appreciate your great Mom, it is equally important to realise that circumstances forced her to be in that status then but now, learn to avoid any situation that can place you in the same status. It is not an easy ride. Take care of yourself well and support your mother to the core. A mother is a beacon of hope to any child, a protector and selfless being that can do anything and everything to see her children through regardless of situations she could endure. Upto this stage, please allow me to salute all single mothers in the house and know that as some of us men let you down , God shall never leave you. I as a person affirm all mothers in the world starting from Lynn Ngugi here.

[@user-bu2sg7di3r]

Hello lynn❤😊

[@Caroline.Njoroge]

Love you Kate and your mom. I follow you in all your channels.

[@kimcox7532]

This is the best therapy I've had

[@beenah552]

So inspiring,amazing mother daughter love ❤❤❤

[@catherinetaylor3450]

Amazing mother daughter conversations that are much needed…I relate to all of it.Our parents didn’t know any better.We just need to be better than them..❤❤ .lots of love to cate and Judy..(Cate give me my flowers I have baby sat you 😂😂😂)

[@paulinekiragu7858]

Wow, this is such a timely conversation. am also fighting with myself about having or not having children, and I've learned a lot. Thank you so much, Lynn ❤️

[@miriamblessed3425]

When the right time comes I the lord will make it happen 💕💕 that is God wish you well

[@PaulineKasyoka]

❤

[@susannjogu3682]

Waoh this really hit deep me I left my kids with my mother inlaw and since she was a well off mother inlaw people thought that I never provided for my kids I worked odd jobs and send ever coin to my mother inlaw bt up to date there are people who tell me wewe ulilelewa watoto and it really makes me feel horrible

[@lucyrachuonyo3618]

Aki the way am always looking forward to seeing what you have for us for the day 😂. Thanks for this channel ❤

[@LynnNgugi]

We appreciate your support Lucy❤

[@gathonikaberere4016]

Here to get the tips on parenting, especially being a mum to a daughter too

[@shillawandera]

I got my son when i was 18 and its not easy at all, he stays with my mom and sometimes i feel like I am not a good mother because i have never been their for him and I dont know what he thinks about me, i do cry sometimes when i thinks about it, i Google how to build a relationship with a child, how to make him feel the love of a mother but i get no answers since he is a teenager and am not financially stable to stay with him now, i hope all shall be well with time and he will be able to understand and forgive me😢

[@annwanjiru2100]

It’s ok my love they understand you … have been away for 7yrs I visit home every other year… sometimes last year I felt like am not enough and I needed to spend time with my son and trust me they understand .. my son asked me if I was not going back told him I’ll not and funny enough he told me it’s ok mum go work me am ok with grandma it hurts that he loves my mom than he loves but again am happy he is happy 🥹🥹🥹🥹so hugs my love and I really feel you

[@Eagleash]

Aaaaw happy to see this amazing people again ❤❤I first saw them from Sharon K Mwangi❤

[@esthernjeri1744]

Having kids it's not an achievement✌️ 😢....great show Lynn ❤.... better late than never finally watching ❤... lemme go and look for their podcast ☺️

[@SusanMarusha]

Amazing mother and daughter duo .

[@keithan8586]

Finally, i can relate with cates mom, and vouched to be my sons best friend. We can talk and reason things out.

[@sandraangela4681]

Lynn thank u watu a great show❤

[@fridahmiriti39]

So inspiring. ❤

[@njokki]

Beautiful ladies, good morning

[@Auntymadge]

Ah proud of you mother ❤❤

[@puritymurugi4408]

I respect Her decision but Mimi vile nangoja Ile siku Nita pata mtoto will be the best day of my life 😢

[@alicenalulwe84]

Amen,receive it

[@justerkarimi1323]

From your mouth to God's ears.

[@puritymurugi4408]

@@justerkarimi1323 Amen 🙏

[@gloriamurugik]

I’ve been waiting for this video ❤

[@bancygakungu8314]

I love this Cate and her mum ❣❤❤❤congrats

[@dorothychebet5411]

This is great ❤

[@beatricenjeri5256]

I once met Kate at Carrefour the Hub and she was the nicest. I lost my mum 5 years ago and i miss her and our relationship so much😢

[@dianadee8317]

They are both so pretty❣❣❣❣

[@eglasiomi3166]

Wooow ❤ what a companion ❤

[@johnsfabian4070]

Lynn you are blessed

[@ring-tone278]

Children are a blessing from God.

[@LahayiroyiTV]

Merci dear Lynn🥰

[@musyokiruth5137]

Happy to see cate here❤.....we schooled together in mumbuni girls

[@agnescallie4728]

Lynn you need to interview Esther Baumbach ..I love how she interacts with her daughters...This is one of my best episode I love to see good relationship btn parents and their kids either it's a father/mother..this something av never had with my parents but now as a mother I try my best to be close to my kids n am happy they are close to me..we have conversations with them n I love it..I want my kids and I to be best friends..it's a journey but we shall conquer..I will never want my kids to go through wat i went through..

[@user-dy6jo9om4b]

❤❤❤just learning love

[@barbarapatel7162]

Good morning beautiful ladies tuned in❤❤❤❤❤

[@xbxxbxbfbb4703]

I have been struggling with that never be with my kids niliwalea tu wakiwa wadogo from there wamekua with my mom ntill now. Sometime I feel bad CZ now am in Saudi not with my kids inauma but inabidi we love our kids but we have to stay away from them they gonna understand one day a love that bond they share ❤❤

[@moureenakinyi5370]

Mother and daughter relationship is one of the best admired….i have one with my 30 year old🥰🥰🥰🥰 not forgetting my 28yr old son❤️❤️❤️ Love this show@lynn😊

[@RK-xv1si]

Judy is right when I was growing up I could not go to my parents and tell them what has happened or what’s going on with me. In fact every village person will know what l have done from my parents instead of having a conversation together!

[@rainhakariuki2406]

Indeed we may be behind as a continent because of how children and parents relate with each other.

[@Queen_Boss_Andayi]

Speaking of therapy when we lost my mum my dad was advised to take us for therapy because my sister fell into alcoholism and my dad said therapy is for mad/crazy people we need to learn to handle our grief 😂😂

[@evawangari2417]

I'm also very lucky ☺ I thank God 😊

[@nzisacolleta1996]

Cate has always been that sweet soul since I knew her back in high-school Mumbuni.She was one of the best Captain we had 😍 Mommy Judy I just look at her and am like was this the same person who came for school meetings and she was soo tough we used to fear her😂😂.But am in love with their friendship ❤ because this started back in highschool we could see it.

[@lizmukui2369]

Kuhoya kirathimo is actually what it should be and not kwiraciria and yes it is tradition if a single lady has children boy or girl and they will get to that point of getting married then she has no choice but to go to her parents if living and kuhoya kirathimo.

[@aishaabdoul7649]

Good morning Lyn

[@treaxcysyombua1552]

Waaaw,Cate my school captain back in high school ❤

[@jkim9972]

In proper Kikuyu culture single women are equal to "ihii cia mucii' (sons). They are not required to pay for own dowry but should seek kirathimo (blessings) from parents before their children achieve milestones like circumcision, daughters dowry or sons marriage.

[@sharonnyawira575]

Finally,Kids are by choice.we are complete with or without children..kids are lifetime responsibilities

[@doctorrees4473]

Wow, I love this conversation. Mothers are always the safest space for their children. My mom was my safest space until God called her home (RIP mom). After that i had to figure out my life without her, it was not easy and upto now, I am lost 7 years later and am 53 years. Cate's mum has done a remarkable job with her children. Lynn I like your line of question, very authentic and mature. Kudos to you

[@RMwangi37]

Acknowledging dysfunction should not automatically be translated as ungratefulness and disrespect. That's a huge missing part in healing within African families.

[@catherine29472]

In Ukambani too you have to pay your dowry if you are not married and your son or daughter is getting married and want to bring their dowry. Hapo kwa because of sister or brother haiko kwetu. Traditions, some will still remain.

[@perpetualmakata2824]

This made me miss my mum Continue resting in peace mummy

[@m.c.1387]

Me as well....both biological mother and adoptive parents🙏🏾🕊🕊🙏🏾

[@periswacheke3780]

my mum also says she would love to be a grandma....but its up to us how we decide how we want to live...she is me and my siblings best friend

[@annitajeremyvlogs8488]

Nipitieni nifikishe 500 subs atleast ❤

[@marcrinetne4668]

Na hapa ndio watu wa mumbuni girls tutapana.....tukiona our head girl back then

[@trizamwende5685]

Yeaaa right she was our head girl

[@rosettelillehei7730]

Wooooooow. We are growing 💪 strong. I started to fallow you from Tuko. When you started your show I was there (online) following you. I am happy for you Lynn.

[@LynnNgugi]

🙏🙏🙏

[@Lucyirungu198]

Lovely pair ❤

[@estherkatile7944]

Hello team Lynn

[@nellyoluoko1554]

Am trying to understand the impact of single motherhood to Cate how it is with her being that if she would want to get married someday,will she be a great wife since she never had that example of learning from her mother maybe from a longer period of time or what role will the husband play in her life

[@fridahkinoti18]

I think its about mind set, am a millennial brought up in family set up where my mother was the breadwinner and my dad took care of us at home.

[@sheemaryam]

Natural beauty

[@viviennedebra4919]

I don't know why each time Lyn asks us to pause and go check a page out I do just that 😅. Lyn umenikorogea na ukanikalia Chapo 😂😂

[@user-jl5tk6jg8z]

This is soo imotional for me have been going thru rejection from my own Dad,,whereby i even build the a house and he didn't even come opening day neither has he entered in that house am going through pain knowing how i have strangled in gulf for this far 😢😢😢

[@esthernjeri1744]

🫂🫂🫂

[@jeffreyslugadwa9688]

Cool morning,already in

[@robertkiragu3248]

Lynn Ngugi invite one Jeremy Damaris

[@Teresazuri]

Finally❤❤❤

[@faithwndr8]

From the perspective of a follower of Elohim, this conversation was truly painful. When we put Elohim on the side, our conversation will always drive back to self. I see that the generation of now has really been deceived. At the same time, evil has increased in the same latter generations. I pray we find Christ so much that we will not support some things or watch what comes out of our lips.