A NEW PLAN FOR OUR NEW YEAR!

A NEW PLAN FOR OUR NEW YEAR!
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[@rosemaryharris6064]

In addition to being taught responsibility, I was taught to love to work without whining or complaining. We had a big family and lived on a busy farm. There wasnt money to buy prizes for all the chores that had to be done but my parents' teaching to be creative in our chores and to be grateful for health to work has been one of the greatest blessings they could have ever given me!!! I've always remembered their words... to do my best; to be happy, to have a good attitude; to be quick to help and to love doing it. While doing a long or hard task, it was the knowledge that I was doing something necessary that gave me the incentive to do it and do it well. The satisfaction of a job well done was rewarding in itself. In my daycare business, when it's time to clean up messes or put crafts and toys away, children have asked me what I am going to give them if they do it. Their little minds have been trained to expect something from others in exchange for doing something with a happy heart. Life doesn't always reward us with prizes for cleaning up our own messes or for helping others. Life's lessons and the blessings they bring truly have been my greatest 'prizes'!! May God bless you and your family!

[@tehilash7292]

You are right to the point. I found that rewards made the children lazy and greedy. Lost the moral of doing something for the well beimg.

[@pamwilkerson3761]

I have to tell you that God put you here to be a momma. You are absolutely killing it Momma❤️. Also You and your Husband seem to be such wonderful people and couple. And all so beautiful even your Dog is gorgeous 🥰

[@DoctorJoanieTool]

Maci is a riot and so smart - just 2 years old!!!! I do remember you having a prize bucket with little fun treats. Every human works better with incentives. And you have such great kiddos. They are polite and kind and caring toward each other.

[@debj4life478]

Rhett is growing so fast. Your children are precious! Thanks for sharing. Blessings

[@TamiKuenning-n6p]

May I make a suggestion? I am a certified teacher and have also worked in a school that used Abeka. (I have also homeschooled) Although Abeka is a solid curriculum and the daily spiral review is good, it is not a good fit for EVERY child. If you are going to stick with Abeka, consider only having students complete practice work on 'New Concepts" that are introduced. Once they are approaching mastery (80-90% correct) begin only assigning every other practice problem. Evaluate the spiral review problems based on complexity and against the data of each child and assign only a smattering of the daily review problems. Choose review problems they are still grappling with. I find the visual layout of Abeka not to be very user friendly for students who struggle with focus and staying on task. Also, Abeka is very laborious for young students requiring them to rewrite the problems onto their paper. If they have even the slightest dyslexia or fine motor issues, this can be frustrating and lead them to off-task behaviors. In my own classroom, I often use the required curriculum to introduce the new concepts, but then find fun hands on activities aligned to the same learning objective for reteaching and practice work. Also, on Teacher's Pay Teachers you can align a learning activity (I especially like this for math) and find a practice sheet (often free) that is available on their EASEL platform. These can be completed and self-checked online. If you are traveling or busy, they just submit the lesson and you can check it and discuss it with them at your convenience. As far as chores- use them as "brain breaks". Young children should rigorously engage in academic tasks in 10-20 minute increments (based on their ages) and then be given a large motor brain break or transition of some sort. Have them race to their room and be the first one to have their room straightened or their bed made. Finally, you may really need to reconsider your curriculum choices. Abeka is not considered best practices any longer. Your kids are all very unique. I also was a dance teacher/studio owner for 12 years - dancing will not cause a child to go astray. There are many studios that use age-appropriate music and costuming. It is a wonderful opportunity for children and cannot be substituted by videos. The dance teacher must observe the child's position and body placement. I think giving Allie an opportunity to begin formal dance lessons would be far more superior as an incentive than a treasure box. Sorry for the long post. I don't usually post nor try to tell families my opinions - but as a Christian, I sense these are the areas that may be causing the strife. If only all parents were as self-reflective and involved as you both are! Grace and Peace!

[@ChristineSmith-n9j]

Glad to see the girls excitement in learning and hope they retain that same excitement as years go by. How cute is Rhett "Ba ba". Never hurts a little reward for great behavior and jobs well done. Hahaha!! John wants a prize too for a days work!

[@grimehomevideos5837]

When my kids were little I had a “star chart”. Every task they completed they got to put a star next to their name. Tasks varied depending on age of child. When they got to a certain number of stars ( a week or so ), they got to get a treat. Treats were also based on their age and really taught them to watch themselves and each other reach a goal. Putting the star sticker was a big part of the prize!

[@chessyharris6200]

I can't believe Rhett is walking. How did I miss this. ❤ the family.

[@kim_pretty6382]

✨✨💪🙏Great goal setting for the kiddos 💕Rhett getting So big so quick 💕🙏

[@elizabethhamilton8388]

Your kids are so adorable. Good luck with your motivation chart for the girls. Looking forward to what 2024 has in store for your family. Hugs from the south east coast of Florida.😎🦩🌞🦩😎

[@juliekeast6175]

If the chore seems daunting for them, break it down in small steps. Its probably demotivating because the task feels insurmountable to them eg: when I was six, tidying my room was a huge task and I gave up because it felt so big Also limit rewards to chores and only give rewards for school things when they've achieved something eg: memorising a multiplication table etc, that way the girls have goals for their school work.

[@marybethterhaar4200]

I'm a preschool teacher. M's are much harder for a baby to pronounce than D or B. That's why many children say Dada first. It has nothing to do with emotion. It's only related to the ability to learn to move the lips and mouth to form the syllable. He'll get it in time.❤

[@muffydragonslayer]

That's a good one😂😂😂😂

[@growinggenerationshomestea516]

My 9 kids said Mama first. 3 by a month old

[@shellysanderson16]

Happy New Year to the Webster family. All the kiddos look amazing they are so precious.

[@kathymcdougle4575]

Great video. I think that it is a great ideal, because my dad gave me allowance to keep my room clean it helped me to be clean. I wanted the allowance so I could go to a little store to get candy. So weekends I got my allowance off to the store to get my candy. Y’all doing great. Beautiful family. God Bless

[@omirasantillanes5150]

Can't wait to see the new vlog and hope you guys have a great Friday evening and night with the kids and hope you guys and the kids have a wonderful weekend ahead and can't wait to see what you guys have in mind for this new year and baby Rhett is so cute and adorable and he is almost 10 months old.

[@kierstenjorgenson5305]

Your children are all so precious!!! Your videos always make me smile!!!

[@maggiebarrettbarrett5684]

john and kids are cute ,that's it ,can't handle her 😊at all

[@ejgilliland126]

The girls are smart and cute. And the baby is adorable

[@cherylbrunner9404]

Oh my Rhett getting big too quick😊

[@luccianaborn6629]

I literally never got anything for chores growing up and that’s just real life. I respected my parents enough to just do what they asked. Also I wasn’t disappointed in the real world you don’t get bribed with prizes for being respectful and responsible it’s just something you should do in general, it’s simple. when you work a job your reward is payment but if the respect aspect is ingrained in you you naturally want to do a good job. When you’re raising kids, your reward is seeing them thrive and become awesome people and their hugs and kisses. And honoring God with what he gives us (A job, a household to run. Etc.) should just be taught for that purpose alone. The Bible teaches giving and serving without expecting anything in return. Side note it may seem natural to talk to a camera at this point but I would be embarrassed if my parents got online in front of thousands of people and talked about my shortcomings. They deserve privacy during the growing pains and mistakes like any other kid who doesn’t grow up with a camera on them.

[@kristyspencer1667]

How about you raise your children the way you choose and let them raise theirs the way they choose. They aren't doing anything bad. Their kids are very smart, respectful, and loving children. If they want your advice, I'm sure they will ask.

[@tinasikora4351]

I’m not saying I have a favorite, BUT I just love Maci! ❤

[@annreed6977]

I love how you are teaching your girls to take on responsibiity.

[@rlvmommy4106]

I used to do a Popsicle jar chore reward....you take the wide craft sticks and put money amounts on one end...get a flower pot and foam to stock in it then stick the sticks in it with the money amounts down...then I gave my kid the chores and if she completed them daily she earned one pull. At the end of the week she would do her pulls with however many she had earned and her reward was determined by her...maybe one stick had a $5, maybe a dime...she controlled that by her behavior and responsibility. She liked it and it lasted for quite a while.

[@bethtaig2443]

Happy New Year to you all. I’ve absolutely loved & enjoyed your vlogs every week. I also have really enjoyed your interviews could we have an interview with John’s mother. Another thing I particularly enjoy is Q&A’s with you and John and your mother Alyssa . Thanks always for sharing your life experiences. From me in Australia 🇦🇺

[@anyamuenchgrieser8686]

Oh my word, Rhett crawls just like my firstborn did ❤😅

[@Sara-83]

Omg mine too!! I always have such a hard time explaining it to me like half crabwalk half crawl...lol

[@dianecervantes9095]

Those are great goals for the kiddos. Yeah really great nobody’s perfect. All you have to do is try and do your best. Have a blessed Friday night.❤

[@elizabethkoobs1060]

"You are loco." Too funny!😁 Your girls are so sweet.💜

[@m0m0ntherun]

His crawl reminds me of my daughter at that age. She never really crawled the traditional way. She just kind of scooted and swung her leg around like a crab crawl. Boy was she fast! Your kids are all so beautiful!

[@rachaelnuchols764]

Such a sweet sweet family ❤

[@kimberleighnagel8774]

We give our kids a token for each of the expectations they complete each day. Then they can buy rewards which cost different amounts of tokens based on what the item cost. It helps work on saving toward a goal.

[@HeatherKFezuk]

Maci has such a little personality. She’s hysterical!

[@barbhelle5481]

I raised 5 children. They were not fond of chores but they did them. ❤ Your children are so sweet.

[@gaminggrannyyaall]

Mom Jason doesn't have to do chores so I shouldn't have to either. My reply was I am not Jason's mom but one day he will need to know how to take care of himself or his mom will have to follow him around 4ever.

[@quinoasongs2507]

Good plan. Keep on evaluating it, ok? I too remember it being reinforced that the "prizes" gotten for doing chores included "without complaining" but my biggest complaint as a firstborn was that the younger siblings barely did anything in comparison, or didn't get "corrected" as much. So just watch that. Have a great day

[@nancycagwinrealtor]

Such sweet little kids.

[@denisebyrd3573]

You guys looked too cute sitting on the floor. It reminded me of two high schoolers ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@lesliehaygood4938]

Beautiful kids

[@marsihopkins1995]

The girls are so cute and little Rhett cuteness overload

[@leannelrod7046]

I thought Zoey was the family comedian but I think Maci will take the role

[@TerriSpringer]

How cute. They are getting so big. We did the same prize idea but called it No freaking Friday. No melt downs with doing your best. It works.

[@elizabethharrison7306]

You tube channel joy 😊 Love my favorite one fan Big 💖 God bless you family and ❤

[@michellemartini605]

That's exactly what I was thinking John!

[@pickypants9696]

Get the book Money Doesn't Grow On Trees by Neale Godfrey. It was on the NYT's best seller list for years! Designed to motivate kids to do chores and earn money they can spend towards short term, long term wants as well as "quick cash" spending money, paying "taxes" (money goes towards a fun family event), etc. It also teaches a life long habit of financial responsibility by "earning" for what you want and "budgeting" the money you get that actively involves each kid in their own choices and the consequences of what happens when you don't do your job well or at all at the end of the week. Surprise, you don't get paid while your siblings "co-workers" do. No money that week means you don't have anything to spend while your siblings do. Amazing how they fall in line the next week without being badgered to do so! 😜

[@jettabartholomew1118]

I think Mom & Dad should have glass "chore jars" - rewards ranging from a nickel to a dollar...to be untouched for 3 months😊 Rewards by example 🎉

[@graciejeanl15]

😂😂 "Can I get a prize to if I'm good?" -John

[@heatherwatson1021]

Did you ever post a before and after of your house with the new paint job? Not sure if I missed it.

[@Kate-ip8ul]

Most babies master the “d” and “b” sounds before “m” so that is why mama comes a little later.

[@lindafarmer5503]

Happy New Year God bless you and all your families I love you guys may God always watch over you all 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@patriciastokes1856]

Happy New Year to you and your family.

[@beatrice4292]

Hello:) Was there going to be a follow up posting regarding the Painting of Your House? Thanks for sharing! Blessings, from Seattle, to you and your family.

[@marcimayzes7532]

M is hard. Buddy is giving you his obedient best w baba. M Is a fine tuning thinging. Hold on he will get there!❤

[@MaddyK-l3g]

I love your videos. ❤❤❤

[@71717]

Well I know one thing I would not bribe them to do what it is they're supposed to do, they are to do the work that they're supposed to do and if they don't they get something taken from them, and the motivation should be that they thank God, they have a job to go to that should be the motivation, not all jobs are fun and exciting, kids nowadays, get things handed to them, they're spoiled, and let's not make our kids Mad and upset, really, nowadays the kids control the parents, not the parents control, the kids, I'm just saying, I would go at it a different way you're not teaching them anything they're basically getting what they want, well I'll show Mommy and Daddy, I would just like up doing things and I'll get a surprise, when they should be getting something taken from them that they like a lot, that way they'll do the job cuz they don't want that taken from them and if they are not happy about doing the job that's too bad that's life, 🤔

[@donnettewebster2504]

I did a chore chart with my kids. They loved getting a prize at the end of the week. But I had them in a pillowcase and they had 5 seconds to pick something out of the bag without looking. Sometimes it was a little envelope with a note saying you get an ice cream with mommy or one with daddy. Or even you pick your favorite dinner. They liked seeing a check mark for each chore.

[@theresadavis4885]

I like that idea for motivation!!!!

[@pattyerwin6498]

Macy needs to be able to reach her goals daily. She’s too young to wait 5 days.

[@TamiKuenning-n6p]

AGREE!!!! She needs immediate feedback.

[@christiabreeden7777]

Rhett is getting so big!!..Looks like his daddy!!..Beautiful kids

[@lesliemcguire9664]

Rhett looks like Alyssa and Zoey.

[@susiesantino5625]

I feel Brand New RHETT looked like Daddy to me, but now he is looking like Mommy & Zoey... Either way cute

[@joandeigan7826]

That little Rhett is beyond cute 😅. He's adorable.

[@Sh4d0w5tr1k3]

Happy New Year to you guys!

[@Vivaldilover]

Thank you so much for not talking "babytalk" to your adult audience. I can tell you are trying and I appreciate that. Also noticed your Lake Tahoe shirt. I'm from the Calif side of Lake Tahoe.

[@Vivaldilover]

Also, don't expect your children to jump right in and clean their room, with gusto. Won't happen. This training is All up to you two. Regementation is key, huge key. Make it a habit to those kids. A requirement absolutely. If you are continually explaining why they should be doing "their jobs" you are fighting a losing battle. Nothing happens until their requirements are completed (beds made, clean up time before bedtime. Start now... NOW... having them clean their bathrooms, hanging up clothes, putting clothes away. If you do all of this for them, responsibility and expectation is out the window. Kids love schedules, they know what to expect. So, get them out of bed 15 min earlier every day, allowing time to get those requirements done before personal time is allowed. Take this from a child psychologist. You must discipline yourself to ensure that the kids meet their obligation. Giving the children a "prize" for doing their assigned jobs. Never. They will grow up expecting rewards for everything they do. Next, you'll be rewarding the kids a "trophy" even though they didnt do their task but you don't want them to be "left out". What you will succeed in doing is rewarding those who don't do their jobs properly and showing the child that did do their jobs, that they don't have to do what's expected and you'll see them do less and less but wanting the reward because you rewarded the non motivated child for really doing a less than acceptable assignment. Be very careful. Right now I bet you have the "everybody gets a trophy mentality" because none of them should be left out. You'd better rethink this philosophy. Work ethic will not be something they attain in adulthood. But you will have taught those children not to put any effort in what they do and they will grown to expect everything to be given to them plus that stupid reward. Their formative years are RIGHT NOW. What you teach now, what expectations are, what failure to do those expectations result in depends on you. Don't expect those kids to understand why they need to be responsible. Plain fact is, the expectation exists.

[@deborahhauck1642]

For pre-readers…picture chore charts worked well for my kids.

[@belvianester6241]

Love u guys

[@carolwhisenhunt7504]

I'm curious Alyssa and John what did your parents do if you didn't do your chores? Do you agree with it! Do you feel like you just don't want to parent that way? Live your sweet family. I love all the Bates families.

[@alexachenbach821]

All your girls are so pretty😊❤

[@lindamiles5253]

Happy New Year!

[@rebalynn3117]

Look forward to your videos every week! I miss seeing your stories on Instagram! Will you ever go back to posting more regularly?

[@unapologeticallyromel7096]

Binge watching

[@mariedoremus8440]

Great idea!

[@robertaskversky1482]

Awesome family ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@alexachenbach821]

Your Little man is cute❤😊

[@suel1961]

Did I see a Nancy drew book? Oh my gosh I love Nancy Drew growing up. I read all her book. I didn’t think they were still around. ❤

[@janetrogers5429]

Also loved Trixie belden

[@rebalynn3117]

Nancy Drew was one of my faves as a kid too!

[@jlgibbo6116]

Dana girls , Robin kane

[@rebalynn3117]

Never heard of either of those. @@jlgibbo6116

[@gaminggrannyyaall]

her and Amelia Bedelia

[@patriciatodd8552]

sweet family, Happy New Year

[@Cleo60449]

Makes sense to have a chore chart! When I was a kid my mom had a poop chart in the bathroom! 😂🤣😂

[@lindacilli1278]

I love your family and videos-I watch them all, however your opening music and the same music when used as background music is sooo annoying. You REALLY need to change it to something more pleasing. I have a background in music, so I know what I am saying. Love you all and God bless!

[@suzannepiontek8150]

A suggestion for the rewards chest………. I would consider tying a long ribbon to each of the items, so that they do not even know what item is being chosen. Each selection will be a complete surprise each time. Like the “Fishing” game. Otherwise, they get bored knowing what there is to choose from.

[@lesleyhall6852]

Happy new year XXxxxxx

[@lynn7854]

We had a chore chart and we would have a trip reward or sometimes we would get paid and that really motivated everyone

[@Vivaldilover]

Linguistically, "Momma" is much harder for a baby to say. The tongue has a natural "sitting position on the roof of the mouth so.." Dada" is much easier to say. "Momma" (M) must be formed so it's harder for a young baby.

[@JackieKing-k7e]

Love your family vlops

[@JackieKing-k7e]

Rhett is so cute

[@growinggenerationshomestea516]

Have Rhett say "mmmm" when eating. Every bite "mmmm" that tastes so good, is that yummy. Say "mmmmm" Rhett. Learn the letter sound before a word. It will happen fast once he gets the sound.

[@Mudd_1969]

So what happens if they have a bad day at the beginning of the week? How will you keep them motivated for the rest of the week to do that task well? In the past we had separate baskets each having different prizes so if we earned the least amount of stars it would be a pick from one basket so the more stars you earned the more prizes you got to pick from the baskets. One basket would have pieces of candy, second basket would have pens/pencils erasers etc and the third basket would have the best prizes which is reserved for the most stars earned. If we messed up we could earn extra star by being helpful to a sibling or doing extra chores without being asked. Just an idea.

[@brittanyapplehoff1098]

U could also put prizes in it like coupons :) ie: a “yes” day or ice cream for dinner or trip with mom to get nails done or mom and dad will take u out for dinner/ you get to decide what to eat for dinner :)

[@villenafamily8211]

John wants a prize 😂😅

[@GraceJones-ml5in]

❤️❤️❤️

[@sueglen3726]

Maci is going to be a character! 😅

[@koreensanders4281]

Love you guys so it’s hard to say this but the background music is a little too loud and distracting.

[@jodydroullard5288]

Agreed 200%...so annoying.

[@Sara-83]

This is the first time if seen a kiddo crawl just like my son did.

[@cathiesindall6721]

I love the fact you equate your paycheque as a reward . The kids are working at their jobs earning their pay cheque

[@deannajohnson9043]

I love watching your beautiful family. Just curious how you make these videos without kids walking around in the background? Do you have help or do the 2 0f you have magic powers? LOL just kidding. I'm a mom to 8 but they are ages 35 down to 11 currently and I am 54. when my first 5 were young I was still young and could keep up with their energy. and my older kids helped out so much with the younger kids especially because the first 5 were girls and the last 3 were little boys! I look forward to watching your family grow.

[@JanetVandever-e3k]

That is a good idea you came up too I did something like that for my kids when they was younger thank you for sharing with me Janet from Evansville ind 12:47

[@Amanda__Gaming]

i’ll get ready for bed I’m gonna watch your videos tomorrow My dad didn’t take off on Wednesday?

[@Nunyabusiness82777]

Oh my word your kids are adorable!

[@janinenussbaumer3936]

My daughter is the same age as rhett and is not moving anywhere😂😂🙈 she can sit and thats it😅

[@tehilash7292]

In my expiriance the list of requirement is too long and also prize don't make it. What makes it is mom and dad work together. The traditiomal way. Time with extanded healthy family makes the children stronger.

[@bargerjeannie]

I tried the prize thing for chores when my kids were little and it worked for a little while but then they got bored with it or something so we had to keep thinking of new ideas.

[@cherylbrunner9404]

Like that u also do co op

[@barbarabavier675]

Well Alyssa, you ARE part of the milk delivery!

[@legacycommunications]

Working out . Do more stretching and rolling out

[@cherareina8963]

Hello from Tampa❣️

[@Disneymom28]

I agree , good luck with that chart. Rhett is an absolute doll. You definitely have your hands full with Macie.