A Personal Q&A | navigating heartbreak, sadness & sexuality

[@catesteele]

Your videos are such a gift Hitomi! I only press play when I know I’m feeling ready to expand my mind because you have such powerful words. It’s never just mindless consumption like most things online these days. Thank you ❤

[@catesteele]

p.s. the artwork with the questions is amazing! also could you make a video discussing osho’s book ´love, freedom, and aloness’? i’m reading it right now and i’m curious what you think of it!

[@jelenaenni]

I wish you had a podcast🥺 I feel like u have so much wisdom to share and your energy is so calming

[@alove_likethis]

"I just want to honor your heart" 🥴🥴🥴 been dealing with harsh feelings of being led on in a somewhat casual dating scenario due to lack of honest communication, not knowing how to navigate honoring my feelings while also not villianizing someone I love. it's a constant practice. thank you for making me feel seen in this season. hope your heart feels held and safe, too

[@katlantas5674]

For the libido/sexuality part, I want to add a recommendation. Education! Watching videos and reading about how desire, attraction, arousal etc. works, about how it works differently for certain people or genders helped me immensely. I realised that my experience was not unique and also not weird. It gave me confidence because it was not longer a riddle or this secret thing I was trying to uncover. Women oftentimes experience desire kind of differently than men. So in heterosexual relationships there will most likely be confusion as you would expect the other person to sort of work like you and then they ... don't. What you were describing Hitomi, sounds like responsive desire (as opposed to spontaneous) and its very common for women. Learning how my desire works made a massive difference for me! Recommend!!!

[@sarahathaway1881]

Do you(or anyone else reading this) have any recommendations for books or other literature that you have enjoyed??

[@katlantas5674]

I do! Mind The Gap by Karen Gurney is a wonderful introduction into the topic of sexual desire! Also, I get a lot of inspo from the creator/sex educator Hannah Witton here on KZbin. :)@@sarahathaway1881

[@jüßtæråt]

​@@sarahathaway1881come as you are!

[@erikaixchelmedina7182]

Book’s recommendations on this topic?

[@Kayla_522]

Tantric sex for men or tantric sex for women by Dianna has been amazing I read the one for men and women so I can understand from a man's perspective as well as my own

[@chrishirecat]

Venus going into retrograde at the same time as Mercury really put some intense energy into the universe. So many people are going through breakups. It is divine timing to me. me and my partner of 3 years broke up, as if our relationship changed overnight. But it has opened a season for me to really tune into myself and take time for ME again, which is something I would recommend for anyone who is going through a break up❤

[@Exotixa]

Just went through a breakup this past week. This came at a perfect time. 💕

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

Sending warm love right to your heart ❤️ breathing deep with you through the heavier moments and dancing with you through the light ones. I’m so proud of you for growing through this

[@Exotixa]

@@HitomiMochizuki222 You're so sweet 😭 I actually might cry. I will remember these good vibes as I wait to get approved for a new apartment. I am sending you love and warmth too. ✨️🥲

[@hopenitrous]

@@Exotixa hope you get the apartment!! you got this

[@Exotixa]

@@hopenitrous Thank you, love 🥹💕💕✨️✨️

[@lucidmaya]

Same here love 🙏🏼💔💕

[@gabyperez8511]

you are so wise Hitomi. For most of my life i have not had a female role model but i can confidently say you are now one of my biggest inspirations for how i want to approach life and carry myself. Thank you for sharing your time and knowledge with us

[@xmv99]

"These practices are truly just meant to help us return back to this experience of oneness" I love this phrase bc I always struggle to define what spirituality and spiritual practices are for me. But it really is as simple as that, whatever makes me feel whole and experience that feeling of oneness. 💖

[@caterinabierti6339]

warm tea and blueberries, in bed at night while it's raining outside, what a perfect setting for a hitomi video

[@rachaelparker172]

I love you and your content so much. You and your videos are so healing. You inspire me everyday to be more spiritual, intentional, and adventurous. thank you.

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

This made my heart all warm and expansive. Thank you 🙏🏽 ❤️‍🔥

[@missapril2520]

I went through your old videos recently and skipped around through to the present. It was refreshing to see that you have always been the same person in your heart. I just appreciate you so much as a person and wanted to see your evolution. Thank you for always being true to yourself and sharing the results with us.

[@merelvanwolferen8179]

I cried during the part about libido differences since I am in that situation with my partner right now and I am having a really hard time communicating about it. Thankyou for breaking open this topic ❤

[@celeste3189]

you have truly been like a big sister to me, thank you for all of your vulnerability and wisdom 🥹🩵

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

Hey little sis I adore you and think you’re doing great. Thank you for letting me grow by your side 🥹🥹🥹

[@Aurical222]

So wholesome

[@fleurmpeters]

Um hello it’s giving teacher mentor therapist but in a casual slay way

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

Ahhhh hahah 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@jessw.6250]

Yes

[@hollamonE]

Total slay

[@elena_ran]

Very true, I can see she just want to help others with what she learned in her journey

[@Bella-kk4go]

@@HitomiMochizuki222hitomi thank you so so so much for your content! i’ve been watching since high school and i’m going back to college rn, this channel has always resonated and is such an amazing space to return to online among the daily chaos🪐💌

[@herSp]

thank you for sharing your light with us. kind of different but i went through a friendship breakup this time last year and felt like i would never recover from it. this was my soul in human form. i woke up everyday for months dreading my life without her. daily panic attacks for months. this year im dealing with a lot of the bruised edges that the wound caused. i feel very achy all over again, despite the fact we've reconnected, the difference between what we were and what we are now is stark even when i have faith in us. "no matter what comes or goes, god stays". i wish i had this video and its treasure when i genuinely could see no hope. but i am happy for the people who can relish in the safety and comfort of ur words in their time of need. seeing u take the beauty of life so eagerly while simultaneously holding ur pain so tenderly gives me so much hope. thank u Hitomi 🖤🖤🖤

[@ectomorph7944]

hitomiii i’m starting university tomorrow and have been watching your videos all night to stay deeply rooted in the knowledge that i can always come home to myself! you are a beautiful soul and inspire me to hold more space and compassion for myself in my day to day ❤️ sending you continuous love and blessings

[@kamrankamran8863]

Weish to have a life partner like you? I am alone and single life 33?My education graduate? My life need a woman accepted me my life as a life partner? My life wait a woman as a life partner? You are accepted me my life as a life partner? I am thankful to you full of life?❤❤❤❤❤🌹🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏

[@freyaallen6324]

just went through a breakup when this appeared in my recommended, it's all divinely timed, thank you.

[@isabellasmith7608]

hitomi, this brought so much light to my life. thank you for loving yourself and having those hard moments and years enough to be able to share this love with everyone that surrounds you and us. thank you so so much, sending love.

[@CestLaaaVie]

I’m also going through a break up. Your advice on realizing that your vision for the relationship, wasn’t actually reality, has helped me a lot. We were together for 11 years and I think I lied to myself about what was happening. Anyway, thanks for the video. Good luck with this next phase in life ❤

[@elisanapoletano]

loving all these contents from you ! 🙏🏻🌿🤲🏻 just what I needed in the past so heavy week x

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

Thank you so much for hanging with me on here. I’m holding you energetically and hope you can feel resourced and supported through this cycle ❤️

[@journeywithzen]

I'm on day 4 on binge-ish watching your youtube vids🥰 they're so wholesome and soul-healing! thank you for existing, Hitomi 💫🤍

[@jani26241]

Oh my god, i needed this video today. Idk how i am feeling lately and altho i used to practice self talking and grounding i don't do that anymore.. I recently moved to a different country for few months and i was feeling suddenly lonely and unfulfilled, and felt like i am choosing things that would farther throw me off balance from my life. Cuz it's just easier to submerge in the spiral than actually trying to take any actions. Thankyou Hitomi for inspiring me again to look at the current life in a more positive way, and taking new steps to feel better💜

[@meghildreth]

im also going through a long-term breakup. thank you for talking about it, feels so good to know that im not alone in this feeling

[@islamaunder7015]

Sending so much love to you Hitomi! ❤ I went through a very difficult break up last year so I resonate with your proccess of sadness and healing but I am so incredibly excited for what awaits you when you come out of this cacoon of growth! So many beautiful adventures, experiences as well as spiritual evolution in store for you 🦋

[@islamaunder7015]

Also would highly reccomend PJ Harvey if you wanna get back into your powerful solo divine feminine energy ❤❤❤

[@susannahXD]

I love that you own being ambitious. I am also ambitious. Sometimes I feel like depression and ambition go hand in hand and they can be really beautiful partners to walk with through life, complementing one another

[@lornareilly9407]

That's such a beautiful and comforting though, do you mind say more it feels very important

[@sunkissedchaos]

so many people in my life have gone through breakups lately.. I love the advice you share here, even though you're healing too. how beautiful! you are such a lovely soul, Hitomi xx

[@ayannireese]

literally going through a breakup rn as we speak. video was definitely a divine message

[@Jushinchen]

Same here :(

[@AnatAb]

were you always this good with words? your flow is unmatched

[@CrissySims]

Ily hitomi ❤ i esp resonate with the “there’s not always a villian and Victor, sometimes it’s just timing and that’s the saddest of all”

[@piscesisabel]

Broke up just a few days ago, thank you for sharing ❤️

[@RamaMahrous]

Loved this and your vulnerability! I am also going through a healthy breakup. So many emotions, all over the place. I try to see it as an invitation to go within and tend to the tender parts of me. This was comforting and inspiring. Lots of love ❤️

[@theyoo27]

Funny enough, Hitomi has been my therapist and social worker for the past year…I mean look at the glasses 🤓 love witnessing these moments of sharing 💛

[@babybleu27]

your videos consistently lift me out of my depression

[@kaylanrosa]

You’ve been such an inspiration for my own videography pursuits and natural lifestyle - especially when I feel discouraged on my path. Sending you so much love and light ✨

[@StarshineInTHEnorth]

🌸✨🦋✨🌸

[@orchidchild577]

hi hitomi, as someone currently in the field of psychology with a great respect for social work: i just want to let you know that currently, the mental health field does not draw from freudian theories, and his ideas are largely viewed as problematic, and unable to be empirically validated. i just wanted to let you know that in case you were still considering psych! you will learn about his theories (kinda like a history lesson) but they won’t shape your practice in any way. social work is still amazing though and i agree that it is more holistic! anyways thank you for this video i really enjoyed it

[@PsychonautDreams1251]

Psychology student here as well that going to have my bachelor's in December, can confirm. Every pscyhology professor I've ever had disagrees majorly with Freud's work.

[@storyalchemist_]

Thanks for sharing this! I'm curious, how does the field look at Jung?

[@Princessm1320]

Psychology and social work double major also graduating in December can also confirm this

[@dionysiachelioudakis3199]

ok but there are neo-freudians and other psychodynamic theories that draw from him. At least in Europe these theories and especially lacanian psychoanalysis are still "in"

[@kittyriss]

hi hitomi

[@MsChigaa]

I really can’t believe you are sharing all your wisdom with us for free. I hope you deeply feel how many good things you are doing for the community. I appreciated this video a lot 💕 I wish you all the best and lots of love

[@astridhanl4861]

Somehow very often when I am anxious or stressed in a negative way, the flow and vi rs of your videos and amount of self love calm me down and really comfort me. To surviving a hard week and rough week end! Thanks and sending broken healing heart vibes back to you.

[@troldrian]

perfect video to watch while doing my skin care before bed ❤❤

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

Yesss 😍🫶🏼

[@kannmc1024]

Perfect timing I’m currently going through my worst heartbreak yet 😭 thank you for your kind and wise words ❤️

[@zynahanas4431]

The way you mentioned your prayer style with the Universe/God was so similar to mine. I'm muslim, and I always start by first referring to Allah swt with His beautiful names. And then I move on to pray for the Prophet pbuh, and then my family and friends. And then I express gratitude like you. And finally, I ask for what I want and seek forgiveness for my sins. I found it beautiful that you talked about prayer in that aspect. It is beautiful.

[@MelanieEvadne]

I love you Hitomi!!!!

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

I love you Melanie!!!!

[@biancagonz-o]

thank you for your honesty & vulnerability, its so refreshing to see

[@silviadeluca957]

From the perspective of an ace person, this video is very helpful. We might struggle with intimacy due to our sexual orientation so I think it's a valid point the one you are making here.

[@divine_simplicity]

I am an asexual Lesbian and finally found true love which I thought would never be possible. I always wished to for an intimate relationship (just wth the sex part) ; spending the rest of our lives together, growing old together. Society puts so much value on the sex part I just always felt completely alone in this not thinking I would find people alike

[@Yosemite89]

Hi Hitomi! We're the girls you saw in the Barcelona's ✈️ 🥹 still at this time I cant even believe to hug you and have you so close!! You are so magical, but at the same time your so real. I forgot completely to give you THANK YOU 🪷 you make us stronger and better in each video 🤍 we love you

[@carolineswn4]

Hitomi! As a clinical social work student who wants to go into direct practice but loves to under stand theory, philosophy, and policy/macro work, I couldn’t help but feel excited that you said you want to study social work!!! Your reasoning (the emphasis on the person + environment) is exactly why I changed from psychology to social work and decided to get my MSSW. So excited for that journey if you decide to pursue that :) LOVE YOU AND THANK YOU FOR THIS

[@nomifreimixes]

so raw, so inspiring 🧡🧡🧡

[@sara-mi6jg]

I love this, it feels like talking with a therapist

[@joybird144]

Thank you Hitomi 🩷 Super happy to share this Earth experience with a beautiful light like you. I went thru the hardest break up around 10 months ago but I still learned something from this that I will be able to carry with me through this life. Your life represents such a unique sense of love and I know the most beautiful experience of romantic love will come into your life again. Happy Existence!!!! ✨🥰

[@swaggelie]

I love you so much, you’re giving me big sister/bestie vibes, it’s so cool to listen to you and “hang out” virtually, it gives me such good energy and stimulating thoughts. Thanks !!

[@serenawhitmarsh6726]

LOVE you Hitomi, sending you love and light

[@seorin__]

sending so much love to you.🤍 your wisdom is so inspiring and i wish you so much healing and i just know you’re going to come out of this phase even more radiant ☀️☀️

[@sceniry]

you gave me strength to break up with someone who isn't giving me as much happiness anymore. its the worst thing i realized and the hardest thing i ever did but it was really necessary.

[@bethanysavage828]

the glasses are soo cute! thank you for sharing as always 💗

[@pamelanunez-zaremba6781]

Thank you for being such a beautiful vessel of love and kindness. Grateful for you ❤

[@graceeickel6607]

Every time I finish one of your videos, it feels like I’m hanging up a phone call with a friend .. so my inner voice impulsively goes “Love you! Bye girl” hahaha.

[@mumbusmixologist]

Oooh Hitomi I have too much love for you 💝💝💕🤧

[@lillianlynch8975]

am so interested in hearing ab ur journey w yoga, how u found it, becoming a teacher etc... if u ever felt called to do so!

[@OZ01209]

I love your opening. That you have to surrender to the reality of what wasn't happening... Between therapy and self help stuff, I've learned to love someone for who they are now, not their possible potential that you think they have. ~💖~

[@qwil6133]

the way I was thinking I need to watch u rn and you uploaded omggg like I rewatch all your videos I could never get enough of your videos 💞🤭🥲

[@Hannah-jh7hs]

Thank you for being open and sharing your thoughts and feelings:) It’s making me feel better and more optimistic after a day of feeling low❤

[@tatamarienoelle]

loved when you replied to the spirituality question. Thank you

[@katieolson533]

how grateful am i to be going through a break up at the same time as you

[@brittany.j.mcbride]

i watched this to fall asleep last night and thank you for these gentle reminders i need them every time

[@Elijahvloging]

Thank you so much for the endless love and compassion you harbor for us❤❤

[@TheGetawaygirl007]

Hitomi uploaded another video!!!❤❤❤❤😊😊 I feel the Love today! Wish you all and Hitomi blessings full of ❤

[@Loveisalloneneeds]

I thought I was gonna be depressed for the rest of my life too. 😢❤ Thank you for showing up Queen.

[@anniwithacam]

haha I’m tearing up after the video because I feel like I just sat in a room with a sister & chatted, thank you so much for your words & wisdom🕊️

[@NWgn-fr4jf]

also going through a breakup. this is very comforting, thanks hitomi

[@nyyynnn]

You can communicate so effectively and beautifully, would love to have more videos on how you can communicate in this way with examples ❤

[@catsinmugs]

you’re so cute boo, everything you say normally resonates but these video feels like it was made for me lol. it’s comforting to know we all have the same tribulations in a way, feeling a lot less alone.

[@ArchiesLens]

sending love to you Hitomi🌸✨

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

Sending loving warmth right back amor!!

[@ArchiesLens]

@@HitomiMochizuki222 🫶🏾

[@EmmaLG369]

Those are my favorite videos of you. So, so interesting and inspiring ✨

[@manuelrivera3172]

Currently watching this on the beach!!! Just what i needed!😌

[@Haydensay98]

I’m only a few minutes in, but I have to comment on how great your Invisalign is going so far! I just finally finished mine and loved the results ❤

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

Awee thank you. I’m so happy for you! It definitely feels like a little glow up

[@jordynnwhite1414]

Hey, I'm a new subscriber! I accidentally found you Pinterest and all I can say is what a happy accident that was! I'm deeply grateful to have found you and I hope that I can continue to abserve and absorb all the wisdom you have to offer me on my journey of spiritual alignment 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@zoechen5464]

Wow i felt so connected to you when you were talking about heartbreaks. It almost felt like we're in the same room. You touched my heart

[@DearEmma-tj1zs]

I was feel bad and hurt before watching this. Now I’m better. Thank you

[@isabelang3684]

I LOVE UU HITOMI immaculate timing always 🥹

[@beanzburg888]

Always love coming back to your channel, it always calms me down and grounds me ❤

[@JulijaVasilevska-v8y]

I love your videos and you are such a loveable person. Thanks a lot 😊❤

[@gojavigo1]

Hitomi your Spanish is actually quite good, and very endearing. Keep speaking it. Te mando un abrazo fuerte! Besos

[@angie.]

girl i’ve been having such a hard time in my relationship rn so thank you i needed this :(

[@artisticagi]

Getting to experience the giddy energy again regardless of who is on the other end 7:25

[@waveybreeze7814]

omg please consider starting a podcast! you are truly inspiring and i'm thankful i found your channel. i started watching your videos a year ago and you helped me grow so much.🥰

[@nana9318]

Thank you for holding space for our hearts even you yourself are under water right now . Your Might is nurturing as the Earth and the Water. Bless your Soul ❤

[@MinimalRevolt]

Would definitely listen to your future podcast soon. Thank you for the inspirational messages here Hitomi❤️❤️🥰🥰

[@ThePaperbackFairy]

I’m having a bit of a rough day and stuck in the feeling of being a little lost, but your energy perked me up, thank you Hitomi ❤

[@foreverPriscilla]

i truly love you so much, you beautiful soul 🩷

[@axellemarie9897]

Thank you Hitomi, this is very healing ❤

[@tessasgrant]

i’m not going through a breakup, but i love your content 💕 and you 🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@madisoncole9456]

You’re a safe space on KZbin, thank you ❤

[@malilamarie7884]

I would absolutely love to see you have your own podcast. I'd listen to it on the work all the time

[@Nazariabr]

Wow what I needed during these times of my life, trying to move on peacefully.

[@kawwo1198]

love you so much

[@lena-aline]

uploaded 13 seconds ago yayyy hiiiii hitomi, sending love your way

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

Hiii omg

[@eyereen.2]

I’m so happy you uploaded :) sending you love 🫶

[@julieoulton8602]

I just found your channel and I am going through a life shattering break up. Thank you

[@dreamblud]

Omg my question 🥹 thank you so much Hitomi. I love you I love you

[@Lovingtolearn123]

hey girlie! As someone who works in the social work field, its not sunshine and rainbows, at all. Its extremely hard and fully connected to the broken system. My case managers are put through so much with these kids, i'd love to hear how you consider it to be more holistic, as there are branches of psychology other than Freudian.