How to make friends & deepen intimacy even if you're awkward af

[@NYKIRA]

"don't kill the part of me that's cringe, kill the part that cringes" 👏🏾👏🏾How have I not heard this before, that's a whole bar 😂❤️❤️

[@chant_of_freedom7616]

I went to a concert on my own yesterday, because i kinda grew apart with all my concert buddies. And it was so awkward at first, but then i imagined everything to be like in a movie and i could let loose. It was so freeing and i was surrounded by people not dancing but i was moving, headbanging and letting it all come out. And after the show a guy came up to me and wanted to talk to me because i caught his eye and i honestly felt so seen and happy by his approach 🙏

[@kattensilverregn340]

ooh I'm so proud of you!

[@Letters2indigo]

Sounds like a chant of freedom ❤

[@chant_of_freedom7616]

@@Letters2indigo that is beautiful, it really was, thank you ♥️

[@Letters2indigo]

@@chant_of_freedom7616 of course, you are embraced💚 if you called share more chants of freedom here as a diary of healing, growth Love from me from the trees

[@maryrush4540]

i went to a tame impala concert alone last year. it was truly the most freeing and life changing experience. just being surrounded by thousands of strangers and everyone’s energy was so positive❤️

[@schmoovegroove]

I just started having a spiral about not having many friends like 10 minutes ago. I'm so grateful I got the notification for this video rn. Thank you Hitomi🤗

[@alleycat420]

Something i like to remind myself is theres a difference is being alone and lonely. Its okay to be alone, its okay to walk your own pat, and its okay to wait to find friends who truly feel like the people you want to spend the rest of your life with

[@tierneynalu9439]

Me too girl me too haha. They’ll come

[@anaghasastry5183]

Ive been feeling this way too! A lot more these days than ever before😢

[@Lottedbruyn]

​@@anaghasastry5183 I feel you. It can be so hard. ❤ I hope you'll find your tribe. You are so deserving of that.

[@mennaswrld]

i love how intimate and comfortable yall are with each other. it reminds me of being a little girl and holding hands with my besties 🥺. really beautiful representation of sisterhood ❤❤❤

[@jrose3681]

yess the attraction between them reminds me of my old best friend and i miss it sm🥹

[@emmashaye]

When I am the "feeler" and I am feeling emotions alone, it's so easy to get swept away into my thoughts about my feelings - it can often spiral. It's a very different experience than when I am with someone and being witnessed (by a friend etc). Being witnessed allows me to feel and simultaneously step outside of my "feeling" part and witness myself, too, because I am more self-aware when there are others in the room. That's one of the superpowers about friendship

[@ClaireCraig]

I just had that experience today! it is so valuable (I don't hang out with others often)

[@justnabi3514]

The timing couldn't have been better, I was just journaling because I had a falling out with two of my friends in the same night and it hurt so very much to have to accept that they didn't understand me as well I thought and that no matter how much more I communicated and how much space I tried to hold despite hurting myself, you can't make people give you the love, care and friendship you tried to build, it made me feel like I was back in my childhood trying so very hard to make people see me, to make them care and stay only to resent and isolate myself when I realized that the friendships were one-sided, that just like these friends, they were only around to stand in the light when I was shining and leave when I was under soil...

[@shaunnarochelle]

congratulations for seeing that for what it is. it means your building up your own sense of self worth, which like these two sweeties said, is the beginning of finding friends who are worthy of you. I've realized recently that it is very easy to feel hurt and dissapointment by others, but dissapointment keeps us trapped in the past. Karma is the acceptance of reality and of cause and effect, and WE get to choose how we are effected by the cause. from being hurt myself, I moved to accept those people as they are, met them as they are (not guilttrip them into being what I want them to be, but not giving them anything more than what they gave me, "you wanna just be chill friends that aren't truly there for me? okay we be exactly that and nothing more.") and move on into my FUTURE. you shall do the same 💜

[@expiredfroyo]

I resonate with you sm, I thought she was my safe space but I was mistaken.Nonetheless this is a universal lesson

[@adaja.j5272]

THIS 💢

[@adaja.j5272]

​@@shaunnarochelle 💢💢💢

[@OceanIgs]

I can relate to this except I don't communicate with my friends whenever I'm under the soil. They only see me at my prime. I hope that changes soon and I hope you do, too!

[@dreamblud]

I have yet to find my little girl gang but I know they’re right around the corner. Thank you Hitomi for inspiring me to take the next step on my life’s journey. It’s the first one I’m choosing out of the need of my heart so thank you thank you thank you. I truly hope our paths cross one day 💕

[@EternalRebirth333]

Reesce dropping so many bits of wisdom here heh, I love when she’s in your videos and also seeing your wholesome interactions together :)

[@carinaaulis4118]

Ever since I finished highschool I feel like my good friends stayed behind and are now just people I know instead of actual friends. So thank you for this 🥰

[@AllisonBalanc]

I started a songwriting collective for women last year with two girl friends for this exact reason. Women coming together in art and music and building community really feels magical. Female connections are just top tier.

[@priyasahota984]

You make me feel so human. Thank you for helping so many people when they can’t see past the mental fog in front of us. So so thankful for you ❤

[@hannahb6773]

Was just talking to my therapist today about the struggle and journey in making genuine and whole relationships/bonds. It resonates with me so much how you speak on focusing with finding friends who are sensitive and emotionally conscious/ in tune. I also seek connections like these and find that I am most comfortable within those dynamics. Always enjoy the presence of your wonderful friends/loves in your videos :) as always, love you Hitomi

[@beans222uwu]

I’ve been a loner for nearly my entire life and all this advice… absolutely hit home. I had no nurturing figure as a child, so feeling safe and secure within myself has always been one of my biggest struggles. I’ve always been more comfortable being alone, but it still kills me inside that I find myself being unable to connect with other people in the ways I crave. I love this so so much and I love you and I love succi and I hope to see more of her in your future content. I love your chemistry together! Thank you for this Hitomi. Your authenticity and rawness is always so deeply appreciated.

[@hannahjeffrey6292]

I am hosting my first Women's Circle this Sunday. You and your authentic relationships inspired me and shone a light on some wounds that I was ignoring. I have high hopes that this weekend will be an uplifting experience. Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing!

[@hannahjeffrey6292]

@anih8199 thank you so much! I feel honored that 11 women I don't know would be trusting and open enough to join me on my path to finding community and intimacy. It is clearly a need for many people but the opportunities to be apart of relationships like that seem to be few and far between. I'm glad I pushed myself to just do it!

[@themikuwithin]

Thank you so much Hannah, for bringing such a special, sacred space and gift into the world! It is so very needed right now! ❤️❤️❤️

[@hannahjeffrey6292]

@@themikuwithin thank you so much for your encouragement!

[@themikuwithin]

Of course! 😊😊😊 Hope it was a wonderful experience for you! ❤❤❤

[@samarapat11]

i genuinely feel so heard, seen, and held from y'all. I don't have many friends and the ones i do have I feel restricted in, its so comforting to know that unconditional loving friendships do exist, well and truly thank you Hitomi 🦋💓

[@abbyj200am]

I clicked as soon as I saw “even if you’re awkward af” 😂 I NEED THIS

[@Shayla_MOON]

I seriously need this. I don’t have any friends except my best friend who lives halfway across the world ❤

[@strangelillas]

Lately, I've been reaching out to some women who call to me. I used to be so scared of the rejection. Before, I didn't know how to invite them to hang out. I'm not a club person, and sometimes asking someone to lunch feels strange. So now I ask people if they want to go kayaking, hahahaha. I feel like it's such an interesting activity, and I figure if she is someone who's willing to do something like that with me, then they are more willing to be my friend! Lol Pretty much, inviting them to do any activity feels better than just "hey, we should hang out" So far, I haven't found any NEW friends. BUT I noticed my confidence with new women has been so much better. I'm just more real, and more kind. I try to relate to their conversation in whatever way I can to show I'm not judgmental or that the interaction is not a competition. We are women. We are all in a very similar journey AS women. I think its important to be there for all sisters.

[@karasteinman9502]

More collabs with Reese please!!! I loved watching you two together. It reminded me how I was in childhood with my best friends before life got complicated and I built up a mold of myself.

[@kawwo1198]

gonna go make some friends now >

[@bonne_vie]

Friendships are like waves. They come and go.

[@strangelillas]

I didnt want the video to end. Haha . That's how comforting it was. I even found myself wanting to cry sometimes lolll.

[@alicemes_]

That part about feeling deserving of friends is so true… for a lot of high school I wanted to be friends with certain people but I felt like I wasn’t deserving enough of those types of relationships so I limited myself and stuck to people who I wasn’t feeling my best around but as I get older I’m starting to change that ❤️

[@daviemaybe]

so immensely grateful for you and those who surround you, Hitomi. You both bring so much light into this world. Guiding a path for many and showing us all how blissful and honest life can truly be. Thank you :)

[@daejahuayamave9329]

Hitomi you have been a huge source of love and deep inspiration for me. who you are is who i am learning to see and embrace in myself, honest, vulnerable, free. when you laugh and smile and dance and release i am moved to do the same. thank you 🌱

[@adamlabecki4150]

A few months ago I had an epiphany of becoming the friend that my soul craves and making changes towards that goal little by little and honestly life has felt more beautiful, the downs have felt more bearable and like lessons to teach me what I need to work on. It makes me excited to one day come across the people that I truly connect with and feel safe to have deep and weird conversations with.

[@calebgaffoor554]

Thank you for always radiating boundless positivity and love. Thank you for create a safe space for me to grow into myself ❤️

[@ashhl5858]

ive always been so desperate to find a bestfriend, sisterhood, a partner, or anyone who would make me feel accompanied and full. it wasn’t until a recent breakup (that’s been so difficult) for me to realize that I can only find this company and love and fulfillment within myself. im still a little sad with how alone I am at this stage of life, but I also love how the universe is forcing me to be my own bestfriend. this video helped me reach this enlightenment, thank u hitomi ❤️

[@GB-zk6fs]

thank you for this

[@courtalton]

This week I’ve been reflecting on my small circle and longing to be closer to them. This is the perfect timing thank you

[@bb.22.b]

Wow I had a dream about us hanging out and you embraced me super lovingly as a platonic friend and I starting crying and I woke up crying. And now this is what you released?? God is amazing. Thank you

[@survivalsilk2101]

wowow this resonates so much, thank you all

[@kristinak7261]

I’ve been experiencing just this. I moved away from my community of friends, and I miss them so much. Trying to rebuild some of that. Thank you for sharing💚

[@sandrabollocks16]

I love these sit down style talks with loved ones 🙌🏻 they feel so real and welcoming

[@user-hp5cf5kf8k]

things aren't really working out in the group I'm in right now and I'm socially awkward so I needed this 😭 I'm tired of being in big groups and still having no one

[@Fandoms4Life]

I used to be like that too and now I have a few close friends and a great bf! One day you'll have people who value you for who you are too!

[@frejaemilia5588]

Oh !! you two simply exudeeee truth, purity, and easeful connection. thank you for filterless words. in adoration of the lil giggles, affection, sillyness and softness. and i just ~know~ that if I was on that couch, I too would feel safe enough to ask if I had a booger :,) yayaya cheers to earthly angels

[@messagetothesun]

this this this!! I have been going through a sort of purging when it comes to the people in my life because I’m realizing they do not add any value to my life. I needed this so so bad

[@noagoossens7273]

i was just texting myself in whatsapp, venting about all the failed friendships in my life and how i have no one to talk to about things i’m struggling with and i randomly opened youtube to see this video.. think it’s a sign haha

[@ibeprod6844]

try woebot or similar

[@noagoossens7273]

@@ibeprod6844 thank you for the suggestion but i’m strictly against anything to do with ai or robots 😂 i don’t trust it for a second 🫣

[@hannahthomas3366]

I just had a falling out with my best friend because I told her she wasn’t treating me the way I felt I should be, ex. not choosing me first the way that I do for her, and she kind of explained to me that she didn’t want that relationship with me because she wanted to be friends with other people and it crushed me. I most definitely needed this. As always, thank you Hitomi

[@Yanathevisionary]

I went through the same thing, I like to believe clearing out people like that makes room for the people who deserve to be in our life 💖✨ wishing u love & healing

[@hannahthomas3366]

@@Yanathevisionary thank u babe !! 💗

[@Kat.493]

This video is exactly what I needed. It showed me that I shouldn't be scared to make new friends because of past experiences/awkwardness. The right people will love all of you ❤️ it would be great to start a snapchat group so if anyone would like to then let me know ✨️💗🌄

[@strangelillas]

I'm down lol

[@alicemes_]

Sure :)

[@Kat.493]

@@strangelillas Yay! My username is kat_luna23 :)

[@Kat.493]

@@strangelillas fab! My username is kat_luna23 :)

[@medzahra9405]

You have snapchat

[@courtstapleton]

so in love with you two, i wish i could find genuine, spiritual and creative women like you 🦋

[@ladylin3026]

I can't believe I'm just now finding this channel. I feel so seen and validated just from watching and listening to this video.. as well as your clothing line..(that's what brought me here).. LOVE every piece.. we have such similar styles and perspectives!!..thank you for all of this content.. it's so refreshing coming across others who "get you" even if it's online... I'll most definitely be diving into more content.. Much love.. and Thank you.

[@gulumayroz]

Beautiful ❤️ 🙏 🌈... I feel... The problem is : Obsessive, automatic self-quality-control... as a survival strategy... Or ... Maybe ... sub conscious echoing of childhood caregiver's judgements... again as "survival strategy" The solution: "Non dual" practice... Instead of life long, fear based, quality-control... trying to mold yourself as perfect... (and the real problem...the real price...is the inner conflict... between what you feel, and how think you "should" be... this inner conflict ...which eats you like a poison... making you, your inner enemy...) Instead ...of toiling like that, all your life... and still coming short... Just ... Step aside for a moment, to watch your i-sense, from an unusual, new point of perception...and realize that the i-sense...the "personality"... Is not the real you... and the next level, deeper "you", is atributeless, pure...perfect, and need nothing... Go back home to the heart, and being there, as the base, everything else, on the relative level, will flow better... (This definitely sounds simplistic...and the explanation is...but...it does work !! And i find it bottom line practical...even if initially it entail new territory...) Much love to all ❤️🙏🌈🌹

[@themikuwithin]

Oh my Goddess, I loved that ending! 😂😂😂 “Go make some friends today!!” like an infomercial! 😂😂😂 Thank you for this beautiful, cosy video full of nuggets of wisdom, laughter and tenderness, Hitomi-chan! 🥰❤️🙏🥰❤️🙏

[@_lynnloo9988]

notes - Finding comforbility with yourself, gaining confidence by being content by yourself w ur hobbies - Stop forcing interactions - Treat yourself how you wanna be treated by a friend

[@_yogaandholistichealing]

What a beautiful vid! As a Virgo, my biggest critique is me, in return I judge. I am gratefully more self aware and working on being more loving. I love the message, stop judging other and you’ll stop judging yourself! Thank you beautiful Goddesses

[@Yanathevisionary]

VIRGO GANNGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@amalx80]

this was beautiful to watch, having someone that loves all of you and you love the same, the purest deepest feeling

[@chloelin1093]

thank youuu hitomi for uploading this video with your sweet friend🥺 12:13 when you talk about entering into a new world is a chance to rewrite a traumatic past, it’s so freeing and thank you for curing my anxiety i feel so much better after hearing this part!❤

[@wordonthecloud6854]

such beautiful beings & hearts - this is such sweet guidance, & such a healthy way to look at things. definitely agree that knowing yourself & being the friend you would want to yourself will help immensely when showing up for others. honesty with yourself will be hard & working through the loss of the false things in your life but what you gain is so so worth it

[@expiredfroyo]

AS always thanks Hitomi for being our spiritual guide in physical form

[@Yanathevisionary]

she is an angel

[@chloeryder3080]

Oh Hitomi I'm so excited for this video! You're creating such beautiful and soothing content I'm sending so many hugs

[@radiateyoga]

This was so amazing! Loved so many parts of this video. Thank you for making it. “Stop cringing, stop judging” Stop forcing connections and spend time alone - allow the right ones to come. “Romance the people you want to be friends with.”

[@moonangelbastido4973]

I was just rewatching all your old videos 🥺💞

[@ItsVeronikaBeezy]

the universe is such a beautiful thing, the way i saw this just when i needed to hear it. much love to eveyone here

[@Venus0729]

I would love to see a video of you talking about how to grow through hard situations in friendship And how to actually learn from it

[@ryrose3431]

I just realized that I need true connection especially with woman in my life, or else my health will decline. And then you posted this.

[@natalieschumacher3387]

Do you have a podcast? This is my comfort channel whenever I’m having anxiety. Thank you for making these videos they hep me feel so calm and reset.

[@TheNataliegreenwood]

This was perfect timing ❤

[@SunnyKindJourney]

Love the healing vibes & practical advice here, Hitomi & Reese 🌱❤

[@bellabankey4594]

I’d like to express some gratitude, thank you for creating a safe inspiring space. I love watching your videos when i’m feeling ungrounded and unmotivated, you have such a big impact. p.s. you have such beautiful energy. thank you :)

[@bonne_vie]

I'm in my 30s and really wish I had this info in my teens. Grateful to have made it here regardless. Worry about what you think of others not what they think of you. Stay home and work on yourself and the right people will come to you.

[@insightgemm]

I want to be your friend :) It's important to acknowledge every emotion we go through. It reminds us we are human. The more you give to yourself, the more giving the world will be. I love this friend group chat vibe. I would love to have these sort of conversations with you! Much love!!!

[@thea7035]

you're like an older sister ive always wanted. thank you for making these videos and sharing bits of your life with us

[@petitmoshi5965]

Thank you that was so sweet ; I also love that Reezse often touch on social media in the videos you do together , such an important topic ; it's healing to hear you both talk

[@veeramarilla]

it would be so lovely to build a online community of likeminded people who resonate with this type of content

[@faery10]

so true. Being spiritual brings a lot of freedom but also loneliness? it’s tough to find similar people who we can resonate with.

[@butterflyofio8682]

people were saying theres a discord already but the link didnt work so idk. if theres not a discord already, ill make one.

[@faery10]

@@butterflyofio8682 yes please do!

[@flamingaish]

i feel like once i join one, it would be hard for me to cultivate friendships because they'll be specifically orientated towards that, not sure if this makes sense but yeah

[@alessiaR15]

​@@butterflyofio8682 hello! if you decide to make it could you share it here? ♡

[@coatesaf]

Thank you Hitomi and Reese. You are beautiful humans ❤

[@kendallcs409]

I was feeling so bad for not being able to make friends with people of my age because I thought I was weird, you're video has been a great help and recomforting thank you for these wise words ❤.

[@Serenealchemist]

Love your videos, you are such an inspiration to me. I loved the part we’re you talked about radial acceptance and how our mean dialogue isn’t actually how we feel about ourselves but rather from a story from the past. Thank you

[@anaelisadeoliveira4962]

i'll start college this week and since my acceptance i've been super worried about not being able to build friendships, so thank u for this sweet sweet video

[@ashlynnemalinowski4841]

Thank you for making me feel at home even though I don’t know you. ❤️

[@lighttreeoracle477]

This topic is what I have needed so much♡ Thank you always.

[@samiraosman46]

Wow, this one feels like you’re speaking DIRECTLY to me. I just decided to put myself out there so I can be in reach of my soul tribe and you dissected my fears one by one and helped ease my mind! Thankyou 🌸💗

[@spiritthomas2823]

I love hearing min talk she is so cute and I’ve been hoping for u to just dive a little deeper into her and I think that is so cute that you guys did a video together and I love it and I’m in so much love.

[@wxrdwitch]

Thank you for sharing your energies and advice xx it’s always so deeply appreciated 💚

[@juniperdoes]

Checking in at the start of this video to say thank you - I've been seeking the love of friends like yours and feeling so lonely and I hope this helps me find a path there.

[@ella9641]

love love LOVE seeing your friends on camera!! you are so wholesome together

[@FreeSpiritXan]

I swear you drop the most relevant videos!! You are so in tune. I am so in tune. I SEE YOU!! YOU SEE ME:)

[@QueXLcior]

Highly pure is hard to find Not to mention being okay with touch like hugging without feeling awkward and alone about your breasts or feeling awkward and alone revealing your real feelings about your breasts, even if it’s neutral, or super raw or becoming a previous, past thought or feeling Remember to make enough room for you to be able to choose to evolve through the courageous act of unconditionally loving self- expression. Vry important and not everybody will understand. But it’s cool

[@jaibean7260]

i feel like there needs to be a discord or group chat here for people to meet. there are so many of us who resonate with one another and seek connection

[@F4R4DISE]

This was so sweet and warming💖 love these videos with Reese!

[@RedHearts178]

what a beautiful video! so many resonant truthsss ❤

[@RadiantlyNourished]

Purple / Lilac tones look so pretty on you, Hitomi!💜

[@heidiosborne6638]

this video is awesome and i needed to hear it. i’m gonna listen to it everyday for a while.

[@taylormejia5876]

omg blessing us w another video this week thank u smmm

[@gabbi6980]

i feel so true to myself when I listen to your videos

[@ollyveye]

This is such a sweet and wonderful video, I feel so overwhelmed with appreciation that this love and embodiment of hope exists. So much love!

[@chantal2067]

Thank you for sharing. I'll listen to this again today, because there's so much that I'm learning and taking away from it. I'm trying to open myself up to re-experiencing things so that I can heal and create neuro-pathways. One thing that sounds very silly said out loud, but that this totally applies to, is that I have a lot of anxiety and negative associations around taking my dog for a walk, because she barks at other dogs and as someone who struggles with disapproval and people-pleasing, this is triggering for me because then I spend the walk fixated on this idea in my mind that someone else doesn't like me, because of my dog. So. I'm trying to be mindful and to present and take in all of the positive experiences that happen on the dog walks.

[@josiegierach7554]

So beautiful

[@maiskivitch]

also reeces/succsi/mins eyes !!! i could just fall into them they are so beautiful and sparkly

[@glasscoughs1975]

Loved this so much, thank you both!! Watching how physically intimate you are as friends reminds me of how awkward I am with touch and I think it stems from be being a queer woman and being afraid to be physically intimate with my girl friends as I was growing up incase they could tell I was "different" and then not wanting to make them feel like I was hitting on them, when I eventually did come out to them. Still trying to figure out how to navigate platonic physical intimacy.

[@maja_blaetterdach]

You women be so wise. I feel what you share.

[@kadijhastrong8787]

Your voice is so claiming fr can you please do a guided meditation

[@jeraniaaa]

Such An amazing video ❤ can you share more about how to come out of your shell and not being so shy lol 😅 you homegirl needs advice 😂

[@paulacarbajal-sd3ks]

the timing of your videos is always sooo perfect😭🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻💌💌

[@strangerjenzie7522]

taking this video as a chance to find likeminded people to be friends with :) ive always been the kinda introvert type that will get a lil crazy once comfortable which makes it hard for me to make friends. I really want to connect find people to connect with on a deeper level than just scratching the surface. Im located in belgium so if anyone feels called hit me up! :)

[@Amanda-kp4hh]

This made my day much brighter! Thank you

[@taysoo___]

so motivational 🫶🏻

[@zzz.natasha]

🤍🤍🤍🤍✨I thank my ancestors for helping me find you here. Thank you Hitomi for being here. 🤍 From the deepest corners of my heart. 心からかんしゃします。

[@mariaroche31]

You guys are so adorable! Loved this video. When I was younger I struggled so much with making friends mostly because I lacked social skills and people called me weird, but now, I embrace my awkardness and people actually love me so much more! Just as you guys said, opening yourself to other people and being as you are brings you the most authentic and loving relationships, because people reciprocate your open energy and open themselves to you as well 🤍

[@hataflodhi146]

I love Hitomis videos. So meaningful.

[@jasminez1278]

Thank you Hitomii