a realistic day in my life as A SOLO MOM WITH A TODDLER! (Dad out of town) Julia Havens

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

Many men do not help much with the kids. This is a very common issue for women. Women ask for help and their spouse will be resistant and even resent being asked. Hunter is so supportive of you and such a good dad to Smoke. You've got it so good! 💖

[@gwengwen4535]

I think they get resistant because they don’t talk about their needs and expectations way before any resentment sets in. Fighting about it or talking about it at the wrong time or heat of the moment is never good. Respectfully communicating about it and then also making it a point to at least have a quickie once a week that is wife initiated always makes things better😅 it’s hard to do when we are burnt out, but it’s all in the head honestly. After, you both feel better, and he’ll want to do the things you need him to do. But he’ll still need reminding (asking!) fairly often. But that’s ok, just be nice and not mean about it! I didn’t learn any of this until I was in my 40s. I hope this advice helps someone😅💗🙏🏻

[@daughterofthemosthigh3366]

@@gwengwen4535 I agree with everything you said! When my kids were little I just assumed if there was something that needed to be done that one of us would do it. No! I would always be the one to do it. When I asked for help it was met with resentment. But this was true for most women I knew at the time. When I watch Julia and Hunter parent, I think to myself, it would have been glorious to live this way!!! By that I mean two equally invested adults doing what needs to be done. It makes for a much healthier relationship.💕

[@melimonroe283]

Wondering why you have him stand to eat ? its a great time to start implementing using a plate and utensils and a gentle redirection when hes throwing food all the time.

[@jenw.9963]

I couldn’t agree more with what you said about how we need more light and airy shows about love and friendship. I loved “Nobody wants this”. Drama is fine, but I think there needs to be a balance.

[@thelindsaysuejohnson]

Hey! Long time follower, but wanted to say that my daughter has had hand foot and mouth twice. Those blisters (and the one on your mouth) look like they’re HFM. They may be spreading to his mouth and throat, which is why he isn’t eating. I’d also check his temp, too, to make sure he’s ok. I’m sure he is by now, but be careful. It’s an icky disease. Xo

[@ashtinsmart1279]

Totally hand foot and mouth!

[@nicolechammas5800]

Our Julia needs some extra love and support. We love you, Julia. Nous t'aimons, Julia. 💝💝

[@carlyhampton]

You guys are my comfort channel 😊 just put my teething, grumpy 10 month old to bed and I desperately needed this video 🙏🙏🙏

[@sariahlee]

I relate so heavily to the feeling like you’re gonna break as a mom and that you just need a win. ❤ we’re all in it with you. That’s been me this week too. Also Booker is being kept well fed by Smoke haha I love it😆

[@edwinacaparelli9911]

I'm a mom of an 11 year old and I remember those days. Sort of, I kind of forgot them now so it's tough. Put the key for me I think looking back is just living in the moment. Accepting that it's hard. And just loving on them at that age even if it's difficult. Because I wish I could go back. Play my little guy is branching out and doesn't really want to cuddle up and hang out with me as much and it makes me so sad

[@katarinabrady]

You’re killing it juj!! ❤️

[@sophia-sb3kq]

It’s you moving the food infront of him and then him throwing it on the fooor immediately 😂 relatable

[@bcecilee]

I love seeing this mom life type of vlog

[@shawnmorales7841]

That sleep schedule is incredible 🙌

[@deidrecokendolpher]

We do need more light and love in shows. We need positivity ❤❤❤ also booker with yall melts my ❤❤

[@monicadrew889]

Smokey is so cute! I loved that age but teething is miserable. My nephew had sores when he had hand foot mouth at 18 months😢. Hope he starts feeling better and you get some relief to!

[@cristinitaandco]

I love eto see Booker and smoke like siblings they will be inseparable in the years to come, please keep growing that relationship for some reason kids that are more sensitive and humane with animals have a special kind of personality that shows towards people as well thay are extra wonderful

[@haleymitchell0301]

I love hearing smokey say bookers name when he woke up from his nap walking down the stairs! They’re best buds!

[@fatimavega7598]

Awww the teething stage is so brutal. 🥴 Smokey is a ray of sunshine🌞 it breaks my heart seeing him teething. 💔Hang in there Julia.🌸 You are a amazing mom. ❤

[@deborah5578]

You think you got it together but wait til you have more children its a whole another level

[@edwinacaparelli9911]

I found right about Smoke's age is when my child started to really get into their own circadian rhythm and we thrive on routine so I just allowed it and the body sort of did its own thing.

[@shelleymason901]

Julia have u tried baby tylenol for smokies tooth /gum pain to give him some relief and u as well❤😊

[@mitchelljesss]

i love you that smokey is such a good sleeper for your busy schedule and am so green with envy (and exhaustion/sleep deprivation lol). my baby boy is up every night every 30-45 minutes or so, he’s 7 months old now. i also love to hear other moms bedtime routines because i don’t know what else to do😭😭😭 we think he has separation anxiety from me. am a SAHM because of it and couldn’t even imagine having to go through work too and teething!! lord, blessings!!! this was our only choice! love you three, thanks for keeping me company when i’m awake all night❤️ and love to see you in this SAHM routine even for just a moment, you’re glowing!

[@lindsaydaniels7020]

Aww, I feel for you with the teething. My twins are going through the same thing right now. I'm a single mom and it's definitely hard to get things done when you wanna be there for your baby. Overall you guys are great parents no matter what!!!

[@andreaq]

Love your guys’ videos! 💗Could you talk about the process of picking a Nanny and how it’s worked out for you guys?

[@Rileywertheim]

Honestly you talking about the 6:30 pm bedtime made me feel so much better bc I was always so worried it was too early but you made me feel better!

[@jamierenae3833]

I used to put yogurt in a popsicle holder and freeze it for my nephew when he was teething & he loved it

[@jenw.9963]

There is a paci that you put in the freezer and then give to the baby. I had a variety of them so that when it’s not frozen anymore, you could swap it out for a frozen one. Between that and the teething bead necklace, my baby was happy during the teething era.

[@CommentLit]

Try the baby Orajel for the gums .. it use to work for my little boys 😊 Also sometimes gently brushing their little teeth with baby paste with your finger also helps .

[@maried.9642]

Booker is LOVING all the free snacks 😅

[@karlaperdomo2099]

yesssss! I missed you guyssss!

[@Iluvrrr]

Mr. Smoker needs a plate!

[@simple_naildesigns]

Hope he feels better soon ❤️‍🩹

[@genellegonzalez2393]

Celery helps with teething babys! Good natural remedy’s.

[@chevy6561]

Hi there can you give measurements on Macha with coconut water. Thank you

[@AMWthereal1]

PLEASE!!❤

[@DawnMichelle19_19]

I would LOVE a video on how she makes this and what matcha she uses. I can't remember what brand it was.

[@chevy6561]

I did a Walmart pick up and got organic macha coconut water I had milk It was very good 2 t macha 1/4 c coconut water and 3/4 c or 1 cup milk with ice.

[@AMWthereal1]

@@chevy6561 Wow! Thanks for taking the time to give me the info :)

[@chevy6561]

@@AMWthereal1 your very welcome😎

[@maritzaroman2725]

Hi Julia, how do you prepare your Matcha and which one do you use?

[@caitmoffett8261]

Will you show the ingredients you use for your matcha on stories PRETTY please!!!!! 💚🍵

[@pamelabeal5986]

You’re doing great mama 🥰❤️

[@AllanahCosmetto-ro9or]

Happy Birthday gorgeous Juj!! ✨️🦋

[@Maybellsunnie]

Love when you do girly pop videos! Xo✨🫧🦋

[@gawaskitchen]

Happy birthday Julia wishing you everything of the best❤Awww poor Smokey teething is just horrible you are an amazing mommy always remember that I hope he feels better❤

[@Fvazquez87]

I came from Texas to Nashville this weekend. I'm at the airport right now :( . I LOVED TN so so so much. We went to Nashville, Knoxville and smoky mountains. I will definitely be back ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@judyrivait2020]

Teething is no fun He is so adorable Love him ❤

[@Alemarie2023]

Those pancakes look soooo good, and Smoke is the cutest, omg. ❤ 🤗

[@carlyhampton]

Could you guys do an updated full day of eating??? I am in much need of fresh inspo 🙌😍

[@caitmoffett8261]

Always love your vlogs. I leave feeling in a better mood and am encouraged to spend more family time and be a better wife ❤❤

[@anitag5848]

When my daughter was teething I really just numbed her gums with baby Orajel helps them have relief.

[@exploringespadrilles6803]

We use that too!! It helps take the edge off and so easy to use

[@PaolaEstefania19]

My toddler is also 18 months and it’s like we are mom friends in my mind 🤣 I went through the teething last month and it’s rough. Hang in there , it will be over soon!! 🫶🏻

[@KirstyCakesss]

Everyone talking about light and love.. and not me over here telling you to watch tell me lies!! 😅 Nothing light about it but it’s SOOOOOO GOOD

[@menaelle1829]

Where is your bath set up from, the pitcher, mat and holder - love it!

[@lindasowka8997]

Lalo!

[@kylaraemccabe7784]

I found that both my kids needed extra sleep when they were teething. It takes a lot out of them :)

[@laurazerilli9267]

Smoke w the pancake is priceless 😂 I remember my niece grabbing a handful of salad out of the trash and eating it

[@Originataly]

Can you share yours matcha recipe??? I want to switch

[@CommentLit]

Love Tiana !❤ She is so cute pregnant 🤰 😊

[@brendacmartinez1693]

Not sure if it works but I saw that rubbing green onion on their gums helps. I’m going to try it when my newborn gets to that teething phase.

[@annlatham]

Happy Birthday Juj 🎂 ❤️ 🤸‍♀️

[@angiecorona8331]

Good Job Mama! Just finished watching as I made Protein Greek Bowls for us. Lil Smokers when he throws the food….is so stinkin cute. He’s like nope. Poor lil teefers.

[@537975m]

Is Smokey using a teething necklace? If so, has it helped & would you recommend it?

[@alissabassetti1093]

Ahhh what matcha do you use love

[@katelynhornack]

Julia, where is your horse shoe necklace from? It is stunning!

[@lorimamiya6418]

Ougie Gold collab with her friend Delaney

[@katelynhornack]

Thank you!

[@joannetwaddle4662]

Booka is such a good boy.

[@shelleymason901]

Oh yeah and the freezer teether will feel good to his gums😊

[@sophieg3953]

What’s the dog food you use called? In the process of doing some research 😊

[@oliviapartyka]

Love you guys! Can you link what matcha you use? Also what station do you ask Alexa to play in this vlog, love the music vibes!

[@laurendenis7296]

Booker’s eatin good as hell 😂

[@maggiegonzalez2213]

Possibly he has hand foot and mouth disease since he has the sores and is not feeling good. I’ve never seen that for teething/drool. Tylenol should help. Hope he feels better❤🙏🏽 soon

[@catgrl6698]

Girl you are glowing….

[@kfabish7681]

We have a 11 month old and a 3 year old and we start bedtime 645/7, earlier night work best for us

[@MeganYingling]

Missed you guys 🤎

[@siennakay3922]

do you have a public spotify bc i’m obsessed

[@bustingyewls154]

Are yall doing vlogmas this year ? 👀 excited for some consistent uploads

[@BrianneIrene]

Queen charlotte is such a sweet love story You should watch it

[@vivianag7397]

Going through the same teething baby stage 😅

[@537975m]

Smoke sleeps through the night and takes 4 hour naps? How!!! Please share your secret! 🙏🏼

[@TheOnlyAngie23]

Smokey getting the pancake out of the trash 😂 he’s so funny!

[@angiecorona8331]

Perfect timing. Hopped in the treadmill. 🥰

[@rochellet7303]

Love watching these and especially cute little Smoke (*throws food on floor behind your back*😂) but those long, slow yawns could be edited out and I wouldn't be mad. 🥱

[@MarvaloHP]

i have a two year old boy and i remember the teething phase -it was ROUGH! kudos to u for solo parenting without Hunter! i could never hahah

[@jackiehartmansvlogs626]

Use some. Orajel on hi gums

[@timsjulie]

We used frozen waffles. Worked well

[@jonellegates6883]

Have you tried the homeopathic teething tabs/liquids? They work well if you are not doing Abby Tylenol. Also those freezer get teethers were a fav!

[@jonellegates6883]

*any Tylenol *Freezer Gel Teether Wow…

[@noradedios7639]

Good job Julia! 😊

[@Jackie-j8p]

You are brilliant parents to your gorgous little boy never doubt yourself your doing a fab job love you and your vlogs ❤

[@Adrilovesyou9]

100% agree with secret life of Mormon wives. I was very shook lol

[@xojaniee3880]

Smoky throwing the food to the ground! 😂 my 14 month old does this 😫

[@Saltysarah32]

How long is your nanny out for? Is she ok?

[@Shaayynah]

song at the end? ♥️

[@ShannonRake]

Can you please give me your full matcha recipe

[@valariematlock]

Oh gosh.. did he say “stop Brooker “. When you were coming downstairs?🥹

[@melindavictorson7973]

OMG! Let that boy eat out of the trash if he wants. What is really going to happen? This coming from a mom of grown children. They survive! LOL! Love it!!!

[@imcnagpc2]

Put the dog outside or in another room with the door closed when you are feeding Smoke.

[@ceciliagarza21]

Yay!!!!❤

[@CommentLit]

So pretty

[@kendrabrevard1976]

poor baby

[@ginamarie5575]

I need to switch to matcha ….looks so bomb 🎉❤better for your health I think then coffee ……I never drink fancy drinks out …..way too expensive…….make at home and save cash

[@BellaLuna82]

Watch Real Housewives of Salt Lake City it’s even more ratchet 😂

[@brookeklodt3959]

Try letting him chew on green onion!! Makes them stinky but helps numb the gums and also both my kids loved it 😂

[@sandraalmodovar4382]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@CommentLit]

Smokey is so cute you guys! 😊

[@gwengwen4535]

Woah. Everyone needs to take a deep breath. HFM usually presents on the hands too and is accompanied by an ongoing, low grade fever. Dude, Ju! I’m an OG fan who’s an old glamorous gramma now, and all things holistic. Listen honey, Try tepid/warmish magnesium salt baths if he has a fever or even not ‘cause those are awesome. Coconut oil and pure castor oil for his skin. Find a massage you can do for him that will help detox him safely, and he will be SO relaxed. Don’t do Tylenol/acetaminophen, because that depletes our bodies major antioxidant, glutathione. Love ya mama💗👊🏼 Frozen coconut water or milk for him to naw on. And try to get him on a really good probiotic. And Stay away from religion bro. Non denominational only. Jesus is real- He also said to watch out for false teachers and false prophets. It’s so easy to be deceived. It’s about relationship with Jesus, not religion.

[@febapriljuly]

Not saying what you’re saying is in accurate, but my daughter had HFM & got it almost everywhere but her hands lol fever is true though. Worst part is just having to let it ‘ride it course’ bc she was miserable :(

[@gwengwen4535]

@@febapriljuly Correct! The most common areas are around the mouth and on the hands. The symptoms I described are what we look for first. And yes, riding it out is hard😩 We’ve had to do this with whooping cough, measles and chickenpox. But with the correct methods, you can pass through it pretty seamlessly, and then have amazing immunity moving forward, even passing down the immunity to their offspring. But yeah, it can suck for a bit😞

[@katarinabrady]

I was excited to watch mormon wives but found it trashy as well, too much for me 😂 and definitely not a good look for most Mormon people. As a Christian girly it’s just not for me!

[@jennpelo]

Why not give him children's Tylenol if he is in that much pain? 😢

[@JuliaHunterHavens]

we did :)

[@ellendiaz7615]

the caption threw me off girl

[@kierahinch6965]

Why?